Lessons from my 20s
Appendix:
exercises From the presentation
ABOUT THIS PRESENTATION
THIS presentation can be found Online at www.hive.org/20s
Thirteen exercises inside
1. Goals exercise
6. Meditation exercise
2. Vision board exercise 7. Habits exercise 3. Bucket List exercise
10. Financial plan exercise
4. Inner circle exercise
11. Values exercise
5. Mindset exercise
12. Team retreat exercise 13. Human rights exercise
GOALS EXERCISE
GOAL SETTING PROCESS 1
OPEN UP GOOGLE DOCS
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CREATE HEADINGS For 1 YRs, 10 YRs, AND LIFETIME
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THEN WRITE DOWN 5 TO 7 GOALS IN EACH CATEGORY MAKE EVERYTHING FIT ON ONE PAGE MAKE SURE ALL GOALS ARE MEASURABLE SO YOU’LL KNOW IF YOU GOT THERE OR NOT
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
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PRINT OUT TWO COPIES
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SIGN THEM
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FRAME THEM
GOAL SETTING PROCESS 7
PUT ONE FRAME IN YOUR BEDRO0M
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PUT ONE FRAME AT WORK
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SHARE YOUR ONE-PAGER WITH A CLOSE FRIEND
GOAL SETTING PROCESS 10 11
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DEC 26-31 CALCULATE RESULTS GREEN = MADE IT YELLOW = 50%+ there RED = <50% there UPDATE GOAL SHEET FOR THE NEXT YEAR & REPRINT/RESIGN/PUT IN FRAME
MAKING YOUR GOALS AMBITIOUS ENOUGH
YOU SHOULD BE HITTING AROUND OF YOUR GOALS
66%
IF HIGHER, THEN YOUR GOALS ARE NOT AMBITIOUS ENOUGh
LIFE PURPOSE exercise
How to FIND YOUR PURPOSE
EXERCISE: CREATE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
LIFE PURPOSE EXERCISE Instructions: 1. 2. 3. 4.
Print out this section so you can write in it with pen Use a timer to give yourself exactly 4 mins per question Write out the answers in the ovals At the end, you’ll bring it all together in a final one-page worksheet that you can frame if you choose 5. This exercise should take 90 minutes to complete
What do you really love doing? When am I most in flow/in the zone? What excites me? What makes me come alive and be joyous?
4 min
What does THE WORLD need? What does humanity and the world need to thrive? List as many things as you can think of.
4 min
HOW CAN I CREATE WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS WHILE DOING WHAT I LOVE? What are all the things you could do in life that would serve humanity in a big way and allow you to do what you love? Brainstorm below.
4 min
WHAT ARE MY PERSONAL FINANCIAL GOALS? What do you want your annual income to be in 10 years? In 20? What do you want to have saved up in investments and savings by age 65?
4 min
HOW CAN I GET PAID TO DO WHAT I LOVE? What could you do in life that would serve humanity in a big way, allow you to do what you love, and create economic value that allows you to reach and surpass your personal financial goals?
4 min
DESCRIBE HOW THE WORLD WILL BE DIFFERENT IN 2050 because of you
4 min
Close your eyes for 5 minutes and imagine all the little details of how our world will be different in 2050 because of you. Then write what you see.
WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO? What is so compelling to you that you might be willing to dedicate your life to making it happen? In other words, what might be your “life purpose.” Use the space to brainstorm.
4 min
WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO? See if you answer the above question as simply as possible so that a 10 year old would understand it. Try to do it in fewer than 15 words (no pressure, this is just a draft). This could be considered your “life purpose.”
4 min
POSSIBLE METRICS OF SUCCESS What are some metrics to track whether your life purpose is being realized in the world over the next 35 years? Make these metrics specific and quantitative so it will be clear when you’ve achieved the impact you want to make in your life.
Examples: Global infant mortality < 1%; Global energy from renewables >95%; Carbon dioxide under 350 PPM; Homelessness in Oakland, CA down by 80%
4 min
HOW MIGHT YOU MAKE THIS HAPPEN? What can you create/build/do during your life to help make this world that you dream of real? It’s okay if you aren’t completely sure yet. Brainstorm ideas.
4 min
LIFETIME GOALS
4 min
Brainstorm some goals for the rest of your life that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
10 YEAR GOALS
4 min
Brainstorm some goals for the next ten years that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
ONE YEAR GOALS
4 min
Brainstorm some goals for the next year that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
90 DAY Action plan What are the very first action steps you can take over the next 90 days to start realizing your vision? Who should you reach out to? What should you look into? What habits do want to start and stop?
4 min
YOUR DESIRED WAY OF BEING As you go about your journey in life, how do you want to be inside and come across to others? What words do you want to define you?
Examples: Joyous, mindful, alive, focused, driven, ambitious, kind, compassionate, loving
4 min
HOW OTHERS WILL REMEMBER YOU
4 min
People will help you reach your goals if they can remember what you’re all about. If often hard to discern what the people you meet are up to and who they need to be connected to. Make it simple for others you meet to remember what you’re up to by finishing the below sentence and making sure those you meet know what you’re up to in the world.
I will be known in my community as the
_______________________ ____________________
person. Examples: “I will be known in the world as the sustainable energy person” “I will be known in the world as the women’s rights advocate” “I will be known in the world as the global leaders convener”
NOW BRING IT ALL TOGETHER Worksheet)Instruc.ons) On the next page is a blank life plan form.
Give yourself some time to review and reflect on all your answers from the brainstorming session. Then print out and fill in the life plan form with a pen or pencil. Feel free to adjust your answers as you go, but don’t worry too much about getting it perfect.
Consider this form as just a draft. You can print out another one anytime.
There are no right answers and you can re-do your life plan as often as you want. I find just having something written down helps people a lot. I actually recommend re-doing this exercise at the end of each year.
I suggest framing the page after you’re done and putting it up in your office or bedroom.
15 min
Life Plan of ___________________________________ Life purpose
Metrics of success by 2050
How I’ll make It happen
My desired way of being
Lifetime goals
10 year goals
1 year goals
90 day action plan
I will be known in my community as the ______________________________ ______________________________ person. Signed on _______________, _______ 20___
X______________________________________
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
As an example Here is my current “life plan”
In the 1 page format I update it about 1x per year
Example: Life Plan of Ryan Allis Building a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world for all people
Life purpose
1) All people have access to the 6 BHNs 2) 95% energy from renewable sources 3) 0 major conflicts globally as defined by the UCDP
Metrics of success by 2050:
How I’ll make It happen:
1) Build Connect into a global platform for connecting communities 2) Build Hive into a global community of extraordinary leaders who are creating a better world.
Desired way of being:
Joyous, happy, fully alive 10 year goals
Lifetime goals
1. Be an extraordinary partner and father
1. 10 million people use Connect each day to stay connected
2. Catalyze a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world
2. Grow Hive to 10 profitable global locations
3. Create a Hive in 1000 cities around the world
3. Train others to hold Hive gatherings
4. Create the world’s most impactful network of global leaders
4. Build a relationship with an amazing life partner
5. Explore widely and be a lifelong learner
5. Travel widely to explore perspectives on human society, spirituality, and human potential
6. Live a joyous, happy, and fully alive life
6. Publish a book on creating an extraordinary life, world, and company 90 Day Action Plan
1 Year Goals
1. 1 million people us Connect each day to stay connected
1. Hold September 2014 Hive Global Leaders Program
2. Publish a book about making a difference in the world for initial feedback
2. Get Connect to 1,000,000 users
3. Hold 4 Hive Global Leaders Programs in San Francisco
3. Prepare Connect for Series A
4. Visit South America for the first time
4. Meditate daily
5. Build habit of meditating 6x per week
5. Travel with Nadia to England
6. Deepen relationship with Nadia
6. Publish Everything I Learned By 30 Presentation
I will be known in my community as the global leadership person. Signed on _______________, _______ 20___
X______________________________________
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Once you have it Share your life plan With five friends & mentors
In the next 14 days
AND GET THEIR FEEDBACK AND INPUT THEY MAY BE ABLE TO CONNECT YOU TO PEOPLE WHO CAN HELP
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
When you meet people you should be able to CLEARLY express
Your life purpose in 15 WORDS or less WITH AUTHENTIC EXCITEMENT IN A WAY THAT moves people WHEN YOU TELL THEM
Vision board exercise
VISION BOARDS
VISION BOARDS ARE WHITE POSTER BOARDS COVERED WITH CUT OUT IMAGES OF WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE IN YOUR FUTURE AND THE WORLD’S FUTURE
MY 2009 VISION BOARD
A Friend’s 2014 Vision board
VISION BOARD CREATING PROCESS SEARCH FOR & PRINT OUT AT LEAST 5 IMAGES IN EACH OF THE BELOW CATEGORIES
FAMILY HEALTH EDUCATION TRAVEL Adventure
CAREER FINANCIAL QUOTES VALUES ART
VISION BOARD CREATION PROCESS
ONCE PRINTED & TORN OUT CUT tO SIZE THEN PASTE OR TAPE ONTO YOUR VISION BOARD THEN SHARE IT WITH A FRIEND AND HANG IT IN YOUR BEDROOM
Bucket list exercise
BUCKET LISTS
BUCKET LISTs ALLOW YOU TO CAPTURE YOUR DREAMS THEY ARE another way to
CREATE YOUR FUTURE
BUCKET LISTS
YOU CAN CREATE THEM AS A LIST OR EVEN BETTER PUT THEM UP ON YOUR WALL WITH
POST-IT NOTES
BUCKET LISTS
YOU SHOULD UPDATE YOUR BUCKET LIST ONCE PER YEAR NEAR YOUR BIRTHDAY OR THE LAST 5 DAYS OF THE YEAR
CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
NOW, GO AHEAD GRAB SOME POST-iT NOTES OR OPEN A GOOGLE DOC AND START MAKING
YOUR BUCKET LIST
CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
WRITE DOWN ALL THE AMAZING EXPERIENCES YOU WANT TO HAVE OVER THE REST OF YOUR LIFE
AND DREAM BIG
INNER CIRCLE EXERCISE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
ON A SHEET OF PAPER LIST
YOUR TOP 20 FRIENDS
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
NEXT, circle the names of THE 10 people WHO inspire you MOST BASED ON WHAT THEY ARE DOING WITH THEIR LIVES
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Now, create a new list of 10 people You aren’t very close with
who inspire you
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Finally, combine the lists of 10 to create your
NEW INNER CIRCLE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
SPEND YOUR TIME WITH inspiring PEOPLE WHO ARE
UP TO SOMETHING BIG IN THE WORLD that will help others
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
IF YOU don’t know enough inspiring people Who are up to something big in the world
Join the networks Listed in the networks section Of this presentation
Mindset exercise
Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper Write down for 5 minutes how your life would be Different if you never worried And were never anxious
Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper Write down for 5 minutes All the things that are holding you Back that you can just give up And choose to put in the past
Meditation exercise
EXERCISE: alternate nostril breathing
First watch the video on Alternate nostril breathing
(bit.Ly/alternatenostrils)
Now, sit on the ground cross legged Follow the video instructions for 5 minutes Afterward, make note of how your brain feels
Exercise: Sun salutation Get on the floor and actually try to do 2 sun salutations
Video at http://bit.ly/sunsalutationvideo
HABITS Exercise
EXERCISE: HABITS
FIRst, Get a sheet of paper and And write down all your HABITS
you want to stART
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all All the habits
you want to stOP
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all All the habits
you want to CONTINUE
EXERCISE: HABITS
Next, write down bullets of how You’d be Be better off if you IMPLEMENTED YOUR new habit system
EXERCISE: HABITS
NOW make a weekly plan to ACTUALLY Implement the HABITS IN YOUR LIFE THAT CREATE THE RESULTS YOU WANT
EXERCISE: HABITS
FINALLY, open up your calendar And put your new habits ACTUALLY ON YOUR CALENDAR on REPEAT
FINANCIAL PLAN EXERCISE
EXERCISE: Creating a basic financial plan This exercise should take about 30 minutes. You can do it now or come back to it.
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
Calculate your current monthly income after taxes Calculate your current total monthly expenses Add up your savings, investments, and other assets Calculate the total amount of debt you have Set a goal for your monthly income and expenses 2 years from now Use these figures to fill out the sheet on the next page
Exercise: Creating A BASIC Financial Plan Financial Plan of __________ Assets
Debts
Net Worth
Present Monthly Income
Expenses
Cashflow
24 Months From Now Monthly Goal Income
Expenses
Cashflow
Signed X__________________________ this ____ day of _____ 20_____
Values EXERCISE
Exercise: VALUES
Write down the 10 most important
Values to you?
Life Lessons EXERCISE
Exercise: life lessons
Write down the 3 most important
Life lessons You have ever learned
Team Retreat Exercises
Building connection & Familiarity within your team
HERE ARE 4 retreat Exercises that are Worthwhile to do with
Your team
Exercise 1: Inner and outer story
ASK each TEAM member TO share: 1. 120 seconds - ACCOMPLISHMENTS and resume (OUTER STORY) 2. 240 seconds – YOUR HIDDEN INNER STORY Deep down inside what do you worry about? What are you insecure about? WHAT HAVE YOU STRUGGLED WITH MOST IN THE LAST 2 years? What are you afraid of BEHIND THE FAÇADE? FOR A SUCCESSFUL EXERCISE, BE SURE TO TAKE THE TIME TO Create a setting of confidentiality and openness to being vulnerable
Exercise 2: the change you wish to make 1. HAVE EACH team member SPEND 5 minutes to think about and then WRITE DOWN in NO MORE THAN 10 words THE ANSWER TO: “what change do you want to make in the world WITH YOUR LIFE?” 2. Then have each person share their 1 sentence with the group 3. THEN have EACH PERSON ONE AT A TIME STAND UP AND ANSWER THE QUESTION “WHY DO YOU DO WHAT YOU DO?” For 4 minutes For a successful exercise • If the speaker finishes talking before the 4 minutes is up, ask them the question again and have them answer it again • Don’t allow any other question to be asked during the 4 minutes
Exercise 3: Pivotal moments
1. HAVE EACH PERSON WRITE DOWN 4 pivotal moments in their life 2. HAVE EACH PERSON SHARE THE 4 pivotal moments and how they handled them and dealt with them with the group FOR A SUCCESSFUL EXERCISE • CREATE AN ENVIRONMENT OF CARE AND CONFIDENTIALITY
Exercise 4: Crucible moments
1. PAIR OFF INTO TWOs IN A QUIET LOCATION 2. HAVE ONE PERSON TAKE 5 minutes to share the story of the most difficult and vulnerable MOMENT IN THEIR LIFE 3. HAVE THE PARTNER ASK EXACTLY 3 follow-up questions 4. THEN SWITCH ROLES FOR A SUCCESSFUL EXERCISE • ALLOT AT LEAST 30 minutes for the exercise as the exercise can bring up difficult emotional situations that require time to process BEFORE THE SESSION CONTINUES
Human rights EXERCISE
Exercise: human rights
Write down two principles you would Create for the world if you were a Pre-birth soul and didn’t know where you’d be born, your skin color, your gender, or your Parent’s income
Exercise: human rights
Now, write down: Are you committed to working toward Creating a world based on those principles?
Why or why not?
