maverick_mark_cunningham_interview_2 ‐14‐13 [0:00:00] Matt Cook: Cook:
Hey Matt Cook here with Heather Hallman. How are you doing Heather?
Heather Hallman:
I am fantastic today, how are you Matt?
Matt Cook:
I am doing wonderful and we have an amazing interview right now and I’ve got a special guest that I want to bring on and he is a former software guy and he has an amazing background. You just You just wouldn’t believe worked for some you know major companies and then learned some very valuable techniques and secrets, studied for many years and I think you’re going to just be you’re going to not just even believe this but it’s so for real and then so amazing at the same time. Now I really wanted you to get a glimpse of what this can do and how this can help you and without further a do I just want to introduce Mark Cunningham. How are you doing Mark?
Mark Cunningham:
I’m doing well Matt thanks for having me on.
Matt Cook:
Hey my pleasure. I’m so glad that we met recently and we know a lot of people in common and I’m so glad you agreed because I know your time is extremely valuable to be here today. So what do you think that this technique the system this method, who is it really aimed for?
Mark Cunningham:
What we are doing is we’re taking a bunch of techniques that I learned and perfected in my therapeutic practice and we’re taking them out of the therapy room. We’re not assuming that anybody is floored or damaged or even doing something wrong instead we’re teaching men how they can most rapidly and most reliably make the women in their life fully orgasmic and thus giving these women very great pull very appreciative and very bonded to them.
Matt Cook:
Okay. So this can be something that a man could use or work with his wife, girlfriend or if he if he hasn’t met somebody he could use it that way.
Mark Cunningham:
Exactly right. One of the of the things that I found is I knew that all women who want to be orgasmic and certainly a lot of people of people are orgasmic than they are and so of course it was very good for those people who are in relationships. What I didn’t realize when I started out to bring this out to
the public was how many women in general were interested in learning about these techniques, working with some man who understood and could in fact who will like practice this techniques and they in fact they long to be perfectly orgasmic with men today and they only just knew this before. Matt Cook:
So what’s the deal with women? Why do so many women have trouble with reaching orgasms?
Mark Cunningham:
Orgasms are a mental phenomenon. Their bodies are involved and certainly the body gets to enjoy the effect but orgasms are purely a mental emotional process. It’s probably best explained if you think how you might be walking around in public perhaps in an elevator or on a train whatever someone reaches out with their hand and brushes up against you and you simply interpret that as a touch whether it’s neutral, welcome, unwelcome it’s just a touch that’s all it is. Yeah if you turn the scenario around a little bit and you’re with someone that you care about deeply and they reciprocate that feeling that same level of sensation, that same touch in the same place can have tremendous erotic potential. Now the only difference is how you’re thinking about it and so women are complicated creatures I mean they’re gorgeous, they’re wonderful but they’re complicated creatures. Usually they’ve got too much going on inside their head and what we teach women to do is slow down relax, focus on who they’re with and what they’re actually experience so that the entire experience of being of being with one of these trained men is as erotic as arousing as that sensuous intimate touch.
Matt Cook:
I have noticed that. So a lot of women are not having orgasms are not that orgasmic because they’re really multitasking in their heads. I think women are much more multi‐taskers than men in general and they really don’t get into their bodies really they just don’t get present enough to really is that kind of what of what you’re saying?
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah. I’ve heard women tell me the most amazing things. One woman told me for example that when she was with someone who she really thought was the one she just couldn’t get off because she was worried about well does he think my thighs are fat or you know we have a light on in the room and he’s going to notice my body and she had a poor body image. Or she was worried about I’m I going to be responsive enough
because after all he is the one then I have this pressure to become his ideal one. Of course all the guy is thinking about is I’m having great sex with this great girl. So when women learn to get out of their head to the extent of poorly associating into the experience then they can be all women are orgasmic, all women are multi orgasmic. [0:05:12] Mark Cunningham:
All women are capable of having orgasms till they pass out and it’s one of the great features, advantages of being a woman and once they’ve learned that this is possible well there’s really no going back.
Matt Cook:
Wow. So yeah so you had a practice for a while and so did you work with women? Helping them ‐‐.
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah.
Matt Cook:
Is that what you did? Okay.
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah I did over 30000 professional sessions and out of that roughly 98% was with women. So I speaking as a man I’ve probably talked to more women than any other man alive and the good is I have a very good appreciation for how they think, what they want, what they need and what are these wants and needs that kind of cost all women not just individuals.
Matt Cook:
You know if you could tell us what women really want. What about the phenomenon of what I call feminine lock down you know relationship how women get kind of shut off to sex sometimes or they get shut off to orgasms. Have you is that a real reason a lot women who are in relationships came to you in your practice?
Mark Cunningham:
Well yeah. Familiarity is the enemy of sexual pleasure. When you become very familiar with a person in a relationship then you start to see them in a much broader context. All men are familiar with this because you start out hot and then it turns into kind of like maintenance sex and that turns into the classic hallway sex where he’s wanting by saying fuck you, right. What’s going on is that as your life becomes more intertwined and more complex then you begin to see your partner as your friend as your business associate as your buddy as you know mother of your children I
mean all kinds of things instead of that amazing hot babe that you just couldn’t wait to hop on. Matt Cook:
Right.
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah and so one of the things that I’m teaching men is how to reawaken desire and response in their women so that they once again it’s you know this is I’ll tell you man some of the things I say come across kind of controversial to just hang on for a second. What a lot of men need to do is they need to get back to objectifying their women and by what I mean by that is they need to get back to instead of treating her as this complex extraordinary groggy human being, they need to just see her as this screaming hot girl they just want to fuck. Right. If I had a dollar for every time one of my therapy clients said, “Why doesn’t he just shut up and fuck me?” I’d have a lot more money than I do now.
Matt Cook:
Well that’s really interesting. So what you’re saying is that let me see if I can summarize. A lot of times in a relationship it goes from being a really hot thing which is the first year and a half typically to the hormones that initially you know were all fired up they kind of calm down and then it becomes a very multi faceted relationship. It can be almost a joint venture let’s have kids and raise them together, let’s make money and pull our income together kind of like a business thing in a way.
Mark Cunningham:
Right.
Matt Cook:
You see all these different facets of the person and you’re saying that after a while the man doesn’t see the woman in that original sexy way which is clear. What about the woman, she doesn’t see herself that way either. Isn’t that kind of a bit ‐‐?
Mark Cunningham:
Not at all. She’s afraid of introducing new things, she’s afraid of being experimental, she doesn’t want her husband to look at her like a slut unless it’s context specific and it’s agreed upon in results. So as a result some couples end up having elaborate rules around sex most couples develop rules but not really talk about it and they’re expressed as expectations, our routine. It’s like it’s Saturday morning so we’re going to have sex in the bedroom or it’s Thursday night so it’s going to be sex with a light bulb or something like that.
Matt Cook:
Right.
Mark Cunningham:
What you really want to get to is when you can take someone who is extraordinarily important to you and you can still just fuck her like an ranal[0:09:31] [Phonetic]
Matt Cook:
But she has to see herself that way. How do you get a woman to see herself that way? Because a man may still see that she’s really hot and he’s really powerfully attracted to her but she sees herself in a different light now the mother of the children and all those other things. How do you change that frame.
Mark Cunningham:
I have an extraordinary advantage and I’m a hypnotist. I’m not only a hypnotist but I’m a trainer of hypnotist and I’m accustomed to taking people into this state called trance. In trance you suspend disbelief you are no longer making judgments like is this real or not real is it me or not me. Instead whatever I guide a subject through becomes their vivid reality.
[0:10:20] Mark Cunningham:
So what you can do using trance is to guide women through experiences. They give you experiences in their life where things turn out differently. It can be taking them back into their personal past and exploring and revisiting or making real again some of the most erotic experiences of their life or even take them into ultimate timelines and have them living out their most incredible fantasies and having all these visibly real for them. When they do this with you in trance, their mind and body respond as though it’s actually happening. So now their mind is confronted with a dilemma soon they emerge from trance and they’re lying there sweaty, happy and just you know feeling fantastic. Well their mind can either go back to being the mousy frustrated housewife and get the same results or she can now embrace this new enhanced sexuality which after all she has just experienced as though you know it happened right there in the bedroom. Given that choice a 100% of women are going to open up and embrace the enhanced sexuality.
Matt Cook:
Really? That’s extraordinary.
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah.
Matt Cook:
It’s extraordinary. So do you believe I mean I would say you’d probably know this, do women have does an individual woman have like a co
fantasy that if you kind of get her to tell you about it or you get her to live through this in her mind that will unlock her sexuality. Is there such a thing? Mark Cunningham:
Yeah. It is so politically incorrect that I like to refer to it as the last taboo and that is surrendering complete control to a man.
Matt Cook:
That’s true for I would say would you say for most women?
Mark Cunningham:
I’d say it’s universal. Okay. It’s universal not only within our culture but I’ve travelled all over the world and I’ve found that it works anywhere I go. Now there are some [0:12:28] [Inaudible] okay. The woman has to trust the man to an extent that he is worthy of surrendering to. Right? Now this could come across as given an up for a bad boy or someone you love and trust or someone who is more of an authority figure or more of a teacher figure. There are a lot of different pathways to that but there has to be that level of trust sufficient that she knows she’s going to come out the same or better on the other side of the experience. Once they get a taste of what it is like to surrender control and to be led and to know that they’re going to be led only into extraordinary positive circumstances then yeah I mean it’s the ultimate aphrodisiac I mean it is the ultimate positive addiction. I mean even women who you would suspect were totally against this once they get a taste of it they go yeah I want more of that.
Matt Cook:
I see because it’s just is a core thing it goes to that very primitive part of the brain and even though the mind might not embrace it the primitive part of that brain does.
Mark Cunningham:
Right and the most common response I get or I would ask them to say how was that they say that it makes them feel more feminine and more womanly.
Matt Cook:
So do you find is a man is it a good idea for a man to get his woman to try to tell him her core fantasy or you know masturbation fantasy is there a relationship?
Mark Cunningham:
Good communication is always essential and good communication is not just episodic it should be happening all the time. It’s something you need to be working on all the time because of course you and she are changing
constantly. It’s also true that anything that you get back from her as a conscious response is already been edited by her subconscious mind and so you may be getting what she considers to be a correct or allowable response even to the extent of what she will allow herself to admit. Now that’s different from hypnotizing or taking into trance and leading her through a variety of fantasies. For example I very frequently work with women and when I work with women I very frequently broach the idea of threesomes and playing with girls. [0:15:04] Mark Cunningham:
Most American women will just say no I’m not into that I’m not I don’t want to talk about it off the table and yet in trance they have an extraordinary good time. Now that doesn’t mean that they’re going to go out and start picking up girls with you, it does mean that they’re going to be much more open and much more free and much more communicative about that which they enjoy or need in their life, because after all you’ve just led them into something that was very naughty and very pleasurable and they now know you are the kind of person they can share their true fantasies with.
Matt Cook:
I see. So do you have trouble with women because at the beginning how do you overcome the resistance they have to fantasy that is sort of like there must be something wrong with it, it could be real you know as opposed to it’s just fantasy.
Mark Cunningham:
Well again hypnosis is a widely misunderstood phenomenon within trance they have their naval defense systems but they cannot activate them because they’re having such a good time. One of the side effects of trance is the body relaxes completely and you feel extraordinarily good. You feel like you’re in the grip of the most pleasant daydream you’ve ever had. So people tend to go along and are ready to get along how to keep the experience going. So they will not usually object in trance to things that they would have defenses against in their conscious life.
Matt Cook:
Okay. So your sort of mythic insists of bringing women through some of this sort of core fantasies. Is that what we’re talking about?
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah. I’ve got a basically a process I teach that starts with teaching them how to go into trance and how to enjoy this sensation, how to go into a
trance easily to trust being taken into trance. That’s followed by a process where we clean the negativity out of their past and this is one of the big things I brought out of my therapy practice is you don’t really need to go back and deal with individual issues. I mean my god the best thing about the past is that it’s over. You know you should never try just to relive you past tremors but there are very simple techniques that without even referencing specific events they still have a negative memory about. You can absolutely let go of that negativity so you can remember your past clearly and not feel bad about it. You remember the things you’ve learned like in my case you know it’s probably not wise for me to marry a red head but you don’t feel the negative charge any more. It gives you a tremendous burst of energy as a result and a new sense of freedom and optimism. From there we teach a woman how to broaden her imagination and all my students learn how to begin to construct and describe and make real very sensory rich imagined environments that not necessarily sexually. We do go into sensuality and teaching a woman how to open up to a full expression of emotion and sensuality so she can become fully responsive. At that point you can well I mean once you’ve learn how to experience pleasure and to associate pleasure with doing the right thing which is largely what you tell her to do then of course you can begin to straighten out all the areas of her life. Her professional life, her family life as well as playing and exploring with her sexuality. Matt Cook:
Well this is a scary preposition because it sort of seems to me that you’re almost making the man in the role of her therapist in a sense. Is there a way around that or I’m I getting this wrong?
Mark Cunningham:
No. if you can just not do therapy you know and I know [0:18:59] [Inaudible] like we’re playing some hunger game here but let me give you an example, every man who has a woman he cares about will exhibit the type of behavior that most women get really irritated at which is once she starts talking about a problem in her life or like my mother called and or my boss is such an idiot he wants me to do this. Men try to jump in and solve the problem.
Matt Cook:
Right.
Mark Cunningham:
It drives women nuts.
Matt Cook:
Yeah I’ve learned that that’s not the right they really want. They it seems like they just want empathy and someone to listen I’ve learned that.
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah it’s easier to understand hard to do but the thing is what the end goal that man has is they really want their woman to do better. They want her to feel better, they want her to have let her have a better life it’s like “honey just let me jump in and take care of this for you.” Well the thing is if you start to explore these scenarios in trance, let’s say difficulty keeping and even temper around your mother. Okay? Then what you can do is have her imagine in trance interacting with her mother but you’re forcing her to take a deep breathe to realize that her mother is a complex being and she’s operating off of her understanding and her emotions it’s really not personal.
[0:20:24] Mark Cunningham:
She’s just working out of her program and to open up and remember to love her for who she is while keeping her arms length and don’t let her slime you with her emotional problems. As you describe all these and your woman experiences it she realizes she can do this in real life and that will or tend to become her default response in real life from that point on. Now that’s not doing therapy that’s just being supportive and being a stand up guy for your woman only using very modern and very effective tools in order to get the same goal.
Matt Cook:
So how would that work specifically with that example? Let’s say a woman has a boss she can’t stand and every night she comes home, frustrated, upset it interferes with her sex life and everything else because she’s just angry about it and doesn’t think she can do anything about it. So what is a man the process for a man look like in your mind ideally?
Mark Cunningham:
Well I just did this with a woman who came through my project. She worked as the personal assistant to the CEO of a big marketing company and the guy was just a dick. I mean there’s no other way to explain it I mean he’s an idiot constantly making her life hell. So when I started leading her through taking her into trance, teaching her how to relax, how to enjoy being led by me then I would walk her through these daily scenarios and I did two things. So one was I had her imagine that every
time he came out and just started going off on her that she had well I tried a couple of different things. I tried to imagine she had a bubble around her and so all of his energy, his angry energy would splatter on this bubble just like it bugs on a windshield. So she could still hear him, could still understand him but he just couldn’t impress her hot buttons anymore she wasn’t going to give him that kind of power. At one point I had her imagine because I mean remember we’re in trance where nothing is impossible so I changed his head into a fish head so while he was going off on her what she saw was his voice coming out of his fish head to the scene and kind of gaping. It was funny for her and it diffused the situation for her but probably the things that I did to help her most was I had her keep in mind what her goals were in her life, for who she wanted to be and what she wanted to do with her life. To measure everyday I’m I getting closer to that, is that neutral or I’m I getting further from that. What she ended up doing was actually getting the courage to changing jobs and she’s now in a job that is actually much better for you emotionally and she’s advancing professionally further than she ever thought possible. Matt Cook:
So what would a man do who’s listening this who’s got a wife in that situation or a girlfriend in that situation. What can a man do as a take away from what you’ve just described? Because you’re a professional you’ve had thousands of hours of this what about a man who’s just listening to this who you know is there something that you could give us or would be a little bit cook book recipe for the people who’ve not been in the kitchen very much.
Mark Cunningham:
Well the answer is and you know when you call me and say let’s chat I really didn’t intend to do anything sielby[0:23:51] [Phonetic] but I do teach how to do this and it’s extraordinarily simple to learn it. I mean I can take just a generic guy off the street and have him functioning at a professional level as a hypnotist two or three days. So I’ve done it thousands of times. So I’ve actually had materials that teach you the core techniques, how do you take someone into trance what do you say or do in what sequence. If this happens, what do you do and then lead them step by step through all the core techniques necessary to help your woman to guide your woman to train your woman to be a person. My goal is what I call becoming fully human. You ought to be able to have
emotions not letting your emotions controlling you and so we teach people how to have a full range of emotional and structural responses and to take control of their own life. Now part of that course is teaching them to be widely orgasmic because I found that you can either be neurotic or orgasmic but you can’t be both. Alright and given a choice most people choose orgasmic. If they choose neurotic you should be saying check please ‐‐. [0:25:04] Matt Cook:
Neurotic with an N by the way not with an E.
Mark Cunningham:
That’s right. Neurotic and orgasmic is kind of the whole [0:25:12] [Inaudible]. Yeah so you can learn and it’s a mistake I mean I show everybody I show people an incredible amount of me working with a broad variety of women and we do this on video because I want to prove that it works with all women from all backgrounds and all stages of life. So we have women ranging from 18 to 49 you know single party girls, mums, professional workers I mean there’s and people from all over the world. I mean it works on everybody and so you get a chance to see me working but it’s from the state to try to look at my work and go wow I’m going to be just like him because like you say I’m further down the road. It’s not that I’m extraordinary it’s just that I’ve got a lot of practice doing this. So and ‐‐.
Matt Cook:
Yeah so in a way like I’m thinking because I’d really like to know like some tips here let’s say like in my relationship. How I can help my wife in a positive way without being domineering or controlling in a way that’s not very nice? I can see myself doing it as an amateur but I’m not even a talented amateur where you know so that’s I’m wondering how ‐‐?
Mark Cunningham:
You need to work on your self image Matt.
Matt Cook:
It’s actually it’s probably better than I’m making it out to be. Yeah so how does this you know how does a man who’s like not really skilled in this and you know in a matter of a few days or with videos requires that kind of knowledge without all that practice. So I’m having a different hoity with that part.
Mark Cunningham:
Because the first step is extraordinarily simple. I mean the root of what you want your woman to feel if you want her to feel relaxed. Okay? Well people are tensed when they’re off balance they’re not in a good place certainly can’t move forward all their energy is going to a defensive mode of trying to stay upright and limiting damage. So one of the first exercises I teach and one that’s absolutely irresistible is teaching someone to relax on command. Now for modern people, if you can picture let’s say I was holding my hand up to my nose okay and I’m saying this is my normal pinching[0:27:35][Phonetic] level my right from my nostrils okay. Then maybe I’m having a great and it’s my tension level only goes up to my chin and I’m thinking I’m having a freaking great day. Well no you’re not. You still you know up to your chin in absolute stress. What I like to do is teach people how to actually relax just relax. I said two things one is it makes them much more capable of anything else in their life but also there’s something called context anchoring. It’s a technical term but it’s a very simple concept and that is ‐‐.
Matt Cook:
What was that term again? I missed it.
Mark Cunningham:
It’s context anchoring.
Matt Cook:
Okay.
Mark Cunningham:
What it means is when you teach somebody something they not only remember the lesson but they also build into those good feelings the memory of who taught it to them. Okay? So when you teach someone to relax, okay when you teach someone to pay attention and be open to you so you can just walk up to your woman and go “Baby relax. Just relax take a deep breathe we’ll get through this.” The act of you doing that, saying that with that tone of voice and her memory of how this has worked in the past not only will she relax calmed down which believe me men will pay you a huge amount of money just to learn how to do this and but also you’re pulling that link between the two of you. She knows that she can now turn to you in times of stress and you’ll make her feel better.
Matt Cook:
I think that’s what women really want from men and you know in a different way men want from women but I’ll talk about it from the woman point of view. They want to feel that the man is that sort of their rock and they can put his arms around her and make everything safe and wonderful. I think women want that from men.
Mark Cunningham:
Absolutely. Women have told me time and time again in fact one of my students I think went really well is that I want my man to be the rock that I ordered around she wants to have the freedom to have the full emotional expression and just to [0:29:50] [Inaudible] wild cycle of emotions that women go through. She wants to feel enjoyed being a totally emotional woman but she needs to know that she’s got that man in her life that when you know the chips are down that she can count on him to be the man.
[0:30:07] Matt Cook:
So the first step you teach people and this is easy you’re saying it’s easy to learn in your system you teach men to help a woman really relax. That’s like the most fundamental thing that you teach at the beginning.
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah because it’s got so many things because now I get the immediate gratifying benefit but also it will test whether she is willing to accept suggestions and follow commands even for something as simple as relaxing, right? I mean she’s not going to trust you on that then there’s probably she’s not going to take your word on anything else either. Something is extraordinary as making actual identity changes.
Matt Cook:
I see.
Mark Cunningham:
Who doesn’t want to be the anchor for relaxation and happiness?
Matt Cook:
Right. So is there another like sort of easy thing to do at home that you teach men that we could kind of get our arms around here in this interview?
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah. It’s again it depends on you don’t have to pick on a certain mind stick. I’ll probably be comfortable with power and that is you have to get comfortable with the idea that you are going to make suggestions or you’re going to tell her to do something that you know is extraordinarily good for her and you expect she’s going to follow along and you’ll accept responsibility for being that strong in your relationship. Now if you’re going to do that which is kind of really telling a guy to man up, right?
Matt Cook:
Yes.
Mark Cunningham:
Then you can go a little bit further and learn how to tell her that she’s beautiful and have her understand it and feel it. Okay? Tell her that she’s
smart and strong. Now if you say this and you believe it absolutely even if you just believe it in a moment long enough to make it true for her then it’s an extraordinary gift that you can give to her. You’re beginning to build a cycle of she listens to what you’re saying, she opens her mind she considers it she’s goes okay well you know I’ll do this and see how see how it turns out it feels really good. That is the core of what I call conditioning with pleasure. Every time you’re moving your hand in positive direction and something she wants to interpret as positive because I heard you earlier Matt you’re talking about how you didn’t want to be real dominant and over bearing. You don’t have to be you have to be strong and masculine because that’s women crave but if you constantly lead her into things that make her feel really good then she’s going to become more open and trusting and you can take it any way you want. Matt Cook:
It’s a cycle of increasing comfort really for her isn’t it? It’s actually an amazing gift that you could give your woman.
Mark Cunningham:
Exactly right. Okay you are opening up this incredible world to her where she is the star, she receives all the benefits and [0:33:12] [Inaudible] some guys who come to me and then go, “Matt it looks like your life you’re creating slaves because these women are just you know want them to do anything you tell them to do but all you do is make them feel good.” I go “Yeah.” If you have if you develop extraordinary influence over the woman in your life, what else would you want us to do except make her feel incredibly good.
Matt Cook:
Yeah I guess that I’m starting to see this because it feels still a little manipulative and I’m trying to get around that. How do you get around that?
Mark Cunningham:
if you look up the word manipulate, you’ll find what it says it’s to move with intention. Okay? It is not a negative thing obviously I’ve learned across this a lot so I actually looked the word up but the thing is to be manipulative is the same it’s like a skilled carpenter is manipulative of his tools and are to build something extraordinary. Alright? In my former career as a therapist I was extremely manipulative in helping people lead rich flow positive lives. If you are the kind of person who ought to be trusted if you are the man who has good intent then when you
manipulate someone into making them feel better and how to lead their lives better. To have less stress, less problem, more joy more ecstasy I don’t think there’s something you need to get around. Matt Cook:
Yeah I see what you’re saying. How does a man get confident enough to accept this responsibility if he’s not right now?
Mark Cunningham:
Practice. Okay. You can run across the most extraordinary life teaching and you read it and you go holy crap this just opens up a whole life for me but as long as you’re just sitting there and lazy boy nothing is going to happen. Right?
[0:35:07] Mark Cunningham:
I mean you can become a Master of university or you can become a Master of lazy boy. You’ve got to decide what you want to go and which means you need to get out and interact with real people as though you are this person. Now by extraordinary good chance the vast majority of people don’t know you and don’t care which means that you can walk out the door and begin to act as though you were someone and everybody else just goes “That’s who Matt is, right?” so you can start out by doing very simple things. I’ll give you a very good example, I mean we were recording this on Valentine’s day and so of course being a well trained husband I was out at the Wal‐Mart shopping 9:00pm last night getting a valentine’s card but the place was full of people all buying cards and there was this little girl who was she was on the floor she had a snoopy doll and she was crying a long she was woofing. So I looked at her and I said, “Are you a doggy on the floor?” She looks at me and goes, “I’m pretending.” So people around me start to laugh and so I was chatting with a little a girl and then I turn to the woman next to me and I say, “Do you see a doggy?” She starts talking about her little kids like to play doggy and she put down a food dish and water dish for her and her teenage daughter who was turning to be embarrassed as all hell and so I turned to the teenager. I said, “Hey.” I said, “You weren’t one of those doggies were you?” she started to laugh and all over a sudden I was talking with six people around and I was relaxed I was leading the conversation. Even though we were talking about something silly, everybody there left feeling much better than when they came in. That’s what I’m talking
about using direct influence and expression of who you are being confident, that you can reach out and make a difference in people’s lives and it all turned out great. The way you do that in that specific example is you start talking to everyone you’re around. Just find something to say, something is going on something they’re wearing, something you’re thinking whatever you’d say it as you get the desired response. Great. If you get a response is it what you wanted or not to be less than positive okay just laugh but that’s not it but you need to get engaged with life. You need to get engaged with this idea that you yourself can make a difference. At that point it’s largely a choice what kind of a difference will I make. Matt Cook:
Well one thing that I think is helpful here is just in blurting out what’s on your mind without analysis because I think that too many people in their heads they analyze and they just don’t get it out there and once you just get it out there and you just blurt out what’s on your mind it gets easier and easier and you realize that people are actually engaged with you and you stop being so self conscious and you start to really getting people to feel really good about what you’re saying. Do you agree with that?
Mark Cunningham:
I agree absolutely because I think the fear of staying or doing something stupid is one of the most paralytic fears you can possibly encounter. The fact is everybody around you absolutely normal and I’ve been blessed in my life by meeting extraordinary people. People like Richard Branson or Lenox Polon[0:38:23] [Phonetic] the guy who discovered vitamin C and it turns out I can laugh and joke with these guys because they are extraordinary people but they are still normal people at heart. I talk to single guys all the time about what when you see someone who you find extraordinary attractive walk up and talk to her because she’s a girl. She wants some dude to talk to her. I mean it’s incredible if you just guys get sick of advice just be yourself okay because they think that well there’s something wrong with me. You know if I was just myself I’m getting this resolved whether at the end of the day obviously there’s something wrong with me. It’s completely the wrong track the advice is correct, stop censoring yourself, interact with people around you if nothing else you’re going find out that everyone else is plagued with doubts and fears and foolish
mistakes. Once you start interacting with people you start thinking holy crap I may be smarter than all these people. Matt Cook:
Yeah just don’t analyze just don’t do that. Just blurt it out there and you know you’ll find extraordinary results because one thing you said, you implied but didn’t say but is that if you’re pretending to be confident, if you go out in the world like imagining you’re confident in your own mind just imagining it even if you don’t feel like the core you are people won’t know the difference and they’ll start responding to your pretending that you’re confident and you’ll become more confident.
Mark Cunningham:
Right. There’s this thing called charisma and everybody knows how to recognize it. Most people don’t know how to generate it on command but I can tell you the masters esoteric secret of charisma which is there’s nothing more than insane self confidence. Extraordinary self confidence and people are drawn to it like they’re drawn to the light like they’re drawn to a flame.
[0:40:10] Mark Cunningham:
So simply going out and practicing around strangers by acting as though you do like yourself that you’re confident that you do have interesting things going on and interesting things to say. People will respond to you that way.
Matt Cook:
So give us you know somebody listening to this now and want to hear about your, I know that the videos you’ve done are extraordinary just extraordinary but give us something that we can do guys listening this goes home at night. Is there something he can do tonight with his wife or his girlfriend that will really help the relationship a lot?
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah. I would say it’s a very simple process and we are hear you’ve got to think about holy crap this is probably what I should have been doing all along. That is when you talk to her talk to her as though you love her. Don’t do transactions okay, don’t bring up what happened last week or let go of the resentment or anger you may be carrying around because of everything that’s happened up till now. Instead look at her as a woman, remember why chose her, speak to her as though you love her. Now you know it’s [0:41:26] [Inaudible] you might as well change while thinking about this because I like to think using my voice well as a hypnotist and my voice as my tool. I like to think of my voice as a caress as a touch.
When you’re using physical touch, touch her as though you’re petty her. Touch her as though your touch is going to bring extraordinary pleasure and so using that deaf that gentle touch. The touch as though just touching allows emotion to flow from you to her, okay? Listen to what she’s saying okay and listen to what she is communicating when she’s saying that. When she’s running through her letting in about what happened during her day she’s really not talking about discrete man she’s talking about the chain of emotions she went through and what these things that happened how they made her feel. Pay attention to that and respond to that. Okay and let go of your quest for the result. Stop thinking oh my god you know I’m going to do this three step process and she’s going to become my ideal lover at the end of it. Instead just go ahead and relax and think you know what I’m just going to do something right now to make her feel good and then see what happens. Matt Cook:
That’s so amazing.
Mark Cunningham:
Well you know what I’ve been married for 16 years and given what I do people are kind of fully amazed that I’m married because I run around training women [0:43:00] [Phonetic] orgasmic but my wife and I have this deal where everyday we get up and we decide to be in love with each other, okay. We do it as a conscious choice and so we start to think, feel and do all of those things that we should do to make sure that our love remains and grows stronger and as a result we’ve got a rock solid marriage and it’s not because we’re ideally matched we’re more like a battling biggersons[0:43:25] [Phonetic]. So we know to get what we want we have to actually do things, we have to think things, we have to feel things and we have to choose.
Matt Cook:
So do you do the trance stuff with your wife?
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah. She loves it and actually she is totally down with my working with this extraordinary ____ level of women. I mean she watches videos where these women are totally enthralled with me I mean begging to be my woman saying that they belong to me and all and she laughs because she gets to be the woman that I chose to be married to. So yeah she loves being hypnotized and she thinks it’s really helped her out in her life and it has. I haven’t made any extraordinary changes in her because I have a
good sense to pick somebody who is in good shape to begin with but she thinks I’m doing God’s work. Matt Cook:
This is really helpful this that you’ve given us a little bit of bit of an instruction little recipe we can do right away. I’d say the key to I’ve been married over 25years very happily married and I think the key to our relationship is that we get up in the morning and at night we spend a lot of time you know snuggling together. We have a lot of sex and we also have a lot of just you know snuggling and physical touch all the time. We do it I don’t want to say consciously like it’s a big chore but basically every morning and every night and then sometimes in between. So I think that’s extraordinarily helpful and the sciences behind that as well showing that it builds up the hormones oxytocin and really gets you more and more in love with your partner and she with me.
[0:45:13] Mark Cunningham:
Well Matt that makes you a tremendously manipulative kind of guy, doesn’t it?
Matt Cook:
Yeah. Exactly it’s all intentional. Sometimes I tell her how I feel about her and she doesn’t really get it sometimes because she doesn’t and you know it’s because I have these extraordinary depths of feelings for her. It really is because of this that it’s an amazing thing it’s like neurochemistry brain chemistry ‐‐.
Mark Cunningham:
Yeah.
Matt Cook:
Totally works. You know.
Mark Cunningham:
If you are starting out to make sure that she is flooded with happy chemicals and you top it off everyday I think it’s like she’s never going anywhere. I mean she’s not going to cheat she’s not going to be tempted she’s going to be coming home at night because she’s got something extraordinary and she knows who is the [0:46:03] [Inaudible].
Matt Cook:
Yeah and the interesting thing is for men who have erectile problems or premature ejaculation problems. Let me ask you a question here because you’ve talked to so many women. Have you worked with women who have men who had these problems?
Mark Cunningham:
Yes a lot. As you know there are some physiological cases of ED but they’re really rare compared to [0:46:27] [Inaudible] rate and then everything else is just a matter of male confidence.
Matt Cook:
Right. Yeah so how did you know can you think of one of those cases where it resolved itself for you know just can you think of an example you could tell us a story?
Mark Cunningham:
Well I’ll give you two examples. One is specific and one is a broader implication. The specific one was a young woman who came in to be part of my project and she was she had been very sexually adventurous, she was already very responsive and so she saw an ad that we were looking for women that have orgasms hypnotically on camera. She came in through [0:47:06] [Inaudible] size but as we started doing the sessions and of course she responded very well the technique. She told me about her boyfriend who she hoped was the one kind of thought was the one but he had a real problem. He thought that he had hooked a girlfriend that was way out of his league and as a result he was nervous all the time. Either he was nervous about her past he was nervous about her previous experience what her expectations might be or maybe some other guy who is going to come in and sweep her off her feet and take her away and so of course he was getting very insecure contributed to premature ejaculation which of course didn’t make things better in any stress imagination because he was worried about oh my god I’m not satisfying my girl or of course [0:47:51] [Inaudible] someone else.
Matt Cook:
Right.
Mark Cunningham:
So when I taught her how to be fully orgasmic how to have incredibly rich full body orgasms on command because it is a male phenomenon you can teach even cougar. In her case I taught her a phrase that whenever I said or whenever a man that she chose said this phrase she’d look at me like going to a whole body orgasm. So went home all excited and she goes [0:48:21] [Phonetic] here’s what I want you to do. She said I want you to [0:48:26] [Inaudible] when you tell me this phrase I’m going to have a huge orgasm. He was like, “Yeah right.” So she dragged him off to bed and they’re fooling around and he says he’s going to try it out. He says the phrase she immediately goes to full orgasm. They’re not even having
intercourse at this point. He’s like “Holy crap.” Okay so he jumps in the saddle, they start going at it and he’s just banging away this particular phrase like he’s got a new toy. He calmed down eventually but what he discovered was that when he was able to simply, reliably, honestly, bring his woman to orgasm and to please her and satisfy her in a way that she loved to experiencing, his confidence went right through the roof and as a result his premature ejaculation just disappeared. Okay? Matt Cook:
It’s a great story.
Mark Cunningham:
Now the yeah. I mean it’s like this is why I mean I don’t really need the money I mean I do this because of the love of the work. I mean the stories people tell me are just incredible but the larger example is that women want their men to be happy being men. Women are not nearly as judgmental as men think they are. Women are willing to put up with a lot, okay? I mean I’ve had women I mean I’m carrying 30 extra pounds I have women you know reach out tap my belly and tell me I think it’s cute. Alright? They are willing to put up with the incredible amounts of stuff if you are helping them to feel the way they need to feel. So when they are with a man who has some kind of sexual challenge.
[0:50:05] Matt Cook:
Heather?
Heather:
I lost him too.
Matt Cook:
Okay.
Mark Cunningham:
Right. You know hey ‐‐.
Heather:
There we are.
Matt Cook:
Yeah. Go ahead yeah.
Mark Cunningham:
Okay I was just saying women are not looking for all the way to reject a guy they are looking for ways to how do I help my guy do better and make the relationship go better. That’s why she’s with him in the first place and so when women discover that they can become orgasmic really easily they are like a kid with a new toy and giving this power to their power to their man they see it as yeah it’s a power to their orgasms and
who doesn’t want it that but more than that it’s a pathway to richer, fuller communication and attachment in a relationship. So it works well for everybody. Matt Cook:
Okay. One more yeah Heather I wanted to ask you you’ve been very quiet through this whole presentation.
Mark Cunningham:
Yes she has.
Matt Cook:
I wanted to know what your opinion is of this you know. One of the female persuasion and when you hear all this you know Mark started out by saying women in general really want to surrender control to a man that that’s universal. He’s talked about this whole thing about this trance state about the role of a man with a woman. What do you think about all this?
Heather Hallman:
Well I have to say in my life I’m very lucky to have a man who is my emotional rock like and so to speak he so I would say I agree the most part at least I really do. I agree I am I think when you have a man who’s really strong like this and wonderful and mine is in no way what I would call like what you’re saying like pushy or domineering or anything like but he’s a tremendously masculine and tremendously strong and it really makes my life wonderful. So to [0:52:28] [Inaudible] experience I’d have to say I agree.
Matt Cook:
So you feel it’s a pretty positive thing that we’ve been learning about from Mark. It’s a very positive thing from a woman’s point of view it’s not you know in many ways.
Heather Hallman:
Right. Yes as long as the guy is coming at it from a point of view of supporting and helping his woman instead of controlling and just being a dick head then yes I think it’s very positive.
Mark Cunningham:
I think that the guys who set out to be very controlling the way you’re explaining it are actually very weak and that’s why they’re doing it.
Heather Hallman:
Right.
Mark Cunningham:
I suspect that the man in your life is more of what I call a big dog and if you’ve ever been around really large dogs you find that they’re not aggressive and quite huffing you’ll have little kids treating him like the world’s biggest flesh toy. They’re going all over him and pulling his ears
the dog’s not doing to do anything. Why? Because they’re big dogs they don’t need to express themselves that way or they’re not running around trying to terrorize the neighborhood because after all they are the big dog. Heather Hallman:
Right.
Mark Cunningham:
What men find is that they can have tremendous influence and do it in ways that are very beneficial they could be used actually, surprisingly sparingly. Alright? Because there’s no actual joy for a real man in dominated putting down holding down some other person rather the pleasure comes from opening them up stirring them new possibilities, supporting them making them feel wonderful in reaping the benefits of this tremendously grateful person who’s turning around and who is now trying to give the same level affection and gratification back to you.
Heather Hallman:
Right, I would agree with that completely, yeah. He certainly is.
Matt Cook:
So what is, we only have a minute of you left, I’d like to know if we were interested, I think we’re going to put a link here, on the screen here which will be below the video we’re doing. What are the next steps somebody wants to take if they’re really interested in getting into this and they want to get these videos to start doing this thing?
Mark Cunningham:
You can actually we try and give a lot of information right upfront and so if you follow the link what you’re going to do is you’re going to come to the page where the first thing you see is a video testimonial from a woman who’s been through my project, talking about what the experience was like, what it meant for her and how she feels it’s going to impact her life, why men and women should be interested in this.
[0:55:07] If you’re willing to go ahead and give us your email address, then we’re going to send you a series of videos including 130 minutes passion where you see me working extensively with a girl and I am demonstrating in detail exactly what’s possible doing my type of technique I mean you’re going to see me, it looks like I’m just talking to her but because of how the back influence works just by talking to her, you’ll see her responding extraordinary.
You see her fully orgasmic on camera. You’ll hear her talking about what she wants, what she needs, what she wants me to do next. All these things are just free samples. Make up your own mind and if like Matt first started joking about this thing it all sounds very manipulative and you think wow, this is not something men should do with women. You probably shouldn’t go and [0:56:01] [Inaudible] shock the socks right off [0:56:03][Inaudible], okay, or if you think women can’t actually respond this way well, then you’re probably not going to like my method because we assume women respond this way then you’re probably not going to like my method because we assume women respond this way and that’s when you find out how to get any individual woman into that point but if you’re interested you can come on in. We’ve got money back guarantees, we’ve got everything that you possibly imagine to make sure that we reduce your risk. We make you feel good and just find out what it’s like then make up your own mind. Matt Cook:
Well, I have to say your materials are amazingly well done and it certainly would be good to follow the link and get their videos because you’re going to be really impressed with Mark’s portrayal, incredible and you learn so much as you can tell just by this short interview. I want to thank you so much for giving us your generous time today Mac.
Mark Cunningham:
Sure Matt. I had fun.
Matt Cook:
Thanks so much. We’ll talk to you soon. Thanks Heather.
Mark Cunningham:
Bye bye.
Heather Hallman:
Thank you.
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