Chester Brown (2011) Paying for It

a comic-strjp memotr about being a jolin

a comic-stci.p meft'loic about being a john

CHESTER BROWN

DRA'WN k QYA&TER.LY montreal

Also by Chester Brown: ED THE HAPPY CLOWN

(1989)

THE PlAYBOY (1992)

(1994) (1998)

I NEVER LIKED YOU THE LITTLE MAN

LOUIS RIEL (2003)

Entire contents ©copyright 2011 by Chester Brown. All rights reserved. No part of this book (except small portions for review purposes) may be reproduced in any form without written permission from Chester Brown or Drawn & Quarterly. Drawn & Quarterly Post Office Box 48056 Montreal. Quebec Canada H2V 4S8 www.drawnandquarterly.com First hardcover edition: May 20n. Printed in Singapore. 10987654321 Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication Brown, Chester, 1960Paying For It I Chester Brown. ISBN 978-I-'77046-048-5 I. Tide. PN6733.B76P39 2011 Drawn & Quarterly acknowledges the financial contribution of the Government of Canada through the Canada Book Fund and the Canada Council for the Arts for our publishing activities and for support of this edition. Distributed in the USA by: Farrar, Straus and Giroux 18 West 18th Street New York, NY 10011 Orders: 888.330.8477 Distributed in Canada by: Raincoast Books 2440 Viking Way Richmond, BC V6V 1N2 Orders: 8oo.663-5714

For Joe Matt. He's a good friend and a character in -the following pages~ but it's also appropriate to dedkate this book to him because his au-tobiographical comic-strips were and are an inspiration for me.

Chester Brow.., is ..,ot of t..,is pta .... et. He iS prob01bfy r~s"'lt of one of thoH~ 01lien obd~>~ctio..,s where they Stick (A t"'eec;(Je il"' 01 ht.emDin WOWIDI...,'S G\bc:iome..., QI"!Ql iW"V~pre~ne>.te her. He is o. very advar1ceo ht.emo....,. YoCA Ce>.n tell by /ookin~ o.t tf.,e photo of hiWJ. PAYING FOR IT is e>. very e...,li9htenin9 book., o.s well as bein.!J enter· t01iY1i..,~: he is a very skillft.ol o.rtist ;.., th~t wo.y. t·.., sure to MDIYIY people he's o. dry,. en-~otionless perso..., . Notice how, throt.Agno&At the book_, his f01cial e)Cpres Sio.., is odwo.ys the S'~WJe. His WYOCA'th is Q slit. He r'lever s~ow~ his teet11, never 9ri..,s, ..,ever 9rimo.ces. TS,e opposite of my portro.yo.ls of ..,yself. Chester Brow..,·s nelAtro.lity ;"" the world is_, in MY estiM~tio..,.> ctCAite o.(;(.-nirOible. As JeSlAS so.'icl., "Be QS passers· by., His o.rg&Aments for tl-te c01se in f~vor of t.enregt.cJOt.teoC. prostitt.ction seem er1tirely co9ent to W..,ose busiYleH is i t ;f 01. wome>.t"l WOI.r'ltS to cho.r9e tor sex ? His prese..,t01tior1 of "" the uSIAOII argtA,.,.,ents "'9ai.., s t prostittAtion 01ncA his reb~>~ttal to the..-n iS very effec.tive . He s""ows the>.t the anti-prostitLAtio.., Qrgc..u\o'1ents Dire all bo.Hol OYl eit-1-ter the olot retrogrc;~~cAe religious WJorodity or knee -jerk libero.l> hG\If-bG\keol G\SS~>~~ptions o.bo"'t pros· tit~Atiot'\, All the SMDirt 1-tool
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" refo..-..,.... " tne ....... Not tno.t I've ever 1-lo..o( sex witn o. pro s t ittAte m ys elf. I'v e o.lwo.ys been t oo tiMid to tr y it, 01..,~ Qllso~ 0"\'\Y sextAality is too quirky o.noC odd. It .-,eed s o. s pe ciod t y pe of woma.., to o.ccept the w01.y I o.m> or like the wo.y I o....,.,, lrt tho.t re9o.r~ > Che s ter Brown's sex v.01/ &es ires 5ee. t"YY q_'-1ite " norm01f>" " MOR " ( ,.,.,;QlcHe of the roo..cJ. ). It's 9reo.t the. wo.y l-Ie shows> t-1-trotA9h the yeo.rs~ ho~..V he beco..rY~e o. re01f c o..,..,oi$St'1Ar ;.., the wodcJ. of professio,.,o.l sex workers. All the ir1>telli9e..,t ,.,e.., I've knovv"' wl-to p01tt"o..,;zeo( prosti ttAtes beco.~e. c o,.,,oisse~Ars ;.., thi s wo..y. So me were mo.rriec:i,, some wet'"e. bo.chelors. DicJ..., 't mo.ke o.ny o(;ffere.,..ce. The icle01. of me..-. poo.ying for sex is repello.l"'t to the oo.ver01~e WOmOin> 0. thre01t to noi'Yie> foo.W?ily 0\.., Q(> yes> the ideo.! of roMo..ntic love. The oo.vero.9e w o ...,o.., rYitASf" bel ieve o.lf the .,e9o.ti ve .stor i e s 01nd ;o(eo.s 0\bo~At p rostittAtio ..,, BtAt oo.s Chester- po i .,t.s o~At> SLArely there is o.s m'-t c h sorcAic( beho.vior o.wto"'9 mo.rriec:;( cotAples o.s ta.,et'"e is ;.., tJ-te worl o( o f prostitt-4tiot1. A"'d th e n too_. so mo.l"'y of the pro b I e..,.,s tho. t p/o.9u e pros ti'ttA t es o.re the res..,.lt of socie ty's sc orn for the.., > to tne e x tent t'"ro.t... 0\S the book shows> m",.,Y of theM ho..ve to keep tl.,e; r "wor k " o. secret_. eve.-, fro,., their fr i e"'o(s , I h01d o. f e m ~I e f r i e., c:i who ,. o.., e ., i 9 h t o. t d i n .., e r, c o., f e ss e d H101t s he h01c::( c:io.,e "' e sco rt ·· work for yeo.n, LAI"'bek,.,ow..,st to her frie.,o(s_. o..nc::( I obs er vec:;( tho.t everyone tho..,.3ht of her o. bit c;l;fferently <~~fter thC'It, Worne.., tho LA9ht less of her> I t1oti cecl,. o.s if she'Clf co.,fessed to h"vi1"19 bee.., ;..,volved in s o...,..,e sort of c. rirni.,OII oo.ctivity. Men~ sowte of th e ""'> then co n s io(ereot hero. loose wom01n,. fo.ir ~01..,e for coo. Sc.Ao.l sex .... o.l coW'Ie-o., s. It ttArr,e.d o"t> ;.., f01.ct, th01t she wo.s o. h i~ l-tfy S('X'-4011 WOMOII'\ wJ.,o dic:J ho.ve Wl0\1'1Y COIS'-10.1 01ff01irs with me,. Bc..tt yoc..t c01n ..,ever tell o. book by i t s cov er > o"' tJ.,e S'-'rfa c e s l-, e w01s "' s hy> ..,.,oc::(est... Se.lf-e ffo. ci "'S woMOin. You never wo..,.Jd 've suspected t&.,o..t s he'(;( eve r been "' profe ssio ..,o./ sex work(>Y. Eve.-,t-~AOIHy,. she rnovec:;( o'-tt of th e o.re01 . Al,.,ost oo.l( her fe...-..01.le o.cq_c..tOiinfOirJces i rtcre01si n9/y s h..,...,..,ec::( 1-,e,.- o.s 01 "slc...ct " ""'o( "' home-wrecker> thotA!Jh s J.,e see ....,eot t'-te n ices t Olno( s weete s t persot1> C.Or'ISC iE'r'ltioi.A S-1 no.rc:A.workio1!:J . It wo. s s o.~ > "'' tc.Ao.lly. lo.ter_. we leo.r..,ed tho.t s he beco..n-te 01 s urro301te c.hild-be01rer for Some we01lt&.,y c.o~Apte . DtA...,..,o who.t be co. me of her o.fter tho.t. Well> enou9J.,. PAYING FoR IT is o. 9reCllt corY~ic. boo k ,. rYtOiybe Chester 8ro"'m's best wor-k to c:l01te.

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I live. in TorOY1tO, So I w~s ori9i..,G\IIy 9oin9 to begin foreword by expl~;.,;..,9 (QnG\oo.'s prostifc...ttio.., lo.ws, btAt o. recent cotArt n.ding ho.s left the fo.te of those lo.ws I.AI'Icert~in . They I'YIO.Y or ..,o.y t1ot be cho.nging . This is wi-IG\t ti-le le9G\I sitLAo.tion wo.s like d1AI"in9 the ye~rs cove yeo( by this me..,..,oil": "01Atccd(" prostit~Ation wo.s le9«AI - - tho.t is.~ .sex-workers were o.llowed to 90 to (). john'.s home or note I room. "1•1Co.ll" pro.stit IAtio.., wo.s i/leg~l ~- sex-workers were not o.llowed to work OIAt of o. specific. loco.tion. They co~Afol..,'t work i"' brot'-lels, or OIAt of their ho...,.,es, or rent ~po.rti'Yients to work in, Whe., the police rO\ide~ ""' inco.ll lo co.t io.,, Q.nyone foLAf"\c;{ in there cotAid be o.rresteo( -- prostit~Ates o.not t10I'I·prostit1Ates . In orO.er to d isc.o tArG\se s treet wc-lkers, there WC\S o.lso C\ l01w forbiotdin9 prostit'CAtion~ relo.teGI( solicitG\tion in ptAblic.. In 'this book I rec.orc{ every tii"Y''e I pG\icA for .sex lAp to the en& of 2003 c-nc( every prostit«Ate I've ho.& sex with si11ce tJ.,en. Q""ite o. few of tJ.,e sex - worker.s I spe..,t time witn opened lAp to me G\nd tolol me aboCAt tJ-teir fG\milie s,. their c.hi/&hooc(s, their boyfrienots, o.no( other c-speds of their lives. I wish I ho.c( the freecioi'Yl to ;..,c/tA de tho.t n1aterial iYl tne followi..,9 pQ9es - - it woulol have bro1.A9ht- ti-le wome"' t-o life QS f«-<11 hLAmcvl bei..,9S ancl I'Yiac:le this a better book. I'm o.SSCAI'l'1iY1«3 that o.ll of tl-1em wat1t to keep t~is

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FOREWORD sec..ret tl-te sex-for--money po.rt oF the;r- lives, so I refro.il'1eol from pLAttins in per.sor1o.l de~o.ils tl-lo.t cot.Aio( P-ote.r1tio.lly reveo.l their identities if o. po.rtictJ~l~r frieno(, fo.mily W~ember, lover, or G\cqt...co.into.nce were to reo.o( this memoir. When I snow HteWI giving deto.ils o.boi.At tJ.,eir lives, the cieto.ifs o.re eit-her trivio.l or o.bout mo.tters relo.teo( To their work -- the lo.tter being wh~t you preSLAmo.bly woulo(n't tell fo...,..;/y G\nol fr-ieno(s who diolr1't kl'tow yotA were o. prostitLAte , TI-le opi niol"' s I h~ve the sex-workers pv.ttir19 forti, o.re pretty cowu,.,o..,. Ar1y of the more id i o syncro.t ic views they express eo( to me, I've. orr~ittecL. lt'.s o. sho.Yne -- I felt genLAine ().ffec.tion for mG~~ny of these wome..., o.nd reo.lly wish tho.t tl-1is no.Yro.tive 9o.ve o. better sense of their persor1o.li"ties. The no.mes the prostitt..cte s we.,t by were all fo.ke .. of C.o\Arse..,. bLAt I've c::ho.n9ec:i those ,.,o..,.,es becatJ~se even tney cotAict be potentiaiCy reve01lir19. For exo.mple_. o. womc,,..., mi9ht choose G\S her work-no.me the Vlo.me of "' fo.mo~.es o.ctress she resembles, or tl-te no.me of o. fo.volArite fie tiono.l ch01ro.c te ..-. Alfowin9 for some cie.9ree of co.rtoon ex"9sero.tion> l've cAro.wn Their bodies o.cctAro.tely, or as acciArCAtely o.s my meYY?ory 0\llows . I 1-ro.ve odtereo( ~spects of their boc;(ies if they coulo( potentio.lly reveo.l G\n ident i ty-for instCAVICe, I didr1't olr01w o.ny of the to.ttoos or unust.to.l piercin9s tho.t some of them ho.d . I've ofiten cnan9ed their ho.ir - Styfes, pc::.YticLAfG\rly if the hG\ir WG\S C\rt'"011'19ed in o. distinctive wo.y. While yotA'd r"'ever k...,ow it fro.-n my dr01win9s, some of these workin9-9irls olio( howe. blond 1-Jo.ir. ( whether or not they were n7!;,er +1-te 9iSt of "' (0"1VerSCA'tion I n~o( with 0. frieno( b"'t not where or whe,... it ho.ppeV~ed. or wh01t we weYe do;.,~ G\t the time. I kept "' recoro( of whe.., I saw -the prostittAtes.~ so I co.n VoVIch for the o.cct.~trac.y of -tJ:..tose olo.tes . 1'..,_, 9oin~ 'to SOlve n"'OSt of W'1Y tho.V~k-yotAS for Hte o.fterworc:l, b .... t CAp-front here I do wo.11t to th01r1k The CanC\ola (otAI'tcil F"or The Arts for 9eneroLASiy o.ssisti'n9 me fi...,OIVJc.iodly while I wrote C\nd drew this work. c.~ster

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I love you as much os ond. I'm sure I'm always 90in9 to love you> bt.t1". • • I 1-hink l'wt falli1'19 in love wi-th someo"'e

ever;

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I don'~ ~now. I hQven'-t said onythin9 'to h ;,.,... yet. I don't ~P"'ow i f h e's 9oin9 'to feel the same Wc;\y or not'.

No. 1... at this poin-t I jtAs t Wc;\nT t'o dQ'te hin'l. I don''t even know if he' ll be in-terest-ed in wte.

And even ;f I do end lAp J.,~vin9 (;\ sextAa I rel(;\tionsh ip witJ., hin'l, I do.-,.t ~now if that wi II mec;\n 'th~'t I'll wan't to stop hG\vin9 sex with YOtA.

MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

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I love li vin9 with

you too. I'm so 9 l01d I CQ n be honest with you 01bouf" 'tnis

sort of stuff.

You're not

Qngry or

jealous

or

anything

?

I'm feeling l;ke my norm01 I, conf"en"t, all- is-well- wi'ththe - world

self.

No one feels '3ood when his girlfriend 'tells him tha't she's fallen in love with some other '31.AY·

I didn' t say I 01bout it, but

feel goocf I don·t fee l b01cl 01bout i t.

Maybe th01t" me01nS y o u don't

really

love her.

MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

We're perfectly suited 'to eo.cn other. She's 'the bes-t 9irlfriend I've ever nod.

Just the foci" thot Sne WOIS oble to tolk to me obotA't this shows how much trtAst o.nol openess there is between us.

Plu s.. I find h er enorrYtOtAsly

sextAo.l ly ottroctive -- o.lt-hOCA'3h I'll a~drnit -thor we ... rorely h cwe sex onymore .

Bt.~t

tho.t's not becouse MY des i re h o.s dimin ished.

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Sne h01sn''t stG\rl"ed hG\ving sex wit-h this 9lAY ye't, right" ?

When they start

I 01lrnost wenl" out" of my mind wit-h je01lousy when Kris StG\rt"ecA ha~vin'3 se)( wii"h someone else ofter w ,e broke up.

And lot.Aise ho.d sex with 01

hG\ving

sex~

THAT'S

when yOI.Ar je01lousy will kick in.

few other gc.Ays while we were going ou't -- I definit-ely fel-r jealous t-hen.

rc~inin9 really horol G~~ncA I don't" WQnt" -to send Justin home in i t - -

It's

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- - G\nol ... well ... do you.

mind if he spends -the night- here ?

Are yot..t st..tre ? This won'tyou. or anv-th i ""'3 ? You.'re going t-o be able to deal with i"t ? ~pse"t

man~ nice to mee-t yot.A. lhGtnks for bein-:3 cool abou.t

Hey

me s"tGtyif'l9 the ni9h"t.

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It acttAodly wasn't terrible a1" all.

8~At you

must

nave been emo1"iol"'ally devas'toted.

No. I'll admit I'm 0\ little StArprised, because in similar situations in the pas-t I HAVE

bee.,.. jealous. But not -this time.

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If o.ny-thin9, I fel-t 90od. I've never t-hou9nt of jeo.lousy os o. positive emot-ion--

-- so when I wo.s lyin9 tnere listenin9 -to those sou.,ds. omd I reo.lized I wo.sn't jeG\IOt.AS --

--well, i1' felt like I'd conctuered some-thin9 ne9o.tive within myself.

Bud it's not no.-turG\1 to no-t

feel jealous when something like 1"ho.1" nG\ppens.

Jeo.lou sy is no-t no.tt.Aro.l -- its lea,-ned beho.viot.Ar.

And you're 9oin9 to c.ontinue t"o live tnere ?

... so Sook-Yin osked me if it's oko.y if Justin moves in o.nd I soid yeo.h.

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The three of yo!A li ving in one ~pcutmen"t ?

It's o. big plo.ce -- i t ho.s two bedrooms. An~ rYly sn~re of the rent will <30 down.

Who.t punishment ? I'm no-t in o.ny wo..y s ufferin9, o..nd 1"11 be so.ving money.

Fre«Adio.n nonsense. If I'm no1" CONSCIOUSlY sufferin9, then l'I'YI no-t suffering.

When -this whole Jt.es"tin "thin9 sto.rt"ed, didn'-t Soak-Yin brin9 up the possibili-ty -tho."t YOIA t-wo might conTinue to ho..ve ~

se.xuG\1 reiG\"tionship?

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No, and I 'm pre tty sure that, sexually, things are completely over b e tween u.s.

living
l'...n becoming more ond more convinced -thot I never want to have a gir lfriend ever again.

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Just bec~use you con he~r Sook-Yin ~nd. Justin fi9hting ? But EVERY couple fi9nts.

Before Justin entered tne picture, Sook-Yin and I argued like every other romarrtic couple. Now we get alon9 great-.

lhere•s no lo,..ger anyt"hin9 to seriously arque about. f c~n just enjoy nG\nging out with her os o friend.

For instonce, now I C<:;\n t<:;\t k to her o.bout finding other worn e.., Gt"ttrG\ctive .

A yeor o.go she would h<:;\ve flipped out in o jealous r~9e if I'd soid some other womon was beautiful--

-- bu"t now -th~t' we·re not involved, thot's not" threo.'tening anymore . We con t01lk obout wh~tever:

Now it's Jus tin who hG\s to wotcl-1 l-lis tongue. 8ein<:3 the friend iS w~y better than being the boyfriend.

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look a"t you G\nd. YYle -- we ge-t along WG\Y better G\S friends th01n we did G\S a

romantic couple.

-- bv.t thQt yeG\r you were "'Y girlfri end.

I hope. yov don·t I'Yiind me SOiying SO --

I don't think This ho.s anyThing to do with l'Y'IG\turity or lack of it.

WOIS

hell.

It's SOI'rlet-ning "'bout the dynOirY~ic of rom01nt-ic. love . look o.t- how you fough-twith your last boyfr ienc:A.

Neither of you had the excuse of being eighteen.

It 1-u"ppens even wit-h

-- bvt being in "' rom01ntic rel01tionship brings up oall her insecuri-ties. l't does t•u;~~t for EVERYONE-- me too.

nice people. 5oo#<-Yin

01 wonderful, consicfen;~~te,

generous person --

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The people I've behQvecl -the worst- to were my girlfriends. E&\ch of you. sow me < my me&\nest Qnd pett-•est.

THAT'S tr-ue. But Qren't you lonely? It's been almost 01 yeQr since you C\nd Sook-Yin broke up.

lonely ? No-t o.t all. I live with Sook-Yin C\ncl Justin, ond I'I"Yl C\IWC\YS h&\n9in9 OUT with you C\ncl Se-th Qncl Joe.

Our- cultt.Are pushes this idea tho-t romC\n-tic love is somehow more si9nificon"t th01n other

I used to occept- -tha"t as -tr-ue, but not- anymore. Frie.,d'ship l ove and fC\mily love con be 01s fulf;I,Jinc:J as romC\nTiC love.

In the lon9 run they're probC\bly uSuC\IIy MORE ftAif;lling.

fon.-.s of love.

I've been thinkin9 about why I even ever wo.n-ted to ho.ve 9irlfriends.

MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

One: beco.~Ase it's sociGllly expect ed -- guys don't h01Ve ~irlfriends 01re considered t"o be losers.

Aside fron-t love, -there were three reG\SOnS why I wo.nted -to hcwe gir-lfriends.

Two : I liked the ego-boost of h01vin9 G\ WOn-tOin wo.nt to hG\ve tho.t sort- of exclus ive reiGttionship with n-te.

Bu-t you don't- hG\ve to hcwe 01 9irlfriend -to h cwe

sex.

You could nQve o ne-night s-to.nds wit-h st r01nqers or something like -th01t.

I don't ho.ve the soci01l skills necessary to pick up women for CG\Suo.l sex.

I've on ly ever hG\d sex with women I've been romo.n"tico.lly involved wit-h .

So does ThQt meo-n you're going -to be celibo.te for the re s t of your life?

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I've goT TWO COWipe"ting desires - - ti-le desire -to nQ.ve selC, vers us Ti-le desire to NOT tlG\ve a girlfriend.

B"'t I'm noT -thQ.T despera-te

Mo.ybe at some point my l-lorniness will drive me to despercrte measures a,.,d I'll be fo r ced l"o get anotner 9irlfriend.

ye-t. For t"ne momenT I'm enjoyin9 being single Too mucn 1"0 9iVe in TO what my penis wanTs.

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He's movin'3 ou-t? If you wo.n"t

You think I've been living wi-th Sook-Yin o.nd Just in ·co.tAse I've been waiting for rny chance ?

Whether you've been waitin'3 for it ·Or no't, why not seize 'the opportunity now th01t" i t's here ? 5ook-Yin's goodlookin9 ~nd. you love her.

I'm

BtAt the boyfrie..,d gets l01id. Which iS more impor-tant: sex or ovoidin9 occ~sionc=-1 fights?

H01vin9 01 girlfriend doesn'-t mean you. ho.ve c;,uaron"teed access to sex ort any a..,d 0111 times.

ner bo.ck} here'S your d1o.nce.

enjoying being her friend. Someone else can ho.ve t-he boyfriend role.

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Usw:.lly -there's G\ G\T t~e beginning re/01-tionship G\n~ drops off G\fter

loT of sex of -the -then it tho;t.

The longer
Even ort the end of otAr reiG\tionship, Tri s ~ 01nd I were still n01vin9 sex all -the time .

Tt-een yov. 9uys were the except-ion. ThG\t's n ot now i"t works for most- couples. As k any mG\rriec:i '3V.Y·

Even if yov.'re rig~'t, mosT mG\rried people are s-till howin'3 sex SOME of "the time -·- yov.·re no't hG\ving sex at G\11.

OkG\y, yov:ve '301" o. point. BuT Sook-Yin wov.ldn't wG\nT to 9e1" romo.ntic01lly re-invol ved 'Wi"tn me G\nywG\y.

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Where d id I plAT my program ? I can' t find it.

Ho.nd me the pro9ram, J o e ? I wo.n"t "to see who else iS o.ttending "the conven-tion .

Why are Plo.yboy Playma-tes at-tending o. comic- book convenTion?

s.-.e·s no"t o. Plo.ymo.te. She's posed for P/o.yboy bur they've. ne ver put her in the centre-fold . I don't know why not -- she's c:30rgeous.

Is there a picture

of her in +here ? Let me see.

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What's going on? line-up of

Oh! There's Alley booth -- ~nc:f

B~99et"t's

guys... she's ntAgging 9tAy... c~rner~ ...

there sne is.

01:

lhere·s o si9n thot expl~ins what's soin9 on .... For fif-ty d.oll~rs she hu9s you, a poloroic( iS t~ken, ~nc(

she si9ns it.

Why d.o I w~nt to h~ve my picttAre taken with ner ? I've 90t lots of photos o-F ner ~lreG\dy.

Bu-t let be rnortifiec(

if Qnyone

s~w

doing it.

me

20

MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

I'd. be p01y in9 f;ft"y dotl01rs to hove ner put her o.rm 01round me. Am I tno"t d.esperellte for ell womelln's 'touch?

No, it's not the phot-o th01t wG\nt ·- whG\t I reG\IIy WCllnt to get next" to her.

For ellnother fifty -or -so I could prob01bly p01y 01 prostittAte .

I wonder now much prost it-utes cho.r9e?

l'rfl not" 0'3ellinst the icleG\ of po.ying for sex. Anti- prostitution ellr'3~Arflent s hG\ve never m01de sense to me.

The mG\in reellson why hte never been with G\ hooker is because I w ells worried th01t it would ruin my chellnces with G\ future g irlfri e nd .

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CHAPTER 1

I'd hove to tell ~he people lm

I'm no~ o secretive pe rson -- if I ever whored I wouldn't be oble to keep it to n1yse.lf.

close to, and thot wotAid inc/lAde ony future. 9idfrie.nds I mi-:tnt no.ve.

~~

Two yeors 01f-ter bre01king lAP with Sook-Yin, why om I s till not" po.yin9 for sex?

Okoy, tnot wos 01 re01son -the p01s t , blA"t now I'm plonnin9 on no-t h01ving onother gi rlfriend .

Becouse l 'rr~ worried o.bou"t now it'll look to people -- I 'm worried thot I'll look like o. loser.

Thot's not 01 900d reoson . I shouJdn'-t care whot other people tni nk.

22

MY LAST GIRLFRIEND

How wo~lcl it even work ? Most g~ys who pick up streetwQikers hQve ~ c~r. Since I don'-t h~ve ~ c~r, how would I 90 ~bout i+ ?

Anci then +here's the risk th~t lel solicit Q femQie cop dis9uised QS a streetwol ker and shed Qrrest me.

No, it's Qll too much - - I'll just have to do without sex.

Z3

Do you. m i nd if t-hG\ -t DG\n SG\VG\9e book I bou.9ht you. ?

1

zs

,.eG\o

CHAPTER 2

A 21 yeo.r- olol '3UY who's o virgin QSI
- - o.nd Don odvises hirYI to phone on esc ort and "o.sk wnG\t her hou.rly ro.te iS ".

" Moke on oppointment to meet i n G\ safe~ mutw~lly G\gree o.ble locG\tion".

''She'll know who.t yoiA want, al"'d she'll know what to do. Be respectful> let ~er lead, u s e condoms,. ond tip the h~dy. "

He mokes it sound so SirYiple Qnol str o.iqhtforword. Moybe I SHOULD poy for sex.

BtAt escort ods don't hatve P.hotogropns. How would I know ;f o porticCAiar escort i5 goodlooking or I"'Ot?

.........J~~l-1--.,

Okoy, I'm determined - tonig~t I'm going to go out ond look for nooker.

P;ckil"''3 up a s treetwG\Iker would moke more se..,se - - let be ·.uo--.-'0 G\ble to see if I find her ottn~ctive.

26

CARLA

how mtAch money I sho<.Aid hrin'3 ? I'll brin9

doll~rs.

200

Who.'t

if I 9e-t robbed?

I' ll leo.ve my wo.tlet here o.+ nome so f don'-t lose o.ny of

It's nine -- it's surely +here

cords. I'll just plAt -the

o.re

money in my

some

9irls workin9

pocket.

now.

200 dollo...-s probo.bly isn't enOIA'3h for time wi-th o.

Maybe I didn't brin'3 enough money. Who.t if I'm supposed "to po.y for o. hote I room too ?

prostitute AND for o hotel rOOP'Yl.

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CHAPTER 2

... G\nd. I don't see o.ny streetwo.lkers.

Well, I've o.lso 0..-t jQrViS Street -I'll Try tnere.

leT me think .... When I wo.s 90in9 out wi-th louis e there were olw01ys nookers no.n9in9 G\roun~ o~tsi~e ner opo.rtrnei"'T buildin9 by Co.dton Street.

No one's cu·o1.m~ tho.t opo.rtrnenT buildin9. W!'l01t's 9oin9 on ? This iS we•rd.

Workin9- 9irls olso ho.ng out fortner eQST on Corlton in CG\bbo9etown. Tho-t's Seth's nei9hborhoo~.

28

CARLA

ltei be emb01rro.ssin9 if he wo.lkec:A by while I wo.s nego"tio.tin'3 something, butl'm n.tnnin9 out of op-tions.

Mo.ybe police pressure ho.s driven them into other nei9hborhoods. Mo.ybe there wo.s o. r ecent police cro.ckdown. Or mG\ybe I'm just" too e01dy.

Nope , no streetwodkers i..-t

C01bbo.9et"own.

let·s to.ke o. closer look o.t the escort o.ds.

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CHAPTER 2

I hcwe n 'T tol~ S ook-Yin I'm -thinking of doing this, s o I wouldn't w~nt ~ coall- gid coming

I'll h~ve to co.ll o.ds tno.1" so.y " in ".

th~t

-to OlAr

house .

ShotAic( I CGIII

Who.t if the cops ptAt

fG~ke

Glds the papers to flu.s n ou-t the j o hns? in

Mo.ybe the y keep 1"rG~ck of who's po.yin9 for

sex. nr

CGIII fro""

po.yphone. Q

lO

CARLA

5CAW YOIAr'" CAd,

And

and f'rn

wher-e is

wonder-in9 l1ow much YOIA chorge.

yoiAr --

where

ore yoLA locO\ted?

I'm very ClttrC\cti ve -- 5- 6 -pounds -- 35 - C, 24-, 36.

BlAt

I

thG\t

sho~Aidn't

ThG\-t

wa~s

tne tr ...tn, b~A.t bod

why ma~ke her feel C~~bOIAt bein9 28?

q_~Aestion

l~st. It SO lAnded

like I decided

no-t to see ner

beCOIIASe

of her G\qe..

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CHAPTER 2

Hi St.e2y. I SG\W your acJ, and I'I'Yl wonderin9 if you could give ....,e o description

of yourself.

I'm beo.utiful • · blonc:A - - very sensuous --5-3-36- D, 25, 37.

I hope you don't mind if I G\Sk how much you wei9h and how old you

Not o.t o. ll -- I'm '2 3 o.nd wei'3h 130 pOI.Ands.

130 sounds like a bit· ynucrh for

Soi'Yleone who's 5 - 3.

are.

Yeoh, +hot's the

better way

to do it.

By endin'3 with the looks like I'm cheo.p tho.n like I didn't find her description of herself appeo.ling.

32

CARLA

Ce~rl"'s

workin9 later today.., but we have several other beautiful

Would you l;ke to he
Cou ld you o. l so descr ib e Carl o

f o r m e?

Sur e ... hold o n a second ... I'm S1Apposed. to heAve a wri tten clescr;ption of. . .. Where iS i t? Vlh . . .

1'1\ay be I can trY. to 9 ive you

o. description from memory. Let-·s see ...

un ...

1

actuG\ Hy

haven 't

r eG\IIy met Co. ria yet.

She just s-tarted working here, but I clicl see her brief I y yes'te rd ay. She's very beautiful, in her early twenties, I t hink ...

CHAPTER 2

And where are you. locat"ed. and. how n'HACh do you

c.harge?

We're in ~ luxury condo ne~r j __ and W_. There ~re sever~ I

bedrooms, ~nd each one has its own bathroom.

And it'S 120

for ~ halfhour

and

A luxury condo .... MaY.be at a brothel

like this there's some kind of "quality control".

200

for

~n

hour.

Whoever runs this place probably tries to hire ~+'tractive

women.

Oko.y> Co.rlo. ce~n see you at three o'clock. Would you l;ke to be with her for ~n hour?

Are you sure ? You'll hcwe to to see her-- the other 91rls e~re cwe~i le~ble ri9ht now.

we~it

CARLA

Only your first

ne~me

is

needed, S-teve. He~ve you been here before?

Okay, 90 to J _ and w_ a-r three. There's a pe~y-phone there.

us from

Ce~IJ

that

pe~y­

phone.

Why does it p~y -pJ,one?

an eye on

it 50 tho.'t they can size up the johns

beforeh~nd

n~ve

'to be THIS Do they ke e p

?

Hi, this is S-teve - - I

h o.ve an opP.oin-tmen't

to see Carlo? I'm oi' the corner of J _ a nd

w_ .

Ce~rlo.?

I'm $Orry. There must be

some mix- up. She won'T be

availe~ble

tAntil '+'· 30. WotAicl you

l;ke to see

someone else

instea~?

We have severe~ I

other

girls working

here.

No, I wcu'l-t 1'o see Carla. I'll wait till lf:30.

CHAPTER 2

Go to 3_

s __ .

Th e

e ntry code iS 5·8·3-6.

No, my bike's in the other direction, 01nd by H''le tin'le

w01lk b01ck to it" Qnd 9et it lAnlocked I COlAid be ..,OIIfWOIY to

s_.

36

CARLA

/ ---

C2J

u

/ Wh01t if 01 bunch of 9t.AYS are in the o.p01rtmen"t o.nd "they mug me?

Do.n So.vo.qe so.id "to "til). I wonder how muc.n ? Ten percen-t wot.'ld be 12 dollars~ 20 percentwould be l't.

But I probably shou ldn'1" ge"t ~~u.

my nopes

up. lnis n"li9h"t be o. reG\IIy

dis01ppoin"tin9

experience.

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CHAPTER 2

Hi Steve. We're on the

third floor. When you 9et -there~ there's o

locked door- with a ntAmber- po.c(.

I'm sorry-third floor:, press S -6-J-2, apo.r'tment 3-0-6.

5-6· 1· 2> then 90 to

oportmen't

3·0·6.

CARLA

There's 1-he door with 1-ne.

niA"'berpQd.

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0

4-0

CARLA

Uh, G\ref"''i' yov. forgetting sornet,.,ing?

I wonder ;f she's new to workin'3 as 01 prostiTute or if she's just new to this particc..lar. . . I gues s this is G\ brothel .

Damn -- I should nave hG\d t,.,e money alreG\dv counted al'\d set aside s o I wot.tldn't be. fu..,...bling G\round in l'l'lY

wallet like this .

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CHAPTER 2

Okay,. jus-t make yourself cow.fort-able . I'll be

b~ck

soon.

CARLA

" M~ke yourself comf'or"t~ble. "

Does thot meon I'm supposed -to -toke

my

clothes off?

M()ybe. I shoufd ~t /e()s -t

tG\ke off my shoes.

B~At whQt if somethin9 nopP.ens Qnd I hQVe to run? No:. ru

keep my shoes on

for the moment.

Does this

count QS port of my nQif- hour?

""1--~!!!11

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WritinSJ o.nd dro.wing for o living is greG\1".

Wow -- tho.t's so r1eo.t. I co.r-toons. Do you meo.n, c~rtoons on T-V ?

YotA write your stuff too? You must ~o.ve .o. g~od I've been -told •mo.g•nG\-t.on. th~t.

So> would you off with o

mo.sso.ge?

Oko.y. Well> lets COWiforto.ble t-hen.

So> whG\t" kind of comic s do you dro.w ? 5ttAff like Su~ermo.n o.nd Bo.tmon?

CARLA

Should I toke m y glo.sses off? It's

going to be weird le Gwing

tnem

but I wo.nt "to see

on>

wnot's

hoppenin'3 .

Who't would like ? Me

o n the

bo tto....,?

CHAPTER Z

Let me puT o little Astro9lide on you.

u~ - oh

104 forgo-tten how

-- it feels TOO 90od! I'm obout to come!

omozin9ly f300d i t feels to hG\ve sex !

I've only been i n her obout ten seconds ! Tl1iS NEVER noppens -B~t

1 At.WAYS

hut

lon9er when I weG\r G\

condom!

- - o c.er t oin omoun"t o f couro9e to do this work -you never know w hoT kind of 9UY will

show up --

46

CARLA

--blAt on the w~y here tod~y it suddenly occurred to .,.,e thGlt you guys are in the same sc~ry position we Glre.

YolA don't know wh~t kind of situ~tion you might be w~lking into. ~~SS~~~

t~kes

Like, what if there's ~ <3UY hidin9 in the ap~rtment who'll 'I'Y'Iuq you~ or -- I don't know -- tS,.,ere are all sorts of unple~sant poss ibilities.

guts to walk into a pl~ce like this.

Why c:Ai~ sne say th~t ? Could she tell now

nervous I was whel"' I showed tAP.? Can sne tell it's my first tiYne

p~ying ?_~r!~~(

I want" to. thou-:Jh' I didn't l~st very lon9 I was totolly 1-laP.PY with the whole experience.

A tip? 40 dolfars ? It's no-t necessar y -You don'-t have to give I'Yle anything extra.

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CHAPTER 2

You.'r-e 01n 01n9e I ·"th01nks so l'l'ltACh. I just rnoveci 01nd th01t eats up money.. so this will really

come

in n~ncly.

Ar-e you goin9

to come see me

again?

CARLA

CHAPTER 2

I meo.n> I'm

sure most" of -them Cllre nice people--

Tn
I'm SCA.r-e, but you won't

know whcxt they're like wnen you first cont
H1
30

CARLA

I've gone wi-thouT sex for longer thon you l-1owe> I'M the one who should've been next-.

Ws noT like I but-ted line oheCild of

you.

I didn'T butt in front of you. I lefT t ·he line you're in -- the free -sex line -- ond I wolked over to the poyinq -for-sex line.

You could wCillk over to the pCilying-for-sex line Too. It "'oves Q loT fo.ster.

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CHAPTER 2

wos plenty hoppy with the blow-job she c;tave me.

The n why even bother 9ettin9 oral ? A blow-job with o condo.n is no

fun .

It felt ... odd, but not clinical. And she wosn't cold. She WG\S very friendly and nice.

sz

CA RLA

d isturbin'3 ,

it's good gossip .

b~At

QISO

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CHAPTER 2

He was upset" but" not" for any reason connected ~o o moral principal -- he's bother-ed beca«Ase yo«A're 9et-tin9 laid anCi he's not.

Ri~ht. Do YOU have an opmion on the morality of pr-ostitution ?

be /e9ol, b«At

that's not the some thin9 OS saying it's ri9ht.

I'm no-t sure that I co.n address it as on issue of s imple ri9ht ond wron9. To be honest it just seems sod to me.

One wot.Aid hcwe to know how she views sex to know whe-ther- or not" it's sod for her.

CARLA

For some women it be terrible to hG\ve sex for money --

Oko.y. some illustro.to,.s ho.'te ;llustr<~~tion, but the,.e ARE illus"tro.-tors who like the work . Yes, some prosti-tu-tes hG\te being prostitu-tes --

-- bu"t for o-thers Ws prob01bly no worse thc.m it iS for you I h01te h01vin9 "to dr01w an to dn~w illustra-tion. illustr01"tions to mo.ke money.

-- but I'm sure thG\t them like it -- or 01t it" G\S no worse thG\n G\ny other job.

I wonder now things will 90 with me G\nd CG\rlCo\?

I'm 90in9 "to cont-inue TO

see he..- for G\S long <~~s she wo,.ks 01s 01 prostitute.

I wonder how long she's to work ? How dose G\ r elationship will develop between us ? ,}.,~~~,_~~~

CHAPTER 2

Th01t doesn't seem like sornet..,il"19 you'cl d.o.

This cloesn't m01ke you w01nt to stop bein9 my friencl, CJoes it?

I ~on''t. I clon't know wl-101t her situation is. S..,e works in 01n 01p01rtmen't with sever01l other women.

No, of course not-- it's just we ire{. How clo you know she doesn't j.,ove a pimp?

M01ybe it's like 01 co-op where they r-un i"t collectively, or m01ybe 01 guy runs it. I don't know·.

But you don't" w01n't' to support 01 sys+em -th01t enriches Q - - - - -""' pimp.

Well, I hope she goT' to keep mos-t of -the money I 901ve her; 01ncl I hope no one's be i n'3 violenT' with her.

S6

CARLA

You know, "ta~kin'3 G\dv01nTG\9e of someone in

on unf01ir wo.y.

No, not neceSSG\rily.

It's wron9 for someone who's 38 to no.ve sex with someone who's 21

lr

would depencA on -the circumsto.nces.

?

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CHAPTER 2

WhG\t

time?

I don't wG\nt to ej"'cu.lo.te so qu.ic.kly G\9Qin. Th is t-ime t'll

jerk- off

o.t home

before 90in9 to the brothel.

S6

CARLA

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CHAPTER 2

didn'T evel'\ wo.it ""ill!~....,...~\"1"-':tl"o..J-t'_

If I wen+ eve..-y two weeks. -tho.t WOIAid be

two week s betw e e.., visits. I don't know if if I con o.fford +no.t on G\ regular

26 times

o y eor. ?.6 multi plied by 160

dollars

e q~..tG\IS

bG\SiS.

--

multipli e d by 11 e qt.tols 2,1 ZO d o llars o year. t not 's more

-- 't. l60 dollars 01 yeG\r -that's qCAite o. bit. Eve..-y

three weeks WOCAid b e

mo.no9eo.ble .

seventeen times o yea~r.

••11 bet I anntAodly spe nt

didn't

hove s ex

onywhe..-e ne01,. seven1"een

o.boiAt tno.t rn1Ac"1 ;.., relo.tion to bei""'3

times i.., the lo.s-t yeo.~

Sook-Yil"''S

boyfriend .

that- she

WG\S my 9irffriend.

60

CARLA

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62

CARLA

IT'5 STARTING TO

HURT, Y'KNOW .'

I - I'm

you --

s on··y.

Do

shoul~

we use

more lubricant?

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CHAPTER 2

6 4-

CARLA

No, not today. feel right

look, Glt leas-t "tGlke 1-lolf --

twenty

tGlkin9 it tocioy.

dolla..-s. I did e njOY

.-.nyself for mos -t of -the se ssion.

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CHAPTER 2

Wh01.t hoppened there? Why did she 01.sk why I w01.s s"toppin'3 ? Wasn't it obviou.s? I was p01.usin9 so tha~ I didn't

Surely I'm r1ot the first mar1 she's encoul"'tered who does thot.

COII'Yle

too quickly.

Well, I do.,·t hove to rnoke +he decision right now. I have three weeks to fi9ur-e ou+ who"t I waf'lt to do.

66

CARLA

The second. time I s~w her, we went throu9h G\ lot of positions G\"'d the sex l~sted

Obviously I WG\S tryin9 to do the SG\rne tod.G\y. I guess, for her, G\ hG\If- hour session doesn't t'YleG\n twenty minu.tes of fu.ckin9.

m~ybe

twenty minutes .

In the future I'll try limit myself to ten minutes of sex in ~ -thirty minute G\ppointment.

67

I'm co.H ; ng o.bot.AT Tir'IO.. How .-rH.ccn

does sne cnc~~r·ge?

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CHAPTER 3

Neu..-

CC\nc;(

R_.

No, "todo.y'S no't gooc:A for me. How ~bou-r Mond~y?

Wh"T T i me

She looks like She'S in her thirties,

she's no't

thin> she'S rtot

busty~ CAn~

she's no't p,.etty.

70

ANGELINA

You're no't

cop.. are

Q

yo~?

I 'll be rig nT bG\ck. MG\ke yourself corf\forn"ble .

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CHAPTER~

~ i~ I co.re ;f I l-·HArt' her feeli~gs ? She lie~-­ sne's 1"\0t in G\ny w~y like the descript'iOI"l

Wny

in

ner

ad.

I CG\n't hQve sex with her -she's 11ot a.r a.ll sexCAally G\ttrGl·c t'ive to me. 1

' sJ-tould ~G\Ve

WGllked O..WGly.

I Still

snotA ld~'-r n01ve

can.

co~e

7Z

Bu-t I o.lreo.dy g~ve

her the YYloney.

ANGELINA

Don't" be OlfrOlid. We'r e just wom e ..... . Come out nere .

WnQt? Who

are o.ll tne people out there? They weren't' There before .

Fou r of tne"' are una"ttr-Olctive, bur t w o of -tnern CO\re re allv. good looking.

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CHAPTER~

I'm

getti..,g the

imP.ression thcu· !one cA.; df"''T w~nt ro be c.nosen.

U._,, if yOI.A'd r~"tner no't, I c.Qn pic.k one

of t ne otner girls.

ANGELINA

'lov. looked ..e~lly tAns.ure ou:t 'there. If you. don'~

want 'to do thiS l'ol

v.nde rst'a n d .

- - blA1' ;f you.'re uncomfortable obot.At

Don''t 9e't me wrong -- I think you're gorgeot.As~ otnd. 1 f"eodly WCAf'\'t to.•• v.l-t ••. you

"thiS, I

CQn

pick one

k11ow,., be il"'tima.te

of "the other

wi-tn

you--

9irls.

the

Gtd WGtS Gt

descrip1'ior'l

of I-ter;

r'lO't

T;r1a.

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CHAPTER 3

It~ cliffictAI't ftAckir'lg

It looks like t-he b,.-c:a is

her-· she's rec:ally

dory.

S'TQying

on.

l'm 90ir'lg to WGlr'lt" to see you Qgc:ain -- wl-tc:at" nc:ame snoCA ld 1 01.sk fo,.- ?

Yeah~

I mec:an, you don'T

no.ve to g;ve me you.r reQI

nc:ame -just.. you. kr'IOW>

your working nc:ame.

76

I wG\nt l"o see 09G\in_. bul" l'wt G\ISO

CLArious to

see

18

yea,.- old

the petite described rtt "this G\d..

11

CHAPTER 4-

S~e's ,..ecally cu;te, bu't sli1e's so t;,.,y. Sl-te COULD be

te, bC.A t s"-e c.oc.tfc:J. also be younger. It's ho.rO( 'to -tell.

On7 ThG\T'S ~few

frie,.,cts.

ViSi'ting.

Do,.,•t

worry

Un7 you're 18. rign't ? I meca,.,~

a~oou't the.-n~

tt-ley'll be

a~bte

no't UNDER 1e, are you ?

yo~.A're

TO C\rnUSe

t..-.e.-nse lves for 01 little wnile.

16

ANNE

Her body'!> kinciQ tfte

oppos it"e of

Ange I i nQ'S_.

but" ·~·s jus't as

QmQl:ing.

WG\S 1"ellil'l9 ""'Y S"tep W!Other G\bou1" yOu.r whoril'l9 and sne WG\S

I


"He'S

obviously no self-

~o"t

respect." --·"

1 don' t" know,. I Hlink I' ve go"t a pret"'ty h;g.., opinion of myself. f f"hi..,k I've 901"

G\

lot of

re.spect for rv~yse I-f.

79

81

CHAPTER 5

li" ' S G\

....,onster

in o. mini- skir't!

62

BACK TO ANGELINA

Do you.

remember YY~e?

S'teve.

~ tube of lubric:Qn"t on -tho.'t Cho.ir --

Th ere's

CHAPTER. S

How long ho.ve yot.A lived in Toronro ?

How

c;t;~ 1

not notice tnQt ? 1 g~..
mu.cn.

comic.- books ? Tho.'t'S

awesome.

Tne nex1' time you. come 'to see me, you. shou ld

st.... ff's quire d;Herenr from A,..ch;e, bu.'t I'll bring yOtA s omet-hing.

bri..-.g n-le one. I lASed 'to l;ke Archie comics.

6$

CHAPTER 6

Before I show it" t"o you I sl-loulc:A

expfoin --

He led "two rebellions Qgoinst" t-he Conod;on government" it'l -the nineTeent-h

'lo~Ar reol no.n1e iS C:hest"er ? Wnot·s

This non1e? too-;s Rye -e l

cent"urY-. Yov.

probably

stv.d;ed h;s STory in

history closs in s<.hool .

66

&ACK TOANNE

Oh yeoh.

funny version of t-he story? Q.

I've bee .... thi..,king obov.t Tho-r com ........enl' your step-I'Yiom rYlode obou't me .

Yeoh, he's s-till And why iS he

Becou.se 1-le gotrejected. Be co use he needs

sorneo..,e TO be

in

Jove

wiT~-\

him.

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CHAPTER 6

WithotAT

·· they're insectAre -- t-rhey

" I love you> " l-Ie fo.lls O.P.O.rt. Tl-'IG\'t'S why

o.ffirr"r"~ing

voice so.ying

r"'eed "to nG\ve

so ..... eone

tho.t they're IOVG\ble.

people "to b e

.--eeGt

11"1 r o mG\ntic.

re IG\tions .,..ips - -

The guy who

The 9t.A.lf who's po..ying for sex iSn'T using seXIAG\1

respect· is the gv.y who Gtoesn't"

reiGlt"ionships to

snore vp

o.

need "to be in o.

fr~gile

ego.

r"OMG\r"'t"iC love

relo.tionship.

Well, 1 guess it's possible -tl-lere MIGHT be peopte in rOn1GII.r"'t"iC

reiG\tions h ipS for o"tner reo.sons.

The fo.c.t' t"'o."t you're r"'"\o..king o. b ig deG\1 G\bOtAT rr"'Y

s-rep-mom's co.....,ment mo.kes

.....,e

"t-hink

m01.ybe

sne

wo.s

righ"f.

86

:SACK TO ANNE

Tner-e's

O.Yiorl-ter girl wno works

here--

if you WO.YIT

to

see ner

so metime, it's oko.y wi-th

me.

89

Her- fac.e is reas onably attractive, but "those boobs look t-oo fake for n'lY lrkin9.

91

CHAPTER 7

Sne·s obviously really caref... l - -

"this ;s ver-y

~

tnorough

iYISpectiOr't.

HARDER .' fASTER .' OH

GOD.'

LIKE

THAT! fASTER.'

9Z

Fine. She WQS n;ce.. but"

-those

fake were

breasts ~i5t"t..crbing .

Yot..cr brec:As~s feel -the way breasts snot.Aid. Yov:re never going to get

breOt s~ -

i rw'lpl~n1'S

are

yov.?

CHAPTER 8

I do"''t know. They're as firo·n as -they once wer-e -- I

can 'tell a

difference.

You

shouldn't-your brec;\sts are perfect.

whCllt"

we do --

comic-books like.

"thiS.

BACK TOANNE

All you needed -ro so.y wo.s one worQ~ yes. No elo.bora~1'ion wGls neces.so.ry. Yov. didn't ho.ve -to show her yo tAr comic.

She ASkEP me -to give her one of ""'Y comic.S. So I go.ve ...,er -the -first ;ssv.e of

R•e'.

95

CHAPTER 8

No. It's .-.o"t nc:;u··o( "to imQgine -thQI"t sne

migh-t no't

nQve

"tnQT much

interes-t

i.-. nis'tory

QnO

-therefore wov.loll"''t

ho.ve found a

inl'eresting.

I G4iGtn'f" WQnt "to ptAT ner on -the spot ;f sne d;ddr l;ke it. She WQS probQbly being di,:?lomotic in no't so.y
I'd. rtQVe -to know. I'd nQVe O.Skeo( ner.

lodking -- 9ettin9 To know

-the girls o bit-- it'" jtAst odds "to -the w"iole experience-mo.kes i-t seenn Jess cold. Qnd. impersono.J.

ideo: ;f you WQn't o

sextAo.l

experience tnQ't'S noT

cold ClncA impersono.t --

96

97

CHAPTER 9

Here•s Ot'le for Q girl nQmed. Sus01n. ine p~one nurY~be~

indicOites tl-'lo't workssheJ~~~~ in 'the s01me b~otnel


C01rlo..

How did yo~..A expec.t me -ro look ?

don't look wo.y I WQS expect-ing yOt..A "1"0

took.

Wno:t tit-s ! She's go-r -the

body of

o.

Plo.ytYT~o'te.

c.f
And s he's got Qn oko.y fcu:e -too. No't greOit.. bu-t

oko.y.

She's licking
unso.f'e . But- i t

would feel
to tell her 'to stop .

96

SUSAN

lhey F~EL reo.l, bVt"t they look too gooc< to be -true.

No, they fel-t od~ -- yours feer ... breo.st-l;ke.

99

CHAPTER 9

I'm looking ~'t o. web-site wl-eere johns wril"e rev;ews of prostit-ute s.

Yeo.h, l;ke, which girls CAre pretty, which ones o.re c.Agly, wno.'t they'll do sexually_. o.tl t-no.t sort" of stuff.

Ex01c:tly -- it 's like movie

There Olre o. whole bunch of these prostitu'te-review web- si-res. I so.w o.n Qd for Ol"'e in Now..

reviews or book revie ws.

01nof -tn011" one

led me to o-tl-lers.

On, -this is 0111

QI"'OnymOIAS --

+.... e guys use foke nomes.

I wov.l c:l ko.ve tno .... ghr tho.t most" johns wot..d dr1't want 'to

be pt..tblic aboi.At this Stt..tff.

Anyw01y, I'm trying to figt.Are Ov.l" 0111 'the ~brevo~tions. ~pp~ren'tly me~ns

Friend-

- - bc.At I co.n't fi<3c.Are

wno.'t o. 8 · 8 · 8 ·J I me~n.. it's obviously some SOI"''t

G·F·E

iS - -

Girl-

of blow-job but I

Ex per ie"lc.e -F- S rne~ns Fu.II-

co.,'t

figure

Servic.e, whic h

OV.'t

those first two Bs.

meo."ls

sex--

tOO

SUSAN

TnQr "'"'kes

condom less

Tnere·s o.

review of CAn Ant'le

on here--

1 wonder if it's o.bOI.A't "the

Anne l'r'Y'I

seeing.

"Moved on to F-S d099Y·

'toned. til'1y boc:X.

Sne st(;\rted

Smo.ll boobs.

juicey o.nc:;(

Doesn't kiSS. C-B·J.

t'Y'IOOining.

Flipped

Howe

her over

ho.ol better."

How co.n tnis be dtS.'t tArbtng for someone

who

getti~'~9 reQIIy

o.ru;( S'tc;\r'Ted ··--

Anc:A~ ,oT To defenc:A porn, bLOT -there iS somethit"19 a bit cA; fferenT GlbOI.At thiS . The wornen i n po r n know t haT whaT They're c:;(oing iS for pt.~blic

I'""' c:A;S'tlArbecA -thGit I waTch SO I'YH.ACh

porn .

WQ'TGh>eS

porn

(;\I mos-t 2~

hours

COnS IA....., pTiO,.

0.

G(Qy?

Well, ;t's no-r

Prost i tt.~tes, on the oTher hanoi, expect a mec;~si.Are of... privGI c y and diScret io n fro...., their johns -don' t

like tnese

reviews 01re printin9 -the 9irls' reQI nQmes.

they?

tOt

don'T know. It jt.~st

seem s ...

seecAy or Somethin9.

A

f,-;e,...ot of mine WellS doin9 i1;. 01nCI s..,e convinced ""e ~o "try if".

I worked G\"t -the ploc.e she worked for .-nQybe

She WellS,

li ke,

" Jt.ASf" -t,-y it- ell few

Cl hOIIf-yeG\r

cAClyS -- if

before t s"toa r~ed working nere wi1"h

yot.A don'-t

like i'f> yotA c~n '\LA if". "

At'YtellncAQ.

103

CHAPTER tO

l hey 're I; ke I'Y'IOvie rev;ews.. only tl-tey're abotAt... girls

J;ke

yot..~.

l\lo~

I've never hec:Arci Glbot.AT this. Are

-there t"'eviews

of n-1e ?

I wrote one of the...., . t

I read this one site co.tted -the Toronto Escor-r Review Bo01rd 01nd~ yeo.h,. there

only SOlid good 't h ings

01bot.At yot..t~ of course . A ll of yot.Ar reviews are posi'tive.

o.re severo.! t'eviews of yotA on

there .

104

&ACK TOANNE

stAre if I WOlrt"feci 1"o r-eG\ol reviews so I G\Skeol o

Diol you check revrew web-site -tnQt 1 "fold you obou"'t?

frie..,~

of mi..,e. wno's Q.SO

;.., tnis

btAsir~ess

"to reod

the""' for Yl'le.

No... noT

01-1 ye01h~ 1 thir1k yotA n'te..,tio..,ec:.f

ArYlG\rtoiG\ -- 't..'HS

friend ot the

her before.

iS

plc:~~ce I use~ t'o

She. looked

G\t -the. reviews

work . She's -the o.,e who

for rYle, G\nd she

con'llincecl

bosicolly w hG\T 1"he. 9tAYS

me

rotd. ....,e

-to

work there .

wrore..

She so.id, '' On my god,. I'm reOI.d.ing S'ft.Aff o.bot.At you I never knew ou•1ol never w01n"te~ -ro kt"'ow."

I guess SOWle of -the 9tAYS cor~ be pretty e)(plic.it in their olescnptions. TnCA't's \A.IYtQ"t it"

SOtAnole.ol l;ke. from wn"'-r my frien~ so;ot. So I dioln''t 90 on t,.,e.

Sit-e.

105

CHAPTER 10

Ye01n, ;f -the 9«-tys are writ; n9 good "things o.bou.T you.> wh;c:.h they 011re in your case> then a·'s free Ci\averTiSing fof' you.

No> I Think iT would rrtOike rrte uncomfor~~ble.

But I 9tA€SS

i"t'S

9000 ~0

be

t~IJ.ced

o.bout

on

there.

Wov.ld you prefer ;t;f we go't ~o9eTher

0.1'

Q

d;fferent"time of

do.y?

I don't' like drunk client's -they're 'the wors't. Those o.n~ 9t.tys wan bi9 pen;ses.

Wnen

1 wis"' all n-~y

yo~

work

clients were

'"' 'the evel'lin9S> very

like you.

often ti-le

9UYS

atre drunk.

106

&ACK TOANNE

c~e't> cio.-t't" eve~ do tnat

a~goin o~

I will your f~c.e in .

sma~s.,..

I'm 9IO\d TO see .so...... eone . 1

was beginning TO tlrtink the world hao forgot'ten

"""e.

Who.'t you. SQid e 01rl ier Qbov.t FebruQ.ries odwa~ys being slow -- i't implies tho..'t you.'v e been doing this work for more

I wish I WOIS.

FebrtAo.rie s are

always

slow.

1"nQn one

Fe brt.AQry.

10'1

CHAPTER 10

Well, I COin see why you cloim to be 18 - - yot..t certatinly look like

I 9uess it's rt.otde to press 01 l01dy on 01 q_uestion rel01ted to her 01ge, but.. well... yo<.A're StApposed. -to be

'IOtA

18.

COI..(Id

be.

I wos considering it. I'""" g latd I ~idn't. of COI.Arse, bu't 1 w01s worr ied -rhat't yotA migh't be tAnoleroge .

In f01ct, when I fir$"t SOIW yotA.. I w01s worried. ~ha~t yo<.A ..,...ig"'t be YOCAnger. I w01sn''t SCAre ;f t shoCAid s-ta~y or ,---.,.-,rl no't.

Ye01h, they ..,...01ke Olppointme..,ts,. but' when I open the door Olrtd tl-ley OIC.tCAC).IIy see Wle... they m01ke exc«Ases --

--like, "Oh, I've got -r-o go to tJo\e bonk-matcn;ne TO get" money.," 01nd. then they

I've 011 WQ.yS ().SSU rned. that they d;d...,'t find """e orttretctive ... but mCi\ybe 'the re011 reason they lef-t wo.s 'COl CASe "they thought I wo.s unoleroge.

CCi\n'-t be bec01use you're unatt"trOict;ve. And you certCi\irdy m011'cn 'the desc.roption in your Qd.

dOrt'"t' COn'\e

ba-.ck.

106

:BACK TOANNE

11-lelt" I"YYokes ......,e feet bett"er. I know , •......, not"

,_....,..._.every guy's -type> but"

you still feel~

bit b~d. when it

see n-1 s tike.

you·re

being

rejected.

109

(O~I~ yOU 9iVe n'le 0

descrip-tio n of

your~e lf

?

I'm 22, 110 po~Anc:ls,

IVe got an o.thletic body~ I look l;ke

a model, Q very sensuc:d person .

, ,.,

111

CHAPTER 11

Chestel'", J'm sol'"ry-- so..,.,e-th i ng

CC\,....,..,e I.Ap. I'll be t,_,ere soon . Give me ten more

OkGly> bu't

I've been "'Glnging

out- il'l the doYlu"t

shoP. -roo

1011'19 now.

I don''t wa n"t "tO buy c:tnot-her donut> so I'm

going to be outside on 'the r'IOr'th -e c:tst corner.

lnG\t- guy keeps looking o't me. Is he G\ cop ? 1$ this some kincA of sting?

t12

WENDY

How I"Y''tACh longe r iS she 9onnCA be? r should

jUST

leove now.

A bit" on -tlrle el-l ~Abby Side.-bod -teet-h-- t1o"t ""91y, blAT not" re01lly gooc(looki""9 ei-ther. Do I wonT t"o wolk QWGI'y

?

I'J'VI so sorry for be i n<3o

Well ~

she seei'Yis

l~te .

frie..,dly,

I wos

Qnd it's not

h01vin9

like she's hic(eOI.AS.

problems wi-th "''1 IGI'neUord.

I'm

SO

sorry.

un.., would you 7"'_ _.,. mind giving ""'e +he money now ? I need ;t- "to p~y the desk-clerk

tt3

CHAPTER 11

And could you WG\it

over

by door? H'l~i"

YeCln, I'"' gonn~ for -the roo ......... then I'll come ge-t you . I don'-t VJG\nt +he desk- clerk to see you.

So I'"' s upposed -to w~i"t ou-t

p~y

nere by

.__ _~"tl-'lrougn t-h~t Side- door:

""h~-t

entre-nee

wh;le

you St()y nere.

Af-ter I'v e pGllid for +he room, I' ll le-t you in

Oh, you know

tn<:At

door?

J'"" going -to go in -the front

? It's

okay. Why don't you jus-t Col'Y'Ie in

wii'h

l'l'1e ?

tH:

WENDY

\ . _.

"

He thot,\gh"t you were my boyfriet"''d.

Oh, you know ? I forgot-

wh~t-

to bring

condoms.

115

CHAPTER 11

Thi s is t~rnin9 in -to a bit of 01 n01ssre . I -think I'm just 90in9 to 90 horne.

Are

you

sure

I con't' dO anything for

yotA?

I was il'l sue h a ru sJ,> Olo'ld

'tOciC\y

has

been

such

o cra-zy day

for me.

116

WENDY

117

GlfWGlyS

so

quie"t

w,_.,en you

COI'Yie.

It-'s

nG\rd -to

t-e II

when

yoi.A're

f;n;sl-,ecA.

119

CHAPTER 12

Hey, i-t looks l;ke. some one's

on

1-,er

period.

Relax, I'm noT bothered by Q little blood.

'lolA t.Ase one of those men$Tri.AQI spon9es.. right

l&-,e very firs1' G(Qy I did. -this work I 901" nny period ri9ht" before. my f;rsr customer arrived. .

1 promise l'l'VI not 90in9 -to

write. about" -this on Terb.

120

&ACK TOANNE

It WG\S -the first" time t.ASed one, al"'d I was worried -that" s o""'e blood

freaki..,q ou-r and -r~ is ! " Bt.A"t ol"'e of the other girts gave me a s po..,ge. I w~s s~;c(, "

I CGln'f' do

would COWle

-throt.Ag~

Q.nyway, but it workeo( fine.

I was tot~lly panicking- "On ""Y god, nr never get" this sponge out!" But of

Bc..-t then ~t the enoC of the day I couldn' -t get it" ou-t -- it" was stuck

course 1 did get Even"tw"lly.

in

-there .

Wha-t do you do

be-tween cl ients ? Do you ge-t bored

Are there ever times when something really dramatic is about to happen il"l tne soap you're watc'-'iing --

121

iT O
CHAPTER 12

Isn't -th0\1"

O\nnoyin9?

A bit. No-r rectlly.

Amc;\noG\'S wo
on wh(;\tever I YYliSS.

T..,e

lo ~•t

few 'times I've seen Anne I' ve

felt err~pty ofterwQrds.

122

&ACK TOANNE

Are the people who believe in roma nT ic tove righT ? Do yo(,( n eeol SOn"te SOrT of

comrnitrnen1" for a sexua l relationship to stay satisfying?

lZ3

-.

CHAPTER tz

There i t iS G\'3G\in -- -thG\"t' emp-ty feeling. MQ.ybe

1 jus-t neevt -to see soW~eone

else.

If J'I'YI

in 01

- - G\nd G\S fo.r o.s W~y sexlife goes, l'wt enjoyil"'l'3 it'. Where·s 1-he criSiS ? This iSn't' G\ crisis, it's the wisdowt of G\ge.

criSiS, s houlo(n't

I feel like I'W~ in 01 cr;s; s ? I'm persOnG\IIy nCAppy~ !:ml'mr.........._ work-wise I'""

proo(u.ctive --

iiii-...~

124

BACK TOANNE

After- all these year-s I now r-ecognize w"'a"t makes me ho.ppy G\na hG\ve ch~nged my life accordin9ly.

Romantic. love

iS

bulls'-·tit;

anol l'n-t no"t going -to

was~e

any mor-e t;wte chaSil'lg

T"'is is

obvio~.Asly

del;cate subjec-t

for- SOMEbody.

t25

a

if·.

Yeah ... uh ... nice 'to

Di~ne. It's

meet-...

l't doesn't-

yo<.c.

sound like you n~ve -th~"t noi'Yie me.-noriz.ed

yet-. J 9uess

yov.. ho.ven'i" been

working

here long.

121

I hoven•-t? I me01n .. . uh ...

who"t?

CHAPTER 13

I CQn't" -- I don'-t--

Is she on drugs? She seen1s kind

---~~I CG\n't find .-ny pGln"t ies. f had

tnern before

of O~T of i"t.

1"1-le

las-t guy

~AJhO

WG\S

here--

It wouldl'l''t su,-prise me .

1 heG\r t-l-lo1' t-ne re G\re lots of pQnty-fet-isa.,;s-ts

out "there.

IZ8

DIANE

129

DG\nielle's no't ;.., toc:l<>y. Sl-le'fl be ' " on MondG\y~

we hcwe several other girls working tod.o.y.

blAt

Th01nl
13t

CHAPTER 14

How long h"'ve yot.A been doing 'this work?

I mo.de more money

Three yea.rs. Bu't I t!a.ven' t" been here -tho.t whole -time . I st"a.rre~ off cloi ng ou.t"ca.IIS.

d.oin9 out-calls "thon I do

working here, bLAt I prefer being here.

Why? ·

Anot ;.., be-t w e e"' cl ient"s we ca.n wa.t'ch T-V or u.se the computer. Ws much nicer wo.y of workin9 .

It 's less iSolo.ting workilflg

;.., o plo.ce like this wi"tJ.l other girl s .

132

DANIELLE

Take ;t· easy,

Sook-

'f;~-­

l'n-t

not"

use~

"to

thiS vnu.c h

fewuJ~Ie.

contact".

Are you 90nno

V101ve lunch

wi-th u.s,. Sook-Y;n ?

How's Sook-Yin get-t-ing o./on9 with her new boyfriend?

Are yotA

k;~~;n9

I'm

?

enjoying ""Y

sex- life w01y too rnvch t"o be jeolovs.

133

Are you. stilt

get-t;ng
witl, Sook-'lin ?

CHAPTER 14

TH15 15

THE ~EST BLOW - JOP>

OF M'V

Uf£!

Uti~ girl was Kindo. Silent' o.nd SCAlfen

before we got' undressed, but' now she's going wtlcl!

135

CHAPTER tS

136

JOLENE

S&.,e•s

delibera~tely

pfOICing

her hoir over her

foe e.

Who't o contros't --

so energe-tic

while sucking "'"Y

cock.

bu't now it 's

li ke

she's

de a~ d .

ln ste01d I'll jus't moke 01n effor-t to come 015

q,tAickly

G\S I

COin.

I gc,cess she wos 1-tor~ to get "'"e come duri ng The blow-job

so tho t I would..,'"t fuck her.

l"r--'--r:::i.L

137

YeCAh~

I' ve been bc.csy Wi-th ThiS

Qno( 'tho1" -- work and wha"f- not'.

MQybe -the reCAson

I'd been feelin9

ernp'ty CAf'ter

seei"'9 ner WG\S ThG\'t I'd been seeing her too often.

139

CHAPTER 16

Sc.ratc"' Tho"t

theory. 1'..-n

feelin9 e l'l'\ Pr-y 019GHn.

ti-0

Unfriendly no't very > P,ret-'ty _. no blow-job --

11-l

th;s is Ch ester -- I ho.v e "'"' appoin'trYtent f o r twe lve?

I',.., in my car r ig ht now, o n ..ny w ay.

I'll be the r-e i n t- wet1ty m ; n LAtes --

c a ., yo tA wa i t ?

--

r-- . '

.

CHAPTER 18

./ D-. .·.. /

/ /

Hi Che-~-ter, ,.,..... sorry for keepi""9 you wt:liting -- +..,ere were SOWle unexpected tn"ffic problems.

No+

+nQt-

fQr--

in

I live

w_.

I wan+ To WliJ"'iwtize +he

chGtnce t..,Gtt one of ""Y

clients will be someone I know.

GWENDOLYN

wo.s very friendl y before the sex started> but now her fo.ce is like on i"'po.ssive mosk.

~ - 01

Anci s he'S

t"'Ot >V~O.king

o.

sound. -- she's not oc-ting like she's enjoying -th is.

pros1'i'tu"te who's not

going "to put on o show pretending f'o enjoy Qn experience

-thaf'

she's not

enjoyi ng.

I-t's

honest.

A legit

massoge parlour

oro. rub-and-1"ug ?

14-5

CHAPTER 18

It's tess work to jus"t ho.ve. sex wi-th the guys ins-teo.cA of ""O.SSG\'3in9 them. And you n'lo.ke. more money t-oo.

I noticed you cho.n9ed your o.d. "to reo.cA, "9entlernen All of my over "thir'ty friends o.re in only'~ Why? their twenties. I wo.n"t to rno.ke sure tho.t none of thew. codf

me.

No, but I ho.d o. close COl II. A guy phoned ond I re.co9ni'2.e~ hiS ho.d voice -- he wo.s o.n 01 ex-boyfriend of client l'l"'ine. who turned out to be someone you knew? Ho.ve

I diS9uised n1y

you ever

voice and told him

I chQr9e 600 for o. ho.lf-hour.

14-6

GWENDOLYN

lhis iS ""Y fift-h -time wi't,., her, Qnd her feo\ce is still like 01 WIOISk

durin9

sex.

·~7

Not G\S beG\'-t"tiful

Yov. brov.9h1" o book--

G\S

whG\ t

Gwendolyn

bu-t s-till

Oh. Does JohnSon think -the

G\re you r-eG\ding?

Civil WG\r stort ed over slavery or

G\"t"tractive, and wh~T

o boo4y - -

t01rrif s?

she is S"tG\cked!

J49

CHAPTER 19

Not this

c;\901in.

I should tell her -to s top. Bu-t. like with tho."t '3irl StASOin, I~

feel awkw01rcA aboi.At

it.

150

ALEXIS

And

cii~

you use

1"h~ r'lG\rYI~ S~ASQn

wJ-.en you.

~Norked

-there?

J5f

Here are 1'he rt.Aies: no kiSSing on rnou t 1-1--

-- no di99ing for no dinin9 at t'he Y --

--

aY~d

we

lASe

a condo"'

for everyrni..,g inclt.Adit"19

gold~

the blow-job. I s t'nQr fine ?

153

CHAPTER 20

not 9e"t1"ing an erection.

Is ;t me ? You don't find me o'ttroctive.

This c:tirl jus't isn't turning

me

on.

No, it's me. I come too easily, so before I have sex I masturbate so i'hat I'll be C\ble to IC\St longer, bur doing

If I nQdn'"t jerked off rigJ,t before COmin'3 over here>

i'hC\t

I'd

hQ.ve 9otten

can r'Ylake it more

diffic.,.lt to ge'ii' on erec-tion.

an

erec.rion easily.

l5t

ThC\t n"''okes me feel a bi-t bet1·er.

lS5

CHAPTER 21

You give me or01l>

t-he.., we howe

sex.

Why DID

I 9ive her 01 -tip ?

lS6

She's CV\te i~n on ove..-o.ge wo.y blAT not I'Y'IY type. A"'~ -thiS iS

...,.._ _,,

o. very

Yl"''edioc..-e blow-job.

Tnol"''ks for

trying, blAt it looks like J'Wl not

I feel like I've

going

let you down-J,i ke I didn'-t do I'YlY job properly.

to be

o.ble -to get o.n

e..-ection.

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CHAPTER 22

l't reolly wo.sn'-r your fo.v.lt. I rno.de The rnis'to.ke of jerking off.m~----~

before

COI'ning

over. 'lov. see, I

corne TOO

eo.s;ly,

so before--

158

Well~

things Qre

-- Qnd

9etting serious wi+n S~eve--

we·ve been "tGiking

o.bot.tT hi"" Bv.T.. you

know.. it's o.

Srrto.ll

house,

Ql'\d, well ...

I feel

-rerr ible asking

this--

lS9

I"YYOVir'lg

in ,ere.

CHAPTER

It'S

ok~y.

Z~

I

tAnderst~nd.

I'll

st~rt"

lookit"tg

for O.f"'other pl~ce

TO

live.

I think I CQn 01fford. to buy Q p·lotce. There's ~ sm~ll ,-ow- house for SGlle rignt n eQr 5ook-Y;n·s.

·-I'd hove

to geT a. mort901'3e. TI-le. dOWt"t-

p~y""et"tT

will

wipe OUT

""'>'

5otVi "''35~ bv.1' I

co. tied

Cl-lriS --

-- btA1' I sholA lei be

~ble to m01ke it. And if I get re01lly

- - e~,c:A he Ci\Ssured ""e -th01t he'll be e~ble to pc::Ay me

regulc::Arl y for

~while.

desperQte> Sook-Yin Sc::Ays she'd lend me money.

I'll

be living hOind -to-mo~Ath for CA bit --

160

THE MOVE

The

Je(;\s~

she could.

do ? It's not" like s he's done Qnyt"hing wrong here.

It's complerely understc;\nd.oble thot' sne would. Wc;\nf TO live in her own house wi-th her new boyfriend. 01nd. WITHOUT on

ex- boyfrienol r~~~~~~ hc;\nging ~-It:! orounol oil the.

-----

"time.

I coiled. you

yesteroiCAy obou-tQrronging (;\ n"'OrtgCAge --

161

CHAPTER

l'n'l 90in9 1"o

Sook- Yin ...

I

I

I

t6Z

2~

THE MOVE

163

CHAPTER

I'm depressed becQu.se no-t going to be living Sook-Yin

o.n y more.

2~

As much o.s I like Sook- Yin, -tnis is

HER

house-hc;wing ""Y own

.......c..Ju."""-.,p...~_,..........._J.N..._...

W"'y

would -thinking Qbout' living by l'nyself mQke

plo.ce

w i ll give

l'ne<'~

no.ppy?

me

feeling of sect.4ri-ty.

And living on

And I'll be Qb#e

can 1-lQve peo.ceful.

prostirutes come -to

one's own

1'0 YJQVe OUtCQfl G\

me--

MediTQ'tive

I

won' T ho.ve 1'0 90

q_w"l it'y.

OU't TO

i nCQifS o.nymore .

16~

THE MOVE

Ho.ving my own pl~ce iS gon n~

pret1"y good.

Mo.ybe I con work W'y way

I've been depressed beco.use

I've been focusin'3 on the

out of t-his depression by blockin9 out tnou9hts of the po.st and focusin'3

po.st and how n~ppy

be

1

wo.s Jivin'3 witn 5ook:-Yin.

instead

on now greo.t

ho.vinc:3

own place

W'Y

will

be.

It's smal l

but

cosy.

165

CHAPTER 2:5

166

think I

COin

Qfford

to st01r't see i n9 prostitutes 01901in.

I 9uess I'll

I wonder

see else.

l-\01ve -to

if

1 ,.--.,... "",___

someone

Gwendolyn woulcA

do outc01ll sessions?

167

CHAPTER 24

There are. They're o.ll good.

I'll 90 over to

Terb and see ;f -the,.-e are any

Everyone.

of her.

she's

-thinks

reviews

greo.t.

If / '"" 90in9 to '-leAve

o.

prostitute come here~ I'd bette,.. clean up this

place.

166

JENNA

169

CHAPTER 24

She's o.ctuo.lly

Accordin9 to the reviews on Terb> she 9ives her clie ....ts bo.re· back blow·

kisSi~"~9

tne .,.,outh! This is the first tin'le o O~"~

P.rosti"tute no.s

jobs.

~iSSed YY~e.

sure enou'3h, it l oo~s

l;ke

she's about

to

put

~"~"~Y

condo.,., less cock in her

YnOtAth .

ThQt WG\S

incredible·the best sex J've

eve r pG\id for.

o.heQd. The "towels tho.t are pi led up o.re all cleG\n-u se

wn ic.l-\ever one you wont.

170

JENNA

I feel e1ll 9iddy

01nd

excited.

171

I -thoughT I wos going -to see Jenno ogoin, bu-t this gir-l ki-tty hos been get-'ting reolly

good r-eviews, -.l:i:?;:=;;;~ onc:l she's o lot- less expensive -than

Jenn01.

173

CHAPTER 2S

17~

Come on,

I'm worth it. I promise

you won·'t be disappointed.

l7S

CHAPTER 26

--and

Twen"ty ,.,.;nutes

I've Or"'ly

have passed

P.CAicl

fo,.

G\

hCAif- hour. D<"n

G\nd we•ve spen"t t-he

SG\va~ge

whole

wrot-e -thCAt- one

TG\Ikil'l9 --

''leT her

should

t-iw.e

leCAd "--

--bu1' in t,.,is SitUG\"tion I

don'~

think

CAnything sexv.a~. l will hG\P.pen

unles·s

I "tG\ke

'the

lea~d .

176

LARISSA

co... Jd you have her

call me when she gets out ?

Your driver ca llecf. He.

wants

you to CQif

hi m .

177

CHAPTER 26

-3reG\'t. It's o.

con"e"' i en't.

Who.t were YOIA doin9 before?

Wnen I s o.w o. I'd 90 To ner o.pCU'"Tn"'enT.

Some-times~

And often it's more Tho.n

live in one. apG\rTmenT

one woman working ouT

of the

and work

of 0. differenT

OIAt

one.

l7{)

SOin'le

o.po.r'tmenT.

LARISSA

Whe-tner johns are violent or nor~ it would dis-turb me to have the we WG\Ikin3 in the same

And it's rare for johns -to be violenT. There's probably more violence in ~p~rt"men-ts

cont"O!ining rom~nt"ic

couples thG\n i n

hG\IIWG\y ~~~ G\S me.

G\P.G\r"T' W~ent"S

1'h01t prostituTes work OUT of".

If I

They're creeps. Wno knows wnar -tj,ey're cap01ble of ?

h~d

a d~ughter I'd be

worried abouT wh01T would h~ppen

if she

in -the s~me elevator G\S one of those. 9uys. w~s

I know YOU'RE oko.y, buT you' re no-t -the -typical guy who po.ys for s e x.

I 'M one of -those yov. really -tl-tink d1ildren

o.ren'-t so.fe with me in. elevo.-tors ?

You can'-t d e ny +no-t

ber I'WI close the typic.OII john ;s l;ke. I'll be-t o. lo-t of johns ore rnildI'll

there are johns who do Terrible +hings -to prostitu-tes-beo.-t t-hen'l, even

m~nnered

kill

+hem.

in-trovert"s--

179

CHAPTER. 26

Tninking tl-lot" kind of guy represent-s ti-le t"ypicol john is l ;ke thinking t-hot ~~-----. quys who beot or murder

t-heir wives are f'ypicol

husb~nds.

And you do tho.t despit-e t-he foct thot one of your best frienots iS o. john. You of o/1 people ~'''""'"" should

ha~ve

more

o

open ""'ind obout this .

I guess I ho.d the

friends . I had ~~,.,r-. some friends who were doncinq in strip-clubs~

so I started do.ncing.

And then some knew were doinq t"his work, and f"hey were mo.kinq LOTS of money. so I si"o.rted doing if".

I f;ke this better.

I hat-ed ho.vinq to

nustle in dubs.

160

LARISSA

You know> +he girls qo from guy "to guy osking if -they by Wor"~t donees. If hustle ? you. were refllfly G1'3gressive you could "'lQke o lot of money.

But I wosn''t I'"" o.ctt.tolly kind of shY., so I ho-ted

And of-ten I'd feel

-- a..-.d tho"t reolly he'd ro+her hove o

J.1oving

-to keep going up to guys ond pester them.

if Q guy soid I could give him 01 dance. he'd be so.ying yes just beco.u.se l-Ie fe l-t sorry for

donee from blonde with

.----.,...n

big boobs. Thi S work is d;fferer"~t - mv od so.ys who"t I look like--

me--

-- SO I kt"'OW

01

And -the one-on-one

-tho't

who like petite girlS wi'th smoll boobs ore phoning

in"terc~ction

j ust see""s more relaxed ancl nice

t'Yle. If'

doesn'-t bring up +he same ki..-.d of insecUJrity.

in

o.

Si'tuo'tion

like this "thQn

if' did in

the clubs.

When I

WQS

o kid, I

didn't know what"

sex wos> let o.lone prostitution .

161

CHAPTER 26

I com't" remember w.,o:t I -thou:Jh"t of pros-ti-tunon

when I

w~s ~

If you

could h~ve looked ;..-.~o the future am.« seen -th~t you would.

teen.

becoW~e Q

whoremon9er; wouldn't you nQVe been horrified ?

Well. don't you owe 1t "to ~he person

i~ "to my youn9er self t-o drop W~Y caree r as o. cart'oonis~ o.nd qo "to university "to st'udy paleo..-.tology ?

I wo.nted "to be a poleon"'tologist

when I was

Do I owe

Q

kid.

you were

't"hen t'o live t-ne life he would "-o.ve

wo...-.ted you to lead ?'

As

on

odul~

I hove ZERO

Sure, I ferven-tly believed in romantic love wJ..en f wos

interest in paleontology. l'..n

not going t'o become a pofeo,.,t'olog ist now -to fulf;ll a childhood

01

wt-tirn --

tho.t'

would be idio~ic.

162

kid--

LARISSA

-- blAt I'd hClld no a.c.tuCAI experiences with sex or rornCllnce. I believed in

-- and because everyo"'e CAround. me believed. ;.., it. Now thCAt I'm older and I've acttAClllly been -through the

roPY~antic.

love

bec
culture

WellS

telling me to believe in i t - -

roma..,tic

love mill sever"' I times- -

Roma.ntic love couses t"?10re misery thCAn

-- I'm in o. better

assess it- th01.., I I wa.s 01

hCAppiness.

teenCAger. Now I CClln see thQt -the romCAntic. love

ideol •s

CAc.tu
Think of a.ll the single people who long for love a.nd oare misera.bfe becCAuse -they c01n'-t find it.

Mo.ny of the,., go their whole lives in tnCll"t miserable s ta.te .

- - and. tl-ten they're miserClble. They think they're mis erable becCluse they're with the wron9 person instead of reolizing that the romontic love ideo/ itself is impossible.

Righ"t, <:And then they're happy for "' little h;le -- a. few mon-ths or years-- until reality hits--

10~

CHAPTER. 26

It's natural for us To experience lovin9 f ee lin9s for many people and "to experience sexual desire for many

It's impossible for one person

to meet" all of our emol'ional ond sexua l needs.

people .

And I ho.ven'-t even ment-ioned yet t-he that" ensues . - - - ----\ when couples break up. Rorno.n"tiC love COH.ASeS more misery

Covples who remain nappy to9ether -for tne lon<3 t"er"' 01re very rare.

tj.,G\n

h01ppi,.,ess.

Time to make a,., appoin-tmenT To see lariSSQ.

Tha-t's Q diSCllppoinTment". I wonder where sne's disappeared to. I hope. she's ok01y.

164

The pho'to of ~hi~ 9irl Arlene looks qrea~'t, bu't' there 01re no reviews of ..uJ..J.~~'".:, her on Terb.

165

CHAPTER 27

Are +he pho"to'3ra phs on your web-si"te reol ?

If t-he

9irl wno

snows

doesn'-t

up

look l ike t-he 9irl in -the

photo9raph> I'll send -r-ra::~·-r

her bock.

l+'s noT +h e 9irf in The

pho"to, b ut s h e's still cu-re . She looks youn9.

166

ARLENE

We II> s"'e's

Yot.A

l;ke the 9irf

not" -the

same Sirl

?

OS

-ta.,e

one in

You wOint

ta.,e

phot"o~

but I like

to

her-- sne

send her

COin

back ?

st"oy.

If I'm not hurting her; whYdoes she keep soying "ow"? 6y her faciQI expression it lOOKS like she's in poin.

167

CHAPTER 27

ThQt she seems

"to

be

in pQin

iS kind of 01 "turn-on for me, bu-t I G\lso f ee l bG\d for her. l'rY1

9onnG\

cut

-thi s short 01nd come quickly.

186

A,-e you 90if'19

to be keep;.-,g Y.OUr

bro

Or'l .-~

169

CHAPTER 26

Those o.re beo.urifuf. E.veryrhing o.bOI.At'

you is

l:)eo.u.Tift.AI.

She's rn01kin9 eye- con"t01c"t

with n1e durin9 "the

sex - - 1'10 ot-herprostitut-e

tho.t I've bee, with

ho.s

done

tho."t.

190

EDITH

Did you J.(eep

your bro on with

Witl-l two of -them I mono.geol t-o keep it· on.

tJ,em ?

ShoCA I d prosti-tution be legalized or should it be decriminolizeol?

le9Gllizo.tion would meon regulotion, right ?

Ri9ht, and decrimino.lizotion would meo.n prostitution would not be regulo.ted.

Yeah, I think

;t should. be

regulated.

Well,

prostitt.tte s mo.ke money-- it's

o.

business,--.=~

so it should be re9CAiated.

191

CHAPTER 28

Not cllll wows money are regulat-ed. We make money as car-toonists, but" carTooning isn' t regulated.

You have "to hcwe o REASON 1"0 regulaTe so...,e:tl-t i ng .

Okoy, uh, i t should be regulo."ted To prevent violence againsT prostituTes ...

How would le9olizotion prevenT violence o.ny better t-han decriminalization ?

Re9ulo.tion woulci mean licencing - not all prosti"tute s would won't to geT licences.

,.esul1', mClny of them woulc:A worf< in -the blacf< morke1'.

As a

Re9uloteol pros t itutes hire priVQ'te security 01nd go to the cops. Wom@:n in the blac k mot'ke't wouldn' t be Qb le to do either.

Unoler le9o.liz.ation,

r e 9ulo.1'ed gi rls would be safer, but the block market ones would be vulnerable to violence .

192

EDITH

WhG\T G\bOUT heG\Ith? prosTitution spreG\ds

Und.er d.ecri r"Y'linG\1 i zG\1"ion, ALL pros-titu-tes could hire securi-ty 01nd ger help from -the police.

S-T-Ds.

AU.

prosti"tu"tes would be SOifer.

.S-T-Ds G\re G\ISO spreG\d Through unpG\id CG\StAG\1 sex -- should -the governmen-t reguiG\te onenogh'ts't01nols?

UnpG\id. extrG\-YY'IOiritGII sex is illegod in n'lG\ny G\re01c; of the world, so of" course re9uiG\tin9 i-t is

possible.

Th01-t sor-t of regu/01-tion would be difficul-t -to enforce, bu-t th01"t'S ALSO true of re9ul01-ting prosti'tution.

And -there's more unpG\id cosuG\1 sex going on thG\n pG\id sex--

-- so if you' re reodly concerned G\bou-t the spreod of 5-T-l>s, then it'S unpG\id

But you're not obout S-T-Ds, you're jus-t usin9 i'hem OIS G\n excuse to juSTify regul01ting pros-tituTion.

CG\SUCllf

sex ·H,Oit should be your primG\ry regulotory focus .. not poid sex.

193

CHAPTER 28

-- then you should be oble to see tho:t it's o.lso o civil right" in po.id situo."tions.

If yotA con

bosic civil right" for two consen-ting odults "to be able to hQve sex in o.n unpo.id situo."tion -Q

Self-expression is Q bQs;;c civil right. You o.nd I write Qno dro.w

But getting pQid - - mokin9 money -ThQt's the diffe~ence.

comic-books,

Pros1"i1"u"tion is a business

o.nd our publisher

o.nd. businesses CQn be

po.ys us money.

Does 'the fo.c:t tho.'t we get pc:Aicl for our comics -toke o.woy our righ't 'to

Should -the governmen"t l-!a~ve the

reguloted.

self-expression?

right 'to

censor our work

beco.use we moke I'YIOney

from it?

S..,ould we ho.ve to ge't licences to wrfte o.nd

And I'YIO.king money should not negoTe o whore's rig..,t To choose To ho.ve sex Wi'th o.ny consen'tin9 o.dult she wonts 'to

dro.w? Moking

money should not

nego"te the co...-toonist's

o.nd for who."tever reo son

C.iVi I

~he

..-;ghts.

won'ts to.

194-

EDITH

She s..,ou.ld licence -to be G\ble -to hG\ve sex G\nd t"o be G\ble to mG\ke money.

There should. be no IQwS or re<3uiG\tions thG\t vioiG\te our fundo.mentG\1 rignts.

ljlAST wQnt to rnG\ke sure H,o.t prost itutes are qetting medico. I CG\re .

HeQitn CG\re is free i n Co.nG\dG\ -- they CG\n get G\ny ..-nedicG\1 CG\re they w01nt.

Yeo.h,

but -they don't all go to

doctors

on G\ reguiG\r bas i S.

You. wo.nt medicG\I treG\-tmen-t -to be

FORCED

on prost itutes ?

t9S

CHAPTER 28

C~II'YI down. co.lrn down -he's o. good person. He:s just" talkin'3 off i"he top of hiS heaCI. This isn' t

somethin9 he'S qiven o. lot o-f

"thought to.

Medical treo.'tment should always be voh.cnto.ry -- it should never be forced

Each individual shou lcl be able to choose for 1-limself or l-1erself the level of heo.hh risk they want to l-ake in o. porticulo.r situa-tion --

on anyone.

-- whether it's a sexu01 l situation whether ii"'s ...

Yes> btxt we're -tolking o.bout -the right" of -the

individual

to make choices,

including

potentially

unheoltl-ly ones.

196

EDITH

Who.t o.bou"t you ? Do

ho.ve o. 9irlfriend ?

Bu"t love .•. it... it binds people to9ether. Romo.n"tic.

don'"t think rom01n1'ic. love

love, or

t-he love tho.'t P.o.ren'ts ho.ve for their children, or love

iS Q

900d

t-hing.

be-tween

friends--

-- love unites people in sympo.t"Yiy o.nd unders-to.ndif'\<.3 o.nd .-no.kes t-he world o. better plo.ce

"to live in.

Who.t's the

o.lternotive?

197

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I think it's +he exclus ionary nature of romal"'1"ic. love thOit mOikes ;t different from other kinds of love .

love iS about snarin9, caril"'9, and 9ivin9. ROMANTIC

love ;s about ownin9, hoardin9 , ond jealou.sy.

When a mother hQS severol d'lildren, she loves all of them. When you ~-'love

many friend s , you can love all of them.

I' m not sayin9 But... btAt slowery they're the same was thin9 - forced on people-romantic. love iS volunto.rily entered into.

I think it encoura9es a

certain type of "thinkin9 : the desire to owrn ar1other P.erson. It's the impulse

that s lo.very 9rew

out

of.

- - bt.A't they develop of the some rnen"tol root. I know I've feH i1' witn 9irlfriends -" She's M&NE."

I don' t" nowe ownership wi'tn my friends-1 know they have other frier1d. s.

196

EDITH

I'm no-t o. pros-ti-tu."te - - I'm escor1", You -t~ink I'Wt G\ prosti-tute ?

AncA I don'-t ho.ve of ownership with you. I know thG\1" prosti1"utes hG\ve other clients-+nG\-t yov:re not

'' mine '~.

know, uh, the usuo.l defini-tion-thot ~ s -- I meo.n - - ;.f one is poid for hovin'3 sex> one

didn'T meat.n TO- - -to offend you- - I-- I don't see prostitution G\S o nego-tive -thine;,.

is us~.eolly

considered> CAh ...

You' re p01ying TIME with yol.4, NOT TO hove sex with you.

If I ho.ve sex

durin9 -the P.Oid for; if·'s becC\use I c hoose t"o, no-t becouse you' re poyin9 Yl'le 1"0.

guys you've seen

o.s o.n escor-t,

were t"i-1ere o.ny who you didn'-t ho.ve sex wi-th?

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-the so.me perso.., I wo.s te .... yeo.rs o.go.. 01..,d ,•.,.., VERY different from "the

So,. yeo.h... there o.re rom01"'"tic. couples wh.o o.re o.bsolutely right for eo.ch ot"her o.t t-his mome"'"t ;.., time- -

person I wo.s twenty yeo.rs ogo.

more

-- b~-t't those "two people 01re <:JOin<:J to cho..-,ge., ond it's tremendot.Asly unlikely th01t +h.ey·re going 'to d1o.nge in exoc.tly "the s01rne

likely th01t they'll c h01nge ;..,to people who ore V~nsuited t"o eo.ch other--

WOlyS.

-- no m01tter how compatible they were o.t the

Yes,. bt.At yOI.A con TRY to contint.Ae to undersf"o.nd your portner. And lf you love him or h.er --

be9i11n i nc:5

of t-heir relationship .

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EDITH

If I rY~et the r igl-rt guy I'd be hoppy to do t.,e work. It tokes work to get onything worthwhile in life..

-- you'd be v.~illing TO

rl"'Oike that effort.

It's interestinc;3. Romantic love poetry only be91c:;~~n -to become ROPt.clar in the twelfth century.

Love In The Wes-tern World by Denis de Rouc;3e monT.

At oround the s ome time, olso '" southern Frt;lnc.e, the Cotnor religion wos bein'3 suppressed by the Co:tholic (hurd·• ·

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He tninks some CoftruJ~rs went ··~nde rground" -- t-he\t the tro~be\~Ours were secretly CG\the\rs.

Whe~"'~

Of co~.Arse, r'Ylost people didn't understQnd -the Syi'Tibolic level --

tne troubadours of love for a partie ular woman, it-

sa~"'~'3

Syi'Tibolized

t he love +he\t one was supposed to he\ve for the divine .

- - Ql"''d, as this new form of poetry became popular, it" 9raduodly chQn9ed the WQy men omd women reiQt"eO. t-o eQch ot-ner:

What -- love didt'l't" exist before -the twelf-th cent"u ry ?

wasn't Q reason "to 9et married. People 9ot married for prQgma-tic

-- family connections, childreorin-:3, money, land, house)iold manaqer'Ylent --that' sort of thine:!·

It

reQSOns--

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EDITH

Then liter~ture spre01d the pernicious ide01 01round Europe ~nd

Ro.-n~ntic. love w~sn''t widely seen as ~ reatson -ro 9et m~rried until ~fter the 1'welf1"h centtAry.

eventu~lly ~round

the world.

But I can thil"'k of liter~r y exo.mples of romo.l"'tic love before the twelfth ceYtttAry.

Like I s~id, romO\l'ltic love

existed before "the 'twelfth centtAry, but

it w~sn'1' ideatlized. --

--but w01s diSOtStrous in the long rtAn. Th~t WQS "the wa~y rom01ntic love Wc::;\S seen prior 'to i'he tweH+h cen'tt.try - -

- - ~net -the s-tory of P~ris o.nd Helen is o perfect exo..-nple. Their love bro1.A9ht +hem fleetil'l9 happiness - -

-- it w~s seen a~s foolish, not some'thin'3 to build 01 permQnent refQ'tionship on.

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If there is

one, I don't r-emer'Y'Iber it.

IT was seen as foolisl-1

Like most"

cot.Aples at +hot" time, they probably WOt.Aid

to m 01,. r y -for

love - -

I-tave mar-ri ect for

pragmatic

reasons.

I'm s ure i f I knew Ol.,cienT litera'tlAre bet-ter I'd be able to come lAP wi-th example s w~ere romanc:.e led 'to marriage.

-- blAT on c.e yot.A were married it was seen as a

900d -thing TO develop 01 stron'3 emotiOt"'al bond with yot.Ar

spouse, as Odyssev.s Olnd

Pel"lelope

diet.

We tenet -to think +hat romOII"ltic love 1-t01s ancient" root s, blAt" it's only gained widespread 01cceptance ;,.,

I'm noT SCAyinq romantic love never hapP.et"'ed. Here and

there a few colAples fell in love and go1" l'Yiarried, blAt -they were tl-te exceptions.

the lost few htAndrect years.

This time

she's no-t n'"!Oikin9 e ye-

contoct-.

Z04-

EDITH

Doe s n·~ tha~

throw ~..

Do yo«.Ar- friends know -that yov work ~s Otn escorT ?

bigger bOtrrier

be-tween

us.

My friend s cue very shel-tered. Tl1ey would be very

And quite

frOtnkly, if one of my friends -told. rne.

s"'e. was

j ud9..-nental about this.

workin9 as G\n

escort', I'd -think

less of her.

money I

9e-t, it's okay. O.-,ty 01bOlAT

-two

pe rc.en-t

of -the cl ient5 ore bOtc:i·· the rest are

n•ce .

Hi> IC:4 like to make an appoi.-,tment

to see EdiTh.

zos

She's older -tha~n hopinq for --

proba~\::>ly ea~rly

thir'ties -b.._.'t she's

a~ttra~c'tive

eno~.A9h.

Z.0 7

CHAPTER Z9

Sne seems

nice, bu-t her Qccen-t is prett-y thick -co.-n.-nunic.Qtion between us iS kindo. difficult.

Z06

This o..,e•s older "too.. but" s he's prettier "thon

-the

lost one,

Qnd

s he's

901"

Q

swee-tsmile.

I'm Ches-ter.

-tQke

YOtAr

Do you WQn't COQT.

some-thirt,9

-to drink . I've. go"t

juice or

sof-t

drinks.

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She

hQSn'"t

picked up her

r'Yloney ye't.

ZtO

DENISE

Tho:t wQS reolly enjoYoble. Ano she seems SrrlG\rT.

And . ..

Qrlc:L.

9env.ine.

Ill HI lUI IIIII IIIII Ill IIIII

'"' "' 1111

zu

II Ill 1Ill I lilt

CHAPTER

~0

of -the other prostittAtes t've met hove h01d good persortQiities. blAT

something OlbOIAT

this one

goes

beyond tha~t.

l'o like. to

see Denise

ogo;.,, bt.At I con'1' righT now.

Now I hQve no tif'Yle 'to l-tove sex because tne Riel book's been pt.Abl is hed 01nd lm bt.ASY

promotin9 iT.

Zl2

At l01s-t~ tne the book iS winding down. I think I l-H~ve time. to ge't 'to9e'ther with ~ prostituTe.

I h01ven't nG\d sex Since I SOIW

Denise b01ck ;., I

Februa~ry.

WOIS

th ink inq of seeinq her 01901i n :. bu't rn01ybe I' ll

check t o see who else is OIVG\il01bJe.

Zl3

CHAPTER

~l

This girl breOIS"tS 01nd 01 sliYn fi9ure.

le't'S see wh011"

her

reviews

ore

like.

I loved it. I was

Thank yotA. I worked 01t o rn01ssoge porlot..tr for o few years.

of money, I likeol -tne 9irls I workeol witn, I liked I'YIY re9tAiar

clien"t5 --

Zlt

NANCY

- - anci I WG\S comfort"G\ble with the work. I mosturbG\tecl the 9lAYS -- I dicln't h01ve sex with them. , . - - - r l h.""'"'_ _ _ __..•

The cops raided the piG~ce

01nd

arrested

me. I vowed that I 'd

never be

arrested Gl<3oin. I

qt..cit the mossoge

porlour - -

Escorting's OKOIY~ but"

yes, I'd

rother be be b01ck at tne I'YlOISSOI«Je

But you'd rather be workin13 at t-he rYIG\SSa9e pGir lot.t,. ?

P"'"lot.tr.

ZtS

PQrT of me. Denise

OlgQin, but -this girl

Millie J-'IQS

positive

reviews~

Qnd her photos look

good ...

JACKPOT! She's even more beQuTifuf thOln Gwendolyn.' She's rQdi Oin1'!

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Wo\Aid. you

mind no't

"tnr\ASting into ....... e so

for? Yov.r penis is too big for me.

Ye.oh.. it'll be autobiogrophicof. It's

90inc.3 to be obou"t my t>xpe.rie"ces

poying

Reotly! Tno't snoufd be irrterest"ing. J"D reo.d o book like. tho.'t.

218

~or

sex.

Shou ld

1 see Millie or Denise nex-t ?

On -the

o-ther ..,Qnd~ Denise is

bett-er in bed. And she IS pretty.

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But she's not cas stunni n'3

Anal Millie's ver-y bubbly and

o.s Millie. And Millie.

friendly.

doesn't c.hcarge o.s vnuc:n money as Denise does.

But I thi.-,k

I prefer Denise 's vnor-e gentle persono.lity.

Hi De.... ise, it's

Ches ter 8ro\llm -- I don't kf"low if you ren'lel'l'lber me. I SQw you Q few times tost? year.

Of co~.Arse J remei'Tlber you, Chester. Actually, I've been seeing you i n the

Yoi.A're 9ettir19 quite a bit of attention fol" you,.. new book. congro.t~.Alation s.

Tha nk vou. Are you still

working? Would we be o.ble to see eac.h

other

meclio. .

1"odo.y?

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Yes, I'm still working -- I'd

Jove to get together. Who.t

time is good for you?

Probobly. But I won't s now your foce. ond I won't-

Okay. blAt put m e in i~ os little as possible.

write about- any of your pe.rso,nal s-tuf'f.

This is what- rorna~ntic love is: if you like someone 01 whole lo-t AND you're' sexually i nvolve~ Wit~

-them> t~ot•s

rornon"'tic 1ove .

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Fo.ce

i~ =

~3

you·re

i.-. love -- romo.n"tic love -- with De.-.ise .

for me ~ romGIIntic

She soid tho."t if you like someone

o.

Iove is o.bout

lo1" AND yotA're

sexuo.Hy o.ttro.cted them ~ 'then

~o

possion.

+ho.t·s

~omo.ntic

love .

How 01re yotA cAefi>" in9 rom01nt'ic love?

A strong e ,.,ot'ion H101t... V\h ••. leo.ds people to wo.nt' life -mon9 mon090II"Y'')'.

8lAt t-h01t doesn't meo.n th01t'

Most people prob01bly do wont' 'their romo.ntic. love - po.rtner to be sexw~lly mort09CUrlOI..AS o.nd botAnd by o. lifetiW~e COI"Y''miti"Y''ent'.

those conditions DEFINE romOIJ'lt'ic love for mOS1"

people. Let's im019ine 01

colAple who

ore sexuolly i nvolved --

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JG\ne -- Gh1d for eo.ch o-the~. They're writing poems for eG\cn other,. giving pe:t-n01mes to eo.ch other---

-- lflolding n01nds time -- 0111 thG\t stuff. And.. most"

Now, JG\ck and Jo.ne hQVe NOT '"o.de. ~ life - long commif·ment to eo.ch ot-her--

-- G\nd they DO openly honestly h01ve sex with other gtA~S 01nd. g irls -they're no-t keeping thG\t G\ secret.

Even s.o, most people in our socie-ty would so.y thG\t Jo.c k and. Jo.ne G\re G\ romol"lltic-love- couple.

It's the inte..-.sity of -the emotion G\nd how -they express it to eG\ch o ther th
-- J~ck ~nd

they·~e cr~zy

im port~nt>

-they're pfASSiOnOI"te -intensely in love.

-- no-t whet-.,er -they hG\ve. sex wit-h other people or whether +hey promise to be together forever.

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Mono901.-ny 01nd commitment G\re closely o.ssocioted with rom01ntic love, buT they don'T HAVE to 90 to9e-ther ~ ~

So if I'"" not G\gG\inst rorYJOin"tic love~ wh01t' do I oppose ?

·- G\nd. I don't neceSSG\rily see romG\nTic love OIS o. problem if it's experienced ou-tside of o. committed mono9o.mous frG\mework.

Possessive

81At YOI.A're

rnonoga~rYJy?

'loiA've been monogo.mous wit-h Denise for... how

monoge~~mov.S .

You' ve been monogomoi.As with ... wno.-t'S herr-_ __. ......, nG\rne OI'3G\in ? Penise.

m01ny ye01rS

h01s it been?

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- - ond I clon'r own her. If s he oid s"t~rt ~oving sex with o-ther guys a9o.in, it wouldn'T bother

And.. sP,.,e's been mono9"'mous wi-th me. for severol yeQrs now. But there's no comw.itme.nt. She doesn'-t own me--

me.

OkQy, I love her. I.An like people tr01ppecl in possessive monogo.rny, I'm in 01 position -to B~.A-t

respond TO my

sex«Ao.Hy-

relo.ted

emo-tions.

l 'rvl h~vin9 sex wi-th

You love. ner -- does s6-le

Denise

becOitASe I WANT to.> 1'101" beco.«Ase I rY~o.de o.

love

Yn01rrio9e vow to her or beco.CAse s he'd. get

you?

jeo.lous ;f I 5QW someone else..

She doesn't feet PASSION for me -- we're

She UKES me.> bc.A-t I'm pre+ty sure she wouldn'T use +he word love to ciescr ibe ~ow she

friends .

feels o.bou"t

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CHAPTER

5~

Just" havi""9 sex with w .... ores. it seems... empty TO yOIA?

I'd enjoy -t._.e sex> bu"t o.fterw(jlrd I'd feel. .. unSG\tisfied. So I beg~n

I wouldt"''t" h~ve

rerne,....bered the nome.

TO think 1-n~T rno.')!be p~y;n9

TOr sex does

become

o hollow experience.

I figured, if I repeo.-t with any prost-it"~Ate os m~Ach os I did with Anne, I'll feel empty agQin.

If you keep seeing t-he S(jlrne womon over 01nd over.

- - and I never feel empty a-fter being with her. If 01ny-thing 1 feel t-he opposite -- I feel full.

But- Denise proved th01"t w01sn'-t 1'ri.Ae. I've been

see in9 her for WAY Ionge r thon I Anne--

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BACK TO MONOGAMY

Anne f~.tlf;lled me sexually not in otner woys, even though she w01s pleasan-t 01nd I i ke01ble.

lJh ...

b~.tt

something like thot. It's SOW'Iethil"'9

beyond mere sexuol so.tisf
1"1'3

person.

So paying for sex isn'-t o.n

empty experience if you·re paying -the right person for 5ex.

ZZ7

/.-t o. recent" cornters"'tion witl-1 " frienol, I mentionec:t tnc:\t "De.,..ise" is no lon9er CA prostit«Ate. He objecteo(> "WhO\t" olo yot..t me"n? Of coCArse she's o. prostittAte -yoCA're P"Yin9 ner for sex." I poi.-ttec:A o«At th"t she's rYIOr1090\n-tOCAS with 1"11e Q.no( thO\t prostitCAt~S nO\Ve ~eX with n-1"'ltiple men. My frienol co"'nterec;l.> " Th"t 's not the c4ic.tionCAry c;{efil"'ition. '' I otidn't know wh"t the clic.tiono.ry otefinitior1 wo«Aiol be, ~o I reo.c.heoC over to my copy of tl1e GAGE CANADIAN DICTIONARY. Accoro(in3 to +1-to.t source > 01. prostit«Ate is "o. girt or wom0\t1 w~1 o 01.ccepts ,..,o..,ey to en9o.9e it'1 sex"'"' o.cts wit-h me..,." I empi1C\Size~ the wor~ "men" o.s I reo.ol +he po..SSG\9E.> to my frienoL He concecJ.ed.. the point. lO\ter... I pic.ked. LAp my WEBSTER'S --it d..efinecl. " pros'titt.tte O.S SOWieone who nOI.S "prol"niSC.CAOt.tS" sex for money. Not 01.1/ aictior1CAries 0.9ree -- ta.,e COLLINS CANADIAN DICTIONARY CAno( the CONCISE OXFORD ENGLISH DICTIONARY both cno..ro..c teri ze G\ prostitt..tte o.s someot"'e who hats sex for po..yment, bt..tt neitner spec.ifies o.nythin9 o.bo""'t tne "'"'mber of sexuG\1 po..rtners. J·s "Denise" still 01. pt'"ostit"'te '?A"" I still 01. jol-1..,? Two people G\f"E.' it-1 01. mo..,ogCAWIOtAS sexc.Ac:d refO\tiOr1Ship tl-u:l\t ' s /o.. ~ted.. for yeo..r.s . They co.re for eo.ch other ( even if t&.,ey wo~Afon't S"Y they're ·•; .., love"). One of t-he two G\Hists the ot-1-,er fi..,o.nciodly . .WI-tO\.t clo yo«A co..ll StAch o. relct"tionship?

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AFTERWORD Ulti)"'ft~tely, I don't CCAre whCAt you c~ll CAS, The si3nificG\n't thing to me is th~t oCAr reiCAtionship snoc..tld not be 0\<;30\in st the IO\w. We sl.,otAid be cd lowe& to nQ.ve sex> G\nc.( I shotAid be 0\llowE'ol to give he,.money. "Denise" isn't tl-te only perso., ciepic.t(>c;( in this book whom I love : My brother 6orc:Aon Brown lives in QtAebec City cv1& livecA there throu9hoCAt 'the yeCArs covered in these po.ges, whic.h rnO\y expiO\in why he's 0111ly i., two scenes. ( The fint po.nel he 's ;.,., is 57=2.) 1111 2000, the 9'-"Y with the hG\t1 Seth, move& to 6tAelph ( "' Sn-1G\II city o.bol-'t G\11'1 hot.Ar-G\nd.-G\-hodf Ci\WO\Y fror"n Toro111to ). He comes i111to tl-,e big c.ity 0111 occ01sion, so we still see eG\c.n ot&.,er pretty freqCAently. Joe MO\tt movecA to los An9eles ;.,., 2003:> 01111c:A Kris N01k0\W1'-"YOI movecl to V0\111CotAver in 200I.t:> so I cion't see them rY~tAc.&.,, blAt I still tCAik to tne......, o., tne pho..,e quite often. ( Kris's first pG\n('l is a:s.) I'W1 9lo.d th01.t Sook-Yin lee still lives in Toronto G\~~'~~ thCAt we get" to spend o.. lot of tirv'le to9e-the,.-. When I fin i sheol olrO\wi ng PAVINu FOR IT, I let ti-le 0\.bove-me..,tionec:.( six people reCAd it. I wO\S worried tnG\t sorY~e of them mi9ht WG\'1t me to c.h01.n9e thin9s - - their CActions, their diG\Io9t.te.> the WG\y I drew tnem -- bt.At no..,e of the six CASkeci me to oo.lter CA lit1e or word.. TnCi\t cAoes..,'t me01.111 t11ey were CAll COrY~pletely nG\ppy wi'th their portr~yo..ls. I c;iic;A 1"ell then-t thOit r Wot.tld 9ive theW'I Spatce i111 the book to h0o.ve their- SCi\y, Only Seth took me '-4p on tho..t offer. His notes abo'-4t ti-le scenes he's in G\re in AppenO.ix 23. I Catllec:i JCASti., Peroff to let him kr10W t'-tOo.t ne'> ;., the book o..111d to CASk hii'YI if he WC"Anted to see 1-1is sce..,es. ( He "PPE'Gu··s in pG\nels 7:5 a.,c:( 1:6.) He w~s fine with being G\ c:htllrO\cter in the story btAt SG\i& 1-te WCAnteo( f"o experiei"'C€ the 9r"Cl\phic-novef in itS finc-sheo( pri..,te-ot forvn . Not o.ll of my fr-iends o.re chG\ro.c. te rs in this wteWlo i r. 1he following friel'ldS helped wte ;.., so.-..,e WOIY in creo.tin9 it: Mo.rk Askwitl-1 7 Peter 8irkemoe, A.,toneiiG\ Brion, Rob i.., Go.t'lev, Jeet Hee r, JG\S01'1 Kieffer, D01ve l G\.PP:> A~ G\ m litovitz > Co.thG\ri111e liCA, Nick Mo.o.,.-,cAG\9> MG\rc NgCAi, Mo.gdOt WojtyrOo., Etno.n Rilly, Zo.c.h Worto.,, Do.ve SiYYI lim S/0\t"er, Sit.t To., .Jol-1.., Tt'Oin, JG\f'YleS TtArner, Colin Upton,. 01n("). TCAnio. VCAn Spyk . None of ti-lese people l'lcAS helpe& by beir19 willit19 to c4isct.tss o,nd deb01te t-he topics of" love G\ll"lc4 prostitCAti~n with me. They c.dso nelped in VO\YiOCAS other WOI.YS -- pointing OCAt if"'lporfOint books to reG\0., proofreG\olil'19, mo.ki1119 desr9vt su99e stio..,.s, d i H CA ss in9 0\pproCA<. ht>s to cirOo."'-' in9 > a..,cA ;.., mowty other w01.ys. I tho.nk thef'Yl o.ll. Ano( thOo.nks to everyone 01t Dro..wvt A111d. GuG\rterty, J>Oo.,-tict.Aio.r/y Chris 0/ivero.s> Pe99Y BCArl"lS> C"And 1o..,.., Devlin.

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APPENDIX 1 THE NORMALIZATION OF PROSTITUTION Prostitt-ttion is jCAst ~ for,., of ci.ortir'\9. Tl-lere is r~o regtAio.tory o r le9od fr01mework for t.tr~po.io( d01ting . Nothing ho.ppens ci.CArin.9 p01iot c:l01tes t-h01t doesn't n 01 ppen in
231

APPENDICES the other "western" cotAI"ltrieS ). In 1961~ Pierr-e TrCLAdeo.v. hoi'Yio.sex~Aodity ;.., Ca.na.c:AO\. Otlo,er COI.Antries beg"'.., to ao the SO.rYI€ thi1'19. *" The re.svdt> fo rty -5ome thing yeo.rs l ~ter, is tl-10\t nomose xv.o. l;ty ho.s bec.ome norr'l'lo.liz.eoC for most people in " the we~t ''. It 's no lon9e.r widely SE>en o.s Sic k or cliS9LASting . ~ec.rirY'lino.liz.ed.

APPENDIX 2 SEXUAL RIGHTS Yo~..A've

co....,po.re~

hoMOS~.XLAo.lity

to prost i ttAtion. Go.y s hc:we o. right to ho.ve go.y sex beco.use they're borYI 90\y.

You. weren 't born o. jon..,. Prosti tLAte s aren't born prostittAte s.

Prostit(..(tes o.ncl john s clo.., ' t ho.ve the sextAo.l ri9hts th01t 9o.ys

no.ve.

Hvf'otheticc:dly ~ le t 's 5"Y tl,o.t in o. few ye("(rs 9eneticists will be
'*

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APPENDICES howe se)( with -- those o..-iento.tioi'IS c;.(ol'l't lii'Ylit their sexLAO\I ri9hts, Go..y ri.snts ~.--e..,'t predic
APPENDIX 3 MORE ON THE NORMALIZATION OF PROSTITUTION It mo.y be o(;fficLAI't for people who ho.ven't 9iven tne m if he wc.tnts to ho.ve sex with her> it ' ll cost G\n OlmotAnt of I'Yloney tho.t she spec.ifies. He ~oesn ' t fi11o\ this snocki""'9 --it's "' comrnon reqt.Aest in ~ sitiAo.t-io,., like this. Tney 90 OIAt to dinner "',o( then no.ve sex ~t either his G\PG\rtmel"'''t or ners. He po.ys her tne spec.ifiec).. price. The next d.o.y> MC\ry tells her- friends <"AbotAt the cA"te . They G\ll h~ve sex for money too, so .., o.., e of the I"YY "' r- e s no c. k eo< . M"' ..- y t e 11 s h e .-- mot 11 e r. She's l"'ot .shocked eitV.er - -s he still 9ets pG\icA for se)C' ""enetf. Most people ; ...... this fiAtiAre society hG\ve pC4ic.Ase)( ~t leo.st occo.sio...,o.lly. There G\re still 0\ few people who believe in possessive t'Vl01'109G\......,y 0\nd.. 2.!!.!Y l-1cwe sex if tl-ley fo.tl in love wi"th someo..,e> blAt """ost people in 2080 see thC\"t C4S weirc:J._, olcA-fG\shio ...... eot beho.viour. A mio(c:Ate -o.9ed 9LAY who c:.lso works "t the hc.t"t sa.,op o.pproo. so she politely declines. There's 1'10 expectc.ttion t'-lc:.t she h01s to ho.ve sex wit"' 0\nyone wl-1o hatS t'Vlo..,ey. If Mo.ry o.cq_IAire.s el"'oLA_s"" frie.,cAswho-pOiy-for-sex> ..-n~ybe she'll be C\ble to q_t.Ait the hG\t shop job~ bLAt ~Anti I +he~"~> the I"YY01'1ey she mO\kes from sex 11icely StApplevnents her incoi'Y1e. No o ...... e wotAid see M01ry OIS 01 sltAt for hC4vit19 I'YltAitiple .sex-po.rtYJers -- it '.s see., C\S normod to ho.ve mt.Aitiple sex·p"rt...,ers. WhO\t 0\botAt love? MCi\ry m.~Y ~evelop Iovin~ feeli1"'19S

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APPENDICES for o,....e ~ SOW~€~ or Ci\ll of l-Ie r fr;e...,ch- who-pc:Ay- for"- s e)(. ( Beir19 pCi\i& for sex doesn't prec:luc;(e the possibiliTy thCi\t o,.,e coiAio( love the perso., po.yi~"~9·) Or s"'e mi9l-lt- ho.ve o. sext.Ao.l frie...,o( she loves who cioesn't P"'Y her for- sex. Mo.ybe she po.ys hiovt. ( It's co,..,.,,.,o..., for- wome"" to po.y me.., for sex i..., this society.) Or mCi\ybe no money c.h0.1"19E'S nGIII"!OS 0\t Qll in thCi\t po.rtictAio.r r-eiGIIti01'1S ,hlp. BecCAlAS€ it's 11or..,..,o.l 01noC l"''othi...,9 is secretive o.bout it,., Mo.ry co.n J..to.ve podd-sex wit.., people she knows -- tl.-ter-e is,.,'t the so.wte .-,eeci to se01rch for stro.n~ers who might btAy or self sex. This to.kes o. good. de011 of the risk out of ti-le G\c.tivity. Perho.ps in this pr-eciicteot worlc:J. of 2080 there will still be streetwo.lkers o.ncA brothel~workers who howe po.ic;(-.se)( with str01nger.s> bL.tt rY10St people will WOI..,.,. to l-'1etve some prior con...,ec"t-io"" witl-1 the indivicl~o.ls +l-tey get ;..,to b ·e cl with> just 0\S most people liked th01t betck in 20 II. W!.,e"" yot-"""'9 people 01re toiDC tJ..,01t bo.ck in 2011 l-tCAvin.9 sex for mo..,ey wo.s seen o.s o. Sh01_,ef"'l tl-1i""C3> it will see., bi'lo.rre to the...,.,, "It wo.s ille90\l ? Why? lt's SO ... l'lOr"...,..,OII , "

How likely is it th 0\t this w iII be the wo.y thi ""'9S ore in 2080 ? Not likely o.t o.ll beco.IASe 9overnments CAren't o.boiAt to decr;,...,;...,OIIiz.e prostitiAtio...,,

APPENDIX~

YOU OWN YOUR, BODY Your boc.ty iS yotAr property. J~A~t CAS you own property like books o.nd. cfothes 7 yo"' own yOIAr" bocJy. You shotAfot no.ve the riglo,t to G(o whO\tever- yoL.t wc::....,t" with your bociy ( Cl\1'1~ ~~"'~Y other property you own ) etS lo.-19 0\S yotA res~ect the property right.s of others. (By whicl--t I me01n: yoCA d.o.,'t h~rm or stec.tl ~nyone el s e 's property> or use frc;tucl or thre01ts of force to CA~ctuire it,., c;t,.,o( yoc.A don 't use pnysicod for-ce to mo.ke Someone cio something they do.,'t wo.nt to d.o.) If yo"' re.spec.t the property rigJ..lts of others cmc( treCo\t them with courtesy, yo~A're livi~9 G\ moro.l life. ' I wCi\nt to hcwe sex with you becettASe yotA'f( give me mo11ey.

I w01nt to

h~ve

with you

beco.~se

l love

sex

yolA.

To me,., st01tement A is OIS mor01l etS stCAtement 8.

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APPENDIX 5 JOHNS DON'T BUY WOMEN When I bu.y .somethin9 -- SG\y> nome Ci\no< 9et to keep it for- o.s long o.s I wo.nt. I OWV1 it. When I ho.o( GH1 oppointment" with Ci\ prostitute, I c(id. not bLAy her. I pC\icl to howe sex with I-ter. Afterwo.r-ol, we'c( port compo..-1y. I didn't 9et to keep her-- I didn't own her.

JonYIS b(;(y womel"'\. No m o"'"' shoulcl nove the ri9ht" to b~Ay o

o. book -- I to. k e it

APPENDIX 6 POWER Pt"ostitc.Atio"' is

JtAs't as m"'le prostitt.Ates

Wf""OY1'3

it gives "' mG\n se.xLAod power over 0\

bec.C~.t.A'>e

wol't"'Oin .

TV.e

jonn gets to d.i c: tCo\ te wh01t h01ppe,s .

c:io > fe mode pro .s tit ute s hG\ve

their rules -- whG\t they will o.ncA won't cAo with cl i et1tS. Some wi I( hG\ve voginCi\l sex bi.At won't- 9ive orG\1. Others only fello.te. Some let johns perforii'Yl , .... ...,nilin9lAS on the.,..,, others

*

clot1't. Some kiss, some won't. A..,o. it's t1ot jtAst Ci\bO&At r"tAfeS - - prostit(;(tes cJ.o nCi\ve SeXIAC\1 power in their inter-Ci\ctions witl-t their- clients. Sex~AG\I ~esirG\bil­ ity is power. Wne.., o. rnon thinks Ci\ worn011'1 is o.ttrG\ctive, ne wa..,-ts to pleo.se her. Also, sex-workers '"'.., oncA Gto speo.k tAP if" they do,..,'t- like whot's ho.ppe..,ing . "Millie's" req_c..cest i.., pGlnel zrs:~.t- is o..., exCi\.-nple. I remernber o. sin-tiiG\r incic(ent- wit., "A.-,ne": Etceten~.

Chester_, my le9s G\re 9ettir19 tireci. CotA.Id we ch~11~e

positions ? ~~~-

----

Of

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APPENDICES A few months 0190 "Denise" told me thO\t I WO\S bein9 0\ bit too 0\99ressive sexuO\\Iy> so I toneO. d.own wh01t I wo.s &oin9. Are there jerky jol-lt'lS wno WOLdo( clisrec;sOir"o( 00. pro-.titCAte's ..,.,;&-coitod req_CAest or St..1<3<3esrion? I'I'YI s(Are t-heYe 0\re. B ·CA't there a.,-e odso 9lAYS who igno,..e SirY~i/~r req_«Ae.sts 0\.-td SCA99estions in unpOtid sexLA0\1 sitCAo.tions> so ;f we crirY~inOtliz.e pede;( sex bec.o.w>e soi'Yle 9""YS o.re booris~ ;.., beo(, we sYioLAid c.rirVlinodize 1Anpa.id sex for ti-le scv'Yle rea.son. Here's o. sex - wo,..ker on tl-,e SV\bjec.t: My clients a.re invGH''"io.bly polite.[...] I control wl1c;4t I wisl, to do o..-,o( set my limits~ whic'-1 o.re C\lwc.tys

respec.teo(. [ ... l]n four- yea.r.s C\t va.rious 019enc.ies> I CO\n reme...,.,loer only onc.e l-101.ving to s/a.p o. m01.n who WtH too insistent. ( He wcH immeo(i~tly pv.'>~('cA ov.t the. O.oor [.)~)(] Prostitutes a,,-en't passive p«Appets> a.nol most joh.-, s 0\l"en't c:Aic.to.tors.

APPENDIX 7 MONEY!s INFLUENCE infi~Ae11ce

0\ womO\n to hoo.ve 5ex wher1 .she otherwise WOtAidn't wa.nt to.

If tho.t mea.ns tho.t the infl""ence of money is b01c:(, it odso wteo.n.s th01.t r""o~~ntic love i s bad. Mc..ny people in love relo.tion.ships howe sex they don't wo.nt to hO\ve.

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I don/t W~nt to h ewe sex with this 9Lty_, bt.At I neeot the

I don't want to

I no /on9er fee I

hcwe sex ri9nt

~esire

for ,.,.,Y hLASbC\nd_, bLAt for- tne sake of ot.Ar m G\rri019e I'll 1-1o.ve sex with 1-Jim.

now, btAt he 's VY\Y boyfrieVJo(_, o."'cA I love hii"YY, so

I will.

Tl-Jcue is no W'IOrod c;A;fferel"lce between the above three

c.irc.ut'Y'Isto.nces.

APPENDIX 8 SELF-RESPECT sl-1o~ld be i IIE'9011 it dest,-oys tne se lf - respect

M~.,y g~ys

the

sextA~I

prior to revoltAtiol'l

exper-ie.-,ceot sh~....,e., c;.(epr€$Sion> .9'-'ilt,. c:•u1d prostitt-\te s. dis~ust o.bo~.At bei....,.9 9oo.y. That doesn't 1">"14?~.., t&.,c..t homosextA~/ity is w,-ong, it meo.t1S tl-tc..t) c..t a certc..i"" point ;.., 'ti n1e, nowro.sexlAo.lity WC4.S revile~ .. o.ncl tY~
of

wv. el"l

I first ,,~,...9ec:( fo\"' it} I nC\d I'Y'ILAC.Yl WI Ore se lf respec.t o.no( self worth H101.., I ever hac;{ be f o,.. e . I f e I t a p pre c i ~ t e d. [*] According to Jo.VIe of New York:

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Before I starteci esc.or-ti...,.9, I h~d C\ few hoyfr-ieno(s [ .... ] They weren't shy C\boLAt floo.t OIA~ tellit19 me that I c(idn''t look 9ood because I was too tel(( O.V'H:l too thil"l. [ ... fv7]ost of [my cfieYifS] helpeo( wt~ leo.r..-t two very important thi..-t9S: that I oo.m beC\utifi.A I jiASt tt.,e way I o.m_. c;~nc:A -tno.t I'YlY p/eo.SI.-\re iS iW~port~.,t too. WV1en I st01rteo( workin9, I met o.ll tl1ese [ c.lie...,ts] who tl,otAght I WetS 9orgeo1As, model-like_, even. They loveo( my Sma ll breo.sts O.Ylcl impossibly Jon9 less. They tola me I wa.s bec.ttAtifiAI over etnd over 0\90\i..-t LAI"ltil I tAn~e..-stoocA it.[*"~]

AY1o.Nicole of Berkeley_. (o.li forniCA > ""/dresses a p01rt ic tA letY john : TnroLA.9h I'Y\Y sessio..,s with yotA_, 1 hG\ve C\CC(IAireo( il"'voo.ltAC\ble self-esteem in r-e9C\ro(s to my body, sex appeo.l_, C\no< service. I hoo.ve '3rown as a sexvtal bein9 not OV11y it-1 My profession, bLAt in my re0\1 life o.s well. [**] VeroY'IiCc.t Monet conten~ s

tho.t:

Sex work 1-tG\S bee.., ernpowerin9 and liber0\tin9 for WI€. My self-estee,.,., l-1as improved. clr-asticC\IIy ;,., tne last six ye01rs since I enterec:i Hte se)( indiAstry. [ ...] I ~n-t .,of" cAe9rO\o(e~ by sex. I ~m not C'\ reSOlArt:e or property H1~t CG\1'1 bt» clevodLAeci. t"hrou9h use. I arYt no't hlArt by .SIAC:h terms 0\S "sfCAt" or "whore." I prouclfy o.ssert H·tc~t I G\rYI both. [¥
APPENDIX 9 CHOICE Whe"' they confro .... t feVY~etle ~ex- workers wl--ro ciO\im to howe freely chosen their- profession) (AnTi - pr-os.t-itutior1is.ts ( wl.,o 0\re of t en fe~o¥~inists ) are pLAt ;.., ti-le posit-ion of looki..-rg like they're tryin9 to restr-ict the fy-eeclom of co. 9ro"'p of woVVlen. Severed of t11ese C\Yiti - prostlturioYli~ts howe dec.ioCecA thO\t the w~y ov.t of this q_IAo.noCO\ry is to o.ssert tho.t c(..,oic.e is t1ot possible when it comes to sex - work . Sheil"' Jeffr-eys, C\ feWii..-tis-t, o.r-gues this;..., ner book THE IDEA OF PROSTITUTION :

T!-,e worol c.l-toice is vtot etppropriate for- C4 wom~n w/.,ose ., c.VIoi c e " is between Jow-p01i & se rvice work whi c h aoes

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not fit ;..., with c.hild-co.Y"e, 0.11d the cho..,ce of "' bette.-in come with more flexible l.,olH"S HtroCAgh the vio/c.. tio.., of her body. [Jeffreys.. pp. 155, 156.] Tnis l-1ypotl-1etic~l womo.., m'-'y .,ot feel HtC\t pt'oStitution is o. viol01tio..,. Sowte wome..., would, otner.s wotAio(.,'t ~ Mor-e to the poi.,t, i f it 's r'lot possible for c::u-1 o.ttr01c.tive si r1.9/e mom to c. l.,oo se between low - p~y work o.nol prostittAtio..,_. Hte., why o.re there o.ttractive Single mother.s wi1o work a.t wti1'1iW'ItA"""' - wo.9e jobs? Some wo.....,en CG\...,'t s to.....,~cJ., tl-te thoc..cgJ..-at of hG\vi..-t_9 po.i& -s~x with ~tro...,ge,..s , so they choose +he clrudge,.y of working for low po.y. Meo..,(...Vhile_. there Qre. o ther moms who c. h oose sex-work ove r /ow wo._9es o..,o( o.re hG\ppy to be o.ble to iW~prove the m~teri01l cirCCAWlStG\11C()S thc..t their c hilolren live i n . Jf two peo ple fcc.ce the so.me pro bleW\ o.nll( mo.ke two d i ffer-e., t olec..i sio,s

0\bOIAt how to solve tJ.tG\f probleW~, thel"' c.hoic.es are being mO\ole , That does 11't I'Yl€O.n the c ho ic.es 01r-e eo. s y ,. blAt o. c;l;ffic~Ait c h oice is stilt o. cho i ce,

Wne., 9i rl s howe bee.., H?>< tAO./Iy o.buseol ;.., c.V! i ld hood~

OtS prostit~Ated

wowten ofte11 ho.ve, it is no.rd to see them ~s hc:wi..,g C\ reo.ll y free c.hoic.e. (Jeffr eys, p. /53.]

thiVlk were steppin9 iV~to do.n9erous ter-r it o ry vvhe., we st(;(r-t so.yin.9 th~t c erto.in CAO.ults Qre not o.llow eol to W~o.ke choices beca.«Ase they ho.d bG\ol childhoods. If wo...,.,en-who -were- QbtAsec:A·in - c.hi lot hood o.ren't co.-npete.,t to mo.ke the c.hoic.e to e..,9019e i n paid-sex, then o.r-e t&-,ey competent to rno.ke other sexulll choices ? Re9 <:4Yo/f en of who.t h01ppe..,ed to the.., ;., c. nilc:lhood_. (:\c::fults shoulo( l-tawe the ri9hi to make sex ual choices_. inc.lc..u:lin9 cho ice~ tho.t SV!eilo. ~effyey s wov.ld olisCApprove of. Whe...., prostitLttecA won1en themselves tASe the. lo.n9uo.9e of " choice '', they e. G\., be see.., to be e.,ga~i"'9 in what o( e vi" n c. y so c. i o Io 9 is t .s c c.d I '' n e «At r G\ I is i....., 3 te c. h....,iqLte s ". Sociologists use thi.s ter-m To describe title w"'y ; ...., ~Nhic.h s o c.i" lf y despiseol G\noC mG\r9inaliSE'd

9roups cr-eo.te r-o.t io no.li s"tio n.s whic.h e...,"ble the..,.., to StArVive their- mal"'~ in o.l coY~dirion, St.Ac.""' techniqLteS WlCIY be ei'Ylployec:l beca.tAse the oV~Iy o.lteYV~o.· tiv e m(:\y be the pO\infi.A I one of self- conteYY~pT, Jeffrey s, p. 1371

r

let's co V~trCAs t tho.t oprnrol"' with the folf owi n9 i teW~S writtel"' by two wowten who o.re o r were sex-wor kers . I c.CAn s~y f o r the first time ;, I'YIY life tho.t I love my job. It 's the leCAst ex ploited I h~ve ever been

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.A

A

'VYV VA .A

vv

A

•../\/'

•v

·v ~y 'V

'V

'\rv

...,......,A

•Av

.AA.,.A..,/\

at work, for Ctdeqt..H"te mo11ey this -time. [ ... ] I'm e" e .-, Cl b Ie to e n j o y t he w or k i t s e If., not j us 't its fn~it.s) an& have c~me to Ctppreci~te C\11 body types c.o.s lo..,9 C\S t"'ey're clean C\n& kino( [. •j It ho.s C\ll coWie d.own to choice for me. I cnose to see some clie.,t~ C\nd I chose not to see others. I chose whO\t sexCAO\I o.ctivities I was williY19 to engo.ge in for po.y C\Yld I c"'ose what w~s not" ''on t~e menu., I ~sserted ""'Y bOIAndo.ries C\1'1o( I honored. the CAniq_CAe sexv.ality of iV~d.ivi
Jeffreys SCAyS tho.t" prostitv.tes like these Otre r01tionali-z.i119 01nd th01t tney o.ctiAOtlly feel self-co..,tempt. u..,/ess Jeffreys is o.lle9ing th~t she h~s psycl.-tic powers) s ne can't know if 01 pC\rtictAicu prostitc.Ate feels self-contempt. Wnen yoLA howe to resort to claiming to know what yoiAricleolo9iCal oppo1o1en'ts ~re secretly feelin_g , yoi.A've riAn OtAt of goocl argiAments. To see how d.esper01te Jeffreys co.11 get, re01d. the following: Oppress ion CO\ I'lnot eff ec. t i vely be 90.CA9eo( o.ccord. i "'9 to the ote9ree of "c on s ent ·~ si11ce eve.-, il"' slo.very tnere was SoVY~e conseVIt if consent is d.efil"'e~ as ir1o.bility to see, or feel enti tl ed to,., o.ny ~lteYVIettive. [Jeffreys,., p. 135 . ] Jeffr eys is SCArely the ovtly person on the plo.net who G(efines cot-tse..,t 'this wo.y. A penon is botA..,o( in heco.vy iron chOtins. /, thett moW~ent then~ is no o.l'tern~tive to bei1o19 bot..tnol by <:ho.iVIS_, bt.1t thc:.t ~oes 1o1ot mean that the persoV'I is COV1SentinCJ to beiVI_g boCAnoL Not h~ving an alternOItive t ,o o. sitCAation ~oes not mea.., thett yotA 01re ci-looSiVlg to be in thG\t sitCAC\tion. YotA face c.hoi<:es wl-te.., yoc.A hcwe o.lterVlo.tive s ( like the o..,e betwee"' a low-wa9e job ~not prostitLA'tion ). Slcwes didn't choose to be s laves. Feminists netve o.ccepte~ that choice iS poHible w~en it come s to o. ot;fferent, ol;ffict..tlt St..tbject ~ a.bortion. The fei'Y\inist position ( 01nol I G\gree with it) is tho.t woMe.., own t"'eiY bodies 01no( the,..efore ec..c.h wom~.., ho.s the ri.9ht to cnoose to get 0.1'1 o.bortiol'l i f s "' e 9 e t s p r e 9 .., ~ .., t . T h i s ; 5 c c. II e cl b e ; n 9 .. p r o- dt o i c. e. ''. Fe.,ini~ts shoiA/o( be co..,sistent on the SCAbjec.t of choice. If 0\ woman has the ri9ht to c.hoose to h owe c.n abortion , she shotA/o( etlso netve the rigltlt to <:1-loo~e to h~ve sex for money. It's her body> it's her ri.9nt.

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APPENDIX tO VIOLENCE Jeffreys o.n& some ot,..,er feWiinists co..,te""al that +'-te r-elationsl,ip betwee"" G\. pro$tit&-cte CA.no( "' jo'-'"' is ~IWQyS Cc violenT o~-te. Jeffreys quotes Evelina. uiobbe :

P r o s t i t (;( t i on i s s e x ~ o I o. b (;( s e b e ca u s e pro s -t ; t u t e s a.,.. e s~bjec.te& to 0.r1y l"lCAI"''\ber of sex~o.l C\c.ts tho.t ;.., o...,y otket"" context, ~c. teet ogG\it'lSt ony other womGtn_. woi.Aiol be /Qbellec( c.tsso.ultive oY., at ti-le veYy le(;(st> v.nw~..,ted GH1c:i coerced . [=f<] It's my irYlpressiot1> re~oling o.ccot..c..,ts by joi-1"1S o.nd prostitt..ctes> thO\t pO\iol-sex is uSlAO\IIy pretty mt..ccn the so.me as unpO\id- sex. Certc.inly I V~evev- did etnythiV~g sexiAa.l wit&1 o. pro.stitt.ete thett I ho.oln't olone wit'-1 my 9 i r I fri eno(s. The thi n9s I like sexuaHy G\re ( o.s fa..- QS I CG\1'1 9ettl-ler) pretty nort'l'lal O."''ol not c:.t o.ll ki..,ky. ( Not t~01t I tl1i"' k tho.t ki1o1ky se:>c bet wee..., co"'sent-i...,9 o.of..,.lts is wron9.) My girlfrie..,ds c;(;o(,., ' t experience sex wit-h n1e o.s ~busive or OISSa.tAitive., so it's not trLAe th01t t,..,e sex I no.c:A wit,., prostitutes WOI.Aiol) "in o.ny otner context> [with] ~ny other wom01n> [ ... ] be lo.belleo( ~SSolAitive ". Did prostitlAtes like ho.vin9 seX' with me the wo.y Yny girlfrienols did? No., probo.bly not.~~ Bt-ot ti1C\t 's not Jeffreys; G\nol Giobbe's point. Even ;f th01t WCi\S their- point> it WOlAio( be G\ leG\p fo so.y thC\t~ becOiuse someoll'le iSn't enjoyirt9 01 .SE')C(;(Q I ef1C.OlAV1ter> they're therefo...-e experier1ci"'S it c:u o.ss(;(ultive or coeYcive, Jeffreys sees sex~01l h01rc;{SSI'Yient o.s "' form of sex&AO\I violence.*"'* SI-te 9ives exo.mples of sex ~.ttcd hCArass..,e""t:

[ ...)leering., menQcin9 7 steering 01nof sexLAo.l gest~.ttt"'es [ •..] whistles> LASe of innvtertdo o.no( gossip > sexi.AOII joking., propositioning[... ] lAnWa.nteot proX'ivnity [ . .. Jeffr-eys, p, 26't. J lookit19 o.t tho.t list., it becomes cleGtr how Jeffreys co.n -think th01t prostitlAtion is 01. forM of viofe.,..c.e . SV1e o(oesn't lASe tf,e woro( ''violence" tne w01y other people do. If yotA know th01t by .st01ndivt9 close to someone yo~.A're mo.king tl-ten1 uncomforto.ble, then it's inconsiderO\te Olnc( rLAde to COYltinue to StO\nd ;.., their- proximity. Still> th01.t doe.5n't make " lAit1WGH"'teol proximity'' violent. SexlAG\I jokes CO\n be i nsel"\sitive ., btAt jokes C\re111't "' forVYl of violence.

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lr n-1o..y be thc;.t Ylot o..ll jol-lns ~..-e violent> b~..tt prostit~..t"tiol"l sl-'!o~..tld still be kept i lle9AI beCAIAS€ prostitutes do frect~..tent I y e..,c.o«.Anter viol e.-,ce.

p,-ostitLAtes violence* btAt_, yes> mGh"'Y do. ThAt ~oesn ' t metH"' thO\t prostittAtion shoi.Aiol be ; ltesc.l . When ~ t01.xi driver is .st~bbeo( or shot> no ot1e cH=ivoc~te.s thAt cJrivil'19 C\ CO\b sl--totAid be c r im i 11alized. EC\c.h pers o,., sl-1oCA /c.( h~ve H1e ri9ht to c;(etermil"le for- him-or- Y'Ier.self' the C\t'YlOLAY1t of risk ne-or-ske is willing to t~ke for C\ po.rticc...dAr job. Also_, keepi1119 prost i ttAtion ille9~l m~kes tl.,e problerYI worse ., ..,ot better. Tho.t john beAt ~no( s tole my WlOI1ey. I Wetnt to cedi the

police --

Not

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e..,c.o~..tl"lter

- - btAt th~t WOLA/o( 0\tte...,tion to t"'e fetc:t tV!ett I' m rt.Annin9 ~.., ilfe9et l ;..,cc;.ll operAtio..., ot..tt of this 01 par"tmef"''t.

c;(I""CtW

t-heir

Dec.rirni'1aliz.i119 prostit~Ation will make it more likely thCAt ~ sex- worker wotAid report this sort of c.r i me . Of co~Ar.se c(ecriminodiz.ation wor1t completely irraclicG\t€ violence ~901inst prostit~Ates., blAt it will sive the....., an option to ae01l with thG\t violence.

APPENDIX 11 SEXVAL OBJECTIFICATION Pt'"ostit~..ttio..,

sho~..tlci

be ilfe9o.l be cAvtse

i t e..,
Sl-teilo. Jeffl'"eys c{efines sexLAo.l objectific~tiol"l o.s o. fot'"l"'"\ of e t"V1 o t i onod indiffe,..e...,ce . *Is it WY OI"\9 for people who o...-e emo t ion~ lly indifferent to eo.cC., other to hC\ve se')( ? S&,otAic:i we n-to.ke CAnpo. io(. one-night-stands illegcd ? I o.c:tLAo.lly do..,'t think prostitlo\tion cloe s e11c:oc..trA9e ernotiono.l in~iffe,.-en
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APPENDICES the 91AY bo.ck to tlie re~li~G\t fo.., tho.t l,e's i.., beet with so~eo..,e whose feeli..,~S he h"s to t"ke ;..,to o.ccoLAnt. Tl-ler-e ...,.,~Y be so~e it"'se..,sitive jol-t11s wl,o ft\il to recosniz.e

th~t

cespo..,sibi/ity_. btAt I don't thi..,k it's P"Y;..,g for the....,., to be inse..,sitive. I feh G\ vo.riety of emotion"! n~spo.-,ses to the sexworkers I SOIW. I WG\S never covnpletel y ei'Yiotionc:dly i"l~iffere..,t to 0\ny of thei'YI. I WO\S less concerned G\boiAt wh"t they felt whe.., they dic<,·t seei'Yl to CG\r-e wh"t 1 felt. "Yvette"' ( CJ-t01pter 17) wot.Aio< be ".,.. exao.mple, blAt I s t i II ~ i ~ n' t t he r to fee I b" c;( I y "'bolA t o lA r en colA n t e r. Mo<;.t of the prostittAtes I w01s with I felt o. t leao. s t some o.ffection for. Severed of thewt I reao.lly lik ed. A few of theW~ f 9E>ntAi..,ely respe cted.. With "Denise'~ emotion01l in~ifference is t}-Je opposite of whao.t I feel. If po.yin9 for sex co.t.Ases ao. I'Y'IO\n to feel il"'cre01si.,9ly eMotio.-, the.., by ti-Je ti.-ne I st~rteol seei..,9 '' De,ise"> I sho«.Aid..,'t hcwe bee.-, ao.ble to howe ao.ny emotioY~od respoY~se to her. I think it 1'Y1i9ht be possible th~t pao.ying for sex cotAiot le01d. " I'Y'IG\..., 'to 9re01te.- ei'Yiotio..,"l se..,sitivity> ao.t leo.st for some J"oJ.,..,s -- tho se w&.,o o.re ope.., to the po~sibifity tlo-!ao.t tl,ey mi9ht hawe thi..,gs they coCAid be leQrnil"19 from enCOIAt'1ters with sex-workerS,

sex thCAt

c~uses

w"..,

APPENDIX 12 HUMAN TRAFFICKING AND SEX-SLAVES There see""'s to be so.....,e confo( inter-c.ha..,ge · o.bly with ''pimpin9" as if the y mean the sa,e thi..,g. There o.re tit'rleS wlo,en certain t..-01ffic.kers ~o tlo,i..,gs t'-101t ~..-e Sii'Yii lt\r to WheAt pi ...... ps olo.. btAt I see no rE.>G\SOI"l to biCAr the o(iHinctions~ so I 'W~ going to ho/o( to the origii"!CAI ..,.,eao...,ing of h ... m"'.., tr<>.ffic.ki..,9 for this ~ppenolix. Most people who o.re tr01fficked ~ to be trOt.fficked. They 're frorv~ poor cov.ntries G\nct want to c.o,......e to richer co~.Antries eitner for tne ecol"lo..,.,ic. opporttA..,ities o r bec~t.(se tney WC4..,t to trCAvel. Some of them h01ve b01ot e)(periences while bei"'9 tr~fficke~ --others don't 01..,c:A o.re h01ppy th~t tJ,ere's o. w~y to 9et to where they "'-'G\nt to go.* 11"1 tJ.,e mo.jority of cc~ses, J.itAmOin tr~fficking hao.s nothin«3 to d.o with prostitl.o\tion. ( Accoroling to one Sot.Arce> "j lAs t 4 perc e.., t [ of t r 01 f f i c k i n 9 ] in v o Iv e s t h e s e X' ;..,~~Astry ". ~ ~) 1,., ti1e CO\Ses where prostit~.Ation is i.,volvecl_. WlOo.ny of the woWien choose to be tr01fficked knowiVIg they'll be worki..,9 o.s prostitLAtes il"' the COIAI'1try tl--ley'll be t
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APPENDICES o.re for-cecl to wor·k ~s pt'ostitt.Ates Ol9G\i"'1St their will. For the SG\ke of c.lc;trity 1'...,., 90in.9 to use. the tenYI "sex- SIG\ve" to r'efer to trG\ffickec{ fe...,.,odes who o.re forcecA to I-1G\ve p01i&-s~x.

To j1Ad9e by C(ccents, foi.Ar- of the pr-os.tit"'tes I s"'w were n o t born i n C c.. n c..~ o, : "A n 3 e I i n ~ ., ( C h c.. p t e r 3 ) "Amc..ndOl" ( Cho.pter 1 ), "Arlene'' ( (hOlpter 21 ), o~o( '' L01v.r01'' ( Ch~pter 29 ). ( I consid.e,- whether- G\ny of t-hese women were sex-st01ves ;..., the r"totes sectio...,,) The IG\st of the foi.Ar WG\S ''l~I.Af"Gl." -- I so.w her on December 12th 2002. J wc..sn't <;\WG\re of the existence of se)(-SI01ver'"y in C~n01cA.01 v.nti I I heo.ro( 01.n interview ~botAt" the .SlAbject on C-S-C R01.c:Aio on Dec.e..,.,ber 16th 2003,* 1 ~ so i t ..,ever even o cc t.U reo( to me to won de r if ':An 9 e I i n o.", "A...,.,G\nc;(01", "Arle.,e"> GVlo "LouArO\" were sex-slo.ves. If t ever cJ.o find myself with 01 foreign - born prostitt.Ate 019o.in , """' sure I' ll o.sk I'Yiyself if she's bee..., forcec;.( to cto the work, If I hc:we stro..,9 re-o.sons to SlASpect thO\t she h01s been, l'lf 01.sk if there' s o.nythin9 I c01n c:Ao to help her 01.nci will of-fer to co.H the police on her behO\If. As o. joh.., who's ..,ot mo.rrie~ o.nc;.L is open o.nd "otAt'' 0\botAt" p01yin9 for sex I prob~bly no.ve more options o.boV\t how I COI.Aic:i nelp in SCAC:h si ttAO.fions . MOII"\y johi"\S> worrieol o.bo«At their wives fincti..-.g otAt> wo«Aid.-,'t wo. .... t to phot-~e the cops.

P"Y for sex <;\re cre"'tir19 a demCAnd. for sex- 510\ves.

to stop tl-1~t vtem01nd. we h
let's SGli.Y 01 cert01in shoe coW!pOiny IA.S€5 sl01ve IQbour to """'nv.f01ct1Are its shoes -- sl-lotAio( we crimi"''o.li-ze the weo.r;...,9 of snoes in order to stem the dern01nd for SIOivemc.c*e shoes? No, we~rin9 shoes <;\no( c re01ting "' clemanc( for shoes is not in itself wron9_, and. ma.,«Afc.cttAring snoes is not wrong when free a.o(~Alt.s conse"'t- to d.o i-t. This hypothetico.l shoe c:ovnp01ny wov.(o( probCAbly contr'1er cleW101not for sex-sl~ves. PtAnisl-1il"l.9 johns for soMet-hing we c;.(on' t wo.nt 0\r"lc,{ c{o..,'t know-

APPENDICES in9fy p~rticipo.te in is mispto. c.in9 the blo.wH~ -- especio.Hy when.. in Co...,o.c
howe c nos en rhe profession. A f~.oHt he.-- point: if we cri m inali ze the ptArc.V.otse of sexlAal servic.~s... Hten police reso~Ar'"c.es will 90 into trac.k;..,9 c(owV~ O.l"lol identifying jol-'!ns . Those reso~Ar-c.es wov./d be better tAf"ili~ec( ;..-, trCo\c.k i.-"19 c
IF

we licence fei"V\o.le p..-ostit ~Ates~ we'll be o.ble to mo.ke Sl..\re tho.t only wome.,-who-ho.veth e - le go. I- right- -to -

We'll be 01ble to icte.,tify who tl-1 e

work-in - (Oin0\()(01. work CAS prostitvctes .

People wl1o rno.ke this o.rg~AVY~e...,t 01re ignorin9 01 big

covY~p li cOi ting f01ctor:

+S.,e blsts .) TV.e black market wo~Afc( be c.on1e n~A9e -- too large to be COt"ltrolleO.. SeX- slowes WOIAic.( be forcec,( to work ;,., t""e blo.ck m01rket, rtot in legOll brothels. Nevertheless, the t"Yl~jority of pro s tit~Ates i.., t!-te bl~ck mo.rker wol-\lcA be free ca~...,Oic.liOI...,S w""o c. ""o ose -the work. lc.le...,tifying whic.'-1 proHif"t.Ates ;.., -the bl01.ck I"'YlOirket 01.re cirize..,s ou1~ which 01re iII e .901.1- irn rn i 9 ro.nrs- wl-to - might - be -sex- SI Qve s wo lAIc;.( be ~ never -e nc
o..-,

(O n Sen ting QcliAffS ,Si-tOCAiol YIOt neeo( to OI.Cq_Uire 01. 90V€Y"t1• ment-i H!Aeol. dOU4WleV'lt" to hOI.ve Se)(. Freei..--g .sex - sloo.ves .sl-totAic.l be 01 priority for OI.Ar IC\w e,forc.e.,._,e..,t offic.er.s,

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APPENDICES in OltteWtpting to o(o so tney shoc..tlc( nOive to oper~te withi.., p01r<:Hn eten thO\t re spect the civil r ig l-lt s o f the Citizenry ( jc..tst ~S t-ne polic.e nO\Ve to opero.te WithiYl tnose p~rO\vneters wl-ten ti-ley c(e~l with other- c.riW~eS ) .

biA't

APPENDIX 13 PIMPING Why o.re yotA

Co.nad.ial"' woi'Yle.., who CH "E.> forc.ed by pimps to h o.ve pG\ic( -sex o. re o.lso sex - siG\vE.>s ..

o...,ry ~efinir"'9 fore i9n- born wome n o.s sex-slo.ves?

It's wid e ly reco~niz eo th~ t wheYl 01 pi """P w01nts to lc..tre 01 wo..,..,~, ir1to prostitc..ttiol'l> he does..-1t' lASe forc.e -· he romou1ce!> I-ter. If he's SIAe.r'loi forceol. into prostitCAtion the wo.y some femade i lle9CAI i rnr'Yli~rOints o.re . This is in lo.r9e po.rt beCCiliASe it's eo.sie,.. for Co..no.dio.n women to esc01pe .. A Co.no.oi01n WOI'YIO.I'\ w'-'o w01s kiolno.ppeol 01nol. force~ into prostit~Ation with;.,., C~no.d" probo-.bly wo~.Aidn't hesi't01te to CCilll the Co-.no-.olio-.11 polic.e if she 9ot her ho-.nols o.., 01 pi-lone -~very sy,..,potnetic john with Q cell·phone wo~Alol be on esc01pe opportt-tnit-y.. ( I don't howe o. cell-pnone, bt-tt the seK- worker.s who COir'Yle to my Glportment wot-tlcl freq~,«ently ~sk if they col.A id lASe Wty phone> Qnci I G\lw01ys let them .) On the other h01,.,d > o.n ill egG\ I immi9r~nt n-1i9ht worry th01t the pol ice in (o. ..,O\GlO\ 01.re. o.s c.or..-"'pt 0\S the ones bO\c.k ; ,., her '-'tome c.ot-tntry. She coiAicA. howe. concer,.,s ~bo1-1t bei"19 ol.eporteoL She nni91-tt not eve.-, knov.~ tn01t the emer.9enc:y ni.Amber- is 9 -H . A C~no.O.ia.., worv~~"' COIAI~ probtA.bly tA.ISo c01ll f~rnily or frie11&s for help. An i lle9o.l i~migr-01,.,ts f01..,..,ily 01,.,cA friencls ~re proba~bly on 0.111other- continent. As for Co.11a· ~ian women be ins kid."'"PP'-'ot in 01 f o..-eis n c:oi.A..,try •• i t colAIO. 11apper"' ;.., o. colAntry l ike SoWI~Iio. wher e every " we~tern "' penon woiAid be o.t r-isk, beAt i t ra~rely if ever ho.ppe..,s ;., COI.Antri es with o..-~y kit"'o\ of to""r-ist ;..,o(l.o4stry. The Ol~Athorities there o(o..,'t wo. r1t tlo,ose to""r-ist doll~rs 9oi..,9 Qwo.y . BtA.ol tl1 i119S OCCC4Sio ..... ally ho.ppen to (CAnO\&io.n

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APPENDICES totA.rists ;.., forei9n plo.ces~ bc..\t if Co.no.ciio..., wo.....,en wer-e r-e9c..\IOtrfy Olrt
APPENDIX 1~ EXPlOITATION 1'1ot o.ll prostitCAtes e>.~e sl01ves.. but tl-ley 01re o.ll exploite~ .

People cu·e exploited wl-len they 're not f~irly compe..,Sc-Atec( for tn e work tne y do. Yes... some prostit~AteS 01.re exptoite~ when I'Ylos,t or
"Denise" beg"'.., working OI.S 01. pr-ostitt.tte whe~"~ she wo.s o.n o.d~Ait. She c.hose to cJ.o so .... 1'10 pimp or tro..fficker foYced. ner. She ChOlrgec( over $ 200 CAn l1o1Ar. Tke mo..,ey she eo.,-..,eo( wo.s hen Cl\lone -- si-te dicA,·t J,.,~ve to split it with o.nyo11e . After ~ few y~o.rs~ whe.., she d.ecic.lecJ. she wo.nted to qlAit prostittAtiol'l> 11oboc.Ay forced ~er to co..,tir1LAE' to work -- the detisiot"' Wc;\S hers o. l oYIE' to mo.ke. I do.,' t S€€' now o.nyone (01Aio( look o.t tnose fo..c.ts o...,d conc. l""c;(e thC\t her co..,ditioYl WC\S siwtilo.r- to slcwery oy tn01t sl1e w01s e:xploiteo(. Sl-1e w'-'S o....,o( is o. fr-ee perso.,, mo.kin9 c.hoic.es t£1011" rY~otkE' se11se to 1-ler.

APPENDIX 15 THE COMMERCIALIZATION OF THE SACRED

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Sex. i:s so.cred.. It s noiA ldn't be com mere io.li zed.

If commenio.lizo.tioY'l of the SC
e r t e II

c. hLAHhes to stop po.ssing the coll€ctiot1 pl~te o.ncA bookstores to s top selliVI9 tl-te Bible . Speo.kin9 of bookstores.. I love reo.cAin.9 -- I see tl-te trai"'SifYiiSSion of know/ed.ge ~no( wisclow, in print ~s o. sa.creo( ().ctivity. )'...., 9lo.d. thCAt we've COI'Yimer-c.i«li'l.e~ the prod~A.c.tion Olno( cliS'tl'"ib~.AtioV\ of books Oll'l& m«~e them eo.sy to etcq_~.~ire. It's beco.I.A.se I cl o see: sex a.s so.c.reo( etnd potentio.lly spirit'-IOll tho.t I be I i eve i VI co wtme rc iod i l. in 9 it O.l"'d. VYIO\ ki ""'9 this potent i 01 lly holy expe,-ieV~c.e more eo.si(y G\V01ilo.ble to o.ll. CommerciCAii'ZOitiovr is not sowtethi.-tg diSgi.A.stitotg tha.t contG\V"'ina.tes. It's jCASt o. w«y of m01kiY19 9oocls o.nol services €0\Sily 0\Vo.ilo.ble,. whether those goods o..,o( se,-vices o.re reli9ioCAs_, sexv.o.l> or botl, a.t ti-le SO\me tiVV~e.

APPENDIX t6 NEVADA The profeHion is !egad o.ne'i regCAID~teo( i lf'l Nevo.d.01 . Sexworkers o.re licenced Q...,o( howe to work ;., brothels. My hostil:ty to licenciY~9 c:.u"d re9t..~lo:ti..,9 prostitCAtio.., <3rew 5trolf'l9er while I reQ.c/.. Ale )Co. AI bert's BROTHEL~ MUSTANG RANCH AND ITS WOMEN. S&.,e did her reseoe.rc.lo1 in Nev01d0\ bo.c.k in 'the 1990.s~ blAt I dot..~bt tJ.,o.t tJ..,e ki.,cJ of control the stO\te's prostitt.ttes howe 'to ptAt' t..~p with iis mt..cch oliffe.re..,t .-tow. The mobility of the sex- workers Q.t the MlAsta.ng Ro.nc~ WC\S limi ted. --for the t\mOtAI'It of time t'-tey were 011 sci-1eolt..de ( which cot..~lc;;( be d.Oly5 or weeks) they h01d to s leep 0\t the brothel. They were not o.llowecA. to 90 home o.t the e..,o( of a. shift. (Albert~ p. Lts.) They ofte.., wo~Aidn't see their children for weeks o.t o. tin-1e. (Albert,

P· 't5.) Brothel l'Vlt\1'1CA.9ement o.nd lo.w e..,fo,-c.emet1t [ ... ] try to limit prostit~Ates ' conto.ct with loco.( comi'1'1CAnities. M1A.sto.Y'l9 RCi\.nch,. for exo...,..,ple, req_<.cired. 01 n.-tr1ner> or escort~ to o.ccomp"'r'lY prostitlAte5 on errc.tnch to town o.t the wome..,·s ow., eX'pense -$ 5-.$ 10 per erra.YI~ or stop. Albert, pp. 't6~ Ltr. ]

r

EG\cn bedroo,...,. wo.s equipped witJ.t (). nid.delf'l intercom systei'YI tho.t cashiers tAseot to eQ.vesdrop on wcmen·s vt e:9 oti~tioV1S [. Albert> p. Lt1. ]

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[M]~11~9erv~ent condt.A.c:t~c( seQrc.J..,es [. AI bert, p. 't1.]

\M1 C\ YlYI OIAn<:

e ol

1'00""'1

Whe., o.. womo..Y'I refused C\ cu-.tomer willi..,, to p~y tl-te ho""se miYiimtAP"Yl_, YY1CAY1o..3eme..,t expec.teG{ o.. reo...soY'IOlble ex CIAH ( e.g._, tl-1~t he refc.Aseo( to wec:v· 01. co..,c(om ). WJ,ile [ o. prostitCAte] woCAic.l. 11egoti0lte \.,er ow.., ae~ls ~.,~ cotAio( ro...ise 1-1er prices to c(eter 1Anappe01.liY19 elAstomers, mcv10l9e,...,ent wot..tiG{ ,..o.i s e its eye brows if sne ~;c:( this too ofteYI. [Albert~ p. 't9.] Openly re~clir'lg "' book while w~iting for clie...,ts to show lAP w"'s not C41fowed. (Albert_, p. 150.) lelephoVIe t..tse was restricteo(. ( Albert_, p.1B.)* Whet-1 I re~cA. Albert'.s book I wo...s o..lreo...c(y seei..,9 " Den i s e ·~ a.., d I en e G( tA p know i .., 9 q tA i t e o. b ; t ~ b o tAt her life. I cotAic.l.n't help blAt co...,trast "De..,ise's" freedom witl1 the restrictEd. lives of the Nevo.c.I.O\ sex-workers. I dor1't wo..nt to reveo..l wl-tether or 11ot "Denise" ho.s kiols, b~-tt !.f she does, she wotA.Id howe been o..ble to live with theWI dtA.rin9 the yeo..rs si1e worked "'s C\ prostit~Ate. At the enol of +11e do.y she got to s leep in her ow.., bee( ( or wl1o..tever ot~er beoL sne chose to sleep in). She hC\of the mobility of "' resCA iccr (C\nccc;(io..n citizen -- she Q.ic(n't n€ect ~ "riAnner'' to o.c(ornp""'Y ner- wl-len she went shoppit'19> or we"nt to ~ movie, or whcctever-. Her nesotio..tions witt., her clients we,-e. their b~o~sivtess o..lo11e -- no o11e wccs listeY~ivt9 in o.., then-,. No one co..,~r.Ac.tecf. ~-tnC\nVJotAYICe~ seo.rc.hes of her home. She co~ lot ( ccnof o(;of) r-ef~Ase to see clieVJtS ;f she wo.nte~ to. She dic:lt1't need to explccin or justify her reo.sons "to I''YHH101.9ernent --there LVo.s no mo.no..g€WI€nt. Betweel"l c.li ent!. she coCA/o( reo.o( o.. book . No o11e restric.tecl her C\ccess to the telepho11e. (o..,o(itio..,s o..t other Nevc.cofcc brothels could be even worse H101.t1 the o1-1es o.t the MtA.Stctng:

o

For' exGt,..,ple,. the owr1e" of cc. brothel in sov.ther.., Nevo..c!o. o..lle9edly c.o11fiscated woW'Ien's peno..,ccl SlApplies ( co..,Joi'YI s.. I~AbriCQYit!>~ ny Ions) o..nd required the,.,., to replArc.ho..se everythin9 c::tirec.tly fro,...., the brothel C\t infl01tec( prices> like shccre croppet"s or Wli..,eo bLAying f,-o...., the compo.ny store. A.,d. "his '' working 9irls hOle;{ to blAy their meods 0. lo.. co.rte f,..o...,., the brothel kitchen> where slccbs of toW~o..to cost $ 2> cc box of froz:e.., vegeto.bles $ 5, a not o. J.1o.,.., bv.1'".9€r- $ 1 [ ...]. "The own e..- took " o..,e prostit"'te c p. 6Z .] Those who tou"t -tne o.dvanta9es of the Nevo..da lice..,ci.,9

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APPENDIX t7 DRUGS It

rn01.y be t(!Jle th01t some pros titv.tes choose the p,-ofessio..,, b v. t wh o.t 01bov.t pr"osti'tu.tes who o.re 01.ddi c.ted. to c.trtAgS ?

Ad.d.i c. t ioYI is " dise"se. - - these WOW~en don 't c. hoos e to be. Cldcl i c:ted, C\nc;( prostitlAtion is prob~bly the only wo.y they

They'r'"e vtot

cnooSil"'<;:s to be sex-worke.--s,. tl-!ey're fo.--cecl by cirCt..trYlStG\nce to hcwe sex for MOI'ley.

1-l"ve of rCAi sing €110l.A<3h W10I"'€ y to blAy drv.ss .

Is adcl.ic.tio.., o. diSeC\s e ? Psycholo9 i ~t Dr Jeffrey Sc..hOtle..Qrg!Jle S HtC\t it 's l'tOt in ~-l i s book ADDICTION IS A CHOICE. Po.tl1olo9y [ ...J rectt.cires "'"' ic;(e..,ti f i01ble odter01tion in bodily ti'>St..\e> o. ch01t19€ in -the cells of tne body> for cliseo.se ciCA.ssifico.tion. No sv.cl-1 i&entifio.ble p~tho­ losv ko.s been folA...,ol. iVI t).,e bodies of J,e0o.vy c;(,.-inkers o...,& drlA9 1.\Sers. Thic, ~lo..,e jw;tif i es the view thQt addidion is ...,ot 01. physic" I cAiseo.se. [ ... ] \he pv.t01tive d.iseo.se Cellfed o.dd.ictio.., is di019noseoC. solely by SyW~ptoi'YIS in the forn-1 of c ondt.(ct, 11ever by si9ns, thCA.t i s , by physic<:\( evid.e..,ce in the po.tient's body. [ SchCA.Ier:, p.l6. ]

I deny Htelt there is ~"'Y St.(Ch tl1in9 QS "o.cloict iot-t ", i,., the sel'lse of o. clelibero.te C\nol. con s ciot..tS co«Arse of o.ction whic.h the person /iter011!y CQnt"'oT stop oloi""9· A ctorclin9 to my view of the world> the heroil'1

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ad.aic.t ca.., stop ;..,jec.ti...,g himself witL-1 heroin> tl-we alcol-wol o.cAdict ca.., stop 1-!imself fro..., swallowi.,9 w~iskey .. an~ so forth. People are responsible for ti-leir &eliberate at"lo( cot"lsciotAS behcwior, [ Sci-lCAietS p. XV. J

Scno"er points ot.At "th~t m01ny p~ople cue able to quit 5tApposeaUy addictive drtA9S .. beAt ratl-ler thcH'I see t-his as evide...,c.e. th01t people can choose to do or not cAo these Q.rtAgs... propone..,ts of ( wh~t Schafer calls) "the 'involv.nto.ry acAd.ic.tio"'' i<:Aeolo~y" cia;...., th01t those who continue to do 'the c;.(rtAgs are the o...,es wl.,o hGwe t~e oiSeQ.Se of CH~dic tion. Notice H101t o.ctord.iY'lg to this way of thinking .. ;,.,~illi­ atA.ods d.e,.,onstrate t~eir iYlc:>.bility to mOike a c.hoic.e Sii"Y'\ply by m01.king the ''wrong" choice .. the one we wi~L-t tt-rey h~d....,'t ma but it's your body 01r1d yo~-1 snout~ ho.ve tJ.,e rigJ.,t to do wn~t yoCA w01..,t witn it ( irtdlAdi..,9 tAnhecdthy thilf"I9S) so /on'3 01.S yoCA respect the property rigi-'lts of otl-ler.s. C.YC4.Ck

APPENDIX 18 MARRIAGE weQ.ke..,s tne ;...,stitution of MG\rri019e.

prob~bly

O.oes . I d.o,.,'t 11owe o. problerY'I witl1 tho.t 0\.., evil ir1Stit~Atiol"''. I hope tho.t fewer people will see posseHive ,...,o..,o b~.At be<~~Ase right-tf"low-in-tne-prese..,t yot.A ~ to be ;.., 01 sextA01I relo.tion s hi p wltl1 thO\t persor1 • Yes, it

Sir1<.e I thirtk "'10.rf"i019€ iS

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Eve.., if W~CHri01ge 01t1ot fidelity ciisG\ppeoo.r fro,.,., h~A,.,.,Oin soc.iety, people wo~AI~ still woo.,.,t to noo.ve (.~ilcArert, an~ most poH·e,.,ts wo~Aiol love their cl-tilctre,> jCA St G\S t'VlOSt p01rE.'I"ltS do now. If mo.rrio.ge colloo.pses> new socioo.l Oll'lol le901l str~Ac.­ t~AY"e s will arise. Perhc-Aps, it1steoo.d of 01 mcH·rio.ge co,.,troo.c.t, prospective pl).rents WOI.Aio( Si
What o bout el-l i /cAre.,

We neec( marrioo.ge bec
7

sex~Aoo.l

APPENDIX 19 TAXATION I nOive 011'1 extreme tCJt.ke •OYI TrtAdeOivc 'S foo.rY~OIAS stoo.temel"\t tn"'t "TJ.,e stoo.te has 110 plo. NO brO\nCh of 9overnt'Ylel'\t s hould be ;.., those beolrooi'Y'Is -- tho.t i rtcltA~es ti-le TO\)( Dep01rtWlel'1t. l11cot'Vle eoo.rnecA frorY~ SeXIAO\I 01 c.tivities should not be tO\xec.(. Sex is too il'ttirY~o.te> too s01crecA. -- people s'-lo~AicA t1ot h01.ve to e:xpose their beol-lives to the pryirtg eyes of t01x- collecti..,9 bureo.vcc.rO\ts.

Prosti'tiAtes

sho u l
*

ProstitJ.A.tio., is o. b
are to.xeol.

Reli9io1.AS orgGirtiz~t;o.,s 9et t01.x breCikS c(espite the fo.ct th01t tl1ey 9e.,e,.o.te i>'lcome. We see tl1eir btASirtess iderttities o.s secoi'IGtG\ry to their" prim01ry so.c.red iderttities. Prost'itvction shoulo( be see., OIS primC~rily scureo( Ol"ld only secondar ily GIS 01 business. lndeeol> peri1C~f'S we shotA/d..,'t see it OIS o. b&ASil1eSS G\t 0111. Perno.ps we sJ.,oulo( see the ...,.,o.,ey ~iven to prostittAtes GIS ~ifts> not pC\yments.

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APPENDIX 20 STREETWALKING I think tho.t wl--te.., people are on privo.te property they SnotAid- be fr~e. from 90Ver.,t'YI(>nt it1terfer-ence Cine( t"'e~CAio.tio"' o.s loVJ9 as they're t"'espec.tin9 +he. property ri_shts of others. BlAt o.., P.1Ablic property ( str~ets> sideWCA.Iks> ptAblic pt:~rks> etc. ) I o(o think th01t o. 9reo.ter~e9t"'E.•e of regtAio.tion is justifieO.. For eXQ.f'nple> I see nothin·9 wrol"''9 with COWlpellins people to obey tr-o.ffic.Si3t101ls. More relevo.nt to the topic o.t h01t1d is wl-tere yotA COli'\ en~o.9e in btAsi..,ess. Obviow;ly I aon't tki01k it 's wron9 for o. btAsi..,ess-person to sell tl-ti..,gs on privo.te property ( typico.lly o. storefront either ow..,eot or renteot by the b!Asinessperson ). 8tAt selling thivt.9S on p1Ablic property is clif:fer-ent. If we let G\Ylyone set CAp S01les-st01r1d5 or to.bles on P"'"blic property7 "there WOCAld. be Ot/1 sorts of probl€1'115. For one thin9> the si~ewo.Jto woCAio( qCAiddy fill 1Ap witJ..t btAsiness people lookiVI9 to o.void the cos-t of ownin9 or re..,ti..,g storefro...,ts, o.ncA o.ll of their- to.bles ClncA sto.nols wotAic( 9et ;.., the wo.y of pecAestrio.t1s. For G\nother-> withotAt the c.le01..-fy ol.efi..-,ea owt1ership of property t~"'t the pr-ivo.te pr-o,erty syst~W'I provides> there WotAiol be ttArf- wa.r-s. Hey! I C~lw~ys set t.cp my tCAble on this cort1er!

Sorry, po.l .' Tnis is pCAbl;c property -- yot.t don't ow..-, this spot7 o.nal I 9ot here fi,. s t toal~y.'

Tho.t so.id> I alo think tho.t people vvno hcwe o. "I'Ylo bile. ·' bw;iness t-ho.t c01.., be coYJaltActeo( on two legs> witlrl no sto.Y~ch or to.bles) shoiAio( be o.llowec( to sell goods or servic.es on the street. Tne Toronto writer Cro.d.. KiloO.ney solO. his books on the street for rYtOIVIY yeC~rS witho~.<~t inco..,veniencil'lg Q.nyo..,e. ':/< To me> these 01re t-1-te relevo.V"'t q:CAestio..-,s re9o.ra(in9 streetwo.lkers ~ CD "ShoiA id we let- pros titl..(tes wodk or sto.no( ot1 sic(ewo.lks ?" W.ell> of cotAY"Se -- everyone who's not" il'l jo.il or IAno(er holA s e ~..-rest shol..(/o( be 01llowecl to t.HE? sio(e wo.l k s .

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APPENDICES @ "ShotA id ta.,ey be "!lowed to tQI. Ik to peop le?" Well> of cot.o'"Se -- it's a Sin-tp le mo.ttey of free speed.,, s houlo(...,·t howe the right to verbaHy 1-,G\rQI.SS people .

Being asked if I wa.,t o. blow -job foy twenty bLAcks is not hG\t'c.tSSVVlel"ff-1 it's just a q_LAestio n . If ~ prostitt,tf e wor1'-t to.ke no for G\n G\11SwerC4nc:A follow s me dow.., t n e street.. r'epeo.t ed ly offe ring I-ter- servic(S 1

tl-r"'t's 11c.tr-&\s~-

prolole,.,.,. Ht<~t 's

str-eet solicito.Tio.,

the pr-ice of I ivi119

in ~ free soc.-rety. Yo "' hc:we to be tolerant of othermor-e people o.s lo..-,s as tJ.,ey·re visi ble. not h "rYYI ir19 o.r1yo...,e a no( c~~re 9oiY1S o.boCAt their btASiness in " reo.sol'tetb ly c.ivil G\VlcA polite way. 1.-, tne po.st/ the sight of tw o rnen h o ldin.9 h"no(s or- kissir1g in p«Ablic woulc:i h"ve bee.., V\psettir19 to mc.tny people . Now th"t 9"Y r"ight~ ~re wic;{ely "ccepted> homophobes ho.ve to toler01te seeit19 9"'Y beho.viotAr in p«Ablic. . HoW'Iof'hobes o(o.-7t like it~ b tAt that's the pYice o f livin9 ;.., o. f,-ee society, wil l mo.ke prost ;tu tion

APPENDIX 21 MALE PROSTITUTION AYiti - pr-oHitutioni!>ts are foc.useol o., why women snotAic:ln' t be prostit«Ates, They i9no..-e the existence of m~le prostit«Ates l~r"9ely bec"~Ase o.r1ti-prostitt.Atio11 argi.A· rne .... ts WOIAiol sou ....,c:L Yiolict,t(OtAS' ;f Olpplieol to mel1. As G\ CI.AittAr"e we see me..., "s bei"'S ;.., co ntYo l of their sexu01 /it y> so we 01.cc.ept th"t me"' coo.n choose sex-work. We'r e not worrie~ thoo.t o. moo.11 is p«Attin9 hiYY1self i.-, o. pote11ti01.lly beco.~Ase we accept th e>.t me.., do thoo.t, A...,ti • pro-.t i tc.ctior"'i s t s hG\ve ~ poo.tern~l i stic o.ttittAde

risky sitiAO\tio..,

towoo.ra< wome.-,.

APPENDIX 22 LICENCING ANJ> WORKING AT HOME I've c;..lreo.cly ,.,ac:ie poi.,ts si rn i laY to the following o 111 es -Glpolo 9 i z e for sound i "'.9 re petitiO lAS> b .... t I WG\nt to e...,.,phOISioze why it's wYong to co11Str01il"' "pr"ostit«Ate's c'-toice~.

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APPENDICES If w~ rY~"'ke it mau-'lo(o.tory for prostih.cte s to J.tawe lic: er1ces to work.> 1-1ot Ct./1 of t&.t.en"' will bother- to O.C<:ti.Aire tl-1ose lice..,ces. If sometnil19 bo.d no.ppei1S TO c::\1'1 CA1'1licel'lc.ec:l Se>c-wor-ker ( like_, if G\ joi-tn be"'tS l-\ii'YI-Or-1-Jer) ne-orSI-1e wiff be less likely to co.ll the police becet~..tse he - or~ She won 't WQnt to o.c:lm i t to work i rrs witl-to~..tt 01. li.ce11ce . Sex-worker-s shotAio( c::\ISo howe the ri9ht to work ov.t of tl-teir 1-lomes foy tl-te SG\me r-eo.son . It's prob01bly so.fer forprostitc.Ates to work coiiE'c.tively it1 brothels~ b"-!T if we Wt"'ke tho.t tl-te only le901l optiot1, the"e ~~ be se>c-~.Vorkers who choose to work OI.At of their homes,. 01.-tot if the·y 9et beCAt v.p> 'they'll be less likely to ' "'" the cops beco.~..t s e they wo.-t't wo.nt to report tno.t they 're worki.-19 rlle90\lly o.t

home . I wo..,t every prostitt.Ate wl-ro is tl-te victim of 01 crime to be o.b/e to co.ll the police witl-rotAt fec::\ri119 the>.t

there mi9nt be Y1e901tive co1'1Se'f.tAel1ce s for .-.ot hc:wi""9 tl,e rig I-tt po.per-work or for wor kil'19 in the " wro..,9" plc::\ce _

APPENDIX Z3 SETH'S NOTES As I rnentio..,eGI. i n tne o.fter-wor~ ,. Seth l101s writte.., notes re9o.rc;.(in9 soVYle of the He,es 1-te's i11. 1 mCAy nowe believec:( C.het wo.s repres sin9 the expected emotiot1S b01ck then ,. b~.<~t l'YIY opinio"" n01s 01ltered. over the yeo.r s. I ofteYl jokingly refer to Chet o.s "the robot". In posin9 01 q v. est ion to ~ i YY1 I m i 9 h t q_tA i p,. '' Pe r-1-1 a p s I shotAio4. o.sk 0\ person who 1-to.s G\CttAo.l htA..,..,O\n ei'Yiotiol'ls i11steo.cl. " The tr~Ath is, Chester seems to ho.ve o. v ery liVYlited ewtotiono.l r"G4nge corY~p­ c:AreGA to most" people . There does seer'Yl to be Sot'Y'Iethins wro..,g with hir'l'l . He' s defiYlitely 01n oc;{c.(bo.ll. Th01t saic.(, he is o.lso the kindest, gentle st O.l'lc:l VYlO~t c:;(eeply thotAghtftAI ocAdbo. ,tl know. Ped1c::\PS he is I'YiiSSin~ SOYYlethiV19 in nis ei"YYotioYlo.l mo.ket.Ap, perho.ps not. Who co.n so.y who.t is n"'tCAr-011 c::\t1d wl-tO\t is leo.rnecl bel-t
PANELS I0:3, 't

81:5- 88 ; 6

Chet's pretty no.rc.( on the ideo. of romc..ntic rel01tionsnips . I 019ree with him th01t for the VYlOSt po.r-t they 01re c;(;ffi c tAit to m01int01in. Look o.rou11c:A tne CtAit~..<~re o.11c;( yo(..( wilf see th01t people ho.ve 01 hc::\rot time finO. i 119 I"Yleo.ni,..,9ftAI 0111ol positive Jo..,g terrY~ romCAI'ltic rel01tio1'1SI-tips . Th"'t so.ic.( , I 'm

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not so cynicod QS he. Chet_, I StAspe c t, t-hinks it is esse.,..tiQIIy ii'V'Ipossible . WI-Jile tne o~ols G\re cel"'fCAi.,ly o.g at ins t vvt o s t co I.A. pIes> the r e cue pIe t'\ t y of ex a..., pIe s of lo.,9 ICA.stin9 sood pQirings. If yotA G\Sk t'VIe~ it is more o. prob/erv1 of ""tAWIQI"'' no.tt.-\re thQ"1 rowu"ntic. love. People jtASt co.., 't get o.lon9 with eo.cl-, other ;., ge.,er"l. Why sl-totAiol romQnce or mcu-rio.f3e be o.ny c.{ifferent ? For thG\t mo.tter> most people CCl.n ' t rno.int01in lo..,g lo.sti119 friendships either. C""et Qnc( I ~o.ve ho.shed this o
....--'-----. IZ't ~ s

I don't reco./1 the specific excl-1o.n9e, bLA.t I probo.bly dirJ vvto.ke this remo.d'( - - I Saty
l'rYI not in this scene, blAt I co..., ' t resist notil"''9 tho.t the ioleo. of Cl-lester Brown o..,o( Joe Mo.tt O.isct..ess ir1..9 t,_,e. nOit a.-.~ he's cornW~itte~ to it. No cJ.otAbt o..botAt t,_,o.t. BlAt often nis opiniol'l is 0. little too ~ogmo.tic for my tatstes - "'little too tieoC. to the libertcu- i G\t1 po.rty-/ine atboc..tt the SG\nc.tity of property ri9hts . lt ·.s G\ bit of o. broken rE~con,( listenit1'3 to tl-tese G\Y9lA.I'Vle.,ts over o...-. o( over Ot~O.if't. I 9otto. so.y, it tires me otA t . I reo.lly cotAict.,'t 9i v e o.. sl-lit o.boVlt most of these isstAes . ( ' rYl btASY I'Vlopil"''g o.bout the po.st,. folks - - I olo .,·t n "'ve tiW~e to reo.o( every new book o.., the ethics of prostif~.Atiot'l. (Vlt some s lo.ck if I co...,e off

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looki"'9 ill·i11for""'ed here! A"'d yes > b(). ckect into~ r~etor ic ~l co rner I likely c;(i~ v.tter- tho.t SttApic;( ,_...._._ line CAboVtt SW'Ioki1'1.9.

_____

W'-'o

kvtow~

? Mo.ybe he's right.

nQS bee.., G\ f(>O.rl"lil"'g C~Arve for me. Wle to c.o.,sider rn01ny I.M'ICOI"'ve"'tio~o.\

KY1owing (net He 's torc.E.>o(

positions I woulc;( not hc:we given ml.Ac:J, thot-«glf'1t to otherwise. Disp""ti119 issv.es with hii'Yl ho.s n e I p e d t'Y1 e to t hi"' k ...,., ore c: r it; ( o.ll y. It 's bee., gooo( for me. It's to.v.sJ,t VY\E.> to ct(;(estio., Yf'lY ow11 OlHIA..,.,ptions . I SIASpect thG\t if I J.o.o.ol oo. better memory I wov.lot be e,.y,\c>arrasseol by the many kn~e- jerk_. reG\ctionary cowp•1o1en ts I 1-to.ve uno(o"' btecA. Iy mG\cie to hi..,., over ti-te yeo.rs re9etrc{ing love o.nol prostit~Atio..,. The tr-uth is., if I hAo( 0\ problem with Chet 's ;..,volve.,.,e..,t witJ, prost i ttAtes ;, the pG\st I hoo.ve certai..,(y gotte.-, over it. Pr-ostitut-ion mo.y .,o't work for every mo...,_. btAt it works for J,;.....,, The fu..,...,y tl--lit19 Abowt Chester i~ tha~t OtAt of all the .....,en I k ..... ow 1-te's q_uite possibly the o11e I t-hi..,k wo~Aic:A mG\ke the I'Y10 St co..,siofer~te boyfrie..,o( or hv.sbGu-,o( for (;{ wol'r1C41"1 . ., ~nc::A yet he is the ot'le who pic..k~o( +he who..-in~. It 's 01 ft-«..,..,y world.

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pLAblishers wo.nte~ this book to be co.llec;( like the title - - tl-1ere's an irvtplied G!olAble - meGH1i..,g . It S1A3CJ€Sts tho.t not only o...v~ I po.yins for se>t b~.tt l '..v~ o.lso po.ying for being o. joht't it'l so..,..,e ..,on- .....,oneto.ry wo.y. Mo...,y wolAicl thi~k th01t there's o.n e.,...,otioi"'Clll cost -- 'tho.t johns o.re so.d o...,~ lo..,ely. There 's o. pote..,tiG\1 heClllth cost if Of"'e co...,tro.cts o. sexCAo.lly tro....,s"""ittec;( diseo.se . There's o. lego.l cost if one is o. r r e st e d . I f on e i s "o lA t e at '', t h e ..., o .., e co 1.4 Id Io s e o .., e •~ job ""~ odso SlAffer the sociO\I cost of los;...,g OYle 's fr-ie..,c.ts o.nc;( fo.mily. I ho.ven' t bee.., "po.ying for it " in O.t1Y of those WG\y.S. I'm very fG\r froW'I bei...,9 so.d or lonely, I ho.ven ' t Cc;tCAght G\n S-T-P, I no.ven 't bee11 arrested, I ho.veYl 't lost my co.reer, QYld mv friends o.nd fG\W'Iily hG\ven ''t rejected me ( o.ftJ,otA9h I s hotAI~ ou;;l.mit tho.t I still ho.ven' t tolat m y step-mom). So fOir> I've bee..., p01yin9 ;.., o.,ry -tl.,e Ol"'e se .... se . ( s;,,e this is o. r'Yle"'toir, "so fG\r " is 0111 -tho.-t's relevo.nt,) BCA.t let wte be cleo.r tha~t """Y pCAblisher.s did not force the title on W~e. I chose to 9ive in to who.t- they WG\t1ted . If" I ho.d i...,sisted , they woCAIQ( howe odlowec:A me to plAt who.tever worot s I Watntt>d on the cover. I Jove o.nc:A re s pec t Chris o.nd Peggy atnd reo.lize thOtt this is "' at;f"f'ictAft book to rno.rket.

I covER J My

PAYING FOR IT. I cion' t

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Je~lo(...(sy is nG\tCArod, bc,.(t t11oo.t doesn't meo.n th01t I"'IOt feelin9 jeG\IoiAS iS not n01t1Arod. It's probo.bly better to fr01wte the rv101tter ;..., r-el01tio"' to rYJe>.t&Arity. It's ii'Yll't'lG\tiAre to be jeC~~Ioc,.(s,.. it 's mOit&Are to not- feel jeo.lov.s. AlthotA~h I c01n't re01lly clefencl tl--te positiol"1 thCAt jeo.lot..esy iS leo.r..,ec::A.-1 I do thil"1k oLAr c&AitLAre el"1co&Ar0.9eS the reG\ctio..,. An ex01.mple of G\ cLAitLAre tho.t oiS(OIAr"0.9eS i t is the Moso C&AittAre of Hii'Y'ICAIOI.YOII"'l CYiinCA. [..., Coli HLAO.'S book G\botAt the .Moso (A SOCI€iY WITHOLAT FATHERS OR HUSBANDS)., he reports G\ converso.tiot'l 1-,e ho.d witJ., two yol..\n9 men~ PANEl. 9 : 5

['' W)e c::A.o.., ' t know how to be jeo.lotAS. '' " He ·s r i 9 h t ! '' 1-, is f r i e n ol in t e r j e c t e c:C A ..., ~ to ex:ple>.in himsE.>If he ou::i~eo( ~ ''Girls belong to everyone. Whoever wo.nts CG\n visit them. Thel'e is l-1othit19 to be. jeG\IoLAS e>.boLAt." [ Hc,.(G\> p. 213 . ] Fror'Yl YG\n9 Er-c.he Non·ntA' S memoir G\botAt C\S 01 Moso girl (LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):

~rowil"l9

lAp

AIHtoLA~h we feel SlAc.'-1 pG\SSiorts 1 we rYILASt ~'epre~s jeo.loLAsy CA.-..cA. envy [ .... ] In fYioso eyes-1 ..,o one is n1ore ri~ic.IAIOLAS th01l"l G\ jeG\IoLAs lover [ . .. , N)obody i111 Moso (OlAntry todCAy co.n rec01ll [ ... ] 01 trtAiy u9ly fi9l1t between [ ... ]jilted lovers. [Yo.ng , p. 69.] H~vin9 broc..(gV!f" '-'P the StAbjec.t7 I shoc.Aicl explc:\ill"' tl-'le>.r Moso 5exu01l ptutners c:Aon''t t.ASLAe>.lly live to,9etnef'. At ..,;9ht t,..e men go visit tl,eir- girlfrie,ds ( ""ho live w'itJ, 'their I'YIOtner.S ). 1"1 tne mOrl"lirtg, tJ..re I'Yien rettArn horne. ( The men o.lso live with their mothers.) Ac,orc:Air19 to Christine M01thietA ( who c.o-wrote LEAVING MOTHER LAKE):

[T]hey howe diSCOII'decl mo.rri~~e. [ ...] Tl-le Moso CAc(vocc..te [their J mo.terno.l WC\y of life G\S t&.,e be~t possible 7 o.nd the most likely to foster h"' ppiness 01n 0. hC\ rmony. Vis i tir19 rel01tioll"' ship S-1 they s01y, keep rele>.tiot1s betweeY'I ..,.,en 01r1c:f women ptAre o.ncl joyf«AI-1 o.ncl people who live ;.., l~rge m01terno.l 11oLAses c(o not fi9ht like mo.rriect people c(o. We CC\n trlAst th01t they o.re spe01kil"l9 fro..., e.xperie..,ce, beCGllAse mor1y Moso noo.ve tried I'YI01rri01<,3e.1 lAnder preSSlAre frorYl the Comvn&A..,iSt Ot.lAthorities, 011110. most goo.ve I.Ap. ( Y01.n9.> p. zao. 1 For those of yoLA ~~Vho o.re interested in leo.rni1119 oo.botAt this C~AitCAre> the more ree>.ci01ble of the two

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NOTES

above-me.-,tlonecl books is LEAVING MOTHER LAt-<€. it'.s more th~l"' reao(able -- I fou...,o( it re~lly

ActtA~IIy>

ii"'VOIV~t-19.

jta:s- 23 = 3

I

we wer-e G\ttel"'o'.ir'lg -the bi,g SeA.., Oieqo COI'Ylic - book (011Ventiol"'. I ~on't oepic.t then'\> bt.At also sharin9 tne hotel room witl-t u.s were fellow cartool1ists Joe Sacco> Ac;(riO\n Tomine> ~nc( Chris Oliveros . ( Cl·,-is is also one of the publishers of this book.) I c(on't thi..,k there were more thG\..., two beds in the rOOVYI. ( I don't r-e.....,err~ber ~A.~ho slept with whowt.)

I '20: 3 I I

B~99ett

tl-link Ms WO\S charging $50 for tnose Si9nec:l poiO\roids> bv.t I'm not 100 percer1t

cert~i~.

12s=2-26='t

I s~"~
p.6o.

Escort pr"int ~ds ;.., Toro11to in 1999 di&..,'t he>.ve pi-lotos. SoWle OYl-line 0\o(S pr"obably d.i&? b~.tt I wasn't o.ware of tneir e>c i ste..,ce yet. Wl1e11 I clio( o(isc.over them ~ short while later"~ they werel'l't co..,vel'lient, It cou.l& take five VY~inv.tes or more for o11e photo to ~ppeo..r> 0\Y~d the c.on1pv.ter wo~Aiaf ofte..-. crash as it str~Agg/ed. to plAt the iVYJase tosether. It w~s G\ few year$ befot"e br-owsin9 on·line escort o.ds becamQ eG\sy.

l 26 : 6 I

} 30 : 6

I

I've never heo..rcA of the police c.J.oi..,9 anyti-1il'l<3 like this. My p~r~..,oic:t is o.-, d is pfoty l,t-re.

Iolder j"th01..., )'.., c.er't~inly cotpCAble of fi.,di..-..9 28 c:tttr01ctive . ( Witl-lou.t 31 : 6

worYter'l who o.r-e ner e> "De11 i se" is severCAI year-.s beyo..,a( 28.) My thinki.-,9 here WG\S 'thG\1'.> si..,ce I cou.lo(.,'t see photos of the prostitCAtes 7 ...,>' odds of findin9 someone ~ttrCActive were ·9 reater if I SO\W y0lAr19er won1en. Ther-e are wo""'e"' who are fif-ty who CAre beo.v..tif~.tl.> bv.t they' re a SWlod I pene,tG\ge of t-he ~.>Uh ole fe WlG\Ies- who- ~re-fif.ry popv.lc.'tio., -- there ~r-e "'lore 90o~- looki..,9 wo..,e.., ;..., the fe W~od es - "'->ho- are- twe..,ty popvtfa tiol'l. ~ivin9

l 3 't' 8 I I o.polo9ize 'to O.r'lyo.-,e nOIY'Ylea( St-eve Mc.Do~.tgoo.l. 35 5 I No, they weren't WC\tc.i-1iV19 me. Johr1s will I0\ppc:He.,t(y son-1etimes m01ke Olppointrne..,ts 01ncA ll"'ever ; 4-.>

snow

u.p, Prostitt.Ates who work. il"''c~lf WOII"'t to 9ive their" loc~tio.., to G\S few people o.s possible --they only w~nt to give the o.olc:lress to 9v.ys tNho ~re reG\IIy «_30il'1<3 to show u.p . If 0\ jol-tn WQS co.llin9 from

261

NOTES ~ p~y-pnone tl-lCAt wo.s close to the incodl) i t inc.reo.seo( the odc;{s tno.t he wotAic( o.cttACAIIy o.rrive Since o.t le~st he wo.s in tne nei9nborhooc.l. (This prO\ctic.e wo.s commo.., o.t t-he tii'Yle. I wove/c.( g~Aess t-hC\T johns o.re now expecteo( to lASe their ce 1/- phones. )

breaking Do.n s~vo.9e's rtAle here~ "let- her leo.&''. E.vel"t thow3h I &i~n't WOI.nt ~ mo.ss~13e > I s~oiAIC'A h01ve let "Co.rlo." <3ive me one. Th01t WOIS probo.bly '-ter w01y of eoo.sing ii'1TO physico.! intim01<:y with o.s little o.wkwo.ro(ness o.s possible.

I 'f'f:lt I I'm

I 't't: 5 I Yes, tho.t's wh01t I re01lly s01io(, I 7 : 6 - 8 J Tippin9: I ert&e& "'P tAStAo./ly ~ivin9 't

o. $30 tip

when l WG\S n01ppy with " prostit"'te's service. ("Denise" tells me tho.t I"YlOiny jonns a>cln't tip her, bi.At those who ciic.t typiccdly 901ve $ 10 or $ 20 . It ~o.y seeW'I like o.n insiCj· l"'ific01nt G\mo"'nt, blAt she G\pprecio.te~ eve.., the $ 10

tips.) .BecG\\..\Se indepe.-,c;tent sex-workers 9et to keep 0111 of the money,. wni/e escorts-who-work- for-0111-0.9ency ho.ve to 9ive "o.nywhere from 35 -to 50 per cent'' of the fee to the G\9ency ( Me lo.ren, p. 52 ), Sol'Yle johnS no.ve mo.~e the o.r9'-'I'Yient tno.t o.9e..,cy-escorts s~oi.A/c;( be tipped.) blAt 1"\otind~pendents . This reo.so..,in3 i9nores the fo.t.t t~o.t inolepe..,c;Ae..,ts no.ve expe..,ses thOit O. incAepenoCe..,ts mo.y or mo.y not rno.ke more money.. btAt tippin9 sho1.AioCt1't be ~botAt tr"yin9 to eqt.co.lize thi,gs betwee.., olifferent sorts of sex-workers -- it's o. 9estl.o(re tho.t lets CA..., ;..,divioC~o.l prostitt..tte know tlo,o.t yot.c enjoyea tne tiWle yot.c spe..,t- to9ether. I fi9t..tr-eo( tho."t YY\ost reo.ders wot.cloC ~AnoCer­ StG\ncA., ~t leo.st ;,_, o. 9ener01l wo.y, wha~t I YY~eo.nt by ''the b~;~rden" here_, bLAt Sook-Yin ho.s toto( rY~e tho.tshe's pt.cz.z.led by these po.t1els, o.nc.( since there's no reo.son to be coy or rl'lysterioc...s) I'll explo.in. Every time I so.w o.n o.ttrCA.ctive womo.n,. I wo.nteGI. to wo.lk lAp to 1-ler o.nc;A try to initio.te some sort of interCA.ction. I V.SlAo.lly l~cked tne confiolence to do so.

jltB
l

Z6Z

NOTES

No I

shov.l~n't.

she woc.Afcln't w~nt me botherin9 her.

Tho$e f'rectt.tent inner ba.'ttles le~ to "' lot of tension. I ro.rely o.cted~ I.Vhic.h a.~ded to the bt.o~rden beca.~.tse lo con~erY1., rvlV.Self for fo.ilin~ to do o.nythin9 G\nc.( for missing pote.,tiG\1 oppor-t~A.,ities. F~.trther addin9 to the b~.trcAen WO\S the fo.ct H1o.t sometimes o.+trc:H.tive women (often complete stn:"nger.s) wotAict flirt with I"Yle or try eve., Ynore direct me~ns to 9et my ~ttentioY'I. TJ.,en~ w~s the yoLAng woman w'-lo yelled o.t me on t .., e s t r e e t > " Yo I.A • r e c. I.A t e ! '' G\ n ~ t h e ,., n ; ~ b e h ; n ~ h e r friend, G\nd the o...,e who ~sked .-ne in G\ record. store wl-lat WIY fO\vorite bCAnol WG\S_, G\..,ot tne o..,e ;.., the SlAbway wl.-to wa..,te~ to k11ow ~bo~.tt the book I WG\5 reo.di119 -- I coiAI~ 9ive mO\ny .-nore exG\mpfes. Tl-tOtt sort of tning h<:Appe11ed to me q_t-tite often wheY~ I wo.s yotAnger. BecG\I.ASe I W().S socio.lly G\wkw<:Arc.t I 1..\~IA~IIy Sc.id the wrong thiY19 ( or 110thiY19 G\t ().lr ) G\nd n o t h i ..., g o f s ; C3 .., ; f i c"' .., c e w o "' f o( h o. p p e .., . I 'cl. co .., de W) ,., Mysel-f for blowi..,9 ().!( those opportv...,ities> ~,o( I obsesseo( G\bov.t the~. l wo.sn't even o.wo.re th~t 0\ll of tho.t felt like G\ bv.ro c.not I wo.sn't worrying ~boc..tt whether or not to tG\Ik to Ql'ly of the be~v.tiftAI wome.., wo.lki..,9 by me on tne si~ewO\Ik. lnsteG\d I wc.s lookin;, for~No.rot to G\ f~.ttv.re of seYtAG\1 SO\tisf01.c.tion.

Z63

NOTES And, c:\S I wrote: Tne bCA.rden hc:\S never retc..u'nec:4.

Iprint St:zJ TJ.tere eHort

G\re two weekly newsp01per.s in Toro11to that NOW C\nd EYE. AlthotAgh I mention oYlly NOW in the comic-strip, I o.lso regt-tlo.r/y perLAsec( the o.ds ;,... EYE. ~()(s ..

I sz~z J Joe

WOCA.I()( like me to note t~o.t.. while he is cheC(p> tl-lo.t's not why ne isl"''t C\ john. He WOCAI(i(n't po.y for sex eve"' if he wo.s ric.h, becC\t-tse .. despite his repCAtOition, he's very romo.n'ti<. Whic.h is trCAe -- Wty portr01yC\I of Joe d-oesn't properly convey his ror:t'!Oint"i£. 5 ic;(e.

55 : 6 - 8 I My Iw01y looks

bed.roorn l ooks differe"'t here tho.n the Ch01pter 1. ThC\t 's beco.CA.se it ~ ~ifferent. 1., the f01ll of 1998, Sook-Yin o.nc( I t'Yioveo{ froWl O.t'l o.po.rtment to 0. SWlC\11 YlO\ASe Htc),t she bOIA.9ht. it-

[ 65 :7

i"'

I

Jt-tst to W'lake it c.lear - -si-te wo.s tip .. not the fee foy ti-le 1-,o.lf-hotAr.

I 6~ 1 - 16 : 8, B I : 1 - 8't: 3

ref~.ASi1'19

the

= J W o. s "An 9 e I in o... C\ sex - .s I 01 v e ? S he worked in o.n incG\11 brothel --this is -the preferreot workivts venCAe for sex-SIC\vers becC\CASe it 9ives therv1 the most co,.,tro f over the sex-slo.ves. ( Perri..,,.. pp. LtS .. 't 6. ) "A..., 9 e I;,.., o.'s " he sit 01 t ion c:\ boCA t 9 e tt; n 9 (A p w n e n I cl-lose her ( 13 =1- 1't~6) is StA9c;sestive --she wo.s C\ctin~ the wC\y o...,e wo~.A icl expect "' sex - s/C\ve to o.ct : rei«A
Z64

NOTES insi~e. Yet tl-u:\t w~s..,·t w..,~t noq>pe..,ed.. The first time I w~s there> piOiin-et..,c(-c("'mpy "Ti1101." Ol.t'1Swerec( the door_. 01.nc-J tne secon~ time it WG\S ':An9elin01. li ''> who WG\S fiCAt - ot..tt" u9ly. lt5 n01rd to be SlAr"e betsed o..-, only two experieYices .. btA't it looks like the piCAce. w01.s bein9 rtA.n by someo"'le with 01.., e9c::d i t01ri01n bent - -they were letti"'l9 t'-1e IA.r1G\ttractive women h01.ve C\n ectt.u~l snot c:t.t" 9etti"'l9 c.f;e..,ts. Act'-'t"AIIy_. for-.9e't the who - 9ot-to 01.nswer-t,...,e-ofoor-- issue -- I c01n ' t im01.9i"'le th01t sexSIG\ver.s wot..t/~ hcwe bothered to kid.n01p "An9eli"'a Ir ': Sl1e WG\Sn't someone who might hcwe been G\ttrCActive G\t one point -- sV!e had c/e01rly 011 w01ys bee.., very otiffictA.It-to- look- G\t. No"'le of +his P.roves tnat ti-le place was not r"IAn by sex - sl01vers> b«At it seems tA.t"'l i kely thCAt it w01s , s i11ce whoever - r01n - the - brothel doe sn ' t s ee..,., to n01ve tnOLA~ht of t'YlOney G\ S their O"'lfy cons i cler01tion .

ls~t ; r .

2 It mCAy seem odc4 H101t I n01dY1 ' t to'lotice~ "A "'l9 e I i.., 01's '' i "'l 01 b i I i t y to s p e 01. k E "'l gl is h ct tA. r i ,., 9 o u r f i r s t session. As yotA see on p019es 14 to 16> l"nost of WlY 01. ttempt s to ted k to her were met with the t c.vo- wo ret r-eply, "It 's okCAy." I took th01.t CAS "'"' in~ic01tion H101t she d.i~"'l't w01nt to t01lk. I try to be se11sitive. to tne CtAeS tn01t e~cn sex·worker 9ives. I'll rv~o-ke Olt'l effort to st01rt 01 conveY"SG\tion .. blAt if 01 \AJOW'IGu., doesn 't seerv~ to WG\nt to chat ;> I'll sJ,.,IAt lAp. Wnile "Anselin01'' seemeol t..u-'lCoW~fortOible c;(lArin9 o\Ar first Hssion .. she WG\S very sweet 01not lov i n9 tne sec.ond time ol.espite J.,e,- obviotA.s l&.~c.k of se)C«AOII excitement. I wish l 'o\ been oa.ble to see her more.

I

/a 6 : 6

/ 1 "'sec4 ..,.,Y Ye01l n01me witJ., pr-ostitiAtes f,-oi'Y\ this point on . My 9r"o.phic. novel lOI.AIS RIEL w01.s seriodi"Z.eol in te.., 24 -p019e ''comic book" parv~phlet s befoYe it WO\S rele01sect CA.S o. book ;.,., 2003 . This w~s tne first of the pCAI"YYpi-llets -- it w01s P"'blisheol ;.., Jt.t11e 1999.

I 86 =1 I The ri9""t prontAnci01tio..., is I C)l:l- 92 :7 I "AWlCo\nOG\ spoke witn

LOO-ee ree - e.L.

G\ forei9n CA((E.'r1t. WCiiS sex- sl01ve? Wi-leYl I pno..,ed her to oa.sk if we coulol 9et togetney-, she cJ.iGL...,'t o.tAtomo.tic.~tly s01.y yes . When I s~;ot l 'o( OllreCAcly seeto'l "Anne ", ':Amanol~" m01ole I'Yle wCAit while she cons~Aited. with her work-m01te . Only CA.fter "Anne " l-10\cl SOI. icl I WOIS oko.y c:J.id tne Ol.ppointMe...,t 9et booked.. The ii"YYpression I set is tn01t sex-sl01ves 01re not G\lloweol to be th~t picky Ol.b o tA.t their cliel"'tS G\nc;( WOtAfcA.., ' t set to book their own o.ppointments. A..-ro( cAovt' t see wny se)C-SICAvers wotAicl set I-ter tAP ;.., t&.,e Sort of ivtCG\11 sittA.Oition sne WOIS in with "Anne "> who 01

sne

C>.

Z.65

NOTES wo.s not tro.ffic.keol.. ("Anne" SOI.id. she WOI.S born 11ere 01.nc;( cert01.inly .seen"'eol. 01....,o( sot.otnol.eol. c.orY~pletely (G\no.c:AiOI.n.) I wovcfd think 'th01.t sex-slo.ver.s wov./o( wo.n't to iso/o.te sex-slo.ves 01.w01.y froWI (OI.Vlao.ol.ic...n prostitL4tes> wl-lo ...,.,i9ht> throiAgh rE'91AI~r intero.ction> develop sympG\thy for- ti-le forei9n girls o....,o(, o.s o. restAit> might wo.t"lt to help the.-n.

\too'!- IOI•B j 1 ... ~.. e we b -s1te · .11"'1 ctv.est1o.., . ·1S terb.<:OI.. It's G\ vo.lv.o.lble so~Arce of informo.tion for joJ.11'1S wl-to live in Torovtto or visit it, These review-sites 01.re covttrover-sio.l for prostittAtes. S PR EA D MAGA Z IN£> wl-tic.h is written by sex - workers, ro.n pro 01.nd con pieces on tl-te St.otbject in tV.eir SU\W~..,..,er 2009 isst.(e. (Vol. 5,.. isst.(e 1.) Kelly of WG1.sl-tin9toYl, DC wrote : bt.otsinessperson knows there's no better o.olvertisement tl-!0\n woro( of t'Y'JOt.(th> ano( [. .. ] ti.,ese sites Co\re wovtol.erfiA/ ov.tlets for ex01.ctly tV.o.t type of free ao.d.vertisi""<3· [ ... ] I cAon't even p01.y for o.o(vertisi ,n9 Cl~'~YW~Ore> since I 9et new clients every tirv1e so...,.,eone wrires o. new review. [ P. 20.]

AVly

Nettao.lie of So.n Fr01ncisco hao.ot 01. very cl.ifferen't opi"1i01"1 :

Seeing the il"ltimc-Ate d.et01ils of my encoiA!"''ter with o. client mo.kes me feel otiS9tASting, no wtOitter now posi'tively ~e r~tes the el
She. instit«Atec.(

~

l"lo-review policy.

Withol.o\t o.llowing reviews> I fino( I ~1'1"'1 better 0\ble to offer 01. 1-\niqlAe> speciao.l €l o.nol. O.I"Y'' o.ble to re/ao.x> enjoy rnyself> o.not v.ltimo.tely offer o. better tit'Yle to both p"'rties. While it 's tr~Ae th01.t I o(o...,' t 9et o.s 1-ligl-t 01. volv.me ao.s I ~id [ whe ..... I o./lowed revie·ws I mCAch prefer spendin9 my tin'\e with ti.,e few m en who w i If to. k e o. c h o.., c e . [ P. 2 1. ]

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Botn vvot'Yle..., 1-to.d more to sao.y on the St.otbjec.t -- l'rYI jt-tst printi""9 these el SPREAD is worth chec.kin9 ov.t wl.,ether" yotA're sellin9 sex or bt.(yil"\9 it. I'm odwao.ys h01ppy to ~ee o. new issv.e . The web-site is spn?Oio(t'Ylo.go.'l.ine.or~. / The expression is ao.ct~Ao.lly '' bo.re - b01.ck blow-job''> so Joe wo.s close. He's now emb"'n·o.ssed. i-1-tao.t he d;ol.,'t 9tAess correctly, bv.t I don't thil"lk he shotAicA be. He got

1 100 ' 8

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NOTES "the ri9nt meG\1'1in9> ;f not the ex~ct wor-d.in9> anc:;( J'a( been ptAzzlin9 over the il"litiods for ~t least fifteen mintAtes witV! no S'-'< ""'hile Joe w~s 01ble to come lAp witJ, VIis SLA9qestion in'lmecli
I 101 : 8 - loB ··I I This

wCAs how I

bro~c.necJ

tne topic. of her why I thotAsV!t- s he w~s o l cJ.er. $1--je h~c;( tolol me vcH· iotAS d.eto.ils ~botAf" her life> G\nc:A sorvle of those d.et~ils seemeo< iVY~prob~ble 1..u1less s,.,e w~s older than eighteen. CAge > b~.At tnere we.-e other" reCASOt"\S

s~me

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121 : 1 - IZ9: 7 Tnis scene t-akes place in the t h ~ t " Carl~ ., ( C h a pte r Z ) w or k e & in , "J o Ie n e "

1

brothel

( C h o. p -

ter 15) ano( "Myr-c. " ( Ch
l•zs:s,

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tl9=1 " Diane " did not ~-lave ~ 1-lairy mole. She h~d. a pr-oblei'Yl tl-101t I'I'Vl 90in9 to be deli ber01tely va9LAe abo~.At ( jtASt a.s I wo.s vOI<;lLAe o.bolAt the loco.tion of the non-e>c:istent rYJole ). let's just so.y thO\t this problem w01s hinder-in
l 13 S ' 2 I

Th01t met " Denise".

w~s

the best blow-job of my I ife

~Anti I

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odwCAyS CG\rry "' book with me7 ~nO. this wc.s I wo.s r-e~clin9 C\t the time . I do reme...,..,ber t n CAt ·• S ""san/A Ie x i s " o. s k e c;( o. q_ LA est ion t h ~ t in cJ i c "'t e c.l Q kr'lowlec;.(ge of Ameri c G\n history beyoncA whG\t yo~Ar ~vero.9e person woLAid k.-,ow, b~.;tt I c;.(on't remember wh01t the q_tAe stion w01s .

lthe book JI 1'f 9 : 'f-

I

Why ci icin' t l reco9nize he·r ? She hG\d ~ different l-101ir-style . More si~nifiro.ntly, si-te wo.s ~9 cliff erently. The first time I so.w her> G\lthotA<_3h she wCA s polite, she wo.s o.lso &et01cheo< o.no( o(istQnt. The second time she WG\S wtlACn more frie..,dly. This c.hG\pter- is set in the SC\me brothel tho.t ''Do.nielle" ( Cho.pter ll.t) workeG{ in.

\lso : 6 - l5l: 2

\lss : ~to

/ 1 ·~ reG\d 01. book wV!ic.~ clo.imed tl-t01t " h01lf G\ncA is 01 cort1mon e)(pression ;.., tne worlt:A of prostit~A ­ tiol'"\. This w~ s my first o.nd lo.st o.tte....,pt to lASe the expression.

h~lf"

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) 15 9 ' 3 - 160 : 1 Sook- Yin wotAicl like rYJe to m01ke it cleG\r tl-t~t it WCAS Steve who wG\S conc:er..,ecf OlboCAt my pt'eSeV~ce j.., the hotA Se , O.ncl he OISkeo( ne r to SIA99est tl-tG\t I f i r1cA

261

NOTES o.notV.er plo. c. e to live . Steve's o. 9ooG( 91AY ou1o( I tAt1derStOit1~ why ~e wo.s unc.ornforto.ble wit 1-t the icl.eo. of howit-19 Gin e)(-boyfrie...,G( of Soo k - Yi.,'s livi"'9 witlo, the two of the YY'I,

167 : 3 ~ lt " 6weno4oly...," o....,o( I o4icA 9et bo.ck in to&Ac.lo, o. few year!. lo.ter t""ro~Agh terb.co. . (There's o. privO\te vness~~e syste....., on the site.) Sl-1e hoped l'o be willit19 to sto.rt seei.,g her o.9o.in. I wo&Aid nO\.ve bee11 eo.::ter to cJ.o so~ blAt by th~t tir-ne I wo.s seei"'9 "De...,ise" o.11ot felt coW~r-nittecA to her, So_. with soW~e ,.-esret,., I tolo "uiAI€11clolyn " tno.t I cot..tldn't see her. (Yes, I ~Asec.( the wore( "c.oW~WiittecA" there . I do feel (OI'VlrnittecA. to "DeVJise ". 8tAt feelin9 co.-.,.,.."""ittecl is o(;fferent fro""' ho.ving 01 forW~odl y sto-.tec.( CO rY~Y\'litW~eY'It or proM ise. Tho.t feel i n9 n1iglo,t c.h0\t19e with t i me ,., or it might not -- I oot"''t kl"'ow. I reco9Y'Iize tho.t emotions o.re.,'t ne cessa r-ily pet'"mo..,ent. TV.e relo.tionship I have with " De.., ise" will conti.,I.Ae for o.s lot19 o.s we both wo..,1" it to co...,tint..te. )

l

I

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ltro ·. 1 None of the inco.ll - 9'irls kissee;( me on the Ynot.Ath, most of ti-re OIAtco.ll-girls ~icL I ~on 't know why there wo.s o. c;(ifference .

1 110 : 3 I Si Ynilo.rly,.. I ne ve r 9ot the ir-npression tho.t o...,y of the >nco.ll-sirls I so.w wot.Aid ho.ve been wil/it"19 to 9ive 01 condoYY~Iess blow-job, while o.t leo.st three of the O&Atc.o.ll - 9irls wot..tl& ho.ve c;(one so if I ho.cin't stoppe~ HteW~ . (The other two were " KiHy " o.n~ "Lo.riss01.".)

me

coW~p/o.ineG( tho.t it w01.S11't cleo.r why I never SC-\w "Jenn01." C\qOiil"'. The explo.nO\.tion is in this pC\nel -- she WQS too expensive. At $ 300 ~.., holAr,., she WG\S 'ti-le most c.ostly p,..ost i tt..\te I so.w, I wo.s reo.lly ho.ppy with he..- service~ beAt I couldn't' CAfforal it 01'1 o. regtAio•.r be\Sis. It's o.lso worth t"'otins -tho.t I wc:;..s jlAst C\S ho.ppy oli.Ari"'S ...,.,Y lo.ter encot.Anters witl-1 ''lo.rissc:;.. '', "l:c;tith ,,> Qn d " De.., i se", even thow3n they o.ll c ho.rgeol leH . My best sext..to.l experie11c.es with prostit~Ates were with those foi.Ar yot..tn9 woYY'Ien . ( Tl-1e sex conti.,""'e s to be 9 r e Q t w it h '' D e n ; s e ''. )

1 113 : '2 I K..-is

\tT~ · 't

J'W~ ..,ot weo.rin9 9lo.He.s in t-l-1i.s po..,el. I bo~Asht conto.c.t-le.,ses C\ short while before seeing " kitty " ~110 be9o.., weQrin9 tl"''eVY~ when I wG\S with prostitt.Ates. I did write ~nol clrc:;..w 01 few p01.Y'Iels to show thi s,., b1.1t I editecA them otAt-.

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NOTES

Wo.s "Arlene" o. sex-slo.ve? She didl"l 't seei'V'l like one -- she w oo. s very cneerftAI o.no( o.ttentive. Also) sex - .slo.ves CAre less likely to be Set'lt on o u.tcc.lls . ,., hiS book INVISIBLE. CHAINS> Benjo.rnin Perr-in expiC4ins wny :

( Outca II e]scort services mo.y provide the woi'Yien with o. measu.re of temporary freec.Lo.,.,~ increo.s in9 the r-isk tho.r they rY~o.y flee [. Per"r-in_, pp. 45> 't6. ] Wl1i/e Perrir'l doe s 9ive o.t1 exOIWtple of o.n oLAtcOIII ;.., whid., ti-'le prostittAte wo.s o. sex- s/o.ve, she wo.s OltCompO.I"lied to tl-te john's note! roowt "by" co«Aple of bCArly m e , . " ( P. 1; 't. ) No b tA r I y m e n o. c c o ..,., p 01 n i e ol "A r I e "' e ". \ l9J:3 - I91 : 2 lin nis notes ( Appe.,cAi)(' 23 ), Seth 01\ks when~ this conver.so.ti o.., took pl~c e . The cA.i~ lo9ue ito1

this sc eYle is o.ctu~lly bo.sed o.., rYIY rYle.,ories of two con v erso.tiol"''s we no.d tho.t I'v e mo.shec( to9ether o.s oY'Ie. I co.11''t rei'Ylember when the f irs t convers o.tion ho.ppeY~eO.> bu.t I remewtber where= lhe Keg Resto.lAro..,t o.., Chc..crc.h S. CCtAro.te ) M€Wlory of who.t tho.T l i vin9 rooi'YI lookec.( like. ChriS rejoineo( u.s o.t Sotrne poi..,t b«.At c.licl..,' t po.rticipo.te i11 tV!e excho.r1ge u..,til we> s w i tc.l-led topics .

269

NOTES

This is now I ~ I'~ responcl.ed. to Seth's st<"te,.,ent in po...,el 193 ~ 3. The rest of the word-b01lloon$ I wrote for my~elf in th is scene reflect ti-,e """'Y I re.....,e..,..,ber the ~cttAod co.-.ver-sCA.tioi'\S 90in9 . Still, whO\t Seth write s ;, Appenc(i x 23 is v01lid.; "C het
"'w

/

196 ~8

- 191

2 J While Seth said this,., he w01sn't actCAodly SW1okin9 when he said i t. ( 81At he probably lit lAP !

within twe..,ty minCAtes. )

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jt98 : 2 -a A hcrther point OlboCAt the exciiASio.-.G\ry nO.fCAre of poHes sive mono901rny : it Cc:i\tA ses rese111t~ent . If yotA're in " po !>Sessive mono901~y relG\tionship an~ you fin~ yotArse If sexu01lly o.tt """"'tee:( to soW~eone- other- HlG\1"1- yoCArrom"'"'ti<.-pOirt.-.er o.t 01 p01rty (or work,., or whereveY ) 7 CAl'tcA yo~ fin~ yourself wishil'\9 you cotAic( cHt on this 0\tti'"CA.C tion, blAt yotA c01n' t beCOIIA$€ yoi.A're in o. I'Y101'10901rn0tA5 rel01tionsnip> you're likely to feel reSE!I'ltW~ent . Th01t resentme.-.t b~il~s LAP o.n~ resU\Its in t'-1e sort of melo~ramo..tic fights th~t ~re coW~mon in possessive I"Y''ono9 resentme11ts between frie.-,d.s woCAio( it1cre"se. ( Tl1is is o. generc:A( te..,~e..,c:y . I'W~ S'-'r-e tl-tet"e 01re en1otiono.lly mo.t«.AYe people wJ.,o k.,ow how to clef~A se tJ.,eiY resentW'Ie..,t s or who never feel the eWlotion to be9i.-. with . A.,c:A. people who ho.ve difficCAI~y 9etti1'19 IG\icl. mi9ht feel less rese.-.t""'e""t ;.., rnono901"""'o1AS reiOitio.,ships H101n people who don't l,c:Ave tJ.,"'t cAifficCAity.)

19 9 : l"Ec.(ith" I It m01y see ...,., l ike f w~s bei..,9 cruel to 01chnit tho.t s&-te h01ving sex 1

WC\S

her c.(jel1fS O.ncf... th01t fJ.,erefore _, 0\1/y wo.s G\ prostiti.Ate . The tJ.,in9 she Wl~cl.e > I cliO...,'t know whG\t OICttAOII'Iy ~icA think th~t I'YlOiybe with o.ll ner c lient.s.

by forcing with 0111 of by implication> Sne C:.H. fiA is, siven the O\Y91ArYient her ~O'lSWer WOIAid be. I she wasn't h01.vin g sex

TJ.,e (c..th~r 1-teres y> C\ p~c i f ist brc..nol of C~r.-s­ ti<"..,ity en1bro.cin9 toler01.-.ce Olt't~ poverty> ro se to proi"Y''i.,e.-,ce in t11e .-nidolle of tr.,e twelfth centtAry [. O'Sl-1e01, p. 7.

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NOTES

For +l-Ie C~H1G\r'"S~ the worlc:J wo.s not the h01ndi work of o. good gocL It w~s w'-toHy the cre~tio.., of o. fon:e of dG\rkness~ iW'Im0111ent in o.ll tl-1ir19S , M01tter wcH corrv.pt, there fore lrr el evo.n~ to so. Ivo.'tion, little if 0\ny ~tte!'ltion h"cA to be paic.< to tt.,e eiC~.bo­ rco.te systems set v.p to bv.lly people i11to obeyins the ..,.,""' with the si-lo.rpest swore(, the f"tte~t wG\IIet, or tl.,e big9est stic.k of il'lc.en s e. Worldly o.tAt,.,ority WG\S "'frG\v.o( 7 Olno( worldly 0\v.thority bOlseol on some O.ivine SOinc.tion, StAc.n 015 tl,e. Cl-lv.rc.h do.imeo(, wo.s olAtri9VIt hypoc.risy. The goc.l o(eseYving of Co.th01r worship w01s ~ god. of l ight, who rtAiec.t t'-'le it"tvisible, the ethereo. l, the spiritCAal domG\in ; th is 90d> v.lflco,.,cerned with the tvto.terio.l, Simply Gficl,., ' t co.f'e iF yoCA 9ot ;,.,to bed before getting Wl~t"'riec;i(_, ho.ot "' Jew or M~Asliwt for " fr"ienot , tre"teol r ..H?VI and wo..,.,en cH el:lv.011s, or d ie). o.nyth i ,.,9 else co..,tr01ry to ti-le +eG~cl1i,.,gs of ti-le wteo(ievod (ht.o~rc.'-". It w01s '-'P to tl-1e ;,.,o(ivid~Ao.l ( I'YlO.t"\ or wo.-n~n) to dec.ic.le whether he or she was wilfi,.,9 to renoCAnce the n-1o.terio.l for o. life of self-deni~l. If not, o..,e v.~olAfo( keep retv.rnit19 to this world -- t'-tO\t is, be rei'1COIP101teol - '"'"til reo.dy t-o eFV~bro.c~ a life StAffic.iently spotle-.s to o.llow 01ccession, G\t c:Ae~t'-', to t"'e so. me. bliss.f'-'1 sto.te ol"'e 1-1~0. experienceo( G\S ccn G\ngel prior to h~vi ..... 3 been te""pteot ov.t of he01.ve.., o.t the beginni,.,g of t iMe. To be so.ve~, then , tvtE.'~II"'t becoW~in9 ~ so.int. To be d~n-1ned wo.s to live> ~9o.i..., a..,o( O.CjOii,.,> Ol'l this corrlApt Eo.rth. Hell w01s 1-lere .. notit"\ sovne horrific: o.fterliFe dre~rneo( v.p by Ro.-v~e to s c 01 r e p eo pIe o tAt of their w its. f O'S l;-tea ~ pp. 10, II . J ,,., 1208~ the Co.tnolic ch~Arc.h dec:.lo.rec;( o. c. rv.s01ote "9o.in s t the C01thcus. The heresy wo.s finodly c.r-tAsheot ,.., 12 Cf4.

I zozWo.s : 2 .. 3 I R01A9e..,.,ont, Book n.> ti-lere con,.,ectio.., between

Cho.pters 6-10.

the trov.b01c:Aov. r s o..,o( tJ.,e C01t-ho.rs ? r·..,., not we/1-verseo( e,.,ov.gh in +l-te sv.bjects to .SOIY witJ., co..,fic.lence whet11er RotA9e-.onT wo.s rig&.,t or wrong o,., t1-1is mo.tter, G\

I '2..0 2 : 5 I Wnile

cot.Artly love WG\ S import~111t in Hte o(evelopme,.,t of t"'e concept of rorvto.ll"'t ic love , prob01bly j~Ast o.s ;,.,.,porto.nt wo..s the infl~.tenc.e of whG\t C. Stephen J~e9er co..l ls " ennobli,.,9 love" in hi~ book of the .so.me ti+le. He defi..,es it o.s "o. spirittAo.li~ed love thO\t respond s to the ' virtlAe,' the ' mG\jest y,' the ch01rism01> ti-le so.intlineSS, of tJ,e belo veJ., to SO I"YTE' ir1ner force of Qv-th-

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ority or- o.....,i~bility or- SOtnc.tity. " ( JCA.e~er, p. Lt.) 'Thi s wo.s o. forn'l of love tho.t ,..,.H~"" express~cA fo..- other men . p,.-ior to tl1e IZ-t~ <.e""tiAry,.. if wo.'> coMW'!only helievec.( ti-Jo.t ''+he love of rYlen for WOrYlen COI.Aic.( t'\ot ent"'oble> Sirtce S€XtACldity wo.s its no.ti.Arod f"'lfiiiW'Ient . love G\1"1o( friends~ip of men for wo..,..,e"" t'-l p. 1,) Jo.e9er points OIAt th the e)(p.--ession of this fo,..""' of love WG\S so eff in I-ter letters to Abelo.rd, Helo i se ( CG\. A·D 1090 · 1163) wo.s the first to 01pply "ennob,/i..,9 Io v e '' to 01 sex lA 0\ I reI
The defe..,se of pG\SSion01te love is 01 creo.tio.-, of Heloise.[•. . ) She co..,strtAc.teo< o. virtt.Ao(..(S sexLA:o.l pO\Hion of tl-te ele...,.,e.-,ts of e.-,nobli..,9 love: self· lessness> p1Arity of ;..,tention> love of merit> ptArity of love> rY~lAtLAG\Iity> coYY~plete self · OibG~~ndon.,.,ent. She is the Qrchitect of c,. hi.91-ler l01w of p~Are love .SO\nctio.-,ing sexLAOtlity [. JC"Aeger-> p. 169.) ( Heloise WOlS defen~ing the pre·mO\ritC41 sex thC4t she C\ n (;.( A be I 0. r ~ 11 C\ Q( e Ylj 0 y e ~ s h e h ~ o( ., 0 t w C\ n t ~ d t 0 m01rry A be l01ro( be c o.IA se she w01s QfrO\ io( thc;..t ...,.,c;..r.--i C\9e wo~AicJ c.testr-oy their love . She w01s right. ) The lette..-~ of AbeiC4Y"d. co·•cA Heloise becc.ti'Yie f01rno1AS> 01no( wl-ze11 co..,binec::4 wit~ the poptAio.rity of co infi in t"'rn~ infiiAe..,ceo( now men t'"el01ted to eo.c.h other. Accorolin!J to JG~~e9er, expressions of "ennoblins love " between me"" O.iecJ.. off 0\S n1ode-GIInd - fem01le /ove·litero.t pCAb/isheol in I

1740 ). By tl'1e enol. of the 1100s pers o nC\I c.~oice of pC4rt..,ers

l-lco.c::4 re pl01cecJ. G11rr01n9ec:i n-"~Oirrio.se DIS 01 5ocic;d io(e"''~ 0\nc:i indivioi.IAG~~Is were encoi.ArG\sed to 1'1"10\rr-y for love . [Coontz., pp. 145- l't6 . ]

Z7Z

NOTES

lhe new norms of the love - batsed.> inti...,ao.te mCA.rr"i G\.~e cli~ not fodl into platce o.ll o.t onc.e b tl,e celebro.tior1 of the love mo.tc.h reatc.hed 01. fever pitch o.s eatrly ats tl,e 1160s- o.nol. 1110s> while tl-1e French were still cot'Yl...,_,e.,tin9 on the l'lovelty of "mG\.rrio.9e by fCA.scin~tio.., .. ;,.. the mid - IBOOs . Mo.Y'Iy workin9-c:l~ss fao.wtilies did. not o.O.opt the lfl€W norms of mo.rito.l IY'ItimOtcy CAvttil the tweY'Itieth centtAry. [Coontz> p. 141. ] M~rr-yin9 for love sto.rteol. to 9o.in wio(espreao.ol. o.cceptOIY'IC.€ ;.., the 18th centLAry. I O.on't think it wats o. coincic).el'lce tho.t o.t the Satme tiYl'le OtAr mocJ.ern concept of ''the prostittAte" wo.s forl'VliY'Ig, From LOt«Aro. Mo.rlo. A9ustln 's SEX AT THE MARGINS :

[T]here w~s no wore;). or concept whic.l-1 signifieo( exc.ltAsively the sode of sextAo.l s ervices IAntil t-,t.,e [ lo.te rgth centv.ry ]. '' Whorins" refer-reo( to se> anc) the word whore wo.s 1ol 0\ny wom01n who stepped. o p. 101 . ] Money WQS vrot ac defivring c.ho.ro.cteri5tic of proHit i Yl o. t t em p tin 9 to d. o so> we 0\ren't ctr~win'3 o.r-bitr-CAry boCAI'1C;(o.ries. It looks obviO
"'...,o(.

ll't E~Arope, froi"Yl the eC"Arly Middle A9es throtA9h the eishteenth cent~Ary , the dowry at wife brou~ht with I-ter C"At rn01rri01.9e wats often the big goods> or l"'nol 0\ rno.Y'I wo~Aiol. ever o. p. 6. ] 0~ co~ouse> mQf"ly people still mo.rry for I"Yloney - - it's jiA~t tO\boo to ope..,ly o.cA.....,it it now. Even whe,... it 's vtot the prirnOtry reo.son for r'Yl~rri01'3e ... wrost people e .... tering into

Z73

NOTES mQtriWJony &o co,-si&er" ti-le fin~t"'ciad SitCAG\tio.., of the persova they're mG\rryi.-,g. It's Q(So worth pointing OCAt ti-lett., o.siofe fro..,., ro.pe ( whic"' iS DlboCAt to.kin9 withoCAf givit13 CAI"''yfj.,jng )_...Sex iS o.lwo.ys C4boCAt trG\cA.e : "I WG\nt to 9ive yo«A physic01\ pleo.sL
1 203 : 1 I

At1tiquity h01s left no recoro( of G\n experience o.ki.., to the love of TrisfQn Qno( lseCAit. It is well know., tJ...tc.~t the Greeks G\r1d Romans looked on love o.s " si(..kness [ ... ] whe.,ever it we.-,t, no mQ\tter how little, beyo...,~ ti-le sel'lSCAG\I pleasc.Are w&.,ic.n WOIS considered to be its nG\tCAro.l expression. PI&At~rc.&-, cG\IIS love "G\ frerny ". "SoW~e 1-\G\ve believe~ it wo.s G\ rno.cAne !IS .... ThCAS those wL-to G\re in love I"'"'CASt be for9ive.., G\S tnoCAgh ilL" [ RoCA<3e""'ol'lt_. p.60.]

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203 :8- 20't : l C01rtoo11ist Eric. SJ.t01..,ower h"'s bee.., retellin~ the story of ti-le Troj~n W~r cu "' series of 9r~phic1'1ovets. Acc.oro(i.,g to the first volCArn'l!, AGf.. OF BRONZE: A

THOUSAND .SHIPS, Odysse1AS l-\01d. wanted to rnG\rry Helen blAt insteG\d WG\$ 9iven her cotASin ... Penelope, CAS o. sort of col"'solatio~ prize. J tr«AH tho.t ShG\nower is bG\Sin~ tkC4t ovr some G\1"\cie,.,t versio,., of the tG\Ie, or 01t le01$t isn't- contf'adic.ti"''g the ori9it1al SOCAr t&.,e.., the relevo...,t p"'ss"'9es re9G\ro(in9 0c;(ysSfCAS cu-1cA Penelope G\re 011 po.9es 126 o.1>1a 135.) l11cidently, I've bee.., e..,joyit1g the AGE OF BRONZE. ser-ies. I hope ShCA.nower mG\nG\ges to finish it. We fi"'c( isoiClltec;L recorcJ.s of pG~SsionD~te love experienc.ecA by spol.-\ses o.mong tne o.nc.ie..,t Hebrews, (,reeks> G\r'lci Ron-1Q1'1S . SCAt si..,ce o.rra..,geo( mG~~rriG~~
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jzott:'t l1 believect for G\ wl1ile thett there eve ..,o pre-12tl1cent""ry literG~~ry works H1Qt conto.i11 cho.ro.c.ters wl-'!o first fC41l in love G\n~ the,., 9et rno.rriec.t. This is o.l,.,.,ost trtAe, hCAt not qt.cite. Re01ding THE SEVEN BASIC PLOTS by Christopher Booke.,.., I co.rne o.cross o. reference to the G\ncie..,t Greek novel DAPHNIS AND CHLOE by Long\.\s (co.. the 21"1d or 3rol cel"''t~Ary A-D). Booker's c:Aesc.ription it'tolicc:.tes tlo,Qt it's 01bo1At "' co~Aple who I'YlQrry beCG~.'-'Se

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''l"~"CA '' 01 s ex-slowe? D1Aring oiArpost-co i to.l co ..wersO\tion, "Lo.IAro." told. rYTe o.bot.At 01 trip sne·~ jLAst to.ken bo.c.k to her l-lomelo.ncA o..,c-J how she'cJ. visiteci I-ter fo.,.,.,ily while there. Tho.t indico..tes to 1"11E' o. greo.ter clesree of mobility o.no'. fr-eedoi"YY tho...,., o..,e woll\lc.l e)Cpec.t o. s ex-slo.ve to ho.ve .

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Fellow cao.r+oonist D01ve Sin"! stopped resO\rcAi1'19 n"'e o.s 01, friend in 2008 beCOIIAS€ I ref&AseoC to sig.., an ;.-,ternet petitio.-, tJ.Jat ~e set up thO\t reo.c:A.s.~ "Dc:we Sit'Yl is 11ot o. miso9yr"tist." I cAon't o9ree witl-t his opinion tl-tao.t womeY'I 01.r-e intelfec.ttAG\Ity i..,ferior to mer1_, b""t my o.ffec.tio"' G\no< r-espect· for hi.,., remo.in U(nd'lo.t'lged.

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I " Tl-1e wo.y I' ve phrG\sed this misl-'lt seem to ir'l'lply t~01t otl-ter- coiAntrie s folfoweol. CG\n~oi.G\ 'S leo.ci in ol.ec.rimin~lizing l-tor't'l05eX""~'ity. COI.rlCAc::ACA """'S o.c.tiAcdly follo"Vin9 E..,giOI.nct's le01.c::A. ( Gv.&9eon~ p. 191. )

~ } I i1cwe no stro.-,9 opinion on the connectio.-, between 9enes "'"'c::A sex"'"'' prefere...,ce. It woi.A.Icil"l' t sv. r p r is e ""'e if there is " "9 C\ y 9 e, e "_, 01n ci i t w o lA Io("' ' t sv.rpri se me if there isn't one.

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Jeffrey~ 159 of "' 1991 p«AblicQtion> RAPE. AI\ID SEXUAL ASSAUlT m : A RESEARCH HAND8001<, eclitecA. by Ann Wolpert B«Ar9ess.

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she's bei..,9 less thQI.., hot1est with me. Peoo..,QIIIy, I believe her, btAt I reo.li~e th~t she prob01bly enjoys se.x w it&-, me I e H t "'\(j\ n s h e h o. s e ..,joy e ~ i t wit h the norr - p<'\yin9 se)(IAOd po.rtners she's nOI.o( "',o( "thOit, if I wo.s...,'t po.yir19 her~ she wo«Aidn't co..,tinlAe to 90 to becA with me. IL A ·

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MG\Ie seXtAG\1 be~01viour d-t01r01c teri"te~ by tl1ree efe,..,.,e..,t.s v01rio1ASiy coVYlbi..,e~: b01rter_. pro,..,.,is c. ~ity> erY~otion~l i,.,o(;ffere..,ce. Any 1"1'1011"1 is 01 prostitiAtiol"t 01buse,.. who 7 for the pl.4rposes of his sexc.AOII so.tisfO\c tion 7 h~bit1A01IIy or i ntermitte..,tly rec:;(uc.es o...,other ~um&.n beit'1S to &. sexc.Aod object by the use of rY~Ot'1ey or other merce...,o.ry co..,side..-~tions . [Jeffreys .. p.lt.] " Pros t i t ~ t i o t'1 01 bus e r " is o. t e r .,.,· she ._. s e s in t e rc 11 01 n 0111in9 in AtAstY01/i01 ? Here in (o.nOIQ(OI it refers to tr01ole witho~t Mone y.

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The best book I've re01c< 01bo1At tl"01ff ick in.9 01t1c;;( sex-work is Lo11..cr~ Mo.rio. A9u stln's SeX AT THE. MARC,INS . She Yec.o9nizes th01t mo st tro.ffickecA people c:;(o..,·t see themselves 01s helpleH victirv1S. RE>so.rolin,9 the ir o(ebt - bo..,c.lo.<3e .. s he quotes o. Coll.4W"'bio...., tY01ffickeo< il'lto Sp£Ain: I never co,.,siderecA it to be ~ debt . For ,..,e i t wo..s like o. fo.votAr th01t they c;;(icA for me. [ A<3tAStin., p. 3lt.]

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Tr~AGte"'v. broLA9nt before the Hov.se of (oW~t'VlOI"'S o. c;4ivorce reform bill o,nc;( sever"'! CArne..,c;A.-nenf"S to the Crimll"'"'l (ooe liber-odizi..,9 l"'ws on abortion o.n~ homosexCAcdity. This over..,Ot.v.l of soci~l le9iSlo.tion ho.O. bee,., lA..,~er wo.y ;.., the J~Astice De po.r't>'Y1eYit for ye"'rs. !)tAt' TrtAdeav. mcu:ie the c.n01.119es his own by telli,.,g the tefevisio.-. c: 01. wt e n:ll. s o v. t s; c;( e the H o v. s e ~ '' l J.t e. s to. t e h 01. s .., o pI 01. c. e ;.., the bedroovns of the n01.tion . " Thc:lt this icAeo. w01.s borrowed. direc.tly froWI 01.., ecAitoriod writte.., by M01.rtin O' Mo\lley th01t week for THE GLOBE AND MAIL we ..... t t.H1vtotic.eol. Deliver-eol by o.. Wli.,ister of the Cr-own weo.ri..,g o. le01ther coat an~ sportin9 o. (CAE!SDir h01.ircv.t, it h01o( o.n elec.trifyi"'9 effec.t o., the ptAblic iW101.9ivt01tio.., , It expressed. o. wio(ely felt need to brin9 (0\t"lrAdOI. v.p to 0.01te ;.., o. vv01y th01.t every boc(y co&.AI& CAnc;(erS.tDII"'o(, Here wo.s 01 WlOII"' wJ,o WQS willing to oeclcue himself il'1 oppositiOI'\ to the est01.blishec:A order_, o. wtOI.I'l vvho WG\S SO\yir'l9 tho.t C"'nOI.GtQ did vtot hc.we to be o. Vic.torian boo.ckwo-.ter~ o. WIIASetA..,.., of o~.Atmooteol i&eo.s. ( Clo.r-kso.,_, pp. 101, 108.] Tr~AdeOI.tA w01.s the.., the rni.,ister of jtAStic.e. This is wl-10\t ..,e 0\<. ttADIIIy SOI.io to the 01bove -W~e,.,tio,.,e<:i television co-...,..,ero.s o~ Dece...,ber 21st 1961.:

To-.ke t&.,i~ thi..,9 on ~oWiosextAodity. I thi11k the view we t01.ke here is th01t there's ..,o platc.e for- the st.o.te ;., the becAroo~s of the t'lOitiot'l. I thi11k ithOtt' vvho.t·s do..,e ;,., privo.te betwee.., o.ol~Aits does.., ''t c:o..,ce,..., the Cril'l'1il'1011 Code. Whe.., it be(omes pLAblic t h i s ; s 01. c::{ ; f f e r e..., t .,., o. t t e r., or w h e .., it r e I 01 te s to ...,;.,ors this is .o. olifferent l'l'10ttter. [ G~Adgeon., p. 199.] He becO\vne ti-le pri.,.,e ...,;..,;ster in 1968.

recom~e..,G( Cro.ot ~i/od"'ey's e>.l..4tobiogrc..phic0\l novels EXCREMENT (Charnel HotAse_, 1988) "'"'Gt PUTRID SCtAM ( CJ,o.rnel Ho~Ase_, 1991 ). u..,fort~Anately they're both OtAt of prif'lt_, bc.-tt peri-1ap.s yoi.A COtY\ finoC

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Zed., 2oo;r. Alber't, Alexa. BROTHEl: MUSTANG RANCH AND

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loYlcAon : (ot'l'ti111"4"4Y"n~ TRtADEAlA AND OtAR TIMES : VOLtAME I ; THE MAGNIFICENT OBSESSION. 1~90. Toronto: McCiello.nd & Stewo.rt., 1997. Cool"'tZ ,. Step""anie. MARRIAGE., A HISTORY: FROM OBEDIENCE. TO INTIMACY. New York: Vikin9,. ZOOS. Delacoste , Freoeriq_CAe) ancA Priscillo. Alex01n~er,. ecAs. SEX WORK = WRITINGS SY WOMEN IN THE SEX INDUSTRY. Secon~ edition. SOIYl FrO\ncisco: Cleis, 1998. Gt..u:;(13eon 7 Chris. THE NAKED TRUTH: THE UNTOLD STORY OF SEX IN CANADA. Va'1C01Aver- : Greysto~"~e~ 2003. H'-'Q. ,. Co.i. A SOCIETY WITH01,4T FATHERS OR HIASBANDS: THE NA OF CHINA. Tn~ns . Ast i H~ s tvec:At. New York : Zone , 2. 00 I. jc,..e9er~ C. Stephen. ENNOBLING lOVE : IN SEARCH OF A LOH SE NS 181L ITY. Phi l01del ph i01 : UO't i v. Of Pe..,n syl V0\"1 i 01, 1999. Jeffrey.s ,. Sl1eil01. THE. IDEA OF PROSTITUTION. Melbov.,-..,e: TEll STORIES.

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Spir'lifeK, 1991. DAPHNIS AND CHlOE . Tr01ns. 01nd. int,-o. RonO\Ic( M<(Oiil. 2.002. OJo:ford: Oxford ()vriv.J 2009 Mc.lQ.ren., leQ.h. "T~e H"ppiest Hooker. " TORONTO LIFE, Dec.ei'Ylb e r 2010. Mor-tet_, Verot'l i c "· '' Se~i tion ." WHORE. S AND OTHER FEMINI S TS . E&. Jill N0\9le . New York: Ro"'tleo9e, 1991. O'Shea, Stephen. THE PERFECT HERESY: THE REVOLUTIONARY liFE AND DEATH Of THE MEDIEVAL CATHARS. '2000. VQ.n CoLAver : DoL(9I" s & Mcintyre., 2001. Perrin_. 8enj01n1in. INVISIBLE CHAINS : CANADA'S lANDERGROIANP WORLD OF HIAMAN TRAFFIO
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Praise for PAYING FOR IT "Paying For It is a very enlightening book, as well as being entertaining: [Chester Brown] is a very skillful artist in that way." R. CRUMB,fi·om his introduction to Paying For It ''I've loved Chester Brown's work since the early days of Yummy Fur. He started out as a remarkable cartoonist telling strange stories that slowly became, over time, increasingly personal.

Paying For It is as personal as you can get. It's a clear-eyed, not-even-slightly-erotic, compulsively readable, sometimes painfully honest account of his time, reasons and experiences paying for sex. I learned things about Chester from reading this, and I learned things about sex-workers, and about the world, and, oddly, I think I learned things about myself. The argument about when or whether comics had grown up ended when people started making comics for grown-ups. This is one of them. Paying For It is the kind of book that will engage your mind and force you to think about things in ways you may never have done before. Chester would probably like that. And if you find yourself arguing with the page, or with the author's notes, I think Chester would probably like that too." NEIL GAIMAN "Chester Brown is perhaps the most transparent, honest and relevant voice remaining in contemporary comics, and this is, to my mind, his most powerful and affecting work to date. Paying For It explores life in the world's oldest customer-base, and does so with heart, intelligence, and a complete lack of sentiment or self-justification. Rewarding repeated readings, this book will love you long time." ALAN M 0 0 RE "In Paying For It, Chester Brown not only makes a compelling case for the decriminalization of sex work but he also seems like an excellent client. Sex workers and sex worker rights advocates couldn't ask for a better ally. A must read in the canon of sensible and sensitive voices making a case against prurient ideology-based rhetoric about consensual sexual behaviour." SAS HA, natio1wlly syndimted

sex columnist, playwright, and sex worker rights activist "The self-aware john, a quirky and surprisingly realistic guy, is everywhere, but he's also been silent and overshadowed by his belligerent, deluded brothers. Paying For It is a fascinating modern (and enjoyable) response to that anonymous Victorian sex classic My Secret Life. The characters encountered here evoke Armistead Maupin's Tales of the City. Chester Brown's emotional honesty is riveting. This is what sex ed looks like when we refuse to stop learning." TRACY QUAN, author of Diary of a Manhattan Call Girl and Diary of a Jetsetting Call Girl 978-1-77046-o48-s $24.95 US & CDN COMICS & GRAPHIC NOVELS I Nonfiction BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / Personal Memoirs

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