1st speaker harimau Thank you, you, panel speake speakerr. Greetings, I bid to the honourable adjudicators, cautious time keeper, our worthy opponents, my fellow comrades, ladies and gentlemen, members of the oor. We as the opposition side strongly disagree with the motion for today which is We !ery much disagree with the de"nition gi!en by the go!ernment team. #llow me to rede"ne the motion gi!en by the go!ernment team. Tiger mother or tiger mom is a strict or demanding parent not necessarily a mother who pushes their children to high le!els of achie!ement, using methods regarded as typical of childrearing in childrearing in $ast #sia, %outh #sia and %outheast #sia. The term is coined by &ale law professor #my 'hua in 'hua in her memoir Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother , which ga!e some #sian #mericans and #sian parents the (license) to be as strict in order to ensure the success of their children in today*s competiti!e global economy.
There*s There*s a word in +apanese +apanese that technically has no direct translation for eactly this - kyouiku mama which means a mother who will sacri"ce e!erything and waste e!erything in her way in order to ha!e e!erything around her be absolutely perfect, e!en her child*s health. /asically tiger mothers are
the embodiment of the 0uestion why didnt you get #2 on all subjects3 #my 'hua, the author of the memoir The 4ymn of a Tiger 5other uses the term Tiger 5other to mean a parent who is a strict disciplinarian. $ssentially, you can say that a tiger mother is the ward of the prison known as 6home. %he is demanding, pushing and epect the children to be perfect. %he se!erely limits the acti!ities the children are allowed to participate in order to produce children who can ecel in !arious subjects that she desires- not what the children desire. %he forbids the children to ha!e playdates with their friendsshe threatens the children with punishments if the children rebel against her- she pushes the child to ecel in e!erything that she deem desirable. In short, a tiger mother is a parent that controls e!ery aspects of a childs life. Ill gi!e you a situation of tiger parenting techni0ue in play. # child says to her tiger parent, (5ommy, can I join the arts club3) she beamed and tugged at her mothers skirt, looking up at her with hopeful epression. (They colour e!ery day7) The tiger mother mother being being strict and not "nding any !aluable ad!antage in joining the arts club would le!el the child with a "rm look and simply say, (8o.) Then, she would push the child to ecel in other acti!ities that the child does not necessarily enjoy. enjoy.
I, as the "rst speaker, will rebut the "rst point laid out by the go!ernment "rst speaker and talk about how tiger parenting is an abusi!e form of childrearing. 9ur second speaker, will elaborate on the fact that #nd our last speaker, will rebut all the points laid out by the opponents. /efore I go further with my points, allow me to rebut the point laid out by the go!ernment "rst speaker. The "rst speaker failed to con!ince us that tiger parenting techni0ue is the best form of child:rearing. They deny any ad!erse e;ect the techni0ue might ha!e on the human psyche and only focused on the positi!e outcomes like academic success ne!er mind the fact that not e!ery child raised this way has been successful. If I recall, a study by e through life with minimal di?culty. @oesnt this study show that supporti!e parenting is the most humane and best way to bring up the children in3 In that case, shouldnt we be supporting supporti!e parenting techni0ue, I8%T$#@ 9A tiger parenting techni0ue3 /efore we forget, #my 'hua, the &ale professor that coined the term has admitted that she disagreed
with the techni0ue. Bemember, she stopped using the techni0ue after her youngest daughter, Culu, rebelled against her tyrannical ways. If the pioneer of tiger parenting techni0ue does not support the cause, why should we3 Cet that sink in for a moment. We wholeheartedly disagree with the motion Cet me come to my "rst argument. Tiger parenting is an abusi!e form of childrearing and would ha!e se!ere psychological as well as emotional damage upon the children in the long run. #buse does not necessarily mean physical abuse. #buse is subjecti!e. It can also mean psychological abuse- which is to say the abuse of the mind. In this contet, tiger parenting is abusi!e in the sense that it se!erely limits the choice the child has on their own life. The parents also inict mental punishment upon the child- threatening to destroy their belo!ed toys whene!er the child so much as rebel in the slightest. The child is also controlled in the sense that they 5D%T follow their parents orders or they will face se!ere conse0uences. In one occasion, #my 'hua, the pioneer of tiger: parenting locked her child in EF degrees weather for disobeying one of her rules. In addition, the child is abused in the sense that
they do not de!elop the fundamental social skills that is important for interactions with other people. This happened because their interactions with their peers are restricted. #my 'hua, who coined the term in her contro!ersial book, was the prime eample of a 6tiger parent. 'hua didnt let her own girls go out on play dates or sleepo!ers. %he didnt let them watch T or play !ideo games or take part in fun acti!ities like crafts. 9nce, one of her daughters came in second to a =orean kid in a math competition, so 'hua made the poor girl do E,FFF math problems a night until she regained her supremacy. 9nce, her daughters ga!e her birthday cards of insu?cient 0uality. 'hua rejected them and demanded new cards. 9nce, she threatened to burn all of one of her daughters stu;ed animals unless she played a piece of music perfectly. &ou might argue- she wasnt being serious on the last part. %he was merely trying to pacify her children to be more obedient.
4owe!er, there are other ways to pacify them rather than making threats. Why threaten to destroy belo!ed toys or gi!e them away3 This type of emotional blackmail is generally considered abusi!e whether or not the act is carried out: just as social isolation from peers is. Aurthermore, do you want your children to be afraid rather than respect you3 The children become obedient because they are frightened- 89T because they respect you. There is a "ne line between being an asserti!e parent and an aggressi!e parent. Tiger parenting techni0ue not only crosses the line, it obliterates the line making it almost unrecogni>able. There is also the 0uestion of how you want your children to remember their childhoods. I certainly wouldn*t want my children to remember hair:tearing, glass: smashing, and doll burning no matter what the positi!e outcome may be. 5any abused children achie!e success and happiness in life despite their upbringing. &et one wouldn*t rush to credit the parenting style. 'hildren are resilient. It*s wonderful that these girls are doing well Hpause for dramaticH for now and sur!i!ed their mother*s cra>iness. #my 'hua*s method is not the only way to instill a work ethic. +ust ask the peers of her daughter in 4ar!ard.
What*s more, tiger parenting techni0ue is damaging the relationship between parent and o;spring. They will become distant. @o you desire for the relationship of you and your child to be strained because you chose the wrong way to raise the children3 %ur!eys conducted on parents that practice the tiger or similar parenting techni0ues ha!e shown that most of them regret e!er ha!ing raised the children the way that they ha!e. This is because their children after reaching adulthood started to resent the parents- some of the children e!en refusing to return home to the parents after "nding their higher calling in uni!ersities. @o you know what happens to these parents3 #fter they grow too old to take care of themsel!es, they will be dropped into a nursery home. Why3 This is because the children hardly felt lo!e for them anymore. 4ow does this happen3 Well, the abusi!e nature of tiger parenting, of course7 Tiger parenting techni0ue started from when the children are barely able to form sentences. $!en kindergarten children ha!e natural talents and interests which they should : as a human right:be allowed to eplore and de!elop.
@oes the world need another I!y lawyer mimicking their parents- or do we need the special skill the child may already possessed that will ne!er be allowed to be epresses because it wasn*t in 5ommy*s game plan3 #n indi!idual child should be allowed to be an indi!idual, not clay forced into a pre:fab mold. I can understand a parent insisting a child trying their hardest at whate!er endea!or T4$ '4IC@ chooses, not feeling like trash o!er a bad grade or poor performance during school etracurricularagreeing with priorities of school o!er play but all things in /#C#8'$. @enying the child the right to choose any of their own interests, instruments, acti!ities, academic institutions or "eld of study goes far beyond teaching self:discipline and hard work and into controlling and abusi!e beha!ior. The western parents think that kids should ha!e fun in learning, where the 'hinese tiger mother 6demand for their kids to get straight #. The most important is, Western parents will care about their kids self: esteem, and assume they are more fragile so tend to reassure them. 4owe!er, the 'hinese mothers do not worry about kids psyche- just epect them to be perfect. It is belie!ed that, children will be
always depressed as they cant meet their mothers epectation. In one etreme eample, 'hua mentioned that she had called one of her children (garbage), a translation of a term her own father called her on occasion in her familys nati!e 4okkien dialect. This is one of the main reasons children with tiger parenting techni0ue struggle with depression, aniety, and low self:esteem for most of their adult life. I belie!e it*s possible to instill the !alues of discipline and hard work in a child without waging emotional warfare on them.
This is the reason why we do not support the tiger parenting
techni0ue. It is unethical, inhumane and is the old:fashioned way of doing thing. This is EF1not the JFs or KFs. #n optimist sees the glass half:full, a pessimist sees the glass half:empty, and a realist sees the glass and tries to re"ll it. We are not being pessimistic, we are being realistic. We see the errors in your way, we try to " it by pointing out the fatal error from tiger parenting techni0ue. That is all from me. Thank you.
