Speed Seduction 3 Disc Eight

Speed Seduction 3.0 Program Transcript:

Disc Eight Created By

Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some”

Website: http://www.speedseduction.biz

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze, in his pursuit of happiness.

Copyright © 2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author.

Disclaimer This program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or SpeedSeduction.biz (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.

Ross:

Do you see how easily he’s able to learn when you slow down? You remembered what I said. You were able to put it together in your mind and come up with a beautiful application because you slowed down. Do you see the power of it? It almost gives me a woody because I’m such a good teacher. Do you know what else? I know someone who used to do this. He would be at a bar. He would be talking to girls. He would say, “What you’re really saying is if you could meet a guy who makes you feel connected and that sense of destiny to the point where you say ‘Mmmm,’ that would be incredible, wouldn’t it?” Then he sits down on the chair. It’s all anchored. Anchoring is really simple. You don’t need to take a course in it. Does anybody know who John Wooden was? You wouldn’t. UCLA, my school where I went, had the world’s best basketball team. When John Wooden was coach, for about 30 years, they won the NCAA Championship about 28 years out of that 30. He was arguably the greatest college basketball coach in the world. John Wooden only had one play. He had one defensive play, which was man-on-man. He had one offensive play, which was the fast break. His players were drilled over and over again in taking one kind of shot, which was a 15-foot shot from basically the free-throw line. He trained his players that, when they would get the ball, they didn’t do any fancy stuff. They would always stop at the free-throw line and pass the ball effectively. There was no point in their opponents ever scouting UCLA to find out what their plays were because they were obvious. There was only one, but they drilled them over and over again, so they did it to perfection.

Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Eight Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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You don’t need to have 20 different ways to anchor people. You just need one or two. You can anchor by stacking things on your thumb and doing this. You can put things in your hands. That’s another way. When you think about someone you want to have wild sex with, I know my face doesn’t immediately pop into mind. You can put things in your hands and imagine they’re there in your hands. That’s another way to anchor. It’s very simple. You can anchor things to an object, to a chair. Here’s another wicked one. I’ve done this. You’re talking to the girl. You have your drink here. She’s telling you about the things that turn you on. You say, “So, what you’re really saying is if you could be with someone who’s a great kisser,” or whatever quality she’s looking for, and then you look at your hand. Look at your hand, guys. Practice with me looking at your hand. Why do I look at her hand? I want to direct her attention to what I’m doing. “If you could be with someone who makes you really laugh, has great hands and is a scandalous kisser, where do you think that could lead?” They don’t get it. How many times have you done this? Participant:

Thirty-five or 40 times.

Ross:

How many times has it actually worked to get a strong response?

Participant:

It’s never failed to get a strong response.

Ross:

It’s always worked. It’s worked 100%. Have you ever been caught?


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Participant:

Never. One time a girl repeated it.

Ross:

Good. She’s putting it in.

Participant: I also put a bit of a challenge as well. I’ll say, “When you have those three qualities in front of you, what it is it about this person that would make you come back for more?” Ross:

Ooh. So he says, “If you could be with someone who has this, this and this, what is it about them that would make you want to come back for more?” That’s beautiful. Now he’s not only anchoring all of that stuff to him, but he’s also challenging them to jump through the hoop and explain why they’re worth it.

Participant: There’s a little bit of fractionating in there too. Ross:

That’s right. By the way, I’ve used a similar thing when women say, “I’m not going to go out with you because I know who you are and you just want to fuck me.” I turn around and say, “If I was a woman, I would have so much confidence in my ability to fuck my brains out. I know that that person would keep coming back for more because the sex would be so fantastic.” That gets rid of the objection. That’s brilliant. Jonathan, this is an example of a student improving on what I do by adding in an element. I taught you that element, but I never put it together in that way. When you meet someone who has this, this and this, what is it about you that would keep this person coming back for more? It forces her to begin to describe her good qualities and try to prove to you that she’s worthwhile.


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Participant:

I used it once. The girl said, “Well, I’m also a really good kisser.” She couldn’t come with any other stuff.

Ross:

What you have to say is, “Prove it.”

Participant:

I said, “That’s all I want to know about you.” Then I kissed her.

Ross:

Good. Do we get how this works? You could do this with anything, even if it’s not a formal quiz. In the course of talking, if you pick up that her trance words are destiny, energy and ecstasy, you could say, “Isn’t it interesting that, if you were to meet someone who made you feel that energy, destiny and ecstasy, how it could lead to something that would take you in a whole new direction?” It’s almost like there’s a much bigger part you want to take on tonight. Then you can say, “Why don’t we go somewhere where we can really focus in without all this noise, really relax and enjoy.” Notice the part “where we can really relax and enjoy.” Enjoy what? I don’t say. It keeps it safe. It also gets her to imagine it. If I said, “Why don’t we go somewhere where we can relax and focus in, where it’s quiet? We can really enjoy making out and fucking like crazed weasels,” that might often work by this point.

Participant: Are there any methods you can use to memorize all this stuff, like actors would use? Ross:

What stuff?

Participant:

Everything. I mean all the lines.


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Ross:

First and foremost, don’t memorize. Understand. Look at me. Understand how it works. If you understand the principles, you can come up with your own stuff for your own unique combinations. I’m very serious. This is as important for you as it was for him to slow down and vary his intensity. First, understand how it works. Second, if you want to memorize it, rehearse it out loud. Don’t rehearse it out loud just sitting there. Actually get up and move the way you would move if you were doing it. Imagine the person in front of you. If you really want to add a kicker, imagine being inside the other person listening to you have all the responses you would like them to have. That’s a great thing to rehearse before you go out sarging. I was going to talk about this when I wrapped up. Before you go out sarging, rehearse all of this. Then imagine taking on the perspective of a woman hearing all this and getting really turned on in her body and thinking, “I really want to fuck this guy.” You would be surprised how that communicates a great message, and you wind up having that happen. Look at me. This is a subtle point. Instead of rehearsing failure and being rejected, why don’t you rehearse being inside the woman and being totally turned on and wanting to fuck you as a result of what you’re saying? That is really powerful. It sends a message out. Notice I didn’t say to rehearse being accepted and succeeding.

Participant: Does that mean if you’re rehearsing inside of yourself superior performance from the time you go out, talking with a woman, closing it,


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and you’re rehearsing this stuff over and over in your head, you’re going to perform because you’re going to push yourself to be on it? Ross:

Right, but I didn’t say superior. There’s an important distinction. You don’t need superiority. You just need to be effective. Sometimes effective is just very simple. Sometimes the most effective thing you can do is pick the right subject. That’s a quote. Write that down. It’s Ross Jeffries’ quote. “Sometimes the most effective thing you can do is to pick the right subject.” You can’t pick the right subject unless you know what kind of energy and vibe you’re looking for in a woman. To get the skill at picking the right subject, you must spend some time in study, whether you’re meditating, going out for a walk, hiking or taking a shower. You must spend some time beginning to discover the energy and vibe of the women you would like to be with so that you know, instinctively and intuitively, how to pick the right subjects. In this dream, it was a way of my mind, my unconscious, deeply rehearsing the kind of energy that I would like to be with in a woman who I would deeply love, perhaps for a lifetime. You need to spend some time not only rehearsing the skills, beliefs and concepts, but also tuning into the type of energy and vibe in the woman, the type of personality that you would like to attract. Certainly, what I don’t want is someone who needs to be persuaded to have sex with anyone at all, someone who doesn’t enjoy sex. It’s not my job to take a cold, sexually turned-off or freaked-out woman and try to make her open to life. That’s not my job.


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It’s not my job to take someone who’s terrified of taking any kind of step and making her into an adventurous person. It’s not my job to take someone who’s a selfish person and make her into a giver. It’s not my job to take an angry, enraged person and make them into a happy, open person. This is not my job. All the things I’ve said to you, notwithstanding people having their first responses and people really having these patterns, I’m not out to teach them. I’m out to teach you guys. It’s not my job to be their transformer, healer or therapist. Any time it begins to feel like work, like I’m pushing the snowball up the hill, it’s not SpeedSeduction. If I’m pushing the snowball down the hill, riding on it as it goes, and screaming, “Whee!” that’s SpeedSeduction. Then she eats my ice cream cone on the way down. That’s SpeedSeduction. If it feels like I’m pushing hard, the timing is really off, she’s not bringing her own mind to the exploration, she’s not fun, she’s not healthy or she doesn’t have some reasonable ability to control the circumstances of her life, I don’t want to deal with it. Many women who are flaky are not flaky because they don’t like you. It’s just that their life is totally chaotic and out of control. Their parole officer tried to rape them and walked in on them shooting heroin with their twin brother who’s cheating on them with their mother. It’s that whole “Jerry Springer” thing. I was on that show three times, by the way, before it was violent.


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“I love a kung fu lesbian teenage Siamese twin vampire who lives in a trailer park on the dole.” No. I was on “Jerry Springer” teaching this. I’ve been talking about this for a long time. You need to decide and explore for yourself in different ways what is the vibe and the type of women you want to attract. Sometimes you can only do that by having many experiences and seeing what you like and what you don’t. The lesbian who had you duct-taped to the bed to fulfill her rape fantasies, did she want you to slap her and choke her when you were fucking her? Certainly that’s someone who would be fun, but I don’t know if you’d want to take her home to family supper. It might liven up Shabbat dinner at my sister Marion’s house. My nephews would like it. I won’t tell you their nickname for me because it’s a family nickname. Whenever I bring over a beautiful girl, they say, “Uncle blank-blank has brought someone else again.” They don’t do this anymore. My nephew Gideon’s girlfriend is smoking hot. She’s half Israeli-half Italian. She’s not only gorgeous, but she has a great attitude. She’s really spicy and spunky. She calls me “Uncle,” but she flirts with me. She told me she was having dreams about me. She said, “Uncle, I want to talk to you. I’ve been having dreams about you.” I said, “Really? Tell me, Niece.” She said, “In this dream, I’m in the swimming pool outside in the backyard. Your voice is calling to me under the water. I try to fight it, but I feel myself being pulled downward irresistibly. I can’t control it. The water just takes me. Your voice is down there waiting for me. I’ve had this dream several nights in a row, Uncle.” Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Eight Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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I said, “Martinique, if you’re asking me if I’m doing something to you psychically, I’m not.” I really wasn’t. I said, “I love my nephew. I would never do that to him. Maybe I represent a level of power and maturity that you feel is really attractive, but you’re not ready for it yet. That’s why you fight the tug.” She said, “I think you’re right.” My nephew no longer cares. He has his needs well taken care of. Participant:

What was it, instead of rehearsing something rejection?

Ross:

Instead of rehearsing rejection, rehearse how women will feel as they totally want to fuck you as a result of what you’re saying. I want you to rehearse out loud what you’d say and what you’d do. Then I want you to fractionate and take on the woman’s perspective, being on the receiving end of this, how she would feel in her body. I’m so proud of you guys. You’ve become great learners since Friday. You’re on it. You’re learning. You’re participating. You’re demonstrating great understanding. You’re a fantastic audience. This is fun. Remember that I said I don’t want to perform emotional dentistry? I don’t want to have to pull her emotional teeth. If a woman is chaotic, if she doesn’t have her life organized, I don’t want to deal with it. They have to have a moderate level, at least a good degree of control over the circumstance of their life. Otherwise, I don’t have the time. I’m too busy. I have too much on my mind. This job I’m doing now is just part of what I’m working on. I don’t have time for people who waste my time, who can’t follow through. I just don’t.


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Participant: Who rehearses in the context of equanimity as well? Ross:

You mean not grasping onto it? That’s far too complex a question to ask for most people here. You’re right. That’s very advanced thinking on your part. You’re Indian, by extraction, aren’t you?

Participant:

Yes.

Ross:

My Indian students are always the smartest. Shame on you, white people. I’m the Omega male. No, he’s not good at sarging. This afternoon, I want to do the following things. I want to cover how to install those four vibes that are really attractive to women, how to use them in the openers and then how to carry them through the entire sarge. This afternoon, we’re going to do vibe and the walk-up diamond openers. Since you guys want it, you want some different sequence of patterns, I’m going to give it to you since you feel you need the training wheels. I’ll give you your training wheels. We’re going to do a little bit more on the meditation exercise that you need. Then we’ll take some more questions. You know what, Shirleen? If you want to take another 45 minutes to flit about, I want to do the openers with them. You’re welcome to stay, but I won’t need you to teach for another 45 minutes to an hour. Shirleen also has CDs for sale. They’re in the back of the room. She’s told me she’ll take the curse off me if you’ll buy them. I want to congratulate you guys. I was absolutely thrilled to see the level of participation this morning when I shared that dream with you. You guys were spot on. I mean really good at even educating me. I did not realize


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some of the dynamics of what made that work. I really did not. You guys educated me. Seriously, give yourself a pat on the back. This afternoon, we’re going to get into the vibe and openers. Then we’re going to show you sequences, a couple of examples of what would make for a successful sarge because you want that, right? You guys need some sense of a roadmap, some kind of training wheels that you can run on before you take off the wheels and just go. I understand that. I’ve been promising that to you. I had to lay the groundwork first. Now you have a good working understanding of how this stuff works. Now when I show it to you, you won’t be scratching your ass, sticking your thumb in your rectum and saying, “Uhhh.” This is really interesting. I came up with this right around Christmastime this past year. I was really thinking about this whole program of nailing your inner game. People have asked about those DVDs and CDs. That’s my bad. I’m still working on it. We have your names and addresses. Eventually we’ll get them to you. Be patient with me. I will send you updates in emails. I’ve been working on this idea. Let’s say you get guys to stop doing all that reinforcing and ruminating. That’s all gone. You give them beliefs for learning. How are you going to teach them what to pay attention to and what to ignore? When you set out and do a sarge, as I said, one of the most challenging things is confusion. You’re not quite sure what worked or what went wrong. In James’ case, he got good positive feedback. When that lesbian lifted her skirt, pulled aside her panties, showed him, said, “Look, it’s dripping,” took him home and said, “Duct tape me, please, and fuck my brains out,” Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Eight Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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there’s no ambiguity there. There’s no uncertainty in your mind that you had a 100% successful outcome. James:

The first time I ever used the pattern, it was a different story.

Ross:

Don’t gainsay me here. For the point of the story, when that happened, you had success. There was no confusion there. The bottom line is there is usually no confusion at the peak of your skills because it’s all working. When you have no skill at all, there’s no confusion. You know you’re failing because nothing’s happening. When you start to move up the learning curve, often what happens is you’re not sure what to pay attention to. You don’t know at what level or at what point in the sarge things are not working so it gets confusing. Am I right or am I right? Raise your hands if you’ve experienced this. The single biggest challenge for those of you in the back of the room who teach these skill sets, whether you teach your own or mine, I’m telling you right now is not approach-anxiety or fear. To be certain, those are important. The single biggest thing is confusion, not knowing if they’re being effective or not. Are they becoming attractive or are they not becoming attractive? It’s that fractionation back and forth between thinking it is working and then thinking it’s not working that’s deeply confusing. You’re fractionating yourselves in a way that is not useful. Here’s one thing I came up with that I think is very useful. When you’re looking at any kind of skill set, but especially sarging, one thing to look at is to chunk it according to time. Maybe you need to improve what you’re doing in the preparation phase. Maybe there’s something you need to do more of, do differently, do less


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of, subtract or add in. Before you go out and sarge, are you doing the right preparation? Are you visualizing how you’re going to behave? Are you rehearsing the basics? Are you putting on the right vibe when you go out? You may need to make some improvements in the preparation phase. Bear in mind, here are the ways you can improve. This is where I do want you to write notes. There are those things you need to add in. It may be that there’s simply something that you’re entirely missing that you need to add in. You may need to add something in. That could be a skill set, a belief, a vibe, an attitude. There may be something you need to add in. Does that make sense? There may be something you need to subtract out. This is in any phase of improvement, whether before, during or after. There are things you need to add in, things you need to subtract out. There may be things that you need to diminish. It’s not that you shouldn’t do them. Maybe you need to diminish the intensity. You may need to diminish the frequency. In other words, don’t do it as often. You can diminish the speed at which you do something. Do things slower. You may want to diminish the amount of internal dialog. Don’t let it go entirely, but really turn it down. There are those aspects you need to diminish. You may need to add in, subtract in or diminish. You may need to increase or intensify. You can increase the overall energetic intensity. You could increase your volume. You could increase your speed. You could increase the number of repetitions you simply go out and do. Instead of talking to five women, maybe you have to increase it and talk to 20.


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You can increase the amount that you listen or the proportion of how you do something. Maybe you actually increase the amount of listening as opposed to the amount of talking. At any stage, in all these stages I’m about to show you, you can make adjustments in these different ways. Finally, there are those things that need to be balanced. In other words, yes, you’re increasing or diminishing them, but you’re only doing it in pair with something else. For example, maybe you diminish your dominance, but you increase your playfulness. You’re not diminishing your dominance outside of anything else. You’re doing it in concert with something else. Does this make sense? This is pretty common sense, but people tend to forget it when they’re in an area of light that’s very charged. When we look at sarging, the first phase we look at where we want to improve is the preparation period. There’s how you prepare immediately before you go out and sarge, like the hour before. Do you do a little bit of meditation? Do you rehearse your beliefs for learning? Do you rehearse your vibe? Do you just go out without any preparation? When I sarge, I do all my vibe. I do all that stuff. Then I imagine walking in to the venue. I see a symbolic representation of my energy reaching out and unconsciously touching all the women who are already going to get me. They may not consciously be aware of it. Because they’re tuned into my vibe, they’re already getting me. My job during the evening is not to create any kind of attraction at all. It’s merely to take the attraction that the vibe created and to bring it to the conscious surface. That’s my model for me of doing SpeedSeduction.


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Everything I do with my behavior and my language is not creating anything. It’s simply bringing to the surface the connection that happened the instant I walked into the room. Even if they’re not looking at me, my belief is that the ones who are going to get it have already gotten it unconsciously. Some of them are so aware of their own energy and their own bodies that they immediately know they’ve gotten somebody. They’re just not sure who. They’ll look around the room. When they look at me, they think, “Oh, he’s the one I get.” Do you understand? Maybe you need to do something in the preparation phase. I would bet that most of you do. Then, and this is really cool, there are those things you do continually throughout the sarge, from the beginning, to the middle, all the way to the end. It may be something like that that you have to work on. What are some of the elements you should be always doing? You never stop doing it. Always be in control of your state. Always control your state. Always be calibrating the other person to see if they’re following with you or not. The word “calibrating” just means paying attention. Control your state. Calibrate. I teach that you should always be in rapport. Those who say “break rapport,” with all due respect, don’t understand what rapport means. They think rapport means trying to gather information about the person or getting them to accept you. That’s not rapport at all. That has nothing to do with it. A person could hate your fucking, living guts, and you could still be in rapport with them. To me, rapport is about an unconscious sense of connection. Somewhere in the unconscious level, you’re vibing with that Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Eight Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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person even if they fucking hate you. The best way for you guys to be in rapport is to not worry about it. Quiet your mind and focus on having the right vibe. You may need to make adjustments in those things you’re always going to do, continuously. You never stop doing them. Does this make sense? You’re going to be changing your vibe throughout the sarge, but you’re always paying attention, on some level, to your vibe. If you can learn to analyze things in this level, you’ll get a lot better understanding of where you need to make improvements. There are those that you do sequentially, meaning you only do them once and you do them in a certain order. Think of a recipe. When you bake a cake, you put together all the ingredients. You mix it up in the bowl. You stick it in the oven. You take it out of the oven. But you don’t crack in the eggs once you’ve baked it. You have to do it in the right order. You don’t keep cracking in the eggs. You do it once, at the right point, in the right proportion. What we’re going to cover this afternoon are those things you do sequentially. When you guys ask for a sequence of patterns from start to close, you’re asking for things that are done sequentially. You only do them once. You do them in a certain order. That’s what you’re asking for. I’m going to give that to you. I want you to understand that that may not be where you need your improvement. It may not be where you have the most leverage. You may have the most leverage for improvement somewhere else.


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Here comes the really tricky one. This is where mastery lies. Mastery is found right here. This is where the biggest leverage for improvement is. I’m a masterful teacher, correct? You would agree, yes? I am a very masterful teacher because I understand how to do this with my students. This is subtle, but this is where mastery is. This is the stuff you return to periodically throughout the sarge from time to time. You don’t do it all the time, but neither do you only do it in a certain order. You return to it periodically throughout the sarging process. I’m going to say it again. You don’t do it all the time, but you return to it periodically throughout the sarging process. This is where mastery is. In fact, in any kind of persuasive skill set, the mastery is right there. It’s what most people ignore on their way to mastery. Most people who get good and stop right there don’t understand this and don’t master this bit. It’s this bit that is your key to absolute mastery, right here. What would be something we return to periodically? We don’t do it constantly, but we periodically do it. Participant: Fractionating. Ross:

We don’t do fractionation every moment, but we periodically return to it. The frequency with which you do it, and the level on which you fractionate, can vary. People who are great communicators naturally fractionate. Whether they intentionally plan it out in their mind or just do it inherently, they do it, whether they know it or not. Yes, that’s one thing you do periodically. What else might you do periodically?


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Participant:

Check her state.

Ross:

It’s on the line of something you do continuously, but I’ll buy that. What else? What is something you do periodically? You don’t do it all the time, nor do you do it only once. How about periodically checking to see how comfortable she is with being touched? Periodically, we’re going to return to the scene. One of the things I do is, periodically, I check in to see the balance between comfort and heat. I’m working toward two things, comfort and heat. Periodically, I will check in to see where that’s at. How I do that is another question. Periodically, you ought to be checking in to see how comfortable she’s growing with your touch. That’s one example. It’s a periodic thing. What else might we return to periodically?

Participant:

Structuring opportunities.

Ross:

Very good. He nailed it. It’s structuring opportunities. Periodically, throughout the sarge, we’re structuring opportunities and offering challenges, are we not? Remember I talked about challenge as being something that’s really powerful. Periodically, we’re testing for readiness. We’re testing to see where she’s at. Remember I said if a lady is giving you every signal that she’s totally turned on by you, wants to be with you and is absolutely ready, don’t go piling on more stuff. You’re done. Job over. In the beginning, I know many of you are going to get so excited about these tools working that you’re going to go crazy with them. I’m saying no.


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Chop the throttles. Put out the flaps. Put down the landing gear. It’s time to land. You’re going to be putting the throttles to the firewall and wanting to go 800 miles an hour. No. This is key. It’s also key to utilize her responses. Do we ignore information? Who does most of the talking in a good SpeedSeduction? Let’s hear it. Participants: She does. Ross:

Eighty percent of the talking is being done by her. If she gives you information and you ignore it, you are a fucking idiot. Write that down. “If she gives me information and I ignore it, I am a fucking idiot.” This is the beauty of SpeedSeduction. To do it well, you really have to listen and pay attention to the unique person in front of you. If you’re doing 50 different stories to show her what an exciting life you have, you’re not doing SpeedSeduction. And more, you’re doing the work. We’re not the guys who push the snowball up the hill, and it gets heavier and heavier. We take the little snowball, tap it and it gathers its own momentum and creates an avalanche, a snow slide. You had better be paying attention to what she says and incorporate it.

Participant:

Wouldn’t that be continually instead of periodically?

Ross:

Yes, you’re always paying attention. Utilizing what she gives you is what you do periodically. I’m always paying attention to her. There are those things you do periodically. Periodically, fractionate your own energy. Periodically, switch between someone who’s being funny. Periodically, check in with your physical


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body. Periodically, from time to time, check in and feel your feet on the ground so you remember you’re actually there, present, in a human body, not flitting around in the stratosphere. Do any of these ladies want to play with me on stage, or are they still shy? Look at that, they’re afraid of me. Hey, no bullying. That’s not allowed. Look here, not at them. Calm down. I’m not of a mind to offer a gift to someone who is not of a mind to eagerly accept it. If you give a gift, you don’t persuade. If you’re persuading, you’re selling, not giving a gift. That’s the end of the story. If people don’t want to learn to triple their orgasms, have feelings that they’ve never had before and be more in love with their boyfriends in a way that their boyfriend would never even think of looking at another girl ever again unless she picks the girl out to go home with him, that’s fine. I don’t care. It’s none of my business. There are things you do at the end, when you’re closing the deal. Maybe you really have to work on your closing. I don’t even like the word “closing.” It’s more like an opening, a powerful opening for a new direction. Do you ever meet someone and, within 10 minutes, you just know you like this person? This person can lead you places. There’s a different part you want to take inside yourself. You can feel that you’re opening for something new, a new direction you want to take inside. Even though people may laugh, friends may not approve and you may even feel a little strange about it at first, still, at the same time, you also can find a place in your mind where you set that aside, where you can see


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yourself stripping away completely from anything that would have blocked your own pleasure. It’s a place where you want to succeed. You all want to succeed. You can see yourself suck-ceeding in a new direction. There’s stuff you do at the very end, your closing. There’s a sense in which that’s a mistake. That’s also a mistake. I don’t believe that closing is a discrete part of the process. I believe the moment I approach someone, the way I interact with them energetically has already begun the close. Anything that moves us further along in a mutually enjoyable exploration is part of the close. If you look at the close as something that’s completely separate, then you’re making an error in your thinking, because it’s not. It’s not really separate. For the sake of the diagnostic, yes, but in reality, it’s not really a separate thing. My nephew Gabe is 18 years old. He’s a virgin. It’s so cute. An 18-yearold girl is hanging out with him. She clearly has a crush on this kid. They went to meet me for pancakes. I was sitting at this diner in the Farmers’ Market. She had read The Game, so she wanted to meet me. She, another guy, and my nephew Gabe show up. She’s on one side. Gabe’s on the other. I’m talking to her about The Game. Suddenly I look at her and say, “So, do you have a thing for my nephew?” Women do this thing where the real answer will flash across their face for a tenth of a second before they hide it. She and Gabe both turned the same shade of beet red, looking at each other. I thought, “Aha. Very nice.”


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My nieces and nephews have a nickname for me that they’re not allowed to say. Later, Gabe said to me, “Uncle Paul, what do I do with Nicole?” I said, “Have you kissed her?” He said, “No. I’m not sure I should. She’s my friend. I don’t really know.” I said, “You haven’t even made out with her? Dude, she clearly wants you.” He said, “I know. She told me she was a virgin. You know, I’m a virgin too.” I said, “Okay, no problem.” I was thinking, “You won’t be for long, kid, not with me as your uncle.” He said, “What do I do?” For him, he’s viewing it as a discrete thing that he does at the very end. He’s viewing any kind of physical contact with her at all as something he does at the very end to close the deal. That’s a mistake. I said, “You can’t just go from no contact to lunging at her Try this. Try play-fighting with her. Get into a pillow fight with her. Wrestle with her, so she gets used to the touching.” He said, “I get it.” Then he said, “I met someone even hotter, and she’s not a virgin.” I thought, “Go for it, kid.” To view closing as something that’s discrete, separate and different is an error. For the sake of this diagnostic tool, we can think about it that way. Then there’s what you do afterward. How do you review the situation? How do you learn from your mistakes and take what you did well, reinforce it and congratulate yourself for it? I’m going to show you this stuff. You want to know the sequential stuff. Bear in mind that the sequential stuff is only a piece of the puzzle, not the whole thing.


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These are some more distinctions I think you’ll find helpful. You may have to adjust things that are analog. You may have to adjust things that are digital. Let me explain what I mean by that. Analog variables are anything that vary along a range. Lisa, do any of these lights have a dimmer switch? That would be analog. It varies along a range. There are some lights here that switch on and off. Which ones switch on and off? That’s digital. Some of what you’re doing is analogical. Your volume, the speed at which you move and the speed at which you process are analog. With digital, it’s either there or it’s not. You either say this word, or you don’t say this word. You either make this move, or you don’t make this move. You may want to look at those things that have to be shifted or changed. That’s one hell of a condom, isn’t it? This is like the ultimate French Tickler. It looks like it is Bigfoot’s French Tickler. Look at that. You have to expect it to coo when you pet it. I don’t want to say I’m that big, but when I go to Disney Land, I pay adult admission and an extra kid’s ticket too. Finally, there are those things that are interpersonal, how you react with others, and intrapersonal, meaning what’s going on inside your own skin. These are pretty exhaustive and thorough diagnostic categories. These are all the different levels you need to look at where you might want to make improvements and adjustments. When you come home from a sarge and reboot, these are the various things you can look at. Since we’re going to do some sequential stuff, let’s start with openers.


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People usually come to me and ask questions that are not the best questions. They say, “How do you meet women on the Tube? How do you meet women in the supermarket? How do you meet women on an airplane?” They make it very geographical. When you get really good with this stuff, you just find yourself meeting women anywhere, everywhere you go. It’s no longer about a geographical location. My drawing’s improving. That’s a diamond. You can draw a diamond on your paper with four different positions. Each corner represents a position. This is only a model. Fundamentally, when you’re going to do walkups, when you’re going to meet women, there are four approach-attitudes, approach-vibes, approach-angles that you can use. A good approach will either involve two of them simultaneously or one fractionating right after the other. Over here, I have put-ons. Put-ons are anything that’s a joke, obviously not meant to be taken seriously, taking the piss out of the person or saying something that’s putting her on. It’s having someone on, or saying something funny. One of the things I stopped doing was actually pretty effective. Let’s say she had a really big bag. I’d say, “Wow. Your bag is great. Sorry, my complimenter is stuck.” It gets a big laugh. Fuck you all. That’s an example of a put-on. Here’s another put-on I often use. I was at the Roosevelt Hotel, and they were having a Playmate convention. I’m walking in the lobby, and I’ve never seen so many plastic-surgery examples in nine square feet. They walk right in the middle of me. Suddenly I’m in a swarm of them. I look around and say, “I picked the wrong hotel to be gay.” Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Eight Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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They all laughed and said, “Oh my god. That gives you a hug. You’re coming with us.” They’re dragging me along. I’m talking about men. I say, “Aren’t men dicks out here?” A few of them say, “Who says we’re into men?” It was a really interesting thing. They were so stupid though. I’m thinking, “I would rather go talk to the wall than talk to these people.” That’s a good opener, to say, “I picked the wrong X to be gay.” X would be wherever you are. If you’re in the supermarket and a beautiful girl walks by, you say, “I picked the wrong aisle to be gay.” That’s a put-on. It’s not meant to be taken seriously. It opens the door with some laughter. Another put-on is the fake stutter, to say, “That bag is enormous. I’m sorry. My complimenter is on stuck.” Trust me, it always gets a laugh. You have to be able to deliver it right. What would be another example of a put-on? Participant:

Be gay.

Ross:

Another example is acting flamingly gay, which I don’t do anymore, but I used to. What else?

Participant: The woman all in pink. Ross:

The woman walks into the Coffee Bean. She has pink eyeliner, pink lipstick, pink cheek blush. Strike that. She’s wearing purple, purple eyeliner, purple lipstick, purple blush. She had a purple gym outfit, purple bag, purple nails. I forgot to mention that. She had purple streaks in her hair too.


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I said, “Excuse me. The spirits are telling me, yes, you like the color purple.” That was meant to be a put-on, but she said, “You’re good.” She was as dumb as a rock. Who has another example of a put-on? Participant:

I know what your boyfriend looks like.

Ross:

I haven’t used that in a long time. Or to say, “Excuse me, miss. I know this is going to sound a little strange, but I know what your perfect lover looks like.” She’s going to say, “What do you mean?” I say, “I see his face in the mirror every morning when I shave.” I’m forgetting some. I’ve done a couple of others that were really ripper funny in my career. There are also context-specific put-ons. Back in April, I went to see this roly-poly, light-in-the-loafers, flamingly gay spiritual reader. His name is Hans King. He had a crowd of about 98 women in that room, and the only two guys were my nephew and me. I said, “Hey, Gid, there’s going to be plenty of poonani here. Let’s go cruise for chicks.” He said, “Okay, Uncle.” This guy is a complete retard. He was. He was saying things like, “Did you know the Universe wants you to find that perfect girl or guy? All you have to do is find someone who sees you exactly as you are without wanting to change you and loves you just the way you are.” I looked at Gideon and said, “Why didn’t I think of that? That’s really simple.” It was ridiculous. He kept talking about how the spirits will give you lucky numbers. You can tune into the spirits to get Lotto numbers. At the break, I saw this hot-looking woman at the literature table. I said to my nephew, “Nephew, watch this.”


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I walk up to her with my cell phone in my hand. I say, “Excuse me, miss. The spirits have been talking to me. The spirits are showing me a 10-digit number that is the absolute key to your happiness.” I opened up my cell phone. It had the number of the phone on it right there. That was very context-specific. You couldn’t use that somewhere else, could you? Maybe you’re in the bedding shop. I don’t know if you want to date a woman who frequents the bedding shop, but you get my idea. Here’s another put-on I love to do. Now I’m waking up. I’m remembering my own put-ons. In America, they have an office-supply store called Staples. Go to your local Staples. Find the prettiest girl there who’s a customer. I’ve done this, and I swear it works. Walk up to her and say, “Excuse me. Where do you keep the laser printer cartridges?” They always say, “I don’t work here.” You say, “I know, but the people who work here are butt-ugly and you’re really cute.” It also works in the supermarket. Walk up to the pretty girl. “Excuse me. Where do you keep the lamb shanks?” They always say, “I don’t work here.” You say, “I know, but the people who work here are dwarf-butt ugly, and you’re really cute. My name is…” The thing about put-ons is they’re a screening. If a woman doesn’t laugh at my jokes, she’s probably not going to get me, so I’m going to leave. You’re screening to see if the person’s playful. It also takes away the tension of meeting someone. When you start out with explosive laughter, it drops the natural tension between people.


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They’re fun to do. Put-ons challenge me to think on my feet. My best putons were not calculated. I didn’t go out with them in my mind. I came up with them on the spot. James:

I was in a club last January. This girl was sitting by the bar. Guys would come up to her every two or three minutes. She was getting really pissed off with it. There was one guy who was hanging around. I could tell she was pissed off with him. I went up to her and said, “You two make such a cute couple.” She said, “He’s been pestering me all night.” I said, “I just had to give him a chance before I came along. My name is James.”

Ross:

I like that. Here’s another one. I’ve done this. If you see a woman who’s blowing guys off left and right, walk up to her and say, “I’m wondering what it is you’re doing to keep the guys away because it’s not working with me.” The key thing about a put-on is that it’s fun. It’s obviously not done with any kind of malice to it. It’s funny. It gets a laugh. From there, you’re going to introduce yourself. Usually what happens when I do a put-on is, once the woman laughs, I’ll say something like, “I’m glad you laughed. I noticed you here. I wanted to meet the person wrapped inside all the pretty. My name is….” That’s my standard follow-up for a put-on. Or I’ll say, “I noticed you here, and I wanted to meet you.” The “wrapped in the pretty” is not a direct compliment. We’re going to get to indirect compliments in a moment. It’s an implied compliment. I didn’t


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say directly, “I think you’re very pretty.” I said, “I wanted to meet the person wrapped in the pretty.” That is not directly saying I think she’s pretty. If you really wanted to be a bastard, you could say, “I’m glad you laughed because I wanted to meet the person wrapped in all the pretty, but she just walked out the door.” We don’t do that kind of stuff. That’s neg’ing. We don’t neg. Participant:

With that opener that you just had, “What is it that you’re using to keep the men away because it’s not working with me?” she will laugh.

Ross:

Now you’re really learning. Do you see how smart he is? I do one little change and suddenly he goes from a confused spastic to a super-genius.


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