ENFJ PERSONALITY (“THE (“T HE PROTAGONIST”) PROTAGONIST”) Everything you do right now ripples outward and affects everyone. Your posture can shine your heart or transmit anxiety. Your breath can radiate love or muddy the room in depression. Your glance can awaken joy. Your words can inspire freedom. Your every act can open hearts and minds. David Deida
ENFJs are natural-born leaers! "ull o" #ass$on an %&ar$s'a For'$n aroun t*o #er%ent o" t&e #o#ulat$on #o#ulat$on!! t&e+ are o"tent$'es our #ol$t$%$ans! our %oa%&es an our tea%&ers! rea%&$n out an $ns#$r$n ot&ers to a%&$e,e an to o oo $n t&e *orl $t& a natural %on"$en%e t&at beets beets $n"luen%e! ENFJs ta.e a reat eal o" #r$e an /o+ $n u$$n ot&ers to *or. toet&er to $'#ro,e t&e'sel,es an t&e$r %o''un$t+
F$r' 0el$e,ers $n t&e Peo#le Peo#le are ra*n to stron #ersonal$t$es! an ENFJs ra$ate aut&ent$%$t+! %on%ern an altru$s'! una"ra$ to stan u# an s#ea. *&en t&e+ "eel so'et&$n nees to be sa$ T&e+ "$n $t natural an eas+ to %o''un$%ate *$t& ot&ers! es#e%$all+ $n #erson! an t&e$r Intu$t$,e (N) tra$t &el#s #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e to rea%& e,er+ '$n! be $t t&rou& "a%ts an lo$% or ra* e'ot$on ENFJs eas$l+ see #eo#le1s 'ot$,at$ons an see'$nl+ $s%onne%te e,ents! an are able to br$n t&ese $eas toet&er an %o''un$%ate t&e' as a %o''on oal *$t& an elo2uen%e t&at $s not&$n s&ort o" 'es'er$3$n T&e $nterest ENFJs &a,e $n ot&ers $s enu$ne! al'ost to a "ault 4 *&en t&e+ bel$e,e $n so'eone! t&e+ %an be%o'e too $n,ol,e $n t&e ot&er #erson1s #roble's! #la%e too 'u%& trust $n t&e' Lu%.$l+! t&$s trust tens to be a sel""ul"$ll$n #ro#&es+! as ENFJs1 altru$s' an aut&ent$%$t+ $ns#$re t&ose t&e+ %are about to be%o'e better t&e'sel,es 0ut $" t&e+ aren1t %are"ul! t&e+ %an o,ere5ten t&e$r o#t$'$s'! so'et$'es #us&$n ot&ers "urt&er t&an t&e+1re rea+ or *$ll$n to o ENFJs are ,ulnerable to anot&er snare as *ell6 t&e+ &a,e a tre'enous %a#a%$t+ "or re"le%t$n on an anal+3$n t&e$r o*n "eel$ns! but $" t&e+ et too %au&t u# $n anot&er #erson1s #l$&t! t&e+ %an e,elo# a sort o" e'ot$onal &+#o%&onr$a! see$n ot&er #eo#le1s #roble's $n t&e'sel,es! tr+$n to "$5 so'et&$n $n t&e'sel,es t&at $sn1t *ron I" t&e+ et to a #o$nt *&ere t&e+ are &el ba%. b+ l$'$tat$ons so'eone else $s e5#er$en%$n! $t %an &$ner ENFJs1 ab$l$t+ to see #ast t&e $le''a an be o" an+ &el# at all &en t&$s &a##ens! $t1s $'#ortant "or ENFJs to #ull ba%. an use t&at sel"-re"le%t$on to $st$nu$s& bet*een *&at t&e+ reall+ "eel! an *&at $s a se#arate $ssue t&at nees to be loo.e at "ro' anot&er #ers#e%t$,e
T&e Strule Ou&t Not to 7eter 8s Fro' t&e Su##ort o" a 9ause e 0el$e,e to 0e Just ENFJs are enu$ne! %ar$n #eo#le *&o tal. t&e tal. an *al. t&e *al.! an not&$n 'a.es t&e' &a##$er t&an lea$n t&e %&are! un$t$n an 'ot$,at$n t&e$r tea' *$t& $n"e%t$ous ent&us$as' Peo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e are #ass$onate altru$sts! so'et$'es e,en to a "ault! an t&e+ are unl$.el+ to be a"ra$ to ta.e t&e sl$ns an arro*s *&$le stan$n u# "or t&e #eo#le an $eas t&e+ bel$e,e $n It $s no *oner t&at 'an+ "a'ous ENFJs are 8S Pres$ents 4 t&$s #ersonal$t+ t+#e *ants to lea
t&e *a+ to a br$&ter "uture! *&et&er $t1s b+ lea$n a nat$on to #ros#er$t+! or lea$n t&e$r l$ttle leaue so"tball tea' to a &ar-"ou&t ,$%tor+
ENFJ STRENGTHS AN7 EA:NESSES ENFJ Strent&s
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Tolerant 4 ENFJs are true tea' #la+ers! an t&e+ re%on$3e t&at t&at 'eans l$sten$n to ot&er #eo#les1 o#$n$ons! e,en *&en t&e+ %ontra$%t t&e$r o*n T&e+ a'$t t&e+ on1t &a,e all t&e ans*ers! an are o"ten re%e#t$,e to $ssent! so lon as $t re'a$ns %onstru%t$,e Reliable 4 T&e one t&$n t&at alls ENFJs t&e 'ost $s t&e $ea o" lett$n o*n a #erson or %ause t&e+ bel$e,e $n I" $t1s #oss$ble! ENFJs %an al*a+s be %ounte on to see $t t&rou& Charismatic 4 9&ar' an #o#ular$t+ are 2ual$t$es ENFJs &a,e $n s#aes T&e+ $nst$n%t$,el+ .no* &o* to %a#ture an au$en%e! an #$%. u# on 'oo an 'ot$,at$on $n *a+s t&at allo* t&e' to %o''un$%ate *$t& reason! e'ot$on! #ass$on! restra$nt 4 *&ate,er t&e s$tuat$on %alls "or Talente $'$tators! ENFJs are able to s&$"t t&e$r tone an 'anner to re"le%t t&e nees o" t&e au$en%e! *&$le st$ll 'a$nta$n$n t&e$r o*n ,o$%e Altruistic 4 8n$t$n t&ese 2ual$t$es $s ENFJs1 un+$el$n es$re to o oo $n an "or t&e$r %o''un$t$es! be $t $n t&e$r o*n &o'e or t&e lobal stae ar' an sel"less! ENFJs enu$nel+ bel$e,e t&at $" t&e+ %an /ust br$n #eo#le toet&er! t&e+ %an o a *orl o" oo
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Natural Leaders 4 ;ore t&an see.$n aut&or$t+ t&e'sel,es! ENFJs o"ten en u# $n leaers&$# roles at t&e re2uest o" ot&ers! %&eere on b+ t&e 'an+ a'$rers o" t&e$r stron #ersonal$t+ an #os$t$,e ,$s$on
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Overly Idealistic 4 Peo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e %an be %au&t o"" uar as t&e+ "$n t&at! t&rou& %$r%u'stan%e or nature! or s$'#le '$sunerstan$n! #eo#le "$&t aa$nst t&e' an e"+ t&e #r$n%$#les t&e+1,e ao#te! &o*e,er *ell-$ntent$one t&e+ 'a+ be T&e+ are 'ore l$.el+ to "eel #$t+ "or t&$s o##os$t$on t&an aner! an %an earn a re#utat$on o" na<,et= Too Selfless 4 ENFJs %an bur+ t&e'sel,es $n t&e$r &o#e"ul #ro'$ses! "eel$n ot&ers1 #roble's as t&e$r o*n an str$,$n &ar to 'eet t&e$r *or I" t&e+ aren1t %are"ul! t&e+ %an s#rea t&e'sel,es too t&$n! an be le"t unable to &el# an+one Too Sensitive 4 &$le re%e#t$,e to %r$t$%$s'! see$n $t as a tool "or lea$n a better tea'! $t1s eas+ "or ENFJs to ta.e $t a l$ttle too 'u%& to &eart T&e$r sens$t$,$t+ to ot&ers 'eans t&at ENFJs so'et$'es "eel #roble's t&at aren1t t&e$r o*n an tr+ to "$5 t&$ns t&e+ %an1t "$5! *orr+$n $" t&e+ are o$n enou& Fluctuating Self-steem 4 ENFJs e"$ne t&e$r sel"-estee' b+ *&et&er t&e+ are able to l$,e u# to t&e$r $eals! an so'et$'es as. "or %r$t$%$s' 'ore out o" $nse%ur$t+ t&an out o" %on"$en%e! al*a+s *oner$n *&at t&e+ %oul o better I" t&e+ "a$l to 'eet a oal or to &el# so'eone t&e+ sa$ t&e+1 &el#! t&e$r sel"-%on"$en%e *$ll unoubtel+ #lu''et
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Struggle to !a"e Tough #ecisions 4 I" %au&t bet*een a ro%. an a &ar #la%e! ENFJs %an be str$%.en *$t& #aral+s$s! $'a$n$n all t&e %onse2uen%es o" t&e$r a%t$ons! es#e%$all+ $" t&ose %onse2uen%es are &u'an$tar$an
ENFJ RELATIONSHIPS Peo#le *&o s&are t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e "eel 'ost at &o'e *&en t&e+ are $n a relat$ons&$#! an "e* t+#es are 'ore eaer to establ$s& a lo,$n %o''$t'ent *$t& t&e$r %&osen #artners ENFJs ta.e at$n an relat$ons&$#s ser$ousl+! sele%t$n #artners *$t& an e+e to*ars t&e lon &aul! rat&er t&an t&e 'ore %asual a##roa%& t&at '$&t be e5#e%te "ro' so'e E5#lorer (SP) t+#es T&ere1s reall+ no reater /o+ "or ENFJs t&an to &el# alon t&e oals o" so'eone t&e+ %are about! an t&e $nter*ea,$n o" l$,es t&at a %o''$tte relat$ons&$# re#resents $s t&e #er"e%t o##ortun$t+ to o /ust t&at I1' a Slo* al.er! but I Ne,er al. 0a%.
E,en $n t&e at$n #&ase! #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e are rea+ to s&o* t&e$r %o''$t'ent b+ ta.$n t&e t$'e an e""ort to establ$s& t&e'sel,es as e#enable! trust*ort&+ #artners
T&e$r Intu$t$,e (N) tra$t &el#s t&e' to .ee# u# *$t& t&e ra#$l+ s&$"t$n 'oos t&at are %o''on earl+ $n relat$ons&$#s! but ENFJs *$ll st$ll rel+ on %on,ersat$ons about t&e$r 'utual "eel$ns! %&e%.$n t&e #ulse o" t&e relat$ons&$# b+ as.$n &o* t&$ns are! an $" t&ere1s an+t&$n else t&e+ %an o &$le t&$s %an &el# to .ee# %on"l$%t! *&$%& ENFJs ab&or! to a '$n$'u'! t&e+ also r$s. be$n o,erbear$n or nee+ 4 ENFJs s&oul .ee# $n '$n t&at so'et$'es t&e onl+ t&$n t&at1s *ron $s be$n as.e *&at1s *ron too o"ten
ENFJs on1t nee 'u%& to be &a##+! /ust to .no* t&at t&e$r #artner $s &a##+! an "or t&e$r #artner to e5#ress t&at &a##$ness t&rou& ,$s$ble a""e%t$on ;a.$n ot&ers1 oals %o'e to "ru$t$on $s o"ten t&e %&$e"est %on%ern o" ENFJs! an t&e+ *$ll s#are no e""ort $n &el#$n t&e$r #artner to l$,e t&e rea' I" t&e+ aren1t %are"ul t&ou&! ENFJs1 2uest "or t&e$r #artners1 sat$s"a%t$on %an lea,e t&e' nele%t$n t&e$r o*n nees! an $t1s $'#ortant "or t&e' to re'e'ber to e5#ress t&ose nees on o%%as$on! es#e%$all+ earl+ on You 9annot Es%a#e t&e Res#ons$b$l$t+ o" To'orro* b+ E,a$n It Toa+
ENFJs1 tenen%+ to a,o$ an+ .$n o" %on"l$%t! so'et$'es e,en sa%r$"$%$n t&e$r o*n #r$n%$#les to .ee# t&e #ea%e! %an lea to lon-ter' #roble's $" t&ese e""orts ne,er "ull+ resol,e t&e unerl+$n $ssues t&at t&e+ 'as. On t&e ot&er &an! #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e %an so'et$'es be too #ree'#t$,e $n resol,$n t&e$r %on"l$%ts! as.$n "or %r$t$%$s's an suest$ons $n *a+s t&at %on,e+ nee$ness or $nse%ur$t+ ENFJs $n,est t&e$r e'ot$ons *&oll+ $n t&e$r relat$ons&$#s! an are so'et$'es so eaer to #lease t&at $t a%tuall+ uner'$nes t&e relat$ons&$# 4 t&$s %an lea to resent'ent! an e,en t&e "a$lure o" t&e relat$ons&$# &en t&$s &a##ens! ENFJs e5#er$en%e stron senses o" u$lt an betra+al! as t&e+ see all t&e$r e""orts sl$# a*a+ I" #otent$al #artners a##re%$ate t&ese 2ual$t$es t&ou&! an 'a.e an e""ort t&e'sel,es to loo. a"ter t&e nees o" t&e$r ENFJ #artners! t&e+ *$ll en/o+ lon! &a##+! #ass$onate relat$ons&$#s ENFJs are .no*n to be e#enable lo,ers! #er&a#s 'ore $ntereste $n rout$ne an stab$l$t+ t&an s#ontane$t+ $n t&e$r se5 l$,es! but al*a+s e$%ate to t&e sel"less sat$s"a%t$on o" t&e$r #artners 8lt$'atel+! ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#es bel$e,e t&at t&e onl+ true &a##$ness $s 'utual &a##$ness! an t&at1s t&e stu"" su%%ess"ul relat$ons&$#s are 'ae o"
ENFJ FRIEN7S &en $t %o'es to "r$ens&$#s! ENFJs are an+t&$n but #ass$,e &$le so'e #ersonal$t+ t+#es 'a+ a%%e#t t&e %$r%u'stant$al &$&s an lo*s o" "r$ens&$#! t&e$r "eel$ns *a5$n an *an$n *$t& t&e t$'es! ENFJs *$ll #ut a%t$,e e""ort $nto 'a$nta$n$n t&ese %onne%t$ons! ,$e*$n t&e' as substant$al an $'#ortant! not so'et&$n to let sl$# a*a+ t&rou& la3$ness or $nattent$on T&$s #&$loso#&+ o" enu$ne %onne%t$on $s %ore to t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e! an *&$le $t $s ,$s$ble $n t&e *or.#la%e an $n ro'an%e! $t $s %learest $n t&e breat& an e#t& o" ENFJ "r$ens&$#s
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Peo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e ta.e enu$ne #leasure $n ett$n to .no* ot&er #eo#le! an &a,e no trouble tal.$n *$t& #eo#le o" all t+#es an 'oes o" t&ou&t E,en $n $saree'ent! ot&er #ers#e%t$,es are "as%$nat$n to ENFJs 4 t&ou& l$.e 'ost #eo#le! t&e+ %onne%t best *$t& $n$,$uals *&o s&are t&e$r #r$n%$#les an $eals! an 7$#lo'ats (NF) an Anal+sts (NT) are best able to e5#lore ENFJs1 ,$e*#o$nts *$t& t&e'! *&$%& are s$'#l+ too $eal$st$% "or 'ost It $s *$t& t&ese %losest "r$ens t&at ENFJs *$ll trul+ o#en u#! .ee#$n t&e$r 'an+ ot&er %onne%t$ons $n a real' o" l$&t&earte but enu$ne su##ort an en%ourae'ent Ot&ers trul+ ,alue t&e$r ENFJ "r$ens! a##re%$at$n t&e *ar't&! .$nness! an s$n%ere o#t$'$s' an %&eer t&e+ br$n to t&e table ENFJs *ant to be t&e best "r$ens #oss$ble! an $t s&o*s $n &o* t&e+ *or. to "$n out not /ust t&e su#er"$%$al $nterests o" t&e$r "r$ens! but t&e$r strent&s! #ass$ons! &o#es an rea's Not&$n 'a.es ENFJs &a##$er t&an to see t&e #eo#le t&e+ %are about o *ell! an t&e+ are 'ore t&an &a##+ to ta.e t&e$r o*n t$'e an ener+ to &el# 'a.e $t &a##en e S&oul 0e Too 0$ to Ta.e O""ense! an Too Noble to G$,e It
&$le ENFJs en/o+ len$n t&$s &el#$n &an! ot&er #ersonal$t+ t+#es 'a+ s$'#l+ not &a,e t&e ener+ or r$,e to .ee# u# *$t& $t 4 %reat$n "urt&er stra$n! #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e %an be%o'e o""ene $" t&e$r e""orts aren1t re%$#ro%ate *&en t&e o##ortun$t+ ar$ses 8lt$'atel+! ENFJs1 $,e an ta.e %an be%o'e st$"l$n to t+#es *&o are 'ore $ntereste $n t&e 'o'ent t&an t&e "uture! or *&o s$'#l+ &a,e Ient$t$es t&at rest "$r'l+ on t&e Assert$,e s$e!
'a.$n t&e' %ontent *$t& *&o t&e+ are an un$ntereste $n t&e sort o" sel"$'#ro,e'ent an oal-sett$n t&at ENFJs &ol so ear &en t&$s &a##ens ENFJ #ersonal$t$es %an be %r$t$%al! $" t&e+ bel$e,e $t ne%essar+ &$le usuall+ ta%t"ul an o"ten &el#"ul! $" t&e$r "r$en $s alrea+ anno+e b+ ENFJs1 atte'#ts to #us& t&e' "or*ar! $t %an s$'#l+ %ause t&e' to $ $n t&e$r &eels "urt&er ENFJs s&oul tr+ to a,o$ ta.$n t&$s #ersonall+ *&en $t &a##ens! an rela5 t&e$r $n"le5$b$l$t+ $nto an o%%as$onal >l$,e an l et l$,e> att$tue 8lt$'atel+ t&ou&! ENFJs *$ll "$n t&at t&e$r e5%$te'ent an un+$el$n o#t$'$s' *$ll +$el t&e' 'an+ sat$s"+$n relat$ons&$#s *$t& #eo#le *&o a##re%$ate an s&are t&e$r ,$s$on an aut&ent$%$t+ T&e /o+ ENFJs ta.e $n 'o,$n t&$ns "or*ar 'eans t&at t&ere $s al*a+s a sense o" #ur#ose be&$n t&e$r "r$ens&$#s! %reat$n bons t&at are not eas$l+ s&a.en
ENFJ PARENTS As natural leaers! ENFJs 'a.e e5%ellent #arents! str$,$n to str$.e a balan%e bet*een be$n en%oura$n an su##ort$,e "r$ens to t&e$r %&$lren! *&$le also *or.$n to $nst$l stron ,alues an a sense o" #ersonal res#ons$b$l$t+ I" t&ere1s one stron tren *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e! $t1s t&at t&e+ are a bero%. o" e'#at&et$% su##ort! not bull&eael+ tell$n #eo#le *&at t&e+ ou&t to o! but &el#$n t&e' to e5#lore t&e$r o#t$ons an en%oura$n t&e' to "ollo* t&e$r &earts ENFJ #arents *$ll en%ourae t&e$r %&$lren to e5#lore an ro*! re%on$3$n an a##re%$at$n t&e $n$,$ual$t+ o" t&e #eo#le t&e+ br$n $nto t&$s *orl an &el# to ra$se
&ate,er You Are! 0e a Goo One ENFJ #arents ta.e #r$e $n nurtur$n an $ns#$r$n stron ,alues! an t&e+ ta.e %are to ensure t&at t&e bas$s "or t&ese ,alues %o'es "ro' unerstan$n! not bl$n obe$en%e &ate,er t&e$r %&$lren nee $n orer to learn an ro*! ENFJ #arents $,e t&e t$'e an ener+ ne%essar+ to #ro,$e $t &$le $n t&e$r *ea.er 'o'ents t&e+ 'a+ su%%u'b to 'ore 'an$#ulat$,e be&a,$or! ENFJs 'ostl+ rel+ on t&e$r %&ar' an $eal$s' to 'a.e sure t&e$r %&$lren ta.e t&ese lessons to &eart O*$n to t&e$r a,ers$on to %on"l$%t! ENFJ #arents str$,e to ensure t&at t&e$r &o'es #ro,$e a sa"e an %on"l$%t-"ree en,$ron'ent &$le t&e+ %an el$,er %r$t$%$s'! $t1s not ENFJs1 stron su$t! an la+$n o*n t&e o%%as$onall+ ne%essar+ $s%$#l$ne *on1t %o'e naturall+ 0ut! #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e &a,e &$& stanars "or t&e$r %&$lren! en%oura$n t&e' to be t&e best t&e+ %an be! an *&en t&ese %on"rontat$ons o &a##en! t&e+ tr+ to "ra'e t&e lessons as ar%&et+#es! 'oral %onstants $n l$"e *&$%& t&e+ &o#e t&e$r %&$lren *$ll e'bra%e As t&e$r %&$lren enter aoles%en%e! t&e+ be$n to trul+ 'a.e t&e$r o*n e%$s$ons! so'et$'es %ontrar+ to *&at t&e$r #arents *ant 4 *&$le ENFJs *$ll o t&e$r best to 'eet t&$s *$t& ra%e an &u'or! t&e+ %an "eel &urt! an e,en unlo,e! $n t&e "a%e o" t&$s rebell$on ENFJs are sens$t$,e! an $" t&e$r %&$l oes so "ar as to laun%& $nto %r$t$%$s's! t&e+ 'a+ be%o'e trul+ u#set! $$n $n t&e$r &eels an lo%.$n &orns
All T&at I A'! or Ho#e to 0e! I O*e to ;+ Anel ;ot&er Lu%.$l+! t&ese o%%as$ons *$ll l$.el+ be rare ENFJs1 $ntu$t$on $,es t&e' a talent "or unerstan$n! an rearless o" t&e &eat o" t&e 'o'ent! t&e$r %&$lren *$ll 'o,e on! re'e'ber$n t&e enu$ne *ar't&! %are! lo,e an en%ourae'ent t&e+1,e al*a+s re%e$,e "ro' t&e$r ENFJ #arents T&e+ ro* u# "eel$n t&e lessons t&at &a,e been *o,en $nto t&e "abr$% o" t&e$r %&ara%ter! an re%on$3e t&at t&e+ are t&e better "or t&e$r #arents1 e""orts
ENFJ 9AREERS &en $t %o'es to "$n$n a %areer! #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e %ast t&e$r e+es to*ars an+t&$n t&at lets t&e' o *&at t&e+ lo,e 'ost 4 &el#$n
ot&er #eo#le? Lu%.+ "or t&e'! #eo#le l$.e be$n &el#e! an are e,en *$ll$n to #a+ "or $t! *&$%& 'eans t&at ENFJs are rarel+ *ant$n "or $ns#$rat$on an o##ortun$t+ $n t&e$r sear%& "or 'ean$n"ul *or.
7on1t orr+ &en You Are Not Re%on$3e! but Str$,e to 0e ort&+ o" Re%on$t$on
ENFJs ta.e a enu$ne $nterest $n ot&er #eo#le! a##roa%&$n t&e' *$t& *ar' so%$ab$l$t+ an a &el#"ul earnestness t&at rarel+ oes unnot$%e Altru$st$% %areers l$.e so%$al an rel$$ous *or.! tea%&$n! %ounsel$n! an a,$s$n o" all sorts are #o#ular a,enues! $,$n #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e a %&an%e to &el# ot&ers learn! ro*! an be%o'e 'ore $ne#enent T&$s att$tue! alons$e t&e$r so%$al s.$lls! e'ot$onal $ntell$en%e an tenen%+ to be “t&at #erson *&o .no*s e,er+bo+”! %an be aa#te to 2u$te a rane o" ot&er %areers as *ell! 'a.$n ENFJs natural HR a'$n$strators! e,ent %oor$nators! an #ol$t$%$ans 4 an+t&$n t&at &el#s a %o''un$t+ or oran$3at$on to o#erate 'ore s'oot&l+ To to# $t all o""! ENFJs are able to e5#ress t&e'sel,es bot& %reat$,el+ an &onestl+! allo*$n t&e' to a##roa%& #os$t$ons as sales re#resentat$,es an a,ert$s$n %onsultants "ro' a %erta$n $eal$st$% #ers#e%t$,e! $ntu$t$,el+ #$%.$n u# on t&e nees an *ants o" t&e$r %usto'ers! an *or.$n to 'a.e t&e' &a##$er Ho*e,er! ENFJs nee to 'a.e sure t&e+ et to "o%us on #eo#le! not s+ste's an s#reas&eets! an t&e+ are unl$.el+ to &a,e t&e sto'a%& "or 'a.$n t&e sort o" e%$s$ons re2u$re $n %or#orate o,ernan%e #os$t$ons 4 t&e+ *$ll "eel &aunte! .no*$n t&at t&e$r e%$s$on %ost so'eone t&e$r /ob! or t&at t&e$r #rou%t %ost so'eone t&e$r l$"e Ha,$n a #re"eren%e "or Intu$t$on (N) o,er Obser,at$on (S) also 'eans t&at %areers e'an$n e5%e#t$onal s$tuat$onal a*areness! su%& as la*
en"or%e'ent! '$l$tar+ ser,$%e! an e'eren%+ res#onse! *$ll %ause ENFJs to burn out 2u$%.l+ &$le reat at oran$3$n *$ll$n #art$es an *$nn$n o,er s.e#t$%s! $n anerous s$tuat$ons ENFJs /ust *on1t be able to 'a$nta$n t&e sort o" "o%us on t&e$r $''e$ate #&+s$%al surroun$ns t&at t&e+ $ne,$tabl+ e'an o" t&e'sel,es &our a"ter &our! a+ a"ter a+ Al*a+s 0ear $n ;$n T&at Your O*n Resolut$on to Su%%ee Is ;ore I'#ortant T&an An+ Ot&er
It 'a.es a reat eal 'ore sense "or ENFJs to be t&e "or%e .ee#$n t&ese ,$tal ser,$%es oran$3e an runn$n *ell! ta.$n t&e$r lon-ter' ,$e*s! #eo#le s.$lls an $eal$s'! an us$n t&e' to s&a#e t&e s$tuat$on on t&e roun! *&$le 'ore #&+s$%al #ersonal$t+ t+#es 'anae t&e 'o'ent-to-'o'ent %r$ses Peo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e are al*a+s u# "or a oo %&allene 4 an not&$n t&r$lls t&e' 2u$te l$.e &el#$n ot&ers 0ut *&$le *$ll$n to tra$n t&e ne%essar+ s.$lls! ENFJs *$ll al*a+s s&o* an unerl+$n #re"eren%e "or t&e sort o" &el# t&at ra*s a #os$t$,e lon-ter' tren! t&at e""e%ts %&ane t&at reall+ st$%.s At t&e &eart o" $t! ENFJs nee to see &o* t&e stor+ ens! to "eel an e5#er$en%e t&e rat$tue an a##re%$at$on o" t&e #eo#le t&e+1,e &el#e $n orer to be &a##+ 9areers o#erat$n be&$n ene'+ l$nes an arr$,$n at t&e s%ene o" t&e %r $'e too late to &el# *$ll s$'#l+ *e$& on ENFJs1 sens$t$,e &earts an '$ns! es#e%$all+ $" %r$t$%$3e es#$te t&e$r e""orts On t&e ot&er &an! ENFJs are a r$,en! ,ersat$le rou#! an t&at sa'e ,$s$on t&at #ulls t&e' to*ars a'$n$strat$on an #ol$t$%s %an &el# t&e' "o%us t&rou& t&e stress o" t&e 'o'ent! .no*$n t&at ea%& se%on o" e""ort %ontr$butes to so'et&$n b$er t&an t&e'sel,es
ENFJ IN THE OR:PLA9E Peo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e are $ntell$ent! *ar'! $eal$st$%! %&ar$s'at$%! %reat$,e! so%$al $t& t&$s *$n at t&e$r ba%.s! ENFJs are able to t&r$,e $n 'an+ $,erse roles! at an+ le,el o" sen$or$t+ ;oreo,er! t&e+ are s$'#l+ l$.eable #eo#le! an t&$s 2ual$t+ #ro#els t&e' to su%%ess *&ere,er t&e+ &a,e a %&an%e to *or. *$t& ot&ers ENFJ Subor$nates
As subor$nates! ENFJs *$ll o"ten unerest$'ate t&e'sel,es 4 ne,ert&eless! t&e+ 2u$%.l+ 'a.e an $'#ress$on on t&e$r 'anaers @u$%. learners an e5%ellent 'ult$tas.ers! #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e are able to ta.e on 'ult$#le res#ons$b$l$t$es *$t& %o'#eten%e an oo %&eer ENFJs are &ar*or.$n! rel$able an eaer to &el# 4 but t&$s %an all be a ouble-ee s*or! as so'e 'anaers *$ll ta.e a,antae o" ENFJs1 e5%ellent 2ual$t+ o" %&ara%ter b+ 'a.$n too 'an+ re2uests an o,erburen$n t&e$r ENFJ subor$nates *$t& e5tra *or. ENFJs are %on"l$%t-a,erse an tr+ to a,o$ unne%essar+ %r$t$%$s'! an $n all l$.el$&oo *$ll a%%e#t t&ese e5tra tas.s $n an atte'#t to 'a$nta$n a #os$t$,e $'#ress$on an "r$%t$onless en,$ron'ent
ENFJ 9olleaues
As %olleaues! ENFJs1 es$re to ass$st an %oo#erate $s e,en 'ore e,$ent as t&e+ ra* t&e$r %o*or.ers $nto tea's *&ere e,er+one %an "eel %o'"ortable e5#ress$n t&e$r o#$n$ons an suest$ons! *or.$n toet&er to e,elo# *$n*$n s$tuat$ons t&at et t&e /ob one ENFJs1 toleran%e! o#en-'$neness an eas+ so%$ab$l$t+ 'a.e $t eas+ "or t&e' to relate to t&e$r %olleaues! but also 'a.e $t #er&a#s a l$ttle too eas+ "or t&e$r %olleaues to s&$"t t&e$r #roble's onto ENFJs1 #lates 0e$n 7$#lo'ats (NF)! #eo#le *$t& t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e are sens$t$,e to t&e nees o" ot&ers! an t&e$r role as a so%$al ne5us 'eans t&at #roble's $ne,$tabl+ "$n t&e$r *a+ to ENFJs1 oorste#s! *&ere %olleaues *$ll "$n a *$ll$n! $" o,erburene! asso%$ate ENFJ ;anaers
&$le #er"e%tl+ %a#able as subor$nates an %olleaues! ENFJs1 true %all$n! *&ere t&e$r %a#a%$t+ "or $ns$&t"ul an $ns#$r$n %o''un$%at$on an sens$t$,$t+ to t&e nees o" ot&ers reall+ s&o*s! $s $n 'ana$n tea's As 'anaers!
ENFJs %o'b$ne t&e$r s.$ll $n re%on$3$n $n$,$ual 'ot$,at$ons *$t& t&e$r natural %&ar$s'a to not onl+ #us& t&e$r tea's an #ro/e%ts "or*ar! but to 'a.e t&e$r tea's *ant to #us& "or*ar T&e+ 'a+ so'et$'es stoo# to 'an$#ulat$on! t&e alternat$,e o"ten be$n a 'ore $re%t %on"rontat$on! but ENFJs1 en oal $s al*a+s to et one *&at t&e+ set out to o $n a *a+ t&at lea,es e,er+one $n,ol,e sat$s"$e *$t& t&e$r roles an t&e results t&e+ a%&$e,e toet&er
ENFJ PERSONALITY 4 9ON9L8SION Fe* #ersonal$t+ t+#es are as $ns#$r$n an %&ar$s'at$% as ENFJs T&e$r $eal$s' an ,$s$on allo* ENFJs to o,er%o'e 'an+ %&allen$n obsta%les! 'ore o"ten t&an not br$&ten$n t&e l$,es o" t&ose aroun t&e' ENFJs1 $'a$nat$on $s $n,aluable $n 'an+ areas! $n%lu$n t&e$r o*n #ersonal ro*t& Yet ENFJs %an be eas$l+ tr$##e u# $n areas *&ere $eal$s' an altru$s' are 'ore o" a l$ab$l$t+ t&an an asset &et&er $t $s "$n$n (or .ee#$n) a #artner! sta+$n %al' uner #ressure! rea%&$n a33l$n &e$&ts on t&e %areer laer or 'a.$n $""$%ult e%$s$ons! ENFJs nee to #ut $n a %ons%$ous e""ort to e,elo# t&e$r *ea.er tra$ts an a$t$onal s.$lls
&at +ou &a,e rea so "ar $s /ust an $ntrou%t$on $nto t&e %o'#le5 %on%e#t t&at $s t&e ENFJ #ersonal$t+ t+#e You 'a+ &a,e 'uttere to +oursel"! >*o*! t&$s $s so a%%urate $t1s a l$ttle %ree#+> or >"$nall+! so'eone unerstans 'e?> You 'a+ &a,e e,en as.e >&o* o t&e+ .no* 'ore about 'e t&an t&e #eo#le I1' %losest to> T&$s $s not a tr$%. You "elt unerstoo be%ause +ou *ere e1,e stu$e &o* ENFJs t&$n. an *&at t&e+ nee to rea%& t&e$r "ull #otent$al An no! *e $
not s#+ on +ou 4 'an+ o" t&e %&allenes +ou1,e "a%e an *$ll "a%e $n t&e "uture &a,e been o,er%o'e b+ ot&er ENFJs You s$'#l+ nee to learn &o* t&e+ su%%eee 0ut $n orer to o t&at! +ou nee to &a,e a #lan! a #ersonal roa'a# T&e best %ar $n t&e *orl *$ll not ta.e +ou to t&e r$&t #la%e $" +ou o not .no* *&ere +ou *ant to o e &a,e tol +ou &o* ENFJs ten to be&a,e $n %erta$n %$r%u'stan%es an *&at t&e$r .e+ strent&s an *ea.nesses are No* *e nee to o 'u%& ee#er $nto +our #ersonal$t+ t+#e an ans*er >*&+>! >&o*> an >*&at $"> T&$s .no*lee $s onl+ t&e be$nn$n o" a l$"elon /ourne+ Are +ou rea+ to learn *&+ ENFJs a%t $n t&e *a+ t&e+ o &at 'ot$,ates an $ns#$res +ou &at +ou are a"ra$ o" an *&at +ou se%retl+ rea' about Ho* +ou %an unlo%. +our true! e5%e#t$onal #otent$al Our #re'$u' #ro"$les #ro,$e a roa'a# to*ars a &a##$er! 'ore su%%ess"ul! an 'ore ,ersat$le YO8? T&e+ are not "or e,er+one t&ou& 4 +ou nee to be *$ll$n an able to %&allene +oursel"! to o be+on t&e ob,$ous! to $'a$ne an "ollo* +our o*n #at& $nstea o" /ust o$n *$t& t&e "lo* I" +ou *ant to ta.e t&e re$ns $nto +our o*n &ans! *e are &ere to &el# +ou
Anon+'ousProtaon$st T$ %ROTA&ONIST
Code' ENFJ-A Role' 7$#lo'at Strategy' Peo#le ;aster+ !IN# T&$s tra$t eter'$nes &o* *e $ntera%t *$t& our en,$ron'ent ()* EBTRACERTE7 +(* INTROCERTE7
E5tra,erte $n$,$uals #re"er rou# a%t$,$t$es an et ener$3e b+ so%$al $ntera%t$on T&e+ ten to be 'ore ent&us$ast$% an 'ore eas$l+ e5%$te t&an $ntro,erts
NR&, T&$s tra$t s&o*s *&ere *e $re%t our 'ental ener+ .* INT8ITICE
).* O0SERCANT
Intu$t$,e $n$,$uals are ,er+ $'a$nat$,e! o#en-'$ne an %ur$ous T&e+ #re"er no,elt+ o,er stab$l$t+ an "o%us on &$en 'ean$ns an "uture #oss$b$l$t$es
NAT/R T&$s tra$t eter'$nes &o* *e 'a.e e%$s$ons an %o#e *$t& e'ot$ons 0* THIN:ING .0* FEELING
Feel$n $n$,$uals are sens$t$,e an e'ot$onall+ e5#ress$,e T&e+ are 'ore e'#at&$% an less %o'#et$t$,e t&an T&$n.$n t+#es! an "o%us on so%$al &ar'on+ an %oo#erat$on
TACTICS T&$s tra$t re"le%ts our a##roa%& to *or.! #lann$n an e%$s$on-'a.$n (1* J87GING +2* PROSPE9TING
Ju$n $n$,$uals are e%$s$,e! t&orou& an &$&l+ oran$3e T&e+ ,alue %lar$t+! #re$%tab$l$t+ an %losure! #re"err$n stru%ture an #lann$n to s#ontane$t+
I#NTIT, T&$s tra$t uner#$ns all ot&ers! s&o*$n &o* %on"$ent *e are $n our ab$l$t$es an e%$s$ons 2* ASSERTI CE )1* T8R08LENT
Assert$,e $n$,$uals are sel"-assure! e,en-te'#ere an res$stant to stress T&e+ re"use to *orr+ too 'u%& an o not #us& t&e'sel,es too &ar *&en $t %o'es to a%&$e,$n oals
ROLES6 7IPLO;ATS
Shared traits :
Intuitive and Feeling
Diplomats – Advocates, Mediators, Protagonists, and Campaigners – tend to be warm, caring, and generous individuals, shining in diplomacy an d counselling !hese personality types promote cooperation and harmony, tolerating discord only as a step towards positive change !heir perceptive abilities seemingly go deeper than the traditional senses – it"s as i# they have a #ull set o# tuning #or$s in their hearts that can resonate with people"s emotional states, and this empathetic sensitivity creates deep connections with others !his is not as mystical as it can seem Diplomat personalities deeply value understanding, and a li#etime o# sel#%re#lection grants them insights into o thers" motivations that they might not even understand themselves Diplomats can use this to shape the way others #eel, but it would be out o# character #or them to use this #or ill Diplomats" people s$ills nurture #riendship and healing with pure, genuine empathy Causing distress #eels to them li$e wounding their own psyche, so they pre#er to gently nudge loved ones and strangers ali$e in a positive direction Diplomats #ind the ideals o# humanism rewarding: $indness, understanding, altruism, and growth warm them li$e a bon#ire on a chilly autumn day !hese personality types envision a prismatic, $ind world !he Intuitive trait plays a big part in this optimism, but it also ma$ es Diplomats sensitive to in&ustices that would &eopardi'e that ideal world !hey can be aggressive against #orces they perceive as evil, and are capable o# steely action when they #eel they have moral high ground Diplomats" sensitive emotions may #lare to outright combativeness i# provo$ed( with sel#% righteous momentum and weighty ideals, these personality types can steamroll others I# they let inspiration trump rationality unchec$ed, they can sometimes go too #ar, damaging the very causes they hold dear, however &usti#ied the outrage !empering this passion with cold practicality is a challenge #or Diplomats !hey are o#ten reluctant to ma$e and carry out tough decisions or plans lac$ing in empathy, and o#ten struggle with carrying out a plan at all !hey #ind greater satis#action in abstract sel#%e)ploration and understanding the issues that a##ect those least able to de#end themselves than mundane accomplishments and day%to%day tas$s Diplomats emphasi'e e)perience and understanding rather than calculable achievement Among #riends and #amily, Diplomat personalities can range #rom *uietly caring to brightly gregarious, so long as they can pursue the mutual e)change o# thoughts and #eelings they value so highly +ut they can overe)tend themselves in this more personal aspect o# their lives as well – emotionally, physically, or even #inancially Diplomats" open hearts ma$e them vulnerable when others aren"t as considerate, though they wouldn"t have it any other way omeone must trust #irst, and they will almost always be the volunteer Diplomats embrace travel as readily as anyone – they li$e e)ploring other cultures and people"s color#ul ways !hese personality types are creatively inclined, o#ten practicing artistic e)pression in diverse #orms, and see magical beauty where others see the hum%drum o# daily li#e Fo r a group with such progressive attitudes, they also appreciate seeing th ings as they are, a pure
e)pression o# a way o# thin$ing and being Diplomats can be passionately inspired b y e)periences: music, cuisine, theater, nature, and anything else that goes be yond the obvious can rise to divine art in their eyes -i$e a gardener planting in #ertile earth, Diplomats seed the world around them with progressive change and gentle beauty Diplomats #eel connected to #orces they may not #ully understand, a deep sense o# #aith that may e)press itsel#, i# not always through traditional religion, as spiritual belie# Diplomats pursue things with an underlying idealism and a sense o# higher purpose( activism, spirituality, healing, the arts, and charity are common interests #or these personalities !hey have a conviction to serve a greater good, motivated by intangible rewards #elt in the heart and soul
STRATEGIES6 PEOPLE ;ASTERY Shared traits :
.)traverted and Assertive
People Masters are highly stress%resistant, maintaining con#idence through li#e"s challenges, social pressures, and any *uestions o# their capabilities !hese personality types see$ social contact and have solid communication s$ills, #eeling at ease when relying on or directing other people People Masters" mantra is #earless engagement – to be is to do !his is not a group $nown #or its timid opinions or idleness People Masters #eel rewarded by stimulation and challenging e)p eriences !hey li$e travelling to see things, people, and places, where they can e)perience a richer understanding o# the world around them !hese personalities li$e sampling new #oods, li#estyles, and cultures( even things they don"t end up li$ing can be entertaining e)citement #or them ometimes, though, People Masters are too con#ident Insulated against sel#%doubt and the need to prove themselves, they don"t always test, or even consider, their own limits or ambitions !hey can slip into a pattern o# endless #un and com#ort%see$ing, rolling their eyes at those who press themselves towards more intimidating goals At the other end o# the spectrum, these personality types can &ust as easily ignore sensible caution, putting th emselves in e)traordinary and dangerous situations, con#ident they can #ind their wa y through Most #all somewhere in the middle, embracing healthy a mbition and competition so long as they play a meaning#ul part in social circles and leadership ocial interaction plays a big part in People Masters" happiness /hile not dependent on people"s approval #or emotional security, they appreciate acclaim #or their accomplishments and bright personalities, and can be a touch showy #rom time to time !hese types are sel#%con#ident, but they are o#ten lost without people to lead, laugh with, and love !heir charisma, sel#%assurance and boisterousness can sometimes be trying *ualities People Masters pre#er cooperation, but have #ew *ualms about dominating their opposition to achieve their goals, boldly promoting themselves and using their social s$ills to get ahe ad !his trategy
understands people"s needs, but can &ust as easily use this as a weapon rather than a tool o# compassion i# they have their sights set on something big People Masters can compromise when needed, but these personality types tend to be better tal$ers than listeners !hey can be very demanding, critici'ing people"s per#ormance regardless o# their #eelings because they e)pect no less o# themselves !hat said, these types are moderate in their disagreements because their ego and con#idence aren"t at sta$e the way they o#ten are #or !urbulent trategies People Masters are not #ond o# grudges, content to let bygones be bygones !hey are more li$ely to be socially idealistic, with the intent o# bringing people together to ma$e things happen – petty grievances &ust get in the way People Masters" charismatic virtues shine in social conte)ts, and these types have little #ear o# re&ection and a passion #or inclusion !hey pre#er to ta$e the lead, but sharing the &ourney through other people"s eyes enhances their own en&oyment as well People Masters share in all aspects o# people"s lives, ma$ing these personalities strong, honest #riends, parents, spouses, and colleagues, serving as wellsprings o# energy, &oy, and mutual success
