This is the first Captain Jack/Mystery Method eClass Lesson. The lesson focuses on beliefs and establishing a game plan. The first lesson of the e-class begins at the very beginning. Remember, my goal here is to take you from "Opening" to having a complete System for almost effortlessly bringing hot women in your life and starting sexual relationships with them. I'm going to show you how to get women into your life through multiple sources so you are always surrounded by women (if you choose.) I'll be including some of my latest tactics regarding regarding internet dating and MySpace. The majority of my success has come through a combination of my mindset, HOW I go about improving my Game Plan and by paying attention to the 20% of activities which generate generate 80% of the results. I'm going to teach you all 3 in the ecourse. When you faithfully do the assignments and THEN write to me for specific feedback I have no doubt that we can make huge improvements in your Game in the next few weeks. Most of the value from this eCourse will come from the specific feedback. Now, let's begin at the beginning. I'm not talking about the beginning of time or even "Opening" (we'll get to that a little later). I'm talking about YOU. Your beliefs. Your attitudes. Your thoughts. Which all lead to your behaviors. You'll find that "reality" consistently conforms to your functional beliefs.
So if you believe that "all the hot girls have boyfriends" - that's ALL that you will run into! Like a Gigantic Magnet your beliefs SUCK confirming experiences towards you. MOST of the benefit in the e-Course will NOT come from the tips, tactics or techniques that I share (although those are important). 99% of the benefit comes from the "shift in viewpoint" vi ewpoint" that I will give you. *** Let the shifting begin: The Secret of PUA Venue Domination Domination *** And, here is one such shift. Most of the PU world is organized around the concept of running sets. Each set is treated (in most models and almost ALL PRACTICE) as a distinct and separate entity. You hit the club/bar and "open a 3set" then you regroup with your buddies and you "open that mixed 4 set over there", etc, etc. At the end of each night you and your wings "debrief" and talk about each Set as if it were a distinct entity. This is not the best way to think about it. (I am going to continue talking about sets as if they are distinct. That is just for communication purposes and ease of speech. I DO NOT view things as a 2Set, 3Set, etc unless I am explaining or writing a FR/LR)... Because, the ENTIRE VENUE is i s one Giant Mixed Set. I don't worry that much about raising my value in "the set" I am in. That line of thinking is too limited. I raise my VALUE IN THE ENTIRE VENUE. That is why one of the FIRST things I do when I hit a bar is to get in a Set and get "locked in" which means to make it APPEAR to EVERYONE ELSE that the girls I am talking to are gaming me.
So if you believe that "all the hot girls have boyfriends" - that's ALL that you will run into! Like a Gigantic Magnet your beliefs SUCK confirming experiences towards you. MOST of the benefit in the e-Course will NOT come from the tips, tactics or techniques that I share (although those are important). 99% of the benefit comes from the "shift in viewpoint" vi ewpoint" that I will give you. *** Let the shifting begin: The Secret of PUA Venue Domination Domination *** And, here is one such shift. Most of the PU world is organized around the concept of running sets. Each set is treated (in most models and almost ALL PRACTICE) as a distinct and separate entity. You hit the club/bar and "open a 3set" then you regroup with your buddies and you "open that mixed 4 set over there", etc, etc. At the end of each night you and your wings "debrief" and talk about each Set as if it were a distinct entity. This is not the best way to think about it. (I am going to continue talking about sets as if they are distinct. That is just for communication purposes and ease of speech. I DO NOT view things as a 2Set, 3Set, etc unless I am explaining or writing a FR/LR)... Because, the ENTIRE VENUE is i s one Giant Mixed Set. I don't worry that much about raising my value in "the set" I am in. That line of thinking is too limited. I raise my VALUE IN THE ENTIRE VENUE. That is why one of the FIRST things I do when I hit a bar is to get in a Set and get "locked in" which means to make it APPEAR to EVERYONE ELSE that the girls I am talking to are gaming me.
That may or may not be true. But, to anyone walking by or watching it looks like I am being gamed by the girls. (I'll tell you how to accomplish that later). The NEXT THING I do is TAKE the girls and do a lap around the bar (slowly) to make sure that almost EVERYONE sees me parading at least one girl (prefe (preferably rably two or more at one time) around. And, while I am doing that I make a mental note of the AI's I get and "tag" them for future reference. If I see a really hot girl that I want to sarge sarge I will take the girls I am parading and "lock in" next to my new Target's group so SHE can see the girls gaming me. With all of these maneveurs I am creating an AURA. I AM the guy who is talking to girls, I am the guy who is parading girls around. I have them laughing. I have them screaming. We are hugging each other o ther.. And the entire place looks at me and thinks, "Who IS THA THAT T GUY?" I will do this several times with different different groups of girls, all in rapid succession. I am SARGING THE ENTIRE VENUE. Every group of girls are PAWNS PAWNS in my quest to build my PU AURA inside the club. This takes less than an hour to accomplish. If you do this once in a night, every Set will open for you throughout the night. If you do this twice in a night, girls will start opening you. If you do this three times in a night, you will (most likely) get laid by at least one of the girls that you number close. Think about it this way: If you come to me and say, "Dude, Captain Jack, my penis is 12 inches!" I probably won't believe you If a girl comes to me and says, "Captain Jack, his penis IS 12 inches! We had the most amazing sexathon ever and he almost punctured one of my lungs with that thing!" I
MIGHT believe it, unless I think she is just screwing with me. But, if the music stops, the bartenders stop pouring drinks, everyone in the bar pauses and in unison says, "Captain Jack his penis is 12 inches WE SAW IT and measured it while you were in the bathroom!" I'll probably say, "Dude! I thought I was the only guy in the bar with a 12 inch penis! High Five!" So, if you build the PU AURA in a club/bar what choice does the girl have when you open her set? Very little. She is FORCED into responding to me, she is REACTING to me. I am NOT WAITING for her. Lead. Lead. Lead. Lead. *** Another shift: Female Sexuality *** It is EXTREMELY important that you understand female sexuality. Furthermore, it is important that you have no judgmental ideas about someone's sexual preferences. Women are still sexually repressed. They have wild fantasies that most of society condemns. This creates sexual frustration inside them. But, this sexual frustration can work FOR you. If you know how to take advantage of it. In the third lesson le sson I'm going to discuss Sexual Framing in-depth including several core pieces I use to frame our interaction sexually. The gist of it is this: You are not judgmental regarding sex, sexual fantasies or preferences. And, you are great at keeping secrets. Acknowledging "freaky" sex or fetishes as something you can handle will cause her to direct her sexually pent up frustrations TOWARDS you.
She will see YOU as her sexual liberator. This is a good thing! Remove "slut" and "whore" from your vocabulary. There is no such thing. If you haven't read "Sperm Wars" or "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday you MUST read them ASAP. After reading those books and integrating them I noticed women treated me differently. Before females seemed only to want normal sex. But, after reading the books and incorporating sexual framing in my sarges they are doing and willing to do the craziest sexual things. If you want to know EXACTLY how I achieve this effect sit tight for the third lesson. Also, I want you to know that most of the women who go out to night clubs and bars WANT to be picked up. There are a MILLION other things they could be doing. *** Another shift: One of the Most Defective Ideas to Ever Hit PUADom *** One of the biggest mistakes I see PUAs make in the field is being too reactionary. They spit a routine and its as if they expect the girls to fall down and spread their legs right then and there. The whole community got caught up with the idea of the IOI (Indicator of Interest). So, there we are in field with this internal dialog, "was that an IOI or did her nose just itch?" "aww man, this is my best routine! no IOI's? C'mon cold-hearted bitches!" "these girls must be lesbians. 10 minutes in this set and no IOIs" I got caught up in that, too. I had those suckers cataloged. And,
I had an advantage! Through my advanced NLP training I have HIGH calibration skills. I can catch even the SLIGHTEST IOI imaginable. But, my question is, "What are you going to do differently now that you've got X-number of IOIs from your Target?" Think about that. It is a SHIFT. The answer should be...screw the answer. It's the wrong question. It is reactionary. Here's the only IOIs you need: If she is talking to you, then she is interested. It is a GOOD SIGN if she is laughing, smiling and touching you. But, so what? How does that correlate to getting a number, getting her to Bounce to another club, restaurant or your place? It doesn't. You know how I know? I've had IOI's out the ASS and came up with ZILCH. And, in my "LR: Captain Jack Offends her then F*cks her!" with HBCalifornia I don't think she laughed, smiled or touched me at all. In fact, at one point she got pissed and LEFT me sitting there. Near the end of the night I STILL got her number and SHE CALLED ME as KinoMaster and I were driving home and invited me over. We turned around and he dropped me off at her place...same night lay, but where were those precious IOIs? Another area where this defect of "reactionism" screws you up is in believing that what they are saying actually means anything. I IGNORE anything and everything that DOESN'T fit the Frame I am setting. In most cases, the girls will be so dominated that they CAN NOT manage to get much input in the first place. From the time I roll in they are sucked into REACTION MODE because I am doing my thing. A few of the PUAs at the last bootcamp saw me demo this... I rolled into a 2-set and dominated. Any response that did not
fit my goal of getting them INTRIGUED and HOT enough to join me at our table was IGNORED. While positive responses were chosen (by me) to reinforce my Frame. Within about 5 minutes I paraded them to the other side of the bar and we were sitting at the table. Within 10-15 minutes she and I were making out. She was a cute blonde with wonderful breasts. You DO NOT have to respond to each and every statement. IGNORE anything that does not take you to the next step. *** The Power of Statements to Kill Reactionism *** One of the biggest indicators of a reactive mindset is asking permission. A PUA who asks, "Can I see your hands?" is more reactive than a PUA who says, "Lemme see your hands." and puts out his hands. I can FEEL an interaction dying as more questions are asked. I ask almost NO questions until I am in comfort (and even then I ask few). (The Question Game, however, rocks!) And almost any interaction can be livened up with a statement tossed out that relates to NOTHING. My favorite? (With thanks to Juggler) "I like back rubs!" turning my back and bending knees a bit. So, here is your homework. Take what I've said above and re-think your game. Take your current game plan and notice where those fallacies exist. * Are you too reactionary? Dependent on IOIs? Take the HBs comments too seriously? * Are you running individual sets or building the PUA AURA? * Asking questions instead of making statements with good response potential? Then, redesign your game to REMOVE these fallacies.
And, for those of you who have NO GAME PLAN to speak of you need to design one. *** A Quick Primer on Creating a Game Plan *** Pick 3 openers. There are many on ASF with complete back stories. I use "David Bowie", "Spells", "Who lies more," and "Email break-up" (For more great information on Openers read Savoy's new book, "Magic Bullets" Get Attraction ) Others are: "Tattoos on girls" "Elvis Opener" "Dental Floss" Here are some simple ones that I like to use: * "I'm thinking of dying my hair blonde." ---- I created this one when I was experimenting with "Forcing IOIs" which I will discuss another time (even though I don't depend on IOIs anymore it is an interesting topic that teaches you HOW to elicit desired responses and resulted in my ability to get girls to suggest things so I didn't have too) * "Does this shirt make me look tall?" (credit Mystery) ---- saw Mystery use this one at the Bootcamp. The girls laughed and he immediately launched into his "mommy wanted me to date tall girls" routine ---- this is funny if you are short, too * "Did you guys see that girl fight outside?" Step 1) Pick 3 openers that you can get comfortable with and 3 stories you can use. Many openers come with back stories that provide natural transitions. (In a future lesson I'm going to show you how to fabricate social situations in a way where these types of openers are no longer necessary.) "Success in the context of opening means getting into a normal conversation with a woman." - Savoy, "Magic Bullets" Step 2) Pick 3 "playful teases" you can use QUICKLY once you open.
(often called negs): The key is that they are PLAYFUL and are said with a smile. I always smile and shake my head. I am conveying that the girl is somewhat of a DORK and I just can't believe it. * "Oh my god! Alllllriiiight! Who brought their little sister to the bar?" * "Is she always like this? You can dress her up but you can't take her anywhere!" (credit Mystery) * "Oh geez. You WOULD say that." (while exhaling and shaking my head) These have NO VENOM and CAN NOT be taken for meanness. But, the rest of the group WILL laugh and they will be laughing WITH YOU about HER. Mission Accomplished. Step 3) MEMORIZE a qualification statement: * "What can you do besides stand around and look cute?" * "You're good looking, but what else do you have going for you?" (In a future lesson I'll show you how to do away with explicit qualification and use pure framing instead.) Step 4) MEMORIZE some isolation statements: * "Hey, let's go talk over there for a sec." * (to the group) "I'm going to borrow her for just a sec. We'll be right over there (pointing)" Step 5) MEMORIZE the Bounce Invite: * "Hey, I'm going to get something to eat. You should come along." Easy enough right? Now, you'll want to construct this in a linear fashion (some of you will already have this type of PLAN in place, this is for the PUAs that don't have a plan) so that you can run an almost identical set with each group you open. PUA: "Hey guys, I'm thinking of dying my hair blonde" HBs: blah, blah, blah PUA (pointing to Target but looking at group and smiling): "Is she
ALWAYS like this? (shaking head and smiling) You can dress her up but you can't take her anywhere." PUA: (to Target): "Gimme your hands" *** PUA locks in *** *** It now appears to everyone in the VENUE that the target is gaming the PUA *** PUA: (story) HBs: blah, blah, blah PUA: (to Target smiling and shaking head) "You would say that..." PUA: (story) HBs: blah, blah, blah PUA: (to Target) - (qualification statement) Target: blah, blah, blah PUA: (reward Target and act like she is winning you over) PUA: "What else?" Target: blah, blah, blah PUA: "Interesting..." (Isolation statement) PUA: *** PARADE HER AROUND and then Isolate *** Total elapsed time 5-10 minutes So, re-work your Game Plan (being sure to REMOVE the fallacies discussed earlier) and send me the template so I can discuss/critique with you...I also want to know what your ULTIMATE goal is...to get married...to get a girlfriend...to become master of cold approach same night lays (like me) or whatever else. I need to know this because when you send me homework or ask questions I'll pull up all the info I have about you so I can give you the best answer possible. And, I just realized this lesson is incredibly long, so I am going to end it here. But, we are not even CLOSE to shifting your thinking...we've just started. After designing your new Game Plan do as many sets as possible and email me for feedback. The next lesson will introduce my Game Improvement Plan and how I used it (and still use it) to engineer massive leaps in my Game. I'll also cover the easiest way imaginable to get Pawns and the first steps to Social Proof Venue Domination. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. We haven't gotten into the core beliefs that are holding
you back. That'll be in the next lesson...and I promise it will be a SHOCKER! P.P.S. Here are 3 great blog posts to read for this lesson and the next lesson:
CJ's Sticking Point Analysis: Early on when I wasn’t getting the types of results I wanted I decided I needed to take a more systematic approach to my development. In my area, there were no other PUAs that I knew of so after the bootcamp I was basically alone. I had to become my own best teacher by systematically using my in-field experience combined with my analysis. So, I developed this “Game Improvement Plan” – The first realization is the purpose of your Game Plan is to get you laid consistently by the type of women you want. The second realization is you can’t go out with the purpose of getting laid. The third realization is every action should be judged on its overall (GLOBAL) purpose rather than its immediate effect. Take number closing as an example. Most guys feel great when they number close. But, are they really any closer to the Global goal? Could be, but probably not. But, Time Bridging is a better solution because it puts you closer to the Global goal (it is, of course not guaranteed but much better as a local option than the phone number alone.) A dichotomy? Yes and no. Your focus needs to be adjusting your behaviors until you can run through your Game Plan with an unconscious smoothness. When your Game Plan is not getting you what you want you need to focus on something else… 1. What to change 2. To what to change to 3. How to cause the change This is what I call “Sticking Point Analysis” and I credit it with my last 18 lays. I learned early on I needed to have more than a Game Plan, I needed a method for IMPROVING the Game Plan if I was ever to get to where I wanted to go. Once you understand the basic courtship process and start running your Game Plan in the field you will start to notice where your sarges are failing. You’ll notice patterns. They are failing in the same places quite often. Step 1. Identify Your Sticking Points Sticking points limit the entire system’s output. (The system being your Game Plan and the output being lays.) Therefore we have to stop focusing on getting laid and instead focus on fixing the sticking
points. Step 2. Decide How to Fix the Sticking Point (SP) Now that you have identified the SP the next step is to find possible solution(s) for fixing that sticking point. Pick one way to fix it and commit to 10 tries with that solution. Step 3: Subordinate your Game Plan to the above decision. Redesign your Game Plan to implement the fix for that SP. Step 4: Elevate the Sticking Point. With your redesigned Game Plan you will go out and start hunting for opportunities to break the SP. You will subordinate everything to working on your SP. That means you will EVEN give up a lay opportunity for a chance to work on Sticking Points (unless you haven’t yet had 2-3 lays from the Game – in which point I say take the lays as it will give you a better Global view and a nice boost of confidence.) There will come a time when you break that SP. Step 5: This is a continuous process. Go back to step 1. My suggestion is to work on 3 SPs at a time. Experience has shown me that every set will not present you an opportunity to work on an SP. However, if you have 3 then you have a good shot at getting a few repetitions per night. ~ Captain Jack ~ CJ's Same Night Lay Guidelines: Hola PUAs, As promised, my insights on SNL’s. The first major attitude shift is this: Women don’t go to clubs/bars only to listen to music, drink or talk to friends. They can do all of those at home or at a friends house. They go because they want/need sex and they want to be picked up. Debriefing shows they would have sex the same night more often were the feelings there. Your job, fellow pirate, is to create the feelings, create the opportunity and do so in a manner that seems so natural and easy that it seems like it all just fell into place. Sinn referred to this when he said, “Captain Jack Method: Hang out till sex happens.” First I want to tell you that there IS a difference between Same-Night-Lays (SNL) and One Night Stands (ONS). ONS skips comfort which usually results in buyer’s remorse. For all the 4-5 hours of precious time you invested you get one lay. Even worse, if you mismanage the escalation and trigger asd/lmr that you can’t get through, you’ll get zero lays. I’ve never had any problems seeing/dating a girl who I laid the same night because I qualify and build comfort. I’ll take this from the top…
You need to get there early (in Tejas, that means no later than 10:00) because some of your sets will
fail the SNL screening statements (more on that later) and you’ll need to close out with a TimeBridge, stay the obligatory 5-10 minutes to solidify and move on. You should focus on mixed sets. This may seem counter-intuitive but experience has shown me this is
true. Here’s why: In all girl sets they often pile into one car. But, in mixed sets you have a greater chance of girls taking their own car and/or meeting the group later. Do a little thought experiment: How many times have you witnessed a girl walking into the bar alone… she’s looking for someone…she finds them and before you know it she is seated with a 4-5 mixed set. You open the group in the standard way, do all the normal things you’d do until you hit the “How do
you guys know each other?” waypoint. If she’s not there with someone, then isolate (or atleast get mini-isolation.) Now that you are in isolation it’s time to start with the sexual framing. I use my version of Strawberry fields and “Rings on Fingers” to frame things sexually and I start seeding the TB. It is supremely important that you don’t convey any “judgmentalism” regarding sex, sexual preferences or lifestyles in any way, shape or form. You also don’t want to place too much importance on sex by talking about it or calling it a “special thing between two people” or any silly shit like that. The underlying attitude is sex is normal, healthy, fun and about to happen soon. At the begining of C1 I start to screen for logistics issues …I listen for answers to these questions or
ask them outright. * Who did she ride with. (Best answer is, of course, alone in her car.) * What time does she need to get up in the morning. (Best answer, later the better.) (These things just make it easier. The better you get the more willing girls are to ignore things like riding home with guys she just met or getting up early. I know it’s hard to believe but experience proves it true.) If the vibe is sexual and I feel like there are no obvious excuses for her not to come home with me (have to work early is the main one) I’ll stay around. If not, then I’m looking for a new set. This needs to be run super-tight. I’m talking 20 minutes in you’re making this decision because you need to be solidly in comfort by 12:30 (for venues that close at 2:00). This 1.5 hours is the MAIN (but not only) factor which distinguishes this from ONS (the other being non-sexual qualification and peer befriending.) I call 12:30 to 2:00 “Putting my time in…” Always TimeBridge, it makes the SNL easier because it lessens asd and lmr.
As it gets closer to closing time 1:20-1:30 I start saying things like, “I don’t want the night to end, I’m really enjoying myself.” If she agrees or says nothing you can say, “Let’s hang out at my place. I have xyz alcoholic drinks and we can watch that show I was telling you about.” Or, you can say, “I’m kinda hungry.” You’re saying this to see what kind of reaction you get. She may go ahead and propose eating somewhere. (Though, I’ve stopped doing this almost a year ago because I lost a few “sure” lays as the sexual tension lessened, the tiredness set in and the alcohol (and fun mode) wore off.)
The after hours club is also a good proposal. I’ve used this one quite a few times. It’s perfect because
you have to swing past your place to get alcohol before heading out. And, oh by the way, the club doesn’t even open til 3am so we got 45 minutes to burn. Let’s see, how are we gonna kill 45 minutes? I know, we’ll have sex! Ha ha. But, one of my favorite tactics (if she drove) is to get her to give me a ride home. Then, while in the
parking lot you can say “Come in for a bit. You can use the restroom and have some water before you head home.” Then, grab her keys, turn off the car and get out. (What’s that? Do I hear you worrying about your car? Don’t worry about it dude, you’re going to get laid! Have a friend take you back to your car if need be. Or, better yet, have the girl do it that night.) Logistics separate the men from the boys (or the mPUAs)
The best mental image I can give you here is “Baby Steps.” I rarely tell them where/how far away I live. Some of the places I go to are a good 35-40 minutes away. Sinn and I have pulled 2 or 3 times SNL’s from those locations so he can attest to my skill in that area. Fidelio, KinoMaster, and Tribulus have all witnessed with their own eyes me doing this, multiple times, as well. The goal is to get her to the seduction location and make it look like it sorta just happened. This is why the “gimme a ride home” and the “after hours venue, oh wait, gotta go home and get alcohol” tactics work so well. Hopefully, you started a good kino progression early in the sarge. Because once she’s in your place it’s time to amp it up a little bit. Hot/cold is the order of the day. Make out, pull back, continue with your comfort material. Tease her mercilessly. Have your LMR skills honed because you’ll almost surely have to use them. The good news is: If you don’t get the lay, the day2 is almost assuredly going to be her coming straight over to have sex with you and that’s my kinda date. ~ Captain Jack ~
This is the 2nd (taken from PUA seduction blog) Let’s imagine a blank white wall. Now, put an imaginary dot on the wall. We’ll call this Point A. If I were to ask you to, you could point to the wall and tell me where that point is. Put another imaginary dot on the wall (Point B) and connect the two
dots with a line. We could go so far as to say that the line represents a “distance” and discuss how long (time) it would take an ant to travel that line from the first point to the second point. We could easily discuss all of this as if it were true. Give exact measurements and even time how long it takes the ant to get from point A to point B. But, where does Point A and Point B exist? In the mind of the observer. The points, the distance, and the time only exist in the mind. *** A man contemplated God. “God,” he asked, “what are million years like to you?” “A minute,” God replied. “Well, what are a million dollars like to you?” the man asked. “A penny,” God answered. The man smiled broadly and then exclaimed, “Then, can I have a penny?!” God smiled back and said, “In a minute.” *** Now, imagine a painter. He sits down with a brush and oil paints. He looks at a blank canvas. But, to him it is NOT blank. He “SEES” the work of art on the canvas and merely uses the brush and the paints to fulfill his own vision. The painting only existed in his mind AT FIRST, then he used the technical skills of painting to make it real so others could view it. ***
PLEASE take a few minutes to PONDER the meaning of these three snippets before reading on. It is VERY IMPORTANT. The point I’m driving at with these 3 snippets is this: * The meaning you give to external events is IN YOUR MIND… * The meaning you give is a result of your Viewpoint * You can decide the meaning and create it when you have the ability to SEE and the SKILLS to carry it out When you first approach someone they know NOTHING about you except what is immediately observable. They look at your clothes, your body language and how you move and make a subconscious assumption. But, just like the points on the wall their calculation regarding you exists only in their own mind. It is not REALITY. It is their INTERPRETATION of you based on past experiences/interactions with others overlaid onto you. So, you have your conception of yourself and the other person has their PERCEPTION of you (which only exists in their mind). Once you start conversing the PERCEPTION shifts…or is reinforced depending on whose FRAME is strongest AND whose communication skills are best. How do you get the strongest frame? Step 1: “Know thyself!” Step 2: Convey thyself (We’ll get to those steps a little later. Time to shift gears again!) But, that is only part of the story. Simultaneously, YOUR communication of who you THINK they are colors your communication AND their response. They either accept and follow or resist and attempt to reframe. Doesn’t this sound complicated? Well, technically it is! You can spend a LIFETIME studying all of this, in fact, many people have.
And, I’m glad to say that once you realize the truth of the above, then you are READY FOR A SHORTCUT! The shortcut lies in the “The Secrets of The Pickup Clarity Model” The most important frame of mind to keep in using the Clarity Model is HONESTY. So, fill out the clarity model. Work through it and send the answers to me. The very act of using this Clarity Model puts you WAY AHEAD of every other guy out there. The simple act of DOING this causes beneficial inner-mental changes deep inside you. The person that acts with clarity and congruence has a magnetism and charisma that FLOWS out from them in every area of their lives. KNOWING what you want and taking the steps to achieve it is inherently ATTRACTIVE. Step 1: It all starts with Knowing yourself. Who am I? What do I stand for? What do I value? What is my goal in Pick-up? How do I see it interacting/integrating with the rest of my life? Step 2: What kind of woman/women do I want in my life? Describe them mentally and emotionally. (You’ll no doubt recognize her physically!) Step 3: How can I QUICKLY determine if a woman that I am talking to fits #2? Step 4: What positive qualities and experiences can I offer her? What am I passionate about that I could share with her or she could participate with me in? List them. Step 5: If she doesn’t fit #2, where could she fit in my life? Could she be a friend? Acquaintance? Contact? Step 6: How can I take the above information and rework my game? So, give the above a shot. My responses are below but try not to use them unless you are at a loss.
Here are my responses: Step 1: I stand for having fun, learning and experiencing new things and helping others. I love to read thought-provoking books on spirtuality, philosophy and success. My goal in pick-up is to feel comfortable in all social situations and have the freedom and flexibility to atttractt the women I desire no matter what situation we happen to meet in. My ultimate goal is to find a super hot woman who likes women. I see pick-up integrating with the rest of my life seamlessly. Meaning I don’t treat it as something I do fri/sat. night in a club. I want to be able to go about my business, follow my interests and sarge anytime/anyplace. However, I look at clubs as compact training ground for getting the skills quickly. Step 2: My ideal women (as a minimum) MUST have a good sense of humour. She must be genuinely sociable and kind to others. She must look at the bright side of things and generally be a happy person with goals and dreams - not just floating through life. She MUST be nurturing and believe in “taking care” of her man. Step 3: I can quickly determine these traits by noticing how she reacts to my playful and humorous vibe. If she laughs that is a GREAT sign, if she plays back that is even better! If I open up a thread about goals and dreams, she follows and shares her own WITH FEELING. I can find out if she is nurturing by opening a thread on “all my past girlfriends had to learn how to give GREAT backrubs…” and noticing her reaction. (Guys, I actually stopped sarging a chick after a Day2 because while she was PRETTY HOT she said that she doesn’t give massages or do “anything like that” to her past boyfriends. A real time saver but I should’ve done it during the original Comfort Phase of the pickup to save myself the Day2.) I can find out if she is bi-sexual by mentioning to her that my past girlfriends were bi-sexual and that I believe it made them more attractive and complete. Step 4: When I am with a woman I make SURE she feels adored and like a princess. I use NLP values elicitation and anchoring to accomplish this AND the sexual techniques from “David Shade’s Manual” for the sexual part of it. I am passionate about travel so we can travel together. I am passionate about having fun no matter
where we are so even just “hanging out” at a Live Music place is fun. I love to try new things so we will always share new experiences. I give her room to breathe and she can still go have fun with her friends without feeling guilty. I also value her feminity so she will NOT be criticized for being female (Guys, “Way of the Superior Man” is SUPREME for understanding women. Every true PUA should have it). Step 5: I don’t keep a lot of friends but if she is a good person she can be an acquaintance. If/when we see each other out we can chat and feel good about having met. Earlier in this lesson I said “But, that is only part of the story. Simultaneously, YOUR communication of who you THINK they are colors your communication AND their response. They either accept and follow or resist and attempt to reframe.” Remember that? It is VERY IMPORTANT in all your interactions but ESPECIALLY SO in your interactions with females. Why? Because females are naturally more responsive to the leadership of male energy. Meaning they are MORE LIKELY to agree and resonate with the frame you put around the interaction. That is why my version of “Strawberry Fields” works really well for sexualizing the sarge. I could just as easily create a version that would PRECLUDE me from getting a lay. I could hint that I VALUE chicks that can wait. If she wants me to value her then she will activate the parts of her that cause her to wait. Got it? Try this exercise. List 5 beliefs you have about women. Answer these and then compare your beliefs to mine. Women are: 1. 2.
3. 4. 5. Captain Jack’s Beliefs Women are: 1. Sexual Creatures 2. Adventurous 3. Curious 4. Wonderful, exciting, interesting beings 5. Nurturing (and I coudl go on and on: Cute, Beautiful, Delicate, Soft, etc, etc) I have friends who are not in PU whose beliefs look like this: Women are: 1. Bitches 2. Teases 3. Confusing 4. Dumb 5. Gold Diggers No joke! That’s really what they believe! And, guess what, they are not getting laid. Is it any wonder? People can sense what you truly believe about them and they reflect it back to you. Especially women. *** A Techique for Correcting Your Limiting Beliefs About Women *** You may have experienced bad feelings in your past dealings with women. I know I have. I am divorced. Those past experiences might be negatively affecting your interactions with women. Here’s a technique to correct that so you can positively move forward. Step 1: Close your eyes. Imagine that woman or past interaction. (I’d imagine my ex-wife.) Step 2: REALIZE that what happened occured as a result of incorrect PERCEPTIONS on both of your parts. Realize that you can LEARN
something from the situation and think about what you POSITIVE learning you can have. (I realize that we were both young, we both got wrapped up in other things and grew apart. I learned more about what I REALLY want and desire from a LTR, for her to have an upbeat outlook, for her to be nurturing so I can treat her like a princess.) Step 3: MENTALLY THANK HER for the positive learning. (”Thanks Mary for helping me to learn what I truly want in an LTR so I can be happy.”) Step 4: Imagine all women. Recite your positive beliefs about them. (”You are sexual beings. You are adventurous. I love it how you are so curious about things. You are wonderful, exciting and intersting. I adore your nurturing nature!”) You’ve got a LOT to do. In addition to the above exercises, I want you to review the GAME PLAN from the first lesson and see if it needs to be modified. This is all important CORE STUFF. In the future lessons we will get more into actual “in-field” tactics. Starting with “How to Get Girls Chasing YOU!” Do this work and email me back so I can offer feedback. If you don’t receive feedback within 24 hours don’t hesitate to email me a reminder.
This is the third Captain Jack/Mystery Method eClass Lesson. The lesson focuses on sticking point analysis, sexual framing, efficiency theory, and the beginning of Venue Domination.
Enjoy: This lesson will cover "Sticking Point Analysis," Sexual Framing, Efficiency Theory and the beginning of Venue Domination. I'm convinced the best way to look at Pick Up is as a "Behavioral
Science." That's why tons of sets are required using roughly the same Game Plan to reveal your sticking points. You'll begin to see patterns and you'll find ways to take advantage of the beneficial patterns and prevent or workaround the patterns that hold you back. These patterns become evident in Sticking Points. ------------------------------------------------How to MASTER your sticking points in the shortest time possible...while you improve your current game with each new set! -------------------------------------------------Early on when I wasn't getting the types of results I wanted I decided I needed to take a more systematic approach to my development. In my area, there were no other PUAs that I knew of so after the bootcamp I was basically alone. I had to become my own best teacher by systematically using my in-field experience combined with my analysis. So, I developed this "Game Improvement Plan" -The first realization is the purpose of your Game Plan is to get you laid consistently by the type of women you want. The second realization is you can't go out with the purpose of getting laid. The third realization is every action should be judged on its overall (GLOBAL) purpose rather than its immediate effect. Take number closing as an example. Most guys feel great when they number close. But, are they really any closer to the Global goal? Could be, but probably not. But, Time Bridging is a better solution because it puts you closer to the Global goal (it is, of course not guaranteed but much better as a local option than the phone number alone.) A dichotomy? Yes and no. Your focus needs to be adjusting your behaviors until you can run through your Game Plan with an unconscious smoothness. When your Game Plan is not getting you what you want you need to
focus on something else... 1. What to change 2. To what to change to 3. How to cause the change This is what I call "Sticking Point Analysis" and I credit it with my last 18 lays. I learned early on I needed to have more than a Game Plan, I needed a method for IMPROVING the Game Plan if I was ever to get to where I wanted to go. Once you understand the basic courtship process and start running your Game Plan in the field you will start to notice where your sarges are failing. You'll notice patterns. They are failing in the same places quite often. Step 1. Identify Your Sticking Points Sticking points limit the entire system's output. (The system being your Game Plan and the output being lays.) Therefore we have to stop focusing on getting laid and instead focus on fixing the sticking points. Step 2. Decide How to Fix the Sticking Point (SP) Now that you have identified the SP the next step is to find possible solution(s) for fixing that sticking point. Pick one way to fix it and commit to 10 tries with that solution. Step 3: Subordinate your Game Plan to the above decision. Redesign your Game Plan to implement the fix for that SP. Step 4: Elevate the Sticking Point. With your redesigned Game Plan you will go out and start hunting for opportunities to break the SP. You will subordinate everything to working on your SP. That means you will EVEN give up a lay opportunity for a chance to work on Sticking Points (unless you haven't yet had 2-3 lays from the Game - in which point I say take the lays as it will give you a better Global view and a nice boost of confidence.) There will come a time when you break that SP. Step 5: This is a continuous process. Go back to step 1.
My suggestion is to work on 3 SPs at a time. Experience has shown me that every set will not present you an opportunity to work on an SP. However, if you have 3 then you have a good shot at getting a few repetitions per night. -------------------Sexual Framing -------------------One thing I've noticed with Indirect Approaches is that guys never get around to setting a sexual frame (either because they are too scared or don't know how). On debriefing I've learned that women are annoyed by men who talk their ears off yet don't know how to flirt OR let the girl know where things are headed. Men are supposed to lead and women despise murky intentions. I had a sticking point where I would talk and talk with a girl but it would go nowhere because there was no sexual tension. Or, it would end up more like traditional dating vibe instead of a sexual adventure vibe. Even if you WANT a traditional relationship you'll STILL start off with the sexual adventure vibe and change it to an FB, mLTR or LTR later. It's EASIER to start it off with a sexual vibe and create a relationship later..and YOU'LL have the power in the relationship because she knows you have the skills to go and find a new girl as easily as you did her. I had to learn how to create a sexual vibe because it didn't come natural to me. So, how do you create a sexual frame? I have to primary tools I use for that: 1) Strawberry Fields 2) Rings on Fingers Routine If you download my archives from Captain Jack’s Grande Adventures you can search for "Strawberry Fields" and "Rings" and you'll see exactly how I've used them in sarges.
Here's my version of Strawberry Fields: CJ: "Ok, I'm not sure about you, I'm going to give you the Strawberry Fields test." CJ: "You're walking down the street and you come across a strawberry field, how high is the fence?" If they struggle a little, just say "show me with your hands." HB: ** says some height ** CJ: "Ok, good. that's interesting." CJ: "You get inside, how many strawberries do you eat?" HB: *** says some number *** CJ: "oh...my...god **shaking head** I could NEVER take you home to momma." The HB usually smiles and says, "what? what? why?" Ignore that and say, "Ok, what about the farmer?" She'll usually say, "What ABOUT the farmer?" Or, "there's a farmer?" Then, you tell them what it means. I give the SAME interpretation everytime. CJ: "The fence has to do with your goals and aspirations in life. You said 'this high', that's good because it is high enough to give you some challenge but not so high you can't accomplish your goals." CJ: "The strawberries...wow! You said *** x number *** oh my god! Most people say 2! She's usually begging to know what it means by this time. CJ: "Strawberries have to do with your sex drive." CJ: "And, the farmer has to do with society's rules and regulations regarding sex and sexual relationships...and you said, "what about the farmer?" haa I like doing it this way because it is not YOU saying it. These are the results of a psychological test (haa) and you're just giving her an interpretation. You're not saying she's a sexual being who has an abnormally high sex drive and doesn't care about society's
rules. But, now you've framed her into it and it's out into the open. You'll want to stack forward right after this because you don't want an awkward silence. When do you use this? I use it as early as possible but I don't like to let her friends hear it because it has the potential to spike her anti-slut defense in front of her friends. I work this into EVERY set I do. It's also great for callback humor. If I get her number I'll often text her after the venue closes or the next day (if I don't pull) something like this: "5 strawberries!" --------------------------------------------------Efficiency Theory and Venue Domination ---------------------------------------------------Efficiency Theory in pick-up is something I've just started formalizing. I've used it for awhile and another PUA called my attention to it. He mentioned that I don't seem to waste a word or action and my sarges go extremely fast. I'm applying ET to every set I run now. It's my belief that every set should yield a new friend, pawn or lay. How to Create Multiple Lead Sources of Women Entering Your Life So You Are Never Without a Female Pawn... If I wing for another PUA and the obstacle is not my type then I'll still number close and add her to my list of female friends. Also, if I get a number but I'm not able to turn her into a lay then I LJBF her and turn her into a pawn in the social circle. After gaming for awhile you'll start getting numbers consistently. Every night you go out you should send a mass text to all the girls in your phone and tell them where you're going to be. CJ: "The cool kids are hanging at x-place tonight, we'll be there at 10." Doing this stuff 1-on-1 is too much work. Invite lots of girls and have them compete for you. Also, your cold approaches will go MUCH better if you are with a few girls.
This is my methodology for "reviving" lost interest from a girl I previously number closed months ago. This took me about 6 months to discover but it was worth it. By inviting her out and letting her see OTHER girls interested in me and me having a great time she became interested again. If you pick 3 or 4 core PU places you'll start to dominate the venue. The waitstaff, the bartenders and the bouncers will notice you. You'll want to learn their names and chat with them. Get on a first name basis with them. Intro girls to the bouncers and bartenders and they'll think you're a god. -----------------------------------Adding Dating and MySpace -----------------------------------I never WANTED to get a MySpace page but damnit about a year ago nearly EVERY girl I number closed asked me if I had a myspace page. I decided I had to get one but waited until I could at least get some photos of me with hot girls. I've started using MySpace to announce where I'm going to be in the same way I use the text message announcement. Mine is nothing special, average really, but the pics show me with girls, I have a pretty good mix of hot and average girls (if they're ALL hot then it looks fishy) and I write funny blogs, blog about my passions. Here's the link: MySpace.com - www.myspace.com/8054480 I've had sex with about 10 of the girls who are my friends and I'm actively sarging a few others. The last few weekends I've had 4-5 girls show up at my local hangout and come find me. I also started experimenting with online dating for the main purpose of adding pawns. I use Dave M.'s system to build a profile and then I use his follow-up emails to get their numbers and myspace.
Now, they're in the loop. So, you now have multiple lead sources for adding women into your life: * cold pick up * myspace * online dating * winging * befriending girlfriends of the 4 sources above Remember, social proof and pre-selection are POWERFUL and they make your results sky rocket. Being surrounded by females is one of the best things you can do to improve your work/reward ratio. Make a goal to add 5-10 girls to your social circle in the next few weeks. They don't even have to be hot, average will do. So here's your "assignment:" 1. Start texting every girl in your phone where you'll be and when every night you go out. 2. Make it a point to include "Strawberry Fields" or "Rings on Fingers (found in my archive at Captain Jack’s Grande Adventures )" 3. Consider using MySpace and online dating to add to your collection of female friends/pawns. 4. Write detailed field reports and use Sticking Point Analysis to methodically improve your Game Plan. And, remember, you can send me FR's for critiquing or questions at anytime. ~ Captain Jack ~ P.S. Next week I'll discuss more about how to make a woman think of you constantly, how I work with 2 sets (even laying BOTH girls) plus a LOT more about Comfort game.
The Strange Mystery of the Two Set ---------------------------------------------
I used to despise two-sets. It's nearly impossible to isolate unless you Merge sets first. If both girls are hot you often have to deal with two Protection Shields. If one is ugly, I'd often offend the ugly one or she'd get mad when she discovered I pretended to like her only to talk to her friend. Now, however, I LOVE two-sets. Mainly because I can befriend them and use them as pawns the entire night. I've also found some unique ways of handling them. I've had sex with BOTH girls from a two-set on many occasions through cold pick-up. (With Social Circle game this is much easier and even PROBABLE when you get good, but for cold PU it takes some work.) So, the first thing I want you to consider is to view two sets as a Base and/or pawns for Social Proof. This changes HOW you approach them. You can still open them in the standard way but instead of negging/disqualifying them you will tell them they're cool and in the "A" crowd. You'll also want to WATCH for other girls looking at you while you chat with them and mentally tag them as they are candidates for an approach a little later. Your goal with the 2set is to go in make them like you and leave on a good note. Five minutes max. ---------------------------If they're BOTH hot ---------------------------During this time if one of them starts asking you comfort questions then she likes you. Her friend will know this and may do one of two things: 1) She'll drop out of the convo giving you "mini-isolation." Feel free to game her but realize eventually the obstacle is going to want her friend's attention back. You've got about 3 minutes to tease. THEN, you're going to qualify but do it through her friend. PUA to friend: "I like your friend...she's obviously hot, but what else does she have going for her besides her looks?" Asking her friend makes a HUGE difference because it takes away the
Target's power to respond thus creating RESPONSE POTENTIAL inside her. If you think of a time when you've been able or wanted to answer but couldn't you've felt that feeling but she's probably feeling it even more because she likes you. The other thing is it gets her friend back involved in the conversation. I then try to take something the friend says and run the Marriage Game. Before you leave try to get BOTH of their MySpace, this will give you an opportunity to game the other one later. --------------------If one is not hot --------------------It is important to pay roughly equal attention when one of them is not hot. Remember, the life of a not hot girl can be rough. She gets almost no attention or negative attention. Being nice can go a long way. I've found many not hot girls to be bitter people. But, genuine niceness and telling them they're cool can go a long way. I'm now able to tread the "ice" and game the hot girl but it took LOTS of practice. For now, you'll probably do best to use them for Social Proof. If you can move them once it will go a long way to building your value in the venue. Also, I like to re-engage them once or twice through the night in between other sets. If you WANT to take a shot at gaming the hot girl in this type of set here's what to do... Treat them both equally but when the hot one says something about one of her interests look surprised at her, then look at the not hot one and say, "Your friend is really cool." The impression you want to give is you and the hotter girl just so happen to have a lot in common and are really hitting it off. It has NOTHING to do with her looks at all. Be sure to keep the not hot in the conversation as much as possible. If you think your game is tight enough get both of them to sit and bring other guys to the table to occupy the not hot one. But, only do this if you have tight enough game to fend off advances to the hot one because they WILL take a shot.
Again, you'll want to MySpace close both of them. To see one example of a TwoSet where I eventually closed both of them look in my 2006 Archive ( at Captain Jack’s Grande Adventures ) at LR: CaptainJack Gives HBTeacher a Lesson in Takeaways April 2006 and LR: The 100% Perfect TwoSet October 2006 The BEST thing you could possibly do is Parade both of them through the venue at least once. (I like to do Promenade-style arm in arm with both.) -----------------Anti-Winging -----------------For the most part I am anti-winging. I DON'T think you should have a Wing until you are closing consistently. And, you shouldn't allow anyone to be your wing who isn't closing consistently (consistently means about 1 new lay per month.) The reason is because a Wing changes the whole dynamic. You'll soon be dealing with HIS sticking points screwing up your sets (or vice versa) instead of ironing out and smoothing your own. It's cool to go out with a wing, but don't let him into your sets. If you do BETTER with a wing then that means he is carrying you and you're just handicapping yourself by not dealing with your SP's yourself. --------------------------------------------------------More On Venue Domination - The After Party ---------------------------------------------------------Whether you do Night Game or not you'll want to master the art of becoming the Social Hub. For Night Game I like to talk about After Parties. Otherwise you can just do regular "get togethers," sometimes called Pre-Parties. If you invite people over to your place and show them a good time you'll quickly get a rep and girls will call or text you to see if you're doing it. I call it "Club Jason" where I'm the bouncer, the DJ and the bartender. I think I got the "Club Jason" from Jeff from RSD where he referred to Club Jeffy (or someone in that crew) I've had girls I've previously sarged call me up on nights when I
haven't even gone out to see if anything is going on at my place. You'll want to have plenty of alcohol, including girl's drinks. I currently have beer, Smirnoff Ice, red wine and margarita mix. Some guys even go so far as to make up a special drink and make it and serve it. If you're pulling late at night at closing time and you have more girls than guys coming you can go up to a few of the bouncers and waitresses and tell them there is an afterparty at your place and to give you a call if they want to drop by. Sometimes if I'm in a set and it feels weak I'll befriend and ask them if they like parties. I'll then tell them that I am planning a party in the next few weeks and tell them, "You guys are cool, you're coming." and I'll number close everyone in the set. ------------------------------------------An InnerGame Technique to Try ------------------------------------------I want you to pay CLOSE attention to your internal state just when you are about to approach a VERY HOT HB... Do you get excited? Scared shitless? Fearful? Pay close attention to where the feeling starts...where does it go after that? In order for an experience to exist in us, it exists in ALL sensory systems. You can't just SEE THE PICTURE or HEAR THOSE VOICES or FEEL THE FEELINGS...in order for ONE of them to exist, they all have to be there. Now, you might be more aware of one in particular. When you think of approaching a SUPER HOT girl I want you to take a few seconds, close your eyes and do the following: 1) Notice where the picture is located out in front of you. Is it arms length? Closer? Further? 2) How big is the picture? 4 feet by 4 feet? 3) A movie or a still frame (like a photo)? Black and white or color? 4) What do you hear? Is it your own voice? What is it saying? Where does the voice come from? 5) Where does the "bad feeling" start? Where does it go? where does
it finish inside your body? Because, we're going to DESTROY it all and put something better in its place! Now that you've seen the picture, you heard the sounds and you have a handle on the feelings, I want you to run everything backwards inside your head. You remember those old tape recorders that if you pushed Play and Rewind at the same time you could hear the sounds running backwards? Also, you know what it's like to rewind a VCR or DVD backwards while the picture is still there. Everything is moving backwards. The same thing with feelings. Start at the end and run the feeling backwards until you get to the starting point. Once you get to the beginning...say this inside your head, "oooooooooooooooo, aaaaaaaaah" - and produce those from inside your belly... then, I want you to feel something warm and relaxing (like maybe warm oil) flow from the top of your head, over your face and down your entire body all the way to your toes...and say inside your head as you look at the HB, "Mmmmmmmm, we are going to have Fuuuuuuuuun!" Feel yourself being magnetically drawn towards her as you start to smile and then laugh deep inside. Imagine a tingling spread all over your body... Now, run the entire sequence through to the end. And, I mean the end being YOU AND HER HAVING SEX. You walking over to her, befriending the group, charming her, she's looking at you with those sweeeeeet puppy dog eyes, you and her laughing together, you getting her home, having sex with her. Feel yourself walking through it, talking through it, listen to yourself and keep the feeling of power. We are TRAINING the mind, providing it a GROOVE and a direction to follow. In order for you to accomplish ANYTHING you have to
Imagine it first. The MIND must have a track to run on in order to manifest the behavior you desire. This whole thing should take about 1-2 minutes the first time. After that, you should be able to do it in about a minute. Do it 5-10 times per day every day. Don't slack off. The women out there want you, they neeeeeeed you. Are you going to let them down? Do it as you drift off to sleep. Imagine it as many times as you can before going into Dreamland. When you wake up I want you to Imagine all of the Beautiful Women in your city (and the world) that went to bed WISHING they had a man making sweet love to them and FEEL SORRY for them. Will you help them? And, do the exercise a few times before starting your day. -- Captain Jack P.S. Do it for 3 days and then email me to let me know all the ways it has CHANGED your outlook, how you move through the world and how the HBs look at you...I'm sure you'll be pleasantly surprised. I know I AM! P. P. S. Try to befriend and Pawn 3-4 TwoSets the next few times you go out Gaming and let me know what happens. The REAL value of this eCoaching program is writing to me so I can give you DETAILED feedback. P. S. #3 You can write me about any other current situations you have as well. Don't be bashful.
This is the fifth Captain Jack/Mystery Method eClass Lesson. The lesson focuses on qualification and comfort building Hey The real Game doesn't begin until she jumps through your Qualification Hoop. Everything leading up to that is simply to build her Interest (non-sexual attraction) enough to qualify herself to you. PUA: "What do you want to be when you grow up, and don't say 'Princess." Or, PUA: "Well, it's no secret you're attractive, what do you do besides stand around looking hot?" Or, PUA: "What are your three best qualities?" If she answers then you have built a great deal of value. Qualification is a waypoint in the interaction. It changes the dynamic, the very fabric, of the interaction. It's now two people genuinely interested in each other for MORE than physical reasons. But, what now? Now is where the real fun begins. It all starts with your passions, interests and Lifestyle. Here's something weird we found out. The best thing you can do for your pick-up is get so busy you have no time for pick-up. Remember that list of things you've always WANTED to do but never have? Maybe something like this: * Parasail in Cancun * Learn German * Finally, get lean enough to see my abs * Learn "Stairway to Heaven" on the harmonica
* Cooking classes Decide you are going to do them and put a deadline on them. This is comfort material (vibing and fluff talk). But, the REAL comfort material comes from discussing your Ambitions and Ideal Lifestyle. Females are NOT goal-driven and even when it appears she is it is from a feminine energy viewpoint. She'll be more concerned with the process and the relationships and how they make her feel. So, goal-driven, ambitious men are EXTREMELY attractive to them. When I say ambitious you probably think business or money. But, you can be ambitious and passionate about anything. Whether it's saving the whales or owning a skyscraper in Manhattan, ambition and drive to women are like 34DD's to men. The great thing about Ambition and Drive is you don't have to be there yet. Saying "Having you ever seen the Dallas skyline at night from the 24th floor of a condo?" and then going into how you are building your company because you went to a cocktail party and saw the view and fell in love with it and NOW have a plan to make it happen will make her feel like you feel when a hot girl is rubbing her 34DD's on you. Or, "My god, I love the beach. I dream of getting a little beach house, sitting outside by a nice bonfire just relaxing and hearing the Ocean...I've got a plan in place to make that happen." She may hate the beach but she'll feel your power. But, don't just SAY it, MEAN it. I'd be willing to bet you've been shortchanging yourself. No one is going to give you anything. You have to man up and go TAKE it. You need 2-3 of these future ambitions that you can throw out there during Comfort. Now what you need is a way to demonstrate your Masculine traits through your primary passion or your career. My career is in Advertising which lends itself to this easily. If your job is not as 'sexy' don't worry. It's the WAY you frame it at this point that will make all the difference in the world. Or, you can switch to your primary passion and create a stack based on that. The main point is it's MORE than a job, that there is a higher
driving purpose behind your actions. You are a MAN with a MISSION. HB: "What do you do?" CJ: "I own an advertising agency but I started off in Psychology. Which reminds me, have you ever heard of the Strawberry Fields test?" After I do the Strawberry fields test I'll go back into Advertising. CJ: "I do advertising because it's so fascinating. I'm fascinated by how people think, how they make decisions and how the mind works." She'll usually agree and go into some thread about it. At this point you can do a Conspiracy Thread and say, "Yeah, I like people watching. Look at that guy over there. Notice how he's leaning in on the girl, all grabby, weirding her out." You and her can usually go back and forth on this for another 5 minutes or so. CJ: "I do a lot of writing and the other day I went into Barnes and Noble and there was a Cosmo on the table. Do you read that? On the front it said "97 ways to please your man!" and I started thinking, 'Wait, my past girlfriends knew 25 at the most! I've been getting robbed. But, there was a really interesting article in there about how these couples had met and it said, well, hmmm... let me put it this way, "What's the first sensation you feel inside your body when you realize you're really attracted to this guy?" And, you wait for her to give you a response. Right before she's about to give you a response simply touch her on her shoulder and smile. For those of you with an NLP background you may recognize this as Richard Bandler's Signal Recognition Technique (SRT for short). Next, I want to move into my heart melters to deepen the connection and make her emotional. If it's getting to intense I'll back up a little bit and use this one: CJ: "The other day I was visiting my mom and my grandmother was sitting next to me and she kept on looking down and staring at my jeans. After awhile my mom got up and left to do something in the kitchen. I was wearing these jeans, and you know how jeans now have holes and stuff in them...my grandmother leaned over and stuck her
finger in the hole of my jeans and said, "Honey, let grandma buy you some new jeans." Then, I have two others I consistently use: --------------------------$18 For the Light Bill --------------------------When I was a kid, after my parent's were divorced, I overheard my mom talking on the phone to one of her friends. She was worried about how she was going to pay the light bill. So the next day after school I got my red wagon from the backyard and dumped a bunch of toys in it. I started at one end of the street and sold the toys to the neighborhood kids. I gave my mom $18 and told her it was for the light bill. She started crying. That showed me that by taking action I could change my life's circumstances. I think that experience has a lot to do with why I chose advertising. ** HB's have teared up at this ** ------------------------------------------First Child Brings Surge of Energy ------------------------------------------People always told me stuff like "Having a kid will change your life." I believed them but man I didn't REALLY understand until I held my first daughter in my arms. She was so tiny and helpless. I was amazed. "I have to protect this beautiful little human. She's really depending on me." I was scared for a second but then I felt this amazing surge of ambition. I wanted to work harder and become more successful so she could have everything she needed. Guys who don't have kids just can't understand that. It's proven that men who have kids are more successful. Something about having kids depending on you really makes you stronger and hungrier for success than ever...so when I look at these guys, yeah, they might be kind of cool but to me, they're still little boys because they haven't faced the pressure of having someone else depend on them. -----------------------------------------Building Your Own Identity Stack ------------------------------------------
Notice the above 3 routines make the person feel like they know me. They know, feel and understand my deeper desires. Now, consider all of the ROLES she sees me in: Father, Son, Business Owner, Little Kid, Grandson. She's seen me during huge moments in my life. She understands what drives me, what has shaped me. Got it? Here's your mission and it's a huge one. This took me a LONG time to put together and perfect. I didn't have anyone to help me. Put a lot of thought into this...remember the first 20 minutes is the "Interest" phase...what you're really working towards is Comfort which is 2-3 hours long. I know you're bound to have a million questions on this so decide what direction you're going to take (current job vs. primary passion) and put together 2 or 3 tight statements regarding it. Then, developing a few more that show how past experiences made you who you are and drive you. You need about 6 or 7 of these one paragraphers to keep things moving along. It's a tall order but THIS work will get you extremely far with really hooking a quality HB and keeping her around as long as you want. ~ Captain Jack ~
This is the last, the 6th course, enjoy.... Hey, For this lesson, I want you to think about the weakest point in your Game and email it to me. Also, tell me WHY you think it's your weakest point. Then, I'll work with you to develop a plan to break through the weakness. Also, send me your questions about anything we've covered so far so I can make sure to clear things up for you.
Finally, I'm including an article I wrote for the "How to Get More" newsletter. It applies to pick-up in a lot of ways because the state of being I describe is powerfully attractive to females. ************** Be More Selfish ************** "By the power of imagination, all men, certainly imaginative men, are forever casting forth enchantments, and all men, especially unimaginative men, are continually passing under their power...If I can unintentionally cast an enchantment over persons, there is no reason to doubt that I am able to cast intentionally a far stronger enchantment." - Neville Goddard It all starts with a picture, a feeling, an idea of your Ideal Lifestyle. It's different for everyone and is mostly likely connected with your Purpose. It might be to rise to the ranks of CEO in a certain industry. Or, to be lazy on the beach writing songs and strumming your guitar by the bonfire. But, whatever your Ideal Lifestyle you won't ever get it until you envision it and cut away all the bullshit. Fiercely. Unapologetically. Here's the rub. If you don't have a clear idea of what you want, you'll find everybody else more than glad to decide for you. In fact, for 99% of men that's exactly what happens. They live life with their parent's voices in their heads. They imagine appeasing their woman to avoid her nagging (or outright wrath.) They live how society conditioned them, through the media, through the school system and through government dictates. They wake up at some point, look around and ask, "What about me?" or "Is this all there i s?" It's been called the "Mid-life Crises" and for the most part made fun of. It shows an Accountant getting a Harley and a tattoo. Or, the sensible father of four running out and getting a two-seater Corvette. It's been portrayed in other ways, too. Remember Joel Schumacher's movie Falling Down with Michael Douglas? You can find this masculine outcry in the humor of Maddox book "The Alphabet of Manliness" and in the crazy adventure of Tucker Max. And, finally, awesomely portrayed in Chuck Pahlaniuk's Book, Fight Club. These are all examples of the Masculine force poking through Pop Culture's crazy barrier to make a point. Here's the point: Any time you distort or try to mass control something as basic as Masculinity things
are going to get screwy. Be More Selfish We are by nature purpose-driven. We are at our best when we focus on something big. We are here to conquer. Not each other, but ourselves. The Masculine force seeks to conquer the World as a reflection of himself. This is the Warrior role. Find a purpose, Conquer. Then, you are a King. But, it doesn't end. It's a cycle. Warrior-King over and over again. If you haven't committed to yourself to do something big with Life, to really go out and create a Life and a Lifestyle worthy of your highest aspirations then the World (the reflection of yourself) will kick your ass. You'll become a fat, pale, wimpy reflection of the man you could be. Women will scorn you. People will call you "nice" and then take advantage of you in subtle ways. The whole point of this newsletter and of "The Warrior-King Society" is to reconnect you with your inner power so you can dominate again, like you were meant to... So, let's begin How to Get More... Money. Women. Life. Adventure. Free Yourself From Other's Secret Motivations So, if I had a superpower and could grant you the lifestyle you wanted, what would that look like? Now, let me ask you: Is that what you really want? I've noticed what people really want is modified by a few boundaries that are, for the most part, imaginary or imposed by others. You must separate what you want from what you think you should want. Do I want this because my parents told me I should want it? Because society wants it? Because you think it will get you more favor with the opposite sex? Many men secretly make decisions only after having conversations with replicas of their parents, friends and a "desireable female" template inside their minds. You may have not noticed it yet, but if you pay attention to the conversation which goes on in your head before you make a decision you'll find yourself passing through a series of these templates you've constructed. This is not bad if you realize it and take it for what it is...just a little more input for the decision. The mistake comes when you mistakenly think it is your desire or input. How would you have lived differently if you had never tried to please your father? If you never tried to
show your father that you were worthy? If you never felt burdened by your father's critical eye? (The Way of the Superior Man, by Deida p. 19) Do it totally because you want to, because you've considered the options and still want it... (Be More Selfish) Next, is it bounded by what you think is possible? If you really want to build the coolest skyscrapers in Manhattan but are settling for building townhomes in Podunk, Arkansas because you feel like you can't measure up, then free yourself. You're compromising your own masculine power and everyone around you can feel it when they're in your presence. "How do you propose to force your ideas on them?" "I don't propose to force or be forced. Those who want me will come to me." Then the Dean understood what had puzzled him in Roark's manner. "You know," he said, "you would sound much more convincing if you spoke as if you cared whether I agreed with you or not." "That's true," said Roark. "I don't care whether you agree with me or not." He said it so simply that it did not sound offensive, it sounded like the statement of a fact which he noticed, puzzled, for the first time. "You don't care what others think - which might be understandable. But you don't care even to make them think as you do?" "No." "But that's...that's monstrous." "Is it? Probably. I couldn't say." (Excerpted from "The Fountainhead" by Ayn Rand, p.26) You might fail. You might get to Manhattan to build the coolest skyscrapers ever seen and find yourself barely living in terms of income, but you'll be full of Life. This will attract others to you. Before you know it opportunity will find you. When this core of purpose and masculine power is focused others will "fall under the spell of your power." Roark says, "I don't propose to force or be forced. Those who want me will come to me." But, even worse than others sensing your lack of power, you'll feel it to...you'll know you're not living up to your fullest potential. You'll know you're not a Warrior and can therefore, never be a King. This will sap your energy. It will be difficult to attract and keep a woman. Business deals will fall through. Projects will not get started or will never be finished. Your life will slip away one day at a time until you're on your death bed, full of regrets. Decide now to accept nothing less than your fullest potential and go for your Ideal Lifestyle. Here's my Ideal Lifestyle (in shortened, less specific form): My time is my own. I don't have a set schedule. I can work from anywhere: this week it may be a nice cottage on the beach, next week a Hotel Suite overlooking Central Park. I have at least one beautiful woman in my life who thinks I'm the greatest Man to ever walk the earth. I earn the majority of my
