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"Small Talk Tactics" How to Make Small Talk Sexy and Use it to Create Attraction in a Woman You're Interacting With…
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DearFriend, IhopeI IhopeIwas wasn't n'ttoo toograp graphi hicin cinthe thesto storya ryabove bove(bu (butif tifIw Iwas… as…gob gobuyy uyyourse ourselfa lfaDr. Dr.Phil Philboo book, k, becauseI'mnottheguytohelpyou.) Unfortu Unfortunate nately, ly,the themem memoryi oryissti sstillp llpretty rettyviv vividi idinmy nmymind mind.I .Ina naminu minuteI teI'mg 'mgoin oingto gtotel tellyo lyou u thestory…andIthinkyou'regoingtolearnavaluablelessonfromit. Andthe AndthenI' nI'mgo mgoing ingto togive giveyou yousom some"Je e"Jedi disecr secrets" ets"so sothat thatyou youne neverf verfind indyou yoursel rselfin finthe the samepositionIdid.Iwouldnotwishthatfeelingofunbearablehumiliationonanyone… BeforeI BeforeIget getint intoth othest estory ory…Ij …Ijust ustwant wantto tolist listsom someof eofmor moreco ecommon mmonad advice viceyou youmay mayha have ve heardfrom"gurus"teachingyouhowtoimproveyourconversations… Talkaboutsomethingyou'repassionateabout… Lookforthingsyouhaveincommon… Makesmoothtransitions…
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Letherdoallthetalking… Avoidflufftalk…
I'mcallingBullshitonEVERYpieceofadvicelistedabove….And prettymuch75%oftheadvicebeingpawnedoffoncrafting conversationsthatgetyouLAID… conversationsthatgetyouLAID… ThestorythatIreferencedatthebeginningofthisreporthappenedfouryearsago… butitisstillcrystalclearinmymind. Ihadvisitedmyoldfraternity'shouseinhopesofscoringahotyoungpieceof collegetail. AfterfinishingcollegeIhadgoneintoabitofa"slump"withwomen…andwas desperatelyhopingthistrekbacktomyoldstompinggroundwoulddothetricktowards endingthedraught. Ihadalsorecentlystumbleduponbookslike"TheGame"and"TheVenusiansArts Handbook"soIwasprettyconfidentthatIwouldraidthatfrathouseofeveryhornycoed Icouldgetmygrubbyhandson. Theentirenightmygameconsistedoftwo"gears."InthefirstgearIwasin"dancing monkey"mode…tryingtoneggirls,demonstratemassivevalue,dothe"Jealousboyfriend-stealing-ring-around-the-Rosieroutine…"orwhateverelseIcoulddrawinto mymindfromrecentforumpostsandeBooksIhadread. Thesecond"gear"thatIwouldgointowouldbe"singlefocusedrapport"mode.In thismodeIwouldfindsomethingIhadincommonwithagirl,andthenproceedtodrill intoituntilIsuckedthattopiccompletelydry. …BacktothegirlwiththebunnyrabbithandstrokeIreferencedearlier… IfirstcaughtaglimpseofherwhenIwasfillingmybeerupinthekitchen.Shehada MarisaTomeilikequalitytoherthatIfoundirresistiblycute. Inoticedthatshewaseatingsomething,somyPUAinfestedmindimmediately thought"NEGHER!" SoIsay,"Youmusthavesomeappetite,chowingdowninafrathouse?"
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Inthecutestlittlevoiceshesays"Yea,Icamerightfromworkandneededtoeat somethingbeforeIstartdrinking" Isay,"Whatyoueating?" Shesortofflashesmesomeorganichealthnutveggiebarorsomething… Thismustbemyluckyday… Ihadbeeninahelluvahealthcrazemyself…soIimmediatelyfelttheneedto demonstratemysuperiorknowledgeofhealthfoodproducts… SherespondedjustasIhoped! Soonwewerethickinthemiddleofapassionateconversationaboutourfavorite fruitsmoothies,yogatechniques,thebestorganicfibersupplements….Andthenwe touchedupontheHolyGrailofsimilarinterests…GaryNull. GaryNullwasahealthguruwithacultlikefollowing…andwewerebothmembersof thiscult. Ithoughtthatthisbasicallysealedthedealforme… WespentthenexthourtalkingaboutourfavoriteGaryNullbooks,quotes,and recipes…Weboth"scoffed"atalloftheotherpartygoerswhodidn'tshareour vegetarianideals…AndgleefullymadeplanstosomedaygototheGaryNullcenterin NYtogether. WhensheexcusedherselftogoupstairstothebathroomIbeganaskingmyfriends ifanyofthemhadacondomtheycouldspare.Iputoneinmypocketandwaitedforher tocomeback. Shedidn'tcomeback. AfterabouttwentyminutesIgotalittle"sick"anddecidedtolookforher.Istarted walkingupstairsandsawherchattingwithoneofmyfratbrothers... Thisguywasanalcoholic,drugusing,wiseass…whowouldhavelaughedatherif shetoldhimshewasavegan…soIwasconvincedshe'dbebackdowntoher"soul mate"withinminutes. She never came. AfteranothertwentyminutesIstalkedheroutupstairs.
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ThatwaswhenIpeakedinthedoor,sawhergivingmybuddyahandjob,andshe turnedandlookedatmewithpityinhereyes,asiftosay,"You'rereallynice…butI'm heretoparty,nottalkaboutGaryNull…loser." Icouldn'tfigureitout.Ibuiltrapport.Iwaspassionate.Igothertalking.Andwe completelyavoidsmalltalk.
Is"SmallTalk"YourMissingLinktoDatingandSeductionSuccess? Is"SmallTalk"YourMissingLinktoDatingandSeductionSuccess? Nowyoumaybereallyconfusedasthisprobablygoesagainsteverythingyou've beentaughtbyvariousdatingcoachesandpickupartistsintheseductioncommunity. But hear me out… Ithinkwecanallagreethatsmalltalkisunavoidable,right? Infact,myconstantneedtoavoidsmalltalk"atallcosts"wasseriouslydetrimental tomysuccesswithwomen. ButI'msaying…notonlyshouldyounotavoidit…butyoushouldEMBRACEIT. Embracesmalltalk? Yes sir.
HowMastering"SmallTalk"CanTransformYourConversations andCreateSeriousAttractionWhenYou'retalkingtoWomen andCreateSeriousAttractionWhenYou'retalkingtoWomen Hereismytake:Awomanwantstoknowthatshecanhavefunwithyoutalking aboutnothing.Shedoesnotwanttofeelthatwhen"GaryNull"talkends…you'llbothbe boredsenseless.Shewantstoknowthatthingswon'tgetweird,becauseyou'reafun guy. Andsmalltalkiswhereyougettodemonstrateallofthesethingsawomanislooking for. Buthereisthething: Smalltalkisoneofthosethingsthatcaneitherwinyouthegame…ordestroyyou withinseconds. Ifyou'renotgoodatit…andcauseawkwardness,uncomfortablesilence,orthe dreaded"interviewmode"…you'redeadinthewater. Butifyoucanturn"flufftalk"intosomethingthatisfun,exciting,andplayful…thegirl willbeputtyinyourhands.
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ThebestpartissmalltalkiscanbemadeFARmoreattractivewithanamazingly smallamountoftime,effort,orenergy. It’sthewaythe"smalltalk"ispresentedthatmakesallthedifference.Say somethingoneway,andyouboreherbrainsout.Sayitadifferentwayandsheis imaginghavingyourbabies,rippingyourclothesoff, orgivingyouahandjobinadirty frathouse … Hereisthemostimportantlessonyou'lllearnoncreatingattractioninwomen:
HowyouSayItMatters HowyouSayItMatters Bysayingsomethinginaslightlydifferentway,youcantransmuteyourvaluefrom verylow…toveryHIGH. WhatdoImeanbythis? Imeanthatoverthecourseofaconversationcertaininformationneedstoget passedbackandforthbetweenyouandthewomanyouaretalkingto. Thisisjustthenaturalflowofaconversation… Evenifthegurustrytomakeyoubelievethatanentireconversationconsistsof these"stealthattraction"buildingtechniques…thecoldhardrealityisthemostwomen aregoingtocontinuallydirecttheconversationtowardssmalltalk(that'swhatthey know) …Soyoucanresistthisandkeepplayingthe"GuesswhatIdo…GuesswhereI'm from…"lameevasiveanswersthataregoingtoKILLattractionalotquickerthancreate it…. …EvenworseyoucandowhatIdidwiththe"GaryNull"girlandgrabontoonetopic andbeatittodeathsoscaredtojumpbackintotheconversationwatersthatyouhold ontodearlifefortheonetopicthatyoubothhaveincommon…Icallthem"conversation lifeboats"…butironyis….Theywillsinkyoufast… …Oryoucanlearnhowtoturnyouentireconversation,smalltalkandall…into somethingthatisfun,playful,andsexy… Thereareahandfulofwaystoturnsmalltalksexy,andIampersonally FASCINATEDwithfindingthesetechniques,methods,andopportunities. LetmeshareafewofmyfavoritewaystodothisthatIdiscovered.
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It’stakenmemanyyearstofindthese,identifythem,testthem,andcreatesystems sothatIcanteachthemtoyouquicklyandeasily.Pleaserespectthetimeandeffortit hastakenmetofindthem… WARNING: WARNING: TheseareWeapons-UseThem WithExtremeCaution
Thisinformationis"JediLevel"training.It'sNinjastuff. WhatIamgoingtotellyouisextremelydangerousforonebigfatreason: IT WORKS. ItworkssowellthatYOUNEEDtobereadyfortheresponseyouaregoingtoget.I saythisbecausesomanymenthathavestruggledwiththeirconversationswithwomen arenotusedtogettingapositivereaction…andtheyLOSETHEIRSHIT…whentheydo. Beready…whenyouchangethewayyouconvey"smalltalk"yourconversationsare goingtotakeonanentirelynewdimension. It'sreallyquiteliberating…andwhenitfinallysinksinthatyoucan makesmalltalk sexy …you'llquicklyrealizethatyouhavethegifttotalktoanywoman,anytime… …Andevenifyoudon'talwaysgetthegirl(Anyguruthattellsyouthathismethodis 100%foolproofisLYINGtoyou)youwillALWAYSfindthatyouareabletohaveafun conversationwithawomanthatleavesthebothofyoubetterthanyoufoundone another…
OK,let'sroll! AlittleearlierItoldastoryabouthowagirlIhadspenthourstalkingto…ditched me….Togiveanotherguyshemetahandjob…withinminutes…. Answerthisquestion,FAST: WhatwasMYconversationmissing? Time'sup.Hereiswhatmyconversationwasmissing:
Sexuality Thesecondquestionis:Whydidn'tIrealizethis?
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Ididn'trealizethisbecauseIhadachievedmassiveRAPPORTwiththegirl.Wehad connectedonatopicsowellthatconversationwasliterallypouringoutofourmouths… AndformethiswasAMAZING… Mythreebiggestfearsinconversationswithwomenhadalwaysbeen: 1. Runningoutofthingstotalkabout 2. Awkwardsilences 3. Resortingto"boring"smalltalk SothemerefactthatIhadavoidedallthreeoftheseoutcomesledmetobelievethat Iwasachievingsomelevelofsuccesswiththisgirl. Butweallknowhowthatstoryended…. Here's why…
The#1MistakeMenMake The#1MistakeMenMakethatPreventaConversationFrom MenMakethatPreventaConversationFrom TurningSexual TurningSexual Thenumberonemistakemenmakethatpreventsthemaddingsexualitytotheir conversationis…. ….drum roll… FEAROFBREAKINGRAPPORT Andwhydowefearbreakingrapport? Becauseweconfuserapportwithattraction… AndtheyareNOTthesamething… We'veallestablishedtheIFUCKEDUPthe"GaryNull"chickintheearlierstory…no moreusetalkingaboutwhatIdidwrong…. Let'stalkaboutwhatIshouldhavedone…
Here'sHowToUseThisInformationto Here'sHowToUseThisInformationto TurnaConversationSexualRightNow… TurnaConversationSexualRightNow… Nexttimeyou'resmackinthemiddleofaconversationwithawomanyou're attractedto,stopforamomentandconsiderwhyyou'retalkingtoher. AndIdon'twantthebullshitanswer.
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I want the truth. YouaretalkingtoherbecauseyouHOPEthatyoucanTALKherintobecoming attractedtoyouinaSEXUALway... And you can… Butinordertodothis…you'vegotto… BurnYourShipAndLeaveNoAvenueForRetreat… BurnYourShipAndLeaveNoAvenueForRetreat… BurnYourShipAndLeaveNoAvenueForRetreat… Leavenoavenueforretreat… Leavenoavenueforretreat… Leavenoavenueforretreat… ThismeansthatifyourINTENTIONistocreatesexualattractioninawomanyou havetoPASSTHEPOINTOFNORETURN. Youhavetobewillingtoloseher… IFAILEDmiserablywiththegirlinthestoryearlierbecauseIwasnotwillingtolose therapportwehadestablished… …butwhatIshouldhaveestablishedwasaSEXUALINTENT… ThefirstthingyouneedtodothisistoBREAKRAPPORTwhenyousensethata womanisgettingtoocomfortablearoundyou… Sexualtensionstemsfromdesiremixedwithuncertainty,suspense,andevenabit ofnervousness… Ifyou'reinthemiddleofanhourlongconversationwithagirlabouthealthfood(or theYankees,ortraveling,oryourjobs)…thereisnotension,nouncertainty,no suspense… Yes,thereiscomfortandrapport… Butyou'vegottoBREAKIT… Soforinstance,ifagirlhasgottentoocomfortablewithyouandshebeginsgoing intoalongrantabouthowmuchshehatesherjob… Stopherandsay:
“IfwekeeptalkingaboutthisI’mgoingtochargeyou200$anhourfortherapy.Do youhaveyourcreditcardwithyou?”
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Bydoingthatyou'vebrokenrapportforaminuteandthrownsomesuspenseback intotheconversation…andyou'vesnappedher"he'ssuchaniceguy…"thoughtsinhalf. You'lloftenrunintothisproblemlaterinthenightwhenyouwanttogetphysicalwith awoman…andhavebuiltuptoomuchcomfortoverthecourseoftheevening…andnow itseemsthetensionisbroken…andakissseemsinappropriate... Breakthe rapport… AdamLyonsoncetoldmeastorywherehehadagirlbackathisplaceandshe wouldn'tstoptalkingaboutanargumentshehadwithoneofherfriends….Hewas sittingtherethinking"howthehellcanIgethertoshutuplongenoughtokissher…" AndheKICKEDHERINTHEHEAD. I'vedonesimilarthings…IfIsensethatawomanhasbecometoocomfortableandI can'ttransitiontheconversationtosomethingmoresexual… I'lllookatherandsay,"Don'tyouEVERshutup?" She'llusuallylookatmelikeI'vejustlostmymind… ButtheTENSIONGOESTHROUGHtheroof….Andrapportisbroken…andfrom thereI'llgiveheralittlesmile…thenlightlypushheraflirtyway…andsay" OH…DidIpiss youoff…" AndnowweareFLIRTING.
HowtoAvoidthisintheFirstPlace HowtoAvoidthisintheFirstPlace We'vealreadyestablishedearlierinthisreportthatyourINTENTIONistocreatea sexualattractionwithher. Soletherknowyourintention… Ifyoudon'twantawomantogettoocomfortablewithyou…andbeginjustseeyouas afunguytotalkto…. Don'tgiveherthatoption… LETYOURINTENTIONBEKNOWN… WhenIwastalkingto"GaryNull"girlIneversaidanythingtohintthatIsawheras anythingmorethanagirlwithasimilarinterestinhealthfood.Sothatisthe"role"she gaveme…theguyshetalksabouthealthfoodwith… Ishouldhavemadeastatementofintentearlyon:
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Anexampleofastatementofintentis:(ifsheflashesasmile)“ Youhaveareally
sexyandmischievoussmile,likeyou’retotallyuptonogood.HahaIlikethat…” Or… "Thatthingyoujustdidwithyourhair…isdrivingmecrazy…Iactuallywasn'tpaying
attentiontoawordyoujustsaid…" Leavenoavenueforretreat … Onceyouintroduceastatementofintentintotheconversationyoucanreturnback toSMALLTALK…becausenowunderneaththe"fluff"isanunderlyingTENSIONthatis building… Ijustsharedwhatisprobablythebiggestmistakemenmakeintheirconversations withwomen. Mostmenclingtorapport,sounwillingandafraidtobreakit…theysuckeveryounce ofsexualtensionoutoftheconversation… Bybreakingrapportandusinga"statementofintent"youarebackontracktoget exactlywhatyouwantoutoftheconversation… Avoidthe"rapporttrap"andincreaseyourchancesofsuccess… NowletmeteachsomeTACTICSformakingsmalltalksexy… Ifyouusethetacticsbelowrightoffthebat…youdon'thavetoworryabouther misreadingyourintentions…oreliminatingsexualtension… Here we go…
Small Talk Made Sexy Technique #1:
Create Conversation Momentum By Using a "Role" Keep the Conversation Flowing, Make Her Laugh, and Build Sexual Tension… Answerthisquestion: Whatdothesethreetelevisioncharactershaveincommon…(Ifyou’reunfamiliar withthemgotoYoutubeandwatchsomeclipsofthem)
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AriGold:(FromHBO'sEntourage) Ari Gold: AriGold: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVhIFhOT6xc DavidAddison:(fromMoonlighting) David Addison DavidAddison http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Uy2PqfnXGs BarneyStinson(fromHowIMetYourMother) Barney Stinson BarneyStinson http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yg9jjs-o35g
PerformingWithinaRole PerformingWithinaRole Whatthesethreecharactershaveincommonisthattheyareallperformingwithina narrowlydefinedrole. Thismeanseveryfacialexpression,gesture,banterline,orbitofsmalltalkcomes fromtheroletheyareplaying. Andasamemberoftheaudienceyoucanalmostguesshowtheyaregoingtoreact toasituation,orwhattheyaregoingtosayinresponsetosomeoneelse… …Whatdoesthishavetodowithyou? InMelvinHelitzer'sbookpopularbook"ComedyWritingSecrets"hestates: "Humordoesn'tgointoacharacter…itcomesoutofacharacter.Acharacterneeds atrademark…apredictablepointofviewthatdoesnotchange.Withoutashtickthe performerisjustareciterofjokes.Withitacomiccangetlaughsevenwithmistakes becauseinaway,theperformeristhejoke.Everysuccessfulperformerincomedyhas developedatleastonebasicandmemorablecharacter.Notonlydoestheaudience feelcomfortablewiththis,butthematerialiseasiertowrite."
Thematerialiseasiertowrite… Thinkaboutthesignificanceofthatstatementforaminute. Thebiggestproblemmostmenfacewith"smalltalk"isthattheyfindthemselves continuallyrunningoutofthingstosay,orturningtowards"boring"conversationtopics, especiallyearlyonintheconversationbeforeyou'vebothbecomecomfortablewith eachother. ButwhatifItoldyouthatyoucantakeany"boring"topicandturnitintoafunand exciting,flirtatiousconversation…Andhaveanendlesssupplyof"conversational material"bytakingonaroleofacharacter… Whythisworks… Why this works… Whythisworks…
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Thinkaboutthethreecharacterslistedabove…thesethreecharactersareFUNto watchnomatterwhattheyaretalkingabout. Thisisbecausehumoractuallyflowsmorefromthecharacter,theresponses,and thenaturalinteractionthanfromthejokes.Thismeansthatyoudon'tneedtoconstantly bethinkingofhilariouslinestomakeherhavefun…infact,thefunstemsfromthe characteryouareplaying,andyourcharacter'sinteractionwithher. Thecharacterwritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystuff takescareofitself. Andthishumor…thisexpectationofhumor…createstension.Andasyoucontinueto buildupthetension…thenrelease…buildup…thenrelease…youslowlybegintocreate SEXUALTENSION… Butyouneedtochoosetherightroletodothis…. ThesecondreasonIchoseAriGold,DavidAddison,andBarnyStinsonisbecause theyplaycharactersthatworkwellforBANTERINGwithwomen. Eachofthesecharactersdisplayaslightdegreeof"mentaldominance"overthe peopletheyaretalkingto.Andthecombinationofmentaldominanceandbantering= ATTRACTION. Whenyouchooseacharacteryouwanttochoosearolethatallowsyoutocreate attraction.Andcertainrolesworkalotbetterforthat.Herearesomeexamplesofroles thatgenerateattraction: • • • • • • • • • • • •
Youaredominant,sheiscute Anassumedpositionofauthority Herjudge,coach,orconsultant Thevictimofherseduction Thecoldguy Theneuroticallyselfishguy Ahighmaintenancechick Mimickingher TheDevilonhershoulder Exaggeratedlycheesypickupartist Heradultsupervision Sheisusingyouforsex
Eachoftheseroleslistedaboveworksowellbecauseitsortofelevatesyouasthe guywho"getsit."
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Andthemerefactthatyou'veassignedyourselftherole,displaysthatyouarethe oneincontroloftheconversation…andyou'recallingtheshots. InaminuteI'mgoingtoshowyouexactlyhowtousetheserolestoMAKESMALL TALKSEXY…butfornowIjustwantyoutounderstandthepurposeoftherole… …therolewritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystufftakes …therolewritesitself...onceyougetthecharacterdownthenallthefunnystufftakes careofitself… careofitself… Thisrolesetsthe"frame"fortheentireconversation.Eventhoughyouwillmovingin andoutofthisrolethroughouttheconversation…itisALWAYStheretousewhenyou sensetheconversationneedssomerejuvenation… Whattodo… What to do… Whattodo… Therearethreegeneralrulestotakingonarole: 1. Assumetherolerightfromthestartoftheconversation 2. Owntherole/becongruent 3. Andknowwhentodropit Basicallyyouwanttoexertfullcontrolovertheroleyoutakeon.Rightfromthe beginningyouaresortofsaying"thesearetherulestoourconversation…"Thisis CRITICALLYIMPORTANT…youmustestablishyour"characterrole"earlyon youmustestablishyour"characterrole"earlyon…ifnot,it youmustestablishyour"characterrole"earlyon willbeweirdifyoubustintoitafter30minutesof"normal"conversation…. Andthenyouwanttoowntherole,andbecongruentinit.ThismeansyouDON'T backdownifshe"shittests"you.Youdon'twaitforherto"approve"thegameyouset… youjustgorightintoit. Andfinally,youmustknowwhentodropit.Atsomepoint,afterattractionhasbeen created,therewillcomeapointwheretheroleshouldonlybeusedverySPARINGLY… becauseifyouneverdroptherole…she'llnevergetfeeladeepersenseofconnection withYOU. HowtoTakeaRoleandUseitRIGHTNOWintheRealWorld…. HowtoTakeaRoleandUseitRIGHTNOWintheRealWorld…. HowtoTakeaRoleandUseitRIGHTNOWintheRealWorld…. OK. Hereisacharacterpracticeexercise: Imagineaparticulartypeofcharacterthatyoucanworkwith…. Pickoneofthesethree: 1. AnOverlyConfidentPlayboy 2. AHighMaintenanceWoman MakeSmallTalkSexy.com
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3. TheDevilonherShoulder Onceyou'vepickedoneoftheabovecharacters,getintouchwithhowtheywould respond,react,whatsortoffacialexpressionswouldtheymake,whatwouldtheirvoice tonesoundlike? Asyoureadthis,spendaminutegettinginsidethemindofthecharacteryou've chosen.BecomehimforasecondwhileIwalkyouthroughthisexercise… YourReactionStemsfromtheCharacter… YourReactionStemsfromtheCharacter… YourReactionStemsfromtheCharacter… Now,howwouldeachcharacterrespondtothefollowingthreethings? 1. Sheaccidentallytouchesyourass 2. Shedropssomething 3. Sheasksyoutobuyheradrink NowIwantyoutobethefirstcharacter…andrespondtoeachofthethreethings. Andthenbethesecondcharacter…andrespondtoeachofthethreethings….Andfinally bethethirdcharacter…andrespondtoeachofthethreethings. Dothisrightnow! Donotkeepreadinguntilyou'vefinishedthisexercise… Alright… I'mgoingtojustgothroughsomeexamplesofhowyoucouldhaveresponded completelydifferentlyforallthreeofthesesituationsplayingthethreedifferent characters… REMEMBER:Sheknowsyou'replayingarole…soit'sperfectlyacceptabletobe REMEMBER cheesy,exaggerated,andtopushtheenvelopealittle…. Her:(accidentallytouchingyourass)So,whatdoyoudoforaliving? Her: OverlyConfidentPlayboy:(Staringdownatherhandthatjusttouchedyourleg)I OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy knowthatmoveyoujustdid…(Givingherthe"I'montoyou"look)it'soneofmy favorites….The'casuallygropethelegwhileaskingaseeminglyinnocentquestion' ShouldIgothroughthecharadeofanswering…ordoyouwanttojustdroptheselittle gameswereplayingwitheachother…. Her:(accidentallytouchingyourass)So,whatdoyoudoforaliving? Her: AHighMaintenanceWoman:Ohmygod!!Howdareyoutouchmyass.I'mnot AHighMaintenanceWoman AHighMaintenanceWoman somedimestoregigolothatyoucanjusthaveyourwaywithhoney…
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Her:(accidentallytouchingyourass)So,whatdoyoudoforaliving? Her: TheDevilonHerShoulder: The Devil on HerShoulder:Just…slowly…put…yourhandbackonhisass…hewon't TheDevilon HerShoulder: notice…justdoit…leanoverandshowhimsomecleavagewhyyou'reatitto…
MoreExamples…. MoreExamples…. Her:(droppinghercellphone) Her: OverlyConfidentPlayboy:Youarejustmakingsureyoutakeeveryopportunityto OverlyConfidentPlayboy OverlyConfidentPlayboy showmethegoods…aren'tyouhoney?Idoadmit…Iappreciatetheeffortyou're puttingintothiswholeseductionthing…mostgirlsdon'ttrythishard… Her:(droppinghercellphone) Her: Her: AHighMaintenanceWoman:Ohplease…DONOTthinkyou'regoingtotrickme AHighMaintenanceWoman: AHighMaintenanceWoman: intolookingatyourass….IamNOTthatkindofguy. Her:(droppinghercellphone) Her: Her: TheDevilonHerShoulder:He'slooking…juststaybentoveralittlelonger...maybe TheDevilonHerShoulder: TheDevilonHerShoulder: throwyourhairbackabit…andthenmakeacutesystatementabout'howtipsyyouare…' Canyouseehowtakingontherollofacharactermakesthingsinteresting… …andallowsyoutointroduce …andallowsyoutointroduce sexytopics sexytopics Doyouseehowmucheasieritistocompletelytransformthevibeofsmalltalk? AndcanyouseehowEASYitistoALWAYSKNOWWHATTOSAYwhenyou're playinga"role?"Youjustsaywhatyouimagineyourcharacterwouldsay… Justtoillustratethedifference…useoneoftheaboveexamples(Herdroppingher phoneortouchingyourleg)andimaginehowyouwouldhaverespondedifyouwere justbeingYOU…. Youprobablywouldhavejustansweredherstupid"whatdoyoudoforaliving" questionandcontinuedalongaBORINGconversation… …Butthe"role"youwereplayingallowedyoutoINSTANTLYaddsomespiceand sexintothemix… Sonowyoucanstillanswerherquestion…butyouwereabletomakethesame pieceofsmalltalk…SEXY.
Small Talk Made Sexy Technique #2:
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Turn the Conversation Into a "Game" and Allow The Back and Forth Interaction Take on A Life of Its Own Didyoueveramuseyourselfforhoursjustthrowingatennisballagainstawalland catchingitasitbouncedbacktoyou? Ornot'steppingonthecracks'asyouwalkeddownasidewalk? Ortriedtopassasmanycarsaspossiblewhiledrivingonahighway? Orsitinyourdeskand"ratethedoability"thegirlsintheclassroomwithyou…while yourprofessorflounderedthroughatortuouslecture? Ifyouhavedoneanyofthese… …You'vefoundTHEGAMEtomakesomethingboringfun …You've foundTHEGAMEtomakesomethingboringfun …You've foundTHEGAMEtomakesomethingboringfun Wedothisallthetime…becausegamesarefun!
"Findingthegame" "Findingthegame" Everyinteractionyouhavewithawomanhasthepotentialforagame…andonce youfindthatgame…whatwaspreviouslyatypical,boringconversation,turnsinto somethingthatyouapartof… Eitherasteammatesorcompetitors… Justfindsomesimplethinginyourinteractionthatyoucanmakeintosomesortof contest,andseewhocanoutduetheother. Everybodyenjoysplayinggamesbecausetherulesaresimpleandclear. …Andjustlikeplayinga"role"…thesegamesmakecomingupwiththingstosaya wholeloteasier…becausetheconversationspringsfromthegame… BeforeIgointosomeexamplesof"games"youcanplay…let'sjustexaminesomeof thereasonstheyaresoeffectiveatmakingsmalltalksexy… Whydo"games"worksowell… Whydo"games"worksowell… •
Createsasenseofrapportbetweenthetwoofyou(thegoodkind☺ )
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Keepstheconversationflowingsmoothly…creatingtheillusionof"chemistry"
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Allowsthebothofyoutoshareinformationthatyouotherwisewouldn'thave
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Makesbringinganelementof"sexuality"intotheconversationmucheasier Focusestheconversationonfeeling,emotions,andobservations…ratherthan facts
Thetruthis…SMALLTALKMUSTTAKEPLACE…thereiscertaininformationthat needstobepassedbackandforthbetweenyouandawoman… …butjustlikesittingthroughaboringlecture,stuckintrafficonthehighway,ortaking astrolldownthestreet… SMALLTALKcanbeMADEFUNbyfindingthegame…
WhataretheGames? WhataretheGames? Basicallyanythingcanbeturnedintoagame…. Buttomakethiscookiecuttersimpleforyou…I'mgoingtolistsomeofthemore popularonesthatsomeoftheworld'sbestPUAsuseonregularbasis. Eachoneofthesegamesaredesignedtoelicitemotionsoutofthewomanyouare talkingto…andcreatethefeelingofrapportandATTRACTION. …hereareafewofthefavorites… …hereareafewofthefavorites… …hereareafewofthefavorites… Theimportantthingtorememberis,justlikewhenusinga"role"youMUSTNOT explaingames.Justjumpintothem.Startwithfunandhighenergyandgetdeeperand moresincere.
ThreeQuestionsGame ThreeQuestionsGame Asyou'retalkingtoagirljustbeginthisgame… You:"We'regoingtoplayalittlegame." Her:"OK,whatkindofgame?" You:"It'sreallysimple.Wejusttaketurnsaskingeachotherquestions...butthereare rules." Her:"Suchas....?" You:"1.)Everyquestionmustbeanswered.2.)Noquestioncanberepeatedand3.) Yougofirst." "So,Iwanttoknowmoreaboutyou…What’s…yourfavoriteicecream?MineisBen andJerry'sCookieDough…" MakeSmallTalkSexy.com
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Tradethreequestionsbackandforth.Youask,sheanswers.Thensheasks question,youanswer. Startwithverycommonorveryfunstuff(ex.“what’syourfavoriteicecream?”)and bepreparedtoshareyourownanswertogetitgoing. Secondquestiongoesalittledeeper,likefondchildhoodmemories. Thirdquestiongodeep,likelove,relationships,etc. Sinceit'sagame,shewillhardlyblinkaneyewhenyouask"Wherewasthemost unusualplaceyouhadsex?" Youjustsortofgiveherasmirkthatsays,"YeaIjustbroughtitthere…" Unlesssheiscompleteprudeshe'llfollowthepathyoucarved. Canyouseehowmucheasieritwastointroducesexualityintotheconversation underthepretenseofagame? EverytimeIuseitthegirlbringsupsomethingsexualwithin5questions.
Fascinationgame/ILikegame Fascinationgame/ILikegame Thisisanotherexcellentwaytoshareinformationinawaythatisfunandcreatesa playfulbackandforthvibebetweenthetwoofyou… I'mfascinatedby... I like… Remember,startsmall.Don’tgofortheimmediatedeeptopics.Gethertalkingfirst andgetdeep. Ex.“YouknowwhatIreallylikeaboutNYC?Thebestpizzaintheworld.Youknow whatImean?WhatdoyoulikeaboutNYC?” Thenonceyou'rewarmedup…"Ilikegirlswhohaveakinkyside…" Itisallaboutthe"VIBE"thatgoesbackandforthbetweenyouandthewoman. Insteadoftirelesslytryingtocreateadeepsenseofrapport…simplyfocusontheback andforthvibethatisoccurringbetweenthetwoofyou. Yourinteractionshouldbethecenterofattention….NOTtheTOPICbeingdiscussed. I repeat: Yourinteractionwiththewomanshouldbethecenterofattention…notthe topicbeingdiscussed topicbeingdiscusse d d.
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ThisiswhereIhadcompletelyblownitintheearlierstory.Imade"healthfood"and "GaryNull"thecenterofattention.Whenthecenterofattentionshouldhavebeenthe playfulbackandforthinteractionbetweenthetwoofus. Whatiftheinteractionwiththe"GaryNull"girlwentlikethisinstead? Me:IlikePeanutbutterfruitsmoothies Her:IlikeGrahamCrackerZonebars Me:(highfivingher)Metoo…Ialsoliketakingspontaneousroadtripstoweird obscure places. Her:Ohyea…WellIlikepeoplewatchingontheboardwalkandlaughingatallofthe freaks. Me:Well,Ilikehavingsexonthebeachwhilethefreaksarewalkingonthe boardwalk. Her:Ilikesexaftercomingbackfromareallytoughworkoutatthegym… Doyouseehowcreatingagameallowsyoutoelevatetheconversationtoasexual level…withinminutes. Whenyouputsomethinginthecontextofa"character"or"agame"thewoman's defensegoesdownandshefindsherselfplayingalong…BECAUSEIT'SFUN. Remember,awomanisoutlookingtohavefun.Andquitefrankly,mostguysare boring,lame,andincapableofholdinganengagingconversation(IknowbecauseI usedtobeoneofthem)sowhenawomanmeetsaguywhocancreatearelaxed playfulness…she'llinstantlyrecognize"thisguysdifferent"andshewillfollowyourlead. Yes,shewantstofollowyourlead… Shejustneedstobesureyou'regoingtotakeherdownanenjoyablepath…
RolePlaying RolePlaying Whatisaroleplay? Itiscreatinganimaginaryscenarioandpersonasthatthetwoofyoucancarryout together. Let'ssayyou'retalkingtoagirlandyoutellherthatyou'regoingtoItalynextweek… andshesaysjokingly"canIcome…" Insteadoflaughingitoff…youwouldsaysomethinglike:
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"Yea,I'llhideyouinmysuitcase…Whenyougetthereyouneedtobemy paparazzi.I'mgoingtogiveyouacameraandyoujustneedtofollowmearoundthe entiretimesnappingpicturesofme….AndpointatmelikeI'msomeonefamous.Then youcansellthepicturestoalocaltabloid-andwecanusethemoneytotakeayacht downtogambleinMonaco.OfcourseI'llwinduplosingyouinapokergametosome Iraniansheik…" Youseehowyoujusttookthisabsurdsituationandkeptmakingitmoreabsurd... Yet,itwasplayful,itprobablyhadhergiggling…anditprojectedafuturewherethe twoofyouwereinItalyandMonoco. It'sverysimple… Startastoryaboutafantasywithyouandher.Letherfillinsomedetails,and togetheryoucreateafungamewitheachother. Andforgodsakes…Don'tbeafraidtointroducesomesexualityintotheroleplay… that'sthewholepoint…
SoThereYouHaveIt SoThereYouHaveIt Someofmyfavoritewaystoaddfun,playfulness,andsexualitytoyoursmall talk…andincreaseyourattractivenessintheeyesofthewomanyou'reinteractingwith MASSIVELY.Andwhatisgreataboutallofthetechniquesmentionedisthatyoudonot needtochangewhatyoutalkabout…justthewayyoupresenttheinformation. Nowit’stimeforyoutogoandimplementthesetechniques,andgetsome RESULTS.Takemywordforit…
STARTNOW! STARTNOW! Takeactionrightnow.Don’twait.Dosomethingwithwhatyoujustlearned immediately,soyoustartusingitAUTOMATICALLY.Usethesetechniqueseveryday, andsoonyou’llfindthatyou’recreatingthesortofvibethatwomencraveandyouwill almostbeabletoseetheattractionglisteningintheireyes… Andifyou’reinterestedingettingtheultimatetrainingincreatingfun,flowing,and attractiveconversationsthenconsidertheConversationEscalation:MakeSmallTalk ConversationEscalation:MakeSmallTalk Sexyprogram.Itjustmightbeyourtickettothesuccessyou’reseeking. Sexyprogram ConversationEscalation:MakeSmallTalkSexy isaprogramthatIwillbereleasingina limited"beta"quantityoverthenextweek.Theprogramisdesignedtotransformyour
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conversationskillsandhelpturnyouintoamasterconversationalistthatengagesand attractswomanyou'retalkingto.
Thanksforyourtime,andI’lltalktoyouagainsoon, BobbyRio P.S.Ifyou'dliketogetmoregreatfreetrainingfromme,makesureyou'reonmyfree emailnewsletterlist,justgotoMakeSmallTalkSexy.comtojoinandI'lltalktoyousoon. P.S.S.Anddon'tforgettokeepalookoutformybrandnewprogramConversation Escalation:MakeSmallTalkSexy….Thisisthefirstcoursefocused100%entirelyon buildingconversationskills,andfeaturessomeofthetoppickupartistintheworld workingwithmetobringyoutheverybestinformation… Moredetailswillbecomingsoon Moredetailswil lbecomingsoon… lbecomingsoon….
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