The Horny Guy’s Guide To How Women Tick By Kelly Rose Copy right 2013 by Kelly Rose. All Rights Reserved. Reproduction and distribution in any way , shape or form is forbidden.
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About the Author Kelly Rose is an Australian dating and seduction coach. As an attractive, slim blonde with a vivacious personality, Kelly is experienced when it comes to being approached by and dating men. She wrote this book after noticing that she and many of her girlfriends all complained of the same mistakes that men were making, both inside and outside the bedroom, which made them less appealing. The men she saw in her coaching practice were also committing a lot of these dating offences, and wondering why they were unsuccessful with women. Kelly has many male friends who, after using the same advice she offers in this book, significantly increased their success with women. She wrote t his book so that the wonderful male readers can get t he love and happ iness that they truly deserve.
What to Expect… Well hello there sexy. I am glad you could make it. I am delighted to offer you insider knowledge into a woman’s mind and body that until now we have kept to ourselves. Well how far is that getting us really? We women are not getting our needs met so we start to get bored by the idea of sex. You guys aren’t mind-readers. My goal with this book is t o teach you how t o get us interested and how to really t urn us on in the bedroom. Our culture raises us with the idea that women who love sex are ‘sluts’ and are ‘cheap’ or dirty. So women often repress their sexual feelings or at least feel awkward talking openly about what they want in bed. Some men are frustrated because their partner doesn’t seem interested in sex. They don’t want to cheat but they are going mad without sex. They are wondering how to fix things. I know single men who are sick of being friended by women and never making it past first base. How can they get these women to want to take it further? If they do get to the stage where they are having sex with a new lady, they may find for no apparent reason the women loses interest in the relationship. Why could this be? The woman seemed like she was enjoying herself. What went wrong? Ahhh we are complicated creatures at times aren’t we. Read on my friend and I will take you on a journey into our minds and deep into our pleasure zones. By the time you have read this book you will have a much better grasp on how to seduce a woman, how to really get her off in the bedroom and how to keep her coming back for more.
Chapter 1 25 Mistakes that Men Make When They are Dating Women and How You Can Fix Them. 1. Being too desperate.
While it is very important t o let the lady know you t hink she is special and attractive, and treat her really well there is a line in the sand that you s houldn’t cross. Don’t flip out t oo much over her- it will make you seem less sexy. You don’t want to portray the image that you are unable to get a woman and that being with her is a once in a lifetime experience. It will make you seem desperate and dateless. DO NOT ask to t ake pictures of her on the first few dates to send to y our friends- y ou are acting like a crazed fan- not an equal. 2. Asking i f she li kes you (cringe). Do not ask the girl if she likes y ou or if she finds you at tractive. That is s uch a turnoff. If she doesn’t like you t hen you will find out p retty quickly anyhow, and asking something like that is the quickest way to get her not t o like you. Do you really want to know the answer to your question? 3. S howing off your fish. If y ou choose to post your p icture on a dating website do not make the major picture a fish. While many women love to fish and think that it is a great hobby for y ou to have, they want t o kiss you- not a fish. Fish are NOT sexy. They are cold, scaly and slimy. If the main focus of y our picture is a fish t his can be quite off-put ting. STEP AWAY FROM THE FISH!
4. Having u nhealthy habits.
As much as you may hate exercise, you need to accept that if you want to meet y our ideal lady, whatever size or shape she is, it improves your chances if y ou are be toned and fit. T his means gett ing your butt to t he gym or starting another phy sical activity . It will also give you a much better sex life. Make sure you get your doctor's approval first before starting any new exercise program. You may need to see a personal trainer. 5. Being negative.
Try to see the glass as half full. Nobody wants to be around a doomsayer or a whinger. We also like to see you have a bit of drive and ambition. Find your inner go-getter and go get her. This also includes talking negatively about your ex. We don’t want to hear about your anger or your bitterness- at least not when we first meet you. This could get us thinking that maybe your ex knows something about you that we don’t. 6. Being insecure.
You know looks really are overrated. I am not saying that they do not matter- but it is amazing how attractive somebody can seem if they feel good about themselves. This doesn’t mean being arrogant, self-centered or cocky, but being self-assured and assertive is very sexy. Don’t p oint out your faults. While it is not good to brag about y ourself, putt ing yourself down can be just as bad- especially if y ou do it a lot. It is ok to make a bit of a joke about your belly or your bald head, but don’t overdo it and don’t do it if you are not making a joke of it. Women like confidence (not cockiness), and we can be really put off by a guy who is insecure. If he isn’t happy with himself then we are likely t o share that op inion. 7. Letting her pay.
Call me old fashioned but I believe the man should definitely pay. Unless you are dating a woman who has strong opinions about this being antifeminist (which I don’t feel it is), or is offended by y our offer to p ay, p lease insist on p aying for dinner and drinks. T here is nothing more of a turn off than a cheapskate who expects you to go halves on a date- or worse still lets you pay for him! The woman will see you at worst as a loser, at best as a man-child who she doesn’t respect. M ind you, if this really is your nature it is p robably best you reveal this at the st art. T his could save heartache down the track. If you are concerned she is a gostartld digger start off small. Meet her for coffee and cake. I think the woman should offer to pay but the man should at least make a damn good effort to t ry to foot the bill. If she keeps expecting you to do t his and never offers to p ay or appreciates it then she may well be taking advantage of you. 8. Coming on too strong.
Be different from other guys. Every other guy she has dated has made a beeline to get into her knickers. When you first go out with her, treat her really well, but don’t p hysically come on to her. Let her come to you. If by the end of the night she has not made any move or given any indication that she is physically attracted to you (e.g. Leaning towards you, brushing her legs or body up against you, being giggly or very flirty, mentioning your physical appearance), the you may want to test the waters with a kiss on the cheek at the end of the night or a hug. See how mechanical she is about it. Does she go for a big hug as well? Does she p ush her pelvis near yours or is her p elvis miles away? 9. Objectifying her.
If she has nice boobs or a great butt don’t tell her this on the first date. If a woman is attractive she can be used to being treated like an object. Be different. Tell her you are impressed by her strength or intelligence. Show interest in her goals and achievements. These are true, and enduring sources of a ladies self-esteem- not her abs or her glutes. It is st ill a good idea to t ell her she is att ractive but don’t objectify her by sp ecifying which particular body p arts y ou like. 10. Being a girly-man. I have heard plenty of men lamenting the way ladies seem to be uninterested in the nice guys and only want the bad boys. There is a grain of truth to this. M any ladies do like our men with a bit of mys tery - not t oo squeaky clean. We like a man who is assertive and who can ‘take us’ in the bedroom. We don’t want soft bodies, and soft voices. We want somebody who will stand up for us if need be. It can be a turnoff if a guy tries too hard to please us by being overly accommodating and not having any of his own opinions. For example: Lady: “So where do you want to go tonight?” M an: “Where ever y ou want t o go” Wrong answer! We want you to suggest a great seafood restaurant, or cocktail lounge etc.. Have some opinions on things! She may say “No I don’t like seafood” and you can adjust your plans accordingly, but at least have a mind of your own. You don’t have to be argumentative, or disagree for the sake of it, just don’t be afraid to say what y ou think or feel. If you get accused of being “too nice” this doesn’t really mean the problem is being nice. We all want to be treated well. It really translates as “You are weak minded and not assertive enough”. You may also be too feminine and not blokey enough for us. Still, if this is who you are don’t try to change too much for her. There will be a woman out there who will love you exactly how you are. I have found that most women are attracted to a strong man with a strong sense of self who knows his own mind. Don’t expect her to have to make all the decisions. She wants a partner, not a dependent child. 11. Being a sl ob. Speaking of children that leads me to the next point - w e ain't y our mamma.
A modern lady does not take too kindly to a man expecting her to pick up or clean up after him. These days a great way to impress a woman is to show you are house trained and you can cook. If you can’t cook - start learning. 12. Tardiness.
If you say you will meet her somewhere for a date- don’t be late. This is not a good look. If you are running late - let her know in advance and apologise. 13. Getting drunk.
Don’t get drunk to give you confidence. Intoxication is not sexy. Bourbon and beer breath is disgusting. Alcohol also impairs your sexual performance and generally makes you come across as a dickhead. A few drinks is fine, but if you need to get tanked to give you confidence in her presence - I would concentrate on finding natural ways to calm your nerves before you enter the dating scene. 14. Bad hygiene .
Hygiene is so import ant. This cannot be overstated. You can be the hott est guy in t he world but if y ou stink you have no chance. Brush
your teeth, floss, use mouthwash and breath mints before a date. Good breath is crucial. Please don’t kid yourself that she wants to smell your man smell. It may smell good to you - but she is not sharing the love. At the same time she doesn’t want you smothered in aftershave. Just a subtle deodorant or a hint of aftershave on a clean, well soaped body is adequate. Make sure you don’t forget your old fella in case you get lucky. You mustn’t have more products than us or take longer in the bathroom than us. Don’t over groom. That is not sexy. 15. Having n o li fe.
Have a life. Don’t expect to be an enticing, alluring catch if you do not have a life. This will make you seem dull and dependent. She wants to add to your life, not create it for you. 16. Being a workaholic.
Find a job you enjoy and have work life balance. If you are a workaholic or stuck in a job you don’t enjoy this will show. She may not want to get involved if she knows she will play second fiddle to your job all the time. 17. Pointing out he r flaws. Do I have to explain this one? If y ou say anything negative about her body you may as well cozy up t o M rs. Palmer right now buddy. 18. Bragging too much.
Don’t just t alk about y ourself, big note yourself or name drop. Also don’t t alk about how much money y ou have unless y ou are actually prep ared to sp end some on her while you brag. If you carry on about how rich you are, the celebrities you know and the car you drive she will think you are a tool. Especially if you are being a bit of a cheap skate while you go on about your wealth. Don’t make her come and look at the car you drive. It is much sexier that she subtly finds out when you take her out to dinner. You won’t even get that far if you shoot your mouth off about how cool you are. You can at least pretend t o be interested or impressed wit h her achievements. You know this will get you ten times as far. Don’t tell her how many girls are after you. If she thinks you are a catch she will assume that anyhow. Telling her will make her think you are a player or a knob. 19. S tomach churning fashion.
Get some advice on how to dress. Unless you know for sure you have fashion sense ask a lady friend to help you dress. Some good looking guys kill it with shocking fashion sense. M ake sure your pant s fit well- not too loose and not t oo tight. As far as undies go you don’t need to buy expensive undies as that looks like you try too hard. For heaven’s sake though, don’t borrow your Granddaddy’s undies. I have seen some shockers. OMG! Big skin coloured boxers are not sexy! Hawaiian, floral, or overly patterned collared shirts are also a bad choice. 20. Calli ng her pet names when you barely know her. Don’t call her babe too soon. She may not want to be y our ‘babe’ just yet. It may freak her out. 21. Jealousy. Don’t display jealousy, especially when she has just met you. Keep it to yourself. 22. Smothering he r with attention.
Don’t call/ message her too often or too little. There is nothing wrong with sending her texts to let her know you are thinking of her but have common sense with it. If you have just met her then a message/ call every 2 – 3 days is good. Give her a bit of breathing space. Once you get to know her a bit better t hen you can up it to daily t exts or calls. Just don’t suffocate her from the get go. She may run. Then again if you hardly contact her at all she may forget all about you. The trick here is to w ait long enough to call her so that she is just starting to miss y ou and worry why you haven’t called, then you relieve her worry by making that call. The relief she feels once she hears your voice means she will associate positive emotions with hearing from you. If you don’t give her the chance to even miss you for a second she won’t get that feeling. As I have said don’t leave this too long (e.g. 5 days or more) or she may lose interest. 23. Taking calls .
Don’t t ake calls or p lay with your p hone while you are out on a date w ith her. This is a big no-no. You can even turn y our phone off or p ut it on silent mode in front of her so she knows that your value and prioritise her company. 24. Being blasé.
You need to show her you are interested and have a bit of passion there. If you don’t show interest someone else will. You just need to not overdo it. This means show her you are into her but give her enough breathing space while you are pursuing your busy life. 25. Bad kissi ng technique.
M ake sure you have a good kissing technique because if you stuff it up you can undo any p rogress y ou might have made. Still, don’t overthink itit has to be relaxed and natural. I will talk more about kissing techniques soon.
If y ou recognize yourself in any of t he above 25 deadly sins, don’t desp air. The good news is we don’t always write y ou off for just one of these bad behaviors. Better st ill, not they don’t bother every woman- just t he majority of us. Now y ou have a bit of insight into why you never got the second date with t hat sexy brunett e you met last month y ou may s tand a bett er chance of wowing the next one with your incredible charm. What’s that you s ay? You now know what not to do but are still clueless about how t o literally impress the p ants off her? Relax- I have devoted the next chapt er to helping you out wit h this.
Chapter 2 How to Seduce the Women You Want Here are some ideas on how to make yourself more desirable: 1. Wear musky scented cologne as it mimics testosterone (1)) 2. Do romantic gestures like bring her chocolates and flowers, and tell her she looks beautiful. 3. Teach a class to women about something you specialise in. For example if you are a mechanic, why not get a certificate to allow you to teach mechanical knowledge to ladies. Be sure to do your research on any legal/ issues involved with this and ensure that you are fully insured. If you are a painter, teach painting, a musician, teach music. If you are teaching a group of women you automatically lift your status in their eyes. You become the centre of their attention, they are all competing for your attention. You will exude an aura of being knowledgeable and a specialist. What a great way to get laid whilst making money! 4. The number one tip I can give you on how to seduce a woman comes from a 68 year old man that I met once at a function. He told me that on his bucket list was to sleep with 1000 women and he had nearly achieved his goal. I asked him what his advice was on how to seduce a woman and his answer was very clever. He said “Do a massage course”. What a fantastic idea! It doesn’t have to be a long or elaborate one. It may only take a weekend or a week or two. Not only will you be learning with lot of women who will probably practice on you, but whenever you meet a woman you are interested in you can offer to give her a nonsexual massage. You don’t have to do t his overtly. You can just drop into the conversation at an app ropriate point about how “ Yeah when I was doing my massage course….” So if you get chatting at the gym and you talk about building muscle and training etc. you can conveniently make reference to your fabulous qualification. Once you have got as far as the massage, if she hasn’t made any moves on you then make the first massage completely non sexual, but very relaxing. This will be a great way for you to break the ice with her, get used to reading her body language and building trust. With the next massage, again try to read her body language. Test the water by touching an erroneous zone that is not too risqué like the inside of her thigh. Is she tensing up or responding well? If she seems to be enjoying it concentrate on all of her erogenous zones without actually touching her pussy. She will associate you with pleasure and voila! If you only take one piece of advice from this whole book and you are a single man-please remember- make time to do the massage course. 5. If you are yet to meet a woman you like why not join an aerobics, Pilates or a yoga class. Some men say “No waythat is for girls!” Exactly , it is for girls, who are often sexy and fit too. G uess who will be the only guy in the roomyou! T hey will all respect you for having the courage and being open minded enough to do the class and they will be drawn to you. Not to mention the incredible perve potential there guys. Come on, aren’t you secure enough in your masculinity to try it? You may even like it and get fit. This goes for any traditionally female dominant classes or pastimes. Works like a dream.
6. Take it slowly. D on’t t ry t o sleep with her too soon. Start by just kissing her. Control yourself or you may lose her. If y ou show an interest in her and let her confide in you she will start t o feel emotionally intimate with y ou. If she thinks y ou are att ractive, the phy sical intimacy will follow. 7. Once you do get intimate with her, start off by massaging and caressing her erogenous zones. If you work on these zones instead of divin straight for her pussy you will have her begging for it. So what are her erogenous zones? Well you are in luck! I have compiled a list: ● Ears: Personally I hate my ears being licked or kissed, but some women do find this a turn on. Best to test the waters before diving in to give her a wet w illy with y our tongue. It could be a bit scary if she is not into it. ● Lips: Kissing can be a huge turn on or turn off. I like it when we are both in sync with each other. Not too much tongue- just enough. The worst kiss I have had was where the guy stuck his tongue down my throat and didn’t move his mouth at all. I felt like I was orally impaled on him with no way out. He had no sensitivity to what I wanted out of the kiss. It is best to kiss her lightly to start with and work up to more tongue. Just don’t t hrust y our tongue down her throat, and don’t keep it rigid in one spot. Try to keep the drool to a minimum too. We don’t want to be dribbled on. M ost of all make sure your breath is sup er sweet. I am talking brush, floss, mouthwash and mints. You can’t be too minty. Stinky breath is such a turn off.
● Behind the knee ● Inner thigh ● Lower pelvis: Lightly stroke her lower pelvis, just above her bikini line. ● Neck- Kissing the neck softly can be a turn on ● Back: Massaging her back either firmly or gently (ask which she prefers) can get her in the mood. ● Buttocks ● Feet: Give her a foot massage with warm gel. Warming up a woman’s feet make her 30% more likely to have an orgasm. Of course if she is warm she is also more likely to get naked. The areas for feet and genitals are next to each other in the brain so stimulating one area can stimulate the other (1) ● Breasts: Be gentle with our nipples unless we specifically ask you to be rough with them. I have had sexual partners who grab at them or who chew/ suck so hard I am worried they may swallow them. Sucking our nipples can feel great, but don’t do it too hard. They are sensitive. ● Clitoris: This litt le baby is discussed in the next chapt er.
How to Please Her in Bed First what NOT t o do: I asked my friends what are the most irritating things t hat guys do during sex. Here is an edited version of what t hey said. The unedited may be offend some sensitive viewers: ● Overdone aftershave trying to compensate for poor hygiene. ● Unclean penises (please wash well under your foreskin) ● M en who try to cop y porno videos (those women are being paid a lot of money t o look like they are enjoying themselves). ● Digging your finger/ thumb into her clitoris while she is on top. ● Sticking fingers up there before we are aroused. ● Playing with our anus and then using the same finger to play with our vagina (this is risk of infection). ● Stopping and starting during sex (without keeping us aroused). ● Hula hoop shagging. We don’t need round and round. ● Being too rough with, or twist ing our nipp les. To p araphrase one lady “Some men twist my nipples like they are try ing to t une into kiss FM”. The clitoris (I will call it by its nickname ‘clit’) is the Holy Grail. Most women can bring themselves to orgasm just by playing with their clit (yes my clit and I have had some wonderful times together). This area is very sensitive too. M ost men don’t understand quite how sensitive it really is. The clitoris is covered by the prepuce, or the clitoral hood. You don’t have to hammer her on it to get her excited. Just a gentle touch is fine. You don’t even need to take your finger off. Just move your finger in little circles around her clitoral hood. If you do this while giving her oral or while you are inside her she will be more likely to cum. This spot is so important if you want to make your lady have a great experience. Please don’t forget it, whatever you do. Do not pressure her to have an orgasm. The more she or you chases the orgasm, the further it will run. If you keep asking her if she is going to cum or expect her t o do it s he may not get there. You can also try using flat of your hand to gently rub her pussy . This way y ou can stimulate her labia (they are so underrated as an erogenous zone). Once she is wet or you have applied lubrication you can softly massage just inside her vagina, or if her g-spot is a little further up you can go a bit further up . Do not start sticking your fingers all the way up t here right away. You only want to be doing this when she is really wet, and you don’t need to go really deep with your fingers at all. Try using two fingers inside her and wiggling them alternately. What feels good can vary from woman to woman so it is important to keep a close eye on how she is responding. Don’t keep asking her if she likes it, just notice if she has changed her response (e.g. gone from moaning to quiet, tensing up or moving away). If you get her really worked up with skilled foreplay, she will enjoy the sex a lot more. There has been a lot of discussion by various authors and specialists about how there are several different types of orgasms women can have. Who really gives a rats about learning all these different types? All we care about is that it feels good. You just need to know how to achieve this. As long as you are stimulating our clitoris, or the g-spots inside our love tunnel you are on the right track. So where is this g-spot of ours? This is usually not far from the entrance to our vagina. You may be able to feel a rough area on the front of our vaginal wall. Some women also have a g-spot a bit higher up near their cervix. This is where big penises can come in handy. Penis size will be discussed in the next chapter.
Sexual Positions (and Anal Sex) There are hundreds of different sexual positions but some of the most common ones are missionary (her on the bottom, you on top), cowgirl (her on top of you facing you as you lie down), reverse cowgirl (her on top of you facing away from
you as you lie down), doggy style (you kneeling down or standing and entering her from behind while she kneels in front of you), or spooning sex, where you are both lying down and you enter her from behind. All of these positions have their advantages and disadvantages with regard to how much they stimulate her mind and her g-spots. Try to make sure that you are stimulating her clit while you shag her unless it is messing up your technique/rhythm. If you are in cowgirl position what feels best for her is usually more of a grinding action, rather than just an in and out movement because this gives her whole vagina stimulation. As far as anal sex is concerned, some girls don’t like the idea of it or the feel of it, some girls love it and can’t orgasm without it. The important t hing here is t o go gently at first and to see how hard she likes it. You guys often think t hat harder is better because you w atch too many pornos. Being shagged hard can be great but it doesn’t apply to every situation. Remember to notice body language. Tensing up pushing you away, sounding like it is hurting means STOP what y ou are doing. Don’t forget a bit of dirty t alk like telling her how deep inside her you are. This can be a turn on (it doesn’t work for everyone).
How to Get Her to Go Along With Your Fantasies The secret to getting her to agree to anything sexual is to make her experience enjoyable. You may want to be tied to the bed and teased but what is she going to get out of it? Make sure you give her what she likes too. She may like a massage or for you to give her oral first to get her in the mood. Don’t expect her to meet your needs if you are not willing to meet hers. You could introduce her to the idea by giving her some info on it (e.g. an online article) and then explain that you would like to try it. Let her know how it will benefit her or what y ou are willing to do for her so she will try it.
How to Break Out of Boring, Routine Sex in a Relationship Couples often fall into the trap of having ‘cornflakes sex’. This is my name for sex that is so routine it becomes mechanical and boring as bat shit. No excitement or myst ery. It becomes just another thing on y our to do list. H ere are a few ideas to spice things up . Tread carefully with t his list t hough and use your own judgment on how open y our partner is to t rying new t hings. I absolve myself of any resp onsibility for slaps in the head after making these suggestions: ● Buy her some sexy lingerie ● Start talking dirty to her (talk about your hard cock being deep inside her, that you are going to blow etc.) ● Role play. Meet her at a bar and pretend to not know each other. Chat her up. She may pretend to resist your advances at first. ● Look at her intensely and when she asks what you are looking at say passionately “You! You look so freakin’ hot today!” Remember the key to making her want sex is to make her feel sexy. The formula is sexy=sex. Please learn that fellas. ● Work out and look sexy. Then go out and pretend not to notice all the women checking you out. Women love seeing other women checking out their man when their man only has eyes for them. ● Buy some sex toys (like a vibrating cock ring or a vibrator for her) ● Talk to each other about trying fantasies (e.g. bondage) People are most attracted to their partners when they are either not wit h them (when they have been separated from them for a while) or when that p artner is the object of other people’s attention or admiration. So the secret to injecting the spark into your love life is to create any one of these factors. If you are getting under each other’s skin and the romance has died why not have a weekend away with your girl/ guy friends. Or take a holiday by yourself to a retreat. Tell her you will miss the pants off her but you are doing it to get in touch with your inner self, and you need some solitude to achieve this. Or whatever cod shit y ou need to sp in. Just don’t t ell her you need to get some sp ace from her. Ot herwise she may give you more space than you had anticipated. It is so important to have a good amount of independence. By this I mean having your own life as well as being a part of hers. If your life is her life, and her life is your life you have a recipe for claustrophobia and tedious sex. You need to have a bit of mystery in order to have that sexual fire between you. Spending every waking moment with each other and cleaning up after your partner can kill passion. Everybody seems to assume that living together is an inevitable stage as the relationship progresses. I would like to challenge that. Is it not possible to have a wonderful relationship while still having separate homes? I think that sometimes cohabitating can dampen the fire. If y ou want t o become the object of ot her people’s att ention or admiration this doesn’t mean you should walk into a p ub with y our shirt of
and start t o do a ‘coyot e ugly’ on t he bar. This will not impress her. She will think you are a tool if you actively try to flirt with other women to get their attent ion. You are better off doing it by holding a talk or teaching a class about something you are good at. Or performing on stage in a band, or anything like that which makes you the focus of attention without you behaving like a dickhead to achieve it. Human beings are naturally competitive creatures. This is how we managed to survive as a species. Our less competitive ancestors died of starvation. The idea is to fire up her competitive spirit without actually flirting or cheating on her. You do it by acting in a way that commands respect or admiration. Do not over do your devotion to y our partner. It is good to t reat her really well and tell her how much you love her, but don’t make her your whole life. She will no doubt feel suffocated and lose interest p retty quickly.
Great Oral If you want to be great at oral please remember her clitoris. Stimulate all around her clitoral hood with your tongue, paying particular attention to the 10 o'clock and 2 o'clock spots (1). You can then gently touch under the hood with your tongue (1). Please understand how sensitive underneath this hood is. Don’t over stimulate it. If you repeat this action for a while you will have her begging for it! Once she is really wet use your fingers inside her vagina to stimulate her gspot, or just go in and out with one or two fingers (three can be overkill). As long as you read her body language and check that you are not using too many fingers, or hurting her with your fingernails this should feel really good. Every woman is different. Some love oral, and some don’t. Some ladies are selfconscious while receiving oral because they worry that it smells or tastes bad. We may find our vaginas unattractive. It is important to reassure us that we smell/ taste and look great. Unless we don’t- then best give oral a miss! It is a good idea to pay close attention to her body language. If you ask her if she is enjoying it she will probably lie to you. Every guy I know thinks he is the best oral artist in the world. Women don’t always tell you the truth- we sometimes tell you what you want to hear.
Penis Size, Penis Technique, Premature Ejaculation As far as penises are concerned, what men think women want, and what women actually do want are not necessarily the same. Big dicks can be good because they can hit all our g-spots more easily. Some women find them too p ainful to enjoy. I have known some men with big dicks who have been rejected because of their size. The most important factor in p leasing a woman with y our schlong, is not actually t he size but t he strength of the erection. A lady can have much better sex with a man with a small to medium very erect penis than with a man with a large, semi erect penis. M en with smaller penises tend t o be a bit bett er at foreplay t han men with large dicks. If y ou are on the smaller side then foreplay is essential. You can still give her a great time with your dick too as most women have a g-spot just inside their vagina. If you play with her clitoris with your finger tip at the same time you will maximise her pleasure. If you learn how to move your dick with your pelvic floor or abdominal muscles you can give her extra stimulation. If you are small you can still be a fantastic lover. You just have to really get your technique right and focus on all her erogenous zones. This can make sex with you much better than with the big dicked man who just shoves it in there, thinking because he is big that he will blow your mind. If you find that your love making is over before it has started then there are some things you can do to make things last longer. Some men find that if when they get close they withdraw for a bit they can make it last longer. You have to make sure you keep your woman aroused while you are having your little break. You may want to keep playing with her clitoris or even use a vibrator. If y ou tend to cum quickly, make sure that before you even start you get her really warmed up wit h foreplay first (see chapters 2, 3 & 7). If you get her to t he point w here she is about t o or has already had an orgasm, or is at least really wet before you p enetrate her t hen she will not be so disap pointed if y ou cum quickly. There may be underlying medical issues that are affecting your sexual performance so it is a good idea to talk to your GP about it. She/ he may be able to recommend something to help. There is no need to be embarrassed to chat to them. It is more common than you think.
How to Get Your Partner to Want Sex More Frequently Great sex is one of the biggest natural highs. Yet sometimes in long term relationships sex can become as tedious as washing the dishes and mopp ing floors. Want to know why ? We are all motivated strongly by pleasure and pain. We are driven to seek pleasure and to avoid pain. If you have sex with your lady in a way where it is all about you and she is not getting any major pleasure out it she will eventually see it as a chore and try to avoid it. She is probably a busy lady and concerned about the consequences (the pain) of choosing to spend her time pleasuring you when she could
be achieving something that would benefit or lighten her load (instead of yours). For example she may have a big project at work, or other work that needs doing, or she may just want to spend her free time by herself. So she is faced with a decision of minimal pleasure vs. the pain of not doing what she needs to get done. You lose buddy.
I know you are thinking “No way but I am great in bed! She moans and carries on like anything!” I have news for you. She is probably faking. I am not saying you are bad in the sack but you do need to make a few important changes. Firstly you have to up her pleasure significantly and decrease her p ain. Has she got a lot of work t o do? May be you could help her wit h her project or do the housework while she works so she has more time for sex. As for the pleasure. Forget about the sex for a minute. Think of that as dessert. Give her a fantastic massage for a while. Not just a few minutes before you go straight for her vagina. Spend about 15 minutes or longer massaging her (after all you have done a massage course so you are good at it by now). After t he 15 minutes y ou can start t o touch her erogenous zones and slowly work up to her clitoris. If y our partner is really avoiding sex it is important to t ry to connect with her emotionally. Not just about s ex but about ot her things as well. Ask her how she is feeling and how you can help her. Most importantly tell her she is beautiful. A lot of women go off sex because they do not feel sexy. They can be selfconscious about their bodies. We have to feel sexy to feel horny. So let us know how attractive you find us. Do not say it mechanically, say it with p assion like you really mean it. You should not p oint out our flaws unless y ou enjoy celibacy. If she feels emotionally connected to you she will be more likely to want t o be phy sically intimate with y ou too. If she is a tough nut to crack offer to give her a non-sexual massage. Promise her that you will not require sex from her and that you just want to do it to make her feel good. Stick to that promise. Do not touch her in a sexual way. This way you will get a second shot at it. This time you can go for her erogenous zones but do not touch her vagina. Let her respond to you and encourage you before you go there. There may be deeper, underlying issues that your p artner is not discussing with y ou about sex. She may not be able to t ell you that what you are doing is not working or she may have bigger issues. Let her know that she can share with you and you won’t be offended. Stick to this promise. Don’t make her regret her critique. Women are actually very sexual and sensual beings. We are just turned on in different ways to you sometimes. Our number one erogenous zone is our mind. If you make her sexual encounter with you be so full of good feelings (through massage, compliments and other benefits) she will start to enjoy it a lot more. You could tell her that you would like to, for the next few weeks enjoy some regular, sensual time with her, but you promise that there will not be any penetration. This gives you both the chance to spend some time pleasuring each other without her feeling pressured. You both get most of y our needs met this way. She will learn to relax and enjoy t he pleasant feelings associated with foreplay . It is important to follow through with your agreement. Do not try to go all the way no matter how tempting. This is all about learning (or relearning) how to enjoy each other’s bodies. If y our partner refuses to have sex, or at least talk to y ou about it, t ry alternatives to sex or get counselling then it may be time to look at other options such as open relationships. This can only work with great communication, some ground rules and emotional maturity.
Ultimately the secret to attracting a woman is to look after her needs, while also asserting yourself and caring for your own needs as well. I have given you a lot of tips on how to, and how not to act to make yourself more appealing. If any of these ideas seem completely unnatural to you, or are incongruent with your personality it is best to avoid them. You don’t want to play ‘bait and switch’ where you pretend to be someone you are not s o she falls for y ou. This will only lead to heartbreak for both of you. It is not fair on her to completely mislead her. I ust want t o give you t he best shot at wowing this lady with your awesomeness. Aft er all, y ou deserve great sex and relationships. Hap py love making fellas! References
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