Change Your Mind With EFT ( the Ultimate Level 1 Workshop WorkBook ) by Lindsay Kenny

Change

Your Mind! with EFT

Emotional Freedom Techniques

The Ultimate Level 1 Workshop Workbook by Lindsay Kenny

EFTMaster, AAMET Certified Trainer, Life Coach www.LKCoaching.com

Change

Your Mind! with EFT

The Emotional Freedom Techniques

The Ultimate Level 1 Workshop Workbook by Lindsay Kenny

EFT Master, AAMET Certified Trainer, Life Coach

Change Your Mind! with EFT The Ultimate Level 1 Workshop Workbook by EFT Master Lindsay Kenny © Lindsay Kenny 2005 All rights reserved: protected by international copyright law. This book edited, designed and constructed by Angela Treat Lyon [email protected]

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook

Table of Contents Page Chapter 6 8 10 12 14 19 20 34 36 40 62 65 71 73 90 94 95 100 107 121 126 127

Introduction The Body’s Energy System Exploring EFT’s Effect on the Body’s Energy Quiz 1 - General Knowledge Muscle Testing Quiz 2 - Muscle Testing EFT Basic Recipe Quiz 3 - The Basic Sequence Helpful Tips for Successful Sessions Nine Stumbling Blocks The Movie Technique Choice Statements FAQs reference FAQs about EFT Answers to Quizzes 1, 2 & 3 Abbreviations of Tapping Points Reminder Personal Peace Procedure Dr. Carol Look’s Tapping Tips Complex Issues FAQs about Lindsay Kenny Recommended Practitioners Lindsay Kenny’s Bio © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 4 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


Acknowledgments ♥ First I would like to thank my friend and colleague, Angela Treat Lyon

for her beautiful illustrations, design and construction of this workbook. She brings the pages to life like turning a tune into a rhapsody. Additionally, without her inspiration, guidance, and creative genius, this book would still be a goal rather than a reality. I also thank Angela for the privilege of letting me piggyback onto her clever name of Change your Mind! with EFT, the title of her first EFT book. Read more about Angela and her EFT books (one in Spanish!) at EFTbooks.com; contact her at [email protected].

♥ Next I want to thank my colleague and workshop partner, Zoe Walton

for being such a wonderful friend and mentor. Zoe, an extraordinary EFT practitioner and acupuncturist, has taught me so much about the human body, allergies, health and EFT. I wouldn’t be where I am today without her advice and guidance. I consider her my health care professional, cherished friend and kindred spirit. You can find Zoe at ZoeWalton.com or contact her at [email protected].

♥ My friend Agnes Liebhardt, who shares my birthday, deserves much gratitude for editing this book. She not only did a superb job, but also completed it in an amazingly short amount of time, even with a sick cat. Any errors you might find are undoubtedly my additions and rewrites, not oversights by Agnes.

♥ Most importantly, I want to thank my sweet, handsome and darling

husband, Jack Kenny. His unwavering support, love and patience with me are truly my inspiration. Many holidays and vacations he sat reading patiently by himself, while I pounded away on this book and other EFT projects. The world has never seen a more loving or supportive husband, and for that I am eternally grateful.

♥ Hugs and gratitude to all who are reading this labor of love in an effort to further their experience with the remarkable Emotional Freedom Techniques.

© Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 5 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


EFT - The Universal Healing Aid Introduction The purpose of this workbook is to guide you, the workshop participant/ reader through the entire process of EFT. Using narratives, processes, visuals, and quizzes, we hope to stimulate your learning skills in a way that will lead you to a comprehensive understanding of EFT. Our objective is that by the end of this workbook you will be able to use it confidently on yourself and even others. EFT can be used on hundreds of issues from hiccups to headaches and from shallow breathing to shame. While EFT is a fairly simple process, it actually contains many complex elements and subtle nuances, many of which we will cover in this book. EFT is more of an art than a science. So while you can learn the basics from this book or in the workshop, there’s still nothing as powerful as experiencing EFT yourself. Then practicing what you’ve learned on yourself and with others will help you to improve your skills. Years ago I learned to sky dive (what was I thinking?). I was surprised to realize that in the 4-hour class leading up to the actual first dive, only about 20 minutes were spent on “how to sky dive.” The last three and a half hours were spent on what to do if it didn’t work. How to untangle the cord, what to do if the chute didn’t open properly, and how to steer away from telephone poles and rooftops, were just some of the life-saving lessons we needed to learn. We all paid close attention to these lessons. Learning EFT is a little like sky diving. The basics are pretty easy. It only takes a few minutes to learn the tapping points and the basic setup statements.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook But in actuality it takes much longer, genuine effort and a lot of practice to learn the art of EFT. For instance we could build a whole workshop just around “What to do when EFT appears not to be working.” We guide you through some of those challenges in our 9 Stumbling Blocks to EFT in this workbook. Even though this is a comprehensive workbook, you still won’t learn each and everything you need to know about EFT in it. That’s why we offer Levels 2 and 3 as well. By practicing between each workshop, then practicing some more you will eventually hone your skills and confidence into a competent EFTer. If you are reading this workbook on your own rather than in the workshop, I recommend that you do the quizzes and practice the exercises with others as they come up. Just reading this book, without participating in it, won’t teach you EFT. You need to practice what you’ll be learning to develop your EFT skills. So dive into this process, and tap into your learning potential.

Good luck and good tapping!



Session One

The Body’s Energy System During the past couple of decades, it has become widely accepted that our emotional health plays an important role in our physical well-being. We recognize that our hearts pound when we are frightened, our faces turn red when we are embarrassed, our palms become sweaty when we are anxious, and, most commonly, our heads ache when we are stressed. When we consider the myriad of physical symptoms stemming from emotional issues, it is hard to deny that emotions affect our bodies. In fact, there is an endless list of ailments attributed to stress alone, including indigestion, ulcers, stiff neck, shoulder pain and tooth grinding. Left untreated, negative emotions can have a profound impact on our physical well-being. Asthma, migraines, ulcers, and hypertension are just some of the physical ramifications from ignored emotional issues. Research has also proven that negative emotions play a significant role in more complex ailments, such as multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, cancer and other serious illnesses. The medical profession acknowledges the body’s electrical system, yet seldom mentions it or uses it in the treatment process. It is this electricity, carried through tiny pathways called Meridians (of which there are 14), that is measured in the brain with ECG or EEG devices and in the heart via EKG equipment. This same vital energy (known as Chi by the Chinese) flows throughout every part of our being and is critical to our life force. Just as blood moves through our veins, breath through our lungs and food through our digestive tract, energy moves through our meridians. If our electrical system were to be completely disrupted (such as a severe jolt from a live electrical wire, or other types of shocks) we would die, just as we would die without oxygen, food or a blood supply. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 8 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook When this energy is disrupted, it can create a negative emotion. Several sciences and alternative medical practices are based on the energy system. Acupuncture, acupressure, EFT, EMDR, Reiki, and BASF are just a few. And while acupuncture has become much more recognized in the past 10 years, it’s still considered a “way out there” practice to many in the medical field. EFT, or Emotional Freedom Techniques, still relatively new to the healing arts, is also considered “weird” or “way out there” to those who have yet to experience it.

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Exploring EFT’s Effect on the Body’s Energy “The cause of ALL negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system” Discovery Statement by Gary Craig, Founder of EFT

When we encounter a serious negative event, or even a negative thought, a disruption takes place in our energy pathways, causing a negative emotion. This, in fact, is the foundation upon which EFT is based. It is the disruption or blockage somewhere along the meridian pathways that actually causes a negative emotion, such as fear, anger, hate, etc. For instance, let’s say someone suddenly jumped out at you from the corner of a building, screaming at you and brandishing a knife. You would undoubtedly experience tremendous fright or anger, or even confusion. We can all imagine the “jolt” that such an event would cause in our body. The “jolt” is actually a disruption somewhere along your meridian pathways. It’s that jolt, or disruption, that causes the emotion of fright or anger (or both)…not the fact that the person is screaming at you.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Traumatic Thought or Event = Energy Disruption = Negative Emotion For most of us, that shock will dissipate after a few minutes or hours. For others, however, the same fear or anger could last for weeks or even years if the energy block remains. Many untreated negative emotions (= energy blockages) such as trauma, grief, betrayal, stress, etc., can lead to hypertension, heart problems, breathing disorders, weight issues, cancer and other severe illnesses. The disruption in the flow of energy through our system is not unlike the interruption in the flow of water in a hose that has been kinked. Un-kink the hose, and the water flows freely again. Likewise, in our meridian system, “un-kinking” the disruption caused by a traumatic event, or negative thought, dissipates the negative emotion. It is upon this premise that EFT is built. Though contrary to mainstream thinking, the premise is true, based on empirical evidence. Over a period of 25 years, we have seen issues of every possible kind dissipate in hundreds of thousands of cases, simply by unblocking and balancing a person’s meridian system. Many of these issues had remained unresolved despite multiple forms of therapy, including psychotherapy, analysis, hypnotherapy, meditation, chiropractic, acupuncture and others.

Unblocking the energy system is simply done by tapping on the ends of certain meridian points on the face and upper body. As we are tapping, we are sending tiny shockwaves, similar to electrical impulses, throughout the body, which in turn release or unblock the impediment caused by the traumatic event or thought. When done correctly, the resulting emotion, trauma or pain is permanently alleviated. The process is much like removing a boulder that’s blocking a stream. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 11 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


Quiz 1:

General Knowledge Answers are found at the end of this book.

Try to complete the question yourself before looking up the answer  1. Name at least five physical symptoms that are the result of an emotional response, such as sweaty palms when nervous.

 2. There are dozens of negative emotions. Name at least ten.

 3. Our lives depend on four major bodily movements or functions: What are they?

 4. What is another name for the energy pathways throughout our bodies?



 5. How many pathways are there?

 6. Name at least three alternative sciences based on the energy system.

 7. What is the Chinese term for the body’s energy?

 8. What causes negative emotions?



Muscle Testing Experiencing is believing—so we are going to demonstrate a simple, yet powerful, way to show how our body responds to negative thoughts or emotions through muscle testing. If you have never done muscle testing, you might want to try it, just for fun, with a friend (let’s call your friend “Bob”, so we don’t have to deal with gender-proper pronouns).

Muscle testing is a visual way to demonstrate how sensitive our meridian system is to negative thoughts and emotions. It’s also a good way to test for Polarity Reversals.

Practice muscle testing Start by facing each other (another way is to stand behind Bob) and have him put his dominant arm straight out from his side at shoulder level (elbow locked straight, not bent). To test Bob’s resistance strength, put four fingers of your non-dominant hand on his wrist. Then, ask him to resist when you try to pull his arm down. (Don’t bounce his arm up and down. Rather, simply push down steadily for 2 or 3 seconds until you feel his resistance). You’re doing this to test his general resistance and to see how hard you need to push to get his arm to move, not to see how strong he is. This is not a muscle contest, but a resistance test. Make sure Bob isn’t forcing his arm up, in order to keep you from pulling it down. Everyone has different strength levels, so you will need to practice with each person to establish a baseline of his or her strength before beginning the actual experiment. Next, have Bob place his non-dominant hand on top of his head, palm down and tell him to resist as you pull down on his outstretched arm.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook It should be fairly steady, not moving down more than a fraction. Then have him turn the hand on his head, palm up. Pull down again on his outstretched arm (while telling him to resist). This time, his arm should go down fairly easily, or at least several inches. The simplest explanation of why this happens is that Bob will have “reversed the polarity on his batteries” by turning up his hand (much in the same way inserting batteries incorrectly in an electrical gadget will cause it to malfunction). Our bodies have polarity, or positive and negative attributes, similar to those in common household batteries.

When the polarity is seated properly and the energy is moving throughout the body smoothly, we can function correctly. Many things can disrupt the flow of energy throughout the body’s meridian system—some temporary, some that last. When his hand is palm-down on his head (where a “contact” or meridian point resides) his “batteries” are in correctly. With the palm up, the connection is broken and his strength will wane. Therefore, palm down on his head = arm strong: palm up = arm weak. If, however, Bob’s arm does not go down when the hand on the head is palm-up, then Bob has some form of General Polarity Reversal (GPR). This is rare, but it does happen. (More on Reversals later.)

FIXING GPR Here’s a quick way to fix GPR: Have Bob do the Karate Chop (KC) for about 10 seconds. (That’s bumping the little-finger-side of his hands against each other, karate chop style.) Test him again the same way, and the arm should be weak when the palm is up. If © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 15 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook it’s still strong with the palm up, he is still reversed and may be dehydrated or have one of the other causes listed previously. (See the section on Polarity Reversals for more information on GPR)

For those working without a partner: To muscle test yourself, try this: Sitting in a chair with your feet flat on the floor in front of you, bend down and put the outside of your right forearm on the inside of your right thigh (left). Resist with your thigh muscle while trying to push your leg outward with your arm. That will be your strength test, instead of the outstretched arm as shown above. A weak or negative response will be if your thigh muscle does not hold when you push out with the forearm. The inability to move the stronger leg muscle is an indication of a “positive,” or truth.

MORE FUN TESTING As long as you’re in this position you might want to do another fun little polarity experiment. I have participants in my workshops do this with each other to experience the effect negative thoughts, words or emotions have on their energy system. This time let’s do the test with your friend, “Ann”. Ask Ann to put her dominant arm out straight from the shoulder and do the general polarity test (as above with Bob), hand on top of head, palm down, then up, etc. Now ask Ann to resist, with her arm out, while saying “My name is Ann”. As she’s doing that, you pull down on her arm. If her name is really Ann, her arm should be strong. Next, ask Ann to say, “My name is Roger”, (or Clyde, Frank, Suzy, anything other than her real name).


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Ask her to resist while saying the false name statement and her arm should go down fairly easily as you push on it. This simple little test, along with the palm-up/down test, is usually surprising and fun for most people who have never experienced muscle testing before. Using this, along with the other examples below, is how I build the bridge to EFT that Gary often talks about. Of course, muscle testing with everyone you meet or talking about EFT is not practical. But in a one-on-one session, or workshop, muscle testing is both fun and, at the same time, functional in describing the “zzzzztt” effect that Gary refers to regarding negative emotions. Remember: The purpose of muscle testing is to demonstrate the effect negative thoughts or emotions can have on the body’s energy system. It can also help determine the validity of true or false statements while doing EFT, for example: checking for Polarity Reversals, having the subject say, “I really do want to get rid of this issue,” or asking the subconscious, “is this issue fully resolved?”

ALTERNATING TESTS Have Ann say some alternating negative and positive words while resisting you as you pull down on her arm with each word (see examples next page). For instance, have her say “butterflies” (arm should be strong when you test it), then “September 11th” (arm will probably be weak), “sunshine” (strong) “tsunami disaster” (weak) “beautiful flowers” (strong) “cancer” (weak), etc. Think of positive and negative words or statements that might apply to you. This simply demonstrates how sensitive our bodies are to negative thoughts, words, or non-truths. If just saying a negative word can make someone go momentarily weak, it’s not much of a leap to imagine what a traumatic experience, anger, stress or frustration must do to our bodies and overall health. If you’re doing this workbook on your own and can’t muscle test with anyone, use the thigh/forearm method to test yourself. You will see the way every negative word or thought has a negative effect on your body.



Negative Words or Events RATTLESNAKE POISON HATE FALLING OFF THE ROOF RAPE PEDOPHILE VOMIT TOOTH DECAY EVIL CHILD ABUSE WAR CANCER HEART ATTACK ANXIETY TERRORISM SEPTEMBER 11TH PARKINSON’S DISEASE WAR TSUNAMI RAT POISON RAGE CHRONIC PAIN DEATH HUMILIATION BETRAYAL

Benign or Positive Words MOUNTAIN LAKE LOVE COTTON BALLS DISTILLED WATER HOT AIR BALOONS APPLE PIE REDWOODS SILK ICE CREAM DAYDREAMS ROSES SATIN SHEETS BLUE BIRDS SUMMER SHOWERS DAISIES BABY ANGELS BIRTHDAY CAKE HONEY FRIENDSHIP ICE CREAM GRATITUDE HUGS ACCEPTANCE

Note: Remember that some seemingly benign words may have a negative charge for some people. For instance ‘roses’ may remind someone of a departed loved one, or birthday cake may bring up a wheat allergy. Conversely ‘war’ may seem positive to some. The above words are just examples. Make a list of your own!


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook The essence of this experiment is illustrated nicely through animation in the movie, What the *#@!% (Bleep) Do We Know? In it, we see a step-bystep explanation of what happens in our bodies, chemically and physically, when we experience negative thoughts or actions. I highly recommend this docudrama, starring Marlee Matlin. (One of the movie’s commentators, Dr. William Tiller, a Stanford physics professor, is an avid proponent of EFT and is featured on some of Gary’s “Specialty Series” videos).

Quiz 2:

Muscle Testing

 1. Is muscle testing an integral part of EFT?

 2. Explain in your own words why muscle testing demonstrates the principles of EFT.

 3. Why would you want to use muscle testing with a friend or client?

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The EFT Basic Recipe Now that you have seen (and felt) the way negative emotions, thoughts, words or untrue statements can adversely affect your body just by thinking or saying negative words, let’s experiment with eliminating the energy disruptions that cause these emotions. Basic EFT and tapping are very simple. But our purpose is to take you beyond the basics, so you can learn how to do EFT on your own. Let’s take it step by step.

There are five basic components to EFT: 1. The Set-up statement: Rubbing the set-up point (sore spots on the chest) while repeating the Set-up statement

2. The Sequence and reminder phrase: Tapping on the meridian points while using a reminder phrase (a shortened version of the Set-up phrase)

3. Reassessment: Checking in with yourself to see where you are after a round or two of tapping

4. Fine Tuning: Repeating 1,2 and 3 until the issue is resolved. If the issue gets stuck at a 2 or below, use the 9-point Gamut sequence (described below) to completely eliminate the blockage while balancing the right and left hemispheres of the brain.

5. Testing: Make sure an issue is resolved by trying to get yourself upset about it. When you try, if you still feel a charge on the issue, then you need to repeat the steps above until the issue is completely neutralized.



There are four things to do before practicing EFT on yourself: 1. Pick a simple issue to work on There are two types of issues: Simple and Complex. In the beginning, while you are learning EFT, it is best to pick relatively “simple” issues. Simple issues are ones that are current (not an old trauma, betrayal, death, etc.) and, most likely, have only one component. We will learn how to deal with more complex, or chronic, issues later. For now, choose a current, simple issue or event with which you would like to deal. Samples of Simple issues are:  Cravings – food, cigarettes, chocolate, etc.  Pain – a sore muscle, headache or achy body part  Fear – of spiders, needles, heights, etc.  Anger – a recent anger, perhaps at someone for embarrassing you in front of others  Food sensitivities – not allergies, just sensitivities  Stress – from work pressures Samples of Complex issues* (to avoid while learning EFT):  Trauma – accidents, rape, abuse, death or betrayal of a loved one  Depression – or overall sadness  Low Self Esteem or lack of confidence  Addictions – to drugs, chemicals, or alcohol  Obsessive Compulsive Disorder – repetitive thoughts or actions  Chronic pain or serious illnesses (MS, Parkinson’s, cancer, etc.) * EFT has an incredibly positive record for alleviating complex issues as well. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 21 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Since complex issues often take longer to resolve and may involve multiple aspects to get to the core issue, we will deal with them in Level 2. For now, while you are learning and practicing, let’s work on simple issues such as a craving, a physical pain, (tightness or discomfort) or a fear. Pick an issue that is relatively recent and simple. (See an example of dealing with a complex issue later in this workbook.)

2. Assign an Intensity Level aka Subjective Unit of Distress (SUDs): Rate your issue on a scale of 1 to 10. If your headache or migraine is extremely painful right now, assign it a 10. A 5 would be a moderate headache, and a 0 is no headache at all. If you are livid at someone for something they did or said to you, you might assign it an 8, 9 or 10. Still smarting over someone calling you lazy recently, might only be a 4. The assignment of a “subjective value” is essential in order to evaluate where you are in the process with EFT, so it is important that you give yourself an intensity rating from 1 to 10 before you begin. If you don’t know what your intensity level would be, just guess….that’s why we call it subjective.

3. Find the Set-up Point(s): There are two places on the body that we use as set-up points. While they’re both effective, we’ll use the “sore spot” throughout this workbook. The Sore Spots: There are two tender places on either side of the upper chest (left). You will know when you find them, because they’re tender or sore when you rub them in a circular motion. These spots are approximately 2” in diameter and are part of our lymphatic drainage system, which is why they’re tender. The Karate Chop Point: An alternate set-up spot, known as the Karate Chop point, is located at the base of your little finger or on the fleshy side of your hand, between your little finger and wrist (see illustration next page).


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook This point is commonly used for resolving Reversals as well. To use this as a Setup point, simply tap on this spot (on either hand) with the fingers of your other hand while saying the reminder statement. You can also “karate chop” the sides of both hands against each other. In this workbook, however, we will use the Sore Spots, the tender spots on the chest, for the Set-up statement; and the Karate Chop point for Reversals.

4. Choose your Set-up statement The Set-up statement simply consists of your specific issue, then followed by a positive affirmation of acceptance. Examples would be: “Even though I’m really embarrassed by showing up late to the office meeting today, I deeply and completely accept myself.” “Even though I’m very angry at ______ for standing me up at lunch, I completely accept who I am.” “Even though I have this raging headache at the base of my skull, I profoundly love and accept myself.” You’ll learn much more about Set-up statements and their importance as we go along.

For now, just remember these two things: 1. Always couch the negative (your issue) with a positive (an acceptance statement) and… 2. Be as specific as possible with the statement.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook For instance: “Even though I have this pain on the back of my left hand,” instead of just, “this pain.” Or: “Even though I have a fear of the ocean…” not just, “this fear of water.” Or: “Even though I’m really angry at my brother for embarrassing me in front of my friends last night…” instead of, “anger at my brother.” “Even though I’m frustrated and hurt at being passed over for the promotion this week…”

Let’s get started I: The Set-up Statements First: Start by rubbing the sore spot (Set-up spot). (Make sure you’ve picked the issue you want to work on and have assigned yourself a SUDs level of 1-10.) Press beneath the muscle on both sides of the chest (the sore spots), in a circular motion, while saying the set-up statement out loud. Here is a simple Set-up statement: “Even though I have this (insert your issue), I deeply love and accept myself.” Continually rub the sore spot while saying the statement three times. Note: If you find it difficult to say “I love and accept myself”, change it to “…I want to love and accept myself” or “…I’m open to loving and accepting myself” or “…a part of me wants to accept who I am.”


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook More examples: “Even though I have this fear of speaking to groups over five people, I deeply and completely accept myself.” “Even though I have this sinus headache, I deeply love and accept who I am.” “I deeply and completely accept myself, even though I have this anger towards my father for yelling at me last night.” “Even though I have this stiffness on the right side of my neck, I completely accept myself and love my body.” “I accept myself unconditionally, even though I have a killer craving for chocolate right now.” “Even though I have this fear of snakes, I love and accept myself anyway.” “I deeply and profoundly accept myself, even though I’m really sad over my breakup with ________.”

II: The Sequence Second: Do the Sequence (which is systematically tapping on the meridian points while repeating a reminder statement). Tap each of the following illustrated points 5-7 times while saying a reminder statement of your issue at each point. The reminder statement is just an abbreviated version of the set-up statement, such as; “This pain in my lower back,” “this fear of snakes,” “the disappointment with Suzy.” On the reminder, you don’t need to be as specific as you were with the Set-up statement.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Note: With the reminder statement you don’t need to repeat the “Even though…” part of the “I love and acceptance myself” statement—just a short reminder phrase, as shown above.

Here are the points to tap on while saying the reminder statement:

1 EB

5 CH

9 WR

2 SE

3 UE

4 UN

6 CB

7 UA

8 LP

or 9 WR

10 CRH

or 10 CRH

1. EB = Eyebrow point, at the beginning of the eyebrow above the nose. 2. SE = Side of the eye, on the bone bordering the outside of the eye. 3. UE = Under the eye, on the bone directly under the eye. 4. UN = Under the nose, between the nose and upper lip.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook 5. CH = Chin, in the center between the bottom lip and bottom of the chin. 6. CB = Collarbone, right under your collarbone, about 3” from the center. 7. UA = Under the arm, on the side of the body, approx. 4” below the armpit. 8. LP = Under the breast on the edge of the ribs to the side of the belly. On men, straight down from the nipple on the edge of the rid cage. 9. WR = Bump the insides of your wrists together. 10. CRH = Crown of the head toward the back, just before it goes vertical

Here are three major meridians that are not usually included in Gary’s material or by other practitioners. I was initially introduced to EFT by Zoe Walton, an acupuncturist and excellent EFT practitioner, who explained why these additional meridian points are so important. Zoe is now co-facilitates my workshops, and for good reason. She brings an added dimension to our learning of the meridian system. Here are Zoe’s descriptions of the additional points we will use throughout this book and the Level 1 course: The Liver Point - (LP) or Liver 14 - This point is good for stress, depression, cravings and anger. Wrist - (WR) - The line at the base of the hand has 3 major meridians (find these points on the inside of the wrist, where the hand bends to meet the arm). These 3 points are: Heart 7, Pericardium 7, and Lung 9. The heart and pericardium points are great for stress and anxiety and the lung point is good for grief and sadness. Crown of the Head - (CRH) or Du20 - This meridian is the meeting point of all Yang meridians in the body and a powerful contact point for every issue. Use these points, along with the other seven in the Basic Recipe, every time you do the sequence, not just for the meridian-based issues mentioned.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Do the Sequence (also known as rounds) twice - from the eyebrow point through the points down to the wrists, ending at the top of the head. Be sure to repeat the reminder statement at each point. The order is not crucial - you can start at the top of the head and/or end there.

III. Reassessment Third: Check in with yourself to see how you are doing Now that you’ve done the Set-up statement and a couple of rounds of tapping, re-evaluate where you are on the SUDs rating. If you’re not sure what your number is, guess. Or finish this sentence: ” I don’t know what my distress number is right now, but if I did know, it would be a ___ .” Don’t “think” about it too much; just guess if you’re not sure. If your distress level did not change at all, don’t give up! Just try it again. This time, make sure you are being specific about your issue and that you are following the directions. If the rating is still the same after the second couple of rounds, don’t despair. (There are a few things that can impede the process of EFT. So stop here and read the section called “The Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT” later in this book.) If you are like most people, your number will have gone down by two or more points. A typical drop on the first two rounds might be from a 10 to a 7 or 8, then to a 4 or 5 on the next two rounds. Issues and people vary immensely so please don’t be discouraged if your number didn’t change. It is rare, but it does happen, and there are specific reasons for it. It is essential, therefore, that you read the section on “The Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT.” If you’re stuck, do this now, before you continue. After the issue has decreased in intensity, make a slight change in both the Set-up statement and in the reminder phrase. Change the Set-up statement to something like… “Even though I still have some remaining…(fill in your issue), I deeply and completely accept myself.” © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 28 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook “Even though a part of me is still ... (fill in your issue) I love and accept myself anyway.” Likewise, alter and condense the reminder phrase to something like… “This remaining fear of birds” “My remaining anger at Bud” “The remaining pain in my ankle” Keep repeating all of the above steps until your issue is completely resolved. Be patient with yourself, especially as you are learning. EFT is an art and a skill, and, as with all skills, it takes practice to be successful. If you get frustrated or impatient, just remember that EFT is one of the easiest, fastest and most effective remedies of any kind available today. What might take months or even years in talk therapy, you may be able to handle in minutes with EFT. Traditional therapy hopes for a 50% success rate, while EFT, even in the hands of a novice generally shows results over 80%. So, your patience and persistence with EFT will pay off. If you are still not at a zero on this issue after doing the above sequences then complete the process with Fine Tuning.

IV. Fine Tuning: the “9 Point Gamut” You only need to do this part of the process if an issue seems to be stuck at a 1 or less in intensity. Doing the 9-point Gamut balances the right and left hemispheres of the brain and usually completes the issue nicely. This will usually get someone to a zero with one round. Locate the gamut point on the back of your hand—between the little finger and ring finger, and out towards the wrist about an inch. Tap on the Gamut point continually while repeating the reminder phrase and while doing the following sequence.  Close your eyes tightly, then open them wide. (Remembering to keep tapping and saying the reminder phrase).


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook  Keeping your head still and using your eyes only, look down to the right, then down and to the left. (Keep your head straight and keep tapping and repeating the reminder statement.)  Roll your eyes around in a big circle as if looking at each number on a giant clock. (Keep your head straight ahead and keep tapping and repeating the reminder phrase.)  Roll your eyes around in the opposite direction. (Keep tapping and saying the reminder statement.)  Hum 2 seconds of a familiar song like “Happy Birthday” or “Jingle Bells”.  Count rapidly from 1 to 5.  Hum 2 seconds of the song again.  Tap through each point again, starting with the eyebrow point, ending at the top of the head, while saying the reminder statement. By now, your issue may be resolved. After a few rounds, (3-5), about 80% of all issues will be resolved with this simple process, even for beginners. (As mentioned before, your success with EFT can be impeded by other aspects that haven’t been addressed yet, like not locating the core issue, or a possible reversal, and/or the skill of the practitioner—you, in this case.) The good news, however, is that these impediments are usually easily overcome. If you haven’t already done so, please read the section on the Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT if you still feel stuck.

V. Testing your results. When you feel that the issue has been completely resolved, and you believe you are at a zero, test yourself by thinking about the issue or incident to see if there’s still “something there”… i.e., see if your number goes up to a 1 or more. And ask yourself, “How do I know I’m at a zero?” Often there will be a physical symptom, such as tightness in the shoulders, a headache, or a knot in the stomach that will go unnoticed until the issue is gone and the physical symptom alleviated with it. If there still seems to be some discomfort at all, complete the sequence again or do the 9-point Gamut as described above. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 30 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


Remember: Completely overcoming an issue will likely keep the issue from returning. Optional Tapping Points These points (listed below) are shown on some of Gary Craig’s earlier tapes but are seldom used in everyday practice: TH = Outside edge of thumb, next to base of fingernail. IF = Index finger, on the same spot as on the thumb. MF = Middle finger, on the same spot as on the thumb. LF = Little finger, same as thumb (skip the ring finger).

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The “Reader’s Digest” Version of the Basic Recipe Tear this page out for quick reference Reminder: Before you begin, assess your level of distress (1-10), and choose your set-up statement.

I. The Set-up: Rub the tender spot in a circular motion, while doing the

set-up statement “Even though I have this (insert your issue), I deeply love and accept myself. Continue rubbing while saying the statement three times.

II. The Sequence: Tap the following points 5-7 times while saying the reminder statement. For example, “this fear of snakes,” “my anger at mother,” “the pain in my back,” etc.

III. Reassess: Check your intensity level and perform subsequent rounds.

Once you have completed the first round of tapping, change the set-up set statement to something like: “Even though there is still some (whatever the issue is ...), I deeply and completely accept myself.” Repeat three times while rubbing. Then, repeat the tapping sequence with an altered reminder statement like, “...still some of this…” or, “remaining issue.” Keep repeating this step until you’re at a zero of intensity. Test yourself by thinking about the issue or incident to see if there’s still something there, i.e. your number goes up to a 1 or more. If it does go up, complete the sequence again or proceed to the next point.

IV. Fine Tune: Fine tune by doing the 9-point Gamut: tapping, eye rolls, humming, counting, humming, another round.

V. Test your results: Test your results by trying to get yourself upset. If there’s still a charge, then you need to repeat the above steps.



1 EB

5 CH

9 WR

2 SE

3 UE

4 UN

6 CB

7 UA

8 LP

9 WR

10 CRH

10 CRH

The Gamut Point and the Karate Chop Point

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Quiz 3:

The Basic Sequence Now, let’s see how well you’re doing! Answer the following questions without referring back to the workbook, unless you really get stuck. 1. What is the FIRST thing you need to do before starting the EFT process?

2. What do you need to assess next?

3. What would your basic Set-up statement be?

4. Where are the Set-up points?

5. What are the ten tapping points we’ve been using?



6. If, after tapping for two rounds, your intensity level has decreased from a 10 to a 7, how do you proceed? And, what would you use as your reminder statement?

7. If you get stuck at a 1 SUDs or less, or if the intensity goes back up when you test yourself, what other options might you consider?

8. How do you make sure you’re completely over the issue?

9. What would you do if your SUDs stayed at a 10, or the same as when you started?

10. What is the EFT Discovery statement?

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Helpful Tips to ensure Successful Tapping Sessions First, and most important: When dealing with any subject be as specific as possible. Getting specific is like peeling an onion. Tap SEPARATE layers or scenes completely down to “zero.” For example: First Layer or Scene: “Dad came in the door with a bad look on his face….” Then: “I was scared when Dad crossed the room, yelled at me and hit me for no reason.” Then: “I was sad and hurt after Dad hit me and stormed out.” This is much more effective than tapping on, “the day Dad hit me.” Separate scenes such as these, of the “movie” of your incident, require separate tapping sessions for the most effective treatment. Treat all the separate incidents or “aspects” you can find, and with persistence, the negativity surrounding your central issue will come tumbling down. Be persistent on those “tail enders” until all aspects of the problem have vanished, then the problem will be gone for good. Problems that return are usually just aspects of the original problem that haven’t yet been addressed.  Make sure you’ve found the core issue. If you have a sore, aching back and you just can’t seem to get the pain to subside with tapping, consider what emotional issues could be causing your sore back (blame, guilt, anger). © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 36 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook  Are you working too hard, stressed at home, fearful of failing, scared of being found out about something? Find the core emotional issue, and often the physical symptom will disappear. It works the same for unresolved emotional issues.  If you are afraid of water, for instance, and tapping hasn’t eliminated the fear completely, consider what past event or childhood trauma might have caused this fear and tap on THAT issue.  Also be specific about the type of water fear. Maybe ocean waves are intimidating but lake water is fine. Or perhaps rivers or swimming pools are the real issues.  Ask yourself, “When did this issue or pain start?” “If my sore back is trying to tell me something, what would it be (or tight shoulders, upset stomach, etc.)?” More about core issues is discussed in the Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT later on in this notebook.

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More Tips for Successful Tapping Sessions:  Take off your watch, bracelets or glasses. Make sure to remove any electrical “appliances” like cell phones, Palm Pilots, Walkmans, pagers, etc., from your body.  For the best tapping results use the index, middle and ring fingers, or all four fingers when possible (like on the top of the head or under the arms).  Tap on both sides of your body when possible. Unilateral tapping works fine, but in my opinion, bilateral tapping is better.  Do EFT while undisturbed (turn off your cell phone or TV and make sure the kids are busy elsewhere.)  Read and Master the things that get in the way of successful EFT treatments (the 9 Stumbling Blocks article.)  Drink a lot of water—at least 64 oz. daily  Practice, practice, practice. EFT is more an art than a science. Just like playing the piano or riding a bike, the more you do it, the better you get at it. Start with practicing on yourself, then ask friends and family to let you try it out on them. (Choose SIMPLE issues!) The more you do, the more confidence you’ll gain and the better you’ll get at it. This is how every successful practitioner started!  Try it on everything! EFT has been known to work on everything from hiccups to cancer and from lactose intolerance to quieting crying babies. So, rather than saying, “Does EFT really work on…?” Try it! You’ve got nothing to lose, and a lot to gain.  Learn from your mistakes. If you try something a few times, and it’s not working, do it differently.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook  Use EFT every day. Do it at a set time every day, just before going to bed, or in the shower, or when you first wake up. More than anything else, practicing EFT daily can make an enormous difference in your happiness and peace of mind.  Complete the Personal Peace Procedure as described later in the workbook. This could be the most important process you will ever use to experience more peace of mind, confidence, and joy of life.

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Nine Stumbling Blocks That Keep EFT from Working And How To Remedy Them By Lindsay Kenny, EFT Master Practitioner Somehow, I have developed the reputation as “an authority on why EFT doesn’t work.” I don’t mind that, except that I believe that EFT works 99% of the time…if done correctly. Yet, many will try it once, throw up their hands and say, “Well, it just didn’t work for me!” When that happens, it is rarely, if ever, a shortcoming of EFT. It has been my experience that one of the primary reasons EFT appears not to be working resides in the skill of the practitioner (who is often the person treating him or herself). EFT is more of an art than a science, and we’re still learning how it works. We do, however, know these things for certain: In the right hands, EFT can produce miraculous results. Simple issues, such as fears, stress, (recent) anger, pain, frustration, and hundreds of other non-complex problems can often be eradicated in a few minutes with EFT. More multifaceted issues, such as trauma, chronic anxiety, abuse, serious illnesses, and depression may take longer and more skill than can be delivered by an EFT novice. Even someone new to EFT can often get amazing results 70% of the time— which is an extraordinary percentage (that the medical profession would love to have!).


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook EFT often works when everything else has failed. In skilled hands, EFT can work over 95% of the time. And here’s the most important thing we’ve learned: There are certain things that can stop EFT in its tracks - which is the basis of this article. Becoming aware of these stumbling blocks and knowing how to deal with each one will increase EFT’s effectiveness significantly, even for a beginner. Not being specific, not finding or resolving the core issue, not being sufficiently hydrated, and missing shifting aspects are just some of the reasons someone applying EFT might not resolve an issue. We will deal with each of these obstacles and others later on. But let’s start with a big one first:

Reversals Reversals, often called Psychological Reversals or Polarity Reversals (PR), are what I believe to be the most overlooked obstruction to successful EFT treatments. There is so much more to this phenomenon than we originally thought. When it appears that EFT is not working, a primary key to rapid and effective treatment often lies in identifying the different types of Reversals and in knowing how to neutralize them. Dealing with Reversals up front is perhaps more important than any of the other impediments to EFT. In fact, if Reversals are unrecognized and untreated they can stop EFT in its tracks, or at best, make it dramatically more difficult and time consuming to resolve an issue. The good news is, once discovered, the solutions for correcting Reversals are amazingly simple and highly effective. My experience is that when dealing with simple issues, Reversals are usually not a problem. But for chronic or long-lasting problems, complex issues, and even serious illnesses, Reversals are all too common. For those who have a Reversal, its discovery and elimination are paramount to a successful resolution of the problem. A good clue as to whether or not


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook someone has a Reversal is if their SUD level remains the same after a couple of rounds of tapping. A SUD (or subjective unit of distress) level is a way to gage the intensity of an issue on a scale of 0-10. There are other reasons why your SUD level may stay the same—other stumbling blocks—which will be addressed later on in this article. I break Reversals down into two basic types, each with several sub-categories.

A) General Polarity Reversals The first type of Reversal is what I consider a General Polarity Reversal, or GPR. GPR can be caused by several factors:  Negativity - chronic negative thoughts, negative behavior, negative events  Being around electrical devices for long periods of time  Addictions - addictive personalities or addictive substances in the body  Depression – chronic depression causing the body’s energy system to become slow or sluggish. Performing the standard set-up procedure (rubbing the sore spot or karate chop point while saying the set-up statement) will often fix negativity or electrical GPRs. Addiction or depression caused GPRs, however, are not usually eliminated just by doing the set-up statement and require additional work, as detailed in the next section on SBS. General Polarity Reversal simply means that the electricity or energy in the body is “agitated”, or “moving” in the wrong direction; therefore the polarity is reversed. Think of the experiment in grade school where you used a magnet to attract tiny particles of metal on a piece of paper. The positive end of the magnet pulled the particles toward it, aligning them up neatly, all going in the same direction. Then, when the negative end of the magnet was directed toward the metal shavings, it caused the particles to repel from the magnet, scattering and separating them in all different directions. In a sense, that’s what happens to our body’s energy when a negative force (e.g. those listed above) is introduced into the system. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 42 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Another way to look at our body’s energy field or polarity is to compare it to batteries in a tape recorder, flashlight, or other battery-operated devices. The batteries that run the gadget must be installed with the positive and negative polarity seated in the right direction. If not, the device simply won’t work. Since your body has its own “electrical system” your “batteries” need to be positioned correctly in order for you to function properly. If your polarity is “scrambled,” you have a GPR Reversal, and it is likely EFT will not work for you until the Reversal is corrected.

B) Secondary Benefit Syndrome or SBS: This is the second, and more common, type of Reversal. The SBS reversal occurs when the subconscious mind perceives that it is better or safer to hold on to an issue (like negative emotions, chronic pain, extra weight, or a bad habit), than to eliminate it. Or, as the movie What the *#@!# Do We Know? demonstrates, our bodies can actually become addicted to a negative emotion or issue. After a period of time we may become so accustomed to being angry, hurt, anxious, victimized, etc. that our body is reluctant to let the emotion go. The negative condition may be uncomfortable, but if we have been in that state for some time, it begins to feel “natural” to the body and the subconscious mind. SBS is seldom a conscious choice, so most people will initially disagree with

you if you tell them that subconsciously they don’t actually want to get rid of their problem or issue. Of course, most people don’t consciously want to stay emotionally upset or physically in pain. But the subconscious is a powerful entity, usually exhibiting dominance over our conscious desires.

For someone who has carried around a trauma, chronic pain, phobia, or some other issue for many years, the emotion becomes a part of his or her personality or even his or her identity. How often have you heard phrases, like “He’s an angry young man” or “She’s just such an anxious person”? Overcoming, or losing, that “identity” can be very threatening to the non-rational subconscious mind.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook For instance, the subconscious might be thinking, “If I get over this issue… “I won’t have an excuse anymore for my life not working. “It might be scary. “I may not know who I am anymore. “It may not be safe to let it go. “I won’t know how to act as a functional, non-victim person. “I won’t get the attention or sympathy I get now.” If someone has been trying to lose weight for a long time, for instance, and hasn’t been successful, they are almost certainly reversed on it. Consciously they want to lose weight, but their big, stubborn subconscious may be saying, “Wait a minute here. If I lose weight my clothes won’t fit and I’ll be deprived of the foods I love. And what if I lose that 40 pounds and I still don’t get that promotion I need, the guy I’m lusting after, or the friends I want? Maybe if I lose that weight I’ll be so attractive that I’ll be abused or harassed again. Or, what if my chubby friends abandon me; or what if I get skinny but am still not pretty? Gee, losing weight is just not worth it, so I’ll just stay fat.” Once again, remember, this is the subconscious mind wielding control over what we consciously want.

As long as the subconscious is unwilling to let the problem go (that’s a Reversal) it’s very hard to resolve an issue, with or without EFT. When I hear someone say “I’ve had this ________ for years, and have tried everything” the word Reversal comes to mind immediately. Personally, I like to use muscle testing to demonstrate this phenomenon. I have the client make a positive statement such as “I really want to let go of this anger at dad.” When I muscle test them as they they are saying this, their arm will test weak. They protest, of course, saying, “But I really DO want to get over it!” And they do at the conscious level…. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 44 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook We then do the Reversal correction or neutralization, and when we test them again, they are strong (see Resolving SBS below). This amazes people almost as much as EFT. It physically demonstrates an otherwise hard-to-grasp notion. People are often skeptical of this concept until we neutralize the Reversal, perform EFT, and they witness the once stubborn issue miraculously disappear.

RESOLVING SBS The good news is, that it is very easy to fix an SBS reversal - so easy that people find it hard to believe. This is how it is done: Simply tap on the karate chop point (KC= base of little finger against base of the other little finger) using a reversal phrase such as: “Even though: “I don’t really want to get over this depression (trauma, chronic pain, etc.) I deeply and completely accept myself.” “It may not be safe to get over my issues…. (use your actual problem, not the word ‘issue’)…” “I may not deserve to get over this issue…” “I won’t know how to act if I get well…” “I won’t have an excuse for my life being messed up…” “I don’t want to forgive the people that ruined my life…” “I don’t want to be ‘normal’…” “I’m afraid, this won’t work and I’ll never be well…” “For whatever reason, I don’t want to overcome this problem…” I almost always use at least the first and last of these choices, which usually catch everything in between. “Not deserving” to get over something is also a “biggie”, so try it, if it fits, along with any of the others. You’ll know the Reversal neutralization worked when you start doing EFT again and you start to get results. Reversals can be a huge stumbling block, but they are so easily remedied that we needn’t let them stand in the way. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 45 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


Remember, fixing a Reversal does not fix the issue. It only gets rid of the impediment to fixing the issue. You still need to do EFT after fixing a Reversal—i.e., the Set-up and tapping sequences. As mentioned in the beginning, Reversals are only one stumbling block to a successful EFT treatment, but it is often the one that causes people to say, “I tried EFT, but it just didn’t work for me”. For more detailed information on Reversals and muscle testing, see my complete article on Reversals at lifecoachingwithlindsay.com/ PolarityReversals.html.

Being Dehydrated or “Dry Batteries” Often when I’m getting nowhere with a client I ask him/her how much water they’ve had to drink so far that day. If they say, “I’ve had cup of coffee and some water with my vitamins,” then I have them drink at least an 8 oz. glass of water. I’m still surprised how often this is an impediment to EFT’s progress. I heard a statistic recently that 70% of our population is dehydrated, so I ask the hydration question frequently and always have drinking water available for clients. I do pro-bono work for a drug and alcohol rehab center in my area and I’d say dehydration is common with over 90% of the people there. I don’t know why but “addicts” seem to drink very little water, by their own admission. Thus, before I start a workshop at the clinic I have everyone drink a big glassful of water. I once had a workshop where we weren’t getting a very good response while doing group tapping and using “Borrowing Benefits”. Just off-handed, I asked, “How many of you have had more than 16 ounces of water to drink this morning?” No one raised their hand! We stopped for a water break and when we continued we had a 90% success rate on the same issues that had gone nowhere before. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 46 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook When I was new at EFT several years ago, I had a difficult client, “Reuben.” He really had me stumped. His was a relatively simple issue, yet we just weren’t getting anywhere. I had asked a zillion questions, and was seriously considering getting frustrated (tap-tap-tap). Then, out of the blue, I asked him how much water he had drunk that day and he replied, “None.” Yikes! Being a big water-holic myself I just couldn’t imagine not having any all day. I made him drink a big glass before we continued. Reuben subsequently went from a SUD level of 10 on his issue to a 3 on the first round, and collapsed it to a zero on the second. This was my first of many future water-issue problems. I’ve had cases like Reuben’s play out in similar cases hundreds of times in the past several years. Now my clients bring water bottles with them for fear that I’ll squirt them with a hose! Being dehydrated is fairly common, but so easy to fix. It just takes thinking of the right question to ask when you get stumped and having the subject drink a glass of water before continuing. It’s all part of the “art of EFT”.

Not Being Specific When doing EFT, it is very important to be as specific as possible about an issue or feeling. Frequently, beginners are too global with their set-up statements. They may try to fix low self-esteem, for instance, by saying “Even though I don’t feel very good about myself.” Instead a better approach would be “Even though my father berated me in front of my friends at dinner and told me I’d never amount to anything, I want to love and accept myself.” Being too vague, general, or global about an issue is to deny the body an opportunity to remedy the problem. Gary Craig discovered early on, that it is imperative to be as specific as possible about circumstances surrounding any challenge. To dig even deeper, I often ask a client probing questions, have them envision the situation or issue, and have them get in touch with smells, sounds, sights, or colors, if necessary. For example, instead of saying, “This pain in my leg” you might say “This pain in the calf of my right leg.” Or “…the time my brother embarrassed © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 47 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook me at church by burping…” Or, instead of “my fear of water,” be more specific about the kind of water—i.e., “My fear of the ocean…or deep water… or lakes…or swimming pools, etc.” Below are a couple of examples of when being specific made the difference.  I recently saw a little 10 year-old girl, named “Terri” who had fallen during a tumbling routine and was suddenly afraid to work out with her gym team. She loved tumbling and was very upset that she might have to give it up because of her new fear of falling. Yet she was literally terrified of doing gymnastics again. We started tapping on her general fear of tumbling with “Even though I’m afraid to tumble now after my fall…” However, that wouldn’t reduce her SUD level at all. I asked her to tell me exactly what had happened, how she fell, and what she saw. It became clear that it was tumbling backwards that she was afraid of, not just tumbling. So we got more specific in the set-up by saying “Even though I’m afraid to tumble backwards…” However, that only helped a little. I asked her to relive the maneuver in her mind and describe her feelings. She said that, in her mind’s eye, she could complete the backward flip if a spotter was there for her, but she couldn’t “see” herself trying it alone. Therefore, we changed the set-up to “Even though I’m afraid to tumble backwards, without a spotter…” And, lo and behold, we started getting results immediately! In just two or three rounds, her fear was gone and she was sure she could tumble again confidently. In fact, she wanted to do a back flip right there in my office to prove it. As tempted as I was to see her perform, I had her wait until it was safe to try it…at her gym. She left a happy little girl, eager to get back at it. Her mom e-mailed me that night and said that, at gym practice that afternoon, Terri had done back-flips several times—without a spotter—and did an excellent job. Mom, the coach, and Terri were all jubilant. As was I!


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook  Another client, “Vinnie” was complaining about his sore right foot. We were able to get his SUD level of 9 down to a 4 fairly quickly, but then, the progress stopped. I asked him to touch the exact spot of the pain, and we changed the focus and statement to, “Even though I have this pain in my right ankle on the outside, under the bone….” and it worked. His pain stopped completely with one more round. Had that not worked, I would have gone to the event that had caused his accident, but just being specific about the exact location did the trick. I saw him two months later and he was still pain-free. Sometimes, people are reluctant to be too specific about an issue, especially if it is too painful to relive. If so, read how to handle sensitive issues, using the Tearless Trauma Technique or the Movie Technique on how to “sneak up” on an issue, using the Search field at Gary’s site emofree.com. After decreasing the sensitivity level to a lower SUDs (under 5), you can usually be specific without inflicting unnecessary emotional pain.

Core Issue Hasn’t Been Found This is an important item and often missed. Sometimes, you need to do some detective work with questions and prodding until you discover the main cause, or “core issue”, of a problem. If you’re stuck, ask questions such as, “When did the problem start?”, or “What was going on when it started?” Oftentimes, I discover that someone’s allergy, asthma or migraines started coincidentally about the same time as divorce, death, or some other traumatic accident in the family. This isn’t a coincidence, of course, but the core reason for many problems. Our bodies can find unusual, creative and seemingly ridiculous ways to deal with difficult situations. We can morph an emotional event into a physical problem without being aware at all of the timing or connection. For instance, I had a client who developed migraines shortly after her twin died from serious injuries incurred in a car accident, but she never saw the correlation. Another client stuttered severely from the time his father disappeared one night and never returned home. Initially, the client didn’t remember that his stuttering had started then. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 49 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook A more obvious correlation between the core issue and symptoms occurred in a case with a client who kept waking up with anxiety attacks for what she said was over “nothing”. After probing, we discovered that her drunken father used to come home in the middle of the night and find it funny to wake the children up by blowing an air horn in their ears. It seems to me, that would cause anxiety in a rock. Like not being specific, there are times when we don’t want to get to the bottom of an issue. Thank God for the Tearless Trauma Technique and the Movie Technique. Often these are processes that need to be done with the help of a practitioner, as doing it yourself, might be like a dentist trying to pull his or her own teeth. Other probing, core-issue-finding questions are, “If you had your life to live over, what person or event would you just as soon skip?” and, “What else does this (your problem) remind you of?” These questions often will bring up an issue that is seemingly unrelated to a client’s symptoms. Here is an example of finding the core issue:  A few years ago a client, “Tim” (age 73) still had hurt feelings and sadness over his mother inexplicably hitting him in the face during a family dinner when he was just 6 years old. He had terrible feelings of inadequacy, humiliation, and unworthiness over that event, even after all these years. We weren’t getting anywhere with tapping, so I had him describe what he was wearing, what his mother was wearing, and describe anyone else he could think of. He had amazing clarity about everything from so many years ago. When he got to his grandmother, he described the look on her face at the moment his mother hit him, and when he started crying. His grandmother, whom he adored, had a look of disgust and disappointment, rather than empathy as he had expected. He felt certain he had done something wrong to disappoint his grandmother and was crushed. He had looked at her, hoping to get sympathy, but instead saw anger and disapproval of how he handled getting smacked in the face (or so he interpreted it as a little boy). Regardless, the CORE issue was the grandmother’s reaction, rather than his mother hitting him. That was the


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook most damaging or hurtful issue to Tim. This seemed to be a startling revelation to him, but once that core issue came out, we tapped on “Even though my grandmother was disappointed in me and mad at me for whatever reason…” That worked great and he cleared quickly after a couple of rounds. Core issues are different than being specific about an issue in that they are often hidden, or not as obvious. Nonetheless, finding a root cause is equally critical to solving tough-to-solve cases. It’s not always easy to do this on your own, since we have a tendency to block out unpleasant events or connections to events. Seeing a qualified practitioner can be very beneficial when you’re stuck on a challenging problem.

Shifting Aspects Shifting aspects are a little like different branches on the same tree. The trunk of the tree may represent the core issue, e.g. a horrific car accident. But different branches are separate issues, such as the guilt someone might feel for causing the accident, or the anger at the other driver for being intoxicated. Another aspect on the same tree might be the trauma of seeing a loved one die, or hearing the screams of someone in pain. Complex issues often have multiple aspects, which become apparent when the intensity level is lowered on the main issue, thus revealing a lesser issue. It would be similar to you falling off your bike and breaking your arm, scraping your knee badly, and cutting your little finger. You may not even notice the scraped knee until the doctor had numbed the pain in your broken arm and set the bone. Only then would you notice the scraped knee, and once that was taken care of, you’d notice the cut finger. Likewise, a client may not notice an underlying issue until the more painful one has been reduced in intensity. Often, when the intensity has dropped from a SUDs level of 10 to a 3, a client will say, “You know, the real problem is …” However, the REAL problem is usually the one that was most noticeable in the beginning. Generally, it is better to get that down to a zero before moving to any other newly noticed aspect.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Occasionally, however, it is a good thing to let the client go elsewhere with the problem, especially if it is clearly related to the original issue. Often, the hidden aspect turns out to be the core issue. Once the new aspect is completely resolved, we are able to return to the unfinished issue to complete it, and the whole problem collapses quickly. Below is an example of this:  “Dr. Dave” came to see me about the grief of his brother’s death twelve years earlier. His brother had been killed in a tragic avalanche, and the trauma still haunted Dave as if it were yesterday. He was getting stuck on the issue and unable to get it to a SUDs level of zero. When the intensity got to a four, Dave shifted aspects to his mother’s suicide many years before his brother’s death. It turned out that neither he nor his brother or father knew that the mother was having an affair, and was so depressed by it that she was suicidal. In this case, we left the brother issue and worked on the mother issue for a while. It turned out that Dave had vowed never to be so insensitive to his future wife’s situation or to his children’s feelings as to be unaware that they were hurting. His father’s insensitivity, he believed, may have contributed to his mother’s death. So, Dave vowed to be ultra-sensitive. As a result, Dave’s sensitivity showed up in his over-reaction and long-lasting grief regarding his brother’s death. Once we dealt with his mother’s suicide, (which included guilt, anger, betrayal and grief), we were able to go back to his brother’s death and quickly dispatch the long-term grief on that issue. We did a Reversal on the grief as well, since Dave’s subconscious didn’t want to let go of the grief. A combination of these two impediments helped clear Dr. Dave’s long-term issues. Now, over two years later, he’s completely free of the grief and can speak of his brother without sadness or pain. Again, with Shifting Aspects you should usually stay with the original problem until it’s at a SUDS level of zero, before tackling the new aspect. Let judgment, intuition and circumstances be your guide. Part of the art of using EFT is knowing when to swing with the client and


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook when to finish the original issue first. Either way, just make sure you get all aspects of an issue to a zero before going on to a different issue.

The Need for Human Touch or Another’s Perspective Sometimes, people just need help from someone else, either by tapping or providing a different perspective. When I suspect this, I ask a client’s permission to tap on them myself, especially if they are really upset. This sometimes brings results if everything else has failed. At the least, it gives additional comfort to the recipient. We often see Gary Craig do this on his video series with great effectiveness. He seems to intuitively know when tapping for the client is going to be beneficial. If you have been tapping alone on yourself, it may just be that you need someone else’s energy and focus to help you get clear. Also, having another person’s perspective is priceless. Even the best dentist or surgeon in the world would never consider operating on themselves! They just wouldn’t be able to “see” around obstacles in their way, just as an individual may not be able to see an obvious impediment to their own problem. Their psyche may be trying to protect them from emotional pain by blocking a road they should be going down, but just can’t see on their own.  I had a client named “Sheila” who was having a hard time focusing, tapping and talking at the same time. Consequently, we weren’t getting anywhere at a reasonable speed. We had some progress, but not much. So, I started tapping on her, while she concentrated on the words she was saying, which immediately began to quickly dissolve her issues. Once in a while, I would ask her to try and tap on herself, but every time she did, her progress slowed down or stopped.  Another participant in a workshop, “Artie”, seemed particularly uptight and physically stiff. He had a pinched look on his face, a rigid body position and was barely touching himself as he tapped with his eyes wide open and unfocused. After two rounds of tapping, I sensed that we weren’t making any progress. I asked if I could tap for him (always ask your client’s permission!), and he eagerly agreed.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook (IMPORTANT NOTE: some licensed therapists are prohibited by state law to touch people, so please check the laws of your state.) Artie visibly loosened up and relaxed almost the instant I started tapping on him. A small tear or two leaked out of his now-open eyes and he sighed with relief. I asked him what was going on for him and simply replied, “I don’t know, but it just seems right and feels so good.” He really “popped” after that, clearing up his issue fairly quickly. There are times when a person just needs the personal assistance of others. Most of the practitioners I know, including myself, trade sessions and time with each other to work on their own issues. Often, an outsider is able to see what you can’t see on your own, and provide insights you might have missed. You’ll understand what I mean if you’ve ever tried to cut your own hair by looking in the mirror, especially behind your head. The perspective you see, when looking at yourself in the mirror, is different from the way the rest of the world sees you. It often works the same when doing EFT on yourself, particularly with difficult or complex issues. If you get stuck, seek the assistance of a friend, or better yet, an experienced practitioner. You can find one under “resources” on my website, the National Alliance for Emotional Health NAFEH.org, or on Gary’s site emofree.com.

Inadequate Knowledge of EFT EFT is a relatively simple technique. But there are lots of components of EFT that require study and practice. If the skill of the practitioner is incomplete, (which may be YOU working on yourself), the results you get will reflect your level of experience. That said, EFT often works even when done incorrectly, or in the hands of a brand-new person who has only read the 79-page EFT manual. Oftentimes, though, their good results can be short-lived when they encounter a more complex problem, or meet one of the stumbling blocks we mention in this workbook. An accomplished practitioner, or someone like you who is taking the time to learn the impediments to EFT, will generally have better results because they have taken the time to really study the art of EFT. For those who learned EFT by watching the videos, it is important to watch all of them…and in order. Many people skip around on the videos to find “their”


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook issue. This often results in taking the EFT course out of order, or missing valuable lessons in the course altogether. When this happens, many of the above elements go unnoticed or are ineffectively used. That’s when people erroneously say, “EFT just isn’t working for me.” You can learn The Basic Recipe from reading the manual and watching the first EFT videotape. That’s how many of us “old-timers” started. From there, many people go out into the world and apply the techniques to clients, friends and family—often with superb results (including some “one minute wonders”). However, if they don’t study the rest of the EFT course in proper order, these practitioners are certain to scratch their heads in some instances, and say, “It doesn’t work.” I’ve actually known practitioners who have said, “EFT is great for my clients but it doesn’t work for me”—to which I reply, “Then you’re missing something.” EFT is not going to work on millions of people, and not work for you! The EFT course not only teaches The Basic Recipe in great detail, but Gary also goes on to display the “art of delivery” with over 80 people in live sessions. The more fine points you pick up, the more masterful you will be and the less likely you’ll ever say, “EFT isn’t working for me.” The videos allow you to watch in the comfort of your own home or office, replay sections over and over and learn at your own pace. These videos are how I and, many of my colleagues, initially learned EFT. (To order the video series, click HERE.

I also highly recommend taking EFT approved workshops.

In live workshops, you have the opportunity to ask questions, practice your skills with others, work on your own issues and really immerse yourself in EFT. I can’t tell you how many times I have had people in workshops who had watched the videos (some of them), read the manual (parts of it) and had even been practicing with clients, yet who were still uninformed about many important aspects of EFT. When you fast forward through sections of a video, skip some entirely, or watch only the ones you think apply to you, or interest you, you will invariably miss important nuances, skills and tips that Gary constantly sprinkles throughout the series. It is, of course, not critical to know every single thing about EFT before using it and getting results. Part of EFT’s magic lies in its simplicity.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook But please - if you don’t take the time to learn it correctly, especially for more complex issues, don’t assume that it is a shortcoming of EFT when you’re not getting the results you want. It is not fair to blame EFT for not producing a desired result, when in fact it is the shortcoming of the person applying it. To find a workshop in your area, visit Gary Craig’s website emofree.com, or my workshop site at EFTworkshops.org. If you’re serious about learning more about this powerful tool that can literally change your life, doing a live workshop is highly recommended. It is also a necessity, if you plan on becoming a practitioner of EFT.

Lack of Motivation (Not Really Wanting to Make A Change) Once in a while, I come across a person who would rather stay stuck, than change their life that is not working. It’s a sad choice, but too often true.  One particular client, “Ken,” comes to mind who had a strange sexual fetish that he really didn’t want to let go of. He finally admitted he was only seeing me at his wife’s insistence and that he didn’t want to change at all. He liked his fetish and wasn’t about to give it up. Fine with me. So I sent him home to deal with his wife. Another client, “Jerry,” had Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). He had a severe phobia of germs, washing his hands up to a hundred times a day. He also showered and washed his hair several times a day. Furthermore he made his family follow the same procedures in order for them to remain “clean and acceptable.” If they didn’t bathe every time they entered the house he considered them “filthy and disgusting.” The rest of the family very much wanted Jerry to get help, but when Jerry first came to see me, he made it clear that he actually liked the attention and feeling special, and that he didn’t want to get over his OCD. When I asked if he might like to at least get over his fear of germs he replied “No, no! Being afraid of germs keeps me safe and alive, so I don’t want to let that fear go.” This wasn’t a Reversal - this was a choice. He didn’t want to change, and admitted he didn’t even want to want to change. I don’t feel it’s © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 56 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook my responsibility to try to talk someone into changing. I may offer my opinion and make suggestions. However, I have an obligation to respect someone’s right to choose for themselves, unless it involves harming themselves or others.  “Betty,” one of my very first phone clients, had been a victim so long, it had become a part of her identity. She had experienced a lot of sadness in her life; she had survived breast cancer and a double mastectomy, her brother was brutally murdered, her parents were holocaust survivors, her husband left her for a younger woman, her son lost a leg in a car accident, she was fired from her job, etc. It seemed her life was an endless tragedy and, understandably, her attitude was extremely negative. She actually whined when she talked and answered most questions with a negative response, such as, “Okay, I’ll try, but it won’t work - nothing ever does.” In our tapping, we just weren’t getting anywhere. I had already tried finding the core issues, being specific, etc. Then, I asked her “Betty, do you really want to feel better and have your life work?” She calmly said “I’ve been this way so long, I don’t think I’d know how to act if things were going right for me.” Silly me - as a “newbie,” I remained undaunted, determined to get results. I continued with other approaches, such as, “Tell me how your life would be different if your life was working and things were really clicking.” She said, “I can’t even imagine that, and. even if things were going my way, I’d just f--- it up again anyway. I always do.” I eventually asked her, “Do you want me to continue to try to help you?” To which she said, “No, not really. I have all I need.” When I asked her what that was, she said, “Sympathy and attention of friends who feel sorry for me and want to help me”. She had been telling me that in different ways for an hour. Finally, I got that she really meant it. So, I wished her well and sent her on her way. The point is that you can’t help someone if they really don’t want to be helped. This is different than people who are Reversed or skeptical about EFT. You don’t have to believe in or understand EFT for it to work. Some of the biggest fans of EFT were skeptics at first (like me.) As long as


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook someone wants to change, EFT can work for them. If they are not motivated, or ready for change, however, nothing you do will be effective.

Energy Toxins or Substance Sensitivity A strong enough toxin or sensitivity, in, on, or around you, can also stop EFT from working. Energy toxins and substance sensitivities are the rarest of the stumbling blocks, but they do happen. Sensitivities can be caused by something you just ate, by clothing, by carpeting, by pets, by a watch, by jewelry on your body, or by metal in your body—such as pins, fillings, braces, or metal plates. Even a cell phone, pager or other electrical device could cause sensitivity! Toxins can also be medications or drugs a person has been taking. In order to eliminate a sensitivity, or toxin, you need to identify it, which can mean a lot of work and detective duty. It can involve asking questions and be confirmed with muscle testing. See my article on Reversals at lifecoachingwithlindsay.com to learn about muscle testing.

Once during a workshop, Gary was experiencing a rare failure of EFT while working with several people. In fact, it appeared that no one seemed to be experiencing results. It was discovered that the hotel had installed new carpeting over the weekend, which is toxic to many people. Gary took the entire class outside to tap and started getting great results immediately. Once discovered, clearing the sensitivity is usually simple. It’s finding it, that can be a problem.  A few years ago I had a client, Denny, who seemed stuck on a simple problem. I was pretty sure there wasn’t a core issue to be discovered, a Reversal to overcome, or any other block, so, I was really stumped. Just when I was about to pitch Denny out the window, his cell phone rang. He pulled it out of his pocket, answered it, and a light went off in my little brain. I muscle-tested Denny for sensitivity to his cell phone, and he tested positive (that’s a yes!). So I had him turn it off and put it across the room. We then tapped again on his issue, and it collapsed neatly in 2 or 3 rounds. Thank God for that timely phone call!


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Since then, I have discovered that many electronic devices can interfere with the body’s electrical system - whether someone is sensitive to them or not, thus impeding EFT. So, before tapping with someone, I ask that they remove any pagers, phones, Game Boys, Blackberries, Palm Pilots, etc. from their pockets. Even digital watches can sometimes cause interference. Problems with electronic devices are easy to remedy, so, it is better to be safe than sorry.

Clearing a toxin, or substance sensitivity If you swell up like a puffer fish when you eat shrimp, break out in hives with peanuts, or go into anaphylactic shock when you are stung by a wasp, then you have a serious allergy, not a sensitivity. It is possible that EFT may be able to help extreme allergic reactions, but, to my knowledge, it hasn’t been tried or tested. And, I am not advocating that you start now. Please note that we are talking about sensitivities, not extreme, hiveproducing, breathing-constricted allergies. So, please be responsible with this information. I highly recommend Sandi Radowski’s video on Substance Sensitivities in Gary’s Specialty Series DVDs http://snipurl.com/n2io. (This is a short link - the actual one is way too long to be easy to copy from a book.) Many sensitivities can be cleared with EFT, and it is a fairly simple procedure. You can do it by touching the object in question with one hand while tapping with the other. This is how it is done: Put one hand on the object and tap with the other. (If the problem is a filling or metal plate in your body, put one hand on the approximate location of the metal while tapping with the other. If the problem is a food sensitivity, put one hand on the plate with the food—or even on the food itself—spaghetti can be messy…and tap with the other). The set-up would be “Even though I may be sensitive to this ______, I ask my body to accept it as safe and healthy.” Do the set-up, as always, three times. Then do one round, using the reminder of “this sensitivity to my cell phone, food, (or whatever)”. Do the second round saying, “I ask my body to accept these gold fillings (or whatever) as safe and healthy.”


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Do a final round alternating those statements on each of the points, i.e., on the eyebrow point, say, “The remaining sensitivity to _____ .” On the outside of the eyes, say, “I ask my body to overcome this sensitivity.” Under the eyes, say, “The remaining sensitivity to _____ , ” and so on. Again, substance sensitivities are less common than any of the other stumbling blocks, so I don’t spend much time worrying about them. Nevertheless, it’s good to be aware of them, just in case you get stuck. However, cell phone sensitivity is actually rather common, or it just could be the electrical interference. Either way, removal of the device from the body is usually enough to remedy that problem. More on toxins can be found at Gary’s website, and on muscle testing in my lifecoachingwithlindsay.com Reversals article. These are the Nine Stumbling Blocks to EFT, yet there is one more important thing that can help ensure successful EFT treatments. And that is simply being persistent. Sometimes we just give up too soon. Often, just being persistent can make the difference in reaching resolution with an issue. I recently had a backache that just wouldn’t quit. I had tried tapping, gone to see a chiropractor, more tapping, pain medications, yoga, rest and relaxation, and more tapping. But nothing was giving me total relief. One night I was so miserable that I just decided I would keep tapping until the pesky pain went away. Well, it turned out that the backache needed about 10 rounds of tapping in one session to resolve it, instead of the 3 or 4 rounds I normally needed to collapse an issue. The only thing standing in the way of success was my not being persistent with each session. I was spoiled by the one-minute miracles and was giving up after a couple of rounds. With continual tapping for those 10 or so rounds the pain disappeared and never returned. Lesson learned. The bottom line is, whether you are a practitioner trying to perfect your technique or an individual doing EFT for yourself, knowing and practicing the Nine Stumbling Blocks to EFT is invaluable to your success. Those of us who have been doing EFT for years know it works, so we’re more likely to be persistent and look for any impediments. If we don’t get an © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 60 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook immediate result we don’t say to ourselves “EFT just isn’t working.” We simply ask “What’s in the way here?” So, if you’re not getting the results you want or expect, become knowledgeable about these nine stumbling blocks and how to remedy them, then practice, practice, practice, and your success rate will improve considerably. If you’d like to purchase my audio series on the Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT, visit here: LifeCoachingwithLindsay.com. Before going any further, stop here and practice what you’ve learned so far. Try EFT on yourself, your friends, your pets, or anyone. But don’t expect perfection the first few tries. Persistence and Practice are key elements when you are a beginner.

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Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Note from Lindsay: Rather than reinventing the wheel on the Movie Technique, I’m using Gary’s method pulled right from his website, with his permission. It tells it all, so I don’t need to add a thing.

The Movie Technique A Tool For Being xSpecific By Gary Craig Last time I emphasized the importance of addressing specific events rather than global issues. This can often spell the difference between apparent failure and dramatic success. Even though the concept is easy to understand, some newcomers have difficulty putting it into practice. Fortunately, there is a tool that greatly simplifies this important task. I call it the “movie technique,” and it’s clearly demonstrated with both Rich and Robert on our 6 Days at the VA tape (EFT Course: http://snipurl.com/n2io see the 3rd tape). Simply stated, if the client can make a mental movie of the event then it is automatically specific. A movie has a specific beginning and a specific end in time. It has a specific plot and specific characters. It has specific words & specific actions and generates specific feelings. In fact, if the client can’t make a specific movie of their problem then the problem is too globally stated. Here’s an example. Suppose the client states their problem as, “My father always abused me.” This is too global, of course, because that abuse is likely comprised of numerous specific instances (events) of abuse. If you ask the client to make a specific movie of this abuse, YOU TEND TO FORCE THEM IN THE DIRECTION OF A SPECIFIC EVENT. Once in awhile the client will make a vague generalization of the issue instead of a specific


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook movie. In such cases, you will need to guide them in the proper direction.To give you some guidelines for stepping through this movie technique, I submit the following procedures that I have refined over time.....  First, ask the client, “If it was a movie, how long would it last?” Typically, they give me an answer that can be measured in minutes. This reflects, of course, a specific movie. If they say, “several days,” then you can usually assume they are still being too global.  Next, ask the client, “What would the title be?” This also tends to force specificity. In most cases, they will give you a specific title such as, “Fight in the Kitchen” or “My accident in Mom’s car.” If they give you a more general title, be sure to check out how specific they are being.  Next, ask them to run the movie in their mind and evaluate the intensity they are having NOW (as they imagine it) on a scale of 0-10. Alternatively, you can ask them to GUESS what their intensity would be IF they vividly imagined it. I usually find their guesses to be reasonably accurate AND guessing tends to save the clients some emotional pain.  Next, do several rounds of EFT on “this ____________ movie” to take the edge off of any intensity.  Next, ask them to verbally narrate the movie to you, starting with an easy-to-discuss segment, BUT STOP WHENEVER THEY FEEL ANY INTENSITY. You will usually need to emphasize the importance of stopping because most clients are conditioned to believe that, in order to be rid of their problem, they must be brave and feel the pain while going through it. This is now ancient thinking. With EFT, these stopping points provide opportunities for tapping.  Next, use EFT on each stopping point until there is no more intensity on that segment (aspect) of the movie.  Next, ask the client to run the movie in their mind in vivid detail and report on any intensity that comes up.  Next, repeat EFT on any leftover intensity and re-run the movie. Keep doing this EFT/movie cycle until the movie no longer has a charge on it. Properly done, this procedure should neatly remove a negative tree from © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 63 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook the client’s emotional forest. Then you can remove another tree...and then another...and then another...until 5 or 10 of them have been thoroughly uprooted. Since most of these trees have some commonality among them, there is usually a “generalization effect” that spreads throughout the whole forest, thereby toppling the rest of the trees. Thus, the client’s problem of “My father always abused me,” even though it may have several hundred events (trees) contributing to it, is often handled after 5 or 10 specific events have been neutralized. As indicated above, both the “movie technique” and the “generalization effect” are shown in glowing detail in the 6 Days at the VA tape (get it here: http://snipurl.com/n2io). Dedicated students will want to watch this tape repeatedly (particularly the segment with Rich). It is loaded with useful language and will enhance almost anyone’s skills with EFT. Hugs, Gary

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Choice Statements How and when to use them

An effective Set-up statement is the foundation for a successful EFT session. Because acceptance is such an essential element for change, statements such as, “I deeply love and accept myself,” or “I trust and forgive myself unconditionally,” are used in most of our Set-up statements, especially when the intensity is high. These are especially effective for personal issues, or in cases where we might judge ourselves. Since we often blame ourselves (sometimes only subconsciously) for our emotional or physical pain, it’s important to first accept ourselves in order to facilitate change. Some examples are:

Even though….. I bite my fingernails, I deeply love and accept myself anyway I lose my temper with my wife for anything she says or does, I accept myself completely I’m afraid of spiders, I completely trust and accept who I am as a man/ woman I feel helpless and hopeless in my relationship with my father, I deeply accept and respect myself I drink too much and make a fool of myself when we go out with friends, I totally accept and respect myself as a good husband and father. I wet the bed last night, I’m really a good kid and I know mommy and daddy love me I’m terrified about my speech tomorrow, I love and trust myself and my abilities © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 65 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook In other words, if it is a very personal issue for you, then loving, accepting, forgiving, trusting and respecting yourself are essential for healing and growth. Therefore, one or more should always be included in the Set-up statement. If you find it difficult to say, “I love and accept myself” or any of the other positive affirmations, then buffer the statement with, “I really want to love and accept myself,” or, “I’m truly working toward self acceptance,” or, “I choose to start trusting and forgiving myself.” Some might think that all issues we deal with are personal, and indeed many are. That’s why the most common Set-up phrases include the words “love and accept.” However, there are many cases where the issues aren’t as personal and “choice statements” work as well, or better than, acceptance statements. Issues such as being stressed about being stuck in traffic, having a headache, or getting over a traumatic event or memory, work great with choice statements. Experiencing pain from bodily injury, being angry at someone, or having difficulty breathing are other examples for choice statements. A choice statement is also appropriate when an issue has diminished in intensity to a 3 or lower. Here are some examples of choice statements:

Even though…. There’s still some remaining anger about being mugged on the way home from church, I choose to let it go completely and begin feeling comfortable going out again. I have this pain in my right shoulder, and I ask my body to eliminate it. I choose to be able to move my arm easily and comfortably. I may still want to eat this piece of chocolate, I choose to totally overcome this remaining craving and eliminate any desire to eat it. I’m still a little anxious about going into this meeting, I choose to overcome my jitters and be completely confident, strong and certain speaking to this group.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook I dread seeing my brother-in-law after he cheated on my sister, I choose to accept him and move on,” or…I choose to trust myself to handle the situation. I have dirty, filthy rats in my basement and have to clean up their mess, and even though it gives me the willies, I choose to overcome being squeamish and nauseated and deal with it calmly and confidently. I may still have some sensitivity to wheat (or any food, or benign substance) I choose to have my body accept it as safe and healthy. I’m allergic to cats, I realize that it’s safe for me to be around them and I choose to allow my body to remain allergy-free when I am around cats. After doing the Set-up statement three times while rubbing the sore spot, use the reminder statements as you go through the points in this way (doing three rounds for every one setup statement):  Do one round, using the negative reminder, such as, “this fear of spiders,” “this pain in my shoulder,” “this sensitivity to soy.”  Then start again at the eyebrow point doing a round on only the positive, or choice statement, such as, “I choose to be confident,” “Choosing to let this anger go,” “Choosing to overcome this fear,” “I choose to accept cats as safe and healthy for me.” I often alternate the lettig-go statement with the positive desired result—i.e.: EB - “I choose to completely eliminate this fear of public speaking” OE - “I choose to be confident and certain.” UE - “I choose to let go of this fear” UN - “I choose to trust myself to speak with authority and certainty” etc.  Do a third round alternating the negative and choice statements. For instance, at the eyebrow point “This fear of birds,” at the corner of the eye, “I choose to let this fear go,” under the eyes, “Remaining fear of birds,” under the nose “I choose to be calm and comfortable around birds,” etc. It doesn’t matter if you get the order “wrong” - just make sure you end


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook with the positive. It only matters that you keep doing it until your symptoms or issues are completely alleviated. If, after three or four rounds of doing the choice statement you haven’t eradicated the issue, change the Set-up statement, or change the choice statement, or be more specific about the issue until you get the results you want. It’s important that you don’t stop just because you start to “feel better.”

Keep tapping until you’re feeling great and the issue has been completely put to rest.

Using the Ultimate Truth Statement What do you do when it’s hard to measure whether or not an issue is resolved? For instance, what if you have a tendency to procrastinate, or lack confidence in meeting your new in-laws. How do you measure or test that? I use what we call an Ultimate Truth Statement. Here’s how. Develop a sentence that would represent the most positive outcome you would want to achieve. For instance, “I always do things in a timely way, never put things off, and always keep commitments with myself and others.” Use a 1-10 scale. This time, have 10 be the goal for 100% confidence in the truth of the positive statement. That is, if you absolutely believed that you always do things on time and never procrastinate, you’d be at a 10. Most likely you’ll start this process at a 5 or less. Therefore, after doing a Set-up statement of “Even though I usually procrastinate, I love and accept myself anyway,” you would do a couple of rounds stating a negative reminder phrase of, “My tendency to procrastinate....” On the third round, start saying things on consecutive points like, “I’d really like to get rid of this procrastination….I’d like to do things on © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 68 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook time….I want to let go of always being late….I want to be timely with my projects and commitments….etc.” Now check yourself with the Ultimate Truth Statement. You should have moved up a few notches on the scale (remember you’re going toward the 10 this time). Keep repeating the above process until you’re within 3 of your goal (that would be a 7 or greater). Then go back to the set-up point and switch to a choice statement. It would be something like this: “Even though a part of me tends to put things off, a bigger part of me would like to do things on a timely basis. So, I choose to let the bigger part of me win. I choose to find the resources within me to eliminate this nasty habit of procrastination. And, I choose to do things on time.” Do a variation of this three times.

The wording doesn’t have to be exactly like this. Be flexible and do what works for YOU. Now, on the first round of points, say, “My remaining habit of being late” (or whatever the issue), at each point. On the second round, at each consecutive point say “I choose to break this procrastination habit” or “I choose to eliminate being late, etc.” “I choose to be on time,” then “I choose to let go of my being-late habits.” “I choose to complete commitments when they are due” or “I choose to completely eliminate my procrastination,” “I choose to be on time,” etc. On the third round, alternate the negative and the choices, i.e. “Remaining procrastination….I choose to eliminate it….remaining procrastination…I choose to be on time with projects….remaining procrastination….I choose to be proud of myself for doing things on time…remaining procrastination….I choose to break and eliminate that habit”…etc. Now check yourself with the Ultimate Truth Statement. You may be at a 10 by now. If you’re at a 9 or 9.5, do the 9-point Gamut to balance you off © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 69 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook and complete the process. Use the phrase, “remaining procrastination” while tapping on the Gamut point and doing the eye rolls, humming and counting.

I often wrap this process up by doing one more round of just positive, desired phrases. At each consecutive point, put in a different positive affirmation, such as: “I’m always on time … I’m confident in my abilities… I’m clear about what needs to be done and when… I always do things in a timely manner … I’m proud of myself for completing projects on time … I see what needs to be done, and I DO IT…People respect me for keeping my word…I keep my commitments to myself and others…I’m a responsible, on-time person,” etc. This feels SO good to do and is a great way to finish up the process.

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In our Level 2 EFT Course you’ll learn how to get the most out of your Choice Statements and how to use Choices for getting what you want in life, using the “Perfecting Choice Statements” process.

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Frequently Asked Questions List FAQs About EFT... see page 73 1. Why do I have to say negative statements? 2. Do I tap on one side or both? 3. Which is better the Karate Chop or the Sore Spot on the chest as the set-up? 4. Why do people use different tapping points? 5. Can EFT be used on children, the infirmed, or pets? 6. How long do I have to tap to get results? 7. Why is it important to know my SUDs level and what does SUDs stand for? 8. What if I can’t figure out my intensity level? 9. Does EFT work for…? (whatever) 10. What’s the best way to learn about EFT? 11. Where can I find a workshop? 12. I’ve tried EFT but it isn’t working for ME. What do I do next? 13. What’s the difference in Simple and Complex issues? 14. What words or phrases do I use?

FAQs from Gary Craig’s 79-page manual ... page 83 (with comments from Lindsay) How is EFT different from a Quick Fix? Does EFT last? How does EFT handle problems that are intense or for old issues?



How does EFT deal with a person’s need to understand the problem? How does EFT help with sports performance? Why does EFT give surprisingly good relief from physical problems? How does EFT deal with stress and anxiety? Note: If there are any questions not answered here please email me at [email protected] and I’ll try to answer them for you. If it’s a frequent question, I’ll add it to the answers here. I don’t do consultations by e-mail. So if you have an issue that needs clearing, please set up an appointment with me or another practitioner.

Frequently Asked Questions About Lindsay... see page 129 What are your fees and availability? Where are you located and what are your hours? Do you do sessions by phone and how can EFT work by phone? Can you help me find a practitioner near me? Do you know someone who specialized in….? Can you personally recommend a practitioner?



Answers to FAQs About EFT 1.

Q. Why do I have to say negative statements?

A. This is, indeed, a frequently asked question and a valid one. By stating the problem (usually something negative) it brings to the surface feelings and emotions about an event or issue, alerting the body and our sensitive energy system where the blockage might be (remember, the cause of all negative emotions is a blockage in the body’s energy system). By saying the negative but true statement while stimulating the meridians, you are sending tiny vibrations or shock waves throughout your energy pathways. By doing so you are gently nudging away the blockage or disruption that causes the negative emotion. If you stated a positive affirmation instead, such as, “Even though I was just robbed and beaten, that’s OK, I feel safe and secure now,” your system would surely rebel. There would be a giant “tail ender” saying, “What?! Are you kidding me? I don’t feel secure or safe at all!” Your subconscious (or even conscious) would have the same reaction if you left off the negative occurrence, as well, and made only a positive statement. Believe me, many have tried this approach to no avail. It’s true that when we tell ourselves “It’s OK, I’ll be alright” we can sometimes calm ourselves down. But calming ourselves is not the purpose of EFT. Using EFT can completely eliminate the negative emotion, pain or issue. That said, however, once the intensity is at a lower SUDs level (3 or less) you can then switch to a more positive choice statement. Read more about the Choice Method elsewhere in this book or at Lindsay’s Website LKCoaching.com.



2.

Q. Do I tap on one side or both?

A. You may have already noticed that many practitioners do tapping

differently. Since I initially learned EFT from an Acupuncturist, who really understands the meridian system, I tap on both sides. My belief is that you have a better chance of getting to the blockage and dislodging it quicker by bilateral tapping. If you use one hose to wash your car, it will get clean. But if a friend joins you with another hose on the other side, you’ll get the car cleaner faster (and probably have more fun). That said, probably half of the practitioners out there just use one side and get good results. I’ve tried it both ways, and for me, double-sided tapping gets better results. I suggest you do whatever works best for you.

3.

Q. Is it better to use the Karate Chop point on the side

of the hand, or the Sore Spot on the chest as the set-up? A. These points are virtually the same when it comes to effective set-up statements. However, I use the sore spot on the chest for two reasons.

One, because the points on the chest are two of the body’s lymphatic drainage system points. These points are sometime sore because they can be congested. Rubbing them consistently helps disperse the accumulated toxins, dispersing them to be diluted and flushed out. And two, because I use the Karate Chop point to do Reversal Neutralizations, thus distinguishing that from the set-up statements on the chest. In reality you can use either points for both objectives.

4.

Q. Why do some people use different tapping points?

A. The body has 14 meridians spread throughout the body. These energy

pathways come to the surface in several places throughout the body; the face, head, upper torso, spine, ankles, wrists, etc. When Gary Craig developed EFT, one of his objectives was to make it simple. You can keep EFT effective and simple by just doing the basic “shortcut” points outlined in Gary’s 79 page manual; EB, OE, UE, UN, CH, CB, UA. However, by adding a few more points, the inside of the wrists, the liver spot (over the liver on


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook the right side), and the crown of the head, you are again increasing your effectiveness rate.

There are really no right or wrong points. We tend to do what works best for us. And for me using the 10 points mentioned above brings extraordinary results. For awhile I left out the Liver Spot, just for convenience. But with the encouragement of my colleague, acupuncturist Zoe Walton, I added it back in. And maybe it’s just my imagination, but I tell the difference with better results.

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Q. Can EFT be used on children, the infirmed or pets?

A. Yes, EFT can be used on virtually anyone (including pets) with good

results. For babies, pets, the elderly and those unable to tap themselves you can use surrogate tapping, which is tapping on yourself, for them. To learn more about this phenomenon search for articles on Gary’s site here for Pets, Children or the Elderly.

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Q. How long do I have to tap to get results?

A. The short answer is: Until you get the result you want. I want to

expand on that a bit though. Normally you can resolve an issue in 3-4 rounds, which only takes a few minutes. Simple issues are particularly quick and easy to deal with. Sometimes it may take 5-6 rounds, or even 10-12 to resolve a difficult issue. You may need to go through several “doors”, look at many different aspects, and dig for the core issue, to get the optimal end result of complete resolution. That takes time. But hey, that could be an hour, or maybe two at the most to completely resolve a painful, lifelong issue. Traditional therapy could take months or years to resolve the same problem. We often get spoiled with “one-minute-miracles” getting impatient when something is taking too long. But we must keep it in perspective and realize that even the most difficult or complex cases can be resolved to completion in a fraction of the time any other therapy might hope to offer. Patience and


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook persistence are the keys to successfully resolving challenging issues. Time should not be a factor. I want to point out that it’s also important to make sure an issue is completely resolved before leaving it. Some people say, “Gee, I feel better now,” and stop at that. Later when they feel a negative charge again about the same issue, they will think that EFT didn’t work. If you truly get all of the aspects resolved and get an issue to a zero on the SUDs scale, then it’s likely gone for good. That’s not to say that at some point an aspect that was missed might not pop up for you. But resolving that should be very easy, since the bigger components have already been collapsed. So, stay with it until you’re sure an issue is completely resolved. Test yourself by trying to get upset about it again. If you just can’t find a charge, then you’re likely done. That’s how long it takes.

7.

Q. Why is it important to know my SUDs level and what

does SUDs stand for anyway? A. SUDs stands for Subjective Unit of Distress. The ‘s’ at the end is superfluous, but is commonly used anyway. It’s important to know your intensity level so you’ll know where you are and where you need to go.

If you simply say, “I’m really upset” that doesn’t give you much information. If you can put a number to it, say a 9, even if it’s subjective, at least you have a guesstimate of a starting point. Then as you tap and get in touch with your decreasing SUD level, and get to a 6 on the second round, you know you’re making progress but still have more to work on. Conversely, if your number hasn’t changed after a couple of rounds, you know you’re missing something and need to make some changes (see the “9 Stumbling Blocks of EFT” to give you direction). Likewise if you get down to a 2, you’ll know you’re close but not ready to stop tapping. You want to keep going until you can say for certain that you’re at a zero. I love using the SUD rating and check it several times (usually after every 2 rounds of tapping) during the course of eliminating an issue.



8.

Q. What if I can’t figure out my intensity level?

A. It’s not always easy to figure out, on a scale of 1 to 10, how much your

shoulder hurts, or how angry you are at your brother-in-law, or how afraid of spiders you are. At best it’s a subjective guess. While many people come up with their SUD level right away, many others struggle with this little aspect of EFT. I ask clients to guess what their number would be. Try saying this sentence out loud rather fast, without pausing at the end. Just say what comes to you. “Even though I don’t know what my intensity level is, if I had to guess I’d say it was at a…..” This simple little trick bypasses the conscious mind and allows the subconscious to provide the answer. Good practitioners generally know where someone stands as they talk about their issues. So if a client’s number is far off from the estimate of the practitioner, he or she would have occasion to question the client’s answer. When working with yourself, you can only guess and do your best. Odds are if you don’t analyze it too much and just go with your gut feeling, you’ll be just fine. As stated in the above question and answer, it is important to get the SUD rating so you’ll know where you are and where you need to go.

9.

Q. Does EFT work for…?

A. One of the most common questions EFT Practitioners hear is “Can EFT help with…. diabetes, hepatitis, Multiple Sclerosis, pimples, etc?”

To which we almost always respond “Probably! Try it on everything!” A more thorough and accurate answer, however, would be, “Many others have experienced great results with your issue, so it’s highly likely that you will get resolution too.” It’s safe to say EFT has been tried on just about every issue, problem or physical ailment you can image. So we know EFT can bring miraculous results to virtually anything…especially in the hands of an accomplished © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 77 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook practitioner. And since EFT has never been known to harm anyone, it’s painless, and it works when nothing else has, go ahead and try it on your issue. In experienced hands, EFT delivers significant relief over 90% of the time (the medical profession would love to have those results). Many cases, however, especially if complex, require more than just applying the basic sequence. So if you’ve already tried EFT and aren’t getting the results you want, it’s unlikely any shortcoming of EFT, but rather that you’re missing some important element. There is an art to EFT that goes far beyond what you can learn in the 79page manual—or even by watching all of Gary’s wonderful videos—that only comes with experience and practice. For instance there are several obstacles that can impede EFT’s progress. I suggest you read my article The Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT, which you can find at LKCoaching.com. From there click on the Free Stuff page.

10.

Q. What’s the best way to learn EFT?

A. There’s so much to EFT that you should take several routes. EFT is

beautiful in its simplicity, however there is SO much more to it than meets the eye. EFT is effective for hundreds of simple issues and can be self applied, however, for more complex issues I suggest that you work with an experienced practitioner. Start the process by downloading Gary’s free 79-page manual: http: //snipurl.com/n1m8. And do consider purchasing Gary’s fabulous video programs on EFT http://snipurl.com/n2io. Another way to learn EFT is by seeing a practitioner for your own issues and learn as you go. You can also learn a lot about EFT on my website at LKCoaching.com. Click on the EFT button on the first page, then on EFT Simplified next. There is a TON of information there, including case histories, testimonials, workshops, teleclasses, and audio files. And do sign up for my free Hot Flashes newsletter.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook One of the best ways to learn EFT is by doing an approved EFT workshop. Level 1 is for beginners, even those who have watched the videos and read the manual. Move up to Level 2 when you have more experience with EFT. Take Level 3 when you feel ready to take your knowledge to the next level. While Level 3 is not exclusively for aspiring practitioners, it’s often the serious student who will take that course. See the next question for where to find one.

11.

Q. Where can I find a workshop?

A. One of the best ways to learn EFT is by doing an approved EFT workshop (start with Level 1 and move up from there to 2 and 3). Visit my workshop site at eftworkshops.org or for a workshop in your area check out at Gary’s site http://snipurl.com/n1m8. Go to the “Learn EFT” section.

12.

Q. I’ve tried EFT, but it’s just not working for ME. What

do I do now? A. When people try EFT for “old” problems or complex issues and aren’t

getting the results they want, some may think EFT just isn’t working for them. Some people might think that the testimonials they’ve heard aren’t real. Actually, neither is true. As wonderful as EFT is, there are several impediments that can get in the way of its success. Beginners should only try using EFT on “simple” issues, leaving more complex problems to experienced practitioners. Please read my article about the Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT, which you can download at LKCoaching.com. You’ll find this article on the Free Stuff page. You can also purchase an audio series about the same topic. If, after reading the article, you’re still having problems, then you may need assistance from a professional. The article explains why that is true. Sometimes even experienced practitioners need the eyes, ears and intuition of others to get to the heart of the matter…especially for complex issues.



13.

Q. What’s the difference between Simple and

Complex issues? A. First: simple issues broadly defined. There are no hard and fast rules, but typically, simple issues are problems that are usually:

Single faceted, like the hiccups, or your boss embarrassed you at the sales meeting, or you’re disappointed that you didn’t get the promotion you wanted, or you’re stressed after a tough day at work. Recent, as opposed to something that happened years ago, or has been going on for a long time. Not chronic, not a persistent problem like chronic pain, anger or grief. A simple pain or injury, as opposed to a complex medical issue or a serious illness. Fear or simple phobias. Emotions, like stress, frustration, anger, embarrassment, cravings, etc. Ones you can generally work on and resolved yourself, with some basic knowledge of EFT I believe there are Two Tiers of complex issues, which almost always involve more than one aspect. Tier One issues include things like grief, chronic pain, “minor” traumas, allergies, some abuse issues, weight issues, food addictions, stuttering, and most non life-threatening illnesses. Many of the examples used in my Nine Stumbling Blocks article (available in the Free Stuff section of LKCoaching.com) are examples of Tier One complex issues. Some of these you can work on yourself. If you’re not getting resolution, I suggest that you contact an experienced practitioner. The second, more difficult to work with Tier Two, includes child abuse, sexual or ritual abuse, traumatic or life-altering accidents or deaths, severe and sustained physical or emotional abuse, drug addictions, morbid obesity, and so on. Tier Two complex issues are usually highly charged emotionally or often a result of very traumatic occurrences. Also included in these © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 80 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook more difficult cases would be psychological problems such as bi-polarism, schizophrenia, multiple personalities, serious illnesses, and so on. Here’s what’s important to remember: most simple issues can be handled by anyone, including yourself. Complex issues, especially Tier Two, need to be dealt with by an experienced practitioner. Nonetheless, in case you’re curious or just want to know more about complex issues read my article EFT issues, Simple or Complex? at LKCoaching.com on the Free Stuff page (the article is mostly for other practitioners, but you’re welcome to read it, too). Again, please consult a qualified practitioner for the tough stuff.

14.

Q. What words and phrases do I use?

A. This is a simple, yet complex question and one of the most frequently asked.

The easy answer is to use this simple formula: add an acceptance affirmation to your problem, such as, “Even though I have this __________ (fill in your issue), I deeply and completely accept myself.” However, there is a bit more to it than that. What’s important to remember is you can’t do it “wrong”, but some phrases are more effective than others. Try it different ways until you get the result you want. To learn about doing set-up phrases and what’s important about them, read my article on the “9 Stumbling Blocks of EFT”, which is downloadable at my Free Stuff page at LKCoaching.com. Being specific, finding the core issue, and getting rid of Reversals are imperative to successful EFTing.

Here are some examples of set-up statements. Remember, being specific is important. Even though I have this fear of speaking to groups of over 5 people, I deeply and completely accept myself. Even though a part of me doesn’t want to forgive my mother for hurting my feelings at Christmas, I accept who I am without judgment. Even though I have this sinus headache above my eyes, I deeply love and accept who I am.



I deeply and completely accept myself, even though I have anger towards my father for yelling at me last night. Even though I have this stiffness on the right side of my neck, I completely accept myself and love my body. I deeply accept myself unconditionally, even though I have a killer craving for chocolate right now. Even though I have this fear of snakes, I love and accept myself anyway. I deeply and profoundly accept myself, even though I’m really sad over my breakup with ________.

15.

Q. How can I learn more about EFT?

A. Although you can generate impressive results with EFT, you must

recognize that you are just beginning. EFT is capable of far more than what you learnin in Gary’s 79-page manual. Here are some other options: Order Gary’s EFT videos on EFT http://snipurl.com/n2io. Click on the “Learn EFT” button for a list of great video products. Take a live workshop where you can actually practice EFT, work on your own issues, and get your questions answered. You’ll learn even more in a live workshop than in the initial videos. To really learn how to do EFT effectively, it’s great to do both. Check Lindsay’s EFT Approved Workshops at LKCoaching.com or the Approved Workshops at Gary’s site http://snipurl.com/n1m8. See a practitioner in person, or by phone. Find one at Gary’s site or at my website NationalAllianceforEmotionalHealth.com. You can also obtain a lot of information there about EFT including testimonials, case histories, and free downloads.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Q. How is EFT different from a “quick fix?” A. The label “quick fix” carries with it a negative connotation and is often

used to label the questionable healing techniques of hucksters and cheats. The term goes hand in hand with the term “con man,” and when used, often brings about thoughts of suspicion and caution. EFT offers rapid relief from numerous emotional and physical ailments without meriting the negative label of being a “quick fix.” This is obvious to any observer of the case histories in this course and is even more obvious to those students who have experienced the results first hand. I use the term rapid relief instead of “quick fix” to put across the same idea, but without the negative connotation. Now here’s an important note: Throughout history, a healing technique was inefficient until someone found the true remedy for the ailment. When the true remedy was found, the old method became a relic of the past. Polio is a case in point. Until the Salk vaccine was discovered, Poliomyelitis was considered incurable and all manners of medications and therapies (including the Iron Lung) were employed to help the sufferers. They were the best at the time, but did help ease some of the discomfort, and limited some of the long term damage caused by the disease, but that was about it. And then came the Salk vaccine. It did away with all the antiquated, inefficient attempts at curing Polio and replaced them with a true remedy. It was, indeed, a “quick fix” without the negative connotation. The eradication of Polio is only one example where inefficient methods gave way to true remedies. Penicillin, for instance, has been another “quick fix” miracle drug that has provided instant cures for illnesses ranging from respiratory diseases to gonorrhea. The examples go on and on, of course, but the point is that EFT and energy therapies are replacing inefficient techniques used to attain emotional health. The fact that EFT and energy therapies allow rapid relief to seemingly-difficult emotional problems is impressive evidence that they represent true remedies. If they took forever to do very little, then they should simply take their places


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook among the other ho-hum techniques of the past. But they don’t. They hit the bull’s eye and perform as true remedies should…quickly, easily, permanently.

Q. Does it last? A. This question is usually a companion to the above “quick fix” question.

After all, the common assumption is that relief that can be attained that fast must be temporary. Lasting results, at least in the minds of most people, must take time to produce. Not so. EFT results are usually permanent. The case histories in this course are filled with people who have had lasting results, even though the problem was relieved in moments. This is still more evidence that EFT is addressing the true cause of the problem. Otherwise, the remedy would not be so long-lasting. Please remember that EFT doesn’t do everything for everyone. Some problems seem to reappear which is usually caused by different aspects of the original problem showing up at a later time. The experienced student of EFT will recognize this and simply reapply The Basic Recipe for this new aspect. My experience is similar to Gary’s in that if a problem crops back up, a related aspect might have been missed originally. If an issue wasn’t taken all the way to zero, it might reappear. That’s why it’s important to get every issue to a zero. And you can test that with probing questions or by trying to get yourself upset again. If the intensity goes up, you’ll know there’s still more work to do, often on a different aspect. For more information on that read my Nine Stumbling Blocks of EFT at LKCoaching.com, then click on the Free Stuff button. The experienced student will also break the problem down into specific events and apply EFT to those underlying causes. In time, after all aspects and specific events have been addressed, the problem usually goes away completely and does not return.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Q. How does using EFT handle emotional problems that are very intense and/or have been with a person for a very long time? A. The same way we handle every other emotional problem. Using EFT,

the intensity of a problem or how long it has been around is immaterial. The cause is always a disrupted energy system. Employing The Basic Recipe to balance it gives relief, regardless of the severity. “Old” issues, may be ingrained in the body’s memory, or subconsciously the body wants to hang on to the problem. This is what I call a Polarity Reversal (or psychological reversal). If a reversal is in place, and it often is with old or serious issues, you’ll need to neutralize it before EFT will work. To learn how to do that read my article on Reversals at LKCoaching.com. Then click on the Free Stuff page to download it. This question usually comes about because of the belief that intense and/or chronic problems are more deeply ingrained than other problems. Therefore it should take more effort to relieve them. This seems very logical when viewed through conventional approaches because conventional approaches don’t directly address the true cause. Conventional approaches tend to only take aim at one’s memories or other mental processes and ignore the energy system (where the true cause lies). When slow progress is being made it is convenient to blame the problem because it is presumed to be “deeply ingrained” or otherwise difficult to deal with. In this manner, conventional approaches can, and do, explain away their inefficient or ineffective results. When EFT requires persistence, it is NOT because of the intensity or chronic nature of a problem. It is usually because of a problem’s complexity. Complexity, in EFT, means the existence of several aspects to a problem each of which must be relieved before total relief is felt. The notion of aspects is covered repeatedly in this manual, the videos and the audios.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Important Note: The above comments may or may not apply to serious mental illness. The application of EFT to serious mental illness disorders has proven helpful, but it should only be applied by a skilled professional.

Q. How does EFT deal with my need to understand my problem? A. This is one of the most astonishing features about EFT. A shift in a

person’s understanding of their problem happens simultaneously with the relief. After EFT, people talk about their problem differently. They put it in a healthy perspective. The typical rape victim, for example, no longer carries a deep fear and distrust of men. Rather, she considers her assailant(s) to have the problem and in need of help. People who use EFT for relief from guilt no longer take blame for whatever event gave rise to the guilt. Anger turns to objectivity. Grief turns to a healthy, more peaceful perspective about the death of a loved one. Notice how you and others respond to your former problem and you will see what I mean. Your understanding shifts right along with the relief. Here’s a final note on how powerfully EFT shifts understanding. In the hundreds and hundreds of people I have helped with EFT, not one of them— ever—has made any request to better understand their problem. Why would they? There was no need. Furthermore, people don’t have to believe in EFT in order for it to work. In fact, some of my biggest successes, and now advocates, are those who were the biggest skeptics in the beginning.

Q. How does EFT deal with stress and anxiety? A. In EFT, stress and anxiety have the same cause as all other negative

emotions—a disruption in the body’s energy system. Accordingly, they are addressed with The Basic Recipe the same as any other emotional issue. Anxiety has a specific meaning in clinical psychology. It refers to an intense fear or dread lacking an unambiguous cause or a specific threat.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook In EFT, however, we give it a much broader definition to include that general state of uneasiness which is more commonly known as anxiety. Under that definition stress and anxiety fall into the same category. Stress and anxiety tend to be ongoing problems because the circumstances that create them are ongoing. An abusive family situation or a stressful job environment are but two of a long list of possibilities. EFT does not do away with the circumstances, of course, but it is an important aid to reducing your anxious responses. In most cases, EFT will need to be used persistently (most likely daily) because the stressful circumstances tend to show up every day. After a while, you should notice that your responses to difficult events is much calmer. Things just don’t get to you like they used to. You smile more. Your health improves and life seems easier.

Q. How does EFT help with sports performance? A. Ask any accomplished athlete and they will tell you emphatically that their mental set is critical to their performance.

The difference between good days and bad days for the athlete is almost always due to emotional causes. Barring sickness, the athlete always brings the same highly skilled body into the field of battle. The only thing that changes is the effect that emotions have on the body. Everyone, including athletes, has a share of negative thoughts and self doubt. By now you are quite familiar with the fact that those negative states of mind disrupt the body’s energy system and cause negative emotions. These negative emotions show up in the body in a variety of ways (pounding heart, tears, sweat, etc.), including some tension in the muscles. In athletics, timing is everything—even the slightest tension in the muscles affects it. Hitting a baseball, tennis ball or golf ball requires perfect timing, and being off by just 1/8 of an inch is the difference between hitting a home run, hitting a killer serve or one that hits the net, or making or missing a putt. And so it goes. Athletes are well aware of this problem and many hire sports psychologists to help them in this regard. Any negative emotion—even the mild ones and the © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 87 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook subconscious ones—can be critical to an athlete’s performance. EFT provides a remarkably effective solution to this problem. The purpose of The Basic Recipe is to neutralize negative emotions and their effects. One of the most common responses to experiencing EFT is that people feel relaxed—which, by the way, is another way of saying that tension has left their muscles. This is ideal for the athlete because using EFT neutralizes any unnecessary emotional tension in the muscles without affecting the rest of their athletic ability. It allows their potential to flow through without being hindered by any resistance in the muscles.

Q. Why does EFT give surprisingly good relief from physical problems? A. This is easy to understand in light of the emerging attitudes toward the

existence of the mind-body connection. EFT provides striking evidence of this connection. What more obvious proof could one want than to watch changes in both mind and body occur as a result of tapping on the body’s energy system? But the evidence goes even deeper than this. Applying EFT for emotional issues often brings on the cessation of physical problems. Breathing problems go away. Headaches vanish. Joint pains subside. Multiple Sclerosis symptoms improve. I have witnessed this phenomenon for years. The list of physical improvements brought about by EFT is endless. The logical inference from this is that EFT effectively addresses any emotional contributors to one’s physical symptoms. Once the emotional contributors are out of the way the symptom subsides. There are those, of course, who believe that one’s emotions or mental processes are the only cause of their physical diseases. I don’t know how to prove or disprove that notion but I offer here the rather obvious fact that emotions, at the very least, substantially contribute to one’s physical health. And EFT is an efficient tool for relief in this regard. One final note on this. You might wonder what is happening “behind the emotional scenes” when you apply The Basic Recipe directly to a physical symptom (such as a headache) without zeroing in on a specific emotion. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 88 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Stated differently, if the physical symptom is caused by some emotional issue, then why does the physical symptom experience relief when no specific emotion was addressed? We don’t know for sure. There is much to learn about these techniques and the future, I’m sure, will bring us some exciting revelations on many fronts. For now, I believe that the subconscious mind brings up whatever emotional issue is contributing to the cause of the physical symptom. Applying The Basic Recipe automatically addresses that emotion. If you have questions that were not answered above, feel free to email me at [email protected] and I will try to answer your question. I cannot do EFT by e-mail, so if you have an unresolved issue, please schedule an appointment with me or another practitioner. If it’s a frequently asked question we may include it on our website in the FAQs..

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Answers to the Quizzes throughout this workbook Quiz 1: General Knowledge (answers in italics) 1. Name at least five physical symptoms that are the result of an emotional response, such as sweaty palms when nervous. High blood pressure, ulcers, breathing difficulties, upset stomach, pain in the chest (with grief), racing heart, dry mouth, tight muscles in the neck and shoulders, etc. 2. There are dozens of negative emotions. Name at least ten. anger, anxiety, angst, rage, depression, jealousy, hate, stress, frustration, grief, resentment, fear, hopelessness, guilt, envy, terror, hate, strife, tension, embarrassment, humiliation, shame, remorse, aggravation, disgust, envy, sadness, despair, etc. 3. Our lives depend on four major bodily movements or functions: What are they? The movement of blood, pumped by the heart throughout the body via the veins and arteries The movement of breath, thanks to our lungs taking in oxygen and purifying our blood supply The movement of food and elimination of waste through the digestive tract © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 90 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook The movement of electrical energy throughout the body through energy pathways 4) What is another name for these energy pathways? Meridians 5) How many pathways are there? 14 major meridians branching off into hundreds of pathways 6) Name at least three alternative sciences based on the energy system. Acupuncture, acupressure, and EFT (Also TFT, BASF, EMDR, TAT, and other EFT “cousins.”) 7) What is the Chinese term for the body’s energy? Chi 8) What causes negative emotions? The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.

Quiz 2: Muscle Testing 1. Is muscle testing an integral part of EFT? No, it’s not. Muscle testing is used as an additional tool to facilitate explanations of EFT and for convenience in testing certain aspects of EFT. Many practitioners don’t use muscle testing at all and do quite well without it. I prefer to use it as a complementary tool for EFT. 2) Explain in your own words why muscle testing demonstrates the principles of EFT. A. Since negative words or thoughts affect the body’s energy system,


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook muscle testing offers a visual representation of how our bodies react to negative emotions, i.e. muscles test weak when a negative word is vocalized or even thought. 3) Why would you want to use muscle testing with a friend or client? To “build a bridge” toward understanding EFT. If someone can physically see the results of just saying a negative word or phrase, they can imagine the impact a serious negative event could have on the body’s energy system. Also, later on, when testing for Reversals, or whether or not an issue has been completely resolved, muscle testing allows a “True of False” litmus test with the subconscious.

Quiz 3: Let’s see how well you’re doing! Answer the following questions without referring back to the workbook, unless you really get stuck. 1. What is the FIRST thing you need to do before starting the EFT process? Be clear and specific about an issue you want to work on 2. What do you need to do next? Assess the distress level (SUDs) from 1 to 10 3. What would your basic Set-up statement be? “Even though I have this _________I deeply and completely accept myself” 4. Where are the Set-up points? The Sore Spots on the chest—the two tender places on either side of the upper chest, and alternately, the KC point © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 92 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


5. What are the ten tapping points we’ve been using? EB, OE, UE, UN, CH, CB, UA, LV, WR, CRH 6. If, after tapping for two rounds, your intensity level (SUD) has decreased from a 10 to a 7, how do you proceed? And, what would you use as your reminder statement? Do a couple more rounds, changing the set-up statement to “Even though I still have some remaining _______ , I deeply love and accept myself.” For the reminder statement say something like “Remaining right knee pain,” or “Remaining anger.” 7. If you get stuck at a 1 SUDs or less, or if the intensity goes back up when you test yourself, what other options might you consider? Perform the 9-point Gamut, or do more rounds being more specific about the issue. Other options we will explore in the next section are how to be more specific, looking for other aspects you might have missed, checking for reversals, and making sure you’ve found and dealt with the core issue. 8. How do you make sure you’re completely over the issue? Test and reassess yourself by reliving the moment or trying to get yourself upset. If you discover any remaining charge, repeat the steps until the issue is completely resolved. 9. What would you do if your SUDs stayed at a 10, or the same as when you started? Most likely there’s a Reversal in the way. Perform the Reversal Neutralization and try again. If you’re still stuck, re-read the 9 Stumbling Blocks and see if you’ve missed something. 10. What is the EFT Discovery Statement? The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.      © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 93 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


Abbreviations of the tapping points: 1. EB = Eyebrow point at the beginning of the eyebrow over the nose. 2. SE = Side of the Eye, on the bone bordering the outside of the eye. 3. UE = Under the Eye, on the bone directly under the eye. 4. UN = Under Nose, in the center of the area between the nose and top lip. 5. CH = Chin, in the center between the bottom lip and bottom of the chin. 6. CB = Collarbone, right under your collarbone, about 3” from the center. 7. UA = Under the Arm, on the side of the body about 4”s below the armpit. 8. LV = Liver point = LP = a few inches under the nipple slightly to the side 9. WR = Bump your wrists together, at the place where your hand bends to meet the arm. 10. CRH = Crown of the head—toward the back of head. KC = Karate Chop point—can also be used as the set-up point, but is primarily used for reversals. Sore Spot = for set-up points on the chest.

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Personal Peace Procedure The Direct Path Toward Inner Peace and Joy of Life “The Personal Peace Procedure is not just a way to ‘feel a little more peaceful.’ This technique could potentially be the most powerful healing centerpiece for every person on earth.” Gary Craig, Founder of EFT

“If you are ultimately going to do something important that will make a real difference...do it now.” Howard Wight

The Personal Peace Procedure begins by making a list of every bothersome SPECIFIC EVENT in your life and systematically tapping their impact out of existence.

By diligently doing this, we can pull out every negative tree from our emotional forests and thus eliminate major causes of emotional and physical ailments. This, of course, propels each individual toward personal peace, which, in turn, contributes mightily toward their own happiness, and all those who come in contact with them. Here are some uses.... © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 95 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook  As “homework” between your sessions with a physician, coach or therapist. This is sure to accelerate and deepen the healing process.  As a daily procedure to clear out a lifetime of accumulated emotional debris. This will enhance self-image, reduce self-doubt and provide a profound sense of freedom.  As a means to eliminate a major contributor (if not the sole cause) of a serious disease. Somewhere within one’s specific events are those angers, fears and traumas that are manifesting as disease. By addressing them all, you will likely cover those responsible for the disease.  As a useful substitute for finding core issues. If you neutralize all the specific issues you will have automatically included core issues.  As a means for consistent relaxation.  As a method to build your self-esteem and confidence.

This simple concept can shift the entire healing field.

Most of our emotional and physical problems are caused (or contributed to) by unresolved specific negative events. EFT can easily alleviate the vast majority of these issues or memories. Our unresolved specific events are nearer the foundational cause for illness than anything else. Thus they deserve our primary attention. Initially, we have focused our efforts on those negative specific events that underlie a given ailment, such as a phobia, headache or traumatic incident. This is good, and we should continue doing so.  On the other hand, there is enormous value in using EFT on ALL other specific events that are behind our more generalized (but VERY important) issues, such as (to name a few)....


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Self-image…Anxiety…Depression…Insomnia…Addictions…Fears and Phobias…Compulsions.... Feelings of abandonment…Stress…Weight Issues…Chronic Pain and more. As you eliminate the emotional baggage from your specific events, you will, of course, have less and less internal conflict for your system to deal with. Less internal conflict translates into a higher level of personal peace and less emotional and physical suffering. For many, this procedure will likely result in the complete cessation of lifelong issues that other methods have not touched.  The same applies to physical ailments as well: from headaches, breathing difficulties and digestive disorders to AIDS, MS and cancer. It is becoming more widely accepted that our physical maladies are caused (or contributed to) by unresolved anger, trauma, guilt, grief and the like. Many physicians in recent years recognize emotional strife as a major cause of serious diseases. Until now, however, there hasn’t been an effective way to eliminate these health problems. We can mask them with drugs, of course, but true cures have been hard to find. Fortunately, EFT provides easy and elegant tools that will aid health practitioners to eliminate the root causes of most diseases.  The technique described below is NOT a substitute for quality EFT training, NOR is it a substitute for quality help from a masterful EFT practitioner. Rather, it is a tool that, properly applied, is capable of wide ranging relief. Its simplicity and far reaching effectiveness give it candidacy as a mandatory method for anyone seeking help for even the most difficult of problems. I know that’s a bold statement, but I’ve been at this for over a decade now and have seen so many impressive results over such a wide variety of issues that this statement is easy, if not essential, to make.  The method here is simple, assuming you already know how to apply EFT: 1. Make a list of every bothersome specific event you can remember. If you don’t find at least 50 you’re not working at this hard enough or you’re only 20 years old. Many people find 100+ issues. While making your list, you may find that some events don’t cause you


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook any current discomfort. That’s OK. List them anyway. The fact that you remember them means there’s a need for resolution. 2. Give each specific event a title, as though it was a mini-movie. Examples: Dad hit me in the kitchen—I stole Suzie’s sandwich—I slipped and fell into the Grand Canyon—My third grade class ridiculed me when I gave a speech—Mom locked me in a closet—Mrs. Adams told me I was stupid. 3. Give each issue an intensity rating, 1-10. This is to make sure you reduce every one to a zero. 4. When your list is complete, rate how you feel overall, on a scale of 1-10. Then, rate your energy, health, peace of mind, joy, confidence, clarity of thinking, vitality, and sense of purpose… all on the 1-10 scale. You will want to use this later for comparison (see #9). 5. When the list is complete, pick out the biggest “Redwoods” in your negative forest and apply EFT to each of them until you either laugh about it or “can’t think about it any more.” Be sure to notice any aspects that may come up and consider them separate trees in your negative forest. Apply EFT to them accordingly. Be sure to keep after each event until it is resolved. If you cannot get a 0-10 intensity level on a particular movie then assume you are repressing it and apply 10 full rounds of EFT on it from every angle you can think of. This gives you a high possibility for resolving it. 6. After the big Redwoods have been removed, go to the next biggest trees. 7. Do at least three issues per day, for at least a month. It only takes minutes per day. At this rate, at the end of a month, you will have resolved 90 specific events, many more if you continue past one month. You’ll start to notice how you have more energy, think more clearly, and how your “threshold for getting upset” is much lower. Your relationships should get better, and many of your life-long issues just aren’t there any more. Note any improvements in your blood pressure,


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook pulse, headaches, shoulder and neck tension, and breathing ability. I ask you to consciously notice these things (and get a little notebook in which to write them down) because, unless you do, the quality healing you will have undergone will seem so subtle that you may not notice it. You may even dismiss it, saying, “Oh well, it was never much of a problem anyway.” This happens repeatedly with EFT, which is why we are bringing it up.

When all of your issues have been resolved: Assess yourself again, from 1 to 10, on the same components used in number 5. Without this comparative rating system your changes may be so gradual that you hardly notice—similar to the way an aunt or uncle can see great changes in a niece or nephew after an 8-month absence, yet a parent can’t see those changes in their child on a daily basis.

By the time you have completed this process you should be experiencing significantly more happiness and peace of mind in life. This could be one of the most important things you could ever do for yourself. So don’t short-change yourself, and don’t stop just because you start feeling better!

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Tapping Tips By Dr. Carol Look, EFT Master CarolLook.com (Note from Lindsay: Many thanks to Carol, my friend and colleague, for allowing me to include this wonderful collection of Tapping Tips in this workbook. In the past, I always used both hands to tap. But now I use many of Carol’s ideas as well…and with great success. I highly recommend every technique, and suggest you try them for yourself. For a treasure trove of ideas, audio tapes, books and more visit Carol’s website and by all means get in on some of her tele-classes. I’m grateful for all I have learned from her and am pleased to be able to share some of her wisdom with you. Again, thank you Carol.) I have compiled a list of my favorite tapping tips that have had a dramatic influence on my work and results with clients. Use any that work for you, but I highly recommend trying them all before you dismiss them, especially the ultra simple ones.

1. Opposite Hand Tapping: When tapping on yourself, use your non-dominant hand for a full day, then switch back to your dominant hand, and back again the next day. You could also alternate from round to round of EFT. In my personal opinion, alternating in this way is very helpful because it allows you to more fully integrate the emotional material that you are working on. Of course, we usually favor one side, tending to be right-handed or lefthanded, so making use of the “other” hand while tapping through emotional conflicts helps to more fully neutralize the issues. For those of you who do telephone sessions as either client or practitioner, switch the phone from side to side regularly as well, so alternating ears are “hearing.” Here is another variation…



Cross-Over Tapping: Cross your hands over each other when you tap---so your right hand is tapping on your left side of your face and body, and your left hand is tapping on the right…at the same time. Also, consider tapping while in different positions. Aren’t you always sitting down while tapping? Try standing up when using EFT, or lying down. Tap while you are rolled over on your side. Notice if any new material surfaces. Our bodies are brilliant, and have stored so much information for us.

2. Argument Tapping: I love using this process with clients in a group setting, because most people find it surprising and amusing and seem to get something of value out of it. When you are tapping, voice both sides of an argument with another person around an issue of self-esteem or conflict about yourself. For instance, let’s say your mother or father said, “you wouldn’t amount to anything”…(or that “people like you can’t get wealthy”…or that “people like you are never satisfied”…etc.). Take both sides and argue the points while you tap, alternating the sides with each consecutive point. For instance, start with the karate chop point, and say, Even though he said I was no good and wouldn’t amount to anything, I choose to accept myself now anyway… Then move to the regular sequence of points and tap as if you are arguing with another person as follows: a. Eyebrow: You won’t amount to anything… b. Side of Eye: Yes, I will… c. Under Eye: No you won’t… © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 101 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook d. Under Nose: Yes I will… e. Chin: Don’t be ridiculous… f. Collarbone: I’m smart enough… g. Under Arm: Who are you kidding? h. Top of Head: I know I can do it… Be sure to follow how the argument is “looping” in your memory, and vigorously argue both sides. This will help chop down a lot of “trees in your forest.” Proceed with other similar arguments. The Argument Tapping technique is wonderful for the brain, for the emotional release, and I expect that the absurdity of it all will surface for many of you and feel quite relieving. This is also useful for getting the tail-enders into your tapping. The next variation of Argument Tapping is to argue with yourself while tapping. When you are tapping and saying something positive, for instance, I know I have what it takes to be successful…you might ‘hear” a tail-ender that says “No I don’t!” Use whatever tail-enders that come up for you in your current round of EFT. So again, you are arguing, but this time with yourself…it would sound like this: a. Eyebrow: I have what it takes to be successful… b. Side of Eye: No I don’t… c. Under Eye: I am smart enough to figure this out… d. Under Nose: No I’m not! e. Chin: Yes I am! f. Collarbone: No I’m not… g. Under Arm: I accept my feelings… h. Top of Head: I appreciate who I am…

3. Refusal Tapping: When you are using EFT, do one full round of Refusal Tapping to get over the issue you have selected.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook We have all been told what to do, controlled on a regular basis, influenced by others and manipulated all our lives, and when trying to change, it is very natural to experience an enormous amount of emotional resistance. Part of us believes the change is threatening to our survival. Try giving this part of you a voice for a change, and feel the relief of saying, “No!” Don’t be surprised when this technique speeds up the change you were intending. (I highly recommend using this Refusal Tapping technique with chronic illnesses.) Your round from the eyebrow point to the top of the head would proceed as follows: a. Eyebrow: I refuse to give this up… b. Side of Eye: Don’t even try to make me… c. Under Eye: I am so happy I don’t have to get rid of this… d. Under Nose: I refuse to change… e. Chin: You can’t make me… f. Collarbone: Ha ha, I’m keeping this problem… g. Under the Arm: You can’t make me get over this… h. Top of the Head: I REFUSE TO LET GO OF THIS ISSUE.

4. Look in the Mirror: While tapping several rounds in a row, look into the mirror. This will help you in several areas. (a) This extra boost will encourage you to absorb the positive affirmation of the setup statement more fully (I deeply and completely love and accept myself). (b) It will help you when you need to use visualization instead of regular tapping if you are in a public place and don’t feel free to tap on your face and body. You will now have a picture and corresponding memory of what you look like when you tap. c. This technique will allow you to see the subtle changes that occur in muscle tone, color and energy in your face and body as you tap. Definitely make use of these clues.



5. Singing Affirmations while you tap: You may either sing the entire round from negative to positive, or just use singing on the second round when you are “installing” the positive statements. As usual, I do the first round focusing on the “problem” and often switch during a second round (before doing setup phrases again) to more positive statements (such as Pat Carrington’s CHOICES), goals, and intentions. So during this second round, sing your affirmations instead of speaking them. This helps activate the right brain (which is why we use humming in the 9gamut procedure) and any time we are doing something to promote balance between our two hemispheres of the brain, we are moving towards emotional and physical health.

6. Thank You Tapping: Do at least three rounds in a row while tapping on your “Thank You List.” See below: a. Eyebrow: Thank you God (Spirit, Universe, Higher Power, Source, Universal Intelligence) for such an abundance of loving friends in my life. b. Side of Eye: Thank you God for bringing me the perfect clients for my business. c. Under the Eye: Thank you God for resolving that disagreement so quickly. d. Under the Nose: Thank you God for bringing that wonderful miracle through me to my client who was in pain. e. Chin: Thank you God for my vibrant health and energy. f. Collarbone: Thank you God for all the blessings I have in my life today. g. Under Arm: Thank you God for bringing me such peace in my life. h. Top of the Head: Thank you God for continued guidance and clarity on my path.

7. Guest Tapping: When you are tapping at home alone, wouldn’t you like some extra help? Choose your favorite EFT practitioner, someone you want to give a test run, © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 104 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook or Gary Craig, and pretend he or she is tapping for and with you. Picture it, feel it, hear their voice (you might have this in your head from a class or some of the videos). This will help those of you who don’t think you’re good enough at tapping (even though you are…) and opens up your treatment options tremendously. Allow your intuition to choose someone. And don’t be surprised when the “guest tapper” comes up with profoundly brilliant ideas!

8. Photo Tapping: Take out old family photos and identify feelings, themes, incidents and thoughts that were going on when the pictures were taken. You might even take out your high school yearbook (since High School seems to be so fraught with conflicted feelings for many people) and tap a few rounds while you are looking at yourself. You may be shocked at how effective this is for bringing up emotions you thought had been “handled.” Here are some options: a. Look at yourself in the selected photo objectively, and use words as if you are treating someone else… Even though he was feeling so vulnerable back then, he has a good heart and meant well…Even though he was so scared back then, he’s a great person and has really matured. b. Use the first person singular… Even though I was miserable during this time because of that incident, I deeply and completely love and accept myself…Even though I was feeling so sad because of the rejection…Even though I was confused…Even though I didn’t realize I was such a geek… c. Do the same for family members when you see them in the photos: Even though he was angry and said that hurtful thing to me…I deeply and completely love and accept myself…Even though he was drunk in that photo, and I remember the fight we had, I choose to release the pain of it now and accept both of us.



9. Past Tense Tapping: After you have completed 2-3 rounds on whatever issue you have chosen, do a final round in the past tense, feeling what it would feel like if you had completely gotten over the problem (even if you haven’t yet). Communicating to yourself this way is very effective. Really FEEL the relief you feel now that it is over!! This is critical. a. Eyebrow: I am so grateful I got over this problem… b. Side of Eye: I’m so relieved this is over… c. Under Eye: I am so happy I am free of this conflict… d. Under Nose: It’s about time I got over that! e. Chin: Finally, it is in my past where it belongs… f. Collarbone: At last, relief and peace on this issue… g. Under Arm: I so appreciate all the progress I have made… h. Top of Head: Finally, I feel peace from that problem.

10. “You” Tapping: While tapping on one of your own issues, use the “second person singular” over and over again. For example, set-up statements at the karate chop point would be: Even though you made a mistake, you were trying to do it right and are allowed not to be perfect…Even though you didn’t mean to hurt her, consider accepting all of you and your feelings…Even though you don’t want to forgive yourself, try accepting your feelings anyway. Then tap the sequence of points using “you” as the subject: a. Eyebrow: You made a mistake… b. Side of Eye: So what? c. Under Eye: You meant well… d. Under the Nose: You are human… e. Chin: You don’t need to be perfect… f. Collarbone: You are lovable anyway… g. Under Arm: You are such a good person… h. Top of head: You are totally lovable and worthy anyway.      © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 106 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com


Complex Issues Recognizing and resolving them If you feel you know the basics of EFT, the basic recipe and shortcuts, how to find core issues, how to be specific and avoid shifting aspects, how to recognize and neutralize Reversals, then you’re ready to learn about more complex issues. You still may not be ready to handle these more challenging issues, however, but you should at least know how to recognize them. The main difference between difficult and simple issues is that complex issues, besides the root care issue, almost always have multiple aspects that need to be discovered and examined. For that and other reasons, complex issues are not generally for “newbies.” Let me broadly define “Simple Issues.” There are no hard and fast rules for this, but typically, simple issues are usually:

Single faceted: your boss embarrassed you at the sales meeting, you

can’t seem to shake your hiccups, or you’re disappointed that you didn’t get the promotion, you’re upset over your relationship breakup.

Recent: as opposed to something that happened years ago, or has been going on for several years.

Not chronic: that is, not a persistent problem like chronic pain, anger or grief A simple pain or injury: such as headaches, cuts, bruises, back or joint pain, etc., as opposed to a complex medical issue or a serious illness

Fear or non-complex phobia: fear of spiders, birds, public speaking, as opposed to deep-seated fear of water from your brother trying to drown you as a child

Simple emotions: like stress, frustration, anger, embarrassment, cravings, etc.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Broadly stated, simple issues are ones you can generally work on and resolve yourself. There are hundreds of simple issues that can be dealt with using basic EFT knowledge.

Two Tiers of Complex Issues I believe there are two levels of complex issues, and they almost always involve multiple aspects and/or hidden core issues.

Tier One Issues would include issues like grief, chronic pain, “minor” traumas, some abuse issues, weight issues, food addictions, stuttering and most non life-threatening illnesses.

Many of the examples used in my Nine Stumbling Blocks article at lifecoachingwithlindsay.com/freestuff.html are examples of Tier One issues. It’s possible to deal with Tier One issues by yourself, but you need more than rudimentary knowledge and experience with EFT to succeed in most cases with Tier Two issues.

Tier Two Issues are more difficult to work with and should not be tackled by amateurs.

Tier Two cases include child abuse, sexual or ritual abuse, traumatic or lifealtering accidents or deaths, severe and sustained physical or emotional abuse, drug addictions, morbid obesity, and depression.

Tier two complex issues are usually highly charged emotionally or often a result of very traumatic occurrences. Also included in these more difficult cases would be psychological problems such as serious illnesses, bi-polarism, schizophrenia, multiple personalities, borderline disorder, and so on. As a beginner it’s best to avoid Tier Two issues when working on yourself or others and seek help from a professional EFT practitioner or psychotherapist.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook My concern is always that people will try EFT on a complex issue, then give up when it’s not working, blaming EFT for the failure. Yet it’s seldom a shortcoming with EFT, but rather the lack of knowledge or experience with the person applying it (usually the person with the issue). That said, sometimes what seems to be a simple issue turns out to be quite complicated, and you need to recognize it as such and know what to do when that happens. A great example of a complex issue disguised as a simple one occurred during my Master’s Training Course with Gary Craig. A volunteer “client” came to the front of the room and stated to the Master Candidate “practitioner” that she wanted to work on her persistent chapped lips. Well, knock me over with a teaspoon! I thought we were supposed to be dealing with tough, complex cases in this course. So, I took the opportunity to go to the ladies room. When I got back, just a few minutes later, the same subject had taken on the persona of a loud, foul-mouthed sailor. It turned out that this was only one of her several “multiple personalities.” Chapped lips my foot! This was a doozie. I shouldn’t have been surprised, since situations like this have happened numerous times in my private sessions, or in workshops.

An example of a seemingly simple issue turned complex There are many ways to deal with difficult or complex issues, so I’d like to give an example of a typical case. “Kim” came to me because she was having trouble sleeping. Initially, she couldn’t think of any reason for it. After further investigation, and questions such as, “When did this start?” and “What was going on at the time?” it was brought to light that Kim had been physically and emotionally abused as a child by her “evil stepmother.” Kim was seldom able to sleep peacefully through the night, and, even though she was in her fifties at the time of our session, I believe it was childhood experiences that affected her sleep as an adult.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Kim claimed she had “dealt with all that” during traditional therapy and didn’t think her step-mother issues were relevant now. Based on her current insomnia problems, that wasn’t the case. We started by resolving any remaining anger, resentment and hatred toward Kim’s stepmother. In spite of her previous years in therapy for her childhood traumas, there was still a lot of negative charge on how she was treated. Kim rated her anger, resentment and hatred at a 9, even after all these years! It was clear then, that this was more complex and needed some serious attention.

Bundling Since these are such closely related emotions, based on the same events, we were able to clump them together. But please note: you cannot successfully bundle together fear at being thrown in the water by your cousin, anger at your dad for not protecting you and hatred toward your real mother for leaving home. As a beginner you should not group different aspects or emotions together at all. But since I’m supposed to know what I’m doing, I get to do it when the circumstances are right, and it usually works for me. If I don’t get the desired results when bundling emotions, then I go back and deal with each issue, emotion or aspect separately. In Kim’s case, clumping worked just fine.

Muscle Testing for Reversals As I often do for old issues, I muscle tested Kim for a Reversal to see if she (her subconscious, actually) was ready to let go of her anger toward her stepmother. I do this for the client’s benefit to demonstrate the power of the subconscious mind, especially for old, chronic, or highly charged issues. I had Kim say, “I really do want to get over this anger, resentment and hatred toward the Step-bitch” (which is what she called her stepmother). I then tested her arm strength, which was, not surprisingly, weak.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Using strong words like this often upsets or shocks clients a bit, causing them to think that maybe they must consciously want to stay in this “uncomfortable” or “negative” condition. Clients often say, “But I really DO want to get over this!” I assure them that Reversals are neither a conscious choice nor a character defect.

In my experience, almost all old or chronic issues are somehow imbedded in the body’s subconscious or magnetically in their genes. Addicted to our own negative patterns Negative emotions, especially anger, often become addictive to the body. That’s why someone physically abused as a child will often unconsciously seek out a spouse that will treat him or her the same way as the abusive parent. This addictive pattern is not something we consciously decide to do, nor can we easily decide consciously to change the behavior. If someone has carried around pain, anger, frustration, grief or some other emotion for many years, his or her body often adapts to, or even becomes addicted to, the negative emotion. After awhile the negative state or emotion becomes the norm. Think about it. Haven’t you known someone who seems to be perpetually angry? They may be grumpy most of the time and snap at everything. If you ask them what they’re mad about they usually say “I’m not mad!” Their anger has become so common to them that they don’t even notice it…until it’s gone.

Often clients will say they’re not sure how to act if their anger or grief or other long-time emotion is gone. But again, that doesn’t mean they are making a conscious choice to stay in that mode, nor does it mean they are walking around in a state of anger all the time. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 111 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Performing a Reversal Neutralization simply breaks the magnetic bond or subconscious hold the negative emotion has on the body, allowing EFT to work. As explained in the “9 Stumbling Blocks” article on overcoming SBS (Secondary Benefit Syndrome), the neutralization is quite simple to execute (read it at lifecoachingwithlindsay.com/freestuff.html for more details on how to deal with Reversals). In Kim’s case I simply had her tap on the Karate Chop point while saying “Even though, for some reason, I don’t really want to get over this anger, resentment and frustration toward the Step-bitch (heretofore referred to as the “S-B”), I do accept myself completely.” We did that three times, adding the phrase “for WHATEVER reason…” into the sentence to cover all possibilities. After that I muscle tested Kim again, having her make the same initial statement of wanting to get over the issues with the “S-B.” She tested very strong this time and was pleased with herself.

Picking incidents Next, I had Kim pick a particular incident or memory about her stepmother that was the most troubling for her. It was, not surprisingly, the first time the “step-bitch” terrorized her at night. Kim was sound asleep when “Lorraine,” the “S-B,” came into her room drunk and brandishing a bullhorn from the football game that night. She thought it would be cute to blow into the sleeping child’s face. Naturally, it severely traumatized Kim, causing her to cry and cower most of the night. The stepmother and Kim’s drunken father laughed themselves to sleep in the next room, unaware that their abhorrent behavior would affect not only Kim’s sleep but her self esteem and peace of mind for most of her life. Remembering this incident Kim’s SUDs level went to a 10. We started Kim’s treatment with this simple set-up statement while rubbing the set-up spot on the chest* “Even though the evil Step-bitch scared me to death by blowing a horn in my face that night, I love and accept myself today.”


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook * I prefer to use the sore spots on the chest for the set-up statement, but Gary and many others use the Karate Chop point, which works just as well. We repeated a variation of that three times. By variation, I mean, that sometimes I try to cover slightly different aspects that are closely related to the main issue. Such as: “Even though I had done nothing to deserve it, my wicked “S-B,” blew a horn in my face at night when I was just 7…..” “Even though I was a good kid, and had done nothing wrong, the awful “S-B” scared the ---- out of me…”. “Even though the wicked “S-B” just laughed after scaring the bejeebers out of me….” Remember, the end of each statement is followed by a love and acceptance phrase. There are different ways to phrase the acceptance statement, and these are just a couple of examples.

Tapping On the first round of tapping, on each point, I had her say, “The hornblowing terror” for the reminder statement. On the second round I did “stream-of-consciousness” statements with her. I use my intuition while tuning in to the client, but if you’re working on yourself, just say what comes up for you about the situation. On each tapping point you bring up a thought about the incident. This is often about the unfairness of the situation, like, “it wasn’t my fault,” “I didn’t mean to do it,” “I was just a kid,” “I didn’t even know what I had done wrong,” etc. At each consecutive point I had Kim repeat a different phrase such as: “It wasn’t fair….it scared me to death….I hadn’t done anything wrong….I don’t know why she treated me like that…maybe she was jealous of my relationship with Daddy…I was just a little girl…it wasn’t my fault…she was evil and mean to me….I was a good kid and didn’t deserve that…I couldn’t believe she thought it was funny and kept laughing at me, etc.”


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook This type of tapping is often highly effective and covers several closely related aspects at one time. I usually do two rounds back to back like this to really diffuse the situation. It’s ok to repeat the same aspect or phrase more than once. What is not OK is to veer off the initial issue, such as “Daddy should have been there to protect me”…. “My new bicycle got stolen the next day too.” These are completely different aspects of the same incident.

Rate it I then asked Kim what her intensity level was (constant reassessing helps you to know where you are, and therefore where you need to go). She was then at a 6, so the next set-up statement became: “Even though I’m still upset at the memory of how the S-B treated me I realize now that it wasn’t my fault and I completely accept who I am.” At each point we tapped using the reminder statement of: “Remaining anger, resentment and hatred toward the S-B” Notice that on the first rounds we dealt with the “Horn Blowing Incident,” and on this round we addressed the more specific emotions associated with the incident and her stepmother. Being flexible and creative comes with practice and experience, and is just part of the “art of EFT.” Each practitioner does EFT slightly differently.

It’s not a matter of what’s right or wrong, but what works. I do what I find works for my clients and often shift gears on the fly if something isn’t working. However, that said, until you’re more experienced, stay with the basics.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook On the next round, we did more of the random stream-of-consciousness phrases, just as we did previously. On the third round in this series I eased into more positive choices on each point, such as: “I’m so tired of feeling this way…she doesn’t even deserve to be in my thoughts….I really want to let this go….I hate feeling this anger and resentment after all these years….I thought I was over all this….I really want to let it go….I deserve to be free of this….I deserve to be able to sleep at night (now sneaking up on the original problem)…I really want to be able to sleep at night…I’m so tired of feeling this anger, resentment, and hatred…I’m even willing to start forgiving her,” etc. After those rounds the next assessment brought us a 3 SUDs rating. I love getting to a 3 or less, because I can then introduce the Choice Method (developed by Dr. Pat Carrington) but with my own little spin on it.

Here’s how we did it with Kim On the set-up point I had her say: “Even though part of me is still angry, resentful and hateful toward the S-B, a bigger part of me wants to get over it. So I choose to let that bigger part of me win by overcoming this anger and hatred.” “Even though I still have many bad feelings toward my step mother (introducing the less inflammatory term of endearment, to which she did not balk), I choose to ask my body to release and eliminate any remaining anger, resentment or hatred toward her. “I love myself enough to sleep calmly and peacefully through the night, so I choose to consciously let go of these negative feelings and emotions toward Lorraine.” On the first tapping round of this sequence I had her use the simple reminder statement on the points repeating the negative phrase of: “Remaining anger, resentment and hatred.” The second round was all positive phrases, alternating on each consecutive point between an “letting go statement” and a “positive outcome statement” like this: © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 115 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook EB “I choose to release these negative emotions toward my stepmother…” OE “I choose to be calm and unaffected about this incident… UE “I choose to completely let go of these negative emotions toward my step mother”…. UN “I chose to start forgiving her”… CH “I choose to overcome any remaining negative emotions toward my stepmother”…. CB “I choose to feel calm and confident”… UA “I choose to completely release this anger, resentment and hatred”… LP “I choose to relax and sleep peacefully through the night.” (Again, I started sneaking back to the main issue of sleep deprivation.) On the third round we alternated the positive with the negative on the different points, like this: “remaining anger….” “I choose to let it go…” “remaining resentment and hatred….” “I choose to eliminate these feelings….” “remaining negative feelings about my stepmother…” “I choose to overcome them completely ….” “remaining negative emotions ….” “I choose to overcome them and start forgiving what’s-her-name” (this brought a chuckle, which like Gary teaches, is a great way to change the energy or break up a tough situation. I could tell by Kim’s demeanor that we had really made significant progress.)

Almost gone At this point Kim said she thought she was over it. That usually tells me that it’s not quite gone but perhaps at a 1 or .5. I asked her to guess how much charge might still be there and she said quickly, “about a .5.” © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 116 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook The Gamut When an issue is almost gone (a 1 or less) I use the 9-point Gamut sequence to polish it off. Doing the Gamut (tapping on the back of the hand at the Gamut point, eyework, humming and counting, etc.) balances the right and left hemispheres of the brain and usually finishes off a low SUD rating quite effectively. And it worked for Kim. Even though her stepmother had mistreated her physically and emotionally for years, taking care of this first incident cleared up the charge from all of the occasions her stepmother mistreated her. This is often the case with repetitive abuse. Resolution is possible by clearing any of these experiences, whether it’s the first time, the last, the worst, or even the time the other parent knew what was going on but did nothing to stop it.

What’s important is that you eliminate all remaining negative emotions associated with that issue. To verify whether the problem has been completely eliminated, I asked Kim to try to get herself upset at something the S-B had done to her. “I don’t want to call her that anymore,” she said. “Lorraine probably had a terrible childhood herself and really didn’t know how to be a parent. Besides, I can’t seem to even remember clearly the other things she did to me. It all seems kind of fuzzy or something.” If there had been a time when the stepmother had hurt Kim in some way that not been cleared with previous work, we would have dealt with that separately. There were, in fact, many times that the stepmother embarrassed, hurt, humiliated or taunted Kim. And even though there were several other bullhorn incidences, dealing with the first trauma seemed to collapse the whole enchilada. Important note: This is not always the case. Often in cases of abuse we need to deal with several aspects or incidences to clear the issue. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 117 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook One more step.... Now that Kim was over the awful behaviors of her stepmother I wanted to take her treatment one step further. Here comes my favorite part of EFT—which I love, as well, for my clients. For real completion and icing on the cake, after finishing an issue, I like to do a final round inputting only positive affirmations. In Kim’s case, I started to address the sleep issue itself. At the setup point we said: “Now that I’m over these issues with my stepmother, I want to start sleeping through the night. So I ask my body to relax, be calm and fall asleep easily. I also ask and allow my body to sleep deeply and peacefully through the night.”

I’ve found that “asking my body” for whatever I’m trying to accomplish, is a highly effective way to get what I want from it. If you ask your body to stop a cold or virus, for instance, end lactose intolerance, overcome a food sensitivity, heal an injury faster or whatever, the body almost always complies. It’s as if the body says “Oh, OK! I didn’t know you wanted me to do that. So I’ll do it now and thanks for sharing.”

Try it yourself for whatever you want your body to do; run a faster race, heal an aching joint, overcome an upset stomach, or become more confident or brave. Back to Kim’s final positive round. On each consecutive tapping point we input a positive sleep phrase such as, “I choose to fall asleep easily….I ask my body to stay asleep through the night…I choose to be relaxed and calm when falling asleep….I choose to quiet my mind so I can


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook sleep deeply and peacefully through the night….I ask my body to sleep soundly and wake up in the morning refreshed and energetic.” Kim loved these affirmations and was feeling really good about herself. She was actually getting sleepy as we spoke. I sent her home with the instructions to try this last sequence just before going to bed that night. She agreed and did it. The next day Kim called me with real excitement and joy in her voice. She had not only slept soundly, but also felt that a 50-pound weight had been lifted from her body. She felt rested, more energetic and most importantly, felt optimistic about her life and her future for the first time since she was a little girl. I love this job! This example with Kim is just one way to handle a more complex case. The point is, though, that sometimes you can say, “even though I don’t sleep at night” or “even though I have arthritis,” but sometimes you need more detailed work to get resolution.

You need to find the core issues and deal with them completely as well as any Reversal. Often there are many aspects to deal with as well. This is why a trained EFT practitioner is highly recommended for complex issues. There’s nothing like experience to help you sort out what will work. Kim told me she had “tapped until I felt bruised” on her sleeplessness problem, but to no avail. She hadn’t even come close to the real reason for her problem. As a beginner, it’s possible that you might encounter the same kind of blocks that Kim did when you try to work with complex issues. It’s worth a try. Many report that they at least feel better or more relaxed after tapping, even if they didn’t get complete resolution. But “feeling better” is not the purpose of EFT. So do try it for your simple issues. Please seek the counsel of a competent EFT professional to help you completely resolve complex problems.



Whatever you do, don’t give up on EFT. It does work miracles! Good luck and good tapping.

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ANSWERS TO FAQs about Lindsay Q. What are your fees and availability? A. My fees for private (and phone) sessions are based on a rate at $125 an hour. However, I recommend and prefer 90-minute sessions (as do my clients). We can accomplish so much more that way. That would be $187 per session—the choice is yours. My sessions also include:    

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I usually schedule appointments 2-3 weeks in advance, but I do keep a waiting list in case an earlier time slot opens up. My appointment times are valuable and irreplaceable, so I do have a cancellation policy. If you do need to reschedule a session, please let me know within 24 hours to avoid being billed.

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I you prefer, you can choose which package works best for you at the end of our first session. Or you can combine packages if you’d like.



You can even break a 90-minute session into two 45-minute sessions if you like. I’m very flexible. :-) For more information about what I do, classes, products and other offerings, go to lifecoachingwithlindsay.com/Fees.html. The best way to reach me is by e-mail at [email protected]

Q. Where are you located, and what are your hours? A. I’m in the San Francisco Bay area (which is PST [Pacific Time), and take appointments 9am to 5pm. Let me know your preferences for times (i.e. mornings, early afternoons, etc.) and I’ll do my best to accommodate you. I occasionally do sessions Saturday mornings, but that’s rare.

Q. Do you do sessions by phone? How can EFT work by phone? A. Yes, I do EFT by phone and in fact about 70% of my clients are by phone and are from all over the world.

Actually, most accomplished EFT Practitioners work by phone as well, so the proximity to a practitioner should not really be a factor in making your selection. Some people prefer in-person sessions, given a choice. But I feel that it’s more important to find someone with whom you resonate than to find a practitioner who is conveniently located. I personally feel that EFT is highly effective over the phone, but in-person and phone sessions are pretty much the same. We can’t see the client, of course, on the phone, so we may miss subtle visual signals that might help read what’s going on with the client. Nor we can we use muscle testing on the phone, which is often helpful in demonstrating Reversals and “asking the subconscious” questions about what’s going on and other situations. Otherwise in-person and phone sessions are pretty much the same.  If you decide to work with me, I’ll e-mail you an intake form so I can collect pertinent information about you and your issues before our call. You’re


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook welcome to write more about your history as well, which with help increase our effectiveness together.  I’ll also send you tapping points ahead of time, and during the session I’ll tell you exactly what to say and where to tap. After a few minutes you won’t even notice that we’re not face to face.  For phone sessions, I’ll call you, (within the Continental U.S.) saving you long distance charges.  Also, I’ll record the session for you and send you a link to listen to it anytime on your own. Let me know if you’d like to schedule something, what times of day generally work for you, and what time zone you’re in. If you would like to schedule a phone (or live) session with me, read a little about me at my website, NAFEH.org. Click on the FEE button for the best arrangement for your needs. If you want to learn more about EFT, I highly recommend Gary Craig’s EFT videos at emofree.com, or read about and sign up for a live workshop at Gary’s site, or at EFTworkshops.org.

Q. Can you help me find a practitioner near me? A. Finding the right practitioner for your needs is very important. Virtually

all experienced practitioners do work by phone and get as good results as in a face-to-face session. So unless you feel very strongly about a face-toface visit, I highly recommend you search for the best person for your needs, rather than someone who works near you. For pre-screened practitioners, check out “Find a Practitioner” listings at NAFEH.org, and Gary Craig’s “Find a Practitioner” listings at emofree.com.

When you’re searching for a practitioner Invest some time on their website before calling them. Often you can find a lot about them online. Here are some things to look for: How long have they been in practice? Look for 2 or more years experience as a coach or therapist.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook How did they learn EFT? Having watched the videos and read the manual is not good enough. What is their success rate with EFT? It should be over 90%. How many individual clients have they worked with using EFT? They should have worked with at least 100. What are their EFT credentials? The initials EFT-CC after their name is good, but EFT-ADV, is better. This signifies s/he as taken and passed a series of EFT tests. EFT Master is the highest credential, but don’t limit yourself to that criterion. Personally, I don’t think credentials such as a MS, LCSW, or PhD after someone’s name is nearly as important as their expertise in EFT. After arming yourself with information about him or her, let your instincts tell you if you feel “right” with this person. You should have rapport (or a connection) with someone for the best results. Trust your gut feeling. Still uncertain? Check out some of my favorite Recommended Practitioners at http://snipurl.com/n1m8, or at NAFEH.org.

Q. Do you know someone who specializes in…? A. This is a common question and a fair one. However, any practitioner worth their salt can deal with virtually any “tappable” issue. All of us can easily eradicate anger, frustration, grief, phobias, stress, anxiety, heartache and much more. However, for the more complex issues such as rape, trauma, addictions, abuse, serious illnesses, and weight issues, you’ll either want a more experienced practitioner, or someone that specializes in your problem. For instance I have dealt with hundreds of abuse issues, as well as addictions. I prefer not to take those cases anymore, so I refer them to my colleagues who specialize in that field. To find a practitioner who specializes in your issue click on the “Find a Practitioner” at Gary Craig’s website http://snipurl.com/n1m8.


Change Your Mind! with EFT: The Ultimate EFT Level I Workbook Read the section on emofree.com/Practitioners/referral at Can you help me Find a Practitioner to help you choose the best one for your needs.

Q. Can you personally recommend a practitioner? A. I can do better than that…I can recommend several of my favorites. Then you can choose the best one for you. I’ve listed several practitioners on the next page, and I highly recommend them all.

They all have a ton of EFT experience. They are all bright, competent, caring people who know EFT inside and out. Unless you’re completely set against doing EFT by phone, don’t worry about their location. Finding the right person for your needs is by far more important than finding someone close to home. NOTE: Please visit their websites first to see which ones you “click” with the most, and to find answers to your questions such as “What are your fees?” On the following page is a short list of practitioners I recommend.

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Recommended Practitioners Angela Treat Lyon

[email protected] EFTBooks.com & Rich-Radio.com 808-261-0941

Loretta Sparks [email protected] 310 374-0440

Maggie Adkins maggieadkins.com 505 250-3763

Sophia Cayer, EFT Master [email protected] solacewithsophia.com 941-925-1668

Zoe Walton

[email protected] ZoeWalton.com 415-456-8435

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Lindsay Kenny For over 30 years Lindsay has been helping people find their life partners, to lose weight, decrease their stress and anxiety, improve their self esteem, and become more effective in life. Teaching her clients EFT helps them deal with life’s many challenges and provides them with a gift and tool they can use throughout their lifetime. “My mission in life has always been to help other people. I knew when I was 12 years old that that’s what I wanted to do in life. Life Coaching gives me a great opportunity to achieve that goal of helping others; and EFT has given me a most powerful tool to accomplish it. For me, nothing is more rewarding than to know that someone is a little better off as a result of my teaching them how to use EFT.” Lindsay Kenny Lindsay is an EFT Master, AAMET Certified Trainer (Association for the Advancement of Meridian Energy Techniques), and Life Coach in the San Francisco Bay Area and is also the Founder and Director of the National Alliance for Emotional Health NAFEH.org. NAFEH is a free resource for those seeking emotional support or searching for a competent EFT or Energy practitioner. Lindsay also conducts EFT workshops (EFTworkshops.org) and regular EFT Tele-classes. She attributes her success to the fact that she genuinely cares about her clients and is willing to do just about anything to help them experience relief. Lindsay brings over 30 years of counseling experience to her work, along with thousands of hours of coaching training into her practice. She strives to provide great client support, follow-up, affordable prices, and guaranteed satisfaction. Through her commitment, experience, and caring, Lindsay establishes relationships with her clients that she hopes will last a lifetime! To contact Lindsay Kenny, visit her Website at www.LKCoaching.com or e-mail at [email protected]. You can also call 888-449-3030. © Lindsay Kenny 2005 ❖ 127 ❖ www.LKCoaching.com

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Congratulations for completing this workbook. We hope you feel more knowledgeable and comfortable with EFT now. Please continue to use it and practice, practice, practice. Then when you are ready join us for Levels 2 and 3!

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Your Mind! with EFT

Emotional Freedom Techniques

The Ultimate Level 1 Workshop Workbook What people say about Lindsay Kenny’s

The Ultimate Level 1 Workshop Workbook: I have attended Lindsay Kenny’s Level 1 EFT Workshop. Her new book, Ultimate Level 1 Workshop, puts the icing on the cake!! It’s fantastic, flows well, and is power-packed with the greatest information for non-traditional healing. Indulge yourself; you’ll love it!!! Dr. Carl Drake, Board Certified Psychiatrist (M.D., Ph.D.) For anyone seeking a solid foundation in EFT, this is the book! It is clear, concise, and comprehensive. I highly recommend it to anyone learning EFT. Sophia Cayer, EFT Master; SolacewithSofia.com The Ultimate Level 1 Workshop Workbook is an outstanding reference manual. It provides a practical, user-friendly, easy-to-follow understanding of EFT. Lindsay Kenny did a spectacular job in this workbook helping people understand how EFT can bring balance and peace to your life. This is a must read for anyone who really wants to learn EFT. Zoe Walton, L.Ac.; ZoeWalton.com

by Lindsay Kenny EFT Master, AAMET Certified Trainer, Life Coach

Change Your Mind With EFT ( the Ultimate Level 1 Workshop WorkBook ) by Lindsay Kenny

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