Simon Heong - How to Steal Anyone's Girlfriend

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“How To Steal Anyone’s Girlfriend, Sneak Into Her Heart And Make Her YOURS…” By Simon Heong

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Introduction How many times have you been in a situation where you met and awesome girl, feeling on top of the world believing “she’s the one”… ONLY to find out that she is attached to someone else. I HAVE A BOYFRIEND! …Words that tears right through your heart. It sucks, but I’m sure it has happened to all of us at one point or another in our lives. So what’s a guy to do then? Pray for divine intervention? Hoping she’ll come to her senses, ditch her boyfriend and come running to you? Yeah, like that will ever happen. Lol. That’s why I’ve decided to write this. To give you a practical, solid, step-by-step action plan that you can follow to increase the chances of her choosing you over her boyfriend. Ok, so what should you do when she’s told you she has a boyfriend? Cry? Move on? Not necessarily. See, bear in mind, the “I have a boyfriend” line is used by some women to reject guys they’re not interested in. As you know, women don’t want to be labeled as bitches, they are always looking for ways to AVOID CONFRONTATION and not act too nasty, so it’s pretty common for them to use the “I have a boyfriend” line even when their still very much single. I know many women who do this. Other reasons could also be that:


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She still wants to play the field and wants to keep her options open. It’s not that she’s not interested in you BUT she’s not that into you yet to want to date you exclusively. If this is the case, you still have a chance

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She wants to see how much effort you are willing to put in to get her out on a date with you.

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You have yet to prove yourself worthy of dating her. “The line” is used to keep you on your toes.

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There are other guys who are interested in her at that time. She has a lot of guy friends who she’s considering and since she can’t make up her mind, she’s using it to eliminate the ones who are not willing to compete with others for her attention.

Let me ask you something… Are you the type who automatically ASSUMES that a girl and a guy is dating whenever you see them together all the time? Let’s say you have a huge crush on the girl who works downstairs. For some funny reason, you kept bumping in her as she’s having lunch with a guy from the engineering department and you assumed that they were dating and instantly thought it was all over. Now if you’re that kinda’ guy, you could be doing yourself a great injustice by assuming that she has a boyfriend when in actual fact, she’s not. Keep on doing the same thing, and others may very well cut the chase and get her. So, get yourself together, man up and get to know her. Here are ways to find out whether she is calling bluff: •

The next time you see her in the cafeteria, GO TALK TO HER. Slip this in subtly while you’re talking to her. The way you phrase your words count a lot – “So, what does your boyfriend do?” is better than asking her “Do you have a boyfriend?” (Big turn off)


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Why? Because when you ask her what her boyfriend does for a living, it gives her no indication that you are interested in her. It’s acceptable and you’re just trying to strike up an average, everyday “small talk” •

You could casually invite her for a social outing/event, to a cook out, hike or picnic that you and a couple of colleagues are organizing. Ask her to bring her boyfriend along. If she’s single, she would probably say, “Oh, I’m still single.” or “Can I bring a friend along?” If she says friend and not boyfriend, then take it as it is, that the friend she’s bringing along is just that, a friend and nothing more. Do not assume otherwise.

When you like a girl, never over-think things. If you want to know whether she’s single, get it from a trusted source, her friends, your friends, whoever. Best will be to find out yourself. Why? 1 - She probably has a boyfriend but she wants to have a little fun and flirt around with you. But when you’re too direct, she’ll drop you immediately and go for the next guy who gets her attention. 2 - She may find you attractive and intriguing and would like to get to know you better. If this is the case, she will not want to disclose anything in order not to scare you away. The point is, STOP caring whether she’s attached or not. If your game is on, and she finds you much better than her current one, she can just dump him and hook up with you.


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If she has a boyfriend and you still want to win her over, you can either: a) Forget her b) Win her over If (b) is your answer, ask yourself these questions before proceeding: • •

Is she the girl that you’ve been waiting for? Are you willing to put in 101% effort to win her heart?

If your answers are a resounding yes and you don’t know where and how to start… continue reading… In the subsequent pages, I’m going to show you how to do exactly that. What you’re about to learn works on fiancés and husbands too. Depending on your principles, you may want to abstain from going after another man’s wife or fiancée. I personally feel it’s not a right thing to do, but it’s your call. I will not touch on the moral aspect of stealing another man’s woman. Its sole purpose is to show you how to go about doing it; how to create opportunities for yourself and create mayhem in another man’s relationship in the process.


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Girlfriend Stealer The definition of a girlfriend stealer is someone who attempts sexual interaction with a girl with the intention of ‘taking’ her away from her current boyfriend. The most important thing that has to take place before you can even start to think of stealing another man’s woman is… Is she happy with him? Before you set out in your quest to steal her over, you need to know what’s the state of her relationship. If she is, forget about it and MOVE ON because a happy and contented woman is virtually impossible to steal! Think about it, if you are happy and contented with your current partner; chances are you won’t be BOTHERED to even look at others. Why? Because building relationships takes both time and effort. A whole lot of it.


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To women, relationships are everything. When they have found ‘the one’, they will give themselves ENTIRELY to him. Women go through great pains to find their soul mates, to establish the trust and bond and it’s highly unlikely for them to go through the same agonizing ordeal again when they’re fulfilled, contented and totally happy with their current partner. On the other hand, if she feels that there’s something that’s lacking in her relationship, that the communication has broken down, that the sex has fizzled, or for whatever reasons that might cause discontentment in her relationship, that’s the BEST and ONLY time for you to breach in. So that when you do come into the picture, you are not actually stealing her from her partner, SHE’S the one who ‘jumped’ ship because the one she is currently on is already sinking. You are merely offering her an alternative and you represent a better and healthier alternative. [Side Note]: It is good to ask yourself is the kind of relationship you want to have with her before committing fully into this. Is this going to be just a fling? A short-term lust? Or is it for good? It’s important to know the REASONS clearly as it would be meaningless to invest time and effort to steal her if you are only looking for a fling.


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Types Of Women Basically women who are in a relationship can be categorized into 3 main categories: 1 – The Leech 2 – The Bored Girlfriend 3- The In-between 1 – The Leech These type of women typically jumps from one relationship to another. They are almost never without a partner. But beware, the minute they get bored, they’ll run! Or when a better ‘deal’ comes along, they jump ship. But until that day comes, they will stick to you. Sleep with them for one night and they consider themselves married to you and you can be sure they are moving in the very next morning! 2 – The Bored Girlfriend These are the types that are looking for flings. They can’t or won’t leave their current relationship but is so bored that they constantly look for other ‘entertainments’ in the form of affairs and flings. These women constantly cheat on their partners. Thrill seekers are what they are and they’ll seek out the attention of other guys to compensate for the lack of attention or excitement from their current ones. 3 - The In-between This is the small group that isn’t actively looking to get out of their relationship. They are not happy. They lack fun in their lives. However, they are not in the market looking for a replacement partner. Normally the gems can be found in the “In-betweens”. On the average, they make great partners if you can harness their hidden side. It is important to identify the group your potential target falls into, in order to avoid wasting your time and effort. For instance, if you are attracted to the “bored girlfriend”, you’ll be wasting a tremendous amount of time and energy as to her, as you are just her toy boy. To her, you are merely someone who keeps her occupied when she is bored and has nothing to do, but when her


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things are back to normal in her life, she’ll ditch you and get back to her life as before.

Lead Her To Make The First Move You need to create a false sense of security by approaching indirectly – and that’s to be a confidant to her. By spending time with her, you can make her comfortable with you as it allows her to lower her resistance. But in order to do this you must give her some space. This can be done through a few ways. Let her notice you in different places but don’t approach her. Say you know she goes to the laundry after work on Wednesdays, be somewhere near the laundry shop but not near enough for her to approach you. Just a glimpse of you. Maintain an appropriate distance with her and if she wants, she can always come over to speak to you. This will make it seem she is the one who wants to bridge the gap more than you and that you are clearly respectful of her and are trying to maintain an “appropriate” distance in your friendship. Here you can also apply the persona trick here. Seem interested and then shift your interest and make yourself seem uninterested in her when you “accidentally” meet her. Whatever you do, maintain your distance and avoid the natural tendency to invade her space. On the contrary, you should give her all the space that she needs. Take a step back and let your actions provoke her into doing something rather than you making the first move. Disguising your intention on her is extremely important It will be easier to draw a person close to you when you appear uninterested and not trying too hard. Learn to disguise your feeling by appearing friendly (nothing more) to let your female friend figure out what is happening for herself.


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Learning to approach indirectly is a good tactic to follow because when you approach anyone directly it will only serve to raise a resistance you will have a difficult time lowering. But if you learn to approach a person from the side in an unthreatening way, you will have more room for success. Over aggressiveness on your part may scare her away, so try to be as unthreatening and friendly as possible so she will be comfortable around you and will want to constantly seek out the comfort of your company.

Realities Of Relationships Understand that relationships have a tendency to go stale after a period of time. Ever noticed how a guy will do everything to make a woman happy when he’s courting her, but AFTER he gets her, he’ll get LAZY and take everything else for granted. So, one way for you to convince her to switch to your camp is for you take advantage of this and get her to feel excited, light hearted, desirable again. Get her to FEEL those FEELINGS again when she’s with you. Tease her, make her laugh, make her feel ‘wanted’ again (key word). The same universal rules apply when you are trying to get a woman’s attention regardless of whether she is single, married or attached. You become the man she grew up has fantasizing about. You BECOME her fantasy. You live out her fantasies. You become the mysterious, exciting, seducer that ignites the little child in her again.


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The Reality And The Myth Ever since the time of Adam and Eve, women are conditioned to choose mates who can provide for them, keep them safe from harm and mate with men who are big and strong so that they will have healthy, strong babies too. This notion has been passed down for generations and still holds true today. But during their teenage years and probably all through their adult years, women are conditioned with romance novels, movies, and basically everything around them that glorify their heroes to be passionate, sexy, reckless, exciting and adventurous. This naturally becomes the man they fantasize about; the knight in shining amour that will sweep her off her feet and ride into the sunset. It’s a paradox, yes. Total contradiction. On one hand, women are taught to choose partners who are a good providers, men who gives them everything that SHOULD make them happy, to be with nice guys, guys who gives them everything they ask for, on the other, their ingrained fantasies are for men who are passionate, sexy, reckless, exciting and adventurous. But the reality is, the average guy on the street is pretty darn boring (especially after they’ve gotten the girl) And when a relationship becomes PREDICTABLE, it becomes BORING.

Look around you, this is EXACTLY what most adult, working class relationships are going through right now. So it’s really no surprise Copyright © http://FriendToGirlFriend.Com

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that divorce rates are significantly increasing by staggering numbers everywhere in the world, and the probabilities of people cheating on one another are at its highest point right now than ever before! You can see it happening all around us. This boyfriend/husband slogs at work, day in, day out to bring in the dough, working his ass off to climb the corporate ladder. With the pressures that comes with it, he becomes too burnt out at the end of the day to even BOTHER to add variety and to spice things up in his relationship, except for the time right before he wants sex. Now, this is the same guy that women have been programmed to want – stable, secure, dependable and a good provider. Unfortunately what normally comes with it as a life filled with ROUTINE, and women will eventually get BORED with routine. They hate it! That’s partly the reason why some women have boy toys. They are attached to boring, dull men who provides ‘generously’. Because of the ‘generosity’ these women are unlikely to walk out on them, so they CHEAT on them! They will somehow find ways to wonder off (unconsciously by making it look ACCIDENTAL) to look for a way out, something, or someone who can bring back that EXCITEMENT into their lives, the one who knows how to fill their heart, mind and soul again. And that’s the time you come into their life and strike when their at the most vulnerable.


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It’s NOT About Competing With Her Boyfriend Guys are always looking for answers and ways to outperform the woman’s boyfriend, to show that they look better, make more money, or whatever form to impress her. But the sad truth to it is, it’s not about competing with him, it’s more about demonstrating and showing that you’re a BETTER MAN. Show her that you are the better man and all that you represent is that of a rich, exciting and rewarding relationship. A woman who’s not happy with her relationship will become vulnerable, weak and you have to be the first one in to ‘save’ and console her. You need to talk to her to understand the health of her relationship. But in order for you to get her to talk, she has to trust you first. So, you must be willing to invest the time and effort to really be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on. Use this opportunity to understand her inside out.


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On Becoming The Better Man Being the “better man” has ALL to do with the right attitudes. It’s in the way you walk, talk and carry yourself. You know what they are as I’ve covered it in the main program: ¾ ¾ ¾ ¾

Mysterious Fun Unpredictable Adventurous

Lead a fulfilling and exciting life. Share your exploits with her, the things you’ve done in life, the places you went. Show her how much excitement and adventure she can have if she’s a part of your life. If you love fishing in your spare time, show her pictures of you in the wild holding up your prized catch or pictures of you scaling a mountain! This shows that you have a LIFE OUTSIDE of your 9-5 job and a damn exciting one at that too. It shows you have a zest for life, and this goes a long way in revealing your PERSONALITY.


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It works even better if your chosen activities are a stark contrast to your day job. Imagine this, say you are an engineer by profession, day in day out, you deal with machines. That doesn’t speak much for your social skills. But if she knows that after work, you trade in your suit for a pair of dancing shoes and you are a great ballroom dancer, all of a sudden, her interest in you peaks! The boring, machine you is now FUN, EXCITING and SEXY. So it’s crucial for you to start INTERNALLY, start developing yourself as a PERSON before trying to steal a girl from another.


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Shower Her With Attention Whenever you have the chance, talk to her, spend time with her. Talking is a great way of building rapport and bonding. It creates familiarity and at the same time, you get to learn more about her as a person. Listen when she talks to you. Get to know her likes and dislikes, her hobbies, things that interest her and are close to her heart. For example, if you know that she is big on doing social work, get involved in the one she is actively involved in too. This will endear you to her. As you’re talking to her, induce positive feelings, happy feelings. That way she will associate happy feeling with you. Never bring up her current relationship especially when you already know it is heading for the rocks. You don’t want her to associate any negative emotions with you. When she goes into the negative mode, she may start pouring her problems to you. Let’s get it straight, you want to be her boyfriend not her shrink. So, don’t walk down that road if you don’t want to. It’s best when you can keep her talking about herself. You’ll get to know her better when she starts talking and starts revealing secrets and insights about herself. File it away in your head for future use. By the end of it all, she would feel a deep connection to you.


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Give Her What She Wants When a woman is vulnerable, she wants a man who makes her feel like a million bucks! If you can make her feel like a princess when you are together, you’re right on mark. Women are not complex creatures that men make them out to be. Women are primarily governed by feelings. They are VERY in touch with their emotional side. Men on the other hand are logic oriented. And if you can make a woman feels like she’s the center of your world, she’s your everything, you can easily win her over.


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Know Your Opponent Take the time and effort to ‘study’ your opponent (her boyfriend). If you have mutual friends, talk to them to find out his strength and weakness. You can also find out from her. If she complaints that he is a lazy slob, you know what to do. If he’s is a TV/PC addict, you know what to do. You SHOW that you’re the OPPOSITE. Analyze his trait and habits. Focus on his destructive, negative, bad habits and look for ways to capitalize on it.


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Example: He is a control freak. He wants to know where she is all the time, calls up ten times a day to check on her, the people she is out with and shows his displeasure in front of her friends he doesn’t like. She feels that the relationship is always about him, he puts himself first in their relationship, and only wants what will make HIM happy and not the other way around. She feels he has changed, that it’s not like what it was before. You can capitalize on this by: a) Identifying the people in her circle of friends that he does not like. • Once you’ve identified them, you get to know them. If they are her close friends, you can bet that you can win her over if her friends like you. Do not underestimate the influence of a woman’s friends in her life especially her close friends. They can be your ally if they are under the impression that you would make a better partner for her than her current guy. Unlike men, women talk to their friends about affairs of the heart. Women also tend to look out for each other. Therefore if her friends have a consuming dislike for her current partner but gets along pretty well with you, then you know you have allies on YOUR side. Chances are they will have nothing but good words for you and they can be a POWERFUL force that influences her that you’re a “better deal”. b) Tell her that her friends are cool and how lucky she is to have such cool friends • When she sees you getting along with her friends, she WILL start to compare and look at you in a different way. She might even begin to resent him for trying to control her life, for not prioritizing her like before and start having doubts. Encourage her to spend time with her friends and make it a point to show up when you are invited to join the gang. Invite her friends over too when you’re out with yours.


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Once you’ve gained her trust, you can start to alienate her partner in her mind. This is a devious strategy but works most of the time. As you can see, your chances of success are amplified if her relationship is already rocky. All you have to do is to find the crack in her relationship and bang on it! (in a subtle, sneaky way of course). You can take it further by talking in general about relationships; how after a period of time, partners tend to take each other for granted. How they neglect the other and are often not sensitive to the little things that may be important to them. And how when these little things that are ignored, it’ll definitely rock the relationship. Share stories of the people you know who are in similar situations, how they became much happier when they decided to break off. Get HER opinion as you’re sharing this, get HER to ‘let it all out’ as you’re talking about it. She might not say much initially but over time, she will eventually let up, crack and break down. She’ll tell you how much her boyfriend bugs her, the ‘not so nice’ things he’s done to her and as she’s letting it all out, you DRILL IN FURTHER, ask for SPECIFICS, how did he do it, why did he do it, AMPLIFY her irritation. In the beginning, you should sympathize with her. Be the good guy. Try to reason out why he did those things to her, justifying his actions in a positive light but NEVER agree with it. You need to do this at the very beginning to avoid putting her on the defensive for her boyfriend. But once you know she’s comfortable with you, that’s when you launch your ‘attack’. Tell her how you think that things should be, tell her that she deserves much more that this. Let her know that you are on her side and give her alternatives. These alternatives have to favor her. At the same time, subtly insinuate that her boyfriend/fiancé does not deserve her.


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“Hmm… on second thought, maybe he’s not the right one for you after all…” Now, as you’re alienating him from her life, never even think of bringing yourself into the picture. That’s for HER to realize. Talk about what you think a wonderful, happy relationship should be like, how couples should behave to sustain a healthy and loving relationship. This is the time you walk the talk, acting exactly as what she would love to have in her guy. Back to the example above, as the both of you are out together, and he keeps calling, you can go… “Geez, now I know what you mean. Looks like he doesn’t trust you, even after all this time. Relationships like this will only bring trouble, sooner or later, it will eventually blow up, you know that, right?” Get her to doubt. Get her to re-think. You get the drift… So as you can see, this is how 6-step process to girlfriend stealing stacks up:


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Is She Interested? If you’ve been doing all the right things, there will come a time where you’ll have to move on to the next level with her, and that YOU will have to make the first move. How do you know whether she’s interested in you too? I’ve covered it within the main program. But what I’d like to point out is for you to NOT sit around and wait for her to make the first move. You must understand that she is in a relationship and she is NOT likely to take that first step, to make that first move (however much she likes you). Why? Because when she makes the first move: a) It means she is CHEATING on her boyfriend b) She’s afraid of looking like a SLUT in your eyes But the tables are turned if YOU make the first move. Now, her reasoning would be: a) She was seduced by you b) You approached her, therefore she is not a slut Although the end result is the same and the fact is that she already HAS an interest in you irregardless of who makes the first move, the process that you go through to reach the final destination is just as important. The key is for you to lead her into believing that you are the one who seduced her into starting an affair. You are the initiator and she’s just the ‘victim’ of your seduction. Therefore to her mind, you made her cheat! She was lead to cheat and it’s not the same as her approaching you with the intention of cheating.


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To sum it all, be the guy that she wants to date, be the guy who sweeps her off her feet, be the guy who shows her what it is like to fall in love again. Good luck, I’m sure you’ll do great!

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Simon Heong - How to Steal Anyone's Girlfriend

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