LR: Sinn Has Only 4 Lays This Month Posted at January 11, 2007
I’m on Bootcamp in Scottsdale. The venue we roll to doesn’t have many sets. I’m getting irritated because I want to open. I help a few students out and give them as much feedback as I can. I finally open a set around midnight. It’s a semi-cute girl with braces. I open her because she has one of those bodies you can just punish. Two Part Kiss(hooks. She turns to face me. I lock in. I start teasing her about her braces. It’s really on so I decide to parade her through the venue. It turns out she is their with her mother and aunt. Her aunt is eating some 26 year olds face. I tell her that I have 2 condoms in my wallet and we should drop them off with them. I move her around and get locked in against a rail. Strawberry fields. Jealous ex deletes my numbers. She then moves into Comfort with me by asking me what I do, where I live etc. She tells me she has a 6 year old son. I run First Child Brings Surge of Ambition. I try to kiss but she rejects. Hmmm(this is weird. It’s EXTREMELY ON. I’m thinking it’s cause her mom is there. I move her again to build social proof. I open another cute girl (a little chubby). Two part kiss Hooks. We’re in attraction. I tell her it will never work out between us. I run ex deleted my numbers. She tells me her BF just broke up with her a day or two ago. I change the subject to something I can’t remember. Her two friends come in and I have them introduce me to her. She likes me but I’m trying to trade up. I saw her later trying to catch eye contact but I was in set. I had one or two other sets: one of the girls ignored me, the other opened really well was really hot and started dancing on me but I had already decided to open this Brunette with awesome long hair, a thin body and nice boobs. It’s about 1:20 or so( Two part kiss. Trust Test. Spin. Lock in. It’ll never work out between us. CJ: How’d you get here? HBHolland: I drove everybody. I’m the designated driver. CJ: That sucks. I’m within walking distance so I can drink as much as I want! HBHolland: I wanna drink too! CJ: Hotels have alcohol. HBHolland smiles real big. Rings on Fingers. I picked her up and put her on the bar. This drove her BT through the roof. Ex Deleted My Numbers. Hookah TB. Strawberry Fields. (She said 100! strawberries.) It’s really on. I get her number and figure I’ll try to get her to meet up with me later. Closing time at the bar. Sinn has texted me that he just closed his 4th for the month so my 5 lays are by no means safe. We’ve been shit talking on a level commensurate with a Boxing match.I know I have to step up. It is making us work hard. It is making me concentrate. It’s good. At 2:35 am I text her “Hi sexy lady” She texts back about 3:05 “where you at?” I tell her I’m eating but going back to the hotel. She texts something about being happy I talked to her(I text back “mmmm(I wanna see you” She agrees to come and get me. She gets there and we start making out by the pool. We get to the hotel room. I try to pull her into the shower but Sinn is in the bed with one of his peepers open so he can get a look at her. She laughs and says we need to let him sleep and to come to her place. We leave and drive back to her place. On the drive: “First Child Brings Surge of Ambition” “All Fathers Want the Same Thing” I start dirty talking her. She’s loving it.
We get to her place and I discover that she has lingerie under her outfit. Nice fake boobs. Sex twice. Sleep. Sex in the morning, too. On the way back to the hotel in the morning I debrief her. She tells me that I was so dominant and interesting that she got extremely turned on because most guys are too soft and weak. ~ Captain Jack ~
A Pirate Looks Back on 2006 Posted at January 26, 2007
2006 was awesome. I racked up 26 or so new lays. Over half of them were women I previously believed to be “outta my league.” What’s more fascinating (to me) is I did that while having my daughters two weekends of every month and being one of the laziest PUAs I know. I rarely do more than a couple sets a night. Some nights I start talking to KinoMaster, or Fidelio or other guys I’m with and I never get around to talking to the girls at all. Isn’t that crazy? I could be swimming in hotties. Hanging with Sinn, Future and TenMagnet has really made me question my (Game) work ethic. Particularly on the phone. Everytime we hop in a cab these boys are speeddialing some hottie to lay down an extra little dose of Comfort. My Hb’s get a drunken text at 3:18am in the morning IF they’re lucky. (After watching those guys, I’m going to be doing more phone game – more on that later.) Here are a few 2006 highlights: * A 19-year old cocktail waittress…(smoking hot body). * A stripper I pulled one night before thanksgiving from an after hours club. * The 2nd girl from a 2 girl set…both were friends…got one the first night in one of her girlfriend’s cars…and the other several months later (see: “LR: The 100% Perfect 2Set”) * A Peruvian girl who would be physically perfect if only she had D cups. * and that’s just a few off the top of my head. I’m going to be putting together a 2006 archive complete with this pirates evolved thoughts on this part of life we call “Game.” I’m thinking of calling it “A Pirate Looks Back on 2006″ or something equally cheesy. (You can get my other archive by going to http://www.betheseducer.com – In fact, if you are a newbie or find yourself particularly interested in “Same Night Lays” and you DON’T go and download that right now, you are truly hopeless
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I don’t know when I’ll have that done but my goal is to do it before heading to Australia on Feb. 15ht. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. If you wanna know as soon as that comes out just join my email list athttp://www.betheseducer.com
2007: Meeting Hot Women and Making Money (Part 1) Posted at January 27, 2007
Ok, so I’ve had a lot of time to reflect on how I want to improve my life. The last two years I’ve been focused almost entirely on getting good at meeting, attracting and seducing girls. I noticed MONUMENTAL improvements. I’ve become a Master. At this point, if I go out and I don’t get laid it’s entirely my fault. I remember remarking to KinoMaster once over coffee (we go several times a week to chat, discuss plans, tell stories, etc.) that I could see how a person could get good enough to get 2-3 girls per month. From my new viewpoint this is funny to me. I now see how a PUA could get 2-3 new girls PER WEEK without much effort. Do I think I could realistically get 15-20 girls per month? Yes. No doubt in my mind. (Would I want to invest the time? No.) My record is 7 in one month and I’m fucking lazy. I do one or two sets a night (sometimes none). I TimeBridge every set but I hate telephones so I rarely use them to follow up. I’m at 3 new lays this month and I think I’ve been out no more than 8-10 nights. Ten lays month in and month out would be a piece of cake. So, what stops me? Mainly my disdain for talking to people on the phone. I literally hate it. I don’t even know why. But, I’ve been forcing myself to do it ever since Sinn gave me his phone game tips( (and guess what( I’m sorta starting to like it! I chatted with the HBIndian from Scottsdale the last night. She is smoking hot and I’ve never dated an Indian girl before. (She was either born here or came when she was really, really young.) She is super elegant. Very tiny at 5 feet tall(has very long, shiny black hair and big boobs! And, she’s smart and good natured. I’m using Future’s Advanced Comfort with her and it’s working like a charm. Of course, the problem is we live a thousand miles apart. I’m saying all of this mainly as a way to demonstrate that December and January have been a Bridge in my life. I’m crossing the Bridge and 2007 is going to be all about:
Hot Girls and Money!!! I need a challenge. I get terribly bored. During the last two years of getting good at this fun Game(I’ve had a few near brushes with financial catastrophe (all entirely my fault.) But, this year I’ve a goal to make $1million. (I’ve already made a LOT of money towards my goal and we’re only 27 days into Jan. – and I’ve forged a couple of valuable connections, too.) I want my daughters to be financially taken care of(When they turn 18 I want them to have all the money they need to do whatever: college, start a business, travel, whatever it is. I also want to do the same for my parents. Man, I’ve been lucky. I can’t think of two better parents than mine. They got divorced when I was 4 or 5 but they’ve always been great. Last year, when I was having financial troubles it would’ve been SO easy for them to suggest I go back to Computer Science and get a steady paycheck. Instead, they both cheered me on and showed faith in my abilities. My dad showed up at my door with groceries after he found out I ate $1 Big Macs 8 days in a row (and that was all I ate). And, I wanna send my sister back to college. She has a year left on her Accounting Degree and I want to pay for it. She’s had to work all the way through school (and accounting ain’t easy). I want her to be able to go without working (unless she wants to work.) Now, about girls. I’m going to up the ante. I’m going to go for the hottest models, dancers, cheerleaders and hired guns. I’m in Orlando right now at an advertising seminar. So, gotta go and make an appearance for the attendees. I’m going to discuss this a little more later( Stay Sharp, ~ Captain Jack ~
Funusuals!!!
Posted at January 27, 2007
I’m always surprised by the varying tastes of my fellow puas. Future loves Asian girls( Sinn loves redheads and freckles( TenMagnet loves athletic bodies( Fidelio loves “fingerbangin’ milfs(” AsianPlayboy goes for big-boobed blondes( It seems most guys like blondes(someone told me once that we are predisposed to like fair-skinned blondes for some evolutionary reason( What does Captain Jack like? I used to call them Unusuals. (But, Future called them “Funusuals” when we were all in Miami and the name stuck.) These are exotic types. Usually brunnettes but can be any hair color. The important thing is they must be unusual in some way. There has to be something unique or out of the ordinary about them. A hot girl who is taller than 5′ 9″ or under 5′ 2″ usually qualifies( (the Indian girl in AZ qualifies on two counts. She is only 5 feet AND she’s got bigger boobs for her frame) Or, striking emerald green Almond-shaped eyes on a brunnette( A normal body with a booty that is 30% bigger than it should be( Tight body with DDs and a super small waist. I’m not sure I can explain it that well, but when I see one I know. I met one in Miami. She was half-white, half-korean, slender and very tall. I made out with her but her drunk-ass gf went nuts and destroyed the pull. I guess the definition is “A hot girl with an out of the norm feature that accentuates her sex appeal(” Girl Next Door is almost the opposite of Funusual (except they’re both considered hot). There are usually no more than five Funusuals in a club on any given night. Most of the time there are none. Vida Guerra is a Funusual due to her booty. Angelina Jolie is a Funusual due to her eyes and lips. Girl Next Door and your average blonde hotties are everywhere(Go for some Funusuals(you’ll enjoy it! ~ CJ ~
Keeping It Sexual in Comfort Posted at January 30, 2007
Question from fellow PUA on the Lounge: I’ve recently got my A game into good enough shape that I’m isolating and getting into Comfort regularly. Back in my AFC days, Comfort was always my strong suit, so I have not problem building trust and connection. What I do have a problem with is keeping it sexual, pumping buying temperature, and avoiding being a friend or therapist. So, besides kino, how do I keep the sexual vibe alive and growing during comfort? I use my version of “Strawberry Fields” and “Rings on Fingers” to frame things as sexual early on(I’d suggest not talking too much about sex as it can actually backfire. Here’s how: Puts too much pressure on her for the second meeting (less of a concern for a SNL BUT it can make the Bounce harder if she goes out of state before the bounce) and/or it can also lessen the sexual tension for some females. More is less. Subtlety builds the tension. Framing the interaction as sexual is great(framing both of you as sexual beings who are cosmically attracted to one another is even better. After two sexual questions in the question game I stop and get on with the rest of comfort.
In comfort, you can outright tell her she’s sexy (Juggler-style SOI) and this will let her know you ain’t in it for the good conversation. One of my faves, especially if she’s yakking about something I don’t care about, is “I’m sorry, I didn’t hear anything you said for the last 5 minutes(I was looking at your lips.” (An example of this in a sarge is in my “LR: OMG! Peetey is dead.”) Also, you should probably be kissing or doing a “phantom kiss.” All that said, allow your early sexual framing and kino do the majority of the work. ~ CJ ~
What’s to come… Posted at January 30, 2007
Hey PUAs, I kinda like this blogging thing. So, I’m going to see if I can’t make this one of the most valuable PUA blogs on the entire Internut by giving away all the good stuff in my head on this little area of life called “Pick-up.” I’m going to reveal in the next few days or so my specific recipe on how to get “Same Night Lays.” Now, SNLs are different than One Night Stands (ONS) because in most of my SNL’s I still go through all the stages (a, c, s) and if I like the girl I WON’T have sex with her until I’ve gone all the way through. If I have a day2 or (even a day3, god forbid) with an HB it’s usually because I didn’t get all the way through comfort (time limit) or I fumbled the logistics. (If we go out AFTER we have sex then it’s not a dayX, it’s just me and her having fun() So, if you’re interested in makin’ sweet luv the very first night you meet a hottie keep your eyes peeled. I’m gonna give my special insight on that soon. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. I’ll be the first to admit I’m not perfect in this regard. I fumbled TWICE on the 1 yard line this last weekend. Once with a tiny HB9 waittress and another time with an HB10 hotel guest. BOTH of them were in the palm of this suave pirate’s hand, yet slipped away at the last minute. Grrrrr!!! That, notwithstanding, it’d be hard to find someone better than yours truly at SNL’s.
InnerGame: Who’s in the picture? Posted at February 2, 2007
Hey, Here’s a little experiment. Think about a major holiday in 2007. Something like the next 4th of July or Thanksgiving or Christmas. Where would you be and what would you be doing. Example: The first time I did this I thought of Christmas and saw everyone opening christmas presents at my grandmother’s house. If you’re like most people you probably made a quick mental picture or a little mental movie. Bring that picture back up for a second. Got it? Ok, now, let me ask you a question: Is there a hot girl with you? Your mind uses the pictures inside it as a template to create your reality. Using those mental pictures as its guide it directs your speech, actions and behaviors. If there isn’t a hot girl in the picture in your mind, there won’t be one in reality either. (Unless of course, you change the picture.) So, starting today, make better pictures.
~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. You can use this for anything(not just for attracting hot girls. P.S.S. Imagining creates reality.
Same Night Lay Guidelines Posted at February 14, 2007
Hola PUAs, As promised, my insights on SNL’s. The first major attitude shift is this: Women don’t go to clubs/bars only to listen to music, drink or talk to friends. They can do all of those at home or at a friends house. They go because they want/need sex and they want to be picked up. Debriefing shows they would have sex the same night more often were the feelings there. Your job, fellow pirate, is to create the feelings, create the opportunity and do so in a manner that seems so natural and easy that it seems like it all just fell into place. Sinn referred to this when he said, “Captain Jack Method: Hang out till sex happens.” First I want to tell you that there IS a difference between Same-Night-Lays (SNL) and One Night Stands (ONS). ONS skips comfort which usually results in buyer’s remorse. For all the 4-5 hours of precious time you invested you get one lay. Even worse, if you mismanage the escalation and trigger asd/lmr that you can’t get through, you’ll get zero lays. I’ve never had any problems seeing/dating a girl who I laid the same night because I qualify and build comfort. I’ll take this from the top( You need to get there early (in Tejas, that means no later than 10:00) because some of your sets will fail the SNL screening statements (more on that later) and you’ll need to close out with a TimeBridge, stay the obligatory 5-10 minutes to solidify and move on. You should focus on mixed sets. This may seem counter-intuitive but experience has shown me this is true. Here’s why: In all girl sets they often pile into one car. But, in mixed sets you have a greater chance of girls taking their own car and/or meeting the group later. Do a little thought experiment: How many times have you witnessed a girl walking into the bar alone(she’s looking for someone(she finds them and before you know it she is seated with a 4-5 mixed set. You open the group in the standard way, do all the normal things you’d do until you hit the “How do you guys know each other?” waypoint. If she’s not there with someone, then isolate (or atleast get mini-isolation.) Now that you are in isolation it’s time to start with the sexual framing. I use my version of Strawberry fields and “Rings on Fingers” to frame things sexually and I start seeding the TB. It is supremely important that you don’t convey any “judgmentalism” regarding sex, sexual preferences or lifestyles in any way, shape or form. You also don’t want to place too much importance on sex by talking about it or calling it a “special thing between two people” or any silly shit like that. The underlying attitude is sex is normal, healthy, fun and about to happen soon. At the begining of C1 I start to screen for logistics issues(I listen for answers to these questions or ask them outright. * Who did she ride with. (Best answer is, of course, alone in her car.) * What time does she need to get up in the morning. (Best answer, later the better.) (These things just make it easier. The better you get the more willing girls are to ignore things like riding home with guys she just met or getting up early. I know it’s hard to believe but experience proves it true.) If the vibe is sexual and I feel like there are no obvious excuses for her not to come home with me (have to work early is the main one) I’ll stay around. If not, then I’m looking for a new set. This needs to be run super-tight. I’m talking 20 minutes in you’re making this decision because you need to be solidly in comfort by 12:30 (for venues that close at 2:00). This 1.5 hours is the MAIN (but not only) factor which distinguishes this from ONS (the other being non-sexual qualification and peer befriending.) I call 12:30 to 2:00 “Putting my time in(”
Always TimeBridge, it makes the SNL easier because it lessens asd and lmr. As it gets closer to closing time 1:20-1:30 I start saying things like, “I don’t want the night to end, I’m really enjoying myself.” If she agrees or says nothing you can say, “Let’s hang out at my place. I have xyz alcoholic drinks and we can watch that show I was telling you about.” Or, you can say, “I’m kinda hungry.” You’re saying this to see what kind of reaction you get. She may go ahead and propose eating somewhere. (Though, I’ve stopped doing this almost a year ago because I lost a few “sure” lays as the sexual tension lessened, the tiredness set in and the alcohol (and fun mode) wore off.) The after hours club is also a good proposal. I’ve used this one quite a few times. It’s perfect because you have to swing past your place to get alcohol before heading out. And, oh by the way, the club doesn’t even open til 3am so we got 45 minutes to burn. Let’s see, how are we gonna kill 45 minutes? I know, we’ll have sex! Ha ha. But, one of my favorite tactics (if she drove) is to get her to give me a ride home. Then, while in the parking lot you can say “Come in for a bit. You can use the restroom and have some water before you head home.” Then, grab her keys, turn off the car and get out. (What’s that? Do I hear you worrying about your car? Don’t worry about it dude, you’re going to get laid! Have a friend take you back to your car if need be. Or, better yet, have the girl do it that night.) Logistics separate the men from the boys (or the mPUAs) The best mental image I can give you here is “Baby Steps.” I rarely tell them where/how far away I live. Some of the places I go to are a good 35-40 minutes away. Sinn and I have pulled 2 or 3 times SNL’s from those locations so he can attest to my skill in that area. Fidelio, KinoMaster, and Tribulus have all witnessed with their own eyes me doing this, multiple times, as well. The goal is to get her to the seduction location and make it look like it sorta just happened. This is why the “gimme a ride home” and the “after hours venue, oh wait, gotta go home and get alcohol” tactics work so well. Hopefully, you started a good kino progression early in the sarge. Because once she’s in your place it’s time to amp it up a little bit. Hot/cold is the order of the day. Make out, pull back, continue with your comfort material. Tease her mercilessly. Have your LMR skills honed because you’ll almost surely have to use them. The good news is: If you don’t get the lay, the day2 is almost assuredly going to be her coming straight over to have sex with you and that’s my kinda date. ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: Two New Lays Posted at February 21, 2007
Lay #2 for 2007, early January: Sinn, Fidelio and I roll into x-bar. It is target rich. Plenty of 7.5′s and above. I’m feeling particularly good because I have a kickass start to 2007. I already have tne lay in Scottsdale (see LR: Sunburst) and have perhaps one of the top 3 hottest girls I’ve ever sarged in my life dying for me to come back. She’s a 5 foot tall, long shiny black haired Indian hottie with big breasts and a beautiful face. Not too mention I have 5 girls in DFW constantly texting/calling wanting to hook up again. Naturally, I’m feeling like this whole sarging thing has paid off in terms of sexual availability. This puts a smile on my face. I open a set and it is a NO-GO. Not a blow out but it fizzles. Sinn opens a set and stays in for awhile before freezing his target out with a backturn. I am chatting with Fidelio and as usual the shots are coming hard and heavy. Luckily I can sarge while tipsy thanks to Fidelio, Sinn and APB. Sinn opens up a 2set of females and I open what I thought was a 2M, 1F set. It turns out it was a 2F, 4m set. Uggg. However, I manage to handle the set well. The target is into me but another male brings her a drink and she tries to cover her attraction with a shit test. This garners her a backturn and a freeze out while I chat with Fidelio again.
Strapper comes by and intros his roommate to me briefly and they head off. I was hoping to chat a bit longer but they had somewhere to be. The Target opens me again and her friend butts into the convo. I briefly consider switching targets but decide that the brunnette is hotter because the blonde, while having bigger tits, is too chunky. About this time, Sinn intros me to the obstacle in his set. She’s tall and slender with an average face. I know Sinn is trying to pull the big tittied Target so I think, “Am I gonna fuck this girl so Sinn can fuck his girl?” I look her up and down and decide I would do it. She’s about as hot as my other target but she has NO obstacles as Sinn already has her friend wrapped. I qualify and move into comfort. Sinn posted this about the end of the night on his blog: “I had a conversation about how none of us want to time-bridge as I live in LA, CJ hates driving and Fidelio lives like an hour away. So we start planning the pull. CJ comes back with the obstacle and I hear mention of an after hours place. So it’s on. We pull the girls out, send Fidelio back to the pirate pad with the car and get into the most disgusting car I have ever seen a girl drive. My girl was 5’3 and she could not sit straight because there was soo much shite in the back seat of her car. CJ’s girl’s blood sugar or soemthing got low so we had to head to CVS, they both run in and I start escalating in the backseat. They come back as I have my hand down her pants. Whoops. We start heading to the after hours place, but on the way CJ(the master of the pull) starts a brillant campaign. He says ” Let’s stop by my place and pick up some alcohol, cuz they stop serving at 2 but they let you bring your own until 4.” So we now head the 30 minutes to the pirate pad. BTW the pirate pad was in complete disarray as I have been staying on an inflatable mattress on the floor. and have my clothes in my suitcase as you head inside. So we get inside and the girls go to the bathroom, then I throw on an episode of the office and we settle into the couch and love seat respectively. About 30 mins in CJ isolates to his bedroom, and i start escalating on the couch, until we almost fall off. Relocate to the inflatable mattress. Which is not made for 2. I get her pants off and encounter LMR. Great, my NY’s resolution is that I no longer deal with LMR so I just start to “take care of myself” and when I’m done I cuddle with her and go to sleep. I wake up a half hour later and decide I’ll try to reinitiate. I go to the bathroom to wash my hands, and as I’m in there I hear CJ’s girl come out and ask my girl if she wants to stay. She does, so I assum it is O-N. I go back start kissing her back and bada-bing bada boom it’s over. I do not reccomend having sex on an inflatable mattress as it’s not really the most stable surface or comfortable. Funny side note- CJ’s girl goes into the bathroom while we are doing the deed in broad view and my girl wants to stop, then as soon as the light goes back off she jumps me.” Ok. After I pulled my Target to my room I encountered the stiffest LMR I’ve had for awhile. My girl was LSE and I had to work some fucking verbal magic. Luckily, Future had discussed his wicked “Advanced Comfort” ideas just a week earlier. Here’s one statement based on his ideas that I used during LMR that broke it down by about 8090%: CJ: You know how you told me earlier how your dream is to design clothes? Well, I didn’t want to mention this earlier but(.(pause) Girl: What? CJ: Well, I work with a lot of successful business owners and you reminded me of them when you were talking about that. I really believe you can do that( Now, mind you, she is on top of me in just her panties. I’ve tried to get them off 3 or 4 times. After I say that she PULLS her panties aside and sits on my boner (just on top, still hasn’t put it inside her) and starts going crazy! Girl: (breathless): omigod! omigod! (she is saying this in response to what I said, not the extra action() CJ: It’s too bad you’re such a dork! (pushing her off) I KNOW that’s the first time that’s ever happened to her BECAUSE the look on her face was priceless! She was literally dumbfounded! She sat there for a good minute confused. I then pulled her panties off and started making out with her again. About that time she heard someone in the bathroom and peaked out the door. When she noticed her friend still on the inflatable mattress she opened the door and stepped out to SHOW her friend she was totally nude and asked if her friend wanted to stay. After she shut the door and crawled back in bed she asked if I had a condom(done deal. Lay #3: A few days later( PlayerT: 0 CaptainJack 3
I’ve had many battles with PlayerT and the associated natural/players and I’ve always come out ahead. One of my greatest triumphs was (LR: CaptainJack wins Tug of War(. or something). One night Fidelio and I were out just bullshitting. This was a weird night because instead of Fidelio getting all the AI’s (as usual) I was getting them. I’m not used to that shit so I didn’t know what to do. A 2f, 1m set against the wall called me over. They were both 9s and dressed wonderfully like professionals just off of work from some Fortune 500 company. Absolutely luscious women. One of them looked over at me and said, “You can come talk to us until your friend gets back” or something. What did I do? Not a damn. I just smiled like a dumbass. Damn. Everytime I turned around Fidelio was shoving some “Alligator Sex Fuck” shot that tasted like applesauce in my face. By midnight I couldn’t focus my eyes. But, I DID notice two other AI’s. My drunken attempt at sarging made one hottie regret she had given me an AI. I knew I was fucking it up with each word that tumbled out of my pie hole yet I kept on “plowing” until she finally back turned me and made a face to her friends. Fuck. Not to worry. A brunnette with a big ass had given me an AI earlier and was giving me another. Fresh off of destroying that HB9 AI I got I decided to just waltz over and talk to the brunnette big ass chick (called HB2005). It turned out she was older than I thought but still fuckable. But, all in all I’d call her a 2005 lay. I like to think I’ve graduated a bit. I number closed her. I briefly thought about attempting the SNL but I knew that if I could barely focus my eyes that GIGANTOR wouldn’t be able to do his thing so I let it go. The day2, I meet her at the local venue and we start drinking. PlayerJ comes up and starts talking to her. She introduces us and he says, “Hey, I know him! We had a few after parties at his place” or something similar. I invite him to sit down and head to the bathroom. He has a hottie and two “ok” girls with him. On the way back my Target says, “Hey, do you know PlayerJ?” I laugh. Yep. Well, guess what?! She says they’ve been dating for 3 weeks! She spends the rest of the night kinoing me and making out with me and telling me not to worry, they are just friends! She leaves about midnight. I hang out and do two more sets both NO-GOs Day3(My apartment. I get LMR and she tries to pull me out to local venue. I decline. I text Sinn telling him I am through with her. Day4( Sinn and I are at local venue and she is there. He agrees she is 2005 status. We game some sets. He games and number closes a half-white/half-asian girl I consider an HB8+ but he’s not very attracted. I get Sinn incredibly drunk. He comes up with a new opener on an obstacle I pulled over. I have the Target hooked. She is a tiny half latin/half black girl with a nose ring and perky tits with her tight midriff showing. Sinn’s new opener is, “Ugggh, girl you don’t have a chance!” as he wavers back in forth in his drunkeness. The 2set leaves but I don’t care because that was hilarious! HB2005 comes over and we bounce to Dennys and then back to my place where I close HB2005. ~ CJ ~
Crazy Ex-Boyfriends and Jesus Christ Posted at February 23, 2007
This was the first time I’ve been out since mid-January (except the 2 nights in Orlando). I’ve been working my ass off, reading and just thinking about how my life is going to look over the next few years. El Topo and I got attacked! Actually, the crazy ex-boyfriend attacked my rental car. But, that was at 4am. Let’s back up a bit. I didn’t feel like going out on Tuesday night but I need to knock the rust off for my trip to Australia. Everything close to me is dead on Tuesdays so I didn’t expect much. Little did I realize that it was Fat Tuesday! El Topo arrived close to midnight.
He noticed a girl in his extended social circle and opened her up. I was in the middle of a social status chess match with the hottest girl in the bar at the time and he brought his social circle girl over so we wouldn’t look like two dudes trying to pick up girls. It worked really well. She was hot, probably an HB9 by most people’s standards, a tan blonde with perky tits and a nice booty. Her friend, though, was an UG4 stripper. How on earth she’s a stripper I’ll never know. Anyway, she was all over me but there’s no point in doing an ugly stripper. But, we still used them as social proof. El Topo got opened by a cute redhead and number closed her with the boyfriend just a few tables away. This is becoming El Topo’s trademark. I’ve heard and witnessed this a few times now. I sarged the hottest girl in there twice but couldn’t get to qualification because she was literally being sarged by about 8 guys. Everytime one would leave another would take his place. Then, I realized I was one of them! Sucks! So I decided I had to change strategies and acted like I liked the Stripper. This indeed made my target a bit jealous and she started dancing sexy about 3 feet away to get my attention. So I left. Haa. I went to the other side hoping there was yet another girl to attract so I could make her jealous. That didn’t work because 300lb mammoths don’t make hot girls jealous. I talked to her once more but lost her attention – again. Ok, so it’s the end of the night. My Target, the Redhead and El Topo’s HB were literally the only sarge worthy girls in there. I later found out that a new bar/club opened up that very night and that was where the hottest girls were. As El Topo and I chatted outside we noticed his set talking to a cab driver. He debated whether to go over there or not because he had to be up early. But, like a champ he went over and I followed. I agreed to drive them home thinking I could bounce them to my place and give El Topo a chance to close his girl. But, as soon as we got in the car the HB got on the phone. I had them in my parking lot and was going to attempt to bring them inside but they started acting weird. So, I pulled away. About halfway there the Strippers crazy ass ex-bf called her and wanted to know where the f*ck she was, blah, blah, blah. To make a long story short(er) the weirdo was waiting in the parking lot for her. I decided to have fun and taunted him. He followed us, tried to cut us off in the parking lot and yelling. The highlight of the nite was when I got behind him and beeped my horn and flashed the lights at him. He hopped out of his truck and kicked the car as we laughed and sped away. At the gas station we looked at the side of my rental car (my car is shit so I’m not driving it anymore) and there wasn’t even a dent. WTF? I had some good laughs about it. Last night (thurs.) KinoMaster, Topo and I were at the new place. I wussed out on sarging a girl who I got LMR from a few months ago who is a waittress at another place I frequent. Fidelio gives me shit about this (as he should) because she still likes me but I dont’ do shit about it. Topo opened a 3set. Turns out his Target was married and in some kind of weird marriage where she goes to clubs and he goes to buffalo wild wings. I wing the obstacle and end up pulling her to IHOP and meeting Topo there. Even though she’s an HB4 I kind of like her tits and I’m feeling like I should do it, just to do it. Topo leaves and we stay there another 10-15 minutes. We are holding hands, etc. We get in the car and talk for a bit and then I try to k-close. I get the cheek and then she looks at me and says, “Do you have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ?” Fun times.
"All But Captain Jack…" Posted at February 24, 2007
This is from El Topo(I’ve been out with him 3 times now and run into him in the field a couple of times besides(He’s damn good and getting better, I think he has potential to be one of the best around.
This is a post he wrote a couple months ago just a few weeks after his bootcamp. I was having a good night. Most nights aren’t like this (unfortunately) but I remember this night because it was really fun. So Bar XXXXX it is. We head on over and it looks good right away. Man! HB Crazy! Totally packed! There were more HBs than people at the three Bars we were at before. I walk around and see Kino Master. Then I see Captain Jack. Tribulus sees a bunch of other people that I don’t know. And like most all the other guys they are standing in a corner. All but Captain Jack. What a motherfucker man (I say this in the Miles Davis phrasing of ‘motherfucker’). He is fucking good. He was an instructor at my Boot Camp in Scottsdale and pulled twice when he was there. So anyway I open a few sets, I stay in, but I am not working good game. I definitely get in, but no isolation, no big kino. Then I see a model I recognize from my friend’s work. I hit her up. She opens right up. Heavy kino. She number closes me and tells me to look her up and myspace. Then she disappears into the sea of HBs and AMOGS. I am weak tonight. Great number close, bla bla bla… but I should have isolated. I go back to the five or six PUA wallflowers. I talk to Kino Master for a minute. Kino Master is good to talk to because he actually has applicable things to say PUA-wise. I go and reopen the first set I open. This time I go straight for the target. I ask her if she is Persian. She says, ‘No, El Salvadorian, but I get that a lot.’ I say, ‘that’s great, I speak more Spanish than Farsi.’ Fucking lame. She talks to me a bit, and I again don’t try and isolate, so I eject. I go back to the PUA wallflowers, to see if they’ve grown any. Of course Captain Jack has been in set this whole time. Then a fight breaks out right at closing time. Tribulus is not around so I follow the other PUAs. We stand in a corner waiting for Captain Jack. It feels great hanging out against a wall with a bunch of guys acting cool. Let me tell you. Captain Jack comes up and AMOGs me and then like a fucking pro opens an HB9. She looked like a taller twin of one of the HB I got it on with at Boot Camp. I have got to tell you, I really don’t get it. I watched the whole thing. CJ Saw the target at the bar, walked up next to her. Looked her way slightly, looked away and opened. I have no idea what he said, but she opened right away. Kino right away.
He says something else and has her locked in. Her BF come over and summons her. She acknowledges him and then turns back to CJ. More kino, more kino and then the BF pulls her away phisically. The club kicks us out. Captain Jack is still inside. All the PUAs and I wait for him. No one including myself open anything, and there is still stuff around us. After about 15mins CJ comes out with a girl. Tribulus finds me and says for us to go. I leave the other PUA wallflowers as the watch CJ in the midst. On the way back Tribulus tells me not to fall into the trap of becoming a wallflower. He’s right, it is one thing to watch someone who’s really good, but it is another to follow him around and take notes that will never see the light of day. We talk about how good Captain Jack is. Tribulus says, ‘He’s doing the same stuff that we do, he just does it right.’ But man, it doesn’t look like it. I now realize that my minuscule success of number closes and day twos are nothing. Yeah, I can open a set, get attraction, get comfort, but I got a long way to go. I have a new goal. I have got to get as good as Captain Jack. I have got to work at this thing.
CJ and Sinn Storm Australia Posted at February 27, 2007
So, I landed in Australia at about 10:00 am (that’s australian time, apparently US time just isn’t good enough for them so they made their own time zone up() And, I gotta say my first impressions are that it is kinda strange. For example, Sinn and I were getting a lot of stares today. But, we were just acting normal( We were walking around in our leather bomber jackets (the ones with the Big Ass U.S. Flag on the back), with a McDonald’s Double Cheeseburger in one hand and a super-sized Coca-Cola in another while singing “Stayin’ Alive” by the bee gees(and all they could do was gawk. It’s almost like they’ve never seen an American before. ~ CJ ~ P.S. The girls here in Sydney are defnitely HOT and nice. Sinn and I both have daytime bartender number closes. One set, one number for each of us. He has a short snippet of me gaming the bartender but the background music prevents my linguistic magnificence from being heard. Sinn and I are going to meet with his Target now, I wasn’t able to get mine out tonight
Rump Steak in Australia Posted at February 27, 2007
Here are my observations on Sydney Australia( The place is really, really nice. They have a great lifestyle. While Sinn and I enjoyed our lunch yesterday (their salad is fucking amazing!!! It’s unreal. U.S. vegetables are crap in comparison) there were people having a nice, leisurely lunch. Everyone seems to eat healthy and live healthy here. There are joggers everywhere, people playing sports in recreation-type centers all over the city. And, these are NICE rec-centers. In my area going to the “rec center” is almost like taking your life in your own hands. Now, about the women.
Absolutely Gorgeous! The blond girls here are totally different than in the U.S. – I’m actually REALLY attracted to the blond girls here. The unusual girl here is also the most striking. She is very tan, long dark hair and crystal blue eyes. Amazing. Breathtaking. Bonifying. You don’t see either of these types in the U.S. I’m officially amazed. Australian women take care of themselves. They are nice. They are very elegant but still very approachable. Also, every girl has a butt, a very nice, tight booty. The best way we can describe it is to liken it to Rump Steak. Very tight, chewy slabs of beef. When I questioned this magnificence, Sinn concluded it MUST be due to the hills. I say, “Please Lord, next time you create a planet let every city have hills!” For those of you with an Asian Fetish you’ll enjoy the city as well. And, don’t think the Rump Steak train missed the Asian girls. No sir, they have booties as well! The men. They are unique as well. I haven’t talked to many but they seem fairly nice, easy going and likable. Overall it’s a great place, more Americans should consider touring Australia. ~ CJ ~ P.S. Very well breasted as well.
El Topo FR: God the AMOG Posted at February 28, 2007
This is by El Topo…funny ass shit. This rates as one of my favorite posts of all time. El Topo Loco Speaks: So let’s just start off with; if you get offended by blasphamy don’t read this. I don’t care to hear about the hell I am incurring on myself and how I have stepped over the line, bla bla bla. But you know when I die, and there really is a Jesus I am going to kick the shit out of him. I can’t tell you how many times that motherfucker and his dad have stood in the way of that prized pink paradise. So tonight I am in danger zone. I go out with Kino Master. |We go to a new bar that has good potential. And for me I have got to work more ‘method’ in my game. I am at the point where social proof has got to be at the root of all my actions. So I go in with the photo routine. | I act as press all the bounces and waitresses help me and then the manager shuts me down due to some liability bullshit. He tells me to wait till Thurs when we can do some stagged press shots. I agree and will do it Thurs. |Mainly because that will not only shoot me up on the social ladder there, it will get me into comfort with much of the HB staff. | No better place to spread the seed than within a circle of jealous drunk women. |Just don’t knock any up. But thanks to Kino Master we are in set. Like within 2 mins. He opens an HB8 and an Ug. I work the UG |and Kino Master the HB8 Somehow after 10 mins or so the HB8 switches to me and the UG goes with Kino Master.
Then we switch back. The set gets all fragmented, obviously because we are not controlling well, and nobody is claiming the HB8. Kino Master ejects and I plan a day 2 with the HB8. Number close and that’s that. The two girls leave. But I feel good so far So my main thing is social proof. There is a guy I notice who seems to know most of the people. He is part of a mixed set. | So I open it up. The set opens but he closes me out of the set and isolates me. This is not good, but can work to my advantage so i go with it. Besides the night is young. However I keep riffing with him. |We are both very grandious in our conversation so to me this ain’t so bad. |Part of the whole social proof thing. People are noticing. For a while Kino Master and I bullshit. Then I try and work a peacocking experiment. |I try and hold position in the room and get as many AIs as possible. | It really starts to work. This is something that is a ‘no no’ for PUAs, but Captian Jack and a few others are able to pull it off. Body language and maintaining a fun attitude are key. everyother AFC is doing the same thing, but how do you do it so that your downtime or time out of set works for you. My mistake is that I don’t open the IOIs that are coming my way. |So ultimately this sort of thing turns weak. *Note to self- Open sets constantly, then merge the sets. |Be a leader of men. |Be the leader of the set. Smile. |Have fun. |Set the Frame. So this bullshit goes on for a while. Sooner or later I get to my sense. I open a set here and there. |Get AMOGed, blow em out. |Stay in, open again . |Boot out the AMOG. The women to men ration at this place wasn’t that great. Then I see Kino Master, working some heavy kino with and HB7. I walk over and as I get introduced, the HB7 tries to eject herself. Kino Master pulls her back, gets her back into confort right away and number closes her. It was really good. So now I have got to open some more. |I notice some IOI from various spots. | And if you don’t keep going PUA fatigue sets in. So back out to the field. I see the guy I was talking with earlier in the night. |I open the other set he’s in. I am glad I had opened him earlier, because he get’s me in good with another set. He boosts my value by telling people how he’s going to have me take pictures of his motorcycles, and all that bullshit. |So I am in good. I am lazy though. |No targets. |So I just stay in to kill time. This is the constant PUA excuse, no targets. | I could use the practice, but of course my ‘no target’ excuse persuades me to not do any work.
Low and behold Kino Master is doing just what I am not. | He is in heavy rapport with and HB5 (if you would even call that an HB). Either way he’s practicing, not letting the night go to waste as I have. He’s in good, and relaxed. |His game is ON tonight. In fact I have never seen him so smooth in set. He is in set for about 20mins, number closes and ejects back to nurse my sorry ass back to PUA health. I tell him, ‘this set I was going to go in but(’ ‘I was in this set but I didn’t care so I didn’t number close(’ ‘I got IOIs, here. |I got IOIs there, but(’ Kino Master tells me to open something. | So I move in the the group I haven’t yet opened, but have been getting major IOIs from. I go in direct. |By the way it is about 1:45am. ET “So what’s your story?” HB Retaining Water “What (uncomfortable pause that I maintian) OMG are you part Asian?” ET “What are you talking about(” HB Retaining Water ” I am part Asian bla bla bla blablabla(.(you can’t write enough bla bla blas for this girl)” Anyway I am in and way in. Kino Master joins in. |And shortly their after they start kicking everybody out. I number close and work a TB to the diner down the street. I actually number close 2 girls in the set, however neither of them are much to talk about. So anyway Kino Master leaves. |Smart move. I go to the Diner to count down those ever important 5-7 hours. We get there. |Kino is good. |Comfort is good. |There are definate sexual frames set, the food is ordered and the fucking HB Retaining Water has to say Grace when the food gets infront of her. Seriously. As you may know, I am not religious in the least. I can’t fucking believe it. |Only in TX. everything about this girl is crazy. |I mean she could lose a few pounds, but she would be a good lay. I can tell. We all know the truth( they’re all pink on the inside, but it really is tighter in the orient. But fucking ‘Grace’ at DENNY’S. |What an insult to God! I mean if you’re insulted by this post, then you should really be insulted by this girl. |She brings the Almighty into this shithole. So they let God into Denny’s but not people of color(you got to love TX. |So now you have that terrific feeling of comfort knowing that where she might be getting on her knees for you, she WILL be getting on her knees for JESUS later. If he were smart he’d make easy access to that loin cloth he wears. (You know on a side note, a new term for fucking a chick on the rag could be “Going Stigmata Style”) So anyway we eat. We finish, pay ( and then to the car, where I escalate the Kino and move in to the Make
Out escalation. By the way, in the bar I had kiss closed her, but really quickly. Should have escalated then. Because OOOOOOh Lord! that ripe fruit was not getting plucked from the tree tonight. She hold off. She really takes(”my faith seriously.” FUCK ME! Jesus! And yet another night of LMR that was established pretty quickly. The fist of God wedged inbetween those legs, and I drive home cursing him all the way to this keyboard! And this time there would be no jerking off. |I am too pissed at Jesus. Although maybe if Jesus((I will stop there, but use your imagination). So in anycase here’s my critique of the night. 1) Social Proof needs to be constant. 2) Inner game- nobody fucking knows shit about you, you’re always the shit(so OPEN THAT SET 3)Stay in Set Plow through anything and Isolate ASAP 4) If no targets work the hired guns, bouncers whatever. |If you are stationary do it right and for not too long. 5) Escalate better, |allow yourself the 5 hours of comfort. |Work the emotional and sexual spikes. 6) Do some sort of religious callibration so you know what you’re getting into. |religious people still sin as we all know. |And sin makes for some good sex. |So develope a religious thread, you can make Jesus work for you. |Then maybe I will love him as you’re supposed to.
More on Sydney Babes Posted at February 28, 2007
Ok, we’ve found the ugly chicks. The first two days we were in the pristine area of professionals and moneyed people. There are plenty of ugly girls here, too. Someone asked, “Do chicks dig American guys? Does it help/hurt your game?” Remember, we’ve only gamed two nights so far( They are slightly more curious but so far it doesn’t seem to have that much effect. The Australian guys seem pretty cool and Australia has a great standard of living so we’re not seen as valuable as if we went to a poorer country. The women sometimes feel the need to comment on politics which is annoying because they don’t realize America’s a pretty big country and you can find every political bent and opinion there. We’re not uniform at all(and debating politics is not usually a great way to amp up the sexual tension. For example, I’m neither democrat nor republican. To me, those guys are simply different sides of the same coin. I lean towards libertarianism which basically means the government should be extremely limited. There should be a national defense, local police force and court system to hammer out disagreements between individuals. But, other than that they shouldn’t tell us what to do. Nor should they provide any services. That’s the function of companies/individuals. I don’t believe in victimless crimes. Example, if you want to pay a woman for sex, go ahead. If you want to take drugs, go ahead and do it in private (just don’t operate machinery or drive while intoxicated). Anyway, it’s a cool country with cool people. I like it.
"You HAVE to see the view from the rooftop Pool!"
Posted at March 1, 2007
Hola Puas, Last night Sinn and I were heading out to meet up with Dr. Owl who was already at a venue. We stopped close by for a drink before going. Sinn opened a couple sets and got in deep with a 3set of Irish girls. It was the ugly ones birthday and the two other friends were really cute. The best looking one had huge boobies which always gets Sinn. The other cute one was taller and slender and brunnette (which always gets CJ). But, unfortunately I wasn’t much of a wing because the body positioning in the bar made it awkward. Sinn had his Target extremely interested but the numbers were against us. I decided to hunt around downstairs and opened a 2set. A very tall big-breasted brunnette and a short blonde. CJ: “You’re short and you’re tall(you need a third girl who’s in between.” They giggled and said something but I didn’t hear because it was so damn loud in the bar. CJ: “Sorry, I have no clue what you said, I don’t speak Australian(” The girls laugh again and my Target says: “We don’t either(I’m from England and she’s from South Africa” So, once again I open the non-Aussies. I ran the set pretty well but it got extremely crowded in there so I moved off to opene another set(Sinn and I came back towards the ned of the night and started gaming them again. I took the tall brunnette and Sinn took the shorter blonde. It went really well on my end. Sinn’s girl was really fiesty. I seeded the bounce in the only way I knew how. I started talking about the breathtaking view from our rooftop pool. I run strawberry fields and it goes real well. Into comfort, I tell her the “Light Bill” story and she melts. Sinn’s Target went to the bathroom and he leaned over and said, “Pair bond. ” So I started. CJ: “It’s really strange. You’ve travled all over and been to all these places where it’s dangerous for females so you can obviously take care of yourself. But, I feel like I want to take care of you and protect you (pause and she gives the Doggy Dinner Bowl look) — I can’t even talk to you now.” This really melts her and she tells me everyone wants to feel take care of and she leans in towards me. As the bar is winding down I go for the bounce to come see the view. I grab my girls arm and begin leading her out with Sinn and his little blond behind us. We get to the rooftop pool and I continue cycling between sexual framing and comfort. I take my girl to the lower terrace. I begin escalating down there and it’s going real well. We’re making out hard core and I get to feel those large breastesses and that booty. She’s from England but her parents are Portugese. I’m seriously thinking about closing the deal right there on the terrace when I remember, I HAVE NO CONDOMS IN MY WALLET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I stuffed them in my suitcase because I didn’t want them in my wallet for the 17 hour flight! Shit! New strategy: I think I’ll take her over to the pool again and if Sinn and his girl are still there I’ll say we’re going to get drinks and what would they like? That will get me back into the room and to my condoms cause I’m not banging a world traveling girl. I must protect GIGANTOR. As luck would have it Sinn is not there. I’m thinking he either threw the fiesty girl off the roof and went to bed or they’re in the room making the double-backed beast. I lay my girl down on a pool lounge chair and start escalating again, knowing I will have to back down due to the condom situation. When Sinn and his girl come back I have my hand up her skirt feeling her round booty. I should’ve had something prepared to say to keep Sinn and his girl up there but I didn’t so they ended up leaving. I got her number but this phone is weird and I saved it wrong. I get into the room to take a piss and there’s a condom in the toilet. ~ CJ ~
CJ Makes an Austrasian Cry Posted at March 3, 2007
The asians here are different, too. Example: They have booties. I’m calling them Austrasians. Again, I believe the above average bootiness is due to the hilly terrain of sydney and the fact that they walk more than americans. The first bootcamp night I opened a 2set with a really hot slender blonde. Things were going well and Sinn joined in after about 10 minutes to handle the obstacle. This set taught me A LOT about meeting and attracting Australian women. I now have a few pieces that I use early in the sarge that helps me a great deal. Sydney women are MUCH more polite than american women. A sydney babe will RARELY blatantly back turn you or otherwise blow you out. They readily engage in conversation but this is also confusing. They keep everything extremely surface level so you may be chatting for 45 minutes and not really be making any progress. I started using this piece early on in the sarge: “I like Sydney women but they have a tendency to talk about mundane stuff. They rarely ever talk about their emotions and ambitions. It’s strange because I feel like I’m talking to them but not really getting to know them.” They always agree. And, from then on the conversation is completely different. This has allowed me to run almost standard game from then on and they accept A3 (qualification tests) now with more realistic answers. Another piece I created was to get away from political talk. The media here paints a pretty distorted view of americans, I’ve found. So, this is the piece I use (and I think it is very true): “I travel a lot and what I’ve found is that people are all basically the same. They want to be able to provide a good life for their family, have good friends and enjoy life. It’s the governments of the world that make everything all wacky.” I sometimes add, “The dad in Italy, the dad in Syria and the dad in the U.S. all want their kids to be protected, well food and have a good life.” This also changes the texture of the conversation. They switch from being skeptical about you as an American and warm up really well. Now, to the Austrasian. After ending the set with the slender blonde I didn’t do many more sets but helped some students out. We venue changed to another club and I got an AI from a cute, tiny asian girl. When I passed her again I used my Nose Ring Low Investment Opener (not the ring but those little diamond-type studs): “Is that real? I was in NYC a few weeks ago and I was talking to this girl in a club. I said something and she started laughing real hard and the thing popped off and landed on the floor. She said, “oooh, help me find it and was about to start crawling around on the club floor. I was thinking, “Girl, I hardly know you(I’m not going to crawl around looking for your fake nose ring(” It’s always opened. They usually then share their other body piercings and tattoos. I’m then free to stack forward. So, I get her isolated and it’s pretty on from the get go. It’s so on that I get worried that maybe she’s a pro. Dr. Owl is a few feet away so I run over and say, “Hey, do you think the asian girl is a pro?” He makes a funny face, looks at her and says no. Ok, I just get worried about that shit when I’m in a different country because I can’t always tell. We make out a bit more. After about 40 minutes I pull her from the club. I think it is so on that I’m trying to get her to “see the amazing view from the rooftop pool.” She agrees and we start walking to find a cab. We hop in and then she gets really nervous. About halfway there she tells the cab driver to stop and she gets out. I’m thinking this is strange. We hit another club and we dance some more. We make out in the club again and she’s grinding on me. We get back in the cab to hit my hotel and about halfway there she says she has a boyfriend and we shouldn’t be doing this(she tries to stop the cab again but I talk her out of it. We finally get there and in the elevator she attacks me for another make out. I go to my room because I want her to see the room before heading to the roof. This is so the room is somewhat familiar before I try the final pull for sex. We get back in the elevator and she starts tearing up.
CJ: “What’s wrong?” Austrasian: “I’m such a bad person(I have a boyfriend and I know if I stay here I’m going to have sex with you(” And, now she’s crying. She wants to leave. Damn. We head back outside and wait for a cab. She stops crying and kisses me again, then clams up and says she’s bad for doing this to her bf. When the cab comes she french kisses me and hops in the cab. Never got her number. I think if I would’ve taken another 45 minutes or so in a different venue I would’ve been successful. ~ CJ ~
Lightning with a Goddess Posted at March 7, 2007
I met and attracted a truly beautiful woman recently( Here’s the scoop! I number closed a super hot bartender the very first day I arrived in Sydney. She is Polish with crystal blue eyes, tan skin and long brunnette hair. Her body is amazing. There’s not an ounce of fat on her anywhere. It took me 5 days to get her on the day2 but when she arrived at the little cafe in the harbor it was worth all of the texting and waiting. Literally, the hottest girl I’ve ever been out with. Not only physically but her personality just rocked all the way through(she was feminine, smiled a lot, loved to laugh and put lots of emotion into whatever she was talking about. We had a beer at the cafe and then I was going to bounce her to a pub but she had a better idea. We hurried onto the ferry and took the ferry ride to manly beach. I made sure to initiate kino early so I promenaded her onto the ferry, held her hand and so forth. We got to Manly beach and walked by the ocean. Very romantic. We held hands some more. The whole conversation felt so natural and easy. We weren’t searching for anything to talk about, the conversation just flowed. I found it hard to stop looking at her. At the beachside pub they stopped serving alcohol on the patio for some reason so I proposed the Never Fail Pull “check out the view from the rooftop pool.” She readily agreed she just had to make sure the train schedule was ok. On the Ferry ride back I kissed her. I probably could’ve done it much earlier but I’ve noticed that stunningly beautiful women have a way of paralyzing men into not escalating (maybe due to fear of loss?) When we got to the hotel I could tell she was reluctant to come into the room. She stood right by door and didn’t come in more than a couple of steps. Not wanting to push it I just grabbed the beers and headed up to the pool with her. The rooftop view was amazing due to an incredible storm. The lightning was unbelievable – each lightning strike seemed to last 5 or 6 seconds. We sat up there watching it as I told her about my ambitions and dreams. We made out some more. We went down to the lower terrace and I told her that I love boats because they are freedom. You just need enough food and water and you can adventure anywhere. She loved that statement and she squeezed my hand and made out with me. We got back up to the pool area and went into the exercise room. I really started escalating in there. I got her top pulled down, felt her beautifully tight booty and sucked on her nipples. She felt GIGANTOR through my jeans. In retrospect I should’ve just done it right then and there but I wanted to lay her down on the bed and savor it. Stupid me. I should’ve known that doing it there would’ve GUARANTEED getting to do it again later. We had about 20-30 minutes before leaving for the train station. I pulled her back into my room and made out with her. Unfortunately, I got LMR and had a decision to make. Push for another twenty minutes and try to crack it? Or, ease off and try again on the day3.
Decisions, decisions. Turns out I made the wrong one. I backed off thinking I’d get one final shot at her but so far she has been working and going to school so we haven’t been able to see each other. Even so, that was the best date I’ve ever had in my life. Hands down. ~ CJ ~
Leaving Sydney Posted at March 7, 2007
I’m in the airport right now getting ready for the grueling 18+ hours of flying to get back home. Sinn, Dr. Owl and TheDon headed to Melbourne this morning. Last night I ran a really good set and got another number and an invitation to “come watch TV at her hotel.” Ha ha. I was supposed to call her at 2:30 after her and her friend got back to their hotel but I was already shifting gears into the world of work. I got engrossed in reading something on the Internet and before I knew it the clock said it was past 3 am. I’ve got to get my business up and running without me. Right now it’s all me. If I stop working the business stops. Actually, it’s not fair to call it a business. It’s me making money, that’s it. But, I’m never without a plan and this plan is pretty solid. Back to hot chicks. Sydney has really hot chicks. My god are they hot. It’s unreal. It has to be seen to be believed. Once you get past their mundane boring conversations they are ok to talk to( It’s really strange(Sinn and I were looking for the bookstore and we noticed that the whole trip we had never seen anyone reading. That’s strange. If you walk by the cafe’s, the lounges, even Starbucks no one is reading. Even here at the airport no one is reading. People are just staring into space, talking or eating. I’m in the food court here and there must be over 120 people. But, I have the only book in sight. This was a rather eye-opening trip as well. I learned a great deal about myself, my skill level and how I’ve been limiting my results. I have a much clearer picture now of what I want and how I want the PU part of my life to be run. I’ve been wasting a lot of time and not taking full advantage of all the tools like pre-selection, social proof and Identity. Anyway, it was a fun trip but I don’t know how Sinn does it. He travels more than any other PUA in the world. Think about it. No other Instructor trains so many. He must’ve trained nearly one thousand PUAs by now. Gotta go and check in. Gawd this is amazing. There are 4 HB10′s within shouting distance. ~ CJ ~
Cultivating High Social Value in a Venue by Jordan Harbinger Posted at March 29, 2007
Hola Puas, This is the first guest “exclusive” article for my blog out of several I have planned. The Pickup Podcast guys have a great blog going and everyone should add it to their feed reader. Great stuff( ~ CJ ~
Cultivating High Social Value in a Venue by Jordon Harbinger (www.pickuppodcast.com) Everyone knows that social value is key coming into a set. Guys work overtime trying to work the room and be seen with the finest women in the venue. Where most people fall short,
however, is when it comes to cultivating and maintaining that social value in your favorite hotspot. So let’s say you go to the same venue every week or even multiple times a week. Most guys come in every time with little or no social value. Thus, every time they approach, they’ve got to generate that value all over again. This is a lot of work. Fortunately, it’s not entirely necessary, and there are some sure-fire shortcuts which we’ll outline for you here. What if you could walk into your favorite venue and stroll around like you own the place without first having to work the room at all? What if everyone treated you like the high-status VIP that you are? For one, it would make your sets open a lot easier, and help things run a bit smoother once you are there. I have spent years working in clubs and bars and spent many more hanging out in them. I have also made it my business to know all the right people so that I can spend my time socializing instead of waiting in line outside or waiting for service at the bar. I do not like going to the club as a non-VIP, and have since vowed not to do so if it’s at all avoidable and I can do so without dropping my hard-earned cash. Those of you that listen to my show (www.pickuppodcast.com) know I’m fond of saying that “pickup, [namely social proof and people’s first impressions of you,] begin when you walk into a room.” Whether people are consciously paying attention to what you are doing when you walk in or not, it will affect your social value. Have you ever noticed how within just a few minutes of walking into a room, you can mentally check off where all the attractive women are? It’s almost like radar for cuties, and it is ingrained into our psychology to be able to locate attractive females. Women have a similar instinctual ability, only they gravitate to males with high social value. Ask any women to pick out the most eligible guys in the room and they know instantly. From the moment you walk in, people are watching you. It might not always be on a conscious level, but it’s still happening. Every moment that you look lost, disoriented, bored or lonely, your social value is dropping. Now, of course I’m being semi-dramatic here, but you get the idea. The entire process of transforming a venue into ‘your house’ is way too lengthly for this article alone, but here are a bunch of tips to get you started: Decide on a venue to make your own and stick to it. I’m not saying you have to only hang out there, but you should go there regularly and be comfortable with the venue and the employees. Start learning people’s names immediately. When I started I actually made an excel spreadsheet and threw it in my phone. I had every doorman, server, bartender and manager in the city on that spreadsheet. Shake people’s hands when you meet them. It does not matter if you already know them or this is your first time meeting them. Speaking of which, greet doormen like you know them. Trust me, it’ll likely take them a while to remember you, but if you act like you know them and that they SHOULD remember you, they will fake it and it’ll stick much more quickly. I like to use a big handshake and half hug that I usually give my close buds. Confidently walk around like you own the place. Not arrogant, but comfortable. Ask people if they’re having a good time and mean it. Make it your purpose to make sure that you and everyone around you is having fun. Meet and befriend the bartenders and servers. This can be somewhat expedited by tipping extremely well the first time you order. I know this tip seems obvious as hell but I would be remiss if I did not mention it. Ask them about their night and genuinely listen to their responses. They are not there just to serve you, as they have lives too.
On that tip, meet and befriend anyone that matters: the management, promoters, hostesses and servers, doormen (of course), and even the chefs. You would be amazed how many times you can get hooked up from these people just because you’re in their good graces. What does it look like when I roll into my favorite venue? The bouncer knows who I am and greets me like I am his boy, because I am. He slaps my hand and greets me by name. My crew never gets carded or waits in line. I walk up to the bar and my “favorite” bartender, also my friend, greets me by name with a smile and handshake, taking my order first, regardless of how many have been waiting, or for how long. If we get there late and the kitchen is closed, I can still get food because I am friends with the chef.I rarely if ever pay for drinks, but I always tip. And, for some strange reason my gin & tonics are always stronger than those of others. Even the doormen tell me where the cuties are and whether the night’s been good. They watch my personal effects, look out for my friends, and, most importantly, have my back if someone gives me trouble. The manager always comes to my table to speak with me and my crew. Likewise, when people at the venue know who you are, not only are you socially-proofed, but the women you are with feel comfortable. People always tend to trust people who are trusted by others. So this works in your favor to help people feel comfortable around the fun guy everyone knows. This is your house -make yourself at home!
Low Investment Openers: A First Step to Making Your Seductions Mutual Posted at March 9, 2007
After you’ve spent a few months using Opinion Openers or OMG Openers try this( Lately I’ve been doing very low volume, low energy approaches. In fact, lately I haven’t even been opening groups. After thinking about how my style has morphed in the last 6 months I’ve noticed that a LOT of my openers are very simple, mundane and directed at the Target. I noticed that my goal has been to open the girl with the lowest investment possible and then use my calibration skills to keep the conversation escalating towards sex. The best openings have the feeling of being light touches rather than bold strokes. If I can make it seem like we opened each other, all the better. The Austrasian looked at me and smiled, I smiled back and slowed down as we were passing each other. She slowed down so I opened her. We were chatting away immediately. I also realized that my “Clown Grin” that I stumbled on a LONG time ago is a LIO. The very last night I was in Australia I opened a cute Hawaiian chick by tapping on her shoulder with “Were you here for Karaoke the other night?” By 1:30 am we were “married” and she invited me to “watch tv at the hotel” with her later. (I laughed because her bounce statement sucked but I guess being a female bouncing is simple for her.) The proponents of “Short Sets” use LIO’s and now many of the group dynamics practitioners use “Pre-Openers.” So, use a simple Low Investment Opener and guage her attitude/interest to being opened. Then, stack forward. Will it work with a “protection shield?” Probably not. But, here’s the thing. It’s not a real blow out. If she is snotty or whatever it’s real easy to walk off, open someone else and there are MORE girls in the venue it will work with than not so I say use it on them and build social proof and reopen later. What about the obstacles? I’ve found that if you can get a girl attracted and into comfort fairly quickly that the Target will rebuff (man, I’ve been waiting to use that word for awhile – rebuff) the obstacles by giving them subtle cues to back off.
MOST of you guys are (necessarily) overdoing attraction and overselling yourselves. After you can get attraction consistently throttle back and find out how LITTLE attraction you can get before moving to next phase. At each phase you want to use the MINIMUM necessary to use the next step. This gives the interaction a feeling of mutual seduction. What (exactly) are Low Investment Openers? Here are a few of my favorites: * The Clown Grin * If she smiles back or slows down or stops ask “You having a good night?” * “You having a good night?” * “Were you here on xyz night?” – Then, I’ll mention something about that night I found unique/unusual/interesting. * “How’s it going?” So, basically EVERYTHING we told you NOT to use when you first started out. Now, if you’ve been consistently sarging for 4-5 months then throttle back, give this a shot and make your seductions seem mutual. ~ Captain Jack ~
Sticking Point Analysis Posted at March 12, 2007
Early on when I wasn’t getting the types of results I wanted I decided I needed to take a more systematic approach to my development. In my area, there were no other PUAs that I knew of so after the bootcamp I was basically alone. I had to become my own best teacher by systematically using my in-field experience combined with my analysis. So, I developed this “Game Improvement Plan” – The first realization is the purpose of your Game Plan is to get you laid consistently by the type of women you want. The second realization is you can’t go out with the purpose of getting laid. The third realization is every action should be judged on its overall (GLOBAL) purpose rather than its immediate effect. Take number closing as an example. Most guys feel great when they number close. But, are they really any closer to the Global goal? Could be, but probably not. But, Time Bridging is a better solution because it puts you closer to the Global goal (it is, of course not guaranteed but much better as a local option than the phone number alone.) A dichotomy? Yes and no. Your focus needs to be adjusting your behaviors until you can run through your Game Plan with an unconscious smoothness. When your Game Plan is not getting you what you want you need to focus on something else( 1. What to change 2. To what to change to 3. How to cause the change This is what I call “Sticking Point Analysis” and I credit it with my last 18 lays. I learned early on I needed to have more than a Game Plan, I needed a method for IMPROVING the Game Plan if I was ever to get to where I wanted to go. Once you understand the basic courtship process and start running your Game Plan in the field you will start to notice where your sarges are failing. You’ll notice patterns. They are failing in the same places quite often. Step 1. Identify Your Sticking Points Sticking points limit the entire system’s output. (The system being your Game Plan and the output being lays.) Therefore we have to stop focusing on getting laid and instead focus on fixing the sticking points. Step 2. Decide How to Fix the Sticking Point (SP) Now that you have identified the SP the next step is to find possible solution(s) for fixing that sticking point. Pick one way to fix it and commit to 10 tries with that solution. Step 3: Subordinate your Game Plan to the above decision.
Redesign your Game Plan to implement the fix for that SP. Step 4: Elevate the Sticking Point. With your redesigned Game Plan you will go out and start hunting for opportunities to break the SP. You will subordinate everything to working on your SP. That means you will EVEN give up a lay opportunity for a chance to work on Sticking Points (unless you haven’t yet had 2-3 lays from the Game – in which point I say take the lays as it will give you a better Global view and a nice boost of confidence.) There will come a time when you break that SP. Step 5: This is a continuous process. Go back to step 1. My suggestion is to work on 3 SPs at a time. Experience has shown me that every set will not present you an opportunity to work on an SP. However, if you have 3 then you have a good shot at getting a few repetitions per night. ~ Captain Jack ~
Ambition and Winning Through Intimidation Posted at March 20, 2007
Hey, Demonstrating Ambition is one of the best things you can do for your life (and for your PU). Just as large perky breasts turn (most) men into bumbling idiots, ambition turns women’s hearts, minds and legs into Jell-O. When you meet a woman and want to attract her it is important to demonstrate ambition. I noticed a qualitative difference in my PU adventures when I started telling girls what I was truly passionate about. When I told them what my real goals were, what I was passionate about they seemed to turn into little lambs awaiting my further instruction. The only thing of at least equal (perhaps, greater) power is the pair-bonding routines. I tied ambition into my life story and paint a picture of my future lifestyle. A lifestyle most women would absolutely want to be a part of. Many PUAs led unbalanced lives before which got them into the mess in the first place. They don’t realize that part of manhood from time immemorial is:
Hunting! So, females still look for hunters. You demonstrate hunting today via languaging your Ambition. You are a hunter of Lifestyle. This doesn’t necessarily mean yachts and caviar. But, it should mean something good, something that creates a longing inside her( We have to realize that all Human Action starts with dissatisfaction (see Ludwig Von Mises). By describing your ambition and current/future lifestyle you will highlight her dissatisfaction with her current life. This creates a tension for action inside her. The way to relieve that tension is to ally with you! With that said I want to recommend a website to you, http://www.robertringer.com – he’s a 3 time bestselling author. His flagship book is titled, “Winning Through Intimidation” and is a TEXTBOOK for setting personal boundaries and living “at cause.” It is purely practical and not “new agey” in the slightest. I’m in the process of reading every article in his Archive ~ Captain Jack ~
How to Be Your Own Pick Up Guru Vol 2 Posted at March 20, 2007
I’ve just put my 2006 Lays (with a few from 2007) into another PDF and released it on my website at http://www.betheseducer.com
CaptainJack’s Grande Adventures Vol. 2: The 2006 Lays Right Click and Select ‘Save Target As’ To Download This PDF! 2006 was a monumental year for me as I finally cracked LMR and had my first 7 lay month. If you want the Volume 1 which contains ALL of my posts and follows my development from bootcamp until mPUA go to my website you’ll find it available for free download there. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. If you want to know when it’s updated please join the mailing list. P.P.S. Feel free to distribute either or both of these volumes far and wide. Post them on your lair boards, send them to fellow PUAs or share them on your blog.
How to Make a Girl Blush through Quirk Compliments Posted at March 27, 2007
Here’s something I’ve been doing for about a year with STUNNING effect. First I’ll tell you the tactic and then give you pointers on its use: Find something you think she may be a little self-conscious about( (note: the ( between words indicate a suspenseful pause) For the girl from “LR: Chubby Girls Need Love, too” it was her overbite. CJ: “Omigod! I just noticed that!” HB: “what?” CJ: “how ADORABLE!” HB: “whaaaaat???” CJ: “You have the cutest(little(overbite.” HB: * blushes and BT goes through the roof. She covers her face with both hands * (the above was when I had already cycled attraction and comfort 2-3 times.) For the girl from “LR: Omigod! Peety is Dead!” it was her half crooked smile. This was during another round of shit-testing. CJ: “You know I didn’t even hear a word you just said because I’ve been looking at(wait, smile again.” HB: “why?” * she can’t help but smile and she’s also starting to feel self-conscious like maybe I saw something nasty in her teeth or something * CJ: “oh(.my(.god(you have the(.cutest little(.crooked smile!” So think about this: what are things girls might feel a little self-conscious about (of course stay away from no tits, fat, scars, etc.) * Height * Unusual smiles * Braces * Peg leg (haa – just kidding) * Red hair * freckles * beauty marks
I’ve used it to defuse shit tests in A2, during A3 and in Comfort. I think it does a few things: 1) Makes them self-conscious thereby knocking her OUT of her normal societal programs 2) Makes them feel like you genuinely like them 3) Reactivates old pair-bond anchors BECAUSE in a relationship the HB will bring those things up to her BF(what does he say most of the time “Baby, I love that about you(” I suggest adding it in as an A3 piece. Then, when you are confident you can select something and use suspenseful pausing, etc, use it during a shit (attraction) test. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Handle with care. If you don’t do it right it can backfire( P.P.S. This is a tip from my email tips list at Captain Jack PUA’s Tips
Cultivating High Social Value in a Venue by Jordan Harbinger Posted at March 29, 2007
Hola Puas, This is the first guest “exclusive” article for my blog out of several I have planned. The Pickup Podcast guys have a great blog going and everyone should add it to their feed reader. Great stuff( ~ CJ ~
Cultivating High Social Value in a Venue by Jordon Harbinger (www.pickuppodcast.com) Everyone knows that social value is key coming into a set. Guys work overtime trying to work the room and be seen with the finest women in the venue. Where most people fall short, however, is when it comes to cultivating and maintaining that social value in your favorite hotspot. So let’s say you go to the same venue every week or even multiple times a week. Most guys come in every time with little or no social value. Thus, every time they approach, they’ve got to generate that value all over again. This is a lot of work. Fortunately, it’s not entirely necessary, and there are some sure-fire shortcuts which we’ll outline for you here. What if you could walk into your favorite venue and stroll around like you own the place without first having to work the room at all? What if everyone treated you like the high-status VIP that you are? For one, it would make your sets open a lot easier, and help things run a bit smoother once you are there. I have spent years working in clubs and bars and spent many more hanging out in them. I have also made it my business to know all the right people so that I can spend my time socializing instead of waiting in line outside or waiting for service at the bar. I do not like going to the club as a non-VIP, and have since vowed not to do so if it’s at all avoidable and I can do so without dropping my hardearned cash. Those of you that listen to my show (www.pickuppodcast.com) know I’m fond of saying that “pickup, [namely social proof and people’s first impressions of you,] begin when you walk into a room.” Whether people are consciously paying attention to what you are doing when you walk in or not, it will affect your social value. Have you ever noticed how within just a few minutes of walking into a room, you can mentally check off where all the attractive women are? It’s almost like radar for cuties, and it is ingrained into our
psychology to be able to locate attractive females. Women have a similar instinctual ability, only they gravitate to males with high social value. Ask any women to pick out the most eligible guys in the room and they know instantly. From the moment you walk in, people are watching you. It might not always be on a conscious level, but it’s still happening. Every moment that you look lost, disoriented, bored or lonely, your social value is dropping. Now, of course I’m being semi-dramatic here, but you get the idea. The entire process of transforming a venue into ‘your house’ is way too lengthly for this article alone, but here are a bunch of tips to get you started: Decide on a venue to make your own and stick to it. I’m not saying you have to only hang out there, but you should go there regularly and be comfortable with the venue and the employees. Start learning people’s names immediately. When I started I actually made an excel spreadsheet and threw it in my phone. I had every doorman, server, bartender and manager in the city on that spreadsheet. Shake people’s hands when you meet them. It does not matter if you already know them or this is your first time meeting them. Speaking of which, greet doormen like you know them. Trust me, it’ll likely take them a while to remember you, but if you act like you know them and that they SHOULD remember you, they will fake it and it’ll stick much more quickly. I like to use a big handshake and half hug that I usually give my close buds. Confidently walk around like you own the place. Not arrogant, but comfortable. Ask people if they’re having a good time and mean it. Make it your purpose to make sure that you and everyone around you is having fun. Meet and befriend the bartenders and servers. This can be somewhat expedited by tipping extremely well the first time you order. I know this tip seems obvious as hell but I would be remiss if I did not mention it. Ask them about their night and genuinely listen to their responses. They are not there just to serve you, as they have lives too. On that tip, meet and befriend anyone that matters: the management, promoters, hostesses and servers, doormen (of course), and even the chefs. You would be amazed how many times you can get hooked up from these people just because you’re in their good graces. What does it look like when I roll into my favorite venue? The bouncer knows who I am and greets me like I am his boy, because I am. He slaps my hand and greets me by name. My crew never gets carded or waits in line. I walk up to the bar and my “favorite” bartender, also my friend, greets me by name with a smile and handshake, taking my order first, regardless of how many have been waiting, or for how long. If we get there late and the kitchen is closed, I can still get food because I am friends with the chef. I rarely if ever pay for drinks, but I always tip. And, for some strange reason my gin & tonics are always stronger than those of others. Even the doormen tell me where the cuties are and whether the night’s been good. They watch my personal effects, look out for my friends, and, most importantly, have my back if someone gives me trouble. The manager always comes to my table to speak with me and my crew. Likewise, when people at the venue know who you are, not only are you socially-proofed, but the women you are with feel comfortable. People always tend to trust people who are trusted by others. So this works in your favor to help people feel comfortable around the fun guy everyone knows. This is your house -make yourself at home!
What’s Your Promise? Posted at April 5, 2007
I’m constantly amazed and re-amazed at how much Marketing and Pick-Up dovetail. Right now I’m in the throes of re-creating my company to handle larger volume and to be more process driven rather than expert driven. One of the first things you do in creating a company is decide what YOU (the business owner, the Entrepreneur) wants out of it. You quantify it in terms of money but even more importantly Lifestyle. Those who don’t quantify it in terms of Lifestyle end up having lots of money, no time and hating their lives. This causes them to work harder and eventually implode. After that there are a few other steps you go through that aren’t relevant to this discussion but one of the major ones is: The Promise. What are you promising the person who does business with you? The promise you make drives everything else. Your marketing, your product creation and how you service clients. My business’ promise is this (this is not the final wording but captures the essence): We turn business owners into marketing experts so they can FINALLY experience the lifestyle they previously dreamt of. My question is: What are you promising the women you interact with? My guess for many of you is that you have never quantified it, you’ve never described it, or envisioned it so you can’t communicate it to her. Even worse, your game may be communicating a promise but the reality is far different so your relationships are screwy. Or, your game bounces about from promise to promise confusing her and making you look incongruent. So, think about it. Is your promise to make her feel like a princess? Is your promise adventurous times? Is it all about sex? My promise is that she’ll be appreciated for the sexual being she is by a man who is ambitious and powerful to others and there’s a chance that I’ll take her to the top with me. Once you have the promise you can begin to employ implicit framing and stop explicit qualification. Your interactions will appear smooth and effortless. Your pickups will appear to outside observers as Magic. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. (Explicit Qualification is not bad per se, but implicit framing is more unconscious and gives her the feeling that the attraction/connection is coming from deep within her – because it is.)
Look in the Mirror Posted at April 6, 2007
Yo, I read about 20 business blogs a day. I added this guy’s blog because he talks about business networking in a no nonsense way. Networking is on Captain Jack’s list of least favorite things to do (probably related or corelated to my intense dislike of phone use) but I force myself to do it on occasion. I’m learning more and more that Pick Up is merely a specific application of Self Improvement and closely parallels Marketing (in execution) so you’ll be able to find a few great points in his post.
“So look in the mirror if you want to know why you’re not getting anywhere, and why you never will.” ~ CJ ~
[The Asian Playboy] Is Sexual Anxiety Killing Your Results? Posted at April 7, 2007
The following is a guest article written exclusively for Captain Jack’s Grande Adventures by The Asian Playboy. ~ CJ ~ “90% of intermediate/average level PUAs fail due to Sexual Anxiety (SA). If you’re reading this, more than likely that percentage includes you. Now is this a hardcore, empirical statistic? By no means, but it is something I witnessed with incredible regularity with guys (especially Asian men) after they had conquered their Approach Anxiety (AA). They would run smack into a wall and either score through sheer mass of numbers (ie the Approach Machines) or their only successes were through rote, mindnumbing persistance (ie Social Robot). Hell, I’ll be honest, it took me more than a few months (half a year, I believe) when I started out on this life journey to not only identify that I had that problem, but also how to tackle it. Painful, humbling, but at least I knew I had that problem and it took me several more months to get any kind of decent handle on it. In my opinion, SA is generally endemic of men who didn’t lose their virginity early on (as many naturals do) and/or did not have the opportunity to achieve sexual experience by building upon lay after lay after lay (again, as many naturals are wont to do). There’s a reason why the peeps at Project Hollywood were fascinated with NaturalJ who, at the age of 21, had already racked up (or at least claimed) triple digit lays. But I digress. 1.
So let’s take a look. Imagine, what’s the worse thing a girl can do when you approach her? Ignore you.
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Insult you.
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Slap or throw her drink in your face.
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Laugh.
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Etc. Now AA can be easily conquered within one month by performing approaches after approaches at something like 10 sets a night, two to three nights a week, for all four weeks. You can easily rack up 100 repititions that get you inured to social pressure. You’ll also build a level of social precognition where you “know” what reply to expect from her as well as YOUR appropriate, socially adjusted, humorous response that will keep the interaction flowing. In theory at least, not everyone succeeds at this (Sorry, I don’t sell pipe dreams. They’re on wholesale next door to Compassionate Conservatism). Now, what’s the WORSE imagined thing a girl can do to you when you go for the kiss, the makeout, thehandjob, the breast touch, the extraction, etc?
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Scream rape.
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Call the cops.
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Knee you in the balls.
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Get her guy friends to beat you up.
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Etc.
So how many opportunities in one month can you realistically put yourself in a sexually charged situation(what I like to call D for Direct Interest in the ABCs of Attraction)? Compared to mastering AA, an average guy MIGHT achieve a Sexual Escalation Opportunity (ie kiss to actual ejaculation) twice a week (assuming he’s very active and somwhat decent skill) with different women. It would then take him about ONE YEAR to get in the same amount of practice he took to conquering AA with 100 approaches Or in this case, 100 different, potential opportunities for sexual release under his belt. If practice makes perfect, virgins and the sexually insecure have their work cut out for them. So therein lies the rub. In order to attain SEXUAL confidence, you need sexual experience through sexual practice. So which came first, the chicken or the egg? Or for thee and thine, your overly active sperm or her willing zygote? For a lot of intermediate guys, it’s easier just to hammer away at incessantly approaching and buildingGeneral Attraction (something I consider wholly different from Sexual Attraction) through verbal game without risking life, limb, and fragile gonads by avoiding going in “for the kill.” After all, there’s a feeling of some measureable progress if you can get a number. The thrill of approaching X amount of women and getting Y amount of numbers counts for something, right? RIGHT?! So disappoint, sexual rejection, and that fantasy dream are staved off for one more night. But more importantly that chance- however finite- of sexual success (or at least practice) are all delayed for the indefinite future at some unappointed time as it lays uncalled in your cellphone. Eventually after a few thousand approaches, he’ll accidentally stumble into some willing woman’s vagina. Release is achieved. Victory declared. Wash, rinse, repeat. After enough effort, having laid waste to an entire population of women at child-bearing age, he’ll achieve some meaningful level of sexual confidence to where it’ll build into a snowball effect. At long last he has achieved the promise land! After several years, maxed out credit cards, regular visits to Miss Rose Mary Palm, and a thousand annoyed women! Hallelujah . But there’s an easier way (Dear Buddha you better hope your bulbous belly there is) to deal with Sexual Anxiety. In my next article for Captain Jack, I’ll write about Sexual Escalation. -The Asian Playboy”
Lay Report: The Lay Report About Nothing Posted at April 8, 2007
Yo, Permit me to ramble. Got laid last fri. night (another SNL, same night lay). She was an HB7 (in ’97)(I wouldn’t consider her ugly(.wouldn’t consider her cute. Just average and probably in her mid thirties. It was strange because I literally did nothing to advance the sarge. I didn’t even open her. She opened me. So, why am I writing about having sex with an average older woman? Not sure. Maybe I’m just writing this down for posterity’s sake. I’m not gonna lie. It was fun to be full montying a girl since I’ve only been out a few times this year (besides helping Sinn with his Bootcamps). Sex with an average girl beats the hand. (The highlight of the evening was at Denny’s hearing El Topo’s “I work in a Bathhouse” story. He literally talked for 15 minutes straight about the ins and outs of working at a bath house.) But, after having a full day to think about it, I’m still not totally sure why I did it. I didn’t do anything other than not object to her “baby stepping” me along.
It couldn’t have just been about the sex, because I still have about 6-8 FB’s in my phone who are MUCH better looking and would’ve come over at a moment’s notice. I’ve run through the night’s scenarios in my head and I noticed something strange. I used to NEVER get opened. Then, once I started getting good, peacocking and opening lots of sets that stuck, I started getting opened by girls. Then, when I switched to low volume game I stopped getting opened but I didn’t care because I knew I only needed one set to hook and I’d probably be closing the deal. Now, I’m getting opened. What has changed? Nothing physically (a little fatter maybe, I’m 215lbs but should weight about 190.) Friday night, I got opened 4 times. Two of them were hot, one was definitely NOT hot and the other was the one I ended up laying. Saturday night, after a slow start I got opened 3 times. Two were definitely NOT hot and one was cute. I had one good set towards the end of the night with a cute Hb8 latina (who I opened) but disqualified myself a little too hard and she didn’t take my TimeBridge bait. I should’ve just looked at her point blank and said, “Hey, I’m asking you out.” Sometimes you have to make things clear. The thing was I had the obstacle totally disarmed and loving me. If I hadn’t run out of time (bar was closing) I could’ve used the obstacle (now, MY friend, too) to help me close the Target. But, alas, CJ fucked around and didn’t bring his A game. I’m not in the Game to have girls open me but I try to understand these little quirks. I also got opened a few times the same night I picked up HB2005 (see LR: Two New Lays Posted 2/21/2007 in Captain Jack’s Grande Adventures Part 2). These things are mysteries to me, that’s why I love taking a scientific approach about them. I LOVE to record this stuff and look for correlations. It’s how I got good. (This is why I love Tyler Durden and Sinn’s posts, they really THINK about things and take the time to write them out, make them clear and back their stuff up with field experience. For two good examples look here: *Michael Jordan and becoming a man and here: Expanding Your Reality) What on earth causes girls to open me now versus before when I was essentially invisible? Why does it fluctuate as I change styles? Can they “sense” something? Is it BL? Do I look desperate (haa)? At this point I have no idea and I’m not even sure it’s all that important. This might be something I chalk up to little quirks not worthy of further study or it could yield some interesting insight. Time will tell. After 3 years of intense study and practice, I remain fascinated with the Game. ~ CJ ~
Does Hooking Up Hurt You? Posted at April 10, 2007
This is an interesting article. It looks like its a reprint from the women’s magazine from Marie Claire. Does Hooking Up Hurt You? I’m going to buy the book mentioned because this woman studied promiscuous young women in today’s society. You can tell the author has an agenda. She probably started the study with the idea in mind that hooking up is bad. When you can learn HOW something happens naturally/spontaneously then you can work it into your Game Plan. You can reconfigure your speech to match the realities she has experienced or will experience. For example, the article tells me that “A lot of the women I interviewed for my book say one of the reasons they have casual sex is the fear that if they get tied up emotionally with someone, they won’t be able to do their work or get ahead in their jobs.” Think that’s a useful bit of information? I’ll probably buy it today and hopefully there are some nuggets in there I can use. ~ CJ ~
How to Apply the 80/20 Rule to Create a Kick-Ass Life Posted at April 12, 2007
This post has the possibility to vastly improve the landscape of your life. It can affect your pick-up, your financial situation and your health. Please read it and really stop and think how it can help you, starting today. I’m reading an interesting little book right now called, “The 80/20 Prinicple.” You’ve probably heard the 80/20 rule before. It’s referenced extensively in Engineering and Business. The premise is 20% of causes are responsible for 80% of results. I’ve known about it for some time in Marketing. We’ve found over and over that 80% of profits come from 20% of customers. But, when we measure the phenomena it’s often more like 90/10 or 95/5. Most of the profit actually comes from a very small percentage of your customers. I often have my clients put measurements in place to track customers from the first time they make an inquiry and each and every sale. Then, we can look at the graph. It’s amazing. Some customers actually COST you money to serve. We get rid of them if necessary. Then, we focus on the 20% who make us most of the profit. “What else do you need Mr. Awesome Client?” How can we get them to buy more (increase transaction size) and/or buy more often (increase transaction frequency). Then, we find out, “Who are these guys? And, where can we get more of them?” That takes a little research but many data miners are able to take the names, addresses and then do a backwards search (not the right wording but same idea) to create a profile of them. (By the way, a company can get a staggering amount of information about you. In the future I’m going to STOP signing up for things in my own name and use only Trusts or shell corp names.) I’m excited because I’m in the process of formalizing all this and making it cookie cutter so I can step a few core business owners through it. But, this isn’t the point of this post because this post is about how to rid your life of things which suck and how to increase things which are cool. This morning I stared at my cell phone for a minute or two. I’m supposed to call a biz owner about a project we’re working on but I dread it. Part of me says, “You fucking pussy, just dial the number and get it over with(” The other part of me says, “Wait! Why should you do things which suck?” (In this case, I have to do it because he’s already paid me. It’s a fee-based project and I hate those because due to the economics I can’t make the truly monumental changes in his business. Strategy always beats copy. A great ad might double your conversion rate but a few changes in your Strategy can easily cause 5x even 10x the increases.) I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately because the 80/20 book talks about applying the 80/20 rule to your life. 80% of your pleasure comes from 20% of your activities. 80% of your pain comes from 20% of your activities/circumstances. You can improve your life by minimizing the things which suck and multiplying the things that give you pleasure. If you sit down and write down all the things that suck, then you can build a strategy to minimize them. Do the same thing for the things that you enjoy. Write them down and then find ways to increase them. And, set some rules for yourself. You don’t have to do things which suck. You may have to do some every now and then but that’s life. But, they shouldn’t control your life and if they happen with regularity get rid of them. If you’re not building the life of your dreams it’s your own fault. And, you can derive so much satisfaction from just refusing to do the bullshit everyone else thinks you should do. You get to set the rules about HOW people interact with you. If they decide not to play by those rules then part ways. You don’t have to be an asshole about it but you can tell them you don’t do XYZ or don’t allow XYZ in your life. One of my clients only allows his clients to send him faxes. He doesn’t publish a phone number and won’t answer their emails. If they want to send him something it’s fax only.
He can’t possibly make a lot of money with policies like that can he? Only about $5 million this year with just 3 employees. How much does each client bring him? They pay him from $12,000 to $50,000 PER YEAR for the privilege of getting his faxes, listening to his teleconferences and getting access to his unique system for making their practices run better. I could go on and on but it’s time to wrap this up. No one is responsible for you but you. Your ideal life is your responsibility. Your time is your own and it is YOUR CHOICE how you want to spend it. If you get stuck in a shitty situation, change it immediately. Don’t sell your life for money. Don’t sell your life for someone else’s desires. Put you first. Start today. ~ Captain Jack ~
Not Gaming Posted at April 16, 2007
This may sound weird but( (at certain times I’ve found it easier to NOT game than actually game. It’s weird because you get to a place where you see/understand the dynamic and you KNOW you could go and own a set but you stay put. It’s almost like you are “too cool” to bother opening that set. I imagine this happens a lot with the “just be yourself” and “be cool” schools of pick-up. A whole shitload of theorizing about being cool and not much getting laid. Take tonight, for instance. Fidelio and I are bullshitting and having a great time. There are two hotties that catch my eye. About 6-9 months ago I would’ve rolled into each of their sets. When one of the girls I previously laid showed up, that should’ve sparked me into using social proof/pre-selection. Then, another girl, a bonified HB9 who I number closed one night a few months ago who was all over me, yet I never bothered to pursue (I disdain all Day2′s except those which start/end with “come to my place”) showed up. It would’ve been EASY to get something going. Instead I drank, texted Sinn and Fidelio (who had to leave early due to work at 6am) and whined about it. Oh well. Someone I told this problem to suggested my Testosterone has declined. I guess that’s possible considering I’m 32 and have a horrible diet and drink a lot. Or, it could be totally psychological, I know at any point I really want sex I can call any of my past lays and have sex. I also know I can go and seriously game a few nights and have a new FB (or two or 3). Knowing that sex is merely a phone call away, or a few nights (at most) away, where’s the motivation? About the only thing that motivates me now is when I see a truly hot FUNusual OR helping students. I really get a kick out of helping less experienced PUAs. It reminds me of when I sucked at the Game. I get pumped up helping new guys out. It is sheer thrill for me. Take El Topo. Dude’s a mad man. He’s in the major growth phase and already racked up a shitload of lays. He’s ballsy and I get pumped up watching him defile everything holy. He has a hot little Mandarin chick right now that would make the writers for Penthouse blush. Guys like El Topo cause me to sarge. It forces me to put my socially awesome coolness and vibing bullshit away and go and talk to some people. I like that. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Despite my “too cool to game” phase I have 2 day2′s this week. That’s two day2′s off of two half-assed sets. What could I have done with some effort? Two years ago I would’ve turned cartwheels for two Day2′s in a week, now it’s considered a “bad week.”
How to Get Back at Your Ex Posted at April 17, 2007
This is something I’ve had the good fortune to do once or twice. Believe me, I tried everything and have heard of other guys trying numerous things but this is the only thing that works. Step 1: Remember all that cool shit you wanted to do but never got around to? Go do it. Step 2: Change your style into something MUCH cooler and edgier. Your style can give you a leg up during your initial approach. Get a cool haircut. I know the hair designers at Toni & Guy are usually pretty good about maximizing your hairstyle for coolness. I’ve tried to cut corners and go cheap but it doesn’t work. Step 3: When you run into your ex, no matter what has happened, treat her like she’s a bud. Be absolutely devoid of any sexual interest whatsoever. Step 4: Ask her for relationship advice. Step 5: Tell her how amazingly happy you are and how life is awesome and everything is looking up. This will make her feel like her life sucks and she was the cause of your misery. Step 6: Use the secret weapon of “Ambition” by telling her all the amazing plans and passions you’re following through with (now that you’re no longer in her energy draining, vampiric aura – haa). Step 7: Cut all communications short. But, if you have something really cool/fun going on this weekend make sure she hears about it (but don’t invite her unless you’ll be arriving with a hot girl.) Step 8: If she compliments you on anything say, “That’s exactly what Gina said(” this will make her wonder( Step 9: Ask her how her hottest friend is doing and ask enough questions that she has to wonder why you keep bringing her up. Jealousy is always fun. Step 10: Never, ever, ever under any circumstances try to get back with her (assuming you even want her back) until she’s the one pursuing. If she tries to get back with you tell her you are having way too much fun to enjoy anything more than a physical relationship. ~ CJ ~
On NOT Gaming Part Deux Posted at April 18, 2007
Quip, I’m not the bragging type but I do believe I have just as good a shot as anyone out there with the hottest girls. I think my nights of NOT gaming stem from something else(some weird issue I haven’t fully grasped yet. Like I’ve said a few times, I believe Nov. 2006 was the last of my Outer Game sticking points (culminating with LMR SP). I have the tactics/techniques down. My last remaining issues are InnerGame related. I know some Keyboard Jockey will try to tell me I should’ve STARTED with InnerGame but I beg to differ. And, I have a black belt in this area. Everything from Huna (certified in Huna by Dr. La Tourrette) to NLP (Bandler on 4 occassions), Energy Psychology and a bunch of other cool shit. I’ve been able to use those technologies to do a lot of wondrous things for myself and others. And, I’m still looking for ways to use them. Every moment you put off getting real world experience to work on your “InnerGame” is a minute your life is slipping by.
I don’t think you can even truly know what your InnerGame issues ARE until you have ironed out your OuterGame for at least a year or two. No one has any business working on InnerGame until they’ve done about 1000 sets. Until then you don’t even KNOW what your InnerGame SP’s are(you only have fear, laziness, excuses and technical shit to deal with until then( I wish I could tell all of you to just be cool and confident and talk to people. But, I’d be doing you a disservice. I’d be betraying you. I’d be coddling you like babies, instead of treating you like Men. Women can ONLY respond to your Style and your Behaviors. She can’t see inside to your InnerGame. She can’t see into your soul. She can only see what you demonstrate visibly for her. I’m wrestling with InnerGame demons. But, ONLY the ones that prevent me from doing what I already know how to do WHEN I want to do it. Any InnerGame issues that don’t directly affect my behavior don’t matter, they are background noise. These InnerGame SP’s are my last thing to conquer. I’m taking them down the same way I took down my OuterGame tactical SP’s – one by one (see “Sticking Point Analysis”). There’s no way they can last. I’ll root out each and every one of them. ~ Captain Jack ~
Why Old Ladies Love CJ – Mystery Solved Posted at April 24, 2007
Old ladies love Captain Jack. (And, by old I mean from 35+ year old MILFs to 75 year old shrivel-ovaried grandmas.) It always bothered me WHY? WHY? Why me? I can be rolling out with a thousand puas and the old ladies open ME( Is it because I look helpless? Or, easy? Or, nice and harmless? This has bothered me for a year or more now. I’m sure I know why now and the answer came from a seemingly unrelated source. On the flip side of this I wondered, “Why can’t I get hot girls to open me (without absurd/extreme Peacocking)?” I thought about it for a bit and put it in my mind to become aware of the solution (see: Reticular Activating System). One night Sinn, Fidelio and I were out and SURE enough a hot girl opened me. Sinn saw it and told me he saw the whole thing. Apparently she had given an AI to one of us a couple times. When I noticed the AI I acknowledged it, SHE then gave another acknowledgment and we started walking towards each other, then she started talking to me. That sounded right so I tried it again the next night and got opened by two different sets, one hot and one not. * Get an AI. * Acknowledge it (eye contact, a slight smile and a slight turning of the body towards them.) * When she acknowledges back smile and start walking towards her. Sounds simple enough right? I avoided AI’s early in my PU efforts because I’ve seen guys depend on them. Then, when they don’t get them they have trouble approaching or think there is something wrong with their appearance etc and it fucks up their night. Then, when I was working so hard on Cold Approach I wanted it to be FREEZING cold, meaning no AI’s, no peacocking, no pawns, just me vs. everybody. So, Saturday night I am chatting with some people and I notice a girl looking at me from a table across the room. I acknowledge, she acknowledges back and as I take the first half step she waves me over (format holds true with positive consequences in 3 out of 3 instances() But, she intros me to her friend. She AI’ed me over for her friend. Interesting. Her friend (HBBlondeTattoo) is hotter, too so this is great!
I ended up pulling her, her friend and another guy back to the Pirate Pad for an After Party. I got LMR from HBBlondeTattoo so no Lay (yet) but she is a cute little blonde with 3 awesome tattoos. I’m using Sinn and Future’s Breakthrough Comfort with her now to get more practice. Now, here’s where the Old Ladies come back in. I realized that I had been DIS-Acknowledging (or outright ignoring) AI’s from the hotties and being friendly and acknowledging old ladies AI’s. So, last night I purposefully disacknowledged two old ladies’ AI’s. Problem solved AND I’ve got a better grasp on skillfully taking advantage of AI’s from hotties. ~ Captain Jack ~
How to Get More… Posted at April 28, 2007
This post is primarily about one of my favorite subjects: Money. But, you’d be actin’-a-fool if you think it is ONLY about money. In fact, you’d be AAF (actin’ a fool) if you thought ANY of my posts are ONLY about the things I’m discussing. Each one of them has multiple applications and multiple layers of meaning. The title of my blog is Money. Life. Women. Adventure. Right after I got divorced I promised myself I’d never again sell my life. I wouldn’t sell it for Marital Peace. I wouldn’t sell it to the wishes of my parents. Nor, would I sell it for a Wage. What’s that Fight Club quote? “This is your life and it’s slipping away one day at a time.” or, something similar. So, I guess I’ve been a tad inaccurate about my favorite thing. It’s not really Money. It’s FREEDOM. Or, more accurately Freedom & Adventure. I look at Money as a means to both but I won’t give up either for Money. In fact, I’m one of the higher paid people for what I do but I’ll be damned if I work 40 hours per week. (By the way, 40 hours per week would yield me, conservatively, $48,000 per month.) It’s hard to get me on the phone for anything less than $300 an hour. Unless you’re my mom or dad – and even they complain of the trouble. During a CNN Interview Barbara Walters was asked something like “What’s your favorite period of life.” She responded her trip to Italy and France RIGHT AFTER COLLEGE! Holy shit! Shouldn’t your life be getting better as you go? Now, I understand just as much as the next person that there are gonna be ups and downs, zigs and zags. But, my God, her favorite period was a summer trip she took DECADES ago? Isn’t that sad? Right now on my desk is a research report from an M. D. who I’m evaluating as a client. It’s about Prohormone pills (remember, Andro and McGwire?) and how the FDA (the “Federal DUMB Administration”) banned them because( (get this( Testosterone INJECTIONS have bad side effects. (The reasons this is dumb logic are numerous and too technical for this post but it’s essentially comparing apples to oranges, no, never mind that, it’s comparing apples to giraffes.) Anyways, he also provided some extremely telling info which shows that the prohormones were banned BECAUSE gov’t types are worried what increased Testosterone will do to us non gov’t men. It seems that they’ve been allowing shit into our food (especially chicken) that actually promotes estrogen. The goal being to keep us men pleasantly docile. Now, I’m not a conspiracy theorist in the least, but the evidence is just too friggin’ overwhelming for me to ignore. Luckily, he also shows how he’s overcome this bullshit for his own patients. I started his program a few days ago and let me fucking tell you I feel like a god damn Lion. King of the Jungle.
One thing that is really cool about this blog is when I meet other PUAs and they tell me how they applied something from it and got great results. That makes me happy. A few have even told me they love reading about the biz/money stuff just as much as the PU stuff and that makes me happy too. Which reminds me: Right after I got separated from my ex I tried a biz idea I had been putting off because she criticized it. It took me about six hours to put together. I made $12,000 the first day. Right after that, I put another idea into play. It was awesome. 20 people paid me $97 per month just to get emails updating them on what I was personally doing/researching in a niche field. That was a blast. They loved it. Not one dropped out. Each person stayed with me the entire time. I conducted free one-day “Master minds” and people flew from CA and NY to spend the day with me picking my brains. Which brings me to my next point: Be More Selfish. That doesn’t mean screw people. It means protect yourself. Set boundaries. Go for what you want. Design your life to get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want. My question is: Do you wanna be like Barbara Walters all full of estrogen with the best period of your life off in the distant past? Or, do you want to be a Pirate full of Testosterone, plenty of Gold, surrounded by Beautiful Women while you gaze hungrily into the horizon, eyes and heart steadfastly set on your next Adventure? One of my gifts is devouring a subject, quickly discovering what works and what doesn’t, discarding the bullshit and synthesizing it all in a way that people can apply to their lives immediately. Blogging is awesome but there are a lot of things I can’t print here or give a full treatment. It’s better for snippets and batting ideas around. I’m thinking about doing the monthly thing again. Maybe via a print newsletter, an email update and an audio covering money, health, women, adventure and whatever else I happen to be studying at the moment. It’s titled, “How to Get More(” and it’s about getting your shit together in every area of your life. It’s about getting that cutting edge(about domination and dominating(it’s about living YOUR LIFE on your terms the way you want to, not how society dictates to you. If there are a group of hardcore pirates out there who want to get involved as Charter members, now’s the time to hop on board. The first 12 charter members get two days in Big D with me discussing “How to Get More(”
Male-Female Microcosm Posted at May 4, 2007
Females (unconsciously) view your interaction with them as a microcosm for how you’ll interact with the World. If she can crumble you, then the world can crush you, no problemo(She wants to know that YOU can overcome the World and fulfill your deepest purpose. This is ALL she cares about. Most guys handle shit tests all wrong. There are two basic choices: 1) Ignore and continue with your Agenda 2) Change her state using your humor or frame control The thing NOT to do is tell her you don’t allow drama. This MAY attract her but NOT for the conventionally thought of reasons(it may attract her because NO ONE stands up to her at all, therefore you are different. But, it
still means you are bothered/susceptible/weakened by her drama. She’ll continue to shit test you until you are a limp noodle in her hands or you ditch he herr looking for a “better woman.” But, like Groundhog Day, you’ll keep finding yourself in the same situations over and over: “Bitches” full of drama. The skill to work on is CHANGING her state. This is what she craves. She is UNABLE to do it herself. She is seeking the MAN who can help her do it. Your female will always (again unconsciously) test you at your weakest points. This is to HELP you, to PREPARE you for your battles with the World. She wants to help her man become a Warrior Warrior-King. King. If you fail in your you “microcosm” battle with her, there is not way you’ll win when it’s You vs. The World. In a way, she is a victim of her own emotionalism. She wants YOUR emotional stability, your sense of logic and purpose to be there to weather her emotional storms. So, when she shit tests you, don’t get pissy, look her in the eyes, shove her against the wall and tell her you’ve got everything under control. Then pin her against the wall and start to ravage her. I got shit-tested tested tonight on 3 different counts. I opened wi with th a rapport opener with NO social proof, dressed like shit in a bar with a 5-to-1 1 ratio of dudes to girls. I changed her state for each one and SHE number closed me. I could sense her attraction amp with each “shit” test. Ignore or laugh it off and keep rolling. olling. She WANTS that. The How to Get More Newsletter Eleven sing-ups ups so far. One more spot left for “Charter Member” status. See previous post for details. You eleven should’ve received an intro letter today (or maybe tomorrow) to confirm and the first iissue ssue should arrive mid-late mid next week. The “How to Get More Newsletter” is the primary communication of the newly formed “Warrior-King “Warrior Society” a Fraternity of Men who want to become what they are meant to be, instead of what society, parents, government dictates. ictates. Stay tuned for details where I’ll announce the website (at which point I’ll stop posting about it on this blog.)
LIOs, AIs and Ay Ayn Rand Posted at May 8, 2007
I’m getting world class at LIOs (Low Investment Openers). A Wing and I pulled a 2set of 21 year old hotties last sat. night. My Opener? “This song was real popular when I was in High School.” Then, I plowed for 2 minutes. Un Until til said Wing came in and occupied obstacle.
We ended up pulling the 2set to the Pirate Pad. I got mine totally naked (awesome fit 21year old perfect body — Day2 is tonight) but I got LMR and ended up fingering her instead. She tried to give me a handjob but it’s near impossible for me to get off that way. Here’s one from last night which also went well: “Red shoes. Interesting.” I’m also getting world class at getting girls to open me off of their AI. I wrote a post about it “Why Old Ladies Love CJ” or something a week or so ago. And, I’m pleased with the overall increase in Youth and Quality of my last month or so of Gaming. Some time ago, not sure exactly when, I made a decision to upgrade the quality. I recommend quantity for beginners, even intermediates with huge Outer Game SPs, but it’s time for me to focus on hotter specimens. Finally, here’s an excerpt which I included and discussed in the “How to Get More Newsletter(” “How do you propose to force your ideas on them?” “I don’t propose to force or be forced. Those who want me will come to me.” Then the Dean understood what had puzzled him in Roark’s manner. “You know,” he said, “you would sound much more convincing if you spoke as if you cared whether I agreed with you or not.” “That’s true,” said Roark. “I don’t care whether you agree with me or not.” He said it so simply that it did not sound offensive, it sounded like the statement of a fact which he noticed, puzzled, for the first time. “You don’t care what others think – which might be understandable. But you don’t care even to make them think as you do?” “No.” “But that’s(that’s monstrous.” “Is it? Probably. I couldn’t say.” (Excerpted from “The Fountainhead” by Ayn Rand, p.26) ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: Good Girl, Bad Girl Posted at May 10, 2007
Sinn and I hit a Wing place about 6:00 to get some seats early for the De La Hoya and Mayweather fight. Luckily for Sinn we got a waitress with Jumbo-sized Hooters and the gaming began. Soon after Twitchy arrived and finally Fidelio. As always happens with Twitchy and/or Fidelio the shots begin coming hard and heavy. By the time the fight ends (boo) I’m pleasantly buzzed. Sinn number closes the waitress who has 2 roommates who also work there. We walk to a nearby venue. After getting a drink, Sinn points out a 2set. A cute innocent-looking brunette with brown eyes, a slender frame and a really nice ass with perky tits and another cute girl with Jumbo Hooters and a great ass. Of course Sinn wanted the Jumbo Hooters girl. I think about how I’m going to open and they walk by, it looks like they’re leaving and I say, “You guys can’t leave, we haven’t talked yet.” I had that cued up because a week ago I was in a bookstore coffee shop and a very hot girl left before I got a chance to get off the phone and open her. She walked past me and I hesitated. I decided now that anytime a girl is about to leave my presence before I game her is going to get that statement. They giggled and walked past. When they came and sat back down I strolled over and said the first thing that came out of my mouth: CJ: “This song was real popular when I was in High School.” I don’t remember exactly what was said but they weren’t having it for the first minute or so. Sinn came in and occupied Jumbo-sized Hooters.
Before you know it we’re in mini-isolation and I’m making fun of her for being so young and immature. Turned out she had just turned 21 a few weeks ago and this was her first time at the bar. I ran strawberry fields. 10 strawberries she says. Hmmmm(.bad girl I tell her. She says she’s not bad, she’s good. Her parents are both Ministers AND she’s going to teach church camp this summer. A bust-fest ensued. I told her I was going to sneak out there and eat strawberries with her at the camp, etc. Sinn was in good with his girl. Then, Jesus and Mary arrived. They didn’t like me from the get go. I later found out that Jesus had a thing for my Target and was extremely protective of her. I knew my girl liked me but Jesus and Mary weren’t taking my friendship advances so I went to go chat with Fidelio, Twitchy and Secondchance. While talking to them I caught her looking at me. I smiled (on the inside) and kept chatting with them. I went back over there and started gaming again. I told her I wanted to get a drink and made her escort me to the bar. She really loosened up when Jesus and Mary weren’t around but when they were around she wasn’t willing to role play so I knew I had to get her in full isolation. I managed it (later I found out Sinn had to reassure them multiple times I was a cool guy, etc. They liked him and he was able to at least buy us some time.) When I got her alone I ran Discovery Channel and I could see her get horny. I made out with her right then. I backed off a bit and ran “$18 for the Light Bill” and we made out again. Sinn had been working on the pull and texted me to work on the pull with my Target. Jesus and Mary came back by and my Target clammed up again. Somehow we lost Jesus and Mary and we pulled our girls back to the Pirate Pad. Since both of us had already made out with our targets we almost immediately started making out right after I put on the DVD. Sinn pulled his Target to the floor and started making out. I took my girl to my bedroom and got her totally naked in my bed but she wouldn’t let me into the Pink Palace. I throttled back and started building more comfort in between bouts of heavy make-outs. I made sure to set up a Day2 for the next Tuesday. Then, I fingered her until she came. We talked on the phone twice, exchanged text messages the following couple days and she showed up for our date. I sat her down and gave her some wine which she said tasted “baconey.” Haa. I had South Park on and she told me she was never allowed to watch it because her parents where religious(ha. She liked it. She thought it was so funny that the little kids were cussing. I made out with her again and escalated on the couch. I noticed some tension and eased off. She asked, “Where are we going?” So that was a confirmation of what I suspected. I needed to take her out or face dreaded LMR again. I took her out and resumed the bad girl frame I set up via my version of Strawberry Fields. She loved it at first but then she started insisting she was a good girl. I changed the subject and we bounced to a different venue. I ran my Cosmo Routine (which encapsulates Bandler’s SRT) and she flushed. We made out again. I then told her I loved how she was a good girl who could act bad when she really wanted to( I then dirty talked to her almost the whole drive home. Saying things like, “I’m going to tie you up and blind fold you and fuck you from behind.” and lots of shit like that. Got her back to my place under the pretense of watching “Superman Returns.” I escalate on the couch. Her little panties were so soaked they were slippery on the outside. But, I was still worried about LMR so I wanted to penetrate before trying to take her to the room. Success and she’s hot enough to keep in the Top 3 rotation (yay!) ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Spent last night with her, too. She confessed that she broke up with her boyfriend on Monday night. Haa.
Lay Report: Collateral Damage Posted at May 14, 2007
LR: Collateral Damage May 14, 2007 (.with guest appearances by PlayerT, El Topo and KinoMaster( Ok, this is not going to be real long because the lay came from a Secret Society Social Circle I built at this bar over the last 6 months. In fact, that’s the lay report. PlayerT was there with his ex (who I also banged) and her friend, cute face, big boobs but a little chunky. The experience was eye-opening though. Here’s why: I didn’t really want to have sex with her. I was gaming the 2nd hottest girl in the venue (the first was an ex girl-on-girl porn star named ‘Vanity’ but I didn’t open her(grrrr). The Wing House bartendress was with a Vanilla Icer and she was still wearing her Wing House uniform. The sarge was going great, she was attracted and she re-opened me 3 times, gave me lots of AIs. One problem: Vanilla Ice was her boyfriend’s best friend. What to do? One: If I befriend him I could try to get them and a few others back to the pirate pad for an after party and get him so drunk he passes out giving me an opportunity to bang her. Remember this: Anytime you are attempting a pull you MUST discover how people arrived there. You need to know this because it affects HOW you’re going to get things done. It turns out they met up there separately. This bit of information made me Two: I could ignore him and try to get her to see me after they leave the venue. This was my plan. Alas, I was interrupted and she and Vanilla Ice merged with another m-f set so I never got a shot at pulling her. My biggest mistake in that set was not getting a full isolation. Damnit. It was ON but I was just a little off at one crucial point. Anyway, back to the girl I banged. She literally grabbed my hand and pulled me towards the door. I stalled looking for a chance to re-engage wing house girl. No go. I got in her car and drove her to PlayerT’s house. At this point I’m thinking, am I going to bang this girl? I’ve upped my standards a great deal because I’m no longer working on any specific outer game SPs. I’m sure I have some outer game SPs but nothing glaring. When I open enough sets, I get laid. It’s really dependable. I decided I wouldn’t. I was going to turn this girl down. So, I did something that is still putting a smile on my face. I gave that girl LMR! What was her LMR tactic to breakthrough? She fell back on the power of the Titty Smother. She took her giant tits and tried to suffocate me with them. I suspect she knew that if she could cut off the supply of oxygen to my brain it would weaken my LMR. When that didn’t work she decided to insult my manhood, “What’s wrong you can’t? You can’t get it up, can you?” Yet, I resisted. She went back to making out with me. Now, let me tell you, this didn’t work. I mean I was enjoying the big titties and making out is always fun but it didn’t do anything to break my resolve. What finally broke me down? She started jerking me off and at that point I decided it would be easier to just fuck her than have her attempt to get me off with her baboon like coordination. So, I fucked her. I wonder how many girls I closed just by wearing them out(damn, that shit makes me wonder. It probably would’ve been better for me NOT to bang her because I wasn’t the least bit concerned about living up to my normal feats of Sexual Stardom. I imagine I lasted about 83 seconds. Or, roughly 83 pumps. HB: “Are you through already?” CJ: “haaaaa” Some highlights of the night( El Topo tells one of my ex lays she has tattoos on the “ceasection region” – she gets irritated and leaves. KinoMaster and I thought it was funny.
KinoMaster gets smashed – haa. I’ve seen him at my place drunk off of wine but never smashed in a bar. Talked to him earlier and he was still feeling it. El Topo saying that having a certain girl with hairy arms jerk him off would be like having a 12 year old boy do it. Me blowing out an HB7 by machine-gun negging her. She eye fucked me 29 times that night but I was working on the HB9 Wing House bartender. PlayerT hugging me and asking me if I needed him to kick someone’s ass and if so I could just point them out and say, “go.” ~ Captain Jack ~
Sexual State Posted at May 17, 2007
Women are starved for sex. They are sexually frustrated. It’s their natural state. The quicker you understand this and incorporate it into your Game the better you’ll be. When you’re talking to a girl you should feel sorry for how sexually starved she is(think about it. All this sexual opportunity coming at her but she CAN’T have sex with someone until she is truly attracted. But, all the guys who approach her fuck it up by being too needy, or interesting but not sexually aggressive or sexually aggressive before displaying value. Her sexual frustrations are pent up, building, building, building until they are about to explode. Are you going to help her unleash it? She wants someone too, she puts on make up, she spends hours per day trying to look her best. Toys just can’t compare. Learn sexual framing and you’ll become a God among mere mortals. Sinn performed a pick-up to lay using almost nothing more than sexual state pumping. The church girl (LR: good girl, bad girl) got a heavy dose of sexual framing and sex talk the first night and then almost pure sex talk (coupled with dirty music) on the Day2. I’m convinced the sex talk couple with her lmr frustrations from the first night made her give it up. Going for Same Night Lays has forced me to develop lots of sex-based games, routines and tight kino. Strawberry fields. Rings on Fingers. Discovery Channel. Natural Woman. Stripper ex-girlfriends. “Sex is good. Sex is fun. There’s no judgment. Don’t you feel sorry for people who don’t understand this? Who cares what everyone else thinks. Secrets.” Sexual talk is foreplay. There’s an old wives’ tale that says, “If you can get a girl to talk about sex with you, 9 times out of 10 you can have sex with her.” ~ Captain Jack ~
Sexualizing Your Game: How To’s Posted at May 22, 2007
Ok, early in my PU career a few things happened that required me to focus on SNL’s. One was that my car blew up on my first f-close out of bootcamp. The second was, even when I had access to a car, I could get girls numbers and even timebridge’s but I could FEEL on the day2′s that there was no sexual energy so they would drag out to day3′s, day4′s. Naturally, I said “Fuck that shit!”
And, put on my scientist hat to design in-field experiments to 1) Get same night sex because I didn’t know when I’d have access to a car or 2) Make Day2′s little more than coming to my place for sex Then, I read “My Secret Garden” and “Way of the Superior Man” and both of them rocked my world. Those are must reads for every PUA. So, how do you get sexual in the sarge? There’s a direct way (which Sinn has been using for a few weeks now and I’m sure he’ll post about it) and then there’s an Indirect way which relies on outside framing ideas and presuppositions (from the Milton Model created by Bandler). Here’s my normal way of doing it: Opener( DHV Spike Stories( BUT, my DHV spike stories contain references to a past girlfriend who was a dancer. The presups are that 1) she’s hot 2) she can have any guy but she wants me and 3) she’s a very sexual person At this point, if we’re still talking I do “sleepy eyes” ala ijjjjjji and make my movements slow and deliberate with LOTS of eye contact and shoulder and lower back kino. At the first opportunity (mini-isolation or full) I run my version of Strawberry Fields. I’m not saying she’s a sexual being. It’s the test! When I give her the results I often whisper them into her ear with my hand on her lowerback. Then, I push her away. If this goes well I start bouncing between my comfort stack and more sexual presupps. Usually by this time you can start saying more direct sexual talk (“If your friends weren’t here I’d spank you for being such a bad girl.”) I think of this as an interlacing spiral moving upwards to sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. In lockstep. I try to get “Rings on Fingers” in after one comfort routine. “Rings on Fingers” does 3 things: 1) It tells her she is sexually aggressive when she sees someone she’s attracted to( 2) It tells her your are NOT judgmental 3) It says that BOTH of you are good at keeping secrets The change in her demeanor is visible. If you’ve ever done it you’ll know what I’m talking about. The best way I can describe it is “She softens and then glows.” Now, if I haven’t gotten the Same Night Lay Logistics info by this time then I make sure to do it now. (look for “Same Night Lay” guidelines to find out those questions) Next, I’ll start laying down my Identity Stack which includes my Cosmo Routine I based off of Bandler’s SRT. I’ve shared this in my eCoaching program. It MIGHT be on the Lounge as well. Statements like “I’m trying so hard not to kiss you right now” work well at this point. Kiss tests like going cheek-tocheek to tell her something can often lead to what appears to be a spontaneous kiss, too. One way to know if you’re out of lock-step in terms of sexual escalation and comfort is if she says things like, “Don’t you want to know anything about me?” or “I hardly know you.” – throttle back and run some more comfort. The rest of the logistical info can be found here. ~ Captain Jack ~
Captain Jack says: May 23, 2007 at 2:48 am
JimSmith, I have a new routine which I’ll post soon. It has been tested at least 15 times with 14 out of 15 positive results so I’m cool to share it. Basically, if she intros herself I say, “Oh, I have to warn you(I’m REALLY bad at names.” She’ll usually say something that will allow me to say, “My ex was an exotic dancer and she used to change stage names as much as she’d change her underwear(and(well(you know how when you get someone’s name wrong but it just sticks in your head? Well, her stage name from the first time I met her stuck in my head and I couldn’t get it out. Well, 3 months later we were fucking and I lost control and screamed out her stage name. But,
she had FORGOTTEN that was her old stage name! It took me HOURS to calm her down. So, I’m just apologizing in advance(.” Then, I have another about a time when I went to the hookah bar and my ex-girlfriend, a dancer, was EXTREMELY jealous and she started playing with my phone. Well, I thought she was just looking at the pics we took earlier but later that night I looked in my phone and she had DELETED every female number in my phone. Even my sister, mom and grandmom’s numbers! Psycho! And, my friends were like, “Dude! Where do you find these girls?” Honestly, I don’t know(It’s a mystery to me.” JimSmith, to answer question #2: I use something I call “Subtle Qualification” now which means I listen for her to qualify herself and then bait her into telling me more. BUT, if I need to use Explicit Qualification then I do like the “Beauty is Common” line because I talk about travel a lot in my sarges so it fits with the overall tapestry of my Game. ~ Captain Jack ~
The Warrior-King Society Posted at May 22, 2007
I’m excited about this( I already have some good men on board, just finalizing some details before I introduce them. Plus, two of the biggest names in radio/tv publicity are interested in getting the word out. The details can be found here. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. If any of you are good at creating logos please contact me at captainjackpua AT gmail DOT com
JimSmith: Stripper Routines Posted at May 23, 2007
**** This is in response to some great questions by JimSmith to my “Sexualizing” post below **** JimSmith, I have a new routine which I’ll post here in response to your comment. It has been tested at least 15 times with 14 out of 15 positive results so I’m cool to share it. Basically, if she intros herself I say, “Oh, I have to warn you(I’m REALLY bad at names.” She’ll usually say something that will allow me to say, “My ex was an exotic dancer and she used to change stage names as much as she’d change her underwear(and(well(you know how when you get someone’s name wrong but it just sticks in your head? Well, her stage name from the first time I met her stuck in my head and I couldn’t get it out. Well, 3 months later we were fucking and I lost control and screamed out her stage name. But, she had FORGOTTEN that was her old stage name! It took me HOURS to calm her down. So, I’m just apologizing in advance(.” The only “Bad” response I got to this was a girl say, “This is not a good story.” and then pulling her girlfriend away. Then, I have another about a time when I went to the hookah bar and my ex-girlfriend, a dancer, was EXTREMELY jealous and she started playing with my phone. Well, I thought she was just looking at the pics we took earlier but later that night I looked in my phone and she had DELETED every female number in my phone. Even my sister, mom and grandmom’s numbers! Psycho! And, my friends were like, “Dude! Where do you find these girls?” Honestly, I don’t know(It’s a mystery to me.” The usual response is that they ASSUME she is either 1) psycho or 2) think I did something to drive her crazy like that. Number 2 is what I hope for because most girls have had at least one guy who has driven them insanely crazy like that and if you can cause that response in one girl they assume you can cause it in them (and others).
To answer question #2: I use something I call “Subtle Qualification” now which means I listen for her to qualify herself and then bait her into telling me more. BUT, if I need to use Explicit Qualification then I do like the “Beauty is Common” line because I talk about travel a lot in my sarges so it fits with the overall tapestry of my Game. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Sinn helped me smooth out the “Trouble with Names” routine as I had the Stripper changing jobs and working at two places and shit and I was frustrated with the weird transition. I told him the story and he just said, “she changed stage names as much as she changed her underwear” line which made it MUCH EASIER to deliver. Props to Sinn. P.P.S. After reading Tenmagnet’s post on “Easter Eggs” in story telling I am going to try the routines WITHOUT saying my ex was a dancer and see how many girls ask me. You can read Tenmagnet’s post here.
Fireside with Fidelio: An Apology To The Girl at IHOP Who Put Her Ass on My Friends Shoulder Posted at May 24, 2007
Fidelio, long time wing and friend, has just updated his blog. In his usual funny as shit style, he’s recounted one of our nights at IHOP. Any post which employs the phrase “orgasmic chi” has got to be good. For me, the crescendo is right after this line: “Unfortunately, for all the hard work that you did, you were unaware of one thing:” You can read the entire post Fireside with Fidelio: An Apology To The Girl at IHOP Who Put Her Ass on My Friends Shoulder ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. More tomorrow(
LIO: CJ’s Nose Ring Opener Posted at May 25, 2007
Tenmagnet, Sinn and Savoy (see sidelinks to visit their blogs) have all recently posted new openers. I don’t think I’ve posted this one yet but it is EXTENSIVELY field tested by yours truly at least 50 times. I’ve been using this Low Investment Opener I designed on the fly for awhile now that has proven extremely effective. In fact, it has never NOT opened. I usually go direct on the target.
CJ: “Hey, is that nose ring real?” HB: blah, blah CJ: “Oh man, I was in NYC a few weeks ago at a club and I was talking to a girl and I made her laugh. Her nose ring fell off and it started rolling around on the floor. She said, “Omigod, help me find it(” I was like “umm, I hardly even know you(” Now, I have one less fan in New York.” Stack Forward. You can talk about other piercings, about tattoos, etc, etc. Or, just qualify. “Who are you?”(”and you’re special because?” Simple, quick and easy. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.P.S. Feel free to copy and past to other lair boards, blogs, forums, etc. just please include a link back to my blog. Thanks.
Men, Mastery and a Deal Posted at May 25, 2007
One of the guys I brought on board for the Warrior-King Society is Andrew Scott. He’s a hardcore martial artist who studied with Hock Hocheim. At my behest, he switched his focus from pure martial arts to using the mental disciplines of martial arts for life improvement and success. He’s one of those guys I’m glad to have on my side. I’m pretty lucky in this regard because I’ve surrounded myself with a good group of guys who are all pretty much aimed in the same direction. KinoMaster drove my ass around for awhile when I didn’t have a car and couldn’t afford to rent (or buy) one. He never complained, either. He just worked it into his schedule and helped his friend out. Sinn and I are constantly helping each other with Game and now with business. Fidelio kicks my ass if I make a resolution and don’t stick to it. I broke a Day2 appointment with an (almost) sure lay the other night because he called me on my “Captain Jack is upping the hotness ante” resolution. I could’ve gone just to boost my numbers but after he let me know I was breaking my vow I thought about it and decided not to(and I actually feel great about it. Another guy, not in the community, helped me with handling some shit throughout my divorce. Even though his wife was my wife’s good friend at the time. We now get together and talk business and gently badger each other into action and upholding our personal goals. All of you you guys need to work on developing a core group like this(Make it a goal to add 2-3 friends like this AND/OR if you and your friends aren’t currently holding each other to higher standards start doing it. It helps a lot and having this core group (and the overall idea of the Community) encouraged me to organize the Warrior-King Society. If you want to learn more about/from Andrew I encourage you to take a look here. He’s extended his offer to anyone I want. If you go to that link and take Andrew up on the Martial Mastery deal I’ll also give away 2 free 25minute phone consults with me to discuss anything you want. The first one will be what you’re working on, we’ll devise a plan of action. The second call will be a follow-up. But, due to the demands on my time I can only do it for the first 10 who go for it. You’ll also get a 1-month trial to the “How to Get More Newsletter.” If it’s not for you just cancel anytime before the 30-day trial period ends and you won’t get charged. ~ Captain Jack ~
Clarification: Men, Mastery and a Deal Posted at May 27, 2007
Okay, I’ve gotten a couple emails and a couple of comments regarding the last post. Here’s the deal: Take a look here. Andrew has extended this offer to anyone I want. If you go to that link and take Andrew up on the Martial Mastery deal I’ll also give away 2 free 25-minute phone consults with me to discuss anything you want. As soon as I see the PayPal go through I’ll contact you via email to discuss the two calls. The first one will be what you’re working on, we’ll devise a plan of action. The second call will be a follow-up. But, due to the demands on my time I can only do it for the first 10 who go for it. You’ll also get a 1-month trial to the “How to Get More Newsletter.” If it’s not for you just cancel anytime before the 30-day trial period ends and you won’t get charged. So, go and take a look here and read the ad. It won’t take more than a few minutes but it could prove to be extremely valuable to you. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Tuesday I’ve got some more great stuff about Pick-up coming so stay tuned.
Two Questions a Man Must Ask Himself Posted at May 28, 2007
From “Fire in the Belly” by Sam Keen: “The last thing he said before I left was probably the single most important bit of advice I ever got about being a man. “Sam,” he said, “there are two questions a man must ask himself: The first is ‘Where am I going?’ and the second is ‘Who will go with me?’ If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble.” — page 12 Thoughts? ~ Captain Jack ~
Jealousy Routine Posted at May 30, 2007
I’ve been using this routine for several months now and it has paid off in spades. I originally started using it to “Seed the Timebridge” (seeding is a concept I came up with by accident because I noticed when I put a future TB location in an earlier DHV stories my TB attempts went through much easier and, in fact, I could often get them to ask me when I was going again so this also became a “Structured Chase Opportunity” for her() “Have you ever smoked a hookah? I go to x-hookah place and it’s real chill. They have all these pillows and you just relax and talk to friends and smoke a bit. I was talking to my friends and my girl didn’t have to perform that night (this is bait for them to ask what she does so I can say, ‘Exotic Dancer’) and she was there. She started playing with my phone. We had been together almost all day so we took a lot of pics with the camera phone so I just assumed she was looking at them. Later that night I tried to call one of my friends to meet us somewhere. I was looking through my phone and noticed I couldn’t find her number. Then, it dawned on me(there were NO MORE female numbers in my phone. She had DELETED all of them!”
This goes right along with something else I’ve been doing. I’ve been telling HBs how a few of my ex’s have been extremely jealous and clingy and then asking them if they are(they ALWAYS say no! but it seems to make them chase hard. I love it. So, try it out and let me know how it goes( ~ Captain Jack ~
What are the fucking chances? Posted at June 3, 2007
So, Fidelio man’s up (cause there’s $100 at stake) and opens and gets a make-out (eventually) with a girl and I wing the other girl in the two-set who turns out to be fucking cool and hotter than I originally thought. And, I do my “Stripper Jealousy Routine” and it turns out the EXACT SAME STORY was just told on Kiss FM in our area. What are the fucking chances? EVERY SINGLE DETAIL was the same. Hookah bar – check. Stripper girlfriend – check. All female numbers deleted – check. Even mom, sister and grandmom – check. Umm(c’mon dallas PUAs, come up with some original shit if you’re gonna call into the radio and talk shit, ok? Luckily I recovered and got the make-out and Time Bridge because I’m Fucking Captain Jack. ~ CJ ~
Who’s This Dude Defacing Dallas? Posted at June 5, 2007
It’s late at night.
There’s a helluva line at the hot venue full of snotty rich girls. You’ve gotta piss REAL bad. You could’ve taken a piss at the previous venue but you were too manly for that. How to fix this issue? (Haa, care to guess who this is defacing Dallas’ downtown?) ~ CJ ~ P.S. It’s NOT me( I am way too well-mannered for such barbarianism.
Skepticism vs. The Tools-Skills Mindset Posted at June 8, 2007
One of the things I look for in friends, business partners and other people I might have recurring social contact with is “The Tools-Skills Mindset.” Whenever I come across a new technology, idea or theory that claims to be able to accomplish something beneficial, I immediately set about learning How to do it. I really don’t care how strange or weird it seems at first. The only thing I care about is: “Does it work?” Take EFT(emotional freedom technique), for instance, it seems strange at first glance. But, I’m a believer. I have a book showing brain scans of a person before and then after 12 sessions of EFT. But, that’s not why I believe. I believe because I tried it and it worked. Others have tried it and it worked as well. Do I care about the theory of WHY it works? Not at this time. Usually what I’ll do is get technically good at something first and then study the underlying theory if doing so matches with my goals in some way. Another set of tools in my toolbox came from HUNA. Do I believe in the theory? No. Can I do the Huna Ha-Rite? Like a champ. This Tools-Skills mindset is why I’m willing to try almost anything if I think it’ll help with a goal/project I’m working on. This comes from an overarching mindset of Results. When you are clear about what you want and are a resultsoriented individual you get things done. You don’t give a shit about how weird something sounds, who promotes it, whether or not you like them, whether or not you like their marketing or even how much it costs. The question: Do they have something that could help me get there faster, easier, cheaper, in better style, etc? If you want to become a top performer adopt the Tools-Skills Mindset. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Keep an eye on mine and Sinn’s blog next week for a big announcement. P.P.S. Future wrote a great post on “Skill and Talent”.
Lay Report: I – Just – Can’t – Take – It – Any – More! Posted at June 12, 2007
LR: “I – just – can’t – take – it – any – more!” Sinn and I hit the venue. It’s friggin’ dead the whole night until about midnight.
I spy a tall brunette (5’ 8” but with heals almost 6’) with a nose ring so I open with the Nose Ring LIO. She smiles immediately and answers yes and starts to tell me about all her other piercings. I finish the back story and she asks me why I was in NYC. This allows me to get my cosmo routine in but it so damn loud in that place I’m not sure if it hit. We turn back around and I pull her to a stool and get locked in. Now I can tell she’s really into me so I continue with my “ambition” campaign and then roll into Strawberry Fields. She’s with 3 dudes who I don’t bother to befriend because a) They look like they’re in the mafia and I don’t wanna get whacked b) she was so into me it was no longer necessary. I get distracted for a second (can’t remember why) and back turn her. She backturns me and starts talking to the Mafia again. I pull her shoulder and then go straight for the number close. We text back and forth for a few days and then she comes up to meet me, Juice (aka Dr. Dave) and Sinn at a different bar after ending her shift at Wing House. But, she won’t come into the bar and she won’t say why. Finally, it dawns on me. She’s not yet 21. CJ: “aaaaaah, you’re not over 21 are you?” HBCan’tTakeIt: “well, almost(.” CJ: “How old?” HBCan’tTakeIt: “20” CJ: “oh – my – God. You’re just a Baaaaaaby!” HBCan’tTakeIt: “Stop! I’m not like most 20 year olds(” Haaaa( We chat for about 20 minutes in the parking lot before she leaves. (I thought she was 19 but I was getting her confused with a super hot 19 year old cocktail waittress that I gamed and number closed earlier that night.) Day2: Out with Juice, Sinn, El Topo. That bitch Sinn pulled (again) and we were all eating at this cool little after hours place that Juice knows about while hating Sinn. HBCan’tTakeIt and I had been texting back and forth all day and she said she wants to hang out after I’m done. I convince her to come eat with us and she does. She rolls in sits with us. El Topo and Juice were having some cool conversation about history that I wanted to jump in on but I started the process of warming her up instead. We get to the Pirate Pad and she brings in a bottle of Grey Goose. I pour myself a thimble shot into my glass of juice and hook her up Twitchy-Style with her drink (by Twitchy-Style I mean about 2 ounces of Juice and filled to the brim with Vodka). We start making out and I get LMR. Her ass is so fucking beautiful I literally want to take a picture of it for those lonely nights. I could just curl up with the picture. Get some of the finest lotion around. Have the towel or sock already to go and then practice self-love. But, alas, she tells me she’s too shy and she’s a “good girl.” CJ: “I want you to be a good girl with everyone else and be a really, really bad girl for me.” Doesn’t work. My boner is so hard I could use it to bust rocks. I’m grinding hardcore and then I stop( (wait, a second( We already have solution for situations like this. Sinn told me he’s given up on LMR and instead he just jerks off on the girls. So, that’s what I did. But I didn’t expect her reaction. She LOVED it. She went nuts and started rubbing herself and pinching her nipples. I filled her hot little pierced belly button (with those fucking sweet abs) with my Man Jam. We fell asleep and she took me back to my car the next day. Day 3: She arrives at my place at about 1:00 am. She tried to flake earlier but I got real stern on the phone. CJ: “What? I didn’t go out tonight because you said you were coming over. Get out of bed and get your ass over here! And bring a bathing suit.” She paused for about 5-10 seconds and I’m thinking shit, she’s either going to cry, hang up or say something snotty.
Instead, HB: “God, that was so hot.” She arrives and we hit the hot tub. Earlier I got a text from Sinn “sex in hot tub check.” I’m thinking that sounds like a good idea. But, no go. Instead we have a frame battle. She’s trying to get into gf/dating frame and I’m telling her I’m bad news, that I’m only good for sex. I also start my “don’t like jealous/clingy girls” framing (which I should’ve started on the Day2). I also do quick, intense make-outs and then push her away. This drives her crazy until she attacks me in the hot tub. We get out of the hot tub and go back inside. I’m hungry so we hit Whataburger. While I’m eating I say, “Do you want some?” She says, “Oh yes.” CJ: “Ok, here’s some fries.” HBCantTakeIt: “I wasn’t talking about the food.” She suddenly starts making out again but I’ve only chewed the last chicken strip about ½ way. Clumps of partially chewed chicken end up in her gum. Haa. Romantic. Sexy. She plays Scarface Game on the Playstation for awhile. I throw on X-men 3. I ignore X-men and start working on her. More LMR. But, my framing has taken hold. HBCan’tTakeIt: “You want me to be bad for you?” CJ: “Yes, bad girls are fucking sexy.” Then, its just a matter of breaking through her remaining LMR through 2 minor freeze-outs. I go down on her but she won’t let me take off her panties. No problem. I pretend like they’re not there. Panties soon come off. And, the rest is history. She said that’s the first time she’s had sex in a year. She’s called “HBCan’tTakeItAnyMore” because while I was fucking her like Peter North from behind she was screaming “I – just – can’t – take – it – any – more” in cadence with my strokes.
BJR: Intuition Posted at June 15, 2007
It’s Wednesday night and I’m on a day2 with a cute girl. She’s nothing special but she’s cool, has great lips and a nice J-Lo booty. We met about about 8:30 for drinks. I am toying with Time Constrained Day2′s so I told her we’d meet from 8:00 to 10:00 as I had to meet friends at 10:30. (My goal was to try to close but if it wasn’t going anywhere to bail and go meet Sinn.) It’s about 11:00 and we’re making out. I’ve already laid down Strawberry Fields and the Cosmo Pattern and she’s going crazy. I’m deep into my Ambition campaign but I’m having to rebuff her Provider type questions with C&F because I don’t want her for more than once or twice. It also helps that my phone is blowing up with texts from Sinn and 3 HBs about every 10 minutes. So, about 11:00 I hear a voice inside my head, “Captain! Pull her to your place for Hookah now!!!” I think “Good idea” but for some dumb reason never do it. We talk more. By this time I imagine we’re grossing people out in the bar because it looks like we are trying to each other’s faces off. That said, every single HB8-HB10 in the bar has decided to eye fuck me and dance right next to us. Random guys come by and give me nods, even a high five.
The band rocks, the conversation is actually cool and the makeouts are a blast. She tried to tell me she’s a bad girl but I don’t accept it. This sets up a challenge and she starts talking dirty. I reciprocate. I have major wood. About 1:00 am I propose we go smoke the hookah (only 2 hours late!) and she says “K, let’s go!” I get to the car and let her in and she says, “Well, it’s late, just take me to my car. We can do hookah another time.” Aaaaarrrrgh! I act like it’s no big deal. I drive her over to her car and start to escalate. Things get hot and heavy and I put her hand on my package and say, “Look what you’re doing to me!” (One of my favorite tactics because I read somewhere that women get a huge sexual and ego thrill when they know they’ve given a man a boner.) She starts rubbing frantically and then starts sucking on my thumb. I get the subtle (haaa) kino metaphor and undo my pants and guide her head down. Niiiiiice. I unbutton her pants and feel the J-Lo booty and do a wraparound to start fingering her. She is about to explode. Halfway to finish a voice in my head says, “Captain! Tell her it’ll be more comfortable in the back seat and hop back there!” I ignore again! When I finally try it about 20 minutes later the sexual vibe and intensity has dropped to about 1/3 of the previous level. She says, “Oh, I would but I have to be up at 9am.” Damnit. This should’ve been an LR. But, she is done as soon as I can get her over. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. You may be wondering why I wrote this as I usual only write LR’s. The reason is to burn this shit into my mind not to ignore my PU Intuition. Also, I think there’s some good stuff you can use in there. Anybody learn anything?
Captain Jack says: June 16, 2007 at 11:52 am
The weight loss plan is still trucking along just fine. I had to go buy some new jeans as the others are getting too loose. I’m losing about 2.5 – 3 lbs per week and getting stronger. The surprising thing is I eat like shit and it doesn’t matter. Sinn and I ate mexican food 4 times last week. I attribute it to the Testosterone Report and the Whole body blasting. I’ll update the other blog as soon as I can get my daughter to take two more pictures. I don’t think any of my friends are down with taking pictures of me in my boxers haa. ~ CJ ~
Lay Report: Tastes Kinda Like Snot Posted at June 18, 2007
This is an extremely graphic Lay Report. If that offends you, go here. The Strip club was a bust. Earlier in the week I number closed a hot 19-year old cocktail waittress at the best strip club we’ve found so far(so we can’t go back there otherwise she’ll think I’m stalking. The strippers don’t approach us. Sinn says its because we don’t look desperate, we look like we get laid so they don’t approach. We bail and head to X-Bar. It’s karaoke night but kinda dead because it’s a new venture for this place.
I get a text from the girl from BJR: Intuition and tell her where we’re at. Sinn number closed one of her friends when we met a week or so ago. When she got there she was way hotter than we both remembered. She got lasik last week and was wearing better clothes. She comes over and starts chatting Sinn. My girl comes over and hugs me. It’s on and we pick up where we left off. Make-outs. Dirty talk. All that sweet stuff. She finally says, “If I take you home and fuck you, will you be gentle so I can walk at work tomorrow?” I’ve started telling girls that I’m going to punish their little vaginas. I tell them they won’t be able to walk tomorrow. That they’ll be limping for a few days. It’s great fun. I told her “No. I’m going to destroy it.” or something similar. Sinn has two jealousy threads going and his girl is getting flustered. (But, serves her right she was trying a power play and didn’t realize who she was dealing with haa). I almost pull off the bounce to Sinn’s Target’s house but it falls apart somewhere. I get my girl to take me and Sinn to his place. We start escalating on the couch during Entourage and Sinn soon makes himself scarce. I decide I want to hit it on the balcony. So, there we are on Sinn’s balcony. I got her here by attacking her neck. That’s her weak spot. She goes ape shit when I suck on her neck and breath heavy in her here. Sinn has crashed out in his room. But, we still have an audience. A voyeur is watching us from a higher floor. Two, I think, by the movement of the blinds. I’m doing my best to destroy that J-Lo booty with a series of handprint grade spanks. Unfortunately, I can’t come because of the alcohol imbibance. I put her on the cool concrete floor of the balcony and start jackhammering away. But, that arrangement lasts barely a minute because of the wear and tear on my knees. Finally, realizing I’m not going to cum, I stand up and start jerking it. Her mouth becomes a suction cup on my balls. We still have an audience. She’s very good at this(too good. I’m about to go. I angle it upwards and it shoots off landing on her cheek and in her hair. I still have my head thrown back enjoying the after shocks. Then, I look around to see if we still have an audience. Check. She stands up and says, “mmmm(.bite my neck” I go to work on her neck like the Vampire Lestat, only to discover the freak has wiped my come from her cheek all over her neck. (Tastes kinda like snot.) ~ Captain Jack ~
100% Sell Out Posted at June 19, 2007
I realized tonight that I’ve only sold out about 80% to the PUA lifestyle. I used to believe that by going through the PUA training and socialization that we could somehow end up as Naturals. I no longer believe this to be true. If you aren’t a Natural (whatever that means) by 18 you are NEVER going to be a natural. Sorry. But, the “sorry” is only a token apology because what awaits you is something far greater. Naturals must be pretty fucking frustrated. Sure, they get laid quite often BUT it is hit or miss. And, they don’t necessarily get the girls they REALLY want.
A TRUE PUA has a greater chance at getting the girl he truly wants and getting laid AT WILL than the Natural. I used to hope/wish/dream that through my PUA training I’d morph into a Natural. No longer. I now know that I will NOT settle for being a mere Natural. I now know that being a Natural is the equivalent of being imprisoned. Of being UNAWARE of the attitudes and behaviors that get you what you want. Tonight I torpedoed it all. I sank my ego and opened multiple sets under the premise that Naturals are inferior anomalies. That they are simply statistical products of the mass of men who go out. And, my Game went VERY well. I now realize that I was only 80% sold out to PUA-dom. I’ve committed to sell out 100%. I’m now 100% committed. And, it feels good. The outrageousness. The peacocking. The egoless opening. The pushing past all custom boundaries and limitations of those under Society’s influence (including even the “Naturals”). It’s ALL gone. It’s time to forget about being other than a PUA. Forget being a “Natural.” Forget about being “Normal.” Normal men get normal girls. I sent this text to every PUA in my phone: “I realize i’ve only sold out 80 percent – it’s a revelation – i abandoned what made me good – i’m returning to my pua roots – it’s going to be insane” This was RIGHT before I opened an 2set with Style’s two part kiss(made out with both of them and watched them make out with each other. The main Target had a boyfriend who left just 10 minutes before. The other girl was jealous. I nearly pulled both of them to the Pirate Pad for hooka but 3 of their tribe got weird. Then, an HB9 who I’ve been working on at Glacial speed called and I got distracted. Sell out. 100%. Right now. So, who is with me? ~ Captain Jack ~
The Borden Formula Posted at June 19, 2007
One of the greatest living copywriters (probably THE greatest) has just written an article on story construction based on the work of the public speaking genius named Borden. You can read it here: The Borden Formula
Half Digested Potato Wedges Posted at June 21, 2007
You can read Sinn’s version here. We roll into the Strip club at 8. The previous day we set out to hit the strip club at about 3 and ended up not getting to one about 8 or 9. This was one of our indicators that God hates us. The SECOND time we tried it the same shit happened. Weird.
Anyway, we get to the strip club at about 8. The girls were young and I thought mostly hot but Sinn regards any girl without a D cup a “mutant.” Lucky for us our cocktail waittress is an HB10. True blue HB10. Absolutely gorgeous. I get bored while he’s gaming and start choding out by giving dollars away. Sinn tells the waittress that I dragged him here. That I love strip clubs and I’m a pervert that’s why I keep going up there with dollars begging for some female love and attention. As soon as I pull money out of my pocket the dancers heads’ snap in my direction. They angle their little noses up and sniff the air. I swear they can fucking smell dollar bills. Before I know it I’m swarmed by a gaggle of 21-year old hard bodied strippers trying to crack my frame. I try my damnedest to turn off their programming. I decide to have fun and sell my $20 sunglasses for $40.00 – I almost had the sale, too – money was in her hand, exchange about to be made when her ADD kicked in (or she smelled fresh money come out of someone’s pocket.) Sinn finally number closes his girl in between telling her that I drive a camaro and wear wife beaters and troll high school playgrounds for dates. We cab it to the infamous x-bar. Busy enough. Their are 3 waittresses their who love me but I have some retarded emotional block about properly gaming them. It sucks. On the way we played “How many girls that CJ has already banged will be there” I said over-under 3. Turns out it was 2 and two that I got LMR from. Sinn drinks. We order food. I get cheese sticks and he gets potato wedges (foreshadowing). Sinn drinks more. Sinn opens a set. She looked hot from far away and sitting down but gained 25 pounds upon standing up. Sinn drinks more. So does CJ. We’re looking for sets. A tall hot blonde strolls by. We simultaneously open “You’re very tall” and then bust out laughing. She laughs too but keeps on walking. She’s lucky, she almost got spit-roasted. Sinn drinks more. Twitchy and Fidelio roll in and Sinn drinks more. We bullshit for a bit but I’m getting frustrated cause I want to open a set. I go to the other side and open a cute brunnette with nice ta ta’s using the Chode Destroyer “Omigod, he’d be perfect for you(he’d take you to expensive dinners(call you 15 times a day(send you flowers all the time!” She says, “No, he wouldn’t because he’s my boyfriend and he doesn’t do any of that.” We chat a bit more and he leaves to get more drinks at the bar. She’s super attracted. I do a mini-takeaway as a test. She reopens me. I tell her to come meet my friends. She comes without saying shit to her bf. I lock-in on the other side and begin hardcore sexual gaming. We make out. Her bf keeps walking by(but he won’t come over. He texts her. We make out again. While I’m about to throw down my heart melters Fidelio comes over, “Dude, they’re kicking Sinn out. We’re putting him in a cab.” I hand Fidelio my house keys. I number close the hb and Twitchy and Fidelio offer to take me home. I get in Twitchy’s Toyota Corrola and Fidelio whips out the breathalyzer. CJ is at .16 We get to the Pirate Pad and Sinn is laid out on the couch. While me, Twitchy and Fidelio are making fun of him he sits up and does his best impression of that demon posessed chick in The Exorcist. Half-digested potato wedges grace my couch and carpet. Twitchy takes pictures. Fidelio keeps calling him a “hippy fag” who can’t handle his liquor. I text the HB and tell her to come swim with me. She texts back she is trying to lose her BF and she will if she can get him to go home. I get a text about 3:20 am that says she wants to another time but he’s staying over. I go swimming by myself mainly to let the apartment air out from Sinn’s gastric juices. I just got a text from Twitchy. “R.I.P. Pirate Pad Couch.” I texted back, “Dude, a little febreze and it’s good as new.” ~ Captain Jack ~ Relics says:
June 21, 2007 at 5:40 pm
I thought deprecating your wing was an overall DLV
Captain Jack says: June 21, 2007 at 6:06 pm
I broke one of the Stripper Rules by going up and giving them money so to salvage his own value he had to DLV. Also, I made it out to be much worse than it actually was because we were joking about it later. ~ CJ ~
[Asian Playboy] Sexual Anxiety, Part 2 Posted at June 22, 2007
Here’s another great guest article by The Asian Playboy. ~ CJ ~ Ahoy ye scalliwags! I’m recently back from my international travels and- delayed as it is- here’s the promised continuation of my guest article on Sexual Anxiety. To begin with, you can go here on Captain Jack’s blog to refresh yourself on my exclusive guest article entitled“Is Sexual Anxiety Killing Your Results?” So let’s begin( HOW does one defeat or at least start the process of managing this debilitating fear that has defeated so many newbie PUAs and stumped the intermediate level guys? I’m no psychologist or pie-in-the-sky theorist( when it came to Pick Up, becoming better with women, and just getting LAID, I did it the hard way. Through field experience and self-learning. MORE IMPORTANTLY, I called myself out on my weaknesses and OPENING myself up to CONSTRUCTIVE criticisms and input. So let’s talk sex( I’m going to break it down into some general categories on how to better manage your Sexual Anxiety: 1. Education (formal and informal, but real and field-tested) 2. Inner Game (motivation, self-control, reward vs punishment) 3. Outer Game (the logistics what, where, and how) 4. Exposure & Gradual Pursuit of Sexual Opportunities I. SEX ED 101 First, when it comes to sex, you need to be EDUCATED. Ignorance breeds fear so you need to start by understanding women AND sex as a connected and related pair versus two separate entities. I won’t go into the finer details, but let’s establish that I make a marked difference between what I call GENERAL ATTRACTION versus that of SEXUAL ATTRACTION. Maybe you don’t. To which I say, think back to a time when you had a beautiful woman laughing and smiling at you. Obviously attracted, right? You’re feeling good. You da man! Now think back when she started REALLY touching you, gazing into your eyes, licking her lips, “accidentally” brushing with her breasts, sexual innuendos, RIGHT BEFORE THE KISS( Call it chemistry and the release of Dopamine and Norepinephrine, but to me, there’s a world of difference between when a woman is simply engaged into your story and listening to you versus the seriously different PHYSICAL effects she’s going through in a sexual aroused state like: 1. Elevated Heart Rate 2. Perspiration 3. General Feeling of Sexual Arousal (ie getting wet/hard)
4. Loss of Higher Brain Functions (ie logic) 5. Flushed Skin 6. Sweaty Palms 7. Elation 8. Intense Energy 9. Sleeplessness 10. Craving 11. Loss of Appetite 12. Focused Attention Therefore to me, General Attraction’s more common and physical signs commonly include: 1. Laughter 2. Feeling of Wellness 3. Feeling of Safety 4. Bonding on Commonalities In other words, a woman could be ATTRACTED to you, but still not want to SLEEP with you. There’s a big difference in my mind between being a GOOD conversationalist versus being a good SEDUCER. One of them makes you a cool guy to be around( the other makes you a good lover. Sometimes they’re the same. More often they’re not. But let’s continue. There are CONCRETE and identifiable Sexual Arousal Triggers in a woman that can be consistently and SUCCESSFULLY triggered once you’re past the General Attraction phase and into Sexual Attraction. Here’s just a few off the top of my head: 1. Erotic Thoughts (conversation leading towards imagining sex) 2. Visual perception (how the other looks); 3. Olfaction (how the other smells, naturally or artificially; the wrong smell may be repellent); 4. Audition (how the other’s voice and/or movements sound). * EROTIC THOUGHTS Now here’s the thing about the Sexual Arousal Trigger that is Erotic Thoughts which is both the boon and bane of average and even some advanced PUAs. Some guys become routine monkeys, that on one hand have allowed an average PUA to advance from neophyte to somewhat competent, but are limited in their arsenal in the different ways to turn a woman on. In other words, conversation is just one way to turn her on so learn to be more physical instead of limiting yourself to only one method of seduction. Shoot from all barrels versus being overly dependent upon one form of arousal. Of course, this is why Speed Seduction, the Gunwitch Method, and similar mentalities and use of sexual story telling comes into play and can be highly useful. * VISUAL PERCEPTION When it comes to Visual Perception, there are a limited number of things you can do. And yes, I do believe looks matter( to a certain degree. It’s not the ultimate factor, but it helps when you present the RIGHT look. In other words, you can still get the girl if you’re a fat slob, but you WILL have to work harder. For example: getting a better wardrobe is, in my opinion, far easier to do and once done can be EASILY maintained without any work on your part. Think of it as PASSIVE VALUE (ie you don’t have to TRY and make her attracted, you already are making her attracted to you with what you currently have) versus ACTIVE VALUE (ie you’re actively engaging her and actively working her Attraction Switches as well as Sexual Arousal Triggers( in other words you’re doing work and if there’s one thing I- the world’s laziest PUA- hate is work(). Other things might be simply losing or gaining weight and muscle, better hair, tanning, and whitening the teeth. Pretty simple things that take only a modicum of effort, time, and pain to improve (well, not the working out part). Other aspects include: 1. Body Language I think Verbal Game is very important, but I don’t think it’s the END ALL BE ALL. Having the right body language for the right situation is essential to subcommunicate what you want about yourself. Be it playfulness, confidence, and emoting with your face, having mastery of your body can easily enhance one’s verbal prowess. Another aspect of Visual Perception is:
2. Dancing That’s right, I said it( dancing. It’s the dreaded D-word that incites terror and nightmares into those who are afflicted with the disease known as C.R.D. Tough. It’s almost an unwritten truism that you DO NOT OPEN ON THE DANCE FLOOR which has somehow morphed into this belief that a PUA should never work the dance floor. Poppy-fucking-cock I say. I am far from a good dancer, but I have taken a few classes and can fake competency. And if there’s one thing OTHER than being Socially Proofed & Pre-Selected by Women that projects HIGH SEXUAL VALUE is the ability to MOVE and to DANCE. So yeah, learn how to fucking dance. I don’t APPROACH on the dance floor, but I’ve used it to isolate, escalate, and successfully pull a Same Night Lay or simply to close the deal on a date. It’s an awesome, inexpensive skill that you can achieve some competence within six (6) months. Your best choices are to learn hip-hop and salsa. Ballroom and swing are decent to learn some basic moves, rhythm and body language, but only if you don’t have it in your area as a secondary choice. Better dancing means better body language to boot. * OLFACTION Women naturally have more sensitive sense of smell than us men. They also respond to certain testosterone derivatives in our (fresh) sweat that causes the secretion of dopamine in their brain that makes them more aroused. General word of advice (and no, don’t go out and buy yourself those scam pheromone colognes) is to avoid smelling bad. Curiously, I’ve never once been denied because I smoked. Not a whole lot more you can do other than being clean and throwing on cologne. I’ve heard about putting on baby oil (never did that), wearing women’s perfume (never intentionally did that), etc. One thing I did find was using strong scented body wash that matches your cologne. It’s something you rub all over yourself and she’ll smell all over your body (I’ve been told I smell like “snow”). * AUDITION Audition isn’t quite like the “Erotic Thoughts” Sexual Arousal Trigger but somewhat similar. It has more to do with one of the most powerful tools in a man’s arsenal, his TONALITY. Your tonality projects a huge amount of information about you like: i. Personality ii. Mood iii. Educational Level iv. Culture v. Sexual Intent vi. Etc I also think it’s important to identify that there are different types of tonalities. One of which is the Sexual Tonality that can cause a woman to be TURNED ON. Some attributes of a sexy voice (think Barry White) include: i. Deep voice (bass) ii. Projecting from the diaphragm (commanding and dominant) iii. Volume control (whispering sensually versus deafening) iv. Suspense (intentionally elongating your words) v. Judicious use of pauses vi. Speed (slow versus fast) vii. Etc Thus, forewarned is forearmed. The point of this portion of the “Sexual Anxiety” series is understanding that fear and anxiety comes from a lack of understanding and education. In order to get better at anything- be it picking up women or riding a motorcycle- you need to start with some basic level of understanding Sexual Arousal and the BELIEF that you can indeed not only turn her on, but should do so as it is your right and privilege as a man! But more on that in the next future article about “Sexual Anxiety, Inner Game, and You.” The Asian Playboy http://theasianplyboy.blogspot.com
LR – In Daddy’s Bed? Or Not. Plus Intuition Part 2 Posted at June 25, 2007
It’s Friday night and we hit x-bar. I’ve decided to return to my roots and practice creating the PU Aura that has gotten me laid so many times. The PU Aura is that amazing state where things open effortlessly, you begin getting approached, you get hardcore AIs, solid numbers and makeouts all in the same night. All of these work together and build on each other to create a massive Social Proof/Pre-Selection snowball to make all of your sets solid. (While you can create the PU Aura without Peacocking it accelerates it() One of the principles of creating the PU Aura is A.B.I.S. (Always Be in Set). Lately we’ve been going to a lot of small (and VERY loud places) which makes creating the PU Aura difficult. But, x-bar is where I first noticed the PU Aura. It was almost two years ago, I was peacocking, the first 2 set I opened went extremely well, I paraded them, number closed and then got opened again while going to the other side to open a set with a girl who gave me an AI while I was parading the 2set. Guys were giving me props, high fives and girls were giving me AIs all night long. After thinking about what happened I tried to reproduce the same results. It worked again and that’s where I came up with PU Aura, and designed a few principles and rules to create it as often as possible. Anyway, I wrapped up a set and I was looking for another. Technically, you are NOT supposed to leave the set until you know exactly what set you’re hitting next because time in between sets works counter to the Aura. But, a little Latina walked outside to smoke. She was short, big boobs, a little thick but with long black hair and nice light brown eyes. CJ: “You’re very little.” HB: “Oh, haaa, I know and I’m even wearing heels.” she kicks a heel off and shows me she’s about 2-3 inches shorter than I thought. I get rolling and it’s going great. She tries to take over the convo but I remember to stick to my routine stack at least until I see the flash of true attraction. We get interrupted by another girl who asks for a cigarette. I think it’s her friend at first so I start gaming both of them (this girl was NOT good looking, her only redeeming feature was decent boobs.) They begin competing and then I realize they don’t know each other so I make it known who my Target is so the HBLatina doesn’t get discouraged. CJ: “You’re friend is so adorable! I really like her!” UG: “Oh, we don’t know each other.” CJ to HBLatina: “You have a little lisp, I had a crush on a girl in middle school who had a lisp and it drives me crazy!” She gets embarrassed and tells me most people don’t notice because she went to speech therapy as a kid and it rarely comes out (but comes out more when she drinks.) The UG is still there listening and they begin chatting again. Sinn rolls over and looks at the UG. The “oh-shit-CJwhy-are-you-making-me-wing-this-disaster” look on his face is unmistakeable. He declares he’s going to need about 3 more drinks – and I understand that means “CJ, you bastard, you better get me drunk if you expect me to do this(” HBLatina says she needs to hit the restroom. This is a great opportunity to parade so I take her to the restrooms and wait. Sinn tries to game the UG but his heart is not in it. I can’t blame him one bit. I isolate my girl to the other side where we chat a bit more. I qualify her and she responds with “I’m going to school to be a journalist.” I do bait-hook-reel-release and as she’s feeling the effects I go back into rapport via the Question Game. As always, my last question is “You want to kiss me, don’t you?” but now instead of waiting for an answer I just move in for the kiss. She has to be up early for work in the morning so I hookah TB for Sunday night. *** The Day2: Sunday Night ***
She told me on the phone that she lives with her dad right now who is always traveling for business. She’s only been here for 4 weeks and was going to get an apartment but he’s never there so she feels like it’s hers anyway. I talk to Sinn on the phone briefly as I’m rolling over. He just spent the day with one of his hotties and has another SUPER hot, sexy girl from Friday night coming to his place. I joke with him about banging her in her daddy’s bed. I decide that is my goal for the evening. Not only do I want to bang this dirty little big-boobed Latina, I want to do it in her daddy’s bed. And, while I’m doing it, I want to talk dirty about it. I get to her place and she comes out to meet me. She looks better than the PU night. That night she was wearing a dress that did not accentuate her features (big boobs, j-lo booty). In fact, the dress made her look too chubby. She looks a good 1-2 points higher tonight. She has a yellow half shirt, half exposed boobs, tight ripped jeans and when she turns around she has a tattoo that says, “Latina” in cursive with a Red rose and thorns wrapped around. Boner ensues. We made out a couple times at x-bar so my goal was to see how far I could take it once inside. Why go out if you don’t need to? We talked for ten minutes and I started upping the kino. Make outs. Back off. Make out. Tension at breast feel. CJ: “Hey, x-bar has karaoke let’s go make fun of some people.” We get there and it is filled with Honeys. I want to Game. There is a girl I’ve already f-closed there. She just smiles because she’s seen me there a billion times on Day2s and doing pick-ups. I roll into my comfort stack: “First Child Brings Surge of Ambition.” “Let Grandma Buy You Some New Jeans.” “Cosmo Routine.” I meant to bring out the A-Bomb (“$18 for the Light Bill”) but kept delaying it for later. She keeps qualifying herself to me. Every sentence is a qualifier. She compliments me about 100 times. I’m a sucker for compliments. We periodically make out. Sinn texts me he just f-closed his 5th girl for the month. That puts me 3 behind. I text back “U fucking suck.” What I should’ve wrote was, “I fucked a chick on your balcony before you did and I’m gunning for your elevator, too.” About midnight my intuition says, “Take her back to her place. Close the deal. She’s ready.” Having learnt my lesson last time (see BJR: Intuition) I say, “Let’s get out of here.” grab her hand and walk out. We get back to her place and head straight to the room. This is where the gods smiled on me (finally). When her dad is gone she sleeps in his room. On his bed. Which is where we are(which is where I’m pulling her hair, spanking her and telling her I want to taste her. Clothes come off. Escalation goes smooth. I had to back down once or twice (using the Tension LMR Tactic) but I’ve noticed since I’ve become a lot rougher I get less LMR. Spanking hard, pulling hair, tossing girls around and dirty talk minimize it. While she is riding me I say, “You fucking bad girl, we’re fucking in your daddy’s bed.” She goes nuts and starts moaning and riding me like a banshee. I think she is going to break my penis. I’m getting worried about this(I don’t want a broken penis. I consider trying to slow her down. But, about one minute later she squirts all over her daddy’s comforter. I smile and think about how good my life is. She squirts 4 more times. I feel like a rockstar-pornstar-gangsta. After we’re done. She asks me if I’m ok, if I need something to drink or if I want her to make me something to eat. Then, I remember why I like Latinas so much. ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: Welcome to the Jungle! Posted at June 27, 2007
It’s 2:30 am. (This Lay Report is about a cougar and sexual framing and how it makes Game tons easier() I just got out of an hour long battle with a 2set with Protection Shields bigger, longer and stronger than the Great Wall of China. I still number closed my Target. Her mouth was saying one thing but her body language was saying quite another. After number closing her friend says, “Has anyone ever told you your persistent?” haaa. Me, Dr. Dave, Sinn and El Topo are at Steak. Shake.! when a 3set rolls in. I recognize HBTenessee from a 2set that Sinn and I gamed about a month ago. I tell him and we stroll up. I want to give him a chance with HBTennessee so I go to the obstacles opposite shoulder and open her. She’s actually quite good looking, but a tad older than my recent sarges. That’s ok, her face is great. Brownishred hair, light blue eyes, nice teeth, nice smile and big boobs. In short, she’s a young Cougar at a mere 37 years old. (This is debatable. It seems Cougar is not well-defined. I’ve seen minimum age anywhere from 35+ to 45+. Here are the many entries in the Urban Dictionary) We banter back and forth for about 5 minutes. They are waiting for an order so I have to work quick. I hookah timebridge and she hands me her card. We’re done. We text that night twice then once the next day. I use a time-constrained day2 text to invite her out. CJ: “Hey, gotta meet friends at a club about 11:00 but let’s have a drink at x-bar from 8:30 – 10:30″ HB: “Can’t make it that early but thanks for the invite.” Instead of suggesting an alternate time I let it go thinking I’ll just go Game tonight. About 20 minutes later she texts: “Can we make it 9:30?” CJ: “Sure, see you there.” She gets there and her face looks even better. Her face is a 9 in my book. We sit down and have a drink. We sit on opposite sides of the booth. This is on purpose. I want her to feel comfortable first. Plus, I wanna see how aggressive this cougar is(I may not even have to lift one of my young, innocent fingers. Not aggressive. In fact, she’s nervous. She keeps wringing her hands. I start with small talk to give her a chance to calm down. We get on work subjects which allows me to start my Ambition campaign. I run Discovery Channel which goes off like a sexual a-bomb. We talk about family( Heart Melter: “Let Grandma Buy You a New Pair of Jeans.” Heart Melter: “First Child Brings Surge of Ambition.” Rings on fingers with lots of hand kino. HBCougar: “Do you have a hand fetish?” Wow! That was out of the blue! CJ: “ummm(..no(.why?” HB: “Well, you touched my hands a lot at Steak. Shake.! so(” CJ: “Oh, haaa, it’s just a way to touch without being too creepy.” I go to the bathroom, get us two more drinks and sit on the same side as her. Strawberry Fields. Her answers: Fence = 4 feet, No. of Strawberries = “As many as I can get my hands on.”, The Farmer = “I’ll pay him off.” We have fun with that. Now, it’s time for the Question Game. She’s not going sexual but I am(I pull her to the band side and ask my final question: “You want to kiss me, don’t you?” She stands up and makes out with me and then says, “Actions speak louder than words.” Now I’ve got body kino and while her face is Grand, her body is kind of flabby. Not fat, just not firm like I’m used to with the 25 and lower hotties I’ve been gaming lately. This is not making me happy. Boobs are still good, though, so its a go. I keep accusing her of trying to get me drunk and blowing on my breathalyzer.
CJ: “I don’t have to be up until about 1:00 tomorrow.” (baiting to see what time she has to be up.) HBCougar: “I have to be up about 11:30(I have an appointment at 1:00.” I bring up the Hookah again and mention how I have one at my apt. I blow a .13 and tell her I’m now drunk and not responsible for anything I say or do from here on out. She aks how I’m going to get home and I tell her I’ll call friends or a cab(OR(we could stop drinking here and drink somewhere else. HBCougar: ***making cougar noises*** “Like where?” CJ: “Well, we’re both adults with our own apartments, I’m sure we could find a place.” HB: “Can’t be my place, my brother lives with me.” CJ: “Guess it’s my place then.” We chat more and I avoid the beer. I run to the bathroom and blow again 0.07 – sweeet! now I’ll just wait another 10 minutes and I can drive her to the Pirate Pad (TM). 10 minutes later. CJ: “Let’s go!” HB: “Just like that? Let’s go?” CJ: “Yep.” We close out and head to my place. I put on 40 year old virgin and begin making out. We get down and dirty. Nice face and boobs but rest of body just doesn’t cut it. Take her back to her car at x-bar about 9:30 this morning. ~ CJ ~
Kill the Excuse Generator In Your Head Posted at June 30, 2007
The difference between the successful and the unsuccessful is so paper thin I’m constantly astounded. Take my client and Warrior-King contributor Andrew Scott as an example. He used to scrape by with a small martial arts school in the midwest. Now, he runs a VERY successful martial arts direct mail company. I do most of the ad writing but he’s turned into a great ad writer himself. I often critique and tighten it up. He’s still regularly paying me for ads I wrote nearly 3 years ago. Then, there’s another guy (to remain nameless) who I wrote an ad for just a few months ago. He wanted changes. I made them. He wondered if we were on the right track. I assured him we were. He wanted to change our agreement in midstream and wanted yet more revisions. His partner finally got fed up and bailed on him. I told him no more revisions until he paid me his balance. I keep an eye on the media he would’ve been advertising in and guess what, he hasn’t done a damn thing. The difference is Andrew killed the Excuse Generator in his head (or, at the very least, ignores it). I see it all the time. People are introduced to a new idea, it sounds too good to be true and they start “Yeah, butting(” until any sliver of hope is gone. I think a lot of the problems stem from not realizing that we are all potentially equal. The difference between you and anyone else is LITTLE more than consistent behaviors. It’s not even beliefs in the strictest sense of the word. It’s FUNCTIONAL BELIEFS, it’s those beliefs that lead to actions. But, your behaviors and beliefs CAN conflict. And, when they do conflict guess which one defines the landscape of your life(your behaviors. So, the first thing to do is Kill the Excuse Generator in Your Head. It’s not “Yeah, but(” it’s “If I could, how would I?”
If I could, how would I? To paraphrase Ayn Rand, You, as man, are a heroic being. Your own happiness is the moral purpose of your life. Productive achievement is your noblest activity. Reason is your only absolute. Allow yourself to dream again(and while dreaming(ask yourself, “If I could, how would I?” Then, map it out and go for it. ~ Captain Jack ~
Time Constrained Day2′s Posted at July 2, 2007
(are one of my new favorite things to do. I created them mainly because I hate spending more than a couple hours on a Day2 if I know it’s not going to end in hot lovin’. So, I started setting up my Day2′s like so: “Hey, on x-day I have to meet my friends at 10:00 but let’s grab a drink or two from 7:30 to 9:30.” My thinking was “if it doesn’t go well, I have an automatic out and then I can go meet my Wing and Game somewhere else” If it does go well, which it has all 3 times I’ve tried it, then I just keep hanging out until I’ve cycled through attraction/comfort enough times to bounce to the Pirate Pad. Out of the 3 NONE of them have mentioned my supposed plans, I just keep running through my Game Plan all the way through. I’ve decided I’m going to do it this way every time from here on out. It takes the pressure off of both of you, if you do leave then she’ll be wanting more (what guy leaves if there’s even a REMOTE chance of him getting laid? almost none!), and you get to go and Game. Or, you get laid. Not a bad scenario in any case. ~ Captain Jack ~
How I Lost a Same Night Lay Posted at July 5, 2007
El Topo and I were out practicing our drinking skills when we decided we would much rather be making love to hunnies. We started opening sets after midnight. My first set was cute but she was attached and invested in someone else and I decided I didn’t want to work that hard. We briefly chatted with the “Gang Bang Girls” but I got bored because I don’t want to do either of them but at least we got a little social proof from it. About 1:30 I opened a tall (slightly thick) brunnette with massive boobies. I decided after about 2 minutes that I was going to SNL her and I adjusted my gaming alternating between heavy sexual suggestion and comfort. I have no idea what happened to El Topo. I think he went and had sex with one of his past girls in her car.
At 2:00 we walked out together and she said, “Where’s your car?” I pointed in the general direction of my car and kept walking to hers. I ignore or gloss over anything that doesn’t serve me in the set and me getting in my car surely doesn’t help. I climbed in and told her to take me home. I showed her the breathalyzer as proof that I was unable to operate a motor vehicle in the State of Texas. (Btw, I’m having so much fun with this portable breathalyzer. Not only does it force me to drink less, I use it as an excuse to be a jack-ass. “Wow! I’m at .15(I’m no longer responsible for what I say or do(gawd, you have spectacular tits!”) I use my favorite kiss close, “Oh, look, a red light. You know what that means!” and then I make out with her. It’s literally never failed but I guess when you’re in a girl’s car having her drive you home you could just start making out with her anyway. We get to my place and I shove her against the wall in the corridor outside my apt. door. We start making out hardcore, feel the beautiful breasts, bite her neck and think to myself “She’s going to get destroyed!” I reach for my keys and discover They’re Not There!!!!!!! Sucks. We have to drive all the way back and get my house keys out of the Jeep. Get back home. Make out. Clothes start flying off. LMR. Do the “get food in the kitchen by myself” freeze-out. I would’ve used the jack-n-the-box freeze out but I didn’t have my car. Man, those boobs were spectacular! I start using the jerking off LMR tactic and she begs me to come on her tits. Alas, too much alcohol and I couldn’t come. I told her to suck it but she wanted me to put on a condom – for a blow job?!?!?!?!? I’ve never heard of such tomfoolery. Anyways, I’m down to the last condom after me recent run of lays and its the one in my wallet. I pull it out but it’s all screwed up. It won’t go on right. I believe THAT’s where I lost the lay. I think if she would’ve given me a BJ then it would’ve overwhelmed her enough to play “just the tip” and then finally give in( I just bought a super huge box of Magnums. This will NEVER happen again. Damnit. ~ Captain Jack ~
Thanks to all the PUAs who… Posted at July 5, 2007
(have submitted my blog postings to SargeNation and Grow Your Game I believe I have several articles on the first page of both sites. Thanks for submitting me guys! ~ CJ ~
Lay Report: The Acrobatic Monkey Posted at July 7, 2007
LR: The Acrobatic Monkey
Sinn and I roll to x-bar and start scoping out sets. I have another girl, HBPlainJane, coming up to see me. Sinn is getting drinks at the bar when two little latin girls come and stand within Proximity AI range. From my peripherals I don’t think they are hot. Sinn brings me a drink and immediately opens what he thought was a mixed 3set (2f, 1m). I get a good look after about two minutes of him gaming and I’m thinking “Damnit” ones hot and one’s very doable. He’s in and HBPlainJane has shown up with her friend. But, I gotta wing Sinn so I’m strategizing as to the best way to pull this off. I’d give the slight nod to HBPlainJane because she gets me for some reason, I don’t know why because she is pretty plain. It’s odd. But, whatever, I’ve got her set up for next Tuesday night. I keep bouncing between HBPlainJane and Sinn’s obstacle. Just for fun and because I’m drunk I tell Sinn’s Obstacle to tell the Target that he LOVES to dance but he won’t ask girls to dance so she’d have to pull him to the dance floor. He sees me with a shit eating grin and he steps over and says, “What?” and I smile even wider and say, “I’ve just put a sinister plan into motion. muahaaahaaha” and there’s Sinn getting dragged to the dance floor. Man, that’s such a fun trick. Sinn flips me off. While they are on the dance floor I’m gaming the obstacle and periodically texting my HB who is sitting a mere 6 feet away at a table – watching. I tell her that I really want to see her and talk to her but I promised Sinn I’d be his wingman tonight. She texts back that she’s a cool girl and she understands and she wants to see me later if I can. After I believe I have the obstacle hooked I spend more time with HBPlainJane and make out with her several times while grabbing her ass and blatantly staring at her tits. They leave and Sinn who has already started seeding the Bounce says its time to go. The 2set drives us home. Me and the obstacle start making out in the back seat. The girl from “LR: In daddy’s bed?” is calling and texting me for some late night loving. HBPlainJane is texting me to see if I want to come over to her place. This is awesome. We get into Jon’s place and I don’t even think we ever really sit down together. It seems like he just pulled her straight to the room and I tossed mine on the couch. She loves anal play but I’m having trouble. I had this once before about a year ago where I’m hard as a rock until I put on a condom and then it softens. My penis hates condoms. This usually lasts a few weeks and then I’m good as new. Not sure what the deal is( I finally get it back hard enough and enter and stay in for about 1 minute before it goes soft again. I tell her to give oral but she won’t. Grrrrr. This is another weird occurrence. The last one wouldn’t give it unless I had a condom on and this one won’t at all. She’s jerking me off and it’s working. I’m about to reenter when Sinn comes out. He wants to go eat. We get dressed and we mention we’re going to try the switch. We’re both going to try and close each other’s targets after eating. I suggest doing a “Running Clown” but we remember we don’t have enough supplies for that. Sinn mentions doing a “Laughing Squirrel” but we realize there are only 2 of us and you need 3 people for that. Then, almost as if we had an esp connection we both exclaimed, “Acrobatic Monkey!” So, when we got into the parking garage Sinn and the other girl (the one I closed) got out of the car. I told Sinn I needed some diet coke. He said, “Cool, we’re going to look for her phone.” I looked at the girl Sinn closed, the driver, and before I could say anything she offered to drive me. Cool. At the store I texted Sinn, “You really want me to do this?” he texted back, “I am.” I got the drinks and then when she parked back in the parking garage I pulled her arm and started making out with her. She looked at me dumbfounded and said, “I just had sex with your friend.” I said, “I know, I just had sex with your friend.” Then, we made out again. She was very confused and very turned on. We got to the gate and I called Sinn, no answer, then she called her friend who answered. They had to come down to let us in.
We made out again and she said, “They’re coming to get us!” CJ: “I know! Exciting isn’t it!” The security guard comes and lets us in before they get to us and we hit the elevator. As my finger was drifting to the 7th floor button my mind was saying, “Nooooo(you idiot! Go to the 10th floor and get “lost” to give more time for escalation!” but my hand just kept drifting till it hit the 7 button. Damn. More making out but her ASD is going up. I pull her shirt aside and suck on her tit. She keeps mentioning how we all just had sex together but she’s not resisting at all. I’m thinking it’s a big possibility. When we get back inside she goes to the restroom. Sinn and I give each other knowing looks. When they leave we debrief each other. We were very close to the double close. I’m wondering what would’ve happened had we convinced them to stay and tried again. ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: CJ Crashes A Gay Rave Posted at July 8, 2007
LR – CJ Crashes A Gay Rave Our 4th venue of the night. The previous ones all had issues and the only reason we were here was because El Topo was doing a one-on-one and had bottle service and could get us into this club. But, this wasn’t really our scene. It was too hip-hoppy. Except in the mainly empty VIP room which was techno, nice and dark and with pretty cool seating. Sinn and I roll around and can’t find anything to open. He sees a 3set (2f, 1m) where the hot obstacle looks bored and he spins the wheel of openers. I give him some room to maneuver over there and when I turn back around there’s a hot girl about 3 feet in front of me smiling. I smile. She says, “Hi.” I say “hi. Do we know each other?” HBSwimmer: “No. I don’t think so.” What happened here is I suck when a girl opens me. I don’t know why but it catches me off guard. I do a lot of stupid small talk like my next few sentences( CJ: “Oh, you look familiar. I like your necklace.” What I did do right at this point was reposition my body to get locked in. Still stumbling verbally I decide to get my bearings by using my routine stack( CJ: “Do you believe magical spells work?” Ok, technically this was dumb but it was much better than my bumbling around in small talkville. I finish the story. Tell her she’s short to tease her and she makes another minute or two of small talk, thankfully. Then, she moves me to the dance floor. She’s really hot but being ADD. Sinn rolls back over and we go to the edge of the dance floor to meet him. At this point, I’m still deciding what I’m going to do. I decide there’s nothing else here and I’ll ignore her ADD because she’s extremely hot and go for the SNL. She intros herself to Sinn and he gets her super attracted in about one minute. Then, he asks me if I’m going to game her or not. I tell him she’s ADD but I’m going to try for the SNL so he backs off. We go meet her friends in VIP. There are 6 dudes and one of them is gay. Flaming guy. Which is always funny. I let her be ADD and just keep being cool and pumping her attraction up. She buys me 2 drinks and a shot and I accuse her of trying to get me drunk. She says she’s not that easy and I ignore it and instead talk about why I’m never coming here again. I ask her who drove to the venue. She did(Nice. CJ: “Hmmm(.you’re not the jealous type are you?” I then tell her the “Girlfriend who deleted all my numbers” story. She tells me she isn’t jealous at all and she acts more like a guy when it comes to relationships. Sinn comes over and tells me he’s going to leave and go have sex with his HB10 waitress. He says El Topo will give me a ride and I tell him I’m trying for the SNL.
My Target is dancing with the flamer. El Topo is gaming a hot, young, black cocktail waitress and I go over to him to give my Target “Fear of Loss.” I get Sinn’s number from El Topo because my cell is dead and Sinn has my car keys. When I come back she says, “I thought I lost you!” and starts hugging me. I think we kissed at this point but I can’t remember. CJ: “My friend just left and I rode with him(” HB: “He left? How are you going to get home? Did he think you were leaving with me(I’m not like that(” CJ: “Oh, I’ll call a cab or something. No big deal. He got a booty call from this waitress so he’s going to see her.” She does more dirty dancing and close to closing time she tells me to come to an afterparty with her. Now, when I say “afterparty” I mean more alcohol and maybe the hookah. When her friends say afterparty they mean drugs. We get there and there are about 20 people crammed into a 2 bedroom apt. Only 3 girls (including mine) and about 10 sweaty dirty guys and six or seven clean, well groomed gay guys. And, they’re all on ecstasy except me and my Target. HB: “I don’t do drugs, except for weed, but you can if you want. It doesn’t bother me.” Our gracious host, hearing this, shoves a pill in my face and mumbles something about a bunny rabbit. I decline. (I have nothing against drugs, in fact, I believe they should be legal for any adult who wants to take them but I’m not into them.) We make out on the couch while these guys listen to David Bowie doing Stairway to Heaven. If you’ve never heard the conversations that people on X have it is a real treat. I wish I could remember what they were saying because it was so funny/weird. I know Dolly Parton’s rendition of a Pink Floyd song came up over and over again. I tell her we should go and get a bed because the couch is too small. She asks where and I tell her we’ll rent a hotel room. She says, “Oh, that’ll look real good.” Finally, about 5am they tell us we look tired and they’ll be up for a long, long time so if we need to go home we should. They tell her that they’ll take care of Flamer and make sure he gets home OK. She reluctantly agrees to leave him there. We get to her place and I nearly get eaten by her two large dogs. The escalation goes pretty smooth. I get some LMR at the initial entry. She grabs my hips, stops me and says, “What are you doing?” CJ: “Fucking you.” I push it in, she relaxes her body and starts moaning. She’s really hot. Was a swimmer in college and still has the body. Awesome face and eyes. She has a professional job. She’s a keeper. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. F-closed early sat. morning. Had sex with girl from “Daddy’s Bed” sat. night at about 8:30 and then sex with this new girl 6am this morning. Not a bad 27 hours.
CaptainJack Live! Posted at July 9, 2007
Howdy, I’ll be doing approach coaching at Sinn’s next Pheonix/Scottsdale bootcamp. El Topo will be there as well(there are only 3 seats left so if you’re gonna do it, pull the trigger ASAP. You can get more info here.
Lay Report: www.horny-wisconsin-girls.com Posted at July 11, 2007
I’m out with El Topo(Dr. Dave and Fidelio are out, too. El Topo pulls me into a set he ran a few weeks/months ago. There’s a tall slender hot girl, a shorter cute (but sorta plain) girl with nice boobs and big booty and a fat girl. I ask ET who his target is(he doesn’t know. I ask him again, he still doesn’t know. So, I neg the tall slender girl “I like your cape.” because she was wearing a sweater tied around her neck. Her friends laughed. ET tells me that’s his target. Haaa. I switch to the cute girl, HBPlainJane. I game her for awhile and really like her attitude and mannerisms. I number close her but she rejects my kiss attempt. (She tells me why during my debrief() The Day2( Sinn and I are gaming the girls from “LR: The Acrobatic Monkey,” I’ll excerpt from that LR here: He’s in and HBPlainJane has shown up with her friend. But, I gotta wing Sinn so I’m strategizing as to the best way to pull this off. I’d give the slight nod to HBPlainJane because she gets me for some reason, I don’t know why because she is pretty plain. It’s odd. But, whatever, I’ve got her set up for next Tuesday night. I keep bouncing between HBPlainJane and Sinn’s obstacle. And, then later(while Sinn is doing his best John Travolta (on Crack) impression( While they are on the dance floor I’m gaming the obstacle and periodically texting my HB who is sitting a mere 6 feet away at a table – watching. I tell her that I really want to see her and talk to her but I promised Sinn I’d be his wingman tonight. She texts back that she’s a cool girl and she understands and she wants to see me later if I can. After I believe I have the obstacle hooked I spend more time with HBPlainJane and make out with her several times while grabbing her ass and blatantly staring at her tits. Today I was at the bookstore and I get this text: HBPlainJane: “Where are we going to go? I don’t think I can meet you at your place. My parents said it’s dangerous and they wanna know your last name in case you kill me ” CJ: “We’re going to church and then possibly square dancing(and tell your parents I haven’t killed anyone since they let me out(” HBPlainJane: “In that case it’s fine(lol” I’m thinking she’s going to flake and while I’m discussing future biz with The Professor (from the Warrior-King Society) I get a text( HBPlainJane: “Almost there” Problem is I’m at the Bookstore! I slam my laptop shut and bolt out. I give her the wrong directions to buy myself an extra 5 minutes. Throw on a shirt, put gunk in my hair and meet her outside. She looks much better because she has dressed up and put her hair in pig tails (yes, pig tails). She’s wearing a tight shirt with a mini-skirt. About 1 full point higher then the other 2 times I saw her. My normal plan when girls come over is to have them sit down, talk to them for 2 minutes, ignore them for 5-10 minutes while I finish getting ready and then sit back down and escalate until they stop me. We made out but she was being hesitant. I tell her let’s go(so we head out and go eat. I know she likes me. She’s cool, too. I actually liked talking to this girl which is very rare. She has a brain. Here comes the standard stuff( * First Child Brings a Surge of Ambition We roll to a hole in the wall because x-bar has some retarded acoustic jackass playing music. * Cosmo Pattern blah, blah, blah * Let Grandma buy you a new pair of jeans blah, blah, blah * I’m going to own a boat and a beach house one of these days because I’m ambitious! blah, blah, blah We get back to my place and I put in one of the greatest South Park’s in history “The Return of the Fellowship of the Ring to the Two Towers.” I like it because the whole show is about a porn video called “Backdoor Sluts 9″ and there’s lots of dirty talk in it.
I escalate on the couch. She’s being shy but responding. Get the shirt off and am pleased to find nice boobies. I was worried she was a bit chubby but she’s not. She has big hips and nice sized boobies which makes her look chubby in normal clothes but naked is just fine. She gains another half point. (I’m declaring the point increases because they usually seem to work in reverse!) We begin escalating and I start dirty talking. SHE says, “Let’s go to your bed!” Niiiice. We do the deed and it’s good. She’s not the best in bed because she’s real shy but she is trainable. I debrief her which is something I’ve started doing again after counseling my eCoaching students to do it as well. After you’ve banged a girl she is more likely to answer honestly and its great feedback on your Game. It can be very eye-opening. She knew she first wanted to have sex with me on the Day2 when I was winging Sinn because “you kept talking dirty to me and saying you’d put me on the table and fuck me in front of everyone.” I said that 3-4 times. I also told her I’d take her in the bathroom. And, that she wouldn’t be able to walk for a few days. She noticed me at x-bar as soon as she walked in and wanted to say hi but I “kept talking to other girls” and she said I seemed cocky so she didn’t want to encourage me. She said she wouldn’t kiss me because she didn’t want me to know she liked me (???) When I asked her “Well, what if I never called or texted because I though you didn’t like me?” She responded, “I know(it’s dumb but that’s just what I was thinking.” She also said that my text responding to her ‘parents’ worries made her decide she was coming over instead of trying to meet me somewhere. Debriefing girls you’ve closed is one of the best things you can do for your Game. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. My schedule is now open for more eCoaching students. Details here.
Lay Report: CJ Gets Gamed Posted at July 12, 2007
Wow, I really don’t know what to say for this Lay Report. The only thing I did was NOT mess things up. Sinn and I are out at a place that I used to frequent and have pulled from a few times. We have high hopes for this because it fits the profile of an SNL Venue( So, for some reason my AA has come back and is stronger than ever before. This truly sucks and is at the same time incredibly confusing. I’ve gotten laid 3 times this month this one makes 4 so far and it’s only the 12th – I’m on pace to hit 10! new lays in one month. 3 of the 4 are Same Night Lays. Yet when I have to open I become a whimpering, whining little chicken shit. Sinn has opened a few sets and gotten a number. I haven’t done shit. I decide to warm up on a girl who has been eye-fucking me for about 1 hour straight. Sinn says she’s a train wreck and then I think maybe I’m drunk because she looks good to me. I game her for about 20 minutes and he sends me a text “SERIOUSLY?!” and later tells me she’s a 3. Haaa. I number close anyway. I hunt for another set to open but my fucking heart is pounding and I’m hating this feeling because I want to friggin’ open. I’m at the bar and I see a girl next to me. I smile big and she smiles and then I say something (can’t remember what, but nothing special), she responds and before I know it she is grinding on me. I tell her my “Jealous Girl Deleted All My Numbers” story and she mentions the girl is psycho and she’s not jealous at all. More grinding. We make about 5 minutes of small talk. It’s closing time and we all head out. I lose her as she goes to talk to one or two other people she knows. A girl comes up to Sinn and says, “My friend said she’ll be here Friday night and to come see her(” he goes over to their car and number closes her. I find my girl again and we start trying to pull them to Sinn’s place but the obstacle (who was cuter) says she’s going home. I’m thinking the pull is NOT going down and then as we’re walking to Sinn’s car the girls go ape shit over his BMW M3. The obstacle starts humping the trunk like a dog and says she used to be a Car Model.
My Target sits in the passenger seat in awe like she’s never seen a BMW before. She gets out and the obstacle says to follow them if we want to come over. We get to their pad and chat for maybe 5 minutes before my Target drags me to her friends bedroom and unzips my pants and gives me an awesome BJ. I proceed to tear it up. SHE gamed me(haaa. ~ Captain Jack ~
Captain Jack says: July 13, 2007 at 12:02 pm
>You had AA when you were drinking? >Hahah that’s about the only time I >don’t get approach anxiety. Yeah, man, this truly sucks. A nice buzz used to knock my AA right out. Now, I can function perfectly while massively drunk. I could write an ad, solve calculus problems and still have AA. It’s weird. Since alcohol is serving no useful purpose at this point I’m going to cut way back. ~ CJ ~
Lay Report: Rocker Chicks Love Pirates Posted at July 14, 2007
Alright so yesterday I spent a great deal of time mentally wrestling with my AA. I used every friggin’ mental tool in my arsenal and got it down to a manageable level. I am now COMMITTED to finding a way to get over this for good( So here’s how the 5th lay of this month went down (4 out of 5 lays were Same Night Lays (SNL’s)). I’m with Fidelio. El Topo is training a student. Dr. Dave rolls in a little later. After about 30 minutes I turn and open a 2set behind me with “Style’s Two Part Kiss.” The set doesn’t hook very well but I’m not worried. I don’t plow and instead turn around to see a ripple in the Matrix. By ripple in the Matrix I mean Fidelio is talking to a female. She was a cute girl. Her big boobed cougar friend comes over and talks to him for a few minutes before hitting on me like she’s going to eat me. I’m considering it but I’ve decided no more cougars unless they are REALLY, REALLY hot. I try to switch to a cuter blonde in the group and she is responding but she keeps regulating her BT. I’m wondering why. Fidelio tells me later that she and her friend kept on talking shit about the hickeys on each side of my neck (the girl from Wednesday LR: CJ Gets Gamed gave them to me). Hickeys always polarize HBs. Some of them love it and their attraction goes through the roof, others use it as an excuse to raise their shield and make it harder for you. I should’ve plowed the little big boobed blond but, alas, I didn’t. I end up gaming a very tall very voluptuous girl to my left with Rings on Fingers but I didn’t notice her engagement ring till it was too late. She gave me an opening though, “But, I’m pissed at him right now(” I open another girl at the bar. Super hot body, nice hair but unfortunately her teeth are messed up. They aren’t dirty or decayed they are just crooked. I am gaming her and still wrestling inside(can I ignore the teeth? I keep trying to focus on her eyes (nice eyes) but my eyes keep gravitating to those teeth. She puts her hand on my knee and leans into me pressing her nice boobs on me and talking in my ear. The warmth is beginning to awaken GIGANTOR from his slumber. I decide to TimeBridge her after all. If she just stands there with her mouth closed she’s hot enough. (All her parents had to do was buy the girl some braces when she was younger, how hard is that????) I’m TB’ing mainly just to keep opening sets and see if I can trade up. I run into El Topo near the female restrooms and a girl overhears him say something about being gay and she asks if he’s gay. He’s already deep in set with a hot girl (who he later bounced to eat with) so he breaks off and I
take the set over. It was ON! and she was insane hot. I lost her somewhere, though, I think she IOI’ed me on my necklace and saw the hickeys when she took out my necklace to look at it. She didn’t take my TB bait and her and her friend walked off after her friend got out of the bathroom. About 1:20am I see a cute little bitty rocker chick walk by and I say something but she doesn’t hear. I follow. She has a few tattoos and multiple ear and a tongue piercing. Her hair is dyed that dark, crimson red. She has matching lipstick on. Nice little tight body. Very Little Rings on Fingers Jealous GF Deleted My Numbers She mentions my hickeys and says, “Damn, what did you do to that girl?” I just smiled and said teased her like crazy. She rubbed it and licked her lips. GIGANTOR began to rise. Let Grandma Buy You A New Pair of Jeans $18 for the Light Bill First Child Brings Surge of Ambition Hookah TB (gets interrupted by a friend coming by) CJ: “What’s on the agenda for later?” This is when the bar lights are coming on. HBRocker: “We’re going to an afterparty, come with me.” CJ: “Cool(” HBRocker: “Ok, I have to go find someone, wait for me outside.” CJ: “Alright, let’s exchange numbers in case something comes up.” I go outside and she meets me there about 1-2 minutes later. I don’t engage her much to test her. I want her to feel like it might not go down. Two guys that she sorta knows come out and start chatting her. I do a semi backturn and notice El Topo and Fidelio walking across the parking lot. She grabs my hand and pulls me to her car. Apparently the people we are going to meet are drug dealers and they are supplying drugs for the afterparty. I’m not a big fan of drugs personally (although I believe they should be legal for adults.) We’re in a shady ass parking lot somewhere in Dallas. The drug dealer is trying to game her and I tell her we’ll just go to my place. She says ok but only if her friends come along. They have to make a delivery which will take them about 40 minutes. Here’s my thinking: I VERY RARELY lose a tug of war. If I can get her to my place and get my hooks in deeper I WON’T lose. I tell them to just call her when they’re done and I’ll give them directions. I was thinking that I’ll get her phone under some pretense and turn it off. We get to my place and I turn on the greatest closing dvd of all time: South Park and specifically “The Return of the Lord of the Rings to the Two Towers” episode. I caveman her. I carry her 100lb body to my bed and throw her down. I pull her hair, spank her and keep pushing her down. She gives BJ. I put my hand around her little neck and I think she is going to come then and there. She grabs the hand I have on her neck and SQUEEZES so I’m basically choking her. Now, I don’t want a dead girl in my apt. so I’m not down with this(I push her down on the bed and take her shirt off. She says, “Fucking be rough with me(” I learned this from a PUA who shall not be named: I slapped her. Not hard. But, hard enough. She started rubbing herself through her pants and moaning and screaming “Fucking god, oh yes!” I’m feeling strange. This is new territory for me. She asked me to slap her again. I opted to unbutton her pants instead. She stops me and says, “Oh god, I want to(but we can’t.” My intuition says she’s on her period. I’m right. But, I have run into this enough times that I have a piece just for this objection( “That’s natural, it’s part of being a woman. I was married for 5 years. It’s not a big deal to me(I have condoms.” HBRocker: Get the condom. She gives another BJ( CJ: “Are you a squirter?” HBRocker: “Sometimes, if it’s done right.”
I pick her up and throw her down on the bed. I start fingering her with the “come hither” motion and about 2 minutes later she launches a stream all over my forearm and bed. We have sex for a good 30-45 minutes. I hear her phone vibrating but I don’t say anything. The chumps are here and I’ve already banged her so I’m not the least bit worried about Tug of War. The complain about being in the parking lot for 10 minutes. They hang out for awhile mainly on the phone trying to do deals. I can’t wait till they leave. They try to get her to come with them but I tell them my Jeep is at the venue, she has to take me to it later, but not now because I can’t drive. Feeling the sting of defeat, they leave. I bang her again. ~ CJ ~
Captain Jack says: July 16, 2007 at 12:43 pm
Dear Anonymous, Yes, I did. I fucked her on the rag too. She must’ve been on the tail end of it because when I looked at the condom it just had a slight pink tint to it(and my fingers had nothing noticeable when I washed my hand. ~ CJ ~
The Year’s Half Over, And You? Posted at July 17, 2007
This is from one of the better blogs I read. He’s a smart guy, really knowledgeable about networking and I like his short to the point posts(Go read it and then come back. MIAMI BUSINESS NETWORK BLOG: The Year’s Half Over, And You? About this year( Man, I can’t believe it’s half over. I HAVE made significant progress in many areas. I’ve increased the average hotness of the women I’m seeing. I’ve also decreased the average age (both big goals of mine) for this year. While I am NOT LIKELY to have my first $1million dollar year this year I have made huge strides in stabilizing myself financially by creating more dependable, repetitive income streams. My cash used to come in huge surges. It was feast or famine. I felt RICH when several huge checks hit at once and poor as a junkyard dog when the money ran out. Exciting for awhile but it gets old after about 2-3 years. I major shift in HOW I created my income came after reading “Buffetology” By Mary Buffet and David Clark. I decided the next business I created would be one that Warren would invest in. That required that it have HIGH MARGINS and HIGH INVENTORY TURNOVER along with a SUSTAINABLE COMPETITIVE ADVANTAGE. (Hugely simplified but its a great guideline.) I haven’t stopped the activities that cause the huge cash surges, I’ve just made sure they don’t get in the way of building a true (and nearly automatic) income stream. I’ve also taken back control of my weight. I allowed myself to get derailed here for 3 weeks now for no good reason at all. But, I’m holding steady between 211-213 whereas before I was 220-223. I have an image of how I want to look and I think I’ll get there at about 195, which will take me another 6-8 weeks. Another simple thing I did was create my 80/20 Process after reading “The 80/20 Principle.” You can read about it here: How to Use The 80/20 Rule to Create a Kick-Ass Life! That simple process alone, done weekly or whenever needed, has created a major difference in the overall quality of my life.
Finally, Ayn Rand’s writings have helped me finally grasp the inner unrest I’ve experienced since I was a kid. I’ve always “had potential” but I’ve then gone on to do my own thing. I was making gobs of money as a “turn around artist” for software projects. I was published twice and everybody wanted me to teach them my methodology of taking a small team and saving a major project from bleeding cash and spinning out of control. I was poised to make $300-4000 per hour. Then, I walked away. This caused some to be upset that I wasn’t living up to my potential. In a way they were right BECAUSE I thought my potential was what they told me it was instead of realizing it was what *I* wanted to make it. This made me feel like something was wrong with me before. Like I had some sort of “prosperity block” or something like that. Fact is, I just didn’t know how I was supposed to fit into this mess of people, responsibility, authority and expectations. Now, I know. Hence, the Howard Roark post below. ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: Cantalopes Posted at July 22, 2007
This’ll be a short Lay Report one because I’m so tired, unshaven, haven’t brushed my teeth in over 20 hours and still wearing clothes from yesterday(basically I feel like pooo. It’s the second night of bootcamp. The first venue was a bit rough for the students so we bounced to a second venue which I have great success each time I’m here. I open a blond girl with gigantic boobs. I think she is too chubby but I think I’m just warming up and her boobs are good enough. But, when I get her to lean into she is not really chubby at all. The gigantic boobs make her appear that way. Nice. I do my basic stuff. Lots of teasing. I tell her she would make a great wife(for a midget. Trust test and spin. I’m locked in against the post and she’s leaning into me. This is looking good in terms of creating the PUA Aura. Strawberry fields. Are you the Jealous Type qualifier which leads into “Ex Deleted My Numbers(” She is eating it up. She moves me into Comfort and we discuss her previous relationship, which I don’t normally do but she was using it to qualify herself and it allowed me to imply to her that after a 7 year engagement she was mentally and physically ready for fun and variety. Rings on Fingers. I parade her to the bar to get her a drink. We lock in against the bar. I qualify her again. Her friends come up but they are butt ugly. A couple students try to occupy for me and give me an extra 2 minutes of alone time. I TimeBridge( I run one more set which goes pretty well. I look for HBCantalopes but can’t find her. It’s closing time so Sinn and I roll out. I send my standard text to HBs who I’ve timebridged. “Hi sexy lady, where you at?” This is my “Drunk and Lonely Theory.” Here’s the theory: Point 1. Women go out to get laid. Point 2. 99.9% of guys’ game sucks. Point 3. A female CANNOT have sex with a guy she is not attracted to. Due to Point 2 she is sexually frustrated. Point 4. At 2:30 am the girl is at home, sexually frustrated, drunk and lonely. This is the best time to send a text. She texted back that she was at her friends house and asked where I Sinn and I were( I called her and she told me to come over and to bring Sinn with her friend. Just one problem. Sinn was passed out on his bed. I tried for about 5 minutes I did. She looked even better. She had a little pink wifebeater on with no bra and her big fake boobies were busting through her shirt. She was wearing short boxers. We started making out almost immediately.
I go rough but she tells me “Softer(” This is interesting because my Dutch girl from Friday night told me the SAME thing. Strange because my OTHER lays from this month wanted to be manhandled. Sinn, Sexual Chocolate and El Topo picked me up and took me to the bootcamp. ~ CJ ~
The Window Escape Story Posted at July 24, 2007
This happened when I was about 19 or 20. It was LONG before I new anything about PU. My friend and I were at a 24 hour pool hall in Arlington, TX. Two cute girls walked in while me and my friend were playing pool. My friend and I did what we normally did: Stared at them and then talked about how we’d do bad things to them. There was only one problem: Both of us were scared shitless to talk to any girls, even in our social circle talking to girls made us both extremely nervous. The idea of going and talking to a girl we didn’t even know was entirely foreign to both of us. But, one of the girls just kept looking over at us. We argued over who she was looking at for about 5 minutes. Finally she walked right by the pool table looked directly at me, slowed down her rate of walking and then smiled REAL big at me. I looked down immediately. He conceded: “Dude! She wants you! Go talk to her!” Me: “I know man(I know.” I looked at her up at the bar. It was merely 15 feet away but might as well have been 1000 miles. I turned around and took my shot. When I turned back around she was walking back by and smiling. “Hi” she said. I squeaked at a barely masculine “Hello.” Before I knew it we were in a conversation. I have no idea what we talked about. But I remember mentioning we should go out. She asked if I had a pen and wrote her number on the back of a receipt. I tried not to look her way for the rest of the game. The pressure of not looking over there was unbearable. I told my friend we were leaving after this game. We paid and left and when we hit the parking lot we high fived each other (ugh, I’m getting nauseated remembering this). I had him drive the car. I looked at that piece of paper as if it were the winning lotto numbers. We went to eat and every 5 minutes I’d check my pocket to make sure the number was still there. I called her one night and she invited me to a friend’s party. They were all drinking but I declined the beer because I was underage and driving. She got plastered and we stumbled a few doors down to her place. As soon as we got to the front door there was a loud thud followed by frantic scratching, growling and barking. The door actually shook as the dog tried to crash through it. She told me to take a few steps back because she had to lock the dog in another room. CJ: “Jesus! What kinda dog is that?” HB: “Rottweiler” CJ: “shit” I didn’t take a few steps back. I took a few steps back and about 12 feet to the right behind the Oak tree in the middle of her lawn. I eyed the lowest branch to get a fix on it because this girl was no more than 105 pounds and I wasn’t convinced she could hold that frothing monster back. When she came back I was pretending like I was just touring her lawn. We get inside and we’re making out on the couch. But, I can’t concentrate because that beast is trying to chew through her bedroom door. I keep imagining his gigantic paw hitting the doorknob in just the right way, springing him loose. I imagined using her as a human shield as I dove through the large living room window and up the Oak tree.
We are making out hardcore. I slip my hands down her pants to feel a wondrous booty. She had a beautiful body. She started falling asleep while we were making out. I had no escalation skills back then otherwise this would’ve been a done deal on the couch. She says, “Let’s go sleep in my room.” She gets up to get the dog and I’m fucking cringing on the living room floor on the side of the couch using the armrest as cover. She’s in her socks and the dog is fighting to get to me. He pulled her a few feet in my direction more than once as her socks provided no traction. When she’s a safe distance I head to her room and shut the door. I look around the room and see a nice water bed, some pictures, a small bookshelf and a HUGE, MASSIVE fishtank. It must’ve been about six feet long. Only this fishtank is empty. And, it has a spotlight. And a tree branch. She comes back in and I say, “What happened to your fish?” She says, “Oh, haaa, that’s for my boa constrictor.” I squint my eyes and say, “I don’t see it.” She laughs again and starts undoing the covers. I begin laying on her waterbed when she drops a bomb on me, “He escaped a few days ago. Last time I found him by the Clothes Dryer, guess he liked the warmth” So, there I am laying in her waterbed with a frothing demon dog sniffing and clawing at her bedroom door while there’s a boa running loose in her house. She passes out. I lay in her bed still as corpse. I hear everything. Every little sensation on my body is cause for alarm. Every itch triggers panic and fear. I can’t sleep because I don’t want to wake up to a satanic dog eating my liver or a boa constrictor wrapped around my neck. I am literally trapped. I look at her window and there’s a bush outside about halfway up the window. That’s my only escape. Fuck it. I open the window, kick the screen out and push myself through the bushes. I have scratches on my face and arms but it’s worth it! I’m a free man!!!! I never called her again. She never called me. ~ Captain Jack
God Helps Those Who… Posted at July 27, 2007
(help themselves. You may have heard this bromide a million times or more. I believe it is basically true. But, what if you try and still fail? What if you know what to do, know you can do it and really want it yet still can’t? For example, I know EXACTLY how to get down to my goal weight. When I follow the plan it works like a charm. I easily and comfortably drop 2-3 lbs per week. No problem. But, for unexplainable reason I stop doing the things I know to do( I got down from the low 220s to 211(then stopped. For no reason. Frustrating. I could (and have) berated myself. But, I’ll pick it up for another day or two and then stop again. Weird. I’m always studying successful people. Whether it’s reading all of Trumps books, or Sam Walton’s or Richard Branson’s or interacting with the successful business owners who hire me I’m knee deep in the psychology of men who make the world move. Here’s something I’ve noticed: They know when to get help. Everybody fantasizes about hitting the winning 3 point shot at the buzzer in the NBA finals. Or throwing or catching the winning touchdown pass at the Superbowl. But, that’s just one instance in a series of TEAM plays.
Jordan was fucking unbelievable, but put Jordan alone on the court against 5 guys and guess what(he gets creamed. These Gods Who Make The World Move get help when they need it. And, they don’t feel bad about it. In fact, they FEEL GOOD that they can be more efficient and get their goals. They LOVE paying someone to do the shit they don’t want to do OR getting help from someone with more talent or more money or whatever. It actually makes them feel good. I’m as individual as they come but I’ve recently realized I try to do too much by myself and eschew asking others for help. This is a sticking point so I’ll bust it like I bust all other sticking points. I’m getting help. I’ve pinpointed 3 areas (through the 80/20 process) where I’ve been stuck for quite some time. One of them is weight. A part of me says, “Motherfucker, just do it. Quit making excuses and fucking do it already!!!” I think back to before I took an MM bootcamp. What if I had said, “Dude, you know what to do, just do it!!!” instead of admitting I needed to get help. Where would I be now? Probably in the same position, maybe a tiny bit better but certainly not where I am now. The question here is: Do I want to pretend I can handle this shit myself, even though I’ve tried multiple times and failed, or do I want to enlist someone else’s aid, get my goal and move onto bigger and better things? Here’s another one: Do I want to be in this same fucking spot a year from now? No, I don’t. ~ Captain Jack ~
Stuck at 7 Lays… Posted at July 30, 2007
Stuck at 7 Lays( After Scottsdale’s back-to-back lays I was poised to break 10 lays this month. Sunday night I felt horrible and Monday during Breakthrough Comfort I could barely stay conscious. It hurt to swallow. I had zero energy. Breathing, normally an unconscious, effortless endeavor, seemed like work. Tuesday night I couldn’t go out due to Strep throat. I forced myself to go out Wednesday night but wasn’t myself. Thursday night Sinn and I pulled (he opened, I winged) two girls who had nice breasts but lacked in every other aspect. Neither of us ran Tight Game so we were hit by LMR (although Sinn got a BJ, I merely came on the other girls DD’s). I picked up my daughters Friday night and still have them. Their mom has had another baby who is having trouble at the hospital so I will be keeping my daughters another day or two. This means I’ll likely be stuck at 7 lays for July. El Topo hit 8 new lays Saturday night and Sinn hit 6 last night (with a girl who has a boyfriend, haaa.) I have 3 very promising girls but none of them are at the point where I can get them to come over and see me. Even though I won’t get the title this month, I’m extremely happy with July. These new lays seemed effortless. I feel like I’ve done very little work. Six of the 7 were Same Night Lays. I probably opened less than 30 sets this entire month. Also, the overall quality this month beats every other month easily. I’d say there were 3 HB9’s in this mix and the rest hovered around 7-8 range. Not bad. ~ CJ ~
Lay Report: The One Posted at August 2, 2007
My heart is racing. Every other girl in the club disappears. I lock my eyes squarely on her Goddess Like figure. I little brunnette with a perfect body. Beautiful firm breasts. A flat stomcach. Long hair. Brown eyes. She is Athena, Aphrodite and Jessica Alba all rolled into one. I feel myself slipping into the warm embrace of infatuation as my brain commands my glands to secrete Norepinephrine, Dopamine and Serotonin. She looks at me with those Bambi brown eyes, smiles and says: “One dollar.” I’m frozen like a deer in the headlights and say nothing for about 5-10 seconds. She’s looking at me like I just asked her to explain Relativity Theory. The Bouncer looks at me funny and starts talking into his fake Secret Service microphone clipped on his lapel complete with attached ear piece. I take my Michelob Ultra, hand her two dollars and scurry off. Time for some Patron. The interesting thing about Patron is you can tell when it hits you. I get sort of numb on the surface of my skin. I get very blunt. Twitchy comes to talk to me. He does a shot of Tuaca and I do a shot of Patron. He’s gaming this Asian tease. Sinn and Future have opened a few sets but I haven’t done shit because I’m still pissed that I’m not asleep. Back up an an hour and a half ago( There I was at the Pirate Pad sleeping like a baby who had just sucked his momma’s breast dry when Sinn calls from the club. It’s White Girl Wednesday at this place and we’ve pulled almost every time we’ve been there. I fake like I’m awake but that shit never works. People always know you were just sleeping no matter how coherent and awake you think you sound. I hop in the shower, get dressed and roll – whining about how good it felt to be in my bed. So, I’m scoping for a set to get warmed up in. It’s a good night. Quality is high. Sinn has been gaming this weird girl from a “Girl Group” we got in good with a while ago (I already got one of them see “LR: Tastes Like Snot”). He comes over and this is the conversation as I remember it: Sinn: “It’s on with HB but I don’t want to do her tonight because I want another Same Night Lay.” CJ: * Looking dumbfounded * Sinn: * Looking at me like ‘What did I say to make you look at me like that?’ * CJ: “If I didn’t have two beers in my hand right now I’d slap you. She’s fucking hot!” After he finished laughing his ass off he rolled back over to her( He waves me in to occupy the obstacle. I go in. I immediately think “More Patron please.” When most guys refer to The One they are talking about the perfect hb. When I refer to the one I’m talking about this girl(and “The One” is her rating on a scale from 1 to 10. (One being the lowest.) The second shot of patron hits. I’m thinking, “Well, at least she’s not fat.” I have two Michelob Ultra’s(one in each hand(both of them get downed. After a few more minutes I’m thinking, “Well, she doesn’t stink.” Two of Printer’s female friends pull me away. “We’re saving you.” CJ: “Umm(I’m winging for Sinn.” Printers Friend: “Does he need your help?” CJ: “Umm(For a little longer I think.” I go back in and do Strawberry fields. Ex deleted my phone numbers. She lifts her arm to play with the back of her hair. I notice two to three days of underarm stubble. I turn to the bartender. “Patron and another Ultra!” She’s up to a 4 now but I’m suddenly surrounded by hb10′s. I have an internal battle ditch the 1 (Patron4) and hit on the PatronHB10s (HB6-7s). I consider it but realize that any girl with viable options at this point is not going to understand Drunk dialect. We pull back to Sinn’s pad. I can’t feel the surface of my skin. I know the wind is blowing on me but I can’t feel it. I look at the moon and think it looks awesome! Then the mental clouds roll in and I pass out. After coming to we’re at a stoplight and some girl in a drop-top Saab asks us if we have any alcohol. She follows. Huge breasts. Sinn mentions cardboard conductor hats (run a train).
We get in and I take The One to the bathroom. I can’t come. I put her on the floor but it’s hurting my knees. When I put her back on the counter facing the mirror to do doggystyle I look and notice she has a really hairy back. I look closer and realize it’s not HER hair. It’s Sinn’s fucking pubes covering her back. I momentarily go soft(I use her shirt to wipe them off. I’m not coming so we go into the living room. Sinn is threatening the Saab girl because she’s psycho. She basically stated in so many words that she wanted to be gang raped but we are not down with Jail so we took a pass on that one. She is trying to leave but she’s so drunk nobody with a conscience can bring themselves to let her leave. Future and Sinn are cracking me up with their one liners about the situation. Why did I bang a one? Good question. It was weird because while I was not really turned on, I was not really turned off either. It was as if I was on auto-pilot. I was just doing what I do. This made me think about why Naturals have a rep for closing hot girls AND nasty girls. It’s not that they WANT to bang the nasty girls its that its an auto-pilot behavior and if they don’t stop it then it runs its full course. What’s even stranger is I truly don’t give a shit. I fucked a one. Whatever. ~ Captain Jack ~
Principles Posted at August 3, 2007
Presuppositions: • Women want sex just as much as men do. The differences in how women view sex are less a function of male/female differences and more a function of the ease with which a female can get sex. Males who have roughly the same level of sexual opportunity tend to treat sex more like a female does. • If a woman is at an attraction location then she wants to have sex and she wants to have it with a NEW guy that night. If a woman didn’t want sex she could spend her time doing a million other things. If she wanted sex but NOT with a new male all she has to do is answer her phone. There are dozens of men calling and trying to take her to a nice dinner, a play, a movie or even to attraction locations. • Seduction is primarily attaching her raging sexual desire to you specifically. • The 7 hour rule is bs. • With the proper frames a female will do almost anything sexually. The Efficiency Principle – The PUA does the minimum necessary to advance the courtship. Baby Stepping – The Efficiency Principle applied to maneuvering the HB to the Sex Location (aka Logistics Management). You guide her along with small, seemingly innocuous steps that she is unlikely to say no to. “Can you give me a ride to my car? I parked for away.” Then, when you get there “Wow, I’m kind of tipsy. Can you drop me of at my place? It’s not far. Take a right out of the parking lot.” In your parking lot, “Come in for a minute. But you can’t stay long, I have to be up early.” etc. Statement of Sexual Interest (SSI) – Also called a “Sexual IOI.” Very similar to Juggler’s SOI concept. Letting the girl know you are interested in sex with her. • “You should stop that or I’ll be forced to kiss you right here.” or “Stop. I’m trying so hard not to kiss you right now.” • “Hmmm(.that’s such a turn on. You better stop or I’m going to put you on that table and fuck you in front of everybody.” • “Oh God, you wouldn’t be able to walk after I was done with you.” These are also baiting her to respond sexually. A common response to “I’m trying so hard not to kiss you(” is
“well, don’t try(” at which point you kiss her. I believe SSI’s accomplish a few things: • They demonstrate to her you are not afraid of sexual escalation • They demonstrate to her you are super confident. • They force her to have sexual thoughts and make sexual mental images which turn her on • They let her know her time with you will NOT go wasted (since she is HOPING for sex.) The IOI-SSI Alternation and Escalation Principle – The idea that IOI’s are more powerful when followed by an SSI and the IOI’s and SSI’s should become more intense and more direct as the seduction progresses. (We need better def. for “more intense and more direct” – most will understand but it’s sloppy and ambiguous.) At the airport flying to a new city to set up our Project house with Printer, El Topo, Sinn and Future( More to come later( ~ The REAL Captain Jack ~ P.S. “I don’t have a money printer, so for this money chase I’m outrunning sprintas.”
Lay Report: Ass Parade Posted at August 5, 2007
This Lay Report is coming to you “LIVE” from Sexual Framing and Strawberry Fields! haa( Sexual framing works just as well (maybe even better) on the first date. I gamed this girl a few weeks ago for about 20 minutes. I remember using the Nose Ring Low Investment Opener, then teasing her quite a bit, using the “Jealous Ex Deleted Numbers” to seed the Hookah TimeBridge, doing Strawberry fields and then number closing with Hookah TB. The venue was closing so I wrapped up. Sinn had pulled a hot little brunnette with a LIO he made up on the spot which he’s used successfully many times now. (Not sure he wants to share it but it involves a yellow brick road.) In keeping with The Drunk and Lonely Principle, I texted her around 2:30am and she said she was going home and had to get up early in the morning. I tried to get her out but no go. Time passed. I forgot what she looked like but remembered that I liked her booty. I texted her and set up the Day2. She arrives and El Topo and his Cambodian Refugee are sitting with me. They chill for a few minutes and then Bounce. I ask her what she remembers about the first night so I know what I’ve covered with her. She remembers Strawberry Fields but not much else. She said she didn’t remember what I looked like but remembered I was “hot.” I started Sexual Framing with the assumption that the thing she most wants in the world is great sex with me. I told her that the thing that attracted me to her was her obvious sexuality and sensuality and her beautiful booty because I’m a booty man (not really, but I go through phases, each phase lasting a few months until I switch favored body parts() I switch to High Status DHVs by telling her I travel a lot, work only 4 hours a day and 2 hours of that is telling my employees what to do. She tells me what she does for a living (insurance) and I IOI her that she seems intelligent. Flip back to sexual framing. I tell her that i appreciate a woman who isn’t afraid to express her sexuality, that I think it’s bad to hold desire inside. This is an additional frame I came up with when Sinn and I were in the hotel room discussing sexual framing. He had about 15 pages of notes and a well-designed Game Plan that incorporates all of our new stuff(I noticed that AFTER you set the “I’m not judgmental frame” an extremely effective follow-up frame is “I APPRECIATE and VALUE your sexuality and sexual freakiness.” I kiss her.
She adds to the interaction with her own framing and a reward for me kissing her, she said, “Guys these days are such pussies! They’re scared to talk to girls, they’re scared to make the first move, it’s so annoying.” (TRANSLATION: Be dominant because I like it.) The conversation turns even more sexual. She switches chairs because “Everyone coming in can see my crack.” I tell her we could make money. Twenty dollars per crack view and I get ten. Then I make her stand up so I can look at her ass. She LOVES this. I’m taking a physical feature she probably often feels self-conscious about and showing her I value it. (If you want to get an idea of her ass just go to assparade.com ) I move her outside to the patio because the rain has stopped and they’ve taken the plastic covers off the couches. I sit her down on the couch and make out with her. She talks dirty to me and I tell her if she doesn’t stop I’m going to put her on the table and fuck her in front of anyone. Make out again. I pull her hair and she goes crazy and almost straddles me. Sinn texts me where they’re at and I decide it’s time to take my first shot at f-closing. I tell her we’re going to meet my friends but I have to stop by the hotel firs to use the restroom and get my gum. As we walk to my room I stop the sexual talk and bs about random subjects like the pool and where we ate today, blah, blah. We get in the room and she goes to the restroom. As soon as she comes out I grab her throat shove her against the wall, and start making out. Her clothes start flying off. Both nipples pierced. While I go to work on those she undoes my pants and then gets on her knees gives me a great BJ. I stop her, flip her around and take her from behind. Her booty was unreal! Her clit was pierced, too. She tells me to let her know when I get close because she wants me to stick it in her ass and finish in her ass!!! This accelerates my orgasm and I instead pull out and start jerking it to completion. She puts it in her mouth and sucks me dry but it’s too intense so I push her back. Wow! It’s about 11ish and I’m thinking I can still go game but she won’t get the hint that it is time to leave so she comes with. The Printer has us on the list using his mad negotiation skills so we bypass the line and Sinn is in set with a cute blonde. She’s grinding on me and kissing me and I’m trying to decide if I should take her back to the hotel and do more dirty things to her when the urge to game takes over. Printer is in set with a hot little brunette girl and is parading her around. I ask El Topo to occupy her and then Sinn and I leave the Venue. El Topo told me she was looking around for me all night haaa. She texts me and I tell her we had drama and had to go rescue a friend. She wants to see me again but, of course, that’s probably not gonna happen because I’ll be out trying to get some Fresh. ~ CJ ~
Can eBay Help Your Game? Posted at August 9, 2007
I think eBay may be one of the coolest things on earth. I always feel like an idiot when I’ve been looking for something, can’t find it and forget to go look on eBay. I’m now adjusting my strategy. eBay is now my first choice. For example, this is the EXACT breathalyzer I purchased a few weeks ago. It keeps me from drinking too much (especially if I have to drive) AND it doubles as a great way to start hitting on a chica. You blow into it and if you are above .08 you can say, “Wow, I’m drunk! I’m officially no longer responsible for my actions!” NEW AL-2500 Alcoho Search
Need some New Rocks? Hmmm(this is too easy. How about a 1953 Mickey Mantle Topps Baseball Card in Vg-Ex condition(
See there? That’s awesome. What does this have to do with the Gaming. Well, shit. I’m sure I can come up with something here. Hmm(let’s see( Ok, I think I got it. You see, eBay is analogous to girls. And, your mind and your Game are like the search function. What you get is what you Game. If a girl (the result of an eBay Search) is a prude, it’s NOT the girl, it’s your Game (the search function.) See, Sinn and I have been running into weird girls lately. We discussed this in between bites of Bacon and Cheddar Fries. We think its because the new Sexual Framing tech is so out of what most guys do that they have no pre-programmed responses so they are being erratic, acting based off of their own ever-morphing emotions. In any case, eBay is awesome. ~ CJ ~ P.S. If you’re going to drink and Game, I can’t recommend the breathalyzer enough. First, it will stop you from drinking and driving. Second, it’s like a party in the palm of your hand (‘That’s what she said(’ credit Michael, Office). Third, you can use it as plausible deniability and hit on her mercilessly. Not a bad use of $30 at all.
The PUA Core Bookshelf Posted at August 11, 2007
In November 2005 I put this amazon Listmania! list together for the 400 or so PUAs on my personal email list( I’ve since updated it but here’s the email that I sent: I’ve put together a list of the core books I believe every PUA should have on their bookshelf. I own, have read, studied, pondered and pontificated about each book on this list. The ALL caused a profound shift in my attitude and thinking that carried over to the field. To view this CORE bookshelf hop on over to Amazon.com to my store( To see my comments on each book click The PUA’s Core Bookshelf Now, there is ONE book missing on my list (no, it’s not the Bible) but it is probably the MOST important book of all of them. It is called “Way of the Superior Man” by David Deida and it is a must have. I’m going to devote an entire email to it in the future. In fact, if I had to choose just two books for PUAdom I’d choose “Way of the Superior Man” by Deida and “Sperm Wars” by Baker. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Way of the Superior Man is now on the list. If you don’t buy anything else buy that one.
Who is Captain Jack? Posted at August 12, 2007
A few weird things have happened in the last few weeks. 1) I got an email from a confused blog owner asking me why I was posting pick-up challenges to him in the comments section of his blog. I assured him I wasn’t and it must be someone imitating me. 2) Then, I get a Comment on my own blog from someone claiming to be Captain Jack (granted I can’t be sure it was the same guy posting pick up challenges in #1) you can read our comment exchange here.
3) Then, a moderator of Mystery’s Forum emails me that someone is asking questions about two Captain Jacks (obviously referring to me and guy from #2). Here’s his post: There seems to be a Pickup 101 instructor who goes by this handle who is, apparently, Bulgarian-born and not completely fluent in English, (judging by a post of his on the Pickup 101 blog. ) I assume the TMM Captain Jack (whose posts are incredibly well-written) is a completely different person? 4) TokyoPUA from fastseduction (politely) emailed me about possible shills on their site promoting my peacocking book. I tell him it’s not me because I have no style and don’t really peacock. More on this: I wish I COULD peacock but as anyone who goes out with me can attest my idea of peacocking is two black wrist bands, jeans, a black t-shirt and MAYBE a black straw cowboy hat (if I’m feeling frisky). I’m the LAST person you’d want to take peacocking advice from. In my earlier FR/LR’s you may read something like “I was peacocking and(” now I know the atrocities of clothing I was wearing back then were NOT EVEN CLOSE to peacocking. (however I do believe a truly peacocked PUA has an advantage and loved both J-Dog and Mystery’s style on the VH1 show.) Also, since my blog readership has nearly doubled in the last couple months it’s probably time to let everyone know where they can get more info about me (besides the blog). I took my bootcamp in November 2004 from Mystery and Savoy in Las Vegas. My name has been Captain Jack since around that time and even a few months before that. You can read all about my Adventures by going tomy website and downloading my PDF archives. ~ The REAL Captain Jack ~
Captain Jack says: August 12, 2007 at 3:51 pm
I have no idea what they really did as I wasn’t there but I know of and have been to clubs that you could only enter after seeing a sign and getting verbally asked/warned before paying cover that you could be filmed and by entering you were giving consent. I’m willing to bet that’s how they did it. Plus, I’ve seen Mystery in person and those are the same class of responses he was getting. ~ CJ ~
Motivation Dissipation Posted at August 16, 2007
This sucks. Anyone who has read my pick-up archives knows I’ve struggled with severe Approach Anxiety most of my PUA life (strike that most of my LIFE). I’ve had month long stretches where I’ve had none. And, other months where it was so strong that going to open a set was like walking through a swamp off molasses while crows were trying to peck my heart and eyes out. Curiously many PUAs who start off without AA often get it after several months of gaming. We think this is because their social intuition has increased so they somehow get the understanding that a cold approach is out of the norm. When I’m on a bootcamp I can do it because there is a higher purpose, a reason. The reason is I WANT these new PUAs to see what is possible. I want them to SEE firsthand the shit that we write about is for real and (finally) within their grasp. That motivates me. I’m going to write out what my motivation for pick-up was during different periods of my gaming and then I’ll tell you about the recent developments in my AA. When I first stumbled onto the name Mystery on fastseduction.com I couldn’t find that much information about his system. His website was down and I suspect I found out about him was when he was in the mental hospital or somewhere about that time.
I finally managed to find a post where he deconstructed his system in fine detail but I misunderstood it. Here’s how I did my first 50 or more sets. Complete Story 1 Neg Complete Story 2 Neg Complete Story 3 Neg Isolation attempt Ok, the absolute newness of the idea that I could actually TALK to the girls at the bars managed to keep my AA at bay. The discovery that I could go up to a group at a bar with a Game Plan was even better than when I stumbled onto my daddy’s Playboy magazines at the tender age of 6 and saw a knockout beautiful woman completely nude thus discovering what a raging boner was( When I signed up for my first Mystery Method BootcampI set up a plan to do as many approaches BEFORE the bootcamp as I could. I remember my goal being 250 sets. I can’t remember how many I did but I know I did a lot. My approach anxiety seemed to ramp up with each new set. Then, at the bootcamp it manifested in all its glory. I was frozen. I looked at a super hot 3 set at Light in Vegas and fear seemed to replace the blood in my veins. Savoy must’ve noticed because he gave me a shocked look and said, “Go!” and then put two hands on my back and shoved me into the set. I was still stumbling when I got into their group. It went well enough. They didn’t pull out a knife or mace. None of them threw their drink on me. Didn’t get slapped. But, the logic and the mental knowledge didn’t keep the AA at bay. On the 8th set of the night I decided I was going to take this shit as far as I could, mainly because the thought of opening another set sent a shiver of dread throughout my body. I got laid. After the amazement that you could actually approach girls faded, my Second motivation was my new found freedom (got divorced). I felt like I had just won the lottery of vagina and all I had to do was go and get it. The idea of fresh, new hotness propeled me past my AA for nearly a year. I still had it but it was overcome by visions of hot women writhing in my bed. Asians, Latins, Black girls, Brunettes, Redheads, Blondes. I wanted one of each. I wanted tall, short, thick, model thin, exotic, girl next door. Gimme, Gimme, Gimme some Fresh!!! Then, my AA battled it out with a deeper issue of NOT being in the in-crowd in High School and feeling like I couldn’t match them socially. After I got really good my motivation took the form of “Not cool? Watch me bang all these girls! haaa!” Finally, I went on a stint of Mastery. I figured I am going to want to fuck for the rest of my life. I gotta get good at this and it is really fun! My AA has been back in full force in the last 2 months. Strange because I had 7 new lays in July and 6 of those were cold-approach Same Night Lays. Does that sound like the results of someone who has extreme AA? Well, yes, but only if the following is true. 1. He has near-ESP like calibration skills. I used my elite understanding of groups, bodylanguage and social situations to understand the BEST sets to approach and the best point to approach them. I stacked the deck in my favor by picking my spots. It’s paid off well as you can see. 2. He has a good Wing (Sinn) 3. He has ninja mind control when he gets in isolation (haaa). If I get a girl one-on-one (especially if I opened the set) she is going to want to make the double-backed beast with me. I can’t remember the last girl I got into full isolation with that I didn’t lay. (Strike that, yes I do. But, she turned out to be legitimately psycho and she still calls and texts me.) If I opened 6 sets per night I could most likely turn in consistent 12-15 lay months. So, my AA sucks ass. What to do? Well, I could say fuck it and be in pain everytime I go out. Not my thing. I’ve done that for the last year or so and I hate it. I can’t imagine doing this with this level of AA for another few years. Or, I could get help. I wrote a post not to long ago about “God Helps Those Who(” and another post called “The Tools-Skills Mindset.”
With those two things in mind I signed up with sessions with a therapist who specializes in cutting edge methods. The first session was mind-blowing. We identified something that happened back in High School were a hot chick in the in-crowd rejected me. I had no idea how much or how far reaching the impact of that 5-10 minute slice of my life had on me but as the tapestry of this event began to unravel and we followed the threads, I discovered I had actually made SEVERAL decisions only after wondering what she would want me to do. Now, I’ve had NO contact with her other than being in the same class but “her” effect lingered and affected other aspects of my life. How WEIRD is that!!! So, we took care of that shit and BAM! no more approach anxiety. Only, there’s a small problem. The way I used to motivate myself in field was through this dynamic tension technique of having my AA battle it out with my desire to approach. They’d fight it out and one of two things would happen: 1. At some point I’d snap and say “fuck this!” and I’d open. 2. At some point I’d snap and say “fuck this!” and get stupid drunk. Now, that those aren’t there to battle it out I feel like a ghost inside the club. I have no pain to motivate me but there’s also no pleasure. So I stand there. Emotionless. About the only way to explain it is when you have a cold and you take Nyquil and you just kind of sit there like a zombie. Weird thing is I’ve been getting a LOT of AI’s. More than I’ve ever gotten before. When the “prove yourself” and “get back at your past” and “want to be recognized as a great pua” and all those other motivations are dissipated, why do I want to do this? I’m seeing the therapist again next Monday. So, between now and then I’ve gotta figure out. How can I build a HEALTHY motivation that propels me to approach? ~ CJ ~ Captain Jack says: August 17, 2007 at 1:18 pm
NextLevelUp, Yeah, I used EFT to get my AA to a level where I could actually just ignore it. It worked really well. The guy I’m seeing knows EFT, TFT, Applied Kinesiology and he’s the creator of REMAP. I decided to go see someone because it seemed to me like I wasn’t able to ferret out the deeper shit on my own. So I needed someone to guide me into probing things. ~ CJ ~ Reply
Lay Report: Sudoku Posted at August 17, 2007
So I’m laying in this girls bed enjoying a refreshing Diet Mr. Pibb. Still breathing hard from bringing it. She’s sitting on the floor on the OTHER side of the bed looking at me like I’m a big Sudoku and she can’t figure that shit out. CJ: “I’ve never had a Diet Mr. Pibb before. Tastes pretty good. Diet RC Cola is pretty good but for me it’s a toss up between Diet Coke and Diet Dr. Pepper. Just depends on my mood really.” HB: * Still looking at me like I’m a giant Sudoku Puzzle * CJ: “Why are you on the floor? Come sit here.” ** I was considering a round 2 having been refreshed by the Diet Mr. Pibb ** HB: “You don’t even know me!” CJ: “Haaaaa haaaa haaaa” *** The Pick Up ***
Future, Sinn and I are at a Ginormous cowboy bar. I haven’t opened shit and it’s about 1:30 am. I see a brunette with awesome dark brown eyes, nice lips, dimples and long brown hair walking past me. I make strong eye contact, she slows down, I slow down, we start turning towards each other. I put out my hand. CJ: Who are you? HBSudoku: HBSudoku CJ: And you’re special because? HBSudoku: “Excuse me? I’m not sure I like that(” I don’t remember exactly what I said after that but I remember guiding her over to a table. Sinn came and winged the cute blonde. She couldn’t get over the “you’re special because line.” I remember framing it with something along these lines( CJ: “I’m a busy man so I like to find out really quickly if someone is worth my time. You’re good looking but so are a lot of people.” She mentioned that she graduated with honors (summa cum laude) and she’s extremely smart. I run rings on fingers. Strawberry fields. She keeps going back to my Challenge Opener. HBSudoku: “I don’t know if I like that!” It’s closing time so I number close her. It looks like it’s on with Sinn and the blonde friend. My intuition tells me we can pull but verbally she and I are still sparring. Sinn and I debrief each other. He also felt we could’ve pulled. We formulate a plan for next time. I believe it was something like we each make sure the OTHER girl knows we like her friend. Girls DO NOT want to be in the awkward position of her girl fucking some dude while she is alone with another dude who she doesn’t know if he likes her enough to fuck (i.e. they’d rather both get laid then just one.) Letting them know explicitly helps diffuse that possibility. *** The Day2 *** She is REALLY nervous. She is breaking eye contact. She is wringing her hands. I start in with the Sexual Framing but it doesn’t seem to have an effect. I ditch it and go more into Comfort. She time constrains the date because she has an interview in the morning(aaaah! I forgot my new policy which is to set up all Day2′s with a built-in Time Constraint. Plus, she’ll only have ONE drink. I tell her that won’t work because I’m trying to get her drunk so I can take advantage of her. She laughs and looks away. Up to this point she has been sitting across from me across the table. There has been NO kino besides a small hug when she first arrived. I pull her to the other side. I walk her out to her car at about 10:00. I force kino by giving her a hug and then lifting her up and twirling her around. It spikes her BT but I don’t attempt the kiss because it would seem awkward at this time. She drives off and I go back inside to game a bit more. *** Day3 *** I’m at the bookstore writing when she sends me a text: “I’m going to ginormous cowboy bar tonight celebrating my new job. You should come!” at 5:31. After finishing up my writing I hit TGI Fridays at about 10:00. I’m debating if I’m going to go out tonight. It’s Thursday so the closest place to me will be dead. I could get some shit done at home(but I want to go out. It’s such a habit now that I get antsy when I don’t go out. About 10:15 I send this text: CJ: “Are you drunk yet?” HB: “Wouldn’t you like to know haa so are you going to come?” CJ: “say please” 10:55 HB: “I don’t say please” I’m still debating at this point. I don’t feel like going there to have to entertain a group of drunk people. But, I also don’t want to miss an opportunity to close her. I watch one of the most motivation videos of all time (and NO it’s NOT “The Secret”) it’s “Playing With Ms. Geyser” from teamsquirt.com – My sexual energy is high. 11:14 HB: “But you should come”
Her persistence is starting to make me think I should go. Plus I’m horny as hell from the squirting video. I get in the shower thinking I’ll see how I feel after I get dressed. I could hit the local x-bar or roll out there. 11:32 HB: “Are you coming?” I’m convinced now. She wants it so I’ll go. About 11:45 she calls me and I answer. I tell her I’ll be there soon. I get there and she is DRUNK. She tells me 4 times in a row that she got the new job and feels bad about quiting the other one after only 3 days on the job. Her cute blonde friend is making me crack up because she keeps throwing up Hook ‘em horns signs and yelling “woooooo.” She is complaining that no one is hitting on her and asks me why. I tell her that most men are wusses and she agrees. HBSudoku breaks in the convo and asks me why I take 6 hours to respond to her texts. I tell her I was writing. She says, “I’m not sure about you!” Then, I tell her that there are 3 levels. Someone who is at the first level only gets texts returned within 4-6 hours. People at the second level get a text returned within 3 hours. People at the top level get returns in 1 hour. She gives me a dirty look and I laugh. She is being real stand offish. At one point she looks at me and says, “We don’t even know each other. I know nothing about you. What’s your last name? You don’t even know my last name do you?” She makes me put her last name in my phone and I text mine to her. She says, “That way the cops will know who you are.” CJ: “haaa haaa that’s the weirdest thing I’ve ever heard.” *** backturn *** She leans over and tries to re-engage. THe drunk blonde says she wants to dance but no one is asking her to dance. I tell her to make better eye contact and smile at the guys who pass by. HBSudoku is looking at me like she’s skeptical. Here’s the only way I can describe the look. Have you ever met someone’s 3 year old and they look at you like “Who the fuck are you? And why are you talking to my daddy/mommy?” We go to get another drink and sit at another table. A dude they have seen here a few times comes over and talks to the blonde. He takes her to dance. She likes him but HBSudoku keeps girl-coding her friend that she doesn’t approve. I keep trying to distract HBSudoku to stop because it’s obvious drunk blonde is cool with it. I’m getting shit tested hardcore. I’m thinking I need more comfort. CJ: “Hey, let’s play the question game, here are the rules(” HBSudoku: “I don’t like games!” CJ: “Hey, let’s do the question activity(” HBSudoku: “Why does it take you 6 hours to text me back.” And, that’s the basic texture of the next 20 minutes. BUT, I’m not terribly worried because nearly everytime this has happened I’ve gotten laid. HBSudoku: “I thought I’d know about you by now but I don’t. I’m not sure about you.” CJ: “What do you want to know?” HB: “Tell me something true.” CJ: “uhhhhh(it takes 3 licks to get to the center of a tootsie roll pop.” HB: *** dirty look *** CJ: “What do you want to know? I have an older sister.” HB: “I already know that.” I keep pushing the kino by leaning in direct to her ear to say stuff. I put both hands on her thighs. I touch the back of her head and gently tug her hair. HBSudoku: “I don’t like playing games I just wanna know what’s going on!” Aha! I got it! She needs a strong IOI. I lean over real close and into her ear( CJ: “I think you’re fucking sexy. You have awesome eyes. I love your hair. Your lips are amazing. I could be a million other places but I came here alone to see you.” This softened her considerably. We talked another 3-4 minutes and then drunk blonde her guy came back. We talked as a group for another 3-4 minutes. They went back to dance.
CJ: “Stand up.” HB: “no.” CJ: “Stand up.” She stands up and I kiss her. We make out for about 2 minutes straight then I push her away. She’s real quiet now. About closing time she looks at me and says, “Do you want to come over?” CJ: “Of course.” At her place the escalation was quick. She went and got me the Diet Mr. Pibb and then sat down on the bed. I grabbed her arm and started escalating. No LMR. Bad thing is she wanted the lights totally off. I hate that. I wanna see titties bouncing, etc. Here’s another thing. Missionary only. I tried like a mofo to do her from behind so I could tax the J. Lo Booty but she said, “That’s gross!” What? Doggy style is gross? Are you fucking retarded? Doggystyle Rules! Whatever. ~ Captain Jack ~
The Heat is On! Posted at August 19, 2007
Sinn has 3 new lays(I believe 2 out of 3 were SNL’s. Future has 3 new lays( El Topo has 2 new lays (that I know of)( And, I’m at 3 new lays with only 1 of them being an SNL – despite being in my ultra-strange funk. Who will take this month’s title? ~ Captain Jack ~
Pure Gangsterism Posted at August 21, 2007
Since I’m in a bit of a funk and weird shit is happening game-wise I’ll link to two recent LR’s( Future just posted an awesome LR on his blog. Go check it out: A book with an ending (LR). And, Sinn just posted one titled, “Fear the Stache.” Both exhibit the Pure Gangsterism of the new style. ~ CJ ~
Fireside with Fidelio: Porn Chicken Posted at August 23, 2007
Porn Chicken by Fidelio. Need I say more? Fireside with Fidelio: Porn Chicken
Attack of the Mexican-American Gorrilla Posted at August 23, 2007
I’m sitting at McDonald’s a mere 5 miles from the Rio Grande. Tejano music is blaring at me from the ceiling. Apparently Texans this far down south don’t believe in Starbucks otherwise I’d be there sipping some awesome Coffee and using the internet there. My dad is getting dental surgery done and being the ninja bargain shopper he is he hopped on the internet and discovered that there are a shitload of US trained mexican doctors who will give you a smile like Brad Pitt for about 1/3 the cost. He calls me late Tuesday night and tells me he’s rolling to Mexico and am I “in?” He wants to roll out the next day in the afternoon for the 10 hour trek through the plains, then the hill country and then the desert until we collapse at the Super 8 where we’ll wake up to a “Continental Breakfast” (aka a banana, cereal, yogurt and burnt coffee). I’m in. The next morning I wake up, throw my shit in a duffle bag, grab my iPod shuffle and an armload of books and meet him in the Avalon. We roll out like two pirates on a mission. This morning after the sumptuous continental banana we drive to the border park, pay our 25 cents and cross the border. It’s awesome! There are about 50 dental clinics with signs like you’d see at wal-mart! “Crown and Bridge Special $15 dollars today only!” (or something like that() I’ve got a little money in my account and I’m imagining what I’d look like with a mug full of Brad Pitt teeth. Or, I imagine (with my luck) I’d end up more like Matt Dillon’s character in “There’s Something About Mary” a mouth full of overly large capped teeth.
I decide against impulse dentistry and start the short walk back through the border crossing. And, then, I hit a slight snag. The turnstile requires $3.00, problem is I don’t carry cash. There’s a reason for this. I’ll start the morning at 9am with $60 (really it can be any amount but) and by 3pm that afternoon my pockets will be empty besides some assorted change. Then, I’ll have to stop and think “where the fuck did all my cash go?” I’ll stand there a good 5 or so minutes retracing steps, doing quick mental calculations and still have no idea wtf happened. (I was wondering why Enron was so friggin’ interested in me() I shove my hand into my pockets and dig up all my change. $2.63. Fuck! I go back to Rio Dental Care. My dad is sprawled out in the dental chair with a blinding light shining down on him. CJ: “Yo, I need $3 for the border.” Daddy: “agga la rosh ah ma” CJ: “????” He points to his front pocket. Why he couldn’t go the extra 6 inches and pull the twenty out of his front pocket I’ll never know. I grab the $20 and head back to the border.
I go to the little change booth and hand the guy a $20.00. He looks at me like “what’s this for?” But, he doesn’t say that(he says something in Espanyol. I stare back. Blank. He says something else. I grunt and make hand motions. He makes bigger hand motions and talks louder. We establish that yes I am, in fact, a 32 year old man who left his native homeland, walked across a border patrol checkpoint to another country and walked back without bringing the correct change for the trip. Neither of us said that, but our knowing glances said as much. He leaves with my $20. I look back at the turnstile and it says, “$3.00 in pesos or 30ct. Shit. I feel stupid now. He couldn’t believe I didn’t have 30 cents. He comes back with $19 in ones and 10 dimes. He puts the dimes in my hand and says, “Three” and makes exaggerated hand motions at the turnstile. I smile and nod, knowingly, because I had already figured that shit out all by myself while he was breaking the $20 which I didn’t need broken. I stick my iPod earbuds in and turn on my trusty shuffle walking back to the parking lot on the U.S. side. I walk by this imposing building and I’m already considering what I’m going to do with the rest of the day. Maybe I’ll find a Starbucks and have a nice cup of steaming hot coffee of the day while I write. Maybe I’ll pop into a movie theater and see a nice matinee. When I hear such a clatter I’m forced to take the ipod earbuds out of my ears. I look to the building to my right and there’s a 6′ 3″ Mexican-American hopping around like an enraged Gorilla while banging on the window inside the building next to me. And, he has a gun. And a badge. I’m thinking. What the fuck did I do now? And, then, oh shit my Dad violated some mexican custom that nobody ever told us white folks about and he’s being hauled off for questioning by the Mexican secret service. He points (emphatically) to the front door of the building I passed while rapping along with Lil Flip. I get to the front door and there’s a “Department of Homeland Security” symbol emblazoned on the front door. The Gorrilla has calmed down. Gorrilla: “You asleep this morning?” CJ: “Umm(never been here before.” Gorilla: “What did you buy in Mexico.” The adrenaline is still coursing through my veins. Shit, I’m a drug suspect. Some other white dude with purple highlights in a black t-shirt with an iPod shuffle just fucking bought some heroin from an undercover agent and I’m about to get sent to federal pound-me-in-the-ass prison while he gets off free and gets to bang all the meth whores he wants. CJ: “What? Uh, nothing, sir.” Gorilla: “What were you doing in Mexico this early in the morning.” A few more questions and then he lets me through. I hop in the Avalon and roll back towards Highway 83. A free man (for now). ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Viva La Mexico.
Weirdness Posted at August 24, 2007
Ok, some weird things have been happening over the last week. Specifically since last Sunday night. I start off at the x-bar close to my house for Karaoke night. I’m alone. When I first get there no one I know is there. I feel really calm and serene. I’m having a beer every now and then just laughing at the silly people singing. I look back and this HOT girl with two Affliction Dudes is burning holes into me with her gaze. She smiles. I smile and turn back around. Happens every now and then, not a big deal. A few minutes later, a hot girl on the other side of the room is staring at me. When I look at her she leans over while still looking at me and whispers into her friends ear. She looks over, too.
Now, they are both staring. They both smile. I smile and then look away. Waitress who is serving me is awfully close to me. She’s a new one. Great body. Face is good enough. Each time I order she lingers a little longer than a Waitress normally would, standing a lot closer than a waitress should. Waitress I got LMR from over a year ago does her obligatory smile and chat with me. I smile and do nothing but answer her small talk questions. She holds my gaze as she walks off. Her head turned fully around to look as long as she could. (This is normal, happens every time I go and she’s there.) Girl with two Affliction shirt dudes walks with them to the back pool table stealing backward glances all the way. By this time, I notice 4 girls who I’ve had sex with in the past are there. They are all now atrocities. Something about sex with me causes women to gain 10-15 lbs. (Alright, 2 of them were barely passable to begin with but I was practicing, and besides, Sinn forced me to nail the old lady.) It’s about 11:15 and I’m thinking this is kind of strange. I want to go to one of the places Sinn and I hate. It doesn’t get rolling till about midnight so I’ll make it just in time. I get there and the ever-growing weirdness continues. I’m noticing lots of things I’ve never noticed before. I feel disconnected, like I’m there but outside of it all. It’s almost like there’s a hurricane going on around me and I’m in the center, the eye of the storm, all calm and shit like a Buddhist monk. I’m standing at the edge of one of the table tops. When I notice an extremely hot blonde. The hottest girl in there without a doubt. I literally wouldn’t have changed one thing about her. She looks at me, comes over with her other hot friend following, sets her drink down right in front of me, looks up at me and says, “Hi, how are you?” CJ: “Good, how are you?” Hotness: “I’m good.” CJ: “Cool.” And I say nothing else. I look over the top of her head surveying the surroundings. She stands there another 2 minutes, periodically looking at me. Almost begging me to re-engage. About 20 minutes later I’m at the other table and she comes over AGAIN. Sets her drink down and looks at me several times. I do nothing. There are two SUPER HOT Spanish twins. EVERY guy is fawning over them. They’re the hot shit and they know it. I’m still watching the madness around me. I smell, see and feel the neediness of the guys all around me. I also notice that the girls, even the ones who are accepting the kino, dancing and talking to the guys are in the midst of an internal battle. They WANT to have sex, but on the other hand, these guys are so needy that they are also turned off. The battle rages inside them. The fact that guys get laid at all is a testimony to the power of the female sex drive. I actually felt sorry for the girls. I’m posted against a column. One of the spanish twins grabs my hand, slides across me, rubbing her ass on my crotch, grabs my other hand and pushes her ass into my crotch. About this time a chode walks up and leans in and says, “Are you a twin?” she leans back into me with her whole body, makes a bad face and points to me as if to say, “I’m with him.” He slinks away, she looks back at me smiles and saunters away. I can’t believe it. This is weirdness. I go outside to see what is going on out there. Not much. On my way back another hot latina grabs my hand and says, “Hi, are you Dusty?” CJ: “No.” *smiling* Hottie: “Oh, sorry.” and then she turns full towards me, standing about 6 inches from me. She gave me AI’s all night. CJ: “That’s ok.” and I smile as I walk off. Two super hot blondes, tall with slender bodies with those tight fitting full body skirts that hug there bodies stand next to me, periodically glancing up, waiting for me to open. Weirdness( Tuesday, another venue I hate.
More of the same. I get opened three times. I do better managing to engage in a minute of convo before I stop talking and walk off. I literally get eye-fucked about 10 times. This is on a higher level than AIs. This is girls burning holes through me. Weirdness. But I like it. ~ Captain Jack ~
Captain Jack says: August 24, 2007 at 12:05 pm
Sunday night I was entirely by myself. Tuesday night I started by myself but Shaft ended up coming later and I ran into Vector and his friend, too. Sunday night I had jeans, a black button down shirt with silver stripes and Tuesday night I had a white button down, the type you’d wear with a tie. Dressed pretty normal. No peacocking at all. Like I said, it’s strange. Captain Jack says: August 25, 2007 at 4:13 pm
The AIs, random openings and proximity alerts continue( (bookstore( (gas station( (stop lights( (grocery store( (apt. mailbox( Weirdness. Unexplainable. ~ CJ ~
Sudoku, Thoughts and Stuff Posted at August 26, 2007
It’s 2:28 am. I’m laying in my bed getting ready to read. My daughters are crashed out in the living room having fallen asleep in the middle of “The Santa Clause.” (They literally watch it every time they come over at least once, maybe twice.) A day at the bookstore, chuck e. cheese’s and the playground can really take it out of a kid. I hopped on the i-net to check some email and see if anyone updated their blogs (in the last 67 minutes I’ve been off the i-net.) My phone is blowing up. The girl from LR: Sudoku has called 5 times since 2:10 a.m.! Earlier today I received an email from an ex who wants me to come to her city to see her. What’s weird about that is someone who heard about my marketing prowess contacted me just a few days ago offering to pay me a rather large hourly fee to spend lunch and a half day talking advertising – in the same city. Then, another SUPER HOT girl contacted me off of an old internet dating profile. She sends me a nice email saying that she doesn’t normally email guys but found my profile so interesting she had to respond and asked me to look at her profile and message her back if I was interested in meeting. And, guess where she is? Yep. Same city. All within about 7-10 days of each other.
What are the fucking chances? My first reaction is(setup! But, after my paranoia subsided a little bit I couldn’t for the life of me find out how in the hell they could know each other or what other possible threads connecting these situations there could possibly be( My phone is buzzing now(it’s Sudoku girl again. Damn. She’s not leaving voicemails. Thought it might’ve been Sinn texting me something like, “That’s #4 fag!” Sudoku = Stage 5 Clinger. Banker to the Poor I just finished watching an A&E documentary about J. Pierpont Morgan and I’m about to start reading “Banker to the Poor” by Muhammad Yunus. The story in a nutshell is this guy gives “microloans” to the poor and guides them in basic business/financial knowledge thereby helping them lift THEMSELVES out of poverty. It’s been a tremendous success and he won the Nobel Peace Prize. Now, most people who claim to be friends of the poor are usually (for lack of a better word) retarded. Instead of helping them, they treat them like permanently wounded animals offering them food and shelter instead of offering them the means to help themselves. That style of help actually KEEPS them in poverty for life and makes them dependent on financial support from others forever. A great book so far. I’m on page 45 so I got a ways to go but I’m liking this guys thinking patterns so far(worth a look for those of you interested in Economics and helping people out. From the back cover:
He aimed to help the poor by supporting the spark of personal initiative and enterprise by which they could lift themselves out of poverty forever. One of the Warrior-King Society members sent me an article for next month’s newsletter about a tactic he uses to simplify his life so he can focus on the good stuff. It’s a great article and I’m hoping as time goes on more and more WK’s will contribute in this manner. Captain Jack Really Is Human Dept. Members of the WKS know I’m quite human as they watched my latest business launch go embarrassingly awry. About $1,000 down the drain and a couple weeks worth of work returned a giant 0. Oh well. Shit happens. That’s the thing with business launches. Most of them fail, but when you hit one it is MAMMOTH. So, I’m back to the drawing board on that front. I’ve also had to confront some of my own issues in regard to how I view myself in relation to wealth, etc. See, when it comes to making someone else rich, I’m pretty good. This realization come to full fruition when a WKS member (not sure he wants to be named so leaving his name out) sent me this eye-opening email( Can I give you my opinion of what I can see at least from the website marketing for “The Big Cash Letter”? I’m sure it is an incredible product you are offering but that is because I know of your high quality blog posts [you quite possibly have the absolute best PUA blog out there....no flattery intended], your reputation within TMM [heard great things about your training from people who've had bootcamps with you, big names there obviously vouch for you, etc.], and also I really like the direction you are taking the W-K society and the ideals you are after–as I’m after the exact same things. If we were to brush all that aside and assume the average person this letter was direct mailed to, which I believe is the marketing method you chose, knew none of this about you= Well, I’m not sure if I would buy the product because your credibility is strong from sources that you can’t really decipher from the website. Was your mailer the same as the website? If so, it is a bit incomplete. You may need to really create a story that compels people to buy that would assume they didn’t know of your other high quality endeavors. If these
problems were taken care of in the mailer, please disregard my comments
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To which I replied:
Yes, I agree. In fact, what I noticed is that I treated this on a subpar level compared to what I’d allow to go out for a client of mine. In fact, this is a pattern in my life. When it is for someone else I turn in high quality work but if it’s for myself I leave out important pieces of the puzzle. The list selection alone should’ve set off alarm bells but I simply ignored them. I would’ve NEVER allowed a client of mine to use such a shoddy list, not build proper credibility, not test two headlines against each other, not have a phone order option, etc. Thanks for the feedback. This is one of those strange/fascinating/exciting times where everything seems to be blowing up around me but what’s really happening is the realizations and learnings are coming hard and fast and I know they are preceding a huge leap. I noticed a GREAT DEAL of how I’ve structured my life has been to avoid confronting my own personal inadequacy fears. These fears exist ONLY in certain areas. The overall belief is that I’m just as good as anyone else, just as valuable, just as capable. But, in specific instances and areas this belief breaks down and gives in to self-doubt and fear. I’m in the process of identifying those specific areas and rooting them out. And, it is working well. It’s now 3:15 am. Time for me to read for a bit and then catch some sleep. Kids have a silly habit of waking up about 20 minutes after the crack of dawn. ~ Captain Jack ~
Captain Jack says: August 26, 2007 at 11:56 am
That’s awesome! I’ll probably do a separate post about this one. Cool idea. The Grameeen Bank (Yunus’ bank) has a 1% default rate, which is AMAZING it is so low given the situation. He uses a mixture of education and social support groups to increase the likelihood of them repay. This is fascinating stuff. I’m going to have to increase my giving. I give monthly to St. Jude’s Children Hospital but I want to add something like Grameen or Kiva to my list. If I cut my drinking down by another half that would free up the cash easily. ~ CJ ~
Kiss Tests Posted at August 26, 2007
So, you’re talking to this woman in a bar or club environment. Things are going well. You are past qualification and having a real conversation. You think, “Maybe I should kiss her(” How do you know she is “ready” to be kissed?
P.S. If you are new to the Pick-up Arts see my blog designed just for you…‘How to Get More Dates Quickly and Easily!’ And, the very question itself shows the difference in how men view kissing versus how women view kissing. For women in the very early stages of talking to a man, the first kiss or two is more of an exploratory experience. It is NOT a sexual act for them. It is more of a way to discover more about the man and their feelings for them.
If you’ve experimented with club makeouts before you may have noticed something curious. You make out with a girl, you think its on. You get her number and begin fantasizing about how amazing it’s going to be on the Day2. You’re thinking you’ll probably full close her. I mean, why not? You two were just kissing in public. You call, no answer, no return call. Nothing. Or, how about this one. You make out with a girl. It seems pretty on. A half hour later while you’re in another set you look over and she’s making out with another dude. You’re thinking WTF? In those early stages men put more sexual meaning in the kiss whereas for women it’s more about curiosity and exploration of their feelings in relation to the man. (This is NOT to say that a kiss won’t turn her on. She WILL start to get turned on by kissing.) An intermediate PUA running Flash Game could easily get 4-6 makeouts in a night – and have little to show for it at the end of the night. Kiss Tests How do you know when a woman is ready to be kissed? Simple. If she’s talking to you for more than 20-30 minutes, it’s going well and she is smiling and looking at you, then she wants to be kissed. It really IS that simple. I’ll detail here a few kiss tests I’ve used in the past and then tell you what I do now. Mystery’s Kiss Close This was my bread and butter for a long time. I used it as the 4th or 5th question of the Question Game if her questions were sexual. PUA: “You want to kiss me, don’t you?” (I say ‘don’t you’ with Command tonality, not question tonality) IF HB: “Yes” THEN *Kiss* IF HB: “No.” THEN PUA: “I didn’t say you could, you just looked like you had something on your mind.” IF HB: “Maybe” or “Not Now/Here” THEN PUA: “Ok.” I like this for a couple of reasons: 1. It is simple. 2. It allows you to add to your Calibration Reference Points 3. For the “maybe” or “not now/here” answers it builds anticipation 4. It subtly implies she wants the kiss more/before you did. I DO NOT like it because it uses ego protection. There’s nothing like a lean away to burn the kissing calibration into your bones. It can kill sexual tension and for less grounded PUAs a “no” can derail them. Style’s Evolution Phase Shift Not going to list it here as it is rather long and involved. It does work. I’ve seen many a PUA use it with success. Great for Flash Game if you need to make an adjacent Target EXTREMELY jealous. Pros: Interesting. Intriguing. Uses built-in physiological attraction mechanisms (hair pull). Cons: Can’t think of any( Kino Test First When I used to be a Wuss I devised this plan for kissing on the Day2 or on the Same Night in deep comfort. I’d lean in real close to her, if she didn’t move, looked me deep in my eyes and opened her mouth a little I’d kiss her (maybe, depending on my boldness at that point.) If she leaned away even a little, I’d reach for her earring or necklace and give her a compliment on it. Pros: Simple. Builds calibration. Builds anticipation. Cons: Still protecting the ego. Missed opportunities because she could lean away out of nervousness or tension. Stoplight Kiss If I’m in a girls car after pulling then I could’ve kissed her LONG ago. I DO NOT want to have NOT kissed her by the time I get to the sex location so when we hit a stop light I simply look over at her and say, “Oh look a stoplight! You know what that means!” and pull her over and start making out. Never failed but then again it should work because we’re already on our way to sex location. What I do nowD Now that I use sexual framing it is actually advantageous for me NOT to kiss her until the car ride home. It builds
anticipation and sexual tension to talk dirty, fill her mind with dirtiness and let it build. I WILL tease by getting real close to her like I’m about to kiss her and then not do it. I’ll also talk in her ear a lot for the closeness and heat in her ear. Which brings me to another point. If you are talking in her ear and she presses her cheek to yours, she wants to be kissed. Debriefing If it’s your goal to get really good at this you need to be debriefing the women you have sex with. “When did you know you wanted to kiss me?” Or, “When could I have first kissed you?” You’ll be surprised at the answers. There is another benefit to kissing in the club that I haven’t yet mentioned. It shows you have balls and you’re comfortable with the male/female dynamic. But, so does telling you if she doesn’t stop you’re going to put her on the table and take care of business. I like the dirty talking. It seems to work better than kissing. ~ Captain Jack ~
Zen Posted at August 27, 2007
I feel so Zen in the field now. It is really interesting and intriguing to me. I have no idea where this whole experiment is headed but I like the feeling so far and am enjoying the weirdness that abounds. I did a mental calculation and figured out that in the last 10 days or so I’ve been opened 7 or 8 times. But, couldn’t take it anywhere due to my Zen Ninja Calmness being so detached that I just don’t even game. Last night the venue seemed to have a 9-to-1 ration. That venue is hit or miss. I did get a few strong proximity AIs, one of them being from the Spanish Twins, one of whom shoved her hot ass into my crotch, held both of my hands and grinded on me last time. About 1:30 am, while the Spanish twins are crowding me I look over and see a really cute long haired latina staring at me. When she realizes I’m looking at her she smiles and I smile back. A few minutes later it’s time for another martini and I walk to the bar. She immediately comes and stands next to me and looks up at me. HB: “Hi!” CJ: “Hi, how’s it going?” HB: “Good.” CJ: “Cool(” * Dude, try to keep this one going unlike the last 9 times you’ve been opened( * CJ: “You look like you’re having fun. What do you do?” HB: “blah, blah, blah” CJ: “Awesome, where you from?” HB: * Some town close to Oklahoma I’ve never heard of(which means she’s about 1hr 20 minutes north of me.* CJ: “Nice.” * She is leaning into me, whispering this stuff into my ear with her hand on the back of my head. I feel the heat of her nice big breasts on my arm. * She returns the questions, I answer. I do a week attempt to blow the guy she was with out but my Zen DeAttachment causes me not to finish the routine. HB: “Give me your number!” She calls it and then chats with me, intros me to her hot friend and then goes back to her group. Later, outside she comes up and says hi and high fives me and walks off looking back at me a couple of times. She was with 2 guys and her hot friend. Not sure how they know each other. While she was leaving I was already thinking how I could’ve done things differently. I sincerely think this would’ve been an SNL had I snapped into my Game Plan but I didn’t. We texted back and forth a few times at the end of the night and even today. Probably not going to go anywhere as I’m not driving 90 minutes to see a girl. I text her this:
“Cool. When you come back down text me and we’ll talk about maybe getting together.” HB: “Hey babe! Sounds like a plan! So, that’s that(
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My Dad told me this joke on the long drive to the border( Hey, by the way, did you hear about the Buddhist Vaccum Cleaner? Punchline in( 1 2 3 “It comes with no attachments.” ~ Captain Jack ~
The Magnification Principle Posted at August 29, 2007
I’ve said for a LONG time that “Reactionism is the number one enemy of all PUAs.” My first rule of Pick-up is IGNORE anything that doesn’t serve you. Sinn and I don’t do that many Day2′s anymore because we have high SNL ratios. We were talking about flaking earlier today and how we have no emotional reaction to it anymore. One of the main reasons is because it feels like we have just as good a possibility getting laid by going out as we do on a Day2. I remember the old style of PU said that you should berate a girl for flaking on you. You should tell her that you are an important person and she can’t treat you like that and you don’t accept people like that in your life. I disagree wholeheartedly. If she flakes act like nothing happened at all. If she asks, you had a blast (and it should NOT be a lie(you need to have so many options that you have a blast no matter what happens). If she reaches out again, set something up again. Or, just tell her to come over and bring some beer/wine/snacks/a-movie. (That’s even better() Why? Because what you give attention to (either positive or negative) gets magnified. There’s a metaphysical belief that says: “Energy flows where attention goes.” Put your words/attention on her bad behavior and you give it energy. My #1 rule says to IGNORE stuff that doesn’t serve you and MAGNIFY what advances the seduction. When she does something good for you or something you appreciate, praise it. I often praise a woman for her sexual freedom and appetite. This magnifies it. I’m calling it The Magnification Principle and it’s a core principle of Zen Ninja seduction. ~ CJ ~
How My Ideal Pick-up Would Look Posted at August 30, 2007
Sinn, Shaft and I were burning time at the mall before going to see “Superbad” when I launched into a description of my perfect pick-up. Hopefully Sinn will post his, too. I stroll into the bar about 12:30, dressed nice but not too nice cause I ain’t trying to impress anybody. After about two minutes of me sitting down enjoying the chaos of neediness around me a Super Hot Jessica Alba look-alike comes over to me. HB: “I noticed you saunter in and I’m savvy to your style.” CJ: “Thanks babe. Get me a drink and we’ll rap for a spell.”
HB: “I would love to baby(I’m guessing you’re a Martini Man.” CJ: “That I am(vodka martini, extra dirty, two olives.” She returns with my martini( We rap for a spell. HB: “What are you doing after this?” CJ: “You obviously have something in mind.” HB: “It involves us naked with baby oil and lesbian porn on my 50-inch flat screen tv.” CJ: “Cool.” HB: “Shall we go then?” CJ: “But of course(” ~ Captain Jack ~
Same Night Lays and Evaporating Clouds Posted at September 1, 2007
After I created Sticking Point Analysis my Game really took off. I’d discover and bust Sticking Points with such speed and ease that I’d be forced to revamp (mainly streamline) my Game about every 3-4 months. The end result was the Same Night Lay technology that makes Day2s almost unnecessary. And, even when you need to resort to a Day2 its pretty much a slam dunk lay. One thing I HAVE NOT mentioned is the other tool that allowed me to create SNL technology (or as Ali G would say, “Tecmology”) That is the tool of Presuposition Busting, extremely similar (and inspired by) Goldratt’s Evaporating Clouds technique. When I was first learning the MM model the idea that getting girls to go home with you the same night was considered rare and “fools mate” or not “tight game.” The quickest way to create a fantastic model is to start with your goal and then list what you believe the constraints are( Then, you systematically examine the presuppositions by asking “Why?” or “What makes me think that?” In this way, you are challenging the very foundations of the system. The presupps (and the tactics/methodology that implement them) CREATE the characteristics of the system, positive and negative. When brought to light you may discover that you actually don’t believe the presup at all, it exists because of society programming or whatever. People get stuck in a rut when they use experience to “prove” something is the way it is while not realizing that their very experience was the effect of the presuppositions. (i.e. The presupps become self-fulfilling prophecies in your experience.) As an example, Mystery’s 7 Hour Rule. What most people don’t realize is that (very) long time frame was arrived at anecdotally. He asked the other PUAs what their meet-to-lay time frames were and it seemed that most fell between 4 and 10 hours. These were all indirect PUAs so they were using his Method (or something close). One of the fundamental presupps in Mystery Method is women need a certain amount of Comfort before sex. So, we have PUAs all over the world bouncing girls from the club to the after hours diner – thus ADDING a couple hours to the timeline. Notice also that “a certain amount of Comfort” is not a precise description by any means. Contrast this with the explicit steps and fundamental principles in Breakthrough Comfort and you’ll begin to understand the value of precise definition and identification of core principles. Another presup in almost all of Gaming is that females aren’t as interested in sex as males are. (If you believe that ask yourself, “What makes me think that?”) There is a MOUNTAIN of scientific evidence that actually points the other way. But, if this was/is your presup, how would that affect your Game?
So, right now, I am examining every single presup in the community regarding meeting, attracting and seducing women and reformulating. It’s a grand experiment and cool things are happening. In the last 10 days I’ve been opened well over 12 times. I’ve had 4 girls number close me. Are those spectacular results? No. Had I been running my usual stuff I might’ve racked up 2-3 lays in that time frame. (To be fair, though, I did lose 2 girls at the last minute who were almost sure SNLs.) I got opened twice last night. I lost one girl because I violated Metaframe Consistency (more on that in a future post) and the other waited an hour to open me and was so drunk by the time she opened that I couldn’t do much besides number close her. She texted twice and called me this morning. I believe all great breakthroughs come by questioning presups. (Or, are created by outsiders who never adopted the presups.) ~ Captain Jack ~
AsianPlayboy:10 Fool Proof Sexual-Kino Compliance Tests Posted at September 2, 2007
Another solid article from The Asian Playboy. He’s got a lot of great stuff going on. Go visit his new website atThe ABCs of Attraction Understanding & Mastering Sexual Anxiety “10 Fool Proof Sexual-Kino Compliance Tests!” Sexual anxiety was- without a doubt- my biggest sticking point that easily held me back for months if not more. It prevented me from escalating whether for a one night stand, bathroom fuck, or going sexual on the date. Talk about frustrating, until I finally clued in that General Attraction is different from Sexual Attraction which required me to modify my early Buying Temperature and C&F Verbal Game tactics. Quite frankly, in my honest opinion, I rank paralinguistics (ie Non-Verbal Game) as important -if not more so- than Verbal Game. So instead of getting all verbose as in my previous article dealing with Inner Game, let me simple give you ten (10) of my personal favorite and field tested Sexual-Kino Compliance Tests. I use them quite often not only to ascertain her Sexual & General Attraction, but also to spike her emotional Buying Temperature as well as Kino Plow into the fun zone of sex! Sure you’ll feel awkward in the beginning, but there’s the nice side benefit that, by using them as part of your Kino Game and Compliance Testing, they will slowly help you get over your SA and become more comfortable around women and conveying more dominance and sexuality through constant kino and compliance testing. First, I- with regards to both the what and why- define Compliance Tests as: 1. A method (either verbal and non-) by which you gauge her Attraction (General or Sexual) to you. 2. Providing an OPTION for her to either pass or fail. 3. Encouraging and qualifying the right choice through a reward/punishment stratagem. 4. Establishing and maintaining the leader/masculine/dominance versus the follower/feminine/submissive frame. 5. Testing for, declawing, and/or eliminating “Cat String” attention whore / stripper types. 6. Finally, with regards to the objective of the article, the more you sexually CT her, the more comfortable you become being, encouraging, and expecting sensuality from both you and her. Secondly, here are some additional guidelines by which you can increase the successful CTs: 1. LEGITIMACY: Verbal CTs should always be phrased with a “legitimate” excuse. Trust me, girls are NOT stupid. They KNOW why you want to get them upstairs. They just need it to pass the “common sense” test when they brag about you to their girlfriends. It doesn’t need to be logical or foolproof, it just needs to SOUND legitimate. For Kino CTs, this is done with unspoken subtlety and confident body language as well as appropriate levels of BT and privacy. 2. SPIKING THE CT: CTs are best off paired with some sort of Attraction Switch DHV or a BT Spike. The more
emotional and attracted she is to you, the more willing she is to comply and follow you without asking questions. 3. CT WITH KINO: ALWAYS try and pair a CT with a light KINO touch. Don’t go out of your way and make it weird, but throw in that little extra kino so she’s physically stimulated at the same time. 4. INTIMACY BUBBLE: The closer you are to her- whether she’s attracted or not- the more willing she is to comply. You don’t want to be creepy, but when you’re sharing the same personal space, she is less likely to reject the CT. 5. FASHION: Unless you or her are hardened criminals, a uniformed office gets your attention and demands respect. In other words, dress like a MAN who’s dominant and sure. Baggy, ghetto, or kiddy gear doesn’t garner respect. Power suits or a cohesive fashion sense can show you’re someone to be followed. 6. SMILE: Smiling- like CJ’s “Clown Grin”- is essentially a BT spike. People feel good when they’re presented with a genuine, infectious, and full smile. It’s natural for her to feel comfortable around a friendly, vivacious, and fun loving person. 7. NO FORCE: A lot of newbies carry the concept of “The Illusion of Input” as forcing her to jump through your hoops. Bad PUA! You aren’t supposed to force her to do anything, simply encourage/highlight/present the RIGHT choice. 8. RANDOM POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT: This is for the “Negs Gone Wild” or “I am the Prize” extremists( If she’s basically willing to do everything you want, you need to reward her whether it be with BT Spikes, BL, kino, kisses, sex, or whatever. Don’t be predictable, but do show that you acknowledge her enthusiastic compliance with the SLIGHT hope that she might actually be able to win you over. Constant punishment and/or tests will eventually convince her that you aren’t interested and/or attainable while constant rewards shows that you’re needy. Mix it up. But enough theory, already! Here are my fun, personally field tested, Compliance Tests. Some are new. Some are old. Some are purely kino BT spikers. And some are sexual in nature. Field tested, APB-approved! THE ASIAN PLAYBOY’S TOP TEN KINO/SEXUAL COMPLIANCE TESTS: 1. POINT & CLICK: This one’s REALLY easy even for the novice amongst us. When you’re in set for more than 5 minutes, start thinking where to maneuver and/or sit. Kino her shoulder, smile, point a short distance away (ie a foot or two away from the crowd), and smoothly GLIDE over there. Do maintain eye contact, your smile, and a steady flow of conversation. If she changes her BL and moves with you, it’s a mild sign that you’re on the right track and willing to distance herself from her home base/friends and be mini-isolated with you. 2. KISS & KINO LADDER: The Evolution Phase Shift is probably the most infamous of our PUA Kino Escalation tactics. You can also do the “Kiss me here, kiss me there, now kiss me riiiiight here(” to go from cheek kisses to full on makeout. Whatever the tactic, the kino/kiss ladder starts small and ends up big while maintaining a sexualized conversation. 3. SENSUAL SHAKE & GLIDE: When you’re introduced to her after some time, you’ll more than likely shake hands. Feel free to do so but then HOLD YOUR PALM UPWARDS without releasing her hand, BUT without holding her hand in place. Basically you’re seeing if she’ll maintain the kino and hold hands with you or pull back. If it lasts a while, you can start holding hands, tickle her palm, and/or simply do a caress & glide with your fingers from her palm. 4. GENTLEMAN’S GRACE: Similar to the above except you flourish your hand out and kiss her hand while smiling at her. Yeah, it’s archaic and seemingly “anti-PUA”, but think about it. One, you’ve initiated sexual kino. And two, just GAZE into her face, lift her lips, smile, and observe her reaction. Is she turned on? Attracted? Embarrassed? Freaked out? Remember, you use CTs to figure out where you are in the sarge and then use small CTs to progress to larger ones like isolation, venue changing, and penis insertion. 5. CAVEMANNING: Women love to have their picture taken. They even practice their poses in the mirror and come up photogenic tactics. So the next time you get a picture taken with a girl, PICK HER UP! Hey, I’m 5″6 and slim. Now I won’t pick up a “big boned” girl, but I’ve lifted my fair share of tanorexics, spinners, and flyers. It’s an easy and kino CT that you can pair up with something else. 6. PAPA’S KNEE: I should invent a cool PUA Community name for this one, but it’s essentially a play off of the very simple Hi-5 CT. This is best done at a BT Spike, seated, and semi-isolated. When you Hi-5, casually bring her hand down to your knee, place it there, and let go while still maintaining constant eye contact and conversation. Don’t force her to maintain kino, you’re simply trying to see if she’s physically and sexually
compliant towards touching you. If she takes her hand away like a shamefaced monkey then you simply consider it a sign post for you to Game more and Game better. Now, of course, if she starts to slowly move her hand up your thigh( 7. BOOTY BUMP & GRIND: Booty bump her playfully with your ass to her ass. See if she reciprocates. Hell, take her to the dance floor and ascertain her level of “grindability.” In either case, don’t push it, simple see if she responds positively. Of course, it helps to have rhythm. 8. SIT/LAP TEST: Make her sit in your lap or you in hers. You can motion, pat your knee, or verbally convey it. Again, this isn’t necessarily an ESCALATION move though it could turn into one. The primary goal is to see where she’s at on the Sexual Attraction thermometer. Cold means more BT and Game. Hot lap grinding means it’s time to think logistics and extraction. For the more timid amongst you, simply motion for her to sit next to you while you press your thigh against her thigh and knee. Again, judge her reaction if she stays in constant kino with you or not. 9. PROMENADE: An oldie but still a goodie. When you walk with her, simple put out your elbow and see if she holds your elbow. Advanced versions could include both hands, palm squeezing, tickling, booty bumps, etc. 10. TRUST TEST: Another oldie but still a goodie. Advanced tactics include tickling, caressing, palm reading, and sticking out your tongue at her. Now go out in the field and try them out! And be sure to post up what kind of shenanigans ya’ll got yourselves into! -The Asian Playboy http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com P.S. Other excellent references on verbal/sexual CTs include CJ’s “How To” Article and for other non-verbal CTs Sinn’s “Comfort Threshold. Or one of my favorite articles( Sexual Identity: Less Talk, More Sex!
Lay Report: Girls Want to Chase Posted at September 3, 2007
HBFreakazoid and I are both naked on Sinn’s couch which is quickly approaching The Pirate Pad(TM) couch in DNA levels. I’m sweating and breathing heavy from bringin’ it. I’m about to glaze her so I ask her where she wants it. She moans and says, “Inside me.” Then she says, “No, wait. I’m not on the pill.” I say, “I already got 2 kids” and thrust a few times to try to pull out to finish on her beautiful breasts. Right as I’m about to nut she says, “cum inside me!” and clinches her legs to keep me in. I pull out and almost immediately go limp. Fuck! We mess around again and I go back in. I’m about 10 thrusts away when Sinn and his HB come out to smoke on the patio. Damn! We start again and in the middle she says, “Let’s go to your place. I want you to fuck me all night and all day!” I go, “Cool.” We start getting dressed and we run out of the apt. giggling like two teenagers who just toilet papered the neighborhood grumpy old man’s house. We get down to the parking garage and I’m looking for my car. Then, I start laughing because I forgot Sinn picked me up that night. She wasn’t so amused. ————————— The Pick-Up – Friday Night ————————— Sinn’s on fire and he’s all over the place. I’m chilling, practicing my Zen nature and seeing how far I can take this non-approaching system. I’ve been opened a couple times. One was by a tall latin girl who I thought was at least a solid 8. (Sinn didn’t like her at all.) She was also very cool, elegant and down to earth.
I had just ordered a Shiner Bock draft and it didn’t taste right at all so I got the bartender’s attention to get a different kind of bear. HBTallLatina: “Are you being difficult?” CJ: “Yes, I’m very picky.” We made a LOT of what is usually called “fluff” talk. She was into it. I think the idea that I wasn’t pursuing at all made her start pursuing me. A couple of times when she’d talk she’d lean into me and put her cheek on mine. I seem to remember that this is significant(something in my brain senses a slight remembrance to(oh fucking yeah(not even a week before I wrote a post on Kiss Tests in which I, like a GrandMaster Sex Escalation Wizard said,
What I do now… Now that I use sexual framing it is actually advantageous for me NOT to kiss her until the car ride home. It builds anticipation and sexual tension to talk dirty, fill her mind with dirtiness and let it build. I WILL tease by getting real close to her like I’m about to kiss her and then not do it. I’ll also talk in her ear a lot for the closeness and heat in her ear. Which brings me to another point. If you are talking in her ear and she presses her cheek to yours, she wants to be kissed. In any case, I lost this one and after mentally reviewing I thought it was because I missed the sexual escalation window so she had to figure that either I wasn’t really interested or I didn’t know what I was doing. I took another shot at her later but when I switched from being Zen to pursuing it wasn’t there. Damnit. I post up at the middle bar and almost immediately there’s a really hot girl with a shirt that is about 1/4 of an inch from revealing her nipples staring at me. She is being extremely blatant about it( (and there’s a hot girl in these gray tight cottony pants who keeps rubbing her ass on my hand and looking back. She does this no less than 10 times. I look over and say, “If we’re going to be this intimate we should at least get to know each other.” She giggles and waits for a second for me to say something else. I don’t so she turns back around. I stay there enjoying the music for awhile. She’s still staring and I keep saying mentally, “If you want it you need to come and get it.” Another girl walks by and says something to me briefly and when I don’t keep the convo going she stays about two feet off to my left with her friend. They keep looking over. At about closing time HBFreakazoid comes over right next to me and says, “I’m HBFreakazoid” but I wasn’t looking at her so I didn’t know if she was saying it to me or someone else. I decide it was for me as she was staring at me all night. I say something like “How’s it going(” We small talk for a bit and I invite her to go eat with us. She says ok but she has to close her tab first. She is EXTREMELY drunk, though, and her friend is obviously driving. So when I come back around and tell her to follow us south, she says they are going north. I already have her number so I pat her on the head and Sinn and I roll out. She calls me on the way home but she is making NO SENSE. It was so funny I put her on speaker so Sinn can hear. The next morning she sends me two texts. I text back and she calls. We chat briefly and I tell her I’ll be heading out tonight but I’m not sure where. She says she wants to hang out and I tell her to give me a call later to see where I am. I’m still not pursuing and everything is framed that she has to do the work. ———The Close ———The girl texted me earlier and I told her where I’d be but don’t hear anything back. Saturday night we end up at the same bar. Her friend recognizes me and starts chatting and then says, “HBFreakazoid is here! Wait right here!”
When the friend comes back Sinn starts seeding the pull. There was a cute enough Mexican girl who was burning holes in me with her eyes. I finally hold out my hand and she comes over. We talk a bit before she heads back to her friends. A little later we start talking again and I number close her in the parking lot right before HBFreakazoid comes out. We’ve been texting back and forth so I’m going to get her on a Time Constrained Day2 this week. By the time we get to her friend’s car we’re making out. I finger her in the backseat. Get back to Sinn’s pad and we both close no LMR. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. You can read Sinn’s version here.
On The Verge Posted at September 4, 2007
Sinn is taking our Sexual Framing shit to a new level by deftly mixing it with Breakthrough Comfort. He’s also reaching a point (as have I) where he truly doesn’t care when or even if he closes a girl. I’m going a completely different direction. In fact, it’s probably the OPPOSITE direction. I am REFUSING to open girls with anything more than a “Hey, what’s up?” and then using the “Death Topics” until I can get them to pursue. (Actually, I am RARELY opening at all, leaving it to them unless the AIs and proximity are so undeniable that I feel they couldn’t be any bolder). When they begin chasing I apply Magnification Principle by encouraging them to continue pursuing me but never letting them feel like they have me 100%. It is an intriguing dance and hard. But, when it works it looks like it just happened. I’ve noticed that girls often strain themselves to make you open them. I am now seeing more proximity AIs than ever in my life, even more than when I peacocked. When I refuse to open them, they’ll often stare at me, if that doesn’t work they’ll open me with Kino. Last night two girls opened me (that’s the average, it seems). One did so by putting the martini menu in front of me at the bar and looking at me. When I looked at her she said, “Which one is good?” The second girl, hotter and a lot more bold, felt it would be a great idea to look at me and then step on my shoe and smile. I smiled back but said nothing. She kept looking, I kept looking. Stalemate until one of the 89 guys orbiting her grabbed her away. It seems that girls are much more keen to use bodylanguage and kino to entice you to open and only the bolder ones will actually take the final step of verbal opening. Another observation which I may have mentioned before is the women seem genuinely conflicted. Their desire for sex is the only thing that keeps them going to these places because I can see the disdain for 99.9% of males’ neediness. They are literally having negative kinesthetic reactions to guys they are all over but they push through because it is all they know. My belief is if I can get great at this phenomena the seductions will go smoother and quicker than any of us ever imagined. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. A post on “Advanced Refinement” and “Metaframe Consistency” coming up real soon along wih more on examining the core presupps prevalent in the community and my experimentation in bustin them.
Chicago, More Zen Pick-Up and Leonardo DiCaprio Posted at September 10, 2007
Sunday morning I wake up with a massive headache AND a massive boner.
The headache is from going out with Printer and some of his peeps in Chicago. He called me Wednesday and said he had an extra plane ticket to a convention in chicago at which I might be able to make some direct mail contacts. I don’t have my daughters so I was game. Saturday night every time I turn around these fuckers are handing me drinks. We ditch the first venue and head to another one but when we get there the line to get in stretches off into the horizon as far as the eye can see. It’s about 12:15 and doing some quick mental calculations we deduce that we ain’t getting in tonight. Printer considers paying off the door guy to get us all in(but decides not to. But, as we are walking by the patio door he meekly (yes, I used the words Printer and meekly in the same paragraph) walks up to the bouncer and says, “Hey, I’m with clients and I’m trying to show them a good time. Is there any way I can get them in?” The door guy, feeling the surge of power as he holds the fate of 6 dudes in his hands, puts on his “I’m cool like that” face, gives Printer a wassup hand shake and opens the door. We roll in – for free. A hot blonde opened me but I got tired of trying to hold a drunk girls attention so I chatted another girl who opened me about my tie. She wasn’t good looking in the face but she was tall and slender and her body was extremely tight and every third sentence out of her mouth was a compliment. So, I focused on her a bit. Printer and I pulled the cute blonde and her cute brunnette (both with nice boobies) to another club. I had the blonde as a Target but actually liked the brunnette better and I heard her (the brunnette) tell the cabbie that she had a boyfriend so I told Printer to take the blond and I’d try the brunnette as I’ve had more experience with girls w/ bfs. The blond’s drunkeness was reaching epic proportions inside this other club and I think I missed (again!) the escalation window for the brunette and our opportunity just fizzled. I got attacked by a hot girl in the street because she saw me laughing at her boyfriend who was about to get into a fight. All I could do while that skinny girl’s arms and legs were flailing was laugh while trying to fend off her whirlwind of fury and Printer grabbed me and we went down the street to get something to eat. While we’re waiting for the food I go back outside and she’s there with her boyfriend. They look at me, he says something and I say, “Nobody wants you guys here. Nobody. Leave. You’re not wanted. Go!” as I’m shewing them away with my hands. Being shewed away while someone is yelling “you’re not wanted here” seems to have a great effect. The girl looks hurt as she says, “Don’t shew me!” but they keep walking as the guy is trash talking. I’m not a violent person at all but I envisioned knocking both of their teeth out with a flying elbow slam to the mouth. Printer and I both have to piss REAL bad but it’s about 4:30 am and there’s nowhere to pee. We’re laughing our asses off about various things on the cab ride home and get rather giggly so that almost everything makes us laugh. We hit the elevator and we’re laughing so hard that Printer is about to pee his pants. So, he whips it out and pees in the corner of the elevator. I’m now laughing so hard and *I* have to pee as well and the sound of *him* laughing and peeing in the corner intensifies my desire so much that I feel the first sensation of piss making its way through GIGANTOR. If I don’t whip it out I’m gonna be a grown man who pissed his pants. I’m good at making these types of split decisions. I unzip and let it loose in the elevator. The relief was amazing. This is how I imagine that maintenance call going. Dispatcher: “Um(we need cleanup on elevator 4 please. Make sure you bring gloves, febreeze and a mask. Two drunken retards just peed in the elevator.” House Keeping: “Repites por favor(did jew say ‘peed in elevator.’” Dispatcher: “That is correct. Two retards peed in elevator 4.” That’s been the story of Chicago. Mega hot girls. They open, we talk, the set evaporates before my eyes for seemingly no reason. This new style can be frustrating but new things seem to be happening every time I go out so I’ll ride this out. ——————— Leonardo DiCaprio ——————— So Sunday I take my massive throbbing head down to get something to eat. There’s a little pizza place here in the lobby that is really good. I feel like death so I send this text to Printer:
“Here’s a big middle finger to everyone who bought me drinks last night – I’m now on a quest for advil or horse tranquilizers – whichever comes first.” The pizza here is the kind where they pile stuff on. Lots of pepperoni, lots of cheese. I take the first delicious bite of my pizza but don’t bite all the way through the cheese so everything comes off the slice and is dangling from my mouth. There is now tomato sauce on my soul patch. I don’t have a napkin handy. Decision time. Do I shove the whole wad of cheese and pepperoni into my mouth and chew on it for five minutes or do I bite down and pull on the wad of cheese until it separates? As I’m contemplating this I glance up and there’s a hot blonde milf giving me the *fuck me eyes.* She is ultraelegant, wearing one of those lady suits professional women wear. Every hair on her head is immaculate and her jewelry shines. I bite through the cheese and it drops back on the plate. When I look back up the two dudes (also in suits) are staring as well. I smile again and notice the woman’s mouth is moving while she’s looking at me. CJ: “What?” MILF: “You look like Leanardo DiCaprio(I’m sure you’ve heard that before.” CJ: “Oh yeah, all the time.” *I’ve never heard that before in my life, every 2-3 months I’ll get Mark Wahlberg but never Leanardo.* I continue enjoying my delicious pizza. As they’re leaving she is fucking me again with her eyes. MILF: “Actually, you’re MUCH BETTER looking than Leanardo” as she’s smiling and walking off. CJ: “Thanks.” I spent the rest of my meal contemplating the optimum move for those types of situations. ~ Captain Jack ~
Fireside with Fidelio: Dream a Little Dream… Posted at September 11, 2007
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Classic Lay Report: Apples or Donuts Posted at September 16, 2007
While I’ve been laying low, devising a new Pick-Up Methodology AND planning my eventual domination of the entire Advertising industry, I’ve been too busy to put some thought into a valuable blog post. I DO have some things percolating regarding my new methodology but it’s in the Theory, Planning and Observation stages and I need more field data to tighten up the ideas( (and, since Sinn and I just announced the “Same Night Lay” program I figure I’d pull out one from a little over a year ago. Now, this LR does NOT contain the stuff we’ll be teaching because what I’ve discovered over the last year BLOWS THIS AWAY completely and thoroughly. There are some similarities, though. But, while reading this just keep in mind it was over a year ago(and I’ve had over 25+ new lays since this one, a GREAT DEAL of them SNLs. Stay tuned( LR: Apples or Donuts August 8th, 2006 So there I was in the local QuikTrip at 4:24 am, hungry as hell and thirsty, too. I had to get something to eat. I thought, “Man, you need to lose 15-20 lbs. You should grab an apple.” As my hand started drifting to the apple, a Krispy Kreme display jumped out at me.
Hmmm. Apple or donut. “Dude, you gotta lose some weight.” An inner voice said, “Lose weight? What for? Do you think it’s gonna matter to your Game?” And, the truth WAS that it crossed my mind. But, it’s untrue. (I want to get this off my chest because I read between the lines when I chat, watch or read some of your posts(it’s been bothering me for awhile so I’ve gotta get out before I explode() IF ONLY I COULD — - Be Taller - Have More Hair - Be Skinnier (or more muscular) - Make More Money - Be Younger/Older blah, blah, blah, fuck Weight doesn’t matter. Looks don’t matter. Age doesn’t matter. Height doesn’t matter. Any one who thinks it is important (for Game) is wrong OR they’re just hiding behind a fucking excuse. Actually, it does matter, but only to YOU and in YOUR mind. I’ve seen some of the weirdest shit since starting to game. One time Blincubus and I saw TWO different HB9+ with dude’s who were about 5′ 3″, bald and probably around 300 lbs – in the SAME NIGHT. We couldn’t believe it. I remember it clearly. Blincubus was going ape-shit over this brunette church-girl hb9+ who was playing darts. He was about to approach her but got distracted. Not even 5 minutse later she walked by with said epitomy-of-not-hot specimen and she was ALL OVER that dude. Not even 5 minutes later ANOTHER HB9 walked by with another dude with roughly the same stats (maybe an inch or two taller). — AceOfHearts, Otto, Tribulus and I met at Sherlock’s. We bullshitted for awhile and Trib and AceOfHearts did their cool winging gambit on the cute waittress. Trib did some good work and had her HOOKED with his take-away. Gave me goose-bumps and shit. Ace and I rolled to the other side and I saw this little hottie with a PlayBoy shirt plastered over her tits. She also had a lip ring and a few tattoos (butterflies). She was alone and I thought, “Naw dude, wait for her group.” Then, I thought, “Screw that man. Go in now and if her group comes deal with them later.” I think I left Ace in mid-sentence(sorry man. (Turns out she JUST broke up with her BF a few days ago. She came up there alone but met a couple people she knows. Including two of the waittresses and the manager.) Just the highlights( Opened with David Bowie. Teased her with statements like, “Umm(Note to self – DON’T date this girl” Shake my head, “Omigod, can dress her up but can’t take her anywhere.” Played “Guess My Age” Game that I made up about a year ago. Told her “I had you at 18, I was wondering how you got in here. Fake id or connection.” (She’s 22) Told her she lost points for drinking a fake beer (“Rolling Rock”). Qualified her “Beauty is common(” Took her to meet Trib, Otto, Ace to parade and then isolate. In isolation ESP Gambit hit both numbers. This freaked her out because she was raised religious. “I Like(” Game DHV’ed with story about ex who was a stripper( Turns out SHE is a stripper (excuse me, exotic dancer). I immediately get up and act like I’m leaving. She pulls me back. Mystery’s “Never work out between us(” gambit( I move her to other side.
She dances on me and I push her off and tell her that’ll cost her one dollar. Her jaw drops. She tries again. “You’re up to two dollars” and push her away. She can’t believe it. Listen to some music. Vibe a bit. Play the TV Game. Move her again to booth. Try “Mystery’s Kiss Close.” but she turns her head. I back turn and tell her she ruined a great moment. She apologizes and tries to get me to turn back around. I gradually do and start chatting about mundane shit. Right in the middle of my sentence she kisses me on the cheek. I say, “Nice. Reminds me of middle school.” Here’s something funny I did. She said “I have to go to the bathroom.” I start a new thread to keep her there and mid-thread say “I have to pee.” and I get up. She tries to get up but I push her back in the seat. Ha ha. Kiss close comes soon after. At 1:30 I say, “wow! almost 2:00. I’ve gotta go get some sleep soon.” A few minutes later she says she’s having fun and doesn’t feel like going home. I don’t respond. At 1:40 I say, “geeez, it’s already 1:40. I’ve gotta be up early.” She immediately responds “I don’t wanna go home yet! Do you live alone?” CJ: “yep” HB: “Well, I don’t want to go home yet” CJ: “ok” HB: “can we hang out at your place for a little while.” CJ: “hmmm(ok, but only for a little while.” During the drive I gave two small routines I call “Heart Melters” (I don’t have a better phrase, maybe you can think of one)( I’ll post them later if anyone wants them. They have NEVER failed to make the girl go “Awwwww! That’s sooooo sweeeeet!” Took me about an hour to escalate to Full Monty. My LMR tactic of doing a take-away AS SOON AS I notice muscle tension works like a charm. She has squirting orgasms! How fucking awesome is that! ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. I didn’t get the apple or a donut. Instead I opted for a box of 15 “Jack’s Pizza Bursts” for $1.59. I AM going to lose 15-20 lbs but not because I think it’ll make a difference in my game but because I have felt better when I was around 190lbs versus my current 210. P.S.S. She number closed me while I was taking her home. Asked me if it was a fake number and doublechecked it while we were driving. Ha ha. Playing hard to get is fun.
Captain Jack says: September 19, 2007 at 2:39 am
Anonymous1, I would LOVE to do an interview with the Pickup podcast crew. We talked about it about a month ago but I kept having retarded interrupts. But, I’ll recontact them( Anonymous2, I know. I’ve been restructuring my Game and that always accompanies a dip in my Game. But, my future doesn’t lie in PU instruction. I am building a huge marketing co. so I’m about to get back to refining my SNL technology(I just lament not being able to continue refining my newer InnerGame based gaming tech(I think it could’ve revolutionized PU. Anonymous3, my point was that physical stuff has LITTLE to do with Game. I AM concerned with my health but it hasn’t nothing to do with Game. I’ve had LOTS of super hot girls while being 30 lbs overweight so it’s no excuse. Kiko, I’d LOVE to hit Cyprus. Once I get this company rolling I plan on sailing for a bit and that region Greek Aisles and Cyprus is on my list(
~ CJ ~ Reply
CaptainJack, APB and Propeht in D Magazine Posted at September 21, 2007
This is an article below published about 2 years ago about a workshop APB and Prophet conducted that I helped out at. Seeing as how I was there for the whole thing and can read the article from an eyewitness standpoint, I no longer trust anything I read. But, it’s at least an entertaining read. How To Score with Hot Babes At a Holiday Inn Express in Addison, I went to a $300 seminar that supposedly teaches men how the female mind works. Now I’m scared for women everywhere. by Paige Phelps Asian playboy calls me on my work line. “This is the guy you’ve been speaking to,” he says carefully, then pauses. I pause, too. I have no idea who it is. He speaks again: “About the group I’m involved with? The seminar?” Of course! Asian Playboy! I’d been communicating with him via e-mail for a few days, trying to convince him to allow me to attend his workshop. He runs an outfit for dateless men called Natural Attraction, teaching The Game, a step-by-step method for scoring with hot babes (or, in The Game’s parlance, HBs). These men aspire to become pickup artists (or PUAs, pronounced “pooh-ahs”), and they pay money to learn, supposedly, how the female mind works. Online PUA communities, called seduction lairs, can be found from here to China, claiming millions of members. The Dallas chapter is small, but Asian Playboy says that under his able leadership, it has recently tripled in size, up to 128 members. Think of it as a lonely-hearts club with a Dungeons & Dragons twist. For this phenomenon, we can thank Neil Strauss (aka Style, because everyone uses a pseudonym in Game circles), for unleashing the secrets of sex-seeking machines into the mainstream. His book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Professional Pickup Artists, published in September 2005, spent six weeks on the New York Times bestseller list and told of his life inside the PUA Game, living in a grotto-like frat house called Project Hollywood under the tutelage of a man named Mystery, who claims to be the greatest pickup artist in the world. Mystery, like Asian Playboy, also teaches men how to score with women. His Las Vegas “special boot camp” costs $2,750. I wanted to infiltrate the secret society, learn the lingo, see the technique at work in the field. Asian Playboy (APB for short) was calling to find out my angle, my level of interest, and, most of all, my sincerity. “What about meeting in the morning?” I ask Asian Playboy, looking at my calendar. He laughs. “I don’t wake up in the morning,” he says. He suggests we meet instead at happy hour at Chaucer’s in Addison. “How will I know who you are?” I ask. “Wear something pink,” he says. “I’ll find you.” CHAUCER’S IS A STEAK AND SUSHI RESTAURANT DECORATED WITH PLASTER busts of Roman characters and fake ivy. Waitresses wear a Goth fem-bot uniform of black knee-high boots, black micro-minis, and tiny black tanks. I am way overdressed, wearing clothes. I spot the only Asian man, in the bar outside on the patio. “Are you Asian Playboy?” I ask timidly. “It depends,” he says. “Who’s asking?” It is him. I can tell by the voice.
There is a man sitting next to him, a man I will know only as Captain Jack. I nod my hellos. “So you want to attend a PUA seminar?” Asian Playboy inquires. He is sipping raspberry sake. He says if I am allowed inside The Game, I will have to adhere to certain parameters. For instance, I will not be allowed to describe the distinctive jacket he is wearing, because “everyone” recognizes the jacket and would immediately know whom I was writing about. I agree to this term, but I tell him that I have some ground rules, too. First, I need someone inside the lair to give me a real name. They tell me that Jason “Danger” Bailey is my man. A newbie who’s been gaming for less than a year, already he has real PUA potential. “If I were a girl, I’d sleep with him,” Asian Playboy says. This is not a joke. The two men allow me to advance to the next phase of my approval process, which essentially involves meeting Asian Playboy’s partner in Natural Attraction, a man named Prophet, and buying them many margaritas at Primo’s on McKinney. (A PUA cardinal rule is never, ever, under any circumstances whatsoever, buy a woman a drink when you first meet her.) Finally, it is decided that I can attend a PUA workshop, time and place TBD. I am instructed to look for an e-mail from Asian Playboy in the next week. When it arrives, it says, “1) The first rule of Fight Club ( You do not talk about Fight Club! 2) The second rule of Fight Club ( You DO NOT talk about Fight Club! 3) If this is your first night in Fight Club ( you HAVE to fight.” I am to meet the lair at 4 pm at a Holiday Inn Express in Addison. THE NATURAL ATTRACTION WORKSHOP INVOLVES FOUR HOURS of classroom time, followed by four hours of “field training” at a local club, plus individual follow-ups later that night at IHOP. The cost for the workshop is $300, alcohol and dinner at Chipotle not included. I head to the inexplicably named Belmont Room at the Holiday Inn Express. Prophet stands at the head of the class, writing his course outline on an easel notepad. Eight guys, more than one wearing a t-shirt tucked into khakis, sit silently at the back of the room, which has a green floral carpet. Plastic cups filled with tap water sit on tables with pleated, mauve tablecloths. “Before I teach you the basics, you’ve got to learn what it means to be human,” Prophet begins. He asks us all to take out a piece of paper. “I want you to write down three goals you guys have for yourself. One, what you want to do with these laws of attraction in 10 years. Two, where you want to be in one year. And, three, where you want to be tonight.” As we write, Prophet passes out reference texts: Sexology, Why Men Love Bitches, and The Art of Seduction. We are asked to read our goals aloud to the class. Captain Jack volunteers to go first. Before the workshop, Captain Jack told me his story, how learning The Game transformed him. He sounded almost born-again. In the weeks and months after his divorce, he told me, he found himself lonely and unable to connect with women. “I would get all dressed up and go to bars and spend hours just drinking alone,” he said. “Later, driving home, I’d be almost in tears. I felt like such an outsider.” But today Captain Jack is a lair expert. Newbies look to him for tips on “peacocking,” an over-the-top dressing style used to attract women. Only the most confident of men are advised to attempt peacocking. Captain Jack prefers a loud shirt and an acid-washed cowboy hat. In the workshop, he tells the class that in 10 years he hopes to be remarried, maybe adding to the kids he has from his first marriage. But, in the short term, he would really like a relationship with a bisexual woman who will pleasure him with hot threesomes. A skinny Asian guy stands to read next. “In a year, I’d like to be where Captain Jack is now,” he tells the class. Eventually, we get around to the basics, how The Game is actually played. Natural Attraction teaches a simple ABC process for seducing an HB: “A” stands for “approach”; “B” for “buying temperature”; “C,” “comfort”; “D,” “direct interest”; “E,” “escalate and extract”; and “F”—“F” you can imagine. APB and Captain Jack explain that it is simply a method to teach guys to be cool around women, to cut out any “creepy vibe” or “friend vibe” they may or may not know they give off. “It’s about conveying your personality and understanding how women act and react by their body language and their responses,” Captain Jack says. “A lot of critics think we’re trying to pull the wool over women’s eyes, but that’s not it. It’s about getting to the same level of social skills as the women we are attracted to.” “It’s not a science. It’s an art,” adds APB, smiling. Our art lesson focuses on our night game. In other words, how to act in a nightclub to woo women: “how you chill” and how to dress, APB’s territory; how to bring a woman emotionally closer (hint: tell her a sad story involving
your dead best friend), Prophet’s territory; and, most important, how to perfect the “sarge,” or how to hit on an HB. For this last one, each guy walks to the front of the class and demonstrates his opening line on me, the closest thing around to an HB. Captain Jack tells the class that a great opener is ,“Your tits are cute.” I frown. “There’s no way that will work,” I tell the boys. “It worked last night,” Captain Jack says. The guys look at me, then at Captain Jack, and without a doubt the room tilts in his favor. I am the only woman in the Belmont Room, and no one wants my opinion on how to approach women. The irony appears lost on everyone. The lesson continues: at stage F, a man must determine whether his conquest is an ONS (one-night stand) or LTR (long-term relationship). This stage is very tricky. That’s why Prophet teaches ways to avoid LMRs (lastminute resistances), excuses a woman has for avoiding sex. LMRs are also referred to as ASD (anti-slut defense), which is what lair Fast Seduction defines as “chick logic, to relieve the guilt from having sex too quickly with a man.” The men in the class are silent. They are busy taking notes. After dinner at Chipotle, it will be time to change into our “sexy night-game clothes” for field training. The tension is palpable. I am scared for women everywhere. IMAGINE A 13-YEAR-OLD BOY’S VERSION OF A GROWN-UP BAR, AND YOU’VE got a good idea of what Carsons Live in North Dallas is like. There’s music, loud and lots of it, all styles. And themed rooms and chicken wings and champagne and sexy women in miniscule outfits who dance on the bars whenever the urge strikes. This is the setting for our field training. Asian Playboy secured in advance a VIP table for us inside the Vortex, Carsons’ dance club that spins techno remixes of “Jesse’s Girl.” I order a drink (the first of many, none of which is paid for by any PUA). Asian Playboy tells us not to hit on the waitresses because he was working that scene and has already slept with two of them and is, in fact, working on a third. The PUAs-in-training dressed themselves. One donned an all-black suit with a banana-yellow Batman tie. Another wore a sweater that Bill Cosby wouldn’t touch. Prophet sits beside me in a booth and points out a guy through the window separating us from the pizza-parlor part of Carsons. The obvious non-PUA is attempting to hit on the beer-cooler girl, an unseasonably tan woman with a tiny outfit so badly ripped and torn that one might assume she headed to work directly after a bear attack. “I would try and close her, but you can’t,” Prophet says. “The club has bodyguards watching her. Anytime a guy talks to her for too long, they send a bouncer in to run him off. There’s not enough time to Game her.” Meanwhile the newbies are going crazy. They pounce from set to set (groups of girls) with the energy of hyperglycemic junior high students, opening and closing as quickly as they can. They never sit down to chill, as they were taught. “We don’t use lines,” Asian Playboy says. “Lines don’t work.” Instead, the guys use openers. Asian Playboy demonstrates for me. “Okay,” he says to a set of girls by the dance floor. “Settle a bet for me. My friend and I were just arguing about who would win in a fight, James Bond or Indiana Jones. I say James Bond.” The set of three girls giggle outrageously, as if it is the funniest thing they have ever heard. “Hey, that really worked,” I tell him later, amazed. “Yeah, but those girls were dogs,” he says. “I only used them as a warm-up.” Meanwhile I spy our 21-year-old college student newbie walking with the grace of a Storm Trooper across the room. His opener goes something like this: “Who lies more? Men or women?” When he says it, he moves his arm up and down stiffly, like an action figure. We tried to work on this during the seminar. His colleague, an Asian newbie who had driven in from Houston to learn The Game, preferred the opener, “If a girl kisses another girl, is that cheating?” On the opposite side of the room, a Russian guy (The Vigo) isn’t having much luck and quickly becomes distraught. When Prophet returns to our table escorted by a couple of girls with bad boob jobs, I really think The Vigo might cry. I feel sorry for the guy. So I give him the pep talk of his life, telling him he is awesome and he could get any girl he wants, including the ones with boob jobs. I grab The Vigo’s hand. “Come on,” I command. “Let’s go sarge some women.”
I take him to a table filled with girls and overhear one say the words “happy birthday.” Bingo. I tell The Vigo to give me one second to warm them up. When I give the signal, he will walk over and sing “Happy Birthday” to them. He nods, and I go to work. I speak quickly to the girl at the end of the table. “Listen, can you just help me out?” I say. “My friend, he’s been a family friend forever, and he just sucks with girls. Can you act happy when he sings ‘Happy Birthday’? Please? It’ll make his whole night.” When The Vigo scuttles over and squeaks out the most uncomfortable version of “Happy Birthday” I have ever heard, the nice girl smiles and claps and pretends to be charmed. And when it is over, I drag The Vigo the hell out of there. But, man, the look on his face, he is glowing. A girl smiled at him. God bless that girl. “Go, Vigo, go!” I think as I watch him recount the hilarious story of his conquest to his peers. Because, look, I don’t loathe these guys. I feel sorry for them. None of them is evil, just confused. If one of them would just take up a co-ed sport, maybe get a haircut or a new pair of jeans, he’d be fine. Instead, out of desperation and loneliness, each has spent $300 to learn a bunch of acronyms. Later in the night, as the rush of the sarge begins to wear off and the spin of alcohol sets in, Asian Playboy plops down in the red corner booth and puts his head on my shoulder. He tells me all about Prophet’s girlfriend troubles. (Yes, Prophet has a girlfriend.) Asian Playboy says the girlfriend doesn’t like Prophet to sarge, but he won’t stop. Asian Playboy says she doesn’t think they’ll last, which is sad because Prophet really believes she’s “the one.” That’s when he starts piteously whining about his own troubles with The Game. “I’ll never find a girl,” he tells me. “Every time I meet one, I know exactly what she’s going to do and say next.” He’s rolling his head back and forth, clearly oiled. “The Game is just too good.” —To see APB’s factual corrections, go here. ~ CJ ~
Being a Force of Nature Posted at October 2, 2007
“This is the True Joy of Life, of being used for a Purpose recognized by yourself as a Mighty One … of being a Force of Nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.” — George Bernard Shaw ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: Dumpster Diving Posted at October 18, 2007
I gamed this HB3 a few months ago to warm up and because she was eye-fucking me from a distance. It turned out she was actually kind of cool so I number closed her thinking if I got bored or something I’d call and have her come help me relieve boredom. While I was gaming her on that occasion a few months ago I got a text from Sinn: “REALLY?!” (This is his subtle way of asking why the fuck I’m talking to a 3 when the place had some hot girls there.) Later that night I got gamed (see LR: CJ Gets Gamed) and got the lay but had I not I was going to use “The Drunk and Lonely Principle” to go and see her after the bar closed. Here’s how the night started( Sinn and I ate dinner with Shaft and El Topo who are breaking new ground.
One of the things I’ve been doing for the last few months (somewhat related to Zen stuff) is to boil everything down to the principle level and derive tactics from that. The Presupps are the most important part of any system because they filter what you believe is possible/not possible and therefore what you try and/or the congruence with which you try it. I truly believe we are going to crack the code on “1Hour Lays – From Meet to Lay in an Hour(TM)” (not including driving time) and it won’t be Fool’s Mate. Sexual Framing is the best thing I’ve seen to meet, attract and seduce women in the shortest amount of time possible. Plus, I’ve rarely ever had a problem with continued sexual access to a female I closed in an extremely short time frame. So, Sinn and I are chatting and this girl walks buy. She has nice big titties, a cute face and strawberry blond hair and is short. I see her and I immediately know Sinn is going to open her(when I look back at him he is in a trance and already moving in to open. I laugh because I KNOW he is going to get laid. One of the signs of a Master PUA: When he is presented a clear shot at his type of Funusual he rarely makes mistakes (if any). Twitchy is on the scene and we chat a bit, he mentions that Sinn and I underestimate ourselves. Strange thing is, I was thinking that exact same thing earlier. Sinn pointed out something to me about my game that made me think, “Fuck, I wish I had that confidence level in my game.” and then I immediately realized that I also seemed to have more confidence in his game than he did. I take a lap and the girl eye fucks me. It’s 12:20 and I have nothing else going on so I smile back. She is not hot. But, I like her face and her hair and her latina accent. She is tall (which I like) but her ass is too big and she’s a little chubby. We dance a little. Her friend is all over some dude so I take that opportunity to open a sexual frame. I forget what I said but I implied that her friend and the dude were doing naughty things in the corner and we shouldn’t deprive ourselves of nice things like that. She smiled and said, “Maybe we should be in a dark corner then(” CJ: “Or, maybe we shouldn’t give a fuck what other people think(” and then I kissed her and shoved her away. “You’re a BAD influence.” Sinn texts me: “save me” I leave the girl (perfect opp for a takeaway) and roll over. He tells me his text was premature and everything is cool. I talk to Twitchy again and then roll back to the girl. A little later(Twitchy is making out with one of his FBs and Sinn tells me he’s leaving with the girl and Twitchy can take me home. I tell the girl that my friends left me so she’ll have to take me home. No objections. I think we said about 5 sentences the whole night. Stoplight Makeout, pull out her boobies and suck. Get to my place. Clothes come off immediately. Take her straight to the room and do the deed twice (and once this morning). She wouldn’t leave. She kept having a conversation with herself. I said two words to her. She talked for about 30 minutes complete with pauses awaiting a response from me. Can’t call this an SNL because I already opened her a few months before, but it was REAL quick. Total time about 2 hours. ~ CJ ~ P.S. Sinn’s pick-up was pure Gangsterism. His funusual put him in the zone and he pulled it off.
Captain Jack says: October 22, 2007 at 2:26 am
For anonymous( “But a 3 is still 3 times better than thine hand(” thus saith Captain Jack (Lord of his penis) ~ CJ ~
Pure Ninja Skills: Peaks and Flows: The Top 1% Posted at October 22, 2007
Not only do females find “the best” attractive(so do males. Think about it. We respect, love, admire and adore people who are the best at what they do. Sinn and I talked tonight about Tom Brady who threw 6 touchdowns this weekend, and 5 last weekend (against my beloved Dallas Cowboys) and is likely to break the single season TD record this year. George Clooney kicked ass in “Michael Clayton.” Brad Pitt, who I’d probably consider a ‘pretty boy, wuss’ had I run into him in the grocery store, on the street, in a club(has my respect due to his performances in “Twelve Monkeys”, “Fight Club” and a few others. (Not to mention he’s closed and kept many of hollywood’s hottest leading ladies.) Who CAN’T appreciate Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman belting out the most beautiful song every sung. (Though I LOVED Mr. Bocelli’s voice LONG before I knew it, the fact that Andrea Bocelli is blind gives his performances a little more impact for me, especially because a Soccer accident made him blind at 12.) Warren Buffet and Bill Gates, nerds in every way imaginable, garner the respect and admiration of millions in business and NOW in Philanthropy. We relish, respect and are attracted to the BEST in people. Peak achievement and performance fascinates and inspires us, in part because they bear witness to the possible greatness in each of us. AMC’s “Mad Men” series exudes peak achievement. The writing, the acting, the casting is so brilliant I’ve never been more enthralled by a show. I relish every episode. Which reminds me, someone once told me to forget about correcting my weaknesses because weaknesses make you believable, human and endearing. He said to focus on improving my strengths and talents to top 1% levels. It is by cultivating your strengths, talents and unique desires that you’ll inspire others to worship the god of potential in every human being. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. To see two people at the top of their talents, watch the video below. Imagine hearing this, slow dancing to this with a woman who interests you, and NOT having a peak experience.
InnerGame and Pure Imagination Posted at November 15, 2007
Pure Imagination – Lesson 1 by Captain Jack This is the first week’s lesson of a 6-week eCoaching program on InnerGame that I am about to start selling. It applies to more than picking up women. It is a recipe for utilizing your unconscious mind to create your world. If you are interested in helping me refine it there is more information at the bottom of this post after the lesson…
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ould you agree that you are only experiencing a very small portion of what is possible in this world? Right now, there is someone on a beach somewhere sipping on his favorite drink while his investments earn him more money per hour than most people make in a month… Right now, there is a 60 year old man enjoying a hot 25 year old woman (or two)…
Someone else works just a few hours per week and spends the rest of the time in their cozy apartment in pure bliss reading Shakespeare and other favorite authors.
Someone else is married to the woman of his dreams…they live on a ranch with a nice house on top of a hill. At this moment he might be riding his horse checking the fences in the far regions of his property. The above examples all live their ideal lives. Structurally, there is no difference between you and these people. Conversely, there are people addicted to crack or heroin lying in their own urine craving another hit. Both have a conscious mind and an unconscious mind. The difference lies in the contents of their unconscious minds. We are going to start with the basic presupposition that if anyone else can do it, you can approximate their results. If someone else can make a billion, so can you. If someone else can attract and date models, so can you. If someone else can retire early and sit at home reading literature, so can you. What’s the difference? The difference lies in presuppositions and beliefs. pre * sup * pose – to suppose or assume beforehand; take for granted in advance.
Presuppositions are so important because they filter what you believe is possible or not possible and therefore what you try and the congruence with which you try it. Additionally, they give direction to your subconscious mind about what to make you consciously aware of… A man who believes, “I am not attractive.” will not notice a female who is giving him every sign in the book that she is attracted to him. The subconscious mind literally filters it from his conscious awareness. How likely is he to try to take the interaction to the next level? But, it gets even worse (or better depending on your viewpoint). Since your unconscious is filtering according to your presuppositions and you are noticing only what the unconscious allows, your very experience onlymatches your presupps. This is a reinforcing feedback loop. The unattractive man can point to a million occurrences of his unattractiveness. Pointing to this reality he says, “It’s not in my mind! Look at all this external proof!” Then, he lists the overwhelming proof. The feeling of his unattractiveness causes him to speak and move in unattractiveness. The female’s unconscious mind, working off of minimal cues and feeling templates of past interactions with men responds with the feeling correlate “he is unattractive,” thus fulfilling his belief. (The same thing happens with the poor man, the sick man, the rich man and the man in peak physical shape.) How does he escape?
Pure Imagination! The only escape is pure imagination bordering on self-delusion.
He may be able to capture the feeling of attractiveness and rehearse it to such a degree that it becomes his dominant mood. He may be able to say, “I am attractive” and really feel it. Then, his unconscious mind will begin providing proof and resources to help him. New questions will burn in his being that must be answered. He will notice how attractive men interact with women. This will provide templates inside his mind for styles of dress and presentation. Movement and body language. Speech patterns. The power of his unconscious mind will reveal Attractiveness in him in a time process. That is, if he can say “I am attractive” with enough belief to produce the feeling of attractiveness inside of him. Most of the time such a jump will produce a ”snapback” response, actually reinforcing the opposite. If he says, “I am attractive.” and he instantly starts an inner dialogue that confirms the opposite then he is experience snapback and reinforcing his unattractive feeling. Is he hopeless, then? No! Because the mind moves in directions. All he needs to do is get his mind moving in the direction of attractiveness by reaching for a better feeling thought. He might start with a thought like this: “I have had a few women interested in me.” And, then he notices the feeling. If he still feels good then he can continue. (If he still has snapback he must seek a smaller movement of mind.) “Maybe there were others that I didn’t notice.” “Surely, there were others I didn’t notice.” “There are men like me who I’ve seen with pretty women.” “I’m sure there are a few things I could do starting now to make myself a little more attractive.” Now, his mind is moving in the right direction. As he continues this process his unconscious mind will add more references to strengthen these new thoughts. After a few days of doing this exercise, he will have moved up the belief ladder and he will be moving in the right direction. Every time he starts this exercise again he will start at a ‘higher’ level of belief on the spectrum of attractiveness vs. unattractiveness. Until one day, probably around 60-90 days later, he will be able to say with utter conviction, “I am attractive.” And, he will move, act and react from a feeling of attractiveness. The world around him will (must!) morph in response to his belief. Over the next few lessons we’ll be working on a series of processes to recreate your self-concept and guide your conscious and unconscious minds to transform yourself easily and naturally. So, here is your first assignment… I have the lessons written but I like to polish and get feedback from others before making it available to larger lists and the general community. If you are willing to take the coursework and give me feedback on the lessons you can get it for half price by clicking the “Buy Now” button below. When you sign up you’ll receive this lesson along with the first week’s exercises. You’ll also get 30 minutes of phone time with me to be used after the third lesson. The first 10 minutes of the phone call I’ll be looking for feedback on the lessons and the final 20 minutes you can ask me anything you want.
Because this will take personal phone time I have to limit the number of people to the first 15 who respond. P.S. If you’re a member of the Warrior-King Society do not sign up, you are already getting this as part of your membership…
"Because We Like Each Other…" Posted at November 18, 2007
Here’s a little pattern I heard Sinn use once when Gaming an extremely hot waitress( He said something like this (a liberal paraphrase):
“…I’m not giving you this big tip because we like each other…I’m doing it because you did a great job as a waitress and I believe people should be rewarded for doing a good job.” I’m not sure where he got that, if he made it up himself or he drew from the deep Game reservoir in his head but I used to do something similar (although a little sloppier) and after hearing him do it I adopted it instead. It’s sweet on a few levels. #1) If you run a lot of neg/disqualification (as Sinn does) then the confirmation that you do like her will give her poor widdle heart a ray of hope. #2) The ‘we’ part of it assumes that she likes you. Unless she outrightly denies it (which she won’t) then she passively accepts the “we like each other” frame. The very worst thing that could happen is she’ll think, “What made him think I like him?” which will make her unconscious mind start sorting for things she did to demonstrate she liked him, thus strengthening the references. #3) It allows you demonstrate a piece of your personality so she feels like she knows you better. “I believe people should be rewarded(” Pretty sweet, huh? This is one of those cool things that after trying it mentally on the fly 10 or 15 times you could probably use on the fly in-field the very same night. Let’s practice( Deep in comfort. Both of you are drinkless. “I’m going to the bar to get a drink. Keep me company.” At the bar. “I’m not buying you this drink because we like each other(I’m buying it because my mother raised me to be a gentleman.” Or, how about this one. “Wow, that’s amazing! I LOVE knitting, too! I’m not just saying that because we like each other, my grandmother taught me how to knit because she always wanted a granddaughter but my parents just kept popping out boys(” Or( “I didn’t just give you a squirting orgasm because we like each other, I did it because I’m a Sex God and I want you to tell all your friends. Then, they’ll get so curious about me they’ll try to nail me behind your back.” See, it’s easy. ~ CJ ~
The Girl Next Door Posted at December 5, 2007
I never go out unless I look like Joan Crawford the movie star. If you want to see the girl next door, go next door. – Joan Crawford. There’s an interesting lesson in that quote(what’s your take on what that lesson is?
~ CJ ~ P.S. This is like a Rorschach Test(there’s not a ‘right’ answer(so put your two cents in.
The Non-Judgmental Frame Posted at January 17, 2008
My ability to pull SNL’s made a steep jump when I discovered the power of the Non-Judgemental frame. I picked up on it quite by accident and lucky for me I had some analytical tools in place to realize what I had done so I could add it to my repertoire. Read this entire LR and you’ll see how I invoke the “People are Sexual Beings” and “Non-Judgmental” Frames to make my lays super easy( This was originally posted on Mystery’s Lounge on Sat Oct 15, 2005 12:06 am (P.S. If you don’t have my archives you can go to http://www.betheseducer.com and download them from there( Over 300+ pages of all the shit your parents told you not to do( Hi PUAs, I opened a 5+ set at a new venue one night will waiting for AsianPlayboy and one of his wings (don’t know what he’s called). My Target had a Sombrero on with crazy shit on it like condoms and decorations and shit( I was peacocked in a black cowboy hat with the silhoutte of two naked chicks on the front. CJ: “Awesome! Where can I get one of those!” HB: *everyone laughs* “Ohhh, my friend made this for me – it’s my birthday!” CJ: “mine was last week, I turned 30″ HB: “me too! I’m 30!” CJ: “Cool, wanna get married?” * group laughs * HB: “I’m already married, but thanks!” CJ: “have fun guys!” **** I open a couple more sets and then a little girl in a pink top and mini skirt comes up to me. I’m on the patio and I just got a message from AsianPlayboy that he’s here so I’m fucking with my phone messaging system when I feel a slight tug on my shirt( HBGirlNextDoor: “Here, this is from Michelle.” * handing me a jell-o shot * CJ: “who is michelle?” HBGirlNextDoor: “Over there(” CJ: * I look over and the HB waves and smiles – the whole group is looking at me – I wave and mouth “thanks” and walk off to meet AsianPlayboy * A few minutes later AsianPlayboy pulls over a 2set with a really cute blonde. AsianPlayboy’s target is the brunnette and he goes to work on her leaving me to occupy obstacle. AsianPlayboy told them I was engaged and he needed to find a good place for a bachelor party. This was great because the Blonde is also engaged and her fiance is out of town visitng family. I role-played and started talking about how chicks are more mature than guys and are able to “compartmentalize” their relationships much better than “most” men (i.e. i’m different). I then tell her that I’m not judgmental and understand there are different kinds of sex, different kinds of love and differing needs. She goes along with all of this agreeing with me 100% and talks about how dumb guys are to think that gf’s go out and are innocent. I had already took her around the bar to get myself a drink ( I might have bought her one, too – not sure)holding her hand all the way as I pulled her around. She held my hand completely, no hesitation at all.
CJ: “Does your bf come here? or have friends that come here?” HB: “no, never(” *smiling seductively* CJ: “good” By this time, AsianPlayboy has his Target on the dance floor and I am sitting on a couch with obstacle with my arm around her. CJ: “how old are you? too young to be getting married.” HB: “noooo, I’m 24″ CJ: “24! Oh god, you’re just a baby! But, I like girls that age(” HB: “why?” CJ: “They are so gullible” HB: “whaaaaat?” CJ: * i lean into her ear and pull my arm tighter around her and act like I’m talking to a girl that age * “noooo, baby, anal sex is NORMAL when you get engaged. promise.” HB: * she gives me a doggy-dinner bowl look and then starts giggling * “Yeah, I like it. i’ve done it with other guys. My fiance is mad because I won’t do it with him.” CJ: * pops a boner * About this time AP’s target comes back and somehow we get separated. I go open up more sets. HBGirlNextDoor reopens me and I talk to her group. They are asking to take pictures with me and put this pink boa on me and crowd around for pics. After about 10 minutes of working on HBGirlNextDoor my phone buzzes and it is a text from AP “mini-isolate or pull to a table” I agree. I pull her to the bar to get myself a diet coke. Making sure to hold her hand so others see us. Then, i lock into the bar to make sure it looks like she is gaming me. We go back to the table section and I start talking to her. I do juggler’s gf test and go for the neck kisses. She pulls away and says, “I hardly know you” but smiles. I smile and get real quiet. The Blonde from earlier sits in the booth in front and gives me “fuck me” eyes. If you’ve seen that before then you know what I am talking about. there is no mistaking it. HBGND: “You want me to leave you alone so you can talk to other girls?” CJ: “no, I’m just sitting here enjoying the moment.” We start making out. The night ends and I pass on an opportunity to fuck her that night (she told me this later that I could’ve come over)( After a week or two and a slew of text messages we finally get together last wednesday for a Day2 – but she brings 12 friends!!!! aaaaargh! I wasn’t expecting this. I text AsianPlayboy a whiney message about her bringing 100 friends (it seemed like we would be alone) and he tells me to work them like a set and be the social center. I do it and it works well. I make up a DHV about rings on fingers to set a framework for getting sexual. “Did you know that what fingers you have rings on says stuff about your personality?” I point to the right pinky ring and say, “that means you are good at keeping secrets.” HB: “i tell my brother everything.” CJ: “just your brother?” HB: “that’s ok. that’s like a diary, plus he’s family.” CJ: “and your right ring finger, that means when you find the right person and you’re attracted (pointing to myself), you become sexually aggressive” HB: “yessssssss!” Then, I look at my left middle ring and say, “This means I’m not judgmental.” HB: “mmmmmmm(.” Finally about 1:00 I completely isolate her and we do some rapport stuff. I run “Discovery Channel” on her and she gets hot. We make out hot and heavy again and then go back to our cars. I do the hair pull and she goes fucking nuts.
During this time she plays with my left middle ring and says, “not judgmental” But, I decline going to her house again because 1) i was dog tired, 2) she lives with mommy (college girl) and 3) it is about 3:00 am and she has to get up for work at 5:30 or 6:00 am HB: “what are you doing fri?” CJ: “have my daughters so I’ll be staying in.” HB: “ooooh, I could come over and bring a movie and popcorn!” CJ: “cool, let’s do that” She came over tonight and it was pretty much on from the time she got here. In fact, I waited too long to start making out with her. She has a super hot body. Very slender, perfect tits, wonderful ass. Only problem is she is not exotic enough for me. She is sort of “Girl next door” innocent looking and a little plain. But, then again she never wears make-up so who knows – if she made herself up maybe she would look more exotic. LMR? Minimal – she stopped my hand the first time I tried for the bra and the first time I tried for the pants – we were well into 10 hours by now and there had been 2 opportunities that I didn’t take before. While we were fucking 3 people called (but I didn’t answer): 1) HBPuertoRico I met with AsianPlayboy last sat. – voice mail said, “Hey handsome, call me!” 2) Mommy (mothers have this weird sense when their sons are getting pussy and they decide to call about mundane shit at about midnight ) 3) KinoMaster – figured I was done already and was calling for a report – CaptainJack
Can You Use Framing for Online Gaming? Posted at January 21, 2008
I’m amazingly surprised at the applications of Framing. I really think the surface hasn’t even been scratched. I’ve spent about 2-3 weeks (off and on) looking at the current ideas about Framing in the community and it’s absolutely shoddy( No rigor. Bad presuppositions. Some of it obviously untested (i.e KJ bullshit). I have a heavy NLP background so I’ve done a lot of framing including the much vaunted Sleight of Mouth (SOM) patterning and Cleveland’s system, too. But, if you use SOM as its taught for in-field gaming you are likely to annoy the girl. Annoyance is not a state that leads to sex( My question was: Can you use framing for online gaming? The answer is yes! And, it works like crazy! (At least for getting numbers). I sent seven emails the first week (principle one is to test in small batches first) and got 4 numbers and a chat id (blah). I’m sending out 20 more emails tonight on a new service that I like better to see how the numbers do( I’m calling one of the girls tonight and the other few tomorrow. I’ll update you on the progress tomorrow or the next day. My goal is to get them to come straight over! No date. No coffee meeting. The girl comes over. I run game. We make sweet love. Check back in the next day or two( where I’ll discuss the frames I’m setting in the profile( ~ CJ ~
Online Frame: I’m Cooler Than You… Posted at January 24, 2008
(and probably anyone you know. My online profile is built to attract a certain girl. I want a girl who thinks traveling is fun and exciting, enjoys talking to people from diverse backgrounds and can enjoy herself in any situation (basically, the EXACT opposite of my ex-wife() (AND who is down for some light-hearted fun. There are a LOT of girls out there looking for a serious relationship and/or a Sugar Daddy. Those types can certainly still be gamed but why make it hard on yourself? My basic frames are: 1. I am adventurous (a traveler), I love to see new places and explore. 2. I am comfortable anywhere. You’ll see a girl often say in her profile “I am just as cool getting all dressed up to go to the club or having a night in snuggling and watching a movie.” That’s her way of saying I am COMFORTABLE in my own skin. I phrased it like this “One night I might be mingling with rich old business men in suits and ties, the next night hanging with my friends at a hole-in-the-wall with a mechanical bull(” 3. My friends are COOL and interesting( My friends range from an ex-navy SEAL to a pro comedian( etc. 4. I DO NOT like to talk about myself but I have my act together. BUT, one of the most important pieces to my profile is this: I tell her to take the smallest action possible and I’ll handle the rest. “If you’re interested send me an email or wink at me and I’ll take it from there, I won’t bite (well, maybe just a nibble).” This directive to act sets a Leadership Frame and the “I won’t bite (well, maybe just a nibble)” gives it a playful yet sexual vibe to begin pre-screening the prude’s out. A lot of the dating sites have “winks” or “pokes” or a step BELOW email in effort level that you can ask them to take. By inviting them to take that small step (rather than having to think of something to say in an email) you can get some interest initially so when you DO email them you aren’t wasting your time emailing someone who is not interested at all( What is EQUALLY important about how I set up my profile is that I am not telegraphing ANY sort of romantic or courtship vibe. It is entirely about me and my lifestyle of fun and adventure. It will NOT resonate with a girl looking for long-term or marriage. I say nothing about finding a good girl, ‘the one’, settling down, or being tired of the scene. It is clear I am out there and I am having fun( Have 2 first dates (both time-constrained) set up for tomorrow and one pending. My basic plan is to have a one hour date to use some of my best Stealth Patterns and Sexual Framing to set them up to come over late on a night when I have my daughters( ~ The Dread Pirate, Captain Jack ~
Online Gaming: Day2 Posted at January 24, 2008
I’m sitting here on Sinn’s couch watching him get beat by the CPU in Madden. I’d forgotten how much I dislike Day2s( I’m supposed to be meeting her at the bar across the street 2 minutes ago. Hopefully she will look like her pictures. I have to go pee and then I’ll head over there(. Ugggh( I’ll update later how it went( My goal is to try to frame her sexually so deeply and quickly we go back to her place and make sweet love within 60-90 minutes( ~ CJ ~
A Key Under Utilized Frame Posted at February 11, 2008
I got another SNL the other night from winging one of Sinn’s sets. Nothing special really to report. She was kinda chubby, cute face, dimples, etc but would never have opened her on my own( But, there were a few take-aways for me from that night. Number 1: The power of ignoring is truly awesome. I literally ignore anything/everything that doesn’t serve me. I’ve completely given up trying to come up with witty/clever/smooth comebacks for things girls say or do that I don’t like. Instead, I completely ignore it. The principle here is what I’ve called “Magnification.” When you talk about something you are magnifying it( if you don’t want it then ignore it. Here’s an example( With Sinn’s set we went to eat and while we were sitting there the following convo took place. Ob: “Do you have any tattoos?” CJ: “Naw( I’m too fickle. I’d get one and then immediately decide I don’t like it(” Ob: “I have one.” CJ: “where?” Ob: “It’s right here (pointing to her hip)( It’s a four leaf clover( but it’s not really lucky, my dad died the day after I got it.” CJ: (looking up at the lights) “It’s really bright in here(” Number 2: Discretion is a key, underutilized and rarely talked about Frame but it is truly powerful. In my version of Rings on Fingers I talk about keeping secrets. That night another of Sinn’s sets the obstacle was really, really hot( she was just my type Brunnette, nice eyes, beautiful ass, great smile and great perfectly straight white teeth( I didn’t say more than about 15 sentences to her but one of them was: “I don’t kiss and tell(” It had a profound impact on her. She number closed me at closing time. She texted me about 2:30ish Hottie: “I’m horny” CJ: “Be there in a minute.” Hottie: “You don’t know where I live” CJ: “text me directions” She did and I REALLY wanted to roll over there but I (mistakenly) thought Sinn was in it for the long haul for his Target so I continued winging. When I texted and called later she didn’t pick up. Damnit! I would’ve put her at #3 in the rotation and then played my favorite game: “Get a hotter hottie(” So, I went and boned the chubby girl instead. ~ CJ ~
Zan’s Zen and How to Kill Someone Instantly Posted at February 12, 2008
I wanted to point out two great posts from a blog I read regularly( Post 1: V’s Zan Perrion Notes Post 2: I Could Kill The Next Person Who Walks Through That Door I actually used lines from Post #2 on my last SNL( After you read them come back here and tell me one thing from each one that affected you in some way. I’ll post mine if someone gets the comment ball rolling( ~ CJ ~
P.S. The ‘C’ key on my computer is acting up( I may have to change my internet name to ‘Aptain Jak’
Captain Jack says: February 14, 2008 at 10:08 am
The thing that struck me most about these two guys (Zan, Deida) is they are saying the same basic thing except just from different angles. Deida is saying get really in touch with your Masculine power( Zan is saying really appreciate the feminine and come to grips with your desire of them( It’s really interesting to me. I just bought Zan’s dvds and I’m re-reading Deida’s book. I’m going to start experimenting with their ideas soon. ~ CJ ~ Reply
Fuck Alcohol Posted at February 13, 2008
This post is a waste of fucking time. Save yourself 3 minutes and don’t read it. The night ended with me in the car with vomit on my brand new jacket ($27.98 at Target)( I was shivering from the cold and dizzy as hell. The day started innocuous enough. I met Sinn at the bookstore to do some “work(” Sinn and I have similar working styles. Type 2-3 sentences( take a 5 minute break. Another 2-3 sentences, bathroom break, etc. until about 8 hours later we have a full paragraph. Then, we hit the fucking alcohol store because Sinn wanted to get alcohol for the “after party” that we’re always trying to get stupid girls to come to( This is where it starts going south. I decided to have a taste of the Chimay I bought but Sinn is so fucking poor and disorganized he has no cups. So there I am with a gigantic bottle of Chimay and it has one of those gay ass lids that once you pull it off it won’t go back on( Decision time( Finish the bottle or let that delicious concoction created by Trapist Monks in Belgium go to waste. Fuck it( can’t be wasting beer. There are poor people in the world who can’t afford Chimay. And, what’s a 40 without rap music? So, I log onto Youtube and search for all the true gangster rap. The chimay bottle is almost empty and I’m thirsty and already buzzed. Eazy-e would have more beer( Shiner 1 down. Sinn is laughing at me because I’m drunk at 4:00 pm on a Tuesday, but whatever, he’s not drunk so his input doesn’t matter. We stumble out to go have some mexican food with one of our friends and he says we should have more beer. Miller Lite #1 and #2 go down over dinner while our friend tells us he’s awesome and some other non-coherent bullshit. I agree that he’s awesome because I don’t hang with unawesome people. I spent most of the time whining about how I hate to approach girls and how they should just come fucking talk to me if they wanna unleash the beast in the sheets. Sinn says he loves women. He loves everything about them( how they smell( how they can’t make a rational decision( He says all girls are his and he loves them whether they have sex with him or not, that he respects their decision and they’re valuable anyway( (Oh, wait a minute( no he didn’t). After dinner our friend is still talking about how awesome he is and we go back to Sinn’s apartment.
I’m watching rap videos on Youtube while Sinn and awesome friend talk about how they want to be like me( how they wish they had been born with my intellect and wit( it’s making me blush and I pretend like I’m not listening. They’re making plans to get a massive manly physique like mine and shit but it’s really all genetics man, nothing you can do about that shit. We finish off the Shiner and decide we’re going to have to leave the apartment if we want more beer. Fucking inconvenient. I stagger down the hallway. Someone mentions having more Chimay and that’s what we do when we get to the bar. After 3 more chimays I open my phone and start talking shit to pretty much everyone in my phone. One of the fucking dumbasses I’m with says we should go drink somewhere else and we do( About 1:15 am I black out after calling the bartender a lesbian. I got about 15 messages this morning from girls that said, “Wtf? What’s that supposed to mean!?!” Fuck Alcohol. ~ CJ ~
Captain Jack says: February 13, 2008 at 4:55 pm
Hey man, today is the day of apologies( I think I’ve apologized to nearly a dozen people so far for being a drunk idiot yesterday( so might as well add all Belgians as well( I apologize for comparing your great belgium beer to our shitty beer( The music really just depends on my mood( could’ve just as easily been Yanni. ~ CJ ~
Captain Jack says: February 20, 2008 at 9:40 pm
Vince, And, now I have all your private info( muaahaahahaha( Just kidding. I have a lot of tracking code to see what posts people read the most, how long they stay on the site, etc( it’s all in mass aggregated data so there’s ZERO chance of any personal info but that’s probably what the AV software is worried about. ~ CJ ~
Fuck Buddy Rules Posted at February 15, 2008
Down at the bottom of this post are “The Fuck Buddy Rules.” I wrote them on 12-26-2005 on Mystery’s Lounge to help a fellow PUA out who kept having his FB’s try to get him into committed relationships. I’m posting it because Sinn just wrote something on his blog about Instructor’s getting girlfriends, etc. I agree with him and I think that if guys knew how down girls are with these “non-traditional” type relationships they wouldn’t bother with the tradition bf/gf arrangement. When you learn the power of the debrief you’ll have girls tell you all about the crazy shit they do. I think female orgasms release an Honesty hormone. (And, while I have your attention go to Debauchery – Mass Sexual Framing and sign up for info on my new 63 day eCoaching program( video, audio, lessons, feedback, teleconferences( it’s going to be a blast (and it’ll get you laid, too). Anyways, the post follows:
Hey Guys, Well, I haven’t given A LOT of thought about this so maybe my early observations will help us to start cataloging this information. Maybe we can come up with “FB Rules” (sorta like “Stripper Rules”)… I have 4 fb’s right now (exhausting)… FB #1) “LR: Smoove as Butta” FB #2) “LR: The Right Pinky Finger Means You Are Good at keeping secrets…” FB #3) “LR: It will NEVER work out between me and HBMexicanaNurse” FB #4) “FR (sat) and LR (sun): HBKaraoke Sings For CaptainJack” During the Sarge ———— Really I just focus on running standard MM game all the way through. I DO rely heavily on “Chick Crack” from Tyler’s old posts. I stay away from anything that would say “Boyfriend Material” or “LTR.” I was talking to another PUA the other day on the phone and he used a lot of standard stuff that to me goes too deep and says “relationship.” I prefer my version of “Strawberry Fields” over the CUBE for this reason. The CUBE seems to go pretty deep and gets into LIFE and RELATIONSHIP issues that I don’t want to get framed in. I suppose if you ran that and then poured on some serious Cocky & Funny you’d balance it out but it seems to be a hard frame to get out of and you’ll often get the boyfriend objection. Furthermore, even if you DON’T get the BF objection you’ll be subject to her LTR programming which often includes holding out for sex and expecting you to buy her flowers and shit. I suppose you could turn the CUBE sexual but by it’s nature it seems to be a DEEP “look into her soul” type of game. I am slanted almost entirely the other way. I run jerk routines, chick crack, strawberry fields, cocky and funny, the Marriage Game all the way up to Qualification. I tell her I could NEVER take her home to Mommy. I tell her she is a freak. I run Juggler’s GF test (but I NEVER call it the Girlfriend test) and tell her she failed so we can only be friends (in contrast to strawberry fields which always frames her as a sex fiend – no MATTER WHAT I always analyze it the same way). I look at the standard stories like Spells, Who Lies More, David Bowie simply as ways to get me into the group so I can start obliquely spiking my Target’s BT and priming her for qualification. And after Qualification I like to go into the Question game and go sexual with that pretty quick. But, that doesn’t always happen (as you can tell from the FR: Cats, Cancer Survivors and Miss America) I’d say if you don’t full close by the Day2 or Day3 then you are likely headed towards more than an FB… After the Close ————— So if I had to build some “FB Rules” just based on what I know now, here’s what I’d say: 1) Stay away from “Relationship” talk – if it does come up I C&F my way around and change the subject… 2) Don’t meet with her unless you know you are going to fuck her. 3) Do NOT talk about life plans, or ask her about her family, or plan anything more than a few days in the future… (You CAN do this later AFTER she is an established FB – I waited 3 months) 4) Do NOT call just to chat… 5) Only sms her if you are going to invite her over to fuck (related to #2) 6) Don’t see her on a regular basis. And, DO NOT go out with her on Fri/Sat nights.
7) Try not to meet with her friends. If her girlfriends like you they WILL start putting BF thoughts into her head. I LOST a fine FB Black Girl that way… I don’t talk about other women and I NEVER ask her about what her and her friends did last weekend. If she asks me I just say, “My friends and I went out and had a blast!” Right now I have only 6 phone numbers in my phone. 4 of them are the FBs and 2 of them are HBs that I haven’t Day2′ed yet. If I can’t get them out on a Day2 quickly or I get to a Day3 and don’t close I delete them. New chicks are turning 18, getting divorced, breaking up with Bf’s or deciding to have something “on the side” everyday. Have fun! – Captain Jack Captain Jack says: February 24, 2008 at 1:58 pm
Anonymous1, I like ‘The Toyota Way’ and ‘The Goal’ both are great books. bobby rio, that’s actually a pretty common problem. You can probably replay the fuck-ups in your head and compare/contrast so you get a list of do’s, don’ts to start implementing when you really like the girl. anonymous2, asked ‘have your FB rules changed at all since the original post?’ Sort of. I don’t really have FBs anymore since I would rather be out practicing some experiment OR just relaxing at home. I think now I probably wouldn’t even take them out at all. Probably just be pure dirty sex, haaa( anonymous3 asked about Day Game( I don’t do Day Game mainly because when I’m out during the day I’m focusing on writing or running errands or reading( if I was going to do Day Game I’d probably just do Direct. anonymous4, asked how do you get them to leave? I don’t really care either way if they stay the night. It’s the morning that kinda sucks( what I do is say, “Oh shit( I forgot I have to be xyz at certain time.” But, I have a friend who has a lot of FBs and what he does is immediately after sex he gets on his computer and ignores them until they get the picture. ~ CJ ~
Can You Get Laid Everytime You Go Out? Posted at February 21, 2008
Yo, I’ve been saying for quite some time now that huge increases in my game won’t come from optimizing tactical seduction. I’m not going to see huge jumps by teasing better( or TB’ing better or handling logistics better. Sure, I could squeeze out another 15-20% but I’m looking for 200%, 300%, etc. I believe getting laid nearly EVERY time you go out is not only possible, it’s eventual. Of course you’ll have weird shit happen( one night Sinn and I were pulling a two set and the girl got in a fight in the bathroom. (Nothing like getting kicked in the head to break your state.) Another night I was pulling a 21 year old massage therapist from x-bar and her friend threw up in the passenger seat of her car as we were leaving the parking lot. (Yet another time I was taking a Stripper home and SHE opened my door at a stop light and puked( I’ve never seen so much liquid come from such a little human being( I remember thinking, ‘Where did she keep all of that?’) Shit happens. But, besides uncontrollable random shit happening I believe it’s possible. Anyone who reads my blog and archive knows that I have Approach Anxiety. It comes and goes and varies in its strength.
I could certainly just say, “Fuck it” and slog through it. The AA DOES subside after the first set or two but I keep having this nagging feeling that it is just not good to keep punishing yourself and suppressing emotions will make things worse for you. (This is why there is a LOT of self-medication going on in the community. I’d even go so far to say that AA and Misogyny are linked.) (The opposite tack is to Express your emotions using state-pumping techniques and run around opening sets like a Clown on Ecstasy.) I also believe that even when you force yourself and it goes well you are still working under less than optimal conditions. The emotion itself still lingers in your unconscious like a black cloud coloring everything you do. When the set does go well and you are rewarded you are rewarding the AA as well so it gets reinforced. The thing that keeps me going is that there are people who don’t have this issue. Normally, in NLP Modeling you’d find 3 Exemplars and take them through the Modeling process to discover the commonalities, build the model and then test it. The problem is all the guys I’ve met who don’t have AA aren’t getting the kind of results I want so their value as Exemplars is questionable. All the guys who are extremely good who have AA also are not getting better results than me AND are usually self-medicating (via Alcohol Abuse) as well. Does this mean that there aren’t guys at the level who don’t have AA? Not sure. Maybe not. My thinking is that many of those guys never even found the community because they didn’t need to( If you don’t have AA and you work and get really good results then you either 1) won’t look for the community or 2) look but be so turned off by the non-coolness of everyone that you leave. Society’s conditioning puts pressure on us to get a nice girlfriend, get married, etc. Many of these guys played for awhile( found a girl they liked and settled down( or have periods of play between longer periods of LTR. So, what’s a PUA Zen Ninja Scientist to do? The answer: Run experiments! My apologies to Sinn. He had a really hot two-set going. His target was exactly his type. I thought she was really hot as well because in addition to being thin, big boobed, nice assed, she was really elegant looking and not drunk. The obstacle was hot, too. Blonde, big titties, blue eyes, great face. They were ready to go but I was running my experiment. In retrospect I should’ve cut it off at 1:30 and helped him pull. It was on. Looking back I don’t think it would’ve necessarily hurt my experiment( so I should’ve done it. Here’s the experiment: As I’m sitting there in the club I become extremely aware of my internal feelings and my internal dialogue as I set my intention to go open a set. Wow, the shit that is in there. Really weird stuff. Then, you acknowledge the feeling, delabel it and let it go. When I say delabel I mean that you are not allowed to give it a big nominalization like “fear.” You delabel it by identifying only the kinesthetic associations. Knot in my stomach, coolness down the centerline( exhale and let it go. Why would someone do this instead of going and trying to “bang a hottie?” Because he’s committed to Mastery. The process of delabeling helps to stop the automatic subconscious programs that kick in when you’ve decided you are experiencing something. If you are experiencing FEAR right before you approach then you have automatic programs that kick in. They might cause you to open in a clowny manner( or subdued manner or whatever to protect yourself. This is NOT what we want. We want to open from a position of pure power, peace and calmness. That’s the next level. ~ CJ ~ P.S. If you think others would benefit from reading this let them know at Grow Your Game
Captain Jack says: February 24, 2008 at 1:46 pm
-papa, yeah Sinn really likes Osho and has recommended him a few times. His ideas sound very interesting in this area. Thanks for the recommendation. -evolpha, I’ve been hearing about Tolle for quite awhile now. I have his first book but at the time I started reading it (about 2 years ago) I couldn’t really get into it. I’m going to go back and read it soon. I’m a writer so I spend a lot of time at the bookstore coffee shop and I swear everytime I go in there at least one person is reading ‘A New Earth.’ Anonymous Joe, I went and looked at Satori’s blog and it’s pretty cool. I think he’s got a lot of useful ideas. Thanks guys for the recommendations/feedback. ~ CJ ~
Mass Sexual Framing Pre-Release Posted at February 22, 2008
Hey PUAs, I’ve taken my eCoaching Bootcamp off the market. I did this because I wrote it over 2 years ago and since then I’ve learned so much. I did a minor update right after Savoy and I did a joint-venture to his MM list but other than the minor changes I made for that it remains the same. But, there’s so much more to teach and learn. I recently decided to revamp the whole thing to incorporate ALL of the results from the various experiments I’ve done over the last 3+ years. The result is something I’ve called “Mass Sexual Framing” and for guys who want a STREAM of women in their lives it is killer. We set up and use EVERY tool in our arsenal to create a pool of women in our lives. But, there is a BIG difference in the ROLE those women will play. You see, most guys think in terms of getting a girl and working to seduce her( But, Mass Sexual Framing looks at each new girl in your ‘Pool’ as a Magnet for pulling in 3-5 OTHER females just like her. When done correctly with sexual framing it creates a feeding frenzy. But, I don’t want to release it community-wide until I’ve ironed out all of the kinks. This won’t simply be email lessons (like the old program) it will be audio and video as well and the last thing I want is to have technical issues with nearly a hundred guys breathing down my neck. So, if you’re interested I want to take you through the first 4 weeks of ‘Mass Sexual Framing.’ The full version will be 9 weeks long AND you’ll be guaranteed a spot and get a full discount for everything you’ve already paid me when I release it. But there are three little conditions( Number one: If there are a couple of technical glitches you’ll promise to be patient while I work through them. Nothing will take more than a day or so to fix, if there’s even a problem at all. Number two: For this version I’ll want to talk on the phone with you three times for 40 minutes. This WON’T be in the full version because there will be too many people. But, talking on the phone with you and coaching you through your Game issues will help me help you more AND give me better feedback on improving things. Number three: You won’t share any of the audio, video or written lessons with others. For this limited pre-release I can only take 10 PUAs( The cost of the first 4 weeks and the 3 one-on-one phone calls with me is $975.00. You can split that up into 3 payments of $400.00 spread 4 weeks apart. I’m not sure what the final cost will be when I release this publicly but it will most likely NOT be less than $1900. If you want all my newest stuff, all the stuff I only talk to my closest Wings and coaching students about then now’s the time to pull the trigger. 1 payment of $975 or 3 payments of $400. ~ CJ ~
Wang Stew Posted at February 23, 2008
*** I originally wrote this for the Warrior-King Society for the upcoming Feb. issue. *** This is the story of a normal person. We’ll call him Jimmy. When Jimmy was a wee little boy his parents would take him to the local Small Town Diner every week. The diner was famous for Chef Bertha’s Wang Stew. Not only would you see the gray bearded locals enjoying a steaming bowl, you’d notice the obvious out of towner shoveling bite after bite into their greedy pie holes. Pure gluttony in action. But, Wang Stew has that effect on people. Chef Bertha weighed about 300 lbs and stood nearly 6 feet tall. She rarely showered and always had a nice yellow film on her teeth( but, it didn’t really matter. Everybody loved Chef Bertha’s Wang Stew, especially Jimmy. Jimmy and his family ate there weekly, like clockwork, until Jimmy (now Jim) went off to college in the Big City. He missed his family of course, but he also missed Wang Stew. None of the Big City diners could come even close to that chunky deliciousness. Wang Stew gave Jim comfort. Freaking out over an exam? Have some Wang Stew( Rejected for a date? Have some Wang Stew( Irritated about your life? Have some Wang Stew( He had his momma freeze and ship Wang Stew out to him so he’d have some ready anytime he got beat up in life( (at every college break he made sure he got back to his home town to get some of Chef Bertha’s Wang Stew. After college Jim got a nice job back home in Small Town. Almost daily he’d have lunch at the Small Town Diner. Delicious, delicious, chunky, Wang Stew. One day as Jim settled down into “his” seat at “his” table the unthinkable happened. Marge: “Hi Hunny( what’ll you have?” Jim: “Hi, Marge( the usual( and a cup of decaf.” Marge: “oh( you didn’t hear? Chef Bertha isn’t here anymore(” Jim: “What?! Why???” Marge leans closer( “I’m not supposed to tell you this but(” she looks around, pauses and takes a seat. “Chef Bertha was fired a couple of days ago.” Jim: “But(why?” Marge: “Somebody was stealing supplies out of the kitchen so Mr. Jones had a hidden camera installed” Jim: “Bertha stealing??? C’mon!” Marge: “no(no( that’s not it(” as she lowers her voice and looks around again. Jim lifts his eyebrows awaiting an explanation. Marge: “Oh( I shouldn’t tell you this( but I have to( brace yourself hunny( You know how everybody loved Bertha’s stew( and how she always mentioned a secret ingredient but would never tell anyone the secret( not even Mr. Jones?” Jim: “Yes( go on.” Marge: “Well, the video camera( we couldn’t believe it( every morning when Chef Bertha made the stew( just when all the ingredients were in the pot and ready to go( Chef Bertha would pull down her pants( and take a shit in the pot.” Jim sat there for a second( a blank expression on his face. Marge nudged him, “You alright, hunny?” He slammed his hand on the table and said, “Damnit Marge, don’t bother me with the fucking details( just tell me where Chef Bertha works now so I can go get more of that delicious Wang Stew!” And nowhere is there more Wang Stew than in ‘the Community.’ You’ve got different kinds( some is extra chunky with bold Wang flavor( some has been blended real well so you hardly taste the Wang as it goes down( some of it is almost pure Wang. I guess it all depends on what kind of Wang Stew you grew up on( but this isn’t about finding a better tasting Wang( it’s about getting the Wang out of your Stew so you can really have that sense of fulfillment, so you can really get that life and lifestyle you want.
Right now I’m still battling the Wang Stew I adopted a long time ago. That Wang Stew says that all the ‘cool people’ at the club are better than me socially( mmmm, can you taste that Wang? It says that I can’t get girls of a certain type( but I can get girls of another type. Nice, chunky Wang. The thing about Wang is in order for you to eat it, it has to be hidden in some Stew. This means that Wang is gonna be a floater just below the surface. You have to open neutral because the group isn’t gonna like you. Wang. You have to neg because she is higher than you. Wang. Girls aren’t sexual so you have to pair-bond first. Wang. Same Night Lays are Fools Mate. Wang. Only x-guys get girls like that. Wang. We’re awash in Wang Stew. You can grab a spoon and dig in( forcing down each bite until you hate your life( or you can say, “No more wang for me, thanks!” and start examining all the harmful presuppositions and root them out( Which is it gonna be? ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. With special thanks to the Huna Kumu. P.P.S. Join me and stop eating Wang Stew.
Captain Jack says: February 24, 2008 at 1:42 pm
crac, hey man glad it helped! I’ll be doing more vidoes in the future. a, I’ve written about the non-useful presupps quite a bit in scattered posts. Probably time for a dedicated post. ~ CJ ~
FUR: The Octopus and The Nurse Posted at February 26, 2008
FUR = Fuck-up Report. So, I went out last night feeling pretty good. The internal work I’ve been doing is paying off really well. I’m experiencing the phenomena the Masculinity writers named ‘Fire in the Belly.’ It’s a real thing and it’s a good description. I have this pleasant swirling sensation at the top of my stomach right under the sternum. It’s moving to the center of my chest were it radiates to my limbs. Occasionally, energy seems to move up the top part of my spine and shoot out sending goose bumps all over my shoulders and upper back. I got to the venue a bit early thinking I’d have a delicious diet beverage and an appetizer but when I got there all the tables were taken by couples and groups( so I nixed the idea. There were only two girls when I got there and about 25 dudes. I started talking to a black guy (we’ll call him Black Dude from here on out) from Louisiana who had me cracking up. While we were talking a really cute blonde with big boobs walked by and gave me an AI. He said, “Dawg( that’s you man( she wants it.” I nodded in agreement. She had a big friend (and by big I mean tall and fat) with her. My utter disdain for 2sets with bad logistics made me hesitate and before I knew it a guy who looked like Clark Kent (not the acceptable looking Dean Cain version but the dork in the original movies) came in and chode intro’ed himself( (and then he went for the ‘big’ friend! His friend came in and intro’ed himself to the cute blonde and about 2 minutes later they were all over each other. Black dude looked at me and said, “He’s getting laid tonight!” I said, “Hey, what’s up(” to another few sets and they really didn’t take off so I kept rolling around.
Black dude was cracking me up again because of his approach. His idea was to simply poke the girl as she walked by( if she stopped and smiled he’d talk( if she kept walking or looked at him like he’s a weirdo then he’d act like he didn’t do anything. Around midnight the place was getting packed but the ratio was still about 5 guys to 1 girl. A set of really hot girls strolled right up next to me at the bar( I looked at all 4 of them and said, “Hey, how’s it going?” They all smiled and said, “good!” and the taller strawberry blonde one who was closest to me said, “We just got back from the mavs game” (CAUTION: One of the most boring conversations in the history of the earth follows() CJ: Cool. You having a good night? HB: Oh yeah, we’re having lots of fun. The mavs won! At this point she’s facing me. The other 3 girls have kind of faded and are just looking at us. CJ: How’d Dirk do? HB: He kept on missing! CJ: Hmm( he’s usually pretty good (I looked this morning, he scored 29 points( there’s not a lot of missing going on when you score 29 points) She says something I can’t remember. CJ: Where you from? HB: I’m from New York. CJ: Oh yeah, I was there awhile back. I don’t think I have an accent but when I was up there they kept on pointing it out and asking me to say things( like y’all. HB: Haaa( yeah, I’ve been here 11 years and when I talk to family they say an accent has rubbed off on me( I say y’all sometimes but I’ll never say ‘fixin’ CJ: We’re fixinta go( HB: Haaa( yeah At this point I notice that with each sentence she has been inching closer. She now has her luscious, above average, lightly freckled boobies pressed up against me. GIGANTOR begins to stir( CJ: So what do you do? HB: I’m a nurse( ER nurse( all of us are( (pointing to a group of about 6 hotties who are still watching us) CJ: Oh good( another nurse. HB: What? CJ: * Shaking head * HB: What? CJ: I used to date an ER nurse, she was always stressed out! HB: I don’t get stressed out. CJ: But it was so cute because she was so nurturing( One night we were hanging out watching a movie and I was going to pick up some food for us( as I was leaving she rushed over and said, “Oh no( you can’t go out there without your jacket.” She got my jacket out and zipped me up( it wasn’t really even cold outside. HB: Yeah, I guess all nurses are like that( CJ: So you probably have that nurse schedule( 3 or 4 long days and then time off. HB: Yeah( But, I don’t think I’m going in tomorrow because I hurt my ankle. At this point she is pushing her whole body against me. Her face is barely an inch from me. She’s looking up at me with those big Doe brown eyes. But, I’m supposed to be indifferent( (MUST remain indifferent( (indifference is the dif – ah fuck it – I pull her into me and we make out like pornstars. She is cleaning my tonsils with her tongue. She grabs the top of my pants and pulls my hips into hers. GIGANTOR nearly busts through my pants going from slightly chubby to fully erect purple headed womb ferret. I run “Jealous ex deleted my numbers(” HB: I’m not jealous but I do have a temper. It’s the Irish in me. CJ: Irish huh? Not sure about you(
Strawberry fields. 8 Strawberries( Oh my god, you’d wear me out. “Did the farmer see you? Oh my god( you’re such a bad little girl!” Make out. She rubs GIGANTOR. CJ: All catholic girls I know have been into handcuffs and being tied up. She gives me another tonsil cleaning. Some Miami tennis guy comes over and we go over to the table full of nurses. They’re all so hot I briefly consider trying to switch targets but then I nix the idea becaues they’ve seen us trying to swallow each other’s faces. We hang out there another few minutes before I pull her back to the bar. Not much talking. Lots of making out. I undo her bra in about 2 seconds and cup her breasts and pinch her nipples. She says, “oh my god( you did that so fast! You better reconnect it!” CJ: I’m really good at undoing them( not so good at redoing them. HB: You better! (She’s super turned on and attracted() I manage to do it( and then she turns around and shoves her booty into my crotch and says, “Hmmm( somebody is having fun.” HB: You’re a player aren’t you. I ignore. CJ: Get out your phone. You can reach out to me sometime when you’re not busy. She calls me, “Now you have my number.” I really, really should’ve tried for the pull. Damnit. I waited and then her friends came by and got her about 1:15. At 1:36 a.m. I sent her this text: “Bad girl.” She replied, “No problems, no worries. Really enjoyed talking 2 u. Hope to talk 2 u soon.” I replied, “Yeah, reach out to me when you’re not busy.” She replied, ‘If I would have been busy, i wouldn’t have messaged u. Have good night and b safe!” I strategized via text with Sinn if I should go for it( but I think the ‘Have good night and b safe!’ phrase closes the door on “Drunk and Lonely” especially since neither of us were drunk (or lonely). She might be worth a Day2. Superb body. Flat stomach. Juicy booty and big boobs. I fucked up by being too sexual AND not trying for the pull. I think even a ‘I’m done with this place( walk me to my car’ would’ve at least advanced it far enough for a possible car close or her cracking and coming home with me. Fun times even though it would’ve been a lot better to have another SNL to add to my body of work! ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: I'm Not Easy! Posted at February 28, 2008
I don’t know a lot about you( but I do know this: You are one smart mother fucker. I know this because you read my blog instead of wasting your time on stupid shit like working, doing your taxes and cleaning your toilet. You know what all that stuff is? It’s LMS – Lesser Mortal Shit Lesser Mortal Shit is anything that interferes with you sucking all the nectar out of life. Now, I can hear some of you saying, “What about responsibilities? What about being a good citizen?” I say, “Yeah man! Do that stuff( BUT, I’m proposing that the stuff you were told is being a ‘good citizen’ is actually the stuff someone ELSE thinks you should be doing to be a good citizen and NOT what you’d decide had you sat down and CONSCIOUSLY decided how you want your life.” Why be a COG in someone else’s wheel, getting only an hour or two per day (and the weekend) to do the shit your SOUL aches for when you can be your own self-determined being? Leave that Lesser Mortal Shit to someone else. There are beautiful women to be orgasmed. A couple of days ago I posted ‘FUR: The Octopus and the Nurse’( I texted her this afternoon: ’8 Strawberries!’ and she texted back right away with ‘Haaa! What’re u doin?’
CJ: “Aren’t you at work?” HB: “No. Sprained ankle that night.” CJ: “Wow! What a wimp! I was going to see if you wanted to hang out but can’t be seen with a girl using a walker.” HB: “If you ask me nicely I’ll leave the walker home.” Set her up via text for coming over 8:30. My standard day2 is to get them to come over. When they get here I have them come inside and hug them to test their body tension. She was only about half way open so I offered her some wine (picked it up at the gas station earlier). (Had she been fully open I would’ve shoved her against the wall and started heavy make out, hand on throat, hair pulling, etc.) We chatted a bit. I made fun of her wound. We drank wine on my couch and I escalated more. Got her shirt off. She started resisting so I immediately stopped. Went back to chatting for 5-10 minutes and tried again. More resistance so I took her to the local bar. Cheese sticks. Potato Wedges. Beer. Cool music. We got into a frame battle there. Or, more accurately she tried to set frames which I rejected, turned around and then utilized to reinforce my own. HB: “What church do you go to?” (This is a question a girl asks for future relationship compatibility. She has a checklist of things she wants from the dude in LTR and her goal on the date is to check them off one by one.) CJ: “We’re here! First X-Bar of Arlington!” (I’m pretty sure she DID NOT want me to say that a bar was my church since a few minutes earlier she said she doesn’t go to bars much because of the smokiness and loud music. Haaa. So, I’m rejecting the Frame that this is an evaluative LTR date using cocky-funny.) At one point after making out I tell her she’s turning me on( I put her hand on GIGANTOR (naturally, she gasps) and tell her it’s her fault. That she’s doing it to me and I’m not responsible for whatever happens. I mention taking her into the bathroom, the car, the alley or right there on the table. HB: “I’m not that easy!” CJ: “Oh god! Stop! That turns me on when you say things like that!” That steals her frame. Now, anytime she tries to reiterate her “I’m not easy” frame then she knows it will turn me on. Since it doesn’t have the effect she originally wants then she has to either abandoned it and try to set the frame a different way OR if she DOES decide she wants to turn me on then she has a way to do it. CJ wins. She makes a few more attempts to set an LTR Evaluation Frame which I reject by turning things sexual, using cocky-funny or misinterpretation. We get back to the Pirate Pad and clothes fly off with no LMR, no hesitation. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. The new Sticking Point Analysis Presentation is now on YouTube( minus the Coughing. Follow the link to subscribe to the Channel. More Web 2.0 stuff to come.
Heart Melters and Babies Posted at February 29, 2008
Whenever I write about HeartMelters I use the example of how Mothers would always seem to want to show your new friend or girlfriend your baby pictures. Do you remember that? And you would say, “Mom! Don’t(” but before you knew it she’d grab the EXACT photo album with the picture of you as a naked baby getting a bath in the kitchen sink to your prom date. And, there your Mom and your prom date sat on the couch like old girlfriends giggling away at your tiny baby penis. Well, it seems like Moms KNOW by intuition (or culturization, their moms did it to them, etc, etc) that it has an effect on the brain.
Check out this post from a Neuroscience/Marketing blog I read regularly. ~ Captain Jack ~
The Rise of Shaft Posted at March 2, 2008
Shaft is a PUA I would actually pay to be in a seminar room to learn from, and there are damn few of those. Further, he’s a PUA I would cough up money to take a one-on-one with (if he even did that sort of thing) and there are even fewer PUAs (probably 3) on that list. Read about Shaft and Subpersonalities here. ~ CJ ~
What Would You Do if ‘The Community’ Did Not Exist? Posted at March 7, 2008
Tribulus emailed me and a few other PUAs/Friends this email( I’ve actually been doing this for a few months now( except I’m acknowledging that the Community exists just that it is wrong about everything(
Just for a moment, Imagine…. No community. No help whatsoever aside from Barbara DeAngelis and Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus. No Gurus, No bootcamps, No seminars, No TV shows, No online forums or DVD’s or CD’s. No RSD, Mystery Method, No Speed Seduction…. All of it….Gone. Imagine a big dupster in your mind and all that stuff going into the dumpster and then the dumpster fades into nothingness. What do you do? You are alone with no help. You still need to meet a sex partner or a girlfriend or lover. Biological urges are the same. But now its just you and girls. Take this seriously. What does your heart tell you to do? Tell us what you’d do in the comments section below( Read what OTHER community bloggers wrote when posed this same question: Solace from LetsInspire.net Maysin’s Musings
Phone Coaching Posted at March 8, 2008
A week or so ago I posted some information about the “Mass Sexual Framing” eCoaching program( which I am about to start the phone conferences on next week( if you want in then sign up by Monday details here.
What I’m going to do is find out EXACTLY where you are now and where you want to go (ultimately) and then help you apply Sticking Point Analysis and formulate Field Experiments for you to run. You do the experiments and report back to me( which starts another round of Sticking Point Analysis and Field Experiments. If you think this is something that can help you then you can join “Mass Sexual Framing” to get 3 rounds of it( Or, if you want a more focused in-depth package email me here. ~ CJ ~
Cookie Cutter or Customized? Posted at March 11, 2008
Ok, I’ve had a few people sign up for the ‘Mass Sexual Framing’ pre-release w/ 3 40-minute Phone Consultations and I’ve had a few more people email me asking some questions about how the phone consults work. Even if you never sign up for this, understanding what I do and working through the questions below is likely to help you a great deal( Here’s the idea behind the Phone Consults. I use a series of targeted questions to understand you, your desires and your current level of Game. Based on that, I help you flesh out a new Game Plan along with a series of Experiments to go out in-field and run. You email me with any questions/results during that week for feedback. Instead of Cookie-Cutter Question and Answer phone consults it’s entirely customized to your specific needsD The next week, we discuss in more detail what’s going on and I diagnose your current sticking points and help you find solutions to bust them. We design more Experiments for the next week( ..and so on. Here are the beginning questions: Hey, man, how’s it going? (Haaa() 1. What’s your ultimate goal for pick-up? Ex: ‘Have fun for a few years, then get married(” 2. If you achieve that what will it do for you? Ex: “Feel more confident, feel like I have control of my life.” 3. How long in ‘The Community?’ 4. Any formal training like a bootcamp or 1-on-1? 5. What systems/products have you studied? 6. Give me an example of a normal night out for you( what do you normally do in-set, give me an example of your standard Game Plan. 7. What’s happening now? This is where we start really trucking( What I’m looking for here is the patterns that show up in your Game. From here on out I’m trying to discover EXACTLY what is preventing you from getting to the next level. Once I discover that through further questioning I develop a custom solution for the Sticking Point that is holding you back. We then re-design your Game Plan around that solution and drill it together until you understand PRECISELY what you need to do in every set, every night you go out. Each night you go out you can send me a summary of what went down for comment. After a few of these phone calls you’ll GET and fully understand how Sticking Point Analysis and the focused help of someone who has been (and surpassed) where you are can really rocket your Game. More details here( ~ CJ ~ P.S. Stay tuned( LOTS of cool shit coming soon! P.P.S. I’ll be in NYC this weekend
Podcast: CJ on Frames! Posted at March 19, 2008
Yo, I’m sitting here with El Topo enjoying a delicious Chicken Caesar Salad from Boston Market. El Topo just burped into his MacBook as a mic test. We’re about to do another podcast, this time on Framing. Same Night Lays (SNL) should actually be called, “Same Night Lays as an Application of Framing.” The framing methodology itself can be adapted to ANYTHING provided you know what the Societal and/or Authoritative frames (the default frames) are and you know WHAT frames you need to set and which frames to avoid( http://www.betheseducer.com/2009/01/sexual-framing-audios/ ~ Captain Jack ~
Captain Jack says: March 24, 2008 at 6:43 pm
evolpha – the new podcast with ET is almost 2 hours long( anonymous1 – posted that when I was drunk. It’s safe to assume any rap video posting is due to drunkeness anonymous2 – don’t know anything about Style’s Annihilation Method
Other Than What You Think It Is Posted at March 28, 2008
Think of something you’re stuck on or struggling too hard to figure out and ask yourself this simple question: “Can I let go of being so smart and allow it to be other than what I think it is?” The “Can I” question is not a question of capability( it’s a decision. You CAN, so decide to and then notice how your thoughts and feelings around that subject change. ~ CJ ~ P.S. Post any observations/experiences you have in the comments section below.
Captain Jack says: March 29, 2008 at 9:10 pm
What we’re trying to get rid of here is an attachment to being right which will keep you stuck in your current situation( When you are in this situation you will stay in the same (or just slightly improved) state no matter how much effort or expertise you develop. Allowing yourself to think that it could be other than what you think it is allows you to attract new ideas, opportunities and contacts.
Mass Sexual Framing Success Posted at April 2, 2008
Here’s an email from a MSF (Mass Sexual Framing) student I received earlier. This is after just one phone consult where I helped him refine his opener and the first 20-30 to set the proper sexual frames(
“You’re the real deal man, I just pulled after 20 mins in the club, never done that before – strawberry fields, making her stroke my forearm, Time Bridge, Rings on Fingers, bounce to “play guitar”. Got LMR’d tho, been watching too much Calipimp, tried to ger her hand on my beast but she retracted, also forgot to run questions game. Do you have a favourite endgame M.O. – e.g. go rough talk, dirty, try get in her pants or get her in yours first?” Here’s my response: Awesome dude.. VERY quick pull hence the LMR. With that quick of a pull I’d suggest doing a lot of sexual teasing via push/pull. Pull her in and kiss her then push her away= talk normal= then do that stuff I told you about that makes it seem like SHE is seducing you with her mannerisms. Use the specific ones we discussed as they’re tailored to YOUR game. Keep doing that over and over and over again and she’ll basically go nuts and start pulling YOUR clothes off= When she’s there just assume you two are going to have sex so you can relax a bit( slow down and tease. You can still get in on the MSF Pre-Release here. ~ CJ ~
Farewell Posted at April 3, 2008
Fidelio gives Farewell( Fireside with Fidelio: Farewell
Question from a Stud(ent) Posted at April 6, 2008
ok, ive been LMR’d 4 times in one week, twice on the beach, plus another pull from a club. How many times do u recommend doing the make out/push away thing bf going for the jugular? I did 2 push aways + as u said she loved it, but when I went all in, she was going crazy, then suddenly, she just stops started shit testing about my dirty talk. Possibly my dirty talk is too elaborate, premediated so it kills the frame that she’s seducing me? Anyhoo, I guess this is a good problem to have, I love how efficient your game is, doesn’t require memorizing anything, it’s completely effortless. One other point, the downside of all the sexual framing seems to be there isnt that dreamy deep, meaningful comfort vibe that u get if e.g. u run the cube instead – do u have natural ways of creating that as well so that even if the SNL doesnt go down, she’ll still think ur amazing amd be down for the day2? Thx man, MSF is the balls My reply: The answer, my friend, is “Heart Melters.” See, now that you’ve established and gotten good at setting the sexual frame(you can give a very deep 3-dimensional look into your life in a way that DOES NOT kill the sexual vibe( instead it will make it deeper and more meaningful for her. You’re going to give her a very intense shot of NONSEXUAL emotion to bring everything to the next level. Once you combine those two you’ll be able to do WHATEVER you want with her( Want her to be your girlfriend? Done. Want to keep her around forever for sex only? Done.
Want just one night of awesome, dirty sex? Done. But, what do MOST guys try to do? They try to get an emotional connection and THEN go sexual( doesn’t work that way. Waste o’ time. (Ok, now I’m talking to my blog readers() She WANTS sex. She got fucking dressed up for 2 hours to get everything just right so a guy would notice her and come talk to her so she could possibly (finally) get laid by someone new. So, quit being so goddamned stingy and give her what she wants. If she wanted a nice tame conversation, an enjoyable dinner and a PG-13 movie she could simply answer one of the ass kissing texts or voice mails of the horde of chodes she’s given her number to (so they’d finally leave) in the past couple of weeks. But, she hasn’t done that has she? Nope. She wants some strange. Give it to her. ~ CJ ~
aptain Jack says: April 13, 2008 at 5:44 am
mmapua – The first frame to open is male-female dynamic frame( then, sexual frame( then, emotional connection. ~ CJ ~ Reply
Is this a Lay? Posted at April 9, 2008
Yo, so things have been getting fucking nuts in Big D. I woke up at 2:00 pm on Sunday and didn’t sleep again until about 7 or 8 pm Monday night. Printer, a good friend who I’m helping refine his Game (he also worked with Sinn and El Topo), posted back-toback SNL’s this weekend and ALMOST posted his 3rd in a row on Sunday night had he not been so smashed he couldn’t get it up. And, man, did she try to get it up. But, no go. That same night I got a super hot 20-year old blonde from the ‘in crowd’ at the Sunday night venue we usually go to( she was in one of those little bitty dresses that go just an inch past the ass. Here’s my question: I spanked her, I sucked on her tits, I fingered her 4 or 5 times but she was giving me HUGE LMR for penile insertion( I finally got GIGANTOR(TM) in halfway before she totally clinched up and said, “oh my god. oh my god. We just met. Oh my god.” I wasn’t able to take another shot as we were interrupted soon after that. But, this has happened a few times now. The few times it’s happened, the girls are in the 18-22 age range. I usually DON’T write an LR until I see them again and bang them properly but I figured I’d throw it out there to see what you guys think( Is this a Lay? And, should I change my policy and write LRs? Or, should I continue waiting to write them until I can do it proper? And, if you think I shouldn’t write one, where is the line? We’ll ignore the fact that half a GIGANTOR(TM) is about the size of a normal male penis( Debate in the comments( ~ CJ ~
P.S. I don’t think I’m going to get a second shot at her. I texted her earlier and got no reply so unless I run into her again or she texts me out of the blue it’s probably not going to happen. P.P.S. Saturday night made out with a cute girl with the biggest natural tits I’ve ever seen in my life. She’s in law school and damn was she tough to break down(
"She Stripped Down Within 5 Minutes…" Posted at April 14, 2008
So, the success stories from “Mass Sexual Framing” clients are started to come in with greater frequency( A client who I’ve done 2 phone consults with so far had a night where he did 2 approaches and got one SNL( Here’s what he had to say about how MSF helped him: ====== Begin Client’s Email ========= (what I think has really helped so far has been your uncanny ability to figure out (remotely) what my initial sticking point(s) really were: 1) Too much in my head / trying to memorize too much canned script; 2) Not having an Expectation of convo, and; 3) Not having my “fun hat” on, i.e., be out primarily to have fun; and if a SNL or Day 2 is generated along the way, so much the better. Because, if you look at it, pretty much everything I said to that girl last night, I already “knew” before we started working together, it’s just that most of that knowledge was mixed-in with 100 pounds of other information that was not congruent with who I am, and therefore was holding me back to the point that I wasn’t even going out. The big thing we’ve done is “field-strip” my game, take the “gamey-ness” out, reduce it to the minimum core components, get those components organized, and then add additional tailored components on an as-needed basis. So right now, I feel like I’m working on building a strong foundation and once I get that down cold, we’ll add-in the MSF’s. Can’t wait to see what the MSF’s are all about! I really like those “tame” male-female dynamic statements, though(can’t wait to hear the less-tame ones! (What he’s talking about here are the male-female dynamic frames I introduced to MSF clients during Phone Consults= I haven’t talked or blogged about them previously put they make the Sexual Frames MUCH stronger.) Btw, the girl that blew me out on SF, prior to that, her entire body-language underwent a major shift right after I told her she has a great smile. She smiled, turned towards me (and away from her g/f)(it was pretty interesting. What I was thinking about at that moment was your comment about how chicks prep themselves for 2 hours before going out, and how a comment like that is basically giving them what they really want(they want that almost as much (maybe more in some cases) as they want sex. Powerful if you’re sincere when you deliver the line. I suppose with SF, it’s good news/bad news, anything that is super-effective like SF (good news) gets out there to such an extent that it becomes a victim of it’s own effectiveness, and therefore becomes less successful (bad news)? I’m not saying we’ve reached that point yet with SF, but, nothing wrong with planning for that reality(.so I hear what you’re saying about taking the core elements of SF and creating a different “game”. I’ll have to think about some new variables(strawberries are so perfect though, it’s tough to top that. Thinking-back on the SF approach, and it probably wouldn’t have made much difference, but I did ask her, “So how many strawberries did you eat?” She said 4. So I said, “Wow” and looked away in slight disbelief(.so she said, “Why? What?’ Me: “Well, that’s a lot(I mean, most girls say 1 or 2″. So at this point, in retrospect of course, it could still have been salvageable(Here’s where I screwed it up(She said, “Why, how may did you say when you played?” Me: “Well, it’s really a girls test(it’s not really a guys test” Her: “What do you mean?” Me: “I don’t know(” (brilliant). At this point, I basically wanted to drop the whole subject(.so I said I probably would eat 2025 strawberries(trying to shock / hook her into a different thread —- didn’t work((so that’s where the convo started to get a little uncomfortable-feeling. I was feeling like a chode. And I couldn’t think of anything to qualify her on, b/c she already told me she was Indian(we had already been talking for 20 minutes or so, so a lot of ground was covered in terms of Q&A, so I was sort-of tapped-out(that’s where I think some good Qualification threads would be good, b/c at that point, you can’t really do another male-female dynamic line(
I was under the weather last Friday / Saturday, so I didn’t go out at all, consequently no approaches. Last night was the first night I did any approaches since our last phone call, and I only did 2 approaches, the second being the SNL (such a naughty girl). Took approx. 30-45 minutes from approach to bounce. Within 5 minutes of getting to my place she had completely stripped herself(.good lord(. ========= End Client’s Email ============== Not bad, at all. I’m ready to take on some more clients. So, here’s the deal: 3 40-minute phone consults where I break down your game, access to ALL my past eCoaching programs, the new MSF videos, a few important Warrior-King Society issues and whatever else I come up with in the next few months. 1 payment of $975 or 3 payments of $400. I can only handle 5 more guys right now. ~ CJ ~
Captain Jack says: April 15, 2008 at 8:24 pm
I actually prefer bars/lounges over the club scene. This program is tailored to you so I take an inventory of your current situation and skill set and build what’s called a “Current Reality Tree.” Then, we talk about what you want your future to look like, the “Future Reality Tree.” And, from there I build a “Transition Tree” and we work on implementing it over the 3 phone calls. email me at captainjackpua AT gmail DOT com if you have any other questions. ~ CJ ~
Introducing A New Zen Master From The Poontang Clan! Posted at May 3, 2008
What follows is a yahoo chat I had with a good friend and student( I fixed a few of his early game sticking points and he made some great progress BUT he had some of the worst Approach Anxiety ever. It was right around my level. His previous solution was to get smashed and work within his extensive social circle to get new girls into the fold. We installed some new stuff for him the week of April 8th which knocked out his Approach Anxiety( Since then his results have been spectacular. (I’ll have a LOT more to say on Approach Anxiety in the coming month,) CaptainJack: i’m really clear on it( making good decisions( what happened with your SNL last night? ThePrinter: dude, it was like I had a target on my back she tried to have stronger frame and each time she walked away, I had multiple chicks all around CaptainJack: the target on your back says, “Mantacular”(give me the scoop dude, how did you open? ThePrinter: she was starring at me across the bar(so I walked over and said, , , “hey, how’s your night” CaptainJack: WTF? What about “Hey do you believe magical spells work?” haaa ThePrinter: she said, very well, how about you(I said, good and I would like to introduce you to my group of friends, but we are going to dance first(put out my hand, didn’t even ask(we danced for 1/4 of a song and I did no effort from that point on(brunette, fake tits, size 1/2, 5’5″(she was smoking, 8.7 to me CaptainJack: FB material then?
(This is me checking his goal progress. He wants 3 FBs in his rotation at all times with a min. score of 8+ each. He wants the ability to keep it full by rotating out ones he’s tired of and using cold approach to fill the vacant spots.) ThePrinter: YES! she left the bar and text me good bye(I replied: “are you really going to throw me to the lions without a good bye hug”(she replied, I have not left the parking lot yet(I said, up to you, do you have manners? She said she would come in if we could dance, but she had to be good tonight. I said, I don’t feel like dancing, but I have a hug if she wants it. She came back, 10 minutes later, I said, ready to get out of here? She said, “Where?” ThePrinter: I said we are going to my house to play pool(she said do you have a pool table(I said no(no resistance, no LMR(I didn’t even take off her skirt ThePrinter: I told her I would invite her back agian if she could squirt(she got REALLY turned on(and said: “is that really ok?” ThePrinter: she watched 2 girls make out with me last night(and said, you did everything you could do to respect me, but why do girls throw themselves at you? I was thinking, they don’t usually(I said nothing CaptainJack: did you tell her you were a Zen Master from the Poontang Clan? ThePrinter: no, I told her that this kind of thing never happens to me( she believed me because I was pushing chicks off constantly. I was so turned on, I made her get on top and I had to plug my ears with my fingers, she came 4 times(first time I listened and didn’t have my fingers in my ears I had to let it rip ThePrinter: wanna go out? CaptainJack: it’ll be a game-time decision for me – fucking gets in the way of meditation CaptainJack: approach anxiety when you went up to her? (This is me testing again. We’ve taken care of it BUT I’m checking for the possiblity of it’s return. Since taking care of it I’ve also learned there’s another little barrier. We’ve been motivating ourselves with negativity for so long that when we remove it there is a calmness and peace in the Approach environment which makes it FEEL GOOD to just enjoy the lack of negativity. You are really ok to not approach( but, this makes for a lot of standing around. I’ve recently developed a new exercise to install and use positive motivators for approaching (or even better, being approached!) — More to come( ) ThePrinter: NONE(which was weird, I have never approached a chick instantly direct that was eye fucking me CaptainJack: stumbling around like a drunken pirate? ThePrinter: sober, red bull only CaptainJack: fuck yeah, man CaptainJack: where were her friends? ThePrinter: I never asked, I assumed it was on and ran it CaptainJack: good ThePrinter: expressed zero insecurity CaptainJack: On an effort scale 1( being lowest to 10 being Highest where was it? ThePrinter: 3(she didn’t make me try(I led her by letting her believe she was in comp with the other girls CaptainJack: nice( how did you do that? Did you say it explicitly? ThePrinter: I told her( “I can tell you are the leader of your group(you must be the boss at work(I am really attracted to women who take charge(we are the same because we both know what we want and have the ability to go for it CaptainJack: fantastic! ThePrinter: told her that I know she really wants to kiss me right now, but I am going to kiss her when I am ready(she tried to kiss me and I took her hand and led her to get a drink(she was confused(she didn’t realize that it was close to the side of the bar and a wall was 12 feet away(after we got a drink I walked to a table, she put her drink down next to mine and I pushed her against the wall and kissed her(she was really into that CaptainJack: sweet(How did you get the number? ThePrinter: very early(I told her that we needed to hang out soon, but I would have to let her know because my travel schedule was full(and she better get my number before my fan club draggs me off (. huge challenge CaptainJack: haaa(. did you use the new frame I told you about? The just-relaxing frame? ThePrinter: she really led, I just guided, she thought I was leading(I was not, I was mostly reading(when she typed her number in my phone I took it back and erased her name(I said, “I’m putting you under H for horny”(she said that she was going to put me under T for tired( I said that I hoped she had gatoraide
ThePrinter: AHH, one important point was overcoming LSE. About an hour in, she said, why me? She said that I could have all these girls, why her? I said: “if I wanted those girls, I could leave for sex an hour ago, but I only talk to people who I find interesting. Those girls are judgemental and do not have the ability to stimulate me like you do.” ThePrinter: Continued by saying that I thought there was something here and she should correct me if I was wasting my time. She said: “I am not going to sleep with you” I said: “I am not here to judge you, what happens happens, I may take you home so you can clean my house, I like my shirts folded and my pants ironed” ThePrinter: she laughed and still looked a little insecure, while thinking, WTF, Why, I looked at her and said: “I like you, let yourself enjoy me.” While I said that, I grabbed her hand, squeezed it and then pushed it away to grab my drink(she smiled for like 3-5 minutes straight CaptainJack: So, what is that now 3 SNL’s, a social circle 3-some, a bad BJ from a SUPER HOT married chick and a sure-lay that you couldn’t close because of drunkeness( all since since we put in the new foundation on April 8th? ThePrinter: Yep, you are the man! CaptainJack: I know.
Lay Report: Juggs. Posted at May 15, 2008
When I was a kid my dad and I moved in with my Grandparents for awhile after my mom and dad got divorced.
It was cool with me( They had a big backyard, a big front yard and plenty of quiet streets to do wheelies on my bike. I ordered a bunch of stuff from “Asian World of Martial Arts” – a bunch of Shuriken and a Bokken and my Authentic Ninja Suit complete with Tabi. I’d lose myself for hours running around hurling Shuriken into my Ninja Enemies (the trunks of my Granddad’s prized trees) then slicing their heads off with one simple pass of my Bokken. Every morning I’d wake up deciding what new missions I would have to perform or what scenes I’d be re-enacting from “Enter The Ninja.” Until I discovered porn. And, here’s how it happened: One day my friend and I were riding our bikes around the neighborhood. I got the crazy idea to go past Vickery. You probably had a Vickery in your youth too. It’s that street that your parents said, “Don’t go past that street( It’s too far.. It’s too dangerous( You’re liable to get kidnapped and molested by weirdos in a white van with no windows( blah, blah, blah(” My friend looked at me like I was nuts. I spoke not a word to let him know I was serious. I could see him calculating in his head. The punishment versus the payoff. After a full minute( the faint etchings of a smile started on the right side of his face and then, gaining speed with each second, spread all the way across until he was grinning like a monkey who had just discovered a barrel of bananas.
I slammed down my highest pedal and looked back at him( “C’mon!” He sped towards me. We pedaled like Tour De Force bikers for the Vickery finish line. Our enthusiasm came to a dead stop when we got there. The steel cars rushed by so fast the wind actually moved our bodies a bit. Those suckers were moving Fast! We decided we needed a little more training, plus( what did we really want to see past Vickery anyway? We headed back home. Across the railroad tracks we looked down and noticed a box. Being curious kids we thought it could be treasure or something( (and it was! A box full of porn magazines. I’m not talking about 4 or 5 or even 10( There had to be nearly 40 or more. An entire assortment! And, they weren’t Playboys either. They were Oui, Penthouse, and my all-time fave: Swank. But, the one that really caught my eye was Juggs. It was unreal! After that find I played less and less Ninja and got more and more interested in girls. So, tonight I was reminded of that time I first encountered Juggs when I pulled this girls bra and top off. Juggs. Amazing. They are etched into my memory. I took mental snapshots of them in action sequence after action sequence. And, bonus she happens to be cool. We never went out. I met her at a hotel after party when Mr. X prank called her friend’s party acting like Hotel Security. They came down (8 of them) in their P.J.s to drink with us. Me and Mr. X and 8 hot girls. At first I thought she was being bitchy( I started getting into subtle verbal battles with her. I considered outright negging her. But then I asked myself, “Could you let go of being so smart and allow it to be other than what you think it is?” As soon as I did that I noticed a considerable shift in our conversation. I began to see her “bitchiness” as a manifestation of Ego-Protection and her tendency to relive her Story more than paying attention to what is actually occurring right in front of her. (On a semi-related note: I had been noticing and pointing Low Self Esteem (LSE) out to friends/students/puas for a couple of months. I now believe 95% of girls in the bar ARE LSE so bad it is dumbfounding. I’ll write more about this later( but, start watching for it and you’ll start to see it all over the place. Stories are another layer of Ego-Protection. People make split decision assumptions about where things are going based on their past experiences and then behave and communicate in a way that give higher probabilities for the Story to be confirmed. If you see it happening you can break it. I believe one of the strengths of Sexual Framing is it pre-emptively breaks Stories.) In fact, it wasn’t bitchiness at all. It was actually her deciding that our communication wasn’t going to go anywhere so she was doing NOTHING to try to help it. The result of her Story (in this case) was simply speaking her mind in a direct and unembellished way. Once I caught this I did the same thing. I accepted what she said and spoke my mind, too. The more we did this the more attracted we became. After about 40 minutes her friend wanted to leave so we exchanged numbers and kissed. We only texted back and forth for a few weeks before seeing each other again. I literally did NOTHING to try to advance the relationship other than try to get her out. She flaked once( I flaked twice. Finally, she came over last week, we watched Entourage and made out and got boob access but as I sensed some resistance I backed off. She came over again tonight. Done deal. Total elapsed time: 3 hrs 40 minutes. No dates. No phone time. Not even Strawberry Fields. Simple. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. What is this post REALLY about? Layers within Layers.
P.P.S. “Essential substance partakes neither of identity nor difference.”
The Only DHV You Need Posted at May 19, 2008
How many DHV’s are there? (DHV=Demonstration of Higher Value) Shit man, I don’t even know( I think there are 5 or 6 standard ones and the list just seems to keep growing. That’s the problem with not understanding root causes. Since the root cause isn’t really known a solution based on the faulty cause can at best be a PARTIAL solution. With each PARTIAL solution you SEEM to be getting closer to MASTERY( But in reality you are like the sick person who takes a bunch of drugs. There’s the drug for the sickness( then, there’s the drug to handle the first drug’s side effects( then there’s the drug to handle that drug’s side effects.. etc, etc. The ability to subtly communicate that you understand female sexuality, that you appreciate it fully without judgmentalism of any kind and you VALUE it completely for what it is( IS the only DHV you’ll ever need. It’s the reason a PUA can walk in alone into a crowded venue( do a few sets and walk out with a girl. (Or, at the very least, walk out with a few OPTIONS for low-maintenance, low-effort sexual relationships.) Sexual Framing. Empty your mind of everything else. ~ Captain Jack ~
Captain Jack says: June 5, 2008 at 8:59 pm
>Anonymous >This is a terrible post(you need a >bit more than that Im afraid(. If you want to make it harder on yourself that it really is, then go ahead. I prefer to get to the root causes and let the behavioral effects take care of themselves. ~ CJ ~
Low Self-Approval or Low Self-Esteem? Posted at May 25, 2008
I think what you NAME things matters a great deal. One of the problems with innovating is you are stuck with the vocabulary of the system/environment( We have a VERY extensive vocabulary in Pick-Up. But, I think much of it is extremely inaccurate. LSE or Low Self-Esteem is one such word. It SEEMS to describe a personality trait (or function/behavior) but it is really not descriptive. I’ve been telling friends/puas/students for awhile now to NOTICE how MOST of the people at bars are LSE. In EVERY instance I’ve shared it they have come back to me saying something like this, “Holy shit man! How the fuck did I miss that?” The reason lies in the concept and the vocabulary. It has NOTHING to do with esteem. Here’s the dictionary def: –noun 1. a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect. 2. an inordinately or exaggeratedly favorable impression of oneself.
WTF does that mean? Sure we can think we know what it means but it is so ultimately non-descriptive that when you try to dig deeper into solutions you quickly discover how meaningless it is. There is, however, an often used phrase in The Community that is more functional and more descriptive than LSE. In fact, if I had it my way I’d say let’s strike LSE out of the Canon and just use Approval Seeking or Seeking Approval. That’s right on the fucking money. Everybody is Seeking Approval. And, when do you feel more approved of than when a member of the opposite sex wants to have sex with you? Letting the girl KNOW you APPROVE OF her as a female and APPROVE OF her as a sexual being is the end-all of Sexual Framing. Here’s the kicker. Think about a time when you did something you felt proud of yourself about( something you really gave yourself a nice big pat on the back about. Maybe you felt great when graduated college( Got a promotion at work( Got a girl you thought was out of your league( Now, ask yourself where did those feelings come from (literally)? Inside you. If you weren’t feeling them one second and you were the next second, where did they REALLY come from? You. So, who gave you the Approval? You did. If you gave yourself the Approval, who was holding the Approval away? You were. We’ve been conditioned by Society to get approval OUTSIDE. Of course. How else could you Mass Control everyone? If everyone gave themselves approval they would give everyone else approval, too. This would SEVERELY reduce all other problems. People who approve of themselves DO NOT do destructive things. (The mind, being linear, treats other people like you treat yourself and vice versa.) On the other side, can you see that you’ve been giving yourself disapproval? And, because you’ve been disapproving of yourself it has caused an intense craving for approval inside you? And, knowing yourself intimately, could you see how someone else (a complete stranger) would be hesitant to give you approval IF your behavior, speech, mannerisms and body language gave them the intuitive impressionfeeling that you disapproved of yourself? Could you decide (right now, as best you can) to stop disapproving of yourself? Then, could you decide (right now, as best you can) to give yourself approval? Could you DECIDE to do it for no reason? Don’t do it for anyone else. Do it for yourself. Decide now to approve of yourself. This constant seeking of happiness OUTSIDE of you is what Buddha was talking about when he said things like, “Attachment to Desire (craving) is the root of all suffering.” Going even deeper, Buddha’s “Twelve Links of Causation” start off with Ignorance. Ignorance of what? Ignorance that you are a complete, infinite Being already. (Even if you don’t feel like one, act like one or think like one( what separates you from knowing it is FEELINGS and THOUGHTS( relinquish those and you’re done.) Giving yourself Approval is a NATIVE ability and it’s only a decision. Everyone can do it. When you get your own approval back, you can approve of others fully BECAUSE of who they are, not IN SPITE of who they are. Then, people will gravitate towards you magnetically because they sense intuitively that you ARE closer to your innate being and everyone is trying to get BACK to that state. But, it all starts with YOU. If you can feel Superior to someone you can feel Inferior to someone. Both are Ego functions, and they can’t exist separately.
Remember in my post LR: Juggs how I THOUGHT the girl was being bitchy? And, remember how I made the decision to quit being so smart and allow it to be other than what I thought it was( (and it turned out to be very different? Well, I’m going to propose that you think about, consider, ponder, contemplate the idea that MOST of the negative experiences (and even NO-GO sets) you’ve had (or imagine having) with women are due to your MISTAKING her Low Self-Approval statements and behaviors for stuff that is consistent with “Your Story.” It’s actually pretty comical from my new viewpoint. You put a bunch of people in the room who don’t know how to love themselves( give them a shitload of alcohol, turn up the music so loud you can’t even think (let alone talk) and then you expect them to get together( ( the fact that people DO IT every night across the world is a testament to how compelling and pervasive this need for Approval is. Anyway, that’s a very SLIGHT and basic groundwork into the newer AA stuff I’ve been working on( this has to be understood before the processes can be taught and have an effect. What if, instead of asking you to give yourself approval, I had asked you to give yourself some Esteem? Not quite the same effect is it? Now, imagine developing, describing and constructing exercises to help people “get it” while using bad naming all the way through. The entire Community’s vocabulary and conceptual framework was built haphazardly over years by guys who didn’t get it( by guys who were still trying to figure it out. Is it any wonder it’s such a mess? ~ CJ ~
Captain Jack says: May 25, 2008 at 10:18 pm
Operation Chaos (etc) – Probably not. It would be best to use an entirely new word or phrase and include any “lacks” or other identifying characteristics in the definition. This concept, once explained and understood by the listener, can then be invoked by the new word (or phrase) to increase communication efficiency. ~ CJ ~
Captain Jack says: May 26, 2008 at 4:11 pm
Hayden – Think about all the DHVs in terms of Approval. Here’s an easy one: How would being Pre-Selected by Women affect the females who view it in terms of your approval of The Feminine in general? Anonymous -cp About giving behavioral examples( The idea is when you stop disapproving of yourself first, then give YOURSELF approval the Linearity Principle of the Mind takes over and begins approving of others automatically. This will come through in your behaviors in ways that are 100% congruent for you. Therefore they won’t come across as approval seeking or kissing anyone’s ass. Master the exercise by constantly stopping the disapproval of yourself and giving yourself approval every moment. Be diligent. You will begin to feel so high you’ll wonder if someone spiked your Gatorade with Morphine. Brett – Does anyone want to read Brett’s comment, re-read the post and comment on what is happening with Brett? The Anonymous Right Above This Comment – Hey, thanks for reading( Did you do the exercise? ~ CJ ~
Snippets Posted at August 9, 2008
So, I did something that is still putting a smile on my face. I gave that girl LMR! What was her LMR tactic to breakthrough? She fell back on the power of the “Titty Smother.” She took her giant tits and tried to suffocate me with them. I suspect she knew that if she could cut off the supply of oxygen to my brain it would weaken my LMR. http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/05/lr-collateral-damage.html *** “Luckily I recovered and got the make-out and Time Bridge because I’m Fucking Captain Jack.” http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/06/what-are-fucking-chances.html *** “I’m hungry so we hit Whataburger. While I’m eating I say, “Do you want some?” She says, “Oh yes.” CJ: “Ok, here’s some fries.” HBCantTakeIt: “I wasn’t talking about the food.” She suddenly starts making out again but I’ve only chewed the last chicken strip about ½ way. Chicken clumps end up in her gum.” http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/06/lr-i-just-cant-take-it-any-more.html *** I’m doing my best to destroy that J-Lo booty with a series of handprint grade spanks( (snip) Finally, realizing I’m not going to cum, I stand up and start jerking it. Her mouth becomes a suction cup on my balls. We still have an audience. She’s very good at this(too good. I’m about to go. I angle it upwards and it shoots off landing on her cheek and in her hair. I still have my head thrown back enjoying the after shocks. Then, I look around to see if we still have an audience. Check. She stands up and says, “mmmm(.bite my neck” I go to work on her neck like the Vampire Lestat, only to discover the freak has wiped my come from her cheek all over her neck. (Tastes kinda like snot.) http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/06/lr-tastes-kinda-like-snot.html *** “We sit on opposite sides of the booth. This is on purpose. I want her to feel comfortable first. Plus, I wanna see how aggressive this cougar is(I may not even have to lift one of my young, innocent fingers.” http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/06/lr-welcome-to-jungle.html *** And, then later(while Sinn is doing his best John Travolta (on Crack) impression( http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/07/lr-wwwhorny-wisconsin-girlscom.html *** Today I was at the bookstore and I get this text: HBPlainJane: “Where are we going to go? I don’t think I can meet you at your place. My parents said it’s dangerous and they wanna know your last name in case you kill me ” CJ: “We’re going to church and then possibly square dancing(and tell your parents I haven’t killed anyone since they let me out(” http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/07/lr-wwwhorny-wisconsin-girlscom.html *** I climbed in and told her to take me home. I showed her the breathalyzer as proof that I was unable to operate a motor vehicle in the State of Texas. (Btw, I’m having so much fun with this portable breathalyzer. Not only does it
force me to drink less, I use it as an excuse to be a jack-ass. “Wow! I’m at .15(I’m no longer responsible for what I say or do(gawd, you have spectacular tits!”) http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2007/07/how-i-lost-same-night-lay.html *** I’d lose myself for hours running around hurling Shuriken into my Ninja Enemies (the trunks of my Granddad’s prized trees) then slicing their heads off with one simple pass of my Bokken. Every morning I’d wake up deciding what new missions I would have to perform or what scenes I’d be re-enacting from “Enter The Ninja.” Until I discovered porn. And, here’s how it happened: http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/2008/05/lr-juggs.html
Lay Report: Good Girl Face Posted at August 9, 2008
I’ve been SUPER Busy but still out there having lots o’ fun. Printer and I went down to Austin last weekend to see about a software project for his Dad’s Co. but at the last minute his Dad caught a cold or something so it was postponed and we were on standby throughout the weekend in case he felt better( Austin, TX on a weekend( hmmm( what to do( We go out and I use one of my favorite low investment openers. Never really thought about why it works but I’ve probably used it 30-40 times now in the past year. The only requirement is you can stack forward. CJ: “How do you know my friend, Printer?” *** pointing towards the bar where he’s ordering me more liverdestroying liquids. *** This can be said if they’ve never even seen the guy( or if he just casually said something as he walked by( or if he’s already in set. HB: “Oh, we don’t.” That seems like a dead-end opener, doesn’t it? CJ: “Wow! I’m surprised( He seems to know everyone!” Can you FEEL the sexual tension? “No,” you say? Neither can I. We’re not there yet, dude. But, watch this. CJ: “Hmmm(. You pick interesting fingers to wear your rings on(” And, we’re off! But, that’s not how this one went down. Instead of “Rings on Fingers” it went like this( CJ: “Wow! I’m surprised( He seems to know everyone!” HB: “Well, we’re from Dallas.” CJ: “Really? So are we! Figures all the cool Dallas people would find each other.” (Anyone want to comment about WHY the above statement is Ninja-esque?) We do some more fluff talk for about 2-3 minutes. I tease her a little bit and get some kino in( CJ: “You know, you’re kinda throwing me a little bit(” HB: “What? What do you mean?” The following is one of my FAVORITE pick-up routines( it almost NEVER fails to get the woman attracted hardcore( it is a bit of sexual framing as well. CJ: “Well, you have a good girl face( but( (dramatic pause)( bad girl mannerisms.” *** I stress the BAD GIRL and look her up and down with lust. *** She went from mildly curious and attracted to downright Porn Starlet in 1.3 seconds. HB: “How do you know?”
Notice she’s NOT arguing. In fact, she’s asking me how I know it’s TRUE! CJ: “You had better stop.” I kept eye-fucking her, looking her up and down while having the most innocent conversation. I made it a point to stare at her lips, back to her eyes and to her tits several times while biting my lower lip. And then, I said something close to this (can’t remember exact wording). CJ: “It must be rough for you. All the guys think you’re all innocent and it keeps you from getting what you really, really want(” as I leaned in closer( and then lightly pushed her away. After I pushed her away there was a good 10-12 inches between us. She closed the gap and pushed her whole body against me and gave me those “Kiss me now, pleeeeeaaaaaase!” eyes. Naturally, I obliged. From then on we were like Siamese Twins joined at the tongue. Printer told me the next day when talking about the night at lunch that he stayed away because he was embarrassed. People were pointing. I heard people talking and one girl said, “Oh-my-god!” as she walked by( Whatever. A good girl needed to get some bad girl lovin’( CJ: “Man, this sucks( the bar is closing.” HB: “What do you want to do?” CJ: “Um, we could go watch a movie at my hotel( It’s not far. But I have to be up early for a meeting.” HB: “We hardly know each other.” CJ: “I’m not going to make you do anything you don’t want to do(” – Tongue down again. She handled the obstacles for me, one girl and one guy, when they tried to pull us apart by the cabs. Got to the hotel and wrecked it. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Not even Strawberry Fields! This is an example of “Less is More.” If I would’ve gone into my routine stack or done all my Heart Melters and shit she could’ve developed different feelings for me and tried to put off the SNL. You develop a sense of knowing when you’re done and all you need to do is chill out. I’ve gotten pretty good at that. P.P.S. She has a boyfriend. P.S #3: She texted that she wants to see me this week.
Captain Jack says: August 11, 2008 at 11:57 am
She mentioned him later in a text, said she hoped I wasn’t mad and really wants to see me again. She tried to see me last week but I was busy.
Student Lay Report: 'Fuck me like you'll never see me again!" Posted at August 14, 2008
This is an LR from someone who took my eCoaching class awhile back. We had emailed quite a bit back and forth even before that and touch base on MySpace every now and then. ——————————————————Long time no talk( Probably the last time was back when I took your e-course back in February. I wanted to say thanks for that and acknowledge it was a great investment. My lays are up from “sporadic” to “consistent” since Feb, and I owe that in no small part to your 6 week ebootcamp. Here’s my latest field report from this weekend.
“APPROACH Went to X-Bar on Saturday Aug. 9, and met up with Rhythmman and Clit Tease. Clit’s shipping over to X-City soon, so this was a goodbye outing for him. I was having fun experimenting with take-aways and breaking rapport with different sets. Also was entertaining myself using the hated “jealous girlfriend opener” for the hell of it. Haha! At one point, I get separated from the guys, and I strike up conversation with tall Latin girl, lone wolf set. She is friendly; can’t really remember what I said to her to open or what we were talking about. I learn she lives at X Beach and is a Mexican citizen. We’re talking for a bit, and it turns out she was waiting for her friend who was in the bathroom. When I see the friend, I decide I want her. She is a very cute dark-skinned Latina about 5’5″ with a sweet smile and really warm demeanor. So I’m working the, now, two-set for a little bit. I’m able to DHV by showing a genuine interest in their country and telling stories about my trip to Mexico. I learn my target is on vacation. Nice! Girls on vacation are always more adventurous than they are when they are at home. She compliments my eyes. Its on. So I’m talking to both girls, they are having a good time, but I know I can’t focus on my girl too much or the other girl will feel left out and I’ll lose the set. I’m thinking of suggesting we all hit the dance floor when suddenly, like some bald-headed angel come down from heaven, Rhythmman shows up, and I’ve got a wing. I introduce RM, and after a bit of the four of us talking, our group breaks up into RM and the obstacle, and me and the target. Beautiful. I intensify kino by taking her hand in mine. Then we regroup as all four of us and I keep her hand in mine, hidden from the view of our friends. Our little secret. When the group divides again with RM talking to obstacle, still holding her hand, I start walking to the bar. She complies and now we are totally isolated. Kiss close: Look into her eyes deeply. Slight smile. Savor the moment. I love the last few moments before the first kiss. That small period of time where all the social bullshit of the game meets the primal attraction of the game. And lies defer to truth. So she says, a little nervous, a little excited, “What are you looking at me like that for. What?” Take the back of her neck gently, but confidently. Pull her in. I spend the rest of the night dancing and making out with my girl, seeding the bounce. Don’t get it. She claims they are getting up early to go water skiing, so she can’t stay out late. I don’t even get her number! For some reason she doesn’t have a cell phone right now. So I settled for an email. I also had learned by then that she was going back to Mexico on the upcoming Tuesday. DAY TWO So yeah. the next morning I realized that it was most likely game over for that, which was cool. I had fun with her for what it was the night before. But we had talked about trying to get together, so I dropped her a quick email and forgot about it. But I’ll be damned if my little IM icon doesn’t pop up later in the afternoon. It’s her. We make plans for the three of us (me, her and her friend) to go to a movie the next night (Monday 8/11). But after about 45 minutes of IMing all of a sudden friend doesn’t want to go out and its just going to be her and me. The next day, the day of, we do a little more IMing. I tell her that we should do something where we can talk, especially since she’ll be gone on Tuesday. We decide on dinner. We meet up for dinner, and we are in a booth sitting across from each other. She wants to show me pics in her phone. Perfect excuse to be on the same side of the booth, so I make my way to her side. So that’s how we have dinner; lots of touch-feely going on while we eat. Dinner’s over and it’s like “what’s next?” I suggest we go to my place and watch a movie. She laughs and is like “right. a movie.” She says she wants to do something public. I say cool and suggest we go to a karaoke bar and she can watch me sing. But I’m thinking I’ve got the time between paying the check and getting in the car to get her to change her mind. We walk to my car holding hands. I spin her around instead of opening the door for her and give her a super hot make out session. I get hard and put her hand on it whispering in her ear “look what you do to me(” Its like that for a few minutes, till she is weak in the knees. Finally we get in the car. I as we are sitting in the car, I say to her, “you know I’ve got a guitar at my place. I can sing you a song there(” She succumbs, with the obligatory “nothing is going to happen” speech. You’ve all heard it. Cool thing was at my place she says with skepticism, “so let’s see this guitar of yours.” I bust it out and sing her a song. She melts. Make out. Heavy Petting. LMR. I point out that we may never see each other again. One of the hottest things was when I was fucking her for the second time she whispered in my ear “fuck me like you’ll never see me again(” as I pounded into her her she cried out in Spanish.
When I drove her back to her car at the restaurant later, she told me the first point where she knew she wanted me. It was when she introduced herself. She has a pretty unusual, traditional Mexican name, so she lets people off the hook by saying “you can call me, M” I told her “No I will call you [her full name].” She thought that was really hot.” I feel lucky to have gotten into the community when your teeth were getting cut Capitan! Regards, doctor_r
Meta Sticking Points Posted at August 16, 2008
1. Approach Anxiety - the horrible physiological fear reaction at the very THOUGHT of approaching. Physiological reactions include: rapid heartbeat, lump in throat, sweating hands, fear kinesthetics in solar plexus and/or throat. 2. Society Blocking Programs – After AA is removed you don’t experience the physiological reactions. Instead, at the thought of approaching your excuse generator starts throwing out negative inner dialogue in a rapid manner. This short-circuits your motivation program causing you to do nothing. (I think Shark has the most developed ideas on this. EDIT: just read Sinn’s Flawless Natural Review( Tim may have surpassed Shark on this subject.) This creates a different kind of physiological pain. The feelings and inner dialog become a selfreinforcing loop that seems nearly impossible to break out of( This is why many PUAs (myself included) use copious amounts of alcohol. 3. Self-Sabotage - everything seems to be going fine but you consistently throw something out to ruin the set. Stems from deservedness issues. 4. Sexual Escalation Anxiety - fear of escalating sexually. This could be due to lack of experience. Sometimes it appears when the seduction is going well and we don’t want to do anything to ruin it. In that case it’s related back to #3. Interestingly, most of the people who end up getting really, really good had/have horrible AA. It seems to force you to improve in the hopes of avoiding the pain. Another odd thing I’ve noticed is that the people who never had AA and can ignore Society Blocking Programs have 3 and 4 fairly bad( CJ
Captain Jack says: August 18, 2008 at 5:08 pm
godspeed, I think they’re all related to an underlying problem of Low Self-Approval. The main differences are WHEN they happen in the process and WHAT triggers them. CJ
Shark (Ranko Magami) Posted at August 16, 2008
I’m reading his archives and relistening to his Attract and Date CDs. Love this guy. Cool, smart and funny as hell. Unfortunately, I lost CDs 4 and 5 Is he still actively posting anywhere? Here are few funny one-liners from his posts:
To a pua who designed a tactic for taking off a girls panties: “Well, that’s a very interesting way to take off a girls panties, however I would prefer to take them off like a MAN!” To a pua who designed openers about gaysD “You are well on your way to becoming a certified gayboy!” “I don’t talk to ugs( cause they are UGLY!” “It is better to approach one time right, than 1000 times like you are about to dismantle a bomb!” From his CD set: “Those fat feminists! They are everywhere, jumping out of my TV set.”
Captain Jack says: August 17, 2008 at 5:08 pm
J.D., do you use his Direct Method? I’d be curious to know. I used it once a LONG time ago. I did 10 “You are beautiful( and I want to get to know you” approaches and got 10 numbers. Those were all during the day( I suck at follow-up so I never closed any of them. I’ve been too chicken to use it much at night. CJ
Gossip Posted at September 3, 2008
This girl found my Myspace and decided to vent to me, I tried to respond to her but the system said, “You must be y-person’s friend to email y-person.” So, it gets put on the blog. >First and foremost, what you do with your life as a PUA is >disgusting. Then to make things worse, you sell this >”service”? No. It’s not disgusting. If you knew the pain that men who don’t know how to start a sexual relationship with women feel, if you understood their loneliness and felt their helplessness you would be applauding me. And, women are ALSO tired of boring guys who don’t have a clue. I don’t advocate lying, and I never lead women on. I don’t have to( they LOVE it that I am up-front about my intentions and we get to decide what form the relationship will (or will not) take as ADULTS and without puritanical, judgmental society bullshit. They love it that we can flirt and she can be who she really wants to be without being judged( or lied to( I am sorry YOU were deceived but that is NOT something I advocate. > You see, I know about this because you trained > the love of my life, xxxxx, to do the same thing, and I > have lost him to this community of sexual predators. You > know him(xxxxx?! Yes your little buddy XXXXX > was just once an artist and father. Sure he fabricates an > amazing life of photography and travel, and rarely seems > to include that there are three other people in his family > that are dying inside. I understand that it is not your > fault that he took it a little too far, but you certainly > encourage him regularly. That isn’t true. I haven’t seen him in MONTHS. I think it has been over 6 months since we’ve really hung out. When people ask me for help I try to do what I can. I’m sorry if he didn’t think about you and his children but that gives you ZERO right to judge me.
> And the funny thing is that PICK UP artists are more > gossipy than Jr. High School cheerleaders. I get to hear > from xxxx, that creepy fag Sinn and Fidelio on a regular > basis that you are a lazy, fat loser, but happen to be > really good at bedding strippers. Do any of you people > actually like each other? Perhaps being a professional > liar bleeds over into friendships too(I don’t know( Again, I don’t lie to anyone. I am 6 feet tall and 217 lbs and I should weigh 200 lbs. So, yes I do have love handles and could certainly stand to lose those. As far as being a loser, I guess that is up for debate. BUT( My daughters love me. My family loves me. I become one of the best at anything I put my mind to (have done it in 3 industries now) AND, According to the U.S. Census Bureau (and the IRS), I make more money being “lazy” than 97% of the population makes “working hard” NOT including the money I make from pick up (which isn’t much because I do it mainly for myself). And, I can have as many girlfriends as I want (and they WON’T mind each other)( (or I can decide to have zero, as I do now, and be totally o.k. with it. > Let me offer an applause for the stripper thing, you are > good at fucking over drug addicts with daddy issues that > just want to be loved(no easy feat I am sure. I am NO GOOD at picking up strippers. I don’t like them that much so maybe you’re getting your gossip mixed up. >Let me close by saying that women are people. Not notches, >and you should be ashamed, or at the very least concerned >with the response karma just may offer. I don’t deceive. I don’t lead on. I let women know I am sexually attracted and it’s primarily a male-female attraction thing. And, you know what? They’re RELIEVED! They love it that a man is so secure in his sexuality that he is comfortable with it and is not becoming some clingy wuss after a few hours of talking to them. It’s obvious you know very little about me or about my philosophy or what I do. The women I’ve had sex with in the past come up and say Hi and give me a hug when I see them out. >You know a few years down the road when one of your minions >is balls-deep in one of your daughters, after her first >night on the town with a fake ID. It hurts when it hits >home(and the little ones grow up so fast. Too bad you >are a shitty dad like xxxx, you two have lost focus on >what is really important. You are projecting big time. I have a great relationship with my ex-wife and my daughters. I know that my daughters will have sex one day and no matter HOW, WHEN or WHO I’m probably not going to like it. Overall, I’m afraid that you’ve mistaken me for someone who gives a shit about what other people think( I have COMPLETELY given that up. I can honestly say I really do NOT care. My main concern is: Am I honestly improving myself in the best way **I** know how? A Line in the Sand Rule # 11: Spectators DON’T Count! CJ
Captain Jack says: September 5, 2008 at 4:11 pm
@truth: The other industry is ‘Software Development.’ I became extremely good at saving failing projects and was published about my methods for introducing it smoothly into organizations. ~ CJ ~
A Dirty Little Secret and Mental Modeling Posted at September 4, 2008
Hola PUAs, After listening to that Bandler audio clip I started to take more notice of what I’m cueing off of in field and what my internal dialogue is when considering an approach. The results were surprising (for me) because if I had sat down and thought about it outside of the environment/situation I would’ve gotten it wrong. So, if you’re game, I’d like to do a little experiment. Post what you think you say inside your head before approaching in a comment here( and then pay attention to the things you actually say when you go out tonight (or this weekend) and see if there’s a difference. Then, come back and post another comment about what you discovered. CJ P.S. The “Dirty Little Secret” will be in Part 2 of this post.
Captain Jack says: September 5, 2008 at 4:15 pm
@a girl who cares: About Intuition. The answer is No. Guys get into this BECAUSE when they just walk over and start talking it doesn’t go well. Often, it goes POORLY. Intuition is the result of accumulated experiences, both positive AND negative. But, what if MOST of your experiences haven’t worked? Then, your intuition is wrong and ineffective. CJ
A Tour of the New Blog Posted at September 24, 2008
Yo, Welcome to the new blog! I’ve spent a few hours in my spare time over the last few weeks getting this all set up. I’m going to point out a few things I want you to notice. As always, my goal is to create a resource you guys can easily and quickly learn from( I also want it to be something that you go to for inspiration, motivation and information on making improvements to your game. The main reason I switched to WordPress is because it has the ability to add plug-ins to make information easier to find on the blog. The search feature is MUCH better. Also, you’ll notice at the bottom of each post a “Share This” graphic. This allows you to send my posts to social networking sites, post it to your own blog and/or to email it to another PUA you think could benefit from it.
Right below that, you’ll notice a “See Related Posts” section. I have over 200 posts now so there’s a LOT of information that you probably haven’t seen unless you’ve followed me from the beginning. This little feature will show you what’s related so you can read other posts if it’s a subject you want to read more about. One thing that I’ve wanted to do for awhile is make comments more like forums. I’ve searched long and hard for a plug-in that would allow integration to a forum but haven’t found one yet. Then, we could have more indepth forum conversations based on the blog post. But, I HAVE found a nifty second-best option. Now, you can subscribe to comments. So, if you comment and want to know if someone else has commented, too, you’ll get an email. Then, you can read and decide if you want to respond. EDIT: Thanks to Hammer for his suggestion of Disqus as a more forum like commenting plug-in. I haven it installed and it seems to be working. Disqus allows threaded discussions, ratings and even video responses so it looks to be a great addition. On the right hand side in red you’ll notice a “Most Popular Posts’ section. The plug-in bases the most popular posts on a few things: how many times it’s been read, how many comments, how many people have linked to it and a few other things. And, if you’re a Blog owner yourself, if you comment on one of my posts it will AUTOMATICALLY read your blog and create a link to YOUR latest blog post and append it to the end of your comment. Fucking cool! It’s a plug-in called “CommentLuv” So, that’s it so far( I have Twitter integration and a few other things in store as well when I get time. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. More Game related posts coming soon!
Make Her Feel It. Posted at September 26, 2008
I’ve been saying for awhile “All you gotta do is make her feel it.” It’s part mantra for me as I am using repetition to install a better thought-feeling link at the very end of the automatic Strategy chain that fires off when I see a hot girl or a hard situation I want to go into( I also say it to PUAs I’m talking to for the same reason. One of the blogs I read is A Bad Man In A Bad Place. The writer, in addition to being a PUA, is also interested in BDSM and such. (His tumblr is AWESOME! and he inspired me to create one myself -> see my tumblr feed on the right hand side) He posted an interesting question (see Poor Submissives Need Not Apply?) to his readers most of which are not PUAs but into exploring all the interesting sexual possibilities out there. While I don’t know much about the sexual situation he is discussing I DO know a lot about applied persuasion, so I felt compelled to respond. Read the post Poor Submissives Need Not Apply (only a few paragraphs long) and I’ll elaborate below. Here was my comment:
Giving thought to a person’s financial situation shows that they are logically engaged and not emotionally engaged. If Axe can improve his ability to affect her emotions, to really make her FEEL all the emotions necessary for her to move forward with this type of relationship then financial status will no longer matter. In fact, when you get good enough at it, the attribute or status that she wouldn’t LOGICALLY choose becomes PROOF of her true feelings for you! “I must really, really like him because I feel this way even though he’s not X.” ~ CJ ~ Let me elaborate even a little further. If you watched the 5:00 minute video in my last post, Words Matter, you noticed a huge difference in the EMOTIONAL impact of the two different sentences written on the sign. One phrase garnered very little for the blind man, the second phrase, even though it logically MEANT the same thing, packed so much more power.
There’s a saying in copywriting that people buy with emotions and then justify with logic. We could just as easily say, “People fuck because of emotions and then justify with logic.” The simplest PU system could be described in these 3 steps: 1.
Heighten sexual emotions
2.
Remove mental-societal barriers
3.
Structure closing opportunity So, the question is HOW? How do you make her feel it? Here’s the kicker: She’s probably already feeling it, or just felt it, or about to feel it again real soon. Let me ask you a question: Is the only time you get horny right after you see a hot woman? No. Feelings and images and thoughts are popping into your head constantly. You could be locked in a room with nothing but Calculus textbooks and I’ll guarantee your mind will drift to sex and you’ll get horny. (Of course, seeing a hot woman will trigger it as well. But, if you’re a normal healthy male you get horny several times a day (an hour, if your PUA name is Printer).) I could make the case that all you have to do is ATTACH it to you when it comes again. Strawberry Fields and Rings on Fingers do exactly that. Almost all women are sexually frustrated. They don’t get it enough. They don’t get it with who they want. They often don’t get it the way they want it. Society makes them hold back. This is pent-up demand. When you release that pent-up demand it gets attached to you. If they are already feeling it or about to feel it and all you have to do is attach it to you, remove the barriers and structure the opportunity, where did Axe go wrong? Axe (probably) went for step 3 BEFORE she felt it. Since she wasn’t feeling “it” she used the income excuse as the logical reason for her emotional decision. Captain Jack
Text Message: I'm starting to forget what you look like… Posted at September 26, 2008
I haven’t talked a lot about text messaging in the last year or so mainly because I’ve been so focused on SNL’s (Same Night Lays) that I don’t bother doing all the texting/calling necessary to get dates( And, lately I’ve been helping a friend with Gaming and doing a lot of internal stuff so I haven’t been actively gaming at all but somehow ended up with 5 numbers in the last 10-12 days and I actually want to have close them so I’ve been actively texting them. One of the text messages I’ve used for quite some time that has proven effective for getting a meetup is this: PUA: “We should hang out soon, I’m starting to forget what you look like.” It has worked very well for me in the past. Why do you think it works? And, if you have some numbers in your phone give it a shot and post a comment about the responses. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. The Refer-A-PUA contest is heating up! The Leader currently has 8 referrals( Go to Refer-A-PUA to get in the game!
CaptainJack says: September 26, 2008 at 11:55 pm
I usually delete stale old numbers as soon as they haven't responded to me 2 or 3 times( OR, I haven't texted them in 2-3 weeks.
But, the good thing is if you DO text them and they start responding again it's like gravy. I'd then move them to MySpace (if you have it, I've de-activated mine.) as it will give them a chance to see you and remember you. CJ
THETANK says: September 28, 2008 at 9:37 am
I just used this yesterday, and got a meetup. Anyway i think it works because by saying that you forgot what she looks like, you are taking away one of her main ways of feeling validated (her looks). on the flip side you are also qualifying her at the same time, Because you want to meet up with her irrespective of her looks. In a nutshell their is a pull/push dynamic going on where the woman feels the need to revalidate her looks (ie the sexual side of her) by meeting up with you. Makes for a great message Thanks CJ!
CaptainJack says: September 28, 2008 at 9:51 am
Used it and got a meetup, great! I agree with your assessment of why it works, too. CJ
Public Service says: September 29, 2008 at 8:50 am
Holy Shit. I'm not one of the 'ass-kisser' types( but, here is what just happened. PS: We should hang out soon, I've almost forgotten what you look like. Her: Haha awe( I agree! I want to see Igor ..how lame.. haha but maybe if there's a movie you haven't seen yet we can do that and then grab a bite..?? Wow( Too bad I have this name saved twice in my phone and I can't figure out which one it is!! (both would be great to see again, lol.) Reply CaptainJack says: September 29, 2008 at 11:39 am
Awesome dude! You're in a great position with this since either one is one you'd like to see( That movie “Igor” sucked big time. ~ CJ ~
CaptainJack says: October 4, 2008 at 12:50 pm
Well, I'm thinking that you got into the friend-zone during the initial interaction. Her second text in that sequence she was already talking about a “FRIEND flame.” so she's trying to make it clear(. Not a shit test. You didn't make her feel it during the initial interaction.
This CAN be turned around BUT it's much, much easier to go out and get new girls in the pipeline. You could always just keeep teasing/sexual framing and then take her out as a pivot. If you keep dating her she will most likely go for an LTR if she starts to get attached to you. CJ
Refer-a-PUA Contest! Posted at October 1, 2008
Sometime early in November I will give away $9,499.00 worth of products and services to 15 PUAs, Here’s how you can be one of them( As you can see, I’ve posted a “Refer-A-Friend” Form at the end of this post. Why have I done this? I’ve done it for 3 very important reasons: 1. I LOVE helping you guys. The recent “Text Message” post where guys actually PUT my text message to work and started getting meetups from numbers they THOUGHT were blurred makes me happy to no end. And, when someone emails me or comments on the blog to tell me they used my ideas to help them meet and close a hot girl I LITERALLY feel like the good guys are winning. 2. We’re all in this together. It’s highly likely you found the community because someone you knew (or someone on the internet) told you about it. What if you hadn’t discovered the community? Let’s keep the positive trend of SHARING alive( 3. And, I’m trying to put together the best FREE Pick-up blog on the internet. (Some already say it’s not only the greatest blog on Pick-up ever, but it’s also the funniest blog ever written in the history of mankind. They use words like “Pure Hilarity!” and “Ultimate Comical Genius!”( I don’t know if I’d go that far but it CAN be funny sometimes.) I want you to help me get the word out to other PUAs who might find this blog useful and I want to reward you for your work so I’ve decided to do this in the form of a referral contest. I’ve subscribed to this special software service that tracks WHO you refer and if they actually visit and/or subscribe to the blog. Using this software I’ll be able to keep track of all the guys who refer the most AND it’ll keep people from abusing the system. The entire contest runs from Oct. 1 to Midnight, October 31st and will give away $9,499 worth of products and services, But, what could you win? I’ll reward the top 15 referrers (this number may go up, depending on results, but will NOT go down). Places 10-15 will get my eCoaching bootcamp. It’s no longer for sale and hasn’t been for quite a while now. It sold for $297.00. Places 5-9 will get my eCoaching bootcamp PLUS a follow-up phone consult. (Total value = $297 + 125= $422). Places 2-4 will get my eCoaching bootcamp PLUS 3 follow-up phone consults and my InnerGame eCoaching course. (Total value=$869). The Grand Prize will be “A Weekend with Captain Jack.” (value $3,000). (NOTE: This CAN be sold or transferred to another PUA, if you can’t do it for any reason.) NONE of this is currently for sale and probably won’t be anytime in the foreseeable future. But, not only that, if YOU refer the person who ultimately wins you’ll win the same prize as they do! (This is so you can feel free to refer even the guy who “seems to know everybody!” without jeopardizing your chances of winning.) I’ll be giving regular Refer-a-PUA Contest updates on the blog( Plus, EVERYBODY who refers will be invited to a special “Referrers Only” conference call with me to be held sometime in Nov. or Dec. If you have any questions please post them in the comments for all to see and I’ll answer them as quickly as I can.
Women and Their Fantasies Posted at October 2, 2008
There’s a GREAT conversation going on over at “Bad Man, Bad Place” that is worth reading. It has to do with the Female Sex Drive. The cool thing is Bad Man has a LOT of female readers and their comments are extremely insightful. Go have a look, there are 19 comments (including one from Yours Truly). Read it and comment to throw your 2 cents in! Women and Their Fantasies Captain Jack P.S. The Refer-A-PUA contest is heating up! The Leader currently has 8 referrals( Go to Refer-A-PUA to get in the game!
6 Steps to Ninja Calibration Posted at October 2, 2008
Back in May, 2008 I ran a “Blog Improvement Survey” to which 121 PUAs responded. At the very end of the survey I asked a simple question:
What’s your single most important question regarding success with women? I’ll be going through and answering most of those questions in the next few months.
Question: A 31 year old, Network Developer from Maryland asked: What’s the easiest way to calibrate and recognize when that calibration needs tweaking?
Answer: Ok, calibration is a useful skill because it allows you to baby-step. In every Pick-up you are trying to increase her Response Potential whie simultaneously avoiding Snap Back. If you pump her state too high she will hit a threshold where she tries to downregulate her BT. (Sounds like we’re working on a jet engine or something.) Calibration will allow you to notice when these things are happening thereby adding it into your unconscious so in the future you can do the right thing without thinking about it. Calibration can also help you know when you are DONE and you don’t need to actively Game anymore. You can just chill with her and wait for the right time to pull. But, the question you really need to ask is: “What am I really in this for?” — If you just want a girlfriend or a little more active dating life then I’d forego Calibration drills because the dividends come after months and months of working at it. If you want to become REAL good at pick-up then here are 6 Ways to Ninja Calibration: 1. You need a Game Plan. You can’t calibrate what you’re not measuring. A Game Plan (or Routine Stack) will provide more consistency to your Game so you can start noticing patterns. Calibration is DERIVED from noticing patterns and then noticing what happens LEADING up to that pattern. Having a Game Plan also makes writing FR/LRs much easier. People think I have an amazing memory because I can write such detailed FR/LRs( The reason I can is because I run the same basic Stack over and over, so when I sit down to write all I have to do is ask myself “What did I open with?” — “What did she say?” — “What did I run next?” — so what I’m really remembering is what SHE said. The points in my stack act as RECALL triggers for my memory. (Another tactic is I usually write the FR/LR or at least some notes about it as soon as I get home when it is fresh on my mind.)
2. Use Sticking Point Analysis. If someone put a gun to my head and told me I could only write one last post to help guys with women I’d probably just create a link to Sticking Point Analysis. 3. Debrief the women you have success with. I usually only debrief girls I’ve just had sex with because female orgasms seem to be a truth serum of sorts (has something to do with Oxytocin). Standard debrief questions are: • When did you first notice me? • What did you think when I first came up? • When did you first realize you wanted to kiss me? • When did you decide you wanted to have sex with me? Then I try to get them on the subject of guys hitting on them in general to see what their main complaints are( 4. Make an assumption, then verify. I used to do all sorts of fun things. I’d look at a male-female set and think, “hmm( wanna open but they’re probably together.” I caught myself and I’d say, “You don’t know that man, go in and see(” I’d roll in and chat and then ask, “How do you guys know each other?” to verify your assumption. I found out a LOT of the time that the dude was an Orbiter. Another thing I’d do when I used to use Mystery Method was guess who would try to pull the Target away. It got to the point where I could not only guess but I could see it about a minute before hand. A friend of mine got to see this uncanny ability of mine a few weekends ago on his way to pulling another SNL. I texted him that her friends were about to try to pull her away( not even a minute later they came over and made the pull away attempt. (Which failed because he had moved her, thus locking her in even tighter. See: Sinn’s 2 Bounce Rule.) 5. Could I let go of being so smart and allow it to be other than what I think it is? This question kicks ass. Remember, we are all trying to develop NEW ideas, beliefs, behaviors( even a new World View. Realize that your first assessment of the situation is GROUNDED in old data and interpretations that HAVE NOT served you! So, be willing to let them go and allow it to be something else. Another similar tactic is to generate all of the possibilities and pick the most positive one. 6. Debrief other PUAs. When I help my friends out in Gaming the first question I ask when they come back from a set is “What happened?” I do this because I want to see if what I SAW from the outside MATCHES what they think happened. When I used to help Sinn with bootcamps I’d have aspiring PUAs leave a perfectly good set. I’d say, “What happened?” and they’d say, “She was being bitchy, she said she’s not really into skydiving so it fucked up my skydiving dhv story. Bitch.” Many a time I wanted to take them by their lapels and say, “DUDE! She doesn’t like skydiving! It was ON! Go back into that set now!” Once you begin to see the mismatch between what they say is going on and the body language and dynamics of the set you’ll realize that you, too, are probably NOT seeing a lot of the positive things going on. And, as always, if you have any other questions about this feel free to post them in the Comments section! ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Take part in the Refer-A-PUA Contest so other PUAs can benefit from the content in this blog.
CaptainJack says: October 3, 2008 at 8:36 am
It varies according to what I'm working on AND I don't have one in the same way a beginner/intermediate would because I have a lot of material in my head and I try to use the bare minimum at each point to take the interaction to the next level.
How to Release Her Inner Sex Fiend Posted at October 4, 2008
A 44-year old from San Jose, CA asks(
Q:
How do you release her inner Sex Fiend?
A:
All of sexual framing is designed to get her to be cool with a short-time frame until the first sexual
encounter. So, what I’m assuming is that you are asking, “How do you get them to be freaky in bed.” The good news is if you’ve used sexual framing you are 90% of the way there. First, you’ve demonstrated that she has an abnormally high sex drive. Second, you’ve told her that she doesn’t REALLY care about society’s rules and regulations regarding sex and sexual relationships. Third, you’ve told her you’re not judgmental. Fourth, you’ve told her that you’re good at keeping secrets. Fifth, you’ve told her that she becomes aggressive when she finds someone she’s really attracted to. What that has done is created a framework where short time frame sex is acceptable and O.K. So, you’re most of the way there( The next part reminds me of a scene in “The Office” where Andy Bernard is trying to get Pam to hook him up with Angela. When Pam can’t think of anything he says, “Well, maybe you should try looking in the smart part of your brain.” Now, if you want her to get really crazy you need to create another framework where slutiness is OK *AND* it is valued. You’ve got to get her accessing the slut part of her brain and relating it to you. You can start with the Question Game and make it sexual (if someone wants to post a link to the Question Game in the comments I’ll update the post with it)( I try one or two sexual questions to see if she reciprocates, if she does I’ll keep going. If not, I’ll match her type of questions and end about 4-6 questions in with Mystery’s Kiss Close as my last question. A slut type question would be: “What’s something you love to do in bed but are usually too scared to do it or request it?” Or, you could say something like this, “You should probably leave now( You are so elegant and sexy but I KNOW behind closed doors you’re probably really crazy( I’m thinking handcuffs and whips.” Or, “I bet it can be frustrating for you sometimes. I bet a lot of guys mistake you for a good girl( not realizing that you just want to be treated respectfully in public, but, they don’t realize you don’t want that behind closed doors( you want to be a bad, bad girl. And, of course, everybody is bad in her own special way(” Those are all types of comments I make a lot when talking to a girl. I haven’t tried it but I’ve heard about PUAs talking about fetish clubs in set to see if she takes the conversational thread. In the bedroom( Once you have her in the bedroom you can say something like, “I want to make you cum hard, but you gotta let me know what you like( now’s not the time to be shy.” I LOVE it when a girl squirts. I’ve posted quite a few times about how when I started ASKING girls if they could squirt when they come it seemed like almost ALL of them could. Before I started asking them it was almost like it only happened when the girl lost control. The girls want to do a good job for you in bed. That is why El Topo’s Kung Fu Penis is so awesome. She wants to do a good job BUT she’s not! So, she has to try harder. That means she has to be sluttier. If you have a question, or you have a tactic you’d like to contribute, post it in the comments. ~ Captain Jack ~
CaptainJack says: October 5, 2008 at 9:42 pm
“What I'm saying is that if you're pumping her buying temperature you better go for the sale, because if you don't some other guy will do it.” That's actually a great tactic to use when you are at a venue where the guys approach a lot. Most guys will get blown out or THINK they were blown out but getting hit on STILL pumps her state either way( This increases her Response Potential. So, when you approach her you actually do better than you normally would've.
You can also notice when a girl's state is pumped while the guy is still in there and enter the set and steal it from the guy. ~ CJ ~
6 Things I’ll Be Doing Instead of Watching VH1′s Pick-up Artist Posted at October 13, 2008
My buddy Sinn is keeping a journal of his musings on VH1′s Season 2 of The Pick-up Artist. This made me realize Sinn has a stomach of pure steel. I can’t stomach that show. In fact, I only made it through 4 episodes of the first season before I vomited. So, here are 6 Things I’ll Be Doing Instead of Watching VH1′s Pick-up Artist. 1. Getting LMR from girls. I’m pretty rusty right now so I’ve been getting a LOT of LMR. Sucks. But, it’s still better than watching “The Pick-up Artist” on VH1. That show makes my skin crawl. 2. Watching episodes of “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia.” on hulu.com. Sinn told me about this show last week. Super funny. My favorite episodes are “Season 1, Ep. 2: Charlie Wants an Abortion.” The scenes with Dennis and the pro-life religious girl are hilarious. “You really shouldn’t make jokes about the Apacolypse.” Another fave( “Mac Bangs Dennis’ Mom.” 3. Shredding my ball sac with a cheese grater. (Not really, but I’d rather do that than watch the show.) 4. Perfecting my drawing skills. I bought “Drawing on the Right Side of Your Brain” by Betty Edwards about a year ago. Holy shit it works. I used to be the world’s worst drawer but now I’m amazed at what I can do. Shows you just how much you can accomplish with a superior strategy. 5. Doubling my Hindu Push-ups stats. I’m not going to tell you how many I can do (embarrased) BUT I think I can double it in the next 7 days. I’m starting to see seperation between my upper/lower chest muscles and between chest and shoulder. 6. Anything Else. ~ Captain Jack ~
Lay Report: The Power of Drunk-n-Lonely Texting Posted at October 20, 2008
For those of you unfamiliar with Captain Jack’s “Drunk and Lonely Theory of Texting” here’s an excerpt fromLR: Cantalopes:
It’s closing time so Sinn and I roll out. I send my standard text to HBs who I’ve timebridged. “Hi sexy lady, where you at?” This is my “Drunk and Lonely Theory.” Here’s the theory: Point 1. Women go out to get laid. Point 2. 99.9% of guys’ game sucks. Point 3. A female CANNOT have sex with a guy she is not attracted to. Due to Point 2 she is sexually frustrated. Point 4. At 2:30 am the girl is at home, sexually frustrated, drunk and lonely. This is the best time to send a text. So one of my friends is in town from London and we’ve just finished a night of Gaming. We’re at the local Steak-nShake and I’m going over a few technical points with him( His body language is perfect. He spins the girl. He locks in. He can stay in set pretty much as long as he wants to. He’s already got pretty good game but I notice a few things that will help him skyrocket in the next few months and I’m giving him the breakdown.
After that I begin my usual thread about how females are sexual beings. That they want sex and they are extremely frustrated. Then, I tell him about Drunk-n-Lonely Texting( He ran a pretty good two-set and he TimeBridged her. Her friend was really hot, too, but I don’t wing so he’s forced to handle them all by their lonesome. I have him text her and this is how it went down (I had him email me the text message exchange):
IrishPUA : Hey Sexy (notice the complexity of this text message I had him send!!! haaa) Hotel Girl : Hey!! IrishPUA: Where you at? Hotel Girl : Plano IrishPUA : Hotel Girl : Why the sad Face? IrishPUA : I’m not really tired, we should hang out Hotel Girl : I’m in Plano @ a hotel IrishPUA : Come see me Hotel Girl : Come see me!! IrishPUA : What hotel? Hotel Girl : X inn I-XX and X-Street IrishPUA : Ok sexy what room number? Hotel Girl : 214 you coming IrishPUA : My friend is dropping me off, be there in 20 Hotel Girl : K Hotel Girl : Where you at? Now, this is NOT a rare occurence. I do this quite often. Remember, they went out for SOMETHING and they didn’t get it! But, out of the blue, comes a man( A man with balls( A man who LIKES them and wants to make them feel good! By going to bang her you are making the world a better place! She will feel less frustrated, more feminine and satisfied. This means she’ll be nicer to everyone around her the next day. All of those people will be happier that a girl was nicer to them than usual( Puppies and babies will be happy. It’s a giant ripple effect! Back to our story( She calls as we are nearing the exit. He tells me it sounded like someone else was in there. Hmmm( I have to make a decision. Do I have him go it alone for experience’s sake? Or, do I roll in so I can occupy the friend to give him more chances to escalate. We debate a bit and then I decide to throw it back to the girls. I have him text her something like, “Do you want my friend to come in too?” She says, “Sure.” We go in. The obstacle is hotter than I remember. This is a good thing. She has nice blue eyes, is skinny with big tits and that long wavy type hair I dig. My friend immediately lays down on his Target’s bed. I sit towards the edge of the obstacle’s bed and we begin chatting. To make a long story short I elicit her values, run the cosmo pattern and two other standard pieces. I do a few kino tests and she is responsive. At one point she says she’s going to sleep and turns and lays on her pillow facing me. I touch her hand and she looks at me with a submissive look (don’t know how else to describe it). I grab her hand and she interlocks her fingers with mine. I whisper, “Come closer.” she inches forward a bit on her pillow and I kiss her. From there I did a lot of whispering in between kissing, saying things like: “This will be our secret.” “Don’t worry they have no idea what’s happening over here.” “They’re making out, too. So, this is ok.” She kept saying stuff like, “We have to be good. I have a date tomorrow night.” I’d respond, “Since nobody else knows about this, it technically never happend.”
I put my hand down the back of her sweats and wrap all the way around her tiny ass and touch her pussy. Super wet. I begin fingering it and she’s breathing heavy. After a minute of that I put her hand on my cock and say, “Look what you’ve done to me.” She starts rubbing it and slowly moving her hips. She turns around puts her ass on it. I pull down her sweats slowly. She wiggles her hips and I push it in. At one point I was slowly fucking her from behind and she was trying to pretend like nothing was happening and still trying to talk to her friend in the other bed. Haa. She said, “We shouldn’t be doing this, but I’m going to cum(” and that made me get close to coming and then I realized I didn’t have a condom on!!! I put one on and re-entered. But, with the other girl interrupting I never really got to tear it up. Oh well, another time. My friend got LMR. In hindsight I realized that she wanted to know if WE were fucking because if we were then she would’ve given in. I believe this because several times my friend’s Target tried to use code phrases and shit to ask her friend if we were or had fucked but my girl missed them and so did I. Then again on Sat. night I used Drunk-n-Lonely texting to pull a tall, hot, innocent looking girl. I was pooped from thurs and friday but got bored sat. night around midnight so I headed to a local venue. I opened my second set (first set was a no-go) at 1:40a.m. and talked with her till closing. I opened her by saying, CJ: “Hi, I noticed you from over there and I wanted to come meet you but you had all these guys all over you.” TallHottie: “I know. It’s not usually like that.” I felt like I wanted to tell her why but refrained because it wouldn’t have led anywhere. But, I’ll tell you guys. She was with one of her friends who was all over a guy she’s been seeing for about a month. With her friend so occupied she looked bored so she might as well have been a single AND she was at the end of the bar giving guys the perfect opportunity to open her from her right side without having to engage the guy-girl seated on her left. From there I made some small talk and then stacked strawberry fields with rings-on-fingers. She got EXTREMELY curious/intrigued when I talked about the Non-Judgmental finger. But, when I interlaced the “sexually aggressive” finger with the amount of strawberries she ate she said, TallHottie: “Well, I’m a good girl. I go to church.” Haa. I ignored that statement. Tell her she’s cool AND extremely sexy and Hookah TimeBridge. Cosmo pattern and the lights come on. But, she is entranced and stands there for a second just staring at me. Her friend nudges her and they all smile and walk off. Good thing I got her number( Text message, 2:05 am. CJ: “Hey sexy, it’s semi-handsome CJ. Where u at?” TallHottie: “In my car, where r u?” CJ: “In my car too. Come see me.” TallHottie: “Where?” CJ: “Best Buy parking lot.” About that time I get a text message from the girl I closed thursday night: “Come see me!!!” — Damnit. I want to bang her again because she’s fucking hot and I feel like I have unfinished business since I didn’t get to let loose on her big tittied skinny ass. But, in the battle between Already Banged Vagina and New Vagina, New Vagina always wins. The Tallhottie rolls up next to me and smiles. I get out of the PirateMobile and hop in her car. I say, “Gosh, I wish I would’ve met you earlier.” We small talk for another 5 minutes and then I say, “I don’t think I’m going to sleep for a few hours. I’m not tired at all. Do you like Wedding Crashers or Old School?” TallHottie: “Yes, I like both of them but I have only seen parts of Old School.” CJ: “Cool, let’s go watch them at my place.” She says “Ok” and just like that we’re off.
Unfortunately, she gives me LMR so no close BUT hopefully this gives you an idea of Drunk-n-Lonely and prompts you to begin trying it. Get the TimeBridge in every set possible and around 15-20 minutes after closing simply text, “Hey sexy” and see what happens. After several years of doing this I’m STILL amazed it’s this easy. Try it, you’ll like it. Captain Jack
CaptainJack says: October 21, 2008 at 1:41 am
mmapua, you'll get the best results with TimeBridging by setting an exact date/time. You are really making a date right then and there. This forces her to imagine you and her outside of the current bar/club frame and plants you more in her day-to-day reality. This is what lessens LMR and ASD. If you don't set an exact date/time then you will have a lot less success in meet-ups because you are back to chasing her. ~ CJ ~
CaptainJack says: October 21, 2008 at 1:42 am
After qualification and after you guys are basically having a normal 50/50 type conversation. If you search the blog for “Hookah TimeBrdige” you should be able to find the right phrasing.
CaptainJack says: October 28, 2008 at 2:51 pm
How sexual are you going in set? Seems to me like you are getting caught in the friend-zone quite a bit(
JUST Be Yourself Posted at November 12, 2008
Bet you’ve never heard that one, have you? Haaa(. Women’s magazines and “mainstream, clorox-bleached” dating gurus often say it( Hell, I’ve even heard girls say it after debriefing them. Are they all wrong? Well, yes (mainly because they disagree with me)( AND NO! You see, from the Females’ viewpoint, when she HAS been picked up that’s exactly how it appeared to her. Let me give you the run down of how these things happen in “real” life: Some dude was just being himself and chatting her and as he was she thought to herself, “I’m horny, he’s not weirding me out( I should start sending him signals.” So, she twirls her hair. Thrusts her chest (or ass) out. Plays with her hair. Touches his arm. Laughs at all of his “jokes.” Leans into him( Of course, he completely misses all of her signals and concentrates on saying something funny or cool. At some point, usually after she’s given up all hope of getting laid that night, he thinks. “Damn, this chick has been talking to me for nearly an hour. I wonder if she likes me? Probably not, but I should try to get her email or something anyway.”
He gets her email or phone number. Then chases her for a few weeks trying to take her to dinner or a movie. She hasn’t been laid in weeks (or months) and she is super horny and the batteries have run out on her vibrator, so finally, she decides the offer of a movie and dinner for free is the perfect way to try to get laid without scaring the guy off or being considered a slut. She responds to his 5th voice mail. Eventually, they kiss. A few weeks later they have sex. See that? To her, he was just being himself. And, she eventually had sex with him. The massive amount of TIME he spent resulted in her having feelings of familiarity with him. The sex hormones combined to create a feeling of relationship. Her experience based conclusion? He was just being himself, he got laid. Now, what about the One-Night Stand or quicker lays? Usually the same thing just compressed a bit. Now, let’s take another facet of this( When have girls been hurt and pissed off by guys? When the guys MISLED or LIED to them. So, when guys were “just being themselves” the girls got sex and/or a boyfriend( when they weren’t they got USED or found out they had been lied to! What’s the lesson here? The lesson is simple: Do the LEAST amount of work necessary to get laid AND be upfront about your intentions. This doesn’t (necessarily) mean you announce your intentions but if she is getting the wrong idea or trying to set a frame that you have no intention of maintaining nip that shit in the bud. You want to be smooth? The SOONER you start stripping shit out of your game the better. If you feel like you are working your ass off in set, it probably shows and then you are not matching her mental template of “a guy just being himself.” This scares her BECAUSE it is associated with past pain and rejection. After a few months of steady progress using the same basic game plan, strip shit out. See how LITTLE you can do to get the same results. Play. Experiment. For Example: Dump your “standard” openers for awhile. Go out for a few nights and say “Hi” and make small talk for a minute or two before introing your first major Piece. Another exercise: See if you can small talk your way all the way to a TimeBridge. Experiments like this lead to pure smoothness. ~ Captain Jack ~
CaptainJack says: November 25, 2008 at 6:53 pm
The one impression I DON'T want people to get is I'm jumping on the “You don't need Techniques, just be yourself” bandwagon that (almost) gained a lot of traction a year or two ago. My take on it is a little different. You START with a linear Game Plan because it shows you very quickly REAL WORLD proof of where you are fucking up. Then, you keep refining your Game Plan based on the feedback, progressively improving. Without this feedback you won't improve. The “be yourself” guys don't have students with proven track records.
Getting Really Good, Really Fast… A New Blueprint to Lays! Posted at November 20, 2008
I believe EVERY word of these first few parapraphs… If you want to get really good, really fast then lay reports are by far the most important thing you should be studying.
Lay reports cannot be matched when it comes to learning how to get good with women. With lay reports you get to see the actual dialogue and the actual context of how the guy got the girl. These are things you cannot learn from reading another 200 pages of pick-up theory. Reading other’s Lay Reports, dissecting them and trying to get an overall sense of what REALLY happened is something I’ve been doing for several years now. I even go back and read MY OWN from time to time, partly for motivation, partly for inspiration but mainly because when doing so I notice patterns. Success Patterns I can distill and use over and over again. But, what if you don’t have my eyes for noticing these kinds of things? Well, Sinn has just released his “Lay Report Book” and it is killer. If you buy through the link below by Monday please keep your receipt and send it to captainjackpua AT gmail.com – I’ve got a surprise bonus for you. >>> Here’s the Link <<< Captain Jack
Teleseminar: How to Avoid Losing Lays by “Pressure Stacking” Waypoints Posted at November 22, 2008
Hola PUAs, On December 3rd, I’m going to do something very, very rare (for me). I’m going to actually get on the phone VOLUNTARILY and give a Teleseminar. You’re invited and you won’t have to pay for it provided you meet one simple criteria. Here’s a little preamble to the call( This “Pressure Stacking” principle sounds kinda complicated at first but in reality it’s pretty simple. But, once you take conscious control of it you’ll find your game skyrocketing. In fact, you are LOSING lays because you aren’t employing this OR you are inadvertently killing it. One of the journals I read blends psychology research with selling and I read a great article there the other day about Loss Avoidance. I’ve known about it and used it in PU for quite some time now( Here’s the gist of it: (By the way, I invest a LOT in learning about marketing and advertising. I believe that anyone who isn’t willing to INVEST in their own education via books, seminars, audio and TIME just isn’t going to make it past medicrity.) You know what baffles many a scientist about us Homo sapiens (that means humans)? It’s that most of us would do more to avoid a LOSS than to get a GAIN. (Some think loss avoidance has TWICE the psychological power as potential gains do.) Now think about it for a minute( Most people are TWICE as likely to spring into action to avoid a loss than to gain something. You may have heard me describe a lot of pick-up dynamics in terms of “Response Potential” and “Snapback” in some of my previous posts. (Stated in simple terms, All of pick-up is increasing Sexual Response Potential while avoiding triggering Snapback reactions.)
In those terms, Loss Avoidance has TWICE the Response Potential as Gains. The interesting thing about Loss Avoidance is that it doesn’t create Snapback. Why? Because the fear of the loss is an internal feeling that comes from the INSIDE of the other person, they feel like they had it, they’d rather have it than not have it, which makes them think they really want it. Notice all the feelings stem from them therefore there is nothing to Snapback from( Here’s a very simple example: Do you know why I almost NEVER have a girl tell me she doesn’t want to do “Strawberry Fields?” And, why she always AGREES with my assessment? It’s because I “Pressure Stack” right before I give it to her. “You know, you SEEM interesting. In college I studied Psychology and one of the first things they taught us was the Strawberry Fields Test. Now, imagine you’re walking down the street and you come across a Strawberry Field.” Now, she knows that I think she is interesting (actually the word ‘seem’ leaves room for doubt, but most people miss that). Doesn’t everyone want to be interesting to the opposite sex? She doesn’t want to LOSE her status as “interesting” so she gladly plays along. Not only that, she accepts the answers because she doesn’t want to seem less interesting. That’s a very simple example. There are more complex ones, too. Like how I elicit values and then make comments to get her to agree that doing (or not doing) xyz behavior violates the value. Then, when it comes time to do xyz (or has the idea NOT to do xyz) it looks like it is perfectly aligned with her core values. (That application is particularly Ninja and would require an hour or two of explanation, and weeks of in-field practice before you could pull it off successfully). I ALWAYS like to Pressure Stack right before Time Bridging. So, Pressure Stacking is one thing I’ll be going into on the Teleseminar. I will also do an in-depth walk through of one of my LRs( and, if we have time I’ll take one or two guys through Sticking Point Analysis so you can see how I identify an SP and then how I generate solutions. What’s the simple criteria you need to meet to get in on the call? Real simple, use the link below to invest in Sinn’s Lay Report Book. When you buy it, ClickBank will send me your email address. When the Teleseminar details are set up you’ll get an email confirming your attendance. If for some reason you can’t be on the call it’ll be recorded for you. >>> Here’s the Link <<< ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. For those of you who purchased the eBook through my email blast or the last blog post, I’ve got your email addresses via ClickBank. This Teleseminar is the ‘surprise’ bonus. If for some reason you can’t be on the call it’ll be recorded for you.
Sex and the Ninja Posted at December 10, 2008
A couple of weeks ago (or more) I posted about Drunk-n-Lonely and gave an example of how an Irish PUA and I had used it successfully in one night( I gave the complete text convo between him and the girl that got us over to their hotel. Well, the dude is fucking hilarious. We spent about 75% of the time laughing while he was here. We have similar sense of humor so we were able to take the smallest little item and turn it into a fit of comedy. He recently started a great blog called “Sex and the Ninja” – he recounts his and his friends (a hilarious cast of characters) adventures in drinking and getting laid. Go read it Sex and The Ninja My favorite is probably “Mad Mal 2: The Road Warrior” because I get a great picture of the guy he is talking about.
Isolation. Do you need it? Posted at December 11, 2008
I have an interesting Facebook chat going on with a fellow who has had a bootcamp but is having some troubles getting isolation. He asked me about the Cosmo routine but that is for use in Isolation (usually) and won’t necessarily help. Here’s the thing about Isolation: It’s merely symbolic. If you do it right you and her will BE in isolation even if her friends are hanging on every word. I think of Isolation as a description of the level of your communication with her. At a certain point, a few minutes into the interaction, I begin focusing almost entirely on her. The conversation should become AT LEAST 50/50. In fact, I’d say it should be 60% HER, 40% you. Females are wired to talk more so if it’s not that way it seems strange to them. I don’t see anyone else. I don’t hear anyone else. It’s just us two. There is a bubble around us. We are communicating and focusing much more on each other than anyone or thing around us. I bring the energy down. I talk slower, I move slower. I begin telling her she is a sexual being. That it is only natural. That it is a good thing. That’s Isolation. Do you need to get her away from her friends? I often do it if they are much higher energy than I am( but usually what happens is the friends “get it” and give you some space. AND( the normal view of Isolation is you taking her to the other side of the room. I suggest this if you are trying to create the “PUA Aura” but often a few steps away is plenty of space. Think of it more as a change in the tone of communication and how you guys are relating to each other. Focus on her, feel masculine and imagine her as a sexual woman who WANTS to be valued for her feminine sexuality, then tune all other shit out. Captain Jack. CaptainJack says: January 2, 2009 at 8:44 pm
Dude, I haven't formally isolated in a LONG time. And being out in the field lately or not it doesn't matter. Female psychology and responses in relation to a skilled PUA isn't changing from week to week. AND, I really have to wonder what you'd be disagreeing with in the post. I think you are still caught up in the formal rigidity of the pick-up system instead of taking a more “Bruce Lee” approach to flowing like water. Captain Jack flows like water. It's fun and the sex is cool too.
5 Profound Volumes Posted at December 19, 2008
It’s no secret that I read a lot( so people often ask me what I’m reading or if I have any good books to recommend on a particular subject. I consider ACTIVE reading, that is reading with an eye towards actually doing something with the information, a weapon in your arsenal. If you become an information hub you become more valuable. I have a particular method of note taking that allows me to retain an amazing amount of the material I read because it focuses on recall and building connections among many concepts. BUT, as much as I love reading and acquiring knowledge I KNOW and have SEEN with my own eyes it is not the most important skill you can have. Nor is it marketing (although that is HUGE), neither is it being great with numbers.
What is it? It’s making connections with people. One of my friends and a business mentor of sorts told me a few months ago, “They’re just MEN! There is nothing stopping you from picking up the phone and striking a deal with them.” And, he’s exactly right. I created a small little business (not in pick-up or marketing niche) just this month that has made enough to pay my rent and utilities( and, it’s a monthly program so it’ll keep coming in. I have more plans to grow it in the coming months. His “They’re just MEN!” mantra as my own. He meant, they aren’t anything more special than you/me. So, as far as business success is concerned I consider this book to be the number one( Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time This book by Keith Ferrazzi isn’t just fluff and common sense. He has REAL action items and strategies you can put into play. His idea about Super Connectors is really the most developed I’ve seen. And, his strategy for nearly taking over an entire conference is superior to any other as well. Think BIG and Kick Ass in Business and Life CD Love him or hate him Trump is successful. He’s stared defeat right in the face and came out on top. I loved his first book “The Art of the Deal.” Now, he has published a few real horrible books. Trump: How to Get Rich was pretty bad. But, “Think BIG and Kick Ass” was worth it. I bought the CD version for listening in the car and it helped motivate me. One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way Once you are on the right path you can begin to smoke your rivals by making consistent, constant small improvements. The author discovered in his Therapeutic practice that if he asked people in an APATHETIC state to do too much they’d shut down because the Amygdala would view it as a threat, have a fear response and go into “flight” (run the hell away) mode. Once the brain was conditioned to the smaller steps they could then take bigger and bigger steps until they were running FULL STRIDE towards their goals. The Goal: A Process of Ongoing Improvement This is where the core level of Sticking Point Analysis comes from. It is in novel story format so it is a fast, easy read but the ideas are golden. Bust those constraints! The Fifth Discipline: The Art & Practice of The Learning Organization This book will show you how to see stuff that nobody else can see. One friend of mine said “You have an uncanny ability to pinpoint the exact problem and exact solution within about a minute( how the hell do you do that?!” This book is how. But, it is HARD to read. And, even harder to grasp( but the end result of this one and the Goal is pure Ninja Calibration. If you have any experiences with these books comment below (good or bad) AND if you end up buying any of them and reading them come back and comment. There’s GOLD in each of them. Captain Jack
CaptainJack says: December 20, 2008 at 11:59 am
Hi Will, thanks for commenting and thanks for the kudos at the end of the comment. I want to make a few points about my list and your comment. There is not a book on that list that is traditional self-help or has a myopic focus. In fact, every book on that list is contrary to traditional self-help drivel. Other than “One Small Step” none of them are 'self-help' and that one certainly goes against pretty much every other self-help book I've read. You have a taste for Literary Fiction and, like most people who like Literary Fiction, you seem to look down on others who don't like it or who haven't read it. More people would probably read it if the people who recommended it didn't seem like they were always trying to be intellectually superior and snotty. Throwing out names and titles of authors might work in the circles you run in but that is a VERY small circle. I'd be willing to bet that if everyone on this blog sent a text message to all the girls in their phone, “What's your favorite book by Tolstoy?” they'd be lucky to get a 2% response. Again, you can say it is because these women aren't “cultured” or intelligent but they like what they like and they don't deserve to be judged because they were never exposed to it or they couldn't get into it.
As far Ayn Rand being “universally derided” I think that is a ridiculous statement. Perhaps in the circles you run in that is true. But, “Atlas Shrugged” reads like prophecy today. Her idea that a mixed economy eventually leads to a dictatorship she talked about in the 60s looks pretty darn true when you take the Bush Administration AND all the mixing of business and government we now have with the bailouts. It is not in anyone's best interest to have the government controlling industry. This creates a new Feudalism where the families with the most pull in the government fleece the average person. The rest of the unconnected rich and the middle class are left to foot the bill while these few hundred families continue to pile on wealth and status. What Rand warned about IS HAPPENING right now and has been for awhile now. They scream against “the rich and powerful” and pound tables with one hand while the other hand signs laws and taxes and prints money and sends it to the few hundred families with the other hand. All these people know each other( and, Obama is just their newest poster boy. He will simply continue to help them like all the other world leaders do. If a person were to read Rand's books ONLY with an eye towards masculinity and how the feminine and masculine interact they would be doing themselves a HUGE favor. And her message of being bigger than the world around you and being an individual has helped thousands. You CANNOT help anyone else unless you have your shit together. The type of person that Ayn Rand lauds is the type of person who CREATED the middle class. The individualist entrepreneur who threw off Collectivism and PRODUCED something meaningful that saved us time, effort and money. You mention Neil as an example. Have you met him? I have. Do you know he is a big fan of the “universally derided” book, Atlas Shrugged? As far as Neil goes he was given this whole Pick-up thing as an assignment from a book publisher. Do you also think he is a Motley Crue groupie? No, because they don't make any money. But mPuas do( You CANNOT do any good to society if you can't do well for yourself. Gates, Buffet and Ted Turner are probably going to wipe out Malaria in our lifetime. They are doers and producers, not government 'officials' and collectivists. Do you think someone who has malaria gives a shit about Gabriel Garcia Marquez or Tolstoy? Or, are they praying to God for someone like Gates to give money, organizational expertise and VISION to galvanize a group of DOERS and PRODUCERS to make something happen? CJ
CaptainJack says: December 22, 2008 at 2:45 pm
About the Trump book( The thing about Trump and a lot of these other guys is they don't really do 'baby steps.' That's one thing I've learned in the last 6 months or so and why Trump's book struck a chord with me. He does everything big. I have a friend/business mentor who is the same way. He just doesn't see these smaller baby steps because he passes them by like a whirlwind. OTHER people do the baby steps. When I'd think calling 10 people was a lot of action he'd put a plan in motion to contact 100. Scale is one of the things missing. I didn't like “Millionaire Next Door” that much because I think most of those people were accidental milliionaires. Their lives aren't really how I want to live. Many of them scrimp and save and their millionaire status is primarily business equity that they'd be hard pressed to cash out because their businesses DEPEND on them. They haven't turned it into a real business that could run with professional management. I am reading “Millionaire Mind” right now and I like it more. The group surveyed is quite a bit higher than the group for the Millionaire next door. Here's something interesting to do: If you write down the major Theme's in Trump's book and then compare it to Table 2-1 in “Millionaire Mind” I think you'd find a HUGE overlap. The other thing I liked about the Trump book was Zanker's story about influencing one of the guys to speak at the Learning Annex. He sent the guy flowers every day for a long time. That's persistence. CJ
Just Say Yes. Posted at January 2, 2009
So I’m walking through the biography section of the bookstore and I come across a book that catches my eye. I’m a bit skeptical but something about it makes me want to take a closer look. I open to the Prologue and I read this:
It was nearly midnight. I was standing in the rain, outside the house of a rich banker in Las Vegas. I checked my pockets. I had everything I needed. The photos. The keys to the car. The silver pocket watch. Most important, I had the gun. Because I had been asked to kill a man. And I had said yes. Holy shit! I keep reading and I’m glad I did. It has been one of the best random finds I’ve ever had. The book is called “Yes Man” by Danny Wallace. I was skeptical about the book because the movie with Jim Carey called “Yes Man” is currently in theaters and I had already seen it. (Good enough, kinda funny, good message.) I don’t read books that are merely fleshed out transcripts of the movie but the cover said, “The book that INSPIRED (emphasis mine) the movie.” The book is about a year of his life in which he said Yes to any question or request made of him. You can imagine all the adventures that kind of behavior could get you into( Well, let me tell you. The basic premise is the same but the movie is like a speck of gold compared to finding a friggin’ treasure chest. It’s a life-changing book AND I think is a perfect way to ring in the New Year. Go and get it( Hilarious, thought-provoking and all around a great read. CJ
Romance = Male-Female Sexual Tension Posted at January 12, 2009
Women are starving. I’m sitting in the bookstore right now and the Cafe points directly to the Sex, Relationships and Romance Novel section. There is an absolute STREAM of women going over there. Those sections are NEVER empty. Why? Women are literally starving for the male-female sexual dynamic. Now, that’s not the word they use for it. They call it ‘Romance.’ But, most men cringe and think of Romance as flowers, expensive candlelight dinners, chocolates and kissing her ass. It’s not that at all! And, women know that. Have you ever READ a romance novel? They are filled with sexual tension, secret sex liaisons, forbidden pleasures( I made my way through half of one and I swear nearly every character had sex with every other character by the midway point. I stopped reading.. I got it. Romance = male-female sexual tension. Not that other shit we’ve been trained to think. Romance can occur anywhere. A bookstore, a sidewalk, an expensive restaurant( wherever. It’s not the
environment, it’s the tension. If you make her feel feminine and sexy, she’ll WANT to have sex with you. And, there’s no better way to create that male-female sexual tension than with Sexual Framing. Mastering Sexual Framing will give you the absolute power to have sex pretty much whenever you want it. (It has NOTHING to do with dirty talk or being a creepy horny guy( It’s MUCH MUCH MORE than Strawberry Fields or Rings on Fingers, too.) Not only can you have a life filled with sex, you could easily use it to get a girlfriend. Or, have a few girlfriends at a time. If you were really perverted you could use it to create a Harem of chicks who basically act as personal assistants. (That’s right, they’ll run your errands and shit and ENJOY IT! Strange, I know but I’ve done it and so have countless others.) And, you can have these types of relationships without lying or drama. See, YOU set the rules by your frames. The problem is when you go around Gaming you have no friggin’ clue what Frames you are setting. Even worse, you have no idea of the Frames SHE is setting and you are unwittingly AGREEING to( Shit man, you could even use it to get married.. and, then, keep the marriage alive and spicy for years to come. Sexual Framing and understanding the female psychology of sex really decomplicates things( Do you feel pick-up is hard or draining or complicated or takes too much time? Sexual Framing makes it easy. While I’ve talked about it on my blog and a little in my eClass it is something that requires a little more delving into. Framing is derived from NLP and relies heavily on Presuppositions. It’s just as much a mindset and understanding female psychology as it is a framework of techniques. You need ALL 3 to really make it work. Once you get it you will look so smooth people will watch you and swear you’ve been good with women all your life. No one understands it better than I do and I can TEACH you how to apply it every day no matter where you are or what you’re doing. Shit, you can even apply it to business. About a month ago, I got 6 experts in the spiritual self-help field to hand me 4 detailed lessons for a new membership program for FREE because I understood their values and framed it so that if they DID NOT do it for me they’d be violating their values. (That’s right( I CHARGE $49.00 per month for the lessons I got them to give me for free. But, they will gain valuable exposure to several hundred thousand people as a result.) It’s pure mental Ninjitsu. You can discover it as well. And, the women? Well, they will be so relieved, so glad, so HAPPY that they’ve met a guy who REALLY GETS IT they will do pretty much anything you want. CJ P.S. To get started simply click the button below.
What's this Pick-up Thing REALLY About? Posted at January 14, 2009
Louise Hay, Author of Hey CJ, First of all, I hope you’re enjoying the holidays! I am reading Louise Hay’s book “you can heal your life”. In that book she wrote “we are afraid of intimacy and allowing anyone to get too close, so we have anonymous sex.” Well this got me thinking about something that I thought about before, which is that a lot of people in the community (instructors) rarely seem to get involved in long term relationships. Which made me wonder why. It wouldn’t surprise me if this is one of the underlying reasons, and if so that is a big issue. Offcourse it’s cool that guys learn how to attract beautiful women. But, it’s much more fulfilling to find a wonderful woman who you enjoy spending time with outside of the bedroom as well. Don’t you think that’s the ultimate goal of pick up? to find a girl that truly enriches your life and makes you happy? And that if there’s something like fear of intimicy that stops guys from really getting involved with a girl, it should be something the community focusses upon as well? I think that the community needs to come full circle by looking beyond the SNL’s and mLTR’s. Please share your thoughts. Peace, Blog Reader First off, glad to see you are reading NON-community stuff. Good move. 99% of the stuff in the community is pure crap. Especially the stuff about meeting and picking up women. AND, ALL of the stuff about Inner Game. Clueless. (Except my stuff, of course, my stuff is golden.) So, let’s take what you quoted from Hay: “we are afraid of intimacy and allowing anyone to get too close, so we have anonymous sex.” It’s important to realize that almost anything of the form “We are(”, “I am(”, “People are(” is a generalization. And, it probably has more to do with the speaker than “reality.” When someone writes or talks about a subject they are giving out their map of the world. It’s how they see things BECAUSE of what they believe. You can ONLY see what is inside you. You can only see the contents of your own mind.
To translate( Hay is PROBABLY saying, “If I was afraid of intimacy and allowing anyone to get too close, I’d have anonymous sex.” Or, “The only way I could have anonymous sex is to not get intimate or let them get too close.” Got that? Mull it over a bit. This realization will change your life. When you get that you can really start accepting and loving others because you realize no one is really wrong. They are right from their own viewpoint, because their belief plays out in their experience. Does it HAVE to be that way for them? No. We know that by changing their belief they can experience something entirely different. Now, to your next statement:
Of course, it’s cool that guys learn how to attract beautiful women. But, it’s much more fulfilling to find a wonderful woman who you enjoy spending time with outside of the bedroom as well. Really? Much more fulfilling for who? Remember, you are talking about yourself. Notice how you are projecting just like Hay does? Nothing wrong in that( we all do it. It’s how we’re designed. The place where people mess themselves up is when they believe it is the objective reality and it should be that way for everyone. That their experience is the RIGHT way and how it should be( and anyone who doesn’t follow that way is somehow wrong. Your next question seems to head in that direction:
Don’t you think that’s the ultimate goal of pick up? to find a girl that truly enriches your life and makes you happy? You are making a HUGE mistake here. Do you notice how you are giving the power over your own happiness to something outside of yourself? “a girl that(makes you happy?” Why not be happy anyway? A lot of people get scared thinking that if they were happy for no reason at all they wouldn’t do shit, would fail and then die. (Not on the surface but if you keep digging you’ll find fear of death is ultimately behind all of your fears.) Not true. When you are happy you can do more, you cut out the stupid shit you do trying to get happy or avoid bad feelings, and you are generally more positive and feel better so you can focus more and make the best decisions. Your question is also leading down the road of “Shouldn’t it be this way for everyone?” Here’s my thinking about this( This whole Pick-up thing is really about freedom. Freedom to CHOOSE what kind of relationship you want (or don’t want) to have with women you choose. You want to rack up lots of SNLs with girls you’ve only known a few hours. Cool. You get tired of that want a girlfriend for awhile. Cool. You want to get married. Cool. Want to chill out, do your own thing and not have sex at all. Cool. It’s about being able to CHOOSE without the burden of society and past programming making you feel guilty about it. The difference is it is all “more real” because you are choosing it WITHOUT the influence of your past programming. CJ P.S. How would I bang that old lady? Lots of heart melters( elicit how she “knows” someone and fill in the blanks through stories, all the while in a Sexual Frame having to do with connections and freedom. P.P.S. The Sexual Framing 4-Part Teleseminar is about half filled. Sign up now so you, too, can get the FREEDOM to choose(
Importante! Sexual Framing Telecourse Posted at January 21, 2009
Yo, If you signed up for the Sexual Framing Telecourse please check for an email with the subject line “Sexual Framing Teleseminar Details” it contains the details about tomorrow night’s calls. If you DID NOT receive that email please email me at
[email protected] immediately. We have 7 seats 5 seats 4 seats 3 seats left if you’re still interested sign up here. I’ll accept registrations until Thursday 5pm CST or until I have 20 puas. The REAL Captain Jack.
A Quick Lesson in Frame Rejection and Double Binds Posted at January 22, 2009
Yo, I just emailed the following LR to all the lucky asses who were awesome enough to sign up for my Sexual Framing Teleseminar. I gave them instructions to read it, absorb it and notice how I used Connected her frames to automatically trigger mine. She wanted an LTR, I wanted porno stuff. I did Ninja Frame shit, she no longer cared about LTR, she wanted porno stuff. http://www.betheseducer.com/2008/02/lr-im-not-easy/ I’m going to analyze this one and a few others in pretty good detail because they resulted in a lay. A lay that MOST Puas would’ve fucked up. CJ P.S. 3 spaces left.
Do You Want a Girlfriend? Posted at January 26, 2009
Please forgive me( Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of trying to teach you guys how to have sex with as many chicks as possible, in as short a time as possible, I forget that there are some of you guys who just want to get a girlfriend. This is an easily ATTAINABLE goal when you know what to do( but seems damn near impossible when you DON’T know what to do. And, I’m not talking about SETTLING for some mediocre chick and trying to convince yourself that she’s a good gal. So, my question is( Do you want a steady girlfriend? If you do, then I have a few questions for you, only 9, and they won’t take long to answer at all (probably less than 10 minutes). I might be following up with a few of you (who are open to it) for a little more insight into the matter. Take the Get a Girlfriend Survey! Captain Jack
She Wore My Ass Out. Posted at February 3, 2009
I know it may come as a shock to you, but I am actually not perfect.
Calm down, calm down( It’s true. st in case you don’t believe me I am going to provide proof. I emailed a 4 4-page page pdf letter to those guys who Just took my “Do You Want A Girlfriend?” Survey. In that PDF letter, on page 2 I wrote this:
It’s how I got the 28 Year Old E.R. Nurse who ALSO owned ov over er a million dollars of real estate and a sex drive bigger and longer than the Great Wall of China. She, quite literally, wore my ass out. (P.S. She paid for everything the entire time we went out!) When I wrote, “She, quite literally, wore my ass out.” I meant to say that we had a lot of sex and she made me really, really tired. But, right AFTER I emailed it, I was re re-reading reading it and busted out laughing because I had quite a different image of that statement when I read it without my “writer’s eyes” on. Had this been written in html (or in a blog post) I could’ve simply edited it and maintained my perfection. But, it was in a PDF in an email. So, there is no way for me to do that( So, just to make it clear: The Latina Millionaire E.R. Nurse did not violate me anally in any way. Captain Jack P.S. I am still 99% perfect.
hy Captain Jack is All Depressed and Find Out Why Shit. Posted at February 4, 2009
Oh look, somebody finally decided to drop in( Well, at least SOMEBODY is reading my blog. Not that anybody cares or anything but I’m feeling a bit depressed. Why? Look down below this paragraph aragraph and you’ll see a little feedburner thingie. It has a number inside it and that number is ridiculously small.
Now, I’m not exactly sure how all this shit works but that is supposedly the number of people on any one day who are subscribed to Captain in Jack’s Grande Adventures (the insanely magnificent blog you are now feasting your eyes upon). Pathetic, huh? Do you know how many SINGLE people there are in the U.S.? Well, in 2004, the most recent report I could find, there were 95.7 million. Of those, 95.7 million, 46% were male. (By the way, that means there are 9,570,704 MORE single women in the U.S. than men!) So there are 44,022,000 single dudes. If we subtract the number above (which at the time of this writing is a measly 704) we’re left with( ,021,296 Single Guys Who Are NOT Subscribed to My Blog. 44,021,296 Ridiculous. This doesn’t even include all the guys in the UK, where my biggest fan on earth makes his home, Connor from Sex and The Ninja. (or, Australians( (or, the Germans( (or, the Papua New Guineans( etc, etc. Anyway, my main point to all of this depressing math is: I think more single guys should be reading this amazing ridiculously useful shit I’m writing.
So, if you read my blog and you have NOT clicked that little button thingy please do so. (Y (You ou DO want to cheer Dear Ol’ Captain Jack up, don’t you?) Also( tell others about this blog. You could probably use the good karma. Depressed in Dallas, captain jack P.S. Whenever I want to cheer myself up I hit up Sex and The Ninja to see if he’s mentioned my name lately. I believe it is TRULY the funniest blog I’ve ever read (besides mine). Here’s an excerpt from his latest post,“Just post, Like Rocky IV”:
I’m delighted with myself at this stage and just to make me feel even better the waitress wants to give us a new table and asks us which one we want, suggesting she will clear any other people! I think this is the best th thing ing ever and strut over to a table of girls and simply demanded that they BE GONE ! So I’m shouting at these chicks “GONE! All of you GONE !!!” Then turning to the waitress “I want these chicks out of here, NOW!” And the fucking waitress is actually gettin getting g rid of them! I can’t believe it! This must be what its like to be rich and powerful. I like it! These chicks are pissed and moaning but I am having none of it! “Out of here paupers, I can SMELL the poverty off you” P.P.S. Click on this thingy [
] before you read his blog, though.
P.P.S. What’s that I hear? You don’t care to hear about all my psychological ups and downs( You only read this blog to learn how to get hotties to drop their soaking wet little panties, you say. Fine. I promise my NEXT post will wil have information so shocking you’ll probably nut immediately upon reading it. (Jerk.)
CaptainJack says: February 5, 2009 at 2:36 pm
Actually, I have ZERO fuck buddies and ZERO numbers. I do that when I get ready to go on a tear( Sorta like not feeding a shark rk for awhile so when a little blood gets in the water it goes nuts( For the most part this post was a playful joke. My blog readership has actually tripled in the last 6 months. So while I DO believe all 44 million single guys should be reading my blog, II'm 'm not terribly worried that it's only about 5,000. CJ
Sinn, Depression and Rhythm Mastery Posted at February 6, 2009
About Yesterday’s Depression post( Wow! First off, I have to say I didn’t mean to cause such a stir. I got quite a few private emails from readers that were concerned about me. They ranged all the way from “Tough Love” to Inspiriational.
One guy wrote a two-pager that detailed numerous events in his life that were difficult and how something I wrote or something in the Grande Adventures PDF helped him turn it around. Quite inspirational. Another guy offered his encouragement and told me to email or call him anytime. Another PUA took the “Tough Love” approach and told me to grab my balls and deal with it. Ha. For the most part that post was me sort of clowning around with words and concepts like I normally do. I’m not really depressed. In fact, things are going really well. Here’s what happened: I was researching info for the Get-A-Girlfriend Project when I came across those U.S. Census numbers about the number of single people. I realized that my measly number of readers was just a SPECK on the tip of the iceberg and it got me to thinking about the absolute potential out there( (and, how many SINGLE GUYS I was not reaching. Look, I know I’ve got stuff that can help those guys out immensely so it can be a little frustrating. So, that was the main reason for the post. I am not depressed at all( In fact, I was at dinner with Sinn the other night and we were talking about how shit is going magnificent for us. He’s really kicked it into high gear, hasn’t he? He has hit a real fever pitch and is just knocking shit out of the park. I once wrote this about Sinn:
“The first time I saw Sinn in action my jaw dropped to the floor, and stayed there all night. Most instructors get “good enough” at one facet of the Game to impress AFCs… and you’d be hard pressed to find an Instructor who had achieved Mastery at even one facet of Game, yet Sinn seems to have achieved it in all of them. From Day Game to Strippers to Same Night Lays I can’t find a weakness in his Game anywhere.” Captain Jack Guess what? The first time I saw him was like 2 or 3 years ago in NYC. He has gotten about 3 times better since then! He has this dry erase whiteboard thing on his refrigerator where he lists all the major stuff he has to do and how many times per week he does it and on what days( Did you know he only allows himself to go grocery shopping once per week? On Tuesday? (Haa( Not sure why but I found that amusing.) I mentioned to him how the best times in my life were when I had a basic Rhythm and a rough daily schedule. But, not that kind of schedule where you say, “9:00 pm this, 10:30 that.. blah, blah” it was more like a mental rhythm and schedule where you are doing roughly the same things at the same time but it’s all guided from the inside not forcing yourself to do it( you are just doing it. As for me, I don’t know what the hell has happened (actually, I think I have a clue which I’ll mention in a future post) but it seems like everything I do lately has started working. It started in mid November and just keeps getting better. People are coming out of the blue offering me support, opportunity, ideas and even money! I started a website in December in an industry where I had no connections, no name, just a tiny bit of expertise and it just keeps growing and growing. I get between 200-400 email sign ups PER DAY. I chose that little niche because I had an idea and I wanted to see if I could make it work starting from ZERO, and I did. I’m going to do it in Pick-up and Copywriting, too. If I get 200-400 emails per day in that little ass niche( I’ll probably get 2,000 or so in a larger niche. Not too shabby, eh? Anyways, what I’m trying to say is this: Get into a Rhythm! I’ve found that the Rhythm is usually caused by a few things: 1) The belief you can do it and you deserve it. 2) An idea that EXCITES you! 3) A COMMITMENT to 10 times more INTELLIGENT action than you would normally do when you are just coasting. (It is even MORE important to follow the 80/20 rule when you increase your action.) Captain Jack
P.S. This is not the post that I mentioned would make you nut immediately upon reading. I am still working on that one. P.P.S. Did you look at the feedburner thingie? Notice how it’s no longer 704 but now 1928? Turns out one of my readers pointed out that I didn’t have things set up right. Nifty, huh? He’s got a great site you should go look at. I know you’re probably not interested in Money or how to be your own boss or anything silly like that but you should still drop by his site http://www.startbreakingfree.com
CaptainJack says: February 11, 2009 at 11:13 am
I have my daughter's this weekend( Next week I'll be in Tampa Fl. from the 19-23rd. I'll have my daughters 27th-March 1st. From March 1st-8th I'll be at a Retreat in the Monterrey Peninsula. From March 14th-March 22nd I'll have my daughters for Spring Break( So the competition is going to have to wait! However, I have started actively gaming a bit more so I'm sure the LRs will start to pile up. CJ
CaptainJack says: February 11, 2009 at 11:14 am
Yeah, I'll start throwing some more LRs up here on the blog as they come. I'm not sure if I'll make another PDF out of them. I was kinda thinking the Blog takes place of pdfs( Also, I'll be putting some stuff out very soon.
The Unsatisfiable Hunger Posted at February 13, 2009
…in the hundreds of questionaires I circulated for Garden, I described myself as an “avid crotch-watcher,” and asked if the reader was too. That question never failed to get a response. Most women wrote that they were crotch watchers too, others said they loved seeing “men’s bottoms,” “examinging their pants to see which leg it hung down in,” or just plain “looking.” — Nancy Friday (
As I look at those photos, I imagine him teasing me, fingering me to get me going, and then teasing me with just the head of his cock. I don’t know where I get these ideas, as these are not things my husband does to me — I mean, teasing me with his cock… In my fantasy, this man from the pages of Playgirl then licks my tits and belly button until I plead with him to fuck me, and at last he does. — Sally (
But becoming your own woman, becoming highly educated and choosy in your sexual tastes, leaves you vulnerable to loneliness. You can be a virgin and be sexually frustrated. But every experienced woman knows that to have had sex, good sex, and then to have to do without it, leaves even more room for real pain. In our culture, the pain a woman suffers from sexual deprivation isn’t considered seriously. Not so with me. (
So he (a guy she was dating) and his friend got me when I went outside to go to the bathroom. I was scared at first, but he kept on saying, “wow, feel this cunt, isn’t this the best cunt you’ve ever felt?” This was before they were inside of me, he was using his fingers and hand. That is when I started getting turned on. Then when he started fucking me, I was lost in sexual pleasure. He kept on talking all the time… By this time, I was starting to scream with pleasure, and he told his friend to keep his hands over my mouth as there were other people around us… When he was done, it was his friend’s turn, and believe me, he was just as good. All the time, they were fucking me, they were talking about my tits and cunt, which made me unafraid and enjoy it… I guess that couldn’t be called a fantasy, as it actually happened, but I often think about it, and then I masturbate. (
Another is that I am being fucked by two guys while my husband is watching. One is shoving his cock down my throat, and the other is sucking my cunt. My breasts are also being massaged. I can’t move because of the size of the cock going down my throat. The two guys agree to come at the same time, so simultaneously, one goes off in my cunt, and the other in my mouth, which I proceed to suck and swallow… So, those are just a few quotes from “Forbbiden Flowers” by Nancy Friday. It’s a continuation of “My Secret Garden.” For those of you who don’t know, Nancy Friday put an ad in the newspaper asking women to send in their sexual fantasies. She then reprinted them in her book with insightful commentary.
Entering you is one of the biggest sexual rushes for him. It starts out feeling like he’s being cocooned in warmth and wetness, and then the pressure and wetness increase as both of you become more aroused. “His genitals fill with tingly electricity, and he can feel your muscular contractions tightening around him,” says Kanaris. This blissful feeling is intensified by deep thrusting, so try positions that let him get inside you further, such as woman-on-top or doggie-style. And, that one is from Cosmopolitan Magazine’s March 2009 issue, page 115. This is the stuff they are reading in their spare time! Their circulation is 2.9 million women monthly. Reading these books along with “Sperm Wars” and “Way of the Superior Man” will give you huge insights into female sexuality. They are extremely sexual and I URGE you to get in touch with that aspect of them WITHOUT judgment about them. If you do this something in you changes that women really pick up on. My SNL ability really skyrocketed when I got this( I fought it for awhile because some of the fantasies are utterly shocking (farm animals, etc)( however, it is what it is. My main point with this is you (like almost every guy) don’t fully grasp just how sexual women really are( Your ideas of female sexuality have been conditioned in haphazardly over time and from a very young age. This affects your behavior, your body language, the tempo of your escalation, the things you try in bed, the subjects you’re willing to broach with them. Immerse yourself in this information until something snaps mentally and you get it! How will you know when you get it? There is an “Holy fucking shit!” moment and when you go outside into the world you see women at various stages of turn-on as they go about their business. Captain Jack P.S. Try not to read this if you are trying to concentrate on something important. Also, make sure there is a bathroom or other private area available. You’ll probably need it. Here’s the entire “Forbidden Flowers” book: http://www.scribd.com/doc/4548013/Forbidden-Flowers-Nancy-Friday Do yourself a huge favor and absorb every word.
Covert Behavior Control Posted at February 23, 2009
By now you’ve probably already read or heard that my Wing, Sinn, has left Dallas. We had our last night out on Thursday and I got pretty emotional. We spent a lot of time reminiscing about girls we made sweet love to, 2-sets that we cold-approached and handled like seduction Ninjas, sets that blew up in ridiculous ways. Nights of drunken Tomfoolery in distant cities and so forth. The biggest injustice during this whole time period was that we didn’t have a third party chronicling these adventures. That sucks. I remember one night Sinn opened this absolutely hot brunette girl with big knockers and her cute enough little friend. Now, at this time there was ALSO a girl I had number closed a few days earlier who was at the bar. Sort of a dilemna because I need to wing. There’s a lot of shit to keep track of( I need to wing but do it in a way I don’t fuck up my lay with the Wisconsin girl. On the flip side, I can’t torpedo this 2set and fuck up Sinn’s chances with the hottie. At one point, Sinn and his hottie have wondered off a bit and I’m actually talking to BOTH the girls (the obstacle and my previous number closee). I look across the bar and Sinn’s Hottie has this concerned look on her face. I look at Sinn and he just doesn’t look right. He is wavering a bit and twitches awkwardly every 10-15 seconds. I’m thinking, “Oh shit, what’s happening? Somebody has spiked his drink and it’s fucking with his nervous system.” I get a little scared, put my beer down and begin to walk over. “Stay calm, get him some water, see what he is feeling,” I tell myself in an effort to calm my nerves. I have visions of my friend being put in an ambulance and driven to a hospital with IVs and shit stuck in his arm. I’m pushing my way through the mass of people and as I’m about half way there, he dips his right shoulder and then snaps his fingers. Hmm, that’s weird. Maybe he’s trying to play it off. I take a few more steps and he then dips his left shoulder and snaps his fingers again. Then, it hits me( Sinn isn’t having an adverse drug reaction or suffering from a rare spinal cord disorder. He’s Dancing!!! Can you imagine my relief? Then, I started to chuckle. Everything was going to be alright. That night we pulled the two-set and laid them. A few days later I got the Wisconsin girl. (LR: The Acrobatic Monkey and LR:www-horny-wisconsin-girls-com). Now, you probably think this post is ONLY about me reminiscing about our adventures and making fun of one of my friends, don’t you? You don’t think dear Ol’ Captain Jack is going to be able to pull a nice pick-up lesson out of this little story do you? O Ye of Little Faith! When I thought Sinn was suffering from a Neurotransmitter Deficiency on the dance floor and I was walking towards him, what types of behaviors, scenarios and possibilities was I thinking about? • Getting him some water • Calling an ambulance • Getting him to sit down and asking about his experience so I could later relate it to the Paramedics • Picturing Him in the hospital with IVs and such • Collecting his drink for lab analysis and the fingerprints of the Perp But, once it hit me that he was “dancing,” what types of behaviors, scenarios and possibilities was I imagining then? • Pointing and laughing • Challenging him to a dance-off to boost my club cred • Taking video for future black-mail possibilities • Pretending like I didn’t know him and quietly exiting the back way with the Wisconsin girl • Teasing him mercilessly to make myself feel better Aren’t those all VASTLY different from the previous? Let’s bring this home( Let’s imagine a common pick-up artist talking to a hottie. (Not any of my readers, of course.) He’s talking to the hottie who has herself all dolled up complete with mini-skirt and push-up bra and he’s telling her all these stories that demonstrate he has high value and that he’s a social guy, blah, blah, blah( In other words, he’s royally boring the shit out of her.
But, let’s say he stumbled on “The Greatest Pick-up Blog On the Entire Internet”* and he picked up a little sumpthin’-sumpthin’ about Framing and in the midst of utterly boring her he lobs this gem into the convo, “So, what’s on the Agenda for later?” Simple question, right? NO!!! Not at all, my fellow pirate**. That question is MAGIC! (I wish I could take credit for it but I learned it from Brent of Absolute Power Dating.) Why is it Magic? Because, NOW you’ve alluded to the possibility of seeing her LATER( she is pretty likely to assume you are leading towards something like an after-party or you and her doing something later at night, when the club is closed( And, if we’re honest with ourselves, we all know what happens when the club closes, don’t we? Boys and Girls Do Naughty Things to Each Other in Private! Which is something she could be interested in. That question makes her reframe all the other shit you said previously as having Probable Sexual Intent!!! Now, what behaviors, scenarios and possibilities are opening up in HER mind?! Do you get it? Do you see it! Fuck man, if you don’t see it I think you should consider the priesthood or something. Whatever. Love, The One and Only Captain Jack * The Blog you are now reading ** “Pirate” in the sense of someone who enjoys adventures, tasty alcoholic beverages, gold and wenches. Not one who steals shit. P.S. Would you like to hear more of my thoughts and ideas on Game? There is only so much I can do in writing. Especially in a blog because it is difficult to really flesh out, develop and expound ideas in such a small space. But, with an hour of talking or 8-12 pages of writing I could do A LOT. Here’s the plan, I am going to do a monthly conference call. Each call will last 90 minutes. The first sixty of those minutes will be me discussing, dissecting and really fleshing out how you can make this whole Gaming thing easier, funner and more effective. It’s pretty safe to say that no one has the same perspective and ideas about this stuff as I do. The last 30 minutes of the call I’ll answer questions and berate people for not getting it (just kidding about the berating). I’ve thought about charging monthly for this but I’ve decided not to. It’s a one-time payment for the full year. That’s 12 calls for a total of 18 hours. The price I’ve settled on makes the cost $16.39 per hour. That comes out to $295.00 for the year. The calls will be recorded and transcribed in case you miss them, or you’re in Europe, Asia or Africa where the calls will likely be at an inconvenient time. You can sign up by pushing the button below.
How to Get More Girlfriends, FuckBuddies or mLTRs Than Your Poor Little Body Can Handle! Posted at February 25, 2009
Notice those little blue pills in the picture I’ve attached to the left? The technical name for those little pills is “Sildenafil Citrate” but you probably know them simply as “Viagra.” Why have I attached such a picture to this post? The 5-page pdf which I’ve ALSO attached will explain. Just click the red link below How to Get More Girlfriends, FuckBuddies or mLTRs Than Your Poor Little Body Can Handle! Captain Jack
Tap Into Unconscious Behavior Sequences to Get What You Want Posted at February 26, 2009
Hola, Numbnuts! No time for chit chat. Let’s get right down to bizness( You wanna guess how much of a person’s behavior is habitual? C’mon( give it a shot. What do you say? Twenty-Percent. — Nope. Thirty-Percent, anybody else say 30%? — Nuh, uh. Okay, how ’bout 55%? — Nice guess but not even close, Dorkface. Try this on for size: Those Behaviorist Lab Nerds Believe it is About 95%! And, all along you’ve been thinking you were making all the choices and shit everyday. Not really. Your actions (more appropriately, your REactions) have been calculated and foisted upon you by your Unconscious Mind. AFTER your Unconscious Mind has already decided for you it thrusts this mental mass into your Conscious Mind where you run a little sequence over it and then think you “choose” the already decided course of action. I can hear you guys out there in Chorus, ‘So, what’s all this gotta do with Vagina?’ Calm down, I’ll get to that (jeesh). I’m not quite finished with this “preamble.” Once upon a time (in 1300s Japan, to be exact) there was a Zen Master named Bassui Tokusho. Bassui’s deal was he’d sit high up on a tree branch and ask, “Who is it that hears?” Bassui was examining the function of being that is “already, always listening.” Notice this( Can you stop yourself from listening? Just for a moment, stop hearing shit around you. Can’t do it can you? Whether you are aware of it or not, that stimuli constantly rushes towards you and you can’t shut it down. You are always hearing, feeling and seeing, even while you are asleep. And, we are always REacting to this constant stream of stimuli. So, what we have so far is 95% of behavior is unconscious AND we are always receiving stimuli( Is that cloudy little muffin brain of yours starting to see what I’m getting at? No? Alrighty then, we’ll sally forth. The external stimuli hits you, the “receiver” looks for a pattern match in the list of available behaviors, it narrows these down by the Context you are operating in, further modifies it by your Dominant Intention (supposing you have one) and then executes the match. External Stimuli –> Pattern Matching Loop –> Unconscious Sequence Fired –> The Meaning Maker Attaches Meaning
Now, something important to know about this is the Unconscious Sequence CAN fire without the External Stimuli( In fact, for most things simply imagining the stimuli will start the process. Another REALLY important thing to know is you can access the Unconscious Sequence without the stuff before it and if you are successful in getting the first 3 major steps in the sequence you WILL get the attached Meaning( The easiest way starts thusly: “Hey Bambi( what’s the first sensation (first major chunk of unconscious sequence) you get inside your body when you first realize X?” Where X = Some Meaning. Do you think that might be useful if you wanted to grab ahold of Bambi’s unconscious process for feeling like she wants a guy to be her main squeeze? Some possible meanings that might be interesting to a dude who is so uncouth and barbaric as to want to have sex with hotties: * You’re Really Attracted To Someone * You Can’t Stop Thinking About Someone (oooo, sinister) * You are “in love” * You’re turned on Interesting, eh? If you get this, and get it in its various and sundry forms, you will make pick-up look ridiculously easy. This is one of the things we are going to DRILL like crazy in the upcoming “Viagra Dialogues” teleseminar until it becomes YOUR automatic, unconscious behavior. Will you join me? Gosh, I hope so( I hate to think you are out there doing all the silly worthless shit that everybody else is writing about and teaching. The Party starts on March 11th( I can only accept 20 PUAs so I can make sure to answer questions, emails and so forth in a timely manner. To read more How to Get More Fuck Buddies, Girlfriends or mLTRs Than Your Poor Little Body Can Handle( Or, just sign up here... Captain Jack P.S. 8 PUAs have already signed up. P.P.S. Just so you know( “Numbnuts”, “Dorkface” and “muffin brain” are all terms of endearment.
These Interesting Facts Can Get You Laid… Posted at February 28, 2009
The following is a collection of interesting quotes and ideas that have EVERYTHING to do with seduction ( • When a person perceives you to be of higher authority they unconsciously shift their voice and speech style to match yours. (Gregory & Webster,1996). • “There are definitely differences in outlook and perspective between men and women that require a higher level of communication sophistication. For example, women generally respond better to stories, anecdotes, and metaphors, while men are more fact-oriented and statistical( The biggest difference between the genders is in response to tone. Women react much more negatively to negative messages than do men. They don’t like companies that trash the competition( Cola wars, beer wars, and burger wars are entertainment to men( and noise to women. When you articulate what you are for or about, you reveal something of yourself. [Emphasis mine] – “Words That Work” by Dr. Frank Luntz • “When the barrier was high enough to be a true obstacle, however, the boys went directly to the obstructed toy, making contact with it three times faster than with the unobstructed toy.” – Influence by Cialdini • “No matter what their self-proclaimed sexual orientation, they showed, on the whole, strong and swift genital arousal when the screen offered men with men, women with women and women with men( And with the women, especially the straight women, mind and genitals seemed scarcely to belong to the same person. The readings from the plethysmograph and the keypad weren’t in much accord.” New York Times article titled “What Do Women Want – Discovering What Ignites Female Desire” (HmmD this has interesting implications, doesn’t it? I know a lot of people have wondered why I don’t bother with a lot of kino escalation to arouse her. Maybe kino escalation is worthless, even detrimental, if her mind aint’ in it.)
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“Laboratory experiments have confirmed that exciting experiences can enhance the feelings of attraction.” – “Why We Love” by Helene Fisher “If you have this dyad, and one part is pumped full of testosterone, is more interested in risk taking, is probably more aggressive, you’ve got a very strong motivational force. It wouldn’t make sense to have another similar force. You need something complementary. And I’ve often thought that there is something really powerful for women’s sexuality about being desired. That receptivity element.” – Dr. Chivers (Do you think this might explain why me saying, “You should really stop doing that, If you don’t quit turning me on, I’m going to lay you down on this table and fuck you right here” has such an effect?) “A man typically has sex with thousands of partners in his imagination over the course of his life. Women are much more likely to fantasize about people they know.” Survival of the Prettiest by Nancy Etcoff
Do you find those quotes intriguing? I know I sure do. All of them provide a template or backing for using a language construct to get what you want. For example, when I say “I like it when girls do X” it isn’t just something I say to fill out time. I say it because 1. If they like me it gives them an opportunity and directions to SHOW it. 2. Women LIKE to do things for the men they like because it makes them feel more feminine and shows their value. Here’s something else I found both interesting and useful( Once upon a time I was in a bar talking to a hottie. Things were going good and we were discussing male-female interactions and I was in the middle of telling her I loved it when girls put their hand on my forearm or chest when they are trying to make a point. Not 5 minutes later she placed her hand on my forearm looked across the bar at some Jackass and said, “That guy is hot!” What!!! Wait a minute( I want to be hot, too! Where’s my hotness compliment? From that moment on I worked even HARDER to woo her. I focused more intently. Naturally, that got me to thinking( What if *I* started doing the same thing? What would happen then? I’ll tell you what: Pretty much the same thing. It seemed to make a girl try a bit harder. But, I found that it seems to work better if you make the statement with your eyes instead. But, once or twice is enough( more than that and you’ll destroy her confidence or she’ll just think you’re a perv. Hey, in case you haven’t heard I’m doing another 4-part Teleseminar. It’s all about how to get a Girlfriend, Fuckbuddy or mLTR WITHOUT having to become a master of Same Night Lays first. The first call is on Wednesday, March 11th. You can find more details at the link below. How to Get More Fuck Buddies, Girlfriends or mLTRs Than Your Poor Little Body Can Handle Also, if you already know you’re interested but want to pay in two payments, spaced 30 days apart you can do that by pushing the button below.
Only New Strategies Cause New Possibilities Posted at March 9, 2009
Asilomar State Park The picture on the left is of Monterrey Beach at Asilomar State Park. I just spent 8 or so days there relaxing, talking to people and meditating. And, damn, the food was good. One morning about 7am I walked out of my little room and there were two deers nearly within touching distance. One of them looked at me curiously, flickered its ear a few times and then started sniffing around in the grass again before munching down on some flowers. So, if you’ve emailed me and I haven’t responded it’s because I haven’t had a computer for about a week. (Actually, I had it with me but never fired it up( who wants to get on the Internut when you’re on 175 acres of amazing land?) If you emailed me, please email me again and I’ll get back to you asap. With that said, I want to talk a bit about Strategy versus Tactics. Imagine you are a Miner. You spend years perfecting your stroke. You know Pick-Axes like the back of your hand. You’ve punished your body in the Gym using Arnold Schwarzenegger’s workouts( etc, etc. You then go out and look for rocks to bust( after driving a bit you come across a rocky cave on the side of a hill. You go to work like a madman! You work day and night, scarcely stopping but to eat and evacuate. You are DETERMINED to find that gold! I don’t care how perfect your form( how quality your pick-axe( how strong you’ve made yourself( The Chances of You Striking Gold Falls Between VERY SLIM and NONE!!! You see, none of that shit matters if your Strategy for finding a Gold vein is inadequate. Hey, that reminds me of a true story. Once upon a time there was this door to door encyclopedia salesman. He was about average as far as encyclopedia salesmen go. He’d make his prospecting calls during the day( get 3 appointments for the evening and sell one set of encyclopedias each night. Hard work( but, in today’s dollars he was pulling in about $125,000. But, money is fucking worthless if you don’t have time to enjoy it. He thought, “There must be a better way! SOMEBODY had to have a better way!” He went to all the guys in his company and swapped tactics and techniques. He tried all of them( some of them worked and some of them didn’t. But, his income didn’t really move that much. Sometimes a little more( sometimes a bit less. Right about the time he was ready to throw in the towel and resign to the “fact” that “this is just the way it is(” he ran into a retired salesman (in a different industry) at a social function. That man said 17 simple words that changed his life entirely. The man said, “I only spend time talking to people who really want to hear what I have to say.” Doesn’t seem so life-changing does it? Well, it hit our hero like a ton of bricks. I’ll tell you what he did in just a sec but first I have to give you some background. Whenever someone agrees to an appointment with a salesperson a little program runs in their head afterwords saying, “Should I have agreed to that? What is he gonna try to sell me? Is he going to pressure me? Ugh( Maybe I shouldn’t have done that(”
Now, when he gets there they are dreading it. Their “sales defenses” go up and sometimes they don’t even open the door. Or, if they do open the door they mentally “check out” and coast through the pitch while looking at the clock wondering when the dude is gonna give up and leave. Every second he spends with THOSE prospects is absolute wasted and worthless time. Most salespeople take it as the way it is or part of the “numbers game.” Not our guy( Here’s what he didD He would set his appointments like he normally did.. BUT, a few days before he’d call up and tell them he couldn’t make it at the scheduled time and asked if he could reschedule for another day-time. See that? See what he did? He is giving those people who had already regretted the original appointment a way out. They were the time wasters anyway and weren’t going to buy anything. This cleared his schedule to deal with people who were actually interested in what he had to say! What effect did this simple Strategic Change have in his life? Well, for starts, it doubled his income. But, even more importantly, it decomplicated and destressed his life so much that he actually started LOVING his job. Plus, he started taking 3 day weekends so he could enjoy all his extra moolah. A simple change in his Strategy was responsible for that and it came because someone who had been there gave him a tiny bit of wisdom that shifted his focus and opened up new possibilities for him. Would you like new possibilities in your life with women? It doesn’t start with new tactics or techniques( it starts with new Viewpoints and new Strategies. I can help you with that( Here’s a new way: IntroducingD The Master Strategies Monthly Teleconferences - Would you like to hear more of my thoughts and ideas on Game? There is only so much I can do in writing. Especially in a blog because it is difficult to really flesh out, develop and expound ideas in such a small space. But, with an hour of talking or 8-12 pages of writing I could do A LOT. Here’s the plan, I am going to do a monthly conference call. Each call will last 90 minutes. The first sixty of those minutes will be me discussing, dissecting and really fleshing out how you can make this whole Gaming thing easier, funner and more effective. It’s pretty safe to say that no one has the same perspective and ideas about this stuff as I do. The last 30 minutes of the call I’ll answer questions and berate people for not getting it (just kidding about the berating). I’ve thought about charging monthly for this but I’ve decided not to. It’s a one-time payment for the full year. That’s 12 calls for a total of 18 hours. The price I’ve settled on makes the cost $16.39 per hour. That comes out to $295.00 for the year. The calls will be recorded and transcribed in case you miss them, or you’re in Europe, Asia or Africa where the calls will likely be at an inconvenient time. You can sign up by pushing the button below.
The Same Old Seduction Shit? Posted at March 13, 2009
Hey, Are you wondering if the stuff I sell is just the same old shit you can read on my blog for free? If so, I have a way you can find it for sure if it is or isn’t. As you know I’ve been selling the shit out of my “Get a Girlfriend” Teleseminar. I’m doing that because I think it is important for you to know this stuff. I have 13 signups. I want 20-25 because that’s the biggest group I can reasonably support through the learning process AND I feel like the more input from various PUAs we have the better learning experience we’ll all have(
I have a feeling that there are some of you out there on the fence. You are a bit ‘worried’ that it won’t be anything but me repeating the same old stuff that is on my blog. If that’s the case I want you to listen to the first call for free. We had it Wednesday night. But there are a few catches: 1) I’m going to ask that you don’t take advantage of me by listening to this if you have no intention of signing up. 2) I’m going to ask that you enter into a Subscription via PayPal. You won’t be charged anything for the first 9 days( but, if you don’t cancel then you are agreeing to pay me $175 on the tenth day and another $175 30 days later. 3) You DO NOT share the conference call playback information with anyone at all. The Second Call will be on 3/25.. that gives you time to listen to the first call, absorb it, do the homework and get ready for the second call. If you can agree to the points above, click the button below to start the free trial. I’ll send you the conference call replay information when you sign up.
Ninja Focus (and, a brief history of Captain Jack) Posted at April 4, 2009
Someone emailed me this quote by Priest. Not sure where it was posted so I haven’t gone there to respond personally so I’ll do it here.
“CJ has magical powers that cannot be taught or learned. He is very inconsistent depending on his current inner game state and level of AA… but when that motherfucker is on, he is an unstoppable rebel force that NOBODY can touch. I don’t care who we are talking about. I miss the Pirate King!” — Priest Aw shucks( You are making me blush. But, I want to point a few things out(
“magical powers that cannot be taught or learned…” This is not true. There are a few things I do that cannot be taught or learned EXCEPT in person. But, 80% of the results come from the Sexual Framing ideas I’ve been shouting from my blog for a couple of years. The things I would show someone in person are specific corrections applied to their specific problems. I’d have to see it happening IN SET with my own two eyes before I could even begin to recommend a fix. In fact, the recent “Sexual Framing Mastery” teleconferences have yielded over 20 new lays for the PUAs on the calls in the first 4 weeks. (I stopped counting at 19). Most of the lays were SNLs. I’d like to tackle the statement
“He is very inconsistent depending on his current inner game state and level of AA…” The only thing inconsistent about my game is whether I open or not. When I open I am extremely consistent. While AA has plagued me in the past it is really not a huge deal for me now. Sometimes it is there full force just like the first few times I even opened a girl and other times it is gone entirely for days or weeks. I’d say most of the time it is at about 20-25% the intensity as when I first started. Easily overcome by the decision to just do it. AA is sort of like the monster in the closet you imagined as a kid. It scared the shit out of you but once you got up, flicked the closet light on and flung the door open, the fear disappeared completely and you felt kind of silly for getting so worked up about it. Same thing with AA. Once you get about halfway to the hottie, pick your opener and start talking the AA melts away and you wonder what was so hard about the whole thing. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about and experimenting with AA and getting rid of it. Some people have it, some people don’t. The fact that some people DO NOT have it means there IS a way not to have it. It doesn’t bother me so much anymore and I have about 5 ways to make it disappear when I feel it starting. The other part about my Inner Game(
I don’t consider this to be much of a problem either. My main “problem” at this point is overall lack of desire. Something happens when you know, when you are truly convinced, you can have sex with as many girls as you want. Then you start asking questions like, “Why am I still devoting so much time and energy to this?” “What is having sex with another 5 or 6 girls this month really going to do for me?” “Who am I doing it for?” When I first started Gaming I felt pretty powerless and clueless. I felt like I was on the outside. Finding Mystery Method gave me a feeling of power. I went wild with it. There was no one to hang with so I had to be my own worst critic, my own coach, my own support system. I focused like a sniper on targets. When I latched on to them, I held on like a boa constrictor. And, I got blown out( a lot. I’d sit down at 2:30am from the club and write field reports. I reran the entire night in my imagine. I burned it into my mind. Replayed certain sets over and over again to see what I missed. To try to get the scenario from HER viewpoint. How did I appear to her? What would she have to believe about me, about the situation to say what she did? I read other FRs and LRs. I compared them with mine. I tried to imagine the scenarios. I imagined what I’d do differently. I’d try to predict what would come next. Time disappeared. The glimmer of the sun coming up in my peripheral vision was the only thing that broke my trance. But, I didn’t care( Every new waypoint, every new TimeBridge, every new Pull filled me with feelings of relief, excitement and possibility. The lays started piling up. I loved it. This is Ninja Focus. It is a decision. I DECIDE, I CHOOSE to focus on this( I decide to absorb myself. I decide to throw myself into this, as much as I can, for as long as I can. You might have to let a few things go for a little while. Less video games. Less aimless Internut stumbling. Less boob tube. But, it’ll pay off. It’ll bleed over to other areas of your life too. Focus is a decision first and then takes practice. I look at practice as re-deciding continuously. The last 6 or so lays have happened so naturally and smoothly it really seems too easy. They seem almost like flukes. I can’t really write LRs for them because they are so strange. It is almost like we both know we are going to have sex and everything else is filler. I hardly even talk. They talk 70% of the time. Sixty-percent of that is qualification. I’ve thought about just going nuts. Stringing together 20 lays in a month. I can do it. My blood begins to get hot. My pulse races a bit. I get excited. But, then it goes away after about a minute. One-hundred (or more) hours of my life( gone. What for? I know I can do it. I’m not trying to prove anything. I don’t really care who does or doesn’t think I’m the best PUA. I don’t feel this lack of approval from women anymore. I don’t feel like I’m on the outside. I feel pretty damn good. Actually, I feel amazing. Captain Jack IntroducingD The Master Strategies Monthly Teleconferences - Would you like to hear more of my thoughts and ideas on Game? There is only so much I can do in writing. Especially in a blog because it is difficult to really flesh out, develop and expound ideas in such a small space. But, with an hour of talking or 8-12 pages of writing I could do A LOT. Here’s the plan, I am going to do a monthly conference call. Each call will last 90 minutes. The first sixty of those minutes will be me discussing, dissecting and really fleshing out how you can make this whole Gaming thing easier, funner and more effective. It’s pretty safe to say that no one has the same perspective and ideas about this stuff as I do. The last 30 minutes of the call I’ll answer questions and berate people for not getting it (just kidding about the berating).
I’ve thought about charging monthly for this but I’ve decided not to. It’s a one-time payment for the full year. That’s 12 calls for a total of 18 hours. The price I’ve settled on makes the cost $16.39 per hour. That comes out to $295.00 for the year. The calls will be recorded and transcribed in case you miss them, or you’re in Europe, Asia or Africa where the calls will likely be at an inconvenient time. You can sign up by pushing the button below.
Attract Women: Gun to the Head Gaming Posted at April 22, 2009
Hola Numbnuts( Imagine this: You are sitting on your couch eating Bon-Bons with your eyes laser locked on Oprah when you hear a crack, the door flies open and 3 goons rush towards you. You hurl your bon-bons at the goons but it doesn’t even faze them. Next thing you know there is a gun pointed at your temple and one of them says, “Is this the guy?” The other looks at a photograph and says, “He’s not wearing the feather boa, jade necklace and high heels like in his MySpace profile but yeah, I’d say it is him.” One of them says, “Look, Mr. Pua guy, you go out tonight and have sex with a girl or we’re going to shoot you in the face.” Gun to the head. Shot in the face. Do you go out and do the same thing you always do? Do you do a few laps around the bar, have a few drinks, hover a few times, look for the perfect opening? Not unless you enjoy face shootings. What WOULD you do differently? Here’s what I’d do( 1. Dress like almost everyone else but a tad better. 2. Get to the bar early. I want to get there about 10-15 minutes before the crowd does. I want to chat with the bartender a minute, chat with a waitress or two for a minute before they get ridiculously busy. Get the ol’ mouth movin’ a bit. 3. Approach as soon as possible. Even if it is “How’s it going?” 4. Watch the girls who have wandering eyes. They are looking for something. 5. Approach the girls who make eye contact. 6. Never leave a set until a few minutes after I’ve TimeBridged. 7. Set the sexual frames early. 8. Ask her “What’s on the agenda for later?” This one needs some explaining. A lot of PUAs think this is about Logistics. It isn’t. In fact, Logistics aren’t nearly as important as everyone believes. Shocking? Not really. Imagine this( you have plans to go bowling tonight. It’s Tuesday, you almost always go bowling on Tuesdays. One of your buddies calls you up and says, Buddy: “What’s going on man?” You: “Not much, just going to go bowling later, have a few beers, see if I can top my Galaga score.” Buddy: “Sounds cool. Well, would you like to get together and sew a little bit( maybe share our feelings and shit?” You: “Umm( Well( I always bowl on Tuesdays( kinda my normal thing and uh(” But, what if Buddy called you up and said, “Dude( These concert tickets just fell into my lap and blah, blah, blah(” Do you think that’d change things a bit? Logistics matter LESS and LESS the more interested and turned on she is( I used to let logistics derail me. Now, I hardly even pay attention. Can they fuck you up? Sure. They used to fuck me up all the time. Then, I discovered “Drunk-n-Lonely Texting.”
Focus on getting her to really, really see you as a liberator of her sexual frustrations and SHE will handle the logistics for you. The purpose of the question is to establish in her mind that you have probably sexual intent AND you are seeking a way to create an opportunity. 9. After you have 3 or 4 TimeBridge’s set up, focus on the one who seems like your best shot. This is always a little bit of a crap shoot BUT your Intuition will grow with time. 10. Tell her she is sexy and that her mannerisms are driving you crazy. Use a Bounce statement about 30 minute prior to close. 11. If she doesn’t take the Bounce invitation, walk her to the car. Get in and say you are going to talk to her a bit. Make out with her. 12. Tell her you are not sure you can drive home and ask her if she would mind, “It’s just right down the street.” (I’ve used this a billion times for venues that are 30-45 minutes away! Haa!) 12b. As she is driving mass text the other girls and say, “Hey sexy” – just in case this one does leave you after dropping you off. This will increase the possibility of another honey coming over thus DECREASING the chance of you getting shot in the face. 13. As she’s driving begin using one or two word commands interspersed with normal conversation. “Turn here.” “Go left.” when you get to your place say, “Park here.” I like to use stop signs and stop lights as a chance to make out. 14. “Come in and get some water before you head back.” 15. Get her some water, tell her where the bathroom is( while she’s in the bathroom put on a DVD. I like “Wedding Crashers” or, “South Park: The Return of the Fellowship of the King to the Two Towers” because it is sexual in nature and hilariously funny. 16. Have her sit down on your coach. Make small talk 3-5 minutes. Kiss her again. 17. Begin escalating heavy. 18. Push her away and tell her she is naughty for doing this to you. 19. Escalate more. Spank her. Tell her she is bad. Ask her what she is doing to you. 20. Make sweet love. Send her on her way, “And( try not to think about me constantly” as you pull her hair and kiss her deeply again. Go into your closet and get your Flame Thrower. Wait for the knock on the door. When the Goons rush in, fling your used condom at them and then use the Flame Thrower to set them all on fire. This should make your point in a fairly dramatic way. Captain Jack P.S. I thought about using the Grenade Launcher instead of the Flame Thrower. But, I felt like Grenade Launcher was a little too obvious. I feel Flame Thrower gives that extra little bit of twist.
CaptainJack says: April 22, 2009 at 9:29 pm
I've probably thought about, tested, retested, talked about, theorized, and banged my head against the wall more than anyone on SNLs( that ends up giving you a lot of clarity on the subject. Especially after you get good at debriefing girls and they just can't for the life of them understand why they can't get more guys to do this to them.
Gun to the Head: Charred Remains Checklist Posted at April 24, 2009
After charring your doubters with the flamethrower you’ll probably want to get some fresh air and reflect. What if you are not as good as Sinn or El Topo (yet!) and you DID NOT get a Same Night Lay?
Well, now it’s time for some Brutal Honesty. Use this checklist to hold your ass to the fire. This is the time to be honest and real about your effort level and whether or not you have your shit together. “When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is measured and reported back, the rate of improvement accelerates.” – Thomas Monson Use a checklist to help you measure your work rate. 1. How many sets did I open? (If it’s less than 3 per hour then you MUST increase your work rate) 2. Of those sets, how many did I open with the INTENTION of taking it as far as I could? 3. When something didn’t go as I planned, did I take it the wrong way? 4. Did I latch on to conversational threads that didn’t serve me? 5. Did I leave before attempting a TimeBridge? 6. Of the TimeBridge’s I attempted, how many times did I meekly put it out there instead of really making an effort to pull her out of the current time/place and into the future with me? 7. Did I make it clear to her friends who I was gaming? 8. Did I tell them I liked her and thought she was cool? 9. Did I ever get out of my head and attempt a REAL connection with the woman in front of me? 10. Did I set sexual frames and show that I valued her sexuality as well as my own? 11. Did I show her I was interested in making something happen very soon? 12. Did I tell her I liked her (lips/hair/certain mannerism/smell)? Did I tell her I thought she was sexy? 13. How many times did I attempt the Bounce? 14. Did I attempt a kiss close? 15. Did she give me any openings (conversationally) that I missed? Like a compliment? Or, a hint that she was open for something happening? 16. Did I miss her qualifying herself before I even tried to qualify her? 17. Did I “drunk-n-lonely” text about 10 minutes after close? What is measured improves. Captain Jack P.S. I’m starting the “Master Strategies Monthly Teleseminar” soon( details below.
CaptainJack says: April 27, 2009 at 4:03 pm
The TimeBridge is for another day/time. Most people think it is to set up an actual date. It's more about changing the dynamic of the interaction. I noticed when I set TimeBridge's it made SNLs (and Dates that were little more than come over, hangout, have sex) much, much easier. My thinking is because the TB answers the nagging question in her mind (if she likes you) of “Will I see him again?” I believe it also has a little bit of a Time Distortion effect AND makes you seem a little more real as a person because they've had to imagine you and her together in the future. There's also Cialdini's Commitment and Consistency Principle( all that from a little invitation!!!
Audio Clip: Someday, Maybe… Posted at April 28, 2009
Yo, Here is a little audio clip from the Get a Girlfriend Teleseminar where I am instructing the guys about a mental pattern that sucks the life out of you and kills your aliveness. There had been a lot of discussion and chiming in but during this 7 minutes you could’ve heard a pin drop. “Someday, Maybe(” Kills Your Aliveness.
The Pain of Getting Good Posted at May 3, 2009
Ever since ‘The Game’ and Vh1 show, It’s been more difficult for me, and I assume, all the other PUAs who help other PUAs, to find out who is really serious or not( and thus, who to really help or ignore( Before Neil’s book and the VH1 show, we could be pretty damn certain that anyone coming to us for help came from a pretty intense PAIN that drove you to do an INTERNET SEARCH on how to pick up girls. This PAIN drove you to do novel things like go out and actually OPEN sets( memorize routines( digest material and so forth. Now, it seems too many want to dress the part, throw out vocab and spout theory. But, the TRUTH is “The Game is played in the field.” It’s not played in your head. It’s not played in a Lair meeting with you dueling other posers in a Pick-up themed Jeopardy match. In the field( where all the girls are. Are you playing the Game? Or, are you waiting, wishing and hoping that knowledge will make you feel better? It won’t. You feel how you feel. Describe that feeling however you want( Fear, scared, worried, excited, approach anxiety, whatever( acknowledge it and open anyway. Open. Go earn your stripes. I know it sucks. You want it to be different, you want it to be easier. You want the perfect saying or idea or thought to make it all better. Yeah, so do all the guys in their rooms masturbating to FHM and Maxim. Revel in the pain, feel it, acknowledge it, curse that it is the way it is, and go open anyway, that’s where the growth is( Captain Jack
Crush Mental Barriers To Change The Way You See Things… Posted at May 9, 2009
I had a few people email me and facebook message me wondering what happened to this audio. I decided to take it down while attending two Seminars back-to-back. During the seminar/retreats you aren’t allowed to use computers and have very limited internet access so if someone had tech issues I wouldn’t be able to help them. Here’s the original post: Sticking Point Analysis gives you a systematic, methodical way to incrementally increase your Game. It starts at the level of behavior and works backwards. But, there is another approach that I think is even more powerful. I give it credit for the paradigm shifts in my Game. The problem is( I don’t know how to describe it to you. I don’t know how to put it in a blog post. It revolves around the use of language and how our past dictates what behaviors we can even SEE as possibilities. In every single moment you have infinite choice. What causes you to go down the same path? What causes you to choose the words and actions you do? Why do PUAs consistently miss the BLARING interest signals of the HBs they talk to? Why do some people “get it” and their Game takes off like a rocket, while others languish for years? I GUARANTEE you have never heard or seen anything like this in The Community. I consider it to be 1000x more important than Sticking point Analysis or Sexual Framing.
Here’s what someone emailed me recently after hearing my 2 hour presentation and discussion with other PUAs on a Teleseminar about this methodology.
Just wanted to let you know I just finished listening to the audio and I am 100% sure that was the most important 2 hours of my life. No exaggeration. That was not at all what I was expecting to start off with and am very very happy. I took 9 pages of notes over the 2 hours. I cannot believe all the “dating science” people do not make you start out with this subject OR JUST IGNORE IT. This is really the first I have heard about it and I consider myself well read on “dating science”. I would almost bet that you get excited when you find a new racket to crush. I am on a ton of antidepressants about my wife leaving in October and have been pushing it back in my mind (unseen/unspoken) as much as possible but am excited about doing the exercises and getting it out into the open! I know it will help a ton. I almost don’t want to go out tomorrow night to bars/clubs and just do the exercises!
I just wish I would have discovered this sooner. If I would have had this before bootcamp. wow. Thank you. I can’t wait for the rest. I am sure I have a ton of rackets and can’t wait to crush them. I am very excited about the generative statements exercise. I consider myself the typical “tall dark and handsome guy”, 26 years old, have a powerful respectable job, have ambitions, and decently social. I am NOT getting laid at ALL! Barely kissing girls in bars… That is some shit I am going to have to crush. I know now that this path I am taking is going to get me to where I want to be. I know I have all the skills to be with the hottest girls just if I apply myself. Thanks so much. I have never thought like this at all. It kind of feels like the Matrix. Thanks again! What if you had a way to discover the patterns that have been invisibly holding you back, bring them to light, examine them and then crush them? With each pattern that is crushed you will find yourself spontaneously moving in the right direction… becoming aware of new possibilities and being FREE to move into those directions. This is NOT standard self-help stuff either. You won’t find it in any self-help book. Nor is it New Age mumbo-jumbo. If you want the presentation on this new methodology and one month of email support from me to help you implement it in your life, simply click the button below. It costs $99.00 and if you don’t think it lives up to the hype… or, I’ve misled you in any way you can ask for a refund. The audio will begin to download immediately after the PayPal transaction is completed.
CaptainJack says: May 30, 2009 at 8:21 pm
I've made a commitment to help as many guys as I can in the next year or two. So there will be even more offers to learn my ideas. The people who do buy make great strides in effectiveness. Though I do NO advertising of any kind my readership has shot up since I started selling more. My email unsubscription rates haven't increased noticeably in my weekly aweber reports either. The way I look at it is if more people are reading, sending me result emails and so forth I am on the right track.
I am no longer concerned or committed to people who don't have enough interest (or need) in Pick-up to invest their time, effort and money producing results. Captain Jack
CaptainJack says: June 4, 2009 at 4:28 pm
Not exactly, it's on the first audio of the GAGF program. The GAGF has 3 other audios with it AND a one-to-one phone consult. Also, I don't have you in my records as having purchased either one so how would you know?
Intention, Commitment and Measuring to Improve. Posted at May 30, 2009
PUAs!!! I got back 6 days ago from 10 full days of continuous mind-melting exposure to new paradigms of thinking and being. We worked from 8am to about 10:00 (sometimes later) every night. It was awesome! I’ve done this a few times now and each time I get a HUGE boost in my life. I’m now closer to my Mom, my Sister, Dad and children even though I thought things were great to begin with( I walk with a LOT more confidence. I speak my mind a lot more freely, have become a lot more persuasive and a bunch of other things I don’t have enough space to mention. I have a genuine love for ALL people I encounter( And, I am MUCH, MUCH happier each and every moment and I rest in (or on) a background of peacefulness and expanded awareness. Like I said, It’s awesome! I’m gearing up for the “Master Strategies Teleconference” series and I know it’s going to be killer. One of the keys to effectiveness is strong Commitment and Intention. Once upon a time when I was in college this hot girl waved at me on campus as we were walking towards each other and I slowed down to see what was what( She was carrying a few folders and books in her arms and a huge smile seemed permanently plastered on her face. She asked me what class I was going to( then, what sports I liked( where I was born and what I did in my spare time. About halfway through our “conversation” I got the sense something strange was going on. I stuck around though (she was hot) to see where it would lead. After telling her what I did in my spare time she enthusiastically whipped this flyer out of her book and said, “We’re having this contest and the winner gets to go to Hawaii. I’m ALMOST in the lead and the contest ends soon. Will you help me win? All you have to do is subscribe to magazines( You told me you like x, y, z( we have magazines in those areas(.” Suddenly, she was a LOT less attractive. I couldn’t get away fast enough. Slimy, eh? Many in the Community suggest you shouldn’t go out to try to get laid because it reeks of desperation or neediness and girls can sense that right away. Instead, what they suggest is you go out and be the social guy and wait to see if she likes you. It comes across to me much like the girl in my story (Yuck) because no matter how much you pretend( you ARE going out to get laid. It IS true that many women can sense neediness, but going out to get laid doesn’t mean you have desperation or neediness. Desperation or neediness comes from wanting something but feeling you can’t really have it OR the feeling you must give up your values to get it.
You can go out with the intention of getting laid WITHOUT being needy. Neediness does NOT automatically follow the intention to get laid. Neediness is an internal state or belief system that exists because of the habit of disapproving of yourself. Guys who don’t go out with the intention of getting laid don’t get laid. I even go so far as to imagine what it would be like with her while I’m talking to her. I allow myself to feel SEXUAL (not horny) as I’m talking to her and even as I’m approaching. There are others who suggest only focusing on the things you can control. I may have said something like that in the past because it sounds like a good idea. But, I don’t agree with that anymore. Now, I say you MUST set goals and measure things you can’t control. Let’s dig a little deeper into this( You can’t actually control if a girl sleeps with you or not. You CAN set a goal to open 25 sets. BUT, you need to measure and STAT how many of those sets resulted in a lay otherwise your goal is meaningless. If you aren’t doing measuring (at least mentally) then you don’t have a basis of improvement. Any Game has defined results, measures and stats. The result is a verbal description of the game’s objective. The measure is what can be seen/observed in reality, meaning you observed it did happen or didn’t happen. The stat represents the measure as a numerical fact. You want your results, measures and stats to be TRACEABLE to WINNING the Game. Here is an example: Result: Captain Jack has sexual relationship with 10 new hotties this month. Measure: Female gets penetrated by GIGANTOR(TM) Stat: No. of females penetrated. Okay, got it? Now, in this Game there are other measures and stats as well: Measure: Female agrees to TimeBridge. Stat: % of females who agreed. (For me personally, if I go a long time with less than 40-50% of the girls saying yes to the TB I know something is off in my initial presentation and I need to examine it. This doesn’t mean all the TB’s will HAPPEN only that they agreed to it at the time I put out the invitation.) I’m not saying that you power up excel and type this shit in a spreadsheet by any means( what I’m talking about is a mindset and commitment to measuring for the purpose of improving. You don’t get the results by committing only to what YOU can physically do because it is incomplete in the realm of effectiveness. Do you get to write a Lay Report after saying, “Well, I opened 25 sets this weekend. I can’t control anything else but at least I met my goal.” No. That is completely backward. You keep the end goal in mind and keep intelligently analyzing and varying your behavior until you get closer and closer. Imagine a salesperson going to his boss and saying, “Well, I know I got 0 sales this quarter instead of at least 30 like everyone else but I can’t control that( I made 200 calls and that was my goal.” Then, imagine that salesperson with a box of all the shit on his desk stuffed into it as he takes an elevator ride down to the street because that is what would likely happen. My main point is in order to WIN the game you are going to have to set goals for things which are considered outside your control. But, you still need to set the goal if you want to master this area of your life. Set your Intention and Commitment to win the Game( measure it and be aware of your stats so you can improve each and every time you go out. And, if you think you might be putting out a creepy vibe read this: “Low Self-Approval or Low Self-Esteem?” Captain Jack P.S. The Master Strategies Monthly series begins REAL soon( details below!
CaptainJack says: June 14, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Hey Bolo, don't worry about it( You are designed to be a father. Set aside specific blocks of time to be with them and when you are with your child focus on him/her 100% — when you make decisions about your future, keep them squarely in mind. CJ
Elephants, Monkeys and RecordedVoice Posted at June 8, 2009
If you’ve done almost ANY success, motivation or self-help reading you’ve probably come across the example of the baby elephant and the rope. They say that the Elephant trainer keeps the baby elephant in place by driving a large stake in the ground and ties a rope to one of it’s hind legs. While the Elephant is a baby it isn’t strong enough to pull up the stake even though it tries with all its might. Eventually, the baby Elephant realizes it cannot escape from the binding rope and gives up. The story goes that even when the Baby Elephant grows into a ginormous Adult Elephant it never pulls the stake out, even though with its adult strength it could pull it out easily. I’m not sure if the idea is that the Elephant never even tries, it just doesn’t occur to him or the mental idea that it can’t affects it’s performance. I’m not an elephant trainer so I have no idea if the anecdote is accurate but the idea behind it seems to be the case for most adults. A principle of hypnosis is that the first time you encounter an idea it has the appearance of being true and it goes right into the unconscious mind unhindered because there is nothing else to compete with it. I like the Elephant story but it only partly explains lack of real, lasting change. It would be easy enough for a FREED elephant to go and communicate to the bound elephant that there is a way to freedom. The Elephant could easily say, “Dude( what are you doing with that rope around your leg? Man, don’t you know you can just tug and be free like me? I’m about to head down to the river and go swimming( eat some peanuts, perhaps lay out and do some tanning. Pull out that stake and let’s go!” With a bit of coaching that bound elephant (provided it is willing to try on the possibility and follow instructions) would become free. In a few years, circus’ would be devoid of elephants. But, it doesn’t really seem to happen this way. Why not? The answer lies in an experiment involving monkeys, cold water and bananas. This is a quote from “Put Your Dream to the Test” by John C. Maxwell:
Business professors Gary Hamel and C. K. Prahalad wrote about an experiment conducted with a group of monkeys. Four monkeys were placed in a room that had a tall pole in the center. Suspended from the top of that pole was a bunch of bananas. One of the hungry monkeys started clibming the pole to get something to eat, but just as he reached out to grab a banana, he was doused with a torrent of cold water. Squealing, he scampered down the pole and abandoned his attempt to feed himself. Each monkey made a similar attempt, and each one was drenched with cold water. After making several attempts, they finally gave up. Then researchers removed one of the monkeys from the room and replaced him with a new monkey. As the newcomer began to climb the pole, the other three grabbed him and pulled him down to the ground. After trying to climb the pole several times and being dragged down by the others, he finally gave up and never attempted to climb the pole again. The researchers replaced the original monkeys, one by one, with new ones, and each time a new monkey was brought in, he would be dragged down by the others before he could reach the bananas. In time, only monkeys who had never received a cold shower were in the room, but none of them would climb the pole. They prevented one another from climbing, but none of them knew why.
This same dynamic functions in humans but with a twist. We don’t climb poles to get bananas. We set goals and work towards them. We imagine a better life and set about creating it. We do get pulled down but not physically. Others MAY try to pull us down with words but most people are perceptive enough and strong enough to discount that form of pull down. The way this pull down manifests is much more insidious, it appears in what is alluded to but rarely ever verbalized( it appears symbolically in society’s art, film, stories and sayings and as presuppositions embedded in language. Since it exists in this way it is very difficult to discriminate and decide NOT to allow it into the mind. I’m calling it RecordedVoice. The mind gets these concepts unconsciously. Then, when you decide to become more or better or transform yourself the desire to do this activates the hidden ideas giving it a voice in your mind. The problem is( You think it is YOUR voice. You think it is YOUR thinking. It has the appearance of your voice, your thoughts, your thinking, your deduction( but it’s not. It isn’t you. It is the mind giving Voice to the deep impressions that society has passed onto you. Becoming aware of RecordedVoice and what powers it gives you the chance to enter into greater freedom and more effectiveness. Disabling RecordedVoice disappears limitations and puts you more in touch with your true, unlimited nature. You are more free to act, to choose and to be what you want to be. In the Master Strategies Monthly teleconference series we’ll be covering it in much more detail. The first bit of information will be released on the 10th. A few people have asked about payment plans. The cost is $295.00 but you can get it for an initial payment of $95 and then $100 30 days later and the final $100 another 30 days later. To sign up simply click the subscribe button below:
CaptainJack says: June 9, 2009 at 12:27 am
Gotcha. The meanings they are meant to convey is still something I believe. The elephant story is about personal mental limitations, the monkeys about societal limitations. Those stories could be easily swapped for real life stories from thousands upon thousands of individuals who bucked personal mental limitations and society's programming to overcome and create better lives for themselves.
7 Ways to Bust Yourself Out of a Pick-up Slump Posted at June 15, 2009
It happens to all of us sometime. Your best lines fall flat. Time Bridges get declined. Phone numbers blur( and, before you know it you’ve gone weeks without making the “Beast with Two Backs.” You begin to sweat a little. “Shit, was the run just a bit of luck? Have I lost ‘IT’?” No worries, man. Even top pro athletes go through slumps. Here’s what I’ve done in the past to bust myself out of pick-up slumps: 1. Take a bit of time off. You may have depleted your mental and physical energy, especially if you’re doing the extremely hard club/bar scene. Irregular sleep patterns. Too many patron shots. Taking the girl to IHOP and stuffing yourself full of bacon, eggs and pancakes( and, then getting an hour of LMR. Get some sleep. Go outside during the day and rediscover what things look like when illuminated by the Sun. 2. Redo your stack.
I remember Sinn and I both being in a slump about the same time once. We instinctively began examining our status quo stacks and started dumping certain items and replacing them with other things that had worked in the past. After about an hour we both had fresh stacks, got a little rest, and went on a 5-day run of glory. 3. Kill a Sacred Cow.
You know that principle or idea of Gaming that you think is ‘The Truth.” ??? Kill it. Whatever it is, and do something else, maybe even the complete opposite. If your Sacred Cow is “Indirect” stop it for awhile and go Direct. If your Sacred Cow is I’ve got to be a bad boy, mix it up and dress like a good boy for a few nights. Mix it up. Kill the Sacred Cow, at least for a few days to see what happens. (I do this ‘Kill a Sacred Cow’ technique quite often.) 4. Have Someone You Trust (Who Actually Gets Laid) Give You Some Feedback. The key in that phrase is ‘Who Actually Gets Laid.’ They might be able to spot something or simply ask you questions about what is going on that could jar you into something new/novel to try. Of course, if you don’t have someone in your life like that, you might resort to a tape recorder. (Come to think of it, you could do that anyway). 5. Use Sticking Point Analysis. If you’ve read this blog for any amount of time you’re probably tired of hearing about it but it’s simplicity and effectiveness is proven. If you’re new here hit the “Youtube” button on the right hand side of the screen. 6. Go Freestyle. Go out with No Agenda, No Stack and No Pressure. Just hang out. Talk to friends if they’re there. Talk to people if you want but be totally ok with just being there. If you get the sudden urge to Game do it, if not then chill. If you DO Game then don’t use your normal routine stack( just chat, get as far as you can with playful small talk and genuine interest. 7. Put Your Back Against the Wall Anytime I’m working on SNL Game and I hit a slump the FIRST thing I do is delete all my female numbers. All of them, including FBs( no one is spared. NO ONE. Man, come to think of it I do this even when I’m not in a slump. This frees you up a bit. You can’t fall back on texting girls and trying to set up dates( you can’t booty text( it’s either get some new opportunities in a hurry or start stocking up on the vitamin E lotion. Realize slumps don’t last forever. Try a few of these slump busters and you’ll get back in the groove. If you have a favorite method for getting out of a slump let me and all the other PUAs know in the comments. The REAL Captain Jack
Lay Report: Last Call Posted at July 3, 2009
It’s been a while since I’ve written a Lay Report. One reason is because I don’t really learn much from writing them down anymore. At first, when you are learning and practicing a lot it is GREAT, I’d say even required, in order to get really good. Anyway, I had a meeting from 7:00-10:00 and met Printer at the standard Thurs. night venue. I think that was the first time I’ve been there since last November. Surprisingly, I didn’t recognize many people. There’s been a pretty good amount of turnover, which is good.
Printer does his thing of handing me double shots all night long, primarily because I do funny and stupid shit when I’m drunk. Case in point: We were in Scottsdale Az and about 20 minutes to close I walk over and start talking to a cute girl. She was interested and then abruptly left. Printer said she looked real interested and asked me what happened. She abruptly left after I said, “Girl, gimme a sample of what you’re samplin’” I guess she thought it was crude or something. I simply meant I wanted to bone her. (Girls are so complicated.) I don’t do shit for the first 2 hours there except bullshit with Printer and one of his friends. Printer leaves with an FB and I feel like a tool just standing around so I start throwing out LIOs and even using Situationals to practice gauging initial interest and then picking up from where we are in agreement (of sexual interest) and moving from there forwards. (You can actually erase it by keeping your communication at a lesser level of male-female sexual dynamic( then it is a bit harder to get back because there is already an established pathway between you two to move downwards on the sexual dynamic.) It is actually kind of fun to do this( I think in large part because the level of significance I’m placing on the interaction is much less. I situationally open a blonde milf. She is wearing those kind of shirts that are elastic waist band on the top that sort of rest on top of the breast. The thin shirt material then drapes over the breats and tightens again at the waist. She isn’t wearing a bra and her breasts are big and bouyant. Her nips are hard. (GIGANTOR begins to stir a bit.) However, this is where Printer’s “get CJ drunk so he is amusing” kicks in full force as you will see. CJ: Patron shots? You are bad, bad, bad. MILF: I know, my last one, I’m driving. CJ: Does she know that guy? (I’m referring to a guy in the set who is creepily all over her hot friend.) MILF: They’re married. What’s your name? CJ: Omigod, you have a little country accent! MILF: Really? I’ve never been told that( I went to a catholic school and we were taught proper english. CJ: Catholic girl! Really? You should leave right now( All the catholic girls I’ve known have been into bondage( tied up, handcuffs MILF: What? *** cue dumb drunkeness *** CJ: Handcuffs, handcuffs, handcuffs. You like to be handcuffed. You know, handcuffs! (It was real loud so I thought she couldn’t hear me, thus the repetition! Oh yeah, the alcohol probably had a little to do with it, too). MILF looks at me weird. I manage to partially recover. A few minutes later her friend gets her attention and they walk away. She doesn’t look back. Damnit. Two girls stroll by. I forgot what I opened them with but they are both attentive from the get-go. The slightly cuter one gets asked to dance by some guy. I remember telling her she was tiny. She responds well and I use that to get her giggly. I ask her things like, “When you go to a restaurant do you get a booster seat or climb up into a big people chair?” She is giggling hardcore so I tell her I like girls who laugh at my jokes. She says no one has ever said stuff like that to her before. Strawberry fields. She number closes me as we are being kicked out of the bar. HB: Sooo( are you going to call me? CJ: We’re here together right now. Drive me to my car. She drives me over and we make out for quite a bit. The cops actually shine flashlights on us through the window and tell us to leave. CJ: “That sucks, I’m still having fun. Come to my place. I don’t have alcohol but I have water, Coke Zero or tea.” She follows me. I put on “knocked up” dvd and escalate on the couch. Seems too easy, doesn’t it? It is that easy sometimes. Knowing where she is at in the interaction is one of the things that separates the advanced PUA from the intermediate. The Intermediate would’ve set the Timebridge
and then pushed too hard or too soft to get a bounce. He would’ve wasted time and put sexual vibe in jeopardy by withdrawing sexual intention while running comfort. The problem with most people’s calibration skills is that they are calibrating to the wrong thing. You don’t calibrate to attraction or whether or not she likes you or whether or not she is paying attention. You calibrate to whether or not she becomes more engaged when you are sending sexual communication. If you are aware of where she is then it becomes easy to just gently lead, baby-steps along a gradual incline. Captain Jack
CaptainJack says: July 16, 2009 at 12:07 am
LIO = Low Investment Opener( it's serves as a way to warm up and get extroverted. It is also a quick way to gauge the openness of the Target. I like to use them because too much investment early on can lead to nowhere sets.
Do the Drills to Get the Skills Posted at July 16, 2009
Damn, I still hate to see it. Seems like every couple of weeks I get a guy who emails me about my “stuff” and asking if it can help him. He rattles off all the stuff he’s done previously( product after product, guru after guru. He’s desperate( he just wants to be able to have a normal sex life. “Please help?!” A quick question shows THE problem( “How many sets do you open per night? How many nights do you go out to practice? Do you have a Plan?” Usually, silence follows or some excuse. If any of you are stuck in this pattern let me put it to you this way( More knowledge, a different style, better routines WILL NOT help. You’ve got to do the drills to get the skills. You already know enough. Look at every piece of pick-up data as an INPUT to a skill that you are going to drill. Making eye contact is a skill. Opening is a skill. Moving a set or a girl is a skill. (Promenading is the best version of this). TimeBridging is a skill (maybe the second most important one). Push/Pull is a skill. You need to design drills for each one and do the drills. When you run into trouble it’s ALMOST NEVER the CONTENT of the communication, it is almost always the timing or structure (sometimes the delivery). When is the last time you said, “Tonight, I am going to promenade 2 girls. Here’s how I’m going to do it( Right after I run the Best Friends Test I’m going to say, ‘Hey, you two are awesome( let’s go meet my friends.’ Then, I’ll put my arms out and motion for them to hook elbows with me.” (I used to have a saying that if you promenaded 3 girls in a venue you were pretty much guaranteed to get laid. That was based on personal experience!!!) Drills Give You Control The reason you want to do drills is because it gives you CONTROL. Control Includes the ability to start a process, modify it in action and then stop it at will. Unless you have tangible drills set up your only hope would be to do so much work that you get it at an unconscious level. (If you ever do). Athletes have drills because it gives them finer control of the processes in the game that increase their chances of winning!
One thing that I have ultimate respect to both El Topo and Sinn for is their ability to get themselves to do crazy shit. El Topo talks about Sexually Transmitted Diseases in set and I’ve seen Sinn run Huge Cock Game for almost 10 minutes straight to a bitchy 2set. He’d often finally blow them out by saying, “So, I guess a blowjob is out of the question?” Those are crazy drills! I don’t know why they did it (I’m guessing pure amusement had a lot to do with it) but the result is they got control over spinning a set wildly out and then recovering. I used to completely stop talking in a set and wait for them to re-initiate. Then, I’d give one word answers. When I could sense they were about to leave I’d extrovert again and talk more. This data helped each of us with calibration in the future. I’m sure both of them can see if a set is starting to drift and can easily put it back on track. (Their track record proves it.) Where to Start?! That depends on you of course. You start with a little bit back of where you are( If you are decent at opening and holding a set then commit to getting finite control over that AND THEN the very next smallest thing in the process. In my eyes, that would be shifting to let the Target and the rest of the set know you are interested in her without the shadow of a doubt. If you can do that then I’d say intro’ing a Sexual Frame is next. This is a game of having control over social interactions by having control over yourself in executing the processes that we have empirically proven add up to sexual relationships. You gotta do the drills to get the skills! Captain Jack
Sex and the Ninja Lay Report: The Attack of Blondzilla Posted at July 24, 2009
Love this blog as I’ve mentioned before( He posted an LR that shows a few cool things( I like how he showed appreciation of her sexual effect on him while they were on the couch, how he diffused the situation as they were in the cab and what he did when he got LMR. (By the way( he’s officially CJ Trained!!!!) Sex and the Ninja LR: The Attack of Blondzilla CJ P.S. If you’ve used some of my tech to get Lays and post them on a forum or blog let me know! LRs help others( help your fellow man!
Fuck-up Report: The Hot Blond Animal Lover Posted at July 31, 2009
Sinn wrote a Fuck-up Report recently and I realized it’s been awhile since I’ve done so I thought I’d throw it out there as well. They are a bit cathartic, haa. When I fuck up it is usually for one of two reasons: 1) I misinterpret a statement that shows interest and don’t acknowledge by reward or 2) I don’t keep the Intention strong enough to keep things advancing forward and through all the random shit that happens in field. This particular fuck-up contained BOTH but I recovered from the first one.
After finishing eating dinner at a bar/restuarant I was debating what I wanted to do next, everything sounded boring so I decided to hang out for a bit until I could decide( the bartendresses and the waittresses were just hot enough to keep me there. (Notice the weak Intention?) A Cougar sits right next to me even though there are 12 available seats nearby. I have a “No Cougar” policy because I hate getting tricked. Hot body in clothes, soft stretch-markey, etc when out of clothes. (Ok, not ENTIRELY true but it’s happened enough to me that I don’t like the risk.) She opens me and we chat. I figure there is no harm in Gaming her because it’s better than just sitting on your ass. In the middle of our conversation a hot MILF walks by and sits one seat away from her. I notice this and think at some point I may try to get her involved in the convo. It’s so weird because I sometimes forget just how strong social proof is( as I’m talking to the COUGAR the hot bartenders and waitresses are giving me more (and longer) eye-contact. I’m getting a little bored with this conversation because she keeps bringing up the “I was a gymnast back in the day and I’m amazed that I’m still so flexible after all this time” Thread( I keep trying to make eye contact with the MILF but a complete Chode is talking to her so she is facing slightly to her left and away from me. It turns out that the COUGAR is actually waiting for a younger dude (i.e 38 year old) who has not yet been scarred as I have( he arrives and they start talking. I leave it be and silently pray for him. They leave a few minutes later and that leaves only 2 seats between me and the Blonde MILF. The chode tried a number close but got shot down fully and completely. He said something like, “Well, if you’re leaving soon I’d like to walk you out to your car and we can talk about maybe going on a date.” (um, what?) to which she said, “No, that’s ok. I think I’m going to stay here instead.” She was visibly creeped out at that point. He left and I leaned over and opened her situationally about The Dog Whisperer. I’d overheard her talking about her dogs earlier. She gets up and sits right next to me. We immediately start talking about that for a bit. She asks what I do and that opens up my Advertising thread which gets me into Psychology and eventually( wait for it( can you guess what’s coming? (. wait for it(. Stawberry Fields! Bet you didn’t see that shit coming! She asked me if I had to work in the morning. She asked me if I lived close by. She asked me what I was doing the rest of the night. She asked me if I was looking for a relationship because she wasn’t and she’d just gotten out of one. I answer each one logically. Somebody kill me. She says, “Maybe I’ll see you again here sometime.” I say, “Probably not. I don’t ever come here.” She looks super-deflated and confused. A few minutes later it dawns on me( she’s been coming on to me for about 30 minutes and I’ve been missing them all( I try to repair but all momentum is gone. Rust sucks. Ugg. She was hot. Captain Jack
FR: College Girls! Posted at July 31, 2009
Okay, I NEVER write FRs anymore but this was a fun night, I’ve been rusty and maybe it will help me a bit to get some thoughts down on “paper.”
So Tribulus tells me about this new place that is PACKED with hot college girls. Hmm( Young, hot, college girls, alcohol and me all in the same room. (See picture for my feelings on the subject!)
I get there about 10 and it’s pretty dead. Tribulus SWEARS that it was good. Of course, I believe him but I’m just not seeing it. It’s happened to me MANY times, I go to a place where it’s been full of hotties one night and then not another. Sucks! and I figure it may have happened here. But, every few minutes a few HOT, HOT girls would stroll in( which would keep me in my spot. By 11:00ish the quality is HIGH and quantity is building. I’m rusty. It sucks. I’m battling motivation issues. AceOfHeartSS is there and it’s good to see him because he gets into set quickly and says other shit that makes me laugh. There’s another guy there that I met recently through Tribulus. I don’t know his “secret community name” but he’s cool to hang out with, too. With some work I think he’ll be good. Tribulus intros a set by asking them if they’ve ever taken the strawberry fields test and immediately hands off to me. This super-hot blonde bites but her little friend says, “I don’t get it” and walks off. Perfect! I tell the super hot blond that she is hitting on me. I tell her it would never work out between us. I tell her I go to Austin (she is from UT-Austin) every few months and tell her the places I go. She loves those places, too. Rings on Fingers. I body rock in and out of her space. After Rings on Fingers I do Thumb Wars and annihilate her. I make sure to make a big show of it by raising my hands in victory. She wants another go so i destroy her little thumb again. She asks me how old I am and I make her guess. She’s “21 and a half” haa. The age difference makes her EXTREMELY interested. We talk a bit more and she’s CONSTANTLY touching on me and play hitting me. I TB and get her number. We’ve texted back and forth and I’m going to try to get her out on Sunday night. She goes back to Austin in a few weeks. She mentions something about my age and if I want to get married in the future and I say, “Oh god( my heart just started beating( don’t say relationship or commitment.” I did it to block that option out of her mind since we only have 3 weeks any holding out would suck, plus I don’t want a relationship. Probably could’ve done that a bit better( I usually say something like, “I’m cool either way. Not looking for it( not against it. I think a lot of people make a mistake and rush into things if they’re looking for that( I like to just let whatever happens happen(” Some more banter and flirting and she is smiling and beaming the whole time. She has to go the bathroom and says, “Stay right here, I’ll be back” while touching my upper arm. (Naturally, her fingers didn’t touch because no human fingers could wrap around the guns.) I’m not gonna lie( her hotness threw me off my shit and I made the mistake of going back to the MM-based adage of NOT being there when she got back. Dumb. Dumb. Dumb.
I think that was dumb because I’m so good at this stage of game and it was so ON that I had a REAL shot at pulling her same night. I should’ve stayed with her and ran some more sexual framing, one or two heart melters and the bounce invite. Ah well( I still have the TB and she’s responded to my s-fields callback text so I’ve got a shot. Next set: I open a girl with something situational( It’s a short exchange because she is getting a bunch of drinks. She makes eye contact and smiles as she’s leaving with the drinks and I mentally decide to re-engage with full intention if I see her again. Next set: Tribulus does the s-fields intro again and immediately hands them off to me. The girl is cute, not HOT, but certainly very cute. It’s on from the beginning. Her friends are at a table across the aisle and are watching like hawks. It turns out she is 21, a VIRGIN with some special signature virgin ring that she shows me. She has a boyfriend back home AND an ex in the venue. Despite all this she is all over me. Hands on my thighs, hands in my hand. I tell her that her dimples are driving me crazy, etc, etc. I tell her to forget about her bf and ex and concentrate on me. This heats her up a bit more. I ran Rings on Fingers and that’s when she showed me the special “Keeping my legs closed for Jesus” ring. But, as DD says, Attraction isn’t a Choice and it’s on( except for one little problem. Do I really want to invest time in this? How fun could LMR from a virgin be? Had I wanted to invest more time in this I would’ve had to run the Group Innoculation that I do(. For the most part I don’t do a lot of group handling. If you can get her interested SHE will do a better job of handling the group than you could( In order to insure this I say something like, “Your friends seem cool. I have friends like that, too. We protect each other. But, right now they are over there and we’re here. They don’t know what I’m feeling or what you’re feeling or what we’re feeling together. I like you and I’m enjoying this a lot( They might try to break this up or whatever to protect you so if they try then you have to let them know everything’s cool and we like each other.” Final set of the night( I open a SUPER hot brunette. We chat for a bit. I’m not getting the responses I think I should( I sense she is holding back a bit( the set swings wildly between super on and cold. I’m a little confused. She gets distracted away by a friend and I hang back and watch. Then, I notice she is in the middle of a Jealousy Thread. ALMOST impossible to break a girl out of the J-Thread. When I get near her again she brightens up and waves. I go back in and decide it’ll be cool to at least try( I go back and flirt a bit and tease some to loosen things up( I spin her and she loves it( I spin her again. She starts asking questions to justify her attraction. I feel momentum building( Unfortunately, it’s past 2am and we get herded out. I make a weak attempt at a TB but she says, “I don’t really know you.” Fair enough( I made a weak attempt AND it was hurried so I normally wouldn’t have even tried. She asks my first and last name and says, “I’ll facebook you” I laugh and say, “You won’t remember.” and lightly push her away and walk off. It sucks because I know under different circumstances I would’ve gotten her. Such is life. Overall it was fun and good to be out. Captain Jack
CaptainJack says: August 2, 2009 at 6:27 pm
Once you two are in agreement that you like each other and you are going to see each other again I think it is better to keep talking as long as you can( The more time you get with her when things are going great the more you are assured you'll see her again. I am very good at keeping things moving towards sex so it is better for me to be with her.
Opening and Social Proof versus “Player in the Game” Posted at August 2, 2009
Since I’m going out to meet and seduce women more and actually working on SPs I’ve done a bit more experimentation and then, OUTSIDE THE FIELD, analysis of what I’ve noticed versus what I expected versus what I want. I noticed the other day I was only marginally interesting to the hot bartenders and wait staff until I started talking to cougar and the milf. Normally, I explain this as Social Proof. It’s one of the communities favorite theories. And, it seems to explain a lot. Cialdini popularized it and the definition is people will be more likely to do what they see other people doing. What about in the case of a normal bootcamp when guys are opening, but getting blown out or failing to get attraction( they still get more AIs after opening than when they don’t open. And, in this case you’d expect them to get blown out so much the first few times that they’d be done for the night due to all the negative social proof. But, that doesn’t happen. So, what’s going on? Let’s examine this a bit further( Have you ever looked at a woman and thought it looked “hard” to approach her and you weren’t sure if you wanted to risk it. Then, some chode went and opened her and she was extremely nice to him and everything went fine. Then, you said to yourself, “Holy shit( I could do better than that chode” and you walked over and opened? Have you ever seen a hot girl with a chode and thought, “Damn( how the fuck did he get her? I’m 10x cooler than that guy” and if you had a smooth chance you’d have attempted to flirt? Both of the above have happened to me and others many, many times. Here’s another related question: Did you know that guys have been blown out after approaching women, gone back in later, and had it bust wide open? What I’m going to say is that Social Proof doesn’t explain the warm responses you get from approaching women when you’ve been seen in set OR you merge sets with pawns( I think it has to do with how she categorizes YOU in relation to the Game being played. She’s not keying off of the ACTUAL responses of the other women (that’d be pre-selection) as much as she’s keying off the realization that you are playing the Game. See, women know that this is a Game. The Game is find an attractive mate to have sex with! In any game there are Players and Spectators. If you are not talking to women, approaching women or already with women then you are a Spectator until proven otherwise. (She may HOPE that you are a Player and give you AIs to find out.) Why do AIs increase when women see you open? Simply because they realize you are a Player and so are they so it’s an invitation from one Player to another Player to engage in the Game. What about opening sets with a woman with you? First, it demonstrates you’re a Player in two ways, the opening and you are already with a girl. Second, much like you look at a dude and think you could do better than that guy, the girl looks at the girl and does the same( except girls seem to be much more aggressive in this area than the average community male. An Hb3 WILL try to unseat a 9 or 10( whereas most dudes who feel outclassed will shy away and ask if she has any friends or something. You are most likely missing a lot of AIs. Assume any eye contact is an AI for the time being and you’ll get a lot of real world experience around the subject. Also, many afc/PUAs have trouble with making or keeping eye contact so practice holding eye contact if you haven’t done those types of drills. Especially if this is a weak point because it just won’t be tolerated in set. If this is a weak point for you literally stare girls down until you don’t feel any pressure to look away. A few days/nights of this is usually all you need. You can make the assumption that if you see one AI you’ve probably missed 2 or 3.
Now, this snowballs. You open a set, girls notice, they start changing their body language and giving you AIs. They look in your direction more. Other girls pick up on this( you open more, new girls pick up on it plus the old girls. Snowball. (If you’ve ever been in a club with a celebrity or sports star you’ll notice this on steroids magnified by one hundred. You can hardly keep a woman’s attention when there’s a big celeb in proximity.) As you move around girls will shift body language towards you. You’ll get Proximity AIs from all girl sets, etc. (In my eCoaching bootcamp I discuss Parading girls( it’s the fastest way to warm up the entire venue. I have a saying that if you can Parade 3 times in a night you will most likely get laid. It is magical.) Can’t this be described by Pre-Selection? Again, only partially. See, pre-selection means the women were visibly and intensely attracted to you and the other women noticed it. We have PLENTY of examples of guys who have a lot of hot female FRIENDS who couldn’t get laid if their life depended on it. What is going on here? Well, though they are surrounded by hot girls they never show new girls they meet that they are in the game. They never show her that they know her Goals and move her across the barriers/obstacles to the win. Don’t get me wrong Pre-Selection DOES help. But, what I’m talking about is something even before and more basic. I’m talking about girls giving AIs and becoming warm just based on her/their analysis that you are playing the same Game they are. Pre-selection comes later( it is “He’s in the same Game AND he’s obviously good at it” (Parading, which I mentioned above, activates Pre-Selection especially when multiple girls are paraded together or close together in the same night.) EVERYBODY in the game hates wasting time. Females don’t want an opportunistic Spectator to suck up their time so they usually reserve their AIs for proven Players. Girls also intuitively know that if she can get one guy to open her then a few others will get more courage and open. Thus, more Players and more opportunity for her to win. What about Celebrities? Let’s analyze this a bit( Why do women like Celebrities? I can think of a bunch of reasons. 1. Money? Money doesn’t hurt BUT, it can’t ONLY be money. Pro PUAs have many, many super rich guys come to us for help. Many super rich end up as sugar daddies for hotties and those situations aren’t usually exclusive. 2. Looks? Well, women don’t have the same physiological responses to looks as men do. Their acceptable range of looks is MUCH wider and is weak enough that we can totally ignore it. (Provided your grooming and style is good). Plus, many Celebrities are dog ugly. 3. Status? A strong contributor. Society has conditioned us to treat celebs better. Even dudes want to meet other celebrity dudes. 4. An Assumed Player in the Game. This conditioning of status begins the SNOWBALL we talked about earlier. When you get the multiple girls visibly interested, the society conditioning of treating celebs as special plus the idea of bragging rights and money, then you have a lot of factors working together. It is deduced, assumed, that they are prime Players in the Game( thus, the females play all out. The Case of the Man with Social Proof but Not a Player in the Game. Take a guy out with 3 women. One of them is his wife, the other two are her sexy girlfriends. He has a wedding band on. Does he get massive AIs? No. He might get a few at first( some women are screwy and like to try and others may not have noticed the ring but after about an hour or two in the venue he is essentially invisible to the other Players. I noticed this when I was out with FBs/Girlfriends. I’d get a LOT of AIs at first and after a bit I was essentially invisible again. Sure I was with a hot girl (social proof idea) BUT it was pre-empted because the girls realized I wasn’t in the Game. So, I put the idea of Social Proof on the backburner as something that, while valid, only partially described what was happening and opt instead for the fuller idea of Player in the Game. It better describes what actually occurs in the field. Spectators, Players, Winners, Obstacles and Goals. This also helps to mesh Sexual Framing with some of the more standard MM structured approach. Though, I usually avoid the standard Peacocking, Pawning, Social Proof/DHV routines (ex. the routine where you show you with pics with hot girls, doing cool shit, hanging with cool people), with this idea they start to make sense together.
When I open and start Sexual Framing I’m demonstrating I’m a Player in the Game( that we are both playing the same Game, that I value her Game Goal (finding a guy who can make her feel sexy and sexual) and I’m willling to carry it home (so to speak! haa). Since I’ve gotten good at opening one or two sets, hooking and staying in for the long haul the other girls notice it( if the set busts or unravels, many girls in the vicinity have noticed the deep sexual attraction between me and the other girl and have me pegged. Opening any girl who witnessed that makes my set go that much easier. She isn’t looking for Value or Social Proof, she’s looking for the man in her near Vicinity who is the best Player in the Game. If you understand this it will lessen your worry about people seeing a set go bad. It won’t matter, by opening you’ll show everyone else you’re in the game. Captain Jack P.S. You should also feel less pressure from others watching you open because Spectators don’t count! And, Male Players are too busy playing to notice or care! In fact, if anything they’re probably thinking of allying with you to give both of you better chances to win. More on “The Game Dynamics”
CaptainJack says: August 2, 2009 at 10:34 pm
You are most likely missing a lot of AIs. Assume any eye contact is an AI for the time being and you'll get a lot of real world experience around the subject. Also, many afc/PUAs have trouble with making or keeping eye contact. You can make the assumption that if you see one AI you've probably missed 2 or 3. Now, this snowballs. You open a set, girls notice, they start changing their body language and giving you AIs. They look in your direction more. Other girls pick up on this( you open more, new girls pick up on it plus the old girls. Snowball. If you've ever been in a club with a celebrity or sports star you'll notice this on steroids magnified by one hundred. You can hardly keep a woman's attention when there's a big celeb in proximity.
CaptainJack says: August 3, 2009 at 6:51 am
>Interesting post, and practical too, in that I know that if I get AI's I can imagine >feeling more confident and likely to open. This is actually a good sign. A 'more true' theory is more likely to make you more confident to act. It's your unconscious mind's way of confirming that it more closely matches the billions of computations it's made in the past.
CaptainJack says: August 4, 2009 at 1:18 am
It would be semantics if it didn't explain more and/or explain more precisely what actually occurs in the field.
Game Dynamics and “Player in the Game” = Elegance Posted at August 4, 2009
Hmm I think this is boiling down to a bit of semantics and how you exactly define it. If I go to a bar with my hot female friends I get tons more AIs that if I go with my male buddies. Sure, if I don’t do anything about it then the AIs will die down over time (except for new girls entering the venue). But either way simply having hot girls with you gets you more interest than not, therefore scientifically proving that social proof is a contributory factor! It won’t get you laid (you’ll still have to open… duh!) but is sure as dandy helps! – comment by charliereay on “Opening and Social Proof Versus Player in the Game” post I am surprised I didn’t get more of these types of comments. When I published the post I expected to get a lot more of these types than the all out positive ones. Let me start by saying this( I’m not saying Social Proof isn’t “right” or is “wrong.” What I’m saying is that it is INCOMPLETE. I’m pointing out that it leaves A LOT more unexplained than explained. I discussed quite a few things that it left unexplained in the last post. There is a higher level dynamic at work when attracting, approaching and seducing women that better explains what is going on and that is the player in the game concept. One GREAT way to know if you have found a better organizing principle is if you experience a surge in motivation to act or a desire to do things differently. Two or 3 commenters noted they felt more pumped toapproach women. The reason is because when they adopted this idea it caused a spontaneous release of competing and inefficient ideas leaving more energy and attention available for action. And/or it stabilized a lot of floating thoughts thus lessening confusion (and confusion causes fear and apprehension.) I’ll show you how it better explains common field phenomena and then I’ll show you how it ALSO explainsSexual Framing. Social Proof • Covered in previous post. Peacocking • Someone who is peacocking but not opening is a tool. Why? Socially we know, and women know, that Peacocking is something you do when you are Playing the Game. A dude who is Peacocked and not opening is socially weird. Likewise, people with low game awareness call scantily clad women in the club “sluts” not realizing this is what women do to invite the real Players to open. Saying that women open guys who are peacocked because they realize the men are Players in the Game is a leap( but, it is a very small leap. It might be better explained by saying that women can use it to show everyone THEY are playing the Game thus, getting her opened more without making it too obvious. Pre-Selection • I covered this a bit in the last post. Pre-Selection is a VERY valid and observable phenom. But, again this only applies to Players in the Game. When they realize you aren’t in the Game their awareness is no longer on you and all invitations and attention shift to find Players. Jealousy Threads • Again, you have to be a Player in the Game and have her attracted for a Jealousy Thread to exist. JThreads are incredibly powerful. They are so powerful BECAUSE the Game has a limited time span (a Game Obstacle) and a limited number of Players (another Game Obstacle). Her desire to win compels her to focus more energy on a proven quantity as does her desire to IMPROVE against competition. (The competition is other females, not the males.) Add to that the fact that she WAS on her way to Winning and you’ve got a deep sense of loss and self-doubt creeping in. The idea that other females could be BETTER was theoretical, now it is all too real. She will do ALMOST anything to beat the competitor. Disqualifiers • There are two valid players. It looks like they are headed to winning( but, now one of them seems to be questioning whether or not the other is a Player( the chances of winning drop causing fear and increasing desire to get back in the Game. DHVs • I’m skeptical about the real use of DHVs EXCEPT when you are talking to a girl to whom that shit is important AND her logical mind is engaged. She can use that stuff to talk herself into liking you or giving you more time/chances. Ok, “Player in the Game” refines those a bit without colliding and give us a better understanding. We KNOW Mystery Method works AND it works very very well for what it is designed to do( Those items listed above are given as the reason MM works( But, what then explains the massive success of Sexual Framing which isn’t built on any of those?
Sexual Framing doesn’t use Jealousy-Threads, Pre-Selection, Demonstrations of Higher Value (DHVs), Merging, Pawning or Social Proof except as a consequence when a set unravels and you have to open a new one. In fact, Sexual Framing VIOLATES many common MM principles. Can the “Player in the Game” concept describe it? Yes! Wonderfully! A Game is made up of Spectators, Players, Winners, Obstacles and Goals. I’m not using Obstacles in the MM definition here. Although her friends COULD be Obstacles they aren’t by default. They are only Obstacles when they don’t KNOW that you and her friend have AGREED to play the game together. Approaching, attracting and seducing women is often called The Game. All Games are Based on Agreement. Game Dynamic 1: You and her must agree you are both Players. Naturally, this is you making a smooth open, hooking the set and her entering communication with you. If you can’t get agreement on this you don’t have a Game. Game Dynamic 2: You and her must agree you are both playing the same Game TOGETHER. By opening Sexual Frames you are telling her what Game you are playing. As she continues talking with you and playing along she is AGREEING that this is a male-female conversation with a sexual dynamic. If you can’t get agreement on this you don’t have a Game. Game Dynamic 3: You must show her that you VALUE her Game Goal. By being non-judgmental and telling her you LOVE how sexy she is, etc you are showing her this. If you can’t get agreement on this you don’t have a Game. Game Dynamic 4: You must demonstrate that you can carry her through the ObstaclesD first by handling them in her mind, then in the immediate environment then over time. This can be done explicitly by getting the group to like you( getting her so into you that she does it and/or using an Inoculation Routine like I mentioned in “FR: College Girls!” Then, by baby-stepping her along ever so gently she’ll know/feel that she is having all the good feelings and none of the bad (like she usually does), she gets even more comfortable and puts more trust in you. If you can’t get agreement on this you don’t have a Game. Also, you can look for her to show you the same! For example, when I ask her “You’re not the jealous type( are you?” and then tell a story about how I was “hanging out” (code for fucking) a girl and she got jealous and I didn’t approve I’m beginning to define what Game we are playing and putting in question her agreement on Dynamic 2. She has to alleviate my concerns by agreeing with me that jealousy sucks. The Most Evil of All Evils What about LMR? Can this even shed some light on LMR? Yes! LMR is primarily an unclear agreement about whether or not you are both playing the same Game (unclear Game Dynamic 2). It can also be that you haven’t shown her that you value her Game Goal (unclear on Game Dynamic 3). If she is playing “Potential GF Game” and you are playing ONS game and she THINKS you are playing “Potential GF Game” but isn’t exactly sure due to mixed communication signals then( BAM! LMR. You’d have to have told her that your game works like this “Primarily Sexual and then possible grow into GF over time” in order to avoid it. On the flipside, If you WERE playing to get a GF and she was CONVINCED you were( (and she WAS playing that Game too( (and she believed that giving it up wouldn’t destroy that Game (clear on Game Dynamic 3), then( (she’d have no issue having sex with you the first night. This is why so many of the PUAs trained in “social” forms of Pick-up have such a hard time getting laid. They broadcast “social, fun guy — potential fun bf” on Game Dynamic 2 and then wonder why it takes forever to lay her( furthermore, they never make it clear that they VALUE sexuality so she has to be double certain it won’t fuck up that Game before having sex. They have methodically built tons of agreement on a DIFFERENT GAME (fun, cool, social bf) and wonder why the Game Goal of a DIFFERENT GAME isn’t happening. Those Silly PUAs. Captain Jack P.S. Knowing what you know now about The Game Dynamics you should be able to pinpoint on WHICH Dynamic any busted set failed on. All “no-gos” are failure on Game Dynamic 1. All sets that unravel come from failures on
Game Dynamic 4, etc. What would you do with said information? Why you’d examine your Game Plan and look for deficiencies in your common routines/stacks/ideas/beliefs in that area, shore it up, set up experiments/solutions and get your ass back in the Field! P.P.S. Disqualifiers work because they threaten agreement on Game Dynamic 1. See that? If there isn’t agreement on all the Game Dynamics, there is NO GAME, thus no chance of winning. Jealousy Thread threatens Game Dynamic 2.
driftwood says: August 10, 2009 at 3:56 pm
But by your theory, if you threaten the game dynamic, won't that cause the game to fall apart?
CaptainJack says: August 10, 2009 at 10:49 pm
That's one of the risks if you totally devalidate it and she feels like it can't be repaired or it would be too hard( But, that usually requires a LOT of that( if you challenge it and she responds with what you consider to be a valid attempt at Clarifying then you accept it and it is not clear and strong.
I Think I Made A Stripper Cry Posted at August 5, 2009
Went out last night and had some fun. I was going to write a full FR but I am pressed for time. I have to research something for the Warrior-King Society, put out a product for my other little company, meet my friend Tai for lunch, exercise and then synthesize more material on Game Dynamics for the next Master Strategies Monthly audio. I have a full day! (All these “to-do’s” are seriously interfering with my Prime Objective of being the Most Chill Dude in the Game.) Update on the super hot blonde college girl from FR: College Girls! We’ve been texting back and forth. I don’t do a lot of texting and now I remember one of the reasons I cut it out of my game: It’s fucking annoying! (The real reason I don’t do it much is because I prefer to tighten up the first 20-30 minutes of my presentations so well that they will just be down to meet up. It has worked for me but now that I’m working on a special class of Sticking Points I need to take each set as far as it can go to get more data on how *I* occur to the specific types of HBs I’m working on. You Master Strategies Monthly guys will know what I mean by the special use of “occur.”) Unfortunately, she is at the beach until Sunday( That leaves only about 2 weeks to close her before she goes back to Austin for school. I am going to be a sad Pirate if I don’t get a chance to close. Back to last night( I started off at a strip club. I rarely go to strip clubs because I don’t like beggars or suckers and strip clubs are full of both. I went because I am working on redefining interactions on the first 2 Game Dynamics AND I want to do it while feeling the intense internal state change that hot girls give us. It is actually kinda fun! Plus, the girls there are so hot it’s ridiculous. So, there is a smoking hot brunette sitting in my lap rubbing my chest and a girl who could be in playboy about 7 yards away on stage trying her best to suck her own nipples. She is exerting great effort at accomplishing this but her neck is not long enough. Long story short, I disqualify the shit out of her and get stuck in full out Neg mode. I just can’t stop myself( Negs are being tossed like hand grenades in Vietnam. I don’t use Negs often preferring instead for teasing because it works better and it keeps the playfulness level high. When she leaves it looks like she is about to cry.
I bounce from there to x-bar. After fucking around for 30 minutes and texting Sinn that I am practicing the 3-Hour Rule, I end up opening this cute 7.5 blonde with hot tattoos. She’d be an 8 maybe even a 9 to me but has a little too much on the hips and thighs( We end up making out a bit, she snatches my phone out of my hands and says “I’m giving you my number.” We went to eat with her friend and the dude, in the parking lot I alluded to her coming home with me but she had said earlier she had to be up at 8am for work. At 3:26 am she sent me this text “Hello gorgeous, I’m home and in bed. Good night.” I missed an opportunity to Clarify what Game I was playing (Game Dynamic 2, playing the same game) and this could lead to trouble later on( She mentioned that the guy with her friend (it was a 6 set, 4 girls and 2 guys) was only down for one thing and she had told her friend what he was up to( she also mentioned that she no longer had a boyfriend and missed having someone to go out with regularly. I should’ve noted both and then used framing to Clarify what I was after, something like my standard “You’re not the jealous type, are you?” routine would’ve worked perfectly. I tried to Clarify it after she number closed me. She asked me to text her so she would know it’s me( I texted her “Jason, aka Sex God.” This WILL need to be clarified to get short time frame sex because if she’s like most girls she has a Game Rule that doesn’t allow short time frame sex with a potential bf without at least the assumption of commitment. Oh yeah, gotta disclose this to keep myself accountable( There was a 4 set of SHBs, each of them as close to 10 as you can get, in proximity of me. I didn’t open. I let that rare opportunity float away. Sucks. Captain Jack
Player States of Existence and Nested Games Posted at August 6, 2009
Hola PUAs! Recall from “Game Dynamics and Player in the Game = Elegance” Game Dynamic 1: You and her must agree you are both Players. So, I’m going to introduce “Player States of Existence” to you to help you improve Dynamic 1. Before she sees you or is aware of your presence your state is “Non-Existence.” After she becomes aware of you and/or you open and the set progresses, she updates your State to one of the following: • Potential Player of a Game I Want to Play • Doubt (could be Doubt about Dynamic 2, 3, 4) • Playing a Different Game • Someone I Want to Play With All of her communication is geared towards Clarifying the Dynamics and/or forwarding agreement on them. If you are in an Existence of Doubt on Dynamic 3 she may call a certain girl in the club who is dancing sexy a slut to see what you say about it. (Also remember that most of this is unconscious, we are wired to gain certainty about the Game we are playing and our states of existence in it.) If you call the girl a slut as well then you’ve shed some light for her on Dynamic 3. You need to respond in a way that reaffirms what Game you are playing and that you VALUE that Game Goal. Contrast these two responses: 1) “For real, her boyfriend needs to put her in check.” 2) “I like it when women express their sexuality so freely.” In one simple exchange you’ve created entirely different scenarios. Shit Tests? What we used to call ‘Shit Tests’ aren’t ‘Shit Tests’ at all. They are attempts to Clarify. Simple as that. You’ve done something or broadcast something or she has flat out ASSUMED something about the Game and wants to get a response from you about it to Clarify. In the writing of Field Reports (or, even better, audio recordings) you can notice when you’ve been in a Doubt Status in her mind. It is clear as day. The stuff she says or asks you is so obviously trying to Clarify that I now wonder how I missed it for so long.
When the Dynamics are Clarified and Agreed on sex is a matter of keeping them clear and getting her to a place where you can escalate physically to sex. Almost all sets that blow up after things have been going well are because you’ve cast Doubt on one or more of the Dynamics. I did it msyelf just yesterday. Super hot 19 year old asian waittress, disqualified her so much that Dynamic 1 got thrown out and she didn’t feel like she could play. What’s the Strategy now? I have to go back there and Clarify on Dynamic 1 and work back through the rest of them. Nested Games I have the working Hypotheses that women go to bars/clubs to find attractive mates to have sex with. That hypotheses has served me well and it is one that I continue to work within( For some people, the hardcore clubbies, sex occurs inside of another game. That Game is Faux Celebrity. Think of the super-hot club chick. Her primary Game is Faux Celebrity. Almost anyone who wants to gain Agreement on Dynamic 1 for the Sex Game has to be playing Faux Celebrity Game first. For them, Sex seems to be a Nested Game inside of it( I think that since Mystery didn’t have any awareness of Nested Games he took this to mean this is THE ONLY way to do it. This is where his Celebrity and Entourage games concepts come from (and hence DHVs.) Since the problem with Nested Games stems from having to Clarify and Agree on the Game Dynamics TWICE (once for each Game) it appears more difficult. People who have Sex as a Nested Game have larger Social Circles and/or serial LTRs or some other side effect. You see a lot of hot girls with Social Circles that have a lot of guys who passed on Dynamic 1 of the Outer Game and then failed on the Nested Game. Caught in the Friend Zone! The Master Strategy is to cast DOUBT on the validity of the Outer Game and then BYPASS it to go straight to Clarifying on the Nested Game. If you can get Agreement on them then she will backwards rationalize why the Outer Game doesn’t matter or apply in this case. She will HOOK MUCH HARDER because she has those intense feelings and it makes her feel like it must be more REAL. For the next audio (or two) in the “Master Strategies” course I am going to be releasing all the current research information about Game Dynamics I have. ALL Master Strategies result in increasing your capability IN THE FIELD. It is Theory FOR Action. If you sign up now you’ll get the two previous audios as well.
CaptainJack says: August 6, 2009 at 11:19 am
I agree with your statement that no system works 100% of the time in all situations. But, what we have here is something that can improve a GREAT DEAL. Knowing WHY sets that were *ON* suddenly and, before now, inexplicably unravel gives us a great leap forward in repairing our Game Plan to have more of these sets end up as lays. All of the sudden Sticking Point Analysis becomes much, much easier. We now KNOW WHY Sexual Framing works so well. Much like Sexual Framing yielded a big boost for SNLs and easier Day2s I expect this stuff to really boost lay numbers by giving us a way to fix mixed communication signals we send that confuse the girls and cause them to bail. CJ
Merchant says: August 8, 2009 at 4:56 pm
“The Master Strategy is to cast DOUBT on the validity of the Outer Game and then BYPASS it to go straight to Clarifying on the Nested Game. If you can get Agreement on them then she will backwards rationalize why the Outer Game doesn’t matter or apply in this case.” Would you say this is what you're doing when you direct approach a girl within a group set without speaking to her friends first, or would you draw a distinction there?
CaptainJack says: August 8, 2009 at 5:31 pm
Wasn't what I had in mind but I think it is worth testing. I think it would be important if she shows any interest still after 2-3 minutes to get her to intro you to her friends all around, then go back to talking to her( I'd then use some of the Group Innoculation stuff I use (I think you can find it in “FR: College Girls!”) and a few of my old LRs. I would also frame future cockblocks by friends as Jealousy and how something about loving to go out with friends but I see them and know them and hang with them a lot so I don't mind getting a little distracted if a special opportunity comes along and REAL friends would get that. CJ
3 in the Works… Posted at August 10, 2009
Hola Gentlemen, This is a little update.. Went out last Sat. night. It was monumental. I worked a 2set (blonde hb7, brunette hb9) and had a helluva a time because the 7 was ALL over me almost from the get go. Her Persistence is unparalleled. She kept on coming. I almost gave in a couple of times. I thought about going with it and SNL’ing the 7 but the 9 was too ridiculously hot for me to pass. The 9 was holding back giving her friend all the chances, though I could tell I was attracting her. She purposely muted her responses so it made it harder on me to use Magnification Principle on her. The whole night it was a tightrope walk gently fending off the 7 without offending her and gradually shifting to the 9( She was a brunnette with the “Swing Bob” hairstyle. A perfect face, real slender body and a nose ring. Perfect teeth and beautiful lips. I opened them about 11:00 I think and the set ended at 1:20 am when they left. The 9 only had 2 drinks because she was driving them home. I kept gradually shifting convo towards the 9 and the 7 just kept reasserting herself. I would linger eye-contact with the 9 even while shifting to speak to the 7( I’d look the 9 up and down and then look her in the eyes. I would gently kino her hips and waist( Then, at one point I decided it had gone on long enough, while talking I looked at her and held eye-contact hardcore for a LONG time (basically eye-fucking her)( she held it back and then a slight smile started to spread. She got the point. Another 30-40 minutes passed and the 7 FINALLY went to the bathroom. Girl was tall and slender but had a bladder the size of a watermelon. I grabbed the 9 and whispered in her ear, “I think your friend likes me( She’s cool and sexy but I’ve had my eye on you all night. I think you’re sexy.” She said, “I’m glad you think that because I think you are sexy, too.” CJ: “This is cool. I wasn’t going to stay out tonight past 12 (I had told them this earlier) but I’m glad I did.” HB: “Me too.” Having her that close to me for that long actually created physical arousal in me which RARELY happens anymore. She did, however, reject my kiss close.
She said, “We hardly know each other” or “We just met.” — not sure
what that was about so it makes me wonder.
In any case, I have her number and we are going out this week. I made sure to use a lot of C&F during the couple of hours with them and give off player vibe because I have a natural tendency to lean towards LTR with the hotter more professional girls (she has a bachelor’s in MIS). They also do a lot more screening around this on D1 so I have to make a point to not give Agreement on that. The Hot College girl is back in town so I am going to call her tomorrow to set up a Date. She was out of town for the original TimeBridge which she agreed to( isn’t that interesting? She agreed even though she knew she’d be at the beach, which goes to show you she intuitively knew it was NOT about the actual day\time but more about us hanging out. The 7 I made out with on Tuesday is still on, too. So I’m going to set that up this week also. I don’t really like Day2s, though, so it is starting to feel like work( The only thing keeping me from rebelling is that I am really attracted to all of them (the 7 is cool and I am in a bit of a big booty phase). I have a definitive way of diagnosing where things are screwy along the Dynamics which I’ll be using on the dates to guide my communication and thus get Clarification and Agreement (btw, Agreement is “harmony in feeling” – this is the feeling that you two are in harmony on the 4 dynamics.) I’m willing to have any/all of them as FBs so that’s what I’ll be working towards. Captain Jack P.S. If you are good at designing logos and shit and are willing to trade my stuff for your work please email me at
[email protected] — P.P.S. I feel like the majority of the rust is off( but, I’m tackling bigger sticking points and cutting way down on the alcohol. Eventually, I am cutting out alcohol altogether. I have recently discovered a group who have been successfully breaking alcohol for about 30 years. First, they handle the physical component. Then, they have a method for discovering and rooting out the mental aspects( the REASONS you resort to it when you do. By handling these they are able to get someone to full abstinence (my goal). It interferes way too much with my life for me to let it continue.
Make Game Easy by Clarifying on the Game Dynamics Posted at August 19, 2009
Hola, The Game Dynamics posts have really gotten around. I’ve had DOUBLE the normal traffic and linking as my normal stuff and a lot of guys are resonating with it. It’s gotten to the point where I look at all the words out of her mouth, text messages or emails as attempts to Clarify on the Dynamics. I can HEAR which Dynamic is out of whack by the topics she brings up and stuff she says or questions she asks. Now that I know what she is getting at I can smoothly feed her the info she needs and ONLY the info she needs to get it Clarified. Sexual Framing, while elegant in itself, did a lot of this but did it somewhat sloppily compared to what I expect to create with this new model. MOST of the success you see PUAs from other systems getting comes from a boost in numbers/attempts, a boost in Intention+followup and the fact that women have high sex drives. (There’s also the added effect of having something to say so they are less likely to fuck things up.) Now, shit is getting much, much easier. It changes everything. It changes Sticking Point Analysis because now we look at SPs in terms of which Dynamic you are not Clarifying or Violating. If you are doing it and notice a pattern you can bust it and get a move forward( BUT, if you look at it from a higher viewpoint and see which Dynamic you are fucking up on then you handle MULTITUDES of SPs and potential SPs in one shot! Progress will go through the roof!
I’ve already handled a BIG SP I have with girls that I’m actually/truly interested in( cracked it wide open and dissolved it once I saw what it was( easy, easy, easy. Using SP Analysis in the previous fine-grained approach would’ve taken a LOT more time/effort and it would’ve reappeared down the road further in interactions. Texting and Phone Game becomes so much easier. You probably have recent text messages in your phone right now that are attempts by a girl to Clarify on Dynamic 2 (“playing the same game Together.”) Handling it via text CAN be done but it would’ve been so much easier (and more powerful and persuasive) to do it in person. If you do too much texting/phone without setting things up and getting back in front of her then you are creating Doubt on Dynamic 4 (You must demonstrate that you can carry her through the ObstaclesD first by handling them in her mind, then in the immediate environment then over time.) Shit that was “ON!” can fizzle really quickly if you create DOUBT here. Also, if original Agreement on Dynamic 2 was on an SNL type or “no strings attached” relationship then the prolonged and repetitive association with her day-to-day life can start undermining the original agreement as that begins to look like a diff. game! Can you see this? We now have a model and a methodical way to deduce WHERE our gaming attempts are going wrong!!! And, then apply fixes in our communication to make things seem to her like “it just happened!” This WILL create a huge jump just like Sexual Framing has!!! I predict it will have much more far reaching impact as we can begin to really get at the Game Rules (haven’t posted about this yet)( briefly, Game Rules are things that must be met or “not violated” in order for the Game to exist and operate( quick example: asking an FB if she is fucking anyone else is a violation of GR because it begins to blur the lines of the FB Game. Time frames will shorten and close ratios will go WAY UP. I am doing the Master Strategies Monthly audio on Game Dynamics in just a few days here. I REALLY think you should get it if you want Game to get much, much easier, less time consuming and less annoying. This is Gaming Elegance at it’s finest and there aren’t a bazillion steps to remember or keep track of( once you have conceptual understanding a simple question (in your head) to notice what she is attempting to Clarify and then your response to Clarify makes shit run so smooth it is ridiculous. When you sign up you’ll also get a Sexual Framing Audio (not the old free ones on my blog, the new advanced one with other PUAs asking questions for over an hour after the presentation) it’s one of the 4 from the Teleconference series. Plus, the previous recordings from the Master Strategies series. That’s 4 audios PLUS the upcoming game dynamics audio( then you’ll get another 9 additional over the next 9 months. That works out to something ridiculous like $17 per hour of audio. In the future, I’ll release even more audios on new techniques and ways to execute this stuff, starting with a reclassification of all the “standard” stuff in the community. Using a tactic or routine at the wrong time can really, really fuck things up! Once you have Clarified you’ll NEVER use certain tactics/communications with her again because it will only make you go backwards. This is why certain sets inexplicably unravel. Anyway, guys this is awesome new discovery( we ARE on to something that is going to SIMPLIFY and FORWARD gaming for the future. Hope to see you as a member of my group of PUAs going out and benefiting and really jumping to the cutting edge.
“I met your twin last night.” Posted at August 23, 2009
Hola bitches( (that’s a term of endearment) I know I’ve mentioned this before BUT it is so effective in getting communication lines back open that I think it deserves it’s own post( AND( I want you to try it out and post results in the comments, much like we did with the “starting to forget what you look like” text I told you guys about a while back. It’s real simple. You can use this on old blurred numbers or even girls you are still texting with but not getting anywhere. Text: “I met your twin last night.”
If she says, “where? what did she look like?” (The most common responses) I usually text back something like: “Short, chubby, red hair with freckles and a bowl cut( great personality.” Then, you can use the killer, “We should hang out soon, I’m starting to forget what you look like” and if she gives a positive response, set up a meet. Do it and let us know what happens in the comments! Captain Jack P.S. Early Sunday afternoons are the BEST time to text because the women are irritated about Fri/Sat night not working out for them. P.P.S. It’s not too late to get in on the “Master Strategies Monthly” program( just click the button below.
CaptainJack says: August 23, 2009 at 8:37 pm
It won't have anything to do with their age if they don't like it. It probably has to do with the initial interaction. Are you playful/teasing with them in the initial meet? Also, how does the “starting to forget” text go for you?
CaptainJack says: August 25, 2009 at 12:32 am
They always want to know “where?” and that's funny to me. You might be doing the “we should meet up soon(” text after a few more witty exchanges.
How to Meet, Attract and Seduce Women Using Game Dynamics Posted at September 2, 2009
Do you ever wonder why( • Sets that were going well suddenly unravel? • A girl who was all over you on the first meeting is acting like a church girl on the first date? • Things seem to work for others but not YOU? • A girl suddenly stops responding to calls or texts? • You do well at some venues but not others? • You do well with certain types of girls but not others? If meeting women and attracting women is frustrating, you’ve been spinning your wheels and can’t make any (or much) progress DESPITE working at it for awhile then there is a fundamental problem. Working harder won’t do a damn thing for you but continue to frustrate you and waste your time. I’ve already proven that what nearly every other PU guru says out there is just plain dead wrong. Social Pick-up is dead (or it should be)( It is retarded and is based on bullshit ideas. Social is the wrong thing to be. She is SICK of Social. Those are the nice guy losers she not only won’t have sex with but who she is actually REPULSED by( If you’ve been reading my stuff for any length of time you at least have SOME idea of where I am coming from. Right now, I am EXCITED because I’ve discovered the “Missing Link” to finding THE THING that is causing you trouble. And in just a few minutes, you’re gonna discover it, too. Here’s what it’s all about: Nearly everybody thinks attracting women is either a Social Game, an ‘Inner Game’ or a ‘X’ Game or all those things to different degrees. You open confidently, you do this technique, that technique, get a number, see her again and after some elapsed time you make a move.
And, sure( you need to do all those things( No getting around that. But, in terms of real progress, it is DEADLY to think it’s only those things. The guys who got good intuitively understand this( but not always in the right way. A lot of gurus will yak on and on about how important Inner Game is. How you gotta get your Inner Game on and get your confidence up and be a man and strengthen your ‘masculine core’ and other such things which CANNOT be demonstrated or taught. They have a point( You do need that stuff but it isn’t learned. It’s a Phenomena of this ‘Missing Link’ I’m talking about. And until you understand this ‘Missing Link,’ you will NEVER get where you want to go in terms of attracting women. Ever. (Sorry.) Listen: You’re going to be just as thrilled AND ecstatic as I am once you see what I’m talking about here. It will change everything about Game (and life) for you( and it will: • Make your skillset more stable( (forget about wild and unexplainable swings. If weird shit happens you’ll know WHY and how to fix it.) • Instantly detect where SHE is at in the interaction and precisely what you need to do next to baby-step it towards your Goal. • TRULY feel more confident in interactions. • SEE and notice opportunities in the field and in-set that you’ve never noticed before. • And literally FORCE your Game Plan to be more precise, accurate and effective! And the best part is(
It’s REALLY Simple! Have you ever had been watching a mystery movie and you solved the crime halfway through? The other people watching it with you are still completely in the dark and making these wild statements about who did what and using earlier scenes to tell you why( and it all sounded so ridiculous you couldn’t believe they were so dumb? If so, then you have a feeling of what it is like for me when I’m crushing old Pick-up ideas left and right using this new ‘Missing Link.’ It’s a Process that anyone can run. I’ve run it on myself a few times and each time I see things clearer and clearer and results go through the roof. I know this sounds too good to be true – but, this “missing link” process really is just like suddenly discovering you can do something that no one else seems able to do. That’s because it has nothing at all to do with the anything anyone in the community has ever discussed,nothing at all to do with the whatever half-baked InnerGame ideas that any of the gurus are talking about( no magic crystals, or ‘energy vortexes’ or ‘loving and stroking your masculine side’( and nothing at all to do with anything that any regular guru would suggest to try to “fix” your Game. Here’s an email I got from someone who just recently got this ‘missing link’ a few days ago:
Dude, I have been in this so called community for years now, while I get lucky here and there.. (way more then before I started).. I always end up losing or messing out on potentially good opportunities, i take that back, great opportunities. I’ve always known that it had to do something with reframing my way of thinking about some part of the interaction, but It didnt really make much sense until I heard the last two pieces you sent. fuck, its like i been stuck in my own little mental cell. I’m definitely going to put this plan of action in play. Ever since I read your modified strawberry fields test some where on the web, I knew you had a unique view about thist, the sexual framing part I have lacked for years now. You want to know what this is? Of course you do. And I’m going to reveal it to you. Right now. Come closer. Closer. Listen: The secret is( HOW YOU SEE THINGS! Or, the better way of saying it is ‘Your Viewpoint.’ Now, don’t think for a second you know what I mean by “Viewpoint.” It’s not your attitude or belief or anything like that( It goes much deeper and it is a mind phenomena that I saw at work in me and others.
Forget about all the tactics, strategies, body language and all that shit you ‘know.’ You could know EVERY POSSIBLE pick-up routine and if your Viewpoint is fucked( so are you. You won’t execute the tactics at the right time or you’ll OVER do it( or, forget( or not see the opportunity. The list goes on. Basically, the mind avoids confusion by grabbing onto a basic ordering idea. It is ‘good’ because it brings you out of confusion and helps you operate/interact with your environment( It is ‘bad’ because it only allows you to ‘see’ things that jive with it( Bad ‘Basic Ordering Idea’ and you’ve got REAL TROUBLE. It clouds, skews and keeps you from seeing what is actually happening. Problem is( once you’ve adopted it, the Basic Ordering Idea DISAPPEARS from immediate conscious view. You aren’t aware of it( you are only able to see the ideas and inputs IT organizes! Those ideas and inputs are anchored and have the appearance of HARD REALITY. The plain fact is( and this is what separates the great ones from the guys having shitloads of trouble( there’s a very destructive ILLUSION going on. There is stuff happening in the real world( then, there’s the stuff that ‘The Viewpoint’ magnifies and notices and the stuff that it ignores or writes off( ‘The Viewpoint’ is the reason why you don’t make or make very little progress. You can never get better than it allows you to( it creates an artificial upper limit on your results! And, no matter how much work you do( no matter how many sets you open( no matter how many Pick-up Systems you learn( you’ll be kept captive by ‘The Viewpoint.’ What you THINK you see is NOT what is actually happening. What no pick up guru (who cares about actually training and getting his students GOOD!) – has realized is that( The Viewpoint Completely SCREWS You Every Time You Are In the Field! The ability to discover, then dismantle, and then REPLACE the basic ordering idea the Viewpoint is attached to is what is going to separate you from the pack! The guys who got good either did this on accident or (more likely) never had a very limiting basic ordering idea to begin with( They don’t know what they’ve done to get past the illusion created by the Viewpoint! Imagine a simple discovery and correction boosting your game. Previous tactics that NEVER worked for you now work BECAUSE you can see when and how to use them and you do it EASILY. Imagine KNOWING where she is at and what to do next( this is the most shocking thing to see in my opinion. Girls are READY far more quickly than we’ve previously suspected! The plain fact is( you can be awkward, average looking and even selectively lazy( and STILL get good at Game. It is NATURAL and sex is simple. But ONLY if you’ve conquered the viewpoint created illusion. Okay, I’m not going to tease you any more. I can’t teach you this process here in a blog post, because it takes a bit of explanation and drilling. You’ve got to HEAR it and then do it for yourself. It’s an audio that is about an hour long and will take you about another hour or so to do the process on yourself. But once you do, you’ll start seeing and feeling shit you never have before. You’ll be amazed and wonder how you missed it( You’ll also say ‘No wonder!’ at a lot of the stuff that happens in set when you get to the basic ordering idea. It will take you about an hour to listen but only a few minutes for the realizations to start setting in( Then, it’s time to do the process on yourself AND see how things change next time you go out! And that’s it. You’ll have corrected the illusion that is the SOURCE of all your misery in Game. Simple. Easy. Fast. The way to get it is to get the “Master Strategies Monthly” program. Not only will you get this specific audio( you’ll get the ‘Sexual Framing Mastery’ audio, the “Crush Mental Barriers” audio, the audio on “Recorded Voice” and the brand new “Game Dynamics” audio. That’s 5 audios you’ll get now PLUS 9 more, one per month, for the next 9 months! Simply click the link below to order Master Strategies Monthly Or, here’s a 3 payment option: Master Strategies Monthly 3-Pay Hope to hear of your successes with this new stuff! Captain Jack
Lay Report: Seducing Two Women Back to Back SNLs and a 3some? Posted at September 7, 2009
Crazy weekend for me. I started off Friday. Rolled out solo and ran into Vector and some D-Lair guys. Chatted with Vector a little bit and they mentioned they were going to a diff place across the street. Really wasn’t much out. The only 2 girls I wanted were already invested with guys and I pussed out by not opening this tall thin Latina, easily the hottest girl there and probably one of the hottest anywhere she goes. About 1:15 or so I start chatting with this blonde nurse, we start dancing and then sit at a table. I could tell by the conversation this was essentially a done deal so I just chilled and did some physical escalation. (When you are clear on all the dynamics you don’t do anything because it can make her think you don’t get what is going on, then you’ll probably have to go back and clear them.) Her (hideously fat) friend was having a girl conference with her trying to decide if she was going to bang the cop she was with( They were pretty blatant about it and talked about it right in front of me( I told the nurse something like, “She should. Sex is fun and really enjoyable. Two adults should be able to do whatever they want without worrying about it. I’m not judgemental blah, blah, blah(” but that is the only frame I set. I don’t think I needed to do it but since it was out there I figured I might as well explicitly handle it. At the end of the night she blatantly asked, “Are you going to take me home with you?” Awesome body which she attributed to doing yoga several times a week. (All girls should have to do yoga.) I drove her back to her car in the morning and she took my number and texted “call me sometime.” One set, one lay. I sleep most of the day Saturday and wake up happy as shit that I don’t have a hangover. I want to check out a bar in Fort Worth that I haven’t been to in years but it doesn’t get started until 11:00-11:30( I find if I get out that late that I have a little trouble getting situated mentally as I honestly can’t stand bars/clubs/alcohol/smoke/crowds( so I go to my local place with plans to leave at 11:00 for the other place. Again, not really that many hot girls. There are 2 in a 3set (2 hot girls and one blonde elephant). The hot girls are doing lesbianish dance moves all over each other and I’m liking it because it is them basically broadcasting to all the dudes that they want penis. Problem #1: They are at a table (hate opening seated sets). Problem #2: They are at the OTHER side of the bar against the wall. Which means I would have to walk across the bar to open them. At that point I would have to go direct. Damnit. I mentally decide I will do it right before I leave for the other bar if one of the hot ones doesn’t break away and head to the bar. (That’s actually a sign I look for( some girls have realized that breaking away from their gfs for a bit will get them opened so they do it. Watch for it. I promise you’ll start to see it happen. Open them, it puts the odds a bit more in your favor). Right about that time the Blonde elephant rumbles across the dance floor and she’s heading towards me( oh, shit. I’m going to have to deftly reject a fatty without pissing her off and ruining my chances of having sex with one of her human female acquaintances. The elephant’s momentum grinds to a stop a few feet short of me( She wasn’t coming for me! She came for the blond dude with a little boy haircut and his friend! She takes them to the table to talk to the two hotties. I find this interesting because the 2 guys are presented with a golden opportunity and it’s so painfully obvious they have no fucking clue what to do. The girls bail leaving the dudes at their table about 15 minutes later. Now there are NO hot girls in the venue and I’m getting ready to leave when I spy a Vanessa Hudgens look alike( sitting with 3 dudes. Oh well, I stare at her and catch her eye. She smiles and stares back.
Hmm( this could be interesting. I move to my bird’s nest spot putting me right in front of her. We keep exchanging glances for the next 20 minutes or so. I’m debating what to do( I want her but there will be dozens of girls I want at the venue I’m going to instead of just one in the worst possible situ at this one( decisions, decisions. She makes it easy on me by walking right past me. Ninjitsu ensues and about one minute later I am sitting at her table with her. The guys are pissed. They are talking shit about me and I act like I don’t hear and keep talking to her. (I am on her left hand side and they are across and to her right). Long story short, one was her ex bf who wants her back and the other acts like he is her big brother. In between me talking to her they are arguing about my presence. This makes me want to win even more. What better revenge? She says that she has to leave and gets my number, kissing me real quick and going with them. I text her at 2:30 am and she arrives at 3:10am. One set, one lay. —– Early Sunday night I am thinking I am too tired to go out. My stomach muscles hurt. But, it’s a holiday night and it always seems like those end up being crazy! I talk to Sinn on the phone about the past two nights. He says I need to try to keep the streak going. I decide he’s right and start getting myself mentally geared towards going out. I see AceOfHeartSS at the bar and I like to see him out because he actually opens. After coming back from the rest room he is talking to a cute tall blonde. About that time, I open 2 hot asians. I can’t even remember what I said something like “It’s a good thing you are hot because you are tiny.” or something silly like that. They are immediately all over me. I pick the short one up and she screams and hugs me tight. I tease them a few times and have a normal conversation for a bit and towards closing time I walk them to the car and get in. Things are going well so I hatch a plan: Bang Two Hot Asians. Problem #1: I’m drunk. The 2 nights of drinking caught up with me this night and I only seemd to have half my normal tolerance. This impairs my almost flawless strategic abilities. Whenever I escalate with one the other interrupts. At one point the shorter asian is straddling me in the back seat giving me a lap dance while I am trying to rub the other’s boobies through her shirt. I’m thinking( holy shit, this is going to be a cold approach SNL 3some. Not so fast. (God has other plans.) They actually start talking about who is going to fuck me. Right in front of me. I’m sitting in the back seat now. They are in the front. Asian #1: “I want you to(” Asian #2: “No, you should go home with him. I can tell you like him.” Asian #1: “You saw him first.” I’m sitting back there dumbfounded. I can’t speak. Perhaps they thought they were speaking Asianish instead of English( It’s really strange to have people talking about you like you are not there and this is the 2nd night in a row it has happened to me. I want to say, “No problemo laides( I’ll pound the shit out of both of you!” Instead I say, “Let’s go to my hot tub.” I am confused. They are confused. They can’t work out who gets to fuck me and like a dumbass I should’ve just decided. That’s all I would’ve had to do( Asian #1 says, ‘I have to drop her off at home.’ what would the proper thing for me to do? “Ok, cool, gimme your number.” Then what? Then I wait 15 minutes and text her to come see me.
Simple, right? Not to a confused drunk man. To a confused drunk man that is like Calculus to a retard. So, I get nothing. Damnit. Captain Jack
CaptainJack says: September 8, 2009 at 12:55 am
Yes, I know. It sucks. I also realized that I had only 1 meal on Sunday so that combined with 2 nights of drinking and not much sleep all conspired to fuck things up. I really wasn't thinking correctly. 999 times out of 1,000 I would turn that into at least a lay. Sucks! But such is this adventure called Game!
Tommy T says: February 9, 2011 at 1:00 am
really? how often do you get laid when you are single and you go out?
captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 11:04 am
That depends on if I am really trying to get laid or if I’m researching/experimenting/playing/being lazy( If I’m going out to get laid it is 70-80% of the time. My most recent run was 3 lays in 4 nights. Then, I got bored and stopped going out for 4-5 months. I have to have a challenge or I get bored.
Approaching Women Direct With The Game Dynamics Posted at September 14, 2009
*** This is a repost( The original and all the AWESOME comments got deleted in a WordPress upgrade mishap! Luckily I had saved the text of the post in Word *** In response to one of my blog posts on “Approaching and Seducing Women with Game Dynamics” a commenter had this question which was enthusiastically echoed by another reader. Here are the comments: Owen said: I have a question about the last article. Considering game dynamics (best way of getting laid and connecting with women) it’s not better to go direct and clarify your intention? I mean the rest is all done by passive acceptance of the frame or I am wrong? Jim said: Great question! Doesn’t going Direct make it clear to her that you are a Player? Anxiously awaiting CJ’s response To clarify the Game Dynamics are: All Games are Based on Agreement. Game Dynamic 1: You and her must agree you are both Players in a Game you both want to play. Game Dynamic 2: You and her must agree you are both playing the same Game TOGETHER. Game Dynamic 3: You must show her that you VALUE her Game Goal.
Game Dynamic 4: You must demonstrate that you can carry her through the ObstaclesD first by handling them in her mind, then in the immediate environment then over time. So, you have to get agreement on all 4 Dynamics and KEEP agreement until you can actually achieve the Game Goal. I have nothing against Direct Approach to meet women( Direct works. I’ve used it and I’ve seen others use it for great effect. However, I don’t think it is an optimum move. You want your opening move to be the one that gives you the highest probabilities of getting to the next stage. In some cases, direct has such an effect that it blows past all the stages. If you couple this with the fact that women DO love sex and are sometimes just ready to go at it then you get some success. The problem is I think it lowers your overall probabilities. Let’s look at it from a Game Dynamics viewpoint with my last lay report. Here was a girl who was obviously down( But( she was there with her ex-boyfriend (who still wanted her) and a ‘big brother’-type guy friend. (Now don’t we know that almost all ‘big brother’ types are basically guys who still want to have sex with her but don’t know how to make it happen?) She and I had exchanged hard eye contact and smiles several times. Would’ve been fairly easy for me to Direct Approach. But, it would’ve blown out Dynamic 4 and ended my chances. Now, I don’t agree with Mys’ idea that everyone else in the set is an Obstacle but in this case they were definitely Obstacles because we had Counter Intentions. An Obstacle is defined by Counter Intentions not by simply NOT being your Target. I’ve had nonTargets be ALLIES in set. I’ve also had circumstances where I have opened 2sets and discovered the Target was out with her boyfriend’s sister. How would Direct fare, then? Of course, you could decide, “Well, it would save me time!” Perhaps, if you’re not good or you have no intention of getting Supremely Good at Game. But, history shows that a Boyfriend is often a trifling matter! The Game Strategist opts for Low Investment Openers, indirect approaches to meet women or the social type openers like, “How’s everyone tonight?” and discovering what’s deal. He picks his optimum move at every step( and she loves him for it. So, my conclusion is: Sure you might be passing Dynamic 1 with flying colors by going Direct but could be destroying any chance/opportunity of getting agreement on any other Dynamic by destroying Dynamic 4. You COULD also be violating a few Game Rules (like “Protect Social Reputation”) depending on what Game is her natural preference. Captain Jack P.S. The Game Dynamics audio has been recorded and is being delivered along with all the past “Master Strategies Monthly” audios. You can read more at “How to Pick Up Girls Using The Game Dynamics”
Student Success: Breaks Through Barriers Approaching and Attracting Women Posted at September 16, 2009
This guy has been working hard. He’s taken the eCoaching bootcamp and he’s on the Master Strategies Monthly program. His ability to approach, attract and seduce women are on the upswing as evidenced by his multitude of dates and the lays are beginning. He’s breaking NEW ground for the first time in years!
I’ve been studying game for almost 2 years. The progress that I’ve made during the first 1.5 years was very little. I was spending a lot of time reading everybody’s stuff and as a result I got confused and my game was not improving much. In the past 6 months I’ve made more progress than I’ve made in the 1.5 years before that. One of the main things that enabled me to make the progress is your teaching methods. Your understanding of game fundamentals helped build my game plan and learn how to fix sticking points and improve over time. You’ve also helped me understand and
solve inner game issues that were holding back my progress and taught me sexual framing. I think one the main things that made the change was the xxxxx exercise in one of the Master Strategies bonuses. It helped me get over inner issues and boost my confidence. Thanks to you I was able to break through a few major barriers that held down my game. After making this breakthrough my game learning process became much faster and I see the results in the field. — David from NYC. My pleasure! It really PUMPS me up to get emails like this( This guy has been working hard and it’s been paying off. Captain Jack P.S. By the way, I’m working on totally revamping the way Pick-up is taught. It’s taken me into a study of how people learn, psychometric testing, diagnostics, gradient scales and a whole bunch of other stuff. To make a long story short, the community is fucked up in the way it teaches men Pick-up. I plan to change it for good. I’ll make the first post on this in another day or two.
How to Get Moving in Pick-up… Almost Immediately… Even if You’re Stuck and Everything Else You’ve Tried Has Failed! Posted at September 17, 2009
I’ve had a little ‘secret’ I’ve been using for a few years now that has given me a huge advantage in attracting and seducing women. It doesn’t have much at all to do with ‘female psychology’ or ‘social blah, blah theorems of socialness’ or any such dumb things. It has to do with what I am calling treacherous data. That’s any idea that supports, allows or creates behaviors that work COUNTER to your goals. What most people don’t realize is that the data you have makes what you can DO possible and therefore puts boundaries on what you can HAVE. The community is FILLED with treacherous data. In fact, 90% of it is so. Not only that, they have no idea of the relative importance of data, the proper sequence of events, the time component of data, differentiation of data and a WHOLE lot of other things that really matter in becoming a MASTER at something. One of my secrets has been a method that I use to discover the treacherous data, blow it out and then show someone how to come to a new conclusion (their own conclusion, not mine). Once this is done the PUA’s effectiveness increases markedly. Why? Well, because even if they have the skill that’s only ONE part of it. You have to know WHEN to use it, when NOT to use it and WHO to use it on. Having a skill doesn’t mean you’ll use it at the right times and in the right way. The actual skills of pick-up aren’t that complicated. There are only a few things you have to do. Learning them takes a few weeks max, then a few months of drilling and that’s it. The skill part of pick-up is really only a 4-6 month job. Really, that’s it. But, because of bad data, incorrect viewpoints, wrong sequences we’ve been busting our asses for years. Aren’t you tired of that yet? Shit man, I got tired of it real quick. Look, if you know all the skills but aren’t getting results you have treacherous data holding you hostage. Here’s something else sure to piss you off: If you are out there banging your head in pick-up with NO or little success, you are getting more and more skilled at FAILURE! That’s right( You are actually drilling failure right into your body-mind. Going out night after night,
doing the right things at the wrong time, doing the wrong things when you should be doing something else( Locking those wrong behaviors in deeper and deeper. Getting more and more disillusioned as time goes on( Switching gurus isn’t going to help( learning a new system isn’t going to help( doing MORE sets isn’t going to help (in fact, it could make things worse)( I know, it sucks. Have the past months and years been a total waste then? No. Not at all. See, when the data is blown out and new realizations gained ALL of that experience is still in your head. It now gets viewed properly and becomes Calibration Points for the future! Blowing out the data re-syncs you with Reality and helps you to see things as they really are( not as your bad data skews them. The result is a huge leap in effectiveness! Have you ever thought about what you really want in your life in regards to women? It’s important to think about this because it’s the only way to get clarity and to know if you are moving towards your goal or just stalled out. Whatever you want in your life with regards to women you can have. The end result of a Be The Seducer trained PUA is: A PUA who can easily and happily create, maintain and end the exact KIND of relationships he wants with the type of women he chooses. (I’ll be talking much more about that in upcoming posts.) That’s what I want for you. That’s what I have been working these last few months like crazy on. By knowing what I want for you and knowing what YOU want, I can figure out what’s missing and give corrective actions for you to drill on to boost your success. I have a way to question you, discover where the initial problems lie and a catalog of processes to bust you out of them. I can bust the treacherous data holding you back thus FREEING you up to get what you want! If you’re stuck in pick-up and getting little to no results then I can help. Unfortunately, this can’t be done over email. It can’t be done on a group call, either. It is too personalized. The only way to do it is one-one-one via phone, just you and me and the processes. Here’s how it works: 1. We get on the phone and I begin questioning you to get an idea of where you are and what the ROOT CAUSES. This is the diagnostic part of the call. 2. I begin making you aware of the ROOT CAUSES. Many times the awareness of them will blow them out completely. (Treacherous data is always hidden from view). 3. I give you processes to sync you back in line with reality. You’ll come to your OWN conclusions and they’ll WORK because your sexuality is INNATE! 4. We’ll talk about what you are going to do in-field over the next week or two and I’ll give you some assignments. But, that’s just the first call. After your field experience we do this again! Layers and layers of false data BLOWN OUT and skills and abilities regained! The minimum is 2 calls but 3 is recommended. There is no maximum time limit on the call, it takes as long as it takes so you’ll want to do it when you have a few hours free. (The last one I did for someone took about 2 hours). I have Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday of next week available. Are you ready to get unstuck and start (finally!) getting what you want? If so, I hope you’ll let me help you. 2 Call Package: Treacherous Data Destruction Signup 3 Call Package: Treacherous Data Destruction Signup Captain Jack P.S. There is a guarantee of sorts( Thirty minutes after the first call you are going to hear a timer go “ding!” At that point, I’m going to stop and ask you if you want to keep going. If you aren’t getting anything out of it, think I’m full of shit, or whatever then all you have to do is say “No.” We can stop right there and I’ll give you back your money. No hard feelings.
Sherlock Holmes, Bitches! Posted at January 19, 2010
A couple of quick points for now (and more in the coming days): 1. I’m not dead. But, I HAVE been doing a little bit of gaming. Got 3 in a row last weekend and it was EASY beyond belief. Game Dynamics makes it so damn easy it is scary. The very idea that you can focus on NOT broadcasting the wrong Game and it puts you 80% of the way there is mind-boggling. However, I suspect most Gurus would NEVER pick up on it or tout it for the simple fact that it would be damn hard to make a complicated, convoluted, tactic-packed product out of it, much less a whole system. The better you understand things, the more down to the basics you get, the SIMPLER things are( not the more complex. Over time your PU should get easier, quicker and smoother with less techniques. Boggles, huh? 2. Master Strategies Monthly: For you guys who purchased it the last was audio #4 “Similarities and Differences.” I have a few testimonials that I’ll be publishing soon about the exercise that helps you break apart the “Mental Mass” that causes you almost every problem when it comes to makin’ sweet luuuuuv to women. If you haven’t received that audio then you probably weren’t correctly added to the notification list (it happened to one guy). I am finishing up two new audios right now and will have one out in the very near future. 3. The survey in my last post: I haven’t finished going through all the responses but let me say that the ones I have read (about the first 70) were both eye-opening and heartbreaking (as much breaking as a pirate heart can break). I’m going to use the responses to drive future blog posts to help you guys out. 4. Sherlock Holmes! I might’ve taken this as my “PUA” name had I thought of it first. I want to make another point on the points I mentioned in #1. Stuff only gets complex because you can’t see things (at all) or you can’t see things clearly. The main reason you can’t see things is because you decided NOT to look or you FEAR something about looking, often both. Take that away and then you’ve got the ability to see what is happening and the ability to change it. The actual mechanics of pick-up aren’t that complicated at all. There really aren’t a lot of tactics or techniques. Most of the tactics floating around in the various systems are corrections of shit you did wrong earlier in the interaction or buffers against common future fuck-ups. Remove the core problems and the need for most of the tactics disappear. A full and final system of pick-up would: 1. diagnose what the PUA could not see (i.e. was unable to look at) and correcting it. 2. Remove all the false shit from his head. 3. Extrovert him socially 4. Teach him something like Game Dynamics. Captain Jack (a.k.a. The Sherlock Holmes of Pick-up!)
Actions Flow with Less Hesitation and More Creativity Posted at February 14, 2010
Here’s a recent testimonial for the latest MSM release on the discover of a meaningful, WORKABLE definition of Alpha Male. The community talks a lot about it BUT it is meaningless, actionless, screwed up ideas instead of something you can actually put to use.
Sup CJ, I really liked this audio and have been trying to implement it. Instead of trying to make all these calculations, I just try to think “How do I turn this current situation into my ideal situation?” I notice that my actions flow a lot quicker without hesitation and more creatively using this mindset in field. The more complicated you make things, the harder to implement in field. Once again, you continue to blow my mind.
I have always had this gut feeling that your stuff is on another level than other PUAs. I am really curious as to how you come up with all this stuff?? How do you generate all these new concepts and how come no one else is saying anything similar? -Derrick Berkeley, California Thanks for the testimonial! The answer to your question is actually in the First MSM audio AND this one. I use the “widening the responsibility circle” concept I discussed in the Alpha audio. I start with something small, think of the Ideal scene, get it right and then widen the area of responsibility. All while focusing on what’s REALLY happening instead of making calculations on past data. For almost all of us, the past is being projected into the future because of our reliance on conclusions based on the past for false safety. We mistake thoughts for things and get stuck. A thought has no mass, location or time( neither does a decision, neither does a belief. Captain Jack If you don’t have the Master Strategies Monthly product, sign up now and you’ll get 7 audios right off the bat!
The Force Principle of Game Dynamics Posted at February 18, 2010
In light of my recent work in laying down a workable, meaningful definition of Alpha a few more things have come to light that have excited me greatly. Number 1: The Magnification Principle has always been a fantastic principle to follow, but it makes even more sense now in light of the Alpha and Game Dynamics. For those of you new to my blog (and those of you who need a refresher), the Magnification Principle is simply to take anything she says or does that helps your goal and draw attention to it. On the other hand, you’d IGNORE anything that didn’t help you. Here’s a quote from the original blog post about this on August 29, 2007:
Because what you give attention to (either positive or negative) gets magnified. There’s a metaphysical belief that says: “Energy flows where attention goes.” Put your words/attention on her bad behavior and you give it energy. My #1 rule says to IGNORE stuff that doesn’t serve you and MAGNIFY what advances the seduction. When she does something good for you or something you appreciate, praise it. I often praise a woman for her sexual freedom and appetite. This magnifies it. I’m calling it The Magnification Principle and it’s a core principle of Zen Ninja seduction. Now, let’s look at this in terms of Game Dynamics. In Game Dynamics the driving principle is Agreement. Magnification increases Agreement. (Thus, you need to be extremely careful WHAT you Magnify.) Another driving principle is Clarity. You must KNOW what Game is being played before you can really understand and agree to it. Magnification clarifies. Now, let’s think in terms of Games. We know that Games have teammates, obstacles, goals and rules. What I want to draw your attention most to is how you win games. The way to win most games (I mean real/competitive games, not synchronized swimming or whatever) is to score the most points in the allotted time. This is nothing more than being able to deliver more directed force over the allotted time than the others. The hockey player who dribbles the puck down the ice and flings it toward the goalie with the most directed force has the best chance of scoring for his team. Thus, we have the idea of Force (or perhaps Velocity) in the Game Dynamics. The amount of directed Force you can apply to each Dynamic in the quickest manner possible the better your chances of success.
Using this idea we can streamline all seductions to take an even shorter amount of time. By examining each dynamic in light of the Game you are playing and then creating a Baiting statement to get on the subject along with ready made statement(s) to gain quick and complete agreement, you could blast through all 4 Dynamics with ease and very, very quickly. This is what I spent the one weekend I was able to go out in January . It yielded 3 cold approach same night lays in a row, fri, sat and sunday. Directed Force is the domain of the Alpha, combined with Game Dynamics we reach another level of pick-up sophistication. It has made me at least 2-3 times better in the month I’ve been applying it. Captain Jack P.S. Sit down and think about how to apply this! It will be well worth it. P.P.S. I’m thinking of doing a 3 week coaching and teleconference program that incorporates Game Dynamics, the Alpha principle and some of my newer works. If you are the least bit interested email me ASAP
[email protected] with “Force Program” in the subject line.
Vector Approaching Technique Posted at February 19, 2010
Based on the new definition of Alpha, combined with the principle of Force and Magnification( Step 1: Find hot girl. Step 2: Look hot girl up and down. Step 3: Imagine her smiling and introducing herself to you. Step 4: Ask yourself, “If she liked me, how would she want me to approach her?” Step 5: Smile and do it. Captain Jack P.S. Do it and let me know how it goes in the comments! P.P.S. Master Strategies Monthly guys, can you see how this technique was derived from the material in the audios? Can you see why it works?
CaptainJack says: February 22, 2010 at 6:08 pm
The point of this is to NOT think of it in any way other than with the question applied in real-time. Does she know anything about the principles of active and passive attraction? Does she know anything about what has and hasn't worked for you in the past? Empty mind.
Getting Women to Approach You and The Recognition of Non-Verbal Communication on a Gradient Scale Posted at March 4, 2010
So, last Saturday night I get the urge to go out. But, before I tell you the story, I need to give you a bit of background: One of the tenets of the scientific method is that if you have a theory that explains a piece of data you should be able to PREDICT something you haven’t previously noticed. If the thing you predicted can be verified in the real world then you gain more confidence in
your theory and may even come upon new sources of data that will further expand your research, yielding better theories, yielding better principles, yielding more vagina. (I added that last part). One of the theories that I derived is that women consider the opening of courtship to occur LONG before what we consider to be the opening of courtship. How many women COMPLAIN that men just don’t get it( that the WRONG men approach them, that men approach them in the WRONG way. Well, shit, pretty much ALL of them. We know that women don’t really have ‘physical’ types that have any real meaning in a one-on-one seduction like men do. So, what (the fuck) are they talking about? If the WRONG men approach them then there must be RIGHT men. Who are these RIGHT men? Remember how before the community you were pretty damn invisible to all women except maybe some random encounter you chalked up to an accident or, perhaps, a few girls in your social circle. You didn’t know about Approach Invitations (AIs) and never even noticed them( and, if a girl did look your way you wondered if there was toilet paper stuck to your shoe or there was something wrong with your hair( ( well, what I’m talking about happens EVEN earlier than an AI. There is a scale of Non-Verbal Awareness that women engage in much, much earlier than men do. (Probably, because we are staring at tits as they float by, or asses as they bob along). The earlier you become aware of the steps on this scale, the sooner you can begin working it to your advantage. I consistently get opened (and pursued) by women. This is new technology that I’ve been working on since July of last year and have used successfully in my last 10 or so lays( I want to get it out there so you guys can start experimenting with it. I am going to be talking MUCH more about it in the upcoming FORCE*21 Teleseminar program, including how to use it in ANY environment. I’ve used it at bookstores, gas stations, bars even shopping malls and restaurants. It gets you opened about as much or more as peacocking. The Gradient Scale of Non-Verbal Communication 1. Extroversion to others and the environment 2. Intention to enter awareness of others (number 1 and 2 are interlocked) 3. Visual scans for awareness of others (you’ve seen this before( a girl is with a group of friends or a guy and as she talks she is looking around the room at others). 4. Exaggerated (or sexual) gestures and/or movement of body position to attract awareness of others 5.Visual focus on other(s) —–> (could he be a Player in a Game I want to play? (Dynamic 1)) ———->If so, give AI. 6. Acknowledgment of the other person’s visual contact 7. A signal of Appreciation for the other person’s contact ——-> (both girls and guys are often not successful with their AIs because they mess these two up) 8. Modification of Body Position in Space towards the person while keeping appreciation signals in If all you did was noticed number 3 occurring , then locked eyes, acknowledge her eye contact with a smile and reorient your body towards her you’d be so far ahead of every chump in there she’d probably open you.Or, if you simply noticed number 3 occurring and then went and opened your success rate would sky rocket. Using this simple awareness has gotten me opened more times than I can count now. If you did this AND opened many sets, you would steal the entire venue. I did this very thing last Saturday night. There were a few girls having a blast because one the birthday girl was drunk and acting crazy. I noticed one of the girls kept on doing #3. The second time I noticed she had done it I made sure to be looking her way( she saw me looking( she looked back at her group for another minute or two. By this time I had tilted slightly to see her out of my peripheral. The next time she did #3 she limited her range. I caught her eyes exactly, I locked and gave a slight nod (#6), I smiled (#7), I turned ever so slightly (#8). She smiled back. About 1 minute later she was standing next to me. But she didn’t say anything. I smiled real big next time she looked at me( she opened with something lame. We talked. She told me about this game called “words with friend” for the iPhone. I told her my nerd-o-meter was going off big time. Long story short, it was her way of getting my number.
We have a Day2 set up. (She’s ridiculously hot so I don’t mind doing a Day2). So, watch for #3 *AND* follow the steps exactly. If THEY are using this formula it is because it matches their reality( if you match it to you are head and shoulders above every other guy in the place. Captain Jack P.P.S. FORCE*21 starts on March 11th. It is limited to 30 guys. 10 have already signed up. If you are the least bit interested simply email me
[email protected] with FORCE 21 in the subject line. P.P.S. I’m also going to be releasing an Extroversion Calibration Drill that you can use to become more extroverted and aware in the next couple of days. Introversion is one of the REAL enemies of every PUA.
Force*21 Posted at March 5, 2010
I have created a program to help you crack the back of your most persistent sticking points. It is called Force*21 and it has the potential to spring you to the next level in a mere 21 days. Force*21 Is not a bunch of theory. It is not a bunch of rehashed techniques. It is the application of my newest technology to YOUR Game with me as a guide. It will crack the back of your most persistent sticking points and spring you to the next level. I want you to have my new technology. Pick-up for me is so easy now, I seriously doubt very many have reached this level in history. I don’t say this lightly( or, to brag. I have studied the works of the famed Casanova and others so I know what I am measuring up against. Again, not bragging here( I just want to get this across to you( there is no reason for you to suffer. The strides I have made in these last few months, starting with the Game Dynamics and the discovery of the true definition of Alpha will turn out a new batch of world-class PUAs. You have to remember, no one was talking about Same Night Lays and Sexual Framing with any real reproducible tech behind it before me. Most thought it was impossible and when it did happen they thought it was fool’s mate( until we started teaching men to get them on a regular basis. The Force21 program is a concentrated 21-day push to get you to the next level. When you sign up you’ll get the following as background material: 1. MSM Audio: The Only Real and Workable Definition of Alpha 2. MSM Audio: Game Dynamics 3. Framing Mastery Call #2: Sexual Framing Mastery 4. Videos: Sticking Point Analysis Videos 5. Audio: The Force21 pre-kick-off bonus call( where I describe what we are going to do and answer a few questions. This material goes in descending “Area of Control” so you are applying force against the current reality within each band of influence. Applying it this way makes you more congruent and powerful in all your actions. This information allows you to strike at the point of greatest leverage and produce REAL and LASTING change, without all the struggle and frustration. The comments from subscribers are already pouring in. Here are just a few:
“When I heard your Game Dynamics I instinctively knew it was the truth. It matched my own reality. Genius! Since then I have been thinking of current interactions and past interactions and been trying to figure out which of the dynamics I violated and how I could possibly clarify or fix them in future.” — Matt W. “The background audio’s are great, you are making interactions with women a whole lot clearer for me, i feel a great sense of freedom and power in that i am starting to see my actual purpose of what is happening and what to do in interactions. Massive respect.” — S. E.
“I have really been trying hard to implement your stuff and I am loving the Alpha male material especially because it is so simple yet so powerful. I literally am thinking all the time “how can I turn this ZZZZ into ZZ ZZZZZ scene?” The result – a lot of action.” — D. C. It is an all-out assault for 21-days. You’ll also get 3 teleconference audios on mp3. These are the recordings of the teleseminars the original students went through. You’ll hear me give out the drills step-by-step and answer all their questions in detail. (I believe one call went over 2 hours long while answering questions.) The goal is to have you crack the next level (for you) of Pick-up, to learn to supply the Action-Ideal Scene principle, to discover HOW to Extrovert (people tell you to be but no one shows you HOW), to get rid of ‘Stuck Flows’ which keep you from getting the hottest women and more( The newer insights are coming faster than I can document them and I want you to have them as soon as possible. There is no reason to be stuck anymore. http://budurl.com/force21 Captain Jack P.P.S. There is a chance I am going to do a live training in the next couple of months. It will *NOT* be structured like the standard pick-up bootcamp. It will be entirely different. The only people who will be allowed to attend are past customers.
A short drill to blow Preconceiveds Posted at March 7, 2010
This post contains a short drill to destroy Preconceiveds (a coined word, short for preconceived thoughts/ideas/notions). It is based on the newest stuff that will be discussed in Force21. But, first I want to reply to a few comments from the last post( A comment from “Hammer” of hammer86blog.com on my post “Getting Women to Approach You”:
Interesting stuff man. What you are talking about here is actually exactly what Cory Skyy has been talking about for years. Of course, he can’t break things down the way that you can, and his stuff is less scientific and more touchy feely, thus not conducive to learning, but either way, it’s definitely interesting to see somewhat of a convergence between PUA and naturals. All of the best guys in the community essentially admit that naturals are pretty much across the board better than all PUAs, but it seems like you’re approaching being able to teach what naturals do. Thanks for the props. I do have to disagree with the thing about naturals. Every one of them I’ve seen has disappointed me. The few I befriended and tried to learn from were better than the average PUA but have severe weak spots. They are also less consistent. Take them out of their element and they are usually pretty bad. On the same post, Matt said:
If you are a good looking guy or “stand out” then they will approach you. If you are not then what? This is all nice and good but what if you go thru those steps and she does not open you? What if she is too shy? What if she just is giving you the eye out of curiousity and then does not open you? There are too many variables here. Please fill us in on that. I don’t see a lot of approaching by females out of social circle or “club social circle.” There are plenty of guys on PUA bootcamps considered “good looking guys” who were essentially invisible. You’ll see older cougars hitting on younger “good looking guys” but cougars are chemically imbalanced and not what we are going for so they hardly count.
All of your questions are beside the point( do the drills so you can reproduce. Worry about that other shit when/if it comes up. Besides, no one said you should stop approaching. It IS something that will change how you look at things. I noticed a body position shift from 60 feet away earlier today. Phil said:
Great stuff as always, CJ! The only thing I’d like to point out is that too many guys seem to try to circumvent approaching by relying on this “let her approach me” attitude and that generally turns out to no success at all. In my opinion, you can only use that kind of non-verbal stuff once you got the basics (being able to approach) properly down. I agree with getting the basics down. But, there’s another aspect to this( what if you build your basics on bad observations? You’ll have a ceiling on pick-up skill that no amount of practice will cure. The only way to break to another level would be the removal of the bad data, casting off the “observations” as “the way things are” and getting Begginer’s Mind in. The earlier you start on this stuff the better. The very first drill I’d teach any newbie coming under my wing would be simple but powerful. Here would the whole drill for hours on end: “Notice that girl noticing that guy.” “Notice that girl noticing that guy.” “Notice that girl noticing that guy.” ‘that guy’ might be the student or might never be that student. The end result would be a blowout of preconceiveds (coined, short for preconceived thoughts/ideas/notions) and we’d have a PUA who would rely much less on his internal (bad) data on interactions between males and females. There are 4 of these in total: Girl to Guy Guy to Girl Student to Girl (“Notice that girl.”) Girl to Student (“Notice that girl noticing you.”) Captain Jack
captainjack says: March 11, 2010 at 3:54 pm
Awesome! Keep noticing and it’ll get deeper and deeper. I just had a girl body position me at Starbucks. She was waiting for her drink at the counter. I made a movement that caught her eye. She then looked at me( looked back and then turned about 45 degrees towards me( almost out of position for the waiting counter. She was only about a 7 and I’m busy so she gets no love. CJ
Make a Comeback: Buzzer Beaters Make the Crowd Go Wild! Posted at March 11, 2010
One of the cool things about teaching people is you get to interact with all kinds of people. Everyone has their story and stories make life interesting. I’ve heard them all. A virgin who was rich and a model and STILL couldn’t get laid. A divorced guy who lost everything, including his businesses, his home, his bank accounts and even contact with his kids.
And, I’ve heard from quite a few that went from seeming like they’d NEVER put it all together who know have more sex than they can handle, or settled down with a girl they actually REALLY like. Even a normal guy who seems to have everything done right but just can’t seem to get a girl he likes. I’m sure there are even more, no doubt. Welcome to the “way things are” they tell you (but, not really( it’s just the way things “seem” to be). This is a playground. And, on playgrounds you play games. Who makes the rules to those games? The person who decides to, the person who can persuade, convince, cajole or plain just “out-action” others to get enough people to go with( There is Cause and there is Effect. Which one are you being? I won’t go deep into my story. Most of you have already heard it. Divorced, dead broke, father of two girls, 30 lbs overweight (45 if you listen to the doctors). Basically, from invisible to women when I first started, to creating a whole new area of pick up (SNLs). And, I ain’t lettin’ up( Welcome to the Playground. Action and Adventure. Where you get to BE a Pirate because you DECIDED you ARE a Pirate and then putting action and action and action and more action( to *MAKE* it true, to FORCE it through the mental realms, cracking the hard crust of physical reality and crashing it into existence. Or, you could stay whatever it is you *are* now( While it may be comfortable, I bet it’s kinda boring there. It starts with a simple question that I ask all the “Treacherous Data” clients when they list out there hesitations, considerations, feelings and ‘problems’ with approaching or closing( “Good. Now, which would you rather have? Those, or women?” Do you understand there really ARE NOT any restrictions on *being*? Really. Who is to say you can’t start doing real estate deals right now in Dubai? Who says YOU can’t become the best at whatever it is you want to be( Only you. For real. What if( (instead of pretending that everyone was trying to crush you that you pretended the world was in a secret conspiracy. The conspiracy is that everyone knows you are actually a god-like being who could warp reality around him. Everyone knows that, except you. All of their efforts are to get you to realize this( to wake you up. What if you took all of the counter-efforts and used them as SUPPORT to go ever higher? So, if you aren’t where you want to be isn’t it time for a comeback? As long as the Game is still going, there’s always time for a comeback. Join me in Force21 and let’s make it happen. http://budurl.com/force21 Captain Jack
Force21 Payment Plan Posted at March 16, 2010
It’s not too late to get into Force21. I’m releasing a payment plan to fill the remaining seats. When you sign up you’ll get the following as background material: 1. MSM Audio: The Only Real and Workable Definition of Alpha 2. MSM Audio: Game Dynamics 3. Framing Mastery Call #2: Sexual Framing Mastery 4. Videos: Sticking Point Analysis Videos 5. Audio: The Force21 pre-kick-off bonus call( where I describe what we are going to do and answer a few questions. This material goes in descending “Area of Control” so you are applying force against the current reality within each band of influence. Applying it this way makes you more congruent and powerful in all your actions. This
information allows you to strike at the point of greatest leverage and produce REAL and LASTING change, without all the struggle and frustration. The comments from subscribers are already pouring in. Here are just a few: “When I heard your Game Dynamics I instinctively knew it was the truth. It matched my own reality. Genius! Since then I have been thinking of current interactions and past interactions and been trying to figure out which of the dynamics I violated and how I could possibly clarify or fix them in future.” — Matt W. “The background audio’s are great, you are making interactions with women a whole lot clearer for me, i feel a great sense of freedom and power in that i am starting to see my actual purpose of what is happening and what to do in interactions. Massive respect.” — S. E. “I have really been trying hard to implement your stuff and I am loving the Alpha male material especially because it is so simple yet so powerful. I literally am thinking all the time “how can I turn this ZZZZ into ZZ ZZZZZ scene?” The result – a lot of action.” — D. C. To learn more about Force21 just look at my last few posts or go here. If you would like to join under the payment plan here is the link: Force21 Payment Plan
Same Night Lay the FORCE21 Way… Posted at April 23, 2010
From a FORCE21 student:
A milestone has been reached (kind of). Tonight I achieved my first same night lay! Well, to not be too graphic, it involved a lot of dirty talk, plans for FB status (including hotel room plans), oral sex both ways, and finally intercourse – until the unbelievable amount of alcohol I drank caught up with me and I lost my ability to perform…. what the hell! Anyway, I owe this ALL to you – even though I didn’t run my standard game plan, it was ‘ideal scene – action’ the whole time. The stuck flow exercise really did help, as even a few weeks ago I had massive escalation anxiety, which clearly has gone! Until I started Force21, and your materials in general, I was psyched to run a ‘good set’ and ecstatic to get a phone number. Just a few weeks later, I had a SNL tonight, a Day 2 tomorrow, a possible lay again tomorrow with the girl from tonight (with FB possibilities), and hopefully a Day 2 with another girl next week!!!!! CJ, you are the man! Thank you so much. Will Just wait man, the results just keep coming! Captain Jack P.S. More info on FORCE21 below.
Communicating Instead of Throwing Out Communications Posted at April 23, 2010
Here’s yet another from a FORCE21 Student:
Just wanted to say thanks for the help and progress that i have been making with my pick up lately. I was sort of skeptical at first on how your drills were going to work but they have worked with getting my game on track.
Last night i walked into an empty bar and pick up the only two girls there when all the guys were trying to get with them and i was by myself. I felt myself getting in my head and i did the EVIV drill and it cleared it all out and i felt myself communicating instead of throwing out comuunications. (emphasis mine) I feel as though this stuff is really clicking and i am seeing the light you could say. I am going out alot more and really aplying things. I have alot more successes ( more dates and d2 lays, numbers, etc) to share but am keeping this email short as im about to go out to hit the field. I am def gonna keep up the work and keep progressing ( i go over the audios and do the drills alot and apply them in field). I def would be interested in some other teachings in applying your stufff to other areas of my life though and i have been trying but would be inetrested to hear and be guided by some drills or you with applying it to my carreer and read the email you just sent out as i feel as though if im not satified with other areas in my life even if my picup stuff is going well i wont truely be happy. So def keep me in mind if you do branch out to apply your teachings towards applying it to other areas to help me better apply it than i already am trying to. Thanks again. I have worked with other pick up teachers but no longer feel the need to and feel as though your stuuf is way more applicable to my style or just clicks better with me. Not to disrepect anybody else. Keep up the good work.
What Explains The Huge Differences in Results Between PUAs? Posted at June 2, 2010
Hola Dudes! I’ve been in the labs so to speak working on something that has bugged me for a long, long time( What explains the huge differences in output between PUAs? Stated another way, how can one PUA get 10-12 lays in a month while another PUA who puts in the same amount of time and effort walk away with almost nothing? The research into that problem has been extremely interesting. It’s caused me to examine several schools of thought. I’ve thrown out ALL of psychology as essentially worthless. I’ve completely tossed out hypnosis (we need LESS hypnosis not more). Forget magick and other stuff like that, sometimes work but not repeatable. What this has caused me to do is look at a Game Dynamics and it’s subset, Sexual Framing, and look at it from successful execution backwards. To give you some idea of what I’m talking about I would ask questions like this, “What would a person need to be good at to successfully set a frame?” “What would a person need to believe about how things work in reality to have confidence it would work?” “What kinds of things would he need to be able to notice to know when to set it( about whether or not it was set?” And, there are many others. What is coming out of all this is a very thorough and, eventually, complete set of undercuts to discover where a person IS and pull them along a gradient scale to where they can get the maximum results. A LARGE portion of this will be a method for the REMOVAL of standard Pick-up ideas and beliefs. It will include a fair amount of exercises that show (NOT TELL) you how things actually work in communicating. Done in a way where the end result is not told to you but you derive by doing the exercises! (This is awesome as it shows that it is not someone else’s ideas forced on you!) Anyway, this is going to take a while. I posted a little bit of the idea in “Sherlock Holmes, bitches!” post:
The actual mechanics of pick-up aren’t that complicated at all. There really aren’t a lot of tactics or techniques. Most of the tactics floating around in the various systems are
corrections of shit you did wrong earlier in the interaction or buffers against common future fuck-ups. Remove the core problems and the need for most of the tactics disappear. A full and final system of pick-up would: 1. diagnose what the PUA could not see (i.e. was unable to look at) and correcting it. 2. Remove all the false shit from his head. 3. Extrovert him socially 4. Teach him something like Game Dynamics. That is still the same basic path but it has grown quite a bit. Force21 and MSM had the very, very, very beginnings of it. But, I’ve already started making changes. I’ve noticed that the simple addition of ‘The True Definition of Alpha male boosts the effectiveness of Sexual Framing by at least 2-3 times, and even more for guys who had less success with it. I now have a preferred ROUTE for consuming my current materials that will give you many of the fundamental groundwork so the more ‘advanced’ (but actually SIMPLER) stuff works for more and more people. Some of my materials will go away and stop being sold soon. I’ve already nixed phone consultations for the time being. In any case, just wanted to let you guys know what was going on. Captain Jack
Ability Creation in Pick-up Posted at July 11, 2010
In my quest to get you guys running even more smoothly (and me too) I’ve been focusing on a research track that started with Master Strategies and was boosted in Force21. My question has always been( “How do I make this as smooth and effortless as possible?” Things that are understood and that people achieve mastery of usually turn out to be fairly simple. A sure sign of NOT understanding is complexity. Extra complexity is your number one enemy in pick-up (Reactionism is a type of extra complexity). It doesn’t get much simpler than Sexual Framing or its parent, Game Dynamics. The more extra steps or unnecessary things you do in a pick-up the MORE likely you are going to do something to trigger something NOT related to the goal. In terms of Game Dynamics we could say, the more unnecessary steps or data you put out there the more likely you will confuse her on one of the Game Dynamics. Confusion doesn’t lend itself to the successful playing of a Game. (In fact, in a Game one of the best weapons of a Defense is to create confusion for the Offense. But, don’t forget that in Game Dynamics, the girl is NOT the opponent, she is the teammate.) When someone is unsure of what game is being played, who is playing, who are the teammates, what the obstacles are and what the goal is the more frustrated they get until they leave the game altogether (the more persistent types will attempt to clarify any and all of the above and stick around only as long as they believe they are making progress). Now, where does extra complexity come from? 1. Not knowing what Game is being played. 2. Not knowing who are the opponents 3. Confusing opponents with teammates 4. Not knowing who are the teammates 5. Not knowing what are the obstacles 6. Not knowing what the Goal is 7. Not knowing when you’ve met the goal 8. Not having the techniques to play the game 9. Having wrong conclusions about:
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the Game, the teammates, the opponents, the obstacles, the goal, the techniques and your self
10. Not knowing WHERE you are on the field of play (there are more but I’m going to shift gears here to get some more important data across) As you can see, there is a LOT of ‘not knowing’ on that list. The principle form of not knowing manifests itself in WRONG DATA and WRONG CONCLUSIONS. So, one of the very first goals of creating truly world-class puas would consist of a method to strip wrong data and wrong conclusions from them. Sometimes this would happen just by receiving the CORRECT data. But, that is an inexact method. It would have to go even deeper. You’d have to have a way to FIND and BLOW out the wrong data BEFORE the right data could go in and stay in. To show you how bad wrong data and wrong conclusions are in pick-up I will show how a PUA who KNOWS every technique and style of pick-up can royally fuck things up. Here’s how: 1. Time: The pua executes the technique to long AFTER the last waypoint or too soon after the last waypoint. 2. Omission: Since the PUA has wrong conclusions he mentally omits right data important for the technique. (Pua talks about the importance of loyalty to a girl with a boyfriend, thus making her feel more guilty for considering having sex with him). 3. Wrong order: Much like #1, the PUA makes a move in the wrong sequence. 4. Injection of Unnecessary Data: This is throwing out data about yourself or your beliefs or past that she could use to consider you to NOT be a Player in the Game or a Player for the Game she wants to play. 5. Wrong Amounts: An example of this is a PUA who just keeps on Clarifying a dynamic that is already passed. Or, for those using the older models, a PUA who keeps pumping buying temperature even though the girl is already attracted. So, here’s what I want you to get( The actual format of any sexual Game you want to play, from Same Night Lay all the way to happily married to a woman you really love, is already inherently possible for you. What is wrong is not having the right data as most believe( it is most likely EXTRA bullshit: bad data and conclusions, leading to bad execution of technique. The techniques of any sexual Game can be learned and mastered in a few months. What makes it takes years is the continual injection of bad data into the execution. A first step then would be to strip all bad data and conclusions. Let me talk a little about conclusions. A conclusions is a decision based on the past about how you are going to think, feel or be in the future. The problem is: all of your conclusions regarding women and your relationship to them were created when you didn’t know shit about women. Thus, getting rid of all previous conclusions can ONLY help. Some of this happens when you get better data and better experience. However, conclusions have a way of making you interpret your experience to conform to them. It’s a self-reinforcing loop. The more deep-seated they are the harder they are to discover and get rid of AND the more likely they are to produce HUGE gains in your ability. I won’t go too much on that here as there are a few ways to get rid of conclusions already released in MSM. But, I will tell you this, which has NOT been yet released anywhere. At anytime in the past when you’ve LOST something you’ve made a conclusion to either care less about that thing and disregard it OR to care more about it and thus hold on tighter to it. Either of those is NOT great in dealing with women. So, a very simple exercise you can do is this: Recall a time when a woman you desired came closer to you. Recall a time when a woman you didn’t care for went further way from you.
Do this as many times as possible and get more and more mental perceptions involved each time you recall it. Do it and tell me what happens in the comments. Captain Jack P.S. In a few days I’m going to post a special “Completion Bonus” discount for all the people who have some of my material but not all of it. I’d like everyone serious about pick-up and reading my blog to have everything so they can reach a full understanding and get more success with women. Listening to the materials WILL blow tons of false data out of your head and thus make your technique much, much better in field. PUAs often report that pick-up becomes a lot easier and enjoyable when they have this information. P.P.S. I am putting on plans for a seminar for a small group, less than 10. It will be totally different than anything you’ve ever experienced, almost definitely including topless models for use in drills. Having all of my materials will be a requirement for attending. P.S. #3 — Sorry for the length. I usually like to edit and pare down to keep it about half the length but I had to make sure to cover the bases in one post instead of 2.
Creation of Pick-up Ability Part 2 Posted at July 12, 2010
I’m feverishly working on what I know will boost all of you to a much higher level of pick-up ability. A great deal of the raw data is available in my previous works. What I am working on is the best way to clear out what is holding everyone back from executing the methodology and get insane levels of results. This will include an entirely new methodology to remove false ideas and conclusions, get you extroverted, give you the ability to create and maintain Ideal scenes, to know what is broken and how to fix it. It will include a method for destroying blind spots and false mental circuits that screw up correct application of the techniques. It will be necessary for you to have all the previous stuff I’ve released to take advantage of it. In fact, I will probably take all of the current stuff off the market and reintegrate it into the new system which will have a set progression of levels. In order to clear the way for this I am offering a deep discount for everyone to complete their purchase of all my materials. (This includes the RIGHT way to progress through the materials for the best possible results. Instead of getting pieces and not having the background or having stuff out of order, you’ll have it all and listen to it in the right order). Here’s just ONE recent testimonial for only ONE of the products available.
Background Since I usually post only on private boards, I’ll first say a thing or two about myself to put this review in perspective. I’ve been a PUA for 7½ years, I talk to many of the famous guys behind the curtain and I’m very advanced, so the following is not some newbie fan boy hero worship review. I hit a plateau last month when I got 5 lays (and almost another 3) and I knew I’d have to get coaching from somebody who’s better than me to go beyond that. It’s no secret that many of the most famous guys such as Sinn, Future, etc. admit that CJ is one of the best in the game, if not THE best. I’ll just say this much – there are not many people I’d pay to coach me at the level I’m at right now, but CJ is one of them. I first started talking to him on Mystery’s Lounge in 2006, so I watched his path and saw him type up several LRs a week; now I finally decided to hire him. Conference Calls I signed up to Force 21. It came with 4 bonus audios, one of which was CJ’s ENTIRE gameplan – every single word he says in set, all his outer game. This alone was worth the price of admission to me. Second, there were 4 conference calls where he taught his new, cutting edge stuff, and how he now manages to get opened consistently (and thus now has more lays than opens). He also made sure to answer every question – he stays on the line for over 2 hours if necessary, he won’t hang up before all questions are
answered. Third, we had email access to CJ for about 6 weeks, which is where the true value of the program lies in my opinion (if you think you can get his stuff from “other sources”, you’re missing out on the best part and probably won’t get the real value). Email Access The funny thing is that I’ve been reading CJ’s work for years now… I’m just not sure how I missed the DECISIVE stuff. It looks like it’s the fluff between the lines if you don’t know what to look for, and I don’t know if I’d ever figured some of these things out myself. Talking to CJ one on one, emailing him my specific questions and sticking points and getting his feedback, picking the brain of the guy I personally consider to be one of the best, was invaluable. I’m on a bunch of advanced private forums and often when my sets went wrong, everybody was at a loss, but CJ usually had some enlightening input. Only yesterday, I opened (yet another) model in the mall, had her in my bed 30 minutes later and closed (so yes CJ’s stuff works in daygame too). Now my bed is in pieces. I’ll be sending CJ the bill for a new bed cause this is partly his fault. (: Results Before CJ’s coaching, I was good. Most my lays took about 3 hours. 6 or 7 times I’d been able to sleep with girls within 15 to 90 minutes of meeting them, in sober daygame. I was usually able to do that when girls were clearly into me from the get go or when they were throwing a sexual vibe that I was able to capitalize on, fast. After CJ’s coaching I’m now able to CREATE this kind of sexual vibe out of thin air, and right after opening. My game has changed completely, my sets go entirely different now, I get girls to be all over me very quickly. As I said, I almost got 8 lays in March, but now things are a lot more effortless, and I’m only starting to implement all the inner game work we did in Force 21. The game is also more FUN now because I enjoy the sexual charge my sets have now a lot more than “conversation” and “being social”. In fact I can see 15 lays a month being well possible now, which I used to think was reserved for hunks. Bottom Line Having been in the game for this long, I’ve probably seen it all by now. All the products and gurus, the wannabes and the real deal guys. I think I wasted a lot of time on figuring out what’s what and buying products that weren’t necessarily the most useful. I also wasted a lot of time trying to get good by myself, which took a lot longer than would have been necessary with a good coach. I’ll say if you just read CJ’s entire archive and his blog (both free on betheseducer.com) you’ll be able to trace his path from zero to hero and how he went from a dude who’s invisible to women and doesn’t approach anybody because of AA in 2004, to getting 8 lays in 1 year in 2005, to getting 8 lays per month in 2007, to his current level where he now has more lays than opens because he created a system to get approached consistently and usually closes most of the girls he interacts with. Anybody could benefit from CJ’s coaching in my opinion, whether you’re a beginner or very advanced, whether you want a wife, a girl-friend, a harem, or tons of lays. In fact I signed up for his other program, Master Strategies Monthly, on the spot – simply cause his coaching is the best thing I believe I can do for my game. I’m confident I’ll be able to reach CJ’s level very soon with the coaching I’m getting from him. -Karea. But, what about someone who was not already good?
I had a day2 today with an awesome girl I gamed a week ago. Managed to get her out, which I was worried about since I hadn’t seen her since then. Took her a few places while I ran errands, generally messing around. Left her to do some photoshoot with her cheerleading squad (oh yes) to meet some friends for drinks. I then met her again an hour later for dinner – I figured that’s okay as this was not a ‘supplicating’ frame or a ‘buying affection’ frame.
It kind of comes back to this ideal scene. I didn’t ask her to dinner, I told her I was taking her for food and where – that was my ideal scene. Anyway, walked her home after dinner, went to hers, and sat down and made out in front of the TV for quite a while, until I had to leave as I’m up early in the morning. No close, but I really like this girl so I am perfectly happy playing this one slow and seeing what happens. Awesome. This is what this community is supposed to help guys do – attract the girls they want and choose. And this is all down to you CJ – a few weeks ago I had never even kissed a girl. Just a few days after my first SNL, this girl tonight was the 5th one so far. This really is faster progress than I anticipated, so Force21 really did exceed expectations! This is amazing progress( A few weeks ago I had never even kissed a girl! So, you can see that the results are coming from virgins to Advanced PUAs. Both guys got the same, exact data. Both had results that exceeded their expectations. I have many, many more testimonials. Here’s the deal: I’m offering up to a 30% discount for you to complete your CJ products. The entire line up is: Master Strategies (Including Game Dynamics, Alpha - Workably Defined, Crushing Mental Barriers and More) The end result of Master Strategies is to give you something that can be immediately applied to boost your Game at whatever level it is currently at( A lot of time is spent on giving you drills that CHANGE your viewpoint so you can operate in-field with less barriers and resistance. It contains the FIRST actual workable definition of Alpha Male, with instructions on how to become more Alpha with each passing day. Just that audio alone would make you better with women, boost success on the job and basically make you a cut above everyone else. This contains the original audio on the new paradigm I’ve created called “Game Dynamics.” There are currently 7 audios in the series with 5 more to come. It was originally sold for $295.00 (You can read more about it here: ‘Master Strategies’) Sexual Framing Mastery The end result of Framing Mastery is a PUA who can apply the principles of Framing to easily seduce any woman they want. It is based on the core principles that women are sexual beings who WANT sex as much (or more) as men do. By framing the conversation in a sexual manner with the 6-10 simple statements I give you that it makes a sexual encounter extremely easy. It includes my entire, word-for-word Game Plan I use to regular get 4-6 SNLs a month, going out less than 10 nights per week. I also tell you EXACTLY what I do if you need to do a Day2. Most of my Day2s START at my place and NEVER leave. I break down LRs in depth to show you the interplay of frames as well. The series is 4 audios of Conference Calls where I answer questions from the 20 or so PUAs on the call. By the 2nd week of the program we had MORE SNLs in the group than actual members! This was originally sold for $350. (You can read more about it here: ‘Framing Mastery’) Get-A-Girlfriend, Fuckbuddy or mLTR (GaGF) This shows you step-by-step how to use Framing to create any type of relationship you want. When you set it up right from the beginning it is EASY to create whatever TYPE of relationship you want. I give an expanded, updated lesson on my famous “Fuck Buddy Rules.” It is worth it just to show you how I ge thte girls to agree completely and make them think it is just the way things are with me! It also cuts down on bad break-ups and drama because they KNOW the deal. This was also a teleconference series where I released THE EXACT METHOD for shifting your viewpoint so that you see the world as I do! One of the participants went on to have his first 3some. Many went on to get girlfriends and even MORE went on to have 3-4 stable FBs easily. The original price was $350. (You can read more about it here: ‘GaGF‘) eCoaching Bootcamp This program is 6 lessons long space one week apart. In each lesson I give you some pick-up principles and some missions to do in-field. You write up FRs and send them to me along with any questions and I help you out with them. It is a very popular program and nearly ever PUA who comes in contact with me eventually takes it. The original price is $297.00. (You can read more about it here: ‘eCoaching’) Force21 – Crack the back of your most persistent sticking points, move to the next level of pick-up
This was by far my favorite program. It also rivals ‘Framing Mastery’ in terms of immediate results. However, I believe it has had a much longer term impact. Because, it not only handles the pick-up side of things( It quite literally, handles EVERYTHING. PUAs incomes have soared. They’ve gotten OPENED by hotties and random strangers who feel compelled to talk to them. They report feeling much better, having more energy, having more perception so it’s like they are think 2-3 moves ahead everyone else. One PUA just emailed me that he gamed one day, opened 8 sets and got 3 lays from it! This program is 4 conference calls long and we had 20 or so PUAs participating. It was originally sold for $350. I’ll also give you the exact order to listen to the materials, 4 weeks of Email Support, and 2 Q&A Teleconference Calls. This offer is only good until January 31st. Use the drop down box below to pay. For example, if you already have Get-a-girlfriend and Sexual Framing Mastery then you’d pick the 3 Products option. Then, in the checkout tell me which products you need. (In this example, you’d simply type, “This is for Master Strategies, eCoaching Bootcamp and Force21.” You’ll be saving $180 over retail.) Not bad, eh?
Free Positive Energy Posted at July 17, 2010
When Life Energy is free flowing it is positive and constructive. The person is able to exert more and more control over himself and his environment and organize it for higher levels of survival and thriving. He spends very little time thinking, or fixating on his own issues, or doing lots of self-help. In short, he is extroverted and out there living and doing. Life is exciting! There are vistas to be conquered! Pretty ladies to be kissed! Exotic Lands to be explored. Friends to make and boost into new realms of ability! When Life Energy is trapped it is negative and destructive. The person becomes fixated on his own mental pictures. Voices negativity. Does things that lead to a downwards spiral. And, because man is basically good, the person cuts his reach to become less and less responsible, less and less active, less and less communicative. He cuts his reach and withdraws because he knows (intuitively) that his actions are actually pro-death. In order NOT to hurt others he withdraws, cuts communication and limits his own sphere of influence. In short, he becomes introverted. This is all on a scale. Total free flowing energy would be at the end of one side and total trapped energy would be at the end (and the person would be extremely sick and dying or dead). There are only 4 basic lasting ways to free this trapped energy. I’ll give you a certain class of those ways here. These are basic and easily doable and they can cause great increases over time. Taking just 5 or so of these and REALLY doing them can cause HUGE shifts for you over the next 30 days. 1.
Eat well.
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Sleep 7-9 hours each night. (Even if you swear you need less or more).
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Exercise. Preferably you’d get your exercise via a competitve sport or training. That is the best way. If not, go to a gym or jog.
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Limit time around people who bring you down. (Notice I didn’t say ‘Toxic’ people. While there ARE toxic people it is most likely that the people you consider toxic are just the people that happen to have certain traits/ideas/whatever that trigger your own negativity. )
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Make a list of things you love to do and plan them into your life.
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Make a list of things you dislike doing and find a way to minimize them.
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Don’t lie. (What is a lie based on? Usually fear or insecurity. A lie is voicing something you know to be UNTRUE. Therefore, when you lie you are simply invalidating yourself!)
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Don’t drink.
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Don’t take drugs. (Not even aspirin).
10. Avoid Psychology, Psychiatry, NLP, Hypnosis. We need LESS hypnosis, not more. All of them fixate the person on trapped negative energy without getting rid of it. Suicide rates INCREASE for people in therapy. Particularly for those who also take psychiatric drugs. 11. Adopt an aesthetic skillset; writing, drawing, painting, music, art appreciation. 12. If your environment sucks, change it. (It is a basic fallacy of psychology that man should adjust to his environment. This is where we get the term “well-adjusted.” Hogwash! Man is meant to adapt the environment to him! We created clothes, built shelter, made farming methods, learned to use tools, developed big brains ALL for the purpose of thriving in the environment. Adjusting to the shocking cold of winter equals death.) 13. If you have a trouble area in life tackle it like this: 1.
Who are the experts?
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Would I want to be like them?
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Do they have successful students?
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Would I want to be like those students?
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Has the expert made the subject simple to understand and apply? (Remember, complexity stems from lack of understanding.)
14. Ask for help. (Seriously, this is important. Being afraid or too prideful to ask for help is to become more and more helpless.) 15. Expand your area of responsibility. 16. Understand Gradients. (An example of a gradient scale is Temperature. People are too fixated on Yes/No, True/False, 0/1 but in reality things are on a gradient.) 17. Expand your area of Control. (See “The Workable Definition of Alpha”) 18. Get some sunlight. (But not too much). 19. Give yourself a makeover. Teeth whitening is a few hundred dollars. Invisalign is about $2000. Hairstyle $50. New clothes $2500. You could look and feel like a new person for about $5,000 and it doesn’t have to be done all at once. 20. Grab a girl and go on an adventure! (Doesn’t have to be to a faraway land. Go to your local bookstore and you’ll see local activity guides with plenty of ideas.) 21. Ask someone if they need help with anything and then help them. 22. Write down your beliefs about a subject which gives you trouble and find as many coutnerexamples as you can. Don’t stop until you have about 50 or you feel a new sense of possibility arise. 23. Stop watching ALL news media. Stop watching tv. 24. Read “Your Money or Your Life” by Dominguez and compare/contrast with “Rich Dad, Poor Dad.” Both are good. Fully doing either one would be a great boost, doing both would be a Grand Slam. 25. Calculate your bare minimum living expenses for one month. Multiply by 3. Sock away money until you hit that number. (You’ll feel a LOT better. You’ll feel safer and more certain. Certainty and stability is necessary to maintain a position in Space which is attractive to everyone around you, particularly females, whose open nature causes a need for stability.) 26. Pay down debts. (#25 is more important( so majority of free money goes to #25 and then shifts to #26. Unless of course you are the type that debt freaks out, in which case you should flip-flop them). 27. Help and protect children. 1.
Children are small. The entire world is built for adults. If you imagine the size of a child’s hand being 3-5x smaller than yours, then imagine the last beer mug you drank out of being 3-5x BIGGER than it was you’d realize just a little bit of what they face. Further you can imagine a stair step being 3x as steep. Further, they are at the mercy of the adults in their lives. They can’t just change their environment. They depend on adults for food and shelter. They KNOW it takes work and effort which they TRY to help out but are usually criticized for doing a bad job. They DO have it rough. Help them. Be nice to them. Protect them.
28. Don’t steal. (Stealing/piracy are another form of self-invalidation. You are saying you don’t have the ability to acquire it by proper means. It is a demonstration of self-invalidation in the real world. It helps to downgrade your own self-worth. Further, since man is basically good, you automatically prevent yourself from getting the full benefit of anything acquired that way. 29. Discharge unfinished tasks. Captain Jack
Just Show Them The Midget Arm and It’s ALL OVER! Posted at July 27, 2010
For those of you who are long time readers of my blog you no doubt have heard much more than you ever care to hear about GIGANTOR(TM). Statements like, “GIGANTOR(TM) began to stir(” and “I unbuckled the harness and GIGANTOR(TM) flopped out, she gasped in both horror and delight(” etc, etc.. Well, thanks to a recent comedy show I am now replacing the term GIGANTOR(TM) with the term ‘midget arm’ for at least this post and maybe one or two more. Anyways( Don’t you wish you could just drop your pants to reveal the midget arm in all its glory and say, “Laaaaadiessss( who wants some of THIS?!” If that was all you had to do to get laid it would be a much simpler world. I think there would be much less war and drug use. Alcohol consumption would go way down, too. But, alas, it doesn’t work that way. It turns out we actually gotta talk and shit. Which reminds me of a story( One night Sinn and I were out getting plastered and there happened to be some girls there, too, so we thought maybe we’d go tell them they looked like models and we just wanted them to know that even though they probably already had boyfriends( wait a second( shit( that’s not how it went down at all( I think it was something more like this( Sinn told the short one with big tits that she was very tiny and segued into how he hated his mom and by the 2nd minute said something about she should leave now because he was going to try to bang her if she hung around. I was on the tall, slender friend and told her that I was having trouble concentrating on her story because I found her lips very sexy and if she didn’t stop I was going to drag her into a dark corner and do bad boy things to her. Fast forward about an hour and Sinn and I are pulling them to the pirate pad and talking about serial killers and how bowling ball bags are perfect for storing heads and before you know it I’m having sex with the girl in my room while Sinn and the big boobed cutie are trying to destroy the inflatable mattress in the living room. I remember that night specifically because I learned a few things. One of them was a new way to crack LMR by telling the girl you believed she had the ability and personality pull off her major life goal. (I really should write a full post on LMR cracking). Ah, those were the days. Anyway, my bro Sinn is doing a Teleseminar this Thursday July 29th at 6pm ET. It’s for his Seduction Roadmap product so there will be a little pitch at the end. But, before that it’s going to be all content and worthy of being sold on its own. Here’s just a snippet of what he’ll cover:
• Sinn’s never-before-revealed process that lets you know EXACTLY what you need to do to move your conversations towards sex! No more guessing “what to do” or “what to say” next.
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How to (finally) be the confident, sexual man that you know you were meant to be!
How to easily bring out the “naughty side” of any woman! It’s PROVEN that ALL women have a naughty side simply waiting to come out to play( and if you’re able to bring this side out effectively, sex with you becomes inevitable!
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Sinn’s three best “sexual accelerators” that guarantee that the clothes come flying off( FAST!
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How to apply the Seduction Roadmap in the Real World to get MASSIVE RESULTS as quickly as possible!
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So, make plans to be on this call. It’ll be well worth it. You can sign up athttp://www.seductionroadmap.com/ After you listen to the call, come back here and post a comment about the piece of data you feel helped you the most. I’ll pick one of the comments and give the commentor a little prize for participating. Captain Jack
A Fundamental Misunderstanding of Sexual Framing Posted at July 31, 2010
Hey guys, I’m getting quite a few emails from guys who have recently purchased “Sexual Framing Mastery” through the special offer email me about sexual framing and I immediately spot a misunderstanding. Sexual Framing is NOT about talking dirty to her. Although, you can talk dirty AND sexual frame at the same time. Sexual Framing is building an AGREEMENT on what the interaction between you and the girl IS/MEANS. You are building agreement that the interaction is of a SEXUAL nature. The best way to do this is to MAKE HER FEEL SEXY. The easiest way to make her feel sexy is to LET HER KNOW SHE IS HAVING A SEXUAL EFFECT ON YOU. (There are other ways, too.) Then, letting her know you FULLY INTEND to take action on it just by virtue of the interaction continuing! The longer the interaction continues the more REAL it should become to her that you are going to continue seducing her( that sex IS on the horizon. Make her feel sexy. Let her know she is having an effect on you. Tell her you are losing control and you WILL act on it. It is disappointing for her to get all dressed up, get hit on all night and no one be man enough to guide her all the way in. Very frustrating for her and cucumbers just don’t do the trick. CJ P.S. There is still time for the completion offer.
The Value of Non-Terminated Frames Posted at August 6, 2010
There are only a few things that compel a person into action. We’re going to leverage two of them to get you laid quickly. One is ‘unfinished business’ and the other is ‘a desirable, reachable goal.’ By ‘unfinished business’ I mean something that a person wanted or needed to accomplish but for some reason was blocked. The desire is then left unfulfilled and there is a pull there that drives them to do things. Many times the original want/need is no longer conscious or has already been satisfied but it lingers. By ‘a desireable, reachable goal’ I mean something that a person imagines would improve their chances at happiness or relieve pain. It is something they imagine they COULD reach if they only could put things together. This technique activates both of them (lightly) and sets you up to benefit when done correctly. Here’s something I want you to try THIS weekend (or the next time you go out). This is best done in a venue where people go and hang out for 2-3 hours. Start a normal conversation with a Hotty. Be conversational, almost boring for the first minute. Then, say something like this(
You know, I’m sure you are TIRED of hearing this but you have really… really… nice lips. She’ll probably looked kind of shocked or embarrased or say thank you or( get back on the previous subject and then say,
Gotta go. Great chatting with you. If you see me around don’t be shy, say hi or something. And then leave. But, don’t stop there( Do the same thing with another girl, then another, then another. Before long you will have them gravitating back towards you. Keep circling. One of them WILL sink her teeth in and you’ll have the easiest success of your life. What is important here is not only what you are doing to the single girl( but, how it looks to the rest of the women in the venue and everyone else. There is a NETWORK effect. Do it this weekend and report back here in the comments what happened. CJ
Master Strategy 7 Posted at August 8, 2010
If you signed up for the Master Strategies program, I’ve JUST emailed you a notification that the newest audio is available now. If you don’t have an email with the subject line “Master Strategies #7″ in your inbox please email me asap. It means I don’t have you on the list and/or I have an email that is not working for you. In this audio I give: • An in-depth explanation of the ‘Value of Non-Terminating Frames’ and really break it down so you UNDERSTAND and can better execute it in field. • An explanation of what a woman is REALLY trying to do by getting all made up and why even though she REALLY wants sex she doesn’t just grab any ol’ horny guy in the bar (it’s NOT because she’s not attracted to him)( • An identification of the source of 95% of every PUAs problems which, once solved, puts him in the upper regions of Game( then, I give you a few ways to start solving that problem in the next few weeks! • A head’s up on a common mistake I see PUAs mistake that is guaranteed to set them up for a future slump (or keep them from getting to intermediate level) and how to get around it easily.
Captain Jack If you aren’t already subscribed to ‘Master Strategies’ you definitely should be( Game Dynamics, The First Workable Definition of Alpha, Magnification, Crash Through Mental Barriers and Much, Much More is contained therein... use the Completion Offer and complete your CJ products to get a big discount here(
If You’re A Business Owner, Read This… Posted at August 10, 2010
Let’s talk about one of my favorite subjects (besides hotties): MONEY! Specifically, let’s talk about how you can get more of it. LOTS more of it! Since you are a business owner you have a much different appreciation for money than the general public. You know that CASH is KING! And, without it, you are hamstrung and destined to crash and burn. Speaking of getting more money, did you know that right now you can get a WHOPPING 1.5% return on your CD investment? (sarcasm) Not good enough? Well, alright, let’s kick it up a notch. How about giving ol’ Warren Buffet your money? You’d make around 23% per year. “Not bad,” you yawn? Jeesh, you are demanding! Ok, ok, I think I got something that’s much better than that( but first, I want to tell you two wee little stories. Back before I got into all this Gaming stuff I was at a seminar deep in the backwoods of Oregon about how to get in touch with your Inner Kahuna Warrior and so forth. While there I met a rather intense fellow by the name of Andrew. When I asked Andrew what he did for a living he said (with a straight face), “I teach people how to kill other people with a single blow.” Then, he asked me what I did. “I write direct response ad copy for business owners,” I replied. He looked at me and said, “You MUST write me an ad!” Of course, I said yes immediately. (Who wants to get punched in the throat?) I wrote a single page ad for Andrew who, at that time, had a small martial arts school in the midwest (one of those squarish states). Before long, we were running it in the 3 major martial arts magazines. By the end of that year other advertisers had ripped us off over 20 times, stealing EXACT PARAGRAPHS from that original ad. It didn’t matter. Customers kept coming to us in droves( and Andrew made a ton of money. (So did I). Now Andrew goes by a ‘pen name’ and is a big shot in those circles. Fast forward. Very early one morning (about 11:30am) some Dentist guy from Massachussetts calls me. He says he heard about me from a marketing guru and needed my help. He then told me that he needed to fill up a seminar coming up real, real soon. There were only 100 people registered and he REALLY needed at least 200. (The seminar cost about $3,000 per person.) So, I wrote him a letter which he promptly sent to all the entrenched prospects who previously wouldn’t budge. How’d that little letter do? Did they budge? Oh boy, did they! The letter raked in $392,000 in the first month – ALL PROFIT – straight into his pocket! That does NOT include money from all the products they purchased at the seminar or all the people who became part of his super high priced coaching program, etc, etc. Dr. Tom Orent made a good investment, wouldn’t you say? What am I getting at here? What’s the point of all this? It’s just this( Investing IN your business is the single most profitable thing you can do! But, don’t take MY word for it, let’s do some math. If you were to park $7500 in a CD right now at 1.5%, you’d end up with $7,556.00 at the end of a year. (Is it even worth filling out the paper work?!) If you were to hand that money to Warren Buffet, and his historical performance held for at least the next year, you’d walk away with about $9200.
But, what if you were savvy like Andrew or Dr. Orent? Let’s see( Andrew invested about $10,000( he made about $200,000 (and counting). That’s an ROI of 1,900% (Try getting THAT in the stock market!) Dr. Orent invested about $7500( he made $392,000 for an ROI of 5,127%. What about Business to Business? What about boring companies that don’t involve hitting people in the throat or teaching dentists to become gazillionaires? Alright, I have a printing manufacturer that is on the Inc. 500 fastest growing list. (Can’t get much more boring or b2b than that.) Their ROI( 3,233.33% and that’s probably being a bit conservative. Here’s an email I got from a dentist in Chico, CA updating me on how the ad I wrote for him was doing: Before running the ad we were averaging $45,000 to $55,000 per month. The initial insert, one time in our local paper, resulted in over $20,000 of new mini implant and denture business. Since then we have run the piece as a two page ad in a magazine called “Today’s Senior” in black and white. This costs us only $840 per month. In the next three months after this ad appeared our monthly income was $82,000, $91,000, and $84,000. Anyway Jason, the results have been beyond my expectations. Everyone on my staff says I’ve never run a more effective ad at any time. People tell me all the time they “read that article about me” in the magazine. Fantastic results. If I change anything for the next run I would try to put at least a hint about the price so I don’t get so many calls from people who absolutely can’t afford it. Dr. Ken Clifford, DDS; Chico, CA His ROI? A stunning 2,277.78% I could go on and on. Why am I telling you all this? Why do I tortue you with all this math about guys you don’t know who turned a $7500-10,000 investment into a lot of moolah? Here’s why( Because, for the first time in almost 3 years I’m taking new clients! So, if you are business owner and you want to make tons of money and have a hell of a good time doing it, we should talk! But, I’m not right for everyone. I do have a few ground rules that’ll make life easier for both of us: 1. You’re already a real, functioning business with cash flow and customers. (This is not a hard/fast rule. I DO make exceptions as in Andrew’s case). 2. You can run my ads or sales letters or web copy without having to run it by a bunch of people like your wife, your lawyer, your partner and your momma. I need to be talking to ‘the MAN!’ who can get things done! 3. I don’t travel to your business for work or meetings. In fact, I’ve only met two of my clients in person. Ever. 4. You understand (or are willing to learn) the difference between Direct Response Copy and Ad Agency Branding. (I go for the sale!) 5. You run my sales letters, emails, ads, etc as I wrote them with only minor alterations for accuracy’s sake. In order to make sure I am ONLY taking on clients who stand the best chance to make money I have to make sure those little rules are in place. Which brings me to another point( I ONLY take on clients I believe I can make a LOT of money for! There’s no point in just one of us making money. That’s no fun. I need you to make a shitload so we can keep working together. Sound good? Alright, by now you’re probably wondering, “How much?” and you may have a few more questions, too. All that and more can be easily answered when we talk. The best thing to do is email me (that’s captainjackpua AT gmail DOT com) with the subject line “Ad Copy and Money” and include your phone number and what’s the best times to reach you. Captain Jack P.S. Oh, and one last point: If you’re interested we need to get the ball rolling fairly quickly. No time to dillydally around. I’m taking on new clients but only 4-6 total. I’m telling you guys first because we have a bit of a pickup bond( Once word gets out I imagine I’ll be booked pretty quickly and stay that way for a very long while.
When Framing Goes Wrong Posted at September 3, 2010
Did you know you can really screw yourself over with framing? It’s true. As a matter of fact, the way MOST instructors teach it is GUARANTEED to cause you problems. I heard one instructor recommend framing a girl as ‘friendly and respectful’ or some silly shit like that. How Framing Can Cause You MORE Problems If Done Wrong The other day I was sitting in a cafe and there was a salesperson talking to this MEGA HOT italian girl. She literally couldn’t have been more perfect. He said something that made me wince. He attempted a close by saying, “Yeah, I can tell you like your hair and your nails and your clothes and all that BUT I get the sense that you are more concerned with your future and making good decisions. So, obviously you should blah, blah, blah” Hmm( How is that wrong? OH! LET ME COUNT THE WAYS! First off, I heard the entire conversation from the time they sat down till the time they left. She NEVER ONCE mentioned ANYTHING in that entire sentence. She never mentioned her nails, her hair, her clothes, being concerned about anything, the future or making good decisions. Second( (you’ll want to burn this into your mind( there are some things people DO REALLY REALLY care about or pay attention to but don’t like to think of themselves as one who does AND/OR don’t want others to think/know of them as someone who cares about such things. See that? So, what if she is one who doesn’t want to be known as liking to take care of her nails/hair and wear nice clothes? What if she wants others to think she doesn’t even think about that even one bit? What if she wants it to seem like it all just happened, it’s just natural? Well, what would happen is what happened to our poor salesmen: She now feels like he doesn’t understand her. And, since he doesn’t understand her she obviously can’t believe that what he is communicating to her is real. Now, she feels like she has to first evaluate his statements to see if he understands her BEFORE she can match against her reality or give her agreement. In other words, he just screwed himself over. If he passes these tests a few more times and she feels she is understood then he is back on track( but, most people have no clue and they simply barrel forward getting further and further AWAY from the person they are trying to gain agreement with. (This is because the best ‘presentations’ are set up to require the biggest commitments the further you go into the presentation.) Framing As Taught By Others Will More Surely Get You Into Friend Zone or Nobody Important Zone Quicker Than You Can Snap Your Fingers Here’s a simple little test to discover if you are not fucking yourself over with framing: 1. Does the Frame encourage/reward her to open up to you? 2. Could you say the Framing statement to a straight dude you just met without getting punched? If YES then it shouldn’t be in your stack unless it does #1. Good Example: “Dude, you really shouldn’t be playing with your hair like that( I’m trying to be a good boy tonight and that is making it hard for me(” (PUNCH!) Bad Example: “Dude, you seem like a really friendly and nice person.” (No punch, I suppose you could say it COULD do #1 but it is weak, weak, weak, and let’s not be weak, ok?) Why does #1 exist? Very simple principle here: If she is unwilling to say certain things to you then how can you even come close to matching her reality and gaining lots of agreement and understanding? What will happen is you will THINK you have some agreement and press forward seeking ever greater levels of agreement until the DISagreement builds up and she notices it and feels the need to extricate herself. Which reminds me: One of the sources of LMR is that principle #1 wasn’t honored very early in the interaction.
Got the idea? One more point: Doing a lot of frames that don’t do #2 will almost SURELY get you put into “Friend” or “NonFactor” zones. I’d NEVER get more than two #1s ahead of the #2s I’ve set. If you have, then when you DO try #2 a mental reorganization has to take place which may or may not happen. (It would be better not to do it in the first place. Much easier to do this stuff RIGHT the first time than try to go against the grain.) What to do if you get caught in a non-sexual Game There IS a way out of a ‘non-sexual Player’ designation and that is to act like SHE has just done something to make YOU FEEL LIKE A NEW GAME IS AFOOT. Example: “You like the Pixies?! Really?! Get out of here! I never pegged you as a girl who would like them( come a little closer (smile and look her up and down)( you know, you have what they call ‘bedroom eyes.’ I never noticed that before.” Let me unpack that a bit for you. First of all you MUST act like she did something and it made YOU re-evaluate the Game. This gives the idea that YOU were the decider of which Game was being played based on HER Player qualities. Now, that you’ve got this new bit of information( you are now ready to accept her as a Player in a different type of Game. See that? You’re the decider (credit: George W. Bush). And, you’ve given her some information on WHAT the new Game is. Now she feels qualified by you as a Player and she knows the Game (or atleast that it is now a SEXUAL type of Game). All that packed into one simple statement. Want to know more about all this bad-ass framing, Games and internal exercises to get you laid better, faster, easier and with more certainty than ever before? If so, look for the Completion Offer link at the bottom of this post. I’m extending it until Tuesday Midnight in honor of Labor Day! Captain Jack
Your Adventure Quotient: Let’s Have Some Adventures! Posted at September 13, 2010
Those of you who know my story know that I found Pick-up while going through a divorce. I had been doing the ‘coporate thing’ and the ‘family man’ thing for about 6 years. I think I was patterning my life after my Grandfather. Then, I got insanely bored with the corporate life and cut ties with it( about the same time I got tired of that woman in my house who kept telling me to do shit like take out the trash and come to bed and blah, blah, blah. So, when I got my freedom I decided I wanted some Adventure! To me that meant making money in a way that would also allow me the leisure time to enjoy it. To be at the pool, to read great books, to travel a bit and of course( ( TO KISS AS MANY PRETTY GIRLS AS I POSSIBLY COULD( Shortly thereafter I fond myself in a hot Native American’s car (she had hair down to her ‘brazilian-like’ ass) going about 100 mph racing to a pool party. Before I could say, “Nice house” everyone had stripped naked and hopped in the pool. Now, you gotta picture this( I’m a computer scientist turned copywriter( newly divorced( was just a couple years outside the stuffy environment at IBM and Sabre Corp( and here I am standing fully clothed while 2 chicks and a dude (I met all of them that night) were hopping around and splashing naked in the water. What did I do? First I thought: If I get naked, then these strangers are going to see my penis. Then, I thought( Holy shit( those girls have AWESOME TITS! My last thought was: Keep a 6 foot distance from the naked guy at all times. Right after, I stripped off my clothes and dove in.
I had sex with the hot Native American and had trouble NOT cumming instantly when her friend was standing there saying stuff like ‘Are you fucking her hard?’ and various other shit. That’s adventure! But, you gotta be willing to roll with it, you know? And, even better, you gotta be willing to create it. The world is starved for adventure. If you look at the type of stuff people consume, the stuff they read and pay for, it is almost all about having unique experiences, adventures of some sort. Women read ‘Romance’ novels which are nothing more than softcore porn stories. People watch all these movies that take them on adventures because they are having NONE of their own. So, let’s have some adventures! You have to look at yourself as the guy who is going to give her an experience. Sexual adventures are the best kind. She’s bored as shit!!! You have to look at yourself as the guy that is going to spice things up for her. You want her talking about you and her experience for days, weeks, and months afterwards. Did you know girls have a checklist of ways and places they want to have sex in? If it’s forbidden, if there’s a risk of getting caught, if she can brag to her friends about it then she wants to do it. And, I want YOU to be the guy that helps her (and others) do all that. So, here’s the deal: I’m going to hold ‘The Adventure Course’ — it’s 4 week audio and email coaching program. We’re going to leverage what we know about Game Dynamics (including my new never before published stuff) to get you rolling in using Game Dynamics and Sexual Framing to have adventures. There will be lessons, assignments and email feedback over the next 4 weeks. We’ll start off with a few background audios so if you’re new to Game Dynamics and Sexual Framing you’ll have the background material to get you up to speed. It’s only $149, which is by far the lowest price I’ve ever put on a product of this magnitude. Normally, I’d put a price tag of $300-$350 on something like this( Let’s have some adventures! Captain Jack
Remember That Book ‘The Rules’? Posted at September 14, 2010
Remember that book that caused a stir a few years ago? Did you ever wonder why it was such a success? Knowing Game Dynamics should clear it up for you. It will tell you WHY it was a success and WHAT it’s major flaws were. Here’s why it was a success: Rules clear up confusions. In regards to male-female relationships nearly everyone is in confusion. Rules help you clear up those confusions. They give you a way to be and act. Therefore, in the middle of interactions you aren’t having to run your old pattern or choose one of several old default actions. You have a definite thing to do or a definite way to evaluate WHAT to do. When this book hit the mainstream women previously walking around in a fog suddenly felt a huge sense of relief! The book took off like a rocket and the authors were on every talk show you can imagine several times. But, it’s impact hasn’t been that lasting. We can’t say with any certainty that the women who read it are better off. And, we certainly can’t say that the Dating Scene has been improved to any degree. So, where did it go wrong? Here are a few ways: The authors assumed that there was only one Game to play: Committed Relationship. This is a HUGE mistake. Rules are definitely needed. They are a MUST. You can say that without Rules you have no Game. But, rules applied to the wrong Game end in MORE CONFUSION not less.
And, the confusion is a lot more heated, too. If you feel like someone has explicitly agreed to something and then gone back on it you will feel a lot more angry than if they did something against the rules but you two had no previous agreement. For a simple and concrete example just think of this. You are on a basketball team. Your opponents are all playing NBA rules as are you. Your teammates are mixing hockey and football rules. Not a successful way to do things. Here’s another way: The focus of the rules were on the interactions leading to Sex instead of defining the nature of the sexual relationship. This is like walking up to someone and spouting off rules before you have even established what Game and gotten agreement they want to play it. They also messed up by assuming the Man is the opponent instead of realizing he is the TEAMMATE! Isn’t the nature of your interactions with a teammate much, much different than that of an opponent? Gosh man, if you treated a teammate like an opponent about how long do you think you’d have them as a teammate? Not very long, which is why ‘The Rules’ burned out fairly quickly. Would you like to do it right? There are a bunch of women out there hoping/wishing/dreaming they’ll meet a guy who can. Take another step to being that guy with the Adventure! program. I’m going to break down all of the ins and outs of being that guy, of interacting with her, of asserting Games and getting agreement and FREEING her from her confusion so YOU and HER as a TEAM get to have all kinds of male-female fun! Join the Adventure! Program now Captain Jack
Exciting and Unusual Experiences Posted at September 15, 2010
The title of this blog post is one of the definitions of Adventure. I’ve been getting quite a few questions on the new Adventure! program so I want to answer them for you here while they are fresh on your mind. 1. How is it different from Force21/Sexual Framing Mastery/etc( It is completely different. You will see elements of each of them but this is all about gaining Mastery of Game Dynamics out in the field and getting direct, specific feedback from me on all the drills, exercises and field reports you do out in the real world. This has enough theory to put you into action so that it becomes REAL to you. For example, one drill shows you how to KNOW what Game is active in her mind and how to de-activate it and bridge from her Game to the one YOU want to play with her. Another aspect, it completely clears out the stuff that would keep you from properly ‘team mating’ with her. Imagine if you constantly mistook your teammates for your opponents? Your team would SUCK. Well, almost EVERY PUA I HAVE EVER SEEN DOES THIS!!! Even the ones who have achieved a lot of success are still limited by this( it doesn’t reveal itself as a bustable sticking point. (By the way, that discovery alone brings everything to a new level( imagine the discovery that there are sticking points that don’t have an obvious solution because they are hidden by 2-3 layers of presenting problems above them) 2. Why is it so inexpensive? Most of my products are about $300.00 — I set them at that price because I do NOT like to have half-assers in any of my programs and that is one way to weed them out. I also have to consider the amount of time I spend versus what I WOULD be making working on my other projects and I need to set it that high so it makes financial and time sense. Unfortunately, this weeds a lot of well-meaning but financially strapped guys out. So, let me make this clear. This WILL be sold for $300 in the near future just like my eBootcamp is( I am launching it at this price because I am PUMPED about the new stuff and I want as many guys as possible to take advantage of this so I’ve set the price low. 3. What is the format?
You’ll get two audios as background material. The core of the program is the written material which provides all the data needed to begin going out and playing GAMES in the real world. But, that is NOT the best facet. The best facet is that you’ll get direct email feedback on your problems AND you’ll see the answers I provide others. You’ll also get to see the observations and breakthroughs of others which quite often spurs your own realizations and improvements. (I started that practice on Force21 with my “From the Front Lines” email reports from other participants and it was very, very popular). 4. When does it start? First lesson is sent out this Friday the 17th. You CAN join after that as well. You’ll get the full experience but you won’t be in sync with the group so if that is valuable to you I’d sign up ASAP. Also, within a few weeks I will be raising the price. Running Games the right way will really clear up things in-field for you. It will make Pick-up much easier, funner and exciting for you. She WANTS someone who can give her that sexual charge she craves. She’s HOPING she’ll meet someone who can do it. It’s why she goes through all that trouble to make herself sexy every time she goes out. Shouldn’t YOU be the one to get her?
Giggolo says: September 25, 2010 at 3:10 pm
CJJ!!! u’ re da best. No guru can be compared to u right now. Question: in your Force21 program you say that the ultimate alpha male is the one who does more action in the shortest period of time. What about social circle game? It’s different and that principle is wrong. Also, can u tal about SOCIAL CIRCLE GAME! please
captainjack says: September 25, 2010 at 4:12 pm
It still holds in Social Circle game. The Alpha would be the one who is effectively controlling and leading the Social Circle. I don’t talk all that much about these other types of Game because most of my stuff is easily adapted to any other kind of Game. It is all one-on-one conversations in my mind. CJ
Student LR: Where are you from? Posted at September 27, 2010
This is a student LR from the Adventure! program. It is one of 3 so far! LR: Where are you from Last night I went out with a friend to a bar after doing the exercises of xxxxxxx (drill released in Adventure! program). I also worked on internalizing the concept of team mates and game dynamics. Opened a few sets at the bar for warm up. Then my friend and I stood and talked. Suddenly one of the women that was part of a 3 set next to us opened me with a question: ‘We were trying to figure out where you’re from”. (LOL some women have no clue in game and her opener gave me so much value from the beginning.) She was tall and pretty and a little out of my comfort zone.
(CJ: The student who wrote this LR has also been part of FORCE21 program which is one reason why he gets opened by women. Many experienced an huge upswing in getting opened after the program. The end result of someone who has ‘gotten’ FORCE21 is someone who gets opened about once for every 3-4 opens. It is possible to get opened more than you open, as both me and my friend do.) I jumped in and started gaming the set. A few minutes later I called my friend to join us. I have to admit that I’m a bit jealous of my friend. He knows how to be very interesting, has a great sense of humor and has very broad knowledge on different issues. He can hold a set for a long time, keeping them interested in him and make them laugh. But I’ve decided to xxxx him for that (Adventure! program drill) and learn this skill from him. My friend comes off as gay in the way he talks. I also suspect that he’s a little gay, even though I saw him game women and he never admitted it to me. But he’s a great guy and I admire him. Anyway, very often (and in this case also) women try to find out if my friend and I are dating each other. Once we were asked that bluntly by a woman. I always find that funny. I think it is related to game dynamics and the women are trying to figure out our situation and clarify the game. I isolated the woman that opened me. Did strawberry field on her, which made her laugh hysterically and time bridged her. 30 minutes later they left the bar. Opened a mixes set of two Asian chicks and two guys. Locked in on one of them and stayed with her for the rest of the evening. We quickly got very into each other and she followed me in the bar everywhere I went. At one point I said that we should go to my place to watch a movie. We said goodbye to my friends and she spent the night over. Awesome night. I felt very confidant the entire night and everything run very smoothly. You can still join “Adventure!” - we just added a Google Group for the program which will allow us a higher level of interaction and feedback. The price goes up this Thursday night at Midnight to the standard $300. It is only $149 now. Just click the blue “Adventure!” link to read more about it. Captain Jack
CJ Phone Coaching Re-Opens Posted at September 29, 2010
I’ve recently decided to re-open my phone coaching offer for the first time in almost a year. Here’s how the phone coaching works: After you sign up, I send you an email asking you a few questions. This helps me to start thinking about your case. Then, we get on the phone and I ask a few more questions to give me an idea of what your primary issue is (it is ALMOST NEVER what you think it is) and then we formulate a next set of actions to get you through it. That is the first call. On the next call we discuss your results, find out what new sticking points you have and formulate a new strategy or modifications to the previous strategy. We do the same with the third call. By doing it this way it is possible to break a few Sticking Points and reach a new personal best in your Game. Many have! Also, while you are implementing the field strategy I’ve set up you can email me any questions related to it so you can keep rolling and hit your objectives. There is no expiration date on any of the calls so you can use them whenever you like. (I recommend though that you wait a week between calls at least so you’ve had a chance to make the changes). Each call is about 40-50 minutes. Any shorter than that and we don’t have enough time to diagnose, solve and
then drill a solution. Any longer and the mind starts to shut down and go into ‘think-think-think’ instead of Act. I have time slots in the afternoons and evenings. I don’t do this very often but I’ve recently been encouraged by all of the progress you guys are making and I want to add fuel to the fire! If you are interested use the link below. CJ Phone Coaching 3 Pack CJ
Power of Now? Posted at October 26, 2010
>> This is from an email I sent to a phone consultation client who also paid for email support. >> He mentioned the use of “Power of Now” in relation to some of the drills I gave him and asked my opinion. The Power of Now is great for some people and sucks for others. It is great for near-pyschotics because they are so focused on the PAST that paying attention to the present actually solves most of their problems. However, the goal is NOT ONLY to be in the present. That leads to being the effect of the chaotic environment (at best( controlled by others at worst). You want to be in Present and fully oriented towards the Future. When you are ONLY in the present you will be aware of your body because it is connected and receiving information in present time from the environment. Via this dynamic it is also a method to get into the present. But, just being in the present is not really all that desirable. It will make you ‘well-adjusted’ to your environment, which is psychology/psychiatry code for ‘easy to control, docile, not a threat to the establishment, willing to fit in to ruler’s plans, etc’ You don’t want to be ‘well-adjusted’ you want to be king of the life you are creating. This requires ADJUSTING the environment to yourself. The mind’s function is to pose and resolve problems relating to Survival. By Survival I don’t mean just barely living. It is a scale with No-Survival (death) at one end and complete Abundance of resources, friends, allies and happiness at the top (which goes to infinity). So, the mind is at its BEST when it is aware of the present but oriented and calculating to the future. The present forms the ‘now’ and the future represents the desired state, the mind caculates the thought, emotion and EFFORT necessary to bridge the gap. Captain Jack
Dissolve The Negativity Holding You Back… Reach A New Level of Living! Posted at November 3, 2010
Dear Fellow PUAs, A few years ago I was in pretty damn bad shape. My back ached like mad. So much that every morning when I woke up I took a combination of tylenol and aspirin. That was partially to help my back and partially to kill my hangover(. because I spent most every night getting SMASHED. You’d think I had a grudge against my brain cells and liver and I was on a mission to eradicate them both. You’d think the same about my heart. I was FAT! tipping the scales at about 225lbs. (I’m now about 195 and still slimming down). I had trouble paying my bills. I didn’t like MOST people. I was STUCK and could see myself going downhill FAST! So, a few years ago I went on a quest to answer some serious questions for myself. Maybe you have asked yourself similar questions: Why do I sabotage myself? Why does it seem that my past limits my future even though everyone says it doesn’t? Do you ever feel stuck so that no matter what you try you get only small, temporary improvements in your life? Are you tired of acting positive and hoping for the best even though things are not going the way you want? I studied EVERYTHING. Devouring books upon books, courses upon courses. Most things yielded NO improvement. A few seemed to help just a little bit but nothing major. Here’s what I discovered: The decisions, conclusions and painful experiences of your past DO have an effect on the present. Over 60 years ago, a researcher discovered that those painful experiences are stored in a special part of the mind. But, NOT the unconscious mind as so many believe. These stored experiences, conclusions and decisions are THE cause of your stress, fears, insecurities and your STUCKNESS. But, there is a way to remove these experiences so they no longer affect your mood or behaviors one bit. When I first heard about this technology I was hopeful and skeptical all at the same time. There were quite a few mixed reviews but I’ve always been the type NOT to let someone decide for me. I decided to take a look for myself. I was TIRED of being told something could be done. That I COULD improve my life. I sort of felt like it was my last shot. But, I’m SO glad I didn’t listen to my skepticism. Shortly after using these techniques my mood started to improve. I found myself more willing to do what I needed to really start making things happen for myself. A dark cloud that existed over me and around me melted away. I had no idea just how pervasive that could was, but it was slowly killing me. My back pain started melting away. Alcohol became less and less of a crutch. People told me I seemed happier and I felt it. They told me I looked younger and healthier. I felt like, for the first time in many years, that life was good and going to get better. Income improved quite a bit. I HANDLED a lot of stuff I had been ignoring in the hopes it would go away. I began to feel a lot more capable and powerful. I was LIVING again! And, it was great! I wish I could say *I* created this technology but I wasn’t even born when it was being developed. Some of the most successful people you hear and read about already use it. Even more successful people you’ve never heard of use it. Now, you may have noticed a burst of creativity in the formulation of Framing and Sticking Point Analysis. I give a LOT of credit to this technology. And, I give ALL of the credit for Game Dynamics, Master Strategies and FORCE21 to this technology. It allowed me to really SEE what was there and restored my creativity and lucidity to codify and teach it. You can learn all about this technology from a fairly new How-to DVD that describes it in full detail. My family has watched it and so have most of my friends. You CAN improve your life. This is not hocus-pocus. It is real, it works and you can get started immediately after watching the DVD. Before you drive yourself crazy trying to pin down exactly what it is( let me tell you what it is NOT: • It is NOT psychotherapy • It is NOT binaural beats or brainwave training or alpha meditation
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It is NOT hypnosis It is NOT Law of Attraction It is NOT Positive Suggestion It is NOT EST or Landmark It is NOT psychology or psychiatry It does NOT require drugs It is NOT religious It is NOT conditioning It is NOT a fad It is NOT a tired “think happy thoughts” program
It IS an exact and effective technique which is easily learned and done. So easy, actually, that I have yet to find a person who couldn’t do it! I have gotten my mother, two of my best friends and two young daughters on the program. Here is a list of the things that it can do. • It DOES increase energy level • It DOES improve perceptions • It DOES increase confidence • It DOES increase happiness markedly • It DOES lessen accidents • It DOES reduce stress and anxiety • It DOES increase intelligence (Over 135 IQ average) • It DOES increase relaxation • It DOES better relationship potential with others • It DOES do all these things and much, MUCH more! It works regardless of your beliefs. In fact, you don’t have to BELIEVE in it for it to work. You just need to DO IT by following the instructions. Then, you can decide for yourself based on your own experience, which is how you should decide ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. It works regardless of your belief( Much like you don’t have to believe in Gravity for it to work( Let go of an apple. It will fall regardless of what you believe. The technology is built upon its own set of newly discovered laws. And so, this technology, exactly applied, gets results every time, without fail. It flat-out works — with the same predictability as gravity. It helps you understand your mind, what it is composed of and how it works. You’ll discover how this hitherto unknown part of the mind influences your life. And in many more ways than you would think.
The result is YOU being FULLY YOU for the first time in your life! Free to act, accomplish, be and do to your utmost! It is a fairly long DVD describing in detail EXACTLY how to use the technology. The DVD is professionally produced by a non-profit organization that is 60 years old and counting. It really is the best DVD I’ve ever seen. I’ve watched it 3-4 times. It is not expensive. In fact, I am going to send you the DVD as a free bonus with your paid membership in ‘The New Warrior-King Society.’ The New Warrior-King Society A couple of years ago I created ‘The Warrior-King Society.’ It’s goal was to help men dominate EVERY area of their lives. We had a GREAT run. The program lasted 8 months and we got a lot done, had a lot of fun and improved our circumstances. I’m ready to do it again. I am shifting my focus from JUST pick-up to EVERY area of life. The more I learn about getting better at pick-up the more I realize it is an integrated WHOLE LIFE thing( not just about women. A LOT of the problems we THINK are with women actual come from different areas. Solve those areas and certain other problems with women (which are really just symptoms) disappear. I want you to join me. There is much, much MORE to be had in life. You CAN get everything you desire. And, I want to help you.
Here’s how the WKS works: 1. There is a monthly bulletin where I share core tactics and techniques for life improvement. This is not fluff. It is immediately actionable. You can put it to use quickly after reading it to begin improving your life: making money, handling finances, women (of course), goal setting, social skills, health and more. All of my future pick-up innovations will be funneled through the WKS. 2. The WKS coaching group. We have a forum set up in Google Groups. This is where fellow WKS members share their own wins, tactics and techniques. It’s also used for networking and asking questions. I’ll also be on there to give advice, feedback and clarify. 3. Regular Tele/Video Conference calls via SKYPE. A lot of the information is best conveyed via voice with discussion as well. This is a program for guys ready to make major improvements and take major strides in life. It is $97 per month. You can cancel anytime, no questions asked. When you sign up I will immediately send you the previous WKS newsletters which you can study and begin to apply. I’ll also send you the “First Workable Definition of Alpha Male” msm audio which has been considered one of the 3 most valuable audios I’ve ever produced. This includes the FREE BONUS DVD I mention above shipped immediately. On Dec. 10th I’ll be sending out the first lesson. It is already finished and awaiting you! >>> Let’s get started! <<< Captain Jack P.S. The website is http://www.thewarriorkingsociety.com but hasn’t been updated. There is some more material on that site, however, some of the details are out of date. Feel free to look around if you like. The payment link there still works as well. P.P.S. You CAN have everything you want in life. It really IS up to you. A few months from now you can already be on your way to a new life.
How to Become a God in 30 Days or Less Posted at November 4, 2010
Hey there( Let’s get some shit done. In this blog post I am going to give you the reasons why your life (probably) doesn’t look how you want it to( 1. You haven’t even thought about how you want it to be 2. You have thought about it but don’t believe you can do it 3. You haven’t committed to the level of sustained ACTION necessary to create it 4. You try to do it but shit gets in the way and you roller coaster up and down 5. You don’t realize that there is an important crucial ingredient that nearly EVERYONE overlooks in ‘goal setting’ and ‘success’ circles. What do you say we put something in place to change all of that? Step 1: Pick something in life that sucks. Step 2: Decide how you want it to be instead. Get really clear on it. Get specific. Step 3: Think of all the reasons it can’t be that way (the way you thought of in step2) and disagree with them. Step 4: List all the things YOU can do right now to change it. Step 5: List all the people who could help you with it and tell them what you are trying to do and ask if they can help. Step 6: Think about how long it would take you to do all the things in Step 4 and 5. Step 7: Decide that is too long and decide to do it all in one day. Step 8: Move faster than everyone else. Up your production by 10. If you normally make 3 phone calls in one day make 30. Step 9: When you run into an obstacle look and see if it is really an obstacle. It usually isn’t.
Step 10: If it is an obstacle locate its source and dissolve it through communication, disagreement, blowing past it with action or Persistence (to continue steadfastly or firmly in some state, purpose, course of action, or the like, esp. in spite of opposition, remonstrance, etc.) Notice “in spite of opposition” — even if that opposition is your own thoughts, what you believe your physical endurance to be, what you believe your limitations to be, what other people think/say Step 11: Look at your progress and ask “What worked?” make those consistent actions. Look for what didn’t work or had little effect and toss those out of your plans/behaviors Step 12: Alter your environment to support the change. This is the ‘missing’ ingredient mentioned in #5 at the beginning of this post. The best way to alter your environment is to have someone ELSE hold you accountable. Not in a nagging way but in a very simple, supportive way. For example, you could email your friend and say “Would you mind emailing me every day for the next 30 days and asking me this question, “What did you do TODAY to handle your financial situation? Email me back the list(” That alone would be a simple, supportive action a friend could and WOULD do. It would CHANGE how you go about things. It comes from a simple revelation I had recently having to do with the role of the past in a person’s life. I discovered that the past DOES have an effect but it is more related to 1) SEEING possibilities and potentials 2) habits and 3) self-sabotage( (but the future plays a larger role in the realm of ACTION. You aren’t working today because of something in your past. You are working today because you have rent to pay on the 1st and groceries to buy this week! Getting rid of past shit is good and VITAL but putting a good solid future in place and altering the present environment to support that will have a much larger effect over time. Without a future you are interested in creating you will primarily rely back on habits AND the stimulus-response effects of your current environment. I want to help you with all 3. I say we attack this and do a 30-day push from each angle. Angle #1: Lessen the influence of the past! Angle #2: Create a Future to Live Into! Angle #3: Get a supportive group that can help us with the actions necessary to handle something. So, I’ve put together a little package that I know everyone CAN afford. It’s only $49 including U.S. shipping (add $10 for international shipping so $59) This package includes: 1. the special DVD I mentioned in my last blog post. It is THE best way I’ve ever seen to help lessen the past’s effect on you. It is hands down the ONLY self-help type system I’ve ever seen that has worked. The DVD is about 3 hours long and is complete in itself. 2. The First Workable Definition of Alpha Male (from the Master Strategies series): This audio gives you the real description of Alpha Male and how YOU can become one starting today. It gives you the exact steps to creating an Ideal future scene and what you need to do to create it, not in a touchy-feely metaphysical way but in a way that can be followed and DONE. If you already have this audio then email me what you are working on for the 30-day push and I’ll find another suitable audio to send you. 3. I’ll create a MASTERMIND group for the program where everyone can discuss their projects, ask/give feedback. We’ll give each other help and a kick in the ass when necessary. Pick an area of your life and let’s start moving. It can be related to women, health, finances, finding a job (or a better job), making more money, whatever( Become a GOD in some aspect of your life in the next 30 days and then start broadening that out to larger and larger areas until you’ve got a bad-ass life. Here’s an easy way to start. It’s cheap. I want to help. The other group members want to help. Let’s do it. >>> Become a God! 30-Day Push (U.S.) <<< >>> Become a God! 30-Day Push (International) <<< Captain Jack
How to Get More: Money, Women, Life and Adventure Posted at November 7, 2010
Be More “Selfish” “By the power of imagination, all men, certainly imaginative men, are forever casting forth enchantments, and all men, especially unimaginative men, are continually passing under their power(If I can unintentionally cast an enchantment over persons, there is no reason to doubt that I am able to cast intentionally a far stronger enchantment.” – Neville Goddard It all starts with a picture, a feeling, an idea of your Ideal Lifestyle. It’s different for everyone and is mostly likely connected with your Purpose. It might be to rise to the ranks of CEO in a certain industry. Or, to be lazy on the beach writing songs and strumming your guitar by the bonfire. But, whatever your Ideal Lifestyle you won’t ever get it until you envision it and cut away all the bullshit. Fiercely. Unapologetically. If you don’t have a clear idea of what you want, you’ll find everybody else more than glad to decide for you. In fact, for 99% of men that’s exactly what happens. They live life with their parent’s voices in their heads. They imagine appeasing their woman to avoid her nagging (or outright wrath.) They live how society conditioned them, through the media, through the school system and through government dictates. They wake up at some point, look around and ask, “What about me?” or “Is this all there is?” It’s been called the “Midlife Crises” and for the most part made fun of. It shows an Accountant getting a Harley and a tattoo. Or, the sensible father of four running out and getting a two-seater Corvette. It’s been portrayed in other ways, too. Remember Joel Schumacher’s movie Falling Down with Michael Douglas? You can find this masculine outcry in the humor of Maddox book “The Alphabet of Manliness” and in the crazy adventure of Tucker Max. And, finally, awesomely portrayed in Chuck Pahlaniuk’s Book, Fight Club. These are all examples of the Masculine force poking through Pop Culture’s crazy barrier to make a point. Here’s the point: Any time you distort or try to mass control something as basic as Masculinity things are going to get screwy. We are, by nature, purpose-driven. We are at our best when we focus on something big. We are here to
conquer. Not each other, but ourselves. The Masculine force seeks to conquer the World as a reflection of himself. This is the Warrior role. Find a purpose, Conquer. Then, you are a King. But, it doesn’t end. It’s a cycle. Warrior-King over and over again. If you haven’t committed to yourself to do something big with Life, to really go out and create a Life and a Lifestyle worthy of your highest aspirations then the World (the reflection of yourself) will kick your ass. You’ll become a fat, pale, wimpy reflection of the man you could be. Women will scorn you. People will call you “nice” and then take advantage of you in subtle ways. The whole point of this “Become a God” 30-Day Push and of “The Warrior-King Society” is to reconnect you with your inner power so you can dominate again, like you were meant to( So, let’s begin How to Get More(Money. Women. Life. Adventure. We’ll start with( “How to Free Yourself From Other’s Secret Motivations!” What you’ve just read was the beginning of the first article of the first newsletter of The Warrior-King Societypublished in June 2007. Starting THIS Tuesday we will be starting a 30-day Push to help you make huge progress on some goal or area of life that you have, it can be related to women, money, life, health, whatever it is YOU want to break through to a new level. We will be using the newest, cutting-edge WKS processes to help you achieve it. We will have a Google Group where we all communicate and assist each other. 30 days from now you can have achieved a LOT with our help. You can sign up here: >>> Become a God! 30-Day Push (U.S.) <<< >>> Become a God! 30-Day Push (International) <<< Captain Jack
Become a God and Adventure! Posted at November 15, 2010
Hola PUAs! For those of you in the Adventure! Program you should’ve received a message titled “Adventure! 4a” — if you haven’t you are not getting the emails from the group properly so email me captainjackpua AT gmail DOT com and let me know so we can get that squared away. Also, I’ve posted “Task 2″ to the ‘Become-a-God’ program. We are officially underway! If you have signed up but have not received an email from the group titled ”Let’s Start & Task 2″ please contact me so we can get you on the list. It’s not too late to sign up. 30 days from now you can have achieved a LOT with our help. More details here: Warrior-King Society-Money, Life, Women and Adventure. Or, you can sign up here: >>> Become a God! 30-Day Push (U.S.) <<< >>> Become a God! 30-Day Push (International) <<< Captain Jack
Blog Craziness! Posted at November 24, 2010
Yo, So a few of you have either commented or emailed me asking about what’s happening with the blog. Here’s the deal: I am cleaning up and leaning up the blog. I have 400 or so blog posts but many of them are time-sensitive or random thoughts, etc. My goal is to remove all of those (but I’ll keep them around for historical purposes, just not on the live blog) and keep the blog posts that have the highest value. There are also quite a few that espouse ideas I have since found detrimental or, at the least, an unnecessary complication of pick-up which I will also delete. I want the blog to be lean, quick and nimble so that anyone can read the posts and get a lot of value without trudging through a bunch of rambling or housekeeping type posts (like this one). I figure I can probably cut it down by half or so. The blog should be a combination of my best posts along with being congruent with my current philosophy. The development trail should be left to the Grande Adventures PDFs. Many of these deleted posts will be contained in the next installment of Grande Adventures (version 3). If you see a bunch of weird blog stuff happening over the next few days don’t worry. I’ll be done soon and this’ll be a much better blog as a result. Captain Jack P.P.S. You can get “GameAdventure!” and “Become a God!” courses as a package for a mere $188.00 — we have over 30 guys in each program and they are brilliant! Lots of progress being made! About 60+ unique members and almost 400 posts in the Groups in about the first month! I’ve been hopping on almost everyday to comment on posts, give feedback and post lessons.
How to Bust a Slump Posted at November 29, 2010
If you’ve been in this Game for very long you’ve no doubt hit either a slump or a plateau. The two have the same basic root causes and in this little post I’ll help you get back into gear and succeeding again. Here are the 3 things I do when I hit a slump: 1. I reassert my focus on the Goal. A LOT of pick-up problems stem from accepting Obstacles as valid substitutes for the Goal. In Game Dynamics, the focus is always related to the Goal. The obstacle is only taken into consideration long enough to calculate the move around it, through it, over it or whatever you do in order to get moving towards the goal. (The best thing to do is usually IGNORE it because there are only a few real/valid obstacles( the majority of them come from your head.) 2. I get back to basics. I’ll let Sinn speak for himself as to how important he does/does-not think this is but many a time when things weren’t going well for us we’d grab a pen and a pad and put together a routine stack and COMMIT to using it that night. We’d think about what we were NO LONGER doing that we used to do that worked and put it back in the Game Plan. A couple nights of this would often give me a jump start and get me out of the slump. 3. I find a way to make it fun again. This Game usually SUCKS if you aren’t succeeding. I try to get the fun back in there by setting some outrageous goal, trying out something I haven’t done before or even remembering a time when it WAS great fun and reading some old LRs/FRs to get myself in the mood. What if that doesn’t work? Well, then I usually enforce some strict discipline with ‘Gun to the Head Gaming.’ If the slump lasts a very, very long time I suggest just STOP going out completely for a few weeks and get involved in something else. There is most likely something wrong with your viewpoint and you need to disconnect for a little while before taking another look at it.
Sometimes the slump/plateau was a SIGN that other shit in my life wasn’t going well. I’d make a list of unfinished business and knock it out as quick as I could, this would often take the mental drain off, refresh me mentally and I’d be ready to go again in short order. Captain Jack
Kill AA & Get Freedom from All Barriers Posted at November 30, 2010
Have you ever wondered why some guys are more willing to approach a 7 versus a 9? I’ve wondered it because I noticed it in myself. There I was bopping around the mall having extroverted myself out of a pretty deep malaise when I spotted two women working behind the counter at the mall: One of them I’d consider a 9( the other a 7. I noticed something else, too( My desire to OPEN the 7 was stronger than my desire to open the 9!?! My physical/sexual desire FOR the 9 was much, much higher( yet, the feeling of actually opening was higher for the 7. (I’d noticed this before but this was so much more succinct and delineated because of the split second difference in awareness of the two so I could examine the diff in desire to actually open much closer in time). Why would this be?! Wouldn’t it be more useful and make more sense to have a much higher compulsion to open the 9 versus the 7? Shouldn’t physical/sexual desire make you MORE compelled to actually open? Due to the compulsion the actual probability to open the 7 versus the 9 was much higher. I would be more likely to open the 7 than the 9. I’ve noticed this a LOT in other puas as well. There are 9s all over the place( but the dudes are covering the 7s like white on rice. I’ve even seen another phenomena( the guys actually INCREASING their sexual desire for the women they are most compelled to open. The intersection is often called, “Their type.” The very next day while I was still puzzling with this phenomena internally a friend of mine went ape shit over some girl. I thought she was about a 5, maybe 6 if I’m being generous( He swore up and down she was a 9 and was bucking around like a bull at the rodeo. Normally, I’d just think it was his ‘type.’ But, now I was thinking something different. Did he modify his sexual desire because his compulsion to open her was higher? Perhaps, but that didn’t completely solve the puzzle. Desire to open is also related to something else: Belief that you can actually get her! Now it REALLY started making sense. Well, that event led me to find a technique to gain mastery over the compulsion/feeling of opening. It is the subject of Master Strategies #8. The technique shows how you can modify your own emotional responses to gain control over them. What if you could control the actual willingness and compulsion to open? If you opened women when your compulsion to open reached an 8 on a scale of -10 to +10, wouldn’t it be AWESOME if you had the ability to get to a 9 or 10 ANYTIME you wanted? And, that’s just on the Desire/Repulsion scale. What if you could do the same for a Confident/not-confident scale, a Playful/Serious scale and anything else necessary to winning in life? This installment of ‘Master Strategies’ gives you the full technique along with what to drill on and a list of scales I’ve found most useful in my own endeavors. If you are a part of Master Strategies you should’ve received an email about it already. (Those in GameAdventure! are getting it as well). (If you haven’t received it please email me at captainjackpua AT gmail DOT com as it may have gone into junkmail.) After listening to it I want you to add: 1) A ‘Scale’ to the technique with ‘Actually Have’ at the positive side and ‘Not Actually Have’ at the bottom/negative side. (You’ll know what I mean AFTER you’ve listened to it.) 2) A ‘Scale’ to the technique with ‘Approach Enthusiasm’ at the positive side and ‘Approach Anxiety’
If you are NOT part of Master Strategies you can get it right now for just $49. After your payment, PayPal will direct you to an instant download link. Thirty days later you will be charged the balance for Master Strategies ($246) and will receive the previous 7 audios after that payment and all future MS audios (there are 4 left). Anytime during that 30 days, if you don’t feel like you want the other MS installments simply cancel your Paypal subscription and PayPal will not charge you.
What Are You Trying to Achieve in Life? Posted at December 10, 2010
Hola PUAs, I’ve put together a very short three question survey so I can assist you better in your goals. It should take less than a few minutes to read and answer. You can view the 3 questions here and decide if you want to answer: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/TPTVCZV Thanks in advance if you decide to answer! Captain Jack
Warrior-King Society: The Validation Method of Competence Posted at December 13, 2010
You may have noticed that the competence and confidence level of our world is very low. Not only is the level of workable knowledge very low, the ability to apply the little workable knowledge we DO have is very low as well. One of the reasons is the WAY skills are taught. If you look at standard education across the world it is based on INVALIDATION. You get things marked wrong on your test. The very idea behind a test is the assumption that you don’t know the material and are so irresponsible that you must have the outside pressure before you’ll even bother learning anything (this has some truth BECAUSE of the way education has been set up from the beginning). This invalidation method of education breeds lack of confidence. It is not even geared towards application, practice, drilling so the competence level remains low. I’d like to reverse it. Validation and practice is the key to both confidence and competence. If the current systems of learning wanted to teach you to draw a perfect circle here’s how they’d do it. They’d probably have you read the steps to drawing a circle. Then, they’d have you draw some circles. They’d get out a red pen and mark a big X through all the sections of the circle that were lopsided. You would get the paper back with a % grade and if it was above 70% you’d be considered a competent circle drawer. The Validation Method of Competence would be quite different. In fact, almost the reverse. First, you’d get the definition of a circle with examples so you’d KNOW what a circle is without a doubt. (A circle is a simple example so this would be more meaningful for more complex information/tasks). Second, you’d receive step-by-step instructions on how to draw a circle. You’d read those and we’d make sure you KNOW and understand completely the instructions. Third, the instructor would say, “Now, draw a circle.” You’d give it a shot by drawing a circle. Fourth, the instructor would say, “What is right about it?” and then “Good! How close did you get?” (This is so YOU get confidence in your own estimation instead of relying too much on Authority.) Fifth, you’d look at the circle, examine it against the reference examples and decide how close you got. Sixth, the instructor would say, “Excellent. Now, draw a circle.”
You’d repeat steps 3 through 6 until you could draw a circle with ease and KNOW confidently that you could do so. This method is much faster, much more sure, and doesn’t consistently undermine a person’s confidence by pointing out all of the places where they are wrong. You’ve been invalidated all of your life by a system that did not understand this. Your confidence AND competence level is NOWHERE NEAR where it should be. Let’s reverse this right here, right now! Grab a pen and paper (best) or open up a word processor. Pick 4 areas of your life( Example: Finances Health (add muscle, eat healthier) Philanthropy (more time and money to literacy and drug rehabilitation programs) Businesses Now, order them so that the most important or most troublesome occurs LAST. Health (add muscle, eat healthier) Finances Philanthropy (more time and money to literacy and drug rehabilitation programs) Businesses Starting with the first one imagine the Ideal you want to achieve. Get it clear. Then, begin listing all the ways you are RIGHT or CORRECT or have done well. Ask yourself, “How have I been right about X?” List as many things as you can. When you have trouble thinking of another thing ask yourself again. Do this a few times until you aren’t able to come up with anything else. Then, go onto the next area of life or skill. Health (add muscle, eat healthier) Started eating fruit in the morning -
Added hindu push-ups and hindu squats to daily routine Read a ton of books on the subject and found good, workable ideas to apply
Had a banana this morning Finances -
Kept bills low despite temptation Meeting all obligations on time
Put together a plan for incoming money that is sound and very doable and connected to reality and my own idiosyncracies Etc. How and why does this work? Remember the Magnification Principle? By LOOKING at what you’ve done right it magnifies the right actions and associated attitudes and makes them even more accessible for the future. Further, the practice of looking and evaluating instead of depending on outside Authority allows YOU to see where you are wrong. It is VERY different to see it for yourself than to have a past invalidation active and criticizing you in your head under the guise of your voice. This yields mental and behavioral flexibility because we are so used to accepting invalidation or battling it that we get caught up in defending our rightness instead of really seeing what is there. After you’ve built up some of this with the earlier subjects you should have a pretty fascinating realization on the last one, the area of your biggest problems or most important life aspect. That is why we saved it for last. A problem CANNOT persist if you truly look at it. This drill will help you dissolve problems simply by looking. Captain Jack P.S. This is just one technique in the “Become a God Program” of the Warrior-King Society. You can still join for the introductory price of $49 for the first 30 days. If you decide to stay a member you’ll be charged $97.00 per month. You can cancel at anytime. When you join you’ll get the “The First Workable Definition of Alpha Male”
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Looking forward to the New Year! Posted at January 4, 2011
Hola puas! Well, that’s another year gone and it went by like a blur for me. Lots of realizations. Lots of highs and a few lows (but not real, real lows). Here’s what’s been happening with me, I’ve got Game Dynamics down so good it is scary. I can now play any type of Game I want, flip girls in and out of Games at will and basically do what I want. Many of the chaps inthe GameAdventure! program are reaching that skill level as well. By the way, if you haven’t signed up for it you really should! Besides Force21 it is my best program( I have lost most interest in Same Night Lays. Though, I still love teaching and talking about it. It’s funny because when I got SNLs down I really thought THAT would be IT. I thought I would just be in hog heaven. Well, I was for awhile. It is a GREAT thing to be able to do that pretty much at will. After that though, it gets a little hohum( plus, I have never liked smoky ass bars, wanna-be players/gangstas, dirty tattooed people, drunk people or loud music. I was there strictly for the girls (and for a long while the alcohol). I think it might be because my awareness has expanded a great deal (more on that later). The OTHER thing is I’ve had a ‘girlfriend’ of sorts for the past 6-7 months. She looks amazingly like Jamie-Lynn Sigler so I’ve been a happy camper for awhile when I’ve wanted her to supply a much-needed distraction By the way, I’m still getting opened opened by girls quite a bit as I’m out and about minding my own business. It’s pretty awesome. The other thing about SNLs is it’s strange to see/read/hear other people talking about it. I coined the phrase and methodology and got a lot of heat for it in the beginning because it was considered “Fool’s Mate” by Mystery and pretty much everyone else but that one guy who used to hit on women at magazine racks at the bookstore. (Forgot his name). I have pretty much given up alcohol. I have had alcohol 5 times max in the last year and didn’t enjoy it at all. In fact, I very rarely even take any aspirin/tylenol, maybe 3-4 times this year. I attribute this to the purification program I went through last year. It really blew the cobwebs out of my head and got me thinking clearer. I am writing a book. Yep, after all this time I’ve decided to put my knowledge down into a book. It won’t be a rehash either. I am going to get nuts and bolts with it. I suspect people will either love it or hate it as it will go contrary to most/all pick-up knowledge including most of my early stuff. I also suspect a bunch of newbies will stop reading around page 11 and start searching for internet porn instead. The Conclusion In my mind and my experience both in the field and in teaching, I consider Pick-up to be “cracked.” It is no longer a mystery. It is not some complicated thing. It is not hard. It is actually very, very simple. All of the knowledge is in my earlier products. I am going to create a curriculum so that it takes a person from beginning to end in a gradient and with no leaps in knowledge, logic or skill. I’ve been working on this for some time. I will finish it this year. Besides this project, my focus is shifting more towards the Warrior-King Society. I don’t believe it would be right for me to stop at helping guys get good with women. There is a LOT more to be gained. I hope you’re with me in the new year. Captain Jack
captainjack says: January 6, 2011 at 7:21 pm
Hi Jonas, I wouldn’t wait for the new curriculum/book it is going to take a while as it will probably be one of the last major things I do in Pick-up. I’m shifting almost all my focus to The Warrior-King Society. If you follow the links above you’ll see info on programs. CJ
Listen up Young Bucks… The Pirate Speaketh Posted at January 11, 2011
I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. Here I am sitting at Starbucks when a group of people hurriedly sit down at the big table with their double-mochaiced-low-fat-blah-blah whatevers and begin whipping out their iPads. Goddamit, I’ve got to be in a corporate meeting and I don’t even work in corporate America. Then, it happens( Corp-speak begins to dribble out of their pie holes like steaming hot lava from a volcano. “Core Competency” “At the end of the day” “Our brand identity” “Operational Synergies” And, as if that wasn’t enough to make me upchuck, there’s a guy sitting at the table right in front of me reading a “Dummies” book on how to get rich on eBay, complete with reading glasses. And( get this, he’s taking NOTES. No shit, man. I am not kidding here. You know( it’s HARD being a bastion of Genius and Creativity when you are surrounded by such retardation( but, I guess it’s just a cross I’ll have to bear until some science nerd invents an IQ Pill. (P.S. If you happen to know a nerd working on an IQ Pill do NOT send him to this blog, he’ll suddenly start getting laid and forget all about science and then I’ll be stuck around all these ‘tards for the rest of my life. AFTER he creates the pill I’ll send him a copy engraved in Gold but not until then.) Whatever. So, what’s the deal here? Am I just writing a random ass post because I’m a 35-year old grumpy old man, or what? No( No, I’m not QUITE to the point of pointless bitching( I’m working up to something, there IS a point to all of this. You know what, I’m going to write about your potential now. What do you suppose separates YOU from your goals with women? Knowledge? A killer opener that will make her immediately lay down and toss her legs wide open? Better looks? A kick ass pair of New Rock Boots? (Haaa, old school. Do they still make those?) A bigger meat puppet? I’m going to say no to all of those. The thing that separates YOU from your goals with women can be summed up in a single word( Vision! Yep. That’s it. Well, thanks for reading this post. Gotta run. See ya. (haa! I wonder how many of you were out there going, “No, shit! Wait! Don’t leave now!” Haa, Shame on you for thinking such things! You know I’d never leave you hanging!) So, what do I mean by Vision? Well, when you examine the scene in regards to women what do you see? You see your conclusions based on your past experiences and knowledge.
Sounds reasonable, right? Well, that means your Vision is already out of whack because it is based on the past. Most PUAs evaluation of their TRUE skill set is 6-12 months in the past. The further in the past that evaluation is, the less efficient ALL of their efforts at improvement are( BECAUSE they are not giving themselves credit for the improvement so the improvements don’t get reinforced. Instead, what you’ve got to do is have an Ideal and match what is ACTUALLY happening to the Ideal. A true and valid assessment will allow the PUA to discard what is not working and reward and adopt what IS working thus creating a positive upward spiral. This will show you WHERE your interactions break down. When you’ve identified that you’ll be better equipped to know WHAT will take you to the next level. Got it? Sticking point analysis is key. As is writing your Field Reports/Lay Reports (even if unposted). More later( Captain Jack P.S. There are no hot girls in here. Sometimes a dude just can’t catch a break.
Use ‘Sunday Sadness’ To Boost Your Response Rates Posted at February 2, 2011
Yo Mega Puas, I’m snowed in! I tried to pull the ol’ Yukon out of the garage yesterday and promptly started sliding all over the place. The drive right in front of my garage is complete ice. I couldn’t even get it BACK in the garage. Sucks. And, it was a little scary to be sliding around like that. But, I’ve gotten a SHITLOAD of work done so it’s not all that bad. (Plus, a little bit extra time on Black Ops!) Let’s do a little thought experiment. Imagine you are a hot girl. You got all made up and prettified and went out with your girls on Friday night. Here’s the basic story. Most of the guys you saw did nothing. They stood there, looked around, maybe even stared at you but for the most part they just drank (like fish). One guy came over and chatted you for a second but just as you were getting comfortable and used to him being there he left. A couple of drunk guys came over and tried to “mack” but you were kind of annoyed and didn’t do much more than answer. One guy you really liked got the nerve to ask for your number( then immediately left. The few guys you really wanted to talk to did nothing when you dragged your gf halfway across the bar to stand not more than a few feet from them. Saturday night played out pretty much the same way. The few guys who did get your number haven’t bothered to call or have texted boring ass shit. Here’s one such probable text exchnage: Dork: Hey, remember me! I’m Dork from m-bar. Hottie: Yes, how are you? Dork: Fine. How are you? Hottie: Good, just shopping. Dork: I like shopping. Has anyone ever told you you should be a model? Haa( probably not THAT bad but sure not very far from it! Excruciating isn’t it? Ok, ok( you can stop pretending you’re a chick now. I’ve made my point. There she is on Sunday. And, if she were honest with herself there might be a tinge of sadness. She’s done everything SHE THINKS she can do to land a guy. But, most guys don’t get that Romance = Male-Female Sexual Tension so she’s left settling for whatever she can get without making her feel like a complete slut or trashy girl. Not a good spot to be in. But, I’m in the business of making Heroes! You, my friend, are going to start being a Hero to the women out there.
Now, let’s suppose that instead of the usual dumbos she met out on the weekend you were kind enough to walk over and strike up a conversation. Maybe you noticed her and used the Non-Verbal Communication on a Gradient Scale to warm things up a bit. You may have thrown out a simple LIO to get the ball rolling or simply said, “Hi, I noticed you from over there and wanted to meet you.” After a little bit, you said something like, “You know, I’m sure you get tired of hearing this but( you have very( very( nice( lips.” etc, etc. and you get her number and time bridge her. Then, on Sunday between 12 and 4 you text her. That time frame IS important. You see, she probably didn’t wake up until about 10 or 11. Got up, got moving a bit, took a shower. The thoughts of not getting any on the weekend going through her head. A tinge of sadness, a bit of frustration and then( blam! There’s your text( MegaPua: “Hey sexy” Relief! Sexy? He called me sexy! This is the guy who gets it. Yes! This could be interesting. I have to play it a bit cool( I’ll text him something coy. Hottie: “Hey, what’s up?” There you go. She’s now on a high. You’re a hero dude! And, we all know Heroes get Hotties! What do you do from here? Well, how about a Time Constrained Day2 that can always extend into a night of fun if all goes well? Captain Jack P.S. Mass Sexual Framing Teleseminar course is starting on Feb 21. It will be 5 weeks long. We’ll cover EVERYTHING you need to Mass Frame entire venues and social circles. You don’t need to be good at Sexual Framing already as we’ll cover that in-depth. There will be a call each Monday night. If you work hard it should make for a VERY interesting Spring Break followed by a Legendary Summer! Just click the ‘Buy Now’ button to get started.
How To Be a Kick-Ass Wingman Posted at February 6, 2011
This is devoted to Sinn easily my best Wing ever. If you’ve got a Wing (or Wings) make sure they see this. Just send them the link or post it to your forum or blog. There used to be an article floating around called “Wingman Rules” on fastseduction or Mystery’s Lounge or one of those forums. I can’t remember it but I do remember I liked having something called “Rules” or “Points” to help focus. Now, I stay away from a lot of talk about Winging mainly because I don’t think a PUA should TRULY Wing until he is getting 1-2 lays per month consistently. I decided on this because I noticed that most newbie puas were out in the field doing little more than trading bad habits and giving each other shit feedback. Maybe that’s a bit harsh but it’s true. But, I know you silly fuckers (talking to the newbs here) are going to try to wing together anyway so I’ll give you some advice to make it worthwhile. Rule 1: When out gaming or heading to the Gaming Venue: No talking about Game Theory and ideas. That kind of talk introverts you. (You CAN talk about what you are going to do( your Game Plan and past successes, though). Rule: 2: Don’t enter the set until your Wing has it hooked and he and the Target are beginning to separate from the group. If this is a 2set you need to get there RIGHT when that happens. If it is bigger than that you have a bigger window as other group members can talk amongst themselves. Rule 3: Never ASSUME your Wing wants you in the set. He may be doing just fine on his own. Instead, use a signal. At the old Mystery Method bootcamps we had a simple play. You walk by your Wing’s set and ask, “Hey, have you seen Melissa?” if your Wing wants you in the set he’ll say, “I think I saw her over there. Hey, meet soand-so they’re cool(” and he’d intro you. If not, he’d say, “I think I saw her over there.” Then, you’d look at the set and say, “Damn, I should’ve introduced you guys. That was VaginaBanger, my good friend.”
Rule 4: Your job as Wingman is to give your friend and his girl time ALONE. As much as possible. Sometimes that means playing monkey. Sometimes it means putting up with a snot. Whatever. You do whatever to give him as much time as possible. He’s gonna turn around and do the same for you. If not, find another Wing. Rule 5: If one of the girl’s friends is not liking the situation you need to vouch for your boy. Tell her a story about how he did something awesome for you. Or, simply talk him up. You should do that anyway but especially if her friend(s) are disapproving. It would be good to have something short memorized BEFORE it comes up. Did he save a litter of kittens from a burning building? Let her know. If that’s too Gamey or contrived for you then all you gotta do is talk about how he’s been a great friend, he’s awesome and you’d go to battle for him. She’ll get the point. Rule 6: The best thing you can do for your Wing is get the other girl(s) attracted to you. Most of the negativity or non-optimum conditions in the field stem from sexual frustration. (In Game Dynamics we would say that Sexual Frustration stems from Confusion about what Games are being played and/or their confidence in playing the Game they believe is most valued). This is why Sinn and I excelled as Wings for each other, we could get the other girls attracted to us quickly and thoroughly. And, we had ESP for Rule #3, no gimmick or code needed. It seemed he’d show up right as I needed him. And, I think, he’d say the same about me. Rule 7: If you can’t do Rule #6 then have a normal conversation with her and act interested in her conversation. If she tells you how she likes to dress her dog up as Presidents and Famous People( well, that’s the most fascinating shit you ever heard! (And, if you can’t do #6 then push your PUA Skills to the Stratosphere). Rule 8: A PUA never accepts mediocrity from his Wingman. That means you give gentle pushes to each other in-field and BIG pushes when not in-field. ( A big push in-field will most likely introvert and cave in the recipient so use kid gloves.) Rule 9: A PUA never disses his Wingman to get in good with girls. If you are in set and the girls start hating on your boy, it’s time to exit. (And, it means he needs a lot of work on point 6). Rule 10: Whoever opens the set picks the Target. Now, that means that the Target is his( however, it doesn’t mean he can arbitrarily switch if things aren’t going well. You might do fine with the Obstacle and he goes south on the Target( well, life sucks. You fulfilled your part of the bargain so the Obstacle is yours. Rule 11: If you are failing at Rule 6 and 7 then exit the set as gracefully as possible. Ok, I could probably think of a lot more but I think you get the gist. Now, if your Wingman has a lot of issues with being slow to open or AA there is a way to help him. Before you get to the venue you need to run this very simple process on him. You pick out an object and say, “Look at that X.” When he says ok, or nods or says/does anything that lets you know he’s looked at X you say, “Thanks” or “good” or “alright” and then do it again. You’ll do this over and over again until he feels good and interested in his surroundings. But, this is just basic groundwork stuff. In a few days, I am going to post another article on this topic. It is going to cover WHY it’s best to have 2 Wingmen with you instead of 1( and, how to use the 3 PUA Set-Up to run an entire Venue. If you haven’t hit the RSS feed by now, this is a good time! (And, let your fellow PUAs know there is some new technology on Winging coming!) Captain Jack I’m going to be doing a 5 week Teleseminar program on Mass Sexual Framing (MSxF) very, very soon. I’ll be covering all the different ways to get women sexually framed, willing to Day2, willing to meet you out and even willing to open OTHER girls and bring them to you. And, if you’ve got a Wing who is ALSO running MSxF, my god, watch out! If you want in just click here: Mass Sexual Framing Mastery Extravaganza.
Captain Got Answers! Posted at February 8, 2011
Yo, Get your questions answered! Post a question in the comments and I’ll start answering them and use them as material for future blog posts.
You can read the follow-up up post to this one here: “Captain Got Answers: The Next Level!” Captain Jack
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Fitta says: February 8, 2011 at 8:31 am
Whats your favorite non-pornographic pornographic magazine to jerk off to?
captainjack says:
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February 8, 2011 at 8:53 am
That’s easy( Architectural Digest.
Matt says:
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February 8, 2011 at 8:35 am
Whats the best way for someone to learn game who doesnt have access to you or any of Americas top game instructors? Im a firm believer of learning by Kinesthetic learning is this the best way forward?
captainjack says:
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February 8, 2011 at 8:54 am
Hey, Good question. You are going to have to be your own Guru. I’d suggest fully knowing and understanding Sticking Point Analysis. Identifying an instructor who has good content and putting it to the test in your world like a scientist. That’s what I did. CJ
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February 8, 2011 at 9:02 am
Hey CJ, Love your sexual framing material. Great stuff. Does your whole attraction portion just consist of strawberry fields + rings on fingers or do you throw in any teases, banter, etc prior?
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 9:26 am
Well, that’s a pretty complex question. Strawberry fields and rings on fingers are actually about 20% of the actual content but 80% of the work. I use “jealous ex” a lot because it tells her what Game I am inviting her to be a Player in with me. I do tease if she’s the type of girl that enjoys it (not all do). Basically, your whole goal is to give her exactly what she needs at that moment to go to the next level with you. What I am REALLY looking for is “What Game does she think we are playing?”, “What do I need to Clarify?” and anything else that will get the Game clear and clear those 4 Game Dynamics Dynamics( ( If I can do that then I know it is going to be an easy, smooth smoo and pleasurable ride for both of us.
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Mike says: February 8, 2011 at 9:09 am
How early and/or what frames should be set before your through out your classic statement “You know im trying to have a conv and your just being too sexy I cant even concentrate here”.
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 9:33 am
That type of statement would come pretty damn early. That would follow some general compliment about how her clothes definitely accent her best assets or something like that. I don’t think any frame is necessary before that one. The only reason a Frame wou would require another frame (a Pre-frame) frame) is if it is too steep on the Gradient and it could cause Snapback if placed. You want to avoid Snapback so you put the frames on a Gradient. They are ALL the same frame! The frame is “You are Sexy and I’m seducing you you!” !” If you write down 5 statements in a Gradient Scale of boldness you would have a Sexual Framing Stack that is no longer than 5-7 5 sentences that would put you ahead of 80% of all PUAs and ahead of 98% of all males out there Gaming.
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chris says: February 8, 2011 at 9:20 am
I’m getting AI’s and IOI’s from old women, married women, women open me while they are on dates or out with thier boyfriends. The problem is that I am invisible to the 25 to 30 year old hotties who are single. I’m 40 and have my act together. I don’t care if a woman has a boyfriend but I just want to know why I am getting the results I am and not the results I want and what I can do to change this.
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February 8, 2011 at 9:59 am
This is a really interesting question actually. You are probably NOT invisible to the 25 25-30 30 year old hotties like you think you are. This used to happen to my as well. See: Mystery Solved: Why Old Ladies Love CJ and Getting Women to Approach You. You It is great news that you are getting the AIs and IOIs and even getting opened! That means you are doing something right. Now, how are we going to make the jump to the younger hotties? Well, first off, I’d like to tell you not to depend so much on AIs and IOIs. You need to go open the young hotties and get some experience with them. You probably already know that, right? But, I gotta put it out there. With that out of the way I want you to try an experiment. I believe you are MISSING the initial AIs/IOIs from fr the hotties. I think you are most likely getting them but not seeing them early enough and so the young hotty has nothing to go on and shuts it down. I want you to go out a few nights and watch hotties and see if you can even see her giving AIs/IOIs to ANYONE at all. This will start getting you a little more used to seeing it when YOU are not involved and your own considerations and blockages aren’t in the way. Captain Jack
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February 8, 2011 at 9:29 am
Jo, I have got a question. As far back as I can remember I prefer coloured girls / women. I was asking if you have had any experience with them and if you could give some advice about how to use pua tactics on them (in general)? And if you could use the kn known own tactics on them as well? Cause I once read that they can look through you in the way that they get your intention almost immediately if your’e trying to pick em up. Thanks in advance.
captainjack says:
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February 8, 2011 at 10:00 am
Yes, lots of experience. Probably much more than the average PUA guru. Don’t treat them any different. CJ
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Gerry says: February 8, 2011 at 9:43 am
How can I build solid connections and prevent flaking?
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 10:24 am
Building solid connections is really about listening. However, it is not entirely necessary to prevent flaking. If you get solid sexual framing done and THEN have a bit of a connection the connection itself will be fueled by her sexual biology and this be much, much stronger than a conversational connection. Also, don’t get numbers, get TimeBridges. A TB has the effect of imaginary you and her together outside of the present time/space thus making the idea of you and her together more real. She’s already imagined it once when your influence on her was the stro strongest ngest therefore it is much more likely to be followed through with. CJ
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February 8, 2011 at 10:07 am
A lot of guys who want to be good at PU work in very demanding corporate jobs, probably 50 to 60 hours a week. There’s often no time to go out during the week, and on the weekends I find myself too exhausted and prefer sleeping instead. To become good at tthis, his, do you think it is necessary reducing working hours at least for a year or so? Otherwise I don’t see how “Having lots of women in my life” can become real at this point (
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February 8, 2011 at 10:21 am
No time to go out during the week? Hmm( Are you sure? You can get in a lot of work from 9-11 9 if you really wanted to( but, even just going out on weekends should be enough. I’d mix in some online dating, one or two networking meetings a month, one or two h happy appy hours per week. It’s really a matter of “If it could be done, how would I do it?” CJ
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Big Dave says: February 8, 2011 at 10:08 am
Can you critique this(off the top of my head and as per your last comment 1. Those jeans were screaming “come see me” 2. I know you prob hear this ALL the time but you have the sexiest lips 3.Your past boyfriends didn’t spank you enough, you’re in withdrawal. thank god I came over to save you. 4. ohhh those lips, put them away(what are you(about an 8 on the good kisser scale? 5.Eggs, cereal, toast(what else are you gonna want for breakfast tomorrow Just riffing after being awake for 10 minutes, Thanks Cap’n
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 10:18 am
Can you critique this…off the top of my head and as per your last comment 1. Those jeans were screaming “come see me” Hmm( I’d probably say something like, “Those jeans are DEFINITELY working for you.”
2. I know you prob hear this ALL the time but you have the sexiest lips Good one.
3.Your past boyfriends didn’t spank you enough, you’re in withdrawal. thank god I came over to save you. Like it.
4. ohhh those lips, put them away…what are you…about an 8 on the good kisser scale? I don’t like the question at the end.
5.Eggs, cereal, toast…what else are you gonna want for breakfast tomorrow No. This is too presumptive and will trigger her Anti Anti-slut slut defense. A key distinction here is to make her feel like SHE is sexy. That she IS having a sexual effect on you. Just riffing after being awake for 10 minutes, Thanks Cap’n
joe says:
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February 8, 2011 at 10:13 am
gotcha, thx!
Chase says:
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February 8, 2011 at 10:14 am
First of all, thank you for your invaluable advice! I am reading it since 2006 when you were still posting at the mystery lounge and it helped a lot! You talk about how important it is to have a clear mental image or vision. How do you find one (or create one) that really excites you so much that you put in and maintain A LOT of action to get there? Might sound like a triviall question, but it is the biggest sticking point for me at the moment. Also, considering my profession, I went through a big dissappointment and find it hard to figure out something I have a burning desire for.
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 1:17 pm
Hmm( well it seems you might need to start smaller. I’d start small and work your way up for the next month. Look at your bedroom. Find things you don’t like about it. Now, decide you are going to change it and make it happen. Do as much as you can to make it better right now. Then, go to your living room. Your car. Your workspace at work. Every environment you are in, make it better somehow. This will bust you out of the ‘environmental control’ slump and free up your mind for some bigger pictures. Captain Jack
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February 8, 2011 at 10:34 am
How the fuck you came up with game dynamics? How I can be a genius like you? If someone put a gun in your head, told you to get the hottest girl of the venue, and if he saw too much effort he would shot you, what would you do? What do you think is the fundamentals, the “must learns” in order to become succesful with women? If you could change any step you take in your journey or remove some, what would you did differently? How do you deal with laziness? Im sorry for the tons of questions and questions that maybe would need a lenghtly answer, but you will have to agree its not always I got a chance like that haa.. (By the way there still loads :B)
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February 8, 2011 at 1:13 pm
Question #1: Observation! Asking why things only worked sometimes. Asking why sets that were going extremely well all of the sudden unraveled. Following the trail of weird/unexplainable shit down. Testing the theories to see if they made more sense of all the weird shit. Postulating a phenomena that would exist were the new theory true and then seeing if the phenomena existed in reality. Question #2: Learn the scientific method! Question #3: First, I’d hurl my Ninja Shuriken into his forehead for threatening me. Then, I’d do Brent game (“Be The Mayor”) on the venue and intro the second hottest group of girls into her group. Finally, I’d run standard sexual framing on her after that. Question #4: All over the blog dude! Question #5: Hmm( good question! I think I’d definitely drink less! Other than that it is hard to say. Question #6: Deal with laziness? I revel in it! Captain Jack
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February 8, 2011 at 10:43 am
Yep(Somehow I knew the two with questions didn’t work and statements are better. That’s how ya learn though. So basically 5 statements about how you’re getting turned on more and more. You’d combine this with SF and ROF? That would be the stack ?(minus opener, TB and bounce) Big Dave
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Aly Al says: February 8, 2011 at 11:37 am
How often should you call/text a girl to come out with you. I have a couple of cuties that are always busy with work (one is a waitress, the other started bartending). I am usually to busy during the week but I can’t get them to t come out. (The bartender and I had set a date and she calls me on the day to tell me her and her mom, had to go see something about her mom’s bridal shower and she forgot it was the same day.) P.S. I always have the same issue when I get a number at bars also. They pick up the first time I call and then they stop picking there after.
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 1:05 pm
Your problem is actually a common one of lack of sexual interest. If you get them sexually intrigued from the get go then these types of problems don’t exist UNLESS you confuse them on the Game Dynamics. People’s primary method of dealing with confusion is avoidance. Captain Jack
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Dave says: February 8, 2011 at 11:41 am
Hey CJ, how do you open these days?
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 1:22 pm
I haven’t been doing a lot of opening lately because I had a fb/gf and haven’t gone out really since we started having sex( but, I like “Hey, noticed you from over there and wanted to meet you.” and any LIO (Low Investment Opener) r) I can think of or one of my standards. Captain Jack
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Sawyer says: February 8, 2011 at 11:54 am
Good idea Captain! And thank you for the great stuff that you give to us. My problem (sticking point if you want) isn’t approach anxiety but talking, building a connection and sparking attraction. Maybe I lack what you call a ssexual exual frame? I often don’t approach at all because I feel like I have nothing to say. I’m an introverted guy, and sometimes I don’t feel like talking but I still want to bang the s**t out of some girl. How can I overcome this sticking point?
A related question: tion: when I don’t give a f**k about a girl I can talk freely, tease her and basically act confident. But in the exact moment I begin to think “hey, she is into me. I’m in the middle of a dry spell and I’d like to sleep with her!”, then I’m screwed. My mind d goes blank. How I could overcome this problem?
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February 8, 2011 at 1:02 pm
Ah, you are a special breed that I’ve run into a few times and had to come up with a creative solution for! Never before publicly released Force21 Force21-based method here: Go out where there are a lot of hotties( Mall, College Campus, Club/Bar, Concert. Now, look at a girl and find something interesting about her. Find something that doesn’t interest you at all. Now, find something interesting about her. Switch to another girl. CJ
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Melt says: February 8, 2011 at 12:09 pm
Hey CJ, Sexual Framing is really killer, thanks. Actually, if I want a fuckbuddy, game dynamics 2 and 3 are very clear, but what if my game goal is a sexual relationship (meaning that I want to keep her as a gf but I also want sex ASAP)? What’s the best way to do that, having sex soon doing sexual framing as always and then start a relationship or mixing sexual frames and connection stuff (risking an unclear game dynamic)?
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 12:59 pm
Oh, that’s easy dude! All you gotta do is go for the sex quickly using SxF and then get her over as quickly as possible to do it again. Ideally, you’d want to have sex with her 3 3-4 times in the first 10 days with at least 2 of those times meeting just for sex (i.e. her coming over or you going over there) without going anywhere else. Also, you’ll want to read up on ‘Fuck Buddy Rules’ to keep things running smo smoothly.
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Mojo says: February 8, 2011 at 12:20 pm
What is the best way for somone, who has been a long time in the SUIC and got no results ? What are the fundamentels?
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February 8, 2011 at 12:54 pm
Hmm( That’s a rough question because I don’t have a lot of data. There could be a million reasons, man. First thing I’d do is pick ONE method and create a Game Plan from it. Go out and do a ton of approaches. Compare what happened to what the system says w will ill happen and use Sticking Point Analysis to bridge the gap. CJ
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February 8, 2011 at 1:19 pm
Hello Captain Jack, thanks for the blog. Iam from Germany. 1. Did you find a solution to reduce or maybe kill Approch Anxiety? 2. You never wrote a article about how to open a set in a club or bar. Should i do what Mystery do? How do you do, what opener do you use? thanks a lot stefan
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 12:05 am
1. AA is pretty sticky subject. First off it is one name for a ton of possible problems. In some cases, it is multiple problems at the same time. You take care of one and there is almost no approach anxiety but then the desire to approach is gone. I have tried a LOT of things to handle it. The ONLY thing I can say that worked is Dianetics. 2. I think I have lots of articles on that subject, even LRs. Mystery’s stuff is solid but a bit too complex and misses the sexuality aspect and overemphasizes the social aspect. Captain Jack
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Jack says: February 8, 2011 at 1:34 pm
Thank you, you rocks! How can I work with you? (Serious, q, can we discuss?)
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 12:09 am
I am creating a custom program that will be tailored to each individual. Watch the blog. Details soon.
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February 8, 2011 at 1:48 pm
Thank you very much, I’ll try it.
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February 8, 2011 at 2:54 pm
1) I wanted to know if there was a limitation to getting good with women? like anything I dream up like converting celibate nuns into cum sucking whores, converting lesbian girls into cock hungry bitches (probably biologically impossible), mpossible), or meeting a six set taking them home and have an orgy with them the same night, like is the sky the limit you think? 2) In your experience since youve reached mastery have you questioned yourself if this is pointless? And asked yourself if you were wasting your time with this, or do think it has been a worthwhile learning, living this particular craft?
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 12:02 am
#1 Actually, the first and last scenarios are pretty doable. Real lesbians? I wouldn’t bother, why stress yourself out? Besides, they probably suck at male male-female sex, all their calibration is off. #2) Yes, I have asked myself if it was all pointless! The thing is: It’s pointless if I do something I don’t want to because someone else thinks I should. If I want to then I do it. If not, I don’t. I think it has been very worthwhile learning this craft. It’s truly fun, too. There’s a certain amount of relief that goes with knowing you can basically get a quality, hot girlfriend or just sex anytime you want. And, helping others really is mentally rewarding, too.
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Ridder says: February 8, 2011 at 3:35 pm
To what degree is the girl aware of what she is doing when she dresses sexy, goes out, sends AIs and so on ?
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 11:56 pm
Very aware. Have you read Cosmopolitan magazine? Have you sat next to a group of 19 year olds at Starbucks who think no one listens or has Ninja Hearing? They know. They are just as graphic as any dudes. CJ
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February 8, 2011 at 4:48 pm
How much does all the evolutionary stuff that Mystery and the community espouses factor into pickup? If women truly are geared to go for the top Alpha male then how can a guy use game or some kind of charm to overcome that? If this his evolutionary stuff is so ingrained in our DNA, then how can a guy say compete with say a better looking or richer guy?
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February 8, 2011 at 11:55 pm
Get that shit out of your head. Stand in front of her. Make her feel it. CJ
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SikNasty says: February 8, 2011 at 6:09 pm
Sup CJ, 1. Do you try to set the sexual frame and get agreements on the game dynamics as early as possible and then simply have a normal conversation without trying to break out of any frame or violate any game dynamic you previously agreed upon? Or do you set the se sexual xual frames early and get agreements on game dynamics throughout the conversation? 2. Does the gradient scale of SF compliments reach a point where it makes her horny and turns her on? 3. What is the calibration process for girls who seem more ‘emotional’ vs girls who seem more ‘sexual’, do you change or calibrate where you begin and how you escalate on that scale without causing ‘snapback’? 4. Did you learn about ‘snapback’ through trial and error? Can you give your views on it, what do you do if you get it etc..? 5. What is the conversation ratio throughout the conversation from the beginning towards the end and how much is it you leading and deciding what you talk about? 6. What are preferrable topics to talk about and topics to avoid? 7. What’s your take on kino and kissing? 8. How many times do you move them? 9. Open whole group or target preferrably? Lol sorry for all the questions but your insights are invaluable and much appreciated, thanks man.
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February 8, 2011 at 11:49 pm
#1: Depends really. I like to weave it in deftly as I go along through the conversation. However, I get most of the work done in the first 20 minutes. I have gotten good at weaving stuff in because I’ve been in the situation so many times. For beginners I suggest a linear stack where they try to hit the points (mostly) in order. #2: Well, it COULD turn her on. Sinn is good at that because he likes to do quick car and bathroom lays whereas I’m not really into that. You have to ha have ve the guts to get really explicit if you are going to do that. The goal with SxF is NOT getting her horny( it is making her feel sexy and making her feel it is a a-ok ok to be sexy and have sexual desires. It is a release that gets attached to you and thus you become the beneficiary. El Topo is real good at this, too. #3: If you do the gradient smooth enough it will go down the same way. The sexual girl will just join in much sooner. #4: I learned about snapback when I was rolling around with lots of other PUA Instructors. I noticed a lot of Flash Game going on. Looked great for the students as a demo but the PUAs weren’t getting laid. “Why not?” I asked. So, I started doing some Flash Game experiments. I noticed snapback. There emotions went up too high too quickly. ckly. They had to push them down as a safety measure. I believe TylerDurden of RealSocialDynamics wrote about this as well in his posts on Pumping BuyingTemperature. #5: I control the entire conversation from beginning to end. We don’t spend any time on anything I don’t want to spend time on other than for me to let her finish and let her know I heard her without sounding/seeming rude. #6: If you’ve got GameDynamics down wn you can talk about anything as long as you don’t confuse. Avoid anything that confuses or violates the Game you are agreeing to( good idea to avoid talking about exes, medical problems, any rashes or gas you may have, etc. (haa) #7: I like kissing girls,, it’s fun. Not necessary to Game but still fun. If you never kiss her until she is back at your place you haven’t done anything wrong at all. I like to go with the flow here. Is she touchy? Then, I’m touchy. Is she really WANTING to be kissed( ok, let’s kkiss iss pretty lady. Sometimes though witholding all of them can create more tension because the sexual framing is making her feel sexy and releasing her and the absence of it makes her crave it. #8: Moving them at least once is good. Twice is better. But, it’ it’s s one of those things that aren’t all that necessary. If it’s going good don’t change anything. If it starts to die a little bit a change might help you a bit. Mystery had a theory that because of men’s spacial intelligence a woman felt more attracted by a man who could move her. Not sure if I buy it but might be something to it? #9: Target then handle group as necessary. If it’s a big mixed set you can open Target then immediately switch to group, then ask how they all know each other see if Target is atta attached. ched. Mystery Method’s group opening is solid. Actually, it’s all solid it just is a bit overly complex and misses the sexual nature of women by a country mile and overemphasizes the social nature of women. The social nature of women has to do with other women w and groups, not with men and the male-female female dynamic. CJ
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February 8, 2011 at 6:38 pm
Question – when you are at a club/bar talking to a girl and it’s going well, how do you suggest going back to her place? (This is for when your place in unavailable or too far). In some of your writing it sounds like they just a ask sk you to come over and hang out without you asking. Thanks!
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 11:26 pm
First, you need to have the sexual frames set and have clarified all the Game Dynamics. Then, you need to make sure you already have a TimeBridge in place. About 30 minutes before closing or before I’m going to leave I’ll say, “You know, this kinda sucks( I’m having fun talking to your sexy ass and it’s almost closing time. But, I’m not tired, I don’t think the night should end yet.” A lot of times they WILL agree and you can say, “Cool, let’s hang out after this(” — sometimes tthey DO suggest it outright.
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Simon says: February 8, 2011 at 6:43 pm
It’s regarding approach/social anxiety. 1. Do you have any rituals you do before going out to sarge? Like meditation, getting yourself into social state, etc.. 2. What are your rules when you enter a new venue? Do you look aroun around? d? Open sets in a row as soon as you enter venue in order to create momentum..
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 11:23 pm
Question #1: I don’t now but I used to go and read some of my own lay reports and other puas lay reports that I knew. That would usually get me pretty pumped out. I decided though that I didn’t want to depend on anything but my decision to be “on” at all times imes and dropped as much of that as possible. #2: Well, I’m not the best person to ask because 80% of the time I am running experiments or looking for physical phenomena related to some new theory. The best thing to do is get your mouth moving by talking to t the doorman, bartender, waittress and the first set you see.
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Aly Al says: February 8, 2011 at 7:00 pm
Thank you, as always, I really appreciate all the advice you give. To follow up I sexualized the convo (I THINK) by telling her through a facebook thread that her lips were the second best thing about her. She was talking about a “soft lips” chapstick so I used that to get what I think is the frame that we’re not just going to be plutonic, then I pushed for another date for tomorrow after some back and forth texting (she asked if I was talking about her chapstick, I sent her a text xt with a flyer for a club tomorrow, sayin no dummy, lol why would I be into your chapstick) After a few I said so you coming with?(and more back and forth)( I tried my best to frame it as if she is the fun type she’ll come out. And it ended with something she didnt understand, so I texted her( It means I’ll see you tomorrow night and bring that humor I like. To which she responded a “will do.”
P.S. I figured since your using this for your topics and its so common that it would be a win win, I get master advice, and you get a common problem to use as an example. Thanks again for everything Cap. P.P.S. I forgot to mention when I did meet her I did make out with her, but from what I’ve read that’s really no biggie huh?
captainjack says:
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February 8, 2011 at 11:17 pm
Nice work man! Glad for your success. Making out is fine but it’s not a replacement for solid game.
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February 8, 2011 at 7:55 pm
Cj, first, always loved your insight and have been following your theory for quite some time now with much success, and I thank you for that. Question: the more girls I “date” and/or “SNL” the more I don’t want a girlfriend and the less emotional I feel toward them. Sometimes I think I will never get married and am totally fine with not having a relationship. Is this normal? Last year was a great “fiscal” year for me, and I’m not talking about money however, the better I get, the less I care about intimacy and love and all that crap. I just want to know your thoughts on it. Thanks, Cor
captainjack says:
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February 8, 2011 at 11:16 pm
Well, I think that happens to a lot of people. I don’t think it is permanent. I think you are running out of your system the old overreliance on females the “must have” compulsion. So, the pendulum has swung a bit the other way. What happens next is you gain in more control over your emotions. At some point you will be able to say, “You know what( this isn’t for me right now. I’m going to find a great girl and fall in love.” and boom, you will and it’ll be awesome. You could keep that going until you are old a and gray if you want. Or, you might decide to do your own thing for you. Difference is it’ll be up to you. CJ
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Question says: February 8, 2011 at 8:34 pm
I guess the best way to frame my question is “how do you strengthen your frame if its weak?” I try to go out with good beliefs and sexually frame and sometimes when everything goes smoothly from the get-go get I’m fine. The problem, however, is that sometimes I get blown out and even though I try not to, I let this bring me down a bit. Sometimes I go out and people have frames that we can only be friends or that I’m not that cool etc(and I get absorbed in their frame rather than main maintaining taining my own. So basically, how do I maintain focus on the goal and push these obstacles(negative frames) to the side?
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February 8, 2011 at 11:13 pm
Well, this is more Force21 stuff. There is a mental tactic you might try out. If you can get mentally playful it can work beautifully. You have to imagine everyone is in a conspiracy. The conspiracy is they are supposed to mold you into a champion. Everything they do is only to make you into a champion. It’s not personal. You signed up for it. Take their counter-emotion emotion and their their-counter counter effort and reframe it as direct feedback and assistance to up your Game. That’s about all I can do in a written post, if you catch it you will not look at things the same way again. CJ
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February 8, 2011 at 8:36 pm
Captain thanks for all the knowledge you have brought to this community. Really like most of your posts. I’ve noticed you really disagree with most of the dynamics of the EPM of the company you work for (LS) even though you learned ned this model before becoming really good at this, didn’t you? Do you think a newbie guy must learn an easier model before implement a sexual frame based model like yours?
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February 8, 2011 at 11:09 pm
I don’t work for LoveSystems. Nothing against them or any of their instructors but been on my own for a few years now. Also, Sexual Framing is EASIER than all of the other systems. One of the sure signs of something that is not dealing with real-world world mechanics is extra extra-complexity. complexity. The degree of complexity is proportional to the degree of not knowing. A bunch of other things gs have to be added in order to get around the fuzzy spots. When things are crystal clear in view the solutions are simply and effective. SxF is simple. Game Dynamics is even simpler. CJ
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Joe S. says: February 8, 2011 at 8:55 pm
Great blog you have here CJ! I wanted to ask you: Can attraction really be created using game when a woman is NOT physically into you? And is this likely to happen if it does?
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February 8, 2011 at 11:00 pm
Yes! You CAN get a woman into you who is not physically attracted to you. For sure, women’s brains work a lot differently. If you adopt that idea then the world will start making more sense to you when you see hotties with dorks, s, losers, nerds, etc. There is just too much counter counter-proof proof in the environment to believe otherwise. Most guys rationalize, “Oh, he was probably not like that when they got together.” Or, “Oh, he’s probably rich.” Or, “Probably social circle and she gradually lly fell in love over time and settled.” Shit like that. Don’t do it. He made her feel it. Plain and simple.
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February 8, 2011 at 8:58 pm
CJ, hope this isn’t too open-ended(what ended(what are the major differences between how you run daygame vs nightgame?
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February 8, 2011 at 10:56 pm
I’m a lot drunker at night? Haa, just kidding. Well, at night I am a lot more forward. I still get a lot of SxF during the day (don’t day game that much because I’m too busy) and I TB. Goal is to get them into more favorable env like happy hour or bar/club/restaurant within a day or two of the meeting. CJ
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antonio says: February 8, 2011 at 9:24 pm
hey CJ. what do you think are the adjustments for younger girls (18 (18-20)? 20)? I’m 19, live in a mexican not so big city and the people get to know each other for social circle partyies and connecting. What tip can I take to socially connect to ladyies, so I can seduce them later in a one to one enviroment?
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February 8, 2011 at 10:54 pm
Oh boy, this is a fun one! Look, you need to have this attitude( what I do is no one’s business AND I’m really good at keeping secrets. Another one, I believe what two people do is between themselves and no one else needs to know. kn Stuff like that( except you don’t have to say it like you are talking her into sex( you don’t even need to be on the subject of sex necessarily at that moment but it is good if you’ve already broached the subject at least once. She’ll connect the dots.
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February 8, 2011 at 10:06 pm
Hey CJ, Thanks for doing this. Do you have any advice on college game? I’ve come to see that social proof seems to be a much larger factor here. Standard game works well when she’s of equal or lesser social value than you, but I have trouble when the social circle they are in is higher than mine. In your opinion if game is run solidly, should it not matter where your social standing is? Thanks!
captainjack says:
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February 8, 2011 at 10:49 pm
Well, I have a motto that applies to all of game: “All you have to do is make her feel it.” When she is LOGICALLY considering a boyfriend or a fling she might choose someone from xyz circle( however, sex and emotions aren’t at all logical. When you talk to her all you gotta do is make her feel it! Then, the very things that worked against you are now the very reasons she uses to justify WHY her feelings are so valid. “Normally I am not so attracted to abc boys( but, there’s something about him! This must be REAL!” CJ
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February 8, 2011 at 11:33 pm
What is your usual approach when it comes to day game. I would think that a lot of the sexual framing comments you use would have to be toned down. Do you try to instadate or just go for quick number then try to run frames via txt?
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captainjack says: February 8, 2011 at 11:50 pm
I don’t instadate. I go for TB. Strawberry fields works fine during the day so does Rings. Will I tell her I want to put her on the table of Smoothie King and fuck her? No. Will I tell her she has sexy lips? Yep.
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February 9, 2011 at 12:02 am
Hello Captain Jack, 1. Please describe your Strawberry fields and Rings routine if possible. 2. Do you open like Mystery with indirect body language ? Have a nice Day.
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February 9, 2011 at 11:53 am
1. You can find them in the El Topo interview on the blog. I don’t have the link handy but a search should bring it up. 2. Not necessarily. I try to do whatever is most natural. CJ
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February 9, 2011 at 12:17 am
‘hey I noticed you from over there and wanted to meet you’. Would this work on 9 9′s ′s and 10′s with a ‘protection shield’? I would have thought this would get you blown out a lot?
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February 9, 2011 at 11:11 am
Protection Shield is a concept that exists only in Faux Celebrity Game. See “Nested Games” post.
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February 9, 2011 at 12:48 am
How important is humor? Some gurus say you absolutely have to make her laugh a lot in order to get good at pick up.
captainjack says:
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February 9, 2011 at 11:09 am
Humor is always good. Everyone loves to laugh. However, I don’t agree that it is ABSOLUTELY necessary. I’m not sure anything at all is ABSOLUTELY necessary except agreement. I’ve had sex with girls that were like talking to a wall. Literally. No chemistry at all. Have no idea if the frames were excepted. But, when I told them we should hang out after the bar we did and had sex. Weird. The only thing I believe approaches an ABSOLUTELY is willingness to communicate, agreement and sexual desire (not necessarily necessaril attached directly to you).
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February 9, 2011 at 12:54 am
Whats some alternatives to strawberry fields, and rings for SxF? I find it really weird when I try those.
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February 9, 2011 at 11:05 am
Well, that’s an underlying issue with sexuality. If you feel weird trying to set sexual frames then you have some belief/idea that is getting in the way. If you understand sexual framing you can easily create your own statements/routines. s/routines. In Sexual Framing Mastery I break down how Strawberry Fields is structured, why it works in detail so anyone could create a thousand variations of it with ease.
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February 9, 2011 at 1:08 am
Sorry, i forgot one question: What is a good mindset if i go sarging my mindset ist: - I will try this girl, maybe i will get her trying = Outcome Independence maybe i will get her = hope and positive attitude what mindset you use? thanks
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 11:02 am
I like to use a mindset like this: “All I have to do is make her feel sexy and feel sexual freedom.” But, most of the time I am working on something specific where the lay is incidental. I used to do stuff like, “Can I get her to ask me for my number?” “Can I get her to kiss me without directly asking her or making the first move?” The experimental, fun mindset indset is the best to use.
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February 9, 2011 at 2:13 am
Hey CJ, you have so many programs and they all seem like they’re overlapping( What’s the deal? Is there one that’s all inclusive? Or maybe some geared towards certain issues? I’m pretty damn solid at setting the sexual frame, but I’m pretty confused with opening, and chasing the 10′s( 10 What should I check out?
captainjack says:
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February 9, 2011 at 10:56 am
Hi Ells, You’ll want Force21 and GameAdventure! CJ
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Lord says: February 9, 2011 at 3:38 am
Cj These days me and 2 friends pull one chick from a warm game in other friend house. We, the 3 players, made agreement on try to double-team team the chick. One of them is a total natural, other is a natural exposed to the game (mm) and there me, a natural who lost game and mass of social muscles 7 years ago (but now working hard) I carried the logistics (car, ride her through home after, avoid state brakes at car and c3 location with loads of value and music). the total natural friend, nd, owner of the pad, provided some clothes to her to open chances to start heavy escalation – he was leading a frame to a game US fighting with her – obviously she did know what It could means, and we challenge her so she agreed. He also tried to make out with her, and start the fight shit by throwing her at sofa. I was busy too with the sexual frames: I did it in automatic, I swear – I compressed all in one big pattern while we were chilling – adventurous, non judgement, independent, various kinds of love love,, discreption and agression, not sexually because felt It was validate her so much as about to be gang banged. They werent even in my organized stack at these days, but I already was exposed to that concepts. I could tell sexual frames worked even without use of strawberry fields of ring on fingers, because her EYES and PUPILS changed the exact moment I ended. My natural exposed to game buddy was helping on exchange emotional value and was hard escalating, open up levels for each other. He said initially th the e girl was ALL for me, glancing and etc (And I agreed).
Guys start the fight thing and I said “lets the 3 get her”, BUT they escalate her as monkeys craving for rape a cheetah, without consistency – they were there, rubbing the dick at her and making her h horny, orny, and more, not giving me physical space to participate in a good position – I only could hold her arms and head. I realized that missed a sexual frame directive like what I elaborated after the “fail” to double-team: double someone was EXPECTED to make it hotter tter and prep her with shit like “Oh she´s is trying to hurt us, let´s punish this girl by make her horny as hell and not fucking her” and than start to ONE STEP FOWARD, TO BACK After it fizzle out, they tried again, and the moment I got near she felt tota totall unconfortable and stand up. After that I took her home, hard disqualified (plans to make her a wing wing-girl girl and a bait for more girls like her) and did a weak attemp to kiss close. The day after, she called the natural exposed to game friend and invite for drink some beers with her and a friend. He call me to set it, but I refuse for go follow mr cj concepts of work in my sticky points and even give up a possible lay. He invite the natural, and gone for give a ride for her and friend. They hook up, and after that decide to do some shit of drug I think and gone to a motel (hotel for sex here in brazil). There, after each one fuck his girl, they changed girls. I wanna know CJ ninja insights on that! Thanks so much!
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February 9, 2011 at 10:55 am
You get into some crazy shit man! Haaa. Well, I don’t do this kind of thing but I WOULD like to affirm you observation that you could have baby baby-stepped much better. By baby-step step I mean take a much smoother buildup of sexual ideas as and tension, each one building on the last.
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February 9, 2011 at 4:18 am
Hey, Once I get my shit together I really want to commit myself to all things social and dating. I am a complete newbie and feel kinda overwhelmed with all the information. Where should I start in terms of your products and prog programs? which can help me to create a solid foundation and learn and apply the basics? Cheers
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February 9, 2011 at 10:53 am
Hi Alec, eCoaching bootcamp coupled with Sexual Framing Mastery and Force21 should go a long way to giving you a workable plan to execute.
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Tommy T says: February 9, 2011 at 4:23 am
I think you should do a write up on opening sets and girls in bars and clubs. A lot of guys including me want to know more about this. i think even advanced guys could learn something from it.
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 10:52 am
Ok, I thought there were pretty of examples in LRs and such but I’ll plan writing a specific one soon.
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Raed says: February 9, 2011 at 4:55 am
Hey man, thanks for all your greats advices. 1. how do you transition after opening a group? 2. How do you transition after opening a girl away from her group? 3. How important is it to let the girl know that you like her for mo more re than her looks? do you use the popular format of asking qualification questions about her and then making a statement of intent? 4.when adressing the group, how do go from talking to the group, to just talking only to your target and how long does this usually take? Thankyou very much for all of your help. god bless
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 10:51 am
1. I’m assuming you mean how do you transition to the Target. What I do is gradually start talking more and more to the girl (This happens over the course of 5 minutes) until she and I are primarily having a conversation. Sometimes I’ll dramatize that we have ave something in common or she has said something that really fascinates/intrigues me so the others see that we have some kind of bond forming and chill out a bit. 2. Not sure what you mean here? 3. Not all that important. The basic organizing data is to llet et her know she is having a sexual effect on you. Other than that, as long as she feels like you guys can carry on a conversation then you are golden. 4. Hmm( maybe I didn’t get question #1 because my answer to this is the answer #1.
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Lord says: February 9, 2011 at 5:31 am
I called and she was drunked. I made questions about hers plans, and she said she have some, etc blablabla and will call me and girl to met her at a Gay Lesbic bar. Right after we put phone off, I talked with my girl and invited her directly to drink absolut citron with my and girlfriend. With no lag, 1 min, she said yeah and I call to arrange. Prepared the car, music, cigarretes, alcohol and get her – I was outcome independent ndependent about sex occurs and where to hang out, I was thinking she live by herself, but as long as I missed to figure that logistic, I´ve got prepared to reach our lovely brazilian motels (hotels for have sex). HB fake lesbo: “where we going?” LORD: “I was thinking we were about to chill at your place(” HB fake lesbo: “No it is not possible, Im live with my family” LORD: “Ok(. I have two ideas: 1) we could go my base, but me to live with my family, we will cannot make noises, play loud music or 2) nothing g is gonna happen between me and you, forget it, and she is in cycles days(. so none between you two, I believe. Lets go to a motel, we can have fun, and even get to a tube” HB fake lesbian: “Uhhh Im not sure blablabla” Me and girlfriend handle objections and played disqualification / babystepping, not getting it clear and validating her all of sudden (know, mantain between hell and heaven) HB fake lesbian: “oh ok cool Im in cycles days too( giggles” We made agreement to stop and one girl go with the bags, know, poor brazilians players. Haha. HB fake lesbo not liked the idea, but my girl candidate herself to go with the bags, hidden, to low costs. There, I let girls play and went take a tube alone. I ve got there my way in the bed with them and lead to start a “truth or dare” game. Shit get hotter after so much time, I was afraid to fuck up with both – but after a while I stard to put some sexual dares like “make out with my girlfriend as I do”. Hb fake lesbo get excited too and asked me to fuck my girl to she sh look it. I cant remember which dare was, but they get hotter, she was rubbing my girl clit, than I stopped call them to back to game (disqualify and release) and gone wild with the 2 Fucked my girl, but this moment I already broked the agreement – “1st LORD ORD will only be spectator” – there were all 3, bodies and hands and legs in contact(. HB fake lesbo starts to rub my dick at hidden, I played in hidden with her pussy, as I fuck my girl. She was afraid to escalate, as was I. I´ve lost my erection due to the he anxiety of fuck up with primary girlfriend, and than all colapses. The girls get uncomfortable and, after on debriefing, we discovered each one is JEALOUSY of the other 2 and want be THE center of attention. One interesting shit: HB fake lesbo stops com comply ply to txts, phone calls or any contact attempt. After sorta of damage control with sincerity about the experience, disqualifiers and an outcome independent chat with her, she told SHE WAS NOT ANY MORE INTO GIRLS, ACTUALLY SHE WAS ABOUT TO DATE A GUY and was w dating one (what, for sure, fuck my goal of 3some and it´s not good cause I do not was searching for bang only her) I started work with a hyphotesis since this day: some female are REWARDED to PLAY this game LESBO game – and yes they want to fuck a good man, but they view as low valuable game kind due to bad experiences – AKA PUNISHMENT with man in HETERO / COMMITMENT PLUS game. Thats a privilege share this report and will be more know CJ thoughts on that.
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 10:47 am
I read all three comments. Looks like you had quite an Adventure! If this is what you want to do as your standard Game I wouldn’t draw any conclusions from it just yet. You need to have this type of thing play out about 10 times before you can start seeing a pattern. CJ
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Lord says: February 9, 2011 at 5:32 am
part 2 I waited they chat any shit to not convey desperation and said to HB fake lesbo LORD: “Hey HB-fake fake lesbo, did you would like kiss my girlfriend?” HB-fake fake lesbo: “(” (was about to not comply) LORD: “Hey ‘GIRLFRIEND’, did you would like kiss her?” GIRLFRIEND: “Yes(.” (I took frame control and ignored HB HB-fake fake lesbo to not magnify shit that does not contribuite to my goal – she was about to not comply and under pressure, so I released) LORD: “Hb fake ake lesbo, did you would like kiss her?” HB fake lesbo: “Yes(.” suddently, HB fake lesbo start move her body but I was so on and frame controling that does not get the hint at time, and cut her move to kiss my girl to not lose the momentum, I played a fram frame LORD: “I find real beautiful a girl kissing other. I would love to see you kiss her(.” HB fake lesbo: smile and giggles LORD: “Sooo( kiss her, kiss her, kiss her” (I´ve put a directive pressure and her and she gone) SHE GONE WILD AT HER, KISSING AND RUBB RUBBING HER PUSSY – me and the guy with HB fake lesbo shake hands, looking each other like “ow fuck yeah” and getting our cigarretes to enjoy the perspective. HB fake lesbo started qualify that she is virgin, and tried sex with an ex but think its horrible and theres no way to her do it. I call out her on sexual disturbs vaginismus and told about a seminar I had on psychology couple weeks before where they explain that psychopatology (what a indicator of desinterest!!) Girls made out, and we chat etc, she told about she was never able to share a partner with other people, I said I could only do that of share with other girls, than the spectator with her starts to feel out of game and realized what was reaaallly going on. He tried to GET her away from me but fail failed ed on purpose, because I could email time bridge her while he was dragging her away. One or two week latter, after huge disqualifiers about it game been “she and my girlfriend” and “we will not get along”, get her phone, make her and girlfriend bound and e exchange xchange txt msgs, make comfort myself and her as friends at phone and a lot of shit, I tryied to set a DAY 2 at a saturday.
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Lord says: February 9, 2011 at 5:34 am
PART 1 – read here first, than above (part 2) than above (without PART 3 description because dont know was not going to accept this big shi) Hey fellow pirate I´ve a Scientific posture under game too, and CINDERELLA talked about “converting lesbian girls into cock hungry bitches (probably biologically impossible)”
I have some thoughts and experiments on that running and wanna share with KING and WARRIORS: neuroscience cience proves that some homossexual beings are influenced by hormones rushes during 3 initial months of pregnancy, changing the brain circuitres of beings, but get this – the body was already finished the sexual diferentiation (so its a women body with man brain) Occurs that these researches proved the biological and the behavioral homossexuality. I´ve got interested at Stephane ideagasms and Rick H. date bissexual women – aka “commitment plus” – I´ve got a “girlfriend” (its more a ultra special fuck buddy who claims more commitment and it´s happy with the title and look like kindness of boyfriend stereotype) I worked 1 year her to squirt and get comfortable with the idea, while I was working MY game – The agreement was “1st time LORD is only allowed to see” . Soon I´ve got good at opening, we went to a GLS place overhere “to have fun and dance” On the smoke spot outside, me and “girlfriend” were talking to 2 homossexual guys about KINDS of RELATIONSHIPS (total sexual frame, did It automatic) and a GIRL who w were ere kissing a guy entered conversation HB fake lesbo: “Hey, Im lesbo but I date males(” LORD: “So, you aren´t real lesbian.. ” HB fake lesbo: “No I am” LORD: “And why you date him?” HB fake lesbo: “He give me free stuff from his market, thus he is a cool g guy(” (ok, dynamics clear, he´s more a spectator spectator-orbiter orbiter than a player in the game, so its on, I decide to blown out him and set the 2 girls to escalate sexually)
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Alexander says: February 9, 2011 at 5:39 am
Hey CJ! 1. I was reading a while ago some of your stuff (GD) and i did not get it. Then I read it again, slower and something clicked. I’m wondering if this is the correct way to read it. we can streamline all seductions – to ta take an even **shorter** amount of time. By examining each dynamic, in light of the Game you are playing(((((,and then creating a –==Baiting statement==– (to get *on* the subject),,,,,,,,,,,,, along with ready made statement(s) —-to to gain quick and complete agreement,—— you could blast through all 4 Dynamics with ease and very, very quickly get a lay. 2. I moved to Spain( and I don’t speak Spanish YET. What are your thoughts on gaming in a foreign language?
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 10:46 am
#1. Yep, you got it! The best thing about GD is it gives you a way to smoothly clarify the Game being played. Most of the confusions and sub-optimum optimum stuff is due to confusion about what Game is being played. #2. Learn spanish dude. ude. Pimsleur has the best learning methods I think.
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Zorrik says:
February 9, 2011 at 8:36 am
Hey CJ. I’ll just copy/paste the comment I made in another thread you never got back too: http://www.betheseducer.com/2011/01/ http://www.betheseducer.com/2011/01/how-to-get-laid-30-times-in-onemonth/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+CaptainJacksGrandeAdv entures+%28Captain+Jack%27s+Grande+Adventures%29 I’ve used Plenty of Fish and OkCupid and have gotten 3 3-4 lays from both sites with a date e to lay ratio of about 2:1. I’ve tried a lot of different messages (all copy/paste though). Different kind of role role-plays plays (little sister, secretary, Brad P’s horse girl and a few others), direct (I thought you were attractive so I wanted to introduce myself(), mysel opinion openers and cold reads (you seem like a really adventurous/independent/whatever girl) and probably more. I usually start with a short message (3 (3-4 4 lines) to engage her and introduce myself (just my name). Then a follow up message where I tell a short story about something cool or fun that I just did this past weekend or whatever (traveling, hanging out with friends etc) and usually end it asking her what she did. Then depending on how engaged she seems from her first reply I either go for the n number umber right there (you seem cool so we should get together, what’s a number I can text/call you at?) or wait and then try to get the number on the next message. My dates vary, but usually I meet for drinks at night or for a walk or maybe a coffee if it’s d during uring day time. Some of my dates I’ve time constrained, but most of the time I haven’t (I’m going to start doing that). In my profile I’ve posted about 5 pictures. A couple of pictures showing my adventurous side (sky diving and traveling), one of my artistic tic site (playing the piano), one with a guy friend and then I have tried both having pictures of me with girls and having no pictures with girls and I couldn’t really tell if there was a difference, so I just took them down to not look too playerish. Also I have tried pictures with me and kids, my niece and nephew (not sure if that’s good or bad). Recently I’ve tried approaching girls on Facebook too, but so far I haven’t had any luck there. Could you tell what kind of messages you send out, what pictures your post and a little more about what you put in your profile? Thanks a lot. Zorrik PS. I saw that you recommended Dianetics for overcoming AA. That’s some Scientology stuff I believe, do you really recommend that? What exactly do you recommend (book/vide (book/video?) Sometimes I have a lot of AA when going out and sometimes none at all. Also during day time my AA for some reason is much worse which is really annoying since I don’t really like the club/bar scene and only go out to pickup girls. I would much rather prefer refer meeting girls during the day or online. Also, I’m really interested in signing up for your upcoming tele tele-seminar seminar on MSxF. Could you tell a little more about the program (time a day for the calls, length on calls, what topics etc.) Also, could you give e some of the LIO that you use? I know of the nose ring opener and the “you are very tall/little” and the more direct openers you’ve put here. Thanks again. Zorrik
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 11:55 am
Hi Zorrik, It’s too hard for me to diagnose what is actually going on in this situation. One of the main diff I see is your initial message is only 3-4 4 lines whereas mine is about 4 paragraphs. I am willing to bet you lose a lot between the 1st and 2nd emails.
About Dianetics( yes, I recommend it 100% and without any reservation whatsoever. Everyone who I’ve ever recommended it to who has given it a try has loved it. CJ
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Mike M says: February 9, 2011 at 8:44 am
Whats your thoughts on the 1.Sedona Method? Is it useful? 2.EFT? 3.Fat Girls? 4.60yearsofchallenge method? 5.Coffee?
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 10:43 am
#1. I found it pretty useful. I took the weekend “Release Technique” course two or three times and I went to the 6 day courses 3 times. It CAN help, however, I have to say Dianetics is still the only thing I’ve felt has truly had a meaningful and lasting effect. #2. Same as #1 but less useful. #3. Ewww. #4. Never heard of it. #5. Coffee is great in moderation. I have a Tall Pike’s Peak with 1 Raw Sugar 4 4-5 5 mornings per week.
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BabeRuth says: February 9, 2011 at 9:41 am
That’s it? Just make her feel it? Can you be more specific?
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 11:20 am
That’s the utmost basic concept of Sexual Framing, a short way of saying set the sexual frames, let her know you are not judgmental, etc.
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LoongZilla says:
February 9, 2011 at 11:08 am
G’day Captain! I am Asian guy living in the UK for the last three and half years. I have been traveling to a different European country every weekend. I have created a routine stack modeled after the one in your sexual framing course. I have been sarging every Friday and Saturday in clubs whenever possible although it’s bloody hard work finding good clubs to go to when you are in a new country. It’s bit of a hit and miss when some girls do speak English well or some girls don’t. Most of the time they don’t understand Engl English ish well enough for the sexual frames to work. How would you suggest sarging in those cases? Should I just rely on physical escalation instead of my verbal game?
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 11:27 am
Can’t really help you here, man. I don’t have much experience with this.
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Mojo says: February 9, 2011 at 11:29 am
Captain Jack first of all thank you for the answer. How can i get away all the data that i read or think i know and start all fresh
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 11:51 am
That’s primarily a decision. Decide to run experiments and gather data. Give up the need to be right. Don’t draw conclusions instead work with principles and focus on workability instead of belief/truth.
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Shyness says: February 9, 2011 at 11:39 am
Hello Captain Jack, you are a big fan with the Dianetics to reduce AA. 1. Can you describe how to use this method? How you use it? 2. Did you try some NLP methods to reduce AA like anchoring or swish pattern? Did it help? thanks friend
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captainjack says:
February 9, 2011 at 11:49 am
1. Best thing is to go to Dianetics.org and buy the how to video. 2. Tried lots of different NLP stuff and none of it worked all that well.
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February 9, 2011 at 12:01 pm
CJ yeah god adventures! Im flying USA at september 09 – NYC to take a bootcamp with ASIAN PLAYBOY because posts I read here in your blog – it will be awesome to see him doing the baby steps you two guys did together. It would be so amazing rock and roll if you explain your ideas on how someone as me and 2 friends could have baby-stepped stepped much better in a triple triple-team team scenario and give your sugestions on a future topic, I totally give permission. It would anyway be sorta cool take 5 lines from a man who CHANGE CHANGED D my game. thanks!
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February 9, 2011 at 12:11 pm
CJ – you could make a future topic about baby baby-step step and hoow take a much smoother buildup of sexual ideas and tension, each one building on the last. I have trouble in sexual progressions, sexual anxiety, and JT posts made clear my lack of dominance, being sexual. Im literally scanning every topic of you to organize my game plan and get this “each one building on the last” sexual ideas and tension of the art of baby baby-stepping, plus reading sinn LR book. You have a post on SNL where you speak about a sequency of each one building on the last and it was INCREDIBLE helpfull!
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February 9, 2011 at 12:33 pm
Sup CJ, 1. How do you feel about direct game? 2. What’s the average amount of sets or lucky # you have found in order to find that right girl? 3. What cause you to eject from a set ever? 4. What’s the attitude or vibe you want to project during your pickups? 5. When do you find out logisitics and what’s your opinion on them? 6. Do you always wait till’ the end of the night to go for the pull? 7. You mention making her feel it and making her feel sexy, letting her know she is having an effect on you and so on, how much is it you blaming her for your escala escalations? 8. Do you ever get ‘anti-slut’ slut’ defense when moving along the SF gradient scale of sexual compliements, if so how do you handle it? 9. Do you ever get disagreements while attempting to get agreements on the game dynamics, if so how do you handle those? 10. In your opinion, what products or materials are the best for complete sexual mastery?
Thanks CJ, Respect!
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February 11, 2011 at 1:04 am
1. see Approaching Women Direct with Game Dynamics 2. Right girl? Hmm( 3. If it’s not going anywhere or I feel like it’s an uphill battle I test that against my d desire esire for her specifically. It has to outweigh it or I’m out. However, I have to say that working with smooth gradients really, really cuts down on the work. If you get in and start laying things down really step step-by-step step man it is so easy. It’s that old story st about turning up the temperature on a frog so slowly that it never realizes its time to hop out until the water is already boiling. 4. Smooth confidence without trying hard and super comfortable around her and her sexuality 5. Logistics? 6. Yes. No reason son in particular just the way I’ve always done it. 7. It’s entirely her fault! If she wasn’t so damn sexy! 8. Not really. ASD is actually caused more by confusion on what Game you are playing. If she knows its a Sexual Game and she’s agreed to it then she she’ll surprise you with how naughty she can be. 9. If I do I usually bail but it happens more on Day2s than it does on first meetings. Day2s she’s had time to think about what she wants (a boyfriend, husband, dater, etc) and so she’ll try to put that out the there re usually fairly early. On first meetings it is much easier to go for the SNL Game. 10. You mean like technique?
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February 9, 2011 at 2:56 pm
Sorry CJ, have to interject here – I am a language learning geek, and Assimil by far and away have the best programs (Pimsleur actually sucks haaa). I used Assimil Spanish With Ease and 6 weeks later I was having full on conversations in Spanish without lapsing into English. Every language I learn, I use Assimil and it gets me to basic conversational proficiency every time. Will.
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captainjack says: February 9, 2011 at 4:37 pm
Well, I will definitely try it then! I had been through Berlitz, Rosetta Stone and a few others and found Pimsleur was the only one that worked because it was based on hearing, listening, responding back. I like the theory behind Pimsluer, the Graduated Interval terval Recall and the other ideas behind it.
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February 9, 2011 at 4:08 pm
Hi Captain, An issue I have is getting back up off the couch after a hard days work, cooking my dinner etc. Any suggestions on how I can get out again in the evenings and pursue goals/hobbies/meet people/learn new skills? Cheers
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February 10, 2011 at 5:35 am
Hmm( Here are a few things: Do you work out? If you have low energy see if it is due to low energy or subpar health. After work, don’t sit on the couch. Keep moving. Start talking to friends/family on the phone. Go home, shower/dress, hit a restaurant and then go out start some convo convos between 9-11. 11. If you did this even 2-3 2 times a week you should get some solid work done.
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February 9, 2011 at 4:22 pm
Hey CJ, I’ve been in the game for a little while now, and just started reading your blog thoroughly. I must say, your stuff is VERY different from anything else out there, so different it was hard to believe at first. But I am excited to go out and try it! For someone eone new to your ideas, would you say your basic method is just using sexual framing and game dynamics?
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Mike M says: February 9, 2011 at 5:47 pm
Hey this is Great, Thanks CJ! What Are Your Thoughts On 6.Affirmations? Is it a Complete waste of time? 7.Brent Smith? 8.Best Way to Set Non Judgemental Frame without a game? 9.Blondes or Brunetts? 10.Stifler?
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February 10, 2011 at 5:39 am
#6. Yes. #7. Like him. Hung out with him for 4 days when he was in Dallas. You know, David D’s stuff was based on seeing Brent and his friend in action. However, David D. changed it from “Cocky Sexual” to “Cocky Funny.” Brent his real sexual. He would say stuff lik like, e, “What? You want to make out in the bathroom?” completely out of the blue in almost every set. He’d talk about having been captured and used as a sex slave while traveling, etc. It WAS funny but it was funny because it was cocky and sexual. #8. You could just come out and say it, “I’m totally non non-judgemental. judgemental. I believe people should be able to do what they want as long as they aren’t physically injuring or endangering someone.” #9. What do their butts look like? #10. Haa
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Camilo S says: February 9, 2011 at 7:10 pm
What do you think are the first ten(10) things a newbie pua have to work on in order to have a good solid game in a shorter period of time?? (AA, sexual, frames, state, opening, sxf(?).
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captainjack says: February 11, 2011 at 12:55 am
1. Get extremely extroverted. 2. Watch women notice guys in a bar/club environment. 3. Watch how hard women try to get men to open them. 4. Open 100 women with a very simple conversational stack with no other purpose than getting through the stack. 5. Read Sperm Wars 6. Learn Game Dynamics 7. Learn Sexual Framing 8. Go out with a Stack and open 12 sets per night with no other purpose than getting through the stack. 9. If it’s going well tell her you don’t want the night to end and tell her to come with you to watch a DVD. 10. Make sweet love.
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Jesse says: February 9, 2011 at 10:16 pm
Greetings. Love your blog. In your posts you keep talking about “closing more than you open.” While this sounds catchy, I don’t quite follow.
Could you elaborate more on that? Assuming we are both on the same team and playing the same game(.. is this a visualization exercise? Is thiss from short short-setting setting the room, recognizing IOI’s from women (which you say most pooahs miss more IOI’s than they catch). Thank you for clarifying.
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captainjack says: February 11, 2011 at 12:51 am
Not sure what you are talking about on the “closing more than you open?” Are you referring to the magical time period when I had more lays than opens because I was doing super ninja metaphysical “get girls to open me” work? If so, then I released how I did that in Force21 and in a post called http://www.betheseducer.com/2010/03/getting http://www.betheseducer.com/2010/03/getting-women-to-approach-you-and-the the-recognition-ofnon-verbal-communication-on-a-gradient gradient-scale/
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Jack says: February 9, 2011 at 10:24 pm
Hey CJ you told me to learn the scientific method, you mean Sticking point analysis or being scientific/looking for patterns in general? (Also check your g-mail)
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captainjack says: February 10, 2011 at 5:41 am
Sticking Point Analysis is based on The Theory of Constraints which has heavy emphasis on Scientific Method. I can’t think of a real good Scientific Method text. Bacon was the king of it but I’ve never read it. I learned it mainly through TOC. Goldratt’s “The The Choice” is pretty good for getting it in a roundabout way. (Nothing from you in my gmail yet).
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Raed says: February 9, 2011 at 10:52 pm
Hey CJ, thanks a lot for answering my questions. What i meant by transitioning is what do you say next sort of thing so i’ll ask again more clearly: 1. What do you typically say next after opening a girl with a group? 2. What do you typically say next afte after opening a girl away from her group? 3. In terms of opening is there any difference when opening a 10, or would you just use your usual low investment openers like ‘hey, i just noticed you from over there(’ etc.
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captainjack says: February 11, 2011 at 12:49 am
1. I will riff off of something they’ve said or whatever comes to mind. It is not hard to keep things going. You could ask them what they’re up to, if they went somewhere else earlier, if they’ve heard this band before, shit( you could even tell them why you ou like this club. 2. “Now that we’re alone I can finally start REALLY hitting on you” or something similar if I need to. Most of the time I just keep the convo going light and look for things to Clarify. 3. I’ve done an experiment a few times where I’ve p posted osted pictures of hot women and had people rate them. It’s all over the board. What’s a 10? Who the fuck knows man. Further, there are a lot of beautiful women who didn’t bloom until they were 20. Are they still 10s? They weren’t treated special during the their ir formative years. Their whole world filter is much like that of the 5 or whatever. I have trouble buying the 10 thing nowadays. I believe it has more to do with YOUR REACTION than anything else.
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Trey says: February 9, 2011 at 11:08 pm
Hey, do you still isolate your target from the group? if so, how long does it typically take to go for an isolation after opening the set?
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captainjack says: February 10, 2011 at 5:43 am
I like to do more of a mini-isolation. isolation. This is where she and I are more focused on each other. I’ll position my body so she is angled away from her group and they would have to move around to get eye contact with her. Full on isolation only occurs if her friends riends are real hyper and I’m having trouble being ninja ninja-suave suave with my frame setting due to many interruptions. Most of the time it is unnecessary because once the group sees she is liking you then they tend to leave you two alone.
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Trey says: February 9, 2011 at 11:57 pm
Also – how do you know when to go for the kiss? and do you have a tactic or set sequence you usually follow? thanks for your time
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captainjack says: February 11, 2011 at 12:43 am
This is an older post but still useful: http://www.betheseducer.com/2007/08/kiss http://www.betheseducer.com/2007/08/kiss-tests/Main Main thing is if it is a one-on-one one conversation and you guys are close and there has been some kino then you can kiss her. I think guys put more significance on the kiss than girls do. I think its because guys look at kissing as foreplay whereas girls look at it as discovery or flirting or something.
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February 10, 2011 at 3:04 am
Yo Captain, 1.) What’s the standard message you leave if her phone goes to voice mail (especiall if the set lasted only a couple of minutes)? 2.) What’s the difference between treacherous data and MSM #2?
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February 11, 2011 at 12:39 am
#1. Actually, I don’t leave voice mails. I rarely ever call or even answer my phone. I use text pretty much exclusively. The exception is if I’m about to meet her out in which case I answer because she could be lost, etc. #2. Treacherous Data is a customized process I take someone through on the phone to discover the one or two really core beliefs/ideas holding them back. I don’t do it that often because it is very exhausting for both and sometimes it takes a few calls and several hours.
Captain Got Answers: The Next Level! Posted at February 9, 2011
Yo, Shit. I didn’t expect such a response! The Captain Jack Answers Your Pick Pick-up up Questions post is up to 107 comments so far and questions are still streaming in. I’ve answered every question put to me thus far. In doing that I’ve realized a few things: 1. There are quite a few people struggling with some fundamental issues. 2. There are some pretty advanced readers as well! 3. Some guys have gotten into some crazy ass awesome adventures! 4. I have had not troubless at all answering the questions. At first, I wondered if I would be stumped at all, but it looks like I can see/understand what is going on with nearly every question I’ve gotten and had an answer based on my experience. So, I want to do something I think could help anyone who reads this blog. The level of skill is literally all over the map from complete newbie, virgin, stuck pua to master pua. I am going to do a special tailored program. I am calling it “The Next Level Program.” It will be individualized for each person. It doesn’t matter if you are brand new or a mega-pua. What I am going to do is start off with having you fill out a questionaire that will help me know what you are aiming for, where you are at, what is sticking you, etc. This data, follo followed wed by a phone call, will give me the information I
need to create a personalized progress program for you that will help you get to the next level. I’ll use my previous blog posts, previous audios and courses as well as specific directions and instructions to you on what to do to fill in your knowledge and instructions on what steps to take to hit that next level. It will be totally tailored to YOUR circumstances. Like I said, you can be a master pua with every single one of my products or a brand new pua and I’ll put together what you need based on the data we uncover. Anything I recommend will be INCLUDED in the program. So, if I decide you need Master Strategy #3, Sexual Framing Mastery #2 and Force21 #1 you’ll get those as part of the program along with all the instructions of how to put it into use for your particular circumstance. Once you have your personalized program in hand, you’ll receive 4 weeks of email support from me and we’ll continue refining and improving the program as you try things out and continue running into issues. Fair enough? >> Get Started on the Next Level Program << Captain Jack
Lord says: February 9, 2011 at 2:59 pm
Im interested ! I´m about to take a gambler workshop here at brazil if I could manage to a spent not be so that expensive, but Im for sure will change my choice if it happens when fellow pirate told us more about other possible benefits: it included some sorta of time period consultance by email ? how much time ?? and after the call and the personalized progress programm we will be by ourselves?!
captainjack says: February 11, 2011 at 1:13 am
I appended the post above to include that information. You will not be left on your own after the first call I assure! And, there will be a forum much like we did for Adventure! and Become-A-God so there will be lots of assistance.
SikNasty says: February 10, 2011 at 3:42 pm
Sup CJ, Hey man, I don’t know if you got my last questions, I sent in 10 after you answered some other ones I had asked. They seem to be still “awaiting moderation”, hopefully you can answer them, I sent them in way before a lot others. Big fan, thanx.
captainjack says: February 11, 2011 at 1:05 am
Yeah, answered on the previous post. I’ve closed it though because it’s already above 130! and many were repeating Cor says: February 10, 2011 at 6:17 pm
Hey Cj, What kind of books do you read? your influences? things like that.
Thanks, Cor
captainjack says: February 11, 2011 at 1:11 am
In no particular order: 1. The Goal and The Choice by Goldratt 2. The Fifth Discipline if you can slog through it. 3. Dianetics 4. Casanova’s autobiography (Fabulous!) I used to swear by NLP but I think most of it is actually detrimental now that I know so much more. The only ideas I’ve kept from it are Values Elicitation, Framing and Metaprograms. Of the three, framing is the only one I actively use.
Next Level Program Posted at February 14, 2011
Where’s my red velvety heart shaped box of chocolates, fool?! Just kidding. You may have read about my Next Level Program in the last post but I want to give you a little more info on it so you can jump on board as I will be closing it down when I get about 7 more puas in the mix. It all starts with having you fill out a questionaire that will help me know what you are aiming for, where you are at, what is sticking you, etc. This data, followed by a phone call, will give me the information I need to create a personalized progress program for you that will help you get to the next level. I’ll use my previous blog posts, previous audios and courses as well as write custom, specific directions and instructions to you on what to do to fill in your knowledge and instructions on what steps to take to hit that next level. It will be totally tailored to YOUR circumstances. Like I said, you can be a master pua with every single one of my products or a brand new pua and I’ll put together what you need based on the data we uncover. Anything I recommend will be INCLUDED in the program. So, if I decide you need Master Strategy Audio #3, Sexual Framing Mastery Audio #2 and Force21 Audio #1 you’ll get those as part of the program along with all the instructions of how to put it into use for your particular circumstance. Once you have your personalized program in hand, you’ll receive 4 weeks of email support from me and we’ll continue refining and improving the program as you try things out and continue running into issues. Also, a couple of guys have written to me asking if it is ok if they can break up the 4 weeks of email support. That’s cool, too. Just let me know if you need to break it up and we’ll take care of it. Fair enough? >> Get Started on the Next Level Program << Captain Jack
Trio Winging: How To Be A Kick-Ass Wingman Part 2 Posted at February 22, 2011
In the last post on “How To Be A Kick-Ass Wingman” I discussed some rules that would make winging go a lot easier for you. In this post I’m going to make the case that by adding a third pua you can get much, much better results. Here’s why( if you look at where winging fails you come up with a short list like this: 1. Huge diff in skill sets so one is getting impeded by the other (or, one is getting carried along by the other) 2. Both don’t have a solid skill set so they end up magnifying each other’s sticking points and gorgeous explosions result. This is a particular joy for me. If I notice two guys out winging who are both really bad my tendency is to get some popcorn, sit back and enjoy the show! They will creep out girls, have sets that seemed to be going somewhere suddenly go wacko, get shoved by amogs and more fun stuff. 3. The wings are actually fairly good and one of them gets in deep early with a hottie thus leaving his partner to fend for himself. That’s the one I want to tackle in this post. By adding a third guy we can actually take things to the next level and create an abundance of women very simply. It’s real simple. It is usually required to start early. If you can time the crowd so that you get there about 30 minutes before it gets busy that’s the best time. Three guys walk into a venue. One of them seeks to acquire a prime visible spot. The other two immediately attempt to pull a two set each back to the prime spot. Once the two guys get back and have the girls with them the third guy occupies for a bit and then goes to find another set to bring them back to the table. This is done over and over. Each pua is either winging, gaming his target or going to find another set to bring back to the table. The end result is you and your friends surrounded by women at a minimum of 1.5 to 1 ratio at all times. Imagine how this looks to the rest of the venue. You have a few guys constantly surrounded by women. They are not running around opening a gazillion sets. They have a base and a ton of hotties are sitting and talking with them. It looks really, really good to everyone else. It fits the principles of Efficiency and Elegance. It should not be difficult at all to pull a few girl groups back to a house for an after party. This simple Trio Winging Method actually handles almost every major issue involved in winging except the scenario where everyone’s skillset sucks. Captain Jack P.S. The Next Level Program is still open. I have room for 4 more PUAs.
Is there only one InnerGame? Posted at March 21, 2011
Let’s do a little theorizing, ok? Imagine there are two dudes, one named Bill and the other named Thor. Bill was happily married for 15 years, has 3 kids who are doing ok, has a pretty good house in a pretty good neighborhood, etc. His wife thought the WORLD of him and was very happy. She died. Now, we have Bill all alone. He’s done his grieving and has decided it’s time to get back into things. He goes out and promptly gets his ass handed to him. Girls ignore him. They wave him away. Friend drag their girlfriends away. Is his InnerGame good? Or Bad? Now, let’s talk about Thor. He bangs chicks like the US bombs foreign countries. Non-stop, with aplomb and pretty much whenever. However, he decides it’s time to focus on his career so he gets a haircut, starts regularly bathing and buys some new clothes. He marries the cutie. She cheats on him and two years later he is divorced and she’s taken half his stuff. Is his InnerGame good? or Bad? The question is: Which InnerGame? See, much like there is not just ONE game of pick-up there is also not just one InnerGame. Bill’s InnerGame for short time frame sex is bad. His InnerGame for the Marriage Game is apparently good. (Although, I’d prefer to see him create a good marriage TWICE before saying it but we’ll go ahead and give him the title since a very small % of marriages last 15 years happily). Thor’s InnerGame for short time frame sex is good. His InnerGame for Marriage is bad.
It is probably not shocking to you. Even if you’ve never explicitly thought it or verbalized it you’ve probably felt like something was inherently wrong with the concept of InnerGame as it is traditionally spoken of in the community. We’ll start with the fact that no one has any. We’ll couple that with the fact that anyone who teaches it usually resorts to NLP and/or hypnosis, applies it half-assed and incorrectly and then calls it a breakthrough. So, what is InnerGame really? Game Dynamics holds the answer. It not only describes InnerGame but it provides a prescription for developing it, finding where it is weak and giving a roadmap to fixing it. There are different beliefs, ideas and skills necessary to pull off each type of Game. What we need is a way to discover these and align them! A system for developing Game itself would automatically include the InnerGame skills necessary to execute it or it would never reach its full potential in the hands of its students. If a person knows the fundamentals of a Game (the 4 dynamics, the game goal, common obstacles, etc) but has trouble executing it the prime culprit is that InnerGame does not match his preferred Game! Doing this will allow a higher level of effectiveness in gaming. It is just ONE of the things I’ll be covering in the up coming “Game Dynamics Mastery” teleseminar. It’s 4 calls spaced 1 week apart. We’ll tackle how to design Games, how to discover the most common obstacles and overcome them, how to put the girls in Teammate frame for the Game you want to play, how to get ultimate confidence so that girls WANT to be your teammate regardless of the game you are playing (it can be done!)( and more. The Teleseminar starts Monday, April 4th but you’ll get background audios to begin working on as soon as you join. >>> Join the Game Dynamics Mastery program <<< This is likely going to be the LAST teleseminar I do for quite some time so if you’ve never experienced one and you want to please don’t hesitate! Captain Jack
Clarify the Goal to Make Supreme Moves Posted at March 29, 2011
The other day I met someone I hadn’t seen in several months for lunch. We took a seat on the patio because the sun was shining and the weather was just fabulous. After catching up briefly he started talking about this philosophy I introduced him to several years ago. He told me what had recently happened to him while practicing it. I mentioned that was great but I no longer used it. He mentioned he felt much better after using it. I told him I believed it could help but never delivered on its promise. He said there was a great burden lifted from his shoulders( but, his enthusiasm started to wane. He was less animated. Smiling less. I started to tell him several flaws in their reasoning I noticed( but, something didn’t feel right. To give you a little bit of background( I studied this for a few years and practiced a great deal. I DO think it helped me as far as peace of mind goes. It did make me feel somewhat better. But, after meeting some of the top people and seeing some of the best students I noticed that they were not making strides in what I considered important for me at that point. I found them to be “well-adjusted” and happy people but not very effective at Life. And, not doing a whole lot to help others or improve conditions around them. So, I kept it in the tool box as a tool that was useful for a few specific things but not so much an effective philosophy for living. Like I said, something about the conversation didn’t feel right. I thought about my goal( he was recounting an experience and I was telling him why I no longer used the philosophy. What was my goal? I hadn’t thought of it. My primary goal was to catch up with him, to see how things had been going and that is why we met. Then, I thought about the content of my communication( what was I doing? In fact, at that point, my goal was to be heard.
My goal was to be heard about why I didn’t use the philosophy anymore. What was his goal? As I recounted his communication in my head I imagined that his goal was to share a great experience he had with me. It fit. It made sense based on what he said. There I was being an idiot by discussing why I thought the philosophy wasn’t up to snuff for what *I* wanted to use it for( and, here he is telling me about his great experience. So, I asked myself: Do I want this for him as well? Is there any reason why I would NOT want this result for them? Immediately I changed my Goal. My new Goal was to hear all about his great experience. Now, I was his Teammate and we were both squarely positioned to make a bee line for OUR Goal. I asked him to tell me again what happened. He began recounting it and his face brightened. I told him that was fantastic! He smiled. I asked him how it made him feel. He went on for a minute or so telling me all the great things he now felt. How his vision was clearer. How he felt happier and more alive. And, I felt happier. It was catching! But, I felt happier for another reason. We were NOW communicating! By understanding his Goal I could better align myself with it. I supported that Goal and the communication went smoother and went to a higher level of agreement. He was beaming and charged up. By sharing it with me it had become even more real. You know how it is when something great happens and you want to share it? After sharing it you feel even better? Game Dynamics can help you get laid. But, it is more than that. It can improve your communication at all levels. And, it is light weight and simple enough to be used IN THE MIDDLE of an interaction. You can change things mid-course. You can turn around whole interactions with it. We’re getting ready for the Game Dynamics Mastery teleseminar. It’s 4 conference calls covering all aspects of Game Dynamics and some of the newest FORCE21 principles starting April 7th at 8pm CST. If your goal is to get more women, get more quality dates and to improve your life all around then I definitely want you to be a part of it. >>> Join Game Dynamics Mastery <<< Captain Jack
3 Game Mysteries Solved Posted at April 5, 2011
Have you ever wondered: Why a set that was going well suddenly unravels? Why you often find it difficult to approach? Why a girl who seemed genuinely interested stops responding to text or calls? All of these have deeper root causes that can be explained very simply. The best solution is to NOT have the problems. Notice how very few ever recommend that as a solution? Take the standard solution to “Great Set Suddenly Unravels.” It’s usually one of these: • Be funnier • Be more interesting • Use better stories • Use a lock-in prop But all of those are so far of the mark as to be in a completely different universe! By digging and digging I discovered the very simple reason: No Agreement or Broken Agreement. The process I used to get there is pretty complex so I can’t go into details in this post. The short description is to list all of the undesirable effects related to a Goal and then look for connections between all of the effects. Add verifiable entities and keep connecting until the logic is airtight. Eventually, you will hit the core reason and the mystery is solved. This is the essence behind Game Dynamics. So, what is the solution to the problem and almost every other Game Problem? The solution is to Clear all of the Dynamics and keep them clear as you continue escalating towards the Game Goal. Game Dynamics provides the real solutions to the mysteries in bringing a girl from not having a clue as to who you are to being whisked into an Adventure she will relish for years, an Adventure her girlfriends will be jealous of( But, that is only true if you decide to Become a Player in the Game.
You deserve to be a Player. The women in the world WANT and NEED more Players like you. I want to help you become a Player in the Game. Please join me and other PUAs in the next Adventure starting this Thursday night April 7th at 8pm central. There will be 4 conference calls in all and you receive 3 background audios when you sign up. We’ll tackle how to design Games, how to discover the most common obstacles and overcome them, how to put the girls in Teammate frame for the Game you want to play, how to get ultimate confidence so that girls WANT to be your teammate regardless of the game you are playing (it can be done!)( and more. >>> Join the Game Dynamics Mastery program <<< Captain Jack
Game Dynamics Payment Plan Posted at April 11, 2011
Yo, If you want to learn Game Dynamics and all the latest Force21 InnerGame stuff NOW is the time to hop on board. A few people have requested a payment plan so I’ve set one up. If you need more info on the Game Dynamics Teleseminar just read the last few posts. When you sign up you’ll get 4 bonus audios to start listening to immediately. Those ALONE are worth the price according to many of the participants. You can use the payment plan by clicking the link: Game Dynamics Teleseminar. Hope to see you on board. Captain Jack
If You Own a Pick-up Blog, Website or Forum or Do Affiliate Marketing… Posted at April 18, 2011
Yo, If you have your own pick-up/dating website of any kind and/or do affiliate marketing then hop onto my blog owner’s list. I’m getting everything here ‘clickbankified’ over the next week so if you want the low-down hop on board. What’d you say we help some guys out and make some money, too, huh? http://www.betheseducer.com/2008/02/captain-jacks-pua-blogs/ CJ
No Mental BS and Girls Were Giving Me AIs… Posted at April 20, 2011
Here’s an email from one of the guys on the first Game Dynamics Mastery call. A LOT of improvement for him in a very short period of time! (P.S. You can still learn about and join Game Dynamics Mastery here! ) There’s also been a lay report and a few other great reports which I may publish in the next few days as well.
CJ: I’m the guy who had extreme difficulty with AA from the past Next Level Program. I went out last Saturday night with a goal of making it fun. In the past, I was extremely serious when I went sarging because I thought it was the only way to efficiently get
better. Most nights I wouldn’t open a single set or even talk to one person. Going out gaming was an arduous chore like cleaning the toilet with a lead brush. This Saturday, with a different outlook (and doing a little bit of the Extraversion Drill), everything was different. Girls were giving me AI’s and guys were walking up giving me high fives for no reason. This blond grabbed me and started dancing with me. I ended making friends with some cool people for New Zealand. It was the first time I actually had fun going out. Go figure! Also, I actually felt like a normal person in the club instead of some weird pickup guy. Since I was going out with only the two ideas of 1. finding a place and 2. finding a girl who agrees, I wasn’t bogged down with mental bullshit (opening for the right angle, using opinion openers, false time constraints, etc.) That was incredibly freeing. The idea that getting blown out isn’t a bad thing was also helpful. I’ve also applied your philosophy of fun and ideal scene to other areas of my life. Take my school work or my hobbies for example. I picked my major and my hobbies because I intrinsically enjoy it. Now I have to force myself to do it. What happened? I was too serious and made it a chore. I’ve found that being for playful with it also made it fun again. I’ve always thought that fun was the antithesis of efficient improvement. I now know it was wrong. I’m really getting so much benefit from our first call, I can’t wait for the next! JH
Lakers Vs. Mavs Game 1 Prediction Posted at May 2, 2011
Alright, I’m going to do a non-pick-up post for the first time in a long time. It’ll be short but sweet. I have a game 1 prediction: Dallas Mavericks 176 L.A. Lakers 83 After getting bored of hitting ridiculous jump shots Nowitzki puts on a blind-fold half way through the game and vows only to shoot threes the rest of the game. He makes all of them. Kobe fires the Lakers head coach, owner and GM and takes over all duties. When this doesn’t work he blames all his teammates and quits to follow his true love- being a commentator on Antique Road Show. That is all. CJ
She Disagreed With Me for About 20 Minutes!(Plus, Mavs vs. Lakers Gloating) Posted at May 11, 2011
Well, looks like my Mavs prediction turned out right! (Sorta). And( it was the most glorious implosion by a team I’ve ever seen! So bad they picked on the smallest guy on the team! haaa( Ok, enough sports talk (Prediction: Mavs destroy Miami in Finals) let’s get back to pretty girls and such. Although I DID enjoy all the comments on the blog post.
As many of you know I’m an experimenter. I love to find the underlying mechanism and how it works and then see what else I can do with it. Here’s a short example of how I did that recently and how it gave me some more info that can be further refined in the future. So, there I am at a restaurant bar watching the Mavs repeatedly punch the Lakers’ collective nuts (metaphorically in a basketball sense) when I spy with my eye a hot girl. She is tall and slender. Blue eyes, blonde hair, young face, full lips. Get this: I had on a gray t-shirt I had just bought for $10 from target, some baggy jeans and my trusty writing hat that is visibly dirty. She looked at me, I looked at her. Our eyes met. She heard angels singing (I bet)( I felt GIGANTOR(TM) stir a bit. She was there with a dude but I could tell from the body language they were not together. He was a friend/orbiter. But, I was not out to Game there was basketball to be watched! So I refocused on the flat screen. A few minutes later I head over to the jukebox not realizing that they were there already. He leaves promptly and she turns to me and says, “I didn’t play any of this music, my friend did!” I say: “Well, we’ll see shortly if he has good taste then.” She smiles and walks off. Girls are weird but in a cute way. I go back to my seat. A few seconds later I feel a disturbance in the Force. I look over and they are both looking at me. She is sending a smoldering hot look my way. I acknowledge with a slight smile before looking back at the game. A few minutes later he leaves and talks to some girls. I roll over and start making fun of the music she played earlier (the stuff she said he played) and then told her that real music selected by me was finally playing. Here’s where the experimentation comes in( We know from Game Dynamics the importance of Agreement. What if I disagree and disagree very hard on something she believes in? Will that ruin things? Is agreement overall important or not? Or, is it like I believe and you ONLY need to get agreement on the 4 dynamics? My gut tells me this is so but I need some more info to really round this out. Plus, I feel that experimenting with this concept has potential to yield some new insights. She makes a comment about college sports players being spoiled. She says it with a little too much force. I say it is sad that they don’t get paid. She counters that they get free college so that is pay enough. I tell her they work 40+ hours plus have to attend school, study, travel and cant’ have any other job. Plus, tv networks, coaches and sponsors make shitloads while they get barely anything. She argued with me for about 20 minutes straight! She was in a real tizzy about this! Now, I’ve never seen a girl get so riled up about sports but she WAS there to watch the game so I suppose she was a sports fan. She talked fairly well about football as well. After about 20 minutes of this back and forth a part of me FELT like it was not on but another part of me, the part that carried the intention, felt nothing had changed either way. Her conversation had started to round the corner a bit from logical debate to personal attacks. Not quite there but headed that way. But, none of that mattered when I told her I didn’t hear the last minute of what she said because I got distracted by her lips. MEGA ATOM BOMB! I mean, it hit with like 10 times the force as I expected. It is the first line in a series of statements which get ever bolder as I go. Bam! We were making out. Then, it was just a matter of logistics before she was at my place and I was doing to her what the Mavs did to the Lakers. Interesting huh? 1.
A couple of interesting things came out of this: Could it be that the emotionalism of the debate/argument had her in a heightened emotional state so the statement got amplified? Did the CONTRAST of the emotions have something to do with it as well?
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My intention was to see her regularly after this( however, after a couple of days texting she stopped responding. Realize I used NO OTHER game principles of any kind besides the ONE framing statement. But, I do a lot of this naturally now so once I set my intention my statements properly line up so not sure how to isolate that.
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This reminds me of the impact of heart melters in a way. The impact is sudden and undeniable and very visible when it hits. Strangely I am kind of upset that she went cold on me. Very hot, 22 year old with perfect body and face. Captain Jack P.S. A lot of the guys on the Game Dynamics calls want me to go deeper into HOW I figure all this stuff out. I could do a WHOLE teleseminar just on that subject but I never did because I wasn’t sure anyone would dig it. If you would be interested let me know.
EVERY hot girl I passed gave me MASSIVE AIs Posted at May 11, 2011
I get a lot of testimonials but I don’t post many of them. I should probably post more of them, haa! But, this one definitely caught my eye. Unedited, unadulterated. —————————————————– Yo Cap’n! How’s life man? Had a huuuge insight and wanted to share. I just went over the audios from our Force 21 group again and realized that I hadn’t fully understood them then. I THOUGHT I had, but the truth is I’d gotten the idea only partially. And so I got the effects only partially – sometimes I’d be able to create AI, other times, not. Some days I was cleaning up, other days I was more inconsistent. I think what happened was that you need to extrovert the right emotional state! And I sometimes lucked onto the right state while extroverting. Reason? I hadn’t truly understood the self approval vs. self esteem( I kinda had gotten the idea but I had never understood the implementation. Tony Robbins Personal Power recently cleared that up for me. I can now choose freely how I feel( It’s amazing. My point is, I think the extroversion drill needs to be used IN CONJUNCTION with the self approval drill or it won’t have the effect we want. Now that I understand the self approval exercise and can implement it, I did both of them together today and it was un-REAL. Wham wham wham, EVERY hot girl I passed gave me MASSIVE AI. Just ridiculous. Totally STARING at me, six or seven hot girls in a row. It was like I saw a wave of energy pass through the subway in front of me hitting the girls and they were jolted. I mean holy shit, I got like goose bumps cause this NEVER happens. After that I lost that state again, I think it’s a matter of practicing this so much until eventually the self approving & extroverted state becomes the default state. Once I had lost the state, I went back to completely invisible to girls as I was walking around the subway, even when I proactively made eye contact with them, total ignore. Do you believe that?? Then( I was able to get back into it and got the AIs again. Unreal. I think these things are all pretty advanced. Not that they have to be, probably in theory, everybody COULD pull them off, but they went clear over my head a year ago and I was probably one of the most advanced on the F21 calls. Not sure why they finally clicked for me NOW, really I heard Brian Tracy and Tony Robbins talk about these exact things like 5 years ago and never got it even though I heard the same words and got the same message and thought I had understood. I think the reason why I hadn’t understood at first was that we’re talking about things here that go waaay beyond normal mortals. Normal language doesn’t have words for these things so we resort to “approval” and “extroversion” and people already have meanings attached to these words so they get the message wrong and what’s worse, they THINK they understand when they don’t. There’s just no adequate vocabulary for these things yet. Don’t know if this is what you meant by “superpowers” but I feel like I’ve hit another level on my personal evolution. And I realize I’m only starting to scratch the surface. Honestly man you said that in one of your MSM audios and it sounded like a cliché phrase of somebody who’s thinking positive but man. This is another dimension not only of game but of being. After August I’ve not been able to replicate the 3 lays in 1 day, but I always knew it hadn’t just been a fluke. I knew there was something going on that day that had nothing to do with
what the community considers game. I had no idea what it was and just labeled it the X X-Factor Factor and been be searching for it ever since. Now I’m starting to see how this kind of stuff can be consistent eventually. Thought I’d share. If you have any thoughts or comments, I’d be curious to hear them too. Take care man,
-Karea.
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Ogeid says: May 11, 2011 at 11:04 am
What does ‘extroverted state’ mean and how is it used with self self-approval? Reply
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May 11, 2011 at 12:55 pm
awesome Karea! Reply
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May 11, 2011 at 2:05 pm
If I had known that you were going to use my mail as a testimonial, I might have worded it a bit differently, diffe because I guess it must come across as totally over the top to anybody who hasn’t experienced what we’re talking about here. But, I still get goose bumps just thinking about that day( and I can recreate it. My life has never been the same since then. n. I have a very high level of state control now( it’s awesome. How many people have (almost) total control over their own emotions? As far as I can tell, not many. In fact I recently had a debate with a very well known PU instructor, because he doesn’t be believe/agree lieve/agree that state can be created completely internally, rather than by relying on warmup sets and such. The whole thing has made me more productive as well, and more extroverted( no to mention, more happy overall. Cheers! -Karea Reply
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Leonidas says: May 11, 2011 at 4:09 pm
Minutes after reading this post I did the drills (I bought Force 21). I walked into the bank and there were all females behind the counter. I literally turned EVERY head without saying a thing. They were competing for my attention. Insanity. Reply
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antonio says: May 11, 2011 at 5:11 pm
Because the Force 21 audios I’m familiar with the extroversion Drill( but that’s that self aproval drill? dri Reply
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captainjack says: May 11, 2011 at 5:12 pm
It’s linked to in the article( it’s the “Low Self Self-Esteem vs. Low Self-Approval.” Reply
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Nigma says: May 11, 2011 at 5:14 pm
Is it still possible to join Force21. Reply
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captainjack says: May 12, 2011 at 8:49 am
You can click the link above and purchase it at any time. Reply
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Bulsa says: May 11, 2011 at 10:22 pm
extroverted state – an example would be a happy drunk. The thoughts you have when you are having fun. You don’t care what others think. You do whatever feels fun and are not trying to get others to like you or do what you think they think you should or shouldn’t do. It displays you are happy and were allowed to have new experiences around non- violent people ple in a protected environment in your childhood. Reply
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walla says: May 12, 2011 at 2:08 pm
hello friend Should I use Visualization to get in this state? 2. how is it used with self-approval Reply
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antonio says: May 12, 2011 at 5:25 pm
OH GOD! just tried this stuff today at college and it was SUPERNATURAL. I had a better mood and performance perfor in my day( in general( not just that( Friends and known people nodded me alot more( For the first time I felt as part of the social enviroment completely( my talks were so much fun and richer( . The random unknown people tended to watch me more and m many any of them made random comments at my back when I passed over( The magic happened when the HOTTEST girl in the college who I had never talked to, made a completely random and nonsense comment when I passed over! she said: wow! he’s tall! WTF! I AM NOT THAT T TALL! SHE’S AS TALL AS ME, THE GUY SHE WAS TALKING TO WAS EVEN TALLER( I was so extrovert that I just stopped and begin to playfully and shamelessly talk to her, made her laugh, made her compliment me as crazy( exchange contact info and flirt with her an and d her female little friend(, A feeling that I had already forgotten was running through my veins! I feel reborn! Greetings from Mexico! Reply
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Karea says: May 12, 2011 at 6:00 pm
That’s awesome antonio. I talked about this with a friend of mine, who used to get about a lay per year, yea now he just got 2 SNLs in a row and a blowjob from a third.
Supernatural is the right word. I still get a lot of AIs, and I used to be totally invisible to girls unless I created social proof first. Another benefit: I don’t need warmup sets anymore, I d don’t on’t have and hardly any AA (there is some on the first sets but it’s so manageable that there’s no way it would stop me from approaching). And, I don’t get rusty anymore. Used to be when I took a few months off from gaming, I would need a few days or even more just to get back into the swing of things. That’s licked too. Reply
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May 13, 2011 at 6:54 am
Can these exercises be done wrong? Cause they rarely ever seem to work for me. Reply
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May 13, 2011 at 7:57 am
Sebastian: You’ve sent me more than one email in the last 2 weeks giving me examples of how this has worked w for you really well. I’ve copied a portion of one below( Perhaps you are being too hard on yourself or invalidating your improvements?
It all started with the good old anxiety creeping in as I got myself ready to go.. Then I realized it was obviously enthusiasm and went on. Naturally, I had already done the exercises so I felt damn good. I strolled casually to the train while doing the extroversion drill again and had random conversations with people on the station; turned out they wanted to give me ffree ree beer all of a sudden – nice! Met up with an old friend and made awesome conversation; I could see how he just lit up. A while later we hit some bars until we found a decent place. As we went in, pretty much on cue, their sound system started blasting ““Boys Boys are Back in Town” and I couldn’t help cracking up due to the sheer amount of awesomeness all of a sudden going on around me. People were turning their heads and girls actually looked at us. I immediately noticed a 3-set set with at least 2 cute looking gi girls rls (dude, on a silver platter). I placed us next to them and opened with something random. Immediately got their attention. They were all amazingly cool and we hit it off better than I expected. My friend was also being strangely smoother than usual. Shit was on! Okay, so here we are, two guys who barely even talk to girls when we go out. All of a sudden people WANT TO talk to us. Girls across the bar are giving me AI’s like mad.. AND we effortlessly hooked our first set. I mean, that cute blonde girl next to me even kept leaning into me and went nuts with her hair. I didn’t even have to worry about my friend. Reply
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Karea says: May 13, 2011 at 8:09 am
Yeah that quote sounds more like it. One thing I found is that my consistency with it depends a lot on the amount of pure raw physiological energy I have. E.g. when I’m really sleepy or when I’m burnt out from working really hard for a long time, I can’t get et that “supernatural” vibe going that antonio described do well. But I can still keep my own internal state positive even in those situations. Reply
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Sebastian says: May 13, 2011 at 12:21 pm
Haa yeah, It brings a big smile to my face just thinking about that night out! It’s actually a pretty bad habit I got( I set an Ideal Scene and as I try to move towards it, I immediately get hung up on shit that went wrong, didn’t go as I had hoped or wanted it to, or I stress over the things that have not yet happened. Thanks for waking king me up and reminding me man, I will now make it a point to always look for progress and consciously validate it. Reply
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antonio says: May 13, 2011 at 2:23 pm
hahaha supernatural also describe what I’m reading of Karea( as I just WROTE JUST that in my notebook 2 minutes ago, with a note “have a cup of coffee before” at the end( hehe Reply
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antonio says: May 13, 2011 at 2:25 pm
PS: workout, music hearing/singing/humming, and overall GOOD SLEEP do the job! Reply
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Karea says: May 13, 2011 at 5:12 pm
Yeah that’s key. I didn’t get a good night’s rest last night and wasn’t able to do it today. Cap’n, Cap any comments on the energy thing or how to increase it and/or make it more stable? Reply
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jack says: May 13, 2011 at 8:51 pm
Went through the Low Self-Steem Steem post, still not sure if I get it clear what its the drill, someo someone ne care to clarify? Reply
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antonio says: May 14, 2011 at 2:11 am
karea! any tip for getting the aproval part right? I just failed a little at the club tonight( Reply
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Karea says: May 14, 2011 at 8:29 pm
The post is about self approval is three years old and I read it three years ago. I didn’t even understand it when I first read it. Clear over my head. Eventually I understood it intellectually, but I had no idea how to pull it off. “Okay, feel the feeling of approval without an external even, but HOW CJ?” Even half a year ago I was still stuck at that exact point. Eventually it clicked( it’s just a knack. That’s all it is. I think meditation helped me to get there btw. So did Tony Robbins’ Personal Power T Tapes, apes, as I wrote in the testimonial. Other than that, it’s all in CJ’s post. Maybe you need to be ready for it( I know I wasn’t ready for the information three years ago. Or maybe I could have gotten it then already, but I just didn’t get the knack. When this his one clicks, so many things in your life will fall into place, also outside pickup. You will simply cease to be emotionally at the mercy of your environment. It’s awesome. Reply
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Sebastian says: May 14, 2011 at 11:10 pm
I’m starting to get it, felt absolutely incredible yesterday, still do. Do you guys have the MSM8 audio? It is perfect for gaining control of emotions and eventually generating emotions at will, it is really helping me out with that part. Having the power to basically snap yourself out of the stimulus stimulus-response response loop at will is beyond awesome and I’m only starting to get a taste of it.
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whim says: May 15, 2011 at 1:16 pm
I think the self-approval approval part is referring to CJ’s Admiration Drill. At least that’s what did iitt for me. Couple that with extroversion and BOOM. I find myself getting approached and opened by girls, in addition to the AIs that I was getting with just the extroversion drill. I still haven’t quite got the generation of state 100% down yet, but I know that when I do it’s gonna be killer. Reply
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Karea says: May 15, 2011 at 5:33 pm
Yeah the MSM 8 works great for that too, so does the admiration drill. This is all a good three levels beyond what everybody else in the community is doing. Reply
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Tommy Dean says: May 16, 2011 at 3:24 pm
Do you guys still dot the Pulling drill (1st audio of Force21)? Or is the MSM8 MSM8-drill drill the evolution of that drill? I’m asking this especially regarding becoming an effect of beautiful girls. Is the pulling drill better for that, or the MSM8 drill? Reply
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NaturalPlayboy says: May 17, 2011 at 2:01 am
Correct me if I am wrong ,but doing these exercises creates a strong feeling of deservedness ultimately as end goal ? Or does it go beyond that ? Have fun Natural playboy Reply
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May 17, 2011 at 1:39 pm
I was doing the pulling drill a lot – to the extent that I got so sick of it I can’t bring myself to do it any more (CJ said that’s not a bad level of action to get to!) I never found that and MSM8 the same – MSM is about emotional control, pulling is aboutt how a girl feels when with you – if she feels ‘free’. Do both until the thought of them repulses you almost. They are amazing. Reply
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June 7, 2011 at 11:49 pm
Hey karea, that sounds very interesting. Would you compare the self approval state & the extrovert extrov state to, like the feeling of ecstacy? Ive had instances where I generated really good feelings or did somthing I really enjoyed like eat at my favorite restaurant and I kept practicing positive thoughts and I felt really good and I talked to this girl and we really connected after I made one small comment. Or things will happen like women will be automatically receptive to any little move you do, and crack open at first chance. Reply
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June 8, 2011 at 12:05 pm
If you mean the drug, I can’t tell you – I don’t do drugs and I don’t even drink or smoke. If you’re ou’re currently drinking, you will probably stop once you figure out internal state control via self approval. But it’s definitely an ecstatic feeling. Eating at your favorite restaurant is external, self approval is internal. So as long as you’re relying on such things, you haven’t gotten it yet. You’re on the right track though. As I said, it’s a knack( and btw, meditating helped me get it. On another note, I just had another three lays in a row. And then another three. I just do my thing now and get laid.. No more sticking points to be found anywhere. CJ’s stuff is where it’s at. -Karea.
Admiration, Extroversion and HELP! Posted at May 16, 2011
Yo,
The blog post has caused quite a stir with over 20+ comments since posting. If you want the full scoop including ALL of the relevant audios in addition to the full FORCE21 program then just click the link below. It will be 8 audios in total. Plus, I’ll throw in two Q&A conference calls with me starting in June to make sure you NAIL it and get fabulous results. You’ll have everything you need to start experiencing insane results! Admiration, Extroversion and HELP! Like Karea said, this is easily 3 levels above ANYTHING else being taught. Captain Jack
Curiosity Killed the Cat? Posted at June 7, 2011
Howdy, Did curiosity kill the cat? Some adult probably said this to you when you were an inquisitive young boy asking tons and tons of questions trying to make sense of this world. I remember hearing it myself but, luckily, not from my own parents. My Dad was a school teacher so he valued learning and teaching quite a bit. And, my mom is pretty curious (and patient), too. When my daughters got here and started crawling around and getting into everything I noticed curiosity at a very high level. If you look at kids they are not only action-oriented they also seem to be naturally curious. In fact( you could even see a direct link between the two. Things like curiosity, wonder, intrigue, and purpose drive people to action. I remember one time coming out from my office and seeing pots and pans all over the kitchen floor and the tail end of my daughters diapered butt crawling into the cabinet. She looked around for a second, saw nothing interesting and came right back out looking for a new adventure. My ex just looked at her and shrugged. But, I took note. Here was a toddler pulling pots and pans out of a cabinet in what amounted to a 15-20 minute operation just because she wanted to see what was behind all that stuff. “Children have short attention spans.” Yeah right! Mr. Adult the children have short attention spans because 1) They’ve already figure it out and are bored with your incessant yakking 2) They know it doesn’t matter 3) You haven’t shown them WHY they should be curious about it. For the last year I’ve been on a quest to learn how people really learn and what stops them from learning in addition to what stops people from action. I found out the two ARE linked. Curiosity did NOT kill the cat. In examining past successes I can say that curiosity played a huge role. This goes from simple things like wondering why something happens the way it does (or doesn’t) to more lewd things like wondering what she looks like when she is having an orgasm or how she looks naked. We need a new ‘saying’ something like, “Curiosity is the first step to adventure and glory.” Something along those lines. So, when you are talking to her or right before you approach, reconnect with your curiosity first. After all, everybody knows that curiosity is the first step to adventure and glory. Captain Jack
