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Someone said ‘ The
end of world is our
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Definition
1. The The boun bounda dary ry betw betwee een n seni senior or and and old old age age cann cannot ot be defi define ned d exac exactl tlyy beca becaus usee it shif shifts ts acco accord rdin ing g to cont contex extt and and to soci societ etyy. People can be considered considered old because of certain changes in their activities or social roles. Examples: people may be considered old when they become become grandparents grandparents , or when they begin to do less or differe different nt wor! wor! retirement retirement . "ost "ost coun countr trie iess have have acce accept pted ed the the chronological age of #$ years as a definition of %elderly% or older person.
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&. 'erman chancellor (tto von )ismarc created the world%s first comprehensive government social safety net in the 1**+s, providing for old age pensions. n the -nited tates of /merica, and the -nited 0ingdom, the age of #$ was traditionally considered the beginning of the senior years because, until recently, -nited tates and )ritish people became eligible to retire at this age with full ocial ecurity benefits. n &++, the age at which a - citi2en became eligible for full ocial ecurity benefits began to increase gradually, and will continue to do so until it reaches #3 in &+&3. 4ull retirement age for ocial ecurity benefits for people retiring in &+1& is age ##. (riginally, the purpose of old age pensions was to prevent elderly persons from being reduced to beggary, which is still common in some underdeveloped countries, but growing life expectancies and elder populations has brought into 5uestion the model under which pension systems were designed.
. The very concept of an old age home is new to ndia. /n old age home is usually the place, a home for those old people who have no one to loo after them or those who have been thrown out of their homes by their children. The place is of course lie home where the inmates get all the facilities for a routine living, lie food, clothing, and shelter. 6. /ll these necessities are well looed after but, the much7needed love, and care of loved ones is of course sadly missing8 for, how can outsiders provide solace9 n these homes, it is very interesting and even touching to tal to people whether they are men or women. $. /t least in ndia till now, the old people staying away from the home, from their children, or left to themselves is not considered to
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be a very happy situation. This concept of separating the elders from the youngsters has been imported into ndia from the est. #. ;owever, for the est it may not be so heart rending for, there, it is their original life style that two generations never stay under one roof. )ut, in ndia where, for centuries, not only two but also even three generations have lived together, this new concept of nuclear families with the elders ousted, is
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11. This attitude of the women has also largely contributed to the removal of elders from families. ith this backdrop, the necessity for old age homes was felt, and is being increasingly felt with the passage of time. The entire spectrum of circumstances has led to this unhappy need for old age homes. 1!. "o matter how well they are looked after in these homes, a single visit to an old age home brings depression to the onlooker as, no one # $es, no one seems to be happy there.
1%. &t is very clear to all who visit an old age home that, all the inmates are there, not for the love of being away from home and independent but, because there is no better alternative left for them, once they are neglected and unwanted in their homes by their own children. 1'. The only solace is that, they are getting their daily re(uirements of shelter and food # if not the bonds of love from the family.
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Reasons Why Retirement Homes Are
Becoming a Must Today
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enior =iti2en ;omes
13. "ost of us would shudder at the thought of our parents having to live in a retirement home during old age. )ut given the modern situation where most children are woring away from home, whether abroad or in another city, the best option and sometimes the only option is to eep the parents in a retirement home.
1*. personally now an old lady living all alone in an apartment in ndiranagar while his only son is woring in the tates. he faces a myriad problems everyday and her son too is under considerable tension regarding her well being. n such a situation a retirement home can act as a perfect solution for both.
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see some of the reasons why retirement homes are
becoming imperative today:
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Children are working away rom home
"ost children reside outside ndia or in another city for wor purpose and the ageing parents are left all alone with no one to loo after them. / retirement home offers the opportunity to live as a community giving the feeling of an extended family.
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"aety is an issue or senior citi#ens
t has become a common occurrence nowadays of crimes being committed against senior citi2ens, as they are easy targets. >iving in a retirement home gives protection and security to them because of constant screening of visitors. /lso gadgets lie ==T@ offering constant surveillance and video intercom maes sure that it is possible to monitor visitors.
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A like%minded community
e are social animals and friends are an essential part of our lives. (nce people retire from their
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"tress ree li'ing
Daily wor at home may not be mentally stressful but is physically very demanding, especially for senior citi2ens. /t retirement homes, most of the daily chores and wor is taen care by the association offering senior citi2ens a stress free living. Even chores lie daily cooing are taen care of at the community itchen.
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Medical attention
/ constant cause of tension regarding senior citi2ens are health related issues and medical emergencies. ince retirement homes are exclusively for senior citi2ens, medical help is always available and are better e5uipped to handle emergencies.
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A constant com(anionshi( The modern dilemma during these times are that even though there is no monetary scarcity, yet due to wor pressure and commitments children are often not able to give their parents as much time as they would want to. The result9 The senior citi2ens? health often ends up being neglected. solation is also a huge issue which can lead to mental depression. /t a retirement home, the community thrives on companionship and care, hence minimi2ing any feeling of neglect and isolation.
1A. ;aving said this, we must also remember that there is also a downside to retirement homes. 4irstly, a huge amount of money
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gets loced in as a deposit or a down payment which cannot be retrieved if for some reason the inhabitant decides to 5uit the home. econdly, retirement homes lac a mixed age community, which some people may prefer to having only senior citi2ens as community members.
20. What is Home? Why should we need home? Why we do love with our home? Because With home we all are connected with some relations , some memorized. And That will ive us ha!!iness. "o we want that we should in touch with home forever#..
$ want to sin here %ohn howard !ayne’s !oem. H&'( H&'( "W((T "W((T H&'( ‘Mid
pleasures and palaces though we may roam,
Be it ever so humble ,there’s no like home;
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A charm from the sky seems to hallow us there, Which’seek thro’ the world’ is never met with elsewhere !ome ,home,sweet sweet home" #here’s no place like home, there’s no place like home" An
e$ile from home,splendor da%%les on vain;
&h" 'ive me my lowly thatached cottage again" #he birds singing gaily, that came at my call( 'ive me them)and the peace of mind, dearer than all" !ome ,home,sweet sweet home" #here’s no place like home, there’s no place like home" *
ga%e on the moon as * tread the drear wild,
And feel that my mother now thinks of her child, As she looks on that moon from our own cottage door #hro’ the woodbine , whose fragrance shall cheer me no more !ome ,home,sweet sweet home" #here’s no place like home, there’s no place like home"
!ow sweet ‘tis to
sit’ neath a fond +ather’s smile,
And the cares of a mother to soothe and beguile"
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et others delight ‘midnew pleasures to roam, But give me , oh give me the place like home !ome ,home,sweet sweet home" #here’s no place like home, there’s no place like home" #o thee *’ll
return overburdened with care;
#he heart’s dearest solace will smile on me there; -o more from that cottage again will * roam; Be it ever so humble ‘ there’s no place like home !ome ,home,sweet sweet home" #here’s no place like home, there’s no place like home"
2) $ thin* $ndia must +e one of the few countriessocieties where culturally, and traditionally, there is so much res!ect for elders. $t is !ro+a+ly the only country where we touch the feet of our elders as a mar* of res!ect. -et on a !ractical level and in our infrastructure we are far +ehind many other
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countries and societies in loo*in after our elderly. With $ndian society chanin and with the radual shift from oint family system to the nuclear family system, our relationshi! with the elders in our own family is also chanin. Today a !erson wor*in and livin in a lare city has many demands on him. He or she has very little time for himself and his own immediate nuclear family /children and s!ouse. $n this chanin scenario what ha!!ens to our elders. We need to !lan +etter for our elders, and in fact for ourselves, +ecause sooner or later all of us, /no matter how much we resist it will eventually et there. The average lifespan in the year 1A63 was 1 yearsB o the number of people living beyond the age of retirement, ie #+ years, would not have been very high. /lso, at that time, the support system of the
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of the things that we really need to loo at is, even after retire at the age of #+ from a government or a corporate
/s pointed out by "r. ;imanshu Fath a huge percentage of our voting population is above the age of #+ and that number is only growing. /nd most of our politicians are also above the age of #+. Despite this obvious synergy, there are very few facilities or policies designed for the elderly by the centre or various state
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governments. The ndira 'andhi ational (ld /ge Pension cheme I'(/PJ was launched by the "inistry of Fural Development. /ll persons of #$ years Iand aboveJ who are living below the poverty line, according to the criteria prescribed by the 'overnment of ndia, are eligible for the scheme. The pension amount is Fs.&++ per month per person. "ost states give between Fs.&++ and Fs.$++ and only to those below the poverty line. ome state governments have been more generous. Tamil adu gives Fs.1+++, &+ g of free rice to cardholders and $ g to )P> families. 'oa gives all senior citi2ens a pension of Fs.&+++ per month, not
+ n essence we need to remember that
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And no one thin* a+out those mother who left their homes and now a days they live in &1 A3( H&'(. How will they cure a+out themselves at that aes. What is condition of &1 A3( H&'(???? "ee#.
This !eo!le# They are +ro*en heart####
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They do not need su!!ort of the !ole or other su+ects +ut in this time they really need to su!!ort of his sons, #
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lot of these elders have dauhters too, and these dauhters cannot +e 4+udha!e *a sahara4 +ecause their duties after marriae is considered only towards their hus+and4s !arents and not their own. 'any women su5er in silence and in hel!lessness as they can see their !arents su5er +ut una+le to do anythin to chane it. $s this not unfair on +oth the dauhters and their !arents? This is also one of the reasons why a irl child is not desired, she
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can never +e of any hel! to them in old ae. "houldnt the res!onsi+ility of +oth the !arents lie on the cou!le? Why should this res!onsi+ility +e only on the sons 6 their wives? $ have seen many women commentin on the insensitive nature of sons towards their !arents, +ut can they do anythin to their own !arents? id they not leave them and o away? Why do we as women acce!t this *ind of +ias towards us?
7ow a ays, 8eo!le 9se to 1ive with his wife 6 children, But they 1eft their 8arents to 1ive Alone8enniless. But they :orot their ;hildhood, at that that time Their 8arents, sacri
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so ay the last way to help of this type of parents some gave concept of ‘ OLD AGE HOME.’
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There are many !lace in india li*e old ae home But !laces lo*e ayudham have chaned the conce!t of old ae home. The conce!t of "enior ;itizen = Homes was a !lace for unha!!y !arents.That conce!t is We don’t need retired, We need more re@wired !eo!le. $ndia is only country where to touch the feet of elders, to sic* their +lessin is a show of reverence. But for ma*in to more advance youth foret his culture. "on will refuse to have home his !arents. At
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this moment !arents never want neative thi*in a+out his son. "ee this mother ,
This real $ndian culture . $n "ans*rit &ur ishi said that =,!utro *u!utro ayet *avchida!i *umata n +havati’
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This is true , 0 children can’t care of a mother. A short story a+out this .What ty!e of relation +etween mother and children when they youn and when they would +e youth. Two children of C years old Duarreled .one say this is my mother and 2nd say this mother is mine. After some years same. Both are Duarreled +ut one say this mother is yours. And 2 nd say this is your mother. This can ha!!ens only in $ndia . What you +elieve ? &ld Ae Home is ood for us?, $s ood ofr &ur culture ? is ood for our nation?
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7o , $t is not ood sym!toms for us, or our culture , or our nation. Why we need of old ae home? Because culture#
our youth eneration is forettin his
"o wa*e u! and memorize that = mu viti tu vitase dhiri +a!udiya #..
S!an "#a$ia% &#.D. &'esiden$ (ndian )ni*e'si$+ Asso,ia$ion -o' on$inin! Ed,a$ion De/#i 1.1 #e e/de'/+ a!ed 60 +ea's and ao*e in (ndia a,,on$ -o' mo'e $#an 9 e',en$ o- $#e $o$a/ o/a$ion. #e a$iona/ &o/a$ion ommission es$ima$ed $#a$ $#e o/a$ion o- $#e e/de'/+ is ee,$ed $o !'o -'om 71 mi//ion in 2001 $o 173 mi//ion in 2026. #is demo!'a#i, s,ena'io aea's $o indi,a$e a *e'+ 'e,a'ios ,ondi$ion -o' $#e o/de' e'sons in $e'ms o- $#ei' ,aai/i$+ $o eno+ $#e 'i!#$ $o /i-e i$# di!ni$+. #i/e $#ose in $#e a!e !'o 60:69 +ea's ,o/d e ee,$ed $o /ead a -ai'/+ #ea/$#+ /i-e and o;e' $#ei' se'*i,es as *o/n$ee's -o' in-o'ma/ ,a'e !i*in! $o o$#e's in $#e $o #i!#e' a!e !'os% o$# $#e 70:79 +ea's a!e !'o and $#e 80 < +ea's a!e !'o o/d 'e=i'e ,'i$i,a/ so,ia/ and medi,a/ #ea/$#,a'e so'$ > o$# in-o'ma/ ,a'e !i*in! and -o'ma/ ,a'e !i*in!. 1.2 #e
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!'oin! in,iden,e o- e/de' ase and se*e'e ?ss'es in $#e m/$i!ene'a$iona/ -ami/+ o' #ose#o/d #as -o',ed man+ o/de' e'sons $o aandon $#ei' -ami/+ #ome@ some o- $#em #a*e a/so een s#ed o$B and #a*e $#s een /e-$ s#e/$e':/ess. Mos$ 'an a'eas aea' $o #a*e a !'oin! in,iden,e o- ,ases o- aandoned e/de'/+. A ne ,/$'e o- ee' !'o a'$i,ia$ionB ein! a$$em$ed + $#e o/d e'sons aea's $o e $aCin! 'oo$s in man+ a'$s o- 'an (ndia@ O/d A!e Homes o- *a'ios $+es a'e 'aid/+ e,omin! a ,#oi,e -o' man+ aandonedB% /e-$ o$B o' ne!/e,$edB o/d e'sons i$# o' i$#o$ s'*i*a/ 'eso',es.
Though in our daily schedule we forget about them , but they never ever forget us come what may be the situation, for them we always remain their id and for us they always be a guiding light, for us they are our foundation , whatever present we are having today is all because of them. e feel that we have grown up but still the child in us feels relaxed when we reali2e that we have our elders above us, this is so valuable but then in today%s bottle nec competitive world we often fail to express and this is where we start losing them and maing our parents feel de
o one on this earth can hate hisGher parents they are always loved but sometimes people
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lessly given by our parents , let it be advice, let it be help and let it be moral support. our parents are the only one on this earth who can never ever imagine anything bad for us. what i believe is we can earn money as much as we want but we cannot buy a set of parents and a family...if we are earning a lac per month and we don?t have anyone to share our happiness with those who will have a genuine glitter of happiness in thier eyes,that one lac is of no worth. Even our spouse can not feel that for us which our parents feel co2 we are their dreams and we all now wen dreams get fulfilled how much happiness we get. o we all should try to be a fairy dream for our parents that they feel that their upbringing is
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