Zan – Enlighten Enlightened ed Seductio Seduction n Vol. 1 – The Way Of The Natural
“There is a subset of men that move around women with ease. These rare men are those that have consciously learnt the ability to see women in their natural state, see right through their make up and walls, their insecurities and their loss. They see women as they really are. Women can sense immediately when they are in the presence of a man that likes women, who thinks they are beautiful, makes them feel lovely. He genuinely likes women, and therefore he is liked by women. “ Women open themselves up to him willingly, because he understands the things that women universally respond to. He is not like other men and women know it.” Who are these men? What qualities do they possess? We call them “naturals”. A man who is comfortable in the land of women.
Am I a true natural? Am I comfy around women? Do I flirt with women? Have I dated beautiful women? Have I had great relationships with wonderful women? Have I slept with a lot of women? Have I had three-somes or more-somes? Does that make me a natural?
I always say “I am not a pick-up pick-up artist.” artist.” “I am a lover of beauty beauty – beauty beauty in all its forms. And that attitude will make you automatically more attractive to women.” Tactics and techniques might bring something, but what we teach is SO MUCH DEEPER. What interests me is the notion of creating chemistry and amplifying attraction. attraction. The belief that you could seduce any woman in a room will get you far with women and there is no harm in it. “I could but I won’t.” It will open much more doors than it closes. “I decided long time ago that any woman that meets me or is talking to me is Very empowering reality. interested in me.” Very Secret of naturals: They are not born with it At one point in his life, tired of rejection, he decided to get that part of his life handled. Tried and failed – retained the things that worked, discarded what did not. Naturals are not born, they are made. - pag page e1-
Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 1 – The Way Of The Natural What makes some people so attractive? Can it be broken down? Asking a natural, most can’t explain to you what it is. It is more than self-confidence Inner clarity, centeredness, purpose. 10 traits all natural seducers have 1. “They are all his girls.” He has immense compassion for them – sees their faded dreams and he makes it his mission to impark beauty into her life again. He makes her feel alive, and inspired, once again. Because women deserve passion and he knows they are not getting it from the men they are involved with. Natural seducer has compassion for all women. Most girls are never really “single”. He knows that women love sex as well – they just have to hide it somehow in society. If you think that “they are all your girls” there is no “picking-her up” because she already is “picked up”. 2. Every natural seducer knows that the secret to his power over women lies in the power they have over him. Against “I am the price”. The power of showing a little vulnerability to women. Showing he is delighted by the way they flow through life. He lets it be known that he is delighted by her. “He needs her, but he is not needy.” He puts her on a pedestal, but it is one of his own chosing. 3. He has a purpose in life that is not her. Does not mean that he does not delight in her, but he is on an adventure through the jungle to see what magic he can find, and he would love if she comes along, but if not, that is okay. He might be sad, but he will go anyway. Mistake if the guy makes her the adventure. “Something that allows them to escape their banal existence”, that is what they want. 4. He realizes that honesty is the greatest aphrodisiac. He can not bear the thought that a woman would ever feel she was manipulated by him. He embraces his sexuality, presents it to her without presumption, and he is delighted if she responds favourably, but if she does not he is okay. He has a lot of respect for a woman opening up to him. But for flirting – always let her guess if you are saying the truth or not. That’s how to banter . 5. He never kisses and tells – EVER. Feels no need to validate himself to other men by bragging about his encounters with women. His encounters with women are all about respect – because he is not interested in taking, but in sharing something with her. “If she does not feel like a queen, he does not feel like a king.” HE IS NEVER OUT TO GET LAID. Having said that, if she tells other people, it is actually very good. He is not ashamed of it. Out of respect for her and her reputation, he never kisses and tells. How do you let her know you don’t kiss and tell? I tell her. ”A woman that trusts me enough to open her body and her emotions to me that is a very profound thing. That is something that can never be taken lightly.” Your goal should always be to leave her better than you found her – and her sensing that she will open herself up to you, you never before dreamt. The concept of LMR will completely go away. I make no apologies for my desires as a man. I tell her I am not content with just looking at her. 6. He never defends himself – EVER. Deflect it! If you are challenged, make fun of her and the situation. 7. He never takes himself, her, or the situation too seriously. He even uses self-deprecating humor at times. 8. He realizes the massive importance of body language. He studies it carefully. 93% of communication is body language. Women are relying on - page 2 -
Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 1 – The Way Of The Natural their senses to make an image of who we are. E.g. if you are just that they will allow themselves to be touched, while not allow it others. They will allow liberties to certain men they would never allow to other men. 9. He knows that women are not attracted to men that are good looking – they are attracted to men that are attractive. “hover factor”: women within 30s of meeting guy – if she can picture him in a sexual position hovering over her and on top of her, she will be receptive to him sexually if everything works out that way. 10. To an enlightened seducer, his relationships never end. He is connected to the women in his life – forever. All man who are naturals are friends with women. They never say a bad word about him. How is that possible? She will only feel cheated if she feels that you promised something to her that you did not deliver. They have all added to your life and to who you are and they will always be there – forever. Often hear “I can’t believe I just told you that.” “I can’t believe I just slept with you.” – Because she can sense that I will respect her in the morning and would never take advantage of her. Two ways you can approach a girl: #1. self-confidence #2. smug assumption: “Yeah, whatever, your loss. I am the price.” Always do first, not second.
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Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 2 – The Way Of Men & Women
Society has changed for both sexes – pill invented – sexual liberty. But deep down the feeling that something vital has been lost among the way. Men seem to feel lost – marriage does not work anymore – men/women do not get invested as much as once did. Men are confused and do not know how to approach women. Often our traditional role of provider and protector have changed. Men feel like they are gradually losing their utility to women. What is left? S o c ie t y t o d a y m a k e s i t t h a t f e w g e t a l o t a n d s o m e g e t n o n e .
Women still need us to celebrate them. Women still love and need to be seduced. Women are complicit in their own seduction. They want it more than you do – every women wants to be part of a love story. “Every women is complicit in her own seduction – and every man who understands this is forever surrounded by beauty.” Equality movement: Men and women shall be equal – YES! But problem thinking they should become “the same!”. The goal was equality, the result was sameness – there is the problem. On the one hand we link up that sharing feelings is bad, so we act aloof, but that makes us feel unhappy when we would really like to share our feelings. Keep the interactions fun and light. Used to be son growing up with dad and together try and fail – getting experience and learning the trade from dad. Today less and less dads around. It is a rare man today who spends time with his son. He is either not there at all or too busy and distracted. The result is a generation of men largely raised by women. “Today we are surrounded by boys that are men created by women.” This is the essence of the nice guy today. That is why men feel lost – different than ever. Information is not passed on from our dads to us – the way it has been for thousands of years. All of us have unhealed wounds, but most do not recognize it – you have and are taking steps to heal it. Women knows what you are all about, right away. - page 1 -
Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 2 – The Way Of Men & Women 5 boxes women put guys: 1. The guy is kinda creepy, I don’t like him at all 2. Not here, not there – just a guy 3. That guy is a nice guy, he would make a good friend for me 4. Long-term-potential – I really like him, let’s be nice around him 5. I would like to sleep with that guy You are in one of these 5 boxes with every girl you know – and hard to get moved from one to another – all women have the same rating system. You want to be her friend, not her enemy. You knock on and she lets you in. Henry David Thoreau: “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” as true today, as back then Alabaster Girl: image of the ideal girl; YOU WILL NEVER FIND HERE! It is a search without end. A real woman could never live up to her. We compare every girl to this image inside of us “What you love her for in the beginning you despise her for later on.” The answer we seek can never be found in a woman. Don’t get angry at her for not being able to live up to that impossible standard that you created. The way of women “transcending beauty” – something great about here transcending beauty; They want to be delighted at and swept of their feet. They want to be enticed and seduced. Women are missing one thing in their lives – romance they are dreaming about. Be her fantasy – let her feel free, innocent and young again. A man can be all the things a woman says she wants, but is still unattainable, he never makes empty promises – combined of the attractive things of the jerk and the nice guy. Every woman wants to be in a love story – that is what they want.
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Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 3 – The Way Of Relationships
What is love? Are you in love with her or the idea? Is there such a thing as true, lasting love? Definition maybe: “Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right girl.” Does it magically create when she appears? If that is true, then true love is new love. The problem with that notion is that the feeling comes and it may go. Most people approach a relationship like that. Usually the intensity we feel is taken as the sign whether “true love” or not. When talking to her and saying you like her – her saying: “Why you say you like me so much? You have just met me.” Say: “I don’t know, I’m trying to figure that out myself.” But after some time, feeling goes and “magic just isn’t there anymore.” Happily ever after is still the idea we love. If we would fail as often in business as in love, we would shake our head and realize “Hey, something is not working.”, but in affairs of the heart, we repeat cycles over and over again. We think we know what we want, but we don’t. Danger: think that what we want is that girl – that ideal. And think that then we will be happy and all problems solved. “Then, finally, I will be happy.” Truth is: That will not make us happy. Then what do we need? We only need one thing: to be loved, to be accepted as we are. “Falling in love is that euphoric sense of sensibility, that exquisite madness that takes over all our senses. It is a form of madness, like seeing a miracle, that no one else can see.” Every passionate relationship began one. We men spend fortunes, work hard, so on to make us in the end more lovable, women tune their looks. “That fundamental longing in our soul is what has fuelled every endeavour of men.” The better you get with women, the less you will feel the need to prove it to other guys. The things you thought you always wanted, is not what you want at all. - page 1 -
Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 3 – The Way Of Relationships It is not fair to put the burden on her to make you happy. The less you need women, the more you will have. “This has never been about women. This has always been about rediscovering your soul and regaining a former clarity.” The answer you seek can never be found on a woman. Every passionate relationship began with passion. The problem starts when we expect the feeling to last for a lifetime and build a life around it. How to stay out of LJBF – tell her right of the bat “I am not that kind of a guy. I am more honest than most people you will ever meet.” So on…tell her what you are about, she will be refreshed and if she stays, she is “complicit in her own seduction”.
“How do you keep the love alive?” 1. They meet and start to date As spend more time with each other – start to demand exclusivity. Both want to move on to stage 2. 2. Girl and boy start referring to each other as “boyfriend”, “girlfriend”. Stop seeing other people. Directly agreed or quietly understood. 3. They are completely comfy with each other. Wonderful communication, great sex, go for drinks, merge friends. When the typical relationship is the most blissful. And they are much in love. 4. This is the stage where they settle into the routine of “daily life”. Up and downs, their jobs, their classes – normal life. But routine starting to settle in. In this stage they start to long for the days of stage 3 before the routine set in. There is a quiet unrest starting to simmer underneath. “Where are we going to be in 5 years 5. Realize that all their best intentions about communicating more, so on are not really working. Sex happening less and less often, and if, dispassionate. Now they are starting to resent each other some what. And being surprised, that what attracted them once now annoys them. This is where affairs are usually introduced. 6. Little more nasty. Accusations start to fly. At this stage, one of them is getting more confrontational, the other one more and more apathetic. Just does not care anymore. 7. Make-or-break-time. Breaking apart – still technically connected, but taking a break. Either end it or get back and try again.
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Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 3 – The Way Of Relationships Maybe the difference between her and her in the beginning is that i.t.b. she is asking for nothing. “In my opinion a relationship should be pure, perfect and natural in its own right. Without having to be “worked upon””. “The moment you attempt to analyze something, you change it.” Relax in the relationship and let it flow – only that way it can last forever. In my opinion “working on the relationship” is the death nail for the relationship. If the two of you are not on some kind of spiritual journey together, your relationship will fail. Can only last if the two of you are working on becoming better as a person – personally evolving. To a true lover, a lover of woman, a master seducer, his relationships with his women never end. He has touched her so profoundly, that she will always carry him around with them. “A woman is a butterfly that landed on your hand. You must be very still and enjoy it as long as you can, before she flies away. You need to recognize that you have been blessed with her presence. Keep your hand on her to protect her. But maybe she flies eventually away. Admire the butterfly as it stays, maybe it stays for a life. She will stay there as long as you are fascinated by her. The moment you take your eyes of her and get distracted she will notice – do this long enough and she will eventually fly away.” Some hate that thought and try to hold on – jealousy, so on – pushes her away.
A woman must be free to leave, only then will she stay. You give her room to breath, “being together apart”. Woman will only feel cheated if they thought you promised something to them and you did not deliver. You will come to the realization: The memory of the beauty she infused into your life will never be over-shadowed by the cloud of a deteriorating relationship – that is a profound and beautiful realization. Once you have learnt to let go of a beautiful woman, all things are possible with them. Jealousy Jealousy is fear – of loss, rejection, abandonment. Take it as a reflection about our own insecurity of our worthiness. introduce
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People like to dive at different depths – that is just the way it is. Maybe the girl swims for some time at your depth but does not feel good there for long – back to the surface. You can never change a person’s preference at which to dive. - page 3 -
Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 4 – The Way Of Change
Can the art of love be learnt? Can we learn to become the man that women respond to? Can we learn new ways of being to increase our aura and charm? Can you learn to live a life that is purposeful? Can you learn to be compelling – a man to be admired and desired? Can we actually change? YES! Have you ever been a woman’s fantasy? How would you feel right now knowing that a girl is fantasizing and dreaming about you – right now? Zan: “I would always fall for the pretty, popular girl in class and she would always freeze me out of her life.” “I consistently rejected myself on her behalf and took her the part of even having to acknowledge me.” “I always carried the belief that “I do not deserve a girl like that.”” – decided to become “a student of women”.
Fake it till you make it works! But because of you taking actions – out of your comfort zone – by taking the first step of change you are becoming “a new self”. That is you are doing something that you are. “There is only making it.” When is someone “a true natural”? There is no magic point. Whatever number you decide is the point that you would call him a “natural”. You are never truly accomplished. Self-limiting beliefs make you “limited liable” to yourself. Comfy, cozy reality. What is it that you want from women? How do you want to be perceived by them?
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Zan – Enlightened Seduction Vol. 4 – The Way Of Change Visualization We always feel like we have to do something – be idle. We can not just sit by ourselves, because “that is wrong”. Rather: join classes, watch TV, do everything to be “busy”. We often “live to work”, not “work to live”. The truth is 30 minutes sitting by yourself thinking about your place in the Universe, not watching TV, is the highest activity you can do. Picture what you would like to have in your life in 90 days. Does that TV-show look like you? No, get rid of it! Stop watching depressing news that add nothing to your life. “There is no better way to make your life better than to stop watching TV and start doing something else.” Do these 3 things: 1. write down in a list everything that you desire 2. read that list 3 times a day without fail; think about it constantly 3. don’t tell anyone else what you are doing The key is thinking about what you want and casting the things off you don’t want. Every reality you create inside will determine your reality on the outside. Affirmations “Everything and everyone prospers me now.” “Everything I desire, my entire future, is contained in this day, this morning, this day.” Stop surrounding yourselves with people or reading books that have nothing to do with the picture of the future you.
Asking wise man how to get wisdom – keeps him under water almost to black out – What did you want when you were down there? Just breathe! That is how bad you have to want wisedom! /success. Universal sign of attraction: raising eye-brow when something passes we like. Pupil-dilation. Blink rate will tend to go up.
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