EMOTIONAL FOREPLAY
Emotional foreplay refers to the sexually conducive thoughts and emotional connection needed to "get in the mood." Women are wired in a way that requires emotional foreplay for them to get to where most men begin! Music and movies are excellent sources for cultivating sexual readiness by stirring romantic thoughts and emotions. Sometimes a song on the radio or seeing a romantic movie can cause a flicker of arousing thoughts that if welcomed, encouraged, and directed at our spouse can provide fuel for intimate desire. The trick for husbands is to allow their wives to enjoy "mood movies" and "mood music" without any psychological pressure of strings attached. FROLICKING FOREPLA FOREPLAY Y First let’s let’s divide frolicking foreplay into two parts, emotional and physical. Emotional foreplay is making our partner feel special and valued in and out of the bedroom. Without emotional foreplay no amount of physical foreplay will create the hot sizzling sex and the deep emotional intimacy we constantly crave.
women are largely turned on by communication and through their emotions, It has been written that women need ten times more foreplay than men, so I am just repeating what I have read. So now you can see why just “bringing home the bacon” or just “being around” won’t be enough to light her fire. And foreplay must be a dance that goes on continually throughout the relationship,
women are turned on by “emotional stimulation” the way men are aroused visually. visually. Though more and more romance authors are leaning toward more erotic romance, In most cases, a woman’s libido is directly linked to emotions that revolve around romance and love. These emotions are a connected set of processes that involve physiological changes, such as heart rate, blood pressure and hormones circulating throughout the body—and these comprise the cornerstones of a woman’s sexual drive. Therefore, when a woman’s emotions are stirred by a romance novel, that’s a recipe for an emotional aphrodisiac. It’s like giving a woman emotional foreplay.”
:"Asif is very liberal...in him she knew she found a man who was secured enough in himself to allow a woman to be really powerful and not to feel threathened..."
In the mood: 10 ways to fuel her desire
1. Practice emotional foreplay. Sultry French icon Brigitte Bardot said that sex begins early in the morning and ends when you go to sleep at night - meaning that the way you treat your lady throughout the day determines just how hot she'll be when you're ready to get horizontal. Make thoughtful ongoing efforts that say I care about you. 2. Control yourself. Show her that affection needn't always lead to sex. Women often resent the feeling that when a man gets close, it's meant as a prelude to rattling the bedposts. But when a woman feels that you crave her body as more than a sex toy, her uninhibited desire for you is free to emerge. So give her a massage and just hold her. 3. Pursue, pursue, pursue. For most women I know, a fine line exists between being pressured and being pursued - and we love to be pursued. A woman who isn't otherwise in the mood can be infected by the magnetism of your desire if you persist in a stylish, seductive manner. Don't spout, sulk or withdraw affection. If you handle her refusal graciously, you'll score points that will lead to an enthusiastic "yes!" sooner rather than later.
4. Cross erogenous borders. A woman's excitement rises when a man makes love to all of her. You've probably heard that before, but try looking at it this way: A woman's body, from her arching brows to her carefully painted toes, is as hungry for stimulation as your penis. Imagine how you'd react if a woman thought she could satisfy you by rubbing a one-centimeter circle somewhere on the head of your favorite organ. Would that make you happy? Now think about making love with your partner. Do you think that simply stroking her clitoris - rich with nerve endings, but still one minuscule spot - is really going to make her want to repeat the whole process tomorrow? While women love orgasms, and stimulating the clitoris is a great way to induce them, what a woman will remember best is the fact that you aroused her to the melting point before you got your hands on the thermostat.
Giving pleasure and knowing that it is being enjoyed is her own emotional foreplay I
Sex is about you, making love is about both of you. When you just have sex, your partner becomes the means to an end — this is enough to make any woman feel lousy! Emotional intimacy is like a 7/24 foreplay. When we feel really close to each other, the mental foreplay never stops. Your mind is intimately connected all the time. Many couples have lost that connection and often end up living like roommates.
ways of intimacy One the greatest desires of both men and women is to be truly understood, that is, for our mate and friends to really know how we feel and why. One of the greatest dimensions of love is the intimate exchange of being understood. Men are mostly stimulated by what they see, women are mostly stimulated by what they hear. Men say what they see (facts, commands, criticism), women say what they feel (intangibles, indirect responses, personal attributes). These type of things will provoke an undesirable response and will often drive their mate away. Men are factual and critical-black and white, Women are feeling and sensual-abstract: · Say what you feel, not what to do. Say how it feels, not the facts. Negative examples: 1. Down deep inside that makes me feel like crying when you bring that up not: When are you going to let go of that grudge. 2. Do you know how much it hurts when you are with someone else even if you don't supposedly care about them, not: Stop doing that shit with those guys. 3. Do you know how much I trust you, not: I can't believe you did that again. Positive examples: 1. I really love it when you cook for me, not just: you are a great cook. 2. You make life so much more beautiful, you notice and cherish what everyone else takes for granted, not: ignoring her comment or saying “don't be so silly, or enough already, or you get so excited over nothing”. 3. “That turns me on” not: “do that some more” or “keep going” or silence/no comment. · Women and even people in general will not condemn or argue about how you feel about something, but you do invite strife with commands and statements of fact. We men have to look to why we want to issue a command or make a statement. There is always a feeling causing the command or factual statement that will bring intimacy and deeper connection/respect with our mate if we learn to express them. · Old proverb: A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up strife and anger.
Understanding Submission
Women are designed for complete submission; men are supposed to be designed to bring women into submission. However, most men don't have a clue about true submission. It is the most intimate facet of a relationship. It is the ultimate expression of love. Simply put, submission is one the greatest deep down desires of women. Without this fulfillment they are frustrated and feeling some degree of emptiness in their relationship, and will be venerable to the words and power of a stranger. Complete fulfillment of a woman's heart only comes by her willing and complete submission to the right man. Women are designed emotionally to submit. But just because most women desire to submit or surrender all to their mate does not mean they will do so easily. Their intense desire to submit/surrender all will only be bestowed as a precious gift to a trustworthy man that knows how to graciously but powerfully bring her in to submission. Women who are not in complete submission with their mate are venerable and could easily find themselves in an affair. Some women who have been hurt will have a hard, bitter, and/or a cold façade that may never be penetrated to allow the flow of true love and submission. Unfortunately, most men have the wrong idea about submission. Submission is neither slavery nor servitude. Submission is a gift, a free act of surrender motivated by love and supported by trust. Submission only comes by a willing heart and cannot be forced nor demanded. Submission is not obedience to the commands and desires of non-giving type man. Submission is more like the surrendering and giving of one's soul to her mate that is passionate, caring, and giving yet powerful and in complete control. Submission is not physical, but it does have its ultimate expression in the act of lovemaking. Submission is earned not taken, intimate not degrading, is love and not absolute control.
Other Subjects to Explore
ROMANCE: Women love romance, observe and learn about romance. Much of romance is simply treating a woman right down to the last detail. It is like emotional foreplay and should not be taken lightly. Romance is like all out adoring your woman with a bit of mystery and control. It is also like treating a woman with class and loving expression yet with power and strength. Romance also involves a bit of a chase which women absolutely love. Men have some natural ability to romance the woman they fall for when they first fall, but many can stumble into a trap after the relationship has peaked or matured to thinking romance is fake or a put on. True, some men are naturally more romantic than others, but all have some of it when they first fall for a woman and do strange things to win her. Here is a truth that we men must embrace to keep our woman happy: WE MUST ALMOST ROMANCE HER JUST AS MUCH TO KEEP HER AS WE DID TO WIN HER IN THE FIRST PLACE, and if it was not fake then, then it is not
fake now if you want to keep the one you love. ORDER/PRIORITIES: The house must be in order. Love is severely undermined when things are out of order: · Basic order of life: God, spouse, family, career. · There must be the right kind of separation from both sides of parents. Both she and he must hold a higher position in the other's heart and actions than the inlaws. · Finances must be in order, or at least headed that direction by earnest efforts. Responsible spending and earning must be a joint effort. · Man of character. She will have a hard time loving any man that does things to undermine his own character. Things of this nature can range from stealing to selling drugs to running from the law to doing hateful things to others to condemning others to violence to cheating others to lying to hatred of God or those that represent Him and so on. In a woman's heart, a man's character can also be severely damaged by what he allows or does nothing about.
COMMUNICATION: It is true that in most cases words without actions is meaningless, but it is also true that actions without words results in a cold, dead relationship. Love must find expression in both word and deed. Humans need to be affirmed daily. It is important to recognize that the more that is said about something, the bigger it gets, this works both in the positive and negative way. For example, if you tell her that she is a bitch (even if it is a statement of fact) and always complain about the way she is (without ever expressing your feelings), then the more she will respond that way and the more you expect her to, even when sometimes she is not. On the other hand, you tell her about how turned on she makes you, how beautiful she is, how great the sex is in many ways, the bigger and better the sex will be (it will grow).
TRUTH: Lying at any time or circumstance undermines every truth that one speaks. It is better never to lie, because your words become more powerful and easy to be embraced. It is hard for oneself to believe his own words if he lies often, yet alone to be believed by another person. Truth is always better, even if kept silent. Truth is the only way one can achieve the highest level of intimacy and exchange with his mate. SEX: Men need to find out all they can about sex and not assume that they learned the right way. There are many books and even videos about the mental and physical aspects of sex. The key to success here is one's attitude: BE CONFIDENT WITH WHAT YOU HAVE AND KNOW, BUT ALWAYS STRIVE TO PLEASE AND LEARN MORE IN EVERY WAY YOU CAN!
