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Quick Note: This is a lot of info! Be cool, and remember that the way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. The best thing you can do with this manual is TAKE 1 TACTIC AND APPLY IT IMMEDIATELY. Let them set for maybe a week, and then continue. Value o What is valuable to women? i. Frame Control: getting her to react to you, rather than you react to them 1. Avoid Qualifying yourself. This is where you try to explain to her what makes you special. “I have a Ferrari.” If you have things of value, work them into a story that is a good story by itself. 2. Frame control is like the window of what you’re focusing on...you must at the very minimum understand, “Who owns the frame right now?” In every social interaction. 3. Get used to public speaking to understand how to own the frame ii. Body Language: cool, confident, and relaxed. 1. Neutral Body language is the best because it conveys neither neediness nor disinterest.
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2. Body Language is one of those things that just has to be good enough. a. Very few girls are going to go back to their friends, “did you see the body language on that guy? I’m sleeping with him” b. Instead, make sure that you’re body language is a 7 out of 10. c. By going through this program, you'll be at this level. iii. Communication Style: Voice, Tempo, etc 1. Your voice a. should be clear b. have a nice tone c. have a solid rhythm i. Opposite of this is really choppy d. Should speak loud enough, so that you’re speaking one person past. 2. Modes of Communication: Organizing Principle: Different people require a combination of each of these in order to properly communicate with them, if you were a celeb, and someone came and asked you 15 questions, what would this convey? a. TR – trying for rapport i. Example: “Where you from?” b. NR – neutral rapport i. Example: “How do I get to Mel’s diner?” c. BR – breaking rapport i. Example: “you girls are dorks.” d. GR – Giving rapport i. Example: “I just came back from Australia” Them: “Oh, really…” You: “Yeah, it was a kickass time…x,y, and z happened”
3 of 23 iv. Social Value, ie Fame, Money, & your Social Circle v. Humor 1. Standup or Improv Comedy Classes 2. Should raise your value vi. Interesting – you have intriguing things to say 1. Converational Skills. a. Principle: this is the base for all pick-up. If you can't do this, then practice by looking at what topic you're talking about and then telling an interesting story or fact that you know about it. vii. Interested – you are interested in them 1. Call back information that they’ve said before 2. Other quick points a. Emotion vs. Logical = how most decisions are made from emotion and aren’t always based on the most logical approach. Also, how people have mixed associations, guys want to get good at PU yet they don’t want to get rejected. This produces an illogical mixed emotional state that messes them up. People are driven by emotion plain and simply. b. Societal conditioning vs. her real wants. On a deep level women love sex, but they are programmed to not like it because they don’t want to be called “sluts” c. Rationalization & how women follow their emotions not logic to make illogical decisions. d. Bumping too much of Buying Temperature (emotional intensity), and it’s consequences with buyer’s remorse. This is where women feel guilty sometimes after making out with a guy really quickly because of all the emotions, but then she feels that she makes a mistake and doesn't come back. e. Rather than be reaction seeking, live in your own reality and have her asking about you and wanting to be with you. f. Men use scripts, women use push/up bras, make-up, and heels. IF women can be deceptive with their appearance, then you can be deceptive with your seemingly impromptu humor, storytelling, and charisma. In the end, they don’t care…just tell them after you’ve had sex with them that you’ve been to this seminar…not before. g. Content based PU. Organizing Principle: you must have meat to your conversation. A plot line a direction. You cannot jump around busting all over the place and expect the girl to want to meet up with you. TO GET HOT CHICK, YOU NEED 2 THINGS MASSIVE VALUE + QUALIFICATION. • 5-Point Escalation Structure o
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Objection: To start a set and to normalize the set. The focus: How can I open the set and start the conversation? How do I get them to talk to you?
4 of 23 Advantage of indirect vs. direct, if done correctly, in her head, the girl is saying to herself, “Yeah, this guys asked me an opinion, and we just hit it off.” § Direct • Efficiency level conflict. How often will it work? o Anything will work with enough repetition, including “Hey, do you want to f*+k?” o How often will it yield results? We’ve found the opinion opener consistently opens sets. • Cocky, Funny Direct: “I was standing over there with my friends, and I saw you and you looked fun and bubbly. I wanted to have a crush on you…” • Use it if you have eye contact § Cocky, Funny Situational, example, “Man, there are quite a few drunk people here, you’re a sloppy drunk aren’t you…I can see it written all over your face. Ok?” § False Time Constraints. You need to constrain how long you’re going to be there because too often guys go up and talk with girls for hours. • “I’ve really got to be going in a sec…my friends are going to kill me…” § Spontaneity and Congruence: Doesn’t look planned, and you understand the opener and all the threads involved. • Spontaneity = You were having this conversation with your friends, and then you needed another opinion • Congruence = the words you’re saying are matching your Body Language + Tonality o This means that you look like you believe it too o Without congruence, you will get a lot of “is this a survey…”, “is this a pick-up line?…” type shit tests. • How to create an opinion opener: • Think of a male/female relationship story from your personal life. Then keep the meat of the story. § Examples "Hey guys, I need an opinion. My friend met this girl in Seattle, and they really hit it off. They wound up hooking up on the first night, and he even hung out with her in L.A. over the next week. So he's up visiting her in Seattle last week, and they're out on a walk. He takes a few pictures of them together. Like really cute ones with them together. Some of them they're just hanging out, and a few of them they're like kissing or whatever while they're out walking. Anyway, the next morning he wakes up, and checks his camera. He looks at the pictures, and he sees that she's woken up before him and gone into it and deleted the pictures where they're kissing, and left the ones where they're just hanging out. He goes to her and says 'Are you psycho? Why are you going into my camera?' She says §
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Objective: To get her wanting to stay rather than leavel. The focus: How can I get her attracted to me? How do I create tension? How do I build value? § Organizing Principles: • Sequencing = some things work better in different places, adopting girls as your little sister right from the get go can weird them out sometimes. o If things don't work right, don't say they don't work but rather you've misplaced it. Like a golfer using a driver on the putting green, or a race car starting the race in fifth gear. • Watch for the hook = as guys we sometimes do overkill and keep hitting the nail on the head. If you have her hooked, then qualify her. • Look for Indicators of Interest: o Touching Lips or Hair or Neck § Sexual Nervousness o Asking Trying for Rapport based questions, such as “What’s your name?”, “Where you from?” o They come back to the conversational threads. You leave and they kick-off the convo right where you guys started off. o Touching you, reaching for you to feel a sense of validation o Nodding at everything you have to say. o Wide eyes. Extremely intent on what you’re saying. • There are two types of tactices used to get to the hook point: Intrigue OR/AND Buying Temperature (Attract) Game. • Difference between Intrigue and Buying Temperature is the energy level. You can switch between the two. Intrigue based game will be at an energy level 6 of 10, while Buying Temperature based game will be at a level 8 of 10. § Openers can be categorized into intrigue based and buying temperature based. Intrigue based openers are ideal for lower key venues, such as lounges and private parties. Attract based openers are great for higher energy venues, such as loud clubs, bars, or huge parties. § INTRIGUE BASED GAME
6 of 23 o Organizing Principle: You convey value by telling interesting stories and facts, while coming across that you are way cooler than she. If need be, you lower her value § She should be thinking, “I don’t know what it is about him…he was just so interesting.” o Group Theory. § Organizing Principle: Since very attractive women rarely go out alone, you sometimes must engage the entire group. You engage the group while ignore the girl, and teasing and “negging” (see below) the girl o Negs. § ORGANIZING PRINCIPLE: Sometimes very attractive women have high perceived amounts of value and will not be able to be communicated with unless you use a comment gone wrong aka a “neg” § Examples • is she always like this? • “You know what’s funny about you…is every time you talk your nose wiggles…” • “Look like’s something on here”, take the lint on her shirt. • “Here go like this…you have some eye crusties right here…” • “That must be a popular outfit…I’ve seen like 5 girls with it on…” • "you have something in your ears" • “Here hold this for me…” give her something to hold onto, and then continue talking to her friends.” o Open Loop, § Organizing Principle: Start a thread and be willing to cut it off for something else, and then come back to it later. DON'T BE SO STUCK ON AN OPENER OR STORY THAT YOU JUST HAVE TO FINISH IT. Flexibility is key with communication. • “You know I was just going to the grocery store today and I saw this old man…you know what’s funny about that town is that it’s all these old buildings…” o Interesting stories.
7 of 23 Organizing Principle: These stories have little humor, but rather are incredibly interesting and end with a lesson learned. • Be attentive to your audience. If you think you're being interesting, and the audience is going to sleep. Stop the story. o Interactive Value Demonstration. Ghetto translation, “Showing them Shit” § Organizing Principle: You show higher value by teaching a girl something, and you show her how what you are teaching applies to her. § Examples: § Eliciting Value Routine • -what is the experience you most enjoy doing? (she'll say dancing or being with family or something) -what is the ideal scenario of you doing that thing. describe it.. • -so picturing that RIGHT NOW, how do you feel.. what emotions? • -"so really then, while I was asking you this, you smiled.. and yeah its kind of because I'm being a bit funny or weird or whatever.. but also, its because you could kind of feel that emotion right now, while we were talking about it.. can you feel it.. blah blah" • -so really then, even though your favourite experience is dancing, your core value is fun and excitement.. So what's most important to you is the experience of fun and excitement, and whatever leads you to that is most important.. blah blah -OK, so in 4 minutes we've fulfilled your quest for core value. You can die now. • SUMMARY OF THE ELICITING VALUE ROUTINE: o FAVOURITE ACTIVITY o DESCRIPTION OF HER FAVOURITE ACTIVITY IN AN IDEAL SETTING o WHAT EMOTION SHE GETS WHILE SHE PICTURES THIS §
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a wingman, you say, “We know that chick. Why don’t you just ask me a question about her.” And we just… (SB does the girl code sideways eye shift to his wing, that the wing would mirror.) They die laughing. It’s the funniest thing ever. Style has another version of it. He calls it a ‘best friends test.’ Girls do the girl code, then he goes “Are you guys best friends. I could tell. I’ll prove it to you guys. What is…your favorite shampoo?” (The girls look at each other.) See. You didn’t even answer the question and I could tell because you looked at each other. Then right after you say that, they’ll look at each other again. Then you say. “See, like that.” And they lose it. They lose it. It’s probably the most effective technique we have. Buying Temperature Tactics. Organizing Principle. You convey value via your humor and wit. o Busting on their Mannerisms = People laugh when you show them something they didn't know abou them that is funny; therefore, you tease her on anything she does with her body, including gestures, facial expressions, posture, movements. § BF Test § Hey, are you guys best friends? (wait for giggling response). OK, throughout this interaction, you guys take on the same postures. And you have the same facial expressions. And I think the same eyebrows..... and you know what? Everytime you guys go to talk, or I'm talking to you, or you're talking or whatever, you keep LOOKING AT EACHOTHER FIRST (and then point in between them, and let them laugh, and follow up with), you know, you guys for christmas could get eachother like little shoulder strap mirrors, so when you're separated and part, you could look at it like (then make funny shoulder looking motion with funny facial expression) § Don’t look at me like that…my mother looks like that. § You make the funniest facial reactions… § You have this good girl face, but every now and then you squint and make this bad girl face like this…
10 of 23 § Oh my god!...what was that look… o Mini-Coldreads. o Organizing Principle: Rather than be a dry coldreader (most fortune tellers are just cold-readers), you throw a fun twist on it by giving it an exageration. o Generic Formula: “You are so X-Trait you’re just like y-exaggeration.” o Examples: § ADD Girls, “You girls are so distracted. You girls are like little ADD girls.” § Fiesty. “You girls are so feisty. You’re like little powerpuff girls.” § Investigative. “You girls are investigative. You’re like little Nancy Drew Girls…” § Analytical. “You’re so analytical..you’re like a little Barbra Walters…” § Mean. “You're so mean. You're like Linsey Lohan from that movie 'Mean Girls' • You're so mean. You're like the mean girls that used to beat kids up on the playground. o Cocky and Funny Role-playing o Organizing Principle: Roleplaying is a low risk way of acting out a fun scenario. § FORMULA: You frame a scenario, possibly. Chose an attitude attribute, then something popular in pop culture that you relate that attitude to. Then, roleplay you and her doing that popular thing § Examples, § “You know what...I've had it. You keep ballbusting me. Me and you outside right now” § Bodyguards • “You look tough…I’m going to make you my bodyguard. You’re going to protect me…I’m going to pay you really well too…actually know what I’ll keep the money and pay you in Hershey kisses…” § Chi-Chi • You are such a little troublemaker… know what I’m going to do is make you my little Latin gang banger…I’m going to give you a bandana, a switchblade, a low rider, and a bandana and let you
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ride in a low rider…if anyone try to start sh$t, I’m going to be like, hey bro, hands off I’m with Chichi Marriage • Have a pretend marriage with your wingman serving as the minister. The trick is to get to the part of, “You may now kiss the bride.” Lil Sister • You are so adorable…If I didn’t have to go right now, I’d adopt you…you’d be like my little x-location (for example if you’re in Hollywood, say “hollywood”) sister. We’d totally roll together, and I’d have to keep you in check because Dad has been telling me that you’ve been acting up. If they’re touching you, • “You know what. I can’t trust you guys. Girls are predators. Girls are sexual predators. I come out to clubs, and I see all these guys trying to seduce all these women. But that’s not the case. That’s not the way it works. Guys are so dumb. They think they’re seducing the women. At the end of the day it’s women that choose. It’s the girl that chooses. Guys dangle themselves in front of the women thinking they made it happen. But all along, at the end of the day, girls choose…You know, when guys get mad at their girlfriend, they can’t just go out to a club and sleep with a random girl. It just doesn’t happen. How many guys can do that? How many guys do you think can honestly do that? Less than 3 percent. Look at these guys. Look at them. They go after all these girls. They’re complimenting, they’re leaning in, they’re touching them. That doesn’t get anyone anywhere. That’s not going to work. Some girls like it, but seriously, how many guys do you think can really do that? It’s the girls that choose. Girls go out to the clubs. They put on their
12 of 23 push-up bra, high-heel shoes, and just walk around looking hot, choosing guys. That’s the way it is. You know what? You know why this is? It’s because girls are the only gender that has an organ designed solely for sexual pleasure.That’s why girls, when they have sex, they’re like, “oooooh, oooooh” (loud, others in the club hear you). When guys have sex, it’s like “uhhhhh “ (relief). o Future Adventures Projection = You talk about the fun things you can do in the future because it's a lot more fun than standard boring conversational topics. § Examples: § If you’re talking about skydiving, • “Are you spontaneous? We’re going to hop on an airplane. Have you been skydiving? I’ll get us matching backpacks. They can be pink, it’s ok. I’d shove you out the airplane because you’d be too scared. But I’d have to pull your cord for you. Then, we’d be over a church. Then, we’d fall down arm and arm through the roof. Then your parachute is going to catch you and be your vail. § Tell her that you’re going to take her on a Vegas Wedding, and that you two are going to go through a drive-through wedding chappel. I'll tell the minister wedding for two please, and he'll say, 'for this beautiful lady of course' Then we'll get married, and go to McDonalds for a post-wedding feast. You'll get clumsy and knock over your drink onto the wedding certificate, ruining it. And that will be the end of our short-lived marriage. § "Oh, you're getting fiesty huh? You know what I would do with you? I would dress you up.... in a red.. PVC... *devil* outfit.. You'd have little horns like this... and a tail.. bitch boots, and..... a pitch fork. Now your friend here.. I'd dress her up in a similar angel outfit.. with wings.. and a fur halo.. and I'd roll with you guys on each arm down the street.. Every girl would be jealous of you.. And whenever I'd have to make
13 of 23 a decision.. I'd let each of you fight over which decision is the most fun.. and whatever one would be the most fun.. we'd do that." (the periods are to show the pacing, because they roll over laughing in between every pause) o “Who’s line is it anyways?” Exercise. Start off talking about some crazy scenario and then pass it to your buddy to finish it. Do this a few times to get you used to thinking creatively. • Elastic Band Snapback Effect § What are they? They’re harsh comments § Why do they work? Because they stun the women and give you a small window in which you can show your personality. Because it pulls the women back in. § How do they work? § Examples. § “I hate you” § “You and I wouldn’t get along” § Backturns § The finger § You know why you suck o Push/Pull § What is it? It is two opposing forces. Think of a stripper pulling in a guy by his tie, but thens pushing him away with her heals. § Why? Because it triggers the emotions by getting a girl to think whether or not she has you. Because it § How does it work? It can be even non-verbal, but take one comment that is very mean, but then temper it with something nice. § You girls are the coolest girls I’ve ever met OR total weirdos § Part of me wants to stay here and talk and the other part of me wants to run away § You girls are the coolest girls I’ve met…in the last 15 minutes. § “I thought I loved you until you did that.” § Note to self…do not be friends with this girl.” § I want you to my girlfriend…for the next five minutes. § You girls are really awesome. Kind of. § You’re the coolest annoying dork who’s annoyed me all night. § You know what I love about you…absolutely nothing.
14 of 23 o Challenging/Playful Qualifying = you’re taking over the frame to see if they’re good enough § What is it? A playful way to send the girl through your innocuous screens. § Why does it work? Because you’re taking girls playful qualifiers and spinning it back on you. Because you’re putting them through arbitrary qualifiers.s § How does it work? § First question. Qualifying question. Answer the first question first. § It looks like they’re good enough…then they’re not good enough. Remember good enough, then not good enough. § “You seem fun…before I can hang out with you more… Can you cook? Do you have a big screen TV? No, big screen TV! It’s not going to workout…at least I found this out at the beginning of this relationship” § It’s funny if it’s random § “I’m going to ask you a question. But before you answer, there’s one answer that can you make completely love you. There’s another thing that will make walk away right now. Go ahead.” o Comedic Stories o What are they? A way for you to show that you’re funny without saying, “Hey, I’m funny, but I’m tired…let’s hang out so I can show you that I’m funny.” o Why do they work? Because they hit girls on an emotional level and makes them laugh. Because women love to be around the life of the party and it shows that you are that person. Because it shows that you have a solid sense of humor. o How do they work? § Clean and simple. § Transitions • I saw the coolest thing • That’s just like when • That reminds me of § Punches in between. § The build-up ends at a high-point or a realization (giggle or awww) § Rhythm, Punctuation, and Volume change for the climax
15 of 23 Comedic Timing • BF Test example • Follow-on Material Trashcan Kid Story § I was walking with some friends at an outdoor mall called the grove in LA. As we’re walking and talking I see this little 5 year old kid charging full speed at us from the side. You know when you walk and someone walks in your way and you just take a sidestep and walk around? We all did this simultaneously like we were in tune with each other’s minds. We take 2 more steps and hear a crash. My friend said did you see that? Because my other friend and I were zoned out in conversation. Right when he says that it hits me because I saw the whole thing except I was so into the conversation with my friend that I zoned everything else out. Well we look back and it ends up that the kid ran straight into a trashcan that we blocked from his site. He is literally stuck on the thing falling like this…(do stupid face and fall down like you’re a mime hitting a mirror) Badass Little Kid Story § You know, I saw the CUTEST kid today.. I was just rolling by with my friend Nick, and we see this badass thugged out kid on a skateboard. He's got a black bandana.. sunglasses.. ripped up jeans, ripped up shirt.. and hightops.. so we roll by and we look at this kid and slow down.. and we're like "This kid should be our mascot or something.." I mean, you know Joe C from Kid Rock? How much cooler would this conversation be right now if we had like a little JoeC right here, throwing around chairs and kicking garbage cans.. and backing up EVERYTHING I say.. So we roll by this kid, and we slow down, and he looks up at us...... and he's like (make evil but funny ass face and throw up your middle finger). Rollerblading Story § I took my friend roller-blading today. He was roller blading for the first time, and we went right by this kid. And I was pushing him because he never went roller-blading before. §
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16 of 23 So I guess maybe this kid saw this because everyone else was laughing at us. You see, you know those movies where the guy goes behind the girl and he is teaching her to play pool and they move all sexy like this [me moving my body and arms as if I am standing behind a girl teaching her to play pool] or when a guy is teaching a girl how to play golf and the guy is standing behind her teaching her how to swing like this [me reenacting the situation]...well, I realized that that is what was happening so I let go of my friend, but he feel down. I guess that taught me that you can't let go of your friends. o Impressions o What are they? § They are you impersonating someone else o Why do they work? § Because men who can demonstrate these things are perceived as having more value because they’ve developed there personalities to include these. o How do they work? § Accents § Ali G § Pimp Talk § “hello? yo baby what's up girl? yo girl i was thinking maybe i come over and we take our relationship to the next level, and in the morning, girl, i'ma pour you a bowl of count chocula and i'm gonna pull some of the oat pieces out so it tastes like there's just more marshmallow. cuz that's how much i care about you girl. girl, i would change up the marshmallow to oat ratio for you." o Misinterpretation § What is it? § Why do they work? Because they reverse the frame and put it on you. § How do they work? § Compliment = “Cool, let’s get out of here.” § Touching…”oohh, it’s on…” o Cocky & Playful o What are they? They’re fun, silly more physical things you can do to help heighten attraction.
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was a totally natural and spontaneous thing and it wasn't something that these people usually do. It just happened. And these people just connected with each other on every word and at every level. It was as if, they had already known each other for so long, even though they had only known each other a matter of minutes...but it soon came a couple hours. And the incredible connection these two made was so strong it was as if there was a glow a light between these two people. So it was then that they decided that their meeting must be FATE. To test this out, the two went on their separate ways...and decided that if they would meet again, they would KNOW for sure that it was their DESTINY to be together. So they departed. They went on their separate ways. And as the years passed, a plague hit their city. And many people died. And years later...there was this guy...who was walking down the street...and there was a beautiful girl that was walking down the street towards him. And as they passed each other, both people recalled a faint glimpse of a memory of having seen each other before. But they continued walking their own separate ways...THE END. • If she doesn’t get this story, then say, “The lesson is that sometimes you have to live in the moment and not think too much about the future.” Time, 4-10 hours, on average 7 Deep and Wide Rapport • spread threads if possible • Deep = Grounded, intense • Wide = light The energy will die down, if it gets too low then sprinkle a little hook material. Phone Game • Phone Closing o "You know, for the same reason that we have to go right now, is the same reason tat we met. That's that we both have friends that we have to go back to. We're both cool people. Both social. See, if we were both LOSERS, then we could hang out the WHOLE NIGHT, in our OWN LOSER POSSE. So what we'll do is we'll just hang out later. If I call you tommorow afternoon and leave you a message, will you call me back? Cool, here's my number. OK, now call me so its on my phone. Cool. See ya later." • Phone Messages
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o Close § Close HARD. The best way to keep a girl is to give her hard sex. Other guys trying to come in on your set aka “AMOGs” (pronounced A Mog z) Organizing Principle: Sometimes you need to protect your sets from other guys coming in. Your first line of action is to ignore, but if they keep coming in then you must take action else you will lower your value massively in the eyes of the chic. o 1st Ignore o 2nd Try for Rapport (TR) while talking loudly and giving compliments, pats, o 3rd Use These as littls as necessary. § One comment and then go back to girls § Coin Grab Trick – ask instructor for demo § “Hey, you ever see that movie Fight Club? ‘I want you to hit me as hard as you can.’ Haha! Whoa! WTF am I thinking? Look at this guy! You’re huge man, you’d fuckin’ KILL me!” § (Shake hands) “Whoa! What a grip! Man, you’re tough! Do you have to register those pythons at the airport?” § (Shake hands, pull the guy’s hand to your dick) “Whoa, man, you’re my little brother! Take your hand off my pecker!” § Fake handshake where you pull away at the last moment § Thug Thumbshake § “Hi-Five!” (they don’t do it) “No, no man, like THIS!” (grab their hand and pull it up) § “Who said romance is dead? This guy’s runnin’ that courtly shit! It’s so romantic!” § “Dude, it’s Three’s Company! You’re like Jack Tripper!” (Guy w/ 2 chicks) § “Did you get some sun today? You look red.” § “Dude, you look tired.” § “That shirt is awesome, I had one just like it in high school!” § “That shirt is awesome, I bet you get all the girls with that, huh? Don’t you?” § Dude if I was gay, I'd fuck you ten times a day. § “Dude, why don’t you get some crayons and a helmet and go stand in the corner and draw me a picture of that shirt so I can buy it.” § “That shirt don’t make you!” § Touch them, slap them on the arm/back § “Whoa, dude, Club Gay’s over there!” (if they touch you)
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“Excuse me. May I cut in?” and go to kiss the guy “Do you have a girlfriend?” (yes) “Whoa, you leave your GF at home? That’s cold.” (no) “Oh, man, it’s okay, you’ll find someone…” “Dude, you’re like my personal assistant! Keep the advice coming! You’re like Queer Eye For the Straight Guy! I mean, you’re gay, right?” “You know I gotta impress you cool (x) guys!” “Just look at the STYLE on this guy!” “TEACH ME!!” (bow down) “Man, you’re such a joker! You’re such a comedian, you must think this stuff up all day! I can’t compete!” “OMG these sluts are hitting on me. Man, I’ll give you $100 to take these chicks off my hands!” “Some people didn’t get enough attention as a child.” “You guys are boyfriend & girlfriend? Wow, cause you look like you’re brother & sister. If you have kids, they’ll be all retarded, like this…” (make flipper face) “You guys look like you could be twins. Which one’s Danny Devito? Oh… wait... you’re BOTH fuckin Danny Devito!” Them: “How do you guys know each other?” You: “Her? I fucked her.” “What? What did you say to try to make people think you’re cooler than me? No, come on, I wanna hear this! Hahaha!” Derisive laughter, dismissal “Why are you talking to me?” “I’ll point my finger at you when I want to talk to you.” “Ha! Dude, you’re like Bart Simpson all grown up!” Them: “blah blah fight” You: “Sorry, dude, I’m into chicks, man, I’m flattered, but I like girls, man.” “What, you wanna fight? Are you serious? Ok, ok, I’ve got an even better idea, first we’ll arm-wrestle, then we’ll do onearmed pushups, then… POSE-DOWN!! (flex) Ladies?” “Man, you don’t have to try so hard! These chicks totally like you! Just be real!” “This guy is so cool. I can’t believe he’s a virgin!” “Hey man, this girl is my little sister, she just broke up with her boyfriend. You should talk to her.” “You guys make a cute couple. You should kiss her!” “Wow, dude, pick this chick up, she’s totally into you!” “Why are you so uptight?” “What are you really mad at?” “Ok girls, let’s go. No, not YOU girls, you have to stay here. I meant the REAL girls.”
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