Speed Seduction 3 Disc Four

Speed Seduction 3.0 Program Transcript:

Disc Four Created By

Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some”

Website: http://www.speedseduction.biz

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying bullying,, begging begging,, buying,, bs buying bs or or booze booze,, in his pursuit of happiness.

Copyright © 2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Reserved. This transcript may not be duplicated without written permission from the author.

Disclaimer This program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or SpeedSeduction.biz (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.

Disclaimer This program may contain viewpoints that may be considered controversial by certain audiences. It is intended as a powerful guide for self-respecting, intelligent men who are looking to avoid from "real-hate-shun-ships by default" and instead claim the happiness that they deserve. I, Ross Jeffries, Ghita Services., Inc, and/or SpeedSeduction.biz (or any of our other websites or entities) cannot and will not be held responsible in any way for your actions, and will not be held liable for any and all claims from you or any other third party. You alone are responsible for your decisions and actions, even if they have an impact on others. This information is meant for "entertainment" purposes only. While this transcript contains information, tips, tools, and strategies that are recommended by us and, in most cases, have succeeded when applied by others, this product and its contents carry no warranty or guarantee (either explicit or implied) that the purchaser or reader will achieve success with women, or in any other endeavor for which they may be used.

Ross:

When I deliver something really heavy like that, when I say something like that, isn't that amazing? You feel like there's something missing, something that you've always wanted. Suddenly, it's like we're looking right at them.

Why do I take it away like that? I'm fractionating her and it's really heavy. When I fractionate her, what does that do? That means that those thoughts are going to be running in the back right now because I took it away consciously.

In a sense it's like giving a post-hypnotic suggestion and then distracting the person so they don't remember it. Immediately distract them when they come out. You only want to have those little throwaway fractionations. When you pretend something really tasty and good, you take it away.

Here's where amateur Speed Seducers fuck it up. They get this great response. You say to her, "Isn't that amazing?" There's something you've always wanted. Notice the gestures? It's like there's something you've always wanted. Keep your hands close to your body. You've doubted it. You've thought maybe this is the one. What would it be like if all of a sudden it's right in front of you? You're looking right at it. It feels great.

Anyway, I move right off it. Why do I move off it? Let's say I kept embellishing it. It's like you're looking right at it and you realize that you have to do something to get this. If you don't you'll lose out forever.

It's like when a friend is saying, "Do you feel that?" It's too much. They start resisting. I'm going to use a bad metaphor. Let's say there's a hungry junkyard junkyard dog chained up by a rusty chain. You take a big steak and put it

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right under the dog's nose. The dog is drooling and salivating. Then you pull it away.

This is a little mean, but the thing is that it is fractionating. If you just throw it to her like that she may resist it. By pulling it away a little bit and changing the subject, her natural response is going to be, "Wait a minute, what about the stuff you were talking about before?" She keeps reaching for it. Understand?

I know what's going to happen. The first few times you try this and it actually works. The first 20 times you try this, that 10 who is 20 years younger than you is slobbering all over you, you're temptation is going to be to keep going and blow her head out. That won't work. You have to back off that.

Participant:

What you're getting to right now, this fractionation is a little bit like military where you keep shooting at somebody's brick wall. You can't knock their head off. You have to stop shooting at them.

Ross:

That's a very good metaphor. That's a very violent metaphor but it's accurate. It's accurate but I don't like it. We're not shooting at anybody.

Remember, in this whole process we're offering the kind of feelings that women want to feel. They want to feel this stuff. It's what they want to feel.

You're thinking about the implications of this. I say you think, "Oh, man! That's why I've fucked up all these years." Is that what you were thinking? You were thinking that, right? Something along, "Damn, that's why I've always fucked it up." Is that exactly what you were thinking?

Participant:

That's exactly right.

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Ross:

I read his thoughts. How did I know exactly what he was thinking? Because I just know. But the light just turned on for you, didn't it? Now what you can do is go back through all of those experiences.

Imagine if you'd had this knowledge, then go back through all of your old experiences applying this knowledge, how would you now feel about yourself sitting here today? It would seem a lot different, wouldn't it?

This is what was wrong. All those years when you got your ass kicked in the dating game, when women said, "I just don't feel that way about you." Have you ever heard that one? Raise your hand. "You're like my brother."

Have you heard this one? "Sorry, I just want to be friends." God, does that hurt or what? It's like a stake right through your heart. It's painful. Imagine how all those things been different had you had this knowledge and applied these principles? It would have been so different. It will be different. It already is different. You'll never go back to the way you were.

Sometimes just knowing how to do this is enough. You don't have to actually do any of it. If you're so bleeding, fucking confident, they're attracted to you.

I'm not bluffing or kidding you. This is how I can, within a matter of 20 minutes, have an 18, 19, 20-year-old girl want to fuck me. It's not because of this. Whereas before I would have heard, "You're old enough to be my dad." I still occasionally hear that. My response is, "Tell me about your sick attraction to your father."

Or I say, "Don't worry, I won't crush your secret." That's that old joke. What did the 14-year-old southern girl say to her lover? "Daddy, you're crushing Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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my cigarettes!" I don't know what the British equivalent would be of someone from the south in America. In America it's the southerners. What's the British equivalent?

Participant:

The Welsh.

Ross:

The 14-year-old Welsh girl says to her lover, "Daddy, you're crushing my cigarettes."

This whole topic, the set of jokes, stories and poems are all designed to get her responses from that fourth level of her mind, incorporate them back, bits, suggestions, use ambiguity. We're going to use the same basic tools. It's just a different delivery vehicle.

You have FedEx. You have UPS. You have Royal Mail. You have carrier pidgin. You have cell phones. They're all used to deliver the same sort of thing. They're all used in the same way. They're used through the right vibes. They're used through fractionation.

They're used through paying attention and incorporating her responses, by using ambiguity, imbedded commands and suggestions, and fractionation. It keeps taking place the whole thing.

The next category I talked about is indulgence, escape, fantasy. It takes the form of asking a question. The question is, "When you really want to cut lose, to escape and completely indulge yourself, what kind of things do you like to do?"

You can start out by asking the right question. Questions are a great way to start a seduction. In order to answer that question, what part of her


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mind must she access? She has to go into that part of her mind that where she thinks about fantasies, desires, escape.

That's not necessarily sexual, but it's right next door to the compartment in her mind where she thinks of sexual things. Does that make sense?

It's not just a block of flats. Over here is the flat that can answer the wild, sexual, kinky fantasies. Right next door, separated by the very thinnest wall is the part where she thinks about what she does when she wants to indulge and escape.

For all we know, she likes to masturbate watching porn. We don't know. It could be that the wall has a door that is always open. At the very least, if you get things jumping in this room, it's going to wake up the person living in the flat next door.

You don't have to go for this directly. You don't have to directly go for something sexual. If you get the room next door all agitated, it's going to stir this.

With a lot of women that partition is mighty thin. When women hit their 30s, boy, howdy, the truck goes by and they get horny. Or if a woman is ovulating that wall gets really thin. You could punch through it like it's tissue paper. There's a big overlap. There's a big door there and it's wide open.

If you can introduce this whole thing of indulgence, fantasy, escape, adventure. Here's what you don't do. Don't say, "Debbie, in a moment I'm going to try to awaken the sexual fantasy part of you." Talk about something that's closely related.


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Get ready for this question that will open up the deepest parts of your mind, reveal information that I can use to leverage to get you really horny and leaving with me in the next hour. Ready, set, go. You don't want to do that.

Participant:

Wouldn't that be really nice pattern interrupt?

Ross:

Here's the key if you're going to use a pattern interrupt. A pattern interrupt has to get attention in a positive way. You want to do something different that gets attention in a positive way.

A pattern interrupt could be me walking up and barfing all over her shoes. That's certainly a pattern interrupt but it's not going to lead us where we want to go. The rule for a pattern interrupt is to do something unexpected in a way that leads her attention pulling to us in a positive direction.

Participant:

But if you do this as a put-on?

Ross:

You're saying go directly up there and say, "Hi, Debbie. In a moment I'm going…" No, that's really telegraphing the punch.

It's like you're in a boxing match and you say to your opponent, "In a moment, I'm going to wind up like this and put a right hook right to your jaw and knock your ass out." You're counting on him laughing so hard that it's going to work. Don't do that.

"When you really want to cut loose, indulge and escape, what kind of things do you really like to do?" When this horny little 22-year-old blondhaired, blue-eyed, Jewish female college student who still calls and calls, she called me to wish me a happy Jewish New Year, but that's not what you wanted to talk about. Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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I use that. I sit there and I said, "When you really want to escape and indulge yourself, what is it that you really like to do," she actually answered me differently. She said, "I'd love to go back to the Mykonos Islands." I said, "Really? Tell me about the Mykonos Islands?"

She said, "I went there." I said, "Wait a minute. Take me with you. When we arrive at the Mykonos Islands, what time of day is it?" She said, "Sunset." I said, "Describe the sun. I'm looking at the sun with you. What am I feeling as I feel along with you as we look at the sun?"

She said, "We feel this" and she bumped right into it. As I had her progressively describe being there, we went on a vacation to the Mykonos Islands. We experienced all of the feelings that she felt together.

At one point we went in to this little grotto, took all of our clothes off and slipped into the water. Sometimes when I get into something, I think, "This is fucking great! Life is really great." Sometimes what I do touches me right there.

That's a really good question, isn't it? We're going to do seduction questions later in the afternoon. In the right context these questions are great because to answer it, to make any sense of the question, she has to go inside. Do you get it? That's a good thing.

Another way we can bring up indulgence is to say, "Debbie, do you like chocolate?" Do you know where this is going, guys? What's the famous pattern?

Participants: The blowjob.


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Ross:

Right, it's the infamous blowjob pattern. "Do you really like chocolate?"

I was watching this interesting show on the Discovery Channel. They talked about the difference between compulsion and anticipation.

Compulsion is when you just find yourself doing something. Do you ever find yourself reaching for the refrigerator and before you realize it, the door is open and you think, "What am I doing?" Do you find yourself saying, "What am I doing here? I didn't even know I was doing that." That's compulsion.

Anticipation is when you think about a pleasure before it actually arrives. Do you ever come home from a really rough, hard day at work? Maybe you've been on the tube all day. See the ambiguity? Tube is American slang for penis. Do they have a slang here for that, too?

Participant:

No.

Ross:

Sorry, you can't use that. All you can think about is stripping off those clothes and getting into the shower. Then there's that moment of sliding in, just let the warm pleasure take you. When I talk about that moment of sliding in, this is what we call sexual metaphor.

This is what's known as an accelerator. It speeds seduction. We have certain things called accelerators. They take that feeling and really ramp it up. One of the accelerators is sexual metaphor. So when I talk about sliding in, what am I talking about?

Am I talking about sliding in to the water? Am I talking about the Don Johnson sliding into the Lindsey Lohan? What are we talking about? Then


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there's that moment of sliding in. Sometimes women say, "Oh, my god! That sounds like sex!" Well, yes, doesn't it?

Have you ever been with someone and you look at them and there's that moment, that first, soft brush of the lips? It's as if every moment of pleasure that's ever going to be experienced is enfolded in that first electric touch.

"Do you really like chocolate? What's your favorite kind of chocolate?" Whatever she gives you, say, "I have this friend. She says, "You take the chocolate but you don't eat it right away. You save it and think about it on the ride home. You take it and slowly peal it. You hold just the tip of it to your tongue and you let it melt against your tongue. It's like an explosion of pleasure in your mouth."

You're thinking you can't possible do this, but you can. You say, "I used to think that the most important thoughts come from the conscious mind. Now I realize so much emerges from the unconscious. I used to think that the most important thoughts come from above but know I know so many important thoughts come from below me, Debbie."

Do you see the ambiguity? The media likes to make fun of this. They take it out of context. Remember I said the proper theme gets her talking from the right place in the mind. It gets her transported.

What else does the proper theme do? It gives the context against which the background something that's ambiguous is properly interpreted by the unconscious mind. Does that make sense?


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Out of context, if you just walked up and said, "Debbie, there are thoughts that are above me and some thoughts that are below me, Debbie." That's ridiculous. That won't work and I never claimed that it would.

These kinds of ambiguities are where the media misquotes me to get cheap laughs. These kinds of ambiguities like "below me" and "happiness," I never claimed they work out of context and isolation, any more than a tire works if it's not connected to the rest of the car.

In the context of the discussion it provides the overall background or framework to interpret the ambiguity, and they do work.

Ross:

You wanted me to get into the meditation part. Listen to me. This is really crucial. Sometimes you go through changes in an emotionally charged area of life, an area of life that's been very troubling and difficult.

James was kind enough to share his story. He told me about how he was going to do himself in if he didn't find an answer to all of this stuff. He was ready to kill himself.

In a very emotionally troubling area of life, how can you give yourself a chance to be clean from all of that and move up a learning curve without carrying all of the old stuff with you, without having all that noise in your mind chattering so loudly that you can't even apply the new stuff?

Just for the sake of this discussion, I don't care whose field material you're applying, whether it's the M&M candy method or anybody else's, you still have this challenge of how you move up that learning curve. How do you quiet the noise in your mind?


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I want to tell you a story. A couple of years back I was doing a seminar. Usually when I teach a seminar I have dreams the morning of the event that give me an indication of what to teach.

I had a dream that there was this little portable transistor radio playing that was annoying me. I went to switch it off but it was still running. I opened up the back and took the battery out. It was still running.

One of my nerdy students said, "The reason it's still running is these solenoids are melded together and is creating this electric current. Just cut the solenoids." I cut the solenoids but the radio was still playing. I realized that the radio was playing because that's what radios do.

The point of this metaphor, this story, is that when you make changes in your life, stuff is going to come up. I guarantee you that from time to time, or in the beginning maybe even frequently, your stuff will come right back up in your face.

All of the old beliefs and patterns of thinking and feeling are not coming up because you hate yourself, you're out to sabotage yourself or you have low self-esteem.

There's no such fucking thing as self-esteem. It didn't exist before some author wrote about it in the 60s and 70s and got on a chat show. Where was it before someone wrote about it? There's no such thing as self esteem.

It's a bugaboo. It's a lie.

I don't think people do things to deliberately sabotage themselves. These things come up because they have a momentum. They have momentum and energy. You have to know what to do with them.


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I've been through a lot of healing work and talked to a lot people but actually Shirlene back there gets the credit. She was the first person to say to me, "Things are going to come up." What are the three bad alternatives when old patterns come up? What are the three things that don't work?

Participant:

You suppress it.

Ross:

What happens if you suppress all of those old ways of thinking, the old emotions? Why is that not a useful thing to do?

Participant:

It comes back with more power.

Ross:

I used the metaphor of kinking a garden hose. When you kink a garden hose what happens? The pressure builds up and it explodes. Many of your hoses are already exploding with too much pressure, so we don't want to go there. We can suppress but that doesn't work very well.

We can buy back into it and keep running the stuff in our heads. How many people here run over scenarios over and over of how they failed with women? They go over and over it and inadvertently reinforce that same behavior. It's pretty near a universal phenomenon.

Here's a very important principle of understanding human behavior and brain. Brains tend to do what you rehearse. If you rehearse 100,000 times how you failed with Debbie or Sally, if you rehearse seeing what you did wrong, what are you telling your brain to do?

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So when you get out in the world and a similar situation pops up, what is your brain naturally going to do? It's going to do the same thing. That reinforces your belief that you can't do it, that you're a loser, that women suck, etc. What does that do? It gets you in the whole cycle of ruminating over and over again.

You have the cycle of rumination where you reinforce the old pattern of behavior and all the limiting beliefs that go with it. You go out in the world and even though you consciously want to change, you do the wrong thing, which leads to shitty results, which leads to more rumination. Do you get the cycle?

You get all the rumination. You get ineffective behavior, which leads to shitty results, which leads to more rumination, and you're trapped. What do most guys do? They suppress it or buy back into it or they try to push through the pain. What's the challenge of pushing through pain?

Participant:

You're bringing all the old shit with you as you're going forward.

Ross:

That's right. When you push through pain you're also pushing the pain out in front of you. If that's true that your vibe is the fundamental thing that attracts or repulses people and you're walking around with a painful vibe, what is likely to happen? You'll attract pain and push away people who are at a different level. That pain constitutes a tremendous filed of noise.

When a woman is trying to communicate to you, that communication has to push its way through all that pain. You're very likely to distort what she says. You're very likely to distort the meaning of what she says and misinterpret her behavior.


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Pain tends to distort our perception and drive behavior. No matter what technique you use, if you're pushing it through pain it's going to be colored by that. If you're pushing your words through pain, you're words are going to be colored by that.

My mother used to say, "If you dip your sunglasses in dog shit, even the roses will look brown." God bless my mother. We lost my mother's physical form April 29 th of this year. But my mother is still with me in all the ways I teach. My mom is always with me in my own sarcastic expressions.

The biggest challenge facing men, when it comes to applying any of this material or any other camp's material, is not fear. It's not approach anxiety. It's not anger. It's not sadness. The biggest single problem is confusion. That's the biggest cause of suffering, when you can't figure out whether it's working or not working. Has that ever happened to you?

I'll tell you a story. One of my students a few years back couldn't even talk to women. He used my material faithfully. He was very rigorous about it. He went to this bar. There was this super-hot girl. She was a 10-plus.

To me there are no 10s, only nines. They become 10s when they fall all over me. There are no 10s unless they behave and treat me a certain way. That's a very important point. You need to learn to screen for how the woman treats you. If she treats you poorly, then I don't care what she looks like. She's a two or a one.

At first you have to "fake it 'til you make it." You have to act like a screener. Eventually you'll get to the point where you generally really screen people based on how they treat you and how they treat other people.


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Here's a good clue to know whom to approach in a public place where there's a lot of women. Watch for the woman who's paying careful, genuine attention to her friends when they're talking. That's someone who's showing she has some empathy.

Let me tell you the story. He used my stuff. There's a 10, and she was blowing all they guys off. She's shot them all down. It got to the point were guys were approaching her and then doing a U-turn.

He thought, "All that shows me is these guys haven't touched her in the way she needs to be touched. I can't let that girl's evening be ruined by not giving her the chance to meet someone who's truly different."

He went up and approached. He said something along the lines of, "Isn't it interesting that you go through a whole evening of the same old, tired, boring things, but every once in a while, an opportunity for something different presents itself. I'm so-and-so."

He used my stuff. Within about 30 minutes he was making out with this chick. Out of the corner of his eye he was looking at all the other guys thinking, "Who the fuck it this guy? How is he doing this? He must have an 18-inch I don't know."

He was very excited about this. He said, "I'm going to play it cool. I'm going to get this lady's phone number. I'll wait a couple of days to call her." That's what he did.

Two days go by and he's been thinking about it. He reached for the number and it wasn't there on the desk. Have you ever had that feeling that you've been late for an appointment and you can't find your car keys?


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He tossed the apartment looking everywhere. He thought, "Oh my god! The trash goes out tonight. Holy shit!" He went to the big dumpster and dove through it in front of the whole apartment complex. He told me he was down there digging deeper and deeper looking for this thing.

He's going through progressively thicker, sedimentary layers of dirty diapers, disposed tampons, rotting food and cat shit. He just went deeper and deeper through all this stuff. It was floating on his face.

Finally, after 90 minutes he came up for air but he didn't have the number. He said, "My old self came back. It's been six weeks. I've been so depressed I can't even talk to a girl."

I've learned that when people talk, I've learned that their surface language is really an opportunity to peer deeper into the code of how they're processing it. When he was talking, chatting up that lovely lady in the pub, where was his old self then?

Participant:

Hiding.

Ross:

Where was it hiding?

Participant:

Hiding deep in his unconscious?

Ross:

Someone else give me an explanation. Where was his old self then?

Participant:

He wasn't aware of it.

Ross:

Somebody else answer. James?

Participant:

He wasn't focused on the old self. He was focused on the new self.


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Ross:

Somebody else, where was his old self?

Participant:

It was suppressed.

Ross:

I think it went to Pismo Beach to play in the Bugs Bunny golf open. Where was it?

Participant:

There is no old self or new self.

Ross:

Right, there is no old self or new self. There is only the ongoing flow of where you choose to put your attention and the beliefs and energetics that are behind it.

Here's what I found the most interesting. This guy was so focused on the fact that he couldn't find the phone number that he completely, hypnotically hallucinated away all the stuff he did right.

Isn't it interesting that he did 95% of it correctly, far and away better than anything anyone in that pub did and better than anything he had ever done before? But, because the last little piece was missing he concluded that the whole thing was a failure, that he was hopeless.

He forgot all the skills that he had beautifully developed. To me, as somebody who's studied trance, meditation and the mind, that's the most fascinating thing. How is that possible that he forgot everything he did right and decided the whole thing was a failure? He chucked the whole thing.

By the way, who here thinks that that's uncommon, that that's not a typical thing that happens to guys when they're learning this? How many think that kind of thing is common? You do a lot of things right, but if you don't Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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get it all right you conclude you're a failure and you slide back down the learning curve.

No one else in the seduction community even understands this. They don't even see it, let alone have an answer for it. When you are engaging in real growth in an area of life that's been deeply emotionally challenging, surrounded by limiting beliefs and old experiences, if you're not very disciplined, the minute things don't go exactly right you're going to interpret the whole thing as failure.

What happens? You slide back down the learning curve. You have to work through weeks of depression and talking yourself into it and trying to pump yourself back up. Am I wrong or right?

Participants: You're right!

Ross:

I'm absolutely right. This takes something that should be a joy and should be easy, and turns it into an exhausting task. Let's be honest. Here we are brothers. We're not here to compete. How many have found that this can be and emotionally, utterly exhausting task because of this phenomenon?

How many times can men come together in a room and admit that things have emotionally exhausted them, that they share a pain? Did this guy do this because he wanted to sabotage himself? Did he do this because he had low self-esteem?

He did this because he never trained himself how to separate from those emotions and experience them without the beliefs. He couldn't transmute that emotionally energy into pure motivation for his peace of mind, balance, centering, happiness independent of conditions, and his vision of who he's already every day more and more becoming. Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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He had no way of separating out the raw emotion from the story. He had no beliefs for looking at the experience through which he could actually see what worked. Would you like to know how I solved this problem for him?

I said, "Wait a minute. You're viewing what you did with that woman as an accident rather than as a result of the skills that you exercised. You're looking at it as a fluke. What if you were to stop, remember all of the skills that you used and be able to attract women as a common, everyday part of your life wherever you went?

Now looking at the event through that, how do you feel? He said, "My new self is back!" I said, "Eureka! That will be £5,000." No, it's my joy to help people by simply redirecting them.

Do you see? He had assumed that what happened was a fluke. I had to re-focus him on the fact that it wasn't a fluke. It was a result of his skill. What if it was common, the way you walk through life all the time?

The technical part about what he should have done differently is not the subject of this discussion. We could have said, "Technically he could have tried to take her home that night, or he could have put that number in a special place where he knew not to forget it.

That doesn't really matter. The technical solution is not what this story is about. The story is about the phenomenon where in an emotionally charged area of life, you need a disciplined way to quiet down your mind. You need to be able to take on some very empowering beliefs for learning.


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I didn't give you an alternative. There is a beautiful alternative to suppressing the emotion, buying back into the story or pushing through the pain. The alternative is so profoundly powerful. I can't tell you how powerful this is.

You have to have the ability to experience something without fighting it, with equanimity. Equanimity means you don't fight it or try to change it in any way. You must experience it with equanimity and clarity so you have a complete experience separated out from the story.

The beautiful alternative is to have the experience with full clarity without buying into it or trying to change it. That emotional energy transmutes itself into raw power that you can then give back to yourself for peace of mind, clarity, grounding, the belief in your ability to learn anything and your vision of whom you already becoming more and more every day.

You can develop a vision for who you're already becoming that's not dependent on support from the external environment. In other words, you don't need people to support you in that vision. You don't need women to say you are attractive.

At the same time, you're open to feedback from the environment. That is extraordinarily powerful. When you can walk through the world like that you lose the fear of uncertainty.

I know how guys are trapped because I used to be deeply trapped. Many of you are trapped in the following loop. Am I right about this stuff? I am willing to bet that 80% of you are trapped in this loop.

You're not willing to actually try this material until you're 100% certain it will work. There is no way to be certain it will work until you try it. You wind Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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up never being certain and trying it. How many people go through that loop? The rest of you are fucking liars.

How do you break the loop? You break the loop by having absolute equanimity with uncertainty. You don't try to fight the uncertainty. I'm going to show you how.

If all I do is give you the principle but not the process, I'm a cheat and a liar. I'm not. I'm going to give you the process. If you can have the experience with equanimity what most people fear, if you're totally okay with walking through uncertainty because it has become energy you can utilize, then that is what I call stealth charisma. That is really sexy.

Very few people in this world will take a risk. They want to be certain before they take a step. If you're okay with uncertainty and are perfectly find with it, that's a kind of confidence that no one can take away from you because it's totally an internal locus of control. You are the person completely in control.

No one can ever take it away from you. It's not dependent on having any social skill at all. You can go out that door right now and have this kind of confidence, because it's not dependent on being slick or smooth or good at what you do.

It's incredibly stealthy. No one will ever be able to somehow detect it. It's coming organically from who you really are. They can't detect it as an act because it's not an act. It's real.

Here's the fourth thing. You don't have to be the life of the party. You don't have to be the person who commands the whole room, the alpha dog who's telling all the stories, demonstrating his higher value. I think Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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sometimes those guys are just demonstrating that they have to be high to talk that way.

You don't have to do any of that. You are attractive by virtue of how you're stepping through your world. You're no longer afraid. You're no longer tightening up and tensing against all those things everyone else is tense about. You're relaxed.

Here's the thing. You don't even have to be comfortable with yourself. You just have to have equanimity with your discomfort. You have to be able to experience the discomfort without buying in to the story surrounding it and not fighting it.

That will translate into a different kind of comfort. There are different kinds of confidence. There is performance confidence. You've done something right 1,000 times so you're sure you can do it right 1,001.

There is rehearsal confidence. I teach rehearsal confidence. Rehearsal confidence is good once you shut off all that rumination. If you do all this rehearsal confidence, imagining yourself 40 feet and how you want to sound and look, it's great. I believe in it. I teach it. I will teach it to you.

However, if you do that while all this other stuff is still running, you're going to create an internal civil war. How many here that do that rumination also do some positive programming? How many still feel like you're being pulled apart because sometimes you go with the positive programming, but most of the time you go with what you've been ruminating on?

Again, the process of personal change becomes exhausting. You think, "I'll just go to someone else's seminar or I'll buy some more tapes." God knows I want you to buy more tapes, but not for that reason. I want you to Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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buy more of my stuff because you think, "Wait a minute. This is revolutionary. He's seeing much deeper into the fundamentals of this. I want to learn more."

There is rehearsal confidence. Rehearsal confidence is going into an altered state or doing this magic stuff I'll show you, and imaging the way you'd like to feel, act, think and talk. You imagine the qualities that you'd like to bring in to it. I love that stuff. I'll teach it until the day I die.

It works, but it only works at the right part in the sequence. You only do that after you handle all of the rumination so that you're not fighting yourself. Does that make sense?

There's rehearsal confidence and performance confidence. There's also acceptance confidence. I'm going to show you how to do this. I'm not just going to explain it. I'm going to give you drills so you can learn to actually take this on and walk the world like this.

Acceptance confidence is you having complete equanimity with all of these emotions that have been troubling you. You don't buy in to the story, tense up or turn away. They turn in to a flow of energy. They turn into effervescent bubbles you can just surf right across.

What if your former worst fears and anxiety can turn into pure energy that you can surf across to do all the attracting you've wanted to do? Would that be great?

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That's acceptance confidence. There is a fourth kind of confidence. If you think I've been stretching your ability to follow and believe me up until now, now I'm really going to stretch your ability to believe me.

If you're not listening, I may sound like one of those New Age, treehugging, granola guys in the woods. I'm far from a New Ager. I think that the people who teach the secret should be boiled alive in their own excrement after their shriveled little testes are slit open and are fed to them. I hate that shit because it's so fucking stupid.

The secret teaches you that the universe is your wishing well. It's all here. All the time that existed before you were born and the eternity of time that will exist after you're taken out, is there.

Everything, all the globular clusters, the black holes, the galaxy, the whole thing was created just so you could get the lard off you ass, get that Jaguar you've always wanted, get that raise and have that perfect lover. It's all put here for you. It's all your wishing well.

Those kids that are starving to death in Zimbabwe or those pesky Indians who are dying on the streets, the next war that George Bush is about to launch on who knows what fucking pretext, some Iranian farted on the border and disturbed our surge, all of that doesn't matter because it's all put here so you can have whatever you want. The universe is your wishing well.

I don't think it works that way. I don’t think that everything was put here so humans can be happy the way humans define it. Humans define happiness as the body is comfortable or feeling pleasure, the mind has answers and you're getting what you want. That's the human definition of happiness. Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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I'm not saying that that doesn't happen and you can't arrange things so that more of that happens. But, ultimately that is not why everything is here, anymore than it's true that the Earth is the center of the universe and everything revolves around us.

I don't think the human definition of happiness is why we're here. I think there is another definition of happiness that has nothing to do with those things.

Here it comes. We've gone through performance, acceptance and rehearsal confidence. By the way, you're that seeing a big piece of Speed Seduction here is how we learn to manage our own emotions. It's how we learn to teach ourselves to learn. This is a huge piece of it. This is what it's about more and more.

The final form of confidence, which is subtle but extraordinarily powerful, is the confidence I was able to show when that woman screamed at me. Remember the story I told about coming out of the restaurant and the women were waiting for the taxi. That woman was just lambasting me and I was okay with it.

I had another experience about six weeks ago. I was at a Starbucks. There was this drop-dead beautiful black woman throwing things into the dumpster. I said, "It looks like you're moving house." She said to me, "Fuck you, mother fucker. I don't fucking need your comments. I don't fucking want to talk to you. Fuck off." She was really angry.

It wasn't like I felt upset, that I had to ground or anything. I was okay. I thought, "That person is in pain. She's hurting." I thought that for someone to have that much anger at me for something so innocuous, underneath Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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the anger was enormous suffering. Something must have happened to her to put her through tremendous pain.

She may have had very bad experiences with men. My response to her was, "Nothing I said to you merited that kind of response. It's not me you're angry at. I'm sorry that you're going through that. It doesn't make me happy to see someone else hurt."

What was her response? "Fuck you! I don't fucking need your sympathy! Get the fuck out of my face!" I said, "Okay," and I walked. She didn't take it. She couldn't hear it, but that's okay.

The fourth kind of confidence is what I call compassion confidence. Believe it or not, this is the true key to everything I do. You've heard me teach you some language patterns and you've seen how I talk to you. I have very slick communication with you. I can do 15 million triple verbal somersaults. The real key to what I've been doing lately is this one.

I owe this to my teacher Shinzen Young. His teachings have profoundly transformed how I experience my life. I don't mean a peak experience. A peak experience is when you go to a seminar, you're high for a month and then you go back to normal. This has transformed how I process and do my life.

Compassion confidence is simply a realization that fundamentally we're all in the same boat. Fundamentally we all came in the same way. What were you wearing when you were born? Nothing.

Has anyone recently seen a really hot woman who they'd like to approach but didn't or the approach didn't go where they wanted? I want to picture


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that really hot woman in your mind. What was she wearing the day she was born? Nothing.

I guarantee you that something is going to happen to all of us one day. I don't make too many guarantees but I can absolutely guarantee that every person here today will undergo something. Something is going to happen to them. What is it? Death. You are going to die.

We all share the fundamental reality of being born naked, and we're all going to die. That woman who screamed at me in front of the Starbucks, she came in the same way I did, bookey-butt naked. I wanted to share that condition with her again but it didn't happen. She's going to go out one day when she stops breathing.

Not only is that true, but I know at every moment the same four fundamental forces are shaping her and me. Whether you want to view it as God, nature or the Tao, the same four fundamental forces, the same artist is shaping the clay of time, space, world matter, energy and all of us constantly.

One of these forces is craving. All of us experience pleasure and we want more of it. We crave that pleasure. You see the hot babe and you get a little jolt of pleasure. You want more. Every human, old, young, black, white, yellow, green, male, female or any transitory species in between the two sexes, experiences craving.

It's hardwired deep in the neurology of who we are. Very few people ever experience pure pleasure. They experience pleasure entangled with the craving, the grasping around it. It's hardwired in. The craving arises even before you are consciously aware of the pleasure. That craving arises right along with it. All human beings experience craving. Speed Seduction 3.0 | Program Transcript – Disc Four Copyright  2008, Ross Jeffries. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.speedseduction.biz

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The second force that is always tugging, pulling and constantly shaping who we are is aversion. We suffer but we don't want to suffer. We have pain and we tighten up or turn away from it. We do everything we can to avoid fear, uncertainty or physical discomfort. We're hungry and we don't want to be hungry. We're hot and you don't want to be hot.

Do you think that super-hot woman who you would like to sleep with or you're in love with or want to marry, do you think she doesn't experience craving and aversion? I guarantee she does.

The third one is unconsciousness. Every human being suffers because of unconsciousness. All of this ruminating you were doing about all the times you failed with women, were you consciously aware of what the result would be of doing that?

I'm willing to be that rumination was even going on in the background, as a background buzz, throughout your day, whether you were aware of it or not. Do you realize how much of your tension, anxiety and pain around women you've been carrying into every situation, even the ones that have nothing to do with women?

How many of you have found that rumination going on when you're doing something that has nothing to do with women. If it happens when you're at a party and supposedly enjoying yourself with people, or you're sitting at your desk at work, raise your hand.

That rumination is always going on unconsciously, causing suffering. There's unconsciousness. We want to change. We want to be different. Not just desires, unconscious aversions drive us and tear us apart.


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