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Same Night Seminar Notes
I. Why Take Women Home on the First Night?
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a. Attraction dissipates over time - So if you sleep with her right away, then you don’t have to worry about her loosing attraction for you as quickly
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b. Avoid calling and texting - If you just get her number then there’s a chance you’ll never see her again. If you spend the night with her then there’s a much greater chance you’ll see her again because she has invested.
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c. Avoid “dating” and flaking - Women generally don’t like going on typical “dates” because they are awkward. There’s always a chance she might flake. But, if you sleep with her right away you avoid dating and flaking. d. Beautiful women have options - If you just get her phone number she may not even call you back because she has other options and is sleeping with other guys. If you sleep with her right away then she’ll usually keep seeing you because she doesn’t want to just have a one night stand (slut defense).
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e. Most women want to sleep with you quicker than you think - Most women are highly sexual and will go home with a guy if he makes her feel comfortable about it.
! ! ! II. Mindset for Taking a Woman Home on the First Night !
a. Have a clear goal in mind - Do you want to get phone numbers and set up dates for the week? - Do you want to go home with someone that night?
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b. Women want to go home with you - Most women will have OR have had a one night stand - It’s been reported that an even number of men and women have had one night stands (i.e. women have one night stands just as often as men) c. Women want sex MORE than men] - Read: “Sperm Wars” by Robert B and - “My Secret Garden” by Nancy Fridays
! ! ! ! III. Screening for Potential Candidate ! a. Who are you here with? ! b. How do you guys know each other? ! c. How did you get here? ! d. What are your plans for later? ! e. What time do you have to wake up in the morning? ! ! ! IV. Escalation !
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a. Physically - 10 Types of Touching 1. Normal/Socially Acceptable (handshake, hug) 2. Playful (thumb wrestling) 3. Conversational (touching while talking) 4. Observational (“cool necklace, may I?” 5. Leading (arm in arm) 6. Rewarding (high five) 7. Punishing (smack hand/ass) 8. Corrective (fixing her hair/outfit) 9. Demonstrational (show her something) 10. Direct (kissing) b. Logistically - Getting to a Spot Where Sex Or Sexual Escalation is possible - Moving her to Multiple Venues to Create the Feeling of Trust and Shared Memories c. Verbally - Building Attraction and Comfort - Setting Sexual Frame - Overcoming Her Objections
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a. 10 Types of Touch
- (Socially Acceptable, Observational, Conversational, Direct, Playful, Leading, Rewarding, Punishing, Demonstrational, Corrective) - Non Linear (push pull) - Blow Me or Blow Me Out
! ! ! ! ! VI. Logistical Escalation ! a. Moving Her Around the Venue (micro) ! b. Moving Her Closer to Your House (or where ever you will sleep with her) ! c. Use Time Constraints, Restricted Requests, and Negation ! ! ! VII. Verbal Escalation ! a. Build Attraction and Comfort - Attraction is sub communicated (refer to other lectures) - Comfort = rapport and trust over time
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b. Build Compliance - Get her comfortable doing things with/for you
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c. Setting Frame - Sexual Ex: “What’s the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?” - Adventurous Ex: “tonight we’re gonna have a crazy adventure” - Future Projections Ex: “if there weren’t all these people here I’d throw you down on that table and have my way with you.” - She Has a Naughty Side Ex: “You’re kind of a bad girl I can tell” - She’s Just Trying to Get into your Pants Ex: “You girls just have one thing on your mind”
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d. Overcoming Her Objections - She doesn’t want to feel like a slut Ex: “Did you know that women are actually a lot more sexual than men?” - She doesn’t want you to think she’s a slut Ex: “It’s weird how society has all these hang ups about sex. It’s really not fair that men are praised for it and women are looked down for it.” - She doesn’t want her friends to think she’s a slut (if he friends are there or you have the same social circle)
Ex: “I dated this girl recently, and we had the same friends and she told them all that we had sex. I really don’t like to kiss and tell.”
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VIII. The Icing on the Cake a. Make Her Think You Are a “Sex God” - Teach her things she doesn’t know about sex - Talk about what
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b. Be Amazing in Bed so She Keeps Cumming Back (covered more in the Seduction Seminar)
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c. Be Honest and Upfront about What You Want in the Relationship (covered more in the Relationship Management Seminar)
! ! IX. Last Minute Resistance ! a. Don’t be confused by “we shouldn’t be doing this” and “NO, STOP, DONT” ! b. Agree with her and don’t make it a big deal ! c. Stop completely then try again !
d. Don’t give her the emotions she wants - If she likes kissing and that’s all she wants to do, that doesn’t mean you should keep doing that.
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e. Wash, rinse, repeat - Try again a few minutes later
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! X. Infield Assignments ! a. Minimum 7 approaches this week. ! ! ! ! !
b. Go out at least once this week to a bar, club or lounge and use the 5 logistical questions. Screen for candidates that could potentially go home with you. (i.e. they aren’t the designated driver, they don’t have to wake up early the next day, etc.) c. Bring up sexual topics and sexualize the conversation as quickly as possible. You can even open the girl with, “you seem like a bad girl.” d. Bonus: Try the 5-minute bathroom pull.
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