#107 A PHENOMENOLOGY OF LOVE by TASYO February 22, 2005
A PHENOMENOLOGY OF LOVE by Manuel B. Dy, Jr. What ! "$e% The &ue!t' ha! bee' a!(e) !'*e the t+e P"at, 't '"y by -re!!'a" -h"!-her! but by -e-"e r+ a"" .a"(! "e/ Mu*h ha! a"rea)y bee' .rtte' ' th! !ube*t, a'!.er! t the &ue!t' ha$e bee' $e' a') +a'y +re &ue!t'! -!e) a') yet the rea"ty "$e h a! 't bee' e3hau!te)/ The $ery a*t that th! &ue!t' .hat "$e !, ! !t"" be' a!(e) !ee+! t !h. that "$e ! -art a') -ar*e" +a'4! "e, a') a -h"!-hy +a' ! '*+-"ete .thut a -h"!-hy, +a' a! "$'/ Ma'y u! ha$e the te')e'*y t e&uate "$e .th r+a'*e/ The .r") "$e r'! a !.eet +e")y t the ear!, br'! t the +a'at' the +ae t. "$er! .h!-er' !.eet 'th'! t ea*h ther ' the -ar( r ' the te"e-h'e, u'+')u" the re!t the .r") a! '"y they +atter a') e 3!t at a""/ L$e ! a +a'y !-"e')re) th', ! the !' e!/ O' the ther ha'), "$e ! -*ture) +a'y t+e! a! a' a*t - !!e!!', be' -!!e!!e) by a'ther -er!'/ Pe-"e ht a') !tru"e ' the 'a+e "$e/ 6 "$e yu ha! *+e t +ea', Yu Yu are +'e a') 6 .a't yu t ) the th'! 6 .a't, 6 .a't yu t be .hat 6 .a't yu t be/ Or e"!e, t ha! *+e t +ea', 6 a+ yur!, a') yu *a' ) .hate$er yu .a't t +e/ Fr +a'y yu' -e-"e, "$e ha! be*+e !y''y+u! .th !e3/ T "$e a'ther +ea'! t be -a!!'ate"y attra*te) t her a') br' her t be) .th +e/ Th! e&uat' "$e .th !e3 ha! "e) t the )ea that re')!h- ! 't "$e, that .he' t. "$er! brea( u-, they +ay !ett"e ).' r re')!h- a! re')!h- .ere 'err t "$e/ Pe-"e !ay, L$e L$e ! b"') a') "$er! )'4t !ee/ Th! ha! *+e t +ea' that t "$e ! t attra*te) t the ) &ua"te! the ther/ S+et+e! th! ! ear'e) t the e3tre+e attrbut' attra*t$e &ua"te! t the ther e$e' they are 't there/ L$e ha! *+e t be e&uate) .th a)+rat'/ Er*h Fr++ ' h! a+u! b( The Art L$' +e't'! the a*t that the --u"ar 't' "$e at -re!e't ! a""' ' "$e/ Pe-"e ha$e the +!*'*e-t' that there ! 'th' t "ear' abut "$e that "$e ht! a +a' "(e "ht''/ Ether the arr. u-) !tr(e! yu r yu are 't/ He attrbute! th! --u"ar 't' "$e t three rea!'!8 19 The e+-ha!! be' "$e) rather tha' ' "$'/ Th! ! e$)e't ' the +a'y b(! .rtte' a') !") ' h. t .' re')! a') '"ue'*e -e-"e, h. t be attra*t$e, h. t ha$e !e3 a--ea", et*/ 29 The e+-ha!! ' the be*t "$e) rather tha' ' the a*u"ty "$'/ Pe-"e ta"( the )ea" r", the )ea" by, by, the )ea" hu!ba'), the )ea" .e/ A') t !ee+! the rht be*t t "$e "".! the !a+e tre') a! the a) ' the +ar(et/ :9 The *'u!' bet.ee' the 'ta" !tate a""' ' "$e a') the -er+a'e't !ta')' ; ' "$e/ Pe-"e +!ta(e the 'ta" ee"' 'atuat' a! "$e/ T. -e-"e ')' the+!e"$e! !tra'er! ' a *u'try a') ee"' "'e"y ea!"y a"" r ea*h ther/ 6 6 they !+-"y ba!e) ther "$e ' th! ee"' "'e"'e!! ther "$e ."" 't "a!t/
Our -he'+e'"y "$e +u!t r!t !et a!)e a"" ab$e -re*'*e-t'! "$e/ N., "et u! ba*( t the r'a" e3-ere'*e "$e/ Loneliness and Love The e3-ere'*e "$e be'! r+ the e3-ere'*e "'e"'e!!/ The e3-ere'*e "'e"'e!! ! ba!*a""y a hu+a' e3-ere'*e/ e ! ra)ua""y tur'e) '.ar)! he &ue!t'! the th'! that .ere tauht t h+ by h! -are't! a') tea*her! he !ear*he! r h! .' )e'tty/ Wh a+ 6% be*+e! +re +-rta't tha' the ty! a') *a')e! that '*e .ere the be*t! h! )e!re!/ T ") t be )e'te) .th the *h") a') t yu' t be *'!)ere) a' a)u"t, he ee"! +!u')er!t), u'.a'te), a"'e/ H! 'atura" te')e'*y ! t !ee ( ut h! e"". a)"e!*e't r u')er!ta')' a') a**e-ta'*e/ Tether they '$e't ther .' "a'uae, ther .' +u!*/ 6t ! ' the bar(a)a that he ')! e&ua"ty/
L'e"'e!! e')! .he' 'e ')! r ! u') by a'ther ' .hat .e ."" *a"" a "$' e'*u'ter/ The "$' e'*u'ter ! a +eet' -er!'!/ The +eet' -er!'! ! 't !+-"y bu+-' 't ea*h ther, 'r ! t !+-"y a' e3*ha'e -"ea!a't re+ar(!, thuh the!e *u") be e+b)+e't! a )ee-er +eet'/ The )ee-er +eet' here ' "$e ha--e'! .he' t. -er!'! r +re .h are ree t be the+!e"$e! *h!e t !hare the+!e"$e!/ 6t -re!u--!e! a ' 6; thu *++u'*at' !e"$e!/ =Th! ! -!!b"e e$e' ' ru-! *++' *++t+e't! a"thuh the +eet' -er!'! +ay be har)er )ue t the e3-e*tat' r"e!/9 Fr!t a"", the "$' e'*u'ter 'e*e!!tate! a' a--ea" the ther a))re!!' +y !ube*t$ty/ The a--ea" +ay be e+b)e) ' .r), a e!ture r a "a'*e; a"" the!e *a' be !'! '$tat' r +e t tra'!*e') +y!e", t brea( a.ay r+ +y -re**u-at' .th +y!e"/ Very te' ' the )a"y ru' "e, 6 're the!e !'!/ 6 a+ t ab!rbe) r t *'!*u! the r"e! 6 a+ a**u!t+e) t -"ay ' )a"y "e a! a tea*her, a !tu)e't, a' e+-"yer, a -re!t, that 6 a" t !ee the a--ea" the ther/ T be ab"e t !ee the a--ea" the ther, 6 'ee) +re tha' eye! +re tha' +'); 6 'ee) a' atttu)e, a heart that ha! br(e' a.ay r+ !e"; -re**u-at'/ %!a$ is $!e a&&eal o' $!e o$!er( The a--ea" the ther ! 't h! *r-rea" r !-rtua" attra*t$e &ua"te!/ 6 *a' *'*e-tua">e the ther 't a "!t beautu" &ua"te! =.h*h 6 +y!e" +ay "a*(9 but they *a' '"y at be!t $e r!e t e'a+re) 'e!!, a )e!re t be .th the ther/ e h+/ A') "$e ! the e3-ere'*e th! )e-th a') +y!tery the ther a') the r+ ."" t be r h+/ Nr ! the a--ea" the ther a' e3-"*t re&ue!t *+' r+ the ther/ The e3-"*t re&ue!t the ther +ay u!t be a !' a ) ee-er a--ea", yet 6 ba!e +y rea*h' ut t the ther !+-"y ' th! 'ee), t +ay .e"" be be*au!e a *erta' -ty, a') 't rea""y ut "$e/ Or, t +ay be -!!b"e that 6 *a' !at!y h! re&ue!t be*au!e 6 u!t .a't t et $er .th t a') 't be bthere) a'y+re/ 6' !u*h a *a!e, e$e' 6 ha$e !at!e) the re&ue!t the ther, he +ay a.ay )!!at!e) be*au!e +y heart .a! 't ' t/ The ther a--ea" the ther ! h+!e"/ The ther ' h! ther'e!! ! h+!e" the re&ue!t/ The a--ea" the ther ! the *a"" t -art*-ate ' h! !ube*t$ty, t be .th a') r h+/ Wh"e t ! true that 6 'ee) a' atttu)e that ha! br(e' a.ay r+ !e"; -re**u-at' t !ee the a--ea" the ther, the *'$er!e a"! h")!8 the a--ea" the ther .h*h ! h+!e" e'ab"e! +e t "berate +y!e" r+ +y 'arr. !e"/ 6t re$ea"! t +e a' e'tre"y 'e. )+e'!' +y e3!te'*e, that -erha-! +y !e"; rea">at' +ay be a )e!t'y; r; yu/
ther4! ree !e"; rea">at', h! )e!t'y, h! ha--'e!!/ At t+e!, t +ay !ee+ reu!' .hate$er *u") +-e)e r )e!try the ther4! -!!b"ty r !e"; rea">at'/ Whe' 6 "$e the ther 6 a+ !ay', 6 .a't yu t be*+e .hat yu .a't t be/ 6 .a't yu t rea">e yur ha--'e!! ree"y/ L$e, h.e$er, ! 't '"y !ay' t, t ! )' t/ L$e ! ee*t$e, t ta(e! a*t'!/ =A*t'! !-ea( "u)er tha' .r)!/9 S'*e the ther -er!' ! 't )!e+b)e) !ube*t$e"y, t "$e h+ therere +-"e! that 6 ."" h! b)"y be', a') *'!e&ue't"y h! .r")/ L$e ! '!e-arab"e r+ *are, r+ "abr/ T "$e ! t "abr r that "$e, t *are r h! b)y, h! .r"), h! tta" .e"";be'/ W""' the ha--'e!! the ther, h.e$er, a"! +-"e! that 6 ha$e a.are'e!!, thuh +-"*t a') at t+e $aue, the ther4! )e!t'y/ 6 ha$e a !ear*h' r a') a -arta" ')' h! .ay ' the .r")/ A') .hate$er -'' 6 ha$e the ha--'e!! the ther ."" '"ue'*e a') $e )re*t' t +y ae*t' r h+/ 6t ."" -e' *erta' .r")"y ra)! r h+ a') a"! *"!e ther!, th!e that .u") 't br' h+ *"!er t h! )e!t'y/ L$e the' 'e*e!!tate! a *erta' -er!'a" ('."e)e the ther/ O *ur!e, the -!!b"ty e3!t! that 6 *u") be +!ta(e' a! t .hat ."" +a(e the ther ha--y/ The te+-tat' ! a"! $ery reat that 6 +ay +-!e +y .' *'*e-t ha--'e!! ' the ther/ 6 *a' ' "abr' r the ha--'e!! the ther, .here ' rea"ty 6 a+ !+-"y u"""' +y .' 'ee)!/ The ther ha! be*+e a' e3te'!' +y!e" a') ha! be*+e ab!rbe) by +y .' -er!'/ 6 "$e ! 't t be*+e )+'at', t +u!t be ba"a'*e) by a *erta' re!-e*t, re!-e*t r the u'&ue'e!! a') ther'e!! the ther/ e!-e*t )e! 't +ea' )">' a -er!' t !+-"y +ea'! a**e-t' the -er!', a! he ! )ere't r+ +y!e"/ A**e-t' the ther a! ther, a! he !, ! 't t be ta(e' ' a !tat* !e'!e/ The ther ! a"! h+!e" ' h! -te'ta"te!, ' h! be*+'/ ' +y rhyth+ .th h!/ L(e a +e")y r a' r*he!tra, +y +u!* "e +u!t "". h! .' te+-/ Pate'*e re&ure! a "t .at' a') *at*h';u-, a .at' that ! a*t$e, e$er;rea)y t a'!.er t the 'ee)! the ther, a') a *at*h' u- that ! !-'ta'eu! a') 'atura"/ )e#i&ro#i$y o' Love Fr+ ur )e!*r-t' ab$e the "$' e'*u'ter, t !ee+! that "$e ! .h""y *'*er'e) .th the ther/ What ha--e'! t +y!e"% A+ 6 't *'*er'e) .th +y!e" ' "$e% A+ 6 't a"" 'tere!te) ' be' "$e) ' retur'% Here .e tu*h u-' t. +-rta't &ue!t'! ' "$e8 Fr!t, .hat ! the re"at'!h- "$e the ther a') "$e +y!e"% Se*')"y, .hat ha--e'! .th the u're*-r*ate) "$e% 6' the "$' e'*u'ter, +y re!-'!e t the a--ea" the ther .h*h ! h! !ube*t$ty ! +y!e"/ 6 ."" the ther4! ree !e";rea">at'/ 6' ther .r)!, 6 er +y!e" t h+ by -"a*' a "+t"e!! tru!t ' the ther/ Th! -e'' +y!e" t the ther ! a )ee'!e"e!!'e!!/ 6t be*+e! a *a"" u-' the "$e the be"$e), a' a--ea" t h+ t a**e-t the er +y!e"/ Th! a--ea" the "$er t the be"$e) ! 't eh ."" t )ra. a)$a'tae r+ the ae*t' r the ther =u-a' +a(a(ar' !ya ' uta' 'a "b9/ 6t ! 't *+-e""', )+'at' r -!!e!!' the ther/ L$e .a't! the ther4! ree)+8 that the ther h+!e" *h!e th! !ae .ay a') a$) that )a'eru! -ath/ There ! ')ee) a' e"e+e't !a*r*e ' "$' the ther .h*h ! te' u')er!t) be +a'y a! a "!! !e"/ 6' "$e, 6 re'u'*e the +t$e -r+t' +y!e"/ 6 ha$e t brea( the -r$!'a" !tru*ture 6 ha$e $e' t +y .' "e, a') th! ! -a'u"/ E'ter' 't a re')!h- ! a**e)' t +y re')4! .!he! .h*h 't be the !a+e a! +'e/ The -a' "e! ' aba')'' +y et!+, +y !e";*e'tere)'e!!/
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#10 MAT6N HE6DEGGES PHENOMENOLOGY OF DEATH by TASYO February 21, 2005
MA)N HEDEGGE)/ PHENOMENOLOGY OF DEAH By Manuel B. Dy, Jr. A**r)' t He)eer, the be' +a' ! a be';';the;.r")/ Ma' ! -r+r)a""y )re*te) t.ar)! the .r") a') ha! the -.er;t;be ' the .r")/ H! be' ' the .r") *'!!t! ' be' a"'!)e .th th'!, the rea)y;t;ha') a') the -re!e't;at;ha'), that He)eer *a""! There;be'/ There;be' .th ther!, !"*tu)e/ The be' +a' ! Da!e', There;be' ! the There e! t! .' -!!b"te!, t *'!ta't"y a*tua">e! t! -te'ta"te! e3!te'*e/ A! !u*h, +a' ! a".ay! ahea) h+!e" ' h! be' he ! a".ay! ahea) h+!e", ahea) .hat he a*tua""y ! ' h! .' -!!b"te! r be'/ Th! ! .hat He)eer *a""! are4, the u')a+e'ta" !tru*ture Da!e'/ The -r+ary te+ ' *are, therere, ! the ahea);;t!e" Da!e'/ Da!e' a! -re*t a".ay! *+-rt! t!e" t.ar)! t! -te'ta"ty r be'/ There ! a".ay! !+eth' !t"" 4ut!ta')'4 ' +a'/ A! "' a! +a' e3!t! ' the .r"), h! -te'ta"ty r be' ! 'e$er e3hau!te)/ A**r)' t He)eer, there ! a".ay! !+eth' t be !ett"e) yet ' +a'/ Ma', a! "' a! he 6S, ha! 'e$er rea*he) h! .h"e'e!!/ Ma' a".ay! ha! a' u''!he) *hara*ter/ Ma' rea*he! h! .h"e'e!! ' )eath/ 6' )eath, +a' "!e! h! -te'ta"ty r be', he "!!e! h! 4there4/ There ! ' +re ut!ta')' ' +a', e$eryth' ! '!he), !ett"e) r h+, He ! ' "'er be' there/ What ! )eath r He)eer% H. ! )eath re"ate) t the be' +a', a') .hat ! +a'4! atttu)e t.ar)! )eath% S'*e )eath ! the tra'!t' +a' r+ Da!e' t ';"'er;Da!e', there ! therere the +-!!b"ty e3-ere'*' th! tra'!t'/ N 'e ha! e $er *+e ut a"$e r+ )eath t te"" u! abut )eath/ H. the' are .e ' t )e!*rbe )eath% What ! He)eer4! -he'+e'"y )eath% Our r!t e3-ere'*e )eath ! the )eath ther!/ W e *a' !ee, hear, -e-"e )e, 6 +a' ! a be' .th ther!, ."" the )eath ther! the' $e u! the be*t$e ('."e)e abut )eath% e the )y' ther!, .e *a' !ub!ttute a') re-re!e't the )y' a'y Da!e' r a'ther, ."" ur re-re!e'tat' be $a") a') u!te)% True, re-re!e'tat' ! 'e the -!!b"te! +a' a! a be' .th ther!, but re-re!e'tat' ! a".ay! a re-re!e'tat' ' !+eth', .th !+eth'/
by -e*' tether e'tte! r -art!/ Th! tta"ty a') .h"e'e!! +a' ! a 4't;yet4 +a' .h*h ha! t be/ Th! 4't;yet4 +a', +re$er, ! !+eth' that ! a"rea)y a**e!!b"e t h+/ Da!e', a! "' a! t !, ! a"rea)y t! 4't;yet4/ Th! 4't;yet4 Da!e' ! "(e the 4't;yet4 u'r-e'e!! the rut/ The r-e'e!! the rut ! the e') t! "a*(; Cr-e'e!!, the e') the 4't;yet4 the rut/ A! "' a! the rut ! 't r-e, t ! a"rea)y t ! a"rea)y t! 4't;r-e4/ There !, h.e$er a )ere'*e bet.ee' the r-e'e!! the rut a') the )eath +a'/ Wth the rut, the r-e'e!! ! the u"""+e't t! be'/ 6' the *a!e +a', ' the ther ha'), ' )eath, +a' +ay r +ay 't arr$e at h! u"""+e't/ A') here He)eer thr.! a !tr(' re+ar(8 What ! u'rtu'ate ! that ! "tt"e ! t the *a!e that Da!e' *+e! t t! r-e'e!! '"y .th )eath, that Da!e' +ay ."" ha$e -a!!e) t! r-e'e!! bere the e')/ Fr the +!t -art, Da!e' e')! ' u'u""+e't/// Da!e' therere, a! "' a! t e3!t!, ! a"rea)y, t! e')/ The e') Da!e' ! 't t be u')er!t) a! be';at;a';e') but a! be';t.ar)!;the;e')/ He)eer4! -he'+e'"y )eath therere ! 't a )e!*r-t' )eath a' ater;"e, but +a' a! a be';t.ar)!;h!;e'), a be';t.ar)!;)eath/ 6 +a' ! a be';t.ar)!;)eath, a') h! be' ' the .r") ha! the u')a+e'ta" !tru*ture *are, the' the e') +a' +u!t be *"are) ' ter+! *are, h! ba!* !tate/ Bein"0$o1ards0dea$! and *are He))eer )e'e! *are a! ahea);;t!e";
ha! 'th' t ) .th u!/ The 4they4 rea">e! that )eath ! !+eth' ')e'te that +u!t arr$e u"t+ate"y, but r the ++e't, the 4they4 !ay!, t ha! 'th' t ) .th u!/ 6t ! !+eth' 't yet -re!e't;at;ha'), a') therere er! ' threat/ The 4they4 !ay!, 'e )e!, but the 'e ! 'b)y, ' 'e ."" *"a+ that t ! 6/ 6' th! .ay, the 4they4 "e$e"! )eath, +a(e! t a+buu!, a') h)e! the true a!-e*t! th! -!!b"ty, the +'e'e!!, '';re"at'a", a') that .h*h *a''t be ut!tr--e)/ Th! ! the 'authe't* +)e +a' be';t.ar)!;)eath/ He "!e! h+!e" ' the 4they4 a') ret! h! )!t'*t$e -te'ta"ty r be'/ The 4they4 ha! a $ery '*e .ay h)' the true 'ature +a'4! be'; t.ar)!;the;e')/ Whe' a -er!' ! )y', the 4they4 ta"(! t h+ 't the be"e that he ."" 't )e, that he ."" re*$er h! 'r+a" !tate r tra&u">e) e$ery)ay'e!!/ ' )eath, the 'ehbr! *'!"e the )y' -er!' a') *ur!e the+!e"$e!/ The 'r+a" *areree'e!! e$ery)ay *'*er' +u!t 't be )!turbe)/ T !tart th'(' abut )eath ! *'!)ere) by the 4they4 a! a !' *.ar)*e, ear, '!e*urty/ The 4they4 )e! 't -er+t u! the *urae r a'3ety ' the a*e )eath/ 6'!tea) the a'3ety ' the a*e )eath ! ta(e' a! a !' .ea('e!!/ A**r)' t the 4they4, the atttu)e t the a*t that 'e )e! ! that ')ere't tra'&u"ty/ Fr He)eer, th! ')ere't tra'&u"ty *ur!e;+ea'! the a"e'at' +a' r+ h! .'+!t '';re"at'a" -te'ta"ty r b e';t.ar)!;)eath/ E$ery)ay be';t.ar)!;)eath ! therere a a""', a *'!ta't "ee' ' the a*e )eath/ The e$ery)ay +a' ! *'!ta't"y e$a)' )eath, h)' t a') $' 'e. e3-"a'at'! r t/ A*tua""y, the e$ery)ay +a' e$e' ' h! a""', atte!t! t the a*t that he ! a be';t.ar)!;)eath, a"thuh he a!!ure! h+!e" ' the 'authe't*, +-er!'a" 4they4 that he ! !t"" "$'/ E$e' ' the +)e tra'&u">e) ')ere'*e t.ar)! h! utter+!t -!!b"ty e3!te'*e, +a' !t"" ha! h! .'+!t -te'ta"ty r be' a' !!ue/ The +-er!'a" 4they4 ! a"! *erta' )eath/ The 4they4 !ay!, Death *erta'"y *+e!, but 't rht a.ay/ The 4but///! at the !a+e t+e a )e'a" *erta'ty/ Th! ! the a+buu! atttu)e the 4they4 .th rear)! t the *erta'ty )eath/ H.e$er, th! *erta'ty the 4they4 !ee+! t be '"y a' e+-r*a" *erta'ty )er$e) r+ !e$era" *a!e! ther -e-"e4! )eath/ A! "' a! +a' re+a'! ' th! "e$e" *erta'ty, )eath *a' 'e$er rea""y be*+e *erta' r h+/ ' t, that !, br'' t t ha--e'/ That .u") be !u*)e, a') !u*)e )e+"!he! a"" the -te'ta"te! +a' '!tea) br'' the+ 't a .h"e tta"ty/ Nr )e! t +ea' that +a' +u!t br) $er )eath, *a"*u"at' t r )eath ! 't !+eth' 'e *a' ha$e at 'e4! )!-!a"/ The authe't* be';t.ar)!;)eath, +a' rea">e! that )eath ! h! .'+!t -!!b"ty, a') thu! the a.are'e!! *+e! t h+ h! -te'ta"ty r be', r u"""' h+!e", h! .' be'/ He +u!t therere .re'*h h+!e" a.ay r+ the +-er!'a" 4they4 a') +a(e h+!e" a' ')$)ua", a"'e/
Death ')$)ua">e! +a', be*au!e )eath )e! 't be"' t e$eryb)y, but t 'e4! .' !e"/ Th! ')$)ua">' by )eath re$ea"! the 4there4 +a', h! be' Ca"'!)e;th'! =*'*er'9 a') h! be'; .th;ther! =!"*tu)e9/ 6t re$ea"! t +a' that h! *'*er' a') !"tu)e ! 'th' .he' h! .'+!t -te'ta"ty r be' ! t!e" a' !!ue ' )eath/ Authe't* be';t.ar)!;)eath )e! 't +ea', h.e$er, *utt' 'e!e" r+ a"" re"at'!h-! rather t +ea'! -re*t' 'e!e" u-' h! .'+!t -te'ta"ty r be' rather that u-' the -!!b"ty the4 they4 !e"/ Death ! ('.' t the authe't* +a' a! ''; re"at'a", a') .th th! a.are'e!!, he a! t .ere u')er!ta')! a') *h!e! h! -!!b"te! re"at'a", a') .th th! a.are'e!!, he a! t .ere u')er!ta')! a') *h!e! h! -!!b"te! re"at'! ' the "ht the e3tre+e -!!b"ty )eath a! '';re"at'a"/ The authe't* +a' )e! 't ut!tr- )eath/ H! a't*-at' )e! 't e$a)e )eath rather t a**e-t! th! -!!b"ty/ 6' a**e-t' )eath a! the -!!b"ty, +a' ree! h+!e"/ Th! ! t +ea' that +a', by a't*-at' ! ree r h! .' )eath he ! )e"$ere) r+ be*+' "!t ' -!!b"te!/ Wh"e bere, ' the 4they;!e"4, he .a! !e*ure ' the +-er!'a" but )*tate) by t, '. ' a't*-at', ' a**e-t' )eath a! h! e3tre+e -!!b"ty, +a' r the r!t t+e *a' u')er!ta') a') *h!e a+' the -!!b"te! ' the a+buu! 4they4 a') he ! '. ree t be h +!e", the -er!' he h+!e" .a't! t be/ H! -!!b"te! are '. -e' bere h+, )eter+'e) by h! e') a') u')er!t), thu!, a! 'te/ 6' a't*-at' )eath a! '';re"at'a", +a' a'! a' u')er!ta')' h! -te'ta"ty;r;be' ther!/ S'*e a't*-at' th! -!!b"ty .h*h ! 't t be ut!tr--e) -e'! t +a' a"" the -!!b"te! r +a(' h+!e", +a' '. *+e! t r- h! .h"e'e!! ' a)$a'*e/ He ! '. -e' t the -!!b"ty e3!t' a .h"e -te'ta"ty; r;be'/ The *erta'ty )eath )e! 't ha$e the *hara*ter *erta'ty, .h*h ! be*t$e, the -re!e't;at;ha')/ The *erta'ty )eath *rre!-')! t the *erta'ty be';';the;.r")/ Thu!, .he' the authe't* +a' h")! )eath r true, .hat ! )e+a')e) r+ h+ ! 't u!t 'e )e'te (') beha$r, but the u"" authe't*ty/ 6' a't*-at', +a' +a(e! *erta' r!t h! .'+!t be' ' t! tta"ty/ The ')e'te'e!! .h*h e! .th the *erta'ty )eath *a""! r authe't* Da!e' t -e' t!e" t the *'!ta't threat ar!' ut r+ t! be' 4there4, a be' ' the .r")/ The !tate +') that ! -e' t th! *'!ta't threat ! a'3ety/ 6' a'3ety, +a' *+e! a*e t a*e .th the 4'th'4 -!!b"e +-!!b"ty h! e3!te'*e/ What he ! a'3u! abut ! ' ther tha' h! -te'ta"ty r be'/ A'3ety ')$)ua">e! +a', a') ' ')$)ua">' h+, +a(e! h+ be*+e *erta' the tta"ty h! -te'ta"ty r be'/ Thu!, authe't* be';t.ar)!;)eath ! e!!e'ta""y a'3ety/ Heide""er su22ari3es $!is au$!en$i# bein"0$o1ards0dea$! in $!e 'ollo1in" 1ords4 A't*-at' re$ea"! t Da!e' t! "!t'e!! ' the they !e", a') br'! t a*e t a*e .th the -!!b"ty be' t!e", -r+ar"y u'!u--rte) by *'*er'u" !"*tu)e, but be' t!e", rather, ' a' +-a!!'e) FEEDOM TOWADS DEATH; a ree)+ .h*h ha! bee' re"ea!e) r+ the ""u!'! the 4they4, a') .h*h ! a*t*a", *erta' t!e", a') a'3u!/ 5arl )a!ner/s No$ion o' Dea$! He)eer4! ree)+ t.ar)! )eath !ee+! t rea*h a the"*a" )e$e"-+e't ' @ar" ah'er/ Fr ah'er, )eath ! 't +ere"y !+eth' that **ur! t +a', a' e$e't that $erta(e! h+, 'r ! t a' e$" that bea""! h+ u'e3-e*te)"y/ Death, r ah'er, ! a' a*t +a', a' a*t !e";ar+at' ' rear)! t h! a**e-ta'*e r reu!a" t be h! authe't* !e", a !e" that ! -e' t tra'!*e')e'*e/ Death, thu!, *'!ttute! the hhe!t a*t ree)+ +a', the ree)+ t !ay ye! r ' t h ! -e''e!! t G)/ 6 )eath *'!ttute! the hhe!t a*t ree)+ +a', t ! be*au!e )eath '$"$e! the .h"e +a'/ At )eath, there ! ' "'er a'y *'*u-!*e'*e ' the -art +a'/
h! *++t+e't rea*he! a *"+a3/ Death br'! a (') 'a"ty, a )e'ty t the "e;"' )e*!' +a' .th rear)! t h! )e!t'y Death !hu") 't be ta(e' a! a' !"ate) -'t ' the "e +a'/ ather, t ! t be ta(e' a! the *u"+'at' -'t h! "e, the -'t .here he 'a""y rea*he! a u"""+e't, a tta"ty/ Death, ' ther .r)!, ! 't t be !"ate) r+ the ther ree a*t! +a' t ! u')er!t) a') t be*+e! !'*a't '"y t ! *'!)ere) aa'!t the ba*(ru') the tta"ty +a'4! "e, be*au!e ' )eath, the $ery !!ue ! ' ther tha' +a'4! tta" be', h! tta" *++t+e't/ A! !u*h, )eath !hu") therere be -re!e't ' e$ery ree a*t +a'/ E$ery ree a*t +a' !hu") *arry a' a.are'e!! h! u"""+e't t a *++t+e't, a rea">at' that th! 'e ree a*t he"-! t bu") a tta" )e*!' h! .h"e be' t the ) =r t the ba)9/ The $ery -re!e'*e )eath ! ' the $ery be' +a'/ The a't*-at' )eath br'! +a' a*e t a*e .th the -!!b"ty be' t!e" ' a' +-a!!'e) ree)+ t.ar)! )eath, .th the -!!b"ty +a(' a' a*t$e *'!u++at' r+ .th' the tta"ty h! .' be'/
