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Night Game Mastery - Part 1
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How to meet women at bars
Women are in a social environment and are expecting men to approach Some women are out specifically to “hook up” and go home with a guy that night Anything can happen (same night lay, make out, phone number, threesome, etc.) Beautiful women everywhere Great place to practice
! ! ! II. DAY GAME VS ! Women aren’t expecting guys to approach them ! No competition ! Distractions: shopping, cell phone, working, in a hurry ! Best possible realistic scenario: instant date ! Don’t need to get all dressed up ! ! ! III. Bar Game Mindset (Inner Game) !
NIGHT GAME Women expect guys to approach Lots of competition Distractions: music, friends, guys, Best scenario: same night lay You must look and feel your best
a. Look and feel your best (peacock?) b. Warm up a. get social – talk to everybody b. get pumped – high fives, dance, listen to the music c. talk to everybody - don’t wait more than 60-seconds to say something to someone c. What’s your goal? Have a specific realistic goal that is not outcome dependent. d. Don’t impress her. Instead test her. e. Have fun! Because that’s why women are there.
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a. Open - Direct (“you’re pretty cute”)
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- Indirect (“I need your opinion on something”) - Fun (“I was going to wear that same outfit”) - Qualifying (“You seem fun, are you fun?” - Generic (“What’s in that drink?”) b. Be Fun - Routines - Games - Role Playing - Teasing c. Confidence - Escalating - Screening - Leading Her/Them d. Rapport - Getting to know each other and building commonalities e. Close - Get her number - Move her - Take her home
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Direct Openers - Shows you have balls and let the girl know that you are interested in her in a manwoman way - You have to really believe you are going to get the girl - Great for daytime approaches Adorable (good for crowded club where girls are walking by) “You are adorable” (can also say “and I’m picky” or “kinda /cute” to be a challenge) Fun “You guys look fun so I thought I’d come talk to you”
b. Indirect Openers - Neutral in that start a conversation but they don’t spark attraction - Low risk, high opening percentage and have no effect on your closing ratio - You don’t want to get sucked into a conversation about your opener Do I Look Gay “Hey guys do I look gay? Because I just had a guy offer to buy me a drink”
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Get Ready “Hey guys quick question how long does it take you guys to get ready for a night out?” (tease their answer) “So check this out my friend Sarah is 3 hours late, its taking her 3 hours to get ready and she’s all hippy so she’s going to show up in sandals and a hemp shirt, I mean how long does that take?”
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Deaf Girl “Hey this is kind of random but would you ever date a deaf person?” “Ok check this out I just started ‘talking’ to this really cute deaf girl and it just dawned on me that, now this may seem kind of crude, but when we sleep together she might make some really weird noises like ‘eeaaahhwww’”
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Naughty Text Messages “Hey guys this is kind of random but what’s your take on naughty text messages, I mean are you guys into that sort of thing?” “I’m sort of dating this girl and she likes to send me naughty text messages so of course I send them back and she says she really gets off on them. Is that weird? Would you get off on text messages?”
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Meeting People “What’s your take on meeting people at X (X=mall, crosswalk, LA, etc.), my friend Matt says most people are way to stuck up for that, but you seem pretty cool.”
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80’s Song (good for groups with girls and guys) “Do you know who sang that song ‘Died in Your Arms Tonight?’” (they respond). “OK look, check this out, it doesn’t really even matter its actually Cutting Crew but me and my friend we had this bet and so I told him I was going to ask you guys, so just point over to my friend and say Cutting Crew and I’ll get my free drink, cool?” (they respond) “Cool thanks I’m just going to stay over here for a second so that it doesn’t look like a set up.” c. Fun & Teasing Openers
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a. Humorous Boring Conversation “Hey guys! My friends are having a really boring conversation about their day jobs so if you guys aren’t interesting I’m going to have to bang my head against the wall until I black out” Conversation Interrupter “Hey guys I’m a professional conversation interrupter so I had to come over here and interrupt what ever it was you were talking about, its ok I actually get paid to do this.” then you could follow with “where you guys having a lesbian lover’s quarrel? Was this one of those DTR conversations?”
Same Outfit
“Oh my god I was going to wear that exact same outfit tonight” (she responds) “I’m not going to lie, I would have pulled if a lot better”
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Sorry I’m Late (good for seated sets) “Sorry I’m late traffic was really bad, did you order drinks yet, what do you have me coming?”
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b. Bait and Switch Openers Beautiful Eyes “Has anyone ever told you…how beautiful….MY eyes are” (point to your eyes) follow up with “I wanted to see if you have a sense of humor, ok you pasted the first test” Cutest Girl “I have this rule when I go out that I have to introduce myself to the cutest girls in the bar…. can you guys help me find them?”
c. Role Reversal Openers Are You Shy “Hey are you guys shy? Because I’ve been standing here for like 5 minutes and you haven’t said hi or grabbed my ass, what’s going on here? You guys must be shy.” Fat Pants “Hey guys, I need your honest opinion, this is very important. Does my ass look fat in these pants? Hey no touching!”
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d. High Value Openers - You appear higher value than the girl - Typically high risk high reward Horse Girl (credit Brad P) “Hey do you like horses?” (They’ll respond) “OK check this out, when I was in 6th grade there was this girl who used to love horses, I mean she’d have horses on everything, like horses on her notebook, horses on her locker, she even used to run around the school making horse noises and we used to call her horse girl….and you look just like her.” (They’ll respond) “Look if it was me I wouldn’t admit it either. Now I’m not saying it is you, in fact I’m about 90% sure its not you but just in case it is you I wanted to come over and say that I’m really sorry for that time we stuffed hay in your locker and I hope you can forgive me, will you forgive me?” (then open your arms for a hug) Creepy Girls “Hey have you guys noticed that there are a lot of creepy girls here?” (they respond) “Check this out I was at the bar and this girl comes up to me, you know how you have
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that comfort zone, well she was way in my comfort zone and was all over me and said ‘are you metro sexual because I’m metro sexual’ I mean that’s pretty creepy right?” Roll Off Open a set (set 1). Then when you see another set walk by (set 2) say in a loud voice so both sets can hear “Hey these are my friends I got to go” while you point to set 2. Then walk up to set 2 and say “Keep walking, those girls where hitting on me and I didn’t want to be rude. You guys totally saved me!” This gives you pre selection for both sets. Qualifying “You guys seem fun, are you fun?” d. Physical Openers Poke Just poke her in the stomach and say “I like to poke people, its kind of my thing, you can poke me back I have abs of steel” High Five “You guys are X you get a high five” X = cute, adorable, short, fun, etc. Wave or motion her over Thumb Wrestle Hold out your hand and when she goes to shake it start a thumb war "Hey, I know you're in a hurry, but I'm gonna be on ESPN8 'The Ocho' tomorrow in the thumb wrestling championship and I really need to practice. I wasn't gonna tell you this, but I used to be on the Olympic Thumb Wrestling Team."
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Cheers
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e. “Normal”? - That’s right, you don’t need a clever opener, as long as you have a strong frame (inner game)
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Hey “Hey what’s up?” (if she doesn’t respond) “Ok lets try that again” (walk away then come right back) “hey what’s up?”
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How’s your night going? Question - Good for warming up
“Hey do you know where X is?” X=bathroom, dj booth, outside area, etc.
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Anything Anything you can think of can be an opener. If you have a strong identity then anything will work f. Other Openers For You to Try
! “If I wasn’t gay you’d so be mine” !
“You guys should not talk to me because I’m a horrible person and I’ll just hit on you and try to pick you up”
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“Why are there no cute guys hitting on you? Whatever you’re doing to keep them away isn’t working on me”
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“You can’t just look at me like that…like you want me. I saw you undressing me with your eyes”
! “Hey do me a favor and tell me to fuck off. Everyone is too damn nice here.” ! “Do I look like a drug dealer?” ! ! !
! VI. Infield Assignment !
a. Go out twice this week and do 5 – 10 openers. I’m only giving you a small piece of the puzzle here, because if I gave you everything at once it would be too much to handle. So I just want you to work on opening. It doesn’t matter what you do after the opener, you can just walk away if you want (in an attractive manner, “anyways have an awesome night”).
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b. Inner Game: Before you approach, imagine the last time you rock a girl’s world in bed. Think of an amazing sexual experience you had and think about how you made that woman feel. If you’ve never had an experience like that, it’s ok, just picture what it will be like when you do that. Do this for only 3-seconds, then approach her. This will raise your confidence and bring out a more sexual vibe.
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