So hopefully all of you read the section on never running out of things to stay, that stuff is killer for filling those awkward silences. Make sure that doesn’t happen, because they are game killers. The two things we know definitively do not work when it comes to meeting women are: not talking—starting conversation and then shutting up, and leaving the interaction. So anything other than not talking or leaving the interaction is probably okay. Alright, so you’ve started a c onversation, you’ve used questions correctly, you've transitioned, you’ve grounded yourself, you're enthusiastic and you have a proper conversational ratio. The girl has now hooked onto the conversation; she would rather talk to you than have you leave.
TEASING Once you've established social comfort, it's time to break that comfort, usually by teasing. Remember that as soon as you can tell the conversation is hooked, it's time to tease. And the reason behind this is two-fold. One, we want to get her attention— when you’ve built social comfort with a girl, when she's interested in talking to you, she thinks you are at least non-threatening, friendly, etc.— although she may not necessarily be attracted. She may just be interested in talking to you. She may just find this conversation interesting. So what we want to do then is, if we want to break that social comfort, we want to now give her something that makes her a little uncomfortable. Mess with her a little bit, tease her, break the rapport, disqualify—or whatever you want to call it, there are a million different names for it, but we want to basically show her, “Hey, we are not totally into you yet ,” and what that’s going to do is it's going to get her attention. She's not going to start paying attention when I start to use attraction tactics, and that’s what we want. We want to heighten her attention and her interest right at the exact same time that we are going to start demonstrating our attractive qualities using attraction material. One thing to keep in mind with teasing is that teasing is emotional, not logical. One of the most common questions I get from guys is, “Why would I tease?” Or, “What if the girl doesn’t do anything that I can tease her for?” You don’t need a reason to tease. Teasing is an emotional communication; it's not a logical one. No girl is going to sit there and say, “Wait, but you approached me and now you're telling me we are not going to get along—like: why are you doing that?” Or think why am I such a brat, or this, that or the other. Instead, they're just going to laugh and giggle if it's done right, and think you're an asshole if it's done wrong. So don’t look for logical transitions, you 16
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