Speed Seduction 3 Disc Nine

Speed Seduction 3.0 Program Transcript:

Disc Nine Created By

Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some”

Website: http://www.speedseduction.biz

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying bullying,, begging begging,, buying,, bs buying bs or or booze booze,, in his pursuit of happiness.

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Ross:

The thing with put-ons is they’re really playful and fun. I want all women to get the sense around me right away that they can be comfortable. They can relax and they can have fun. Did you get the sense after meeting me that I was a fun person to be around? Say yes.

I want them to get the sense that I don’t have an agenda. In other words, I want to lull them to sleep. Just kidding!

With put-ons, as soon as she laughs you need to say, “I’m glad you laughed because I noticed you here and I wanted to meet you.” I’m conveying my purpose. I’m not hiding the fact that I wanted to meet her. I’m stating right up front who I am and what I wanted.

That goes to the next part, which is being direct and sincere. That is a very attractive vibe. As soon as I do the put-on, I immediately move right over to being direct and sincere. I want to state my intent.

Other schools will teach, “Don’t state your intent,” fuck that. Own your intent. It’s not like a massive intent like, “Man, I saw you here and all of my DNA woke up and screamed, ‘Replicate with this woman!’”

If she can’t handle the genuine, low-key, simple statement that I saw her and wanted to meet her, then what’s the point? “I’m glad you laughed because I saw you here and I wanted to meet you.”

If you want to doll it up a little bit, you can say, “I saw you here and I wanted to meet the person wrapped in all of the pretty.” For some reason that phrase “wrapped in all the pretty” just sounds good.

It’s more like, “I’m sure you’ve heard from guys that you’re good looking before.” They probably don’t say it in quite that clever way. It’s also Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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pointing out something else. In effect that statement is a challenge. Remember I said that you need to challenge women?

The challenge of that statement is that first of all, it’s an implied complement. I didn’t say directly, “I think you’re very pretty and I wanted to meet you.” I said, “I wanted to meet the person wrapped in all the pretty.” The presupposition is that first of all I’m seeing the pretty, but I don’t think it’s who you are. I just see it as something like an outer garment.

The second thing it says without saying that it’s only an external covering, what else do you have? It’s not coming right out and saying, “What else do you have besides your looks?”

People corrupt my teaching in the most unusual, bizarre ways. This has now worked its way into one of the other schools of pickup. It’s one of the things they say, “So what else do you have going for you besides your looks?” That is so vulgar.

That can work. It will work at the right phase, but it’s vulgar. It’s like a giant flamingo on your front lawn. You guys don’t have Chuck E. Cheese anymore do you? Thank god. It’s like Dame Edna’s sense of fashion. It’s vulgar.

This is implying it. When you say, “I wanted to meet the person wrapped in the pretty,” you’re saying a lot of things. First of all, you’re saying, “Yes, you’re pretty, but I can see past it and I want to see what you have beyond that.” But it’s all done through implying, rather than stating. You state your intent. You say, “Yes, I wanted to meet you.” That’s true. You’re speaking the truth.

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The implication in the way you state, “I wanted to meet the person wrapped in all the pretty,” is that you see beyond it. Her being pretty is not enough. What else does she have going for her? It’s all stacked within an implication rather than stating it directly.

Remember, women use implication all of the time with us. We’re simply communicating through the same back channel. We’re using the back channel and communicating that way. There is nothing dishonest about it. We’re not lying in any way. We’re not hiding anything. We’re simply being crafty.

There is a distinction between being crafty and being dishonest. We’re simply getting the message across in a way where it’s more easily received.

Then I’ll say, “I’m glad you laughed, because I saw you here and I wanted to meet you. I wanted to meet the person wrapped in all the pretty.” If I start with a put-on, I’ll immediately go to direct and sincere.

I can also start with being direct and sincere, couldn’t I? I could walk up to the girl who’s there in the supermarket and say, “Excuse me, I saw you shopping here and I wanted to meet you.”

I like saying it a little bit better. Guys, look up here. Here’s a never fail, fallback line. If you can’t think of what to say and your mind is flipping, I guarantee you this will work. You walk up and say, “Excuse me, I noticed you here. I realized that if I didn’t say something I’d never get to meet you. My name is X.”

That’s a devastatingly simple statement. There is nothing she can argue with in that statement. “Excuse me, I saw you here and I realized that if I Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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didn’t say something, I’d never get to meet you.” That is absolutely minimalist, pick-up artistry.

What can she say? That’s some slick, bullshit pick-up line? It’s about the least amount you could say and still get the message across.

Participant:

I said almost the same thing 12 years ago and she was my girlfriend for seven years. I said, “If I don’t say anything to you now, I will regret it for the rest of my life.”

Ross:

That’s a little heavy. “Excuse me, I noticed you here and I realized that if I didn’t say something, I’d never get to meet you.”

I’ve actually had women laugh when I say that. I said, “Why are you laughing?” They said, “It’s so honest.” Why that should create a laugh, I don’t know, but I’ve had them laugh. You’re so direct and honest.

I’ll tell you something else. Beautiful women are not used to or expecting a direct, honest approach without any bullshit. Ladies, you don’t have to be on camera. You don’t have to come up here. Please help with at least some participation. Have you not been bullshitted over and over again and heard everything come out of a male mouth? Yes? You’ll go that far and help me out there? Yes, that’s true.

Other than the fellas you’re dating now, how often has a guy just come up to you with no bullshit and said, “I saw you here and realized that if I didn’t say something I’d never get to meet you,” ? How often does that happen? It happens sometimes but not very often.

That kind of approach is impressive, simply from the fact that it doesn’t aim to impress at all. There is the paradox. In paradox there is power. The Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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fact that approach has no intent to impress whatsoever is what makes it impressive.

It’s also pretty sexy. You’re not begging for attention and saying, “Here I am! I’ve put my head on the chopping block. Here’s the ax, what would you like to do?”

The ironic thing is it’s so disarming that very few people will do anything other than be flattered. Even if she’s not really interested or she’s with someone, you just made her day.

I want to tell you something else. Very rarely in my career have I had women get actively nasty. Occasionally, as you’ve heard, it happens. I’m not saying it won’t work 90% of the time. When it doesn’t work, within that world of things not going the way you want, 90% of the time the worst thing that will happen is that nothing will happen.

She’ll simply show no interest. She’ll just stand there, smile and turn away. She’s not going to yell at you, make fun of you or laugh at you. Ninety percent of the time, she’s not going to tell you to piss off. Ninety percent of the time the worst that will happen is that nothing will happen, I promise you.

I told you those freakish times when women got mad for no reason. If they do get angry at you, what’s our fall-back line? “Nothing I did merits that kind of response, so whoever you’re angry at, it’s not me.”

Participant:

I had a situation like that. I walked up to this girl who was outside a coffee shop. I said, “Excuse me, I’m sorry to interrupt you. I just wanted to tell you that you’re the most gorgeous woman I’ve seen tonight.” It was something stupid like that. It was just a little experiment.


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She turned around and just started yelling. I just turned around and walked away. My friend decided he would go in and try his luck. I got far enough away and shouted, “Donny, stop bothering the prostitutes. You’ve only got a fiver and they don’t give change.”

Ross:

That’s mean. Did you hear what he said? He said he told his friend stop winding up the prostitute. You’ve only got a fiver and they don’t give change.” That’s unnecessary, but it’s fucking funny.

That’s a simple, direct, sincere approach. “I noticed you and realized that if I didn’t speak to you I’d never get to meet you.” Can she argue with that? Be direct and sincere, put-on.

This one’s tricky. It’s intuition. It’s having a genuine intuition about the person. Those of you who don’t have any intuition, you do your cold reading stuff if you want to.

How do you develop intuition? What was an example of intuition? When I looked into him and said exactly his metaphor for what his problem was, that was intuition. To be intuitive and demonstrate understanding about her world, it doesn’t have to be a deep intuition.

I would call this “intuition” or “demonstrating understanding.” Another word is simply pacing. It’s verbal pacing. It’s showing understanding or intuition about her world.

Let’s give some examples. That’s a very loose concept. Let’s tie it down to the ground with some concrete examples. Are you awake?

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Ross:

I don’t believe you! Are you awake?

Participants: Yes!

Ross:

I have to drill my students. By the way I noticed something very interesting. When I give her a certain kind of attention, she turns beet red. Yes, that’s like that. You know when you flush in your face, sometimes the blood rushes elsewhere. That’s right. The more you struggle and try to fight it, the better it starts to feel. When you struggle and fight against feelings, there can be that other, much more responsive part. You thought you had to be up here for me to play with you, but really, we can play quietly together. You know when you were a little girl, you thought about playing with boys. Then you thought about playing with men. Yes.

Look up here. Look up here, James. Be a good boy. You don’t have to play with people in the way they expect or where they expect. You just watch responses. I’m in Room 8001.

Where were we? You can simply pace the ongoing situation. Let’s say you see her in a pub and guys have been disgusting here. It’s been awful. You can walk up and say, “Excuse me. I’m your reward for an evening that’s gone so badly so far. My name is.” That’s a put-on, but it also an observation. You like that, don’t you, Shirley. That would work on you, I think.

It’s demonstrating that you understand her situation. All of these guys have been hitting on her.

Participant:

That’s what I did last night.


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Ross:

You’re predicting my game. That’s very good. What did you say?

Participant:

This guy was quite drunk and trying to chat this girl up. He was trying to get her number off of her. It was quite painful. I was pretending to look at my tube map. Then she started walking and I started walking. I just said, “That was a really bad pickup he tried on you, wasn’t it?” She said, “Yes.”

Ross:

That’s a good opener. You can demonstrate that you understand what’s going on in context of where she’s at. You can demonstrate you understand what’s going on in the environment.

I go to Starbucks a lot back home in LA. If you go at the right hour, you’ll see women in line. They’re waiting for their triple shot. I’ll say, “It looks like you have that ‘I can’t start brain.’” It’s an observation. I’m demonstrating that I understand what’s going on with her and I’m doing it in a funny way.

I could come up and say, “You look like you really need your coffee.” That doesn’t have much impact. In this case I’m combining it. I sort of have a foot in both vibes. I have a foot in my “demonstrating I understand her vibe.” I also have a foot in the “funny, put-on vibe.” I’m taking this kind of stance.

I’ve told this story many times. I’ll tell it again. It’s a good story. A couple years back I was hanging out with my student, Dr. Ken. We were at an NLP event, not one of mine.

I said, “Let’s take a break. There is a place down the street where all of the Asian students from UCLA hang out.” Dr. Ken has an Asian fetish.

Personally I don’t care. I’m most attracted to women who find me really hot. It doesn’t matter whether they consciously realize that is what’s Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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happening. What matters is that they want to respond powerfully. Don’t you think?

We went to this place. It’s sort of like a pub. You order your food at the counter and then you have a seat. They bring it to you. As we stood at a counter, I looked over and noticed that there was a very pretty, young, Asian lady. She was maybe 22 or 23 years old.

She was sitting. She was studying her textbook, but she was clearly talking to herself inside her head. It didn’t take a genius to see it. I didn’t have to study in the Himalayans to be able to see it. I just observed. I said, “Aha! I’m going to have fun with this girl.”

We order our food. I’m sitting here, so the girl is sitting behind me, facing away. I make sure Dr. Ken sits here. We sit down. I kind of wink at Ken and say to him under my breath, “Watch this.”

I’m talking to Ken and suddenly I turn around and say to her, “Excuse me, we have something very important to talk about here and you look like a very loud thinker. Could I ask you to please not think so loudly? We need to talk,” and I turned around.

Ken was biting his lip. Obviously she was having a strong response. We’re talking along and I whispered under my breath to Ken, “Watch this now.” I turned around and said, “Excuse me, I told you not to think so loud!” I turned back around and a second later she tapped me on the shoulder. I turned back around and she said, “Who are you?”

Then we started talking. She started talking to Dr. Ken. She was leaning in. I leaned back. I said, “You know, I think you two should talk.” I got out


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of my chair and she got in my chair. She talked to Dr. Ken and I pulled up another chair. They were talking and talking.

She said, “How old are you?” He said, “I’m 42 years old.” She said, “No way, I don’t believe it. You’re 42 years old. Show me.” He showed her his license. She said, “Oh my god, you’re 42 years old.” She started talking.

I said, “I’ll go order dessert.” I walked to the counter. These two were really connecting. I said to the lady at the counter, “Look at those two. What do you think?” She said, “They’re really clicking.” I said, “Take your time with my chocolate cake.”

I returned and said, “Dr. Ken, we really need to go. I think you guys should exchange information because you want to talk again.” She said, “We want to talk again.” She goes to give him her number and said, “Wait a minute, you’re 42 years old. I can’t give you my number. You’re 42 years old.”

I said to Dr. Ken, “You know what’s going to happen? A minute from now, we’re going to walk out of here. What’s going to happen is she’ll start to kick herself and say, ‘Oh my god, I let another one go. What did I do that? Why didn’t I call him? I should have gotten his number.’ Anyway, come on, Ken.” We heard, “Wait!”

Was I manipulating that girl as you would define it? Is that manipulation? I’m serious. No? It’s pretty clever though. That was an example of observing her experience. I demonstrated understanding in her world. She was talking to herself. I also made it a put-on.

I could have walked up and said, “Excuse me, whatever you’re studying must be very difficult because clearly you’re struggling to understand it.” I Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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could have done that. That kind of approach is no fun. I don’t want to do that.

Direct and sincere can also include a comment, observation or question.

Participant:

What about intuition?

Ross:

I’m so proud of you. You didn’t see what he did. He started to do what he used to do and then he dropped it and came from here. I’m deeply proud of you.

Participant:

Is there a way you can teach us the intuition stuff? Is there a way that we can sit back, watch and see if we can kind of step inside the approach?

Ross:

God, I’m proud of this man. I’m not being funny. What a fucking great piece of work this is.

Participant:

I can see what’s going on. Watch for about five minutes and then your own unconscious will pick something up and then over you go, break or stay and off you go.

Ross:

When the people saw the man sitting in his right man clothes next to Jesus, they were sore afraid and begged him to leave their country. Can you believe this question that he’s asking so intelligently? Shirlene would probably be a better person to teach you this. I can give you the start of it.

Start doing the meditation practice to quiet your mind. That beginning breath meditation I gave you will not only quiet your mind, but trust me, over time it will open up your intuitive mind. Here’s the other point. The more you can observe yourself without buying into it, the more you’ll then be able to understand other people. Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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The ability to peer into yourself without fear because you’re no longer buying into the old story, frees you to understand yourself. Through that, you’ll be able to understand other people. That simple, non-glamorous, un-heroic and even boring exercise has profound implications.

We trained as humans in this culture to look for the heroic. It has to be a lightning bolt striking us to have any value. The spark in the right place is as powerful as the lightning bolt in the myth. That was really good. I just made that up. Do that exercise.

I lump into this category also “comment, question, observation.” I’ll say, “Excuse me, can I ask you a question? You carry yourself with such discipline and elegance. It’s like you study yoga or dance.”

When I see a woman who seems to have a really good image, I’ll say, “Excuse me, can I ask you a question? Do you do some kind of meditative or spiritual practice? You have lovely energy about you.” It’s direct and sincere, but it’s more like a question than an observation.

It’s doesn’t take the form of, “Excuse me, I noticed you had a great energy and I wanted to meet you.” You say, “Excuse me, do you do some kind of yoga practice or meditation?” When they say, “Why? Why do you ask?” I say, “You have just a beautiful energy about you.”

It’s sort of like a question and a complement or an observation and a complement. There is complement, question and observation in different combinations.

Participant:

There is no challenge.


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Ross:

No, there’s not. It is comment, question and observation. One of the ones I like to ask is, “Excuse me, but can you fight?” That’s sort of a put-on. If I notice a woman carries herself really quickly like she can fight, I’ll say, “Excuse me, can you fight?” They’ll say, “What?” They don’t know if they’re being complimented, which is not my intent, but if they look like they can fight, I’ll ask that. Usually they say, “Well, if you try to take my purse.” Sometimes they can fight. If they can, they’re deeply flattered that you picked it up.

One of my favorites is what I call The Blurt Out. I love this one. The Blurt Out is coming in with an indirect, implied complement. Trust me on this. Write down “implied complement, “Blurt Out,” and, “It’s just that.”

Throughout this course, I’ve been talking about the power of implying things. We can imply things by being vague or leaving things out. Implication is far more powerful.

If I said to one of the ladies back there, “The reason you can feel an attraction for me is because you notice I’m a great speaker and have a nice jaw line,” immediately they’d say, “Yes, I don’t think so, buddy.”

What is wrong with me resenting something that specific? Why is it ineffective? It may not match their experience. They may not see that at all. It may not be the case at all that they see me being very good looking and attractive. You got it! Exit stage left. That doesn’t work because the statement may not match the experience.

I could say, “It’s not that uncommon, as you sit there, to realize that there’s just something tickling in the back of your mind where you can’t quite put your finger on the attraction. It’s just something. Maybe you try to hide it.” I


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find that when I let those feeling run through your mind, then you start to think about other things.

Did I say what it is? Not at all. When it’s implied or vague, it slides in because there’s no resistance.

Participant:

You’re describing the energy that’s going through somebody.

Ross:

Right, but I’m not saying exactly how it works.

Participant:

That would be vain.

Ross:

I didn’t say, “It starts in your face then swirls around the small of your back,” because it may not match their experience. Guys, this is really powerful.

Suppose I walked up to a woman and said, “I noticed that you have real class and real style. I wanted to say hello.” Is there anything wrong with that? No. It’s a perfectly fine approach.

Here’s a better way to do that. You walk up and say, “Excuse me. It’s just that I really admire women with class and style, so I had to say hello.”

Ladies, what would be the difference between a guy walking up to you and saying, “Excuse me. I just noticed that you had so much class and so much style that I had to say hello,” and a guy saying, “It’s just that I really admire women with class and style, so I had to say hello”? There’s a slight, subtle difference in there.

In the first case, I state directly that that’s what I think about you. In the second case, I didn’t directly state it. I said, “I really admire women with Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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class and style, so I had to come up to say hello.” The implication is that that’s what I think about her, but I didn’t state it directly. Her mind fills in that gap. It’s no longer a compliment she resists because her mind is filling in that gap.

“Excuse me. It’s just that I really admire women with pouty, blowjob lips, so I had to say hello.” My compliments and openers are never sexual, or usually aren’t.

There was a woman her a few nights ago at some executive conference who was driving me up a tree. She had to be in her early 40s. She looked so fucking good in that tight grey formal business suit. Her business skirt was a little un-businesslike, and she had these horn-rimmed black glasses. It was just something.

I was too exhausted, but my student gave me a nudge. He said, “How would you pick her up?” It came to my mind immediately. I would walk up to her and say, “Excuse me. I don’t know whether it’s the glasses, the clothes or the way you move what’s in those clothes, but you’re driving me crazy. I had to come up and say hi. My name is _____.”

I was too completely knackered out to do it. I was completely exhausted. That’s pretty direct, and it’s pretty complimentary, too. It’s cheeky.

The implied compliment is pretty powerful. “It’s just that I really admire women who carry themselves with a certain grace and power, so I had to say hello.” It takes the form of, “It’s just that I really like,” or, “I really admire women who,” and you describe them, “so I had to say hi. My name is _____.”


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I’ve lumped this in with The Blurt Out because a Blurt Out works like this. You’re

walking

this

way,

and

she’s

walking

this

way.

I

know

geographically, whenever we’re going like this, I’m going to use a Blurt Out.

A Blurt Out is simply thinking out loud. You’re saying whatever comes to your mind, provided it’s nonsexual. If what comes to your mind is “great legs,” you can say that. If what comes to your mind is “strap her to a tree,” you can’t do that. You can’t say anything sexual.

No, James, I’m sorry. You have to understand that, in your interaction, she was the one who said she wanted you to duct-tape her. She brought it up. She said, “Duct-tape me and fuck me like you’re raping me.” It didn’t come out of your mouth. That’s the difference.

You have to talk to this boy. Stand up, and lift your shirt. Just do it. Show them what you’re packing. All right, sit down. Oh, my god, it’s like hugging a fucking rug. I get guys like this laid. He’s ready to vomit. Put it back on.

For The Blurt Out, you’re just saying whatever comes off the top of your head. I like to talk about what comes off of the top of my head. Whatever comes of the top of your head is what you want to give the girl.

For example, I was coming down the steps of a parking structure. She was walking up. What I noticed about her was that she was incredibly stylish. I just blurted out “style to burn.” She walked by. I turned around to look and she was looking back at me. She said, “What did you say?” I said, “You have style to burn.”


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She wound up talking to me. She said, “Why don’t we talk again over a beer?” This girl was a 22-year-old marine biologist studying for her master’s. She was Canadian.

She showed up for our coffee meeting wearing 4-inch stiletto heels and a fucking skintight outfit. Everyone was staring at me. This happened three years ago. She had tattoos I didn’t see before. She was wearing this super low-cut hot tight dress with tattoos all over her back. Every head was turning as we walked in together. That’s pretty cool for a Blurt Out.

Blurt it out. You just say whatever comes off of the top of your head. I’ve done this so many times. You don’t rehearse it. You can do a rehearsed Blurt Out. The rehearsed Blurt Out is saying, “It’s just that I really admire your class and style,” or, “I really admire women with class and style,” as she’s walking by. You can use, “I really admire women,” in any of these.

Now look at this.

Participant:

Those have nothing to do with the four vibes.

Ross:

There is a sense in which they do. When I’m being direct, I’m coming from the place of being demanding, but I’m also being vulnerable. When I’m putting them on, I’m coming from that vibe of being funny. When I do this, I’m demonstrating authority in their world. I am doing all of them.

There is one more piece. This is not going to seem to make any sense. I’ve ever explicitly taught it before, but I’ve realized that it’s a big piece of what I do, and I’ve been remiss as a teacher.

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1. Discuss something in the environment. 2. Discuss something about her.

Let’s say I do this in the tube station. I can do any of these openers. I introduce myself. She gives me her name. I can say, “Do you know what I like to do in the tube station? I like to play this game, Who’s Getting Some?”

I wouldn’t necessarily do that in a tube station, but you can discuss something in the environment and offer a game or discuss something about her. You can say, “I noticed something about you. You seem to be the kind of person who likes to learn about yourself.”

Here’s the one I’ve been using lately with fabulous success. It doesn’t make any sense. It’s contrary to what I’ve always taught, but it works. I haul out the non sequitur.

Can anyone translate the Latin? Who had a proper English education and learned Latin? “Non sequitur” means “it doesn’t follow.” There’s no logical connection between what you just said and an elephant farting. See? I just did one.

The non sequitur actually leads into a little bit of a game. Just try it. The non sequitur I’ve been using with fabulous success is to say, “So, are you a roller, a folder or a tosser?” In America, we say “tosser,” but “tosser” doesn’t mean the same thing as it does here. “Are you a roller, a folder or a thrower?”

Invariably, the response is, “What does that mean?” This, in effect, is a game or quiz. I like to go to a little game or quiz. I’ll say, “Let’s say we’re on vacation. We have our suitcases open. I’ve going to take you anywhere Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Nine Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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you want to go, and you’re packing your bag. Do you throw your clothes in, do you roll them, or do you fold them?”

I’ve never had this not work. They always bite down on this one. I don’t know why, but they do. Whatever answer they give me, I’ve going to play with the answer.

Let’s say she’s a folder. I’ll say, “You’re a folder? I’m a roller. Rollers and folders usually don’t get along unless there is some kind of chemistry.” You’re not going to believe this, but I say, “When you do like to escape, indulge yourself and get away, what do you really love to do?” You’d be surprised how quickly they go right into it.

Let’s say she says, “Do you know what I really love to do? I love to go skiing.” I’ll say, “Really? Tell me about that.” She’ll start to tell me, and I’ll stop her. “Wait a minute. Take me along with you. We’re there in the Alps. What time do we arrive?” “Well, it’s noon.” “What does the air feel like?” “It’s really crisp.” “Are we dressed for skiing?” “No, we have to get into our ski clothes.”

“We’re there on the slope. What do we do? Do we have a little something to drink beforehand?” She says, “I like hot chocolate.” “Is it sweet or a little bitter?” I have her describe it. “I take the cup from you and sip it. Do I like it, or do I give it back to you?” She says, “You like my chocolate.” They’ll play back with you.

Stop right there. The natural objection is, “Come on! Do you mean women will actually play with you like this?” Not all of them. Guess what I’ve learned about the ones who won’t play with me like this. Who is our favorite philosopher? Is it Socrates?


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Participant:

No.

Ross:

Is it Karl Marx?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

Is it Euripides of Euclidean?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

Is it Euripides of Uranus?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

Our favorite philosopher is Snagglepuss. What does Snagglepuss say? “Exit stage left.”

I want to screen very early on to see if she has an imagination, if she’s playful and if she’ll engage with me.

Participant:

Yes, they will do this.

Ross:

How do you know?

Participant:

If they don’t, exit stage left.

Ross:

I thought maybe you played this game before or something like this.

Participant:

No.


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Ross:

I go right into that. By the time I’m done, within 20 minutes of meeting her, we’ve already gone on a romantic vacation in the Swiss Alps together. That’s not bad for the first 20 minutes of conversation.

You’re looking at me like you’re thinking, “That’s really wicked.”

Participant:

When I was going home, it was packed with nice, saucy Indian girls.

Ross:

I love Indian women, too. I think they’re the most exotically beautiful women in the world. They’re awesome.

Participant:

I moved my way in beside them. They were a bit noisy. They had been at a party. One of them had to stand beside me. She had no choice.

I started with a bit of bullshit about, “It’s a party.” Then I said, “If you could put the time and money aside, what would you like to do and where would you like to go?” She said, “I’d like to go to Italy to see Del Piero play in the stadium and drive in a Ferrari.”

Ross:

Hold on right there. Who did she say she wanted to see?

Participant:

Del Piero. He’s a soccer player.

Ross:

Right there, what I would have done was say, “Del Piero. Tell me more about Del Piero. If you could have an audience with Del Piero, what would it feel like the moment before he opens the door, and you know he’s about to walk through?” Talk to her about her feelings about Del Piero. Bring that up. She’s handing you a silver platter.

Participant:

I said, “We’re in the Ferrari with the music on, flying around the coast.”


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Ross:

I would want to go out with you.

Stop. Have you ever in your life, before you took a course with me, thought of experiencing the world in that way? Did you ever think to yourself in these terms? You never thought in these imaginative, sensoryrich terms, did you? Did you ever think of understanding and looking at women through those sensory-rich, imaginative, romantic terms?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

Did you ever think of talking to women in those sensory-rich, romantic terms?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

Do you get what’s going on here? In order to understand and do better with women, he’s transforming how he thinks about the world. Duh. Right.

Participant:

When you were on about dreams, there was something that was really powerful for me. I went to my friend’s place six months ago on a Sunday morning. He was waking up. He said, “You wouldn’t believe my fucking dream last night. I was wrestling this big rat with broken teeth, fighting like a tiger.” I could imagine a picture in my head.

Ross:

“Hi, I’m Ross Jeffries. Has this ever happened to you? Yes, many people are afflicted with bizarre mentation syndrome. If they’re Irish, and they’re in my course, it’s especially likely. Send your donation to Tabitha Cat.” Finish up because we have a lot to do.

Participant:

It was just that he said he had this dream that he was lying in bed, wrestling this big rat. I laughed and said, “That’s quite funny. I can imagine


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that.” I could. When you were talking about the dream process, it clicked because I’ve had these thoughts in my head before. I’ve actually been aware of them.

Ross:

About wrestling rats? Never mind. You’re good. Be quiet. Shut up. We have to keep moving.

I’ll go for a non sequitur. From there, I’ll invite her to play this imagination game. Early on, within the first three to five minutes, I want to start a playful engagement with that woman to see if she’ll play with me.

For example, these ladies in the back will not play with me in front of the room. I can only play to a limited extent with them in the back of the room. It’s mostly energetic and nonverbal.

There you go. It has a five-second delayed fuse, but when it burns, it burns. Look at her. Look how red she turns. See? Of course, if you came up here, you wouldn’t need to turn red, at least not where it’s visible, but it’s your choice.

I want to engage the woman playfully early on. Within the first five minutes, I want to playfully engage her in a way where she has to participate. Remember, I talked about participation and investment. I’m going to do something early on that requires her participation and investment. That’s why I’m not going to launch into some long, wordy pattern because it doesn’t require her participation.

There are all sorts of things you can do.


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Speed Seduction 3 Disc Nine

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