CONTENTS Dress Norms
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Pakistani / National Dress
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Lounge Suit
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Smart Casual
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Casual Dress
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Morning Dress / Smart Casual for Women
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Dining Etiquette
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Sitting
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Conversation
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Use of Cutlery
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Eating and Drinking
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Table Manners
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Eating Manners
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Use of Napkin
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Use of Toothpick
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“The world was my oyster but I used the wrong fork.” ― Oscar Wilde
It is but a maer of me before you complete your studies and step into the professional world. Most of you will be assuming leadership roles in the corporate world or presgious Government organisaons and a few will choose to spearhead entrepreneurial ventures. There on, you will be gauged not only for your ‘hardcore’ professional and academic excellence, but also for your ‘so aributes,’ i.e., your persona as a whole – how appropriately you present yourself on different occasions, how sensibly you dress up and your general manners and equee. This booklet has been exclusively designed to provide you with some basic ps on dressing and dining equee. Keep scanning it every now and then unl you realise you have absorbed it to the fullest. Let me also advise you to observe your peers and seniors, who you think are disnguished for their equee, and follow suit. Wishing you the best of luck! RECTOR
GENERAL Immaculate dress appropriate to the occasion is the “hallmark” of a civilised person. If one is decently dressed, he/she receives posive response from the other person. Dress is a window to your personality and enhances your confidence. The dress must not hang on the body but accompany its wearer, and when one smiles, the dress must smile with him/her. Dress guidelines are laid down in the succeeding paragraphs.
PAKISTANI DRESS White kurta / kameez with collar and full sleeves, and white shalwar. Waistcoat, black or any sober colour. Shoes, preferably black colour.
OCCASIONS Naonal celebraons, formal occasions or when specifically menoned on invitaons. Religious fesvals and formal gatherings. Convocaons.
NATIONAL DRESS Sherwani / achkan in black or any sober colour. Shoes, preferably black colour, with black socks. Jinnah cap may also be worn as an opon.
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FEW DON’TS Open cuff kurta. Chappal. Coloured / chequered waistcoat. Any cap other than Jinnah cap.
LOUNGE SUIT Consists of a jacket with matching trousers, necke and black shoes, preferably with dark coloured socks.
OCCASIONS It is appropiate to be worn on the following; Formal occasions when specifically menoned. Official gatherings. On official invitaons for lunch / dinner. Formal meengs / presentaons.
DO’S Light / sobre coloured shirt. Light coloured suit preferred during dayme whereas dark suit during evening.
FEW DON’TS Mulcoloured necke with loud paern be avoided. The necke must complement the shirt and suit, and not stand out with striking colour. Buon only the upper buon of jacket. Preferably do not wear a necke that precisely matches pocket square. Avoid all sorts of frills etc. aached to a shirt to give it a decorave, rather feminine, touch. Never put your hands in your jacket. To the best of your ability, keep your hands out of your trouser pockets as well. Jacket sleeves should be short enough to display 1/2 inch of shirt cuffs. Do not let any scker remain on the sleeves of the coat; remove it carefully using scissors (normally it is stched on the sleeve).
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SMART CASUAL For men, smart causal requires a jacket or blazer (during summers it can be done away with), trouser, a smart casual shirt with a collar (not a T-shirt), and smart shoes, not necessarily lace-ups, but not trainers or sandals. A sweater may be worn if it is cold. Neckes are not necessary but carrying one is oen a good p. Smart casual is usually a summer dress code, but if it is winter then opt for a blazer. If wearing shalwar qameez, blazer be worn with shoes.
OCCASIONS Sports / sociees’ funcons. Informal gatherings. Informal lunch / dinner. Other gatherings where lounge suit is not specified.
FEW DON’TS T-shirts / loose dresses. Jeans / casual trousers. Sneakers / sandals and chappal. Indecent gaudy colours.
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CASUAL DRESS A shirt and trousers will do in summers. During winters, a sweater or coat be added, sans necke. Shoes could be without laces. Pullovers may be worn during winters, whereas for outdoor funcons, jeans and T-shirts are permissible.
Bow Tie: Preferably wear black, white or some other sober single colour, certainly not polka-doed bows.
MORNING DRESS / SMART CASUAL FOR WOMEN Smart day wear to be worn with a jacket; it may be worn without a jacket in summer, but if so, it should be modest with sleeves. Avoid high heels or evening style shoes. Light jewellery may be worn during official hours. A necklace or ring can be a good choice for various occasions. Study the invitaon and dress code for the occasion, the me of day and season. Too much tailoring and long heels may look odd.
Scarves: Apply the same rules as for es, however, remember scarves are informal wear. They may be worn for sports meets, picnics, riding, etc. Belt: With a lounge suit, do not opt for modern broad belts with decoraons and implements. Handkerchief: Generally white handkerchief be used. Linen or coon handkerchiefs are used for mopping the brow or blowing the nose. Jewellery: Men of conservave tastes do not wear brilliantly coloured semi precious stones. Only funconal jewellery is worn, which is simple and masculine-looking in design-e clip (without stone), cuff links to match and signet ring may be worn. Avoid jewellery when in uniform. Cologne: One understands that cologne is an accessory. It is not to be used as a substute for deodorant. A dab on either side of the neck, with another drop on a gentleman’s pocket square, is quite enough. Tipping Your Cap: If you select to wear a cap, you need to understand what to do with when greeng others. You “p” your cap whenever you are being introduced to a new acquaintance or whenever you greet a lady, an old person, or a disnguished person.
FEW GENERAL TIPS Correct stching is important. For a proper-fing jacket, you should be able to fit a fist between your buoned-up jacket and your chest. The fabric of your suit should depend on how oen you will be wearing it. You will want to go with more durable fabrics for daily wear. Always unfasten the buons on your suit when you sit down. Never pair a sports watch with a suit; get yourself a proper dress watch. Preferably do not wear a chequered or striped shirt with a necke.
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dining etiquette GENERAL
Learning mess manners is an important element of your grooming and your social equee. Wherever one may be, that is, at home or in a social gathering, to appear civilised or gentlemanly one must follow good equee. For example, it is a common sight, while tables are full of a variety of sumptuous food, some people impaently rush forward and top up their plates. They only eat half of the food and waste the other half, which looks indecent. There are certain table and eang manners that can be ensured in all gatherings. One is expected to keep oneself abreast with these manners and endeavour their best to implement them in social life.
SITTING Never drag your chair while sing or leaving the chair. Li it when pulling back or moving forward. Sit from the right side
and leave from the le side of the chair.
Always sit with your back straight, but in so doing do not stretch your body. Keep yourself calm and collected. Do not spread your body or elbows. Do not keep your elbows on the table, whereas folded hands can be placed if not eang.
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Do not stretch your feet forward. The sole of the shoe should remain in contact with the floor. Always push back your seat to its original posion aer you get up. Do not gesculate with your hand.
CONVERSATION Converse in low tone.
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Proper etiquette will keep you in the good grace of everyone around you.
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Avoid conversing across the table. Talk with individuals sing on your le and right. Avoid discussions on the cost and quality of food. Do not talk on any subject, which makes the conversaon emoonal or where difference of opinion may arise. Do not narrate long stories or indulge in lengthy discussions. As a rule, keep conversaon general, short and crisp. At large formal gatherings, at mes guests collect in Ante Room / centre of the hall and chat for a few minutes (20-30 min) before heading for the dining area. Normally soup / drinks are served during this me, with light, general conversaon / introducons with newcomers / guests. Avoid keeping your hands in pockets; especially while conversing with your seniors / elders, it is considered bad manners. This prerogave stays only with the senior most person in the group.
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USE OF CUTLERY Forks are always held in le hand. Spoons and knives are always held in the right hand. When eang with fork and knife, hold the fork in your le hand and eat with the fork, e.g. while eang chicken, chops, etc., hold the piece with the fork, cut it with the knife and then consume it with the fork. The fork is held lightly with forefingers advanced. Remember; do not hold the fork in the fist. When using a knife, use it gently and not forcefully. When eang with fork and spoon, hold fork in the le hand, spoon in the right and eat with the s poon, e.g. while eang rice, etc., the fork should assist in filling the spoon. Remember; the basic rule for use of spoon is that solids are always taken from the p and liquids always from the side of spoon. When eang ‘Chapa' with hand, always hold the fork in your le hand and use it for pushing curry in the Chapa. When eang with 'Chapa’ or when eang rice, the knife is not to be used. While pung fork or spoon in your mouth, do not let your teeth stare, close your lips on them. Do not overload your fork and spoon. Keep the cutlery in the plate while munching your food. While talking, put the cutlery back in the plate. Do not point it towards anyone. When not in use, they are placed on the plate at any convenient angle to each other.
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Once food has been consumed, use fork to put the leover food in the plate on the le and place the cutlery in the shape of inverted "V." Place spoon / knife and fork parallel to each other when formally finished. This will indicate to the waiter that you have finished eang for him to take away the plate. If any cutlery piece falls on the floor, do not pick it up, ask for a replacement. If you see too many knives and forks on the table, do not be confused; start picking them from extreme flanks for each course. Do not let the spoon remain in the cup or glass when drinking. Place it on the saucer.
EATING AND DRINKING While eang, always take food to your mouth and not your mouth to the food. Keep mouth closed when chewing food. Do not talk with your mouth full. Do not blow into the spoon or morsel. Do not make the morsel so big that it chokes you, or flows out of the corner of your mouth. Do not take out your tongue while accepng a morsel. Do not protrude your lips to contact the fork or spoon. Do not place the morsel in a corner of your mouth; place it in the centre.
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Do not prepare your next morsel unl you have swallowed the previous one. Do not rush with food. Enjoy each morsel and chew it completely. Do not chew bones. Do not belch. Do not spit any seed or food into the plate. The general rule is what goes into the mouth on a fork or spoon is taken out with it, and what goes in with the fingers is taken out with them. While eang, if anything is spilled, mop it up with your napkin. Leave the rest to the waiter. If something falls into your plate or is observed in the food, do not announce it; stop eang, and if the meal is informal, ask for a new serving. Do not take water if your mouth is already full. While drinking water, do not gulp the whole glass in one breath.
TABLE MANNERS Never overheap your plate. Do not drag dishes on the table. Li them to bring them closer. If dishes are placed far away, do not overstretch. Request others or the waiter to help you. Waiters are supposed to make all serving from the le (except water). While serving, if the waiter is keeping the dish too far away, ask him to bring it closer. Do not overload the serving spoon; you are likely to spill the contents. Do not hunt for good pieces, best Chapa or the sweetest mango. Remember you do not have to expose your greed to others. Do not push back your plate to indicate that you have finished. Do not shout at the waiters; treat them with dignity and grace. Politely thank them aer every serving.
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If you want to work on improving your etiquette, start with table manners. Some people simply need to learn to use the correct utensils, while others have no clue what to do with their napkin.
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EATING MANNERS Food should be touched with fingers as lile as possible. While eang Chapa, try not to smudge your fingers with curry – use the fork to push food into Chapa. Licking fingers is bad manners. The plates are served in a manner that the logo is at 12 o’clock. It is customary not to place food on the logo. Wait for the host and guest of honour to start. Second helpings are not offered at a formal dinner. Picking a chicken piece or chops with fingers is strictly for informal occasions. They should be eaten with knife and fork. Small fish is oen served whole, large fish in pieces. Fish bones are removed from the mouth with finger ps, not with fork, and put on the side of the dinner plate.
USE OF NAPKIN Should only be used to wipe the lips and finger ps. Should be spread over the lap so that drippings do not s poil your clothes. Do not place the napkin around your neck or against your chest. Aer use, do not fold the napkin; lay it casually on the right side. Napkin placed casually indicates ‘napkin used.’ If paper napkin has been used, place it crumpled in your plate aer use.
USE OF TOOTHPICK Toothpick should always be used sparingly. If you must use it, do so only to clean your teeth and not to play with it. Always cover your hand digging in the mouth with the other hand so as to hide the open mouth. If you dig something out, do not blow it or spit it out. Either swallow or collect it, and place it on your plate. Aer using the toothpick, place it in the plate. Do not break it into pieces. DRESS NORMS &
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