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Force moves the body Persuasion moves the mind Inspiraon moves the spirit
Force can get you a physical response
Persuasion can get you agreement
But only inspiraon ignites the dual engines of love…
To inspire a woman means.;.. (! to (happen to! "reathe life into her "eing "y virtue of the man you are in the world and (#! to (consciously! "reathe life into her "y virtue of the man you choose to "e with her…
and…
To inspire a woman means… ($! to "e the support%agent of her transcending her own physical and mental limitaons& her dou"ts and self'dou"ts…
… to transcend her cycles of ge)ng and spending&* her resignaon& her cynicism…
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1ach of these steps means moving "eyond* stasis…
This is only for you if you want this most vivifying level of love… and not merely…
security “a strategy of ego* social standing and e,pectaons a3achment strategy feeling needed* economic strategy
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All I Want is a Billionaire, Bisexual, Nymphomaniac Chef… …….. (who’s enlightene!
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6an7s nature is “ an ever emergent open system that evolves in saccadic quantum-like jumps.” ' +laire /. 8raves 9piral :ynamics
My working hypothesis… 5nything less than living from your inspired self sells your evolving love%life short…
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Category #1 In The /orld The Inspired 6an Inspires ove "y iving an Inspired ife ( EDGE !eyond mental "lters#
@ Physical mastery& prowess accomplishments #@ Financial acumen& power& penetraon& success $@ Emoonal connectedness and authencity& character A@ Intellectal power and reach% wit
@ !ocial leadership& em"eddedness C service% humanity D@ !e"al e,pression and s4illset E@ Creave arstry @ Play and Fun G@ !pirital groundedness& pracce
Category # In her world The Inspired 6an Inspires ove /ith Inspiring Partnership 94ills… “$pplied %haracter”
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Category #$ For %er *orld ( !eyond her mental "lters#
+ou can inspire her into the journey into , unique self
&ianne “/0ve !een inspired !y the feeling of !eing safe and looked out for. 1here2s nothing more se3y and inspiring that a man who2s got it handled” (Physical +ompetence& 2elaonship 94ills& 9afety!
&eb “My short answer is4 ,is Mind. 1hat2s typically the !iggest turn on for me. /t !oth inspires me and e3cites me to 5 a !e6er me and think !igger7 !e !e6er7 and reach levels / never imagined as a li6le farm girl just wan8ng to escape my town and travel the world.” (Intellectual! Hopens new landscapes
'nnie@ “ / fell in love with !en at 5urning Man when he was giving a talk a!out he future of mankind…”
(9ocial Purpose& Intellectual& 9piritual!
(ariana) “,is !rain7 his spirituality 7 his commitment to his work. $thle8cism. $nd math skills” (mental& spiritual& nancial& intellectual!
Samira “9assion for what he creates in the world for the greater good… this is a contagious joy and an inspira8on. /f there is a level of mastery within the crea8ve realm7 this makes him se3ier s8ll… “ (9ocial& +reave!
Tre* ”/ have !een inspired !y men who can !e strong7 independent7 respected leaders in their community7 work and family while !eing tender and passionate with me. l / can respect and honor him for his strength and feel safe and cared for when we are together. ,aving this man in my life inspires me to really step into my !eauty7 grace7 power7 love and joy.” (9ocial& Partnership s4ills! C H threshold
+at,a “:oing the *ork that is ;him; and of a high integrity and impact (there is always impact if there is purpose# to me is a huge eye catcher. / simply adore such men as / know they
!arah / am inspired !y $. !ecause he is ,=>&1. ,e is so genuinely kind and good that it feels innocent. / can and always could see that in his eyes7 and then in his loving nature. /t inspired my trust which ?@. 1hen7 he is fun…
“,e0s laid !ack and knows how to enjoy himself , which helps ground me and give some variety from my ambion and intensity . .. ,e completely turned his life around7 which is what inspired me on our "rst date. ,e0s intelligent in the way / most like4 strategic7 relentless7 inquisi8ve7 o!jec8ve as hell. ,e inspires me !ecause he is all these things /0ve loved in diAerent men7 rolled into =>B $maCes me every day.”
First Level@ (! In The /orld (#! In %er /orld 6ost /omen@ ove J Proud& 5dmiring 3 9afe& 5ccepted& Kalued& 0eard& +herished…
!econd Level) The surge of freedom* the a"ility and desire to self4e"press that women e,perience when they are inspired "y their man…
/hy :o I Focus on Inspiraon # reasons…
5nything less feels li4e living life short of possi"ility…
“*hen it0s over7 / want to say4 all my life / was a !ride married to amaCement. / was a !ridegroom7 taking the world into my arms. *hen it0s over / don0t want to wonder if / have made of my life something par8cular7 and real…
/ don0t want to "nd myself sighing and frightened or full of argument. / don0t want to end up simply having visited this world. - Mary =liver7 “*hen :eath %omes”
(#! 5nd "ecause I learned that the more inspired I was& the higher >uality woman I a3racted& and the more passionately and with more layers* they loved me…
53ract C +onnect ' Inspire
Phase 1) '5ract Physical 2ealm The <,ygen of 9e, 1go"on4ing L
Trust +oc4y%Funny IndiMerence 9tatus 1lectric +ontrast 1roc Forward Pacing
Nindness 8enerosity Purpose Friendships Passion 1mpathy Kulnera"ility
It gets you up to "eing…
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The Transional Trigger6 “'rom 'ucking verything that Moves to 5eing Moved !y veryone +ou 'uck”
Phase II) Connect /hat ma4es you a uni>ue voice /ith whom O how do you a3ach& "ond& love -our uni>ue awareness… -our stories… -our uni>ue wounds -our uni>ue rise from struggle and "arriers "ro4en…
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The e,t Trigger Force moves the "ody Persuasion moves the mind… Inspiraon moves the spirit…
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Three Things.. (! what you do in the /orld (#! what you do in her /orld ($! what you do for 012 /orld
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/hat is Inspiraon and why is it inherently
isten as way of re'imagining who you are at core…
718 The Inspired (an is Free “/nspira8on is the feeling of freedom and joy from realiCing that who we are is !eyond the body 7 and !eyond all limi8ng beliefs...” ' Qohn 6arshall 2o"erts
78 The Inspired (an is E"pansive To "e inspired is to feel vaster in engagement with what you value most C "eauty& love& your art or s4ill& teaching& learning& service& mastery… more than*
7$8 The Inspired (an is Enraptred Inspiraon originates from neither the "ody nor the raonal mind. It arises from a deeper dimension C something more li4e wonder…
/hen you are inspired& you are uni>uely alive to the mystery of Being and Becoming… +onnected to grandeur*
798 The Inspired (an is Eroc Inspiraon is inherently pleasura"le C connected to the 1ros of "oth "eing and "ecoming…
798 The Inspired (an is Evolon The Evolonary Life Force :Love Intelligence2 in that you are moving the species& consciousness& creavity forward…
&ustained inspira8on adds constant crea8ve energy to a person0s mental system7 which ul8mately produces a wholesale transformaon of their world-view . 1his process is the ongoing !asis for mankinds mental and spiritual evoluon on !oth a micro (personal# and macro (glo!al# level” ' Q62
7;8 The Inspired (an is Fonded in Love :of life2< -ou are openness opening. 2ather than fear'founded& which constricts…
7=8 The Inspired (an is Empowered …inspiraon puts us "ac4 in touch with our limitless creave potenal& and reminding us that we are each athors of our own e,perience.* ' Q62
7>8 The Inspired (an is &ynamic 0e is in acon. Inspiraon grows from the soil of acon…* ' !usiness Secrets of the "rappist #onks$ %ne &E%s 'uest for #eaning and (uthencity, (ugust "urak
Inspiraon is sustained "y acon and must ulmately lead to measura"le real'world results or it will "ac4re& over me…
7?8 The Inspired (an is @niAe Inspiraon grows from& mar4s and amplies your =ni>ue 9elf
71B8) The Inspired (an is Connected To Innity Inspiraon +an 6ap 5cross -our /hole Being& 6a4ing -ou 5live to -<=2 uni>ue Being and Becoming…
In short& how you live as an inspired man ma4es you e,cing …to yourself and to her…
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#1) %ow Can Go He Inspired in Gor Physical Life
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Inspired !ight To see the universe in a grain of sand*… 9cale of space and me /e are a visual species Cshort' term thin4ing long term pro"lems. /a4e up to art& nature& pa3erns& "eauty
9ense of 9mell 9ense of 0earing 9ense of Taste 9ense of Touch 1ver rening su"tlety...
Gor Hody 'wareness H Breath H -oga H 6editaon H utrion …
H +onnected to environment H 0ow -ou 6ove Through 9pace H :o you feel the Voy of "eing alive
# %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired in Gor Financial Life
The 1ros of 5"undance 0ow can you ma4e your will felt in the world
0ow can you create value
0ow can you ac>uire resources
0ow can you contri"ute
#$) %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired in Gor Intellectal Life
H 0ow are you deepening 6astery H 0ow are you challenging your "eliefs* H 0ow are you rening your disncons H 0ow are you incorporang other perspecves (cultural& gender etc!
#9 %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired in Gor !ocial Life
H 0ow are you growing& invested in your social we" as hman connecon (its own value! H 0ow are you growing& invested in your social we" as social wealth
H 0ow are you growing& invested in your social we" as inspiraon engine H 0ow are you in service (intertwined with the acve good of others*
#;) %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired Inspired in Gor Emoonal Life
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9elf e,aminaon& awareness& 0onesty 2esponsive v 2eacve (triggers! 1mpathic C (e>ual agents! Identy 0ow limited your self'identy H 6ulple perspecve%altude H 9tay in the game
H 5re you engaging your shadow H 5re you engaging your wound H 5re you engaging%"ringing your greatness H 5re you opening into e,perience or closing
5nd "y doing so C are you meeng& feeling& seeing& healing the wounds& shadows& fear& greatness& opening and closing of others
#=) %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired in Gor !e"al Life
H Prowess H Presence H 1roc +onnoisseur H #A 0our Foreplay H 1,panding your se,uality into life'eros
#>) #= %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired in Gor Creave Life
H The arts H -our living environment H -our self e,pression H /hat haven7t you e,pressed
#?) %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired Hy Gor Playfl :Fn2 Life
H on compeve athlecs H 0umor& clowning H 2ela,aon H +onversaon
#) %ow Can Go He (ore Inspired in Gor Creave Life
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The thing that you wish the person you lived with was more of…*
2elease from need for approval from others
2elease from Illusion of 9eparate 94in 1ncapsulated* 1go
2elease from the eed to +ontrol -our 1nvironment
“/f you want to inspire others7 choose to have faith in your connec8on to the source of life7 and in the unity !ehind appearances.” ' Q62
5ll of these categories… not as e,pressions of fear ego ' ' / e3ist and / need valida8on* But rather as…
… an e,pression of love4ego C your love of "eing alive and a part of the ongoing evoluonary e,pression of the ife Force
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0ow to ma4e your uni>ue giUs& wounds& shadows visi"le to connect with and interact with her uni>ue giUs wounds and shadows so that "oth of your giUs emerge and "oth of your shadows and wounds come into light and nd healing.
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Hasic &enion of Love) /hen you care for someone7s well "eing as much as or more than your own...
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9eople crave inspira8on7 !ut they usually "ght like hell when we try to inspire them…* ' Q62
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+an -ou teach love*
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“*here we had thought to travel outward7 we will come to the center of our own e3istence. $nd where we had thought to !e alone7 we will !e with all the world.” ' Qoseph +amp"ell
