Comfort Zone: A Formidable For midable hurdle to Success Dan Pena QLA Newsletter #80
Dear High Performer and Visionary, Happy Independence Day! All my teams have been knocked out of the world cup; Larry King has just announced his retirement; the stock market market is still look looking ing for a reason reason to declare a double dip recession; recession; the gulf of Mexico oil spill is still raging and getting wo rse (as I predicted); so I have time to write a few thoughts in my news letter, LOL! I had my second conference call last last sat with the April seminar attendees: they say there are deals available; there is money available; banks are generally amenable to doing transactions; they would not of believed they would be doing the actions they are now taking before they experienced the castle seminar; and I will add though not expressed directly by them. None of this would have occurred without them TAKING DIRECT FOCUSED ACTION! In simple language, though they all thought they had been working hard in some form or another before the seminar, they now know they have been skating through their lives vis a vis being a high performance person! I am sure many of you can relate. re late. Another one of their emails is below as a p.s. I have also attached as a P.S. a photo of one of the recent seminar attendees from Romania (Transylvania), to illustrate illustrate I am an equal opportunity mentor mentor and coach! We called him "The Impaler" for obvious reasons!
Comfort Zone (CZ) I received this message on Face book this week: I was speaking to my sister who graduated from CSUN about you and your work. I was shocked to find out she spent 5 weekends at your home in Palos Verdes in the early 90's. She told me the thing that stuck with her was your asking them " To get g et out of their comfort zones". She told me how she remembered how the group no longer wanted to go the event and how it wasn't to later on in her life life in teaching her own children to "get out o ut of their comfort zones" that she realized the gift you had given her. - Adolfo I remember this class well, I taught at California California State University, University, Northridge, where I attended under graduate school. schoo l. The class deteriorated in size over the semester. I brought in various various mentees of mine to relate different QLA precepts. The students could not relate to the concept of
comfort zone, at that time. time. The all felt they were bright bright and going to take the world apart. You can imagine how I got the kids to drop out - I put the heat on their young minds and told them there were consequences to missing missing my class - a non passing passing grade! That was a long time ago, but as I have been coaching over the years "comfort zone" or CZ always presents a very formidable hurdle to all who desire success in following their dreams! Whether it is in athletics, business or life, people who feel more confident in their actions will prevail! To step out of one's CZ isn't easy! But the more you do it the easier it becomes. Do you remember the first person you ever went o ut with? Your first kiss? Your first - well you know what I mean! Comfort zone was discovered, or created by Jim Newman. This great man was my mento r till his passing. His PACE - personal and co mpany effectiveness was the training grounds to countless cou ntless high performance people! peop le! I am merely one of the very large stable. His book is one of the few I continue to recommend - Release Re lease Your Brakes. It is a master piece and I suggest you get it ASAP! It's main premise is - we go through life life with our emergency brakes on. for those of us old enough, we know what it feels like to drive a car with the emergency brakes on (now you can't because you must put the car in gear): u drive very sluggish; it is bad for the tires, differential, engine; and generally drags on t he entire performance of the car. Because we tend to always stay in our CZ, we never realize and or appreciate what our bodies, mind and self can really do. For those of us that have gone from being out of shape to getting fit you know what I mean. Well the same thing is possible for o ur minds and beings! The major thing I have noticed in the recent seminar alumni, since I have now had two conference calls with them - they all sound more and more confident! They continue to appear more confident as the weeks go by, and now after 8 weeks they sound completely different. They have stepped out of their CZ's and gained confidence that can never be taken from them - no matter what! One fairly comprehensive definition of comf co mfort ort zone: The comfort zone is a behavioral state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of o f behaviors to deliver a steady level of o f performance, usually without a sense of risk. The comfort co mfort zone refers to the set of environments and behaviors with which somebody is comf co mfortable, ortable, without creating a sense of risk. A person's personality can be described by his or her comfort zones. Highly successful persons may routinely step o utside utside their comfort zones, to accomplish acco mplish what they wish. A comfort zone is a t ype of mental conditioning that causes a person to create and operate mental boundaries. Such boundaries create an unfounded sense of security. Like inertia, a person who has established a co mfort zone in a particular axis of his or her life, will tend to stay within within that zone zo ne without stepping outside of it. To step outside a person's comfort co mfort zone, they must experiment with new and d ifferent behaviors, and then experience the new and different responses that then occur within their environment.
Insensitive or Incompetent?
I have said countless times, I may be wrong - but I am never in doubt! I have been accused of many things, but being indecisive isn't one of them. I have always a lways said, I attribute my decisiveness to my training as a young army officer, over 40 years ago. I have said, I would would rather be respected than loved loved - including to my three children. I have said these and many more controversial statements because - I would rather be called insensitive than incompetent! I feel strongly most kids are ill prepared for the toughness tou ghness of life, because parents spend most of o f their time dealing with their own insecurities as their parents dea lt with theirs. High performance people are decisive, bold, and respected - they are not necessarily love d. in fact most are only loved by b y their mom's, LOL! Being too sensitive can be in the short, intermediate and long term debilitating. Be ing sensitive can dictate your actions, because you do not want want to make waves. Or you you want to be liked and in some cases loved. As many of o f you know, I have never suffered from this feeling. In fact some say my entire methodology is based on - pissing people off and being tough beyond common decency. This is a gross gro ss exaggeration, but does have some so me merit to it. I am not, nor ever have been, since I was in my teens been afraid of o f saying what I thought. As I have said sa id many times, I attribute my high self esteem to my mother. God rest her soul. And to this day, my biggest b iggest regret is not being a better son! I didn't realize the precious gift she gave me t ill I was middle age. If you look and listen to the high performance people peop le of the past 100 years: Ford, Edison, Carnegie; Goo dyear, Rockefeller, Gates, Trump, Perot; Ellison, Welsh; M.L. King; Huizenga, Jobs, Buffett, Branson, Mur doch, Disney, Sears, Westinghouse, Walton, Onassis, per formance people with their Kroc, Hilton, Watson and countless other modern day high performance social media programs where they speak their minds on a daily basis - they were and are not now ever shy to say what they thought. None of them could be accused of being sensitive. Of course there are always exceptions except ions to all rules and I am sure for those of o f you that are sensitive, you will hope and pray you are the exception as well. The odds are your not, but I hope you are for your family's sake. Needless to say another big b ig difference in the April castle seminar attendees is their perception of what is sensitivity and how they feel vis-à-vis v is-à-vis what people think of them. Enough said!
Tax Note This is not meant to be tax advice in any way, shape manner or form but think about this fact: The upcoming tax hike go ing into effect 2011 in the USA will by definition shift income into 2010, so it will have a more favorable tax rate. What are the implications? And how can you take advantage of the chaos?
True story Back in the mid 90's I was assisting in recruiting board members for several companies I was involved with in the UK, Europe E urope and USA. I was always on the road and it was extremely time consuming - looking back. Of course hind sight is always 20/20.
There was a lawyer who was a legend at the time. t ime. He represented only the toughest to ughest clients in the UK, in fact he had just been successful in getting off the sons of a major industrialist. industrialist. He was a workaholic. He owned in title one of the only houses in Mayfair (they are all owned by the duke of Westminster) and virtually all are leased on long t erms like 99 years. His business cards were platinum coated and he was extremely eccentric. We had approached him to join one of our boards but he politely declined due to time constraints and possible conflicts of interest. interest. He did say he would like like to meet me, I said yes and and showed up for a 7 am breakfast. I remember vividly walking up to his 5 story house hou se looking forward to the experience, though I dislike breakfast meetings! We sat through breakfast and exchanged antidotes on business and life. What I can share with you is as follows: he had not taken a day off o ff since 1971. He was not married. He loved the law, he adored what he did 18 - 20 hrs a day and he loved what he did because, amongst other things, he was so extremely good at it! I asked him why he wanted to meet me? He laughed and said, "I had heard you had not taken a day off since 1970. I didn't believe it and I wanted to meet you and congratulate co ngratulate you - if true!" We both laughed. I said it was true and we roared again! He said how did you keep it up so long? I said, similarly I loved what I did and I was extremely good at what I did. We both laughed as we sipped our cups of tea and both said we felt bad for all the people who are engaged in things they don't love. What is the moral to this true story? It should be as plain as the nose o n your face, but in the spirit of kindness and brotherly love I will w ill not kick you in the teeth t eeth about it. What I will say most people are: inherently lazy; give up on their dreams based on conventional wisdom; say money is not important enough to disrupt their lives when they fail the first, second or third time; and as guru Stuart Goldsmith says - most people live quite qu ite lives of desperation! Since I turned 60, I am working less and I have actually taken days off. Since I turned 60 I am actually taking trips that have almost not hing to do with business. But there is not a day I don't listen to CNN, CNBC, FOX and BBC. There is not a day I don't read and answer emails! there is not a day I don't keep track of the business ventures I am involved. Hence, I cannot say there are days I am totally excluded from business - including my birthday, Christmas, and all holidays. Of course business is still a BIG part of my life! I still love what I do and do what I love! At one time it was almost my entire life!
Live Web Seminar - July 10, 9 am West Coast California time! As described on my face book and twitter etc, I am giving my very first FREE live web seminar next week 10 July. the listeners will be able to ask me questions live o nline. I am looking forward to it. it. If successful successful I will do them, perhaps quarterly. Tell your your friends that could could benefit. Hell, tell your friends friends that can't benefit! benefit! Click here to get complete details about the Live Webcast.
Travel Schedule
I am fairly busy the next four months in Asia, USA, South America, UK and Europe. Though I don't give seminars other than at Guthrie Castle, I do enjoy seeing QLA devotees de votees during my travels! Southern Europe
July 10-13
England
July 14 - 17
China
July 25 - August 2
South America
August 15 - 30
England and Scotland
August 15 - 30
Northeast USA California
September 1 - 5 Oct 14 - 20
Castle Seminar - August 22 to 28 I will have another Castle Extravaganza in August. As I have written, the last one in April went especially well, notwithstanding 5 Germans and The I mpaler from Transylvania! LOL! The increased role playing assisted all in their skills set, especially The Impaler! The o ngoing conference calls have been extremely e xtremely successful for focused follow up. Email contact with me has been beneficial to all that have used my candid and sometimes harsh comments. Again we will allow payments schedules to the attendees to help in these hard economic times! Click here to go to the Castle Seminar web page. Bye for now! To Your Quantum Leap, - Dan --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------P.S. A story passed on to me by a long term friend and mentee Tom. The Toilet Cleaner...Amazing Story......THE RIGHT ATTITUDE GETS YOU PLACES... Unemployed.................... An unemployed worker applies app lies to Microsoft for the position of Janitor. After going through tests and interviews ,the H.R. manager informs him that he is selected and request for his email address to which he wanted to send the employment contract and details of the day and time to start work. The man is distraught and answers that he has no computer and therefore he has no email . The H.R. boss tells him that if he has no email address he virtua lly does not exist and therefore cannot hold a job. The man leaves in a desperate mood without knowing what to do ,
with his last $ 10 in his pocket. Finally he decides to go into a supermarket and to buy a 10 lb box of strawberries. He starts selling them door to doo r by the pound. He manages to double his capital in 2 hours. He repeats the deal 3 times more and goes home with $ 60 in his pocket. He comes to see that he can survive this way. He starts every day earlier and come home every day later. So he triples or quadruples quadrup les his money every day. A short time later he buys a wheel barrow, that he exchanges later into a truck and sooner soo ner or later he is the owner of a complete fleet of delivery truck. 5 years go by.....THE b y.....THE MAN IS NOW THE OWNER OF ONE OF THE LARGEST FOOD CHAIN STORES IN THE U.S.A. Now he starts thinking about the future for him and his family and decides dec ides to buy a life insurance policy. He calls an agent and selects a good policy. At the end of the negotiations, the agent asks him for his email address to send him a confirmation of the policy. The man tells him that he doesn't have an email address!!! That's strange says the agent, you have no email address and nevertheless you built this large empire. Can you imagine where would you be if you had an email address?? The man briefly thinks and answers: I WOULD HAVE BEEN A TOILET CLEANER WITH MICROSOFT CORPORATION. y y
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Moral 1 of the story: The internet does not solve all the problems in our lives. Moral 2 of the story: When you have no email address but work hard you can be a millionaire. Moral 3 of the story: You have received the story by email. Therefore you are closer to a janitor than a millionaire.
Nevertheless have a great day... networking with the likeminded... linking the very mind , soul, hearts to realize your individual and professi pro fessional onal goals, go als, linking to make this world a smaller place to live work meet greet and be a success. Don't answer this email of mine Since I am out busy buying Strawberries P.P.S. Here is the photo of "The Impaler" I talked about above
P.P.P.S. An email sent sent to me post April Castle Castle Seminar. English is not not his first manguage: manguage: Hello Sir, Thanks a lot for the great and life changing experience at your castle. I have no questions at the moment, as pretty much everything falls into place when I regain focus. If you like, here my summary meanwhile. It got a little little lengthy though .... . ... But I wanted to give you a good goo d picture of the effects of your seminar. Business I talked with several people to become director of my night club. c lub. I found two prospects - one could be director OR the t he other one would also invest and be co-director. We could invest to build up another part of the night club or invest in the exiting part. Negotiations are in the run. I will see how it works out. But I am pretty confident. GOAL: Freeing me time, t ime, getting away from micro to macro, getting focus. One partner part ner is especially experienced and will w ill bring new energy to the place. I talked to one business business partner about the "hostile" take over plan I told you about.. I told them I only see 5% -10% to make it, but he said, if I make it, they´d be easily willing to put up 1 Mio EUR - so we can get the rest at the banks (lended against a gainst the property and hopefully hope fully some against the existing cashflow of the business, if not I will go for additional investors). It took me just 30 minutes to explain the concept and a very "un-germanic" way on 2 x 1/3 A4 sized paper sheet of jammed notes to explain! I would not have done do ne that before the seminar. I have a mentor / board member who has been in the business 30y + and the former CEO of the opponent as director! He knows pretty much everything about the business and managed it 3y successfully. Also I can combine my entertainment entert ainment business "expertise" with my real estate "expertise". However it will be not easy. But we will go for it anyway! But take t his great chance then never going for it. At this point I am still in the process of o f finding my vision. But I am getting closer! Acquiring business is likely part of it. Perhaps building them on a more macro level. I will hav to go for passive cashflow at the first step also, so to have more time to go for bigger things. I like the overall idea of "corporate raiding", ra iding", acquiring. Probably bankrupt ones ? But I´ll have to find out about that and clarify the picture. I talked to just two banks meanwhile and I turned them both around. aro und. Started interviewing mode. I can report in the ca ll if you like. I am quite confident co nfident for the future for whatever comes. Totally different. Thanks for that!!! Overall as result of seminar I started having an asto nishing clarity in many situations. I was stubborn before - but now it´s it´s on another level. If people try to suck my money or time - I
simply think of how you described how people suck my life blood out of me and my business and then I just think : "What a s*cker - F*** OFF" and give them hell. I really hammered some suckers into the ground - and the best is I am really feeling good goo d about it - without any feelings of guilt - because now I am (more) true to myself (and to them as well!). If they ask for it - they may have it!!! Give a f***. However this is a process that gets stronger every t ime I use it. Private Immediately after the Castle Seminar I moved to a larger much nice place - I couldn´t stand the old one after the seminar anymore! any more! Second - I kicked several boring affairs I had - without the fear of loss (that the difference!) - I see it now as chance to find something better. Really looking forward to hearing you again! Sincerely Yours, - K P.P.P.S. I am for the first time adding notable links to my site. site. the first will be an orphanage I work with in manila. I will in time t ime add others I feel are noteworthy. Some will be business and some will not. You can check my links page to see the additions, in the future.
