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Some of the techniques within this book are sexually and emotionally powerful. Although these techniques and activities can have dramatically positive effects on your (and your spouse’s) physical and emotional well-being, people that have high blood pressure, heart disease or a generally weak condition should proceed slowly. If necessary, consult a physician before implementing any included techniques. Nothing within this publication should be considered medical advice. How To Put Your Wife In The Mood™ is a publication of SPI Publications. Additional copies of this publication can be obtained at: www.christiansexhelp.com
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Additional Christian Marriage And Sex Resources You can also find the following resources for improving your Christian marriage and sex life on www.ChristianSexHelp.com:
Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband was written specifically for Christian husbands. It includes all of the latest scientific research regarding male sexual response, pleasure, and orgasms. Unlock the Vault Of A Lifetime of the Most Intense, Satisfying And Frequent Sex You’ve Ever Had...Sex That Leaves You Both Exhausted And Refreshed With Pleasure... And Bonds You Together Like "Relationship Super Glue"... Have Sex As God Intended For You And Your Wife...With Intensely Pleasurable Sexual Sensations And "Soul Bonding," Experiences That Can Only Be Found Within The Christian Marriage Bed.
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Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife is the perfect complementary book to Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband. It was written specifically to help Christian women to become more sexually responsive and fulfilled...no matter their past experiences. It includes all of the latest scientific research regarding female sexual response, pleasure, and orgasms. Learn how to unleash any woman's sexual response and satisfaction! Learn the secrets that have helped thousands of Christian women to go from non-orgasmic to multi-orgasmic! Susan Irwin has put together a step-bystep roadmap that will lead any woman to a more pleasurable and fulfilling sexual life.
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Premature No More is the result of Robert's personal struggle with PE, early in his marriage and his subsequent overcoming of this issue. He has addressed the issue of PE in his other books…but never in this detail. There was so much ground to cover that he felt that it was necessary to create a resource specifically dedicated to overcoming PE. It contains the same step-by-step solution that he utilized to overcome his own problem with PE and is the same approach that he recommends to the men he personally coaches. The real message of this book is that there IS hope. If you are willing to learn and follow a few simple techniques, you CAN overcome premature ejaculation and its negative effects in your marriage and sex life.
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When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood will give you support, comfort and, more importantly, solutions to help you help your husband to overcome his lack of sexual desire. If your husband struggles with a lack of sexual interest, this book is the answer. Co-written by Susan Irwin, this book provides all of the secrets to re-igniting any man's libido. Low male sexual desire is one of the biggest, yet least talked about, problems that many Christian marriages face. It causes untold frustration, pain and resentment within marriages. Fortunately, this is a problem that can be relatively quickly and easily overcome...if you utilize the right strategies and techniques...in the right way! This book has helped hundreds of couples to transform their married sex lives.
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With Tastefully Illustrated Sexual Positions For Christian Couples, you won't have to settle for even one more boring night in your sex life. You'll learn the advanced sexual positions, tips, tricks and techniques that are the surest way of bringing fun, excitement and endless variety to your married sex life. Without a doubt, the biggest cause of marital and sexual frustration is...boredom! If you don't start making your sex life an adventurous journey, filled with new and exciting things to explore and do, neither of you are going to be all that excited about sex anymore. That is exactly why we have created a "first of its kind" new book, "Tastefully Illustrated Sexual Positions For Christian Couples." In just minutes from now, you can have the most comprehensive resource of fun, sexy and creative positions for Christian couples ever!
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Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples will help you to take the sexual part of your Christian marriage to the next level! In just minutes from now, you can have the most comprehensive resource of fun, sexy and creative sex ideas for Christian couples ever...right at your fingertips. This book includes... Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples!
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Over 50 Ideas For "home made" sexual accessories. Over 30 Ideas For Exciting Sexual Environments. Over 200 Sex Games And Activities Over 100 Creative Lovemaking Techniques
300 Sex Questions For Christian Couples will be the "spark" that ignites the sexual passion in your marriage again! Before you can communicate, sexually, you need to learn how to communicate...verbally. The questions in this book are specifically designed to allow you and your spouse to learn everything possible about each other's sexual needs, desires, likes and dislikes. With 300 Sex Questions For Christian Couples, you will find it infinitely easier to learn your spouse's deepest, innermost thoughts and emotions regarding sex. And, we have proven, for over ten years, that the REAL first step to a better sex life is...better communication!
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The Keys To Better Sex In Christian Marriage Collection is the result of over a decade of our research, counseling and writing. It contains virtually every resource we offer:
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-Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband -Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife -Premature No More -When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood -The Ultimate Guide To The G Spot -Tastefully Illustrated Sexual Positions -Sexual Fun And Games -She Loves God, Me & Sex! -300 Sex Questions -101 Romantic Ideas -Sexy Coupons -Healing Touch Massage -The Art Of Kissing -The Keys To Better Sex Audio Outline
TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction ...........................................................................................................8 Building A Flame Of Passion In Your Marriage................................................... 13 Surprise…Men And Women Are Different .......................................................... 16 Changes You CAN Make.................................................................................... 19 Sexual Communication ....................................................................................... 26 Foreplay Is The Way........................................................................................... 30 When Two Become “One” ..................................................................................38 An Intercourse On Intercourse ............................................................................40 But What About The Butt? ..................................................................................45 Maintaining a Good Erection...............................................................................47 Erectile Dysfunctions .......................................................................................... 49 Romance (What She Wants So You Get What You Want) .................................55 Bonus: 101 Creative Lovemaking Ideas ............................................................. 57
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Introduction This book is for those husbands that are struggling to find a greater level of satisfaction and fulfillment in their married sex lives. Over the past decade, I’ve received thousands of letters from husbands that are dealing with the emotional pain of feeling that their wives are “never” interested in sex. This is ironic considering I’ve received an almost equal number of letters from wives struggling with their husband’s lack of sexual desire. I don’t mention it because I think you’ll find this irony (even slightly) amusing. You won’t. You are too frustrated and upset about your current level of sexual frequency and your wife’s apparent total lack of sexual interest to find just about anything amusing. But, I do think it’s relevant. Why? Because the first thing you have to know is that most wives, given the correct circumstances and a skilled lover as a husband are capable of being very sexually interested and involved and passionate. The first mistake many men make when they tell me their wife is “never” in the mood for sex is that their wife is “different” or “unusual” or has some “unique” physical or spiritual or childhood issues that are the unconquerable obstacle to them ever knowing what it would be like to have a frequent, variety-filled and mutually satisfying married sex life. Don’t get me wrong. There are wives that are truly (and aggressively) non-sexual. I’ve dealt with hundreds of them. And, frankly, you may be married to one. But…Chances are you are not. And, if you’ll trust me on this fact (for now), you’ll significantly increase your odds of (relatively) quickly and easily increasing your married sexual frequency, excitement and fulfillment. If you start with the assumption that much is within your control and that, possibly, your wife’s current disinterest in sex is (at least partially) the result of your past actions (or non actions) then you too, in a very short time, can be experiencing everything you always hoped married sex could be! 8
I’ve been planning on writing this book for years because, almost every day, I get an irate letter from a husband asking why we offer a book for women called “When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood” and we didn’t offer a similar book for men. I hate not being able to help. But, I didn’t actually sit down to put pen to paper though until late last year when I was blessed to be a part of one of the most radical and (almost) immediate transformations I’ve seen in a married sex life in over ten years. I was working with a new personal coaching client, Jeff, a husband who (literally) spent a month complaining about his wife relative to their sex life before he would even attempt to follow any of my advice. He had been married for fifteen years and claimed that sex had been bad or practically non-existent for thirteen of those years. And their marriage got started off on the wrong foot; they married sooner than they planned because she was pregnant and then after they were married she had a miscarriage. Her family was overly protective and strictly religious and neither her mother nor any of her sisters were still having sex with their husbands. His wife was only physically capable of being interested in sex one day per month and she gave no clues when that day was. She was slightly overweight and had body image issues. When they did have sex, she would simply lay motionless and mute. They had four young children, one of them disabled, and it meant that she never had the time or energy to “get around” to sex. Wow. Just re-stating that list brings back the frustrations and negative emotions of that first month of counseling (his and mine). And then, when he was finished giving me all of the reasons he was doomed to a sexless future, he came to the conclusion that he was going to pursue a divorce because it was his only option. I charge money for personal coaching and I don’t usually market it as “you give me money and I’ll convince you divorce is your only option,” so I was a little worried about his investment. But then a miracle happened…
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He decided that before he started the divorce process he would take my advice to “do something (anything)” instead of spending any more of his (paid) time telling me it was useless. And he did… And here is an excerpt from one of his emails just one week into him applying some of the concepts in this book: “As for moving into sex master mode...not a worry... working with you was about sex, as you know, but it was not the whole point, as I have always said. The fact that Amanda and I have already had a remarkable sexual experience was powerful and impactful. But, if that is all it was, I wouldn't be so impressed. Clearly, my approach changed. But, more surprisingly, Amanda changed on a dime. A switch flipped, and she is connectable now. She is present. It's not just in bed, though certainly also in bed. But, for the past couple of days, she is remarkably different throughout the day; she is in the moment much more. Not dissociating. Not seeking to avoid connecting to me. THAT is what makes this good. The sex is the icing on the cake, and the most describable difference.” And after two weeks... “Last night, we replicated the simultaneous orgasm experience. Effortlessly, again. We had been somewhat flirty throughout the day. When we got the kids into bed and went into our room, Amanda got in bed and asked if I wanted to watch a movie. I said, ‘uh, no, maybe later, but I've been waiting all day to get in bed with you.’ We got partially undressed and I just stopped to hug her and was lying very still. She said... ‘what are you waiting for?’ I laughed out loud and said, ‘okay, I guess you're ready?’ She said, ‘I've been waiting all day too!’ Clearly, you can see our situation has changed dramatically. She asked me to do the same thing I did the night before, which was fine by me. And, hello... she asked for something specific. And... it was great and simple to do.
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And, it took her no time to get off, which enabled us to come together, again. WOW…” And after only three weeks… “I eventually encouraged her to get into bed. I'm not sure how it happened exactly, but she was different. I could tell a bit when the movie started. But, once she got into bed, it was clear. The cold hard outer shell that had encased her for years had cracked and it crumbled away. When I hugged her, she responded enthusiastically. When I kissed her, she kissed back. When I touched her, she touched me more. This was not the Amanda I have encountered for so many years. I couldn't really believe it. I must have told her 10 different ways how amazing she was being and how I was so glad to have Amanda back... the one I met 15 years ago. WHERE had she been all this time? She was smiling. She was participating. She was relaxed. I was laughing at the unusualness of it, and the greatness of it. It was powerful. Amanda had given every cue that she was interested. And, she is not near ovulation, so that was rare, as you know. I locked the door and we began. I stimulated her some first, but chose to initiate intercourse with an idea. She actually asked me to do her with my hand. That's not unheard of, but it's rare, normally she just waits for me to do it, and then typically tells me to stop if she's not in the mood, i.e., not ovulating. Anyway, I told her to wait a minute and I would. Before long, while were having sex, I stimulated her manually as well. She was extremely responsive. In the past, when I have tried to manually stimulate her during sex, she has always stopped me. This time, she didn't. This time it was easy. With very little effort, we both reached orgasms.
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I am writing with some graphic detail. I don't mean to be crass. This is nothing you don’t hear all the time, I am sure. And, more importantly, I am telling you a story to make a point that has great significance. For the first time in our history of 15 years, Amanda and I orgasmed simultaneously. It was great. And, quite frankly, there was no challenge to it. I don't know what to say. This is nothing I would have expected two months ago, one week ago, or yesterday…” I was so thrilled and grateful for the changes in this man’s marriage and life that I knew that I had to get off my butt and get this book written. It was time to end the pain and suffering of all of those good husbands and men that are suffering needlessly from an unnaturally low sex marriage. And, I hope and pray that this book will be the first step in your journey to transforming your married sex life. Trust yourself (you are wiser than you think about this sex and relationship stuff). Trust God (he actually prefers that your sex life and marriage is fulfilling). Trust me (a little). The advice in this book has helped hundreds of personal coaching clients to transform their sexual relationships. Start with yourself. It is not only possible, but likely, that you can start the ball rolling by being a better partner and lover and that, in no time, like Jeff, you can be amazed at possibilities you didn’t believe existed. Robert Irwin
BecomeOneFlesh.com
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Building A Flame Of Passion In Your Marriage You’ve probably wondered what better sex in your marriage would be like or how it could be improved. In the beginning of your marriage, sex was outrageous and passionate. In those moments when you weren’t ripping each other’s clothes off, you replayed in your mind the sex of that morning, the sheer force of your orgasm, the words she spoke over lunch or in bed, and the subtle looks your wife passed your way. You daydreamed about your wife’s naked body and the sex that you will have that evening. Your heart pumped faster, your breathing became shallow, and you felt that pleasant warm tingle between your legs. In the beginning, sex took over your body and your mind. But for many, over time…married sex changes. Your sex-intoxicated mind gradually sobers up and returns to work, responsibility, and the other aspects of your marriage and life in general. Keeping the sexual spark alive in a marriage or in a long-term relationship is easier said than done. However, couples who take time to cultivate and maintain healthy and satisfying sexual relations tend to be more connected with each other and do not suffer from depression, heart problems and other health maladies. The daily routines of life — whether careers, children or financial responsibilities — challenge couples to keep alive that flame that initially brought them together. From a practical standpoint, there’s less time for sex and intimacy as relationships develop and individual partners take on more responsibilities. Furthermore, aging brings on a host of physical conditions that can affect life in the bedroom. These include sexual dysfunction, cardiovascular conditions, arthritis and rheumatism, and a host of other problems. Whatever the reasons for brewing trouble in the bedroom, whether emotional or physical in nature, the good news is that many such problems are easily treated. Moreover, troubles in a couple’s sexual relationship are often signs of other problems, and can serve as a warning sign for still bigger troubles ahead. The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that a sex life becomes routine and boredom sets in. But in today’s fast-paced life, filled with dueling responsibilities, a sub-par or absent sex life is a common problem. Sexual fears, taboos, and attitudes, as well as withheld negative feelings and secrets choke off spontaneity, energy, and pleasure in married sex.
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Sharing sexual fears and sex secrets as well as sexual peak experiences and sexual fantasies is a powerful way to deepen the intimacy in your relationship and boost the passion meter in your marriage. Signs of a low sex marriage could include: 1) You only have sex one or two times per month. 2) Sex has become a chore. 3) You only have sex when it has been previously scheduled. 4) You don’t feel intimate after making love. 5) Sexual fantasies about your spouse are non-existent. 6) It seems that you are the only one who wants to have sex because your spouse doesn’t show any interest in sexual intimacy at all. 7) There is no sense of adventure or spontaneity in your love making with your mate and/or neither of you are very frisky in the bedroom any more. Lovemaking is the most magnificent celestial experience. While making love, we forget about our past and feel absolutely no worries of our future; everything freezes in time and we live in the very moment. Sex may not be the bricks in a marriage; but if it isn’t, few would deny that it is the cement which holds the bricks together. Individual and mutual misunderstanding of the really important role which physical relations play in keeping marriage and families together is a principal causing factor in the rising divorce rate throughout the world. In the early stages of a romantic relationship, wives are full of passion and excitement and often experiment with lots of different positions and approaches and explore their likes and dislikes. As they get to know each other better, they tend to settle into a routine. This is a crucial point in a sexual relationship. It is boring to go through the same routine week after week if it doesn’t culminate in good mutual orgasms. Most sex relationships go through patches where everything is not as it should be. The key to solving issues is good communication and knowing when to seek help. It is unlikely that a sex life in trouble will improve greatly if work is not put in on the whole relationship. Of course, there are times when both partners may be steamed up and the sex works wonderfully. But apart from these spontaneous and happy times, couples often complain that they don’t make love as much as they did, or that one or both partners have lost the urge. Increasingly we are seeing couples who have little interest in sex.
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Ninety percent of women reported that they wished their partner kissed them more or with more passion. Sixty-five percent of women felt their partner did not have a good kissing technique. Men may lose interest in sex if their wife is very aggressive in bed or out, nags him to do better sexually, or if she keeps complaining that he doesn’t do his share of the housework, and your wife may feel a lack of interest sexually for similar reasons, including a perception that her man never says he loves her unless he wants sex. In this book you’ll find tips for a fulfilling sex life plus advice on common sex problems.
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Surprise…Men And Women Are Different The primary sexual objective of a human male is to get his penis inside your wife and to discharge his sperm into her. The average male is more interested in sex than the average female and is much more likely to feel very strong urges to have intercourse, take sexual risks regardless of the consequences, be unfaithful, and try paid for sex. The slightest thing can set a man off could be the sight of your wife’s cleavage, a well-shaped bottom, a good pair of legs or even a whiff of perfume. Romance is something that adults seem to crave. Women tend to want to be romanced to get into a sexy mood and men are often deeply romantic regretting the fact that romance is disappearing from a long-term relationship which could seriously affect the dual act. There are many reasons for this unhappy state of affairs include long working hours for one or both partners, daily commuting, stress, feeling that life is completely out of balance, resentment in the relationship and fatigue. Because of the busy world, men often deny simple miraculous measures to get rid of boredom that shallows their sexual relation with their female partners; such as celebrations, flowers, surprising your wife, kindness and understanding, a kiss, carry her photo, back rubbing, romantic weekend at home, fill the bedroom with flowers, watch a romantic film together, or keep special places unique. Women have high expectations for nearly every area of their lives, but when it comes to sex, they settle for less. Most women keep their dissatisfaction with sex a secret, leaving their partners in the dark. Whereas men, if they have trouble with sex, it’s a crisis. They run to the doctor and say ‘I need something for this.’ Women don’t do that. They just sort of stuff it down and push it further down on the list. Sex gets shoved to the bottom of the “to do” list for women and when they do have sex it becomes just another task. Women are not getting their emotional needs met during sex. An orgasm might not be the point. Many women strive for unrealistic physical perfection seen in the media and are unhappy with some aspect of their physical bodies. Women don’t ask for what they want in bed, fearing their partner will be hurt or leave them.
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Some women did complain about difficulty reaching orgasm or lack of sexual desire, but frequently they just felt an overall letdown regarding sex. Not knowing why they feel so deflated after sex, women assume it’s their fault or they just don’t bring up the topic to their partner. Women don’t have a clear awareness of their sexual desires because of social, cultural or religious beliefs that label such female wants as shameful. Outside pressures impact your wife’s view of her body, which can make having sex even less appealing. Understand that her sex drive is less constant than yours; adapt your sex life to suit. Your sex drive fluctuates little from day to day. However, your female partner’s sex drive is likely to be much more variable, up one minute and down the next, in accordance with the variation in her sexual cycle. Her most sexy days are generally before and after her menstrual period. When she doesn’t want sex, ask her to masturbate you or give you oral sex, or at the worst, do it yourself. Being able to accept this gracefully is one mark of an emotionally mature man. Married men and women, on average, have sex with their spouse 58 times a year, a little more than once a week, according to data collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972. Married men and women, on average, have sex with their spouse 58 times a year, a little more than once a week, according to data collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972. But there are wide variations in that number. Married people under 30 have sex about 111 times a year and it’s estimated that about 15 percent of married couples have not had sex with their spouse in the last six months to one year, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University, who has studied sexless marriage. Another factor to consider is that for some women, feelings of guilt and shame learned in early childhood may interfere with adult sexual function and may affect one or more phases of the sexual response cycle. Sex has been claimed to produce health benefits as varied as improved sense of smell, weight loss, stress reduction, increased immunity, and decreased risk of prostate cancer. Frequent sexual intercourse was held to reduce the risk of common cold and other infection.
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Sexual intercourse is the act of penetration of the male penis within the vagina and causing rhythmic movements until both the male and the female achieve their orgasms. It is also known as coitus, making love, having sex or sleeping with your partner. The physical changes are the first to occur. These are the erection of the male organ and the lubrication of the vagina in the female.
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Changes You CAN Make Sexuality in marriage is a great gift and a gift to be enjoyed and nurtured. Whether your low or no sex marriage is due to mismatched sexual libidos, anger, boredom, tiredness, infidelity, childbirth, erectile dysfunction, power issues, medications, depression, or some other issue, marital disaster could be around the corner. Try a little spontaneity. Instead of making love only at night after the kids are in bed, seduce your wife when the urge strikes. Flirt with your partner in public. Showing her that she is desirable will feed the flames and send you two running for the bedroom. Put a sexy note (a description of your favorite fantasy) in your partner’s purse or car. Call your wife at work during a lunch break (or send her an e-mail) and tell her exactly what you want to do to her after work, and do it later. Make love just before you are expecting company. The urgency of the sex and the forbidden secret will keep you hot for a week. Sexual pleasure comes in an amazing range of flavors and everyone has a favorite. But your marriage sex suffers when you insist on always going back for more of the same. Sexual pleasure comes in an amazing range of flavors and everyone has a favorite. But your marriage sex suffers when you insist on always going back for more of the same. Just varying your marriage sex routine in simple ways is enough to excite you and your partner into passionate lovemaking. Actually, simple variations on a familiar theme seem to be the simplest and most effective way to spice your marriage sex life. Kinkiness, ranging from slightly unusual to downright bizarre, is also one way to get your brain and genitals all fired up.
Role playing
Erotic talk
Discussion of fantasy
Striptease
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All of the above will transform any routine marriage sex into a hot, passionate love affair. Make time for sex. Make lovemaking a top priority in your marriage. Preferably, increase the frequency of your sexual encounters. Studies show that lovemaking elevates the levels of brain chemicals associated with desire. So the best way to increase your hunger for sex is to have sex. We all take sex very seriously. Most of us are very performance oriented. It is time to grow up and become like kids again. Laughter, spontaneity, lighthearted playfulness, humor, role-playing and childlike exploration are basic techniques of lovemaking. It is time to play and discover the joy and fulfillment while aligning your body, heart and mind in sex. There are many times in a loving and sexual relationship with your partner that situations develop that might make you feel embarrassed with someone you are not close to. However, with your loving sexual partner, you should be able to feel relaxed and at ease enough so that you can laugh with each other and continue to arouse each other and be aroused sexually. Practically all women are insecure about their bodies. Don’t just say she is beautiful, show her. When you are undressing for bed and she is naked before you, fall on your knees before her. Caress her, smell her, run your hands over all those soft curves. She may think you are being silly but if you are consistent about how much you love her body, she will love you for it. Don’t always leave your lovemaking till bedtime. After a meal and a bit of television viewing the tiredness and strains of the day tend to catch up, leaving you with one desire only to sleep. Try having sex before supper. Go straight to bed with a cup of tea, a glass of wine, a few snacks and a mind to devote yourself to your partner for the next 90 minutes. Decide to see a film right after work. Do enjoy the film and remember that the object of this exercise is to enjoy each other more. So, hold hands and kiss and snuggle up together and have fun. By the end of the movie you should be in a really romantic and sexy mood. 20
Make sure that you do plenty of kissing, and arm stroking between mouthfuls. You’ll want to tear each other’s clothes off right there. On the other hand, people make the mistake of believing that sex should always be spontaneous. Pick one night a week to be a regular sex fixture. Send a text or e-mail to your wife on your special days saying, ‘Please fit me into your crowded schedule tonight!’ It never fails. Being grouchy all day or ignoring your spouse during the day hurts your chances of having a positive lovemaking experience that evening. Remember that sex isn’t going to be perfect each time. Don’t compare your sex life to the ones you see in movies or on television. Recognize that abstinence now and then can be beneficial to your relationship if you start to lust after one another more. Don’t talk about sexual problems in your bedroom or at bedtime. Don’t blindside your spouse. If you want to talk about sexual problems, let your spouse know (without placing blame) that you think the two of you need to have a talk about your sexual intimacy. Set up a time to have the talk. If you don’t want to create more problems in your sex life, don’t purchase any sex advice books without discussing the issue with your spouse first. Talk with one another about your expectations, your fears, your desires, your concerns, and be honest. Don’t be afraid to talk about what you like sexually and what you don’t like. Good lovemaking starts long before you reach the bedroom, so before any date, have a bath. Everyone smells: some women like the smell of male sweat, others don’t, but no one likes the smell of stale sweat. Teeth are as important as the groin and armpits. Don’t forget to brush them after your bath. When kissing your wife, or even sitting close to her, she won’t want to smell your bad breath. Avoid a heavy meal before sex. Be careful with drinking. We all know drinking increases a man’s desire but decreases his ability, but not everyone realizes it also affects a woman’s sexual response. Be careful with drinking. We all know drinking increases a man’s desire but decreases his ability, but not everyone realizes it also affects your wife’s sexual response.
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More than two or three drinks and some women may be loving but physiologically limited. You may have noticed that men seem to regard dirt of any kind with less distaste than women. If you turn up in bed with your armpits smelling of stale sweat, your foreskin harboring that special aroma, and your feet smelling like a slice of cheese, you’re not going to get much further until you’ve taken a quick trip to the bathroom. There’s nothing as unpleasant as a shaving rash. Show her you care by shaving before sex, unless she’s expressed a desire to feel this sign of your manliness. Be a good lover, and romance her from time to time. Women love romance. It makes them feel special, and it makes them feel wanted. Your partner wants to know that you cherish her, respect her and want her to the exclusion of all other women. This is what turns her on and makes her desire rampant sex with you. You can do this in many ways – Leave a card for her to find after you’ve left the house, saying how much you love her and how much you appreciate her lovemaking. Call her from your workplace and tell her you really fancy her and think she’s incredibly attractive. Send her flowers unexpectedly. Set the mood with candles and light music. Don’t worry about getting sounds of the forest or anything like that. But you’ll want generally soothing, calming music or at least something she enjoys. Set up the candles so that the whole room illuminates to an orange glow. Give her a massage before having sex. This may seem as a simple advice, but you can’t underestimate its importance. Massage calms your partner and gets her primed for sex. Start from the top like a regular massage and slowly work down to massaging her inner thighs and other parts close to her vagina. Another good massaging technique is to firmly massage the pelvic area with lube. The pelvic area of your wife is located between her vagina and about two inches below her belly button. This alone can give your wife an orgasm if you get her really hot. Another simple technique you can apply when having sex is the “Pelvic Push”.
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Another simple technique you can apply when having sex is the “Pelvic Push”. When having sex simply apply pressure or firmly rub this area. This puts more pressure on what is going on inside her. This will heighten her pleasure and lead her to orgasm quicker. You may have to settle on your bed in place of a massage table, but it’ll do just fine. Get some massage oil. Simply having this will make it appear like you know what you’re doing. You’ll need this stuff because it not only lets your hands glide freely, it also warms her muscles. The result is complete relaxation. Start with very slow, broad strokes that cover her entire back and legs (she should be naked with just a towel over her butt). But don’t neglect her arms and legs. Some women go crazy when you massage their arms all the way to the hands. As you work up momentum, increase the pressure you apply. You really want to focus on working the entire muscle, using your entire hand. As you end the massage, whisper something in her ear and buckle up! Even if you don’t have sex right then and there, you can be assured shell be in a giving mood the next time you go at it. Cook her dinner. This one gets her excited because it shows you can do something other than shoot hoops. But don’t try some fancy dish you probably can’t pull off. If the food sucks, you’re basically back where you started. Try easy recipes like spaghetti or ravioli. Then, throw in some spices to class it up. Just like a massage, you should set the mood before dinner. If and when she asks to help, tell her to sit down and relax. Then go ahead and give her some bread, wine, or at least beer to nosh before the main course is ready. Maybe let her lick a spoon to test the sauce. Don’t focus completely on the food, you have to keep the conversation going, this shows her you can do two things at once. When the food is up, serve her first and act like you care if she likes it. You’ll know if you did well within the first few bites as women have an amazing ability to eat in a sexy way. If she’s smiling and enjoying the food, you’re in.
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Start to feed her with your fork and rejoice in the fact that you’re much closer to sex than you were an hour ago. Give her a gift. Obvious sex-inducing gifts include handcuffs and KY. But for a classier approach, consider getting her some expensive lingerie. These things are incredibly skimpy, so the gift will tell her you appreciate every part of her body and she has nothing to hide. Take a shower with her. Encourage her to hop in the shower with you before bed. Ideally, this will lead straight to shower sex. One good position is to sit on the side and have her sit in your lap with her back to you. If the shower head reaches, grab that thing and use it on her. She loves it and you look like an expert. Even if you don’t have sex in the shower, you still have a great chance when you get out. Encourage her to leave her towel on as you both watch TV and relax. There’s no need to rush into clothes, the towels provide easy access for both of you. Plus, she appreciates your cleanliness and will be likely to explore parts she may otherwise shy away from. Under no circumstances, should guys force anything on their wives. Don’t assume your partner is comfortable in her own skin. A survey of 3,500 British women, by the bathroom equipment company SHUC, found that one woman in ten feels so embarrassed about her body that she turns the lights out before taking off her clothes. A survey of 3,500 British women, by the bathroom equipment company SHUC, found that one woman in ten feels so embarrassed about her body that she turns the lights out before taking off her clothes. The average woman still spends a lot of time every day beating herself up about her weight and looks. Nakedness increases that vulnerability, so be sensitive to her insecurities and, if you think that your partner looks great, tell her. You should get away for sexy breaks in order to perk up your sex life. You do any essential laundry and housework midweek and reserve one night for shopping for all those light, tempting, luxury, sexy foods you don’t usually allow yourselves.
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Then, set your answering-machine before work saying that you’re away and the scene is now set for your sexy break at home. Creeping into your house on this night, making sure no one spots you, is all part of the fun. So refuse to answer the doorbell during the weekend. There are several advantages to this break-away-at-home as it’s much cheaper than going away, there’s no traveling involved, you can sleep as much as you want, you can catch up on all those recorded videos that you’ve kept meaning to view, and you can have sex in your own bed right through the weekend. Couples who not only work, but who are parents too, have double the problems when it comes to romance. But this is a period in your life when you really need all the close and loving contact you can get. So, it’s important to arrange time to enjoy each other’s bodies as much as possible. Cultivate every relative you can muster, and gratefully accept all offers of babysitting for nights, days and whole weekends. Grandparents are the usual source of doting help, but childless aunts and uncles generally long to play part-time parent, and they’re often so brilliantly inventive at activities, that your kids won’t want to come home. Get together with the parents of all your children’s friends and fix some sleepovers for your 10-year-olds and older. This modern trend, which kids love, can really give your relationship a boost. Of course, you’ll have to take your turn at being the host family and finding space for half a dozen kids and their sleeping bags, but this is a small price to pay for the freedom you’ll get on the other occasions when your kids are the guests. The important thing for parents is to try to recreate the feelings you had as a couple before you had children. Try to keep your romantic levels topped up by having a child-free meal in the evenings wherever possible and try at these meals to dress up for each other and also to discuss topics that don’t include your children. When you create a romantic setting, then you keep your love alive and you create an atmosphere in which sex is not just possible but likely.
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Sexual Communication Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a marital relationship, so talk with one another more. Share with one another your sexual desires. Talk with one another about your expectations concerning lovemaking as false or unmet expectations can hurt your marriage. Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery. True intimacy through communication is what makes sex great. Sex in a long lasting relationship can deepen and become a richer experience. No matter how many times you have made love to each other, the wonder and awe of mutual attraction can still be there. When life becomes busy, and schedules are hectic, plan for sexual encounters with one another. Make sex one of your main priorities. Try to set the mood in advance. If you want to have good sex at night, start the foreplay in the morning. Let your spouse know you care and are thinking about her throughout the day by notes, e-mails, phone calls, hugs, etc. Discussing intimate things can sometimes be embarrassing, but you need to know what each other are thinking, wanting, and feeling. Try to put the embarrassing feeling behind you. The theory that men know everything about making love and pleasing your wife is not true. No two women are alike. There is no way your man can know what his wife feels, what really turns her on, and what she needs to have an orgasm, unless she communicates and lets him know. So, don’t be afraid to ask! There is no way your man can know what his wife feels, what really turns her on, and what she needs to have an orgasm, unless she communicates and lets him know. So, don’t be afraid to ask! It has always been said that the man should be the one to start the love making. Throw that theory out of the window! Some men like when their wife takes control and starts the love making. Let her know that it is okay if she takes control sometimes. 26
You would be surprised how many wives are dying to switch it up and take control more often. This alone might change everything in your love life! Try showing your wife what you would like for her to do. Choose the right time to talk to your spouse, about the need to rejuvenate the ‘spark.’ Ensure that you do not strike up a conversation about the same during the working hours. While talking about the sexual problem with your wife, be sure not to play the blame game. Instead of pointing fingers at each other, work together in order to reach a resolution, about the matter. This way, you will ensure that your partner is aware of what you exactly need. Discuss your concerns and issues pertaining to the subject in a polite way, so that your wife doesn’t feel that she is offended. Being able to look at yourself and at the unit is essential in evaluation of the issue. Don’t sugarcoat the situation. This is not the time to beat around the bush. Be sincere and honest with yourself. Be sincere and honest with your spouse. In order to deal with the problem the cause and severity of the situation must be evaluated. Now if you do not truthfully face the cause, you are wasting time. The solution could be as simple as increased communication. This is your wife which you have chosen to share your life with. Discuss the issues. Discuss your concerns. Be open to assistance. There are some great resources out there to be explored. Even sexually experienced men and women can be shy about asking for what they want in a sexual encounter, whether this means a particular position or activity (like oral sex), or a different approach to lovemaking (like taking it more slowly, for example). But men often make assumptions about what your wife wants based upon what they’ve done with other women. But women aren’t all the same. If you don’t ask for what you want, you’ll end up feeling resentful and disappointed, feelings which are bound to leak out in some way in your relationship.
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Take the time and trouble to understand what your partner really wants from sex. Don’t ever talk about your last wife’s ability in bed in a way that might suggest a comparison. Also, don’t make comparisons about other wives’ willingness to try new positions or new sexual adventures. If that’s what you want with your wife, just ask, simply and directly. Many sexual activities can seem exciting, but they often don’t leave things the way they were before…if you both aren’t prepared to try them. You may find once the excitement has died down, there’s a legacy of resentment, so treat the subject carefully if this is really what you want to do. You need to work out how she feels about the idea before you start launching into the subject. Women are generally more emotional than men. Let your wife know how much you love her and how close you feel to her. Women like to feel emotionally close to their partner when they are intimate. Unresolved conflicts will interfere with your sex life, so take the time to apologize for anything you might have done wrong. Both of you will feel better, and your intimate time together will be more special. Women can enjoy physical closeness without sex. Sometimes she just might want to cuddle and feel close to you. If you are tired after a long day, do not give up and go off to a slumber. Instead, ask her to sit close to you so that you can feel the warmth of her body next to yours. Bask in the ‘warmth’ of her body for the next 15 to 30 minutes. If possible ask for her bare skin. Once you are in such close physical proximity, chances are that she starts stroking your body to show that she is being aroused gently. You may not have to exit your comfort zone to arouse sexual thoughts in your wife. It could just be that you need to try out different ways or different places to have sex. Try it, you might be surprised. Even try different strokes of foreplay to check whether this turns her on. Wives need reassurance all the time. Tell her in as many words, that despite all the differences that exist between the two of you, you still love her and cannot love anyone else as long as you are with her.
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Let her know that you value her presence in your life and want her every night, even after so many years. You would be surprised at what such frank confessions can do to your wife.
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Foreplay Is The Way Sex is the art of lovemaking and should be done with passion. Try to satisfy your partner first and then work on your own satisfaction. Foreplay is the language of love, so make more time for foreplay. Your woman needs to be properly aroused before starting sex; otherwise, it will not be an enjoyable experience for her. Your wife needs to be properly aroused before starting sex; otherwise, it will not be an enjoyable experience for her. Each partner has their own variations to foreplay and may discover some mutual fetishes and then play accordingly. They can fondle each other’s bodies especially breasts and nipples, deep-throat tongue kissing, oral stimulation of the male organ by the female partner, or oral stimulation of female genitals by the male partner. The average woman takes 15 to 20 minutes of stimulation to achieve an orgasm; the average man takes 3 to 5. If you are not bridging this gap, your relationship will be turning for the worse. Women take a lot of foreplay while men do not. Women take longer to get aroused than men, and often find touch to their genitals or breasts without adequate foreplay to be simply irritating. If you dive straight onto her vulva, clitoris, or breasts, because that’s what you’d like her to do with your penis, you’re probably going to find that you aren’t welcome. Women become aware of their desire to be touched sexually by being touched on their non-sexual areas first. So take it slow, put feeling into what you’re doing, and above all treat her clitoris with care. Just like your wife’s clitoris, her nipples are sensitive and need to be treated with respect at first. A lot of women will tell you that nipple play is very exciting; it sends a direct tingle of sexual excitement to their vagina and clitoris. But you have to time it right. Teasing her nipples with your lips and tongue, maybe even your teeth, might excite her, but if you do it too soon, it’s more likely to make her shriek with pain rather than delight. Sit snugly together, hold hands and talk romantically to each other.
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You will start enjoying your sexual encounters more once you make foreplay a mandatory part of it. Foreplay is just like the warm-up that you do before the exercise. It increases sexual stimulation and prepares you for pleasurable sexual activity. Make certain that your partner knows how attractive you find her by paying as much attention to kissing her, complimenting her, and generally spoiling her. Don’t neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones. Just don’t rush into sex and focus attention immediately on the genitalia. Don’t neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones. Just don’t rush into sex and focus attention immediately on the genitalia. Take it slowly. Learn to massage. This can easily shade into great foreplay, especially if your partner is tired or stressed. Learn to concentrate on your partner’s body and what she wants you to do. There are many erogenous parts in the body that can arouse your partner. Avoid concentrating only on your own body. Kissing is considered to be a very important part of the sexual activity. You can consider that sex is incomplete without kissing. Women love to kiss very much and become aroused when they are kissed by their partner. Thus, you should make it a point to remember to kiss your partner more during sex. Don’t drool all over her mouth while kissing. Most women don’t like wet or sloppy kisses (although some women do enjoy them during sex). Don’t keep your lips stiff and rigid. You’ve got to keep your lips soft and sensuous. She needs to be able to feel your lips. Don’t keep your lips closed. Open your lips; women don’t enjoy kissing just a slit on a guys face. Bear in mind the hands should not be used to prevent the woman from going anywhere or to clamp her head into one uncomfortable position. Remember most women like men to toy gently with their hair. Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing, if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips. 31
Caress her lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of her mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner’s lips. Notice how good her lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better. Close your eyes when you feel your lips touching hers. Looking into the other person’s eyes while kissing is not very comfortable for most. Closing your eyes takes the feeling to an altogether different level. Maintain good oral hygiene. Smokers beware. No woman likes kissing a man whose mouth smells like an ashtray. Use mouthwash, mint, etc. to keep your breath fresh. If your wife turns away or pulls back, then wait. She may not be ready. If so, then respect her decision. A kiss should be two pairs of lips meeting each other, not one pair forcing itself on the other. Most women really appreciate a good kisser; it’s such a romantic and intimate act as it can communicate to your wife exactly how you feel about her. Most women think of kissing as one of the most romantic things there is, and they value a man who knows how to do it well. So learn how to kiss sensitively, put some feeling into your lips as you do it, and don’t just resort to sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around. The sensitive spots that make her shiver with delight might be behind her knees, in the crook of her elbows, across her belly or on her earlobes, but if you don’t find them, she’ll assume you’re not really interested in her pleasure and probably mark you down as a second rate lover, selfishly concerned only with getting your penis into her vagina as soon as possible. You need to take the time to find out what turns her on, and where those deliciously sensitive bits of her body are to be found. That’s the kind of thing that will make her see you as a considerate lover, and that will make her want to please you, which means you’ll have a much better time in bed. You need to take the time to find out what turns her on, and where those deliciously sensitive bits of her body are to be found. That’s the kind of thing that will make her see you as a considerate lover, and that will make her want to please you, which means you’ll have a much better time in bed. You probably know that her vaginal lubrication is the equivalent of your erection. But the fact that she’s wet doesn’t mean she’s ready for sex. In research, it’s been shown that even when women are very wet they may still not feel aroused mentally. In short, your wife has to be ready both physically and mentally for sex. It’s wrong to assume that as soon as her vagina is juicy, you can just stick your penis in and she’ll be happy. Far from it, she will show you when she wants you in there, and, 32
no matter how wet she is, you would do well to wait until there’s no doubt she wants to be penetrated. Your wife has to feel ready to accept you into her body, and that may be some time after she’s physically ready for sex. When you understand that, you’re a long way down the road to being a considerate and desirable lover. Make it clear that you desire her. Nothing turns your wife on more than the fact that she is loved and desired by her man. Yet “love” is such a powerful word that it’s wrong to use it unless you actually feel it. The words “I love you” have the power to melt your wife’s heart and open her body to you. So be careful how you use them. If you desire her, and tell her so, you make her feel appreciated and womanly, which will turn her on. You can also say something like, “You are so beautiful.” The art of this kind of communication is not to make her think you want her only for sex, but to convey how much you appreciate her and her feminine sexuality, to tell her how much you appreciate the joy and pleasure that her body and mind can give you. We all know that men like their penises to be stimulated early on during sex, and with a firm pressure. This is so different to the way women like to be touched: women appreciate a gentle touch to the clitoris as it’s a very sensitive organ, and you can’t handle it in the way you want your penis to be touched and expect her to respond by getting aroused. This is so different to the way women like to be touched: women appreciate a gentle touch to the clitoris as it’s a very sensitive organ, and you can’t handle it in the way you want your penis to be touched and expect her to respond by getting aroused. It’s best to work up to touching breasts and vagina by kissing and touching around them first. The clitoris is extremely sensitive, and most women dislike being touched there too early on in lovemaking. As a general guide, it’s only after being kissed, caressed and touched elsewhere, all over her body, belly, back, neck, shoulders, and indeed touched enough to become so aroused that she is producing vaginal lubrication, that your wife is ready for her wife to approach her clitoris. Too much touch is not only irritating for her but can also be quite painful. Once your wife is aroused, touching and licking on and around her clitoris can be extremely exciting for her.
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Gaining more knowledge is the first step to improving your performance in bed. Learning new skills, techniques and information can help you satisfy your wife more than ever before. The clitoris is located at the very top of the vaginal opening, hidden underneath the flaps of skin commonly known as the “vaginal lips.” When it is stimulated it fills with blood and is more noticeable and easier to locate. You need to understand that the “clit” is sensitive, about twice as sensitive as your penis head. Your wife’s clitoris is many times more sensitive than any penis ever was. This is because it has ten times as many sensitive nerve endings in its glands, which is much smaller than a man’s. You may need to be reassuring about how she smells as a lot of women think their vulva is dirty, no matter how much you tell them it’s delightful. Of course, if it is a bit ripe, then why not have a bath or shower before sex, using non-allergenic, pH balanced washing products which won’t irritate her sensitive parts in the same way as soap. Be tactful! Don’t say anything about her body which will hurt her, she’s got enough cultural baggage about female smells, fluids and bodily appearance to last her a lifetime, and if you add to it, you might not be getting good sex anytime soon. Be gentle and have a semi-soft touch. Stimulate the surrounding areas first so it has time to get moist and swell up. The best way to stimulate the clitoris is to use your tongue, fingertips, or penis. When you stimulate it, start out slow and work your way up to a faster harder motion. Some women like it rough while others do not. You will need to figure that out on your own. It is sensitive and too much roughness is only going to feel unpleasant to her. But even though your wife may find it incredibly erotic and powerful when you stimulate her clitoris, she will almost certainly want you to focus on other parts of her body as well from time to time: her nipples and breasts for they are two of the most erotic and erogenous zones on her body; her belly, neck, lips and face; and her buttocks may be aching for your touch and caresses as you make love to her. If you’re using your fingers to play on or around her clitoris, then you’ll certainly need some lubrication, either her natural vaginal juices if she produces enough, or saliva, frequently replenished from your mouth. This will give you the perfect opportunity to kiss or lick her vulva, which can be as delightful for you as for her.
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If you prefer, you can use some artificial lubricant instead. You must use a water-based lube if you are going to wear a condom later on when you penetrate her. When you ask women to name their favorite sexual activity, many of them will say it is oral sex. Women love the wetness, the warmth of your tongue on their labia and clitoris, the intimacy and the symbolic act of love that it entails. So if you’re not making sure she receives adequate cunnilingus or masturbation, she will become unsatisfied and withdraw from the relation and the same is true if you don’t masturbate her from time to time. If you are kissing your partner and leading down to the belly button with no intention of going further, you will only frustrate her. If you aren’t going to go down, then don’t head down there. If you are going to give her oral sex, then planting kisses from her mouth and neck down to her breasts and stomach to her hips and thighs is a good way to get her excited. When you are kissing her thighs very close to (but not on) her genitalia, she will become moist with desire to feel your lips on her vagina. Give her left thigh a couple of soft, passionate kisses, then do the same on her right thigh, but as you go from one to the other, make sure to very gently brush your face against her vulva - but very lightly and quickly, as if it is happening by accident. Do this a couple of times and this is almost guaranteed to get her wet. After teasing her vagina and getting it wet and not giving it any pleasure, slowly start applying a little more pressure on it and you will probably feel her thrusting her vagina into you because it is now aching for satisfaction. Don’t repeat the move more than 5 to 6 times because at a certain point, teasing becomes frustrating and will turn her off. When you feel her desire has built up enough, start giving her very light kisses around and on her vagina and gradually focus in on her clitoris with harder and harder kisses and eventually get some licks in there too. This move feels extremely exciting for the woman when she is still wearing undies as you are kissing and licking her vagina through them because it feels like even more of a tease that way and makes it that much better when you finally take them off. Tease her as you make love. Try this: when you are giving her oral sex, stop and do something else - ask her to give you some oral sex, for instance. This will let her arousal drop a little, so when you start giving her oral sex again, her arousal has to build up once more.
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If you repeat this a few times during your lovemaking, she will have a much more powerful orgasm when she does eventually cum. Have your wife kneel in front of you on her knees and hands. You’ll want this to be a comfortable experience for her, so make sure her knees are padded with carpet or pillows. If she has long hair, you might want to have her put it in a ponytail so it will not get in the way. Tease your wife. Get her really worked up by tracing a feather down her spine or gently massaging her body before you begin the spanking. Try spanking her lightly and work your way up with more force. Spank different parts of her butt to see which places she likes it and which places she doesn’t. Focus on the places that she likes it, but do not spank the same spot for too long or it will turn red and become painful. Use different things for spanking. Most people start off with their hands, but if you visit a sex toy shop, you’ll find many whips and paddles that are made for spanking your wife. Of course, make sure she’s okay with it before using a new object in the bedroom. Also, make sure that you have a safe word set up that you both recognize to mean “stop” when you are spanking her (or doing anything else). The word should be something not related to sex (“baseball” or “rain”) and something that you will not be confused about when hearing and when your wife says the safe word immediately stop the spanking. In sex, women “come” first. Part of being a good lover, of course, is being able to last long enough in bed that your partner is fully satisfied, meaning she has been able to have an orgasm through intercourse before you ejaculate, (provided she is able to have an orgasm that way.) Part of being a good lover, of course, is being able to last long enough in bed that your partner is fully satisfied, meaning she has been able to have an orgasm through intercourse before you ejaculate, (provided she is able to have an orgasm that way.) There are alternatives, if you find that you can’t last long enough in bed for her to cum as part of vaginal intercourse. For example, you can bring her to orgasm through oral sex or masturbation before you enter her and indulge in intercourse. 36
Do it by oral sex, masturbation, using a sex toy, or whatever. But give her pleasure before you have an orgasm yourself because very few women ever orgasm through vaginal sex alone, and in some ways it may not even be that important to your wife. Many women appreciate sex because it feels nice, or because their partner gets pleasure from it. There are certain things you should absolutely never do when you want to get oral sex from her. Don’t try to force her head towards your erection as a hint that she should give you oral sex. If you want her to give you head, ask her for it, and when she’s doing it, if you’d like her to do something different, tell her, and don’t just resort to those kinds of crass movements. Be courteous and don’t expect her to deep throat you. Semen can taste unpleasant, so she may not want it in her mouth. If she’s willing to try taking your semen, then prepare yourself by eating pineapple (they say it makes semen taste nicer). Do not ask her to swallow after you’ve had curry, beer, or asparagus, because she’ll probably never go near your penis again. Don’t behave like a porn star and don’t treat your partner like one either.
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When Two Become “One” Men don’t always appreciate how much penetration means to your wife: it’s the ultimate act of trust and love, and when your wife gives her body to a man she makes a great emotional investment and perhaps takes a significant risk. So this act of love requires sensitivity on the part of the man and that can be demonstrated in many ways:
By looking into her eyes as you push your penis into her vagina.
By asking if you may enter her.
By taking her strongly with manly pride as her wife, when you know that’s what she’ll appreciate.
By being sensitive to her needs at all times.
The key thing is to penetrate her with respect and appreciate the honor she is paying you by taking your penis into her body. The key thing is to penetrate her with respect and appreciate the honor she is paying you by taking your penis into her body. Penetrate her sensitively and mindfully every time you do it. Sure, it can be exciting to rip your clothes off as you rush to the bed, and it can be very exciting to have intercourse with your clothes on, your penis thrusting out of your pants, her underwear pulled to one side to expose her vagina as you push into her from behind. But sex is not always so frenetic and urgent, and most of the time you’ll want to take it more slowly and romantically. Trying to get into her before she’s ready or willing to be entered is a huge mistake. You need to skillfully judge the moment to enter her, whether with a finger or two, your penis, or indeed anything else, so that you don’t go in before she’s ready. That means before she’s mentally and emotionally ready, she may well be wet enough long before she wants anything put inside her vagina. You can judge this with experience by her desire, expressed in verbal or nonverbal form, to be penetrated. One helpful sign is a gentle wave-like motion of her hips, or a kind of thrusting motion as she raises her vulva towards you. It is extremely important to make sure that your wife is sufficiently aroused before you try to enter her. When she is fully ready, her vaginal muscles are relaxed, her vulva is swollen and full of blood, and she is lubricating. If you are trying to get inside her before that point, you it is no fun for her. 38
However, she probably wouldn’t let you know that, so it is your responsibility to make sure she is ready. You can always stay on the safe side and when you think she might be ready, give her vagina a few nice smacks with your penis and this is sure to get her juices flowing. Nothing seems to be as much of a turn-off for your wife as a man who can’t enter her gracefully. It’s not a problem if you occasionally have to ask her to guide you in. Indeed, if it’s a straight choice between you blindly pushing your penis at her for five minutes before you finally find her vagina, or just asking her to lend a helping hand.
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An Intercourse On Intercourse A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess what’s doing it for you and what isn’t. If you’re respectful about it, your wife, who wants to please you, will appreciate some directions. Guys sometimes get hung up if your wife doesn’t get slippery enough for easy penetration. Don’t worry about it. Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle. Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication your wife has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle. Compliment her body during the sex. This will add more passion to your sexual encounter. Avoid making sex mechanical. Make it more passionate by making sounds and screams when you enjoy certain acts of your partner. It is very necessary to make the sexual encounter playful. You should remember that sex is not a serious act; it is a playful act in which both the partners actively participate. Play different games to make your sex life spicier and to avoid the boredom. Women usually like men who are playful in sexual activity rather than serious. Thrusting hard until you come without thought for her pleasure is one of the great mistakes. From a woman’s point of view, there’s nothing worse than a guy who gets so carried away with his own pleasure that he just thrusts away until he comes, without so much as a thought for what she might want. From your wife’s point of view, there’s nothing worse than a guy who gets so carried away with his own pleasure that he just thrusts away until he comes, without so much as a thought for what she might want. Certainly, there will be times when she is just happy to see you take your pleasure in her body, and come with a powerful and massive ejaculation, but most of the time she’s going to want to be in on the act in a more active way! 40
So start slowly, see how she reacts to your thrusts, and if she obviously wants more of it, then speed up and thrust harder - unless you’re going to come too quickly, in which case you should learn how to control yourself. What she wants is a man in bed, not a two pump chump! You should be able to thrust for long enough to please your wife, at least some of the time, even if that means fifteen minutes’ thrusting before you ejaculate (possibly with a few breaks for rest). Variety makes sex more interesting. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t try lots of positions, even if you rely on a few basic ones for 90% of your sex lives. After all, different positions give you different sensations. Always using the same position makes your sex life more and more boring for both the partners. It is the way to find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Keep sex positions varied, this will keep boredom out of the bedroom. Consider sitting down, standing up face to face or lying side by side (spooning.) If there is pain or discomfort while trying out different positions, then stop because obviously these signs say that something is not right. Try some new positions like woman on top, sideways positions, etc to make your sex life more enjoyable. Please remember to discuss with your wife the new positions, as both of you should be ready to try the new sexual positions. Penetrating your wife does not mean that you can thrust away regardless of her wishes, needs and desires. She may experience a whole variety of feelings when your penis enters her and it is good to take time to savor the experience and feel it fully. REMEMBER! When in the missionary position, a gentleman always takes his weight on his arms, elbows, knees, or something else. REMEMBER! When in the missionary position, a gentleman always takes his weight on his arms, elbows, knees, or something else. You may wish to keep your eyes open so that you can look at each other as you make love; that adds to the intimacy. Some wives prefer to close their eyes and focus on what they are feeling, that’s especially true for sensitive people who can be a bit overwhelmed by all the sensations and feelings that sex produces. These days, most men realize that your wife wants more than the physical side of sex; she wants the emotional connections and feelings of being loved by her husband. 41
And even if female sexuality is a puzzling mystery to most men, at least we are capable of showing love and affection during sex and gaining great pleasure from our partners’ sexual happiness. And even if female sexuality is a puzzling mystery to most men, at least we are capable of showing love and affection during sex and gaining great pleasure from our partners’ sexual happiness. It’s true that most men do actually want to make their wife happy. It’s very rewarding for a husband to give their wife an orgasm, or see her enjoying the feeling of him being inside her. Be relaxed during sex. Don’t get wrapped up in worrying about getting it exactly right in every position you try. Just see how it goes, laugh if it goes wrong, and try something else. Women feel sensuous during sex and enjoy skin to skin contact, so if you don’t spend time touching her all over, in a variety of ways that please her, you’ll miss out on one of the fastest ways to get her aroused. Try the more loving sex positions like side by side to see how much you can both enjoy sensual touching during sex. Women like the feel of being touched, but please remember that there is a point at which you are overdoing it. Feeling her up isn’t a sport, you don’t get points if you can cover the same spot more than once. You can also try kissing her entire body to turn her on. Avoid concentrating on yourself during sex. Learn to concentrate on your partner’s body - this will help you as well as your partner to enjoy the sex. Explore new areas of pleasure that she enjoys and pay more attention to those areas she likes. Men have a very clear route to orgasm in sex: they get aroused, they thrust, they get more aroused, they thrust harder, and they ejaculate. It’s that simple. But it’s not like that for women: they can lose their arousal at any stage of sex, and it can slip away without warning. This makes it harder for men to know just what to do to keep their partner firmly on the road to orgasm and what makes this worse is that women often get lost in their own sexual arousal, so they forget to tell their partner what they want. Your partner’s silence may be a sign of her sexual pleasure, but it’s not unreasonable to ask her to let you know how you’re doing.
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She can communicate with you with single words (“yes”, “no”, “lighter”, “harder”, “faster”) no matter how aroused she is and if she wants you to give her the maximum pleasure, then she needs to do this. What you need to do is keep going with your fingers, tongue, lips, vibrator, or penis, and don’t stop especially if she’s near her orgasm, keep going at all costs until she tips over into her orgasm. For some women, it is difficult to stay focused so talking naughty helps keep their mind in the right place. You can say things like, “I love being inside you” or “You like that penis?” or “Yeah, baby, I want you to cum on me,” for example. Consistent pace and rhythm is necessary for her to reach orgasm. You probably like the speed of hand movements with which she masturbates you to get faster as you near orgasm. This is not quite the same as it is for your wife: she will appreciate a much more consistent rhythm throughout sex, and only when she approaches orgasm will she want you to speed up the pace of your finger movements on her clitoris. Making your wife orgasm starts with training yourself to go for a long time before climaxing. Make her feel like the most important person in the world. If you want to make her have an orgasm, you have to get into the habit of letting her know how much she means to you. When your next sexual session begins, tell her how much you’re attracted to her and what you love about her. If you say these statements with a strong level of confidence, she’ll love it and start to be really turned on. By taking the time to set up your sexual encounter, you’ll discover it’s pretty easy to turn her on simply by using the power of your voice. Another explosive way to make her have an orgasm is to make sure you keep talking to her in a commanding voice and let her know that you’re in control. All women are different with the ways they achieve orgasm. So when you’re having sex, listen to her breathing and reactions. If she seems really into something continue with that act and see where it goes. Delay your orgasm as long as possible. Most men can orgasm very quickly. Women generally take longer. Delay yours until she is satisfied. Some women also need extra stimulation to orgasm. Show her you are a good lover by letting her touch herself or helping her.
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Give her what she wants and needs. Don’t forget: please your wife and she will please you. Create a portal in which your wife can explore her real life passion. This is very important. Even within a marriage, each person is an individual. You should help your mate accomplish their individual goals. Give your wife plenty of room to grow and experience life. Just because you are married doesn’t mean that it has to turn into a prison. Let your mate do the things that she needs to do to make her happy. If you’re a guy who shouts a lot when he ejaculates, you may well find that you shout in her ear. Just be a bit careful, and if you like to let the world know when you come. REMEMBER! It can be difficult to control your ejaculation, particularly if you’re a young man. Sex naturally involves a longish period of thrusting before a woman is fully satisfied. If you’re a quick ejaculator, you’re likely to have a very unfulfilled woman on your hands. You should be able to choose when to ejaculate during intercourse. REMEMBER! It can be difficult to control your ejaculation, particularly if you’re a young man. Sex naturally involves a longish period of thrusting before your wife is fully satisfied. If you’re a quick ejaculator, you’re likely to have a very unfulfilled woman on your hands. You should be able to choose when to ejaculate during intercourse. Ejaculating on her like she wasn’t there could be another error. She might just object if you deposit a bunch of semen unexpectedly on some corner of her body. While it can be exciting for you, for her it might just be another load of laundry. Have tissues and towel handy if you aren’t using a condom. If you feel like being a good guy, offer her a warm towel to clean herself when you’ve parted. She may want to lie in a puddle, leaking your semen all night. For her, the post sex glow can be a special time when she feels very close and connected to you, so try and respect that. She will also take much longer to come down from sex than you will, and she will also want to know she’s loved and adored by the man to whom she has just given herself. So spend a while cuddling her after making love, especially if you’re not sleeping together.
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But What About The Butt? Sharing fantasies can be a source of new sensual pleasures and possibilities. Fantasies of sexual activities which one would never think of really doing are often stimulating in themselves. Some couples find relating fantasies during intercourse to be stimulating. Other mental pictures may prove enticing enough to actually try out. Talk to her about your anal sex fantasy. Tell her that it is something you really want to try with her and that you think she will enjoy the experience. Let her know that it is really important to you. Most women want to please their husband in bed. If she knows it is something you really desire she will at least ponder the idea. Make sure you listen to her concerns and reasoning for not wanting to try it. Assure her that you are aware that it may be a bit painful to her at first but you will do everything you can to make it the least painful as possible. Also remind her that losing anal virginity is a lot like losing vaginal virginity. Though it may be painful the first time, it can also feel wonderful in time. Assure her that you will be slow and gentle with her. Tell her in detail how you plan to make it more comfortable for her. Let her know that you plan to use a lot of lubrication and play with her before entering her. Most importantly let her know that if she does agree to this very special request that you will stop immediately if she changes her mind in the middle. Let her know that she always has the option to opt out even if it is in the middle. Many women take the request of anal sex the wrong way. She may fear that you don’t enjoy vaginal sex with her for some reason. Assure her that it is awesome you just want to bring new experiences into the relationship as a way to add extra spice. You can also make sure that she is as clean as possible by taking a shower together before sex and gently washing her anus, and running a finger around inside her anal canal. The same applies to you, of course, for if you have discovered the delights of masturbation with a finger in or on your anus, you’ll already know how erotic anal stimulation can be, and how much it can add to the force of your orgasm. 45
Well, the even better news is that if she has her finger inside you when you come, the pressure of her finger massaging your prostate gland from inside your rectum can be immense. Of course, latex gloves can always be used, and this avoids any issues of cleanliness. Sharing a new experience can lead to better love making and satisfaction and a deeper level of intimacy. You’ve wanted to spice up the bedroom a little bit and spanking has been added to the list of things you want to try with your wife. Once you get through the hard part (getting her to agree!), the rest is relatively easy. With an imagination, a few toys and this guide, you’ll be on your way to sharing an experience with your wife that you won’t forget. REMEMBER! Don’t play with her anus without first asking if she likes it. REMEMBER! Don’t play with her anus without first asking if she likes it.
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Maintaining a Good Erection Having good circulation is critical to the erection process, as signals from your brain need to send sufficient blood to the penis. You should consider circulation boosting foods and these are foods that are high in Omega-3 fatty acids such as mackerel, salmon and sardines. Oily fish also contains plenty of selenium, zinc and magnesium, all critical to our natural sex drive. Neurological function, also contributes to good circulation, so you can also add in multivitamins and mineral supplements. Get B Complex vitamins in particular, which are great for reducing stress, another libido killer. Improved circulation results in better firmer erections. To achieve this, go for food which contains L-Arginine such as:
Oatmeal
Peanuts
Cashews
Walnuts
Dairy
Green vegetables
Soybeans
Seeds
Chickpeas
Smoking and alcohol have a detrimental effect on circulation, so stop or cut down. Obesity is a risk factor for erectile dysfunction and low testosterone levels. Reducing weight results in an increase in levels of testosterone, and therefore an increase in overall sexual performance. The more relaxed you are during intercourse or masturbation will also determine your erection strength. The blood flows easier when you’re not all tensed up. There are relaxation and breathing techniques that are very effective in helping you relax (and by doing so improve blood flow and prolong your intercourse duration).
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Keep in mind that you should be having fun during sex and this is the main purpose. This will probably cause you to lose some of the pressure involved in sexual interactions and help you perform better in bed. When you know that this is the main objective, you will feel like a winner every time you and your partner are in bed together, no matter how strong your erection is. One of the ways you can increase your penis size is to use penis enlargement pumps. These pumps have been around for many years and are often promoted by the medical community. They work by using a suction method that draws blood into the penis shaft thereby increasing the size of your penis. They have been proven to increase size but there have also been many cases of misuse and overuse that have resulted in injury of the penile shaft and the surrounding area. Another method that men have been using for years is the use of weights. This is done by hanging weights to your penis so that it will become longer. However, this can really be dangerous if many of your penile tissues are destroyed. Your penis might increase in length but it will not gain in girth. The end product of this method is a longer and thinner penis. Concerning another method, exercises force blood into the membrane and therefore cause it to swell and get bigger. Penis extenders exert a gentle, very controlled and targeted “pull” which causes the body to react by multiplying cells in order to fill tiny “microscopic” spaces that are created during the traction. This multifaceted attack delivers impressive gains within a few short weeks.
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Erectile Dysfunctions Retarded Ejaculation: when a man can’t come during sex especially when he can’t reach orgasm during intercourse, the effect on both partners can be damaging. When a man can’t ejaculate during sex with his wife (or finds it very difficult to reach orgasm with his wife), despite wanting to achieve both orgasm and ejaculation, and having enough sexual stimulation and a firm erection, he’s said to have delayed ejaculation. In general, husbands who have delayed ejaculation can ejaculate without difficulty when alone but find it difficult to ejaculate (“come”) with their wives during sex. Most husbands who have this problem find it frustrating, and feel anxious and incompetent in bed. Their wives tend to feel deprived of sexual pleasure, anxious, distressed, and frustrated if they wish to conceive. A couple may only seek treatment when tension in the relationship has got to such a point that there is serious emotional distress or danger of breaking up. Retarded ejaculation can make you think of yourself as a poor lover, as a sexual failure, perhaps, and even produce feelings of guilt and shame, and a sense of letting your wife down. Your partner may also feel inadequate and frustrated - not to mention sore and tired after hours of fruitless sex. It’s the third most common sexual problem for men - just behind premature ejaculation and not being able to get an erection at all, which means millions of men are experiencing this problem right now. It’s the third most common sexual problem for men - just behind premature ejaculation and not being able to get an erection at all, which means millions of men are experiencing this problem right now. If the man has never ejaculated through any form of stimulation (such as wet dreams, masturbation, or intercourse), a urologist should be consulted to determine if there is a congenital or physical cause. If, however, he is able to ejaculate in a reasonable period of time by some form of stimulation, he should seek sex therapy from a therapist specializing in ejaculatory problems. Treatment usually includes both spouses. The therapist will usually educate the couple about the fundamentals of sexual response and how to communicate and guide the partner to provide ideal stimulation, rather than trying to make a sexual response occur. 49
Therapy commonly involves a series of homework assignments wherein the couple, in the privacy of their home, engage in sexual activities that reduce performance pressure and focus on pleasure. Typically, sexual intercourse will be prohibited for a limited period of time, while the couple gradually enhances their ability to enjoy ejaculation through other types of stimulation. In cases where there is a problematic relationship or an inhibition of sexual desire between the couple, therapy to enhance the relationship and emotional intimacy may be required as a preliminary step. Sometimes hypnosis may be a useful adjunct to therapy, particularly if a partner is not willing to participate in therapy. Self-treatment of this problem will probably be unsuccessful in most cases. If a medication is believed to be the cause of the problem, other medication options may be discussed. (Never stop taking any medicine without first talking to your doctor.) This may be difficult in certain instances, especially when the medication is working appropriately to solve a pre-existing medical or psychological problem. Premature ejaculation: For many years, sex experts have tended to say that premature ejaculation is caused by early conditioning. In other words, the man’s early, rushed (and perhaps furtive) sexual experiences had to be quick so as to avoid detection. The idea is that this conditions him to climax as quickly as possible. However, surveys have found that many men with PE did not have rushed early sexual experiences - though others say they did. It’s worth noting that from an evolutionary point of view, it’s probable that males who climaxed quickly were more likely to have children. Some men seem to be highly triggered right from the start of their sex lives. Tendency to reach orgasm quickly may possibly be inherited rather than learned. Finally, there’s no question that anxiety or ‘nerves’ play a part in many cases of PE. If you’re nervous, you’re likely to come too quickly. This is why many males have discovered for themselves that a small amount of alcohol eases their nerves and makes them less likely to climax prematurely. But we wouldn’t recommend alcohol as a treatment. The Masters-Johnson method: This method cures the vast majority of men, provided that both partners are keen to co-operate.
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It is based on a special ‘penis grip’ developed by the American therapists Masters and Johnson. The finger-grip abolishes the desire to climax, so if, under careful instruction, the couple uses it over a period of weeks, they can usually re-train the man so he can last much longer. Your wife places her hand so that her thumb is on one side of your erect penis (the nearer side to her when she is facing you). Her index and middle fingers are on the other side. The index finger is just above the ridge of the glans (the ‘head’), while the middle finger is just below the ridge. When you feel that your near to a climax, tell your wife. She then squeezes your shaft firmly between her thumb and the other two fingers. WARNING: Some professionals hold that prolonged use of the MastersJohnson method may lead to permanent tissue damage. Please use with caution. WARNING: Some professionals hold that prolonged use of the Masters-Johnson method may lead to permanent tissue damage. Please use with caution. The stop-start technique: The man is encouraged to masturbate alone. He is asked to set time aside to be private and to masturbate with dry hands. The man is encouraged to masturbate almost to the point of ejaculation and then stop. He should do this three times. On the fourth time, he is permitted to ejaculate. After he has achieved this measure of control, he can try masturbating with a wet hand, which will feel more like the inside of a vagina. He is encouraged to do the stop-start technique as before. Self-hypnosis can be helpful. Unfortunately it isn’t a complete cure on its own, but it is very useful for increasing your sexual confidence and making you more relaxed which is an important part of the solution for rapid ejaculation. Pills and potions for controlling rapid ejaculation are all over the internet. But they never quite say what’s in them, how they work, and how you get your money back when there’s no improvement. Please don’t fall for these. You might be tempted to believe you can stop yourself ejaculating by clamping down hard with your PC muscle to stop semen shooting out. If you try this, however, you will find one small drawback: it doesn’t work. You just cannot stop your ejaculation using your PC muscle to hold it back. It’s been suggested that you can use a penis ring around the base of your penis so that you stay hard after you ejaculate. In principle this is not a bad idea, 51
except that it is extremely uncomfortable when the ring bites into the base of your softening penis, and many men find their glans is so sensitive after ejaculation that they cannot bear to continue thrusting. Another old favorite is anesthetic cream containing lidocaine or some other anesthetic which you smear on your penis to dull the feeling and stop yourself getting so aroused. It just doesn’t seem like a brilliant idea to try and delay ejaculation at the expense of good sexual feelings. It just gives you a numb penis, possibly a burning sensation, and if it gets near your partner, she gets a numb vagina. Thinking of something distracting does not work. Sex is meant to be about togetherness and intimacy, which you don’t achieve by thinking about your taxes while you have sex. Masturbating once or twice an hour or so before sex can help to extend the time for which you last, at least by a minute or two. But it removes spontaneity, and it can reduce your desire for sex. If none of the “first level” solutions above work for you, I’ve dedicated an entire book to this topic, “Premature No More.” It details my personal success with overcoming premature ejaculation and the step-by-step system that I utilized to do this. You can find it on www.becomeoneflesh.com. If none of the “first level” solutions above work for you, I’ve dedicated an entire book to this topic, “Premature No More.” It details my personal success with overcoming premature ejaculation and the step-by-step system that I utilized to do this. You can find it on www.becomeoneflesh.com. Sexual difficulties caused by excessive work: No matter what your job, excessive work can cause the following sexual difficulties:
Less time for sex
You are too tired to drum up sexual interest
You find it difficult to climax
You find it difficult to relax in bed
You are not able to get erections easily
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But everyone can make small changes in their lives – no matter how busy they are. These changes need to be ones that will bring some sort of balance into your lifestyle that does not exist currently. Such changes should help your health as well as your love life. The first thing you can do is to be honest with your wife. You could have no desire for sex on weekdays. What she wants during the week is a loving companion who will snuggle up to her and listen to what has happened in her day, but not demand sex. If the busy person has never discussed this with their spouse, it can cause a lot of upset and rowing because, understandably, the other person tends to feel rejected. It may not be ideal to only have sex on the weekends or during holidays, but at least if both parties know this, there will be fewer unrealized expectations and fewer quarrels. In other words, the marriage should become more relaxed. It has to be said that honesty is not going to be enough to fix a rocky relationship, unless you pay your wife some real attention. She needs to feel affirmed and important despite the paucity of sex. It’s easy to take workplace language into the home, but it can be abrupt and terse. Try not to bark out instructions to your beloved. Use the journey home from the office to unwind and to get into a softer frame of mind. You need to change gear from working mode to something a little more empathetic and human if you are to have a healthy romantic life at home. If you want to maintain your marriage, your wife will want to feel that you put her first at weekends and holidays. This means a complete change of pace. Try not to bring work home or to keep checking your emails and switch off your mobile phone. When you do make love, try to wind down first so that you are in a more relaxed frame of mind. Wives do not want to feel that they’re being used as a substitute for quick masturbation and all you care about is a swift climax. Wives do not want to feel that they’re being used as a substitute for quick masturbation and all you care about is a swift climax. Wives want to feel cared for and loved. 53
Add variety in the bedroom. Try to vary your lovemaking. Very busy people tend to get into a set sexual pattern. They find a routine that works and is fast, and then use it every time. This is boring and unimaginative. If you keep doing it, it’s likely you’ll both go off sex and this can spell doom for your relationship.
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Romance (What She Wants So You Get What You Want) Creative and romantic gestures do turn women on because love and lovemaking are interconnected in your wife’s brain. 1. Resist the urge to nag your spouse. Listen instead. Listening can do wonders for a relationship. Listening can help you understand any situation, maintain open communication, and help you resolve conflicts with your spouse. 2. Think of a surprise once in a while. A surprise need not be something that needs a lot of preparation. If you are busy with work or with the housework, you can think of something that can put a smile on your partner's face. Even a note posted on the refrigerator or a love letter inserted on his planner can be a great way to rekindle those sparks in the relationship. Being married is not an excuse to be not sweet and mushy. You can also have a makeover and surprise your spouse. Break the same old you and make yourself look good for your spouse. 3. Don't forget to say thank you. Being grateful to your spouse is one great way to let your spouse know that you appreciate her and you see the good in her, so do not just receive favors, be appreciative. 4. Go to dates once in a while. Having time for yourselves is one of the important tips for a happy marriage. Find time to have fun, watch a funny show and have a good laugh together. 5. Find a gift for your spouse. There is no need to have an occasion to treat your spouse. Even a simple gift would do - a ticket to a Saturday night movie, a camping trip, or even cooking his favorite food and small things that will bring a smile to her face. 6. Learn to disagree without being aggressive and defensive. Being able to talk about your disagreements in a neutral tone would help a lot in ironing out conflicts in marriage. 7. Spend a few minutes each day to cuddle or just talk about the events of the day. Marriages and relationships dwindle down because couples do not anymore spend time to cuddle and talk like at the start of the marriage. No matter how busy you are with your career or housework, a few minutes for your spouse can help you stay connected. 8. Say sorry for your mistakes. Not because you are with your spouse every day, you would not just mind apologizing. Apologizing can be a
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difficult thing to do but there are creative ways to do it. Send a card of apology, do something nice for your partner or just simply say it. 9. Give compliments each day. Compliment your spouse on the things she does right rather than picking on what she does not. This can also encourage your partner to do more of the positive things she does. 10. Show love. It is not enough that you said 'I do' in your marriage vows. A kiss, a kind deed, a good compliment, a kind thought - show your spouse everyday that you love her. 11. Touch her arm or knee when you talk with her. Your gentle touch communicates, “I’m here. You’re not alone. I enjoy you. I’ll take care of you.” 12. Make an effort to spend time alone together – go out for dinner, for a walk, or out for coffee. Show her that you enjoy the intimacy of being alone with her. 13. Grab her hand and hold it when you’re out in public. 14. Give her a kiss and a hug when you leave and return home. 15. Don’t see every complaint as an attack. Women think as long as they feel the marriage is working, they can talk about it. On the other hand, most men feel the relationship isn’t working if they have to talk about it. Allow her to express what’s on her mind. 16. Recognize her strong emotions as exclamation marks. When she is upset, angry, or frustrated, realize that these emotions are her way of letting you know how much the issue at hand matters to her.
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Bonus: 101 Creative Lovemaking Ideas #1
The Menthol Marinade
This technique really packs a huge payoff for very little prep work. Some women claim that different cough drops provide varying degrees of stimulation. It seems to be purely a matter of personal preference, so don't be afraid to experiment with a variety of brands and flavors. Here's What You Need: One mentholated cough drop, any flavor. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Unwrap the cough drop and put it in your mouth. You need to give it a couple of minutes to partially dissolve; so use this time to pepper her belly, bikini line and inner thighs with little kisses. Swirl the cough drop around in your mouth, making sure to rub the tip of your tongue against it. Now, keeping the cough drop in your mouth, gently begin to lick around the vagina, paying special attention to the clitoris. In a few moments your wife will begin to feel both the hot and cool sensation of the menthol penetrating her body. For added stimulation, pause every minute or so and gently blow on the clitoris (the air reactivates the cooling properties of the menthol and provides a sensation most women find immensely pleasurable). Women all over the world have gone absolutely crazy for this little ditty. Done properly, it will have her yodeling, "Ree-colaaaaaaaaa!"
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The Sicilian Corkscrew
Here's a great hand technique that will drive your wife wild. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and her legs open wide. Sit "Indian-style" between your wife's legs. Cross the index and middle fingers of one of your hands (you know, the traditional "keep your fingers crossed" gesture). Slowly insert your crossed fingers into your wife's vagina. As you do this, rotate your forearm back and forth. Insert your fingers deep enough so that your thumb is now brushing her clitoris from side to side as your forearm rotates. Continue until you pop your wife's cork.
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The Cotton Spritzer
This is a very romantic technique that not only pleases your wife -- it gives you a little bit of a buzz, too. Here's What You Need: One pair of cotton panties. One bottle of wine. Here's How You Do It: Have your wife strip down to nothing but her cotton panties (make sure the panties are cotton; nylon just doesn't cut it for this one). With your wife standing, kneel down in front of her. Pull the waistline of her panties toward you, creating an opening about two inches wide. Pour a small amount of wine into the panties and release. Let the wine soak the crotch of the panties as well as your wife's vagina. Now place your mouth against the crotch of her panties and suck the wine through the fabric and into your mouth. Don't be surprised as your wife presses her hips against your face -- this is extremely erotic. Do this three or four times, then set down the bottle of wine. Gather the crotch of your wife's panties together in one hand. Position your open mouth underneath and squeeze hard. This should wring out a small trickle of wine from her panties onto your tongue. Keep holding the crotch of her panties in your hand and pull them to one side. Now pleasure your wife orally until she explodes in a delicious orgasm.
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The Standing Wrap
If you can manage it, this is a position she'll never forget. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Sit on the edge of the bed and have your wife stand in front of you. Tell your wife to place one leg on the bed, then the other, and sit on your lap as your enter her. Now that she's sitting on your lap with you inside of her, have her place her arms around your neck and wrap her legs around your waist. After she's done this, stand up. Put your arms under her buttocks to help stabilize her. Walk to the nearest wall and let your wife's back rest against it. Now you're ready to thrust in and out of your wife as you hold her pinned against the wall. Continue until she reaches an indescribable orgasm, or the neighbors start banging on the wall. In that case, switch walls and keep going!
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Parad-ice
Here's another classic technique that's become a standard today thanks to the movie "9 1/2 Weeks." If your wife is somewhat shy, it's a great way to introduce some new things in the bedroom. Even if she's not shy, it still feels terrific. Here's What You Need: One ice cube. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back. Put the ice cube in your mouth. Open your mouth slightly and use your tongue to push the cube to the front of your mouth. A small portion of the cube should be sticking out beyond your lips. Slowly glide the cube over your wife's neck, breasts, stomach, thighs and legs. Hold your head about six inches above one of your wife's nipples. Let a few drops of melted ice fall onto and trickle down her nipple. If it's not already, her nipple will become fully erect. Do the same thing with the other nipple. Take the ice cube back into your mouth completely. Rub the tip of your tongue over the cube so that it becomes cold. Pleasure your wife orally, pausing to rub the tip of your tongue back over the cube whenever necessary.
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#6 Walking The Wall This is a great way to find find just the right angle to stimulate her G-spot. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Have her sit on the edge of the bed with her legs apart. With you standing, enter your wife. Have her bend her knees, letting her feet rest on your stomach. As you continue thrusting, tell your wife to "walk" up your chest, placing one foot in front of the other. As she does this, you'll stimulate different areas of her vagina. It's up to your wife to determine exactly where she should be on "the wall" to achieve an indescribable orgasm.
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#7 Mint Two-lip The cooling sensation of peppermint has never been put to better use than in this technique. Your wife will love it. Here's What You Need: One glass of peppermint schnapps. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Pour a small amount of schnapps into your wife's navel. Dip the tip of your tongue into the schnapps and trace small circles around one of your wife's nipples. Blow on it to accentuate the cool feeling. Do the same thing to her other nipple. Again, dip your tongue into the pool of schnapps you've poured into her navel. Run your tongue along both sides of her vagina and gently blow. Pleasure your wife orally, pausing to reapply the schnapps to your tongue.
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#8 The Sensual Summons Here's a great way to stimulate a sensitive, but often neglected, area of your wife's vagina. You may even run across the elusive and controversial "G-spot." Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Apply a small amount of lubricant to your hands. Gently caress your wife's thighs, stomach and bikini line, gradually increasing the pressure. Delicately squeeze the outer lips of her vagina, one at a time, between your thumb and index finger. Slowly slide up and down the entire length of each lip. Carefully insert your index finger into your wife's vagina. With your palm facing up, draw your index finger up and toward you as if you are summoning a person (you know: the "come here" gesture). Repeat the move at a steady pace, letting your fingertip constantly stimulate the upper wall of her vagina. While continuing to do that with one hand, use the thumb or index finger of your other hand to trace small circles around your wife's clitoris. Keep these two motions going until your wife explodes in a mind-numbing orgasm.
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#9 The Steaming Diamond Sports trainers and athletes have always known about the magical qualities of moist heat. Nothing soothes and relaxes the muscles faster and more efficiently. One of them may have even come up with this technique. Here's What You Need: Two washcloths. One bowl of hot water. One pair of scissors. Here's How You Do It: Before you're going to make love, cut a three to four inch diagonal slit in the middle of each washcloth. Fill a bowl with hot water and place both of the washcloths in it to soak. Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Wring out one of the washcloths. Turn it forty-five degrees so that it looks like a diamond instead of a square. Lay the washcloth over your wife's pubic area. The top of the diamond should be touching her pubic hair. The bottom will be at her anus and both sides will be against her inner thighs. Line the slit up with her vagina and use your hands to press and hold the washcloth in place. Insert your tongue in between the slit and perform your finest oral pleasuring moves. After a couple of minutes the washcloth will have cooled down. No problem. Just put it back in the bowl, wring out the other washcloth, lay it over the same area and continue until your wife achieves one of the "hottest" orgasms she's ever experienced.
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#10 The Dutch Drawbridge Here's a terrific position that heightens the stimulation of the top portion of your wife's vagina. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Sit up in the bed with your legs extended in front of you. Have your wife kneel above you, straddling your lap. Then, lower her down until you are inside of her. Now have your wife lean all the way back until her head is resting on your legs or ankles. Her knees should be bent so that her feet are underneath her buttocks. You're not going to be able to thrust yourself into her with the same force you can achieve from, say, the missionary position. But the thrusts you do provide will be magnified in their intensity based on the angle at which you are entering her.
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#11 Rescuing The Captain What are you going to do when the Captain goes overboard? You've got to rescue him, right? Here's What You Need: One wintergreen or peppermint breath mint with a hole. Here's How You Do It: Put the mint in your mouth and give it a couple of minutes to partially dissolve. In the meantime, get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. With the mint still in your mouth, arouse your wife by gently kissing and licking her inner thighs, bikini line and vagina. If your wife is sufficiently aroused, you should be able to spot the clitoris. That's the "Captain." It's your job to rescue him. Move the mint to the tip of your tongue. Press the mint against your wife's clitoris and release it. Using suction, draw the clitoris through the hole in the mint. Flick your tongue as rapidly as you can over the clitoris and mint. Only when your wife reaches orgasm have you successfully "rescued the Captain." If you want to create an entire "Titanic" theme, place an ice cube in your wife's navel.
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#12 The Tasmanian Jack-knife If you've ever wanted to stimulate those hard-to-reach spots inside your wife's vagina, this is the position to try. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Have her lie down on either her left or right side. Tell your wife to take whichever leg is on top and raise it towards her chest so that her foot is resting on her other leg's knee. Enter your wife from behind. She will be astonished at how deep you can plunge yourself inside of her. Continue this position until she's "done-dee."
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#13 Showergasm Women have been pleasuring themselves this way for years. Now it's your turn. Here's What You Need: One hand-held shower massager. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Adjust the water to a comfortable temperature and activate the shower massager. Slowly run the water over your wife's legs, thighs and stomach. With your free hand, gently stroke and caress the inner thighs and bikini line. Place the first and second fingers of your free hand on each side of her vagina. Gently push the skin up and out, exposing the clitoris. Point the jets of water at the clitoris, making sure that the stream is not too hot or forceful. Do not hold the massager too close to your wife. Start from as far back as you can, slowly moving closer (your wife can tell you if any adjustments need to be made). Continue until you induce a powerful and satisfying orgasm.
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#14 Chinese Field Goal The next time you order Chinese take-out, ask for the free pair of chopsticks and give this technique a try. It lets your wife feel your tongue in areas that you normally could not reach. Here's What You Need: One pair of chopsticks. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Whip out the chopsticks. If they're made of wood, make certain there are no splinters (it's amazing how one, loan splinter can ruin your entire evening). Place each chopstick along the outer edge of your wife's vaginal lips. Use your thumb and fingers to gently roll each fold of skin around the chopstick. You need to do this before her vagina gets too moist; otherwise, her skin will not want to remain rolled up around the chopsticks. The chopsticks will now resemble goal posts. Your tongue is going to be the football. To kick a field goal, you must place the football between the goal posts and indulge in some serious oral pleasuring. When your wife has achieved a terrific orgasm, give yourself three points.
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#15 Baby Elephant Trunks This technique feels so good that there's actually two versions of it. Thanks to our dedicated research team, we're happy to provide you with both. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Version One: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Apply a little lubricant to the backs of both of your hands, including your wrists and fingertips. Extend one of your hands, palm down. Curl your fingers inward halfway to the palm. Place the wrist of that hand against the bottom portion of your wife's vagina. Using smooth strokes, glide your entire hand, including your fingers, up and over her vagina and clitoris. Immediately repeat using the other hand, performing the exact same motion. It kind of looks like you're painting a fence; except you're never stroking down -always up. Version Two: Have your wife get on all fours and perform the same technique from behind her (this reverses the motion).
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#16 Seltzer-gasm This is a fun way to let your wife experience something she never has before: thousands of tiny bubbles swirling around her most sensitive area. Be sure to use the "Gold" variety of the world's most popular tablet. It's had the medicinal ingredients removed. Here's What You Need: One glass of water. One effervescent bicarbonate tablet without aspirin. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Break the tablet into four quarters. Place the rounded edge of one quarter tablet between the top-most portion of your wife's vaginal lips. Insert only enough of the tablet to hold it in place. Take a small sip of water and keep it in your mouth. Press your lips against the portion of her vagina holding the tablet and open them so that a small stream of water trickles out. This should activate the tablet and release bubbles around her vagina. Get into some serious oral pleasuring. When necessary, take another sip of water. If needed, replace the tablet with a fresh piece. Continue until your wife says, "Oh, what a relief it is."
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#17 The Indian Rocking Horse Here's a great position that allows for extra-deep penetration. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Enter your wife in the standard missionary position. Now, both of you sit up while you're still joined together. Have her put her arms around your neck. Put both of your arms between her legs, positioning your elbows under her knees. Lift up and rest her calves or ankles on your shoulders. Clasp your hands behind her back and rock your body back and forth. Don't worry about about thrusting in and out; let the rocking motion do all of the work.
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#18
The Venus Butterfly
Here's another classic technique that's become legendary. It all started with an episode of the 80's TV series "L.A. Law." They referred to it several times, but never even hinted as to how it was actually done. That show generated more mail than any other episode. Everybody was asking, "How do you do The Venus Butterfly?" Now, you'll finally know. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back, her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Apply a little lubricant to your hands. Put your hands together, as if you were saying a prayer. Bend each of your ring fingers down. The tip of your left ring finger should be touching the knuckle of your right ring finger; the tip of your right ring finger should be touching the knuckle of your left ring finger. All of your other fingers should remain extended. Now comes the "ladies choice" part of this technique. In the classic Venus Butterfly, your extended pinkies would be inserted into your wife's anus. Many women prefer that, instead, you simply fold your pinkies over like your ring fingers (it's totally a matter of personal preference). Next, insert your middle fingers into her vagina. Your index fingers should be placed on both sides of your wife's clitoris. Keeping your fingers together, open your palms so that your thumbs are about three inches apart. Begin to rub your fingers back and forth, as if you were trying to warm them. When you do this, your hands will resemble a butterfly flapping its wings.
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#19
Cyrano's Triangle
This position gives you maximum thrusting capability and lets your wife feel you in places she normally doesn't. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Have her lie on her side. Standing over her, lift your wife's top leg up, resting her foot on your midsection. Now have her extend her other leg out so that it is perpendicular to her body. Next, have her use the corresponding arm (right leg, right arm) to reach out and hold her knee. She has now formed a triangle. The three sides of the triangle are: her body, her leg and her arm. Place one of your feet inside the triangle. Squat down. The leg that was resting on your midsection should now be resting on your shoulder. Enter your wife. Notice how much more control you have squatting as opposed to kneeling. Don't be surprised if she notices, too.
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#20
The Flickering Candle
Here's a great technique that will add variety to your oral pleasing talents. It's been around for centuries. But we'll bet your wife has never experienced it -- until now. Here's What You Need: One candle. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Light the candle and place it near your wife's head (not too close). Usually, on top of the nightstand will do just fine. If you've got a ceiling fan in your bedroom, turn it on low. Otherwise, any type of fan that will move the air gently around the candle will do. Position yourself so you can pleasure your wife orally and see the flame of the candle at the same time. As the air swirls around the candle and causes to flame to flicker, duplicate the movements of the flame with your tongue. If you like, let your wife know what you're doing so she can anticipate the movements. It's as if the flame itself is pleasuring her. Continue until the flame ignites fireworks in your wife.
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#21
Oriental Shoe Shine
Here's an incredibly stimulating technique that gets its name from the back and forth motion you perform with a silk scarf. Here's What You Need: One long silk scarf. One short silk scarf. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Use the short silk scarf to blindfold her and have her stand with her legs slightly apart. Now you stand at your wife's side, facing her. Run the long silk scarf gently over your wife's body. Let her feel it on her arms, breasts, buttocks and legs. After a couple of minutes, place the scarf in between your wife's legs. Hold one end in front of her, the other behind. Essentially, she should be straddling the scarf. Raise both ends of the scarf above your wife's midsection so that the middle barely touches her clitoris and vagina. Glide the scarf back and forth as if you were "buffing" this delicate area. The longer your strokes, the better. Next, lie down on your back with your head in between your wife's feet. Tell her to kneel and, as she does, drape the scarf over your mouth. Using your hands, guide your wife's hips so that her vagina is positioned directly above your mouth. Pleasure your wife orally through the smooth, silk scarf.
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#22
Whipped Cream Dream
Here's a classic technique that seems simple enough, but often times goes horribly wrong. Not for you, though, because now you'll know the secret. Always use non-dairy whipped topping. The diary products in real whipped cream begin to change as they heat up on a person's skin. The whipped cream will emit a foul, "sour milk" type of odor that can really kill an evening. Take it from those who know: non-dairy is the way to go. Here's What You Need: One can of non-diary whipped topping. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Apply whipped topping liberally over your wife's body. Pay special attention to the nipples, navel, bikini line and any other personal erogenous zones you may have discovered. Slowly and delicately lick the whipped topping from your wife's body. Deliberate, pointed flicks of the tongue are generally more stimulating than a flat-tongued motion. Leave the last bit of whipped topping on your tongue and begin to pleasure your wife orally. Reapply the whipped topping to the clitoris and vagina as needed. Continue until your wife lets out a squeal of pleasure that'll make the cows come home.
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#23
The Double "V"
Give your wife the opportunity to control the speed and depth she gets from you with this classic, but often overlooked, position. Make sure you're freshly showered, though -her nose is going to be pretty close to your feet. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Lie flat on your back. Have your wife stand over you, facing your feet. Tell her to kneel, then enter her. Have your wife stretch out completely and wrap her arms underneath your calves. Her hands should be resting on your ankles. As your wife's hips begin to move up and down, match her with thrusts of your own from below.
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#24 The Grapes Of Rapture Here's a very erotic technique that sounds like it originated in Roman times. After you treat her to this one, your wife will definitely be hailing Caesar. Here's What You Need: One bunch of seedless grapes, chilled. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her stand with her legs slightly apart. Give her the grapes and tell her to hold them by the stem so that they dangle in front of her vagina. Kneel in front of your wife. Slowly kiss and lick her ankles, calves, knees and thighs, working your way up to the grapes. Begin to pleasure your wife orally. Every so often, pluck one of the grapes from the bunch and hold it between your teeth. Press the chilled grape against your wife's clitoris. Move your head so that you trace circles around it with the grape. Using your tongue, press the grape into your wife's vagina. Let her feel the soft, cold skin of the grape between the moist folds of her own skin, then gently suck the grape back into your mouth and swallow it. Continue until your wife erupts in a leg-quivering orgasm.
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#25
OrgasM&M
This is a great little game that's not only fun, but will also help you discover erogenous zones on your wife's body that you never knew existed. Here's What You Need: One piece of candy-coated chocolate, plain variety. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Hand her the candy. Turn out the lights so that the room is completely dark. Tell your wife to lie down and hide the candy somewhere on her body. Depending on where she chooses to hide it, she may need to lick one side in order for it to stick, remaining in place. Once the candy is hidden, it's your job to find it using only your tongue. Glide your tongue over every inch of her body. Take your sweet time. Pay attention to any reaction that you get -- and where your tongue is when you get it (this information will be very valuable whenever the two of you make love in the future). When you finally locate the candy, keep it on the tip of your tongue and press it against your wife's clitoris. Pleasure your wife orally until she melts in your mouth, not in your hands.
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#26 Back Seat Driver Looking for a new position that your wife will go crazy for? Look no further. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Stack a couple of pillows on top of each other and lie back against them with your legs slightly bent. Have your wife straddle your hips, facing your feet. Guide her downward until you are inside of her. Your feet should be outside of hers; they should pretty much line up. Now have her lean back a bit, resting her hands against your chest and holding herself upright. Begin thrusting. You're going to have to put some effort into it, because she's naturally going to want to come down on top of you.
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Sue-Bliss
Here's a classic technique that's probably been done for thousands of years. It definitely belongs in your "bag of tricks." Here's What You Need: One bottle of honey. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her left side. Place a single drop of honey on her right ear lobe and another along her hairline behind the ear. Apply a small stream of honey all the way down her right side, from her armpit to her ankle. Beginning at the ear lobe, slowly and methodically use your tongue and mouth to lick and apply gentle suction, removing the honey from her entire right side. When you're done, have your wife turn over. Do the exact same thing to her left side. Now have your wife lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Extend your tongue and squeeze a small amount of honey (about the size of a nickel) onto the tip. Pleasure your wife orally. When necessary, apply more honey to the tip of your tongue.
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#28
The Sultry Sucker
This is a great technique that creates both a new and unusual bit of stimulation for her, and a delicious taste treat for you. Here's What You Need: One round sucker on a stick, any flavor. Here's How You Do It: Unwrap the sucker and put it in your mouth. Make sure that it is completely smooth, especially on the top. Sometimes you get an air bubble or other imperfection in the sucker that, as it dissolves, forms a sharp edge. If you discover such an edge, discard that sucker and get a fresh one. Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Gently rub the sucker along the lips of her vagina. Use your mouth to remoisten the sucker as needed. Using your tongue, follow the path you've just traced with the sucker. Enjoy the flavor while you begin to arouse your wife. Put the sucker back in your mouth to remoisten. Hold the sucker in the middle of the stick with your thumb and index finger. Press it against your wife's clitoris and use your two fingers to spin the sucker clockwise, then counterclockwise. Repeat this a few times. Remember -- if it gets too dry, put it back in your mouth. Now combine the spinning of the sucker with some good, old-fashioned oral pleasuring. Your wife will be popping her tootsies in ecstasy.
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The Spooning Turtle
Here's a technique some say was made famous by legendary blues musician Muddy Waters. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Apply a small amount of lubricant to your penis. Have her lie on her side and snuggle up behind her. You know: the classic "spooning" position. With your wife's legs slightly open, insert the length of your penis between the lips of her vagina. DO NOT insert yourself into her vagina, but only between the lips. Have your wife close her legs, surrounding your penis. Now begin to thrust as if you were inside of her. The head of your penis will move back and forth over her clitoris. Continue thrusting until your wife sings anything but the blues.
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#30 Auto-erotica There are a lot of cars out there with automatic sunroofs. Hopefully, yours is one of them. If not, find an excuse to rent one for a day; it'll be worth every penny. Here's What You Need: One car with a sunroof. Here's How You Do It: Park where nobody can see you and open up the sunroof. Since you've got a radio within arm's length, put on some appropriate music. Get your wife naked, or at least bottomless. Have her climb up on the roof and sit on the back edge of the sunroof, facing the hood (her feet can rest comfortably against the windshield). Get into the passenger's seat and kneel, facing the trunk. Now raise your head up between her legs. Using your mouth and tongue, pleasure her like you never have before. Let her enjoy all the unique sensations: the height, the danger, the smooth metal and glass against her bare skin and your unique vantage point. Fifty years from now, she'll still be talking about this one.
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#31 Flower-gasm You can't go wrong giving your wife roses. Here's a unique, romantic technique that will touch her heart as well as a more erotic location on her body. Here's What You Need: One thornless rose. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back. Hold the rose over her stomach. Glide the rose over your wife's skin while simultaneously twirling it back and forth between your fingers. Brush the rose over her breasts, cleavage, neck, face and arms. Move it down her legs and let the rose tickle her toes. Finally, stroke your wife's vagina with the rose until she's ready for something a little more stimulating. Now pull a single petal from the rose and place it on the tip of your forefinger. Gently press the soft, silky rose petal to your wife's clitoris. Imagine the numeral "8" laid on its side. That's the pattern you want to trace with your finger on and around her aroused clitoris (the petal should follow your finger). Vary the patterns you trace, as well as the intensity with which you press, until you find just the right combination to bring your wife to a romantic, unforgettable climax.
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#32 Patio-gasm This is the female version of a technique for his pleasure called "The Lounge Lizard" (#83). Since you've already got the chair set up, this would be the perfect time for her to try that one on you. Here's What You Need: One webbed patio lounge chair. Two pillows. One roll of masking tape. Here's How You Do It: Adjust the back of the lounge chair to the upright position. Place the pillows lengthwise directly under the chair. Pull the center-most straps apart and tape them to the next-closest straps, creating an opening in the chair about four or five inches wide. Get your wife naked, or at least bottomless. Have her sit in the chair. Her vagina needs to be directly over the opening that you've created. Now get under the chair and lie on the pillows. Position your mouth directly under your wife's vagina. Grip the outermost edges of the chair, pull yourself up and pleasure your wife orally. You can continue to do this until she has reached orgasm. Or, after a few minutes, move on to the next step. Position yourself so that your penis now lines up with her vagina. Place both of the pillows underneath your buttocks. Enter your wife and thrust away.
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#33 The Minnesota Mindbender Here's a technique that originated around the Twin Cities area. As it grows in popularity, there could be a movement to change the state slogan to, "The Land Of 10,000 Lays." Here's What You Need: A set of Vikings bed sheets are optional. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Lie down on your stomach, perpendicular to your wife. Your head should be positioned sideways above her vagina. Using your thumb and forefinger, pull back the skin that hides the clitoris. Moisten your lips and press them against both sides of her clitoris, drawing it into your mouth. Gently roll your lips inward, covering your teeth. At the same time raise your head until her clitoris comes out from between your lips. Repeat again and again as fast as you can. If you're applying the right amount of pressure to her clitoris, you'll probably hear a little popping sound when you open your mouth. This one may take some practice. But, done correctly, it can easily produce one leg-quivering orgasm after another.
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#34
Three Minute Foreplay
One of the biggest complaints you hear from women is that they don't get enough foreplay. They feel particularly slighted when they spend ten minutes doing something for their man, like oral pleasuring, and then he reciprocates with thirty seconds of the same for her. Here's a great way to level the playing field. Also, if your wife is shy about telling you exactly what she wants, this makes it easy for her to show you. Here's What You Need: One egg timer (the hourglass is a little more romantic; but the kitchen "dial" timer will do). Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Tell her that you would like her to do whatever she wants to you for three minutes, and that you're going to do the exact same thing to her for the next three minutes. Start the timer. Pay attention to what she's doing to you and exactly how she's doing it. If she pleasures you orally, is she doing it hard or soft? If she massages you, where and with how much intensity is she doing it? Make mental notes of all of these things for the next three minutes. Then, when it's your turn, try to duplicate what she did as precisely as you can. Get in three or four rounds of this before you move on to intercourse --and don't be surprised if she chooses to do something as simple as holding you in her arms for the entire three minutes. This technique has the ability to teach you more about what your wife really wants than all the "chandelier-swinging" feats combined.
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#35 Strawberry-lation Strawberries and cream make for a very sensuous snack. This technique takes it one step further. Here's What You Need: Four strawberries. One can of non-diary whipped cream. One knife. Here's How You Do It: Before you begin, cut the strawberries into quarter-inch slices from the top down. Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Apply the whipped topping liberally around the lips of your wife's vagina. Carefully press the strawberry slices into the whipped topping. Now position your head directly in front of this sensuous feast. Using your tongue, gently remove a slice of strawberry and "share" it with your wife. Tease her by delicately licking around the vagina and clitoris. Have fun alternating between eating the strawberries and pleasuring your wife. Keep going until she erupts in a delicious orgasm.
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#36 Aphrodite's Ladder If you've ever made love on a set of stairs, you're already aware of some of the incredible positions you can come up with. Here's a romantic technique that guarantees the two of you will never walk up that particular flight the same way again. Here's What You Need: One flight of stairs. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. You, too. Have your wife sit on the second stair from the bottom (this may vary depending on your respective heights, but the second stair usually works best). You remain standing at the bottom of the staircase. Lean forward and place your hands on either side of your wife, like you're doing an inclined push-up. Prepare to enter your wife. Before you do, though, you must tell her the following: "On each of these steps is one of the reasons that I love you. Whenever you like, move up another step and I will give you another reason. I love you because..." and then give her your first reason. Now you may enter your wife. After about thirty seconds, she's going to push herself up to the next step. When she does, you must give her your next reason. Then you may take a step up, enter her again and continue. Your wife can have as many orgasms as she likes, but YOU must wait until she is perched at the top of the staircase before you can have yours. Only then have you successfully climbed Aphrodite's Ladder.
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Cotton Can-delight
You've probably awakened many mornings and realized that "the circus was in town." Now's your chance to give your wife a special treat straight from under the big top. Here's What You Need: One cone of cotton candy. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Take the cotton candy and run it along the length of your wife's body. Brush it against her face and let her enjoy both the smell and feel of it. Break off a small piece of cotton candy and place it on the tip of your extended tongue. Give your wife a deep, long, open-mouthed kiss. Break off another piece and place it on your tongue. Press it to one of your wife's nipples, then surround it with your mouth. As you close your mouth, the cotton candy will dissolve. Gently suck the melted candy from her nipple. Repeat with the other nipple. Put another piece of cotton candy on your tongue and, this time, press it to your wife's vagina. Let the combined moisture dissolve the cotton candy in a sugary, tangy nectar. Pleasure your wife orally, adding extra cotton candy as needed.
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Hitching To Milwaukee
Some guys seem to forget that vaginal stimulation alone will get you nowhere. For a really powerful orgasm, the clitoris has got to be involved. This is a great little hand technique that's been around for decades. And, judging by its name, it's 100% Americanmade. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back, her knees bent and legs open wide. Sit down in between your wife's legs. Tuck in the fingers and extend the thumb of your writing hand, as if you were hitchhiking. Apply a few drops of lubricant to the middle knuckles (your middle knuckles are the same ones you would use to knock on a door). Turn your wrist so that your knuckles are parallel to your wife's vagina. Maintaining the hitchhiking gesture, gently touch her clitoris with the knuckle of your forefinger. Sweep your wrist upward so that all four knuckles brush against and stimulate the clitoris. Then, reverse the motion so that all four knuckles brush by the clitoris on the downstroke. Repeat this up-and-down motion until you achieve the desired result -- a satisfying orgasm for your wife. When you do, you will have successfully "hitched to Milwaukee." Congratulations. You'll never watch a rerun of "Laverne & Shirley" the same way again.
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#39
Buzz Lips
You're already proficient at using your tongue to pleasure your wife. Now add a little vibration and you've got an unbeatable combination that's sure to induce wave after wave of incredible orgasms. Here's What You Need: You, with a song in your head. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Position your head sideways, so that your lips are parallel with the lips of your wife's vagina. Pleasure her orally. Having your head sideways is different enough to produce some very satisfying results, but you're going to add something even better: Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your wife's clitoris. Close your lips and begin to hum. Let the vibration from your lips stimulate her clitoris. The louder you hum, the better. Hum for a minute or so, then go back to using your tongue. Do that for a minute, then hum again. Continue alternating until your wife is humming a different tune.
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The Crescent Flutter
In order to achieve maximum stimulation, sometimes your wife's clitoris needs a little help exposing itself from under its pink, fleshy hood. This is a time-tested technique that uses suction to do just that. Here's What You Need: You, freshly shaven. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Position your head between your wife's legs. Open your mouth about a half an inch wide. Roll your lips slightly inward, covering your teeth. Press your slightly open mouth to your wife's vagina, the clitoral hood in between your lips. This is why you need to be freshly shaven. Stubble above or below your lips becomes much more pronounced when you curl them inward and would be uncomfortable against your wife's sensitive skin. Keeping your lips curled, form an airtight seal around the hood and gently suck inward; her clitoris will have no choice but to expose itself. While maintaining the suction, apply rapid flicks of your tongue to her clitoris. Vary your tongue movements until you find the combination that she likes best. Focus entirely on that one until you've delivered a powerful orgasm.
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#41
Laundro-mate
You know those "magic fingers" beds you find in motels that vibrate when you insert a quarter? This is even better. The vibration is more intense, the position makes for maximum clitoral stimulation and you don't have to spend fifty bucks on a hotel room. Here's What You Need: One washing machine. One load of wet laundry. Here's How You Do It: After the washer is done agitating and doing official "washing" chores, it goes into the "rinse and spin" cycle. This is when you make your move. As the rinse water fills, engage in some passionate foreplay. During this time, undress your wife and yourself. By now, the washer should be ready to spin -and you should be ready to deliver an awesome orgasm your wife will never forget. As soon as you hear the washer kick into "spin" mode, lead your wife over to it, put your hands on her hips and lift her up onto the top of the washing machine. Most washers are at just the right height for you to easily part her thighs and insert yourself without having to make any real adjustments. But if you need to stand on something, do so. Make love. Let the thrusts of your body combine with the intense vibration of the washer to take your wife over the top in a way she's never felt before. She's had a great orgasm and you've got clean underwear for tomorrow. Everybody wins.
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#42 Alpha-lingus This technique has been around for years. It enjoyed a resurgence in popularity in the late '80's, thanks to comedian Sam Kinison, who described it as part of his live stage show. Sam insisted that the best letter is capital "T." Now you be the judge. Here's What You Need: Just you and your tongue. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Position your mouth in front of her vagina and begin to pleasure her orally. As you're doing this, lick the alphabet on and around the clitoris. Do all the capital letters first, then switch to lower case. Watch your wife's reactions to determine which letters she likes best. After awhile, you can just do those (t's great when her favorite letters actually spell a word). The Hawaiian alphabet only has twelve letters. If you happen to be a native Hawaiian, that puts you at a distinct disadvantage when performing this technique -- or trying to get on "Wheel Of Fortune."
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#43
Pop Rotica
It seems like guys, more than women, have a problem with laughter in the bedroom. Sex with someone you love is supposed to be fun, right? So get over it. When you perform this technique, the two of you can't help but laugh your way through it. Between the sound and the tingling sensation, it feels both great and funny at the same time. Here's What You Need: One bag of "exploding" candy. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Open the bag of "exploding" candy and sprinkle a generous amount on the tip your tongue. Press your candy-filled tongue against the bottom of your wife's vagina and lick upwards to the clitoris. Your tongue should leave behind a trail of candy bits, activated and ready to explode. Pleasure your wife orally, making sure your mouth is wet enough to reactivate the candy. You may want to have glass of water nearby. If you do, take an occasional sip to wet your mouth. It doesn't take much to get these things to explode. Continue your oral pleasuring. Reapply the candy as needed. It won't be long before your wife is in the throes of one of the most enjoyable orgasms she's ever had.
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#44 The Satin Cylinder It's not the kind of thing one man would admit to another, but satin really does feel good against your skin. Imagine what it must feel like to your wife's most delicate, sensitive bit of skin. Here's What You Need: One satin nightshirt. Five bath towels. Two shoelaces. Here's How You Do It: Lay the first towel on the floor and roll it up length-wise. Now take the second towel and roll it tightly around the first. Continue until all five towels are rolled into one, tight bundle. Wrap the satin nightshirt around the towel bundle. Tie the shoelaces around the bundle, about a quarter of the way from each end. The bundle should now resemble a small, satin-covered version of a rolled-up sleeping bag. Get your wife naked. Now have her kneel down on all fours and straddle the satin bundle. Enter your wife from behind. Have her spread her knees outward, lowering herself towards the bundle. Her clitoris should just barely touch the satin. Make love. Each thrust from you will cause her to brush against the satin. The added stimulation she receives from the smooth material will often result in one or more powerful orgasms. This technique assumes that your five bath towels are reasonably thick. If you do it at a motel, you'll probably need thirty.
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#45 Boxing The Compass Did you know that almost every woman is more sensitive on one side of her clitoris than the other? You do now. So what are you going to do about it? Here's a great technique that will let you easily determine which is your wife's "sensitive side" so you can pleasure her accordingly. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. You're eventually going to position your tongue above her clitoris, but take your time. Let your tongue glide up her legs, over the inner thighs, around the bikini line and so on. Now ease on over to your wife's special place. Touch your tongue just above the clitoris (the 12 o'clock position). Now bring it down and to the left in a half-circle. The motion should resemble an open parenthesis. You should now be touching the delicate skin beneath the clitoris (the 6 o'clock position). Run your tongue back up in a half-circle, retracing the previous movement. Repeat the half-circle motion. After you've stimulated the left side for about thirty seconds, switch to the right. Now your motion should resemble a closed parenthesis. Continue for about thirty seconds, then add some circular tongue motions. Judging by your wife's reaction, you'll soon know which side should be receiving most of your attention. Once you know, though, don't neglect the other side.
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#46 Ping Me A Love Pong There are a lot of women who are intrigued by the idea of being tied up. But when it comes to actually trying it, they get cold feet. This is a great little game that gives your wife a sense of being restrained. In reality, though, she can get up and end it whenever she wants. Here's What You Need: One ping pong ball. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back in the middle of the bed with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Place the ping pong ball in her navel. Tell your wife that she must not let the ball roll onto the bed. If she does: "game over." Now it's up to you to do whatever it takes to make her writhe and squirm with pleasure (this would probably include some gentle flicks of the tongue around her nipples and breasts, as well as some serious oral pleasuring). Keep going until either the ping pong ball rolls out or your wife erupts in an earth-shattering orgasm. Two things to remember here: 1. If the ball rolls out momentarily and then comes to rest back in her navel, you have to keep going. 2. No fair rocking the bed in an effort to get the ball to roll out just because your jaw is tired.
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#47 The Pearl Escalator The soft, smooth texture of a pearl is a perfect complement to your wife's skin. This technique brings the two together in a way she'll never forget. Here's What You Need: One pearl necklace. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs open wide. Sit down in between your wife's legs. Position the fingers and thumb of one of your hands as if giving the "thumbs up" sign. Hang the pearls off the tip of your thumb. Now press your thumb against her vagina, just below the clitoris. Use your other hand to pull the strand around your thumb up towards her stomach. As you're doing this, each pearl should be brushing and stimulating your wife's clitoris. Once you've pulled all the slack from the strand, reach down and pull it again. The pearls will simply loop back around, running under your thumb and over your wife's clitoris again and again. It's up to you to determine how fast or slow you should pull the pearls. Once you find the right speed, you will bring your wife to orgasm fairly quickly. Also, be forewarned that your wife will probably insist real pearls produce a more intense orgasm than imitation. She undoubtedly knows exactly where you can buy some, too.
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#48
Popsiclingus
There's no more satisfying treat on a hot, summer day that a nice, cold popsicle. We've heard that some people actually eat them, too. Here's What You Need: One popsicle (your choice of flavor). Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Hold the popsicle by the stick and glide it along her breasts, down her stomach and across her bikini line. Go slowly, so that some of the popsicle melts against her warm, soft skin. Using your mouth and tongue, remove the popsicle juice from your wife's body. Now it's time to move to a more sensitive area. Touch the tip of the popsicle to your wife's vagina. Run it up and down the lips, letting the melted juice trickle down the warm folds of skin. At this point, you might be thinking about inserting the popsicle. This is a judgment call on your part, and matter of personal preference on hers. If you think she might find it pleasurable, slowly insert just the tip of the popsicle and gauge her reaction. If your wife enjoys this, turn your wrist back and forth, rotating the popsicle that's barely inside her vagina. Now use your tongue. Start by licking away the juice from the lips of your wife's vagina. Hold the popsicle just above the clitoris and let the juice run down. Again, lick away the juice. Continue until "I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream!"
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#49
The Vineyard's Mist
Any guy can dribble a little wine on your wife and lap it off like a Schnauzer. You're going to put a new twist on things. This technique is best when it's done outside. Find a spot where the two of you can have a (very) secluded picnic. Here's What You Need: One bottle of wine (the sweeter, the better). One new spray bottle (DO NOT use a bottle that's ever had cleaning products or insecticide in it). Here's How You Do It: Take your brand new spray bottle and rinse it thoroughly. Fill the bottle with wine and adjust the nozzle until it produces the finest mist possible. Show your wife the spray bottle. Demonstrate by spraying a little wine into her open mouth. Now give her a quick spurt on the side of her neck. Don't lick it off with a flat tongue; instead, open your mouth wide and draw the wine in with your lips. After that, you can use your tongue to collect any of the excess. Get your wife topless. Use the same technique on each of her breasts. Then, move down to her stomach and belly button. If she's still got her pants on, get them off of her. Now spray her calves and follow up with your mouth. Now do her inner thighs. Finally, give your wife's vagina a few pumps of the bottle and lovingly take in every delectable drop. Remember: "goodness echoes from the canyon."
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#50 Snow & Joe Going from one temperature extreme to another in a matter of seconds produces a definite sensory overload in the brain. Add that to the fact that you'll be stimulating the most sensitive area of your wife's body and you've got the makings of a real winner. Here's What You Need: One cup of crushed ice. One cup of hot (not scalding) coffee. If you don't like coffee, use tea or water. Here's How You Do It: Get your wife naked. Have her lie on her back with her knees bent and legs slightly apart. Take a full sip of coffee and swirl it around your mouth for about fifteen seconds. Swallow the coffee and begin to pleasure your wife orally for thirty seconds or so. Now take a mouthful of crushed ice and hold it in your mouth for fifteen seconds. Resume your oral pleasuring technique for another thirty seconds. Keep alternating between the hot and cold stimulants until your wife erupts in a mind-blowing orgasm. Although they say coffee will keep you up all night, pouring it on your penis is not advised.
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For Him #51
The Passion Peach
The peach is definitely the most sensuous of all fruits. If you didn't think so before, just wait until after you try this technique. Here's What You Need: One medium to large peach. One knife. Here's How You Do It: Before you make love, cut a circle about an inch and a half in diameter all the way through the peach from the top down. Remove the core, including the pit. Get your man naked. With him standing, kneel down in front him. Slide the peach over his penis until it is all the way to the back of the shaft and continue holding it with your hand. Pleasure your man orally while, at the same time, squeezing and rotating the peach. Turn it clockwise, then counterclockwise, and move it up and down the shaft. The juice from the peach will trickle down the shaft, onto the head and into your mouth. Continue pleasuring him orally and rotating the peach until you've extracted the delectable nectar.
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#52 The Reclining Swan Every so often, you need a position where your man can just sit back and enjoy the ride -and the view. This is probably the best position for just that. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You, too. Place a couple of pillows against the headboard and have your man sit with his back propped up against them, legs extended (he should be comfortable and look as if he were reading in bed). Straddle his lap, facing him, and lower yourself onto his erect penis. Once he's all the way inside you, put your arms behind you. Your hands should be on the bed, about where his knees are, supporting you. Now lift your legs up one at a time and place your feet on the headboard just over his shoulders. Bracing yourself with your hands, move up and down on your man's penis. This is a position he will never forget.
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#53 Magic Shell-atio This is a great technique using the dessert topping that hardens when poured over ice cream. It won't be the only thing hard tonight. Here's What You Need: One bottle of "hard shell" chocolate ice cream topping. One teaspoon of butter or margarine. One oblong-shaped balloon or unlubricated condom. One knife. Here's How You Do It: About an hour before the two of you are going to make love, fill the balloon with cold water and tie off the stem. Place it in the freezer and leave it there for the entire hour. Take the balloon out of the freezer and rub a little butter or margarine on it. Holding it by the stem over a sink, squeeze the "hard shell" chocolate topping over the balloon, completely coating it. Wait about thirty seconds for the topping to harden, then lay the balloon on its side on the edge of the sink. The stem should be hanging over the sink. Using the knife, cut a hole in the balloon at the stem and let the water drain into the sink. As the balloon shrinks, you'll be able to peel it away from the chocolate shell. When it's completely drained, throw the balloon away. Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Insert your man's penis into the chilled shell. Pleasure him orally.
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#54 The Dueling "O's" Here's an incredibly stimulating hand technique that your man will be thinking about for weeks. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs spread apart. Sit in between his legs. Form a ring with the thumb and index finger of one your hands. Your other fingers should be splayed out (your hand should look like you're giving the traditional "okay" sign). Insert your man's penis through the ring. Form the same ring with your other hand. Rotate your forearm so that when you put this second ring around his penis, both of your thumbs are touching (in other words, pretend that you were put in handcuffs, then rotate your arms ninety degrees to one side). The rings you've created with your thumbs and forefingers should meet in the center of your man's penis. Simultaneously slide the bottom ring toward the base of his shaft and the top ring toward the head of his penis. Once they reach their respective ends, bring both rings back to the middle. Do this slowly at first, then gradually speed up. In a matter of just a few minutes, your man will be in the throes of a powerful orgasm.
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#55 The Cocoa Push-up Here's a fun variation on the classic "chocolate syrup" technique. Here's What You Need: One can of chocolate syrup. One plastic cup. One towel. Here's How You Do It: Pour the chocolate syrup into the plastic cup. Spread the towel on the floor. Get your man naked. Kiss, lick and apply gentle suction to his penis, testicles and thighs until he becomes erect. Now place the cup of chocolate syrup in the middle of the towel. Tell your man to assume the "push-up" position, with his penis dangling directly over the cup. Steady the cup with your hand and tell your man to start doing push-ups, each time dipping his penis into the chocolate syrup. When he can't do anymore push-ups, pull the cup away and have your man flip over onto his back. Reward your man by pleasuring him orally, chocolate-covered penis and all.
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#56 Squeeze & Please That cool, minty feeling you get after you've brushed your teeth feels great in your mouth. It'll feel even better on him. Here's What You Need: One toothbrush. One tube of toothpaste. Here's How You Do It: Get you man naked. Have him lie on his back. Apply the toothpaste to the brush and give your teeth a thorough brushing. Spit out the excess toothpaste, but do not rinse. Pleasure your man orally until he provides you with his own brand of pearl drops.
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#57 The Fireman's Hose This is one of the most satisfying hand techniques you'll ever learn. It's been done for centuries, and for good reason. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his knees bent and legs wide apart. Apply the lubricant to both of your hands. Rub your hands together, giving the lubricant a chance to warm up. Extend one of your hands, palm up, and grasp your man's penis from the underside at the base of the shaft. Pull your hand towards you until it clears the head of his penis. As soon as that hand leaves the base of his shaft, grasp it with the other hand and perform the exact same motion (it should look as if you are pulling in a long rope). Keep repeating this motion, varying the speed and intensity, until you find the combination your man likes best. Continue until your man erupts in a five-alarm orgasm.
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#58 The Frozen Jewels This technique causes an additional involuntary muscle contraction as your man reaches orgasm, sending an even more intense wave of pleasure rushing through his body. Here's What You Need: Two ice cubes. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs apart. Tell your man to let you know when he is about to reach orgasm. Hold the two ice cubes in either hand and pleasure him orally. Do not let the ice cubes touch his body -- yet. When your man lets you know that he is past the point of no return, quickly and firmly press the ice cubes against his testicles while continuing to pleasure him orally. He will experience a truly earth-shattering orgasm. Afterwards, you can sing a few bars of "Ice Ice, Baby."
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#59
The Drugstore Rocking Horse
This is a must-try position that will give you a lot of control. It'll give him a great view, plus worlds of freedom to thrust as wildly as he can. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You, too. Tell your man to sit on the edge of the bed. Have him lie down on his back with his feet still touching the floor. Now have him move down until only his upper back and shoulders are resting on the bed. Straddling his legs, mount your man and begin to make love. Take turns thrusting, if you like. With you on top, you can choose the depth, speed and intensity with which you come down on his penis. He can use his hips to power himself up and inside of you like he never has before. Continue until you hear your man holler, "Yee-haw!"
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#60 The Door-gasm Here's the home version of a classic technique. Your man won't know if he's coming or going. Here's What You Need: One closet or bedroom door. One Phillips screwdriver. Here's How You Do It: Tell your man to remove the doorknob and latch from the door, leaving only the exposed hole. Make sure the hole is free of splinters. Get your man naked. Have him stand on the side of the door that swings toward him (he's going to need to be on that side since he's probably going to be pressing against it pretty hard in a couple of minutes). You get on the other side of the door and close it. Tell your man to insert his penis through the hole in the door (depending on his height and the design of your door, he may need to stand on something in order to do this comfortably). Using your hands, stimulate your man until he is erect. Kneel down and pleasure him orally. Continue until you ring his bell.
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#61 The Inverted Cane After the holidays, there are always a few peppermint candy canes left over. Here's how to use one of them in a way "yule" both enjoy. Here's What You Need: One peppermint candy cane. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him stand. Kneel down in front of him and unwrap the candy cane. Using your mouth, moisten the curved portion of the cane. Turn it upside-down so it resembles the letter "J" and hook your man's penis with it. Pull up on the cane, raising his penis to your mouth, and pleasure him orally. Move the candy cane back and forth along the shaft of your man's penis while stimulating the head with your mouth. Vary the speed and intensity with which you do both. Remoisten the candy cane as needed. Keep doing this until your man's bells are totally jingled.
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#62 Twiddling The Hickory Are you ready for another awesome hand technique that will have him screaming your name in ecstasy? This one's a classic. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs spread. Sit in between your man's legs, "Indian-style." Apply a very small amount of lubricant to your thumbs. Interlock your fingers and start "twiddling your thumbs" (you know the motion we're talking about; your thumbs are, in effect, chasing each other in circles). Put your man's penis through the hole between your fingers and thumbs. Resume twiddling your thumbs. Bring your hands down so that your thumbs are continually stroking the underside of the penis, just below the head. Go in one direction for a minute, then the other. Keep reversing every so often until your man builds to an amazing orgasm.
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#63
The Pecan Mummy
If you're not into making love in the morning, you're selling your man short. After a night full of erotic dreams, you better believe he would love to wake up to an even sexier reality. Here's a great way to start his day. Here's What You Need: One pecan twirl pastry. Here's How You Do It: If your man isn't already naked, get him that way. Take the pecan twirl and break off only the outer-most circle (this part is usually somewhat dry and brittle and wouldn't lend itself to this technique). Now unroll the moist inner circles of the twirl until you have one long strip of pastry. Starting at the base of your man's penis, roll the pastry around the shaft all the way up to the head. Be careful not to break the twirl. Once you're done, nibble away at the top portion of the twirl until you have uncovered the head of your man's penis. Pleasure that portion of your man orally. Nibble away another section of the twirl and pleasure the newly uncovered section. Keep going until you have nibbled away all of the twirl. Pleasure your man fully until he explodes in a day-breaking orgasm.
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#64 Niagara In A Barrel This is a great position that lets him know you are ready and willing to fulfill his every sexual desire. Here's What You Need: One bed Two pillows. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You, too. Both of you get on the bed and begin making love. Sliding on your back, maneuver your head to the edge of the bed. Place the two pillows on the floor underneath your head. Keep sliding until your head and shoulders go over the edge and down onto the pillows (only the lower half of your body should still be on the bed). Your man should remain on the bed completely, on top of you. This position will stretch you in a way he'll find incredibly pleasurable. Continue until you've got your man over a barrel.
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#65 The One-Fingered Parrot This is a great technique every time you do it for your man -- but the first time is always the best. The trick is not letting him in on what you're doing ahead of time. It may take a couple of minutes to make the connection, but once he does he'll have the time of his life. And you'll probably learn a lot about what he likes, as well. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs apart. Lie down between his legs. Extend one of your arms and lay it on his chest. Point your index finger at your man, just in front of his mouth, and keep it there. Now wait for him to do something to your index finger. Usually, he'll kiss it. As soon as he does, you kiss his penis in the corresponding spot. If he kisses the tip of your finger, you kiss the tip of his penis. Don't do anything to him until he does it to your finger. If he asks you what's going on, don't say a word. Just wag your finger at him to refocus his attention. Eventually, he'll catch on to the fact that whatever he does to your finger, you'll do to his penis. Once he realizes this, watch out. Your man is going to go crazy with this new-found power. Keep doing whatever he does to your finger until he erupts in one of the most satisfying orgasms you could ever give him.
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#66 Chocolate Cherries Jubilee It's amazing how much pleasure you can derive from a single chocolate-covered cherry. Here's a fantastic technique guaranteed to satisfy his sweet tooth -- and all the rest of them, too. Here's What You Need: One chocolate-covered cherry. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Turn the chocolate-covered cherry upside-down and bite off the flat portion. You should now have a chocolate "wafer" in your mouth, and be holding a chocolate cup filled with juice and a cherry. Bite the wafer into halves and set one half on each of his nipples. Hold the cup above your man's legs and tilt it so that the juice drizzles onto his inner thighs. Do not let the cherry fall out. Using your mouth and tongue, slowly lick the juice off your man's thighs. He will find this incredibly arousing. Now place the cherry in your mouth. Give your man a deep, long, passionate kiss pushing the cherry into his mouth. By now, the chocolate on his nipples should be soft. Using your mouth and tongue, suck and lick it away from each nipple. Finally, turn the chocolate cup over and place it on the head of his penis. Pleasure him orally. Continue until he discovers that life really is a bowl of cherries.
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#67 The Alley Cat Once you treat your man to this position, it will immediately become one his mostrequested favorites. Here's What You Need: Two pillows. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You, too. Lie down on the bed on your stomach. Place both pillows under your hips, stacked one on top of the other. This positions your vagina in the air nicely and gives your man a wonderful view of the festivities. It also provides for a deep and satisfying amount of penetration. Have him enter you from behind and begin thrusting. Continue until he reaches a "cat-aclysmic" orgasm.
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#68 Brew-topia In England, tea time is usually at four o'clock in the afternoon; but you can spring this classic technique on your man anytime and really heat things up in the bedroom. Here's What You Need: One cup of hot tea (not scalding). Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him stand. Kneel down in front of your man and take a sip of tea. Do not swallow it. Press your closed lips against the head of his penis and quickly take it into your mouth (try not to allow any of the tea to escape). Keep your head still for about fifteen seconds, allowing your man to fully experience the heating sensation. Pleasure your man orally, take additional sips of tea as needed. Continue until he yells, "The British are coming! The British are coming!"
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#69 Griffin's Throttle Here's a great hand technique that your man won't be able to get enough of. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him stand. Sit down beside your man, facing him. Apply a small amount of lubricant to you hands. Rub them together to allow the lubricant to warm up. Using the hand nearest your man's body (if you're sitting on his right side, that would be your left hand), grasp his penis. Hold it like you would hold a handle bar. Flex your wrist up and down as if you were "revving" the throttle on a motorcycle. When his penis is fully erect, add your other hand. Flex your wrists in opposite directions (when you flex your left wrist up, flex your right wrist down and viceversa). The bottom half of his penis will feel clockwise stimulation at the same time the top half feels it counterclockwise. Continue until he "pops a wheelie" good orgasm.
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#70 The Licorice Lasso Here's a fun and playful way to tie your man up. Here's What You Need: One bag of long licorice whips. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on the bed with his arms above his head. Take one length of licorice and tie his right wrist to the bedpost. Do the same with his left. Kiss, lick, stroke and generally tease your man. When his penis is erect, tie another strand of licorice around it. Pull on the licorice whip to guide your man's penis into your mouth. Pleasure him orally.
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#71 The Batter's Box There's an often neglected erogenous zone on your man. It's the area between his testicles and anus. Many people refer to this area as the "male G-spot." Give it some attention tonight. Here's What You Need: One washcloth. Here's How You Do It: Run hot water over the washcloth until it is completely saturated. Wring it out. Fold the washcloth in half one way, then in thirds the other way. You should now have a steaming rectangle. Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs wide apart. Position yourself between your man's legs and run the washcloth down his penis, over to his testicles and, finally, to his perineum -- the area between his testicles and anus. Press the washcloth firmly against this area and let the moist heat relax your man. As you continue to hold the washcloth in place, pleasure your man orally. Continue until he "sends one out of the park."
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The Porch Of Passion
This technique is definitely one of the most enjoyable ever. Here's What You Need: One porch swing. Here's How You Do It: If you are able to, adjust the height of the porch swing so that the seat is even with the height of your man's penis. Get your man naked. You, too. Sit in the porch swing and move forward so that your vagina is even with the edge of the seat. Have your man enter you. Raise your legs up and let them rest on his shoulders. Have your man grasp the edge of the swing with his hands and rock you back and forth on his penis. This is incredibly relaxing and makes for a most satisfying orgasm.
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#73 Maximum Altoid-tude This is the infamous Altoid technique. Need we say more? Here's What You Need: One mint. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Place the mint in your mouth and let it partially dissolve. Pleasure your man orally, pausing frequently to blow a small stream of air over the head and shaft of your man's penis (this will create an amazing cooling sensation). Continue until he achieves a curiously strong orgasm.
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#74 Cleopatra's Cuckoo Clock This is a terrific technique you can do using just your hands. When they're lucky enough to find your wife that knows how to do it, men go absolutely crazy for it. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Sit beside your man, facing him. Using your hands, caress his penis, testicles and inner thighs. Once he is erect, grip the shaft of his penis with one of your hands and give him one quick up-and-down stroke (you should be gripping his penis firmly enough so that his skin moves along with your hand). The clock has struck one. Go back to the gentle caresses for another fifteen seconds, then give his penis two up-and-down strokes. The clock has struck two. Do the same thing again, except this time give him three strokes, and so on. When your man feels that he is on the brink of orgasm, he has to say the word "Cuckoo." At that point give him as many strokes as it takes to put him over the top.
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#75 Baskin Throbbins Here's a classic technique that feels surprisingly good. Serve your favorite flavor up tonight -- along with your man. Here's What You Need: One scoop of smooth ice cream (don't use flavors with bits of cookies or candy bars in it). Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Place a generous amount if ice cream in your mouth. Pursing your lips, use your tongue to push the ice cream to the front of your mouth. Touch the head of your man's penis with the ice cream, slowly tracing circles around it. As the ice cream begins to melt, take more of your man's penis into your mouth. Use your tongue to lick any drops of melted ice cream that have run down his penis and onto his testicles. Pleasure him orally.
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#76 Fruit Roll Frenzy This is an amazingly fun technique that will have your man writhing in pleasure. Here's What You Need: One pressed fruit roll, any flavor. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Kiss and lick his penis, testicles and thighs until your man's penis is erect. Wrap the fruit roll firmly around your man's penis. Lick the exposed edge and press it against the wrapped portion to help it stay on. Take the fruit roll into your mouth. It will begin to dissolve, exposing your man's penis. You can speed up this process by nibbling bits of the fruit roll away. Pleasure your man orally. Continue until you "roll" him over.
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#77 In-line Enchantment Your man has never had an experience like this before. The larger the space you have to move around in, the better. Here's What You Need: One pair of in-line or classic roller skates. Here's How You Do It: Get naked and put on the skates in a non-carpeted area of your house. Invite your man in and get him naked, too. Have your man stand behind you. Bracing yourself against a wall or chair, bend over and have your man enter you from behind, his hands on your hips. Now point yourself in a direction where there is ample open space. Have your man thrust himself in and out of you, each thrust rolling your skates forward (your man must keep his hands on your hips to help you balance). He'll be walking behind you as he propels you forward. Continue until you give new meaning to the words "couple skate."
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#78 The Concord Catapult Here's a great game with a terrific payoff for your man. You'll both have a night full of laughs doing this one. Here's What You Need: One bunch of seedless grapes. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his knees bent and legs slightly apart. Caress and gently stroke his penis, testicles and thighs until your man's penis is fully erect. Position your mouth in between your man's knees. Have him pick a grape from the bunch and, using his index finger, hold it against the underside of his penis. Your man should now press with his finger, pulling his erect penis back against his stomach. Have him remove his finger, causing his penis to spring forward, launching the grape toward you. Move your head so that you catch the grape in your mouth. It will undoubtedly take a few tries until you both get an idea of where the grape is actually going to go. This is part of the fun. When you successfully catch a grape, don't swallow it. Once you have three grapes in your mouth, keep them there and pleasure your man orally.
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#79 Palming The Gopher Here's another classic technique that will send your man over the edge in no time. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs apart. Sit in between your man's legs, "Indian-style." Place a small amount of lubricant in the center of one of your palms. Using your other hand, grasp the shaft of your man's penis. Only the head should be sticking out above your hand. Extend the lubricated hand out flat, palm down, and rub the head of your man's penis in a clockwise, circular motion. As you form a circle around the head, turn your wrist slightly, stimulating the sides of the head as well as the tip. After about a minute, reverse your direction to counterclockwise. Continue making circles, reversing every so often, until your man explodes in a leg-quivering orgasm.
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#80 The Singapore Slammer This is a wonderful technique that will set you apart from every other woman out there. Use it with caution, though -- guys can easily get addicted to this one. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him stand next to the bed. Lie on the bed on your back and let your head hang over the edge. Have your man position himself in front of your mouth and pleasure him orally. It's only natural for your man to want to thrust himself in and out of your mouth. This position helps to relax your throat muscles, but it also makes you more vulnerable to unwanted or "too-deep" thrusts. You can amend this by forming a circle with your thumb and index finger and placing it around your mouth (your hand will then limit his ability to thrust deeper than you wish). This technique provides an unbelievable amount of eroticism and unique stimulation for your man and always results in a profoundly pleasurable orgasm.
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#81 The Cardboard Collar It's probably hard for you to believe that this actually works, but it does. Don't take our word for it, though. Try it out on your man and let him be the judge. Here's What You Need: One empty bathroom tissue roll. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him sit. Tear off one third to one half of the bathroom tissue core and throw it away. Kneel down in front of your man and pull his flaccid penis through the remaining portion of the core (the head of his penis can stick out of the core, but his shaft should be completely covered). Now caress his testicles. Kiss and lick his inner thighs. Do whatever it takes to make his penis erect. As it hardens, the core will tighten around it. Continue teasing him for at least five minutes, making sure he is maintaining a constant erection. Pleasure the head of his penis orally. Only after at least five minutes have passed, use your fingers to tear the paper core off his penis. Now his shaft will be super-sensitive to any stimulation you give it. Pleasure him orally until he erupts in a spectacular orgasm.
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#82 Waterbedlum If you own a waterbed or ever have the opportunity to sleep on one, don't let a single night pass before you give this technique a try. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. One waterbed. Here's How You Do It: Strip the sheets completely off the waterbed. Get your man naked. You, too. Both of you get in the middle of the waterbed. Take turns rubbing the lubricant all over each other's bodies. Touch, caress and fondle each other for a prolonged period of time. Change positions often. Gradually commence intercourse. You'll both be slipping and sliding off each other and around on the bed. It will be almost impossible hold one position for very long. This will be one of the most enjoyable and playful nights the two of you have ever spent together.
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The Lounge Lizard
This is truly a favorite of men everywhere. Just the thought of it is enough to bring most guys to full attention. There's something about being on his stomach that makes everything your man feels much more intense. Perhaps it's the increased blood flow caused by gravity. Here's What You Need: One webbed patio lounge chair. Two pillows. One roll of masking tape. Here's How You Do It: Adjust the back of the lounge chair so that it lays flat (if it won't go down all the way, don't worry about it; we'll fix that in a second). Place the pillows directly under the chair, lengthwise. Pull the center-most straps apart and, using the masking tape, affix them to the next-closest straps. This creates an opening in the chair about four or five inches wide. Get your man naked. Have him lie in the chair on his stomach. If the chair is flat, he can lie with his head in either direction. If the back of the chair is still at a bit of an angle, have him lie with his head at the other end (his knees can easily bend where the back of the chair starts to rise and his feet will rest where one's head would normally go). Your man's penis should now be dangling through the opening. Get under the chair and lie on your back on top of the pillows. Position your mouth directly under your man's penis. Grip the outermost edges of the chair and pull yourself up and pleasure your man orally.
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Kneading The Cruller
Here's a classic technique that not many people know about anymore. You can bet your man has never been stimulated like this. Here's What You Need: One bottle of water-based lubricant. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You, too. Have him lie on the floor, on his back. Sit down at your man's side, facing him. Swing your legs over your man and place both feet on the floor on the opposite side (with your legs together and slightly bent, your knees should be directly over his penis). Apply a small amount of lubricant to the insides of your knees. Now straighten out your legs until you capture his penis in between your knees. Gently press them together, your man's penis in the middle. With both of your heels planted on the floor, point your right toe upwards. This will cause your right knee to bend, rubbing either the top or underside of your man's penis (depending on which side you're sitting). As you put that toe back down, point the other one up at the same time. Now the other side of his penis is getting stimulated. Keep alternating back and forth. Continue until your man erupts in a satisfying orgasm.
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#85 Skittle-gasm A lot of women get their tongue pierced because it makes oral sex for their men that much more stimulating. Here's a way you can get the same effect without the selfmutilation. Here's What You Need: One bag of small, ball-shaped candy. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Open the bag of candy and place one of the balls in your mouth. Do not bite down on it. With the candy in the middle of your tongue, pleasure your man orally. Press the candy ball between your tongue and the underside of your man's penis. As you move your head up and down, the ball will roll along his penis as it follows your tongue. Continue until your man has a ball of his own.
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#86 The Tingling Typewriter Since computers have come along, it's hard to even remember what it was like to work on a typewriter. You need the think back, though, because tonight you're going to type your man the best letter he's ever received. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Lie on your stomach beside your man, facing him. Using your index finger, press the head of your man's penis against his stomach. Gently fondle his testicles with your other hand. Starting at the base of his shaft, flick your tongue back and forth along the exposed underside of your man's penis. Slowly move upward until you reach the head of his penis (your tongue should feel like the small keys of a typewriter typing away at paper). Once you reach the head, quickly run your flattened tongue back down the shaft in a single, long stroke. That's the carriage return. Continue until your man achieves an orgasm worth writing home about.
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Sweaterotica
You know how soft and sensual Angora feels against your skin? Imagine how good if feels against your man's most sensitive flesh. Here's What You Need: One Angora sweater. Here's How You Do It: Get you man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs slightly apart. Put on the sweater. Pull one sleeve down so that it covers your hand completely. Brush your sweater-covered hand lightly against your man's testicles. Do this for at least a minute, then wrap your hand around his penis and pleasure him manually. Continue until your man approaches orgasm. Then, since you probably want to keep your sweater clean, place your mouth over his penis as he climaxes.
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#88 Aunt Good Time-a A sweet, mouth-watering trickle of maple syrup -- it's not just for breakfast anymore. Here's What You Need: One bottle of maple syrup. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Hold the bottle about twelve inches above your man's body and apply a small amount of syrup to his penis and inner thighs. Using your tongue, lick the syrup from his inner thighs. This will give the syrup you poured on his penis time to spread down over his testicles. Use your tongue there next. Pleasure your man orally, taking time to slowly and methodically lick and suck the remaining syrup into your mouth. Continue until your man pops up like a toaster waffle.
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#89 The Windsor Boa This is a great way to prolong your lovemaking. Done properly, your man will remain erect for as long as you both like. Here's What You Need: One silk necktie. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You, too. Have him lie on his back. Wrap the middle of the necktie once around the base of his penis (the ends of the tie should now be facing in opposite directions). Wrap the ends around your hands and hold them. Now its time for a little test: Tell your man that you are going to pull the ends. His job is to tell you when it becomes too tight or uncomfortable. Make a mental note of the amount of force you are using when he says, "That's enough." Pleasure your man orally. Keep both ends of the necktie wrapped around your hands. When either you sense he is about to reach orgasm or he tells you, pause in your pleasuring and pull the ends of the necktie so that the loop around his penis tightens and constricts. Hold it for five to ten seconds, then release it and begin pleasuring him again (once you've done this a few times, you'll get a sense of exactly how tight and how long you have to pull and hold the necktie). Now climb on top of your man and ride up and down on his penis until it's time to tighten the tie again. Every time you delay your man's orgasm, it builds the intensity. When it finally is time for him to release himself, it will be one the greatest orgasms of his life.
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#90 The Jamaican Hummingbird Here's a classic technique that will have your man whistling a happy tune all week long. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Begin to pleasure him orally. As you do, start to hum. The lower the notes you're humming, the better. The vibration from your lips will make him crazy. Continue until he has one "humdinger" of an orgasm.
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#91 The Blueberry Swirl This one feels indescribably good. Your man will not be able to get enough of it, so you might want to buy the blueberries in bulk. Here's What You Need: One bag of frozen blueberries. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Open the bag of frozen blueberries and take out about a tablespoon's worth of fruit. Put them into your mouth (if there are any ice particles on the blueberries, or if any are frozen together, fifteen or twenty seconds in your mouth should take care it). With the blueberries in your mouth, pleasure your man orally. Using your tongue, move the blueberries around the head of your man's penis. As the blueberries thaw, they may lose their pleasuring effect. Add more blueberries to your mouth if you like; otherwise, just keep going until your man explodes in an awesome orgasm.
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#92 Name That Nipple Here's a great game the two of you should play. Pretend your man is a contestant on a game show. You're the host -- and the grand prize. Here's What You Need: One bag of hard candy in assorted flavors. One scarf. One damp washcloth. One very pathetic "lovely parting gift." Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You should still be clothed, but not wearing a bra. Have him sit in a chair. In your best game show announcer voice, welcome him to the show and explain how the game is played. It should go something like this: "Welcome to Name That Nipple. Here's how we play our game." Now take your shirt off, revealing your bare breasts. "I've got a bag of candy here in all different flavors. I'm going to rub a piece of candy onto one of my nipples, and you have to guess the flavor. If you reach five incorrect guesses first, you get this bag of instant soup mix as our lovely parting gift to you. If you get five correct guesses first, you get -- me. Are you ready to play our game?" Using the scarf, blindfold your man. Put a piece of candy in your mouth and give it time to partially dissolve. Now rub it on one of your nipples. Present your nipple to him. Ask him him to suck on it, then guess the flavor. Repeat, using a new candy and the other nipple. Use the washcloth to remove excess flavoring from your nipples. If your man gets five right before he gets five wrong, remove his blindfold and let him do whatever he wants with you as a grand prize.
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#93 Jell-atio Not only is this technique fun to do, it gives your man a series of interesting sensations he's probably never experienced before. Here's What You Need: One gelatin shooter in a paper cup. One spoon. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Use the spoon to carve out a small portion in the center of the shooter, about an inch in diameter and a half an inch deep. Remove it and feed it to your man. Turn the shooter upside-down and place it on the head of your man's erect penis. Once it's balanced on the head, tear away the paper cup. Using your tongue, carefully lick around the shaft of his penis, being careful not to disturb the shooter. Open your mouth wide and take in the entire shooter. As the gelatin breaks up, pleasure your man orally. Keep it in your mouth and give your man one of the wildest treats of his life.
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#94 The Grecian Wonder Bar There's something about having the muscles in the upper-body contracted at the moment of orgasm that immensely heightens the experience for a man. Variations of this technique have been around for centuries. Here's the modern-day version. Here's What You Need: One chin-up bar. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him stand underneath the chin-up bar. Kneel down in front of him and tell your man that, when he feels himself approaching orgasm, he should lift his legs off the ground and try to raise his head above the bar. Pleasure your man orally. As soon as his legs come off the ground, stimulate your man's penis only with your hands. This will make it easier for you to follow his body upward. Keep stimulating him until he reaches orgasm. You will induce one of the most powerful orgasms he has ever experienced.
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#95 The Wheelbarrow Here's a great position your man will absolutely love. It allows for extra-deep penetration and puts him in total control of speed and intensity. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. You, too. Get down on the floor, on all fours. Tell your man to squat down and enter you from behind. Have your man wrap his forearms around your thighs and stand up while remaining inside you. Straighten your legs and push yourself up. You will now be in the classic "wheelbarrow" position. Now have your man begin thrusting. Let him enjoy the truly erotic nature of this position until orgasm.
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#96 The Pleasure Cone Guys are instantly turned on at the sight of your wife eating an ice cream cone. They're usually thinking, "Man, I wish I was that cone." Tonight, he gets his wish. Here's What You Need: One cake cone. One can of non-dairy whipped topping. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back. Bite off the bottom of the cone, creating a hole wide enough for his penis to fit through. Carefully insert his penis through the bottom of the cone, then fill the remaining open space inside of the cone with whipped topping. Lick the whipped topping from around his penis. Nibble away at the cone, revealing more and more of his penis. Making sure there are no sharp bits of cone in your mouth, pleasure him orally. Keep nibbling the cone, licking the whipped topping and pleasuring your man orally until the cone is completely gone and your man erupts in a triple-scoop orgasm.
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#97 The Ginseng Drop This is an incredibly erotic technique that stimulates an often overlooked area of your man's body -- his testicles. Here's What You Need: Just the two of you. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him get down on the floor, on all fours. Lie down behind him on your back. Position your head between his legs and place your hands on his hips. Have your man lower his hips toward you. As he does, his testicles should find their way into your mouth. Gentle flicks of the tongue will drive your man wild. After about fifteen seconds, push up on his hips to get him to rise. Do this a few times and he will be in ecstasy. Now move your body forward so that the next time he dips, his penis will be in front of your mouth. Pleasure him orally until he explodes in a mind-numbing orgasm.
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#98 The Beaded Mill Have you ever seen those back-massaging seat covers all the New York taxi drivers use? Well, here's a smaller version for your man's penis that will drive him absolutely crazy. Here's What You Need: One pearl necklace. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him lie on his back with his legs apart. Sit in between his legs, "Indian-style." Wrap the pearl necklace loosely around his penis. Start from the bottom and loop a single strand all the way to the top. Now with your palms and fingers out straight, put his pearl-covered penis between your hands. Rub your hands back and forth (if they were together, it would look as if you were trying to warm them). As you move your hands back and forth, the pearls should glide over his penis, following your hands. After a minute or so, wrap only one hand around his penis. Move the pearls up and down along the shaft. Alternate between the back-and-forth and up-and-down motion until you see more pearls than just what's on the necklace.
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#99 The Priority Male Here's another great game that will teach you more about what turns your man on than you can imagine. Here's What You Need: Four postage stamps, all connected. One stopwatch. Here's How You Do It: Give your man the postage stamps and the stopwatch. Send him into another room and tell him to get naked. Instruct him to moisten one end of the postage stamps and wrap them snugly around his flaccid penis. Have him stick the moist end to the top of the other end, securing the ring. Wait about thirty seconds to make sure the glue holds (the glue should not be sticking to his skin; just to the other end of the stamps). Tell your man that when you come into the room, he should start the stop watch. Get yourself naked and walk into the room. Now it's up to you to do whatever you think will turn him on the most, WITHOUT touching his penis. Whisper dirty suggestions in his ear, stimulate yourself in front of him, use your tongue and mouth on any other part of his body -- do whatever it takes. As his penis becomes erect, it will break the ring of stamps. At that point, click off the stop watch and see how long it took you to break the ring of stamps. Make love to your man. Next week, try it again and see if you can better your time.
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#100 Asti Spermanti Celebrate your man's love for you with a nice glass of champagne. He'll be glad you did. Here's What You Need: One glass of champagne. Here's How You Do It: Get your man naked. Have him stand. With a glass of champagne in hand, kneel in front of your man. Take a big sip of champagne and hold it in your mouth. Do not swallow it. Press your lips against the head of your man's penis. Take his penis into your mouth without letting any of the champagne escape. Swish the champagne around in your mouth. This will cause thousands of tiny bubbles to swirl around your man's sensitive and now incredibly aroused penis. Pleasure your man orally, taking fresh sips of champagne as needed. Continue until you pop his cork.
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Some of the techniques within this book are sexually and emotionally powerful. Although these techniques and activities can have dramatically positive effects on your (and your spouse’s) physical and emotional well-being, people that have high blood pressure, heart disease or a generally weak condition should proceed slowly. If necessary, consult a physician before implementing any included techniques. Nothing within this publication should be considered medical advice. How To Put Your Wife In The Mood™ is a publication of SPI Publications. Additional copies of this publication can be obtained at: www.christiansexhelp.com
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