3speed Seduction 3 Disc Three

Speed Seduction 3.0 Program Transcript:

Disc Three Created By

Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some”

Website: http://www.speedseduction.biz

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying bullying,, begging begging,, buying,, bs or booze buying or booze,, in his pursuit of happiness.

Copyright © 2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Reserved. This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author.

Disclaimer This program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or SpeedSeduction.biz (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.

Disclaimer This program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or SpeedSeduction.biz (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.

Ross:

Let me give you another way to look at this. AFCs, Average Frustrated Chums, daters and those kinds of people ask themselves the wrong questions. What are the kinds of questions that the typical AFC asks himself when it comes to dating? Part of speed seduction is asking yourself the right questions.

Participant: What should I wear? Ross:

What should I wear? Where do I take her? Where should we go? What else?

Participant: How much should I spend? Ross:

Do I have enough money? Am I good enough for her? Will I get lucky?

Participant: Does she have a good looking sister? Ross:

Does she have a good looking sister? Speed seducers ask a different question. First they ask, “What are the flows of emotion? What are the emotional states where she is more likely to naturally do the behaviors that I’d like her to do?” Instead of thinking, “How can I get her to fuck me? How can I get her to take me back home?” we’re thinking, “What are some of the emotional states it would be good for women to experience?” Do we want a woman to feel revulsion, anxiety and disgust? I’m not asking is that what they normally feel, I’m asking if we want them to feel that.

Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Three Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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Participant: No. Ross:

Here’s the key for successful women. Instead of focusing on the behaviors you want, getting her to laugh with you, getting her to fuck you or getting her to blow you, focus on the flows of emotion and emotional states where it would be natural for her to just do those behaviors. I’m your magic marker man with emotions. Visualize some hot babe that you would like to do. What are the emotional states you would like her to feel around you?

Participant: Lust. Ross:

You’re starting at the end. Okay, lust. Yes.

Participant: Comfort. Participant: Connection. Participant: Intrigue. Ross:

Hold on a minute. Actually, it’s lust that she’s invested in that’s better than lust. It’s one thing to create lust attraction, but it’s another to manage her investment in it. If you can manage her investment in her desire for you and her interest in you, then you have something going. We’ll discuss that later. Lust, what else?

Participant: Fascination.


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Ross:

Good one. I go very far with fascination. Fascination is one of my mainstays, particularly for very young women. I’m 48 years old. I’ll be 49 September 20. Gifts are accepted. I travel many miles on the fascination airfare ticket. At my age, it’s unlikely that I could talk to a 22-year-old in a way where I’m going to go for a strong attraction or desire out of her. It would scare her pants off. I’d like her pants off, but not in that way. Instead, by demonstrating that I deeply understand her world and by showing that I have things that she would like to learn, I create a lot of fascination very quickly. Fascination is not necessary, nor is it sufficient, but it’s very useful. By itself, it probably won’t get you anywhere. But it’s very useful, particularly if you’re going to deal with women who are much younger than you. It’s very unlikely that I would approach a 20-year-old or 22-year-old girl and say, “I just had to tell you, you are so absolutely breathtaking that I had to come up and say hello.” Typically speaking, her social conventional line would go, “What is this old fucker doing being horny for me?” Unless she’s from Alabama, in which case she’ll say, “Grandpa! What are you doing?” And she won’t be being sarcastic. She’ll mean it. Fascination is a very good one. One way to get fascination, and we’ll teach you this, is to demonstrate that you understand her world. What else?


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Participant: Intrigue. Participant: Safety. Ross:

Safety is a good one. Women have to feel safe.

Participant: Curious. Ross:

Curious. That’s akin to fascination.

Participant: Intrigue. Ross:

These are all different shades of fascination.

Participant: Connection. Ross:

Actually, intrigue is even better than fascination. Intrigue, to me, implies that they’re thinking about you when you’re not around. When you’re fascinated with someone, it’s a statement about what you’re feeling in their presence. Intrigue is even better. I think intrigue says something about how they’re moaning about you when you’re not around. A great process by which women become really invested in you is what takes place when you’re not even there. You know how you used to run mistakes in your head about women? Women run men through their head that they’re really attracted to. Those men may not even have spoken with them for years.


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This is a deep process. We’re paring deep into the code. If by how you present yourself, she starts running you in that way, that’s very useful. I like intrigue. You have me beat. I nod to you. Intrigue is actually more useful than fascination. You can move from fascination into intrigue. That’s an excellent answer. What other emotions? Participant: Connection. Ross:

What kinds of emotions do women feel around nice guys who are only nice?

Participant: Comfort. Ross:

The only thing a guy can be is nice. That’s all his responses are. What does she feel? What emotions?

Participant:

Comfort.

Ross:

The initial answer, without looking deeply, is that she’ll feel comfort. But it’s not true. If they only thing you can be is nice, women actually feel distrust. If the only thing you know how to do is be nice and agreeable, women will not trust you because that’s not how humans operate. Humans operate in a way that if someone does something that pisses you off, you’re going to be pissed off. Being nice all the time doesn’t work because it’s properly distrusted.


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Some woman said to me a couple years back, “You are so nice.” I said, “Stop. I am not nice. I’m pleasant. Nice means that people roll over you, you never speak your truth and you’re dormant. Pleasant is power held under proper restraint and exercised with absolutely precision.” She sighed happily. You’re writing that down, aren’t you? You can pinch this stuff from me. You’re paying for it. Consider it a lifetime rental. You’ll return it when you’re done. Participant:

So this is really critical in order to build up rapport, be nice as well?

Ross:

Trust is a very potent, powerful component of any kind of attraction process, whether it’s a sale, seduction or anything. One of the vibes I teach is being vulnerable, but vulnerable doesn’t mean needy or weak. If you write vulnerable, then put an equal sign with cross through it. Put needy and weak. Vulnerable does not equal needy and weak. Vulnerable to me is simply about being authentic. You mean to say, Ross, that one of the most manipulative things you can do is be honest and authentic? Yes. It’s really powerful manipulation. Here’s what I mean. This is a killer. You really want to get women in bed like a rock star, not spend any money and have them chasing after you?

Participant: Yes. Ross:

Look at this. You’re really interested. Would you like to esoterically learn about energy simply because it’s an interesting subject and that’s what you came here for?


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Participant: No! Ross:

I don’t hear you!

Participant: No! Ross:

But you want to learn to use this because it means your dick is going to be wetter than Niagara Falls?

Participant: Yes! Ross:

To me, vulnerable is when you’re fundamentally saying it without saying it that speaking my truth is more important to me than getting into your pants. Now there’s an entire energetic vibe. There’s a flow of energy in your body that feels different than when your truth is, “I’ll do anything to get into your pants.” It’s not only different cognitively, but the flow of energy in your body literally feels different. Speaking on truth is more important than getting into your pants. We’ll get into this later this weekend, but when you truly walk through the world that way, that energetic vibe that you feel in your body and that flow of feelings in your body is completely different than, “I’ll say anything because I need vagina more than I need air.” This gets into pure lust. You may have to fake it at first. Fake it until you make it. But if you really can come from this position of speaking your truth, here’s the paradox. You’ll have to step into a little chasm of faith with me and trust me.


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If this becomes your actual truth, when walking through the world speaking your truth is more important than getting into her pants, that is a very fearful place to go. You’ve been trained to believe that if you tell them your truth, women will run. That’s the biggest lie ever. If you can come from the place, truly come from it, where speaking your truth is more important than getting into her pants you don’t have to do any work. It’s easy. There’s no line you keep track of. There’s no faking you have to do. It’s fucking easy. That’s number one. It’s the lazy man’s way of doing it. Now you can be a lazy bastard and get all the women you want to. Now, I didn’t say you can’t be crafty. Within that you can be crafty. There’s nothing wrong with being crafty and clever. But here’s the thing. When you come from that position, first of all, it’s a deep challenge to a woman. “Wait! You mean there’s something more important to you than me? Well, that can’t be. I’m going to work to make myself more important to you than that.” Second, it shows her your standards. When you have standards, and you’re willing to really genuinely say, “No,” wait a minute,” then I get really good material. You actually have standards? You’ll say, “No.” “Wow, it must be the case if a lot of women want me.” It’s not necessarily true, but that’s how women will hear it. So it’s a challenge. It shows that you have standards to be true, a guy of high values, although those guys are teaching you to fake your standards.


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The only thing those guys know about standards is the standard motel when they go to pick up chicks. If you have standards, it’s a challenge. Then it sets a frame for her to live up to. In order for her to match you, she has to begin to come into a place like that. It’s really powerful. Are you getting this? Participant: Yes. Ross:

Do you like this?


What other states? Trust, lust, fascination, what else?

Participant: Fun. Ross:

Fun! Being fun. Feeling carefree. That’s very cool. What else?

Participant: Connection. Ross:

Very good. Magnifique, mon ami. Yes, feeling connected. Would that be a good one?


Now, here’s the problem with dating. When you take a woman out on a date to a fancy dinner, she’s really connecting with how good the pasta tastes in her mouth as she shovels it in, how hot the waiter is or how yummy the dessert is. She’s not connecting with you. What else?

Participant: Giving a challenge. Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Three Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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Ross:

Give that man a condom! Yes! Women want to be challenged. They want to feel challenged. If you throw some challenge in there, that’s chickfrack. You could go to the dark side, of course, and be a challenge by being an asshole and invalidating women. That’s not what I’m talking about. There’s no mystery. You can be a challenge if your attitude really is, “Hey, speaking my truth is more important to me than getting in your pants.” That’s the ultimate challenge. That’s a huge challenge and it creates a lot of trust because women aren’t used to hearing it. “Wait a minute! He just said something that could piss me off. How dare he speak the truth instead of trying to get into my pants? Wait a minute, what’s going on here?” They’re not used to it. I don’t take credit for lines that aren’t mine. This line is my ex-trainer’s. When you come at women from this way and talk the way you talk because you really deeply understand them, it’s like a guy who walks into a bar with a talking dog. He says, “I bet you 10 pounds my dog can talk.” The dog starts reciting Shakespeare. What the fuck? It’s like a talking dog. The two actually really were in a pub. Someone brought in a German Shepherd and it started talking. You’d freak out. Did I really see what I just saw? That’s the response women have when you come at them from this place. I’ve had women say to me, “I can’t believe how intuitive you are. It just blows me away.” I say, “Yeah.” Then I move off the intuitive a bit. There’s another thing I have to warn you about. It is not your job to be an emotional dentist, but also it’s also not your job to get off on doing this.


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When guys go from getting no attention or getting shunned to suddenly having beautiful women utterly fascinated with him, the power of that gets them really turned on. Now they’re focused more on how turned on they’re feeling rather than whether they’re being effective. I tend to learn at extremes. My way of learning is to take something and push it to the absolutely extreme. That’s how I learn what works. I’ll push it to the absolutely extreme and then I’ll start to calm it down, to see how I can drop it down and still keep it effective. That’s me. You don’t want to learn my way. You don’t want to learn at the extremes. It’s also not your job to do this to turn yourself on. It’s okay to have a little bit of that. It’s not your job to pop women’s heads. Does anybody remember the movie “Scanners” from years ago? These telepaths could make people’s heads explode. You don’t want to make her head explode. You want to do just enough to be effective, but not any more than that. These are really good states of mind. A really good one is a meta state. There are raw states, like fear, anger, desire and lust. A meta state is a state that reflects on the other states. It’s more of an intellectual thing than a mid-brain response. The other state you really want is investment. That she’s invested in all of this. I don’t mean portfolio. Participant:

Is it necessary that we really every day tame down as we go?

Ross:

No. if you understand, you don’t need to take each and every step. Deep understanding from lengthy notes. That was a good little fortune cookie. Deep understanding trumps lengthy notes. We’re writing that down.


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Participant: How genuine can I be with this person? Ross:

That’s a good one. You get laid a lot, don’t you?


You specialize in de-virginizing lesbians, right?

Participant: No. Ross:

That’s one of his specialties. This is his best clothing, too. I create a lot of laughter at these events because the subject is surrounded by a lot of pain. If I can get you in a state where you’re laughing, you’re learning. You’re open to new information. When you laugh, you open to a new direction. I know this is a very big new direction. You say, “The sky is the limit,” because you struggle to be happy. You’re looking for a hap-penis. Really there are things that enhance it and there are things that wreck it. You’re not enjoying this, are you?

Participant:

I’m not.

Ross:

You’re not? You think I’m full of bullshit, don’t you? You’ve been to other people’s seminars, haven’t you?

Participant:

You’re the first one.


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Ross:

That’s what they all say. I’m popping your seminar cherry. We’ll hang the bloody sheet out. They used to do this in Middle Eastern cultures. They had to hang out the sheet on the wedding night to prove that she really was a virgin. It was a great black mark. There were little animals you could kill on the sly. I imagine so. Yes. These are great states. How are we going to create those states? Could I walk up in a party and say, “Debbie, in a moment I’m going to use some SpeedSeduction on you.” Or could I say, “Debbie, I can manage you to experience fascination with me. Then, in short order, you’ll experience desire. Invest in that desire and you’ll have absolute lust-t-t-t to the point where you’ll feel like you’re suffocating and there’s air in my balls”? That’s unlikely. How are we going to be able to get women to experience these states? The dating game says it happens randomly, that the chemistry through men and women works on random molecular movement. There’s no way to order those molecules. There’s not structure. There’s not periodic table of emotional elements. I just coined that. The dating game says there is no periodic table of emotional elements. I’m saying, “Oh yes there is and you can arrange those atoms.” Let’s start talking about how we use our language to begin creating these feelings. I say there’s a couple of ways to create these feelings. There are certain themes. A theme is a topic of discussion. There are certain topics of discussion that are more likely to lead to those feelings coming up than not.


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Here’s a good rule. If you can put what you’re talking about on a chart, graph, prospectus, business report, curriculum vitae, it won’t get you laid. They named a deodorant after it in America that’s called Soft and Dry or Bill Gate’s company, Microsoft. Those topics are not useful. Stay away from them. This is the rule for not getting laid. Any topic where you talk about something you can put on a chart, graph, business report, prospectus, CV, curriculum vitae or resume, stay away from it. Participant:

What’s a prospectus?

Ross:

A prospectus is when you want to sell a piece of property or stock or make an additional public offering of stock. It’s not going to ignite her imagination and emotions. Ask the question “How is this communication designed to capture her imagination and emotions?” This is crucial. This is the real question to ask, not where do I take her on the date? When do I make my move? Any of those behavioral related questions are off to one side. They’re trivial. This is a crucial question that enables us to peer deeply into the code, the machine language and alignment of molecules and atoms to create chemistry. When you start learning to think in this way, you begin to have a lot in common with each other. I picked up this gorgeous 18-year-old girl on the street the other night. We were walking along on a Friday night. One of my students had stopped this beautiful girl who was 18 years old.


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She said, “What are you all doing here?” I said, “I’m teaching a seminar for guys on how to pick up chicks using hypnosis.” She said, “Really? That’s so interesting. I’ve been reading this book called

The Game.”

I said, “Well,

I’m Ross Jeffries.” She said, “No, you’re not.” I said, “Yes I am. I’ll prove it to you.” She said, “Oh my god! You are Ross Jeffries.” She winds up coming to the seminar and I have her on the stage. I have her on the edge of orgasm the whole time. She’s completely hanging all over me. It’s really wicked when you do these things. I couldn’t get her into bed, but I wound up heavily making out with this 18year-old girl. I’m there at my place making out with this beautiful 18-yearold girl. I was thinking to myself, “Life is good and you’re really going to hell.” I had her on camera. She was like an eight and a half or nine. But when the eight and a half is not even half your age, she’s a 10. When you have this kind of understanding, you can do the seemingly impossibly. I’ll give you a metaphor. Have you ever seen a stage magician like these guys like Criss Angel, the Mind Freak? You could be the most intelligent person in the world. If you go to see the show, but you don’t know how the trick is done, you won’t’ figure it out. But a magician, a colleague, can see exactly what the effect is. When you start seeing women in this way, you begin to see what’s invisible to most people. You can do stuff that’s sick. Either it’s sick or it’s beautiful, depending on how you look at it.


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There are certain topics of conversation that are more likely to bring these feelings out. Here are some of them. These are my six topics. I usually only use four. Most of the time I only use two. There are connections. We’ll get to how to bring this up tomorrow. The topic of connections is a powerful topic to begin to travel these deeper levels of a woman’s mind. It’s so interesting how people connect their desire to escape. If you could go somewhere where money and time is no object, where would you likely most enjoy? When you really want to cut loose and absolutely indulge yourself and escape, what do you love to do? “Well, I like to go scuba diving.” “Well, excuse me, Debbie, I tell you what. Take me along with you. I want to understand what your world feels like.” Here we are. We’re on the boat to go scuba diving. You ask, “What time of day is it?” She says, “Well, it’s sunset.” I say, “What’s the temperature of the water? So I’m a chicken. So you have my by the hand. Do we dive? Do we fall backwards off the boat or do we jump in?” She says, “We fall backwards.” How does the water feel when as we go into it? If the woman says, “I’m not telling you.” What is that a clue to do? There are many great philosophers who influenced me. Archimedes, the guy who coined Eureka and taught the principle of leverage. Archimedes has deeply influenced me. Patanjali, who wrote The Yoga Sutras deeply influenced me.


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What’s influenced me a lot in my seduction career is an American philosopher named Snagglepuss. Do you remember Snagglepuss, the cartoon lion? He used to say, “Exit, stage left.” Then he’d run away. If she’s not willing to play with you, you go, “You know what? I can feel my ankle bracelet vibrating. My court appointed therapist.” Leave. Remember, this is about screening for women who are fun and adventurous. If they don’t want to go along with me, if she doesn’t offer curiosity and compliance, I leave. To me, curiosity and compliance are equally mixed together. Because she’s curious and having fun, she complies and goes along. I don’t mean the bullshit compliance tests the other guys are telling you like, “Does she hold onto your hand?” If I grab her mind, her hand's going to be going all over the map and every other part of me. Fuck that! Their compliance is, "Does she grab your hand?" Fuck you! I want to grab her mind. If I can grab her mind, she'll be grabbing whatever I want, any way I want her to. They're not thinking at the right level. They're at the surface and you're peering deep into the code. Participant:

I like the way you talk. You're very good at describing things. You plant yourself inside. While you were talking, are you talking at that forward level?

Ross:

I'm talking a way where she has to involve me in her fantasy. Already, I've done this and I'll say, "You know what? Now that we've been to Greece for a weekend, let's go to have a drink." It's this trivial thing now, because now in her mind, I'm in the fantasy with her. Notice that I'm not just talking, I'm asking her. She's describing it.


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She's invested in the interaction by doing the talking. This is just one example. I'm not imagining that part of it. That's what has happened. Participant:

I see the whole idea. I'm just wondering if, as you're saying, it's in that fore-part of her mind because she has already put you in there thinking of these things. You're already in there in just five minutes on the street.

Ross:

Well, yes.

Participant:

That's pretty cool.

Ross:

That's not bad. Not only that, I'll do some things to make her feel comfortable and then I'll go into that. What are some examples of how we connect? What can we connect with?

Participant:

Say, with her taste for food or clothes.

Ross:

We can act with our desires for what we want to buy. There are intrapersonal and interpersonal things with which we can connect. Interpersonal is how we connect with the stuff outside of us, like nature, the universe and other people. Intrapersonal is how we connect with things that are inside of our skin. Interpersonal: Outside our skin. Intrapersonal: Inside our skin. Both of those are suitable topics for connection. What are some of the things we connect with interpersonally, outside of us? How we connect with the challenges in our life? What else?

Participant: Recent positive experiences. Ross:

Be more specific. What do you mean?


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Participant: Any experience. Ross:

How about how we connect with nature? Do you know what's interesting? I find you learn so much about people about how they connect with things outside of themselves. It really makes them feel fantastic. If you really want to get a way to connect with things that just make you feel fabulous, think about what you love to do. I gave you some inner secrets today, didn't I? You see where your drive is. Come on, you guys are so fucking boring. You're the worst audience I've ever had in the last hour. Wake up! If this didn't feel uncomfortable, we would have learned this when we were 2. What else do we connect with? If you're going to be here, you have to connect with your desire to learn, right? Yes or no?

Participants: Yes! Ross:

Start peering into your own experience to get answers about other people. What else do we connect with? We connect with other people. Holy fucking god, yes! Give this man a condom, a used one. No, because it's got your sister's juices on it. No, make that your brother's. Speak up, Dougie. Dougie has used this stuff to get laid a hundred times. How about how we connect with each other? "You know what's interesting Debbie? You know what I love to do in a place like this, Debbie?" Let's say we're at a place where there is a party or a big gathering. "You know what I like to do? I like to play a game called 'who's had some.' I like to see who hasn't had any in at least a year."


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Then once I get her locked in I say, "The other thing I like to do is I like to watch for that moment when two people who connect, when they really feel that, you know that..." and I let her give me the word. Why would I let her give me the word? First I play a fun game with her, right? Then I go to, "The other thing I like to do is I like to watch for that moment when people feel that..." I want her word because that gets her invested in the process. The minute she supplies her word, she has bought into the process, versus me doing all the talking. The old model of Speed Seduction, prior to '97, was that we do all the talking. "The other thing I like to do is watch for when two people really feel that..." and she says "chemistry." "That chemistry." She'll give it up when you connect and have that chemistry and connection. "When two people who are really starting to feel that. You can really feel that developing, Debbie." Do you hear that command? "When two people who are really starting to feel that," and you gesture back and forth. "I like to look for that moment when two people are really starting to feel that. I like to look for the moment when that first happens. People go on talking and there is that moment when two eyes meet across a crowded room. "A couple of weeks ago I was at a place and I saw that. You could see it. You looked at him and you looked at her and you could see they were both starting to feel that. Just because you feel that doesn't mean you also feel it's on tonight. For some reason, you could see that it wasn't just that you were feeling this. It's also that they were feeling 'it's on.'"


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You surround yourself with a bubble of that with someone. "He started to walk toward her and at the last minute you could see that she was getting more hopeful. You know what it's like when you're really attracted to someone? Then you're getting closer and closer. A voice inside you says, 'Yes!' and then he walked away. "Oh my god! Do you know what it's like when you want something to work, and you're hoping for it and it doesn't?" I want to take her there. What are we doing? It's fractionating. "What has to happen inside a person when they say, 'Fuck it! I'm reaching for this tonight'?" If she doesn't have a good answer, what does that tell me? Exit stage left. If she gives me a good answer verbally or nonverbally, I know I'm going home with her that night. She may say, "I never do that. I need to know someone for a while." I say, "Really? It's interesting because for me it's not knowing someone for a period of time. You could go for six months and think you know a person and they disappoint you." I'm matching her experience. "Then again, I've met people and within a few minutes I knew who they really were, and you knew who I am. Then it's like everything that would have gotten in the way just drops away. Like sand running through your fingers, it's gone. All that's left is what you want. Anyway, when you were a little girl, what was there a favorite kind of candy that was the king of your candy castle?" I changed the subject. Once I see that it's gone in, I change the subject. Why do I change the subject? I'm fractionating her again. Now I'm sitting there and she's going to be chewing on this. Mentally she says, "Wait!" If I


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keep presenting it, she's going to back away. If you're ever worried about how to fractionate, you say, "Anyway." "Anyway, when you were a little girl, was there some candy that was the king of your candy castle?" Are you starting to marry it now? He gave the girl a week and got married. I gave him something tremendous. I gave him something devastating to use. Participant:

Why didn't you give this to me before I got married?

Ross:

You could have asked. If you're stuck on how to fractionate, just fall back on this. "Anyway, when you were a little girl, was there some kind of candy that was the king of your candy castle?" Then you can go to my Snagglepuss, which I'll teach you later. I started out by playing a fun game with her. "One of the games I like to play in a place like this is 'who's getting some?' Who do you think has gone at least a year without getting any?" She always picks some schlubby-looking guy. I say, "I don't know. For all we know, he's hung like King Kong. For all you know, he has a girlfriend who makes you look like a cat that's been eaten in the backyard." We play a fun game. Then I say, "Who's had someone, but that person has been frightfully ugly?" We play this game where it's she and I looking at the rest of the world. I'm getting her feeling fine and relaxed and excited. Then I go into, "The other thing I like to do is watch for that moment." Now I'm starting with connections and how people connect with each other. Do


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you understand? That thing of connection is how people connect with each other. That's interpersonal. How about intrapersonal? That's how people connect with their indulgence, desires, fetishes, fantasies and their need to escape. Could that be a good topic? For those of you at home, the password is "blarked." We're talking about themes, right? One of the themes is connections. I gave you an example. Many of you would like that little piece of pattern word-for-word, but first here is the structure of it. I didn't start with that pattern. I started by playing a fun game. I've found through the years that if you start out with something fun and playful, where it's you and them versus the rest of the room, it creates a nice, fun, relaxed atmosphere rather than going straight into the pattern. I play this fun game. "You know what I like to do in a place like this? I like to play the 'who's had some' game. Who hasn't had any in at least a year? Who's had someone but they were highly ugly so they wanted to saw their arm off the next morning?" We play a little game. You're enjoying this, aren't you? You're laughing your ass off. What language were you speaking? Participant:

That's Croatian.

Ross:

I'm part Polish myself.

Participant:

Congratulations. Nice work.


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Ross:

I call that the impotence-incompetence pattern. I play the fun game, right? Then I went into connections. How did I go into connections? I related it to the context of where we were. "You know what else I like to do in a place like this?" Stop a minute. What if I'd said that to her and gotten no response at all? What would happen then? I'd go to the Snagglepuss. "Exit stage left!" Here's an assignment. You all have to Google Snagglepuss. Go to Wikipedia and do a search on Snagglepuss. Snagglepuss is going to be your new seduction bible. Exit stage left! Those of you who are at my Master seminar can use Snagglepuss as one of your god forms. From the very beginning, you're screening. You never have to worry about whether it's going to work or not because you're just screening anyway. Another thing is, "You know what else is interesting? You know what else I like to do in a place like this? I like to look for that moment when two people who are really beginning to feel that..." and I want to see if she's going to jump in and invest. I'm screening for playfulness and a willingness for her to invest. If she won't invest in something so innocuous, so innocent and so nonthreatening, then forget it. The other schools, the candy bar schools, teach you to show her some disinterest or to move away from her, but why bother? I don't want to do emotional damage to her, remember?


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"The other thing I like to do in a place like this is watch for that moment when two people are really going to feel that..." I want her to supply the word, not me. Then she's priming her own pump. Participant:

If she says the word, you can remember it immediately back to her because that's the word she is saying.

Ross:

Right. When she uses those words, they are like little bread crumbs back to the secret levels of her mind. Whatever word she uses is a reflection of what's going on in one of those deep levels of her mind. That word is a code that opens up one of these levels of her mind. She's drawing on those experiences and those feelings to give you that word. Guess what? She's just given you part of the combination to the safe. In the questions you ask and they way you bring things up, you want to get her to start giving you some of the combinations to the safe. When you feed those words back to her, the safe opens more and she gives you those. When you feed those back, the safe door swings open. In the way you ask questions and bring things up, she gives you one combination. You then feed that number back to her and that gives you parts two and three. Pretty soon it gets to critical mass, and you're no longer just getting one number, but 10. The safe door swings open. At each stage, I'm testing the safe door to see if the numbers have all been turned. I don't necessarily know. It's gotten to the point where I can hear the counters clicking but sometimes they're digital and there's no sound. Then I just have to watch. At every stage I'm testing the door because if it will open after two numbers, I don't want to keep going.


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I tell this story where a girl said to one of my students, "If I had one more beer in me, I would take you home and give you a fuck you'll remember for the next decade." He said, "You know Ross, I started to do the Discovery Channel pattern and she walked away." I said, "I have the pattern you should have used. It's called, 'Bartender!'" Isn't that something? Katie is in that begging and buying place. She's ready. She really needs it. She looks at you and says, "One more beer and I'll fuck your brains out." Buy her the beer. I'll refund your money. I have a money-back guarantee. I have a 100% absolute satisfaction guarantee and I mean it. If I'm not 100% satisfied with your money, I'll send it back to you. That's your Jewish money back there. Do you know what the Jewish child molester said to the little girl on the playground? "Do you want to buy some candy, little girl?" You don't think that's funny, do you? Participant:

I'm a little bit slow when it comes to jokes.

Ross:

Oh, and happy new year. It's Rosh Hashanah. I want her to supply the screening and I want her to start investing in the transaction by supplying the answers. Then I begin to describe the process of what I observed. By describing the process, I involve her. I say, "I was watching them and I could see they started to feel that chemistry growing, Debbie." I start to convey commands. How do I convey commands? I talk about the other people's experience in a way that I'm giving commands to her. Commands are things like, "Feel this. Feel that. Experience this. Do that."


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I don't say directly to Debbie, "Debbie, as I describe what other people experience, you're going to feel it." I use this form. I use the Form 2. I say, "They started to..." or "You could see they were starting to..." If I want to give Debbie the command, "feel that chemistry," I only give her whatever words she used. For example, she said chemistry. It's her word. I didn't supply it. When she supplies her word, she doesn't resist it when I use it back because she thinks it's her talking. That word that she supplies me is like one of the digits of the safe, so when I dial it in it doesn't feel like someone's trying to crack the safe. It feels like someone who has the code is in there. This is why these other methods that say you should do 90% of the talking are bullshit. If you're going to do 90% of the talking, you should be using her words. Participant: When we are talking to a woman and saying, "You know that..." and she says, "Oh yeah! That feeling!" Then five minutes later when you say "You know when you feel that feeling?" you have the words. You set them and then come back into her mind. Ross:

That's exactly right. I say to her, "I could see they were starting to..." or "They were beginning to feel that chemistry." I'm giving her a command to feel that chemistry. One way to construct patterns is to listen to commands. "Feel that chemistry. Feel that attraction. Realize it's on." Feel, realize, believe. These are the internal processes we want her to go through.


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Participant:

What if the reason she's not supplying the word is that she's way too deep in your trance?

Ross:

If she's that deep in the trance at that point, calibrate it and bring her out. Someone asked me about the game and building trust. There's this thing where I have the waitress completely entranced for me. He said, "That was absolutely awesome." It's part of the trick. She wasn't invested in me. I never fucked that waitress because she wasn't invested in it. She wasn't participating in it. I was doing it to her. That makes a flashy demonstration for an author to try in a book but it's not a practical seduction. The practical way would have been to bring her out and put her back in. Each time I bring her out. I'm using some information she's given me and feeding it back. That would have been practical. I didn't have time. I'm going to have her participate. I use my conversations as delivery vehicles for suggestions and commands. Commands like, "Feel that now. Feel that building." Those are commands. Suggestions are, "That's what's happening right now." "It's amazing that as I watch I can see that's what's happening between two people." Do I mean it's happening between those two people or me and her? I'm using suggestions and ambiguity. Commands use verbs. Commands take the form of, "Feel that. Do that. Believe that." Suggestions are more a statement about what's occurring. "That's what's happening." Your unconscious says, "Does he mean that's what's happening with them or that's what's happening with us?" It applies all of


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the meanings unconsciously because it's vague. She applies it to you and her. I say, "You can see they were starting to feel that chemistry. Feel that growing. You can see it. That's what's happening. This is on. It's going to happen." Are those suggestions or commands? "This is on." That's a suggestion. I'm not telling her to do anything. I'm giving a description of what's going on. In addition to getting her invested and using her words, I'm giving commands. "Feel that. You can see they were really starting to feel that. Feel it growing. Just by looking, you know that it's on tonight. It's happening." I'm pointing back and forth between her and I. The unconscious mind says, "It's happening between me and this guy." You say, "You're going to get caught. They're going to see you doing it." Who here has seen this and it worked like a charm? When you've used it have you ever been caught? Participant:

I've never been caught.

Ross:

I've done this with a clinical psychologist and master NLP trainers. Trust Uncle Ross. Go out there and challenge yourself to get caught. Try to get caught. You won't get caught. Not only that, they don't even remember what you said, because it's all process language. A week later, after she's hung up on you for the tenth time saying, "He told me he was a doctor and made $50,000 a year," she'll remember that because it's about facts, something you can put on a chart. This is process language. Process language goes deep to the unconscious. You don't remember what was said.


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As you sit there looking at me you begin to get really excited as you imagine all the things and Speed Seduction really working for you. I'm not sure which ones really create that growing sense of enthusiasm and curiosity. As they continue to run through your mind as we're speaking together, I just want to let you know that the more you focus in on that, the more ways I say it allows you to realize that it seems to me it's really something important, isn't it? What did I just say? Did I say anything that you could put on a chart, in a curriculum vitae, on a graph, in a prospectus or in a stock report? Do you remember what I said? Were you imagining things and did you get excited about how Speed Seduction could help you? I'll bet you all pictured different things, didn't you? I convinced all of you because I didn't say anything. You had a story? Participant:

The very first time I ever used this was with a lady who, in my opinion at the time, was way out of my league. She was a lingerie model. She was a really good friend so I just told her, "You won't believe this stuff. There is this guy called Ross Jeffries," and I told her how it worked. I told her how I do it and it still worked.

Ross:

Early in my seduction career, I would get women into bed and I would tell them what I do. They would say, "I don't dig you because you use hypnosis. I dig you because you're a great guy and you make me feel that way."


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Those were the very words I had pegged for them. I would say, "No, this is exactly what I did. I did this and this." They would say, "Come on, I love you because you're the most amazing guy. I feel that chemistry and that destiny." I would say, "Yes, I know." It feels so good to them. They want to convince themselves that it was natural, good fun. They want to believe it. I bring it up in a way where I get her involvement. I'm going to feed her words back to her. I'm going to embed suggestions and commands by talking about other people's experiences. I don't say, "Debbie, you will start to feel attracted to me. As you feel attracted, you'll realize that it's on tonight between the two of us." I don't say it directly, but that's what I'm actually saying through this kind of communication. By talking about this experience I observed, I'm using that as a vehicle to get her to participate, to get her to invest in it and to throw up all sorts of suggestions and embed a command to her. "I could see that they were starting to feel that chemistry, really feeling it build to the point where you can see that it's on tonight. This is happening. The thing is, when I saw this, it wasn't just that they were starting to really feel that attraction. Just because you feel an attraction doesn't mean this is on. Whatever that feeling is, you know that feeling that you're going to make this happen? It's that feeling of desire and that feeling that it's coming together." What did I do? I put a feeling in one hand. What I did here was draw a contrast. Here's a truth. Just because a woman does feel attracted doesn't


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