Michael J. Emery
20 PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
SECRETS MOST PEOPLE
NEVER LEARN! NEVER LEARN!
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WHAT IS PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT? What you need to know about enhancing your self-awareness, building life skills, choosing your personal identity, resolving limiting beliefs and experiences, and uncovering latent talents and abilities.
One of the philosophical fathers of Western culture, Plato, wrote the Allegory of the Cave nearly 2,500 years ago. Ironically, it is perhaps
rather than the mere shadows seen by the prisoners. At the end of the passage, Plato expresses
more relevant today than it was when it was
that education is not a process of putting
written.
knowledge into empty minds, but of making
In The Republic, Republic, Socrates describes a group of people who have lived chained to the
people realize that which they already know. In our modern era, perhaps these
wall of a cave all of their lives, facing a blank
“shadows” have changed form; in some cases,
wall. The people watch shadows projected on
becoming clearer than shadows, but more
the wall by things passing in front of a fire
elusive than ever. The mass of humanity suffers
behind them, and begin to ascribe forms to
an endless barrage of media messages from all
these shadows. According to Socrates, the
sides. The hopes and fears many experience on
shadows are as close as the prisoners get to
various levels of consciousness are directly
viewing reality. reality. He then explains how the
derived from the degree to which a person
philosopher is like a prisoner who is freed from
knows oneself... We are all prisoners who hold
the cave and comes to understand that the
the keys to our freedom, when we perceive the
shadows on the wall do not make up reality at
forms for what they are... illusions. Be your own
all, as he can perceive the true form of reality
philosopher and determine your own path.
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Plato’s Allegory of the Cave Only knowledge of the Forms constitutes real knowledge. Begin recognizing patterns and systems as a key to freedom.
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Personal Development is about accepting responsibility and taking control of your life. It includes the activities, exercises, and learning opportunities that enhance selfawareness and facilitate an empowered identity. Nearly all, but a small fraction of the population are just “doing time.” By this, I mean going through the motions and repeating what their
This is an intangible, qualitative concept that could aptly be described as, “you know it when you’ve got it, and you know it when you don’t...” My opinion is: unless you pursue a path of creative work, you are no better than an ox chained to a plow wandering across a field...
Relationships Intimate, familial and social relationships all
parents did or striving for the social accolades
require the ability to communicate effectively. A
that media messengers deem as important.
major challenge in today’s relationships is due to
Personal development can include the
media influences that manufacture dissent and distrust between couples and a lack of empathy
following activities:
Health
Wealth
• improving self-awareness / self-knowledge
for other human beings. It isn’t all about you.
• choosing your identity
Spirituality
• developing internal resources
For centuries, religion had held the claim to
• identifying and improving potential
spiritual experience and expression. Even today
• enhancing your lifestyle
religious persecution occurs around the world
• choosing a life path
and only a few generations ago “witches” were
• improving social abilities
burned at the stake for their practices. Oddly enough, my profession would have either landed
Health
me a job in a royal court or a turn at the
Optimizing your physical wellbeing means
Wealth
inquisition rack. Spirituality is your connection to
understanding the foundational building blocks
the qualitative experiences in life - those things
of health. This includes applying the latest
which are beyond words and are often
advances in nutrition, exercise, and rest.
described as a sense of “oneness.”
Relationshi s What do you talk about...? There’s no need for extensive case studies just do your own empirical research when it comes to the context of your next conversation. My guess is that the majority of your conversations fall into the contexts of health, wealth, relationships, and spirituality. These are what we fixate upon and harness our resources to experience in life.
S iritualit
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You don’t know what you don’t know. A Johari window is a cognitive psychological tool created by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham, used to help people better understand their interpersonal communication and relationships.
to proactively pursue your personal development.
Often pain is the catalyst for change. Pain comes in many forms: heartbreak in
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the form of a relationship ending or never beginning; illness, death and dying; financial distress or loss; change in-or a sudden awareness of-social status; and, undesired circumstances. Typically, the pain is so great or seemingly unbearable that most people will do anything to get away from it. In my opinion, this is directly related to the rampant, widespread usage of symptom-suppressive (pharmaceutical) medicine. Pain is your mind/body’s way of saying, “Hey, pay attention. Something is wrong!” But if it is only masked and not heeded, then the symptoms will continue indefinitely. Embrace pain as your call to the Hero’s Journey, and in hindsight this will make sense.
As with all models, there are generalizations and margins for error, but what the Johari Window demonstrates is that there
Pleasure is a different catalyst for change. A sign of one’s personal development is
are perceptions others have of us of which we
the ability to begin psychologically, physically,
are not aware, things that we know but no one
and emotionally choosing the actions and
else knows, and additionally there is the
behaviors necessary to move you closer to
mysterious individual unconscious part of us of
desired experiences. Instead of moving away
which no one is aware. This is the realm of my
from what you don’t want (the reaction we’re
Attention Shifting programs - drawing out of you
conditioned to experience), you begin
the innate abilities and capabilities you have
consciously determining exactly what you want.
while sharing with you the resources you need
The next step is proactive preparation for those moments you’ve been waiting to experience.
Where are you going...? "Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” [said Alice] “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat. "I don’t much care where--" said Alice. "Then it doesn’t matter which way you go," said the Cat. ~ Lewis Carroll Alice in Wonderland
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20 Personal Development Secrets
towards a specific event. As you realize these
the universe is unexpected change which of
subtle distinctions, you’ll find that you are
course brings along with it a great deal of
actually in control of many more situations than
uncertainty and chaos. Embrace it , realizing
1. Your greatest challenge is your biggest opportunity.
you might have believed. It’s all a matter of how
that no one gets out of life alive. In the rare
you perceive it...
occasions you manage to do this, you’ll look back realizing that you are the calm in the heart
everybody who seeks therapy has a story. “The
3. Live at the edge of your comfort zone.
patient who comes to us has a story that is not
I believe that we’ve been misled to pursue
told, and which as a rule no one knows of. To
balance as a final resting place in our lives.
my mind, therapy only really begins after the
Many of the experiences we attempt to make
investigation of that wholly personal story. It is
happen in during our lifetimes are based upon
the patient's secret, the rock against which he is
processes that require leaving the state of
different, or at least that’s what they’ll say... I’ve
shattered. If I know his secret story, I have a key
equilibrium. Consider fitness as an example -
also heard the highway to hell is paved with
to treatment.” (Memories, Dreams, Reflections,
you break down muscle tissue so that it
good intentions. And, just to fit one more
p.117) Jung also stated, “what you resist
generates more size and strength. You do this
maximin in here, an old mentor of mine used to
persists.” As you move forward to take on the
by pushing and pulling it out of balance. From
constantly tell me that there are millions of
greatest challenge in your life, you’ll find that it
one perspective, balance is what you’re
people out there in the world dying of terminal
requires that you surpass the levels of
experiencing right now in this very second.
potential. The bottom line is you’re getting
mediocrity that society has laid out for you to
Regardless of whether or not things are calm or
exactly what you want - on one level or another.
follow. We all have an Achilles heel, and like the
chaotic as this state continues in your life in the
So, if it’s not working for you it’s time to check
Greek hero we must move forward toward our
form of something that you desire to get away
your blind spot (unconscious mind) and set a
purpose regardless of that weak spot. When you
from her move out of, then you’re likely in a
different course for the future.
accept it, you’ll likely find that the more painful
state of equilibrium now. I believe that there is a
and secretive it is, the more people have
point at which we can all find ourselves at the
experienced it also. Accept, integrate, and
edge of uncertainty and discomfort, while
7. Everyone else is really waiting for you to lead.
transcend... This is your biggest opportunity.
internally finding the sensation of being alert,
The average person makes a big deal about
2. Fear will always be an option.
relaxed, and leaned back as we move into the
getting his or her way when it comes to minutia
future. It is at this edge that we are the most
(the minor details). This is just an ego-based,
alive. If you don’t believe me, consider all the
narcissistic pissing contest. When it is really
people who are thrill seekers trying to find
time for significant leadership, the valedictorian,
adrenaline rushes while staying safe.
the class president, the quarterback, the head
4. No one else really cares.
cheerleader, the office manager, and the
one want to seek it out, but for the most part we have been pretty sheltered when you contrast
Period. Not even your closest friends and family,
our lives by the lifestyles of our ancestors
because in many ways they’ve decided to
hundreds and thousands of years ago. Modern
accept you as you are... It’s harsh, I know, but
fear reveals itself in two forms: anxiety and
everybody else is too busy worrying about their
overwhelm. Anxiety is the same fight or flight
problems and how they’re going to get an ahead
response that fear creates, but instead, anxiety
in life. If you don’t change or don’t do anything
is based upon hypothetical, imagined scenarios
extraordinary in your life it won’t really upset
taking place within a person’s mind. The mind-
them. However, you will find that tension can
body processes this imagined scenario as
exist when you begin to make changes. They’ll
something that is actually happening and this
test you to see how congruent you are with your
results in a sympathetic response within the
endeavors. Take their tests as a compliment and
body. Overwhelm, is what occurs when a person
a sign that you’re moving forward...
tries to maintain a constant too far out in time
5. You’re really not that flexible.
The psychologist Carl Jung believed that
For most people living in the West, there isn’t much actual fear in the sense of us being physically threatened with pain or the loss of life. Of course, this is always readily available should
(often perceived internally as distant in time/ space). The further away an event or experience is, the less control one actually has over it. Overwhelm is bringing too many events to the forefront of one’s mind while overlooking the immediate small steps necessary to move
Paradoxically, there seem to be only two constants in life (perhaps three if you count death): uncertainty and chaos. We tend to prefer change when it’s on our terms and we can anticipate a degree of uncertainty. In some cases, the greatest gift we can ever receive from
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of the storm.
6. What you’re experiencing is exactly that to which you are the most committed. A lot of people want to do a lot of things
neighborhood bully usually can’t be found. When you say you’re going to do something, people will go through a variety of stages. First, they’ll demonstrate disbelief and say “sure whatever.” Second, once you’ve been moderately successful, they will say they supported you from the very beginning. And, lastly, when you become very successful, they will tell everyone they know how they knew you you’d be a success from the very beginning. Don’t wait for them or their approval, because they’re waiting for you.
8. There will always be an excellent excuse. No matter what you want to do, there will be an equal, if not greater, force pushing you in the opposite direction. The most effective way to stay on track it is to learn how to give yourself double binds. Remove failsafes and establish a
path forward with many options, but destroy the
social rejection. On the other hand, I believe
constant, that I mentioned earlier is that in life no
possibilities of retreat. And when it gets tough,
there is that thing you do naturally, no matter
one gets out alive. Death awaits us all. The
as it always will when you’re doing something
how marginalized or how great it might be... It is
challenge is that none of us know what our final
significant, remind yourself that you’re only
the one thing that has been a marker of personal
moment might be. We can either ignore this, and
getting warmed up.
success and victory. It is up to you to learn how
fear it, or, we can live each day as though it’s our
9. At the end of the day, only you are responsible for your life.
to transmute this thing that you have done
last while planning to stay alive until our twilight
throughout your life into a larger spectrum of
years. There is the often used maxim, carpe
service and value. I’ll tell you mine, trusting that
diem, yet with all the busyness of life we tend to
someplace at the core part of you in charge of
push that aside. Ultimately, it is not until we face
making your most important decisions, this will
the brevity of life, and not that of someone
spark the fire of inspiration. I flunked the first
else’s, but our own short, fragile existence that
grade. In hindsight, I don’t even know how that
we can draw true power and perspective in the
was possible, but I flunked. I could not write and
moment. I often say, and do my best to follow
I could not read. I spent more time in the
through, with the statement: “act as if...” today,
principal’s office suffering from homesickness
tomorrow, and until the final day, act as if it is
which is actually a form of anxiety. Yet, oddly
your last and live from your heart. And, to death
enough within the following two years I’d
there on your left shoulder, smile and say, “not
become one of the most voracious readers in
today.”
my peer group; reading anything and everything
12. No one can do it for you.
People are being gradually acclimatized to not taking responsibility for their actions behaviors. We live in a litigious society. If you slip on the floor you can sue someone. If someone tries to save you from dying while administering CPR, and you sustain injuries from their attempt to save them, you can sue that person. If a business sells you coffee and you spill it on yourself, you can sue them for selling hot coffee. The “system” is designed to babysit people so that they give away their sense of personal power and responsibility. It is human nature to try to place the blame on someone or something else, but doing so rarely resolves anything. This is an external locus of control, and people who live by this live in a world of blame and act as the poster children for irresponsibility. When you shift control inwards and assume responsibility for even the strangest or most challenging of circumstances, regardless of its
I could get my hands on, and this hasn’t stopped. From the outside, it’s no big deal; quite insignificant actually if you consider how many people can read, but for me it was a personal victory in something that I have channeled into my unique way of serving and adding value. What is your’s?
11. Death is waiting.
Nope. Not your doctor; not your psychologist; not your politician; not your favorite athlete; not your favorite entertainer; not your pastor, imam, priest, guru, or any other holy man/woman. And, definitely not me. At best we can serve as guides, inspiring you, and at worst we will distract you from your purpose. This is your life, your fragment of time, you deal with the
degree of truth, at least you’re choosing to
The author Carlos Castaneda shared that the
consequences, and you accept full responsibility
participate in a way that gives you power To
shaman Don Juan told him that death sitting on
for your thoughts, your emotions, and your
decide, act, and choose.
his left shoulder is his most powerful teacher. "A
actions. That’s how it’s always been, and this is
10. Someplace on the spectrum between your greatest fear and most innate talent lies your opportunity for greatness.
detached man, who knows he has no possibility
how it will stay when you choose to keep your
of fencing off his death, has only one thing to
personal power.
back himself with: the power of his decisions.
13. It is okay to be mad at your parents...
Most people don’t have a clear understanding of
choice is his responsibility and once he makes it
what they fear. In many cases fear is elusive,
there is no longer time for regrets or
and spread throughout various contexts in their
recriminations. He decisions are final, simply
lives as a generalized sensation that is felt but
because death does not permit him time to cling
rarely observed. Observe your fear, treat it like a
to anything... The knowledge of his death guides
part of you, and chunk up to its highest intention
him and makes him detached and silently lusty;
in your life. Learning how to chunk up from
the power of his final decisions makes him able
specific fears, to larger and more encompassing
to choose without regrets and what he chooses
meta-fears will give you an idea as to how much
is always strategically the best; and so he
fear has been generalized in your life. Often, its
performs everything he has to with gusto and
highest purpose is just to keep people safe, and
lusty efficiency.” (A Separate Reality p. 184) For
now you know this you can establish more
many people this is a morbid thought. there’s
effective ways for managing fear. As you read
been so much speculation around death – and
earlier, most of the time this fear is in the form
what might happen after - that many of us have
of anxiety or overwhelm. However, the two
become ingrained with certain belief systems.
major fears that exist are: the fear of immediate
Or, at least fragments of systems, and usually
personal injury and/or death, and the fear of
the perpetual damnation variation. The one
He has to be, so to speak, the master of his choices. He must fully understand that his
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There is no manual for raising children. Some parents are downright horrible and some are amazingly inspirational. For whatever reason, and you can think of a multitude of different meanings to assign, from burning off karma to the chaotic luck of the draw in the multiverse. Regardless, you survived childhood in one form or another as is evidenced by the fact that you’re reading this now. You learned a lot. And, you can re-learn it all differently if what you “learned” hasn’t served you. Perhaps, you could take it as a personal cause to do your part to ensure that those initial learning experiences will not be repeated on your watch. And going the opposite direction, to promise to uphold the sanctity of the positive learning experience so that future generations will benefit from them.
Emotions are energy. Stagnant emotions are
all have the opportunity to make this our
the human body cell tissue is constantly being
stagnant energy. Stagnation in the human body
vocation. Any problem in the world is an
renewed. Some cells last a few days and others
body can, over time, turn into cancer. Likewise,
opportunity for you to hone your skill sets,
may last years. Research indicates that possibly
stagnant emotions that are not processed
develop resources, face fears, and champion a
all cells - except for a select few cell types in
through the body will eat away at you. So, it is
cause. Throughout your life, you will encounter
the brain and the heart - are recycled. The
up to you to move them out and process them.
the weak and the helpless, you will have
perception many people have might be to think
Be angry, be hurt, be helpless, be whatever you
countless opportunities to inspire and lead
of their body as a fairly permanent structure,
need to be until you fully access those emotions
through your actions. You can draw upon the
most of it is in a state of constant flux as old
and release them; consciously letting go of hurt.
resources left behind by those who go before
cells are discarded and new ones generated in
Forgive your parents and anyone else who
you, and you can create resources for those
their place. Each kind of tissue has its own
wronged you. There is a Buddhist saying that
who follow your footsteps. Inspire autonomy,
turnover time, depending in part on the
holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
independence, and resourcefulness and the
workload endured by its cells. The cells lining
and attempting to throw it at another person-
cause you champion will one day be won.
the stomach last only five days. After traveling
you are the one who is burned. In most cases,
Sometimes, simply saying “no” is a revolutionary
nearly 1,000 miles through the maze of the
your parents did the best they could based upon
action, and if you’ll reflect for a moment on
body's circulatory system, red blood cells last
the resources they had while dealing with the
history countless men and woman courageously
only 120 days or so on average before being
situation at hand. Whatever happened then was
sacrificed their lives for you, defending your
dispatched to their graveyard in the spleen. As
the past, and reading this now makes you
liberties and freedom, simply by wielding my
this is a process that is continuing as long as
responsible for the present and moving forward.
favorite word. “No.”
your heart is beating, you’re changing in many
14. Only you can define your personal standard for integrity.
16. You’re constantly nominalizing.
and all ways... Embrace it and generalize this
A hypocrite is someone who does not take his/
In the field of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), a nominalization is what occurs
change systemically through all areas of your life and you learn empowering skill sets, discover metaphors, and enjoy growing.
her own advice, or demands that others do what
when a process becomes static. Typically our
they would not. As is evidenced by current
linguistic representation [nominalization] of
events, integrity is not dependent upon
experiences [nominalization] deletes,
education, social class, or religion. The
generalizes, and distorts a process
emotions are good while others are bad. What
supposed best and brightest in academia have
[nominalization] in its entirety [nominalization]. In
if, neither is the case. Instead emotions are
been caught up in all sorts of corporate financial
fact, much of what we communicate
packets of energy, carrying signals throughout
scandals. Those who we believe to have
[nominalization] is being nominalized
your mind-body. We tend to channel our
concrete philosophical backgrounds, when
[nominalization]. nominalization occurs when a
emotions through external sources. I won’t be
appointed to political positions have more often
verb, adjective, or adverb becomes a noun.
gender specific since it’s irrelevant, but
than not cheated, lied, and sold out the very
This may not seem very important, but many
someone who is experiencing a lack of passion
citizens they promised to represent. Then, there
problems occur when people perceive
in his or her life might turn to a romantic movie
are those religious leaders who purport to
processes as static, non-changing events. For
or book to fill this void. On the other hand,
represent the teachings of the specific belief
example, think of a relationship. This term
someone who is channeling aggression might
system yet their actions go against the very core
actually represents a process of relating to
take it out at the gym or by watching mixed
message of that religion, and they wield their
another person. Problems may arise when one
martial arts competitions. I’m personally
followers as a weapon bringing death instead of
or both people involved in a relationship believe
indifferent about the outlet of these emotions, as
spiritual life. When it comes down to it, all you
it will not change. If there is a challenge you’re
long as they do not harm others. I’m more so
have is your personal sense of integrity.
experiencing, my guess is that it is something
interested in people realizing they are in charge
Understand what it is, be certain about how you
that has been nominalized, or perceived as a
of any emotional experience. The English word
developed it, and be flexible enough to adapt it
static event. Linguistically, it is easier to convey
emotion is derived from the French word
to circumstance. You are the measure of your
and “grammatically proper,” but dramatically
émouvoir. This is based on the Latin emovere,
meaning...
hinders our perceptions of events. Change a
where e- (variant of ex-) means "out" and
15. Life is meaningless until you champion a cause.
problem into a process and you’ll find yourself
movere means "move." The related term
perceiving many options that were previously
"motivation" is also derived from the word
elusive.
movere. When perceived this way the best
People who say, “what is the point,” have either
17. You’re continuously changing.
emotions to practice, are the emotions that have
lost the connection to their personal cause, or never fully developed it. Participation in something that is greater than oneself, benefitting others, is the highest calling, and we
Some people believe they don’t change, others insist that they don’t want to change, and quite a few agree that we can’t help but change. In
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18. All emotions are energy. As children, we tend to learn that some
the best long-term benefits for you and those around you. Every emotion has a “residue” you carry with you, and it is up to you to decide what you want to associate with your being.
19. You’ll never be fooled when you follow your gut instinct. The gut instinct is what kept your ancestors alive long enough to procreate. You are here today because of the instinctual drive to live and create. Your gut instinct is a part of your unconscious mind whose role it is to ensure you stay alive. Of course, this is just my own definition and you’re free to make up your own but what is important is to realize that your gut instinct is here to serve and keep you safe. It runs based upon what has been imprinted upon your paradigm. Often, throughout your life will find that what you desire to do conflicts with your gut instinct. This is not a sign that what you
results-oriented might borrow from various systems and create their own. You can probably guess what I do. And, I encourage you to approach all experiences and information with a degree of skepticism and open-mindedness. But don’t believe me. Try it for yourself. Do your own research. Be responsible for your own life. Live in a way that inspires you to greatness. Do what moves you. As Joseph Campbell said, “follow your bliss.” This will take you down the strangest of paths, and create the most rewarding of experiences. It will be tough. You will be challenged. There will be times in which you doubt you’ll be able to continue. You’ll feel the greatest of agonies and the most refreshing joys of fulfillment.
are trying to do is wrong, but instead a warning for you to reconsider what you want and if it still seems congruent with your ideals and values then update your paradigm by re-imprinting it.
But don’t believe me, find out for yourself...
Be forewarned, the your gut instinct may not allow you to do what seems to be okay for
Be Amazing.
others. This may change over time, or quickly if it is reframed with new understandings or information, or it may never change. If it is something you really desire to experience, then gradually acclimatize yourself to the experience by taking precise, effortless steps toward it. Let go of the outcome and focus more upon the inner dialogue of permission and imagery. After all, there is some perceived danger or partsconflict occurring in this scenario.
20. Don’t believe anyone. Not even me. The majority of people are followers. In practically every situation they are leaking their personal power. Most often, our egos do their best to prevent us from being wrong. In our current society there is an abundance of opinions, information, misinformation, and disinformation. Statistics can be skewed to serve practically any purpose - at least 79% of the time for half the population. There are many truths out there and it is easy to create truisms especially since you’re reading this right now, but the objective truth is better left in the halls of philosophy. You are free to create your own belief system. There are many rules in the universe - some of which are even referred to as laws - but ultimately it’s up to you to choose or not choose how you live your life. Those who are afraid of being wrong will follow somebody else’s system, and those who are
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ATTENTION SHIFTING PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT RESOURCES
Place your attention on the experiences you desire to have in life... At the first sign of trouble, we tend to habitually recall the last failed experience or imagine a negative possible outcome. I believe human beings are wired this way as a survival mechanism to keep us alert and aware of potential danger. But, it doesn't necessarily work to our benefit in most situations. The "T-Rex is chasing me" (fight or flight ) response to someone cutting us off in traffic, or the notice that our boss wants to speak with us is old programming. That said, we "can't help but learn..." and these default reactions are engrained, hardwired into our DNA. But you can learn to control your emotional states and mindset, and as a result control your behavior. If we can't help but learn, then it's probably in our best interest to reframe our learning behaviors and practice empowering outcomes for old situations. This is the process of creating new neural pathways synapses firing and sending messages along neural tissue resulting in new
congruent with what you have practiced, and if you haven't practiced a specific outcome... Well then, just about anything might happen,
behavior.
but it probably won't be what you want. There a very few
This is learning and what you practice, you perfect;
opportunities you’ll have in life to experience an
imagined or real. And, this is the main purpose behind
environment in which you can practice state
the Attention Shifting personal development programs.
management and develop emotional resources. This
These hypnosis and NLP-based audios give you an
isn’t new age, fluffy talk about the “secret” Law of
opportunity to rehearse and practice specific
Attraction, nor is it the deep hypnotism of forgetfulness.
situations; resulting in the creation of new neural
Instead, this is about reclaiming your personal power,
pathways.
facing fears, and overcoming challenges. All in all, it is
There will always be surprises and challenges in life.
about you succeeding, pursuing significance, and
How you [re]act in response to the situation will be
becoming your own source of inspiration.
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 4 mp3 audio files / 75 minutes total • Track 1: A+ Student 1 - Program overview and guided imagery techniques. • Track 2: A+ Student 2 - Theta brainwaves that are effective for studying, writing, memorization, and focused reading. • Track 3: Alpha Brainwave - Effective for active learning, presenting, and acting. • Track 4: Delta Brainwave - Effective for deep meditation, brainstorming, and drawing upon intuition. One of the biggest obstacles for students of all ages is finding a way to effectively study, learn, and complete assignments without being distracted. Often students waste more time with distractions than they spend actually studying. Learn more about the A+ Student NLP and Hypnosis audio program... Direct Download: 26 mp3 audio programs / 230+ minutes total Advanced Sports Imagery for Athletes is a 26-part audio program series for athletes that will teach you how to apply the best techniques in the fields of guided imagery, sports psychology, self-hypnosis and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). In most sports, the majority of the emphasis is placed upon outer game skills such as physical conditioning, endurance training, and exercises related to a specific sport. The inner game is a bit more elusive. Exceptional athletes at every level tend to develop inner game skills like an understanding of the rules, strategies, and psychology of a specific sport. Yet, the most important element that completes the outer game and inner game skills is an athlete’s ability to change his or her beliefs and learn to control his or her emotions, mindset, and actions. Learn more about Advanced Sports Imagery for Athletes... Direct Download: 14 mp3 audio programs / 400 minutes of audio All 14 of the Attention Shifting 1.0 personal development audio programs in one folder. Save $4.00 and get all of the 1.0 audio programs for only $10.00. Attention Shifting 1.0 consists of the following programs: Put Off Procrastination, Expressive Personality, Expressive Personality 2, Complete Confidence, Attracting Wealth, Dynamic Determination, A+ Student, Healing the Inner Child, Applying Anger, Deep Sleep, Release Stress and Anxiety, From Depression to Hope, Disappearing Cancer, and The Call. You can also download this bundle as part of the $75 Attention Shifting bundle and save. Learn more about the Attention Shifting 1.0 NLP and Hypnosis bundle...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 29 minute mp3 audio program What if your anger was perceived to be like a fuel? Most people are afraid to even show anger because they don't trust that they can experience anger and still be in control. What if you could? What things in your life could you apply all energy this toward? Applying Anger is a unique 30 minute program that creates a private, safe place for a person to experience and redirect their anger. When directed and applied, anger can become one of your most powerful resources for achieving what you want in life. Learn more about the Applying Anger - NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 850 minutes (14 hours) of hypnosis and NLP based personal development programs in mp3 audio format. Attention Shifting 1.0, 2.0 and 3.0 are included in this compilation. The 1.2 gigabyte bundle includes: Dynamic Determination, Pure Focus, Creative Space, Compelling Clarity, From Depression to Hope, End Your Day Perfectly, Start Your Day Right, The Call, Applying Anger, Just Your Luck Beginning to Change, Reclaim Your Life, Attracting Wealth, Expressive Personality, Transpersonal Meditation, A+ Student, Release Stress, Complete Confidence, Healing the Inner Child, Full Forgiveness, Sheer Resolve, Deep Sleep, Advanced Sports Imagery, Re-imprinting Yourself, and Put Off Procrastination. Learn more about the Attention Shifting Bundle...
Direct Download: 25 minute mp3 audio program The Attracting Wealth audio program will take you through several exercises specifically designed to strengthen your sense of deservedness, align your purpose with your values, integrate new ways of attracting wealth into your life and creating clarity in your unique way of living in abundance. Learn more about the Attracting Wealth NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
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OVERVIEW Direct download: 32 minute mp3 audio program What would it be like if you were able to clearly visualize an object or perfectly hold a concept in your mind's eye for as long as you desired? Perhaps, for you, it might be something as complicated as detailed diagrams with thousands of integrated components, or maybe something as seemingly simple as the form of an apple turning and rotating, zooming in and out, changing colors and size as is appropriate. A Zen-like state of "no mind" will allow you to experience clear cognition, allowing fleeting distractions that have captured your attention the past to fade away in order to understand your world with a compelling sense of clarity. Learn more about the Compelling Clarity NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 30 minute mp3 audio program Confidence is not necessarily related to just social situations or interacting with other people. Your level of confidence is shaped by your feelings - by expanding the sphere of what you believe to be possible for you - you create the flexibility to respond competently and proactively when it is important. Very few people take the time to practice what they ideally want to experience in life, and are often left responding unprepared to the demands of their environment. As always, it's your choice to decide how you will live. I believe you will be amazed with the clarity and confidence you can live with by incorporating this practice into your life. Learn more about the Complete Confidence NLP and hypnosis program...
Direct Download: 27 minute mp3 audio program Creativity is a mind/body process resulting in the generation of new ideas, concepts, and associations. Or, perceptions between previously unrelated elements and elements sharing similarity. Divergent thought is both original and appropriate for the challenge, need, or opportunity at hand. The Latin root creatus literally means to have grown. And, during this time, you will have many opportunities to see beyond limitations and capture original thoughts. The purpose for this program is to create a white room, a specific space in your mind, or a place that only you will know about... Here you will be able to store all thoughts, ideas and plans that are relevant to your needs. This space is specifically reserved for your creative process. Learn more about the Creative Space NLP and hypnosis program...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 22 minute mp3 audio program Deep Sleep is designed with soothing sounds and ambient dimensions to bring even the most restless of minds to slow down and relax into restful REM sleep. Specific sound frequencies scientifically shown to slow the brain's activity are used in this program to create an environment for deep sleep. If you suffer from insomnia, anxiety, or random thoughts running through your mind when you are trying to sleep, then try a natural way to safely fall asleep. This program is specifically designed to train your body how to enter a state of restful sleep. Learn more about the Deep Sleep NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 51 minute mp3 audio program This program will affect the way a person faced with the challenges of cancer interacts with their friends and family, and how they can move into well-being. It doesn't matter if you pay close attention to what is being said, or if you quickly doze off to the ambient music - you will wake refreshed and hopeful. Don't be too surprised if forgiveness occurs; old, broken relationships are mended; and you find a sense of peace beyond words with the situation at hand. Learn more about the Disappearing Cancer NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 16 minute mp3 audio program This NLP program is designed to empower you to take the necessary steps toward what you want to experience. By building upon the small steps, you can quickly move toward success in what you want. Many people have big picture wishes or hopes, but they have not identified the little steps in-between, which when linked together will absolutely contribute to success. Perfect for mental and emotional rehearsal before important events. Learn more about the Dynamic Determination NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 20 minute mp3 audio program Communication with your unconscious mind is by definition hypnosis. When you use your own internal imagery, create your own imagined scenarios, visualize, and experience emotions as a result of your internal imagery - this is self-hypnosis. I've personally found that the best way to access my unconscious mind is through the use of guided visualization prior to falling asleep. Imagine this to be like planting seeds in the field of your unconscious. When you pay attention to will permeate throughout your mind and body; resulting in the emotions, mindsets, and the actions that you experience in the future. Learn more about the End Your Day Perfectly NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 47 minute mp3 audio program Have you ever felt a little stuck when it comes to expressing yourself? Perhaps there are certain emotions that you just don't know how to convey to other people? Expressive Personality is a great way to learn how to try on those emotions and create flexibility with you capability to communicate with others. This program is about you becoming the full embodiment of what you want to share with others. It will help your interactions professionally and personally, and can be used in the context of various situations. Learn more about the Expressive Personality NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 26 minute mp3 audio program Many people experience depression in life, and it's all for various reasons... For some, it seems never-ending and for others it may be circumstantial. There is a way out of depression - when your entire world seems to be collapsing upon you - you can experience change. From Depression to Hope will show you powerful ways to reframe previously depressing experiences and this program will hold a space for you to create the changes you want and resolve old challenges now. If you have ever experienced a time when you felt completely overwhelmed or pushed to the brink of depression, make one subtle, small change today. Learn more about the From Depression to Hope NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 37 minute mp3 audio program Twenty-five centuries ago, a man by the name of Siddhārtha Gautama, known to most of us as The Buddha is recorded as having said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Full Forgiveness empowers you to drop the hot coal that has been burning you. It cuts out, eradicates, cancels, and makes the wrong as if it had never been. Some people may have learned or perceived forgiveness equals weakness. Learn more about the Full Forgiveness NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 30 minute mp3 audio program So many people despondently wish that their childhood was different - that their parents were different, the environment was better, other people treated them differently, or that they had more resources like food, money, or social status. What is often overlooked is the process that all of your past experiences share: they formed your beliefs about what is or is not possible for you today. Even at an unconscious level, you are reacting to your environment based upon the patterns that were likely formed during your earliest years. Learn more about the Healing the Inner Child NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 140+ minutes of audio / 3 mp3 audio files The How to Visualize Series includes the following audio files: How to Visualize - Self Awareness and the Fives Senses Visualization techniques designed to awaken and vivify your perceptions through all of your sensory faculties. How to Visualize - The Visual Submodalities of Perception Visualization techniques drawing specifically upon NLP perception models designed to encompass a full spectrum of information processing and how this affects physiological and emotional states. How to Visualize - Time and Space Imagery Experience how perceptions of time and space affect the ways that information is coded into your mind / body while understanding how linguistically this also occurs unconsciously during communication. Learn more about the How to Visualize NLP and hypnosis audio programs...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 49 minutes of audio, 1 mp3 audio file How to Visualize - Self Awareness and the Fives Senses Visualization techniques designed to awaken and vivify your perceptions through all of your sensory faculties. Learn more about the How to Visualize - Self-Awareness and the Five Senses NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 45 minutes of audio, 1 mp3 audio files How to Visualize - The Visual Submodalities of Perception Visualization techniques drawing specifically upon NLP perception models designed to encompass a full spectrum of information processing and how this affects physiological and emotional states. Learn more about the How to Visualize - The Visual Submodalities of Perception NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 48+ minutes of audio, 1 mp3 audio files zipped How to Visualize - Time and Space Imagery - Experience how perceptions of time and space affect the ways that information is coded into your mind / body while understanding how linguistically this also occurs unconsciously during communication. Learn more about the How to Visualize - Time and Space Imagery NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 46 minute mp3 audio program This is quite possibly one of my most playful audio programs to date. Just Your Luck is really about you, and people all over the world, reclaiming your self-autonomy and choosing to live in an empowering way. Trusting... that more people are joining you every day; sharing similar values that promote individual and collective well-being. One of my points in this program is that you always have a choice as to how you are going to process and perceive information, events, circumstances and the way your life unfolds. Learn more about the Just Your Luck NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 24 minute mp3 audio program What if you could harness the power that your habits have been exhibiting in your life and redirect this force into a state of pure focus that you can aim at any goal or challenge in order to achieve your desired outcome in a way that is nearly effortless… It’s been said before that your habits will determine your future and when observed it has been found that successful people typically have successful habits that compound and grow permeating into all areas of their lives in a way that you will similarly experience. This is making it impossible for you to not experience pure focus automatically. Learn more about the Pure Focus NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 39 minute mp3 audio program It doesn't matter to me if your reason for wanting to end procrastination now are for your personal good, for the good of the world, or both. I think that it will all happen as you begin to bring more of what you want into your life by taking the necessary steps to move ahead. Perhaps it's your health that motivates you. It might be money. Maybe it's in the realm of relationships. You know best what it is and you'll know when it is time to make a change. Remember my friend, you can get back to procrastinating later. Aren't there things that benefit your life and the lives of those around you that you really want to be doing...now? Learn more about the Put Off Procrastination NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 43 minute mp3 audio program This program is specifically designed to cause previously unconscious imagery and thoughts to become conscious. And, portions of it will require you to actively change your thinking. Most people will experience that it does not happen easily or automatically at first, but on the other hand, some people do find he opposite to be true.... The changes they really desire to have happen, happen of their own accord when one’s attention is shifted to what is desired and, this might very well be for you. If you follow the instructions, then with each successful completion of the exercise you may find that the active participation happens more and more effortlessly until it is automatic. Learn more about the Re-imprinting Yourself NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 49 minute mp3 audio program This program is specifically designed for soldiers, veterans, first responders, law enforcement and all individuals who have experienced a traumatic event that, until now, had impeded your quality of life. I use the catch phrase posttraumatic stress because of its popularity in society but I do not intend to imply that it is a disorder – my feeling is that it is no one’s responsibility but your responsibility to control your mind. And, when you have discovered the appropriate resources you will have authority to reclaim control over the way you process information – past, present, and future. Learn more about the Reclaim Your Life From Posttraumatic Stress NLP and hypnosis program...
Direct Download: 20 minute mp3 audio program I have also realized the importance of hitting the "restart" button on my mind, body and emotions. We all have goals in life that are important to us and if we don't routinely take timeout's for ourselves, then we are actually limiting the successful achievement of our goals by being overstressed or under-rested. This 20 minute program is designed to create an environment in which you can allow any stressful situation to just fade away. Nearly every person experiences times when things seem too overwhelming and often we don't take the time needed to allow our nervous system the downtime it needs to recharge and heal. Learn more about the Release Stress NLP and hypnosis audio program...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 40 minute mp3 audio program Burn the ships behind you... There are some things in life which require more than just a little motivation and effort. Very few people live with a burning sense of conviction that they must do something specific; something compelling that constantly runs through their minds. As you apply Sheer Resolve to Do What It Takes to a specific outcome the encouragement you receive will come from those who are seeking the value you have to offer. They will get what you are about and they will perceive you under a totally different light. A light that most of those who know you can’t see… yet. Learn more about the Sheer Resolve NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 17 minute mp3 audio program This personal development program creates an excellent opportunity for you to reframe each morning. Wake up, roll over, and put on your headset. You have another 20 minutes to doze and a wonderful opportunity to program your unconscious mind in preparation for the day ahead of you. Never knowing what day might be your last, seize this opportunity by finding the energy that propels you forward looking for opportunities to live life to its fullest. Learn more about the Start Your Day Right NLP and hypnosis audio program...
Direct Download: 37 minute mp3 audio program This program was originally based off of work I did in grad school around men finding purpose in life by experiencing the monomyth - or what Joseph Campbell referred to as the "Hero's Journey". (It is readily applicable to either gender.) The Call is an NLP and self-hypnosis audio program for men to discover their life purpose. It is a tribute to Joseph Campbell and his monumental work, The Hero's Journey . I'm reminded of a quote by Thoreau written over 150 years ago, "The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation." It seems that more and more men are becoming disillusioned with the life that is most readily available to them today. Instead of boldly championing a cause and pursuing something purposeful, how often do we shrink in the face of mediocrity? Learn more about The Call - an NLP and hypnosis personal development audio program...
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OVERVIEW Direct Download: 3 hours, 20 minutes of mp3 audio from the workshop; a colorful and detailed 66 page PDF manual with scripts; 50 minutes of mp3 audio with binaural beat frequencies: Out of Body and The Illusion of Time by Michael J. Emery - used as the background music of the workshop Taught in the style of a personal breakthrough session, this workshop will train you how to linguistically guide people through Timeline Imagery™ in a way that will free them from limiting beliefs and experiences. Learn more about the Timeline Imagery NLP and hypnosis training program...
Direct Download: 41 minute mp3 audio program Psychologist, Carl Jung, first used the phrase transpersonal unconscious as another way to describe the theory of the collective unconscious (the shared, intuitive knowledge shared by human beings). The term transpersonal means going beyond or transcending the bounds of ego. It can describe a state of oneness or nothingness as in the absence of preconception or senses. Often, individuals who have these experiences recount that the experience was simply and profoundly beyond words as language serves only to limit an experience that is timeless, spaceless, and outside of ego function (the perception of the personal "I"). That was their experience, and whatever is waiting to happen next for you will be your when you listen to this meditation / visualization mp3. Learn more about the Transpersonal Meditation NLP and Hypnosis audio program...
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ABOUT MICHAEL J. EMERY Personal Development Coach and Trainer. Michael J. Emery uses NLP and Hypnosis to
improvements can learn how to
focus upon changing conditioned responses -
avoid unhealthy foods, and in it's
think Pavlov's dog. The bell rings and the dog
place, create cravings for
salivates.
healthy food and exercise.
Everyone has unconscious reactions to their
You can learn how to
environments: the way a loved one looks at you,
control your inner dialogue
hearing your boss's voice, seeing an email from
(self talk), manage the
someone important, these examples all create a
internal imagery (mental
specific response that either causes you to feel
pictures and movies) that seem
good or bad i n your body. How you feel almost
to play automatically, and grab a
always determines your actions and outcomes
hold of your emotions and the feelings in your
specific situations (Pavlovian conditioned
in specific situations.
body so that you feel great about yourself and
response). The Coaching Gym uses Skype
what you're doing with your life.
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What most people do not realize is that they are in control of those reactions, and they can
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Internet connection. My Coaching Gym is based
create a response that benefits them. This is
development coaching results in you becoming
upon research that shows people have
called state management in the field of neuro-
aware of the ways that your body is processing
conditioned responses for specific situations –
linguistic programming (NLP). What separates
the information that comes in through your five
and that these responses become generalized
highly successful people in any field from those
senses, and how this information is filtered to
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who are not considered successful, is the
create meaning which results in your response
perceived as similar. By changing the default
individual's ability to manage his or her
to it. You will learn how the various ways you
reactions to planned, by-design responses you
emotions, mindset, and actions in a seemingly
represent this information to yourself diminishes
become empowered in a specific situation to
unpredictable environment.
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order to create your desired outcome. Hence,
situation.
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The Coaching Gym is an innovative approach to personal development coaching because of several factors: worldwide access, coaching precision, and focus completely upon NLP synesthesias – the unconscious reactions to
What is the Coaching Gym? • Worldwide access via phone / Skype • Coaching precision and expectation you will show up ready to work on yourself • Focus upon NLP synesthesias and conditioned response (Pavlovian) • Develop your unique strategy for managing emotions, mindset and actions • Prepare in advance for i mportant events • Learn to manage perceptions of time, space, and information
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Michael J. Emery, M.A. Michael J. Emery has a masters degree from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and a bachelors degree in marketing and advertising from Portland State University. Michael is a certified hypnotherapist an d a certified trainer of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).
www.michaeljemery.com
