Letter from the Editor:
-Factory
In This Issue:
Editorial:
Everyone lives through History
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What's Twisting the Sisters?
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Why Women Choose Thugs
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You think your Son Just Recently Became Second Class?
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Comm Co mmon on Pi Pick ckup up mi mist stak akes es Me Men n Ma Make ke
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This Date in History: Lorena Bobbitt
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End Game - The Beginning
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Book Review: "Knights Without Armor"
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Addressing "Good Christian Women"
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No players – I am attracted to players. No games – No man who plays better games than me. No drama – I am a drama queen and don’t need the competition Looking for a good/nice guy – Still looking for an alpha but might accept a beta if he’s affluent
enough Prince Charming/Knight in shining armor wanted – hopeless romantic and borderline gold
digger. Make me laugh – Keep me entertained as my personal court jester. My partying days are over – 30-something former party girl with a bad case of baby rabies Shopping as a hobby – gold digger Real Man Wanted – she likes the BadBoys Where are all the real men/nice guys? – worst of the worst… she’s a former party girl, current
gold digger, and incapable of understanding that her dating net worth is lousy. I’m a real woman – I’m fat with a bad attitude Friends first/looking for my best friend – I want the option to reject you first or put you in the
FriendZone while I date other guys Family is important to me – my kids, my parents, my aunts and uncles and cousins, my very
distant and never-seen relatives will always come before you -Zammo
Just yesterd Just yesterday, ay, a man died in Brisbane, Australia. He self immolated, immol ated, report reportedly edly after goin go ing g th thro roug ugh h th the e fa fami mily ly court system. Let me re Let repe peat at th that at.. Af Afte terr experiencing the family court in Austr Australia, alia, the man dous doused ed himself with gasoline and set himself afire, resulting in 3rd degree burns to over 90% of hiss bo hi body dy.. Th The e sc scen ene e wa wass apparently so disturbing that the local police who responded would not comment on what they saw. There is something else that was set afire in the afte af term rmat ath h of th this is tr trag aged edy. y. The facts, and the main one being that this type of death only on ly re real ally ly di dist stur urbs bs th thos ose e who have it shoved in their face fa ce as an oc occu cupa pati tion onal al hazard. Afterr se Afte sear arch chin ing g th thro roug ugh h several on-line news accounts of what happened, most mo st of the them m re repo porte rted d tha thatt he was a 39 year old man who had rece re ceiv ived ed a ba bad d ou outc tcom ome e in th the e family court (imagine that). Two of them said he was 60 years old, and one of those said his suicide was unrelated to the family court. What none of them even attempted to do was tell us this man’s story. Not of his life, and not real re ally ly of hi hiss de deat ath, h, sa savve th the e headline value of such gruesome busi bu sine ness ss.. Fo Forr un unde dern rnea eath th th the e headline, headl ine, we learn learned ed more about hiss bu hi burni rning ng bo body dy fo forr the tr traf affi ficc problems it caused than for why he set himself on fire in the first place. pla ce. There was one sto story, ry, the one on e th that at qu quot oted ed an un unna name med d police as source saying the event
had no had noth thin ing g to do wi with th co cour urtt proceedings, also said that he was “mentally ill.” As us usua uall wi with th the ma main inst stre ream am media, it is headlines first, facts a distant dista nt second. second. So we may never never know what happened or why. But it would wou ld be har hard d to arg argue ue aga agains instt the possibility of an impaired mental state in anyone who would choose death, especially in such a horrifying horrif ying and painf painful ul manner manner.. The probl pro blem em he here re is th that at wi with th me men, n, that emotional dysfunction is not n ot a reason to ask more questions, but the main reason to quit asking questions at all. He was mentally ill, end of story. Such was also the case of 26 year old Dani nie el Sha hau ull, who died Wednesday Wednes day after setting himse himselflf on fire in front of a fur store in Portla Por tland, nd, Ore Oregon gon.. Of cou course rse,, he wass me wa ment ntal allly ilill,l, as we welll. We needn’t bother with exploring that any more.
They we They were re cr craz azy; y; th the ey we were re impediments to traffic; they were less le ss co colu lumn mn sp spac ace e th than an yo your ur average classified ad. They were just more dead men. And as we live in a culture that has men com commit mittin ting g sui suicid cide e at epid ep idem emic ic ra rate tess in mu much ch le less ss newswo new sworth rthyy fas fashio hion, n, we can, at least in this corner of the mano ma nossph pher ere e, ta takke pa paus use e to wonder: What wo What woul uld d th the e re reac acti tion on be if women were light lighting ing thems themselve elvess up in the streets? Perhapss tho Perhap those se tha thatt con contin tinue ue to deny de ny th that at th the e wo worl rld d is wo woma man n centered will answer that one. But of course I have an answer of my own. I wonder if that fact that the worl wo rld d act actua uallllyy ca care ress ab abou outt the lives of women has anything to do with wi th th the e fa fact ct th that at th they ey ar are e so much less likely to kill themselves? Nah, that can't be it.
And that is what it is like for men lost for a million unknown reasons.
Right? Paul Elam
Everyone Lives through history, We Just don’t Realize It… by: Zed
the-spearhead.com
…untilil we have. …unt have. These are exciting times for men. I kno know w th that at sta state temen mentt will cau cause se some people to snort and roll their eyes and start start to think of all all kinds of reasons that it is just plain crazy. There is a lot of gloom and doom being ng ci circu rcula lated ted ab about out men and boys these days – “The Decline of Male Ma les” s”,, “T “The he En End d of Me Men” n”,, th the e cackling of the pecking hens that men are “obsolete” because some some scientist has claimed to be able to produce sperm in a lab. Most of it comes from the necrotic husk of the hashas-been been lame lame-st -stream ream medi media. a. Too much of it comes from men themselv them selves. es. I don don’t ’t buy buy it – any any of it it.. I think nk I’I’m m the old oldest est con contri tributor butor here he re.. I ha have ve lilive ved d th thro roug ugh h wh what at many ma ny of th the e co cont ntri ribu buto tors rs here here (and probably most of the readers) view as hist history ory and know of only through thro ugh the same manne mannerr that they know of Anci Ancient ent Greec Greece, e, or the World Wars of the 20t 20th h cent ce ntur uryy – fr from om so some meth thin ing g th they ey read or someone told them. The 1960s may not seem as remote as an ancient civilization, but from the pers perspect pective ive of a part particip icipantantobserver, I can tell you that a lot of what has been said and is being said about life 50 years ago is 190 proof hors horse e manure. Men’ss lilive Men’ vess in th the e 19 1950 50ss an and d before were not all about the much myth my thol olog ogiz ized ed “m “mal ale e po powe werr an and d privilege,” nor were woman anywhere near as “oppressed” as has been claimed. History is always revi re visi sion onis ist, t, an and d th the e re revi visi sion on is alwa ways ys do don ne by the victor c tor.. In cons co nsid ider erin ing g th the e 2n 2nd d ha halflf of th the e 20th 20 th ce cent ntur ury, y, th the e id ideo eolo logy gy of feminism was clearly the victor.
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But, other than the ability to dictate how things are spoken about, and what things can be said and what can’t, what did they “win.” I think the real answer turns out to be “not “n othi hing ng”, ”, ex exce cept pt pe perh rhap apss th the e booby boo by prize. ze. See See,, men men’s ’s lilives ves for most mo st of histor s toryy ha have ve be been en no nott about ab out “po “power wer and pr privi ivileg lege”, e”, but rather rat her ab about out bon bone e cru crushi shing ng and soul destroying work, huge responsibilities, responsibi lities, and disposability. disposability. There has been much buzz about the inte internet rnet recen recently tly abou aboutt the fifindi nding ng th that at wom women’ en’ss hap happin piness ess has act actual ually ly dec declilined ned dur during ing th the e past 40 years that they have been “winning” nning”,, bec becomi oming ng “liberat berated” ed”,,
and pursuing “having it all” – both in absolute terms, and relative to men. me n. At th the e sa same me ti time me,, me men’ n’ss happiness has increased – both in abso ab solu lute te te term rmss an and d re rela lati tive ve to women. Now, let me say that again, and really let it sink in – men today are happier than men were 40 years ago, and women are less happy. Lots of people have analyzed the hows and whys of that to the level of terminal boredom, but that one simpl si mple e fa fact ct st stand andss al alone one – men today, toda y, on the aver average age and in the aggregate, are happier than their fathers and grandfathers were.
Why? Well, it’s really pretty simple – men’s lives today are simply better than the lives their fathers, and grandfathers, and great-grandfathers, and all the men in history who lived and died before them. Life for men, in general, has never been better. “What? “Wh at??!? ?!?!” !” you say say.. “Ho “How w cou could ld that be?!! be?!!?! ?! It’ It’ss just not so! The feminists have told me!” One of the better musical poets of my gene ge nera rati tion, on, Bruc Br uce e Spri Sp ring ngst stee een, n, summed up very well what the lives of average men used to be like not very long lon g ago ago,, in his powerful powerful song, “The River.”
accept acce ptan ance ce at al all,l, he da damn mn we wellll better be wealthy. Well, fast forward 50 years and we find that men have far more free fr eedo dom m an and d flflex exib ibililit ityy th than an an anyy group of men has ever had in the history of the world. They can now choo ch oose se to be hu husb sban ands ds,, an and/ d/or or father fat hers, s, or any anyth thing ing els else, e, and the socia soc iall pre press ssure ure and st stigm igma a whi which ch used to force the vast majority of men into early marriage (and often earl ea rlyy gr grav aves es)) an and d th the e ro role le of a specialized beast of burden bred for the spec specific ific purp purpose ose of drag dragging ging around an emotionally and financially dependent wife and family is simply no longer there.
Certainly, some men might wish to continue to choose those roles for theirr live lives. s. And the social al Ludd Luddites ites,, “I co come me fr from om do down wn in th the e va vall lley ey thei who fear fe ar and resist res ist chang change, e, may where wh ere mi mist ster er wh when en yo you’ u’re re yo youn ungg They bring you up to do like your want to try to keep men trapped in those e old role roles. s. But, as women women’s ’s daddy done.” thos role ro less ha have ve ch chan ange ged, d, th the e sy syst stem em whic ich h ga gave ve me men n on only ly on one e se sett of Mens’ lives were incredibly wh choi ch oice ces s has ha s chan ch ange ged d whet wh ethe herr constrained. What your “daddy done” people wanted it to or not. was most likely what you would end up doing, and your son, and his son. For choose to be hus husba bands nds the college lege edu educat cated ed and mid middle dle cla class, ss, Men may choose thiss usuall thi usually too tookk the form form of som some e sort and fathers. Or not. They can choose traveler velers, s, or exp explorer lorers, s, or of business, mercantile, management, to be tra schola sch olars, rs, or X-box X-b ox playe pl ayers. rs. Or not.. not or pr prof ofes essi sion onal al wh whit ite e co collllar ar jo job. b. Fo Forr th the e They ey can be hou ouse seh hus usb band nds, s, working class, it meant - Th assuming they can find a “Then I got Mary pregnant breadwinning wife and are willing to and an d ma man n th that at wa wass al alll sh she e wr wrot ote e deal with the residual social stigma toward rd a man who does not live up And for my nin ninete eteent enth h bir birthd thday ay towa to the tra traditi ditional onal roles roles.. But, women I got a union card and a wedding have ha ve bl blaz azed ed th the e wa wayy in br brea eaki king ng coat” down dow n th those ose old rol roles es and in th their eir place have lef eftt me men n a wo worrld of A white collar boy/man might marry opport opp ortuni uniti ties es lim limit ited ed onl onlyy by th their eir Sallllyy in Sa inst stea ead d of Ma Mary ry,, an and d a ge gett own imaginat imaginations. ions. clerks cle rkship hip in hi hiss fat father her’s ’s la law w off offic ice e inst in stea ead d of a un unio ion n ca card rd,, bu butt bo both th The real challenges confronting men classes of men had their life script these thes e days are the topics cs handed to them about the end of Novaseeker and Prime have theirr teen thei teens. s. And, all clas classes ses of men recent rec ently ly wri writt tten en ab about out – def defin ining ing were wer e exp expect ected ed to sp spend end the vast core masculine values by which men majority of their waking lives working define themselves. For too long men for someone else in order to live up have been allowing women to define to the protecto protector/pro r/provide viderr role which which us – either in the negative, by giving was most men’s alternative to being a us a list of things they don’t like social non-entities. In those days, the about us, us, or by dema demandin nding g that we only roles which gave men any social become more like them. Some men validit vali dityy at all were husb husband, and, fat father, her, are ar e co comf mfor orta tabl ble e wi with th be beco comi ming ng and an d we weal alth thyy ma man. n. In or orde derr fo forr a more like women, and we will see singl n gle man to hav ave e any soc ociial
how women really end up liking them once they do. But, Bu t, for th the e re rest st of us us,, wh who o ha have ve never had any desire to be women, we no now w ha have ve th the e op oppo port rtun unit ityy to completely define for ourselves what sort of masculinity will serve us, and those thos e we love, best in the comi coming ng years.. years We me men, n, right g ht now ow,, ar are e livi v ing ng through history. through history. To most of us, us, it just seems see ms lik like e our lives. lives. But But,, as ti time me passse pa sess ou ourr lives v es of tod oda ay willl l become bec ome our con contex textt of to tomor morrow row.. And, our choices of today will shape the world that we and our chil children dren will live in tomorrow. And, in far less time tha than n they can imag imagine, ine, young men of today will have become the “older generation” of tomorrow and find to their surprise that those who came after them are now judging them base based d on the pres present ent they created for those next generation generations. s. Instead Inste ad of wat watchi ching ng our fee feet, t, and looking look ing behi behind nd us, and cast castigat igating ing the boomers for their mist mistakes akes,, our bestt fut bes future ure lilies es in rec reclai laiming ming our authenti auth enticit cityy from thos those e aspe aspects cts of the cult culture ure whic which h have beco become me toxic. c. We need to do what the younger young er men here have star started ted to do an and d re real aliz ize e th that at we no lo long nger er have sustainable sustainable values hand handed ed to us – as pr prev evio ious us ge gene nera rati tion onss of men did – and that we must now create them. We can seize the day and an d ta take ke th the e be best st fr from om th the e pa past st ideals idea ls of masc masculin ulinity, ity, reclaim them from the dishonor which has fallen on them, and at the same time shed the worst aspe aspects cts which have been the source source of much of tha thatt dishonor. dishonor. More th More than an at an anyy ot othe herr ti time me in history, we have the ability to define not just our own presents, but our futures and the futures of those we care about. Yes, indeed, indeed, these these are exciti exciting ng times times for men. We are confronted with insurmountable opportuniti opportunities. es.
What's twisting the sisters? ozconservative.blogspot.com
by: Mark Richardson
From the website of an Australia Aust ralian n femi feminist nist (Kat (Kate) e) we learn that: Some feminists feminists do actua actually lly hate men. And if you're a man I thin th ink k yo you u ju just st ne need ed to ac acce cept pt that.
So here is a feminist admitting that she belongs to what these days is termed a hate group (a hate movement?) and that the targets of this hatred should casually accept the situation. What ki What kind nd of a re resp spon onse se di did d this get from her feminist sisters? The feedback was as follows: Ariel: Bloody brilliant! Mindy: Keep up the good work Kate. Cristy: Great post Kate. Dogpossum: sentiments.
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Janet: Right on, sister. Lizzy: This is a fantastic post.
What could possibly twist the min inds ds of th thes ese e wo wom men so much that they would applaud an ar arti ticl cle e wh whic ich h so ca casu sual ally ly discusses a feminist hatred of men? It's notable that many of these women unquestioningly accept the ideas of patriarchy theory. Patriarchy Patriarc hy theo theory ry claim claims s that soci so ciet etyy is or orga gani nise sed d on th the e basis of power and domination. Men are the dom domina inant nt cla class ss and all aspects of society are designed to secure the
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subordination of women. There is no na natu tura rall ma masc scul ulin init ityy or femin inin iniity to explain the differing roles and behaviour of men and women. This too is a crea cr eati tion on of th the e pa patr tria iarc rchy hy designed to subordinate women, and must therefore be overthrown. Imagine what it would be like to be a heterosexual woman who beliliev be eved ed in th this is th theo eory ry.. Yo You u would be attracted sexually to the very group who were your oppr op pres esso sors rs.. Yo You u wo woul uld d al also so have to question the expression of your own feminin fem inine e ide identi ntity. ty. Tal Talkk abo about ut being conflicted! Little wonder that "dogpo "do gposs ssum" um" dec declar lares es in the comments that: Sometimes I think it would be easier to jus easier justt bec become ome a les lesbia bian n separatist, and hate men.
The in The infl flue uenc nce e of pa patr tria iarc rchy hy theory runs right through Kate Ka te's 's ar arti ticl cle. e. Fo Forr in inst stan ance ce,, she jus justif tifies ies fem femini inists sts hat hating ing men on th the e basi sis s tha hatt it it''s harmless, as women like herself are powerless within a patriarchal system:
Feminists have not been left as powerles powe rless s oppr oppresse essed d wom women en within wit hin a pat patria riarc rchy. hy. Qui Quite te the opposite, in fact. Ever since the midmi d-18 1800 00s, s, fe femi mini nist sts s ha have ve been granted a great deal of power in Western societies. In Au Aust stra ralia lia,, fe femi mini nist sts s ha have ve secured a special office to help shape government policy; they have hav e had uni univer versit sityy fac facult ulties ies esta es tabl blis ishe hed d fo forr th them em;; th they ey have been helped into political posit po sition ions s via a qu quota ota sys system tem within the ALP; and they have been bee n hel helped ped int into o pos positi itions ons of influence in the professions via affirmative action policies. In the 19 198 80s and 90s 0s,, as many of us will recall, feminists wer ere e powe werf rfu ul en eno ough to estab est ablis lish h the their ir own vie views ws as politically correct. The fac factt tha thatt fem feminis inists ts hav have e been be en so re read adililyy pr prom omot oted ed with wi thin in th the e po powe werr st stru ruct ctur ure e means not only that patriarchy theory itself is wrong, but that a feminist hatred of men is not to be taken lightly.
Kate al Kate als so trie ies s to ju just stif ifyy a feminist hatred of men on the grounds that women are callllou ca ousl slyy vi vict ctim imis ised ed wi with thin in a Even if I do hate men, so patriarchal system. She writes what? Do I have the power to that she is a man-hater in a do anything with my world:
hypothetical burni hypothetical burning ng hatre hatred d of human beings with penises? Nope ... I am a Man‐ Hater Hat er,, in a wor world ld whe where re the instit ins titutio utions ns of pow power er fav favour our the XY chromosome.
The pr The prob oble lem m is th that at real realit ityy doesn't fit the theory.
where wher e wo wome men n ar are e re regu gula larl rly y raped and abused and murdered, where child abuse is rampant, and where my gender guarantees I'll make less money than a male colleague.
Agai Ag ain, n, th this is fi fits ts th the e th theo eory ry of
patriarchy well (as it reinforces the idea of women as a subj su bjug ugat ated ed cl clas ass) s),, bu butt no nott reality. In the comments to her artic ar ticle, le, I po point inted ed ou outt tha thatt it' it's s actu ac tual ally ly me men n wh who o ar are e mo more re likely than women to be victims of violence and that women are more likely than men to abuse children. There was much resistance to acce ac cept ptin ing g th thes ese e fa fact cts. s. I wa was s told I was ignorant, incorrect, dis ish hone nes st and a poor role model fo forr men en.. But whe hen n I lilink nked ed to so some me pe pers rsua uasi sive ve evidence the counterargu ar gume ment nt ch chan ange ged. d. It wa was s acce ac cept pted ed th that at wo wome men n di did d in fact abuse children more often than men, but this too was blamed blam ed on the patriarchy patriarchy (for "making" "ma king" wom women en spend more time with children than men). Here again you see the conce co ncern rn to fit rea realit lityy int into o the theory rather than the other way around. Finally, Finall y, Kat Kate e tel tells ls us tha thatt she does do esn' n'tt re real ally ly ha hate te me men, n, bu butt just masculinity: You see, I don't really hate you, if you're a man. If I crit cr itici icise se 'm 'masc ascul ulin init ity' y' I' I'm m no nott being cri rittic ica al of yo you u as an individ ind ividual ual ... I'm bein beingg crit critical ical of an id idea ea,, a pe perf rfor orma manc nce, e, a culturally cultu rally inscribed set of ideals about how 'men' should behave.
Once ag Once again ain,, thi this s fit fits s in nea neatly tly with patriarchy theory. Patriarch Patr iarchyy theo theory ry expla explains ins the traditional male role in society as being a result of an oppress opp ressive, ive, illegit illegitimat imate e powe powerr syst sy stem em an and d no nott as a na natu tura rall expression of masculine drives. So Kat ate e is bei eing ng per erfe fect ctly ly orthodox in her feminism when she sh e de desc scri ribe bes s ma masc scul ulin init ityy negatively as a mere "perf "p erfor orma mance nce"" or "c "cult ultura urally lly
inscribed set of ideals" rather than as a true expression of men's nature. But once again there are probl pr oblems ems.. Fir First, st, sci scienc ence e has now confirmed that gender is not just a social construct but is hard-wir ire ed into human biol bi olog ogy. y. So Ka Kate te is fo forc rced ed to complica com plicate te matt matters ers by addi adding ng on as a kind of postscript that: I'm not a complete moron and I do think there are differences in male and female behavi beh aviou ourr th that at co come me do down wn to chro ch romo moso some mess an and d ho horm rmon ones es and suchlik suchlike. e.
So Ka Kate te is ru runn nnin ing g wi with th tw two o comp co mpet etin ing g vi view ews: s: fi firs rst, t, th that at masculinity is simply a "perf "p erfor orman mance" ce" and and,, sec second ond,, that masculinity has a natural basis in human biology. There Ther e are othe herr ten ens sio ions ns prod pr oduc uced ed by th the e pa patr tria iarc rchy hy theory view of gender. On the one hand, women like Kate are duty bound to rej ejec ectt bo botth mascu ma sculin linity ity and fem femini ininit nityy as pillars of patriarchal dominance. But wh But wher ere e do does es th this is le leav ave e a heterose hete rosexual xual wom woman? an? How is she then to secure a sense of her own fem feminin inine e ide identi ntity ty and her attractiveness to men? It seems to me that the more that such feminist women reject femininity in theory, the more mo re th that at th they ey at atte temp mptt to bolster it in practice. How else can ca n yo you u ex expl plai ain n th the e fe femi mini nist st craze for the most feminine of inte in tere rest sts, s, su such ch as kn knit itti ting ng,, sewi se wing ng,, de deco cora rati ting ng,, fl flow ower ers s and kittens. Kate her Kate hersel selff lis lists ts her pr prima imary ry inte in tere rest st as kn knit itti ting ng;; Mi Mind ndyy makes quilts; Laura likes baking and kittens; and Janet likes to
sew pink clothes for her daught dau ghter. er. Jan Janet, et, in fac fact, t, run runs s one website about her passion for laundry and another about her lov love e fo forr mo mothe therho rhood od,, her daughter, flowers, gardens and sewing. So we have this very odd situa sit uatio tion. n. The fem femini inists sts who are ar e ad adam aman antt in th theo eory ry th that at there is no essential masculinit masc ulinityy and femi femininit ninityy are in practice the best living proof of the exi existe stence nce of ess essent ential ial gender gen der dif differ ferenc ences es bet betwee ween n men and women. Heterosex Hetero sexua uall fem femini inists sts hav have e done themselves themselves a diss disservic ervice e in accepting patriarchy theory so un uncr crit itic ical ally ly.. It is a th theo eory ry whi hic ch can onl nlyy le lea ave such women deeply conflicted. Patri Pat ria arc rchy hy the heo ory lea le ave ves s women wo men wit with h a co confl nflict icted ed vie view w of men as being loving fathers, husbands and sons but also a hateful hate ful enemy who subj subjugat ugate e women in every facet of their lives. It leads feminist women to see themselves as hard-pressed hard-pressed,, powe po werl rles ess s vi vict ctim ims s at a ti time me when feminists hold considerable power within the instit ins tituti utions ons of soc societ iety. y. It pu puts ts femi fe mini nist sts s wh who o vi view ew ge gend nder er difference primarily as a social construct on a collision course with wi th mo mode dern rn sc scie ienc nce. e. An And d it crea cr eate tes s a po powe werf rful ul co conf nflilict ct between the rejectio ion n of femininity as a tool of patriarchal domination and the expression by feminist women of their own feminine identity. If fem femini inist st wo women men suffer suffer it is not at the hands of hardworki wo rking, ng, ma mascu sculin line e men but more mo re as a co cons nseq eque uenc nce e of what their own theory imposes on them.
WHY WOMEN CHOOSE THUGS by: Codebuster
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Let’s be clear about two things:
as the word that best encapsulates this dimension dimension..
1)The New York Times poses the question, "What do women want?" (DANIEL BERGNER Published:: January 22, 2009) Published
2)Femi 2)Fe mini nist stss do no nott wa want nt yo you u to know kn ow th this is (d (duh uh!) !).. In Inde deed ed,, at th this is earl ea rlyy st stag age, e, ev evid iden ence ce se seem emss to suggest that not only do they not want you to know this, but they will imple imp leme ment nt mea measu sure ress in di dire rect ct contra con traven venti tion on of the their ir che cheri rishe shed d free fre e spe speech ech tr tradi aditio tions ns to ens ensure ure that you are deni denied ed the right to know kno w thi this. s. We sho should uld expect expect the topic of women’ women’ss rape fantasies fantasies to beco be come me the ne new w tab aboo oo.. Bu Butt I digress. We’ve cov We’ve covere ered d the topic of rap rape e fantasies before on The Spearhead, so we really don’t need to revisit it in detail. Suffice Suffice it to say that I and the rest of us at The Spearh Spe arhead ead abh abhor or and reject ect the idea of rape. It is true to say that just becaus because e a woman fant fantasize asizess about being raped does not mean that she wants to be raped raped.. Most of us wi willll ha have ve no pr prob oble lem m wi with th respec res pectin ting g suc such h bas basic ic rig rights hts and we wo woul uld d no nott wi wish sh to de deny ny an anyy woman wo man th the e fr free eedo dom m to wa walk lk th the e streets stre ets unhin unhindere dered. d. Howev However, er, we must mu st fa face ce the lik ike elihood h ood th that at women’ss incli women’ inclinatio nations ns to fanta fantasize size about rape must surely predispose them to making cert certain ain kinds of choices, whether it’s the way that they dress or the men that they choose.. Women’ choose Women’ss rape fantasies spea sp eakk to th the e wa wayy tha hatt wo wome men n actualize their realities. What wo What word rd sh sho oul uld d we use to describe this dimension of female sexuality? In her Diary II, Anais Nin made the comment, “To be violated is perhaps a need in a woman, a secret erotic need.” It would seem appropriate to nominate “violation”
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It is nothing new or controversial to sugges sug gestt tha thatt vio violat lation ion fea featur tures es in pornography – for examp mplle Frontline hosted a program called "Ameri "Am erican can Por Porn" n" the vio violat lation ion to which one star was subjected was not ent entire irely ly scr script ipted, ed, nor aga agains instt herr wi he willll.. Wha Whatt is pe perh rhaps aps mor more e cont co ntro rove vers rsia iall wa wass he herr wi willllin ing g complicity. Violation,, then, is inte Violation integral gral to female sexu se xual alit ity, y, an and d it man manififes ests ts it itse selflf alo al ong a co con ntinuum n uum.. A wo woma man n fantasizes about having her prissy, porc po rcel elai ain n ni nice cene ness ss vi viol olat ated ed.. Of course there are different contexts, butt in te bu terrms of pr prim imal al dr driv ive es, violation viol ation is is its essence. essence. The pr prac acttic ical al imp mplilicat c atio ions ns women’s rape fantasies
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everything going for them partner up wi with th id idio iots ts,, on only ly be beco come me th the e trash that that they chose, chose, and I’ve seen seen wome wo men n wi with th no noth thin ing g go goin ing g fo forr them hit the jackp jackpot ot by way of a wealthy fool to become entitlement princesses. Of course men also change with the choices they make - but by and larg la rge, e, men se seem em to be mor more e in cont co ntro roll of th thei eirr de dest stin inie iess th than an wome wo men n do do.. My po poin int? t? Th Ther ere’ e’ss complic comp licate ated d stu stuff ff goi going ng on, qui quite te profou pro found nd act actual ually. ly. The onl onlyy thi thing ng that I can asser assertt with any amount of cer certai tainty nty is tha thatt wome women n don don’t ’t understand either women or men anywhere near to the same depth that men do. What women interpret as “empathy” has nothing whatsoever to do with understanding people and ever ev eryt ythi hing ng to do wi with th di dipl ploma omacy cy and social engagement;
At one end of the scale is the rough stuf st uff.f. It It’s ’s wh whyy wo women men hav have e ra rape pe fantasies. At the other end of the scale is intimacy. It’s why women fallll in lo fa love ve and wh whyy th they ey long long to share their sexuality with someone to whom they are loya loyal.l. Female sexuality applies to all women, and they make thei theirr choice choicess along this violation viol ation cont continuum. inuum. Ther There e are several implications:
3) Im Impo port rtan antt to un unde ders rsta tand ndin ing g wome men n is their reliance on superf sup erfici icial al lab labels els.. Wome Women n don don’t ’t apprehend depth. They don’t have to – it’s one of the costs of livi living ng livess of enti live entitleme tlement. nt. Cont Contrast rast this with t h me men n wh who, o, lik ike e ou ourr Ga Game me specia spe cialis lists, ts, exp expend end con consid sidera erable ble effo ef fort rt in un unde ders rsta tand ndin ing g wh what at makkes people tick. No su ma such ch demands are placed on women;
1) Every woman has within her the potential to betray and to like the roug ro ugh h st stuf uff. f. Ev Ever eryy wo woma man n ha hass within her the potential to be loyal and to like the intimacy. Clearly it dishonours a man to betray loyalty but it also dishonours him to harm even those who willingly so submit;
4) I’m thinking of a friend’s daughter as I write this, 17 years old, and her boyfriend. Why do girls from fro m sol solid id back backgro ground undss choo choose se annoying, characterless twerps to impact impa ct on the their ir des destin tinies ies? ? Thi Think nk “labe “l abel” l”.. Ad Adol oles esce cent nt mal males es wi with th adolescent priorities, leaving school early to enter the workforce, have their label labelss sorte sorted d out. Of cours course e their label labelss are short short-ter -term m and transient tran sient,, but young,, young impre imp ressi ssionab onable le gi girl rlss re rely lyin ing g on peerr acce pee accepta ptance nce don don’t ’t see thi this. s.
2)I’ve seen fine, loyal women who’ve had ha d ev ever eryt ythi hing ng go goin ing g fo forr th them em become bec ome slu sluts ts and I’I’ve ve see seen n slu sluts ts become loyal and loving partners. I’I’ve ve se seen en wo women men wh who o ha have ve ha had d
having the faintest notion of what he stands for or what he is. But if he comes across as too safe, if she canno can nott re resp spec ectt (f (fea ear) r) hi him, m, he he’l’lll beco be come me in invi visi sibl ble e to he herr as ju just st another nice-guy. He’ll become just ano an othe herr piece of that vague, amorp amo rpho hous us mas masss of be beta ta-h -hoo ood, d, another piece of the furniture. This interf int erface ace bet betwee ween n thr thrill ill and fea fearr presen pre sents ts to the sea season soned ed PUA a fine balancing-act that calls upon all his ski skills lls in psy psychol chology, ogy, dec decept eption ion,, confidence and charm;
What do I mean by “label”? It’s the badge, what they stand for, lifestyle – drugs, ado dollesce cen nt fashion statements, maybe as leader of a pack, or maybe as belonging to the “rig “r ight ht”” pa pack ck or pe peer er gr grou oup. p. It al alll comes co mes do down wn to la labe bel.l. Th This is is th the e stuff of impulse; 5) Men typically get their thrills from risk – for example, extreme sports, exciting business transactions, and so on. Women also get their thrills from fr om ri risk sk.. Bu Butt wh wher ere e sp spor orts ts or business ness neg negoti otiati ations ons are of lit little tle interest to them, women get their thrills thril ls from risky sex. It’s the thrill of the forbidden forbidden.. 6) Ni Nice ce gu guys ys do don’ n’tt do th the e ro roug ugh h stuff, and raunchy sex with a niceguyy is a co gu cont ntra radi dict ctio ion n in te terms rms.. That’s why casual sex with a nice guy doesn’t do it for women. That’s why a woman being pumped by a nice-guy is much more likely to want to get it over with, and she has to restra res train in her hersel selff fro from m blu blurti rting ng out “aren’t you done yet?” 7) On Only ly th thug ugss or ba badd-bo boyys ca can n delilive de verr on th the e ra rape pe fa fant ntas asy. y. Th The e most successful PUAs are the ones that can manage that fine line betw be twee een n th thri rillll an and d fe fear ar.. If a man spo sp ooks a woma man n and fails to appease appe ase her fears, fears, she’ she’llll jump to conclusions and dump him without
8) A sense of humor (SOH) means different things to men and women. Women construct elaborate plans for what they want. They have the word “agenda” etched indelibly into their foreheads. fore heads. They take themselves themsel ves too seri seriously ously.. Ther There e is no onus on women to have an SOH. In fact, to be honest, left to their own ow n de devi vice ces, s, I’I’d d ha have ve to say that wome wo men n do don’ n’tt ha have ve an SO SOH. H. No Nott really rea lly.. Sur Sure, e, the theyy lau laugh gh whe when n you bring your SOH into play, but the humor is rarely initiated by women. The reason that it is important for a man to have an SOH is that he has to disarm a woman. He has to unspoo uns pookk her her,, to make her for forget get her agenda. He has to be able to make her laugh at herself, to make her realize what a silly dork she is witth all the bi wi big g pr pro obl blem emss an and d dramas that clutter her life. That’s why teasing works so well. It’s about saving women from prissy
uptightness and drama; 9) Ba Badd-bo boys ys ar are e mo more re lilike kely ly to initiate, and this simple fact swings the stati statistica sticall outco outcome me in their favour. Most men learn fairly early on in lif ife e th that at if you he hesi sitat t ate, oppo op port rtun unit itie iess wi willll pa pass ss yo you u by by.. Women don’t have to confront the ramifications of this basic dynamic and it is another manifestation of theirr live thei livess of entitlement tlement that precludes them from having to take resp spo ons nsib ibiility t y fo forr the heir ir du dumb mb choices; 10) Game theorist David DeAngelo obs bse erve vess th that at “Mo Most st me men n fa faiil miserably when it comes to online dating dat ing.” .” I dis disagr agree ee wit with h Dav David id on this. It’s women that fail misera miserably bly when wh en it co comes mes to on onliline ne da dati ting ng.. They don’t have a clue, they jump to conclusions on the basis of limited information. In one sense, we can’t blame bla me wome women n bec becaus ause e the theyy hav have e to somehow sort through the large numbers of men that are available. But in ano anothe therr impo import rtant ant sen sense, se, women are essentially incapable of making ng ast astute ute jud judgeme gements nts in the way that men can. And they multiply theirr inept thei ineptitude itude with their vacuo vacuous us shopping-lists of requirements that bear no relationship to the Game techniques techn iques that can ulti ultimately mately snare a date – on this latter point, we can definitely agree with David. You can virt virtually ually ignor ignore e what a woman wom an sta states tes in her pro profil file, e, and
you will have much bette betterr luck, instead, snaring her with a bit of Game; 11) Wo 11) Wome men n re real aliz ize, e, at so some me fund fu ndam amen enta tall le leve vel,l, th that at th they ey cannot compete with men on an inte in tellllec ectu tual al ba basi sis. s. Tr Tryy as th they ey might mig ht to de deny ny it it.. Wom Women en ha have ve seriou ser iouss est esteem eem iss issues ues tha thatt are very diffe different rent to men’s men’s.. Where men ty typi pica callllyy te test st th thems emsel elve vess agai ag ain nst real aliity ty’s ’s slings i ngs an and d arrows, arro ws, women test themse themselves lves agai ag ains nstt th the e op opin inio ions ns of ot othe hers rs (recommende (rec ommended d keyw keyword ord searc search h – “rela “relation tional al aggre aggression ssion”” “soci “social al proof”). One of the consequences of women’s fragile self-esteem is the Grou Groucho cho Marks syndr syndrome ome “I don’t want to belong to any club that would have me as a memb me mbe er” r”.. Th That at’’s why ma many ny women are inclined to submit to the thugs that assert themselves. themselves. If he do does esn’ n’tt re resp spec ectt he her, r, it is cle cl ear to he herr th that at he ha hass the superior status that she values in a man; 12) Within the context of malefemale fem ale int intera eracti ctions ons,, a nic nice-g e-guy uy can ca n ma make ke an id ide eal ma marr rriiag age e partne par tner, r, who whose se pro provid vider er sta status tus can ensure a steady income for the rest of a woman’ woman’ss life. Niceguyss don guy don’t ’t make demands, demands, the theyy pede pe dest stal aliz ize e the their ir wi wive ves, s, an and d the theyy
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embra emb race ce th thei eirr pr prov ovid ider er ro role less withoutt comp withou complai lainin ning. g. But a nic niceeguy beta is never ever sexy, he never stirs the violation instincts of anyone. He is only ever “useful” as an agent of materialism; 13) Women are more inclined to assume ass ume thi things ngs tha than n to que questi stion on them. They are more like likely ly to jump to concl conclusion usionss about things, such as people’s intentions. It’s an exte ex tens nsio ion n of th the e min minds dset et th that at relilies re es on la labe bels ls.. Wom Women en do don’ n’tt have ha ve th thei eirr de delu lusi sion onss te test sted ed.. Reality changes things and a bit of rough rou gh stu stuff ff can have the effect effect either of awakening a thrill that a woman woma n nev never er kne knew w exi existe sted, d, or compelling her to retreat into a
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shell of frigid denial; 14) How can we know this stuff? You can’t ask a woman dire directly ctly,, nott so muc no much h be beca caus use e she she’l’lll lilie e about it (though yes, they will lie), butt mo bu more re be beca caus use e sh she e wo won’ n’tt understand your reference point, she has no way of expressing her experi exp erience ence fro from m a per perspe specti ctive ve that means means something something to you. You have to pret pretty ty much infer this stuff from a lot of observati obser vation, on, list listening ening to women talk, and reading ng betwe between en the lines. lin es. You hav have e to imag imagine ine how you your yourself self would alte alterr your thinking think ing if you were were limited limited to a life of prov pr ovid ided ed-f -for or enti en titl tlem emen ent. t.
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course cour se wit ithi hin n the vio iola lattio ion n contin con tinuum, uum, the there re are shad shades es of grayy and comp gra complex lex re reaso asons ns tha thatt are ar e fa fact ctor ored ed in into to wh whyy wo women men choose the men they do. But the point that I make here is that casual sex, at one end of the continuum, receives its motiva mot ivatio tions ns fr from om ins instin tincts cts tha thatt are ar e al alie ien n to wh what at mo most st me men n assu as sume. me. Me Men n have have to come to terms with the natur nature e of female sexual sex uality ity and its rel relati ations onship hip to violation viol ation and the forbidden. dden. There is a dir direct ect re relat lation ionshi ship p bet betwee ween n violation viol ation,, rape, female female arousal and love lo ve.. Th Ther ere e is no su such ch th thin ing g as “nice” violation. The rough stuff, at its most primal level, requires a thug. By contr contrast, ast, love requires res an archetype that is discouraged within withi n the Anglo Anglosphere sphere,, where wherein in alphas – or at least paper alphas – go some way to filling the void. Nice Ni ce-g -guy uyss mig might ht mak make e re reliliab able le prov pr ovid ider ers, s, bu butt th they ey ca cann nnot ot be associated with respect, and they don’t fall into either camp. They are ar e jus ustt “u “use sefful ul”” dr dron ones es,, as expendable expen dable as canno cannon-fo n-fodder dder in the battles instigated instigated and heade headed d by alphas. ADDENDUM (Paul Elam): I think the primary problem with most mo st me men n is th that at,, un unli like ke wh what at Code Co debu bust ster er sa said id in th this is fi fine ne articl art icle, e, the they y com comple pletel tely y fai faill to understand their own nature and the nature of women.
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Reading novels by women helps, because it can shed light on what they value value and fantasize fantasize about. about. Reading philosophy by men helps, beca be caus use e philoso losoph phyy co conc ncer erns ns itself its elf wit with h pro probin bing g ana analys lysis, is, and how it is that reality is perceived the way it is. Probi Probing ng analy analysis sis is
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just not what what women do. The bottom line? The reason that wome wo men n ch choo oose se th thug ugss is no nott a mirrag mi age. e. It’s no nott a pr prod oduc uctt of arbitr arb itrary ary sta stati tisti stical cal pro proces cesses ses.. There The re are ver veryy spe specif cific ic rea reason sonss whyy wo wh wome men n ch choo oose se th thug ugs. s. Of
Very few women ever rise above their hypergamous programming. The normal normal sta state te for women is not governed by the same values that th at me men n ad adop opte ted d to be beco come me good goo d pro protec tector torss and pro provid viders ers,, and an d to fu fun nct ctiion wi with thin in mal ale e hierarch hier archy y. The norma normall state for women is acquire as much sexual power over men as poss possible, ible, at any cost. Men and women as a whole are
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clueless cluele ss abo about ut eac each h oth other er,, and the th e on only ly ti time me th they ey su succ ccee eed d at relationships that are not forced to be maintained with social and legal pressures, is when they are boun bo und d by so some me so sort rt of mu mutu tual al benefi ben efitt tha thatt out outwei weighs ghs mov moving ing on. That part is particularly true of women. Women fantasize about rape for two tw o ma main in rea easo son ns, IMO MO.. Th The e primary prima ry of which is that rape is power and women are attra attracted cted to po powe werf rful ul me men. n. I ca can’ n’tt ev even en remember how many women have told me that are excited by the idea id ea of th thei eirr ma man n ju just st “t “tak akin ingg it.” it .” I ha have ve sp spok oken en wi with th ot othe her r wome wo men n wh who o ad admi mitt tted ed to ve very ry
violentt rap violen rape e fan fantas tasies ies,, man many y of them th em fa fant ntas asiz izin ingg ab about out be bein ingg gang raped. It is re real al si simp mple le.. Me Men n wh who o ca can n take what they want can protect and provide. And this makes the fantasy fanta sy of a man takin takingg what he wants such a core factor in the average female psyche. This gets wome wo men n go goin ingg mu much ch li like ke ki kill ller erss and thugs. Another exten Another extension sion of this playing into rape fantasies is just plain old fem female ale nar narcis cissi sism. sm. Wo Women men draw a good deal of self esteem and identity from being sexually attractive. And the idea of being so attractive as to cause a
powerful man to lose contr powerful control, ol, is like lik e the ult ultima imate te val valida idatio tion n of her sexual viability; an ultimate reflec ref lectio tion n of her pow power er.. And to have that sort of power over a group of men is even better. Yes, you are reading me right. Wom omen en’’s ra rape pe fa fant ntas asie iess ar are e fantasies fanta sies that empowe empowerr them as women. If a woman is so sexually alluring that she can cause men to lose control and break all social rules and personal values to select her to re rece ceiv ive e hi hiss se seed ed,, th then en th that at makes her an prime real estate in the world of hypergamy.
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Robert Topp, dean of the college of education at Nort No rthe hern rn IlIllilino nois is Un Univ iver ersi sity ty,, DeKalb, said schools discriminate against boys from kind ki nder erga gart rten en th thro roug ugh h hi high gh school scho ol beca because use they pena penalize lize them for nothing more than "masc "m asculi uline ne tendenc tendencies ies." ." Thi This s discrimination results in more girls gir ls tha than n bo boys ys bei being ng elig eligibl ible e forr co fo colllleg ege e an and d bo boys ys be bein ing g given giv en low lower er gra grades des tha than n the theyy des eser erve ve.. The Th e tr tro oubl ble e wit ith h boys, Dr. Topp said, is that they are ar e bo boys ys.. Th They ey do don' n'tt re read adililyy conform, they are restless and squirm squ irm mo more, re, the theyy are mo more re aggr ag gres essi sive ve an and d da dari ring ng,, an and d don' do n'tt ea easi sily ly ca catc tch h on onto to th the e "social niceties." The cla las ssr sro oom se sett ttin ing g, on the other hand, places a premium on tra traits its tha thatt gir girls, ls, not boys, exhi ex hibi bit, t, na nam mel elyy do doci cilility ty an and d conformity. Dr. Topp wondered if the traits that hurt boys in the classroom actually forti fo rtify fy the them m for life lat later, er, and he sa said id th that at to pr prev even entt bo boys ys from being femi feminized nized,, scho schools ols need to place less premium on "girl" traits, such as docility and conformity and start rewardin rewa rding g stud students ents more for crea cr eati tivi vity ty an and d ex extr traa-ve verb rbal al skills. Dr. Topp's analysis is dead-on. Butt do Bu does es it su surp rpri rise se yo you u to know that Dr. Topp wrote this analysis in a newspaper article that appeared December 3, 1961? The fact that this piec pi ece e is ju just st as va valilid d to toda day, y, almost alm ost fif fifty ty yea years rs lat later, er, sad sadly ly indicates that the "boy" prob pr oble lem m is isn' n'tt so some me re rece cent nt phenom phe nomeno enon. n. It is fair fair to say say that the problem wasn't new even ev en whe hen n Dr. To Topp pp wro rotte
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about it. It is also fair to say that even today, despite its incontro incon trovert vertible ible trut truths, hs, most educators don't fully buy into it, if they buy into at all, and most of the ones who do buy into it don't care all that much about it. You see, the "boy problem" does do esn' n'tt fi fitt th thei eirr pr pref efer erre red d metanarrative. The fact is, our sons have been second-class citizens at school, by most standards, for as long as anyone can remember, and hardly anyone has ever given a damn. Every one of the subjects in this post could have enti en tire re bo book oks s wr writ itte ten n ab abou outt them, and we mention them by way of illustration only. Take corporal punishment. It's now no w ba bann nned ed in mo most st sc scho hool ol dist di stri rict cts s in Am Amer eric ica, a, bu butt as recently as the 1970s, it was very common. Care to guess whether it was applied equally to boys and girls? In fact, many school districts expressly forbad for bade e spa spanki nking ng gir girls. ls. Bo Boys, ys, on th the e ot othe herr ha hand nd,, we were re fa fair ir game. gam e. In 1973, 1973, for examp example, le, Calif Ca lifor orni nia a sc scho hool ol bo boys ys we were re spanked 37,594 times. Calif Ca lifor orni nia a sc scho hool ol gi girl rls s we were re span sp anke ked d 2, 2,14 146 6 ti time mes. s. Do Does es that mean boys were 18 times more mo re de dese serv rvin ing g of co corp rpor oral al punishment than their females peers? Thirty-seven Thirty-se ven year years s ago, writ writer er Bethia Caffery wrote in the St. Petersburg Evening Independent that it was "unfa "un fair" ir" to bo boys ys tha thatt Pin Pinell ellas as County school girls may not be spanked but it was OK to span sp ankk th the e bo boys ys.. Sh She e ho hope ped d that "some group of [boys] will
organi orga nize ze an and d pr prot otes estt to th the e school board." Sure. The boys should organize. I mean, remember all those protests about unfair treatment to boys? Neither do I. Tha That's t's bec becaus ause e bo boys ys rar rarely ely ever protest unequal treatment that penalizes them for being boys. When they do, they generally are ignored. In Seattle Seat tle Wash Washingto ington n in 1978 1978,, the federal governement did crac ackk down on boys bei eing ng subjected to corporal puni pu nish shme ment nt fa farr mo more re th than an girls, but it wasn't because of a "boy protest." A female regi re gist ster ered ed nu nurs rse e bl blew ew th the e whistle on the unequal treatment. Innumerable school rules have historically placed restrictions on bo boys ys th that at di didn dn't 't ap appl plyy to girls. No facial hair (what would be th the e re reac acti tion on if gi girl rls s we were re told they had to shave a part of their bodies?). Boys must tuck in their shirts. No hair for boys bel elo ow a cer erttai ain n poin intt. No eari ea ring ngs. s. On an and d on an and d on on.. Butt hi Bu hist stor oric ical ally ly,, wh when en bo boys ys comp co mpla lain ined ed ab abou outt un uneq equa uall treatment, they were treated eith ei ther er as fr frea eaks ks or wh whin iner ers s (boy (b oys s wh who o pr prot otes este ted d rule ru les s that dictated boys', but not girl gi rls' s',, ha hair ir le leng ngth th in th the e 70 70s s were often treated with ridicule and harassment). More often, the unequal treatment of boys has been defended defe nded with rati rational onales es that are ar e les less s tha than n per persu suasi asive ve and sometimes downright comical. In 199 1990, 0, not exa exact ctly ly anc ancien ientt his hi sto torry, a To Tole led do boy wa was s
separated separate d from his class classmate mate beca be caus use e he wo wore re so some meth thin ing g only on ly gi girl rls s we were re pe perm rmit itte ted d to wear we ar:: a po pony nyta tailil.. He an and d hi his s parents said the school's dress code co de di disc scri rimi mina nate ted d ag agai ains nstt boys. The school super su perint intend endent ent def defend ended ed the school's action with a logic that is so breathtaking, it should be studied in law schools everyw eve rywher here: e: "Th "The e qu quest estion ion is nott a ki no kid d wi with th a po pony nyta tailil," ," he clucked. "The question is can a school scho ol dist district rict allow a stud student ent to willfully and continuously diso di sobe beyy ru rule les. s."" (L (Lit ittl tle e th thin ings gs,, such su ch as wh whet ethe herr th the e ru rule le is unjust unju st or unco unconstit nstitutio utional, nal, are beside the point.)
boys had argued they should be allowed to dress just as comf co mfor orta tabl blyy as th the e gi girl rls, s, bu butt that argument didn't cut it. Why hy? ? Lis istten to the Dep Deputy Superint Supe rintenden endent's t's rati rational onale e for why the bo boys' ys' arg argum ument ent did didn't n't pre reva vailil:: "We don' n'tt want to create too casual an environment." (Read that that quote quote again agai n to let it sink sink in. Girls in in de facto shorts, or even miniskirts, don' do n'tt cr crea eate te "t "too oo ca casu sual al an atmo at mosp sphe here re." ." Bo Boys ys we wear arin ing g shorts do.)
In 19 1997 97,, th the e Te Texa xas s Su Supr prem eme e Court ha had d no pr pro obl blem em wit ith h rules ru les tha thatt gov govern erned ed boy boys', s', but nott gi no girl rls' s',, ha hair ir le leng ngth th:: `` ``Th The e requir req uireme ement nt tha thatt ma males les wea wearr In 19 198 89, wh when en a La Lake kela land nd,, their hair no longer than a cert rtai ain n le leng ngth th ma mayy be ou outt of Flor Fl orid ida a te teen en ar argu gued ed th that at th the e ce step p wit with h the social social nor norms ms of scho sc hool ol di dist stri rict ct's 's dr dres ess s co code de ste disc di scri rimi mina nate tes s ag agai ains nstt bo boys ys the moment, but it does not depr priv ive e ma male le st stud uden ents ts of an because it allows girls to wear de culottes (divided skirts that look equal opportunity to receive an like baggy pants) but prevented edu educat cation ion or to pa parti rticip cipate ate in boys from wearing shorts shorts,, the sch cho ool func ncttio ions ns,',''' Just Ju stic ice e young man's argument was Prisc Priscilla illa Owen Owen wrote. wrote. (Um, but but dism di smis isse sed d ou outt of hand hand.. Th The e is it fair, Justice Owen?) Depu De puty ty Su Supe peri rint nten ende dent nt sa said id he'd heard the same argument Som Sometime etimes, s, the ratio rationales nales for in the 60 60s s wh when en gir irls ls we were re disp disparat arate e trea treatmen tmentt were the len nt of horse allowed to wear miniskirts. The legal equivale
manure manu re.. In Into to th the e '9 '90s 0s,, "T "Tak ake e Your Daughter to Work Day" syst sy stem emat atic ical ally ly ex excl clud uded ed th the e boyys bef bo efo ore a lo lott of pe peo opl ple e realized that this was unfair to our sons and had no place in a modern society. The Ms. Foundation for Women continued to defend the discrimination, and in 1994, its spok sp okes eswo woma man n Ne Nellll Me Merl rlin ino, o, parroted a once common feminist mantra that is, in fact, so lud ludicr icrou ous s tha thatt tod today, ay, eve even n feminists have difficulty saying it with wi th a st stra raig ight ht fa face ce:: "P "Peo eopl ple e don't appreciate that girls need a special level of encouragement. . . . . We know from fro m the res resear earch ch whe when n boy boys s and girls are together, partic par ticula ularly rly in thi this s [9[9-15] 15] age group, boys get more attention atte ntion." ." (Righ (Right, t, Ms. Merlino. Merlino. For one thing, boys are subjected to corporal puni pu nish shme ment nt 18 ti time mes s mo more re often than girls.) Mostly, boys were told to suck it up and take it like a little man. Take Ta ke gym gym class class.. Mo Most st of us know kno w tha thatt boy boys s alm almos ostt alw always ays showered in a communal sett se ttin ing g wh wher ere e th ther ere e wa was s no privac pri vacy. y. (Be (Beca cause use,, of course, course, no boy cares at all about mode mo dest sty. y.)) This Th is,, pr pres esum umab ably ly,, was supposed to prepare them for military life, something their fema fe male le pe peer ers s di didn dn't 't ha have ve to worry about. The boys forced to show sh ower er to toge geth ther er we were re of ofte ten n expe ex peri rien enci cing ng th the e ef effe fect cts s of pube pu bert rtyy at wi wild ldly ly di dive verg rgen entt times, with all the accompan acco mpanying ying trau trauma ma for the guys guy s lagging lagging behind. behind. The girls, girls, of course, were afforded sho sh owe werr compart rtm men entts to protect their modesty. Worse, some younger readers might find it bizarre that it was com co mmo mon n fo forr bo boys ys,, bu butt ve very ry rare ra rely ly gi girl rls, s, to be fo forc rced ed to swim in the nude in gym class. Backk in the '40s, Bac '40s, one Detroit Detroit
school district came under fire fire fir e fr from om mo mothe thers rs whe when n bo both th boys and girls were forced to swim sw im nu nude de in th thei eirr se sepa para rate te gym gy m cl clas asse ses. s. Ca Can n yo you u gu gues ess s whic wh ich h ge gend nder er th the e mo moth ther ers s compla com plaine ined d abo about ut? ? The girls, girls, of course. course. "Per "Persona sonally lly I see no reason for girls at these schools going swimming in the nude," said one moth mo ther er in th the e Ja Jan. n. 16, 1947 Spokesman-Review. "Itt is ju "I jus st go goin ing g to low lo wer th thei eirr moral stan st anda dard rds s an and d ge gett them off on the wrong wron g foot." foot." Anot Another her woman said: "We are all alarmed about this free fr eed dom the gir irls ls have been given. Ther Th ere e is no tel elliling ng what it could lead to and we want it stopped at once." As for the boys swimming nude? For a lo long ng ti time me,, no on one e care ca red. d. If ad adul ults ts ha had d aske as ked d the boys ys,, in confid con fidenc ence e at lea least, st, they would have learned that a fair fa ir nu num mber of th them em we were re traumatized by it. The whole delayed puberty thing and the phen ph enom omen enon on of un unwa want nted ed erections -- hey, too bad for the boys bo ys.. Th The e fe feel elin ing g wa was, s, "real "real"" boys suck it up and swim in the nude.. When a parent nude parent wrote wrote to Dear Abby in 1968 complainin comp laining g beca because use her 14 year-old son was told he would have to swim in the nude and the boy felt uncomfor uncomfortable, table, Abby showed little of the warmth war mth and sen sensit sitivi ivity ty ma many ny associate with her today: "[H]e had better overcome his shyn sh ynes ess s ab abou outt nu nudi dity ty in th the e presen pre sence ce of ot other her bo boys, ys,"" she lect le ctur ured ed,, "o "orr he is ap aptt to be unco un comf mfor orta tabl ble e mu much ch of hi his s life." lif e." (Ri (Right ght.. Bec Becaus ause e the firs firstt
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thing adult guys do when they try out for girls teams. The law gett to ge toge geth ther er is sh show ow ea each ch in this this ar area ea is co comp mple lexx an and d othe ot herr th thei eirr pe peni nise ses. s. Th Than ank k wh while ile it is po poss ssib ible le to toda day, y, in good go odne ness ss th they ey fo forc rced ed us to some circumstances, for boys swim sw im na nake ked d wh when en we we were re to play on girls' teams, legally, 14.) When paren parents ts finally finally got got it is more difficult for a boy to aro ar ound to compl pla ain inin ing g to play on a girls' team than vice school boards about the versa. This is so because, in immodest immo destyy of boys swimming sports, as elsewhere, the law nude nu de in th the e 70 70s, s, on one e Du Dulu luth th doe doesn' sn'tt ca care re as mu much ch abo about ut the harm to an individual boy as it carres abo ca bou ut the rights of girls as a class. "It is the clas cl ass s of gi girl rls, s, no nott boys bo ys,, wi with th wh whom om the government seek se eks s to re redr dres ess s past discrimination and promote equali equ ality. ty. It is gir girls, ls, not boys, who have suffered and contin con tinue ue to suf suffer fer from discrimina discr imination tion and inequalities in athletics. . . . [C]ourts in ERA states stat es and fede federal ral courts cour ts supp support orting ing EPC EP C prot pr otec ecti tion ons s have ha ve foun und d tha hatt school board member couldn't pro protec tectin ting g the par partic ticipa ipatio tion n unders und erstan tand d why all the fus fuss. s. rights of girls as a previously After all, he said, the boys "still dis discri crimin minate ated d ag again ainst st 'cl 'class ass'' will gang shower in the nude." out utw wei eigh gh th the e rig igh hts of an ("G (" Gan ang g sh sho owe wer" r" -- sound nds s 'i'ind ndiv ivid idua ual'l' bo boyy to pl play ay on a love lo vely ly.) .) Be Beca caus use, e, of co cour urse se,, girls girls’’ team." team." See here. here. giving the boys separate show sh ower er co comp mpar artm tmen ents ts wa was s And there there you you have it. it. Und Under er out of the question. the guise of historical ine in equality, second-cla las ss As fo forr sc scho hool ol sp spor orts ts,, we wellll,, treatment for boys has been entire books are written about given a judicial imprimatur. Oh, unequa une quall gen gender der tre treat atmen mentt in well, at least when it comes to school sports. When the spor sports, ts, the gove governme rnment nt went federa fed erall gov govern ernmen mentt dec decide ided d to the trouble of that girls had been historically ma manu nufa fact ctur uring ing a ra rati tion onal ale. e. deprived of their rightful Historically, boys' second-class opportun oppo rtunities ities to part participa icipate te in treatment in school has been sports, girls were permitted to regarded as "just the way it is." try out for boys teams, even though this took spots away from the the boys. Boys Boys,, however, however, typically were not permitted to
The "KafkaTrap" In Fr Fran anzz Ka Kafk fka' a's s no nove vell "T "The he Tr Tria ial" l",, th the e ma main in character is on trial for crimes that are never spec ecif ifie ied, d, whe here re th the e onl nlyy way 'o 'ou ut' is to acquiesce to his own destruction, and where the process is designed to humiliate, degrade, and destroy him regardless of whether a crime has been committed at all. Some may say, in striking resemblance to our current legal system.
argume argu ment nts s be bein ing g us used ed to toda dayy to pr prod oduc uce e a generalized gener alized guilt on cert certain ain subj subjects ects,, allow allowing ing the manipulation of the subject into compliance with the operator operator's 's wishes. wishes. In similar fashion fashion to the methods employed in "The Trial. Thes Th ese e ar argu gume ment nts s ha have ve be been en ap appr prop opri riat atel elyy termed "Kafkatrap "Kafkatraps", s", and we offer you a work wo rkin ing g de defi fini niti tion on he here re.. Fo Forr th the e pu purp rpos ose e of brevity, any and all -isms (sexism, racism, etc) are denoted *.ism:
There are several circular, almost nonsensical
Model 'A': "Your refusal to acknowledge that you are guilty of *.ism confirms that you are guilty of *.ism"
This most obvious of Kafkatraps is also the most easily dismissed. Simply laughing should suffice. Model 'C': “Even if you do not feel yourself to be guilty of *.ism, you are guilty because you have benefited from the *.ist behavior of others in the system.”
The subject of this attack must be prevented from noticing, or failing that, articulating, the fact that one cannot be held responsible for the actions of another free human being, let alone a whole group of them. Model 'P': “Even if you do not feel yourself to be guilty of *.ism, you are guilty because you have a privileged position in the *.ist system.” Model 'S': Skepticism about any particular anecdotal account of *.ism, or any attempt to deny that the
particular anecdote implies a systemic problem in which you are one of the guilty parties, is itself sufficient to establish your guilt.” For this to work, the subject must willingly self-condemn, not based on their own actions, but on accepting the Kafkatrapper's assessment of their situation, and 'guilt by association'.
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COMMON PICKUP MISTAK by: Chateau
Complain Picture Pictu re tw two o gu guys ys sw swapp appin ing g complaints about the ratio of girls at the venue they're at. Little did they know, the two women they would eventually appr ap proa oach ch ov over erhe hear ard d th thei eirr bitc bi tchi hing ng.. “L “Let et’s ’s ge gett ou outt of here. her e. The There’s re’s not nothin hing g goi going ng on.. The on here re ar are e no ch chic icks ks.” .” Then, on a dime, they swiitch sw che ed on their happ ppyy faces face s whe when n the theyy not noticed iced the girl gi rls s an and d de deci cide ded d to hi hitt on them. There are two problems with this seemingly seemin gly innocu innocuous ous behavi beh avior or.. On One, e, bit bitch chin ing g an and d mo aning will infect the positive attitude you need to prop pr oper erly ly sedu se duce ce wom omen en.. E ven if y ou a re a pr o at alte al teri ring ng yo your ur de deme mean anor or to suit your company, the simp si mple le ac actt of ve verb rbal aliz izin ing g a negat ne gativ ive e fe feel elin ing g ca can n su subtl btlyy i n f l u en c e y our f acia l openness openne ss and attitude. Highly
femini femi nine ne an and d in intui tuiti tive ve gi girls rls can pick up on that. Two,, and more impo Two importan rtantly, tly, you don’t want women you’ you’ve ve yet to meet getti getting ng rings ringside ide seat se ats s to yo your ur dr dr.. je jeky kyllll mr mr.. hyde hy de fa facad cade. e. Fil File e th this is un unde derr incongruency. When a woman o v e r h ea r s y ou complai com plainin ning g abou aboutt the rati ratio o (and (an d mor more e wom women en can hea hearr what you say in their prox pr oxim imit ityy th than an yo you u mi migh ghtt imagin ine e), and th the en ge gets ts intr in trod oduc uced ed to yo your ur sm smililey ey,, good goo d tim times es self self,, she she’s ’s goin going g to regist register er the disco disconnect. nnect. Whyy sta Wh start rt a pi picku ckup p att attem empt pt unnecessarily handicapped? I sup suppos pose e PU PUA A gur gurus us wo would uld call this “being in state”.
Argue Argu e Men get arg ar gume men ntat atiive ve.. “Why woul uld d yo you u root fo forr Urug Ur ugua uayy an and d ag agai ains nstt yo your ur own country?” This is often a
fatal er fatal erro ror. r. Wo Wome men n do no nott like li ke to ar argu gue e (b (bar arri ring ng th the e exce ex cept ptio ions ns th that at lo loit iter er th this is inte in tern rnet et ou outp tpost ost). ). Wo Wome men n lilike ke to wi win n ar argum gumen ents ts;; th they ey just don’ don’tt like the proce process ss of a r g u i n g t o a c h i e v e t he sati sa tisf sfyi ying ng wi win. n. Me Men n ar argu gue e becau be cause se it is a na natu tural ral part of our being — as natural as farting loudly and laughing in triumph. trium ph. So men tend to proje pr oject ct th thei eirr co comfo mfort rt wi with th arguing onto the women with whom t h ey i n t er a c t . Reme Re membe mber, r, pr proje ojecti ction on is a cognitive bias of both sexes, (tho (t houg ugh h a mo more re fr freq eque uent nt failing of women.) M en m a y t h i n k t h a t b y arguing with women they are demonstrating a lpha chara cteris tics l i ke mascu ma sculilini nity, ty, bo bold ldne ness, ss, an and d asse serrtive ven ness ss,, butt bu what women usually think of argum ar gumen enta tativ tive e me men n is th that at they are annoy annoying, ing, bitte bitter, r, and tingle-kill tingle -killing. ing. Save the argui arguing ng
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for ug ly or o t he r w i s e undesirab ablle bitc tch h es you aren’t trying to bed.
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Confuse Aggr Confuse Aggressiv essivenes eness s for Cockiness
When I wa When was s app applyi lying ng mys mysel elff to learni learning ng game mater material, ial, D avid DeAngelo’ s Cock Co cky/ y/Fu Funn nnyy se seri ries es ha had d a big impact on me.
Simila Simi larr to th the e ab abov ove, e, me men n have a bad habit of confusing male-ce mal e-centr ntric ic aggr aggressi ession on for female fem ale-cen -centri tric c appr appreci eciati ation on of cock cockyy ind indiffe ifferen rence. ce. Thi This s is commonly referred to as the overplayed neg, and happens when wh en on one e ha has s cr cros osse sed d th the e threshold thresh old from seduc seductive tive backh ba ckhand anded ed co compl mplim imen entt to vaj-shriv vajshriveling eling awkwar awkward d insul insult. t. The ov The over erpl play ayed ed ne neg g is th the e bane of g ame acoly tes everywhere, and it is why so many ma ny ne newb wbie ies s gi give ve up an and d turn again against st the only solut solution ion that can give them hope. Once On ce th the e ne neg g is ma maste stere red, d, though,, a whole world of though deliligh de ghts ts ope opens ns up. A bet bette terr wayy to ne wa neg g th the e wo wome men n an and d displ di splay ay su super perio iori rity ty wi with thou outt
As he st stre ress sse ed, yo you u ca can n’t have ha ve th the e co cock ckyy wi with thou outt th the e funny. The two go together to f orm a p erfect union of s educt ive prowess. Cock Co ckin ines ess s alon al one e con co nve veys ys arroga arr oganc nce, e, th the e st stin inkk of th the e m an tr ying too har d to impress impr ess or domi dominat nate. e. Fun Funny ny alone alo ne is th the e pro provin vince ce of th the e c las s clown, the enterta ent ertainm inment ent mon monkey key.. But fuse fus e th them em,, an and d you have an attitude that is irresistible to women. Add a 10" cock and it’s game over, maaan, game oveeer!
Leave in a Huff What’s What’ s wo worse rse th than an ge gett ttin ing g rejec re jecte ted? d? Ge Getti tting ng re rejec jecte ted d and giving the girl the satisfac sati sfactio tion n of kno knowin wing g her rejec re jecti tion on got to you you.. I can can’t ’t tell you how many men I’ve observe obse rved d get blown out and then leave the scene of the accident with a parting insult or a no noti tice ceabl able e su sulk lk in th thei eirr bodyy lan bod langu guage age.. Wh Whyy wo woul uld d you treat some rando random m chick worth no more than a humid summer summ er day’ day’s s cond condens ensatio ation n on a single short and curly to the pleas pleasure ure of your petty meltdown? The best response to a rejection is no respons resp onse. e. Say goodbye as if you were part parting ing compa company ny with a gas station attendant. Maxim #4 Maxim #45: 5: Be Befo fore re se sex, x, no girl gi rl yo you u ar are e at attr trac acte ted d to is impor im portan tantt en enoug ough h to me meri ritt an emotional reaction should the picku pickup p attem attempt pt turn bad.
This date in history: Lorena Bobbitt sliced off her husband's penis and exposed the politics of hate ! by: Archi Archivist vist
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The mutilation of John Wayne Bobbitt by his wife, Lorena, on June 23, 1993, marks one of the most appalling and repr re preh ehen ensi sibl ble e ch chap apte ters rs in moder ern n Wes estter ern n gen end der rela re lati tion ons. s. Th The e st stor oryy is we wellll known: Lorena Bobbitt said her husb hu sban and d ab abus used ed he herr ov over er a prolon pro longed ged per period iod of tim time e and that, on the night in question, he raped her. In a moment of what she claimed was temporary insanity, while her husband slept, she went to the kitc ki tche hen n of th thei eirr ap apar artm tmen ent, t, grabbe gra bbed d a kni knife, fe, ret retur urned ned to the bedroom, and proceeded to cut off most of his penis. She Sh e th then en ho hopp pped ed in he herr ca car, r, penis in hand, and drove away. As she sped by a fi fiel eld d, sh she e tossed the severed appendage outt th ou the e wi wind ndow ow.. Th The e or orga gan n was wa s la late terr rec eco over ered ed and nd,, miraculously, reattached to its owner.
the incident, with de rigueur, mind mi ndle less ss,, kn knee ee je jerk rk fi fide delit lity, y, women's organizations branded bran ded the perp perpetra etrator tor "the victim" and the victim "the perp pe rpet etra rato tor" r" st stri rict ctly ly al alon ong g gender lines, even though the alleged rape was "he said/she said, sa id,"" and eve even n tho though ugh the there re was no qu ques esttio ion n th tha at sh she e mutil mu tilat ated ed him whi while le he sle slept. pt. Thi his s wa was sn' n'tt ju just st a ru rus sh to judgment; it was a 60-meter spri sp rint nt,, co comp mple lete ted d in re reco cord rd time. Before a single scrap of evidence was considered by a jury, for feminists and many women, the trial was over even bef efo ore it ha had d beg egu un. Th The ey arrog ar rogate ated d to any wo woma man n the right to exact the most gruesome grue some vigila vigilante nte just justice ice on any "member" of any member of the opposite sex. The Bobb Bo bbit ittt af affa fair ir wa was s fe femi mini nist st star st ardu dust st wi wish shfu fuln lnes ess s co come me true.
The Bobbitt affair was appall app alling ing and rep repreh rehens ensibl ible, e, and not merely because of the gruesome act of mayhem that defined it. It was all the more desp de spic icab able le be beca caus use e of th the e unspeakable glee, the unb nbrrid idle led d del elig igh ht, and th the e inexplicable exultation expr ex pres esse sed d by fe femi mini nist sts s an and d large segments of the female popula pop ulatio tion, n, who lux luxur uriat iated ed in the vile mutilation of some lower class nobody, a man who had difficulty holding onto a job as a manual laborer. Feminists Femin ists rega regarded rded the event as both a watershed moment in the battle of the sexes and a justifiable assault on maleness itself.
John Bob John obbi bitt tt:: Claim Victim
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The mu mutil tilati ation on co could uldn't n't the then, n, and an d ca can' n'tt no now, w, be ra rati tion onal ally ly justified on any level. It was not self-defen selfdefense. se. Amp Ample le eviden evidence ce sho how wed tha hatt both Mr. an and d Mrs. Mr s. Bo Bobb bbit ittt ab abus used ed ea each ch other ot her du durin ring g the their ir ma marr rriag iage. e. There is no evidence to believe anythi any thing ng sto stopp pped ed eit either her one from leaving the other, and at the time of the maiming, they had bee been n dis discu cussi ssing ng div divor orce. ce. By any measure, Mrs. Bobb Bo bbit itt' t's s vi vigi gila lant nte e "j "jus usti tice ce"" didn't fit the crime, even if Mr. Bobbitt Bob bitt had rape raped d her earlier in the evening, as she claims. But di But did d Mr. Mr. Bo Bobb bbit ittt rape rape hi his s wife? When the legend
become beco mes s fa fact ct,, ol old d co cowb wboy oys s and an d fe femi mini nist sts s al alik ike e in insi sist st on prin pr inti ting ng th the e le lege gend nd.. In th the e Bobbit ittt case, the legend quickly took hold that of course John Joh n Bo Bobbi bbitt tt rap raped ed his wif wife. e. The problem is, the facts don't suppor sup portt the legend. legend. It seems seems more mo re lik likely ely tha thatt Joh John n Bo Bobbi bbitt tt was wa s th the e vi vict ctim im of no nott on only ly a horrib hor rible le bod bodily ily mu mutil tilati ation on but also of a false rape claim. Mrs. Bo Mrs. Bobbi bbitt tt's 's ver versio sion n of the facts was the evolving narrative of a woman groping for victim victimhoo hood. d. At the time time of her arr arrest est,, acc accor ordin ding g to the New Ne w Yo Yorrk Ti Tim mes es,, she told police: "He always have orga or gasm sm an and d he do does esn' n'tt wa wait it for me to have or orgas gasm. m. He' He's s selfish. I don't think it's fair, so I pulllled pu ed ba back ck th the e sh shee eets ts th then en and an d I did it it." ." Th Tha at wa was s th the e reason reas on she gave for severing his penis. Later, however, she claime cla imed d she cu cutt her hus husban band d in an ange gerr af afte terr he ra rape ped d he her, r, and she told a psychiatrist that she cut him "really fast." Later, at her own trial, she claimed she co could uldn't n't eve even n rem rememb ember er doing it. "This was all contrived to strike back at him after he said he was going to leave her," said Mr. Bobbitt's counsel, Gregory L. Murphy. "She was acting out a fantasy that's in the psyche of ma many ny wo wome men. n."" Me Mell Fe Feit it,, exec ex ecu utiv ive e di dirrec ecto torr of th the e Nati Na tion onal al Ce Cent nter er fo forr Me Men n in Brookl Bro oklyn, yn, mig might ht hav have e hit the nail on the head with his explanatio expla nation n for the muti mutilatio lation. n. "This is the result of feminists teaching women that men are natural oppressor oppressors." s."
As bef efit its s a case whe herre th the e accu ac cuse ser' r's s st stor oryy is a mo movi ving ng target, at his trial for marital sexual abuse, John Bobbitt was acquitted acqu itted.. But that that did nothing nothing to end the misandry. Lorena Bobbitt: Feminist Hero
From the outset, Lorena Bobbitt was widely regarded as a feminist hero. Time Magazine said there was a "ripple of glee that passed through the female population when Lorena Bobbitt struck str uck back." back." Van Vanity ity Fair Fair ran a sultry sul try pho photo to sp sprea read d of Lo Loren rena a Bobb bbit ittt an and d bran and ded he herr a "national folk heroine." A woman wrote to th the e Ne New w York Times: "Prof. Catharine MacKinnon of the University of Michigan and the writer Andrea Dworkin long ago pointed to the inst in stit itut utio ion n of ma marr rria iage ge as a legal cover for the act of rape and the perm permanen anentt hum humiliati iliation on of women. Lorena Bobbitt's life has been a poignant instance of that nightmare, which elicited a bold bo ld an and d co cour urag ageo eous us ac actt of feminis fem inistt self-de self-defen fense. se. As one one who rec recent ently ly ret retur urned ned fro from m a conference of feminist activists in Europe, I can assure readers that the Lorena Bobbitt case has ha s ga galv lvan aniz ized ed th the e wo wome men' n's s movem mo vement ent wor worldw ldwide ide in a wa wayy the Anita Hill case never did. No feminist is advocating emasculation as the weapon of first choice. And some women question ques tion the polit political ical prud prudence ence of 'soc 'sociosex iosexual ual vigila vigilantism ntism.'.' But what wh atev ever er the ju jud dgmen entt of Amer Am eric ica' a's s pa patr tria iarc rcha hall le lega gall system sys tem,, Lo Loren rena a Bo Bobbi bbitt tt is for most feminists no criminal. She is instead a symbol of innovative resi re sist stan ance ce ag agai ains nstt gend ge nder er oppression everywhere." Anothe Anot herr wo woma man n se seem emed ed to sum su m up th the e fe feel elin ings gs of ma many ny women without the pretentious feminist femin ist pati patina: na: "Eve "Every ry wom woman an I'I've ve ta talk lked ed to ab abou outt th this is sa says ys,,
'Way to go!'" A sexual assault counselor said she didn't condone the maiming but cou could ld "un "under dersta stand nd it, it,"" and "could sympathize." The severa sev erance nce of thi this s 2626-yea year-o r-old ld loser's penis somehow became, in the word rds s of tha hatt se sexu xua al assaul ass aultt co couns unselo elor, r, "a cri critic tical al event in the history of women." Why? Wh y? Be Beca caus use e "v "vio iole lenc nce e is done do ne to wo wome men n co cont ntin inuo uous usly ly and an d pe perv rvas asiv ivel ely. y. An And d th this is is a retaliatory act of great dramatic valu lue e . . . ." John Bobbi Bo bbitt' tt's s sev severe ered d pen penis is was a sac sa cri riffic icia iall off ffer erin ing g fo forr the collective guilt of all men on the altar of political correctness. The ma The main inst stre ream am me medi dia a wa was s only on ly to too o ha happ ppyy to mi mirr rror or th the e femi fe mini nist st gl glee ee wi with th ba bare rely ly an anyy more mo re restr restrai aint nt.. Prog Pr ogre ress ssiv ive e writers (we called them "liberal" back then) dubbed the affair a "cauti "ca utiona onary ry tal tale" e" for men men.. The lesso les son n was wasn't n't tha thatt mu mutil tilat ating ing anothe ano therr hum human an bei being ng is nev never er justified; the lesson was that men had better wise up when it comes to how they treat wome wo men n or th they ey'l'lll ri righ ghtl tlyy lo lose se
their dicks. Female features writers couldn't bring themselves to outright applaud the mutilation but they went to grea gr eatt le leng ngth ths s to ma make ke cl clea earr that they were sympathet sympathetic ic to it. One columnist wrote: "Personally, I'm for both femi fe mini nism sm an and d no nonv nvio iole lenc nce. e. I adm dmir ire e the male body an and d prefer to find the penis att ttac ache hed d to it ra rath ther er th tha an having to root around in vacant lots with Ziploc bag in hand. But I'm not wil willin ling g to wai waitt ano anothe therr decade or two for gender peace to prevail. And if a fellow insists on using his penis as a weapon, I say that, one way or another, he ought to be swiftly dis isa arm rme ed. d."" A no nott-s so-v -vei eile led d justification for mutilation, so long as the mutilation involves a penis, and premised on a thousand modern-day Chicken Little fables and made-up stats that encourage young women to see sexual predation oozing from every male zipper. Then th Then ther ere e wa was s ce cele lebr brat ated ed colu lum mni nis st Elllle en Goodm dma an, Radcliffe grad and Pulitzer Prize winner win ner,, one of the darlings darlings of
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progress progr essive ive fem femini inism sm who whose se column colu mn appe appeared ared in hund hundreds reds newspape news papers rs acro across ss the natio nation n and who, on the the entitlement and privilege scale, was a "ten" to John Bobbitt's "one." Ellen Good Go odman man to took ok tim time e ou outt fro from m polis po lishi hing ng th the e aw awar ards ds on he herr mant ma ntle le to ma make ke th this is wo work rkin ing g class putz her personal piñata. Ms. Goodman, of course, refused to come out and condone the mutilation, but she cert ce rtai ainl nlyy co coul uld d "e "exp xpla lain in," ," in a decidedly feminist way, both the mutilation and women's celebr cel ebrato atory ry reactio reaction n to it. Ms. Good Go odman man con conclu cluded ded tha thatt thi this s story became a national sensation only because a woman finally fought back. "Last year," she declared without bothering to support her pronouncement with silly things like evidence, "the police blotter was full of abused and battered wive wi ves s -- an al almo most st un unililat ater eral al massacr mas sacre." e." (Bec (Because ause,, you see, in 1993, women did not commit domestic violence. Even today, few progressiv progressive e female writers accept the indisputable fact, fac t, pro proven ven bey beyond ond qu quest estion ion,, that women commit domestic violence in significant numbers -- again ins st men, and other wome wo men. n.)) No Now, w, Ms. Good Goodma man n gushed, men "see a dangerous enemy where there was once a victim." And the men squirming at the thought of being Bobbittized? "If women smile at men who squirm, maybe it's at that recognition of power." Ms. Goodman's take on the matter, of co cour urse se,, pr prov oves es on one e th thin ing: g: even ev en mi misa sand ndri rist sts s ca can n wi win n a Pulitzer Prize. To use the stilted, stick-up-theirass syntax of Women's Studies majors, trying ever so hard to conv co nvin ince ce ev ever eryo yone ne th they ey ar are e actually getting an education in those wretched classes, Ms. Bobbitt was the leveler of gender gen dered ed pow power er dif differ ferent ential ials. s. She Sh e wa was s a fe femi mini nist st Ba Batm tman an,,
withou with outt th the e co codp dpie iece ce.. Ne Neve verr mind min d tha thatt non none e of the wo women men appl ap plau audi ding ng pe peni nile le mu muti tila lati tion on would applaud any other type of brutal bru tal vig vigila ilante nte jus justic tice e fo forr any other type of crime. Nothing a woma wo man n co coul uld d do wo woul uld d ev ever er justify mutilation of her breasts or vag vagina ina.. Yet vig vigila ilante nte jus justic tice e direct dir ected ed at the penis of som some e below average guy was herald her alded ed wit with h a gid giddy dy "yo "you u go go,, girlfr gir lfrien iend!" d!" hea heard rd aro around und the world. The fact that purportedly enlightened enligh tened publi publicati cations ons were quietl qui etly, y, and som someti etimes mes not so quietly, rooting for Mrs. Bobbitt even eve n bef befor ore e a sin single gle fact was adjudic ica ated or a scrap of evid ev iden ence ce ad admi mitt tted ed at tr tria iall is noth no thin ing g sh shor ortt of as asto toun undi ding ng,, puzzling, puzz ling, and frigh frightenin tening, g, all at once. John Bob John Bobbit bittt Fit the Fem Femini inist st Metana Met anarra rrativ tive e as Opp Oppres ressor sor of Women
What was behind all this contempt, all this hatred for a run-of-t runof-the-m he-mill ill 26-ye 26-year-o ar-old ld man who, wh o, by an anyy lo logi gica call me meas asur ure, e, was the real real victim victim here? here? Think Duke lacrosse. He fit the fem fe min inis istt ste tere reo otype as an oppressor. He was young, white and an ex-Marine. The fact that he was anything but "privileged" was wa s ea easy sy to ov over erlo look ok an and, d, in fact fa ct,, be bene nefi fici cial al be beca caus use e he lacked lac ked the cap capaci acity ty to def defend end himself against the Elllle en Goodmans of the world. As Th Thom omas as So Sowe wellll re rece cent ntly ly wro rotte in In Inttel elle lec ctu tua als and Society: "Information or allegations reflecting negatively on ind indivi ividua duals ls or gr grou oups ps see seen n less le ss sy sym mpa path thet etic ical ally ly by th the e intell int ellige igents ntsia ia pas pass s rap rapidl idlyy int into o the public domain with little scruti scr utiny ny and mu much ch pu publi blicit city." y." Sowe So wellll ci cite ted d tw two o of th the e mo more re prom pr omin inen entt ho hoax axes es in re rece cent nt hist hi stor oryy as ev evid iden ence ce fo forr th this is
point: the alleged gang rapes of black bla ck women women by white men in the Tawana Brawley and Duke lacrosse lacr osse cases cases.. He might might also have cited the Bobbitt affair. The Politics of Hate
But some colu columnist mnists s cou couldn't ldn't accept acce pt that women in gener general al embr em brac aced ed th the e fe femi mini nist st gl glee ee over the mutilation. Syndicated columnist Mona Charen explained why Mrs. Bobbitt was chosen as a feminist pinup girl: the mutilation, they believed, was wa s "ev "every ery wo woman man's 's fan fantas tasy." y." The Th e ca case se gr grip ippe ped d th the e me medi dia a because, Ms. Charen lamented, "they [the media] really believe that most women feel that way deep de ep do down wn." ." Bu Butt Ms Ms.. Ch Char aren en recognize reco gnized d how utte utterly rly twis twisted ted alll of it wa al was: s: "I "Iff fe femi mini nist sts s ar are e seethi see thing ng wit with h suc such h hat hatred red fo forr men, that is evid ide ence of a politics bordering on pathology." She Sh e co cont ntin inue ued: d: "T "To o se see e th the e mutilation of a man's body as a political act and to signal secret approval and a vicarious thrill . . . tr trul ulyy de dese serv rves es th the e la labe bell 't 'the he politics of hate.'" Cha harren fo fou und the na nattio ion' n's obses ob sessio sion n wit with h the mu mutil tilati ation on "bizarre, abnormal and sexist to boot." It would be impossible to disa di sagr gree ee wi with th Ms Ms.. Ch Char aren en's 's observation about reversing the gend ge nder ers: s: "I "Iff a wo woma man n we were re similarly wounded by a man, no one would treat it with ghoulish humo hu mor. r. Men are evi eviden dently tly fai fairr game ga me." ." Th The e br brilillia liant nt Ch Char arle les s Krauthammer, one of Amer Am eric ica' a's s mo most st re resp spec ecte ted d political commentators, chimed in and noted that the hypothetical where the genders were reversed "would not have the weight of feminist rage behind behin d it." News Newsweek week nailed nailed it: "Just imagine what [feminists'] reacti rea ction on wo would uld be if som someon eone e had tried to cut off a woman's breast. Femin inis istts have a cutting-edge sense of
humor...but humor.. .but only if it's directed at men."
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Even wh Even when en Mr Mr.. Bo Bobb bbit ittt wa was s found not guilty of marital rape, that didn't change the feminists' view that, of course, he was really guilty. Kim Gandy of NOW said sa id the ver verdic dictt "d "disc iscou ourag rages es wome wo men n an and d gi give ves s me men n a fr free ee ride rid e in marita maritall rape cases cases." ." It doesn't seem to have occurred to Ms. Gandy that John Bobbitt might not have raped his wife. Ms.. Ga Ms Gand ndy, y, ob obvi viou ousl sly, y, kn knew ew better bet ter than than the jury. jury. Or if it did occur to her that perhaps Mr. Bobbitt Bob bitt was fact factually ually innoc innocent, ent, she didn't let that inconvenient fact get in the way of her women-are-always-the-victim metanarrative.
The Lorena Bobbitt trial was a feminist femi nist Woodsto Woodstock. ck. A carnival carnival atmosphere swept over Manassas Mana ssas,, where it was was held. A woman wom an sold home homemade made,, penis penis-shaped white chocolates outs ou tsid ide e th the e co cour urth thou ouse se.. Tshirts shi rts wer were e haw hawked ked tha thatt sa said id "Revenge -- how sweet it is," and "Manassas: A Cut Above." Some femi fe mini nist sts s so sold ld bu butt tton ons s th that at read: rea d: "LO "LOREN RENA A BOB BOBBI BITT TT FOR SURG SU RGEO EON N GE GENE NERA RAL. L."" Di Disc sc jockeys handed out "Slice" soda pop and cock cocktail tail wieners "with lots lot s of ketchup ketchup." ." Hu Hundr ndreds eds of Lore Lo rena na Bo Bobb bbit ittt su supp ppor orte ters rs cheered their champion outside the courthou courthouse. se. When the man she mutilated -- the real victim -walked outside, he was greeted with boos and whistles, but he stoically showed no reaction.
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Finalllly, Fina y, it wa was s ti time me fo forr Mr Mrs. s. Bobbi Bo bbitt' tt's tri trial al fo forr ma malic liciou iously sly wounding her husband. Much of the nation, and beyond, watched intent int ently ly wit with h sym sympat pathie hies s spl split it larg la rgel elyy al alon ong g ge gend nder er lines. lines. In Ecuador, Lorena Bobbitt's home country cou ntry,, the Nati National onal Femin Feminist ist Association called several news organizations to announce that if Mrs Mrs.. Bo Bobbi bbitt tt wen wentt to pri prison son for mutilating her husband, 100 innocent inno cent Amer American ican men woul would d be ca castr strate ated d (it is not clear clear if they really meant "castratio "castration," n," which generally means removal of the testicles, or if they meant they would slice off 100 innocent penises). The organization also staged a large
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Mrs. Bo Mrs. Bobb bbit itt' t's s self se lf-d -def efen ense se claim -- that she was justified in maim imin ing g a sle leep epin ing g man -would be laughable in any context outside feminist jurisprudence. jurisprudenc e. Here's what Newsweek said about it: ". . . the traditional definition of selfdef efen ens se was asn' n'tt eno nou ugh fo forr radical feminists. And so in the 1970s, 197 0s, fem femini inist st psy psycho cholog logist ist Lenor Len ore e Wal Walker ker con concei ceived ved the 'batte 'ba ttered red-wo -woman man syndro syn drome me.'.' Women beaten by their mates, she claimed, are so demoraliz demo ralized ed that they beco become me too helpless to leave or to take steps to help themselves. They beco be come me co conv nvin ince ced d th thei eirr on only ly option to stop the abuse is to kill the abuser. So even if the woman is in no physical danger at the time of the killing, she's defending herself against future beatings. Get it? Because men supposedly have so much power over women in our society, women should be given the powers of judge, jury and executioner.
"Ideas--espe "Ideas-especially cially semi seminal nal ideas such as these--have cons co nseq eque uenc nces es.. In 19 1991 91,, th the e governors of Ohio and Maryland commuted the sentences of a numb nu mber er of ja jaile iled d wo wome men n wh who o had ha d ki killlled ed or as assa saul ulte ted d th thei eirr mates because they claimed to have been victi victims ms of batt battered ered-woman syndrome. But reporters turned up embarrassing evidence indi in dica cati ting ng th that at 15 of th the e 25 wome wo men n fr free eed d in Oh Ohio io ha had d no nott been physically abused. Six, they said sa id,, ha had d ta talk lked ed ab abou outt ki killi lling ng their boyfriends or husbands. in some so me ca case ses s mon onth ths s be befo fore re doing so; and two had tracked down and killed husbands from whom who m the theyy wer were e sep separ arate ated. d. If they were capable of that much pre rem med edit ita ati tio on, they th ey wer ere e certainly cert ainly capable of pick picking ing up and leaving." The fem female ale pro prosec secuto utorr kic kicked ked off the trial by telling the jurors, apparently with a straight face, that it was "his penis versus her lilife fe." ." Ch Char arle les s Kr Krau auth tham amme merr called cal led tha thatt cha charac racter teriza izatio tion n a "stark "st ark sum summa matio tion n of fem femini inist st victimization theory." Mr. Krauth Kra utham ammer mer ad added ded tha thatt the Bobbitt case wasn't one of selfdefe de fens nse e bu butt of re reve veng nge. e. He note no ted d th that at ev evid iden ence ce of se self lf-defe de fens nse, e, im impr prop oper er th thou ough gh it was, wa s, ca came me in qu quit ite e ha hand ndyy fo forr Mrs. Bobbitt because it allowed her to introduce "the most lurid alle al lega gati tion ons s of se sexu xual al ab abus use. e."" The Th e tria iall made the Bobb bbit ittt marr rria iage ge "one of th the e most highly hig hly pub public licize ized d and min minute utely ly scrutinized ever," said the New York Times. One of Lo One Lore rena na's 's fo form rmer er co co-worke wo rkers rs tes testif tified ied tha thatt Lo Loren rena a once on ce sa said id sh she e wo woul uld d ch chop op of offf her husband's dick if he chea ch eate ted d on he her. r. Wi Witn tnes esse ses s testified that Lorena was mean, violent, and subject to jeolous, unpredictable unpredictab le physical attacks.
In the end, the jury found Lore Lo rena na Bo Bobb bbit ittt no nott gu guililty ty of malicious malic ious wou wounding nding by reas reason on of insanity and committed her to a mental health facility for 45 days days for observ observat ation ion.. The New York Times reported that "a ga gasp sp we went nt up am amon ong g he herr supporters in the courtroom." Did you you get that? that? 45 days in in a mental health wing of a hospit ita al. Until relatively recently, many states punished rape with with the death death penalt penalty. y. It is cle clear ar bey beyon ond d que questi stion on tha thatt very few rapes are as vicious, as brutal, as inhumane as the atta at tack ck on Mr. Bobb Bobbit itt. t. Bu Butt while many men and boys have been put to death for rape, a woman wh who o sl slic iced ed off her sleepi sle eping ng hus husba band' nd's s pen penis is got 45 da days ys of ob obse serv rvat atio ion n in a nice, clean hospital. Whatever this was, it was not justice.
The verdict elicited the pred pr edic icta tabl ble e re resp spon onse se.. Se Self lf-descri des cribed bed fem feminis inists ts che cheere ered d and gave each other high fives that a woman was permitted to get away with what now could literally, and officially, be calllle ed an insane act. Kim Gandy, executive vice president of the National Organization for Women, summed up the position posi tion for the lunat lunatic ic fring fringe, e, which in this case seemed to comp co mpris rise e a reg regret rettab tably ly lar large ge segment of the nation's female population: "We're glad the jury rejected the twisted argument that a battered woman should be locked up in a prison cell." Ms. Gandy used the verdict as the occasion to push one of her pet projects: ". . . this whole saga drives home the need for swift passage of a compreh com prehensiv ensive e vers version ion of the Violence Against Women Act . . . ." In Lor Lorena ena Bob Bobbitt' bitt's home hometow town n
of Bu Bucay cay,, Ecu Ecuado ador, r, hun hundre dreds ds took to the streets, cheering and firing shots into the air the way joyous fans do when their team wins the World Cup or the Super Bowl. The New York Tim Times es chi chimed med in, ever so delicately: "[I]n this case," case ," the Times pont pontifica ificated, ted, "the "t he ju jury ry ca can n be fo forg rgiv iven en fo forr find fi ndin ing g a re reas ason on to ex excu cuse se Mrs. Bobbitt Bobbitt's 's brutality brutality . . . ." It also al so no note ted: d: ". . . pe perh rhap aps s th the e verdict will indeed make some abusive men think twice before they strike again." But, the Times refused to go so far as to invite every self-anointed victim to resort to retaliation: ". . . vio iollence cannot be the standard answer to violence." If violence can't be the "standard" answer, this sugg su gges ests ts th that at,, so some meti time mes, s, violence is OK, and presumab presumably ly that "sometimes "sometimes"" includes any time it is done to a penis by a self-anointed wronged woman. But Ha But Harv rvar ard d la law w pr prof ofes esso sorr Alan Ders Dershowi howitz tz said viole violence nce is not OK. Mrs. Bobbitt "pulled the wool over the jury's eyes," Dersho Der showit witzz sa said, id, by cla claimi iming ng that abuse left her unable to take responsibility for her actions. He called her a "fem "f emin inis istt Di Dirt rtyy Ha Harr rry. y."" The Th e "abu "a buse se ex excu cuse se," ," De Ders rsho howi witz tz explained, "is dangerous to the very tenets of democracy democracy,, whic wh ich h pr pres esup uppo pose se pe pers rson onal al accounta acco untabilit bilityy for choi choices ces and actions." Mona Charen, likewise, was in no mo mood od to ce cele lebr brat ate. e. Sh She e kne kn ew th that at the rea eact ctio ion n of femi fe mini nist sts, s, an and d of to too o ma many ny women, was as wrong as can be: "Ra Rarrel elyy hav ave e I bee een n as ashamed of my sex as I have been be en in th the e af afte term rmat ath h of th the e Lorena Bobbitt verdict." The
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Krauttha Krau ham mmer er,, a Harva varrd educated educ ated psyc psychiatr hiatrist ist befo before re beco be comi ming ng a po poliliti tica call pu pund ndit it,, said sai d it bes best: t: thi this s ver verdic dictt to took ok "pol "p olit itic ical al co corr rrec ectn tnes ess s to it its s ultimate extreme, to the point wher wh ere e fo forr th thos ose e wh who o cl clai aim m politically correct victimization, the laws no longer apply." "Politically correct victimization" sums up the entire affair. Legacy
The Bobbitt affair ripped off an ugly ug ly sc scab ab an and d ex expo pose sed d th the e even eve n mo more re loa loaths thsom ome e oo oozin zing g pus that mainstream feminism had ha d bec eco ome. It re reve vea ale led d a wors wo rsee-th than an-n -nas asty ty vind vi ndic icti tive ve streak, so wide and drawn with such brig bright-lin ht-lines, es, that prov proved ed feminism is less interested in achieving gender equity than in blin bl indl dlyy pu puni nish shin ing g an en enti tire re gender gen der fo forr the unn unname amed d sin sins s of a tin inyy per erc cen enttag age e of it its s members. The pr The prin inci cipa pall le lega gacy cy of th the e Bobbitt affair was to "empower" women by insisting they are powerless; because of that purported powerlessness, they are excused from assuming personal responsibility for their actions. The problem is, the more we instituti insti tutionali onalize ze the noti notion on that wom wo men ar are e po powe werl rles ess, s, th the e more we und nder ersc sco ore tha hatt wom wo men re real ally ly ar aren en't 't me men' n's s equals. The Bobbitt affair was a set setbac backk fo forr wo women men's 's qu quest est for true equality. A more immediate impact was that copycat crimes cropped up and continue to crop up to this day, including the crime that led to the Brigitte Harris trial last year, where a young woman admitted to research rese arching ing the Bobb Bobbitt itt case befor bef ore e sev severi ering ng her all allege egedly dly abus ab usiv ive e fa fath ther er's 's pe peni nis. s. Ms Ms..
Harris made sure to burn the purportedly offending app ap pen end dage to avo void id Mrs. Bobbitt's mistake that allowed John Jo hn Bo Bobb bbit ittt to be re reun unit ited ed with wi th hi his s or orga gan. n. Ms Ms.. Ha Harr rris is'' father died in the ordeal, so his side of the story will never be known. (At the young woman's trial, the jurors convicted her of second degree manslaughter and not murder, which whi ch pro promp mpted ted the jud judge ge to chide chi de the jur juror ors s fo forr ele elevat vating ing their sympathies over the law.) In writing this piece, I entert ent ertain ained ed the tho thoug ught ht tha thatt perh pe rhap aps s th the e Bo Bobb bbit ittt af affa fair ir might present a lesson or two forr me fo men n -- ab abou outt do dome mest stic ic violence, and about how women view the world difffe di ferren entl tlyy and th that at th thei eirr viewpoint needs to be resp re spec ectted ed.. Aft fter er allll,, Jo John hn Bobb Bo bbit ittt wa was s no sa sain int. t. Th Ther ere e was plenty of evidence that he abus ab used ed hi his s wi wife fe du duri ring ng th the e cours cou rse e of the their ir mar marria riage ge (o (off cou co urse, the herre wa was s ampl ple e evidence that she abused him, too). I exp explor lored, ed, and the then n rej reject ected ed those notions as lacking any validity. The brutal act of mutil mu tilati ation, on, and the dep deprav raved ed reac re acttio ion n of fe fem min inis ists ts,, the main ins stream media, and, fra fr ank nkly ly,, too many women en,, cannot be justified, or respected, on any reasonable, logica log ical,l, mo moral ral,, or ot other her lev level. el. The celeb celebrato ratory ry reac reaction tion and tolerance for this most vicious act of vengeance was morally grotesque and seemed largely the product of feminist fearmong nger erin ing g ab abo out men as natural natu ral oppress oppressors. ors. It was an all too predictable response to the systematic maligning of a gend ge nder er ov over er th the e co cour urse se of several decades. Any assertion that "feminism helps men, too" evaporated with the
Bobbitt affa Bobbitt affair. ir. The dete detestab stable le reaction to the crime was too hattef ha efu ul to ent nter erta tain in su suc ch pretenses any longer. The only lesson for men from this ordeal was to avoid women like Lorena Bobbitt, and to realize that maleness is unfairly held in widespread contempt.
Following the mut Following mutilatio ilation, n, men, as a class, were exposed to a disdai dis dain n ma many ny had not kno known wn existe exi sted, d, and the theyy did didn't n't kno know w how to reac reactt to it. But men' men's s bewilderment was unders und ersta tanda ndable ble.. In the days days just before the Internet expl ex plos osio ion, n, me men n di didn dn't 't kn know ow that they were "all" rapists. Nor di did d any nyo one bo botthe herr to explain to them that they were the supposed beneficiaries of a "patriarchy" that made them undese und eserve rvedly dly pri privil vilege eged. d. You see, most men were too busy worki wo rking ng to ma make ke end ends s mee meet, t, ironically iron ically,, to supp support ort the very people peo ple who act actual ually ly bel believ ieved ed those loony things. So when women wom en sham shameful efully ly appl applaude auded d the vile mutilation of another human being -- a man who was nott pr no priv ivile ilege ged, d, or sm smar art, t, or wealthy, or lucky -- all that men could muster in the face of this
fusilla fusi llade de of mi misa sand ndry ry wa was s a muffled and chivalrous grumble. It is fittingly symbolic that John Bobb Bo bbit ittt sl slep eptt wh while ile hi his s wi wife fe was busy slicing off his penis, because it mirrored the slu lum mber of Wes estter ern n men while feminism hacked away at the very concept of masculinity. But sin But since ce tha thatt awf awful ul nig night ht in 1993, 199 3, the me men's n's mo movem vement ent has gro grown wn by the pr prove overbi rbial al leaps and bounds. The Internet has exposed countless men to an ongoing battle bat tle of the sexes sexes tha thatt the theyy didn di dn't 't ev even en kn know ow wa was s be bein ing g waged at the time Mrs. Bobbitt committed her vile act. If so somet methin hing g lik like e the Bo Bobbi bbitt tt case happened today, would it be met with a different reac re acti tion on? ? Wo Woul uld d it br bring ing to the front burner the issues of fema fe male le-o -onn-ma male le dome do mest stic ic violence and false rape clai cl aims ms? ? No on one e ca can n sa sayy fo forr cert ce rtai ain, n, bu butt my gu gues ess s is it would. wou ld. With Without out quest question, ion, the the deba de bate te wo woul uld d be fa farr mo more re heated, and men would actuallllyy answer the bell instead of sitting on a stool in a corner of the ring, allowing women to win by default. Like Mr. Bobbitt, who was very rudel ru delyy aw awake akened ned by the col cold, d, sharp steel cutting through his manhood, men, in general, are also awaken awakening. ing. They are are still still grog gr oggy gy,, an and d th they ey ar are e wi wipi ping ng the sleep from their eyes. But soon, they will be wide awake, and with a little bit of luck, they will be able to grab the knife befo be fore re th they ey ar are e co comp mple lete tely ly emasculated.
Game has made a big splash in the man-o-sphere in recent times. And of late I have begun writing on the subject myself, to one degree or another. As a pr prim imer er to th the e un unin init itia iate ted, d, Game is ostensibly the tactics and methods metho ds of scoring with wom women en while placing yourself in the alpha posi po siti tion on am amon ong g ot othe herr ma male les. s. I offer off er tha thatt def defini initio tion n sim simply ply fro from m extrapolating what I have read on the subject, and as I have never found a concise definition from its main proponents. On a sli slight ghtly ly dee deeper per level, Game purports to differ itself from Pick Up Artistry (PUA) in that it stems from an enhanced cognizance of human huma n fema female le socio sociobiolo biology, gy, and uses that knowledge to manipulate women into bed.
juxtaposition to my beliefs as a men’s advocate drew me into an intellectua intell ectuall tug-o tug-of-war f-war with myse myselflf that for weeks seemed to be a comp co mple lete te st stan ando doff ff.. It It’s ’s be been en a frustrating time that until now had left me with about 10 incomplete essays and nothing to post. But then it hit me. The tug-of-war was wa s se self lf in infl flic icte ted. d. An And d th the e on only ly reas re ason on I wa was s in st stru rugg ggliling ng wa was s because I was blinding myself to the obvious. Game doesn’t really stem from PUA, it is PUA (which is also nothing new), just warmed over and re-branded with a catchy lexicon and a “new and improved” label on the bottle. In ot othe herr wo word rds, s, it it’s ’s male male pu puss ssyy centri cen trism, sm, just lik like e it alw always ays has been. HOWEVER,
I have to admit that I have been freque fre quentl ntlyy stu stuck ck whe when n try trying ing to sort this thing out. Exploring the implications of Game in
Roissy Rois sy and th the e oth ther ers s ha havve unea un eart rthe hed, d, or at th the e ve very ry le leas astt articu art iculat lated ed an ide idea a tha thatt has the
potent pote ntia iall fo forr ma mass ssiv ive e ut utililit ity. y. Understanding the Evo-psychology of wo wome men, n, an and d us usin ing g it to yo your ur advant adv antage age,, is an unt untapp apped ed gol gold d mine for male sexual empowerment, and male protec pro tectio tion n fro from m the gyn gynocr ocracy acy.. Forr al Fo alll th thei eirr wo worrk, th they ey ha havve introduced us to the possibilities of Game, and now it is time to take those ground breaking efforts and move forward with a model mo del des design igned ed exc exclus lusive ively ly wit with h male protectionism in mind, both in public and private life. Let’s Let’ s fa face ce it it.. Pu Puss ssyy is po powe wer. r. It always has been. Pussy power is so great that women can have an entire world of men working like dogs do gs an and d ha hand ndin ing g ov over er th thei eirr mone mo ney, y, yi yiel eldi ding ng se seat ats s on lilife fe boats, opening their doors, acting like trained seals for their approval, agreeing with whatever bullshit comes out of their mout mo uths hs,, an and d at th the e sa same me ti time me have ha ve th thos ose e me men n no nodd ddin ing g an and d agreeing when women claim that
men have all the power and need to do more to make things better for women. True to their unfortunate nature, men me n wi willll pa pass ss la laws ws,, lo lock ck ea each ch other up and brutalize each other to make sure that all these feminine biddings are done. If that isn’t power, I’ll eat my hat. And if you don’t don’t bel believ ieve e me, ask Sampso Sam pson, n, Dil Dillin linger ger,, Bil Billl Cli Clinto nton, n, John Edwards, Tiger Woods, the Duke Three, The Hofstra Five or any of about a million men, from average aver age to “pow “powerfu erful,” l,” who have had their heads handed to them by even the weakest of women. Clin Cl into ton n wa was s ou outw twit itte ted d by a 19 year old bimbo, with a little help from feminist governance. And if he had been a rep republ ublica ican, n, who whoa a Nelllly, Ne y, hi his s as ass s wo woul uld d ha have ve be been en fried to a crisp. Am I making this up? I think not. Perhaps there was a time when the fake power of manhood worked. Hell, it got us to the moon when I was 12 years old. But we live in a different world than when I was 12. The average woman in today’s western culture should have hav e a ma manuf nufact acture urers rs war warnin ning g tattooed just below the naval at birt bi rth. h. I su sugg gges estt so some meth thin ing g lilike ke this: MANUFA MAN UFACTU CTURERS RERS
WARNING WARN ING::
Use of th Use this is pr prod oduc uctt ca can n re resu sult lt in ear arly ly dea de ath th,, suiici su cide de,, clin cl inic ical al depres dep ressio sion, n, imp impris risonm onment ent,, fal false se accusatio accu sations, ns, destr destroyed oyed reput reputatio ation, n, pove po vert rty, y, sp spou ousa sall su supp ppor ort, t, ch chil ild d support, loss of property, joblessness and social isolation.
Those would do for starters. And this is where Game, if we take outt th ou the e 99 99% % bu bullllsh shit it fo focu cus s on chasing pussy, can have a dramatic impact that can signif sig nifica icantl ntlyy im impro prove ve the liv lives es of men me n by he help lpin ing g th them em we weed ed ou outt the most destructive females, whic wh ich h wi willll be mo more re lilike kely ly if no nott
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under the pressure and influence of perceived scarcity. And that scarcity is just a perceptio perc eption n becau because se gettin getting g laid is the easy part. Hell, women these days are so sexually available that the whole idea of PUA would seem se em to be mo moot ot.. Th Ther ere e is no "artis "ar tistry try"" to pic pickin king g up wom women, en, and an d an anyo yone ne wh who o th thin inks ks th ther ere e is should not be trusted with a box of crayo crayons ns.. Bu Butt th the e tr trad adit itio iona nall met etho hods ds fo forr me men n to “a “att ttra ract ct”” women are, in fact, a product of real historical scarcity. And while the sexual landscape has changed dramatically, three million years of programming dies hard. But th But the e po poin intt of Ga Game me,, wh whic ich h I now call Zeta Game, is in recognizing that while neither sex nor women are scarce, they can both be as dangerous as they are pleasurable, and that an intimate know kn owle ledg dge e of th the e fo forc rces es th that at unconscio unco nsciously usly drive wom women, en, and the ability to exploit it, can help men meet sexual needs and stay outt of harms ou harms wa wayy at th the e sa same me time. In the end, it’s not about getting women, but in being able to select them at will, and dispose quickly and safely of the unwanted and/or dangerous ones. You don’t need a book or a series of articl articles es on th this is.. If yo you u ar are e a quick starter, you can get ever ev eryyth thin ing g yo you u ne need ed to kno now w abou ab outt at attr trac acti ting ng wo wome men n fr from om two eight minute videos. It isn’t that I am that smart. It is that women are that simple. This isn’t rocket science. You see, the important thing here is not that I succeeded in getting laid. lai d. Wh What at was mo most st im impor portan tantt was that one, I put no real energy, or money, into the equation. And two, I turned the power dynamic between myself and women a full 180 18 0 de degr gree ees s fr from om wh what at I ha had d alw lway ays s kn kno own wn.. I be beca cam me th the e sele se lect ctor or fr from om a po pool ol of wi willllin ing g women. No need for bullshit pick up lines.Why would I have wasted
my tim time e app approa roachi ching ng wo women men in bars bar s and oth other er pla places ces,, try trying ing to impress them or get their phone numb nu mber er wh when en I co coul uld d ju just st pi pick ck amon am ong g th the e wo wom men th that at we were re offeri off ering ng the themse mselve lves s up to hav have e sex with me on a regular basis? Answer: I fucking wouldn’t. And nei neithe therr sho should uld you you.. Pic Pickin king g one woman and “going after her” is for men who can’t get a room full of women to come after them. And the truth is that almost any man can own that room, top to bottom, if he wants to. And th And the e adv dva ant ntag age e to th this is is monumental. You find out things about abo ut wom women en who are cra crawli wling ng into bed with you, and even before they do. You can, and should, take the opt out when the danger signs show up. Too entitled? Next. Two kids and an att attitu itude de abo about ut the ex? See ya. Whatcha gonna buy me? Hasta la vista, baby. All these women are problems, and big bi gge gerr pro rob ble lem ms wa wait itin ing g to happen, but you can adios any of them before or after having sex with them. Why? Because there will be more waiting for you. And the more of them you pump and dump, the more the others will tingle when you walk into the room. They may hate you, or fear you, but they will want you just the same. And wh And whyy sh shou ould ld yo you u wa want nt to d ump them so unceremon uncer emoniousl iously? y? Reme Remember mber that th at war nin g lab el? Wel l, it wasn’t made up out of thin air. People Peop le alwa always ys broa broadcas dcastt who they th ey are …if you are lilist steni eni ng ng.. If a wo wom man yo you u ba bare rely ly k now now th inks thin ks sh she e is en entit tit le led d to dig in into to you r wal le lett jus t be becau cau se sh she e is going goi ng to sle sleep ep wit with h you you,, the then n what do you imagine she would feell ent fee entitl itled ed to aft after er sle sleepi eping ng w it it h yo u for a y ea ear ? A ft ft er er getting married? If a wo woma man n ta talk lks s co cons nsta tant ntly ly abou ab outt th the e ab abus usiv ive, e, ho horr rrib ible le
men in he men herr lilife fe,, an and d me men n in general, how do you think she will end up talki talking ng ab abou outt you? you? And to whom, the police maybe? The thing is, contrary to popular feminis fem inistt beli belief, ef, men fal falll in lov love e and dedicate to women at some poin po intt in th thei eirr lilive ves. s. An And d th thei eirr tendency tend ency is to give every everythin thing. g. Usually Usu ally the rou routine tine goe goes s alo along ng traditiona tradi tionall line lines. s. Man spots girl, sets out to impress her and win her affections. He leads with his wallet, puts on his best act and ignores every warning sign she is br broa oadc dcas asti ting ng be beca caus use e he views her as a scarc scarce e resou resource. rce. Beca Be caus use e he fe feel els s lilike ke he ha has s very limit limited ed option s. S o i f s h e a c c e p t s h i m, h e considers himself lucky. He has found the woman of his dreams, she has returned his love, and all is right with the world. He may spend the better part of the rest of this life findi finding ng out just how wrong he was. And in most cases, while he will find out that he was wrong, he will neve neverr know kn ow wh why. y. He wi willll us usua uallllyy be incap inc apabl able e of fig figur uring ing ou outt th that at when you fish with stink bait, you catch bottom feeders. If you use your money to attrac t women, you get shall shallow ow materi materialist alist s. If you use your willi willingnes ngnes s to sacrifice to her whims, you get narcissism. If you use deference an d a g r e e me n t , you get entitlement. If you use all three, you get the typic al weste typical western rn woman. The tech techniq niques ues for helping you avoi av oid d tha thatt pit pitfa fall, ll, an and d pe perh rhaps aps find fin d so some meon one e at atypi ypica call to ha hang ng with wi th fo forr a wh whilile, e, ar are e si simp mple le.. Once On ce yo you u ha have ve es esta tabl blis ishe hed d yourse lf as a sexua sexually lly in deman demand d with the wom women en in your group, there is a code, a list of four s cree nin g b ehav iors an d attitud atti tudes es that will help cull out the deadw deadweight eight (almost all of them) and set you up to find what I call a “managea eab ble” woman. More on that in the next Zeta Game piece.
Da Rules Leav ave e you ourr wa wallllet et in yo your ur 1. Le pocket. If you want a whore, go to a mass ssag age e pa parl rlo or. Th They ey ar are e guaranteed to put out for a fixed price, pri ce, and the theyy don don’t ’t fol follow low you around and talk when you’re done. 2. Do Don’ n’tt “d “dat ate, e,”” wo wome men. n. Ev Ever er..
Hang ou Hang outt wit with h the them. m. Par Party ty wit with h them. Eat with them. But it is neve ne verr a da date te.. Da Dati ting ng im impl plie ies s financ fin ancial ial res respon ponsib sibili ility ty on you yourr parrt, an pa and d pe perrha haps ps giv ives es th the e impres imp ressio sion n of exc exclus lusivi ivity ty bef before ore you desire it. You owe women nothing for their company or their bodies. Look at it this way. You can “ask a woma wo man n ou out” t” an and d sp spen end d a lo lott of money on food and drink. But if you take the social club route as I sugges sug gested ted in the vid video, eo, she can eat and drink with the group on herr di he dime me (o (orr so some me be beta ta‘s ‘s), ), vi vie e with wi th th the e ot othe herr wo wome men n fo forr yo your ur attention, and then go home with you if you select her. 3. Never make a pass at a
woman. Never. Stay Zeta and they will make a pass at you. 4. Rem Rememb emberer- Sle Sleepi eping ng wit with h a
woman does not mean you owe her anyth anything. ing. Not a relat relationsh ionship, ip, not a call the next day, not even a prom pr omis ise e no nott to sl slee eep p wi with th he herr sister. Notice Noti ce so some meth thin ing g ab abou outt th thes ese e rule ru les. s. Non one e of th them em go gove verrn anything you should do, but simply show you what you don’t have to do.. Th do Ther ere e is no noth thin ing g he here re th that at says do this or do that for women. It is ju just st th the e op oppo posi site te.. Yo You u do nothing for them at all. You simply lilive ve yo your ur lilife fe wi with thou outt re rega gard rd to them one way or another. They will show up offering their goods without you doing a damn thing. It is just that simple. When you join a social club, make it on one e th that at you wo woul uld d en enjo joyy if it were we re ju just st me men. n. Ke Keep ep it in yo your ur own ow n co com mfo fort rt zo zone ne.. Ma Make ke it a grou gr oup p wh wher ere e yo you u ca can n an and d wi willll make male friends. It has to have
some va some valu lue e to yo you u wi with thou outt th the e female presence. If y ou are a st aun ch cons co nser erva vati tive ve,, do don’ n’tt jo join in th the e Sierra Club thinking it is Zeta. It’s It ’s no not. t. Joi Joini ning ng a gro group up lilike ke that whe when n you think they are alll mo al moro rons ns for th the e sa sake ke of being bei ng aro around und wom women en is fa fake, ke, and an d it ca call lls s on yo you u to st star artt things thing s off with a lie. I know what some of you are sayi sa ying. ng. Ha! Joi Joini ning ng any cl club, ub, even eve n on one e you would would lilike, ke, with the idea of wom women en in mind is just more pussy begg begging. ing. All puns aside, I beg to differ. Avoiding pussy centrism does not mean you have to crawl in a hole or only go places that you thin thinkk wome n aren aren’t. ’t. In fac act, t, th that at ca can n be as pu puss ssyy cent ce ntri ric, c, on only ly in re reve vers rse, e, as pract pr actic icin ing g PUA PUA.. Li Livi ving ng a lilife fe that presents pres ents sexuall sexua opportunities opportu nities is normal for any man. Only a few are so jaded from being screwed over that they have ruled out any possibility of se x or relationship again. Most me Most men n wi willl ke keep ep tr tryi ying ng.. Eithe Ei therr to mee meett sex sexua uall nee needs, ds, or find a “partner.” And while I cauti ca ution on aga again inst st the la latte tter, r, I understand that it is going to happ ha ppen en wh whet ethe herr I ca caut utiion against it or not. So un unle less ss yo your ur go goal al is th the e compl co mplete ete rem remova ovall of wom women en from your life, w hich is unde un ders rsta tand ndab able le gi give ven n wh what at many men have gone through with them, then a sexual em p ow e rm e nt an d risk mana ma nage geme ment nt pr prog ogra ram m is in order. When men don’t operate out of a se sens nse e of sc scar arci city ty,, th they ey have the opportunity to make better bet ter dec decis isio ions. ns. Whe When n the theyy make mak e bet better ter dec decis isio ions, ns, the theyy ha ve a te n de n cy t o g et screwed over a lot less.
Book Review: "Knights Without Armor" (Aaron Kipnis) by:Toysoldier
Men live in an increasingly femini fem inized zed wo world rld.. Few ma male le ro role le models mod els exi exist. st. Soc Societ ietyy reg regula ularly rly devalues and demonizes men and masculinity, derides male interests and hobbies as childish and an d se self lfis ish, h, an and d fr fram ames es ma male le desires as oppressive and sexist. Men Me n wh who o ex expr pres ess s em emot otio ion n ge gett labe la bele led d as wh whin iner ers s an and d ba babi bies es,, iro ir oni nica callllyy most of ofte ten n by th the e women and feminists who pushed for men to express their feelings. This all occurs as men face the constant const ant dron drone e of talki talking ng heads heads,, analysts, and researchers reporting the demise, uselessness, and needlessness of men. In such an envir environme onment, nt, Knigh Knights ts Wit itho hou ut Arm rmo or co com mes as a brea br eath th of fr fres esh h ai air. r. Al Alth thou ough gh near ne arly ly tw two o de deca cade des s ol old, d, Aa Aaro ron n Kipnis’ Kipni s’ treat treatise ise on the masc masculini ulinity ty remains rema ins relev relevant. ant. Kipnis offers a sore so rely ly mi miss ssed ed po posi siti tive ve vi view ew on
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masculinity, masculini ty, one that affirms the nece ne cess ssit ityy of ma masc scul ulin init ityy wh whilile e doin do ing g aw away ay wi with th th the e pi pitf tfal alls ls of modern social norms. Kipnis Kip nis’’ jou journe rneyy tow toward ards s wr writi iting ng the book began as when he and six other men met in to play poker while coping with their history of substa sub stance nce abu abuse. se. Ov Over er tim time e the poker game faded and the disc di scus ussi sion on sh shif ifte ted d fr from om th the e mundan mun dane e to the per person sonal. al. Eac Each h man’ ma n’s s ex expe peri rien ence ce re reve veal aled ed to Kipn Ki pnis is th that at de desp spit ite e me men’ n’s s ha hard rd exteriors, many men bore internal wounds. woun ds. Unfo Unfortuna rtunately, tely, woun wounded ded men me n ca cann nnot ot he heal al be beca caus use e th they ey cannot remove their armor. They live liv e in a soc societ ietyy tha thatt con consta stantl ntlyy requires them to remain armored up,, an up and d th tha at so soc cie iety ty no nott onl nlyy denies the existence of male pain, but also punishes men for speaking about that pain. The wounded male often turns to
riskyy be risk beha havi vior or an and d dr drug ugs s in an attempt to cope with his proble pro blems ms and wit with h the str stress esses es of ful fulfil fillin ling g the role of the hero. While Kipnis criticizes the traditional norms forced onto men, he also dissects the feminized femi nized man, a man produced produced by “wom “women’s en’s attempts to modi modify fy or co cont ntro roll me men’ n’s s th thin inki king ng an and d behavior.” As Kipnis notes, many men try to cope with changing social norms and str stress esses es by shu shutti tting ng dow down, n, becom bec oming ing hyp hyperer-ma mascu sculin line, e, or simply following women’s direct dir ective ives. s. He off offers ers an ins insigh ightt into why this happens: All these strategies for coping with the mod with modern ern cha change ngess in men men’’s roles are reactionary. They are not affirming positive, creative choices for men generated out of men’ men’ss own inner search and inspiration. inspiration. They
are rmerely rmerely att attemp empts ts to adj adjus ustt to the th e ch chan ange gess wo wome men n ha have ve ma made de.. Reac Re acti tion onar ary y ro role less do no noth thin ingg to further men’ men’ss psychological and spir sp irit itua uall de deve velo lopm pmen ent, t, he heal al ou our r wounds, or increase the range of our personal freedoms. Sadly, much of the move toward so‐ calle ca lled d fe femi mini nini nity ty is a pr prod oduc uctt of shame. The shame of being male is aggravated by the type of feminist inve in vect ctiv ive e ci cite ted d in th the e pr prec eced edin ingg pages.… In reaction to patriarchy (the (th e soc sociop iopoli olitic tical al bel belief ief tha thatt the rule ru le of me men n is a hi high gher er au auth thor orit ity y than that of women) and in feminist to feminism (which often promotes women as morally superior to men), many man y men hav have e sou sought ght ini initia tiatio tion n into soul through the feminine.…
This ha This has s res esul ulte ted d in a more sens se nsit itiv ive, e, rece re cep pti tive ve,, gent ge ntle le,, con onsc scie ient ntio ious us,, and an d soci so cia allllyy responsible male, Yet many of the so-called new, changing men are often powerless and ineffectual in the world. As a result, women today are asking, “Where are all the real men?” Kipnis speaks of the “lost fat athe herrs, s,”” th the e go god ds of old ld.. He suggests that men have lost their connection to the sacred masculinity. Only the stern, distant sky-father remains. Likewise, male sensuality and the male body get framed as dangerous, undesirab undes irable, le, disgu disgusting, sting, and evil. This Th is fu furt rthe herr pr prod oduc uces es sh sham ame e among men and keeps them from expl ex plor orin ing g br broa oade derr as aspe pect cts s of masculinity. The ne The need ed fo forr ma male le ro role le mo mode dels ls and an d ma male le bo bond ndin ing g is ce cent ntra rall in Knight Kni ghts s Wi Witho thout ut Arm Armor. or. The These se two concepts receive a host of negati neg ativit vityy fro from m soc societ ietyy at lar large, ge, especially from feminists. Howe Ho weve ver, r, as Ki Kipn pnis is po poin ints ts ou out, t, males crave male attention. Boys seekk out male ro see role le mo model dels, s, and when those men are not present, boys boy s sub substi stitut tute e the them m wit with h oth other er mal ales es,, man anyy of wh whom om do no nott provide positive influences. Kipnis suggests that these groups provide the needed initiation boys
and men crave. They provide the guidan gui dance, ce, sup suppor port, t, and sec secur urity ity boys bo ys ne need ed in or orde derr to be beco come me solid, self-affirming men. It is the unin un init itia iate ted, d, ty typi pica callllyy fe femi mini nize zed d male who wrea wreathes thes destr destructio uction. n. Kipnis used Hamlet as an example: In Hamlet’s case, almost everyone around aroun d him dies dies.…The .…The narc narcissi issistic stic male, unable to wield the power of the th e fa fath ther er,, ca cann nnot ot ge gene nera rate te an and d protect life or transform the world, only on ly de deva valu lue e it it.. th this is is of ofte ten n th the e position of the modern, new male. He’s educated, sensitive, and aware of the corruption in the world. Yet he ca can’ n’tt es esta tabl blis ish h hi hims msel elff in th the e world, hold the reins of power, and effe ef fecct dyn yna ami micc ch chan ange ge…. …. The feminist perspective is that Hamlet is dom omiina nate ted d by pa patr tria iarc rcha hal, l, masc ma scul ulin ine e va valu lues es an and d un unab able le to respond respo nd to femin feminine, ine, life‐ life‐aff affirmi irming ng infl in flue uenc nces es.. Ho Howe weve verr, fr from om th the e perspective of authentic masc ma scul ulin init ity y, wh whic ich h af affi firm rmss an and d protects life through the committed actions actio ns of an ethic ethical al warr warrior ior,, just the th e opposite is true: Hamlet appears to be overly feminized, in the manner of many New Age men who are emerging from a culture in which the influence of an initiating, nurt nu rtur urin ingg el elde derr ma male le is al almo most st completely absent.
Kipnis als Kipnis also o foc focuse uses s on ano anothe therr aspect asp ect of the modern modern ma male: le: the codependent male. The men from his gro group up sha shared red sto storie ries s abo about ut how they worked hard in order to provide for the women they were with only to find that those women were we re un ungr grat atef eful ul fo forr th the e me men’ n’s s sacrifices. Society tells men that their worth lies in their ability to acquire and plea pl ease se wo wome men. n. Me Men n wh who o fa failil at their relationships often feel they are not men because it is their job to please women. Male psychology psychology also comes up. Kipnis states that the psychological community emphas emp hasize izes s fem femini ininit nity. y. Sex Sexism ism against men occurs openly within the community. Without a positive approa app roach ch int into o the mal male e psy psyche che,,
the community simply regards males as flawed and deviant, even when whe n men exp experi erienc ence e the sam same e prob pr oble lems ms th that at wo wome men n do do.. Th This is resu re sult lts s in mo more re bo boys ys an and d me men n being incarcerated, instit ins tituti utiona onaliz lized, ed, dru drugge gged, d, hel held d back ba ck in sc scho hool ol,, an and d ot othe herw rwis ise e forgotten. The only flaw of Knights Without Armor is that the book is nearly twenty years old. Since the book’s publishing, boys and men struggle in an en envi viro ronm nmen entt ev even en mo more re hostil hos tile e to ma mascu sculin linity ity.. Mor More e so, attempts attem pts to addr address ess masc masculini ulinity ty in the manner that Kipnis promotes in his book get met with antago ant agonis nism m and moc mocker kery. y. One wonders about Kipnis’ opinions on these issues. Neverthel Nevert heless ess,, Kni Knight ghts s Wi Witho thout ut Armo Ar morr pr pres esen ents ts an ex exce cellllen entt treatise on what men ought to strive for. Kipnis does not weigh down his ideas with lofty theories nor does he present a politicized, feminist-influenced view. Kipnis Kipn is af affi firm rms s ma masc scul ulin init ityy as someth som ething ing goo good, d, val valuab uable, le, and wort wo rth h sa savi ving ng.. He pr pres esen ents ts an image of the well-rounded man, a man who ta takkes al alll th the e go goo od qual qu alit itie ies s of th the e me men n of ol old d an and d modifies them to work in today’s world. worl d. Rathe Ratherr than shaming and vilifying male bonding, Kipnis supp su ppo orts and en enc cou ourrag ages es it beca be caus use e it is on only ly wi with th ai aid d an and d guidan gui dance ce oth other er mal males es tha thatt boy boys s can become men. Likewise, he shows the impo im port rtan ance ce of ma male les s ha havi ving ng female fem ale-fr -free ee spa spaces ces to exp expres ress s themselves and bond. Knights With Wi thou outt Ar Armo morr of offe fers rs a pa path th towards achieving the wellroun ro unde ded d ma masc scul ulin init ityy so ma many ny men and boys crave. It is unfo un fort rtun unat ate e th that at in th the e tw twen enty ty years since the book’s publishing so few followed its suggestions.
Addr Ad dres essi sing ng 'G 'Goo ood d Ch Chri rist stia ian n Wo Wome men' n' by: Gonzo
I want to address something to all the "Good Christ Christian ian Women" out there.
stupidity, such as when you imagine that chanting that somehow makes you immune to civil laws and secular society.
Ladies, grab hold of one ear. Good.. Gr Good Grab ab hold of you yourr ot othe herr one,, too, now. one now. Got a good good grip grip? ? Okay. NOW PULL YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS. There's an epi There' epidem demic ic of stu stupid pidity ity among you all, to wit: You are all big on the whole "Man Up" routine but when anyone proposes altering the Social or Legal status quo in such a way as would make this possi possible, ble, you oppose it. Then you chowderheads chowderheads - every last last pair of swinging tits of you - blame men for not doing it. I get the whole "Be in the world, not of it." it." It It's 's fine, fine, but there there's 's a point when it becomes blinkered
Let me take the case of Jim and Pam to illustrat illustrate e my point. I knew Jim Ji m an and d Pa Pam m fr from om wa wayy ba back ck.. Theyy met in the Baptist The Baptist chu church rch,, courted cour ted,, and got marrie married. d. I was one of the attend attendant ants. s. I toasted toasted them at their weddi wedding, ng, and they were we re the te texxtb tboo ookk Ch Chri rist stia ian n couple. coup le. Jim worked worked as a factor factoryy foreman, and Pam part-timed at a dress shop and did some volunteer volunte er work with the ladie ladiess of the church. church. Pam go Pam gott pre regn gnan antt, st stop opp ped working work ing,, and Jim sta starte rted d tak taking ing overtime. overti me. Pam had the the baby, and and by that time Jim was putting in 60+ 60 + hours hours a we week ek.. Pl Plus us lunch lunch,, plus pl us travel travel.. Of Ofte ten n he wa wass gone almost 12 hours a day, 6 days a week.
Jennyy wa Jenn wass th thei eirr ne neig ighb hbor, or, wh who o atte at tend nded ed a "p "pro rogr gres essi sive" ve" ne newwagey ag ey ch chur urch ch wh who o bl bles esse sed d ga gayy unio un ions ns and all th the e pol olit itic ical ally ly correc cor rectt things. things. She waitre waitresse ssed d evenings at a nightclub, and when Pam was home days, their rela re lati tions onshi hip p pr prog ogre ress ssed ed fr from om waves "hello" and short small-talk chats to morning coffee, shopping trips - an adult to talk to. And boy did Jenny Jenny talk. She ran Jim down. down. He wa wass ne neve verr th ther ere e fo forr Pa Pam. m. Neverr did "his half." Neve half." Lef Leftt her "all alone" with with the baby. Not a frontal attack, but the usual "poo oorr dearing" when Pam was frazzled. This Th is eve event ntual ually ly bl bled ed in into to sp spat atss where Jim was a sonofabitch if he didn't come home and immediately start in on "his half" of housework and diaperchanging. Just shut up and let Just let me finish finish.. I know kn ow wh what at you ar are e sa sayi ying ng an and d that is not the point. point.
Pam turned into a seething ball of rese re sent ntme ment nt,, an and d th the e ma marr rria iage ge grew strained, with her kicking him out of bed to the couch - which Jim, as a "loving and unders und erstan tandin ding" g" hus husban band d did did,, but with his own resentments. They went to couples counselling at their church, which was "Beat up the the ma man" n".. Le Lett the girl girl win. win. Weaker Wea ker ves vessel sel,, be more gen gentle tle,, loving,, and underst loving understandin anding, g, yadda yadda,, yadda,, yadda. Pam wanted to take yadda classes, wanted to do some home improve imp rovemen ment, t, need needed ed "me tim time" e" so Jim agreed. To pay for it, Jim had to do some double dou ble shift shifts. s. Some Sometim times es every every other day. day. "He's not there there enough, I want, he has to work more to pay, "ME ME,, work? I'm a Full. Time. MOTHER!" More rese More resent ntme ment nt.. When Wh en he wasn't away working at night, she
was off in "enrichment" classes or book bo ok clubs clubs.. Sh She e needed needed space space,, loving and understanding Jim gave what she DEMANDED. Intimacy went to zero. And then it came out that some of those night nightss had been spent in Jenny's nightclub where Jenny first encouraged Pam to "enjoy it when a gu guyy flflir irts ts wi with th you" to fu fullll on adult ad ulter ery. y. Af Afte terr 3 mo mont nths hs of no intimacy - rejected by Pam - Pam turns up six weeks weeks pregnant. pregnant. BUT WAIT, there is MORE! What happened when Jim wanted a divorce divorce? ? Pam dragg dragged ed him to more cou counse nselli lling, ng, whe where re he was brow br owbe beat aten en by th the e la ladi dies es of th the e church to forgive his wife, she is sorr so rryy fo forr he herr si sin, n, th thin inkk of yo your ur vows, she wants to rebuil rebuild d thing things, s, it's Christ-like to forgive, that child is innoce innocent, nt, you should shouldn't n't publicly
shame sham e yo your ur wi wife fe,, sc scan anda dall of divorce, etc. etc. etc. You know the drill, drill, So Jim stayed stayed with her. her. For three three years. And she refuse refused d to have anot an othe herr ch chilild d "u "unt ntilil th they ey we were re right" and finally they had a blow up, where Jim shouted at her "I've taken take n your little bast bastard ard you had with another man as my own, but you won't give me anoth another er child child?" ?" Two days later, Jenny drove her to get an ex parte restraining order she was "afraid" of what Jim might do to "her child child.". .". Jim was was out of his house. I won't bore you with the litany of the divorce, which Jim - dumbass, even after all that - tried to fight, and she stonily refused to negotiate. negot iate. He lost his his house, and and is still still paying for half. half. He's paying paying support on a child not even his, and she's taken up - or brought is
out in th out the e op open en - he herr fo form rmer er rela re lati tion onsh ship ip wi with th th that at ch child ild's 's father fat her.. It' It's s six years later, later, and he's he 's a me mess ss,, em emot otio iona nally lly an and d financially, financ ially, and was ostr ostracize acized d from his church for the "sca "s cand ndal al." ." Sh She' e's s go goin ing g to the "progwessive" church now. This is just just the backgrou background. nd. So I will ask you this - what would you have had Jim do? He tried talking, and coun co unse sellllin ing. g. He fo forg rgav ave e he herr betr be tray ayal al.. He even even se sett him himse self lf up to be the father of a child not his (Man up! Man up!) He never laid a hand on her, worked his ass off, provided for her, his son, another man's son adulte adu ltero rousl uslyy co conci ncieve eved, d, gav gave e her what she asked for. Specifics. Not banal Specifics. banal platitudes platitudes,, and generalities. How spec sp ecif ific ical ally ly co coul uld d Ji Jim m ha have ve "gone into battle" more for his family? I'd hav ave e bet on them them.. Ji Jim m decora dec orated ted Des Desert ert Sto Storm rm Vet Vet,, never a Hell - Raiser or womanizer. Pam a 3rd gene ge nera rati tion on choir choir-g -gir irl.l. Wh Whilile e I can't speak for them, if you had told me that they were both virgins, virgin s, I'd not have any evid ev iden ence ce to co cont ntra radi dict ct it. In fact, Pam once called Jim "the first and last man for me." So ho how w wo woul uld d yo you u ar arm m Ji Jim, m, Rebecc Reb ecca? a? He talked talked,, begged, begged, pleaded, reasoned, and prayed. (Or did he miss his prayers one night nig ht af afte terr wo work rking ing a si sixt xtee een n hour shift, shift, so God God said no?) no?) He laid down down the the law. I can hardl hardlyy think of anyth anything ing more loving or forgiving than to take an adulterine bastard as your own and raise it. He stood with her when she denied him affection and didn't force himself on her. His ch His chur urch ch th thre rew w him to th the e wolves.
He had had no legal legal levera leverage ge.. No fault,, comm fault community unity prop property erty,, her misbeh mis behavi avior or irr irrele elevan vantt to the proceedings, so on, so forth. "For the sake of the Chiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiildren......" He's undata undatable. ble. He works works a job and a part time job to keep a small apartment and a beater vehicle. vehic le. All you "Goo "Good d Chris Christian tian Women" clu luc ck about how unfortunate he is, and urge him to keep plugg plugging ing away and be the man. Som Some e woma woman n will see him for what he is - someday. When his oblilig gations are through. thro ugh. When he can prov provide ide for you alone, and you not have to live on his incom income e less $1,700 a month child support. Just not not you. Maybe when when he is fifty and too late to start a new life, lif e, eh? Bu Butt you can can enjoy enjoy his retirement as if you were there through thro ugh the bad times? I bet if I proposed changing the law la w so he herr ba bad d be beha havi vior or wa was s relevant, so that her groundless protectio prot ection n order was releva relevant nt against her, so that she didn't have virtual automatic gaur ga uran ante tees es of cu cust stod odyy an and d pro rope perrty ty,, or so tha hatt a man known not to be the father of a baby ba by wa wasn sn't 't on th the e ho hook ok fo forr supp su ppor orti ting ng it it,, wh wher ere e a ma man n know kn own n to be th the e fa fath ther er wa was s identi ide ntifia fiable ble - I'd be cal called led ant anti-iwoman and a misogynist. Of course, I'm sure you "aren't for" what Pam did - but change the social or legal status quo so that she was acco accounta untable ble for it? OH, THE HUMANITY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's a movable goal, because no matter how far Jim went, you'll just claim "he didn't do enough." That's how I know the goalposts move with you "Good Christian Women" because trying to get you to say "Wher "Where e is far
enough,, then?" enough then?" you dodge. dodge. I'd have an easier time nailing jello to a wall. Or maybe it's his fault for choosing choo sing a bad woman. woman. Really Really.. I'm not a fan of "Marriage - The Secu Se cula larr In Inst stit itut utio ion" n" -, bu butt I'I'd d have ha ve bet bet on Pam Pam. Pa Pam m got got poisoned. And Jim had no tools or supp su ppor ortt to fi figh ghtt ag agai ains nstt it it.. Beca Be caus use e fe femi mini nist sts s lo long ng ag ago, o, progressi prog ressively vely nickel and dimed them away away.. Becau Because se some women wom en are abuse abused. d. Bec Becaus ause e the child is innoc innocent. ent. Beca Because, use, because, because. Every step of the way, we warned war ned you. you. We told told you what what vile snake snakes s these femin feminists ists askin as king g fo forr "j "jus ustt th this is on one e lit littl tle e thing, it's Oh So Reaso Reasonable" nable" were. They told you their agenda - to destroy the family and an d you tu turn rned ed a de dea af ea earr. When we fought back against them for the rave ravening ning wolve wolves s they are, you got offe offended nded "because they are still LADIES!" You told us to tie our hands beca be caus use e of that. that. Yo You u begged begged and cajoled us "Well, this isn't a bad ba d th thing ing,, we we'll 'll ju just st st stop op wi with th this. Well, this. Okay, that." that." And when we did fight anyway, you called us wimps, scared of stro st rong ng wo wome men, n, yo your ur tu turn rned ed your backs on us, and worse yet, sided with them - SIDED WITH THEM - as they encroached and took away our male ma le sp spac aces es,, ou ourr ab abililit ityy to provide for our family, to defend them, to be the authority of the family, and said we weren't necessary. You betrayed us. And now you have the nerve to accuse us? Woman, heal thyself.
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