UNIT-1:
FUNDAMENTALS OF COMMUNICATION
Structure 1.1 Objectives 1.2 Introduction 1.3 Effective Communication 1.4 Basic Forms of Communication 1.5 Barriers to Communication 1.6 Dealing with Communication Barriers 1.7 Listening 1.8 Types of Listening 1.9 Effective Listening 1.10 Powerful Speech 1.11 Let us Summarise 1.12 Suggested Sites 1.1
OBJECTIVES
At the end of this unit, you will be able to discuss: •
What is meant by Communication?
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The Importance of Communication
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The Process of Communication
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The Basic Forms of Communication
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Barriers to Communication
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Dealing with Communication Barriers
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Why is listening important for effective communication?
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Types of listening
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Positive listening responses
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Negative listening responses
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INTRODUCTION
What is meant by communication?
Communication is the act of transmitting verbal and non-verbal information and understanding between the sender and the receiver. It is a two-way two-way process. It is complete only when the sender has sent his message; this message is received by the receiver; understood by the receiver in the way the sender wants him to understand; response or result is achieved; and the receiver communicates back to the sender. It is the process by which information and feelings are shared by people through an exchange of verbal and non-verbal messages. Communication is effective only if the desired response or result is achieved.
DESIRED SENDER
RECEIVER
RESPONSE/ RESULT
We as human beings are social animals. We live in in a society. We are born with the capacity to communicate. Right from the time time we are born we communicate; a new born child communicates as well. A cry could mean he/she is hungry, needs a change of his/her nappy, or is feeling feeling cold. From birth to death communication is central to our personal, professional, and civic lives. 5
Why is it important to communicate?
Since we live in a society and there is always a need to interact with each other for some purpose or the the other, it is important important for us to communicate. Human relations are not possible without without communication. However, good and effective communication is required not only for good human relations but also for good and successful business. Progress is possible only if we communicate. Communication is not only the basis of human h uman thought, it is the means by which each of us develops an individual pattern of beliefs, attitudes, and values––the personal attributes that bring us to understand, misunderstand, accept, or reject others who are like or unlike ourselves. In that sense, communication is the foundation of an effective democratic and multicultural society. Most of your communication time may be spent speaking and listening, while a small portion of time is spent reading and writing. Let us say that you are at a shop and you want to buy a tube of toothpaste. Unless you tell the shopkeeper what you want or maybe even point out to a tube of paste on the rack, you will not be able to buy it. You need to communicate either by action or verbally. Communication is like breathing, you cannot c annot live if you don’t breathe; similarly, you cannot live in this world if you don’t communicate. Glossary
Attributes:
quality or characteristic that someone or something has
Transmitting:
to pass something from one person or place to another
CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 1
1. When do we start communicating? ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ 2.
Give two reasons as to why we should communicate.
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Write two or three sentences (in your own words) about what you have understood by communication.
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EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION How do we know whether we have communicated effectively?
You have been communicating all your life; you might wonder why you need to study about communication. One answer is that formal study can improve skills. Some people have a natural talent for singing or playing cricket. They could become better if they took voice lessons or studied theories of offensive or defensive play in cricket. Likewise, even if you communicate well now, learning about it more can make you more effective. Communication is complete only when we make ourselves clear to our receivers. The only way in which we can determine whether we have communicated effectively is by finding out if the desired result or response is achieved at the end of the process. If the desired response or result is not achieved, then be sure that you have not communicated properly. There could be many reasons as to why the receiver has not responded in the way in which you want him/her to. It could be your choice of words, tone, lack of complete information, assumptions, generalization, noise, distractions – just about anything. Read the following anecdote which will help you understand how communication can be ineffective if you do not take care to send the message across to the receiver. Rohini was busy working on a project report. She called out to her 15 year old, Pooja, to check if the milk on the stove was boiling. 7
As she was completely involved in her report, she forgot about it as soon as she had spoken. After a while, she suddenly looked up as she could smell something burning and she could also see smoke filling the room. She dashed to the kitchen to check what was happening. To her dismay, she saw the pan of milk, or what had been the pan of milk, charred beyond repair as the flame of the stove was still burning. Rohini yelled desperately for Pooja, "Didn’t I tell you to check if the milk was boiling?" Pooja: "Yes, you did. And I did check!" Rohini: "Then how come the pan is charred and there is no milk left?" Pooja:"…..but, but, you did not ask me to turn it off!" For communication to be clear and effective, it must satisfy four criteria: •
A message must be sent.
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The message must be received.
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The message must be understood.
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There must be a response.
Let's look at these requirements one at a t a time. A Message Must Be Sent.
The first requirement for clear communication is the sending of a message. For this to happen, the sender who has something to express must do something to convey the message to the receiver. He should either speak, write, sing etc., to express his ideas or even express them non-verbally through clear gestures, facial expressions, and so on. The Message Must Be Received
The second important part of the communication process is that the message should be received and understood. Effective communicators know that they have not conveyed their meaning until they have made sure that the other person has received it exactly as they sent it. They test, with questions and observations, to make sure that the real meaning they wanted to convey has been received and understood. 8
The Message Must Be Understood
The cycle of communication is complete only when your message has been sent, received and understood the way in which the sender wants the receiver to understand. You may not always agree with the other person, and the other person may not always agree with you -- but it is important that you understand each other. There Must Be a Response
The aim of all communication is to get ge t the desired response and result. You want to say something correctly, and have your receiver understand what you mean by it. But you also want the receiver to do something in response.
The criteria for communication sound simple enough. However, when we fail to consider the context, things can get difficult. difficult. Each of us has our own ideas. These are formed by our culture and are modified by our own unique life experiences. Our life's experiences add color and shades of meaning to different words. When we speak, our ideas must be translated into words which can be understood by the listener. Tina was visiting Korea for the first first time. She had to get some information from the library for for the book she was writing. She needed to photocopy some pages, so she went up to the librarian and asked: " Is there a copy machine here?" The librarian nodded, and pointed out to the hallway. She promptly walked down the hallway, but all she could find was a coffee vending machine. Puzzled, she walked around looking looking for the photocopier. Finally, she met someone who could understand English properly. She said, "I asked the librarian for a copy machine and he pointed this way, but there is no copier here; I only found a coffee machine!" The man laughed and said, said, "Oh! You must must be new here. You see the Koreans cannot understand the sound of "p"; he would have understood ‘copy’ to be ‘coffee’!" You can probably think of numerous examples of misunderstandings in your life, on your job and in your culture. Though Karnataka and Tamil Nadu belong to the same country, there are different 9
beliefs characteristic of each state. The following anecdote shows clearly how what is considered good in one state can be bad in another. In Tamil Nadu, it is considered auspicious to say that we will have "vada and payasam" for a festive occasion or for a celebration. However, the same expression will have a different meaning in Karnataka. "Vada and payasam" is usually made for the ceremonies of the dead. A friend of mine from Tamil Nadu, got married and came to Bangalore, a city in Karnataka. Her mother-in-law had arranged for a pooja to be performed in in the house to welcome the new daughter-in-law. Nearly 200 people were invited for the pooja. As the pooja started and was in progress, my friend was very happy and excited and suddenly exclaimed, "Ah! Lovely! We will have vada – payasa today!" This was greeted by dead silence in the gathering and her mother-in-law was very angry and upset. She was rather puzzled until her husband explained to her that it was the wrong thing to say during a pooja. Therefore, it is important to consider the culture of the place.
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Glossary
Anecdote:
a short story that you tell someone about something that happened to you or to someone else
Characteristic: a typical or obvious quality that makes one person or thing different from others Conveyed:
to communicate information, feelings, or images to someone
Culture:
the habits, traditions, beliefs, lifestyle, food etc., of a country, society, or group of people
Modified:
to change something in order to improve it
Numerous:
many
Offensive and:
style of playing strokes in cricket; offensive play is when
defensive play
you attack the other team and defensive when you stop the other team from getting more runs
Opportunities:
chances
Talent:
a natural ability to do something
Unique:
one of a kind; different from everything or everyone else
Vada and payasam:
special dishes prepared by most South Indians .
CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 2
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How can you communicate effectively?
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Have you ever been in a funny situation because of miscommunication? Share your experience.
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BASIC FORMS OF COMMUNICATION
The two basic forms of communication are Verbal and Non-Verbal.
COMMUNICATION
VERBAL
NON-VERBAL
Verbal Communication Verbal communication is when a person puts across a message by speaking or or writing. The message can be sent to an individual, a team or a group.
Verbal communication can be – •
Face to face
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Speaking on the telephone
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Using intercoms
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Video conferencing (when people use advanced technology to see each other while speaking from any part of the world) Conference calling (when people use advanced technology to speak with people situated at various locations on the globe and virtually hold a conference on the telephone, speaking with many people at the same time)
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Formal and informal letters
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Business and personal emails
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Online Chat
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Reports
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Memoranda
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Resumes
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The print media (newspapers, magazines etc.)
Verbal communication can be either formal or informal. Formal Verbal Communication is used in offices, while meeting strangers, speaking with older people, public addresses, and social gatherings. Choice of words and tone will certainly be more polite than in informal situations.
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Note:
While interacting interacting with strangers, speaking speaking with older people and in social gatherings, communication could sometimes change from formal to informal according to the situation as well. Informal communication is used among family and friends. Choice of words and tone may vary according to the degree of closeness with a particular member of the family or friends’ circle. Jargon, slang and short forms may form part of it as well.
*Non Verbal Communication: Non verbal communication includes•
Shaking hands
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Posture
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Facial expressions
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Appearance
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Voice
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Tone
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Hairstyle
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Clothes
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Expression in your eyes
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Smile
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How close you stand to others
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How you listen
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Confidence
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Your breathing
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The way you move
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The way you stand
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The way you touch people
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Color choice
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Silence
*This will be dealt with in detail in Unit 3.
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CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 3
1. How would you greet your grandfather? ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ 2. How would you greet your friend when you meet him at a cinema theatre? theatre? ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ 3. Classify the following into Verbal or Non-Verbal forms forms of communication: a letter to your friend; namaste; wearing stylish clothes; a memo; talking to a friend; chatting on line; keeping silent; shouting; breathing heavily; writing an email; asking for information; hugging your mother.
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Verbal
Non-Verbal
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Glossary
Jargon:
words and phrases used by particular groups of people that are difficult for other people to understand
Memoranda:
official documents, information, messages
Resumes:
a document which describes your qualifications and jobs you have done, which you send to an employer that you want to work for
Slang:
informal language often used by people belonging to a particular group; slang is not acceptable in business English
Tone:
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the style and quality of the sound of someone’s voice
BARRIERS TO COMMUNICATION What is meant by "barrier"?
We can look at the the word "barrier" to mean several things. It could be a fence, fence, a wall, or just something that obstructs your view, thought or perception. Many people think that communicating is easy. It is after all something we've done all our lives. Communicating is straightforward. What makes it complex, difficult, and frustrating are the b arriers we put in the way. Communication can have many barriers which usually result in miscommunication. 1.
Physical Barriers
Physical barriers include: •
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Marked out territories into which strangers are not allowed – For example, many offices have electronically locked doors which can be opened only by using access cards. Closed doors, barrier screens, separate areas for people of different status Large working areas or working in one unit that is physically separated from others.
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2.
Perceptual Barriers
The problem with communicating with others is that we all see the world differently. If we didn't, we would have no need to communicate. Perception is how you look at others and the world around you. How you look at the world depends on what you think of yourself. How many legs does this elephant have? Observe carefully and you could just see 8 legs instead of 4!!
Illusions are used to show that our senses can be tricked - this happens in communication when there is a difference in what we expect and what is really happening. Perceptual Process-you select the information, you organize it, and you interpret it.
The following anecdote is a reminder of how our thoughts, assumptions and perceptions shape our own realities: There was this bank manager who was campaigning for accounts for the new branch that had opened in the neighborhood. Geetha, a lady in the area, decided to open an account in the the new branch. The manager was delighted and from then on Geetha was treated as an important customer. One day, as she was not very clear about an entry in her pass book, she went up to the manager and said, "I have a doubt regarding……" and even before she could complete the sentence, the manager pushed back his chair in anger and screamed, "You doubt me, you doubt me. How dare you! Get out of my my office now." A harmless question was taken as an insult and the situation got completely out of control. The manager thought that she was suspecting him when all she was trying to do was clarify something. Try this exercise to understand how pre-conceived ideas play on our minds. 16
Read the chart and say the color out loudly, not the word – for example the word "yellow" is printed in green; therefore, you are expected to read aloud the color which is "green" – usually as most of us continue reading, we will end up reading the word and not the color.
YELLOW BLUE ORANGE BLACK RED GREEN PURPLE YELLOW RED ORANGE GREEN BLACK BLUE RED PURPLE GREEN BLUE ORANGE BLUE BLACK GREEN ORANGE RED
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Emotional Barriers
One of the main barriers to open and free communications is the emotional barrier. It deals mainly with fear, mistrust and suspicion. The roots of our emotional mistrust of others lie in our childhood when we were taught to be careful about what we said to others. I am sure most of us in our growing years have heard one or the other of the following statements. •
"Mind your P’s and Q’s"
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"Don't speak until you're spoken to"
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"Children should be seen and not heard"
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"Respect your elders – do not question or answer them back"
As a result many people hold back from communicating their thoughts and feelings to others. They feel vulnerable. While you need to be careful with certain relationships, you also need not be over careful as this may result in slowing down the process of effective and clear communication. Rakesh had risen to to the position of a team manager through sheer hard work. He belonged to a conventional Indian family, where youngsters are taught to respect older people. He faced a serious problem at work. One of his team members, Krishnamurthy, Krishnamurthy, was a slightly elderly gentleman who was rather lazy and did not complete his work on time. As the team manager, he knew that he had to talk to Krishnamurthy and pull him up for his laziness. However, he was unable to do so because Krishnamurthy was much older. His upbringing (which (which had taught him to respect and fear elders) 17
stopped him from telling an older person that he was lazy. As a result, he had to face a lot of problems with his boss who was an American and could not understand Rakesh’s plight. Psychological factors such as people's state of mind can also come in the way of clear communication. We all tend to be more receptive to information when we are happy. Similarly, if someone has personal problems like worries about their health or marriage, then this will probably affect them. Imagine that you have just heard that a good friend of yours has met with an accident and is in hospital with serious injuries. injuries. I am sure you will be upset to hear this. When you are in such a state of mind, would you be able to have fun and enjoy yourself? 4.
Cultural Barriers
Each country has its own culture. What might be considered polite behavior could be considered rude in other places. In Japanese culture, it is considered proper behavior for men to keep silent.
If a man talks too much, he is considered
uncultured. This has created problems for the Japanese when they interact with people from other cultures as they do not speak even when they need to. With people communicating globally, it has become quite common to adapt to global etiquette. For example, it is considered rude to burp after a meal, especially in public. Check this story out which is in total contrast to what we now follow as global etiquette. An Englishman, John Ernest, was exploring and writing about the lives of certain nomadic tribes in the Middle East. He was invited to a feast by the head of a particular tribe. The spread before him was impressive. He ate till he could eat no more.
His host was most courteous and hospitable and kept serving him
generously. Everything seemed to be going fine. Suddenly, John felt felt that his host seemed to be expecting something from him. He immediately thanked him for the lovely meal. However, his host did not seem too happy. John continued to feel his host watching him expectantly. Half an hour passed in this manner. Then suddenly his host yelled for the chef and to John’s shock, drew out his sword to kill the chef. 18
John was aghast, and couldn’t stop himself from yelling out, "Why? What has he done? I have never eaten such delicious food in all my my life!" life!" His host host replied angrily, "..but then, you haven’t burped even once! It only means one thing; the food was not to your taste. My chef has disappointed me; he has failed to please my guest, that is you, Mr. John." This tribe firmly believed that if someone has enjoyed his meal, he should show his appreciation by burping loudly. If he doesn’t, it means means that the food was not good. John hastily explained that in his culture it was considered rude to burp and it had nothing to do with the taste of the food which he had found exotic and delicious. 5.
Language Barriers
The language we use may also present barriers to others who are not familiar with our expressions, slang and jargon. In a global market place the best way to make another person feel good is to talk in their language. We all know that countries like America and Britain outsource work to India. However, we as Indians do not always understand their idiomatic expressions. One example is that of a customer support representative (working in a call center which gave support to an online purchasing company) who was very confused while taking a call. A customer from America who had bought a watch recently complained that his watch had "busted"; the representative understood it as "bursted" and replied saying that that it was impossible impossible for a watch to burst! He failed to understand that the customer meant to say that his watch had stopped working! Incidentally, the verb "burst" has all its three forms as "burst" in British English; however, "bursted" is an accepted form in American English. An individual’s command over language is also important. The use of difficult or inappropriate words in communication can stop people from understanding the message. Poorly explained or misunderstood messages can also result in confusion. We can all think of situations where we have listened to an explanation which we just could not grasp. It is always better to express ourselves in clear and simple language. 6.
Physiological Barriers:
Physiological barriers may result from individuals' personal discomfort, caused, for example, by ill health, poor eye sight or hearing difficulties. 19
Radha and Ravi had been married ten years. For sometime, Ravi had felt that Radha did not respond to him when he spoke to her. He suddenly remembered that deafness ran in her family. He did not want to upset her by asking her whether she was able to hear properly. Worried, he met their family doctor and explained the situation to him. The doctor told him that he could check this out discreetly. discreetly. He asked Ravi to go home and speak to her from a distance and check whether she responded. Ravi got home to find Radha busy busy cooking. He yelled, "What is for dinner ?" There was no reply. Worried, he moved closer and repeated the question. Still, there was no reply. He kept yelling yelling until he was really close to her. Looking very worried, he shouted the question once again. Radha turned around looking really angry. "What is wrong with you? How many times do you want me to repeat that we are having chicken for dinner? Right from the time you entered and yelled from the entrance, I have been shouting, ‘chicken’. Are you deaf or what?" To his dismay, Ravi realized that he was the one who was turning deaf! Poor Listening will Certainly Result in Miscommunication.
It was getting close to 1 pm. Ajay, a technical support agent was on a call with a customer. Ajay was helping him install a new program on his laptop. Mid-way through the process, his friends started gesturing to him that it was time for lunch. Ajay was distracted distracted by them. He missed the customer asking asking him to explain the step they were going through. Ajay continued giving instructions instructions and finally asked the customer if the program had been installed successfully. Unfortunately, for Ajay, as he had missed a vital question, the whole process had to be repeated before b efore the installation was completed successfully. By the time he was done it was close to to 3 p.m. Had he listened carefully, he would have finished by 1.30 p.m! He could have saved precious time, time, both for the customer and himself. The other misfortune was that the customer was so angry by the end of the call that he complained about Ajay to his supervisor. supervisor. It became a black mark on his record. CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 4
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Of the various barriers to communication that you have learnt, which of them do you feel are the most difficult to overcome and why?
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Can you think of any situation where you have misunderstood words and reacted differently? Write a few few sentences about such an experience.
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Assumptions:
something that you think is true without having any proof
Barrier:
something that stops people from doing what they want
Campaigning:
in the given context, to get new accounts for his branch
Clarify:
to make something easier to understand by explaining it
Complex:
difficult to understand; not simple
Conventional:
traditional
Dismay:
feeling of unhappiness and disappointment
Frustrating:
feeling annoyed that things are not happening the way you want them to
Gesture:
to point at something or express something using your hand, arm or head.
Illusion:
an idea or belief that is not true; something that is not really what it seems to be
Mutter:
speak so softly that it is difficult to hear
Perceive:
what you think or believe about someone or something
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situation are known.
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Receptive:
willing to think about and accept new ideas
Vital:
necessary
Vulnerable:
easy to hurt or attack physically or emotionally
DEALING WITH COMMUNICATION BARRIERS
Physical barriers are not very difficult to overcome. Seeking permission, knocking etc., can easily help us deal with them. Perceptual barriers can be overcome by taking time to empathize with the other person and being open to the other person’s views and ideas. Emotional barriers are far more difficult to deal with as some of them may have existed for a long time and we may need to get professional help to overcome them. Sometimes, opening up our minds to different ideas and broadening our perspective can help us go a long way. Cultural barriers can be overcome by understanding cultural differences and respecting different cultures. Language barriers take a long time time to overcome. However, learning the the language and the nuances of its usage would help. Developing spoken and written skills skills in that particular language is essential. Physiological barriers can be overcome by identifying the barrier and finding a solution accordingly. For example, if you are unable to see or read, you could get your vision checked and it can be corrected by using a pair of spectacles or even contact lenses. However, the most important barrier in the communication process is poor listening. CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 5 1. Match the following:
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Physical barrier
Attending a formal dinner in New York and not knowing which spoon to use first as there are many spoons arranged next to your plate 22
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Perceptual barrier
Waiting at the reception to be escorted into the manager’s office
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Emotional barrier
Being unable to read the notice board even from a close distance
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Cultural barrier
Trying to ask for directions in Tokyo (you don’t know Japanese)
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Language barrier
Being pre-occupied while in a meeting
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Physiological barrier
Being so respectful toward elders that you don’t speak out even if they are wrong
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Poor listening
Pre-formed ideas
Glossary
Empathize:
to understand and feel exactly the same emotion as the other person
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Nuances:
very slight differences in meaning
Perceptive:
quick to notice and understand things
LISTENING
Let us first understand what is meant by "listening" and also differentiate it from "hearing". Listening and hearing are not the same. We hear all sorts of noises in the world around us, but we do not listen to them all. For example, people who live near busy roads get used to the sound of traffic and don't hear it anymore. These are not things we want to listen to so we 'tune them out' and don't usually notice them. Listening is a form of communication and is a n active process. When you listen you must get meaning from what is being said before you can respond Listening is important to each of us because it enables us to: •
be more effective in our interpersonal relationships
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gain important information
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gather data to make correct decisions
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respond appropriately to the messages that we hear 23
When we listen to others we need to listen to the total meaning, that is, both the content and the attitudes or feelings underlying the content. Therefore, even though listening may appear effortless - we still need concentration and commitment to the listening process. Listening involves much more than hearing a message. Hearing is merely the physical aspect of listening: it is a relaxed, passive and physical occupation that needs little or no effort of mind or will. Thus, it is possible to hear sounds, for example, the chirping of birds, while concentrating co ncentrating on other tasks. Three events take place if hearing is to take place properly. •
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We isolate the sounds correctly. We place the sounds in a meaningful order so that they may be recognized as words. We recognize words in a pattern that forms a language, which then helps to convey the communicator's message to us.
Listening, on the other hand, is a mental and active process and thus it is practically impossible to do other tasks effectively at the same time. Listening involves the three steps necessary for the hearing process but also has two additional steps. They are: •
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paying attention to the speaker trying to understand what the other person is saying
Therefore, listening is the process of actively discovering and understanding the meaning of verbal messages; it requires active participation of the individual. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They're either speaking or preparing to speak. When another person speaks, we're usually 'listening' at one of four levels. •
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We may not be paying attention to another person, or not really listening at all. We may be pretending - 'Yeah. Uh-huh. Right'. We may be engaged in selective listening, i.e., listening only to certain parts of the conversation. Or we may even be engaged in attentive listening, i.e., paying attention and focusing energy on the words that are being said.
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We need to actively listen in order to understand the message as it is meant to be understood. The main parts of active listening are: •
Being attentive
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Responding appropriately to show that you are listening
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Thinking seriously and carefully about what is being said
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Summarizing for understanding
Active listening is a dynamic process and requires the listener to actively participate in the communication process. Have you ever misinterpreted misinterpreted someone's directions? For example, example, the term 'soon'. 'soon'. If I say, “I would like that project finished soon, please,” then when would I like it done? Does 'soon' mean today? Tomorrow? End of the week? Active listening helps clarify such cases. The listener may clarify by asking, “Is tomorrow morning OK?” Evaluating what you have listened to is important as it helps you understand the sender’s information. information. When you evaluate, you need to differentiate differentiate between facts and emotion-laden words or statements. For example, if someone tells you, "This dress looks absolutely fabulous on you. You must buy it or you’ll be disappointed with yourself for not treating yourself to such a gorgeous dress," the fact might be that you don’t need the dress as you have just bought boug ht one on e the day d ay before. Therefore, you need to think through the facts and an d analyze instead of getting influenced by emotion. CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 6
1. List two differences between "Hearing" and "Listening". ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ 25
2. What are the main components of active listening? ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ Glossary
Dynamic:
active
Isolate:
separate someone or something from other people or things
Misinterpret: to understand understand something in the wrong way Summarize: 1.8
to describe briefly the main facts or ideas of something
TYPES OF LISTENING
Listening can be classified into many types. A few examples are given here in this table. TYPES OF LISTENING NAME
Active listening
DESCRIPTION
You listen closely to content and intent. What emotional meaning might the speaker be giving you? You try to block out barriers to listening. Most importantly, you are not jumping to criticize people and you are empathetic.
Inactive or passive listening
In this type of listening, nothing of the speaker's words goes into the mind of the listener. The words of the speaker don't activate the thought process of the listener. But the listeners are physically present though mentally absent. The listener may have decided to ignore the speaker due to either a preconceived notion or lack of interest in what the speaker is saying. 26
Selective listening
This type of listening is a little better than passive listening in that the information of the speaker is listened to in bits and pieces rather than the whole of it. You occasionally take in some information, probably because it is pleasant to you or agreeable with your existing views. However, you as the listener may be missing out on the important part of the speaker's message. This can also be classified under negative kinds of listening since the important part of the message is ignored and the benefit of it missed out.You only hear what you want to hear. You hear some of the message and immediately begin to formulate your reply without waiting for the speaker to finish.
Reflective listening
This is active listening when you think about what the speaker is saying, reflect on it and make sure there is mutual understanding.
Biased listening
When you have a pre-formed opinion or belief and you let it affect what you are listening to.
Comprehension listening
Listening to understand, seeking meaning – analyzing.
Critical listening
Listening in order to evaluate, criticize or otherwise pass judgment on what someone else says. This may not always be positive especially when you pass judgment. judgment. However, if it is is to give positive feedback in order to progress, it is acceptable.
Empathetic listening
Seeking to understand what the other person is feeling. Demonstrating this empathy. Empathy is when you can actually feel exactly the same way as the other person and literally live the situation which the other person is experiencing.
Inactive listening
Pretending to listen and not bothering to respond. 27
Initial listening
Listening at first, then thinking about a response and looking to interrupt in the process of which you miss what is being said further.
CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 7 Match the following:
1. Active listening
1. The team leader was evaluating his team’s presentation.
2. Inactive or passive listening
2. John was very interested at first but soon he lost interest
3. Critical listening
3. Jane listened carefully, understood, and answered.
4. Biased listening
4. Meena was busy thinking about what she would wear for the party that evening.
5. Initial listening
5. Bina thought to herself, "I don’t think that Kate is capable of making this presentation. What is the use of listening to her?"
Glossary
Criticize:
to say that someone or something is not quite right or the way they they should be
Evaluate:
to consider or study something carefully and decide how good or bad it is
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Interrupt:
to disturb or stop someone while they are talking
Mutual:
when two or more people have the same opinion about each other
Passive:
not taking active part
EFFECTIVE LISTENING
In order to improve our listening skills we need to be aware of the major barriers to effective listening. Some barriers come from the listeners themselves (for example, disinterest in the topic), some from the sender (for example, a boring tone) and others from the environment (too much noise). 28
Certain bad listening habits also act as barriers •
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deciding in advance that the subject is uninteresting focusing on the poor delivery of the speaker rather than on what is being said
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concentrating on making one’s own point
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focusing only on facts
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pretending to pay attention
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allowing distractions to interfere with listening
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responding emotionally to certain words or phrases
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day dreaming because of the difference between speech speed and thought speed
How can you become an effective listener?
There are some skills that, with practice, can improve your listening competence. A few things that you can do to become an effective listener: •
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Become interested in the topic to avoid boredom. Do not get distracted by the other person’s appearance, dress, mannerisms, etc.
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Listen for concepts and major ideas.
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Don't pretend to be attentive and appear to be listening; be genuine.
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Listen to the entire message before evaluating.
Skill in listening is determined by how well all people in the communication process have understood each other and how well they have communicated this understanding. Listening involves clarifying and understanding the message by taking an active interest in the communication process. Some listening responses that need to be avoided – •
"You shouldn't feel that way. "
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"I have faced situations that were much worse than yours."
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"Don't blame me, I told you not to..."
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"What did you do to make him so angry?"
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"I certainly would have behaved in a better way than you did. What you did was bad." "Just because you are the boss, you think that you can do anything, is it?" 29
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"I don’t agree with you."
Some listening responses that can be used•
"In other words, your decision was to..."
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"Tell me more" "Really?" "Go on" "uh-huh"
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"Yeah" "I see" "That's interesting"
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"Please go on..."
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"What do you plan to do?"
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"How do you feel about that?"
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"How are you working this through?"
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"Have you just started feeling this way?"
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"What are your reasons for feeling this way?"
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"I can tell you've given this a lot of thought."
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"I disagree with you but I respect your decision."
CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 8
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List at least 5 barriers to listening.
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Raja works for a computer company.
He always gets into trouble while
interacting with his customers. He seems to get most of the facts mixed up. His problem is that he is not a good listener. Could you help him to become an effective listener? listener? Please give him a few tips. ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................ ................................................................................................................................................
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Glossary
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Competence:
the ability to do something well
Genuine:
real; sincere
POWERFUL SPEECH To pack power into your speech: •
Avoid expressions that show show you are not sure of yourself like "I guess" and "kind of"
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Remove expressions that show hesitation like "uh" and "you know"
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Avoid tag questions - "Communication is important, isn't it?"
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Use action verbs
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Use active voice: "I will complete this report today" instead of "This report will be completed by me today." Be clear in what you say.
Why should you pack power into your speech? •
People who talk powerfully are accepted as being more credible, attractive and persuasive.
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Powerful talk comes directly to the point.
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Powerful talk does not show hesitation.
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Powerful talk involves the use of lively, vivid language Now that you have gone through the fundamentals of communication, you can certainly understand the importance of communication in your life, especially if you want to climb the ladder of success. CHECK YOUR PROGRESS 9
1.
List three expressions, other than those mentioned in the text, that can show hesitation.
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Give two reasons for the need to pack power into your speech.
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Credible: 1.11
able to be trusted or believed
LET US SUMMARISE
In this unit we have learnt that: •
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Communication involves a sender and a receiver Communication is not complete unless the desired response or result is achieved Verbal communication involves both spoken and written communication Hairstyles, color of clothing, and even silence can be modes of non-verbal communication Communication can have many barriers like physical, perceptual, emotional, cultural, physiological
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Poor knowledge of language could also pose a barrier to communication
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Poor listening plays a role in miscommunication
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Listening is different from hearing
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There are many types of listening
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We can become effective listeners by overcoming listening barriers
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We can use simple yet effective ways to become powerful speakers
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