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Page 3 Paddington celebrates Pesach ● He hails from the darkest Peru. He lives in England. He got his name from London’s Paddington Station. With his old hat and battered suitcase, he resembles a Jewish refugee. He loves marmalade. And now, he’s spreading that marmalade on matzah. He’s Paddington Bear, featured in beloved children’s books and films since 1958. A film about the bear, Paddington 2, came out in the United States last November, in time for the Christmas holidays. In Israel, however, his visit to theaters was postponed for the Passov Passover er vacation season. And on promotiona promotionall posters and newspaper advertisements, at least, his menu was adjusted to fit the holiday. For Israeli movie theaters hoping that Paddington 2 packs them in during Pesach, replacing the bread in the advertising — though not the film itself — was only the bear minimum. LARRY YUDELSON

Most Israeli seder-goers go the distance It’s that familiar moment in every Passover Passover seder: The last of the dishes has been cleared away, the leftovers are stored in the refrigerat refrigerator or,, the guests are pleasantly drunk, except for that one cousin who always overdoes it, the matzah crumbs have been ground irreversibly into the couch cushions. That’s the point when the participants look around the table and say to themselves, “Are we really going to get out the Haggadahs to finish the seder?” According Accord ing to the Jewish People Policy Institute, 64 percent of Jewish Israelis say yes and read the entire seder, including the part that comes after dinner. dinner. This part includes the traditional Passover songs such as Had Gadya (Just One Kid) and Echad MiYodea (Who Knows One). Just 22 percent of Jews who identified as “completely secular” said they finish the entire Haggadah, while, unsurprisingly, 99 percent of ultra-Orthodox Jews said they ●

finished the whole megillah — er, Haggadah. Passover Passov er seders are tied with Rosh Hashanah dinners as one of the most widely celebrate celebrated d Israeli Jewish traditions; 93 percent of Israeli Jews observe both holidays with a festive meal, according to a 2015 Pew Research Center survey. According to a 2013 Pew study, 70 percent of American Jews participate in a Passover seder. Sadly, Pew did not ask how long their seders run. Why do Israelis make seder night different from all other nights? According to the JPPI survey of 3,000 Israeli Jews,  just 25 perc percent ent part participa icipate te in the seder becau because se it is a commandment from the Torah. The rest celebrate the holiday for historical, cultural, and family reasons. And for the matzah ball soup. MELANIE LIDMAN/TIMES OF ISRAEL

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“Passover — Yesterday We Were Slaves, Today We Are Free People,” was displayed at the juried exhibition “Freedom: An Artistic Interpretation,” Interpretation,” at the Belskie Museum in Closter this month. The show also included work by the show’s co-curators, Sheryl Intrator Urman and Fred Spinowitz.

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At this seder, don’t talk about the weather Trayon White Sr., the Washington D.C. councilman who suggested on Facebook that rich Jews control the weather, will go to a Passover seder. White will be a guest at the first-night seder of Elissa Silverman, another another council member, the Washington Post reported. He had his choice of seders — he’s gotten invitations from many Jewish leaders after he’d talked about the relation between the Rothschilds and the weather. White, a Democrat representing the district’s 8th ward, posted a video early on March 16 in which he accused “the Rothschilds” of controlling the climate to make money — an anti-Semitic conspiracy theory that has gained traction on the web. He later removed the video and issued an apology. The Rothschilds are a well-known European Jewish dynasty descended from a Jewish banker originally from Germany. White did not specify which of the many Rothschilds he was accusing of weather control. Several days later, there was another video featuring White, although apparently apparently he did not post this one himself. In this second video, he said that the Rothschilds control the World Bank and the federal government. Internet conspiracy conspiracy theorists claim that the Rockefeller Foundation’s Foundation ’s Resilient Cities initiative, which provides grants to cities, including Washington, Washington, to address environmental environmental and economic problems, is part of a plot to control and reduce the population of North America. And some conspira-

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cy theorists also think that the Rothschilds, working with the Rockefellers, have technology that controls the weather. Silverman, who will host White at the seder, issued a statement describing his Rothschild comments as “hateful and dangerous.” She told the Washington Post that his ignorance about Judaism and anti-Semitism is a call for engagement. “I want to be very clear that anti-Semitism has no place in civic discussion, but this has shown that there is a lack of exposure to Judaism and anti-Semitism … there are strains of this, especially in Trayon’s community,” she said. “The way to JTA WIRE SERVICE combat intolerance is to engage.”

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Seriously… jurist Seriously… jur ist can’t take a joke Not a fun schmoozer Justice RUTH BADER GINSBURG turned 85 on March 15, and that prompted a flurry of publicity. Two items I saw were on the light side. The Wall Street Journal (“WSJ”) interviewed her about her extensive collection of scrunchies (the cloth or elastic item used to hold hair in a pony tail). She told the Journal that her collection of scrunchies is very big and that she has favorite scrunchieshopping cities and will not hesitate to travel to get a good one. The best ones, she said, come from Zurich, with London and Rome taking second and third place. On March 21, Stephen Colbert went to Washington to see how Justice Ginsburg works out with her personal trainer. He participated in the workout and peppered their time together with mostly silly shtick. I knew from brief past attempted comedic interactions with Justice Ginsburg that the visit wouldn’t work that well. When Colbert attempted to liven things up by playing loud disco-ish music on a boom box, the justice objected immediately, saying that maybe she could work out with opera playing.

(She and her ideological opponent, the late Justice Antonin Scalia, bonded over their love of opera and were great friends.) When Colbert asked her a semi-silly legal question she was fine logically, but not funny. Frankly, she just isn’t the type of person who’s capable of being cutely funny in response to Colbert’s stream of cute remarks. (Video all over the Net. Google: Colbert, Ginsburg.) On the other hand, the workout video showed, via her limberness and responsiveness, responsiv eness, that the justice is in remarkably good physical and mental shape. Today, we expect celebrities we admire to be everything. Well, some very competent famous people, including Jewish people, just aren’t funny schmoozers on talk shows or elsewhere and they shouldn’t be put in a position where they are expected to be. The justice never was a schmoozer. A very reliable source tells me that when she and her late husband attended fun outings sponsored by the law firm her husband belonged to, Justice Ginsburg, then a law professor, brought along law review issues to read. By the way, the funniness of justices

prominent British Jewish family of Iraqi origin and both sisters identify as Jewish. Kravitz’s paternal grandfather and maternal grandmother were Jewish and she identifies as Jewish. She prov proved ed she was more than eye candy with an excellent performance in the hit HBO series “Big Little Lies.” (Opens March 30.) Ruth Bader Ginsburg

Zoe Kravitz was measured in 2005 via counting how many times their remarks elicited laughter at oral argument. Justice Scalia was the winner, with Justice STEPHEN BREYER, now 79, finishing second.

At the movies “Gemini” is a rare indie film, in that it got such good reviews at a film festival that it was picked up for a limited national release. It’s unlikely (but possible)

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that it will open at a theater. Look for it at that theater near you, or better yet, make a note to look for it on a streaming service in the near future. The director director/  /  writer is Aaron Katz, a filmmaker who has made a string of good indies on a shoe-string budget. Katz, a Portland, Oregon, native, may well be Jewish, but bio details about him are very scant. Basic plot: Jill LeBeau (LOLA KIRKE KIRKE,, 37) is the assistant to Hollywood

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starlet Heather Anderson (ZOE KRAVITZ KRAVITZ,, 29). Jill arrives at Heather’s house one day to find her dead from a gunshot wound. The police suspect Jill is the killer and she must solve her boss’s murder before her world unravels completely. RICKI LAKE LAKE,, 49, has a biggish supporting role. Kirke is the star of the Amazon series “Mozart in the Jungle,” and the sister of JEMIMA KIRKE KIRKE,, 32, a “Girls” co-star co-star.. Their mother comes from a

Other TV T V/  streaming news On March 29, the A&E cable station will launch a new original docuseries, “Marcia Clark Investigates the First 48.” The seven-episode series will explore seven of the most high-profile cases of the last 30 years. The first episode, which aired on Thursday, March 29 at 8 p.m. (many encore showings), is about the Casey Anthony murder case. The episode airing on April 5 is about murder victim CHANDRA LEVY LEVY.. MARCIA CLARK, CLARK, 64, is Jewish and was born Marcia Klerks. She is famous as the prosecutor who lost the O.J. Simpson murder case. On March 30, Netflix will premiere “Happy Anniversary,” Anniversary ,” an original romantic comedy/drama movie. It follows the upsand-downs of a couple (BEN SCHWARTZ SCHWARTZ,, 36, and Noel Wells) over sev–N.B. eral years.

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he mystery about Rabbi Ozer Glickman of Teaneck, who died last Monday at 67, was how he found enough time to do all the things he did. The personal characteristics that were on  view when he did all those those things — his intellect, quickness, depth of knowledge, empathy, and overwhelming kindness — could be attributed to nature, nurture, genetics, luck of the draw, or gift of God, depending on the onlooker doing the attributing, but the question of how his days expanded to allow all of them seems unanswerable. A decade or so ago, perhaps addressing the question, Rabbi Glickman made a CD called “Bain HaZ’manim.” “Bain HaZ’manim” — literally between the times — is a term that yeshiva students use when they’re talking about the times  between holid ays and sc hool terms, the  brief but cherishe d ti mes when they’re relatively free of the constraining demands of schedules and able to take advantage of that liberty. “Bain HaZ’manim,” HaZ’manim,” considered less literally, evokes liminality, openness, the time  when c onstraints fade to allow unlikely connections to evolve and different worlds to open up onto each other. It is perhaps fanciful but possibly appropriately fanciful to imagine Rabbi Glickman as living in such a liminal world, because he managed to live in so very many worlds at the same time. It seems almost as if an hour for us somehow was two hours for him, that in his 67 years he amassed a cencen tury of experiences and friendships. Or imagine, perhaps, a Venn diagram. Rabbi Glickman is at the center, in a circle  with his family, the center of his life; his  wife, I lana, the ir six children, and their rapidly expanding cluster of daughtersand sons-in-law and grandchildren. (To be speci�ic, that’s Tony and Ilana’s children, Dov, Dalia, Ron, Maya, Avigayil, and Oren; their daughters-in-law, Shoshana and Aimee; their sons-in-law, Matthew Engler and Yonah Heller; and their grandchildren, Idan, Lital, Oriyah, Maor, Samantha, Liam, Zoe, Caleb, and Jamie.) Around that central circle there would  be other bubbles — the worlds of Yeshiva University, Wall Street, other �inancial institutions, academia, music, poetry,  Jewish texts, texts, English English literatur literature, e, French literature, technolo�y, data, race relations, presidential politics, Teaneck, Toronto, and so much more. Some of the bubbles 6 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

In 2011, Rabbi Glickman and his youngest child, Oren, went to a soccer game.

 would intersect, others would not. Some  would be huge, others would not. The number and range of those bubbles would astonish. Who was Ozer Glickman? How did he do all those things? Even his names showed how many  world s Rabb i Glic kman inher ited and made for himself. Anthony Scott Glickman, who was known as Tony, was born in northeast Philadelphia in 1950. Although it amused him to joke that his mother was French, in fact she was not, but she was fluent in the language, which she, and then he, loved. She read him “The Little Prince” in its original French, he said, as “Le Petit Prince.” Although he loved to say that his real �irst name was Antoine, it was not. But the love for literature that he got from his mother lasted throughout his life. When he grew up, although he maintained his love for English literature — and his ability to quote poet ry from memory, a skill lost to most of us — Hebrew literature, from the medieval to S.Y. Agnon to the contemporary, was his real passion, Dalia said. “One of the greatest thrills of his life  was gettin getting g a priva private te tour tour of Agnon Agnon’s ’s home and study in Jerusalem this past Novem ber,”” she said; and he was able to “daven  ber, mincha next to Agnon’s desk.” Tony’s mother, Susan Kaufmann Glickman, was 22 when she married, and her husband, Bernard Glickman, was 39. The couple had two children, Connie and then, two years later, Tony. Susan

 was a teacher; they both taught Hebrew school, and Bernard earned a Ph.D. from Dropsie, Philadelphia’s Philadelphia’s college of Jewish studies. The Glickmans were traditional, observant Conservative Jews. Tony was a brilliant student and an unsettlingly quick study. He graduated from Central High School, Philadelphia’ Philadelphia’ss answer to Stuyvesant or Bronx Science, an entrance-by-examination public school that gave the students smart and sturdy enough to get in an education that was  both thorough thorough and prestigio prestigious. us. He planned to go to Haverford, “and he  was accepted accepted,,” his daugh daughter ter Dalia said, but then “his father died. It was the watershed moment of his life.” Bernard Glickman  was 59, and Tony Glickman was 16. “His mother wanted him to be a rabbi, and he  got a full full scholars scholarship hip to the the joint joint progr program, am,”” the academic undergraduate partnership  between the the Jewish Theological Theological Seminary and Columbia University. At shiva for his father, Tony was persuaded to head off to New York for college. “He was very unhappy there his �irst year,” his wife, Ilana, said. “He was in a strange place. His father had just died. He  went home a lot on on weekends. weekends.” ” But he solsoldiered on, graduated, and then entered rabbinical school at JTS. “It’s a four-year gap in his resume,” Ilana joked. Half-joked, more accurately; although he later went on to become a luminary in the Orthodox world, Rabbi Glickman’s original ordination was Conser vative.  vativ e. It was a different different time then; JTS was was

full of luminaries, and many of them, ranging from Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel to Rabbi Saul Lieberman to Rabbi Moshe Zucker, taught Tony. And the boundaries  between the Orthodox and C onservative  worlds, while while not negligible, negligible, still were far far more porous than they are today. Still, “we always joked about the four-year gap on his resume,” Ilana said. “If you go to the  wrong school, school, you can’t can’t redeem yourself. yourself. And the fact is that JTS moved to the left, and we moved to the right.” It was during his time at JTS that Tony Glickman met Ilana Arm, fresh from South�ield, Michigan, the daughter of a Conservative rabbi. She was a freshman at Barnard, just down Broadway from JTS, and she and her friends took their meals at  JTS because Barnard Barnard didn’t have have a kosher kitchen then. “I went there one night to eat dinner, sitting with friends, and he was sit ting with friends and said ‘ I have to get that  girl’ss phone number  girl’ number..’” He did, he pursued her by phone and she was wary, but eventually he was persistent enough so that she said yes, they had dinner dinner,, and she ended up having a better time on that �irst date than he did. “I was impressed with him,  but he was less so, so, and he wasn’t wasn’t going to ask me out again,” she said. But she saw him going to the library at Barnard, “I scooped up my books and sat a few tables away.” He was courtly, they dated again, “that date lasted six or maybe it was eight hours, and I never went out  with anyone anyone else again, again,”” she said. said. Her parents, Claire and Rabbi Milton Arm, concerned that their daughter was so young to be involved with someone so intensely, convinced her to spend her sophomore year in Israel. She dutifully  went; as it turned out, that was the year that Tony’s rabbinical program took him to Israel. The next year, 1972, they mar ried. She was a junior in college, and he  was a thirdthird-year year rabbinical rabbinical student. Soon, the young couple moved to the apartments in Teaneck — home to generations of observant young couples — and he got a job as education director at the Teaneck Jewish Center. It was then, living at the apartments in Teaneck, that Tony and Ilana Glickman formed the friendships that were to redirect their lives. Most of the couples there were af�iliated with YU. “I was very impressed  with them, them, and my my husband husband was too, too,”” Ilana said. “Many of these young men had smicha from YU. They were working in professions — �inance, medicine, law. They went to shul, SEE GLICKMAN  PAGE 8

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and they learned on Shabbes afternoon. And yet on Saturday night they’d play pool, and they’d play football in Votee Park on Sunday morning, and they’d get together to  jam on their guitars. guitars. It was was so very very normal. normal. They learned, and they also were complete participants in American life. “And they showed us that smicha could  be — should be — lishmah. lishmah. For the the sake of learning. This was our �irst introduction to that idea. “We saw the instability in Jewish professional life, and we didn’t want to struggle all the time,” Ilana said, and Tony’s restless intelligence wanted new avenues to explore. Tony got a full scholarship to NYU’s  business school, and e arned an MBA in the conventional two years — but at night,  while working full time during the day, and already as the father of two young children. He worked on a Ph.D. — that one he didn’t �inish — and eventually he also  got Orthodox Orthodox smicha. From his �irst job, as an analyst in a cubicle at Value Line, Tony Glickman went on to a series of jobs in �inance, each more high-level than the one before. The growing young family moved to West Orange — Teaneck was too expensive then, Ilana said — and “we were there for 13 years. We made a lot of nice friends. “And Tony was always into learning. We had a minyan on the block; he would  give a little shiur, shiur, lead mincha or maariv, and give a d’var Torah. But it was always a hobby, not a profession. He sometimes  was asked asked to speak professiona professionally lly..” Her husband led a minyan at a nearby

Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, right, sits across from Tony Glickman at a class at the Jewish Theological Seminary.

This picture, taken on Chanukah 2017, is the last to show the entire family.

shul that always drew crowds and often outdrew the main service, Ilana added. “I can’t tell you how many people  walked into into shiva from from West West Orange, Orange,” she added. “To this day, they say, say, they rememremem  ber the songs we sang, the davening, the camaraderie. We haven’t ever been able to recreate that. “I was happy to criticize Tony, and I did plenty of that, but what he was good at he was good at, and he was really good at that. He davened beautifully. beautifully. He really knew the nusach, and he also really understood the words, and you could hear that he understood them. He was a big stickler” for that kind of davening, where emotion and meaning intertwined, she added. In 1994, the Glickmans had outgrown

their house, and there weren’t any big enough close by the shul. Painful as the realization was, it was time for them to move. They found a nine-bedroom house in Teaneck — the previous owners had a  blended family, so they needed all t hat space — and moved back to the town  where they had been so happy happy.. There are 17 years between the six Glickman kids, so by the time they moved the oldest had  graduated high school and was in Israel, their next one already was at Frisch, and the next three started at Yavneh. The baby, then a toddler, was in nursery school. It was during this time that Rabbi Glickman began his involvement with YU. He drove one of his sons to learn there on Sundays, and while he was waiting for his kid, he would pull out a text and learn in the beit midrash. Soon he found him self helping students, working with them, talking with them, and then that relationship became formalized. Eventually, he  became a rosh yeshiva at YU’s rabbinical school, RIETS, and he also taught at YU’s law school, Cardozo, and its business school, Sy Syms. Teaching was an addictive pleasure for Tony Glickman, and according to his students he had a gift for it. In an entirely separate world, “he was  very interested in �inanc e,” his s on Dov said. “He was an innovator in that space. He liked to say that he was one of the �irst people to work with spreadsheets on a

Wall Street trading desk. Now they are ubiquitous, but they weren’t then. “He was an early adaptor of technolo�y in general, for both personal and business use. He always could see around t he corner, see what would be big next. He was the �i rst person we knew to have a fax machine or a car phone or a cell phone. We had a personal computer at home probably around 1992. And he was early onto the internet. “His natural curiosity always pushed him to new ideas, wherever they came from — academia or the world of technolo�y.” He also had a real gift for music; he was self-taught, played mainly piano and guitar but could pick up other instruments as  well. “He “He had perfect perfect pitch pitch and the the ability ability to play by ear,” ear,” Dov continued. “He picked up a number of instruments — a harmonica, a recorder, whatever. “He always had a very strong connection to music; it brought together his reli gious and and musical musical interests. interests.”” He also wrote music. “He composed the music that accompanied my mother to the chuppah,” Dalia said. “My sisters walked down the aisle to the same scored piece.” That’s also where the CD, “Bain HaZ’manim,” came in. He wrote most of the music on that CD, his son Dov said. He made it with two friends; although it was never intended to be a money-making venture, it was popular in the Jewish world for years. Tony’s musical tastes ranged far beyond the Jewish music that he adored, and that spoke to his soul. “For friends, and just for fun, he was into a whole range of things,” Dov said. “Growing up when he did, he liked the Beatles, he liked Steely Dan. He liked soulful music — a lot of Motown, Mahalia Jackson, spirituals.” Was there anything that Rabbi Ozer Glickman couldn’t do? “He had no domes tic skills and he had no sense of style,” Ilana Glickman said. “We had to remind him to get a haircut. We made an odd-looking couple — but we made it work.” One of Tony Glickman’s passions was reaching out to people; he was active on Facebook, although often trolls would pursue him into closed groups. He developed many friendships that way; he would write  back to people who wrote to him with questions or comments that struck him, SEE GLICKMAN  PAGE 60

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here are words and ideas you study in the classroom, but you think you will never encounter them again after you graduate. Words and ideas that you are entirely sure you never will encounter for the rest of your life. Often you’re absolutely right. Until, one morning, decades after you irst heard terms like “elliptical” and “hyperbolic” in high school math class, there stands before you an accomplished professional, talking about his work, his career, and the crucial role those mathematical geometric concepts and their attendant equations play. Because he uses them to calculate the paths of spaceships headed to and from the planet Mars. Yes, it’s rocket science. But as Aaron Brown made clear to the assembled high school boys of the Torah Academy of Bergen County last week, rocket science and the design of manned missions to Mars is no longer science iction. It’s real. And it’s also a career you can pursue — assuming you’re willing to embark on a lifetime of actually using geometry and trigonometry and calculus — while being an observant Jew. Mr. Brown came to TABC in Teaneck as the keynote speaker for the high school’s annual Book Day, when the usual school schedule is cast aside for special speakers, discussions, and activities focusing on one  book that had be en assigned reading for the entire school. A committee of students  works over the the summer to pick that comcoming year’s book. This year’s choice was “The Martian” by Andy Weir. It’s the story, in the tradition of Robinson Crusoe, of an astronaut left for dead on Mars by colleagues who think him lost; they assume he died in the sandstorm that aborts their mission. In

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Left, arrow shows Aaron Brown’s seat in mission control. Above, “The Martian,” chosen for TABC Book Day.

fact, he is only unconscious. He awakens to the sound of the oxygen alarm going off in his space suit, pulls out the piece of metal that pierced his suit and leg, and heads back to the now empty base. Having ixed his spacesuit and saved his own life, he next discovers that his food  will run out before the next sched uled mission from earth, and that the radio antenna used to communicate with earth  was lost in the sand storm. Determined not to become the irst man to die on Mars, he sets about improvising  what he he needs to survive. survive. “There’s a wide variety of scientiically oriented ideas as well as psychological ideas in the book,” Dr. Carol Master said. Dr. Master chairs TABC’s English department and runs Book Day — which this year featured more than two dozen different sessions on topics ranging from physics to Jewish paradigms of self-reliance,, as well as presentations from self-reliance the Coast Guard and an Escape Room. “It’s a full day, one that’s very exciting for the students,” she said. “We bring in people who normally would not be here.”

Normally, Mr. Brown is in Houston. He  works at at NASA’s Lyndon Lyndon B. B. Johnson Johnson Space Center, part of the Orion project, which is  building a spacecraft spacecraft to send humans humans into into deep space — irst around the moon, then onto the moon, and then, sometime in the 2030s or 2040s, to Mars. Speciically, he works on Orion’s onboard navigation system. “If we don’t know where we are and  what speed we’re trav traveling, eling, we can’t can’t igur igure e out how to get where we’re going,” going,” he said. “Even if I know precisely where the moon or Mars is, I can’t guide the spacecraft to  get there. there.” ” To igure out where it is, the Orion will rely on GPS when it’s close to Earth. Further out, it tracks its position using celestial navigation — iguring out where it is in relation to the stars. So how does a spacecraft plot its course to Mars? “There’s a classic problem in orbital mechanics called an Earth-Mars transfer. transfer. It’s the kind of stuff I studied in c ollege and  grad school, school,” ” Mr. Mr. Brown, Brown, 41, said. said. This is when he showed the students an illustration of the planets, their orbits, and the path the spaceship would take. Describing the moment when the spaceship maneuvers from its orbit around the sun, which took it from Earth to Mars, to its new orbit around Mars, he said: “At this moment you can think of your orbit as being both a hyperbola and an ellipse. Hyperbolic in respect to earth, elliptical in respect to the sun.” And there you have it. High school math terms, used in real life. Speaking to the high school, Mr. Brown drew a broader lesson from this bit of orbital mechanics, which is known as patched conic analysis. “Holding these two contradictory pictures of the orbit in my mind is exactly

 what’s required required to get more to the the emes” — he used the Hebrew word for truth — “of the fuel that I need to switch orbits. This is analogous pretty much to any page of Talmud that you open. There’s a contradiction between two verses, or between a mishna and another text. In the Gemara  we ind a contradiction and the Gemara  works its way out of it. Here in patched conic analysis we work our way through it. “That skill of holding two contradictory  viewpoints in our mind at the time to get get to the emes is the same in both Gemara and patched conic analysis. The takeaway message is to practice this skill anywhere you ind a contradiction in life, whether in Talmud or science or relationships or politics. This method of holding these two contradictory points in our mind is often the only way to get to the emes. “NASA is very supportive of religious practice,”” Mr. Brown said. “I never expepractice, rienced any anti-Semitism or restriction of religious practice. “I often get questions at work from colleagues about Judaism. One of my good friends there, a mentor of mine, is a very devout Mormon. Not surprisingly, non Jews don’t really really know a lot of what what Judaism is about. I feel we have an obligation to know what we’re talking about when non Jews asks us questions questions about what Judaism is or what it believes.” Mr. Brown, who is from Peoria, Illinois, and later moved to Buffalo Grove, a suburb of Chicago, did not grow up observant. That might have made it easier to embark on his path to rocket science, which began  with attendin attending g space camp as a child. “I started on the path to observance from the questions I got when I was working in NASA,” he said. “It’s my non-Jewish  work environment that that helped me shape and enhance my Jewish identity. On a SEE SPACE  PAGE 56

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Never too old to act Brightview seniors supported Saturday’ Saturday’ss march ‘on canes and walkers’ LOIS GOLDRICH

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n Saturday, some 30 residents of the Brightview Senior Residence in Paramus — many  between the ages of 80 80 and and 90 — showed that advancing years have nothing to do with activism. Rena Bernstein — who originally was from Elmwood Park, then Fair Lawn, then Cape Canaveral, Florida — moved back to the area about a year ago, and she lives in Brightview now. “It’s taken me a while to get settled here again,” Ms. Bernstein, a former member of the now-defunct Fair Lawn chapter of American Jewish Congress, said. But clearly — though her AJCongress days are far behind her — Ms. Bernstein, 86, who helped organize a tenants association when she lived in Elm wood Park, still is speaking speaking truth to power power.. “About a week ago, after the shooting in Florida, I was aggravated by the lack of action by Congress regarding gun violence. It’s disgraceful that they haven’t done anything,”” she said, c iting Sandy Hook in C onthing, necticut as another example of a horri�ic

school shooting , and noting that nothing  was done done even even after kinderg kindergarten arten childr children en  were gunned gunned down. down. “A group of us were sitting and talking at dinner,” Ms. Bernstein said. “It nearly  brought me to tears. S ome of the people said, ‘What can you do?’ Then it hit me. We can do s omething.” What they could do, she said, was march in front of the Brightview on Saturday — carrying signs demanding an end to gun  violence — in solidarity with the people marching that day in Washington, D.C., in local towns from Englewood to Paramus and beyond, to Manhattan, to all over the country, all under the banner “March for Our Lives.” Ms. Bernstein explained that  given the physical frailty of some Bright view residents , who rely on walkers or canes, they would not be able to join a regular march. “We’re not as physically capable as we used to be,” she said. “But  we decided decided to do somethi something. ng.” ” One of her nephews sent Ms. Bernstein some poster board and other supplies. “We’ll write things like ‘Stop Gun Violence’ and ‘Stop the Killings in Our Schools,’”

Seniors rallied outside Brightview Senior Residence in Paramus.

she said. And those who were unable to  join the demonstration or choose not to still can write letters to their members of Congress, she added. The activist, who  was a speech therapist in Ridgewood for 19 years, also said “the idea of arming

teachers is ludicrous.” Ms. Bernstein took her idea for a rally to Samantha Lawrence, the executive director of Brightview Senior Living in Paramus, who offered her immediate support for the senior rally. “Being heard in this

Seniors against gun violence Residents of Jewish Home facilities in Rockleigh, River Vale rally; Schepisi, Gottheimer talk to them JOANNE PALMER

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he anti-gun-violence marches across the country on Saturday  were led by students, students, triggered triggered  by the horrendous murders of 17 students and teachers at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, last month. But the marches drew people of all ages; there also were marches and rallies on Friday and Sunday, as huge numbers of people in various circumstances tried to make their voices heard.  Just as rallies rallies brough broughtt people people togeth together er in Englewood, Paramus, and Hackensack — many of them observant Jews who trekked there on foot on Shabbat — local nursing homes and assisted and independent living communities also hosted meetings. Powered by residents who were not  willi ng to let their voice s go unhe ard, the Jewish Home in Rockleigh and Jewish Home Assisted Living in River Vale — both part of the Jewish Home Family — held meetings where local politicians joined in discussion. “We had a very nice turnout on both campuses,” the Jewish Home Family’s president and CEO, Carol Silver Elliott, 12 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

The day after the rally in Rockleigh, Josh Gottheimer (D-Dist 5) talked at a March for our Lives rally in Hackensack.

said. “Probably 150 people at Rockleigh and 100 at River Vale. “We began with a moment of silence, and then the rabbis on each campus led us in kaddish. And then on each campus we had a conversation with a legislator.” Holly Schepisi of River Vale, the

Republican who represents the 39th district in New Jersey’s general ass embly, spoke at River Vale, and Josh Gottheimer, the Democrat who represents the state’s �ifth district in Congress, spoke at Rockleigh. “At Rockleigh, there was a lot of con versation about gun control in gen eral,

and also questions of whether we are safe on the campus,” Ms. Elliott said. “On the other campus they got very quickly into the question of school safety and arming teachers. There are a few retired teachers there, so it was a hot-button issue. They said that they were in school to be teachers, not patrolmen. “The discussions went beyond limiting  guns to understanding understanding what leads leads people to violence, and about bullying, and where  bullyin  bull ying g pla plays ys a rol role e in in gun vio violenc lence. e. We als also o talked about how high suicide rates are. “It was a very powerful discussion on  both camp campuses, uses,” she she said. said. Given the laws of physics, and the fact that both discussions were at the same time, she could be at only one of them, she said; she was in River Vale, but got near-constant texts from Rockleigh. Residents in both facilities “read the news and watch the news, probably more than most people, and they have strong opinions,” she said. Helene Glantz, who is 88, was born in Passaic, and moved to River Vale from Monroe Township, thought of the meeting. At �irst, she’d hoped for a rally, but “Carol said it would be dif�icult, dif�icult,”” and she agreed. “We have people in wheelchairs, and I’m in a

Local  world has no age limit, limit,”” Ms. Lawrence said. “I am so proud to be a part of this community where our resi dents live vibrantly, and this activism is a truly beautiful example of their passion for making a difference. Ellie Berg of Fair Lawn, also a longtime member of the Fair Lawn AJCongress, said that engaging in protests is nothing new for members of the organization. Off the top of her head, she gave a few examples and recalled a surveillance project, launched together with the Fair Lawn police and the now-defunct Fair Lawn  Jewish  Jewis h Community Community Council Council,, to catch those peopl people e vanvandalizing local Jewish institutions. (This writer remem bers standi standing ng in in the the shadow shadowss of Congr Congregati egation on Shomrei Shomrei Torah at midnight, holding a walkie-talkie and looking out for would-be vandals.) “In 1968, Fair Lawn AJCongress protested the Board of Education’s intention to cancel its contract  with the Fair Fair Lawn Committee Committee for Peace in Vietnam,  which had invited the famous pediatrician Dr. Benjamin Spock to speak at the Thomas Jefferson School,” Ms. Berg said. “Fair Lawn united its veterans groups — unfortunately including Jewish War Vets — and noti�ied the FBI and the John Birch Society to encourencour age the cancellation of the event. While AJCongress didn’t offer an opinion on the war — although we had a stand — our purpose was to support Spock’s right to speak. He did speak, with the FBI on the roof of the school ‘protecting’ the citizens. “Another example is when the Borough of Fair Lawn began displaying the Nativity scene. AJCon gress protested, res ulting in strong negative pub licity, letters to the editor, etc., but somehow we established a relationship with St. Anne’s Church, which

— on the following Rosh Hashanah — placed a greeting ad in the Fair Lawn community newspaper. The Jewish community reciprocated at Christmas. “What I think is important is the power to protest, and prior to that, to be organized, so that when the need is there, we have the ability to act fast,” Ms. Berg said. “Just because of our age, it doesn’t mean not that we’re not interested in the world around us and the lives of our children,” Ms. Bernstein added. She is discouraged by the current political situation, she noted, but is heartened by the fact that Republicans who have resigned from Congress and won’t run again �inally are speaking out. “I’m hoping now that they can convince enough people to do something,” she said.

From left, Rena Bernstein, Rosalie Blumenthal, and Doris Hambro organized the rally at Brightview on Saturday.

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RABBINICAL  SUPPORTER AWARD  walker..” But  walker But she want wanted ed some somethin thing g far far mor more e activ active e than than a letter-writing campaign, although she’d participated in many such campaigns and plans to keep on writing. “The memorial service was beautiful, beautiful,”” she said. And many people, not all residents, came to the rally. “It was  very rewa rewardin rding, g, and and very very good good to know tha thatt I stil stilll could could pull it together. together.”” Mr. Gottheimer was impressed by what he saw, both at Rockleigh and in Hackensack and around the country. “I was moved by the fact that older people in Rockleigh  were  wer e coming coming tog togethe etherr, and and they they had some goo good d signs, signs, a really good show of support for the young people and  what they are are doing, doing,”” he said. said. “It is is remarkabl remarkably y inspirinspiring, no matter what your views are. The fact that young people are engaged and passionate about an issue gives me hope for tomorrow. “We talked about that at Rockleigh. It was not just a desire to remember the lives lost but to show support for the young people engaged in action.” And then, he said, “It was incredible in Hackensack. There were 2,000 people there. I was blown away by it. It was inspiring, and these young people were incredible  both in what what they had to say say and and in how they deli deliver vered ed it, in how compentent and smart they are. “I think there would be appetite for the right legislation, crafted the right way,” way,” he continued. There clearly is a desire for more background checks and in closing the gun show loophole, but I think the best tool in making it happen right now is for these young people to keep banging the drum for change, to stop school violenc e. e.”” Mr.. Gottheimer is a big proponent of across-the-aisle Mr dialogue and compromise, and he believes the will to make some compromises and end up with some changes exists. It just has to be nurtured.

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A different desert, a different slavery  Jewi  J ewish sh wo woman man wil willl spea speak k abou aboutt her her esca escape pe from Ira Iran n LOIS GOLDRICH

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n late 1982, a 17-year-old Jewish girl from Iran fled from her home, crossed the hot and dan gerous Kavira Loot desert, spent several months months in Pakistan, and then arrived in Canada, where she lives today. If crossing the desert to reach freedom sounds like a familiar motif at t his time of year, Dr. Dr. Sima Goel — keenly aware of the biblical story — feels that she too left behind a symbol of slavery. In her case, it was the hijab that the Khomeini government forced her to wear. The Jewish people should be a light unto the nations, the prophets tell us. Dr. Goel — who has more reason than most to embrace the teaching in the Haggadah that tells us that we should feel as if we personally went out of Eypt — believes that she too has a mission, “to tell this story, the story of what it means to be a Jew.” Jew.” The author of “Fleeing the Hijab: A Jewish Woman’s Escape from Iran,” Dr. Goel — who will speak about her life at a meeting of the Bergen County section of the National Council of Jewish Women in Teaneck on April 17 (see box) — experienced her irst taste of antiSemitism when she was 6. “I was playing in a park with other girls,” girls,” she said. “One mother asked my name and realized that it was not ethnic Muslim. She grabbed her daughter and called me names like ilthy and impure.” As Dr. Goel wrote in a 2015 essay that appears on the AISH.com website, “As a child of Iran in the late 1970s, I was taught to keep my head down and my mouth shut. I was free to be Jewish as long as I was discreet and silent. My father encouraged me to follow these dictates, which had supported the existence of Iran’s  Jewish community for thousands of years. Every mem ber of an Iran ian mino rity knew that the freed om to live — and even flourish — was predicated on remaining small and silent.” That, however, was something she could not do. As she wrote, “As an Iranian Jew, my desire to be free impelled me to leave my family and heritage, and travel a dangerous road to a country where I could Who: Dr. Sima Goel, author of “Fleeing the Hijab:

A Jewish Woman’s Escape from Iran” What: Will speak at a general meeting of the Bergen

County section of the National Council of Jewish Women When: On April 17 at 12:30 p.m. Where: At Temple Emeth, 1666 Windsor Rd., Teaneck Cost: Free for members, $10 for non-members,

applicable toward new membership if paid that day. For more information on this meeting, or on NCJW BCS and its upcoming programs, email [email protected], call (201) 385-4847, or go to http://www.ncjwbcs.org.

study, speak out, and be a Jew.” Growing up in Iran, life was “okay,” “okay, ” she said . “We always had Shabbat dinner, celebrated the holidays, and my father went to synagogue.” Still, she said, “we knew something was not right,  but we lived with it.” it.” As it happens, an incident at her school — and Dr. Goel’s spontaneous defense of a fellow student who was being bullied — set in motion the events that led to her flight years later. Relations between the students at the private school — who represented many religious — were amicable until extremists in Shiraz took it upon themselves Dr. Sima Goel to cause unrest, said Dr. Goel, now a practicing chiropractor in Montreal. After the extremists burned many homes in the Baha’i community, one of her classmates taunted a Baha’i friend during a game of volleyball, “saying it  was a pity that her house house had not been burned as well. well.” ” Challenging the bully, Dr. Goel pointed out that “anyone who truly followed the teachings of the prophet Mohammed would know that his name means peace and tolerance. “This is not really Islam,” she said. Dr. Goel was suspended from school for three days. The bully went unpunished. That was not surprising, she said. “People were scared and wanted to make sure they didn’t get in trouble.” After the government changed — when the Shah was deposed — “we were told to wear the hijab,” Dr. Goel said. “When they’re in the majority, everybody has to follow their rules. They think they have the keys to the kingdom.” And yes, Jewish women were forced to wear the restrictive garb, just like their Muslim neighbors. When a close friend of hers was arrested, she told Dr. Goel’s mother that her daughter was on the blac klist as well. After six months in hiding, she said, her mother gave her into the care of smugglers, calling her existence as it was “a living death.” She is still moved  by her mother’s bravery, Dr. Goel said, and feels t hat she is what she is today because of it. Why Canada and not the United States? “At the time, I didn’t have a passport, and Canada was the only place that  was open, open,” ” she said. “Also, “Also, it was was shortly shortly after after the the hostage hostage crisis,” and America did not look kindly on Iranians. Dr. Goel feels she has to talk about her experience, especially to young people, so that they will not take for  granted the freedom freedom they enjoy in in the United States States and Canada. “Our grandparents, or great-grandparents, paid

a price for that,” she said. “I had to risk my life to get where I am. God never gives us a problem we cannot solve,” she added. “Sometimes I wish he didn’t trust us so much.” Dr. Goel said that when one of her two sons, who now are 20 and 21, began reading her book, he accused her of being a “trou blemaker..” When she pointed  blemaker pointed out out to him that he had easy access to all the things she had to ight for, he eventually came to understand. “It puts things in perspective,” she said. “Gratitude is the way to go,” she added, noting that this is an important message for “apathetic youth, upset because they’re not  getting the latest sunglasses. You can’t be complacent,” she said. “If you don’t take action, you will be walked all over. Nobody should be complacent about freedom.” Calling Dr. Goel a “master storyteller,” Elizabeth Halverstam, co-president of NCJW’s Bergen County section, said the speaker “will take us on a journey that speaks to the power of resilience and courage…. [sharing] her belief that an authentic life requires freedom of choice, the most precious commodity of all.”

 As an Iran Iranian ian  Jew, my desir de sire e to be free impelled me to leave my family and heritage, and travel trav el a dangerous  road  roa d to t o a cou countr ntry y where I could study,  speak  spea k out, o ut, and  be a Jew. J ew. Dr. Goel said she has an active Facebook presence and writes many articles. “It’s my way of giving back,” she said. She also travels to speak for schools, organizations, and conferences. “We have to guard our freedom and our values,” she said. “If we don’t, we’ll be in trou ble. What legacy will we leave for the next generation?” generation?”

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 The Andy Statman Trio  T rio  Come join us for an exciting afternoon of music with this acclaimed, multi-instrumentalist musician and his trio. Advance ticket sales through Thursday, April 28: $35 VIP seating + meet and greet: $100 Tickets at the door: $40 · Concert starts at 3:30 pm Special group pricing available. For ticket info, call 201-262-7691 or go to www.jccparamus.org

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Norpac hosts Congressman Peter Roskam in Teaneck On March 18, Yael and Rabbi Steven Weil hosted a Norpac pro-Israel meeting featuring Congressman Peter Roskam (R�IL) at their Teaneck home. Mr. Roskam is the chair of the Ways and Means subcommittee on tax policy and the House Democracy Partnership, and he also is co-chair of the House

Republican Israel caucus and the  bip ar ti san ta sk fo rce for com bat ing anti-Semitism. He is a member of the  bipart isan Israel Allie s Cauc us an d the Congressional  Hellenic Israel Alliance. He is serving his sixth term in the U.S. House of Representatives and is running for re-election this year.

Bayonne shul to honor Marc Mutterperl On Sunday, April 29, Temple Emanu-El of Bayonne will honor Marc Mutterperl at its annual Spring Fling. Mr. Mutterperl  will be recognized recognized for his his many years years of  generosity and dedication dedication to the Jewish Jewish community. A shul member for many years, he has served Emanu-El’s mem bership in many many capacities. capacities. His many talents include his catering abilities, which stem back to his parents. For many years, he and his family have

catered many events and festivities in Bayonne and other towns. The annual Spring Fling, chaired by Dr. Joseph Ryan, will be at the syna gogue, 735 Kennedy Boulevard in Bayonne, at 4:30 p.m. Entertainment includes a DJ and an opera cabaret by the Montclair Opera Company. For information, call (201) 436�4499 or email [email protected].

Thursday, April 12 Thursday, 12  3:000 – 7:0  3:0 7:000 p.m. p.m. Student Center, Pitkin Education Center  400 Paramus Road, Paramus Prospective students, families and community Prospective members are invited to join us for an expansive 50th anniversary open house designed to showcase all that Bergen has to offer.

Explore the campus-wide event offering: Demonstrations • Workshops • Tours and exhibits For more information, visit www.bergen.edu/openhouse or email the Office of Admissions at [email protected].

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Glen Rock rabbi celebrates cel ebrates  bat mitvzah mi tvzah anniversary Earlier this month, the Glen Rock Jewish Center celebrated the 25th anniversary of Rabbi Jennifer Schlosberg’s bat mitz vah. At the traditional Shabbat service, the rabbi chanted Torah and haftarah.

An evening celebration included a catered dinner, a silent auction, and live music from the GRJC house band Macaroon Five.

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Rockland Heading home The tale of Team Israel to open in Rockland on April 3 ELLIOT RUBIN

Going back to Hank Greenberg in the early part of the 20th century, Jews have, for one reason or another, been subject to  various  vari ous forms forms of discrim discrimina ination tion in baseb baseball. all. Whether it was the blatant anti-Semitism Greenberg faced in the 1930s and ‘40s, or more recently, recently, the stigma that Jews are not  good  goo d athle athletes, tes, it has alw always ays been dif� dif�icul icultt for for  Jewish  Jewi sh pla players yers to �it in. A new �ilm, “Heading Home: The Tale of Team Israel,” created by MLB baseball  writer Jonathan Jonathan Mayo Mayo in partnership partnership with with Ironbound Films, may help change some of these perceptions. “Heading Home” tells the story of under dog Team Israel’s inspirational journey to Israel and its run in the 2017 World Baseball Classic in Seoul, South Korea. One of Team Israel’s pitchers, Corey Baker, grew up and attended Hebrew school in New City. In the qualifying round for the WBC, Baker threw

�ive shutout innings, striking out six in a 1�0  victory ove  victory overr Braz Brazil. il. He thr threw ew 83 pit pitches ches,, two two fewer than the maximum number allowed. He is one of the players who appears in the �ilm, which will open at the 15th Annual International Jewish Film Festival in RockRock land County on April 3. “Team Israel and the �ilm show that you can be a really good baseball player and you can be proud of being Jewish,” Mr. Mayo said. Team Israel was ranked 41st in the world before the WBC began, and it was �illed by players whom one writer described as “wannabes and has-beens,” yet those players managed to defeat some of the best teams in the tournament, including South Korea, the Netherlands, and Cuba. “Over the years, I’ve interviewed a ton of Jewish baseball players, and often would talk to them about embracing being known as a Jewish baseball player even if they didn’t really identify beyond that in terms of their Judaism,” Judais m,” Mr. Mr. Mayo said; he’s always

Corey Baker signs autographs in New York.

found that approach interesting. He always has been fascinated with learning which sports �igures are Jewish. Mr. Mayo created the �ilm with Jeremy Newberger, Daniel A. Miller, and Seth Kramer of Ironbound Films. Mr. Miller, Mr. Newberger, and Mr. Mayo have been friends

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Mr. Miller said that most of the team never had an opportunity to experience Israel as Mr. Mayo and the directors had. Suddenly the world was interested in Team Israel when it quali�ied and the team found itself among the top 16 teams, he said. At that point, the �ilm about Team Israel’s journey became signi�icant. “Hearing about the challenges these players encountered as Who: Directors Seth Kramer, Daniel A.

Miller, and Jeremy Newberger What: Will speak at the Hudson Valley

premiere of “Heading Home: The Tale of Team Israel” When: On Tuesday, April 3, at 7:15 p.m. Where: At the Regal Cinemas, 5101 Fash-

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 Jews in in their their careers careers and then seeing them connect with their faith and homeland during the making of this �ilm was fascinating,” Mr. Miller said. “I think that being with Team Israel and connecting to the people who were following along on our journey was really special,” Mr. Baker said. “This trip really increased my sense of pride.” Though many players on the team never had been to Israel, Mr. Baker had been there. He’d gone on Birthright Israel. “I knew we had a good team talent-wise, and the trip gave us a little more meaning about what we were playing for,” Mr. Baker said. Asked about the future, he added, “I think there are ways we can get involved  with the Israel Israel Associ Associatio ation n of Baseba Baseball, ll, and and that is something that is important to me and to several of my teammates.” Mr. Mayo hopes that Team Israel’s success will help grow the sport in Israel and that future teams will be made up entirely of native Israelis. The IAB is planning to build two more baseball �ields with WBC tournament earnings and donations from the Jewish National Fund.

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Rockland celebrates Israel’s 70th A community celebration to Rockland County, “This event mark Israel’s 70th year as a  will cele celebrat brate e the the mira miracle cle of the nation and homeland of the modern state of Israel and all it  Jewish  Jewis h people people will will be be held on has accomplished in its short Sunday, April 15, from 10 a.m. life. Jewish Federation has to 2 p.m., at the Rockland Jew been part part of Israel’ Israel’ss story and ish Community Campus, in success from the beginning West Nyack. and we are looking forward to Ralph Nurnberger Nurnberger The celebratory event a future of growth and trementremenincludes the Israel Journey dous accomplishment.” interactive interactiv e educational experience, activThe Israel Journey interactive educational ities for kids, a petting zoo, and shopexperience is a joint effort of the Rockland ping at an Israeli shuk (marketplace). At County Board of Rabbis, local synagogues synagogues,, 11, Ralph Nurnberger, a political advisor and Rockland’s Jewish agencies. Rabbi and professor, will discuss “Israel @70:  Jeremy Ruberg, Ruberg, president president of the Board Board of What to Worry About, What to Celebrate, Celeb rate,”” Rabbis, said, “This is an opportunity for sponsored by Development Corporation all of us to show our support and celebrate for Israel/Israel Bonds. At noon, attendees the miracle of the State of Israel. Rockland’s  will enjoy live live music music from Israband Israband percongregations are looking forward to celeforming high-ener�y pop hits from Israel.  brating  brati ng with the entir entire e commun community ity..” Israeli dancing is at 1 p.m., led by dance The Jewish Federation & Foundation of instructor Karin Sachs. Israeli food is for Rockland also is celebrating Israel’s 70th sale during the celebration. anniversary with the Legacy Journey to According to Gary Siepser, CEO of Israel, from October 17 to 24. Go to www. the Jewish Federation & Foundation of  jewis  jewishroc hrocklan kland.org d.org/jou /journey rney.

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Do We Tell These Stories? Connecting the Holocaust with Humanity.” Ms. Smith is part of a new generation of Holocaust speakers who share life stories from their parents’ �irst-hand experiences. She is a member and speaker for the Oregon & Washington Holocaust Speakers Bureau, a regular speaker for the Anti-Defamation League, the Bearing Witness program, and the Jewish Federation of North America. The Justice Brandeis Law Society has a Yom HaShoah commemoration

on Wednesday, April 11, at 3 p.m., in the Rockland County Courthouse, Jury Room, 2nd Floor, 1 South Main St., in New City. Alexander Levy is the keynote speaker. Bring a photo ID. For informa tion, call (845) 574�4099, or email awino grad@ho  grad @holoca locaustst uststudie udies.org s.org.. Events are hosted by the Holocaust Museum & Center for Tolerance and Education in Suffern. Call (845) 5744099 or go to holocauststudies.org. SEE MORE ROCKLAND  PAGE 55

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As our readers begin their celebrations of Pesach with seders on Friday and Saturday nights, we offer glimpses of the holiday locally and from around the Jewish world.

A tour guide uncovers Passover secrets in the Met Museum’s Egyptian wing  DEBRA NUSSBAUM COHEN

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have roamed the Metropolitan Museum of Art’s E�yptian wing many times, marveling at sarcophagi, statues of Horus and Ra, and portraits of young men on ancient panels  who gaze back at visitors, looking shockingly familiar and contemporary. But on a Sunday just before Passover, I viewed the artifacts as I’d never before seen them: through the lens of the Exodus story, which we retell each year through reading the Haggadah. Nachliel Selavan, a Jewish educator and self-taught museum guide whose specialty is looking at Jewish texts and history through ancient artifacts, guided a group of about 20 of us through the E�ypt section, pausing at statues, carvings, and the Book of the Dead scroll. Before we set off he distributed source sheets with canonical Jewish texts in Hebrew and English. For more than two hours, Selavan connected items and ideas mentioned in the texts  with the the artifacts artifacts on view view.. Selavan had us look at a passage from Deuteronomy in which Moses details what  will befall the Israelit Israelites es if they don’t live up to their end of the covenant with God. We looked through cases at the Met displaying little replicas of E�yptian life discovered in the tombs of embalmed rulers, intended to accompany the deceased on their journeys to the afterlife. In the Bible, the Israelites are told they will be flattened  by insufferable ailments and curses, and that when the Lord “will bring you back 22 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

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The Temple Temple of Dendur is one of the Metropolitan Museum of Art’s most well-known artifacts.

in boats to E�ypt,” they will be so undesirable they can’t even sell themselves back into slavery. Selavan pointed inside one of the ancient dioramas to show what those  boats would would have have looked looked like. “The Jewish people and Tanach do not

exist in a vacuum,” Selavan, using a term meaning the Hebrew Bible, said after the tour. “Understanding the context for the text is key to our identity. Artifacts help us realize that ‘oh wow, wow, these were real people.’ “What was daily life like for regular

Philistines or regular Israelites? What were they seeing as they traded and mingled  with anothe anotherr culture? culture? When you see see matematerial culture like this, it makes it real.” Selavan brought us to several examples of reliefs carved with the names of the

OVER  yeshiva of Hadar, the egalitarian Torah learning center based in Manhattan. Last year Hadar brought its 45 summer fellows to the Met for a tour  with Selavan. They were studyi ng Avodah Zara, a Talmud tractate on idol worship, and they saw examples of what the Talmud discusses. “It was great to go around with someone with knowledge of Jewish sources and material sources on display at the Met,” Tucker said. “I found it to be very enriching. One of    N    E the struggles of being in a culture so    H    O    C focused on text is you can forget texts    M    U are talking about things in the real    A    B    S  world. For institutions centered on    S    U    N the beit midrash [study hall], to get    A    R out into a museum raises the quality    B    E    D and intensity of the experience. Nachliel Selevan at the Selavan is one of a handful of peoMetropolitan Museum of Art. ple and companies offering private  Jewish tours at at major art museums. museums. E�yptian ruler, or paro/pharaoh, notDavid Thomas, associate coordinaing how important names were to tor of groups and visitor services at them. In Hebrew, he noted, the Book the Met, said the museum does not of Exodus is known as Shemot, or disclose the number of tours led by names, which begins with the names outside guides like Selavan. of the sons of the patriarch Jacob, “I’m not aware of any other tour  who went down to E�ypt with their  gui des who off er Jew ish -th eme d father and their own families. tours, but there may be some,” “It was very interesting to see Thomas said. “Many synagogues, uniactual artifacts, representations of  versities, and other Jewish organizaorganiza words we see in the Torah Torah,,” said Lori tions also bring groups.” Leifer, 37, a Yiddish singer and comSelavan grew up in the Jewish Quarputer database programmer who ter of Jerusalem’s Old City, the son describes herself as Conservadox. of a rabbi who was also a tour guide She heard about the tour through and archaeologist. He was educated Chulent, a WhatsApp group for at yeshivas; he discusses references  Jews who h ave lef t Or thodox comfrom Mishna comfortably with a Satmunities. Everyone else on the tour mar chasid on his tour but dresses appeared to be Orthodox, including more like a Brooklyn hipster. Asked several charedim. how he identi�ies religiously, Selavan The Exodus tour is one of �ive Jewreplied, “I’m on the Orthodox specish tours Selavan offers at the Met trum, but not sure where I �it.” through his company, Torah IntermeLike the Met’s galleries, Selavan’s dia. Another focuses on artifacts from  journey took a winding route. After the time of the Maccabee revolt and yeshiva, Selavan, now 34, began is oriented toward Chanukah. More teaching the Brazilian martial art Passover-themed tours are planned called capoeira around Israel. At 25 for the festival’s intermediate days. he earned an undergraduate degree “When you’re able to not just learn at a Jerusalem teachers’ college and a text but see the stuff it’s talking in 2013 he came to the United States about, the learning goes to a whole to teach. In his second year teaching Bible other level,” Rabbi Ethan Tucker said at the Netivot Montessori Yeshiva in an interview. Tucker is the president and rosh SEE MET  PAGE 28

A plum on the seder plate RABBI JOSHUA S. FINKELSTEIN

people should see themselves as an outsider in our communities. In our discussion, I mentioned that there ach year in our Passover Haggaare many �issures in our world. Some peodah, we read, “In every generation ple have used the seder plate as a platform  we are obligated to see ourselves to highlight these fractures, and they use as people who came out of E�ypt.” the holiday of Passover as motiThis oft-quoted statement can  vation to help heal our world. mean many things, but at its People have used a banana to core it reminds us that each of highlight the plight of refugees. us should develop a meaningOthers have used cashews to ful personal connection to the remind us of our need to supmessage of Passover. The rituals port our troops, who are conof the Passover seder can seem tinuing to battle extremism intimidating, but the intimacy of around the world. I urged everya family setting allows us opporone to think of what redemption tunity to search for and seek meant to them this year, living as meaning in this celebration of Rabbi Joshua we are in a world of uncertainty, liberation and survival. Finkelstein fear, and political division. Recently, I led a Passover workshop at the Montebello Jewish Center, sponOne of the members of the synagogue sored by our sisterhood. At this workshop, made a suggestion. In light of my comment I urged everyone to augment their seders of political division, she suggested that we  with new rituals. There are so many new place a plum on the seder plate this year. songs and readings that can be found online In a world where too often people see a red and in books, and many of them can enliven America and a blue America, a purple plum any seder. In addition, there are a plethora should remind us that there is only one of activities and strategies people can bring America — purple, of course, is the combinato their celebrations. tion of red and blue. One of the many new rituals that has This year there will be a purple plum on  become popular popular in many many homes is the prespresmy seder plate, somewhere near the shank ence of an orange on the seder plate. The  bone and and the roasted roasted egg. egg. Whether you chose a plum or an orange story behind it is that someone once said that or something else to put on your seder a woman belongs on the bimah as much as plate, I encourage everyone this year to an orange belongs on a seder plate. The story ask what Passover means to you, and take is apocryphal, but the symbolism is meaninga few moments to share that at your Passful. An orange on a seder plate is acknowlover seder. edgement of the alienation many people felt from our tradition. By putting an orange on  Joshua S. Finkelstein Finkelstein is the the rabbi of the our plates, we are making a symbolic state Montebello Jewish Center Center in Suffern. Suffern. ment that no one who wants to be part of our

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Spanish university’s first seder is organized by American students MARGARITA GOKUN SILVER MADRID — Every Passover, Danielle Elliott joins her parents in Chicago. She helps prepare charoset, delights in her mom’s elaborate Passover decorations, and enjoys spending the holiday with her family. But this year Elliott will be recounting the story of the  Jews’ exodus from E�ypt E�ypt several several thousand miles away from home. She’ll be in Spain — and she is organizing the �irst Passover seder at the Universidad Camilo José Sela in Villafranca del Castillo, a town on this capital cit y’s outskirts. Elliott is a Fulbright scholar working as an English lan guage assistant in the university’s �ilm and criminolo�y departments. She �irst thought of organizing a seder for her students in December, when she realized how little they knew about a people who had been an integral part of Spain for so many centuries — that is, until they were expelled in 1492. The idea “blew me away,” Elliott said. She pitched it to administrators and the university embraced it. After “Danielle explained what a seder is (since none of us besides Danielle have ever attended a seder and didn’t know exactly what it entailed), it was approved immediately and everyone present at the meeting was very interested in contributing in whatever way they could,” Amy Baxter Mertzlufft, the academic adviser of the Language

Yael Cobano, left, is the president of the Reform Community of Madrid. MARGARITA GOKUN SILVER

Lab and the Fulbright program coordinator at the university, wrote in an email. By the time Elliott approached the university, she and another Fulbright scholar, McCall Wells, had been spearheading the Intercultural Club, an initiative they put together at the school’s request.

“We are trying to establish a more international, intercultural feeling at the university,” Elliott said. “There are students from all over the world, but there isn’t much of a community for them,” Wells added. With the goal of creating closer connections among different cultures, Elliott and Wells have organized such activities as Write for Rights, the Amnesty International letter-writing campaign, and a cookie-decorating fund raiser to bene�it Black Lives Matter. The next logical step for the club was an interfaith seder  with a freedom freedom and human human rights theme. Elliott and Wells Wells are calling it “Seder para la Comunidad Global: En la Búsqueda de la Libertad” (Seder for Global Community: In Search of Freedom). Elliott modeled the concept on a similar event at her alma mater, Northwestern University, in which she participated last year. “Two of my friends who were involved in Hillel held a Refugee Freedom seder and invited immigrant and refu gee community community centers,” centers,” Elliott said. Armed Armed with advice and materials from the organizers of that seder — Elliott is translating the Haggadah they used into Spanish — and  with the support of of the university university and and the Reform Reform Jewish Jewish Community of Madrid, Danielle and Wells are re-creating the experience at the Universidad Camilo José Sela. The Reform Community of Madrid is Elliott’s synagogue  while she is in Spain. Spain. “At “At the the beginning beginning of my my time here in in SEE SPAIN PAGE 30

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In every generation  A Reading Reading for Pesac Pesach h 5778*  5778*  Rabbi Barry L. Schwartz 

This flier is promoting an interfaith seder with a freedom and human rights theme to be held at the Universidad Camilo José Sela, a suburb of Madrid. UNIVERSIDAD CAMILO JOSÉ SELA

In every generation/We generation/We come out of Egypt. Let freedom ring. In every generation/We generation/We stand up to Pharaoh. Let freedom ring. In every generation/We part the waters. Let freedom ring. In every generation/We march toward the Promised Land. Let freedom ring. In every generation/We teach our chi ldren. Let freedom ring. In every generation/Our children teach us. Let freedom ring. Rabbi Barry L. Schwartz In every generation/We generation/We march for our lives. Let freedom ring. In this generation/Columbine, Sandy Hook, Virginia Tech/We march for our lives. Let freedom ring. In this generation/Orlando, Las Vegas, Parkland We march for our lives. Let freedom ring. In this generation/Two generation/Two hundred sixty five million guns fill our country We march for our lives. Let freedom ring. In this generation/Ninety seven souls die from gun violence each and every day. day. We march for our lives. Let freedom ring. In this generation/Young generation/Young and old, black and white, Jew and gentile…said enough; enough. Let freedom ring. *Participants at the seder are invited to echo the repeating lines.

 Barry L. Schwartz Schwartz is directo directorr of the Jewish Publication Publication Society Society in Philadelph Philadelphia ia and the the rabbi of of Congregation Adas Emuno in Leonia.

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How matzah became a household How item for non-Jews in the Netherlands CNAAN LIPHSHIZ ENSCHEDE, NETHERLANDS — For most matzah bakeries, Passover is a lifeline, its only hold on �inancial viability. But after the weeklong holiday, during which Jews are commanded to consume matzah to commemorate their ancestors’ hurried flight out of E�ypt, demand for the famously tasteless cracker drops sharply. Except, that is, in the Netherlands. A centuries-old and proud Jewish community here has made matzah a household product that is sold in supermarkets and consumed year-round by millions of non Jews, who who swear by it as their their breakfast breakfast bread bread of choice. choice. That’s one reason why Pieter Heijs, a co-owner of Hollandia Matzes in this eastern city, probably is the only matzah maker in the world who braces for losses, not earnings, during Passover. Almost all the pro�its of his matzah bakery — the only one in Holland — comes from sales to non-Jews; his product lacks the “kosher for Passover” cer ti�ication. But for four weeks before Passover, Hollandia also produces kosher-for-Passover kosher-for -Passover matzah, which “costs more to make than what we get for it,” Heijs said. The factory, which produces about 40 million matzah crackers annually, also makes small amounts of shmurah

Still, Heijs remains committed to making matzah that is kosher for Passover. “It’s a matter of tradition, and it means a great deal to me,”” said Heijs, who is not Jewish. “Even if it comes at me, the expense of our pro�it margins, we will continue to produce Passover kosher matzah for as long as we can.” The losses, however, are dwarfed by the boom in Hollandia’s sales during Easter, which often coincides with Passover. On the Christian holiday, millions of Dutch buy and eat matzah as part of a nationwide tradition that testi�ies to centuries of Jewish influence on the general    I population.    H    S A liberal nation that was home to one of Europe’s most    H    P    I    L illustrious Jewish communities before that community’s    N    A near annihilation by the Nazis and their collaborators    A    N    C during the Holocaust, the Netherlands has other examA shopper browses for matzah at the Amsterdam ples of interfaith borrowings (take the oliebol, a deepNoord branch of the Jumbo supermarket chain. fried winter snack in Holland that many trace back to the Chanukah doughnut called sufganiyah). matzah, a variant matzah specialty that is even costlier Such carryovers perhaps were possible in the Neth because of its stringent stringent adherence adherence to the kosher rules. rules. To erlands partly because many Protestant Christians here prevent even the hint of leavening, the wheat and flour emphasize the Hebrew Bible over the New Testament. But, as Heijs said, “it’s because Dutch Jews were so intenever come into contact with moisture, from the time the  wheat is harvested until the dough is kneaded and the  grated into the the fabric of society. society.” sheets are baked. The matzah became a year-round household food in

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Passover  recent decades as supermarket supermarketss replaced smaller grocery stores, according to Jonah Freud. In 2012, Freud published a book about the Dutch Jewish cuisine based on her research for the Jewish Historical Museum of Amsterdam. “I think it may be connected to how matzah is perceived as healthy,” Freud said. Heijs concurs. “Many of our clients want matzah  because it’s it’s such such a pure pure product, product,”” he said. said. “No additives, no conservatives, highly nutritious. What more can you ask of a health food?” In an overture to the health-food crowd, one of the �irst moves Heijs and his busibusi ness partner, Udo Karsemeijer, who also is not Jewish, made after they bought Hollandia in 2004 was to add an organic matzah product to the lineup. The bakery’s products now include matzahs in two sizes, a whole wheat variety, and one with spice herbs. Hollandia now exports products to Scandinavia, Germany, Germany, and even France,  where several matz ah bakeries compete for a market with 500,000 Jews. Heijs and Karsemeijer bought the Hollandia factory from a Jewish family named Woudstra. The founding family built the

factory in Enschede because it had a large  Jewis h commun ity, and bec ause thousands of Jews who fled from the Nazis in nearby Germany made their way to the eastern Netherlands. When the Nazis invaded in 1940, the Woudstras went into hiding, and the Nazis closed down Hollandia. Before the invasion, the Netherlands had several matzah bakeries, according to the Dutch Bakers’ Museum. Among the  best known and oldest was the De Haan  bakery in the picturesque �ishing village of Marken, north of Amsterdam. It operoper ated only before Passover, and after the last matzah was baked each year, De Haan employees would march through the village, dressed in white sheets, as music played and they ceremoniously would extinguish the ovens. One of the production line machines inside Hollandia, a state-of-the-art factory  with 18 employees who work year-round inside a three-story building, dates back to 1924. Inside the room where it now operates, the local Jewish community briefly ran a Jewish school for the children who  were expelled expelled from from the general general education education system under the Nazis. The Germans killed 75 percent of

Pieter Heijs shows one of the products of his Hollandia Matzes factory in Enschede, the Netherlands. CNAAN LIPHSHIZ

the prewar Dutch Jewish population of 100,000 during World War II. The community never replenished its numbers. The factory reopened after the war. By then, matzahs had developed a non-Jewish following. The eye-catching and instantly recognizable packaging of Hollandia matzah boxes — an orange-colored octagonal cardboard  box with a nifty camera-ap camera-aperture erture opening opening

— was a marketing coup cooked up by the Woudstras, Heijs said. The matzah became even better known to the Dutch immediately after the war  because the Hollandia factor y re ceived  generous subsi dies under the Marshall Plan for �inancial aid to rebuild war-torn Europe, according to Heijs. He said the funding also was meant as SEE NETHERLANDS  PAGE 28

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pieces, and shape around each hot dog piece. Put in oven at 325 degrees on a greased sheet until dumplings look golden brown, for about 12 minutes. Check often to avoid burning.

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in East Brunswick, Selavan took fourth graders to see the Met’s exhibit “From Assyria to Iberia.” Another visitor, overhearing him, asked if he read Aramaic and led him to the Tel Dan stele, a 2,800-year-old inscribed stone on loan from the Israel Museum. Reading what turned out to be paleo-Hebrew, Selavan was struck by the power of seeing the earliest known reference to “Beit David,” the seat of

the Davidic dynasty, which is his hometown. “Then people started asking me questions,” Selavan said. At the start of the 2016�17 sc hool year, he started networking with other Orthodox yeshivas to lead tours and quickly expanded into leading adults. Last summer he took about 20 groups through the Met, he said, and now he leads syna gogue and Hillel groups as well. He gave a Jewish tour of Boston’s Museum of Fine Arts to members of an Orthodox synagogue in suburban Newton, and now he plans to do the

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a gesture acknowledging Jewish suffering during the Holocaust. “But it was also a practical decision: Matzah requires no eggs, no salt, no sugar — all commodities that were in very short supply immediately after the war,” he said. Whatever the reason, he added, the reality was that Hollandia was “one of the �irst bakeries that were restored” after the war, thus entrenching its status as a household brand. Heijs, 55, remembers enjoying Hollandia matzah as a boy just before and also directly after Easter. “I understand that matzah is not considered a delicacy exactly among Jews, who substitute bread for matzah for eight days each year,” he said. “But for us , who had it in addition to everything else, it was a treat that went  very well well with chocola chocolate te and butter butter..” Karina Ahles-Frijters, who lives in Hilversum, near Amsterdam, wrote on her parenting blog Trotsemoed ers in 2016 that her three children like to experiment  with matza matzah h toppi toppings. ngs. (Her eldest pref prefers ers whole wheat matzah with butter and sugar-coated anise seeds, she  wrote.) One day day a year, year, the Hollandia Hollandia factory is open to anyone interested in making their own matzahs. But not everyone is a fan of the matzah. “Frankly I couldn’t tell you why so many Dutchmen like matzah — I don’t think it’s tasty at all,” said Roger  van Oordt, the direct or of the Netherl ands-b ased Christians for Israel group, which organizes matzah baking activiti activities es in solidarity solidarity with with Israel Israel and the Jews. Jews. “If I have to think about eating nothing but matzah for two weeks, it makes being Christian look easy.” Although he is not Jewish, Heijs regards matzah as much more than a commodity. “After 14 years of making matzahs, of course I devel devel-oped friendships and bonds with many Jewish people,” said Heijs, who will attend his �irst seder dinner this year; he and his wife will be the guests of a Dutch  Jewish community community in northern northern Holland. Holland. “But “But matzah is part of the Dutch story regardless.” JTA WIRE SERVICE

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ShopRite dietician cooks up healthy Passover recipes Christina Kamilaris, the registered dietician at ShopRite of Paramus, added copies of healthy Passover recipes in the store’s extensive kosher department. In addition, she shares these easy tips for eating healthy during the holiday: Remember never to go more than three to four hours  without eating, since this can cause you to overeat once you start eating. Some healthy go-to snacks from the Setton brand include pine nuts (great for salad), Chinese

apple rings, and Medjool dates (it’s a perfect go-to dessert — simply slice open, remove pit, and stuff with almonds or  walnuts). Organic beets als o are a great source of folate, manganese, potassium, copper copper,, dietary �iber �iber,, magnesium, phosphorus, vitamin C, iron, and vitamin B6, and they’re  great in salads. salads. Here is her recipe for high protein, quick, and easy Passover — or any time — pancakes:

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Spain I felt very homesick,” she said; that feeling was particularly strong during Jewish holidays. The Jewish community that centers around the synagogue “made me feel very at home and very welcome,” Elliott said. She wanted to share this feeling with her students. When McCall accompanied her to the synagogue for a Shabbat, they talked to Yael Cobano, the congregation’s president, about their plans for the seder. “It was a wonderful project, and because I’ve led many seders and I’ve studied about it, I offered my help,” Cobano wrote in an email. The Reform Community has lent Elliott and Wells their seder plates, and Cobano is helping revise the Spanish translation of the Haggadah and prepare the traditional seder dishes. The two Fulbright scholars will conduct the seder in Spanish and will include some Hebrew. Elliott will lead the Jewish portions and Wells the interfaith elements. “We are adapting the four cups of wine to include different perspectives,” perspectives,” Elliott said. “One of the cups  will be academic, academic, one religio religious, us, one one personal, personal, and one political, and we hope to invite students, professors, community members and other Fulbrights to speak at each of those cups in order to make it more than just about sharing a Jewish ho liday.” For the religious cup, Elliott and Wells are inviting representatives of the Jewish, Christian and Muslim communities. For the personal, they are hoping one of the university students who is a refugee will recount a personal migration story. For the political cup, a fel low Fulbright will speak about the experience of participating in Race Relations, a collective that promotes discussion and expression of race, culture and ethnicity in Spain. “We hope the students and the teachers who partake in the seder will get out of it that Passover isn’t  just the moment for Jews to reflect on personal personal freedoms and the exodus from slavery in E�ypt, but really about the right for migration and the freedom of movement,” Elliott said. The university is offering Elliott and Wells plenty of support by taking care of the logistics, assisting with invitations, and funding the seder dinner for 70 invitees. Elliott said the menu will be “as kosher as possi ble,”” meaning  ble, meaning they they may may serve serve just dairy and �ish dishes. But the preparation of traditional Passover foods and the seder plates is up to the two Fulbrights. With Cobano’s help, Elliott and Wells will make everything for the seder plates, from the charoset to the bitter herbs. It won’t be exactly the same as back home, but JTA WIRE SERVICE Elliott is hoping it’ll be close.

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The young girl walked into the therapy room. Her clinician asked her about sharing her feelings. The girl said that she writes her feelings down in her diary every day and pulled the diary out of her backpack. As she shared it with her therapist, it became evident that this was not a typical appointment. appointment. In the diary was a clearly written plan. This girl intended to end her life. She is 11 years old…

We’d like to say that this was an isolated incident; that this never happens. Unfortunately, Unfortunately, JFCS  JFCS clini clinician cianss referre referred d four four children, 12 and under, to local hospitals for suicidality in a ten day period last fall. Anxiety and depression among children and adolescents is at an all-time high. None of our children are immune to academic pressure, social pressure and the bombardment of media messages targeting them daily. For most of us, the solution is to spend more time speaking with our kids. But for other children, this is not enough.Our mental health professionals are equipped to offer the specialized care needed for acute anxiety and depression. Our offices, open six days a week, can accommodate the most challenging schedules. We We accept all insurance, but for those without insurance, or unable to afford their deductible, we are here.  We serve every everyone one becau because se it is our our missio mission n to do so. so. Serving everyone, however, regardless of their ability to pay, comes at a cost to the agency of over $100,000 each year.

As we prepare for Passover, please consider the parable of the four sons that we read at our Seder. We are taught that in order for each child to escape his personal “Egypt” we must talk to him – work with him – love him in a way that he understands – that the needs of each child are unique, and that we, as as a commu community nity,, cannot cannot ignor ignore e any any child child in need need..

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Divine Passover chocolate coconut cake from Boys Town

Israeli-born Michal Levison has written her second cookbook, “Seasoned Moments — Passover: Festive Recipes for Spring.” Her �irst was the popular “Seasoned Moments — Rosh Hashana & Yom Kippur: Recipes for a Happy New Year.” Both will give you inspiration for your holiday tables and for everyday dinners. Earlier this month, Ms. Levison chaired the “Great Family Challah Bake” sponsored by the Academies at Gerrard Berman Day School, where she

origins to 45 countries With Pesach in the air, Boys Town Jerusalem’s across the globe. chef Avi Chamal is makBoys Town Jerusaing delicacies for the lem is one of Israel’s school’s model seder. premier institutions This easy-to-prepare for educating the counchocolate coconut cake try’s next generation of is the dessert that everyleaders in the �ields of one is awaiting. technolo�y,, commerce, technolo�y c ommerce, The Israeli-born Mr. education, the military, Chamal has headed the and public service. Boys Town Jerusalem Boys Town Jerusalem Since its founding in chef Avi Chamal with kitchen for 14 years, pro1948, BTJ has helped one of his 950 “adopted” ducing freshly cooked  giv e di sa dv ant age d children. and baked fare daily Israeli children happy to the Boys Town Jeruchildhoods and allow salem student body, who trace their them to grow into productive citizens.

sits on the board. Her new book, with more than 60 easy recipes, aims to help readers to “spruce up their spring cooking game”  by adding new new ideas for Passover with fresh, seasonal, and simple recipes your family will love. There are also tips, tricks, and insights to inspire you to cook. The book is available on Amazon. For information, go to www.seasonedmoments.com or follow her on instagram @seasonedmoments. Here’s a simple, fun recipe:

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8 Yukon Gold potatoes 1/3 cup olive oil 3 cloves garlic, minced 2 teaspoons salt 1 tablespoon schmaltz 2 sprigs rosemary 1-2 tablespoons fresh parsley for garnish Preheat the oven to 450 degrees. Add potatoes to a large pot and fill with water until the potatoes are just covered. cover ed. Bring to a boil over medium-high heat, then cook uncovered uncovered for another 15-20 minutes or until potatoes are fork tender. Meanwhile, mix the olive oil, garlic, salt, and schmaltz in a bowl.

7 egg whites 1 cup sugar 1 cup shredded unsweetened coconut

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Drain the potatoes and place them on a parchment lined cookie sheet. Using a cup or jar, smash the potatoes. Drizzle the potatoes with olive oil mixture and place rosemary sprigs on top. Roast for 20-25 minutes or until golden brown and crisp. Garnish with fresh parsley.

8 ounces chocolate 3 tablespoons butter 7 egg yolks 2 half-pint containers of whipping cream 1/4 cup sugar 1 teaspoon kosher-for-Passover kosher-for-Passover instant vanilla pudding Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Beat egg whites till they begin to get stiff. Gradually add sugar, continu-

ing to beat until the meringue is firm. Stir in the coconut by hand. Pour mixture into greased 10” baking pan. Bake for around 30 minutes. Remove from oven and refrigerate.

Melt chocolate and butter in a microwave or over a double boiler. Add the 7 egg yolks, continually mixing until a smooth texture is reached. Combine whipping cream, sugar, and vanilla pudding and beat. Remove torte from the refrigerator,, spread chocolate sauce on top, tor and return cake to the refrigerat refrigerator or for around 10 minutes. Remove from fridge, add whipped topping, and refrigerate until ready to serve.

Passover chicken schnitzel SHANNON SARNA

cream cheese for, like, the 20th time.

Schnitzel is one of my family’s favorite dishes throughout the entire year, but we particularly love it during Passover. With  very small changes (as (as in, use matzah meal meal and almond flour instead of bread crumbs), this dish is 100 percent Passover-friendly. And it’s so satisfying as the week of Passover eating lags on and you crave some serious eats — not just matzah slathered in whipped

Schnitzel tips! • When dredging anything (like chicken or eggplant), set up a work station before you start cooking. Two (or three, depending on the recipe) large shallow bowls or Pyrex dishes are ideal for the egg and  bread crumb steps. Dredg Dredge e all all your your pieces, pieces, place them on a baking sheet lined with parchment, and then start frying.

INGREDIENTS 

2 pounds chicken cutlets (thinly sliced chicken breasts) Salt and pepper 2 eggs, beaten 2 teaspoon KP mustard or hot sauce 1 teaspoon water 1 1/2 cups matzah meal 1/2 cup almond meal 2 tablespoons sesame seeds (optional) 2 tablespoons dried parsley 1 1/2 tablespoons smoked paprika 1 teaspoon sea salt 1/2 teaspoons black pepper Vegetable or canola oil for frying

• Don’t overcrowd the pan or the chicken  will not brown brown properly. properly. Fry two or or three cutlets at a time, depending on their size and the size of your pan.

• After you are done frying, sprinkle with an additional pinch of salt while it’s still hot. • To reheat, place on a wire rack on top of a baking sheet in an oven heated to 250 degrees for 10�15 minutes.

DIRECTIONS 

1. Combine eggs, mustard or hot sauce, and water in a large bowl. Combine matzah meal, almond meal, sesame seeds (if using), parsley, paprika, salt, and pepper in another large bowl. 2. Dredge each chicken cutlet into egg mixture, then into matzah meal mixture, pressing down to ensure the entire piece is covered. Lay flat on a plate or baking sheet. 3. Pour oil into large sauté pan to about 1-1 Ð inches high over medium-high heat.

4. Fry chicken cutlets in batches, 2-3 at a time, until golden on each side. Depending on thickness of chicken, around 3 minutes each side. Take care not to overcrowd the pan or chicken will not cook properly. 5. Remove from pan and allow to cool on a wire rack. 6. While chicken is still hot from pan, sprinkle each cutlet with additional pinch of salt. THE NOSHER VIA JTA WIRE SERVICE

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here is always a story for the new fashion season. For spring 2018, that story is color. While the winter  weatherr has linge  weathe lingered, red, and and the lion that came in with March seems to have been sleeping well into the later weeks of the transition month, spring is happening. If not by what the mercury says, then certainly by the manifold of fabulous fashions, which de�ine the season and segue the sartorially savvy into the summer.

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Lighter hues, pastels in a rainbow of choices, said local fashionistas,  who are seeing the pale pastel pastelss play play on everything from women’s readyto-wear to men’s dressy shirts and accessories such as ties. Psychologically, pastels are often displayed in all things spring, especially in advertising to help summon up an emotional response to the season of rebirth. Why the lighter colors? Pastels are less saturated than primary colors, making them feel light, soft, and calming. For spring, they work well with neutral colors to create a feeling of earthiness and sophistication. “We are seeing softer colors this season,” said Maria Parlato, manager of The Engle Shop on Dean in Englewood. “There is a lot of soft pink, blush and nude.” The specialty boutique, which

carries couture daytime and evening wear, is also selling plenty of florals, spring tweeds, dresses, and daytime shifts in pinks and other colors, brocades, and other fanciful togs, said Ms. Parlato. Among one of its top-selling items this spring, and something that Ms. Parlato says is a must-have, is the very feminine handmade lace cotton eyelet dress, which is made in Italy. It comes in white, pink,  gray,, and blue. What makes  gray makes it very special for the store is that the dress comes from Positano, Italy, the same hometown as Paula Parlato, the store’s owner, who happens to  be Maria’s Maria’s mother mother.. “This is a great vacation dress that can be worn even to a destination wedding, where the wedding takes place on the beach,” said Ms. Parlato. That pastel color is also being played on the other side of the aisle, so to speak, in men’s fashions, as well. “The colors for spring in some ties and in shirts are more muted and toned down,” said Gerard Rivera, the store manager at Emporio Teaneck. That is just part of the story for men, he said. There are lots of yellows and blues, especially in suit wear (postal blue) and bold patterns. The big difference in the new spring and forward silhouette, said Mr. Rivera, are that the lapels on the suit jacket are wider. While the suit is still the same �it, snug and

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trim as it’s been for some time, the fuller lapel and the peak or point of the lapel is more pronounced. The trend was started  by Tom Ford Ford and has trickled down down into other designers. For men’s footwear, very big sellers these days are leather shoes in black or  brown leather and white white soles for a pop of color and whimsy, said Mr. Rivera. At Mishelyne’s Fashions in Teaneck, owner Sara has always been on top of the spring trends and giving her customers fashion-forward looks. This season is no different with an array of clothing that suits the spring from casual to very dressy ensembles. The casual chic Carly’z C raze in Teaneck is showing multi-colored prints, stripes, and florals in maxi, swing, �it and flair, sheath and bubble dresses, said Alene Brodsky Bloom, who co-owns the store  with Wendy Borodkin. In addition, there

are splashes of metallic shine and metal  grommet trims that  grommet that add a daring accent.

What else to look for in the spring? Flowery prints are a spring season regular, but this year’s take is a little bit punchier and a lot more noticeable. Bold daisies are blooming all over the new designs. Also popular are the botanicals, a plant-based look that says it all. Floral might be your go-to spring print,  but polka dots will be a close second come next year. The print was spotted everywhere, most notably as a monochrome color way.

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that boring black one-piece, throw caution to the wind, and experiment with something new. You may not be ready for a string bikini, bu t a new Baywatch-inspired redhot maillot may be just the thing to put a little sizzle back into your vacation wardrobe. One-pieces with plunging necklines and high-cut legs are having a moment this year. • Consider buying separates. One of the best things to have ever happened to the swimwear industry — mix and match separates. With tops and bottoms that come in a multitude of silhouettes and sizes, you can create your own unique swimsuit. The possibilities are endless. Take one high-waisted boy short and add a bikini top or a cropped tankini or both. Combining several different styles with coordinating prints and solids gives you a ver satile way to stretch a swim wardrobe. Let your creativity  go wild. wild. • Play up your assets. This is a fashion “rule” that applies to your swimwear as it does to your everyday clothes. Most of us inherently know what looks best on us...and

peasant tops that are still fashion favorites. • Dress up with a black and white striped blouse or  blazer.. Stripes  blazer Stripes are one of spring spring’s ’s bigges biggestt trends, trends, and black black and white stripes are inspiring all kinds of toppers from long, menswear-tailored jackets to ruffled striped blouses and that all-time favorite — the boatneck tee. Mix and match with solid white or black pants for a whole week’s  worth of of possibilities. possibilities. • Suit up for all occasions. The black pantsuit and skirt suit have long been the staples of professional women everywhere. Now the white pantsuit is taking center stage as its rival. And since white is no longer a winter no-no, this head-to-toe look can be enjoyed year-round. But in spring and summer, the white pantsuit seems like a breath of fresh air and can easily be versatile enough to incor porate into any working wardrobe or party attire for that matter. To get the most wear out of these two classic suits, take the separates apart for even more possibilities. Trend update: jackets that are a little more oversized and longer in length. • See it in print. Black and white comes alive in all kinds of prints and patterns this year. Designers are making news with polka dot tops, geometric abstract tunics, houndstooth checked dresses, zebra print jackets, and  gingham skirts. Just one of these newsmakers added to  black and white white basics that that you alread already y own will give give your  wardrobe  wardro be a whole whole new spin for for spring. spring. • Accessorize, accessorize, accessorize. You can’t say it enough. Black and white goes with everything, and that’s one of the reasons the fashion crowd loves it. So, if you’ve  been a fan for a long time, then then you may just just want to add a little extra panache to your favorites. White ankle boots are the season’s hot item, but black slip-on sneakers with white rubber soles are on every shoe retai ler’s trend radar. Hand bags are are another another way to put some some black black and white on your shopping list...from python printed totes to checkerboard clutches...classic clutches...clas sic ways to keep it simple this spring, yet so Creators.com “modern, whatever that word means.”

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it’s all about feeling good in what we wear, no matter what size or age. But if you love your legs, then check out a suit  with a higher-cut higher-cut leg opening opening to elongate elongate legs. To To disguise disguise a large waist, the latest suits that feature side slits and cutouts are great options. Belted suits add emphasis on the  waist and halter halter tops highlight highlight shoulders. shoulders. All-over prints prints like the season’s favorite fruits and florals, as well as patterns like stripes and polka dots are perfect for disguising lumps and bumps. • Use color to flatter your skin. Pastel colors are big trends in ready-to-wear, and swimwear manufacturers have jumped off the board with pale peaches, light lavenders, sugary pinks, baby blues and lemon yellows. White is another big trend. These pastels generally look  best on on darker darker skin tones. If you’re you’re pale, consider wearin wearing g  brighterr jewel tones or  brighte or dark colors. Use color color to your best advantage even if you like the color block effect. Black and  white is always always a winning winning combinat combination. ion. • Add some glamour. If you’re scuba diving or taking a  water aerobics aerobics class, then you might might want to stick to the classic swimwear styles that allow for ultimate function as well as style. But sometimes, girls just wanna have a little fun, right? There’s plenty of ways to shine with swim wear this season. Metallics Metallics are just one way to shimmer shimmer..

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obalt blue is a fascinating color and the only color listed in the periodic table. It is a vibrant color that is familiar to most as the accent color used in blue and white Delft and Oriental export porcelain of the 16th through the 20th century, and as the color of the blueprints of yesteryear. The color is also evocative of the ocean and of the summer. Summer has come to your door. If your desire is to move your home away from the cold winter and start to adapt to the season of light, adding lively colors is the  way t o go. To shake away the cold and add impact to your transformation, I sug gest adding adding an an injection injection of the color color of the the

season. This touch of electricity will ener gize your favorite room. There are many  ways to use cobalt cobalt blue. blue. Choose the most important, architectural, prominent wall of the room and paint it cobalt blue. This wall should not be too overloaded or decorated, or the result will  be too flashy flashy.. Choose a wall wall that is not hidhidden behind furniture, or above all, select a  wall that does not have too many pictures pictures or art. With the bold color of the paint you compensate for that lack of or minimal decoration; try Benjamin Moore Champion Cobalt 2061�20 or Twilight Blue 2058�10. If you’ve been wanting to redecorate your living room or any room for some time, now may be the time to do it. Re-upholstering the sofa is one way to start. Buy an occasional

table or coffee table in cobalt blue or a distinct work of art that highlights this celestial tone. With bold colors such as this one, it is important to think big and make your furniture take all the attention. Printed fabric will always be fashionable and give a room a boost and if they are in cobalt blue, better than before. Stripes, patterns, and prints are fun to com bine, but you have to be very careful careful and take into account the rest of the room’s

decoration so that it does not clash. Wall coverings are yet another way to add a splash of cobalt blue to a room. Scalamandre has an enlarged toile version called Summer Palace, a porcelain colored background and a mix of navy blue and cobalt blue chinoiserie print, which is  breathtakingly beautiful. Paci�ic Design’s Midnight Blue grass-cloth color is deep  blue with a silky sheen perfect for a b edroom wall or an entire bedroom suite.

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icking out tiles for a remodeling project is not so simple. There is so much variety in design, shape, color, and texture that the choices seem dizzying and overover  whelming. Not that long ago tiles were mostly laid down for their functional  bene�it s: Is it resist ant to water? How about durable? Is it low maintenance? But today, the aesthetics are just as important as function.

At Floor & Door in Paramus, Wayne, Wayne, and other locations, design services are offered for free with experts available to help clients wade through the choices and see  what is best for for their their renovatio renovation n project. project. Some of the more popular choices, according to the designers in the Paramus store, include marble and marblelook, farmhouse, modern, and woodlook tiles. Also popular are the wood looks mixed with marble, which can play  well in a bathroom and kitche n, said a designer at Floor & Door.

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Following the lines of the latest interior trends, colorful accessories can achieve the result that we want if they are used correctly — a carpet, a vase, the decorative pillows of the sofa, the curtains, or some flowers. Kitchen cabinets and kitchen appliances are another place where we are seeing cobalt blue emerge. All these add a fresh and summery touch to your home without having to transform the  whole enviro environment. nment. Creators.com  Joesph Pubillones  Joesph Pubillones’’ column, column, “The Art of of Design,” Design,” can be found at creators.com.

Also popular are glass mosaics that set off a look that is unique and interesting. Matte �inishes appear to be on the ups wing and they feature a soft but powerful style that does not get too overwhelming. An advantage of matte tiles is that they do not show smudges and water marks as easily as  glossy tiles. This makes them ideal for the bathroom floor, especially in busy bathrooms. The low sheen makes them easier to maintain. When installing matte �inish tiles make sure there is enough lighting, both natural and arti�icial, as these tiles are not known for reflecting light. Glossy �inish tiles feature a more dramatic effect on the bathroom. They tend to create an elegant, highly polished look and feel. This is why they are still popular. They are especially great for small bathrooms, as they tend to reflect plenty of light and create the perception of a space that is larger than it seems. But  because they they need more more maintenan maintenance ce work and and are a slip hazard, glossy �inish tiles are often used on walls or low-traf�ic bathroom floor areas. If you are looking for understated elegance with unspoken sophistication, the recommendation is to choose matte �inish tiles. They are also great if you  want an earthy earthy style in the the bathroo bathroom. m. But But if someth something ing a bit more dramatic and attention capturing is what you want in the renovation, glossy �inish tiles are right up your alley. These days, contemporary designs make big use of neutral colors and this remains the case for 2018 bathroom tile trends. Bright colors such as blue, red and yellow are not commonplace in the bathroom and will not be the shining star anytime soon. Instead, homeowners are choosing neutrals and especially nude neu trals such as grey, beige, and creams. Grey and beige has become super popular as complementary neutrals. So much so, that a new color has emerged by name and featured in product selections. So be on the lookout for: “Griege.” Likewise, whites and grays for a neutral industrial look are also very hot this season. In addition to the monochromatic tile palette, �ixtures in all black — faucets, tubs, sinks — are �inishing bathroom looks.

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t’s almost here! Summer is soon to arrive, and with it all the community celebrations that signal the of�icial start of one of the most pleasurable times of the year. Dining al fresco is at the heart of celebrating the warm  weather.. Here are a few bits of advice that might add to  weather your overall enjoyment. First you need a table. The smallest size that will realistically work for four people is 36 inches in diameter. You can pick up modestly priced weather-resistant furniture from a variety of discount retailers such as Big Lots, Tuesday Morning, TJ Maxx, Home Goods, and Marshall’s. Check out your local home improvement stores like Home Depot or Lowe’s, and don’t forget to visit Ikea, Pottery Barn, or Crate & Barrel. For use on a narrow balcony or deck, consider pushing a square or rectangular table up against the wall or the Christine Brun’s column, “Small Spaces,” can be found at creators.com.

 balcony railing. Folding tables allow you to expand the surface area of the entertainment space. Look for a food cart that can hold drinks, an ice bucket, a bottle of wine or a salad bowl as a functional dining piece. Even if you can only serve four, have fun with the serving plates, napkins, and placemats. This is the season for  vibrant c olor, and you have the chanc e to capture the mood of your favorite travel destination, from Bali to Mexico! Different color schemes are shown in retail ever y year,  but �indin �inding g intense intense colors in accent pillo pillows, ws, chair chair cushio cushions ns and umbrellas is a reliable choice. Mix it up; you don’t have to match everything. In fact, you’ll have more fun if you combine a few colors. Begin your inspiration with a multicolored tablecloth or dinner napkin. Don’t forget to add dreamy lighting. This can be in the form of Tiki torches, but exercise extreme care if you live in an apartment or condo, as open �ire can be dan gerous and a liability. It is always safer to use a batteryoperated lantern or plug-in string lights. Look for these online on the Wayfair, Target, and World Market websites.

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f your wood siding is a looking a little dull and you’re thinking that it needs a fresh coat of paint, take a minute and look at the wood siding a bit more carefully. It  just may may be that that all it needs needs is a good good cleaning cleaning.. Though Though homeowners love the look of wood siding, all of us dread paying the cost of having it repainted or doing the tedious and often dangerous work ourselves. Examine closely to see if the paint is showing any signs

of cracking or peeling. If it is not, then all you really need to do to make it look vibrant again is to give it a good  washing.  washin g. Cleaning wood siding, however, has to be done with a great deal of care. Do not use a pressure washer on it unless you know exactly what you are doing. A pressure  washer c an dest roy not only the existing ho use s iding paint, but also damage the wood permanently and potentially foster mold and mildew growth. A pressure washer can gouge the wood, strip the existing paint off, loosen

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othing ruins the excitement of returning to the family summer home more than driving up to �ind a slew of things that broke or leaked during the winter. To avoid this, you put much effort into the process of closing down your vacation home at the end of the season — but what’s the most ef�icient way to reopen the family cabin? Several home specialists and real estate authorities weigh in on the best tips for streamlining your summer setup. To spend as little time and effort reopening your vacation home as possible, it’s imperative to follow some of the end-ofseason closing protocols. Scott Stueber,  blog ger for West Bend Cares, says that the �irst and most important step is to do a complete walk-around of your property, assess any damage, and create a plan for dealing with it either before close-down or after reopening. Key areas to investigate include the roof, the chimney, eaves, eaves, gutters, siding, and any trees that are leaning over your property or have branches near

 windows. Although  windows. Although this can can take take away away from the Labor Day weekend fun, a proper fullhouse inspection and some tree trimming can save thousands of dollars in roof and deck repair. repair. Additionally, it is critica l to turn off your water supply, clean and unplug all appliances, set your thermostat to the appropriate settings, and pack up all valuables and outdoor furniture. With these simple steps, reopening will be a breeze. When the season �inally comes back around and it’s time to reopen your vacation home, tenant needs are the �irst important factor to consider. If you are renting your vacation home, there will most likely be more immediate repairs and improvements necessary to make your home presentable. If it’s just your family, you might have a little more time to re-stain the deck or polish the floors. However,, there are some universal steps However to making a vacation home livable again. HouseLogic, a resource for home main tenance, lays out the checklist (although simply retracing your close-down checklist can often cover most reopening needs): • Conduct another walk-around. Look

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solutions. With new connectivity services, electric drive and individual hardware solutions for the cargo space, the large van will make customers’ business in a connected  world signi�i signi�icantly cantly more ef�icient. ef�icient. Mercedes-Benz is also proud to announce new innovations of two of its dream cars. Step into a Mercedes-Benz S�Class Coupé or Cabriolet and experience the ultimate in elegance, technical innovation, performance and sportiness. The latest features include considerably extended driving assistance systems, the Widescreen Cockpit modern control and display concept, and luxurious energizing comfort control features like ambient lighting, seat massages, and mood controls. Benzel-Busch is an industry leader and is on the brink of announcing an exciting, �irst-of-its-kind automotive communication tool that will change the way car buyers, enthusiasts, and drivers alike communicate their sales, service, and general requests to Benzel-Bush. The technolo�y will allow for better, faster, faster, and easily connected communications with current and future cuscus tomers. These advancements will forever change the way users shop and service new or pre-owned vehicles, both in person and online. Look forward to a grand announce ment and an opportunity take part in the advanced product in the coming months. Benzel-Busch Motor Car in Englewood was just named the 2018 U.S. Dealer of the Year for the second consecu tive year by DealerRater, the world’s leading car dealer review website. The distinction further cements the organization’s superior reputation for stellar customer service. Fittingly, the prominent distinction is based on customer reviews of dealership interactions. Mr. Agresta promises the same award-winning service at MercedesBenz of Orange County. “Our business is dedicated to offering unparalleled customer care in all areas and nothing less,” he said. “We look forward to introduc ing current and next generation clients to a new and extraordinary automotive dealership experience.” Elevate your standards at Mercedes-Benz of Orange County and experience where luxury lives. We are located at 1 Mercedes Drive, Harriman, New York. Visit: www.mercedesbenzoforangecounty.com

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Atlantic Health System has introduced an innovative approach to pediatric care at Chilton Medical Center, Center, the only one of its kind in the northern NJ region. The Children’s Center offers an exceptional level of care to our most precious patients, combining pediatric emergency services and hospital care within a brand-new, familyfriendly environment. With sleeping accommodations for parents, a kids playroom and a family lounge, our team of experienced and compassionate pediatric physicians and nurses will put your family’s needs first. And, because we are part of Atlantic Health System, there is ready access to more than 100 pediatric specialists who provide advanced expertise at Goryeb Children’s Hospital at Morristown Medical Center Center..

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‘Voice Lessons for Parents’ Teaches Much

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ixteen candles. The milestone birthday, immortalized in song and celebration, remains a rite of passage for many girls transitioning into womanhood. Similar to, but less elaborate or formal than quinceanera, the big birthday bash in Latino communities or the festa de debutantes in Brazil, both when a girl turns 15, the Sweet 16 remains an impor tant marker, whether celebrated modestly or with a larger affair. I was given a choice. Bat mitzvah or Sweet 16. I chose the latter. Since my birthday is in January, the Sweet 16 season began with me. We picked a catering hall , hired a DJ, and selected the finger food and other victuals that would be served at the buffet. The invitations went out and I had my dress, a floor-length navy striped number that I thought looked, oh, so mature. The only thing we didn’t plan for was the snow. And there was a lot. So much that I thought it would ruin the party. Thankfully, it did not. The guests came suited and booted up, and a good time was had. I remember dancing, opening gifts (my favorite was a guitar, a gift from my BFF Tina), and following the Sweet 16 protocol of “taking minutes” during the opening of the

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presents, and having my friends make a “memory glass.” It was a goblet (borrowed from the catering hall) filled with mementos and sealed with hot candle wax. It was kind of like a handmade snow globe that contained such ephemera from from the party like a f low lower er or a name card. Another tchotchke for a teenage girl’s room. Contrast that with Shaina’s Sweett 16. Swee 16. This year, Rosh Chodesh Nisan, Shaina’s Hebrew birthday, dovetailed with Shabbat. While her English birthday a few days earlier was marked by our family tradition – wake up to a homemade cake (chocolate), funny signs taped to various walls, a helium-filled balloon, and of course, communal ly signed cards and gifts — her party with friends was Friday and Saturday. She invited a few and they camped out and enjoyed a lovely Shabbat, beginning on Friday. On Saturday, one of her friends hosted the group for a lavish lunch, and Shaina was celebrated with more cake, a crown, balloons, and lots of attention.

When evening rolled around, after havdalah, Shaina and company met at a subway stop and took the train to Times Square for an après-Shabbat pizza jaunt, and then a walk through the throbbing nighttime action around Times Square. They snapped pictures, posted, and had a blast. For one friend, the evening downtown marked her inaugural ride on a subway. It was an independent night out with the friends. Sixteen had seemed so distant as Shaina is the “baby.” Sixteen was the age for permission to (finally) wear makeup, a number that I thought was far away. away. Sixteen is that milestone birthday. Now here it is. And thank God. Shaina, you’re 16. You’re beautiful. And you’re mine. Cheers,

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n a time when Hebrew and religious school enrollment supposedly is on the decline, there are several programs in our area that through commitment, creativity, and love of Judaism, are humming along, and even thriving, filling in the gap that many families want for their children. One such program is Jewish Youth Encounter Program (JYEP) in Teaneck. Here, there are the “Bigs” and there are the “Littles.” And there is a big, not little, bond between the twain. The relationship is forged between the “Big Brothers” and “Big Sisters,” high school age yeshiva day school, and the elementary and middle school-aged JYEP students, whom they mentor. The JYEP students, who range from 3rd to 7th grade, meet weekly at Torah Academy of Bergen County (TABC) in Teaneck, but come from all over Bergen

County and have varying many JYEP alums, levels of Jewish background; now parents, who many are unaffiliated and atsend their chiltend public schools. JYEP is dren there. an independent outreach HeOne Big Sister, brew School servi ng the JewNa’ama Kaye, a juish community, and welcomes nior at The Frisch diversity among Jews and emSchool, and a resibraces children on all levels. dent of Teaneck, The formula of matching said how much she the Bigs and the Littles, said enjoys the program Dr. Debby Rapps, the direcand especially the tor, is a win-win that benrelationship she has efits the high schoolers, who with her 12-year-old grow in leaderships skills, and Little Sister. “She’s the younger students, who someone who I can form a deep connection with Making menorahs for Chanukah at Temple Beth Sholom Religious School in see myself being New City, N..Y. their mentors that lasts years close to forever. I after they have graduated feel like she’s family.” the program. addition to the high school mentors, the At Glen Rock Jewish Center Hebrew Founded in 1986 by Carl and Sylvia school has a crop of “young, creative, up- School, the newest addition to the curricFreyer of Englewood, JYEP was “a new beat and energetic teachers” who make ulum, is a dedicated Jewish art program, vision for Hebrew sc hools,” said Dr. Rapps. learning the curriculum interesting. The which is taught by artist Vicky Katzman, (Mrs. Freyer Freyer still supports the school.) In proof is in the generations. There are See Hebrew on page 7

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• Fosters strong Jewish identities • Social and Emotional learning through a Jewish lens

• Toddlers 3-Day Program

• 4 Year Old 5 -Day Program with enrichment options • Stories, puppets and songs with Rabbi Leiken and Cantor Anna

• Hebrew and Jewish literacy cultivating family pride

• After School Sports & Spanish programs

Call Education Director, Marilyn Fellows at 845.638.0770 • [email protected]

Call Nursery School Director, Lori Scott at 845.638.0830 • [email protected]

View photos of our Nursery and Religious schools at tbsrockland. org Temple Beth Sholom • 228 New Hempstead Road • New City, New York 10956

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Hebrew Hebre w Schools Glen Rock Jewish Center Hebrew School

Synagogue membership is not required and transportation is availab available. le. There are also free dues for qualifying families. It’s not too late to enroll for the upcoming year. Classes start in September. Email us at eddirectors@ geshershalom.org or call: 201-947-1735 coeducation directors Myra London and Zeeva Sklar. Please see our ad on page 7.

Glen Rock Jewish Center is now registering for Hebrew School for September 2018. Classes from kindergarten through grade 7. Our curriculum includes instruction in conversational Hebrew (Ivrit B’Ivrit) prayers, Israel, trips, and special programs along with music and family education to enrich our students’ experiences. We offer student enrichment in the form of music, art, cooking, yoga and more. Please see our ad on page 7.

JCC of Fort Lee/Congregation Gesher Shalom Hebrew School 1449 Anderson Ave. Fort Lee NJ 07024 www.geshershalom.org Ages: Pre K–7th grade

1600 Queen Anne Road Teaneck, NJ 07666 201-833-JYEP (5937) www.JYEP.org Grades 3-8

The JYEP is a pre-bar/bat mitzvah Hebrew school for children in grades 3-8, which, in addition to the traditional classroom instruction of Bible and holidays by young and vibrant teachers, matches each child with a tutor/mentor. Our JYEP staff directed by Dr. Debby Rapps is committed to creating an environment where each child is individually nurtured to his or her own strength in a warm, creative, meaningful and stimulating environment. We offer Bar and Bat Mitzvah training in the higher grades, where each child is mentored individually by a Big Brother/Sister regardless of the level at which they enter. Please see our ad on page 3.

The Nursery School at Temple Beth Sholom

At the JCC of Fort Lee Hebrew School, we give our students a solid foundation in Judaism in exciting, innov innovative ative ways; with highly qualified teachers, hands-on learning and creative programming. Our established 1 and 2 day programs fit busy family schedules.

Temple Beth Sholom Religious School 228 New Hempstead Road New City, NY 845-638-0770 Grades K through 12 www.tbsrockland.org [email protected]

Jewish Youth Encounter Program

682 Harristown Road Glen Rock, NJ 07452 Tel: 201-652-6624 Fax: 201-652-6628 www.grjc.org Grades: Kindergarten through 7th office@grjc

we provide a warm, nurturing, enriching, developmentally appropriate environment. We encourage a spiritual connection to our Jewish identity and promote strong Jewish values through our mensch program. Please see our ad on page 5.

228 New Hempstead Road New City, NY 845-638-0830 www.therockland.org Mommy and Me through pre-K [email protected]

At the nursery school at Temple Beth Sholom

Temple Beth Sholom Reli gious School is located in New City, Rockland Count y, N.Y. Our objective and most important goal is to develop a powerful and strong sense of Jewish community in our children. Please see our ad on page 5.

Temple Emanu-El 180 Piermont Road Closter, NJ 07624 Tel.: 201-750-9997 Fax: 201-750-1894 Ages: Pre-K–7th grade

At Temple Emanu-El, we nourish a lifelong connection with our Jewish heritage. We believe that Jewish children should experience  Judaism emotionally emotionally,, intellectually intellectually and tangitangibly. Students learn to connect to Israel, create lasting Jewish friendships, dev develop elop pride in Judaism, read Hebrew from the Siddur, study Torah, Torah, Mit zvot and Jewish values, understand Israel’s Israel’s past and present, celebrate  Jewish holidays and traditions, practice acts of Hesed, and pray confidently in a synagogue service. School is in session for first grade on Sunday mornings. Second — fifth grades meet

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Wednesday afternoons and Sunday mornings, and sixth – seventh seventh grades meet Tuesday afternoons. Our staff creates optimal learning environments for students by blending formal and informal elements with a multisensory, station-based approach approach in a fun atmosphere. Students learn with our music Tefilla teacher and clergy, and experience Shabbat programs. Please see our ad on page 5.

Temple Emeth 1666 Windsor Road Teaneck, NJ 07666 www.emeth.org Grades/Ages Served: K–7, 8–12 Number of students enrolled: 55 Contact person: Dora G. Friedman [email protected]

Temple Emeth Religious School provides a rich learning environment environment that flows with the Jewish calendar. It builds strong and loving relationships between students, families, faculty, and clergy. It builds a foundation of knowledge and skills in Jewish texts, history, ethics, culture, Israel, Torah and religious worworship. Please see our ad on page 6

Temple Sinai Early Childhood Center 1 Engle Street Tenafly, NJ 07670 201-568-6867 www.templesinaibc.org Ages: 14 months–6 years

Where fun and learning go hand in hand! Devoted, long-term teachers. Developmental philosophy. Full, half and 3/4 day options for all famil ies. 7:30 7:30 to 6 p.m. and new kindergarten class for fall. Please see our ad on page 6 .

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Enrollment is now open for our summer program.

Put your child in the picture at Temple Emeth Religious School.

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Free for first-year K-2 students and then FREE for members! Call (201) 833-8466 for your private tour. Temple Emeth is now supported by members’ voluntary pledges. You choose your contributions.

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OurChildren  Hebrew from page 7 where students who range from kindergarten through 7th grade, get a period of  Jewish art history and studio work each week, said Rachel Blumenstyk, the principal of Glen Rock Jewish Center Hebrew School. The comprehensive twice-a-week program covers the gamut of subjects including Israeli history history,, Chumash, tefillah, lifecycles, Holocaust, Irvit b’Ivrit and more. “Our goal is for the children to know the history and tradition and for them to relate positively to Judaism and make them life-long learners,” said Ms. Blumenstyk. “They are learning by doing.” The school recently hosted an inter-

Vicky Katzman and her daughter Eve, at Glen Rock Jewish Center Hebrew School.

faith mock Seder in preparation for Passover. The Hebrew School students were asked to bring a non-Jewish friend to the seder. “It was really wonderful,” said Ms. Blumenstyk. “We wanted to share the seder with others because we are one community.” In Rockland County at Temple Beth Sholom Religious Sc hool in New City, officials said their t heir formula for succe ss —there are nearly 200 students from kindergarten through 7th grade in addition to a high school program — is because of its commitment to “creative, innovative and dedicated staff that interacts and engages all of the students,” said Marilyn Fellows, director of the religious school. “When you create an environment of learning that is a space where a Jewish child can flourish, they will,” said Ms. Fellows, adding that the school’s motto is “Where relationships matter.” At Temple Emanu-El in Closter, the motto is nourishing a lifelong connection with Jewish heritage. Jewish children experience Judaism emotionally, intellectually, and tangibly. Students learn to connect to Israel, create lasting Jewish friendships, develop pride in Judaism, read Hebrew from the Siddur, study Torah, Mitzvot and

Should I Take My Child to the ER? The Valley Hospital will host a free community health program program,, Pediatric Illness: Emergency Room vs. First Aid Kit, on Thursday, April 19 19 from 7 to 8:3 8:30 0 p.m. at The Mahwah Public Library, 100 Ridge Road, Mahwah. As a parent, it can be scary to see your child sick or in pain. However, sometimes the choice isn’t always clear about what to do, especially when it comes to young children and infants. Treat your child at home? Make an appointment with your pediatrician? Rush to an urgent care center or the emergency room? Often in these case, parents opt for a “better safe than sorry,”approach and decide to make a trip to the ER. Yet, in many of these cases a visit to the hospital in unnecessary.  Join Eri c Brown er, M.D., Pedi atr ic Emergency Room, for a discussion on What: Pediatric

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edge and skills in Jewish texts and history, ethics and culture, Israel, Hebrew literacy, and religious worship. In everything we do, we foster strong and productive relationships among students, families, faculty, and clergy through shared experiences.

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Illness: Emergency Room vs. First Aid Kit  Browner, M.D., Pediatric Emergency Room When: Thursday, April 19 from 7 to 8:30 p.m. Where: The Mahwah Public Library, 100 Ridge Road, Mahwah  Cost: There is no fee to a ttend this program but registration is required. For more information or to register, please call 1-800-VALLEY 1 (800-825-5391) or visit www. ValleyHealth.com/Events. Who: Eric

 Jewish values,  Jewish values, underst understand and Israel’ Israel’s past and present, celebrate Jewish holidays and traditions, practice acts of chesed, and pray confidently in a synagogu synagoguee service. Temple Beth El Nursery School in Closter provides a safe and stimulating environment, which promotes positi ve learning experiences, builds strong selfesteem and nurtures inherent curiosity.  Jewish identity is enhanced through celebration of Shabbat and the holidays. At the JCC of Fort Lee Hebrew School, students get a solid foundation in Judaism in exciting, innovative ways with highly qualified teachers, hands-on learning and creative programming. Temple Emeth Religious School in Teaneck exists as a Jewish community in miniature within the congregation where the director, teachers, rabbi and cantor, build a foundation of knowl-

At Glen Rock Jewish Center, we have so much to offer... Our curriculum includes: • Instruction in conversational Hebrew (Ivrit B’ Ivrit) • Prayer study study,, Israel e ducation and trips

• Art, music, yoga and family education • Our “Gan” class for Kindergarteners meets twice monthly on Sundays • We will happily accommodate students with special needs To register and for more information about tuition fees and curriculum, please contact offi[email protected] or 201-652-6624.

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room. Remember, the key to having your child sleep through the night is to have your verall, studies indicate th at 15 to 20 child learn to fall asleep on her own, so they percent of 1 to 3 year olds continue can put themselves back to sleep when t hey to have night wakings. Inappropriate naturally awaken during the night. Have a method for checking. If your child sleep associations are the primary cause of frequent night wakings. Sleep associations are cries or yells, check on him or her. Wait for those conditions that are habitually present as long or as short a time as you wish. For at the time of sleep onset and in the presence Dr. Stephanie Zandieh some children, frequent checking is effective. of which the infant or child has learned to fall For others, infrequent checking works best. asleep. These same conditions are then required in order Continue returning to check on your child as long as she for the infant or child to fall back to sleep following peri- is crying or upset. The visits should be brief (one minute) odic normal nighttime arousals. and non-stimulating. Calmly tell your child it’s time to go Sleep associations can be appropriate, for example, to sleep. The purpose of returning to the room is to reasthumb sucking, or problematic, such as rocking, nursing, sure your child that you are still present and to reassure parental presence. Problematic sleep associations are yourself that your child is okay. those that require parental intervention and thus cannot Respond to your child during the night. In the beginbe reestablished independently by the child upon awak- ning, respond to your child as you normally do throughening during the night. out the night. Research indicates that the majority of Here are some helpful tips to help your child sleep children will naturally be sleeping throughout the night within 12 weeks of falling asleep quickly and easily at through the night: Develop an appropriate appropriate sleep schedule with an early bedtime. If your child continues to awaken during the bedtime. Ironically, Ironically, the more t ired your child is, the more night after several weeks, then use the same checking times she will awaken during the night. As such, be sure method during the night as you did at bedtime. your child continues to take naps during the day and set an Take a more gradual approach. Some parents feel that early bedtime. not being present when their child falls asleep feels like too Introduce a security or love object to your child. A big of a f irst step for them and their child. A more gradual transitional object, like a s tuffed toy, toy, doll or blanket, hel ps approach is to teach your child to fall asleep on her own, a child feel safe and secure when you are not present. but with you in the room. This approach may take longer, but it can feel more comfortable for some families. The Help your child become attached to a security object by including it as a part of the bedtime routine. In addition, first step is to put your child into her crib awake and sit on try to include this object whenever you are cuddling or a chair next to it. Once she is able to consistently fall asleep this way, way, sit fart her and far ther away every every three to four comforting comfo rting your child. Havee a bedtime routine. Establish a consistent bedHav nights until you are in the hallway and no longer in sight. time routine that includes calm and enjoyable activities, Be consistent and don’t give up. The first few nights such as a bath and a bedtime story. are likely to be very challenging and often the second or Create a consistent bedroom environment. Make sure third night is worse than the first night . However However,, within a your child’s bedroom environment is the same at bed- few nights to a week, you will begin to see improvement. time as it is throughout the night, for example, lighting. Stephanie Zandieh, M.D., M.D., 0is the director of the Pediatr ic Sleep Put your child to bed awake. After the bedtime rouDisorders and Apnea Center at The Valley Hospital.  tine, put your child into her crib awake and leave the

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Parents often think that if the child isn’t falling asleep before 10 p.m. it’s because he doesn’t need much sleep. But experts agree the opposite may be true. Children who are sleep deprived or overtired at bedtime may actually become hyperactive hyperactive To see if your child falls into this category, ask yourself the following questions: Is my child cranky, irritable or overtired during the day? Do I have

to wake him most mornings? Does he frequently fall asleep while riding in the car? If the answer is yes to any of these, your child may not be getting enough sleep. Following is a list of recommended hours of sleep (nap and night included) for different ages. Note these are approximations and may vary by individual.

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Summer Tip: Athletic Athlet ic Camper Camperss Need Nutrition Boost Denise Morrison Yearian

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ll children need nutritionally balanced meals for healthy growth and development, but for those involved in rigorous summer sports camps, the needs are even greater. To ensure your athlete receives proper nutrition and hydration to fuel his growing body and sustain him during the summer heat and sun, consider these seven expert suggestions.

1. Count on carbs. Carbohydrates are the macronutrient that fuels physical activity, so make sure your child has a consistent source of carbs every day. Whole grains are a better choice than refined grains, because they are rich in fiber, vitamins and minerals and take longer to digest, which enhances satiety and prevents a drop in blood sugar. Carb loading isn’t necessary unless the activity lasts more than 90 minutes. 2. Savvy with supplements. If your athlete is eating well, he or she will likely get the right amount of vitamins and minerals. However However,, vitamin and mineral supplements are a good idea and can be used as an insurance policy. But parents should never single dose or mega dose any vitamin or mineral without consulting their doctor or sports nutritionist, because it could do more harm than good. 3. Bank on a balance. An appropriate diet for young athletes includes getting adequate complex carbohydrates, a lean protein source and plenty of fruits and vegetables. During dinner, your teen’s plate should have 50 percent fruits and vegetables, 25 percent whole grains and 25 percent protein. If he wants a second plate, let him have his favorite food and don’t worry about over

consumption. Many very athletic teens don’t get enough calories.

4. Eat often. Growing athletes need three meals and at least two snacks each day to keep energy levels consistent and meet their growth and development development needs. Plan a snack or meal every three to four hours. Snacks should have a protein and a grain or a fruit. The protein acts as an anchor to stabilize the blood sugar. 5. Food to go. Think ahead on how you can provide healthy food options in the car. And remember, nutrition doesn’t have to be a hot meal. You can do just as well with peanut butter on whole grain bread and dried fruit, or frozen chocolate milk that’s been thawed out in the cooler. Sports foods marketed toward toward athletes can fil l a niche when you need energy on the go. They should not, however, replace other foods.” 6. Before and after event nutrition. Although young athletes should have carbs and a moderate amount of protein before an event, they need to know what their stomach’s can tolerate. Some teens can eat right before an activity and be fine; others need at least an hour for their food to digest. What’s most important is that they not exercise on an empty stomach. 7. Hype up hydration. The amount of fluids an athlete needs will depend largely on the climate, age and size, body chemistry and the level of activity. Offer fluids with every snack and meal. And if your teen isn’t taking a water break during practice, speak up. Denise Morrison Yearia Yearia n is the former editor of two parenting magazines, mother and grand-  mother. 

NCJW Scholarship Awar Awards ds Av Available ailable National Council of Jewish Women Bergen County Section is planning to award several $1,000 endowed scholarships to applicants graduating from a public high school who have been accepted into a four-year college or university program. Among the criteria that may Last year’s recipients be considered are the candidates’ academic record, participation in school and/or community activities, and financial need. Information and applications are available from

high school guidance offices and at www. ncjwbcs.org/advo ncjwbcs.o rg/advocacy-education/scholar cacy-education/scholar-ship. Deadline Deadlin e for submissions su bmissions is April Apri l 11. For more information, www.ncjwbcs.org.

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Putting Together Packages of Care Heidi Mae Bratt

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onathan Paul wanted to do something meaningful for his upcoming bar mitzvah. The 7th grader at Yeshivat Noam didn’t want to simply raise money for a cause; he wanted a hands-on initiative and to be part of the change. Taking his cue from his 18-year-old brother, Steven, who had run a marathon to raise money for Chai Lifetime for his own bar mitzvah years ago, and from his parents, Batya and Nathan Paul of Bergenfield, active and altruistic members of the community, Jonathan decided that for his bar mitzvah project he would find a way to give comfort to women who were being treated for breast and ovarian cancer. Partnering with Sharsheret, the Teaneck-based non-profit that supports young women with the disease, and the organization’s collaboration with Holy Name Medical Center in Teaneck, Jonathan created PJ’s Packages, goody bags filled with warm and fuzzy items to help

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the women facing a hospital stay or even a short treatment. PJ’s Packages (PJ is Jonathan’s nickname) include pink and teal warm, fuzzy slipper socks, ginger candy to ease nausea, chapstick, pink and teal straws, and, importantly, material from Sharsheret. “I had raised money in the past,” said  Jonathan, who raised nearly $4 $400 00 from a hamentaschen sale. “But I wanted to make something with the money, and give something to the patients to give them comfort.” In just a few days, he nearly reached his $5,000 goal. In creating PJ’s Packages and working with Sharsheret, Jonathan Jonathan also wanted to honor Rochelle Shoretz, who was a close family friend and the founder of Sharsheret. Ms. Shoretz died of the disease in June 2015. “Almost 3 years ago, my mom lost a very special friend to breast can cer, ” Jonathan wrote on Sharsheret’s funding page. “Rochie (Rochelle) Shoretz was a strong, fun, incredibly smart, and wonderful person. After being diagnosed with breast

Delivering the first batch of PJ’s Packages at the Cancer Center at Holy Name Medical Center in Teaneck. Pictured from left, Jonathan Paul, his mother Batya Paul, Amanda Lipschik, an oncology radiation social worker, and Coutney Lozano, program director of the cancer support community at Holy Name.

cancer at the age of 28, she decided to do something to help others and she created an organization called Sharsheret. “Rochie was an important part of our family. She was always positive and happy happy,, and understood that people needed comfort during hard times. I wanted to try and take Rochie’s lessons and apply them to a new program at Sharsheret.” Said Elana Silber, executive director of Sharsheret: “Sharsheret’s b’nai mitzvah

boys and girls have been seeking memorable, hands-on projects that directly help women living with breast cancer and ovarian cancer. Our partnership with Holy Name has created a new opportunity for b’nai mitzvah to connect directly with women at the hospital. We are so proud of bar mitzvah Jonathan Paul whose thoughtful PJ’s Packages are making a difference, providing comfort items and valuable resources to dozens of women while they are undergoing cancer treatment.”  Jonathan and his mother already have have delivered the first batch of PJ’s Packages to the Holy Name Cancer Center. They were were very well received. Said Batya of her son who is following in the chesed footsteps of his family, “It really does give us an enormous amount of pride.” To donate, https://sharsheret.donorpages.com/BarBatMitzvah/JonathanPaul/ Heidi Mae Bratt Bratt is the editor of About Our Children. 

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Out and About During the Chol Hamoed Passover Break Heidi Mae Bratt

Liberty Science Center Liberty State Park  222 22 2 Jersey City Cit y Boulevard   Jersey City 201-200-1000 www.lsc.org  The interactive science museum and learning center located Jersey City first opened in 1993 as New Jersey’s first major state science museum and now boasts and hosts countless visitors and cutting edge exhibitions. Its newest addition is the Jennifer Chalsty Planetarium and LSC Giant Dome Theater, the largest and most technologically advanced planetarium in the western hemisphere. Only four others in the world, t wo in Japan, Japan, one in China and one in Russia,

are bigger. The new planetarium boasts a resolution of 88 million pixels, a lighting system that can produce over 281 trillion tr illion individual colors, and new speakers capable of producing produci ng 30,000 30,000 watts of digital sound. Check it out. Or check out the science center’s other exhibitions.

 Sahara  Sahar a Sam’s Sam’s Oasis 535 Nor th Route 73 West Berlin, NJ 856-767-7580 www.saharasams.com When school is out, visitors can get their splash on at Sahara Sam’s Oasis, one of New  Jersey’s premier indoor waterparks and open all year. The family fun center was built

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with a retractable roof and provides clean, safe, affordable playtime. Float on a Monday, celebrate Tim-Buk-Tuesday, catch waves on a Wednesday or splash with friends Thursday through Sunday Sunday..

BounceU of Paramus 70 Eisenhower Dr ive Paramus, NJ 07652 201-843-5880 www.bounceu.com Turn any day into a bouncing fun celebration by visiting one of BounceU’s Open Bounce events. The facility with endless inflatables is a great spot for children and those older to bounce off the walls and burn off all that pentup energy. Check out their cal-

endar to see schedule of events. Look for special events, such as Wednesdays with Friends, and Throw Back Thursdays, as well as other specials.

Urban Air Adventure Park  69 Wesley Street  South Hackensack, NJ 201-212-6454, www.urbanairtrampolinepark. com The South Hackensack Trampoline Park is a great destination for Bergen County kids, big and small, to bounce and have some family fun. South Hackensack Trampoline Park, in addition to its open time, has weekly events and kids birthday parties.

Wonder. This Passover, find it in the largest planetarium in the Western Hemisphere. Visit the JENNIFER CHALSTY PL ANETA ANETARIUM. RIUM.

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Spring Fashion Forward Heidi Mae Bratt

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or the fashion savvy kid, there is magic in the air. Magic sequins, that is. This spring, the two-inone sequin can be found everywhere: on T-shirts, dresses, patches on denim jackets, backpacks, and more. Swipe the sequins in one direction and it’s one image; swipe the other, and it’s another look. What fun! Also popular for girls, said Susan Silverstein, buyer at Marcia’s Attic for Kids in Englewood, are ruffles. Ruffles can be seen on t-shirts and even denim. The hot color this season is dusty pink. Also popular are retro stripes, star prints, in foil or not, and the ever-popular unicorn as an emblem of fanciful fun. Alene Brodsky Bloom, co-owner with Wendy Borodkin of Carly’z Craze in Teaneck, the store has a variety of dresses, skirts and tops, including multi-colored, prints, stripes and florals in maxi, swing, fit and flair, sheath and bubble d resses for the spring season. To add a bit of edge, splashes of metallic shine and From Emporio

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metal grommet trims are showing on the clothing, as well. For young men and boys, the suits keep their slim and trim silhouette. But just like the spring itself, the colors are much br ighter. Emporio in Teaneck Teaneck also car ries the new spring collection from Princeton, which includes all-wool washable pants, perfect for kids. Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children. 

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t was an evening of fashion for a cause for Frisch students who took part in the second annual Frisch, Sharsheret, Lord and Ta Taylor ylor Fashion Show. There were 14 student models, an event planner, stylist, and representative of Sharsheret, the TeaneckTeaneckbased nonprofit that supports young women with breast and ovarian cancer, and many fashion fans, friends and family members who gathered for the evening at the depar tment store located in Paramus’ Westfield Garden State Plaza. The women and girls who attended the event got a chance to take a look at the new spring line of clothing that Lord and Taylor carries, purchased new outfits — at a discounted price — and most importantly, raised money for Sharsheret. “Sometimes people see fashion and beauty as superficial,” said Na’ama Kaye, of Teaneck eaneck,, t he 17 17-year-old Frisch junior who organized the event. “But it is something that we can use on a deeper level to help each

The students and pros at the Frisch fashion show. ELLIANNA FRIED (ELLIE FRIED PHOTOGRAPHY)

other and the community. And the message of putting your best face forward is a very positive one. I wanted to use my love of fashion in a way that would positively benefit t he communit y.” Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children 

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‘Just Be Happy’ Nah, That’s Not the Goal Adina Soclof

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o many parents say, “I just want my child to be happy.” But that is not the goal of parenting. In fact, the more you try to make your child happy, the less happy they will be. Children need structure, limits and rules. They thrive on this. It ultimately makes them feel safe and secure. But they don’t like them. They don’t like being told to go to bed or to leave the park. Teens don’t like not being allowed to stay out to wee morning hours partying with friends. Parents have to impose these rules multiple times a day and most kids don’t take this lying down. Almost everyday you have to make children feel sad, (take a bath, don’t eat that cake, turn off the computer) to help them feel safe, secure and ultimately happy, healthy and clean. Not only that, authentic, true happiness stems from feeling capable and

competent. Life is tough and knowing that you are able to handle whatever life throws you makes you happy. We need to teach our children to be problem solvers so that they feel more invested in their home and family and will be more likely to listen and cooperate. We need to change our focus from making kids feel happy to making them feel competent  Helping children feel that they have it within them to manage life’s big and little problems is the ultimate gift we can give them. That should be our parenting goal. We need to change our focus from making kids feel happy to making them feel competent. We want to raise independent, responsible kids. Instead of telling yourself that you want your children to be happy in the here and now, now, look at

it from a perspective of teaching him/her the skills she needs for long-term authentic happiness. The latest research in raising emotionally healthy kids tells us that not only do children need to feel competent (or resilient), they need to learn selfcontrol and to delay gratification. They also need to feel that they are living a life of meaning. Finally, they need to feel truly needed, that they have something unique to contribute to the world and they, as an individual human being, make the world a better place. Children today are coddled and taken care of in ways that they never have been before. Children were instrumental in sustaining their family. Everyone had chores. This gave children a sense of purpose. Spoiling our kids lessens that sense of purpose.

We need to give to our children the precious gift of meaning and purpose that comes through challenging effort and the gratification of work. When your children have a problem, big or small, this is not a catastrophe. It’s a wonderful opportunity to help them manage and tackle their problem. It is a great time to teach them important life skills, how to deal with big feelings, getting along with others, learn how to get calm. Happiness Happine ss is certainly important. But it’s not the goal. It’s a means to accomplish the more meaningful and lasting goals in life. Let’s help our kids feel competent and confident. That is how we can ultimately help our kids be happy. Adina Soclof Soclof is a parent, professional develop-  ment instructor and speech pathologist, pathologist, and founder of pa rentin gsimply.com. com. She can be reached at [email protected]. 

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A Seat on the Sideline But Still Front and Center Ed Silberfarb

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fter a certain age there’s a limit to what one can do with one’s grandchildren. We introduced them to skiing and enjoyed carving turns with them. Now, one knee replacement later, skiing for me is in the past while they schuss and slide on their own. Skating with them was fun until I needed help getting up after an embarrassing spill. They kindly stifled their laughter. Running? Forget it. Not when they do their 5Ks routinely and a nd an occasional impressive im pressive 10K. Biking? Once a favorite group activity. Now my bike idles and the tires go flat while grandchildren clock bike mileage to raise money for c harity. Yet there is a challenging and fulfilling role that remains for a grandparent —vicarious visitant. visitant . In her adolescent years, my g randdaughter was an accomplished figure skater, the result of costly lessons and many weeks of practice. The year-end ice show was a time for the young ladies to demonstrate their toe loops, spins and salchows. salc hows. I looked forward to a rewarding rewarding night

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of glamorous and skillful athleticism. “Where are you going? The show is for women only.” Was the greeting at the entrance. Another granddaughter in her pre-teens took up horseback riding at a day camp in the far corner of Brooklyn. Here was an unsurpassable picture opportunity, a young granddaughter in riding boots and jodhpurs astride a majestic horse. We headed for the stable on one of the hottest days of the summer. Instruct ions to get t here were were complicated so we allowed extra time to provide for inevitable errors. From the subway subway,, we crossed Ocean Parkway by way of the second pedestrian bridge, not the f irst. We knew we were on track because of the distinctive stable odor. We arrived early afternoon, the heat of the day. In the barn, horses were in the stalls, and a young man was pitching hay. “Where are the children?” “Oh, they’re in the park.” “But the horses are here.” “The kids were riding this morning. Now there’s organized play with the counselors.” The camera hung limp on my belt. We met our horseless granddaughter when she returned from the park, and stopped for a much needed ice c ream cone. Our grandson, a sophomore at the high school of YeYeshiva University University in Manhattan, t ried out for the wrestling team, and he made it. Obviously the wrestling matches would be a high priority in our lives. The first would be at a high school near City College of New York. It would be a round-robin tournament with six schools competing. The subway took me there part way. way. The rest of the trip required my hiking up a Mt. Everest-type Everest-type hill. In the school gym was a chaotic assemblage of wrestlers and their boisterous followers. My grandson was in his wrestling tights with a bulging apparatus on his head that looked like earphones. “Do you listen to music while you wrestle?” It seemed to be an obvious question. He patiently explained it was protection to prevent caulif lower ears. He was matched against a young man a head taller and seemed a year or two older. Opponents Opponents had to be in the same weight class, and our grandson was dieting to make the 145 pound weight limit. The lack of food may have weakened him, and he lost on points. I told him he did well. “Better luck next time.” Assuming he was through for the night, I went home. I later learn ed he had a second match that night, which he won. His next match was scheduled at Yeshiva University High School, a subway ride to Washington Heights, followed by an eight-block walk up a windswept hill in December with the temperature in single digits. His uncle traveled in from Brooklyn to meet us. After waiting an hour-and-a-half for the opposing team, we learned that my grandson would not be allowed to compete because

One of the many events as the author’s grandson wrestles at a competition.

a scrape on his arm, sustained in practice, had not healed. We went home only to find out that he had wrestled after all, and won. Though his victories had eluded me, I was still determined. The next match was scheduled at Y.U. against an important rival from Long Island. My son, father of the wrestling grandson, arranged his work schedule so he could drive up from Baltimore to attend. My other son, the wrestler’s uncle, aga in arranged to come in from Brooklyn for the much-anticipated event. This time we faced not only record-bre record-breaking aking cold with paralyzing wind chill, but also a 9-inch snowfall. It was all in vain. The other school canceled the match. I was not having much success as a cheerleading grandpa, but all was not lost. My granddaughter, a fourth grader in Brooklyn’s P.S. 39, was in the school chorus, and the time had come for the December Winter Celebration. Each class would sing holiday selections, then the chorus, in their classy red and white uniforms, would sing the climax of the program. The fourth grade, supported by chorus members and accompanied by drum percussion, belted out “Winter Wonderland. Wonderland.” Then came the chorus. They sang three numbers, including “The Journey” adapted from a score by Anton Dvorak. The audience of some 500 erupted in thunderous applause, which we assumed was directed at our granddaughter. My role as a vicarious visitant was fulfilled.

Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen Record in New Jersey, then the New York Herald Tribune where he was City Hall bureau chief. Later, he was a public informat ion officer for the New York City Transit Transit Authorit y and edi tor of one of its employee publicati ons.  ABOUT OUR CHILDREN •

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The Blessing of Voice Lessons by Wendy Mogel Heidi Mae Bratt

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amed psychologist Dr. Wendy Mogel gave the world over, over, from Brooklyn to Beijing, practical parenting advice on how to raise self-reliant, ethical, and compassionate children c hildren in her bestseller, “The Blessing of the Skinned Knee,” and its follow up, “The Blessing of a B Minus,” which drew on the Torah, the Talmud and important Jewish teachings to show parents how to turn their children’s worst traits into their greatest attributes. Now the Los Angeles-based Dr. Mogel has a new book, “Voice Lessons for Parents” (Scribner), which offers an essential guide to the new art of talking to children, showing how a change in one’s demeanor can transform the relationship. Drawing on the latest neuroscience, anthropology and fairy tales, her new book, which will be released April 17, the same day that Dr. Mogel will give a talk at the 92nd St. Y in Manhattan, gives parents a paradigm for speaking to their children at every age and stage of their development, from infant to teen, in an effort to deepen the communication shared between parent and c hild. “Children will lead you on an incredible journey if they trust you, if you make the time, and if you are willing to follow,” said Dr. Mogel, who spoke to About Our Children from her office in Los Angeles. “These conversations are about deepening your relationship with your children — and enjoying them.” “Voice Lessons” was born out of what she saw with greater frequency in her practice, that is parents who became transformed “physically, emotionally and mentally” when discussing how their children had a different point of view — “which was most of the time,” she pointed out. “Kids were just being regular kids . They’re supposed

to want things that are inappropriate to have — goods, services and freedoms. And parents are free to, and obligated, to say no in a confident way.” Instead, what happened with parents was “voices went up a register, their shoulders were shrugged and raised, and fingers started pointing. “The parent became a child. The parent regressed, lost their stature, lost their confidence. What happened is that it became a form of sibling rivalry, and the parent lost. I’ve been doing this for more than 35 years and I’ve neverr seen this neve t his before. Parents were losing their patience, their confidence, their clarity. cla rity.” So she began to give parents voice lessons. The content of their message may not have changed, but the delivery did. As, did the body language. And, sometimes the setting. And guess what? It made all the difference. “One of the remarkable things that happened was that the voice lessons were so effective. It made a big difference. It’s never too late to st art.” Dr. Mogel attributed the breakdown in communication to over scheduling, too much digital time, too much screen time, angst about t he state of the world — “Which is going to go first? The government or the planet?” Too much stress, and too much anxiety and home life has lost its joy, joy, lost its sense of humor. “Where is the delight?” she asked. “Families were were not developing dev eloping in-jokes. They’ve lost the opportunit y to look forward to events events and then to look back on them. t hem. Even a bad vacation is good. “Hurry, worry and digital distractions have intruded on our conversations,” But Dr. Mogel offers a way to get them back. She offers specific guidance for talking to children across the expanse of childhood and adolescence and explains the best ways to talk about your child with others. “No matter how much the culture changes, kids dev develop elop at the same rate and they need the same things they’ve always needed from their parents,” she said. Words, or voice lessons, that are a blessing indeed. Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of Abo About ut Our Children. 

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“The way to protect your child is by focusing on what is timeless and providing the basics children have always needed: stability stability,, consistency,, tenderness consistency and acceptance. acceptance.”” — Voice Voice Lessons Lesson s for Parents by Wendy Mogel, Ph.D.

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Gallery

Yes, They ICAN Bergen County High School of Jewish Studies (BCHSJS) students attended the ICAN Teen Conference sponsored by the Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey. They learned how to defuse angry conversations with unbiased facts about Israel, and how Jewish organizations can help them feel safe and at home in college.

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A Paw-fect Meeting

Intense rehearsals are underway for the Tenafly High School production of “Legally Blonde,” the Broadway spectacular, with performances scheduled for April 26, 27 and 28.

Kindergarten students at Academies at Gerrard Berman Day School in Oakland got meet with man’s best friends, courtesy of the Ramapo-Bergen Animal Refuge, Inc. Paws In Hand Program, which brought Mabel, George, and Kip to school to teach the youngsters how to engage positively with dogs.

Teaming With Teens

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Valley Chabad’s C-Teen C-Teen group recently joined 2,500 others at the International Teen Weekend, Weekend, which took place in New York York City, Crown Heights, Brooklyn and environs. The weekend included an inspiring Shabbaton and performances by Jewish rapper Nissim Black, and Gad Elbaz.

Students at Wayne’s Shomrei Torah religious school drama elective presented a musical comedy showcasing Moses and the 10 plagues in preparation for Passover.

Ice Skating is Nice Skating What fun they had as participants in FLIPPER USY went ice-skating at the Ice House in Hackensack.

Lotza Matzah Bris Avrohom of Fair Lawn distributed hand-baked shmura matzah from Israel to the children of the CETT Hebrew School in preparation for t he Passover seder.

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The Sounds of Music JCC Thurnauer School of Music recently celebrated its annual Gift of Music Gala Benefit Concert with an evening of musical celebration from opera, to songs by Leonard Bernstein to Irish ballads and other entertaining performances by young people.

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ealthy Shopping at Liberty Science Center ttention, Liberty Science Center oppers! Learn about making smart od choices at “Liberty Grocery ore,” a new interactive We Explore venture for young learners. Guests n dress up as shoppers and work-

ers in the grocery store, stock the tore with a variety of food choices, run the cash register, and help count money. Ask questions about the food and see which are the best choices. Great for youngsters 2 to 5.

L bert berty y Sc enc ence e Center  Center  er y a e ar    222 Jersey C ty Boulevar  Boulevar  Jersey Jers ey C ty  www.lsc.org.

Construction Site edtime at bergenPAC “Goodnight, Goodnight Construction Site: The Musical” is based on the book by Sherri Duskey Rinker, illustrated by Tom Lichtenheld. Bedtime is approaching and this team of construction vehicles needs to get their rest. But Crane Truck is getting cranky,

Cement Mixer takes too long with bath time, and Dump Truck Truck  just isn’t sleepy. Excavator Excavator and Bulldozer find that preparing for bed is a job in itself. Will they ever get some shut-eye before tomorrow’s day of work? Find out.

Sun ay Sun ay,, Apr Apr l 8 1 an an 4 p.m p.m.. ergenPAC   30 North Van Brunt Street  Englewoo  Engle woo . 201-227 201-227-1030 -1030 www.bergenpac.org.

PJ Mas s Live! Time To Be A Hero PJ Masks Live! Time to Be a Hero, a musical production based on the Disney Junior animated TV series, eatures Catboy, Owlette, Gekko, and the Baddies who will delight ans of all ages. PJ Masks follows he nighttime adventures of three oung friends who transform into

their dynamic alter egos, Catboy, Owlette and Gekko, when they put on their pajamas at night and activate their animal amulets. Together, Together, they embark on action-packed capers, olving mysteries and learning valuable lessons along th e way.

Mon ay Mon ay,, Apr Apr l 23 6 p.m. ergen  30 North Van Brunt Street  Englewoo  Engl ewoo . 201-227 201-227-1030 -1030 www.. erge www ergenpac npac.org .org..

opalong Andrew at The Jewish Musuem Hear the down-home sounds of Hopalong Andrew and his band of mericana musicians as they playully adapt traditional folk songs and classic country songs to reflect city life for urban cowpokes. Clap and stomp with the fiddle, banjo, pedal steel, harmonica, and conta-

gious harmonies that feature songs in honor of Earth Day. Former NYC Park Ranger Hopalong Andrew will share tunes such as “The Yodeling Ranger of Central Park,” “Outside,” and many other golden melodies that will have you swinging your partner in celebration of nature.

Sun ay Sun ay,, Apr Apr l 22 : a.m. o : p.m. The Jew sh Museum Museum 1109 F th Avenue Avenue at 92 Street ew or y. www.the www. the ew shmuseu shmuseum.org. m.org.

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This calendar is a day-by-day day-by-day schedule of events. Although all information is as timely as we can make it, it’s a good idea to call to verify details before you go.

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Wednesday, April 11

Educator Appreciation Day at Barnes & Noble: Pre-K through Grade 12 educators, join us in store every weekend in April and enjoy 25 percent off most books, toys, games, movies, music, and more. The Shops@Riverside, 187 Riverside Square, Hackensack. 201-488-8037

Preschool Storytime at Teaneck Library: For Library:  For children 3 years old and older. Come listen to a story and enjoy the company of others. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teaneck.org.

Wednesday, April 4 Preschool Storytime at Teaneck Library: For children 3 years old and older. Come listen to a story and enjoy the company of others. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teaneck.org. Swan Lake at b ergenPAC: ergenPAC: The  The Moscow Festival Ballet performs the tale of a woman doomed to be a swan set to Tchaikovsky’s glorious score. 8 p.m. bergenPAC, 30 North Van Brunt Street, Englewood. 201-227-1030, www.bergenpac.org.

Friday, April 6 Kabbalat Shabbat in Closter: Temple Closter:  Temple Beth El in Closter invites the community to join a Kabbalat service at 6:30 p.m. Led by Rabbi David Widzer and student cantor July Staple. Temple Beth El, 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-768-5112. Shabbat at Temple Emeth: Family Emeth:  Family Shabbat Services at Temple Emeth, 1666 Windsor Road in Teaneck at 7:30 PM. 201-833-1322 or www.emeth.org.

Saturday, April 7 Meet & Greet at The Dairy Queen: Rabbi Queen:  Rabbi Debra Orenstein of Congregation B’nai Israel will enjoy food and conversation at the Dairy Queen, 13 Kinderkamack Road, Emerson from 8 to 8:45 p.m. Stop by and say hi. She will be wearing a kippah and a smile.

Sunday, April 8 Goodnight, Goodnight Construction Site: Musical based on the book by Sherri Duskey Rinker. Trying to get the members of the construction site isn’t easy. Shows at 1 and 4 p.m. bergenPAC, 30 North Van Brunt Street, Englewood. 201-227-1030, www.bergenpac.org.

Monday, April Monday,  April 9 WiiU Games in Paramus: Welcome Paramus: Welcome grades kindergarten to 4 from 3:30 to 4:30 p.m. No registration required. Bring your friends and play fun WiiU games. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org.

Tuesday, April 10 Little Bookworms in Paramus: Welcome Paramus: Welcome newborns to 18 months with parent or caregiver. 10 to 10:45 a.m. For Paramus residents. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org. Teen Tuesday at Paramus Librar y: y: Come  Come and play Family Feud. From 3 to 3:45 p.m. For grades 5 and up. Register one-week prior or call youth services desk, 201-599-1309. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org. Pajama Storytime: Bring Storytime: Bring the whole family to our evening storytime from 7 to 7:45 p.m. Read bedtime books, sing fun songs, and do finger plays. Pajamas optional. No registration necessary. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org.

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Toddler Time in Glen Rock:  Glen Rock Jewish Center hosts a group for children 12 months to 2 years old. 9:15 to 10:30 a.m. Arts and crafts, music, songs, stories, finger plays and free play. Time is set aside each week for discussions on topics of special interest to the parents and caregivers of toddlers. You and your child should dress comfortably and bring a smock and a drink. We will provide snack. Glen Rock Jewish Center, 682 Harristown Road, Glen Rock. 201-652-6624, [email protected].

Thursday, April 12 Cool Kids Cook: Grilled Cook: Grilled cheese: Special event for youngsters kindergarten through 4th grade. From 4 to 4:45 p.m. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org.

Friday, April 13 Shabbat in Closter: Temple Closter:  Temple Beth El invites the community to join in a Kabbalat Shabbat service at 6:30 p.m. Temple Beth El, 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-768-5112. Temple Emeth Shabbat Music Service: Temple Service: Temple Emeth presents a Shabbat music service at 8 p.m. with Rabbi Steven Sirbu and Cantor Ellen Tilem. Sing, dance, and enjoy Shabbat music performed by the Temple Emeth band, 1666 Windsor Road, Teaneck. 201-833-1322, www.emeth.org.

Sunday, April 15 Walk for United Hospice of Rockland: Walk Rockland:  Walk in memory of a loved one or in honor of a family member, friend or colleague. Walk is 8 a.m., Rockland Lake State Park, Congers, NY. For information or to learn about sponsorship opportunities, [email protected]. Let it Be at NJPAC: NJPAC: Direct  Direct from London’s West End and Broadway, “Let it Be” invites you to experience the rise of the worlds most successful rock ‘n roll band, from their humble beginnings in Liverpool’s Cavern Club, through the height of Beatlemania to their later studio masterpieces. Adults and youngsters alike will enjoy the show. 3 p.m. New Jersey Performing Arts Center, 1 Center Street, Newark. 888-GO-NJPAC, www.njpac.org. Holocaust Remembrance Day at Congregation B’nai Israel: High Israel: High school aged and younger students will read stories of children in the Holocaust, some who survived and some who didn’t. 9:30 to 10:30 a.m. A candle lighting ceremony will follow. Congregation B’nai Israel, 53 Palisade Avenue, Emerson. 201-265-2272, www. bisrael.com

Swan Lake, see Wednesday, April 4 2 years old. 9:15 to 10:30 a.m. Arts and crafts, music, songs, stories, finger plays and free play. Time is set aside each week for discussions on topics of special interest to the parents and caregivers of toddlers. You and your child should dress comfortably and bring a smock and a drink. We will provide snack. Glen Rock Jewish Center, 682 Harristown Road, Glen Rock. 201-652-6624, [email protected]. Preschool Storytime at Teaneck Library: For Library:  For children 3 years old and older. Come listen to a story and enjoy the company of others. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teaneck.org. Teen Wednesdays: Wednesdays: Cookie  Cookie Event. From 3:30 to 4:30 p.m. For grades 5 through 8. Decorate and design your own cooking using sprinkles and icing. Paramus Library, Charles E. Reid Branch, 239 West Midland Avenue, Paramus. 201-444-4911, www.paramuslibrary.org.

Thursday, April 19 Cool Kids Cook: Create Cook: Create an Earth Day snack: Special event for youngsters kindergarten through 4th grade. From 4 to 4:45 p.m. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org.

Friday, April 20 Tot Shabbat in Closter: Temple Closter:  Temple Beth El Tot Shabbat led by Rabbi David Widzer, Rabbi Beth Kramer-Mazer and Student Cantor Julie Staple at 5:15 p.m. This Tot Shabbat is open to all nursery school age children and features song, stories, and a craft about Israel. 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-768-5112. Israel’s Birthday in Closter: The Closter: The community is invited to celebrate Israel’s birthday as Rabbi David S. Widzer, Rabbi Beth Kramer-Mazer and Student Cantor Julie Staple with the Unplugged Band and our Junior Choir, Rinat Beth El and our Religious School students, lead us in a family friendly Shabbat service at 6:45 p.m. 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter. 201-768-5112. Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth El: Temple El:  Temple Beth El of Northern Valley hosts a Tot Shabbat from 5:15 to 6:15 p.m. Join us for an Israeli-themed service with Rabbi David Widzer, Rabbi Beth Kramer-Mazer, and Student Cantor Julie Staple. All are invited. 221 Schraalenburgh Road, Closter, 201 767-5112, [email protected].

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Saturday, April 21

Teen Tuesday at Paramus Librar y: y: Join  Join in for Waffle-mania. From 3 to 3:45 p.m. For grades 5 and up. Register one-week prior or call youth services desk, 201-599-1309. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org.

Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood: Daniel Neighborhood:  Daniel and all of his friends invite you for a brand-new adventure in Neighborhood of Make-Believe where Daniel learns just what it takes to be King. The beloved characters come alive on stage tell a story full of tigertastic f un, valuable lessons of kindness, helping others and being a friend. 1:30 and 5 p.m. bergenPAC, 30 North Van Brunt Street, Englewood. 201-227-1030, www.bergenpac.org.

Wednesday, April 18 Toddler Time in Glen Rock:  Glen Rock Jewish Center hosts a group for children 12 months to

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Community Awareness Event: Members Event: Members of the Teaneck community, along with Amudim, will hold an evening of awareness and education about the growing problem of substance abuse and addiction in the Jewish community. Speakers will include Rabbi Zvi Gluck, director of Amudim, Avi Shteingart, LCSW/CASAC, Rabbi Larry Rothwachs, director of Professional Rabbinics at RIETS/Rabbi of Congregation Beth Aaron, as well as a recovering addict and a local parent. 8 p.m. Torah Academy of Bergen County, 1600 Queen Anne Road, Teaneck.

Tuesday, April 24 Teen Tuesday at Paramus Librar y: y: Make  Make a Pinterest project. From 3 to 3:45 p.m. For grades 5 and up. Register one-week prior or call youth services desk, 201-599-1309. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org.

Wednesday, April 25 Teen Wednesdays: Wednesdays: Plant  Plant a Flower Special Event. From 3:30 to 4:30 p.m. For grades 5 through 8. Come plant a spring flower and take it home. Paramus Charles E. Reid Branch, 239 West Midland Avenue, Paramus. 201-444-4911, www.paramuslibrary.org. Celebrate Earth Day: Grades Day:  Grades kindergarten through 4 are invited to make an Earth Day planter with a rainforest frog. From 4 to 4:45. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org. Toddler Time in Glen Rock:  Glen Rock Jewish Center hosts a group for children 12 months to 2 years old. 9:15 to 10:30 a.m. Arts and crafts, music, songs, stories, finger plays and free play. Time is set aside each week for discussions on topics of special interest to the parents and caregivers of toddlers. You and your child should dress comfortably and bring a smock and a drink. We will provide snack. Glen Rock Jewish Center, 682 Harristown Road, Glen Rock. 201-652-6624, [email protected]. Preschool Storytime at Teaneck Library: For Library:  For children 3 years old and older. Come listen to a story and enjoy the company of others. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teaneck.org.

Thursday, April 26 Cool Kids Cook: Fun Cook: Fun with Fruits and Veggies: Special event for youngsters kindergarten through 4th grade. From 4 to 4:45 p.m. Paramus Public Library, 116 East Century Road, Paramus, 201-599-1300, www.paramuslibrary.org. Free Online Learning for Parents: 18 Parents:  18 minute online class for parents lead by Ami Hersh, Rabbi at Orangetown Jewish Center and director of Ramah Day Camp in Nyack. Participate from the comfort of your home. To register contact Roberta Seitzman, director of Adult Education at the Jewish Federation & Foundation of Rockland County. 845-362-4200 x 130, adulteducation@  jewishrockland.org.  jewishro ckland.org.

Sunday, April 29 Shen Yun Dance in Newark: The Newark:  The spectacular Shen Yun – the world’s premiere classical Chinese dance and music company returns to Newark at NJPAC. Performances 1 and 6 p.m. Performances also April 28 through May 3. NJPAC, 1 Center Street, Newark. 1-888-GO-NJPAC.

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OurChildren  Blessing from page 15 and too much anxiety and home life has lost its joy, lost its sense of humor. “Where is the delight?” she asked. “Families were not developing in-jokes. They’ve lost the opportunity to look forward to events and then to look back on them. Even a bad vacation is good. “Hurry, worry and digital distractions have intruded on our conversations,” But Dr. Mogel offers a way to get them back. She offers specific guidance for talking to children across the expanse

 Bnai mitzvah  LILLY GOLDFARB Lilly Goldfarb, daughter of Alyson Yashar and James Goldfarb of Saddle River, celebrated becoming a bat mitzvah on March 24 at Temple Beth Rishon in Wyckoff.

 JENNA  JENN A LINCOLN LINCOLN ARDEN DE VAUL Arden De Vaul, son of Heather and Jeffrey De Vaul of Waldwick, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on March 3 at Temple Emanuel in Woodcliff Lake.

Jenna Lincoln, daughter of Michelle Levine and Paul Lincoln of Ridgewood, celebrated becoming a bat mitzvah on March 3 at Temple Israel & Jewish Community Center in Ridgewood.

OMER NATHANIEL Omer Nathaniel, son of Ayelet and Ehud Nathaniel of Closter, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on March 24 at Temple Beth El of Northern Valley in Closter.

MICHAEL REITMAN Michael Reitman, son of Robyn and Gary Reitman of Upper Saddle River and brother of Stephanie and Melissa, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on March 10 at Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley in Woodcliff Lake.

GABBY TEITEL Gabby Teitel, daughter of Kari and Jon Teitel of Wyckoff and sister of Dylan, celebrated becoming a bat mitzvah on March 17 at Temple Beth Rishon in Wyckoff.

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Devon Fuchs, daughter of Amy and Bruce Fuchs of Upper Saddle River and sister of Daniel, celebrated becoming a bat mitzvah on March 17 at Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley in Woodcliff Lake.

Judah Widzer, son of Karen Loewy and David Widzer of Haworth, celebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on March 3 at Temple Beth El of Northern Valley in Closter.

of childhood and adolescence and explains the best ways to talk about your child with others. “No matter how much the culture changes, kids develop at the same rate and they need the same things they’ve always needed from their parents,” she said. Words, or voice lessons, that are a blessing indeed. Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Ou r Children. 

Kaplen JCC Accepting Applications for College Scholarships High schoo l student s in Grades 9-1 9-12, who are seeking support for college can apply for a scholarship offered through the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades. “Our hope is to give local youth the educational opportunities they deserve,” says Aaron Atlas, the JCC Youth and Camping Engagement Director. “We are so proud to be able to offer the scholarships, as they make education and important life-shaping experiences accessible to young people who would not be able to obtain them otherwise.” The College Scholarship Fund offers annual grants to deserving collegebound Jewish students in Bergen County,

including students with special needs. They are open to undergraduates looking to attend a 4-y 4-year ear accredited college in the United States or Israel. Applicants must possess financial need and good academic standing. Grants are not renewable, but students may apply each year. Support has been made possible by the Hildegard & Sidney Schonfeld  Jewish  Jewi sh Community College Scholarship Fund at the JCC. The application deadline is May 4, 2018. For more information, contact Aaron Atlas at 201-408-1484 or aatlas@jccotp. org. Application available online at: jccotp. org/teen-educational-programs.

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Putting on the Passover Polish Rabbi Yael Buechler, who innovated teaching Torah through the art of nail design, and then created a whimsical line of nail art decals, has added the “Ten Modern Plagues” for this holiday. From binge-watching to global warming, the decals of today’s “plagues” will

certainly spark curiosity and conversation at the seder table. The set also includes the ten traditional plagues. Also new this year, Rabbi Rabbi Buechler has c reated a matzah headband to hold hair in place while reclining at the table. For more information, www.midrashmanicures.com.

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Alex Bregman makes a play in Game 7 of the World Series at Dodger Stadium in Los Angeles on November 1, 2017. KEVORK DJANSEZIAN/GETTY IMAGES

Alex Bregman is baseball’s next Jewish star HILLEL KUTTLER WEST PALM BEACH, FLA. — Sitting on a couch near his locker at the Houston Astros’ spring training facility here in mid-March, Alex Bregman is reflecting about an encounter his father had at the World Series last fall. It was in Los Angeles, between innings of the opening  game. Sam Bregman was headed for a Dodger Stadium concession stand to grab a nosh, wearing his Astros jersey  with the No. 2 and his surname stitched on the back — a facsimile of his son’s uniform. T he young Bregman, a third  baseman, had j ust slugged a home run off Dodgers ace Clayton Kershaw. A fan grabbed Sam Bregman’s arm. “Are you Alex’s dad?” “I am,” the elder Bregman replied. “Is he Jewish?” “Yeah.” The man was a Dodger fan, bu t still he flashed what Sam Bregman described as “a look of great contentment” at the  ballplayer’s  ballpla yer’s heritag heritage. e. “I got such a kick out of it,” Sam Bregman said in a phone interview near his home in Albuquerque, New Mexico. “It made me feel so proud.” Alex Bregman’s take on the encounter: “It’s de�initely cool to have fans around the world give their support. It keeps you motivated to know that everyone has your  back.””  back. Bregman can expect to have more fans — Jewish or oth erwise — on his bandwagon after his strong 2017 season and the �irst World Series title for the Astros — a title to 36 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

 which he c ontributed mightily. He knocked in a run in each of the �irst �ive games, added a second home run, threw out a runner at home plate to preserve a scoreless tie in Game 4, and had the run-scoring single that ended an epic Game 5 in the 10th inning, 13�12. During the 2017 season, the former No. 2 overall draft pick out of Louisiana State averaged .284, pounded 39 doubles and 19 home runs, and stole 17 bases. Two days after the Game 7 road victory, Bregman cel ebrated at the championship parade in Houston. Thousands of fans lined streets in a city still recovering from Hurricane Harvey flooding a couple of months earlier. “To see their pure joy gave me the chills,” Bregman said. The experience capped a memorable year for Bregman that began with his playing for the U.S. team that won the World Baseball Classic title in March. Israel’s squad, which �inished sixth overall in the WBC, had sought his services. In retrospect, he said, “I probably should’ve” played played for Israel “bec ause I got just four at-bats” playing as a backup for the American team. Regardless of who comes c alling in 2021, Bregman said, he’s unlikely to participate. His Astros will start defending their championship on Thursday in Arlington, Texas, against the Rangers. Bregman will turn 24 the next day. “There are a lot of things I want to accomplish in this game. Winning is right there at the top,” he said. “We have a great team to repeat as champs.” Astros manager A.J. Hinch said he expects Bregman to “build off the momentum he generated in the postseason and throughout the whole season last year.

“While he’s established himself as a major league player, he’s not even close to what he’s going to be,” Hinch said. He called Bregman “a true baseball rat,” someone who “loves the game, loves practice, loves being around his teammates.” But his mother, Jackie, will tell you that her son is about more than baseball. His foundation, AB for AUDS, pro vides computer computer tablets to children children with autism autism and and Down Down syndrome. Brady Columbus, a son of Bregman’ Bregman’ss former hitting coach and Bregman’s godson, is autistic.  Jackie Bregman Bregman spoke spoke of her her son’s son’s kindness. kindness. “Alex “Alex is so patient with people, and I’m really really,, really proud of him for that,” she said in a phone interview. She recalled her son defending elementary school classmates who were being bullied. And he was also on the other end: A boy made fun of Alex’s pending bar mitzvah as he was leaving school to meet with the cantor, and a Chinese-American teammate on Alex’s basketball squad stood up for him. The experiences, Jackie Bregman said, “taught him  what it it was like like to be marginalize marginalized. d.”” Years ago, the family attended an appearance by several players for the minor league Albuquerque Isotopes. One player was aloof. “Sam and I said to Alex, ‘Don’t ever be like that,’ “ she recalled. But Jackie Bregman also knows her son is driven to excel on the �ield. “He would not mince words. ‘I don’t just want to play  baseball; I want to be the best,’” best,’” Jackie Bregman Bregman rememremem bered her her son saying. saying. “He “He was determine determined. d.”” In junior high in Albuquerque, Bregman attended a

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University of New Mexico baseball camp. University The Lobos’ baseball coach, Ray Birmingham, preached dedication to greatness. “Alex took that so literally that he’d hit in the batting cages until he got calluses,” recalled Sam Bregman, who had grown up on the �ield at Robert F. Kennedy Stadium, where his late father, Stan, worked as a lawyer for the Washington Senators. It was Stan, “Grandpa Zayde,” who gave his grandson a card set of Jewish baseball players. Someone else who saw that commitment was Darvin Ham, who coached the New Mexico Thunderbirds, an NBA Development League team the Bregmans owned. In postgame conversations and at the Bregman home, Alex Bregman “was like a sponge” of information about the makings of athletic achievement, said Ham, now an assistant coach with the Atlanta Hawks. “He was a very good listener. He took mental notes,” said Ham, who considers Alex Bregman “a little brother.” Bregman explained his early competitive drive. “Coach Birmingham said you have to decide,” he recalled. “I woke up at 5 a.m. to  go to the cage to school to the cage: defense and hitting. I did that every day for years, be ginning at probably age 12 or 13. I never  went to to the school dance. dance.”” On this day, Bregman departed for a practice �ield and chatted in Spanish with fellow in�ielders Jose Altuve and Carlos Correa, natives of Venezuela and Puerto Rico, respectively, respectively, at second base du ring a running drill. Bregman is fluent in the language.  Jeri ck Paqu into, a 19-y ear- old from Houston wearing a Bregman jersey, was among hundreds of fans watching. “I like that he’s not the biggest guy and he has a lot of heart,” Paquinto said of the 6-foot Bregman, words similarly applicable to the 5-foot-6 Altuve, last year’s

American League MVP. “I liked him since he was at LSU, LSU,” ” where Bregman was a �irstteam All American at shortstop. “I saw him hit a homer, and I fell in love with him as a player.” The trio jogged toward a batting cage, Bregman stopped to sign autographs after he �inished hitting. He’ll be signing plenty more when the Astros come home next week for their opener at Minute Maid Park. His parents will be there. Sam Bregman joked about guarding the championship ring his son will receive. “I know that the Jewish community around the country is so proud of him,” Jackie Bregman said. Referring to the card collection of Jewish players, she added, “I hope that one day he’s in JTA WIRE SERVICE that collection.”

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t’s �inally Pesach. Ever since Purim, we’ve known it’s getting closer. That huge full moon, giant and yellow-gold in the sky, is a signal that the next one will be Pesach, and that the cleaning and cooking will be over and the storytelling will begin. It’s been an insane month and a half. The Parkland shootings were two weeks before Purim — see how the Jewish and American calendars come together! — and last Shabbat it culminated in the marches across the United States, saying no to gun violence, no to fear, no to making schools into armed redoubts and teachers into police of�icers. It made me think of some of the books of my childhood. I don’t remember if any of the teachers in the remote oneroom Western schoolhouses that I read and reread and read again were part of the Little House series, or Caddy Woodlawn, or by some other writer whose stories and characters I’d surely remember if ever I were to see them again were the ones who carried guns, but I’m sure that at least one of them did. Most of them didn’t though; they just had chalk and �irewood and bread and maybe coffee for lunch. And if they didn’t have guns, then most certainly teachers today are far less likely to. My sister and my niece are  both New York City outer-borough public high sc hool librarians. They would just as soon bring a gun to school as I would ride to my Teaneck of�ice on a horse that I’d feed sugar cubes to and tie up in the parking lot. (In a reserved space, of course.) But this Shabbat was the marches. My shul is close to Central Park West, so we headed out, behind a banner from the shul, for the fourth march in the last 14 months. Unlike the �irst women’s march, which was oddly festive, or the science march, which was cold, drizzly, and grim, or the second women’s march, which was somehow deju  vu, this one one was plainti plaintive, ve, disbelieving, disbelieving, but hopeful hopeful nonenonetheless. Something has to change. Children can’t be shot in schools. We can’t be a society where children are shot dead in schools. Can they? Can we? Are we? And now, it’s Pesach. Maybe, maybe, please, the sun will come out, and the snow will stop, and the clouds will lift, and we will be able to bask in family and friends and freedom, and look ahead to joy and hope. The crocuses already are out, some particularly foolhardy trees are developing buds, and, at least according to their songs, at least some of the birds are ignoring the temperature and going with the light. Maybe, if we’re lucky, liberation lies ahead. And maybe, if we’re good, we’ll do all that we can to hasten it. We offer all of our readers and their families and friends our best wishes for a zissen Pesach, for joy and  good food and good wine and good dark c hocolate and easily cleanable matzah crumbs and lots of singing at the —JP end of the seder.

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spate of articles has been published suggestRon Lauder’s op-ed in the New York Times last week ing that American Jews are turning away from  was one of the the worst worst exa example mpless of this beha behavior vior.. Lauder Lauder is Israel. I do not believe it is true, but the behav- a wealthy philanthropist who does much good work for ior of some of the community’s leaders is doing the Jewish people, especially in eastern Europe. I have nothing to help and a lot to contribute to this perception. personally personall y witnessed his outstanding work. But he has no What is especially galling is that unlike the of�icials in  business using using his title title as presiden presidentt of the World World Jewish Jewish Israel whose policies they are attacking, none of the leadCongress to chastise the Israeli government government and propose ers engaged in public criticism of Israel were democratihis own ideas for what is best for Israel. The WJC has an cally elected, and their comments do not appear to reflect impressive sounding name. But when Lauder publishes the views of their constituents or to have their approval. New York Times op-eds against Israel he is demonstrating The Jewish community is not monolithic, and there that the organization is little more than Lauder’s personal have always been marginal �igures who have found that �iefdom. So perhaps he does not have to answer to anyone. the way to get attention is to be the Jew who attacks The WJC has no members or constituency that the public Israel, the proverbial man-bites-dog story. In recent is aware of, so perhaps Lauder really speaks only for him months, however, it is not the extremists self. But in that case he should have omitted from J Street or the Beinerts who have been his af�iliation from his byline. marching out of step with Israel. It is many I was also struck by the comments made establishment �igures.  by AIPAC’s l ongtime executive directo r Howard Kohr at the annual policy conferDon’t get me wrong. As Americans, we all have the right to speak our minds, and ence. There is no more important organizaI have not held my tongue on moral issues tion that AIPAC when it comes to strengthening U.S.-Israel relations, and no one more  where  wher e Israel Israel must be better better,, like like recog recognizi nizing ng the Armenian genocide. But when it comes skillful and committed to that objective than to directly condemning Israeli policies, the Kohr. Howard is a friend for whom I have endless respect. Few American Jews have  Rabbi principal pro-Israel organizations have Shmuley long held to the convention that the proper done more good for Israel then Howard has  Boteach means for expressing criticism is privately at the helm of AIPAC. and directly to Israeli of�icials, and that pub Nevertheless, I was mysti�ied when he lic declarations are usually made only by talked about working toward a two-state those who have no influence and feel the need to draw solution and the creation of a Palestinian state “with its attention to themselves and their personal views. own flag and its own future.” It’s not that this is neces Israeli of�icials also broke with convention in the sarily an unreasonable position. The point is that it is not 1980s and 1990s when they eschewed the longstanding even on the agenda at the moment. As Kohr knows, the tradition of avoiding criticism of the government when Palestinians have repeatedly rejected this “solution” and abroad. Initially, Initially, it was the Labor Party that was guilty the Palestinian dictator Mahmoud Abbas has refused to of this when it lost power, and it was roundly criticized negotiate with Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu  by the Likud. When Labor returned to power, how - for a decade. Why is Kohr advocating a push for two-states ever, some Likud of�icials engaged in similar behavior. behavior. at this time when it has so little support in Israel and the Israeli politics has been more politicized ever since and PA? Is he really speaking for the members of AIPAC or the frequently embroiled diaspora Jews in the internecine  broader  broa der propro-Isra Israel el commu community nity??  battles between the the parties. parties. What made it worse was that AIPAC did not make pasRecently, American Jewish leaders have taken it upon sage of the Taylor Force Act one of its priorities at the polthemselves to adopt policies at odds with the Israeli govicy conference. This bipartisan bill, which just was signed ernment. Again, I have no complaint with them speaking into law, represents a much-needed response to Palestinas individuals, but when they express views under the ian intransigence and ongoing support for terror. imprimatur of organizations they represent, that’s a difHoward’s speech about a two-state solution at AIPAC ferent story. startled many, as all polls show that Hamas would quickly  Rabbi Shmuley Boteach is the aut hor of 31 books, including his most recent, “ The Israel Warrior.” Warrior.” Follow him on Twitter @RabbiShmuley.

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Opinion overrun a West Bank state, sandwiching Israel between two terror entities. So why should the foremost pro-Israel organization in America be talking about this while Mahmoud Abbas insults and demeans America’s ambassador to the United States, David Friedman? Last week alone they took the unbelievable and disgusting step of trying to have the ambassador labeled a terrorist after Mahmoud Abbas himself called the ambassador a “son of a dog.” Such revolting displays of anti-Semitism should be condemned by every Arab leader, especially those who enjoy a close relationship  with the United United States States as major major allies. allies. The abominable attacks against an American ambassador — and one who enjoys a close relationship with the president of the United States — are an attack on America itself. And it’s the pro-Israel organizations that should  be at the forefront forefront of holding holding the PalestinPalestinians leadership accountable for incitement against Americans. A third example of American Jewish leaders out of step with the realities on the ground, and the government of Israel,  were the men who accepte d junkets to Qatar and gave legitimacy to the emir,  whose PR media enterprise enterprise was spying spying on American Jews, and who supports Hamas terrorists, and who has cozied up to the  genocidal  genocid al mullahs mullahs in Iran. The only thing these leaders did by going to Qatar was to confer Jewish legitimacy on the emir and strengthen his public relations efforts in the United States just  when he was �inally �inally facing immense pres pres sure to stop funding the Muslim brotherhood and Hamas. They claimed to be acting in Israel’s interest even though Israel’s ambassador to the United States made clear — repeatedly and publicly — that Israel’s government disapproved of their amateur diplomacy. Amazingly, during the Presidents Conference trip to Israel, Prime Minister Netanyahu said in front of Malcolm Hoenlein himself that he opposed American Jews engaging with Qatar.  Jewish o rganizations have never be en democratic. Leaders have little or no accountability to the Jewish community or their own membership. Perhaps, at times, that can be construed as a good thing since leaders should not follow but lead. But the  growing  growin g gap between what what Jewish Jewish leaders leaders are doing ostensibly on Israel’s behalf in direct contradiction to the wishes of their American Jewish constituents is troubling and must be addressed.

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When your child speaks he following is a pop quiz on Jewish priorities. Take it investors,, community organizing, better laws and policing, empowinvestors yourself or, better yet (for reasons I will explain below), erment of former slaves, journalism that exposes traf�ickers. take it with someone under age 18. But the main factor is will. Slavery can be eliminated in our lifeWhat commandment is emphasized through repetitime. Whether or not it will be is up to us, based on how we vote tion more than any other? According to rabbinic count (Baba Metzia and lobby, what we buy, and which governmental programs and 59b), the Torah prohibits oppressing a stranger at least 36 separate charities we fund. times “because you were strangers in the land of E�ypt.” A big part of the Passover seder is teaching our children, telling Which holiday do more Jews celebrate than any other? It’s not the story that they may not yet know, or not know as fully as we Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur. Though the High Holidays bring do. Yet, the biggest moments of discovery don’t come from adult large crowds to synagogue, Passover is celebrated by greater numanswers, but from children’s questions and challenges. (Think of  bers of Jew Jews. s. More tha than n 90 90 perc percent ent of Jew Jewss part particip icipate ate in sede seders rs most the Four Sons.) That’s why I began this column by inviting you to years. A recent Pew study found that 70 percent of American Jews invite a young person into the discussion. attended a seder in the last year. Among Jews married to another On the seder night, the rabbinic strate�y is to spark curiosity,  Jew,, the  Jew the �igure �igure was 91 percen percent, t, and and 42 42 percen percentt of thos thosee who who identi identify fy encourage inquiry, and invite everyone — especially children — as “Jews of no religion” said they attended a seder the year before. to speak. The last word does not rest with the Haggadah. It lives What is our most influential Jewish story? The stories of around the table, in the mouth of any child or adult who is moved creation (including Shabbat) and of the giving of the Torah at to interpret, wonder, argue, imagine, or suggest. Mount Sinai are essential narratives, but the master story that With almost 900 protests this past weekend, we saw a stunning shaped and continues to shape Jewish identity is this one: “We example of what children can add to a conversation. Learning and  were slaves in E�ypt, and God took us out with a mighty hand hand  growth  gro wth happen happen not just just when when we teach youn young g people, people, but but when when and an outstretched arm.” Morning and eve we listen to to them and encourag encourage e them to take take the ning, in both weekday and Sabbath prayers, we lead. describe the terrible t yranny of slavery and reenThe Torah describes that “in time to come” (Deut. act our relief and salvation at the Red Sea. The 6:20), parents will need to speak (Hebrew root: story of the Exodus de�ines us as a people and a.m.r.) about the message and history of Passover also has inspired liberation movements around to children who are born into freedom. Interest the world over the course of centuries. ingly, this same Hebrew root is used to introduce The other top contenders mentioned above for children’s questions about Passover, along with the the title of “master Jewish narrative” — creation/Sabroot sh.a.l., meaning “ask.” Exodus 12:26 describes  bath and recei receiving ving the Tor Torah ah — sign signi�ic i�icantl antly y include include a future time when children will state (a.m.r.) their the Exodus. At Mount Sinai, the �irst of God’s ten questions about Passover. Children are not just  Rabbi Debra Debra Orenstein dibrot (sayings) is: “I am Adonai your God who took “straight men,” setting us up for our perfect oneyou out of the land of E�ypt, out of the house of liners. As every parent can tell you, children’s quesslaves.” The commandment to observe Shabbat is tions can contain whole worlds — and not just of connected to our liberation: “The seventh day is a Sabbath unto inquiry, but of instruction. One way older generations can pass on Adonai your God. On it you shall not do any work — neither you, a better world is to listen expansively and minutely to the Torah nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your manservant, nor your that the younger generation has to offer.  woman-servan  woman -servant, t, nor your your ox, nor your your donkey donkey,, nor any any of your your Some of my greatest teachers on the subject of human traf�ickcattle, nor your stranger who is within your gates; that your maning have been children. I was inspired to do my part for today’s servant and your woman-servant may rest as you do” (Deut. 5:13). slaves because my daughter, at age 7, challenged a modest goal I In the Friday night Kiddush, we name Shabbat both a memorial had originally set. As we reviewed our spiritual intentions during —zicaron — to creation and a reminder — zecher — of the Exodus. the High Holiday season �ive years ago, I stated my goal to help This brief quiz proves what is intuitively felt, but not always confree 18 slaves. She was unimpressed. “Why 18? Why not 100?” I sciously known, by Jews: that there is an essential, unseverable con-  was convicted convicted by her words. words. Eighteen Eighteen might might seem manage manageable able nection between Jews and freedom. It’s impossible to tell the story for me, but the point is that slavery is chaotic, violent, lawless, and of the Jews without telling of our enslav enslavement, ement, our liberation, and in completely unmanageable unmanageable for the people who suffer it. Why not response to those experiences, our duty to protect the vulnerable. aim for a disruptive and ambitious goal? By latest count, there are approximately 42 million slaves in the We have tolerated slavery until now, but the world is at a tip world.  worl d. It’s It’s a shocking shocking numbe number, r, and up up signi�ican signi�icantly tly since since the the last ping point. A united (and uniting) effort by the Jewish community estimates, now that the International Labour Organization and can free millions of people – and it will require relatively simple others are counting forced marriage as a form of slavery. Although changes and modest contributions. If individual Jews do our part, slavery is not legal anywhere, it is practiced everywhere, includit will begin with raising this issue at our seders — and continue ing in the United States and Israel. The Catholic church has made from there. Imagine if, when you opened the door for Elijah, a a commitment to end all forms of slavery by 2030. The United family of slaves stood on your doorstep. You would never hand Nations has taken on the same mission and deadline as one of its them back to their captors. You would not be able to look them  goals  goa ls for for sustai sustainabl nable e develo developmen pment. t. in the eyes and then turn your back on them. Slavery persists The Jewish community, whose narratives, laws, and holidays  because  beca use it is hid hidden den fro from m us. us. Sup Supply ply cha chains ins are deli delibera beratel tely y mur murky ky.. inspired the Western value of freedom as we know it, has done We indirectly indirectly bene�it from a crime that we do not endorse. Once less than many of our neighbors. Until now.  we look look the the reality reality of of slavery slavery in in the face face,, I believe believe that each of of us The present moment is auspicious. Hundreds of nations and a  will take acti action on to to end end it. it. church of more than a billion people have set a deadline to end slavA short time after my holiday discussion with my daughery that is just 12 years away. There are many reasons why this audater, I read a story in the Jewish Standard about Jessica Baer, cious goal is in sight: improved technolo�y and communications, then 11. She saw a single presentation about modern slavery consumer awareness of supply chains, Fair Trade options, activist at Jewish summer camp and went on to free 30 child slaves in Ghana before her bat mitzvah. I photocopied the article and To learn what you can do in — 10 hours, in 10 minutes  wrote above the he adline in sha rpie ( for myse lf and others or even in 10 seconds — to remember and rescue to see): “This is what a child did. What can you do?” (Since slaves this Passover, download Passover Prep at www. Lois Goldrich wrote that story in 2013, the Baers have rescued FreeTheSlaves.net/Judaism.

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Opinion I’VE BEEN THINKING

God’s finger touched him and he slept

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y �irst column in the Jewish Standard was a remem brance of Rabbi Dr. Eugene Eugene Borowitz, one of the major theologians of the Reform movement in the 20th century, who recently had died. He was also the founder and editor of Sh’ma magazine, and I was privileged to  work with him there for sever several al years. years. I felt felt even more privileged that our friendship continued until his death. On the morning of March 19, 2018, some two years plus a bit after this �irst column appeared, I paid a shiva call on the family of Rabbi Ralph Pelcovitz, the rabbi emeritus of the White Shul in Far Rockaway and one of the leading modern Orthodox con gregational rabbis of the 20th century. I had grown up in his shul in the 1950s and 60s, and continued as an intermittent attendee after getting married, listening to his sermons on Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, and other holidays and Shabbatot for more than 30 years when my family visited my parents. In later years, I would c all him from time to time to wish him a gut yontif or shana tovah, and I always received a  bracha and d’var d’var Torah Torah in response response.. And then, shortly after returning home from this shiva visit, I, along with so many

others, was devastated to hear of the unexpected death of Rabbi Oze r Anthony Glickman, one of today’s preeminent modern Orthodox leaders and role models, about  whom the Stan dard’s edit or wrote so movingly last week. Unlike Rabbis Borowitz and Pelcovitz, however, whom I knew for decades and who lived into their 90s, aging gracefully while continuing to be inspirational to many until almost the end, I knew R. Glickman only a few all too short years when he was suddenly felled  by a heart heart attack attack at age age 67, 67, still influen influential, tial,  vigorous,  vigor ous, and active. The deaths of Rabbis Pelcovitz and Borowitz saddened their families, friends, and communities, both narrow and wide,  but that’s the way the world is supposed to work; dor holech v’dor bah, a generagenera tion departs and a new one takes its place. R. Glickman’s death, however, in addition to bringing grief to so many, was a tragedy; taken at the height of his powers, as he was continuing to impact increasingly larger and more disparate parts of the Jewish community. He left us when he had so much more to give, and there was so much more we thirsted to receive. R. Glickman was eclectic in both back ground and profess ion. There was the

Rabbi Anthony Glickman to be a larger-than-l larger-than-life ife �igure  who se �ir st sem ich a was in the world of investment from JTS (followed by a risk management and businumber of Orthodox seminess, and who had pursued chot from RIETS and lead graduate studies in philoso ing rabbinic �igures). There phy, religion — and �inance.  was the Rav Ozer Yeshayah And, of course, there was HaCohen Glickman, a rosh the loving husband, devoted yeshiva in RIETS, teaching and adored saba, and the Joseph C. Yoreh Deah, Talmud, and  beloved abba of six wonderhalacha to undergraduate  Kaplan ful children, one who beautiand semicha students. There fully described her parents at  wa s Pr of es so r An th on y the funeral with these words: Glickman teaching “Jewish Values in the “When you need a favor go to Ima, when Contemporary World,” “Business and you’re in a crisis go to Abba.”  Jewish Law,” and American legal theor y All this made R. Glickman different, per(among other courses) at Isaac Breuer haps unique. But what made him special College, Sy Syms School of Business, and  was his ability to connec t with so many the Cardozo School of Law, where he was different types of people of all ages and also the senior resident rabbinic scholar  beliefs o n a myriad of important i ssues, and an adjunct professor of law at its Cen -  both ancient and contemporary. In additer for the Study of Jewish Law and Contion to being a superior talmid chacham temporary Civilization. There was the  with an incre dibl e bread th of secu lar Ozer/Anthony Glickman who was a much knowledge, he was an unyielding supsought after speaker on topics ranging porter of civil rights, an outspoken chamfrom the stock market to Jewish philosopion of the need to purge all vestiges of phy to Jewish civil law to medical ethics. racism from our community, a strong proThere was the Tony Glickman who ponent of the need for decency in governformed deep social and personal relament leadership, and a vocal advocate ur gtionships with so many, who continued ing that honesty, morals, and ethics must

Finding our own free voices “They’ll talk to you and talk to you and talk to you about individual freedom. But they  see a free individual, it’s gonna scare ‘em.”  —Easy Rider  Why do  John Keati Keating ng (stands (stands on his his desk): desk): Why  I stand up up here? here? Anybody? Anybody? Charlie Dalton: To Dalton: To feel taller!  Keating:  No! Thank you for pl aying, Mr.  Dalton . I stand upon my desk to remind myself that we must constantly look at things in a different way.” —Dead Poet’s Society

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assover begins this Friday night, and soon the familiar smells of the seders — brisket, turkey, chicken soup with matzah balls, and so much more — will �ill our senses, unearthing warm, wonderful memories  begun when we were so small we could only sit at the table. Never mind the excitement we felt when we �inally were old enough to sing the four questions on cue. That Passover is the most beloved holiday for the Jewish people makes sense as the reading of the haggadah and the seder remembering our escape from slavery has tied us together, generation to generation. And though this happened thousands of years ago, we are instructed in Exodus, 40 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

“You shall tell your children on that day, saying, ‘It is because of what Adonai did for me when I went free out of Mitzrayim.’” rayim. ’” Though I always understood the importance of personal identi�ication with this pivotal moment in Jewish history, it  wasn’t until I began to communicate the importance of Passover to my own child that this command’s focus on the individual, not the Jewish people, registered fully. The individual. The most powerful  voice, and yet the one that increasingl increasingly y is  becoming lost in our world, world, where group think and conformity seem to own the day. And beware anyone who dares challenge the conventional wisdom. Could this be a reason why we are instructed as individuals? Is it a warning about the precarious state of freedom and the need to �ight for our liberty in every generation generation?? After all,  when Jacob and his sons were invited to stay in E�ypt by Pharaoh, they were not slaves. But after Joseph died, another pharaoh enslaved them. We are all too familiar with the intimidation, and even physical assault, perpetrated by numerous supporters of the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement on too many campuses across the United States and Canada. Though still not on a

majority of campuses, both self-described as deeply propro-Israel and conservative  gressive? He taught at Everspeakers are increasingly  green State College for more unwelcome to share their than a decade but was con views ; many times facul ty fronted by students when he members abet the suppresobjected to having white stusion, and the administradents ordered to be absent tion betrays its cowardice in on campus for a day. As refusing to confront it. DeclaWeinstein said, “One’s right rations like the University of to speak or to be heard must  Martha Cohen Chicago’s statement on prinnever be based on color.” ciples of free expression are That didn’t work for these applauded and appreciated students. The video of their — but they are rare. confronting Weinstein went viral. A Vice The good news is that there are some story featured one student who felt differfaculty who realize what is at stake and ently worry about being stigmatized. She have decided to �ight. Take the case of said, “I do not have the ability to speak if NYU’s Professor Michael Rectenwald, I have disagreements with methods being  who, accord ing to the Daily Caller, “is used in protests.” suing NYU and four of his colleagues for This is a college campus? Weinstein defamation, alleging that he was subjected since has resigned, as part of a �inancial to a campaign of ostracism and harasssettlement with the university, and others ment when he criticized c ampus political have followed. Bullying is nothing comcorrectness.” correctness. ” Professor Rectenwald, who pared to what is going on. called himself a former communist and exAs Bill Maher said when discussing stuleftist, is known as a free speech advocate dents interrupting Charles Murray’s speakand became alarmed with “indoctrination ing engagement in 2017 at Middlebury Colin the classroom.” lege (with one female teacher ending up Or what about a professor of evolu-  with a concussion concussion), ), “Debate “Debate him. Opini Opinions ons tionary biolo�y, Bret Weinstein, who is shouldn’t be ille gal.”

Opinion once again be core values practiced by our community and that Hoshen Mishpat must still be relevant to our 21st Century lives outside the beit medrash. One other thing that made him, for a rosh yeshiva, different, unique, and special was that he was a force on social media, appearing on Facebook to discuss all these issues; speaking truth to power clearly, openly, and without fear. And of great, perhaps paramount, importance, is that notwithstanding his passion for what he believed in, he always did this with civility to and respect for all, including, or perhaps especially, those with whom he disagreed. Always. Always. So in a signi�icant departure from internet norms, he refused to allow ad hominem attacks and pejorative personal comments to intrude into serious discussions of issues, and would unfriend people who violated that rule. His gentle, sweet side, however, also  beli eved in seco nd chanc es for those  who were introspective and apologetic. Like others, he was a critic of certain aspects of open Orthodoxy. Unlike some, however, his criticisms never had a touch of condescension, condemnation, or crude nastiness. Indeed, a leader of Open Orthodoxy with whom R. Glickman disagreed online recently noted that Reb Ozer was truly tolerant and open minded, enjoying people who disagreed with him.

He reached out to those with different ideas without rancor or animosity and with the utmost respect, refusing to let political considerations get in the way of his love for people, Torah, and ideas. His af�inity for those he disagreed  with was parti cular ly impor tant to me  be ca us e, as he re ce ntl y wro te, “my friend Joseph Kaplan and I disagree on substantive issues in halacha and American politics.” (The “my friend” touched my heart.) And we did, indeed, disagree — often. But notably, he ended that comment by observing that “we agree that Torah is to be cherished, and that those  who are devoted to it can learn from from one another,” but only if civility and respect are embedded in the disagreement. In the days following his death, my Facebook feed was flooded with expressions of grief and shock, and warm memories by his growing international following. Many posts and comments arose from an appreciation of his deep and sincere acts of kindness, in word and deed, and active involvement in combatting unfairness and injustice to those without power or prestige. Rabbi Shai Held has noted that from a religious and human perspective, kindness is more important than anything else. And Reb Ozer/ Tony personi�ied this with warmth, care, empathy,, compassion, and love. empathy Another online thread was “although

And it happens beyond the campus. This freedom of expression exclusion happens within families, in the workplace, and even for volunteers and staff within charitable organizations. If you think that everyone shares one political ideolo �y, life is more complex. It just means that someone (or perhaps more than one) is afraid of losing your friendship or being ostracized from the group if they shared their real opinion. But there are those who are willing to take the heat. Remember Ron Silver? He  was an accomplis accomplished hed actor who was most readily known for his performance as Dershowitz in the �ilm “Reversal of Fortune” and he won a Tony for his performance in Mamet’s “Speed-the-Plow.” “Speed-the-Plow.” Silver was New York-born-and-bred Yor k-born-and-bred and quite liberal. He  was a preside nt of Actors’ Equity and in 1989 he founded the Creative Coalition, a nonpro�it advocacy group made up of members of the entertainment industry. That is how I worked with him, producing a PSA for the ACLU down on Centre Street  before the turn of the century century.. Everything was great until 9/11 happened. While still remaining a liberal on most causes, Ron, like many others, took a more realistic — some might say conservative — view of security and defense of the United States. Still a Democrat, he spoke at the 2004 Republican Convention, as did

Democratic Senator Zell Miller of Georgia. Though he did continue to work, he said that he knew he lost jobs and some friends due to his support of President Bush on this issue. I was fortunate enough to meet him again about a year before he died, and he was very gracious when I reminded him that we worked together on that ACLU project. Sadly, he passed away nine years ago this month. Interestingly, Senator Miller just died. So why is it important to think of these incidents as we read this commandment at our seder table? Each person involved understood that his ability to think and speak freely was important to �ight for, even at the risk of damaging his livelihood and reputation. And there are others, including students, who we know risk a lot to stand up for what is right — some times doing so more effectively behind the scenes — so that the freedom to think and debate is not shut down and lost to future  generations.  genera tions. We We must join them them in calling calling out these purveyors of tyranny. Let’s turn the tables and challenge them to put their big boy and big girl pants on and debate ideas, in the open, without using derogatory language, demonization, or physical force. If they are intellectually honest, they will put aside the rhetoric and realize that the freedom to think freely and debate all ideas is very powerful and part

I only knew him through Facebook I felt a strong kinship to him, and now deeply regret I never met him personally.” Luckily for me, though I too �irst encountered him on Facebook, I later met him in the flesh as a result of his kind “let’s meet for coffee” invitation. I jumped at the opportunity and two delightful hours at Lazy Bean ensued,  with our our discovering discovering how how much much we had in common (including daughters who were  good friend s and later thought it “cute” that we also became friends), how much  we agreed agreed on, and how much more we dis disagreed about. And we c ontinued talking, agreeing, and disagreeing, civilly, respectfully, and often with humor, sometimes on Facebook, sometimes in shul, and sometimes after a shiur of his that I attended,  which enabled enabled me to add add teacher-student teacher-student to my description of our relationship. Let me end (though I still have much more to say) with two stories: one about humor and the other regret. His humor  was sharp, sharp, could be earthy earthy,, and therefore therefore often was meant only for private consumption. But I c an share the following conversation in a family publication. In the midst of a serious discussion we were having on Facebook, he suddenly nonsequitured into “is that a bow tie I see in your pro�ile picture?” (It’s the same picture as the one used with this column, though larger, larger, and if you look carefully you can see the bow tie tips peeking out.)

When I answered “yup, if you like I’ll be happy to teach you how to tie them,” he replied “last time I wore one another diner asked me for her check.” And one about bittersweet regret. My  very last words to hi m were also in th e context of a Facebook discussion where, as usual, we were disagreeing. It became too complex for short written back and forth comments, so I ended the discussion with a simple “we’ll have to talk.” The bitter part is that I let it slide, not picking up the phone, �inding him after shul, or this time my inviting him to Lazy Bean to do just that — talk. The sweet part is that, unlike those who never had the opportunity, or missed the opportunity, to meet him personally, I grabbed that opportunity (or was it just plain dumb luck?), thus having the privilege of expe riencing what it means to interact faceto-face with, and be a student/friend of, a truly great man. A light has gone out and our world is darker. We are truly bereft. Yehi zichro  baruch.  Joseph C. Kaplan, a regular columnist, is a long-time resident of Teaneck. His work also has appeared in various  publications includi ng Sh’ma magazine, magazine, the New York Jewish We Week, ek, the B altimore  Jewish Times, and, as letters to the editor, the New York Times.

The 1969 movie Easy Rider was about individualism (among other, flashier things).

of a life ful�illed. This is the only road to help them summon the courage to reject the prison of conformity, the one that people in Russia, China, Venezuela, and too many countries live and die in every day. And for those of us who are shy, remem ber that this is the only way to assur e future generations the freedom to think and express themselves and not return

to bondage. As John Keating said to his students, “You must strive to �ind your own voice, because the longer you wait to  begin, the less likely likely you are are going to to �ind it at all.”  Martha Cohen Cohen is an award-wi award-winning nning  producer  produc er and creative creative executiv executive. e. She lives lives in Fort Lee with her husband and son. JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018 41

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What we teach our children

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powerful mystery should haunt us each year at this time of the year, a mystery that strikes to the core of the Pesach festival  with its overriding theme of “V’higadeta l’vincha” — “And you shall teach your child.” Consider the following two talmudic assertions: • Rabbi Akiva declared: “‘Vahavata l’re’acha l’re’ach a komocha” — “Love your neighbor as yourself. This is the great principle of the Torah.” • Rabbi Akiva had 12,000 pairs of students. All of them died in one period,  between Pesach and Shavuot –the Omer period — “because they failed to treat each other with respect...” How can it be that one of our greatest sages apparently failed to impart his core  belief  beli ef to his stude students nts?? Had Had Rabb Rabbii Akiva Akiva’s ’s students perished as a result of any other sin, the tragedy might have been comprehensi ble. But But to transg transgress ress the the very very precept precept that that served as the core of their mentor’s beliefs and practices? How can it be? Perhaps the issue is one of chronolo�y. We do not know when Rabbi Akiva determined the centrality of the mitzva of V’ahavta. Perhaps he reached this realization only in retrospect, as a result of the tragic loss of his students. Perhaps it is precisely their deaths that led their mentor to recognize the emptiness of Torah obser vance  vanc e absent absent a found foundatio ation n of inte interper rpersona sonall respect. I would like to think, however, that our tradition is referencing an entirely different life lesson through this tragedy, a lesson of overarching signi�icance for us all. The stark inconsistency between Rabbi Akiva’s

core belief and the actions of his students may reflect a universal challenge inherent in the task of Mesora, intergenerational transmission. Perhaps Rabbi Akiva failed to teach his students the central value of his worldview precisely because he considered that value to be self-evident. We often make the mistake of assuming that just because something is vital to us automatically it will be important to our children. We feel that the ideas and beliefs lying at the heart of our worldview are so obvious they need not be openly stated and taught. Nothing could be further from the truth. Our children grow up in worlds differdiffer ent from our own, and within those worlds they form their own personal convictions. The basic foundations that we consider central to our lives are not automatically givens  within  with in their theirs. s. While I now live in Israel, allow me to cite an example from my many years of experience as a diaspora Jew, rabbi, and educator. The deep connection that Jews of my generation feel towards the State of Israel will not develop automatically in the hearts of our progeny, who are more tem porally and emotionally removed than we are from the creation of the State. The signposts of our life journey and the journeys of our parents — the Holocaust, the birth of the State of Israel, the War of Independence, the Six-Day War, the Yom Kippur War, Entebbe, the dramatic aliyot from Yemen, Ethiopia, Russia, and more — are not the signposts of theirs. Our children live in a world where Israel always has existed, a world in which the Jewish state is viewed

through increasingly critical and jaundiced eyes, a world in which the historical connection between the Jewish people and their homeland comes under daily attack. In our effort to convey critical ideas and principles to future generations, we can make no assumptions  Rabbi Shmuel of prior knowledge knowledge,, feeling, Goldin and commitment. We must consciously and actively teach each and every one of the ideas and principles we feel important through open discussion and deed. When it comes to Zionism in the diaspora, however, we must admit that the problem runs much deeper. In this arena, even when  we are succe successful ssful in comm communica unicatin ting g centra centrall  beliefss to our  belief our children children,, our messag messages es often often are inconsistent and contradictory. We propro fess a deep connection to the State of Israel, yet we remain unwilling to carry that connection to its logical conclusions. We send our children to schools where they learn that Israel is the true home of the  Jewish  Jewis h nation nation.. We We de�ine de�ine oursel ourselves ves as as ZionZionists and bemoan the anti-Israel bias from countries around the world. We involve ourselves in continuing political action on behalf of the Jewish state and express deep admiration for the soldiers of the IDF,  bravely  bra vely guar guarding ding the bord borders ers of our our land. land. And yet, what is too often our response  when our childr children en decide decide to pract practice ice what what  we have have preache preached? d? How How do we we react react when when a son or daughter expresses a desire to explore the possibility of living in Israel? What is our reply when they suggest they

might want to become soldiers in the Israeli army? How do we respond even to much simpler requests — the desire, for example, for “shana bet,” a second year of study, in Israel after high school? Don’t get me wrong. As the parent of �ive children and their wonderful spouses (and, thank God, the grandfather of many more), I deeply understand the desire to keep our children close and safe. I also understand that the decision to make aliyah and the ability to build a successful life in Israel involve many factors at any age. But  we need to ask ours ourselve elvess what what messa messages ges we are or are not communicating both in word and in action. Are we implicitly declaring that our Zionism stops at the door of real commitment and self-sacri�ice? As we approach the holiday of Pesach,  with its overarching emphasis upon the conveying conveyin g of c ritical ideas and principles to future generations, we would do well to explore the current character of our own communication to our children. Are we clearly saying what we want to say, and,  when we say it, are our messa messages ges both complete and consistent? By confronting these questions, on the holiday of questions, we  will come closer to a true confrontation  with the char character acter and stren strength gth of our our own own  beliefs  beli efs and comm commitme itments, nts, as well. well.

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donating all the proceeds. Vivienne’s �irst publication is a children’s picture book about her journey in helping others. The title says it all: “When Life Gives You Lemons, Change the World.” World.” This year, I gave that book as an a�ikomen prize to the youngest students in my Hebrew school. I look forward to being amazed at what they, too, can accomplish. About a month ago, I served as a scholarin-residence at Kehilla Synagogue in North Carolina and spoke to Hebrew school students about “Modern Slavery and Our Jewish Problem.” I showed a 4-minute �ilm, available on Youtube, called Building Freedom Brick By Brick. It features a community of people in Kukdaha, India, who were enslaved, under brutal and violent conditions, to make  bricks. They They were terrorized terrorized and and didn’t see see a way out until �ield workers from Free The Slaves found them, advocated for them, and supported them in breaking free. As their story unfolds on screen, we see them making bricks. It’s hard labor, under a brutally hot sun. Gradually, we realize that they are making those bricks of their own free will. Free the Slaves helped them buy their own kiln,

and they now do in freedom, with smiles on their faces, what they used to do in misery, under threat of beatings and death. One freed woman declares: “Having our own brick kiln makes us happy. And if more freed people work here, I’ll be even happier.” After screening the �ilm, I asked the children: “What connections do you see between this �ilm and Passover?” Their replies were  varied:  vari ed: “They wer weree slav slaves, es, just like us.” “They “They were whipped and they cried. cried.”” “We became free, and so did they.” “They are able to be happy now that they are free.” One adult, an elder imparting an important detail of history, added, “They made bricks as slaves, and we did, too.” The children gasped in recognition. Pharaoh forced us to make bricks. It is mind boggling that the work our people did as slaves in the 13th century BCE is still imposed on human beings in the 21st century CE. Then a young man named Asa spoke up and changed my view of a �ilm that I had watched at least half a dozen times. “Moses was an outsider,” he said. “We needed somesomeone to come from the outside to help us  become free. free. Now we we have have to be the Moses Moses

for them.” “When your child asks you in the time to come, saying: ‘What are all the testimonies and the statutes and the ordinances, which Adonai our God commanded you?’” (Deut. 6:20), by all means give the full biblical answer. Add the wisdom of the Haggadah and all the commentaries you read and invent. “The more you elaborate on the Passover story, of course this is to be praised.” But  before  befo re the kids get too tired tired,, bored, bored, or intimi intimi-dated, take a breath. Pause. Ask what may be one of the most important questions that the elder generation can direct to children: “So, what do you think?” In fact, don’t wait to ask. Start now, with what is at hand. Share this column with a child or teen and follow where they lead.

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dozens more children and helped build a school for them. Go to www.btcte.org to learn more.) A 9-year-old named Vivienne Harr saw a photograph of two child slaves at a quarry, carrying enormous slabs of rock on their  backs down a steep hill. She noticed that they wore torn clothes and ill-�itting shoes, and that they were holding hands. Vivienne saw their humanity and wanted them to be able to play. She told her parents, “Compassion without action is not compassion.” Vivienne decided to run a lemonade stand to raise money for the cause of child slaves. The story might have ended there, with a small donation to a worthy cause, except that Vivienne ran that lemonade stand every day, rain or shine, for an entire year. Adults were inspired. She got press coverage. She  gave a TED talk and attended the Global Forum. Within months, she raised more than $100,000. Later, she bottled her Fair Trade Make-a-Stand Make-a-Stan d Lemon-aid and sold it in stores, 42 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

 Rabbi Shmuel  Rabbi Shmuel Goldi Goldin, n, rabbi rabbi emerit emeritus us of of Congregation Ahavat Torah in Englewood, recently made aliyah and now works with  Nefesh  Nef esh b’Ne b’Nefes fesh h on Isr Israel ael educ education ation..

 Debra Orenste  Debra Orenstein in is rabb rabbii of Cong Congreg regation ation B’n B’nai ai  Israel  Isr ael in in Emerson Emerson and found founder er of the Passo Passover ver  Project,  Proje ct, which which provi provides des reso resource urcess to Jews and Jewish institutions about the mitzvah of  freeing  fre eing capt captives ives and ending ending slave slavery. ry. You You can can download Passover Project materials for your Seder at www.Fre www.FreeTheSlaves.net. eTheSlaves.net.

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mong Sephardic  Jews of my gra ndmother’s generation, there was a popular, if unproven, belief that Gen. Francisco Franco— the military dictator who ruled Spain from 1939 until his death in 1975—was of Jewish parentage, and that this explained  Ben Cohen  why he granted refuge to several thousand Jews who were fleeing the Nazis. I’ve heard tales of a similar belief about Russia’s present republican tsar, Vladimir Putin, along with a similar explanation that his largely benevolent attitude toward the more than 1 million Jews under his rule stems from his supposedly Jewish ancestry. In an interview this week with the Jerusalem Post, Russia’s Chief Rabbi Berel Lazar didn’t go as far as to claim Putin for the Jewish people, but he did laud him as the �irst leader in Russia’s long history “to say that Jews had the same rights as anyone else.” The rabbi also related the story of an elderly Jewish woman who told him that Putin’s attendance at a synagogue dedication left her feeling that she could now hold her head up after a lifetime of looking down. Lazar’s comments were situated in a broader defense of Putin against the charge of anti-Semitism, the product of a recent NBC interview in which the Russian leader sug gested that ethnic ethnic minoriti minorities es with Russian citizens citizenship—he hip—he named “Jews,” “Tatars,” and “Ukrainians” speci�ic ally—  were responsible for Moscow’s interference in the 2016 U.S. presidential election. But while Jewish leaders in the United States and Europe condemned Putin’s apparent invocation of shadowy Jewish power, Lazar countered that Putin was implacably opposed to anti-Semitism, having presided over an unprecedented rebirth of Jewish identity and community in Russia over the last two decades.

Those who maintain that Lazar speaks the truth and those who argue that he is compelled to say such things are, paradoxically, both correct. Perhaps the most important task of a Jewish leader in a country like Russia—with its authoritarian and violently anti-Semitic traditions—is to ensure that the existence of a secure, vibrant Jewish community remains an important national interest, as Putin evidently believes it to be. Yet Putin’s cultivation of warm relations with Russia’s  Jews, along along with with his his regime’s regime’s respectful respectful relati relations ons with with the State of Israel, serve as a reminder that the transnational ties that bind the Jewish people aren’t immune from the pressures of geopolitics. A century ago, that reality manifested on the battle�ield, with more than 500,000 Jewish soldiers serving in the ranks of rival national armies during World War I. These days, the stakes are lower (or we at least believe they are), but the fact remains that the Vladimir Putin lionized by Rabbi Lazar is the same Vladimir Putin who is regarded by most Jews outside of Russia as a transparently nasty threat to the democracies in which they live as free citizens. Putin certainly is a historical oddity. He is a ruthless dictator with philo-Semitic leanings, who nonetheless is sophisticated enough to grasp the crucial political role that anti-Semitism has played—and still may play—in Russia’s national development. But there is a more immediate, overriding point: for the time being, none of this history really matters. The big difference between now and the Cold War is that Russian Jews no longer are the hostages of their own national authorities, even if Putin’s regime increasingly recalls the Soviet Union in other ways. Nor is the struggle against “international Zionism” an obsessive propaganda theme of Putin’s Russia, as it was under the Communist Party. There are few signs that Putin is pursuing policies abroad that would lead him to turn on the Jews of Russia, as happened more than once under his Soviet predecessors.

Yet the welcome absence of anti-Semitism as an organizing principle of Russia’s present regime does not mean that the country itself should be regarded as more trustworthy or reasonable on the international stage. The incoming U.S. national securit y advisor, John Bolton, explained the challenge well in a television interview discussing Russia’s use of a chemical weapons agent in the attempted assassination of a former KGB of�icer, Sergei Skripal, and his daughter, Yulia, in the United Kingdom. The violation of British sovereignty for the purposes of assassination, Bolton said, was part of a larger pattern of aggression that also included Russia’s tactical embrace of certain international agreements, like the 2015 Iran nuclear deal, as a cover for its b roader ambitions. Any arrangement that rested on the faith that Putin’s regime—or other authoritarian regimes—  would hono r their commitments to an a greement w as “doomed to failure,” Bolton argued. The basic insight that dictators cannot be trusted has  been out of fashion in the White House for more than a decade. Now that it apparently has returned, it remains to be seen whether its application in the case of Russia  will become a point tension or harmony in the relationship between Bolton and President Donald Trump. In the meantime, what is certain is that Russia will continue its efforts to confound Western public opinion, including, when it makes sense to do so, accounts of the rekindling of Jewish life in a country unfairly excoriated by the West for its alleged intolerance. Such a story doubtless would be a magni�icent example of how a kernel of truth can be spun into a web of falsehoods—a craft at which Russians excelled throughout the course of the Putin regime—but none of us should be fooled. JNS.ORG  Ben Cohen writes a weekly column on Jewi sh affairs and  Middle Eastern politics. His work has been pu blished in Commentary, the Ne w York Post, Haaretz, the Wall Street  Journal, and many other publicati ons.

Letters Valor in Le Chambon We were very pleased that in pro�iling the young actor Timothée Chalamet in his lead anecdote in Noshes on March 23, Nate Bloom devoted some well-deserved attention to the French Protestant village of Chalamet’s paternal grandparents, Le Chambon in south central France. That village shielded and rescued some more than 5,000 Jewish refugees during the German occupation of France during the Second World War. Not much is known in this country today about Le Chambon and its collective courage, which surely deserves your readers’ attention and gratitude. Anyone who wants to learn more should turn to an exemplary book about it by the late Professor Philip P. Hallie of Wesleyan University, “Lest Innocent Blood Be Shed: The Story of the Village of Le Chambon, and How Goodness Happened There,” published by Harper and Row in 1979 and still in print. (Full disclosure: Hallie, the author of several narrative studies of ethics, was a distinguished

colleague of one of the undersigned at Wesleyan.) What set the villagers apart was the cowardice and anti-Semitism of many of their countrymen and women, typi�ied by the Vichy collaborationist wartime governmen government. t. Florette R. Koffler, Ph.D., Richard Koffler, Ph.D., Teaneck 

Why weren’t you at the march? On Saturday, March 24, my wife and I participated in Englewood’s March For Our Lives,  joining  joini ng hundred hundredss of commun communities ities thro throughughout the country and even throughout the  world  wor ld in in a broa broad-sp d-spectrum ectrum sho show w of supp support ort for students who were affected by the Parkland murders and in support of gun control. As a member of the local Orthodox community, I was pleased to see that the march had been scheduled to start at 12:30 p.m., so that it would not impinge upon my morning at shul, and was taking place within easy  walking  walk ing dista distance. nce. Although the march was well attended by

all segments of the disparate, wider Engle wood community, community, we could not help but notice that our own insular Orthodox Jewish community was grossly underrepresented. underrepresented. One of the Orthodox shuls, Kesher, did make a strong showing, but we were saddened to see neither members nor leaders from the other established Orthodox shuls. This lack of participation in this particular event was a mistake because there are many community-wide events where it is dif�icult for us to fully engage with the community due to our religious codes, whether it be kashrut, Shabbat, yom tov, etc. I believe that our low turnout was caused, in large part,  by the the failure failure of the local local shuls shuls and religio religious us leadership to publicize or advocate on behalf of this event, since a surprisingly low number of our Orthodox community members knew that it was taking place. Responsible and sane gun ownership ought to be the concern of every community. As committed Jews, if we wish to pay

more than lip service to our mission of “tikkun olam,” we should take advantage of every opportunity to engage with our fellow community members in furthering this  worthy  wort hy cause cause..  Englewoo ewood  d  Michael K. Eidman,  Engl

Exodus and comets Regarding Rabbi Engelmayer’s article titled “The Exodus: Debunking the debunkers” (March 23) there’s a book by Immanuel Velikovsky that attempts to corroborate the plagues listed in the Torah. Written in the 1960s, “Worlds in Collision” tells of other societies that have recorded events that are comparable to those recorded in Exodus. He posits that a comet passed near earth at the time the Jews left E�ypt causing the miraculous events to occur at the most propitious moments. It was fascinating reading when I came across the book about 50 years ago, and it is worth examining today. Kenneth Bander, Teaneck  JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018 43

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Prosecutors investigating the slaying of a Holocaust survivor in Paris said the two suspects in custody targeted her because she was Jewish. The development in the investigation of the March 23 slaying of Mirelle Kanol came  with the the arrest of two men men on Monday Monday,, Le Figaro reported, citing a police source. “The supposed or actual belonging of the victim to a religion was a grounds” for the attack, the source told Le Figaro, in addition to her being “vulnerable.” One of the suspects in custody, a 29-yearold man, was one of Kanol’s neighbors and knew her well, Le Figaro reported. In addition, Kanol’s son told the French news agency AFP that one of the suspects  vis ited his moth er regu larly, and she treated him “like a son.” Kanol’s son said that the suspect had visited her that day. The prosecutor’s of�ice reportedly has asked that the suspects remain in

preventative custody. camps, where they were murdered by the Nazis. They will face possi  ble cha rge s of “mu rde r French Foreign Minister related to the victim’s reli Jean-Yves Le Drian , who  gion , real or imag ined ,” is in Israel on an of�icial as well as aggravated rob visit, said said on Monda Monday y after after- ber y and des tru cti on of noon, following a meeting property, AFP reported, in Jerusalem with Prime citing judicial sources. Minister Benjamin NetanOn Sunday, a spokesyahu, that France needs to person for SPCJ, the of�i“continue �ighting against Holocaust survivor cial monitor and security anti-Semitism. Mireille Knoll, 85, was unit of the French Jew“I had a very moving found murdered in her ish community, told the and dif�icult moment Paris apartment last 7sur7 news website that a  when I had had just concluded SCREENSHOT Friday. preliminary examination my visit to Yad Vashem,” of the crime “does not Le Drian said. “I heard reveal an anti-Semitic characteristic, but about the outrageous murder of Mirelle this possibility has not been discounted Kanol — a Holocaust survivor survivor — in Paris. as police investigate further.” further.” We cannot yet say if the motive for the Kanol escaped when the French police murder was anti-Semitism but it is rea rounded up Jews into the Velodrome sonable to assume, it will not be surprisd’Hiver in 1942; from there, an estimated ing and, therefore, this only strengthens 13,000 Jews were deported to death the fact that this struggle has not ended,

and that we will need to continue �ighting against anti-Se mitism. mitism.”” According to the National Bureau for Vigilance Against Anti-Semitism, or BNVCA, the octogenarian’s body was set on �ire Friday night. Her charred body also had at least 11 stab wounds. A forensic examination of the apartment showed that an arsonist started a �ire in at least �ive distinct areas of that space, the report also said. “The barbarity of this murder sends us back to that of Sarah Halimi just one year ago,” Francis Kalifat, president of the CRIF umbrella of French Jewish communities, said in a statement Monday. CRIF is organizing a memorial march in Kanol’s memory Tuesday. Prosecutors say Halimi, a 66-year-old  Jewish te acher and physic ian, was murdered by her Muslim neighbor in April, at least in part because she was Jewish. JTA WIRE SERVICE

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Holocaust commemorations at Rockland Community Rockland Community College offers a concert and lecture, “Music of the Holocaust,” with Dr. Tamara Reps Freeman on Tuesday, April 10. Dr. Freeman, a concert violist and ethnomusicologist, will perform and discuss Holocaust-era music, playing her 1935 Joseph Bausch viola that was rescued from the Holocaust. On Thursday, April 12, Holocaust survivor Bernhard Storch, 95, will tell his story. During World War II, he  was taken by the Soviet secret police, sent t o Siberia, and worked in a forced labor camp. Afterward, he found a way to join the Polish Army and helped to liberate four camps, three in Poland and one in Germany Germany.. In 1947, Storch and his wife, Ruth, immigrated to the U.S. The program is sponsored by Duso Food Distributors in memory of Schabse Gordon Both talks are at 12:30 p.m. in the college’s Technolo�y Center, Ellipse. For more information, call Rabbi Dov Oliver, (845) 574�4422 or email dol iver@sunyrock [email protected].

Dr. Tamara Reps Freeman

Bernhard Storch

Save the date for May 6 RJFS event Join Rockland Jewish Family Service on May 6 at 5 p.m. for a lavish cocktail hour and dessert tasting honoring Dr. Nancy Goldman, Cantor Barry Kanarek, and Dr. Steve and Judy Levy, at Congregation Shaarey Israel. For information, call (845) 354-2121.

Nanuet Hebrew Center participates in local Passover media event “This is not my grandma’s Kosher for Passover aisle! — a special media event — was held at the New City Stop & Shop. Video crews and newspaper reporters from Cablevision Channel 12, FIOS Channel 1, the local Patch news service, and Journal News were on hand. Those present were asked to share how limited the Passover selections were when they were growing up, compared to

 what they see today. today. Participants included Rabbi Paul Kurland, Rita and John Fogelman, Mindy Sayer, and Bruce Pollack from the Nanuet Hebrew Center; Marty Siegel,  vice president of supermarket sales for KAYCO, the nation’s largest kosher food distributor, and Laurent Szanto, the perishable food manager of the New City Stop & Shop. JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018 55

D’var Torah The story of the Haggadah

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love the Passover Haggadah. Each time I �ind a new edition, I get giddy  with excitement. excitement. I am proud of my diverse collection of Haggadot (plural of Haggadah), gathered from different eras and from different parts of the world. For example, I have the simple Hebrew Yeynot Karmel Haggadah, a very thin, unimpressive, wine stained Israeli Haggadah (from the 1960s), which served my ultra-secular family in Israel for four decades. I also have the incredibly beautifully illustrated Haggadah created by the great Polish Jewish artist, Arthur Szyk, �irst published in the 1930s and reissued in 2008. I have developed a special fondness for Passover Haggadot because they are an unending source of educational materials. Each Haggadah reflects the tradition, struggles, history, and local color of its audience as well as the emotional tenor of the Jewish people at that time, wherever they lived geographically. Throughout the generations, the Haggadah has given expression to creative Jewish litur�y and is perhaps the most popular Jewish literary work. Everyone can �ind their own stories reflected in the Haggadah. Each year we are invited to relate to the ancient story of redemption from exile, from both our collective and personal stories of lib lib-eration. We also have the freedom to add our stories to a traditional Haggadah or to develop our own version to express them. No single Haggadah represents all of our people, because Jews are scattered

all around the world and called Haggadah for the Libthe Haggadah reflects the erated Lamb. It is a vegetarenvironment that we each ian Haggadah that celebrates live in. Even our children compassion for all creatures. have their own Haggadot. Published in 1988, in both Some are accompanied by Hebrew and English, it has no toys, which stand for the mention of a lamb shank! ten plagues or the little baby Nanette Stahl from Yale Moses in the bulrushes. University summarizes the  Rabbi/Cantor antor One of the strangest HaggaHagga -  Rabbi/C role of the Haggadah: “The dot was given to me as a gift. It  Meeka Haggadah is a timeless book; Simerly is the Tzahal (IDF) Haggadah, it has given voice to the hopes Temple Beth published in the 1970s. It con and dreams of Jews throughTikvah, Wayne, tains some of the traditional out the generations. And from Reform references to the Biblical story medieval times to the presrelated in the Book of Exodus ent, artists have expressed of the Israelites’ redemption from slavery these hopes and dreams in the magni�icent to freedom in E�ypt. However, the Biblical illuminations they created. Text and image narrative narrativ e is combined with photographs of maintain an ongoing dialogue… Many artIsraeli soldiers in tanks, carrying weapons, ists have speci�ic agendas, be they religious, expressing the current stories of liberation political, or social. The lack of women in of our strong and brave Israeli soldiers. the Haggadah, for example, has become an One of my most precious Haggadot is issue that many current artists address in called Agada De Pesah, published in 1934 their illustrations.” in Istanbul, which is old and falling apart. It Neither Miriam, nor her brothers Aha belonge  belo nged d to my gran grandpar dparents ents,, Regin Regina a Nassi Nassi ron and Moses, are mentioned in the tradiand Avraham Chasid Z”L, Sephardic Jews tional Haggadah, but their roles are integral  whose families families originated originated from from Spain and and to and intertwined in the Passover story.  were exiled exiled to Turkey Turkey in the the 1400s. 1400s. When Thus, in recent years, combined within the my grandparents left Turkey to escape the traditional text, particularly for progresNazis in the early 1940s, they packed two sive Jewish communities, editors have been Ladino Haggadot, among the few possesinserting additional stories to represent sions they carried with them when they fled our Biblical leaders, especially the role of to Palestine. (Ladino is the Sephardic lan women  wome n in in the the story story.. For For exam example, ple, the Story  guage  guag e that that combi combines nes Hebr Hebrew ew and and Span Spanish.) ish.) of the Oppression, in the CCAR Revised EdiAnother unique Haggadah that I have is tion of The New Union Haggadah contains

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practical, day-in day-out level, I bring all my food with me every day. I go �ind an unoccupied of�ice and have a siddur app on my iPhone to daven. “Thankfully, Shabbos isn’t a problem in the division I’m  working  workin g in.” in.” It did come up in a previous NASA posting: From 2000 to 2006, he was a flight controller in the mission control center for the International Space Station. Operating a space station, unlike designing a rocket, is a 24�7 task. “It’s very possible that when you’re working in mission control that you’re scheduled for a Saturday,” he said. “I had to have someone cover my shift when it happened.” Mr. Brown was a trajectory operations of�icer at mission control. “My job was to monitor the orbit of the space station and make sure it was where it was

reference to the three leaders: Moses, Aharon and Miriam: “…And God brought us forth out of E�ypt, with joy and singing, and  guided them them in the wilderness, wilderness, as a ShepShepherd cares for his flock.” However,, given all of these different verHowever sions of the Haggadah, how do we determine how old it really is as a liturgical guide at Passover? Various opinions exist, but the most widely accepted earliest historical reference comes from the 10th century, indicating that the Haggadah was part of a prayer book compiled by Rabbi Sa’adiah  ben Yosef Yosef Gaon Gaon (c. 892�942 892�942 CE). Two early early known Haggadot, as separate units from the Siddur, were produced in 14th century Spain: The Illuminated Golden Haggadah, in the British Library in London; and the Sarajevo Haggadah, in the National Museum of Bosnia in Sarajevo. Another intriguing and well known Hag Hag  gadah is the Birds’ Head Haggadah, the oldest surviving Ashkenazi (German, c. 1300) illuminated manuscript, currently in the Israel Museum, Jerusalem. Its name is derived from the birdlike human �igures illustrated in the manuscript’s margins, exemplifying the Biblical prohibition against creating graven images. In summary, no one knows exactly who  wrote the �irst Haggadah based on the story in our holy scriptures. The Haggadah is ageless and timeless; it is an evolving story that reflects our individual, as well as collective experiences, as a people and as God’s holy vessels.

supposed to be. I worked with my Russian counterpart to execute burns to adjust its orbit. “A trajectory operations of�icer watches out for orbital debris, or space junk. If a piece of debris is orbiting and predicted to collide with the space station, you have to do a debris avoidance maneuver to get out of the way. It changes the orbit of the space station so the two pass by safely and there’s no chance of a collision.” As for other possible collisions between religious observance and the workplace, “there is almost always a  way to to make things work, work,” ” Mr. Mr. Brown said. “The key key is to  be prepared. I try to anticipate whatever religious needs I have, where there might be conflict points. I talk with my rabbi about what I need to do and I work it out with my boss. It’s always important to be respectful of your employer.” Aaron Brown shows depiction of the International Space Station.

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cannot seem to recall my �irst test in school. But I can recall how much I enjoyed the tuna �ish sand wich on white brea d that they served in the lunch room — why is that not surprising? Tests were never my thing. I vaguely remember doing very poorly on several Hebrew subject tests in elementary school. I remember that I would do well on vocabulary tests and my friend Michelle, sitting next to me,  would do better on spelling tests. Or it  were going going to have have to take take the SATs. SATs. So, could have been vice versa. I am not instead of going the really expensive prieven sure what day of the week it is.  vate tutor route, we did some research Sophomore year of high school into Huntington Learning Center. And  was not a stellar one for me in the test  we decided that is where we were going department. Chemistry, French, and to send our precious angels to begin  geometry … oh my! I often often their ascent into SAT starsee my math teacher from dom. Who am I kidding, that year around town and  we are still the ir parents , every time I do, I shudder and we would be happy  with fear fear.. When each of my  with anything anything over 1,000 1,000..  boys s uccessfu lly made it Aim high kids. Aim high. through tenth grade withSon #1 and Son #2 each out the threat of summer  were given almost a ye ar school looming over their to prepare, and both of heads (do they still have them did us proud. They summer school?) I thought  Banji  both got into the college   Ganchrow I was safe as a parent. Ha of their choice — some ha, joke is on me…you of you might have heard are never safe as a parent of it — it is the Harvard of  because somethi ng is always going to Washington Heights, better known as come up. But that is for another time. Yeshiva Yeshi va University. A respectable insti insti-In any event, this brings me to the tution, where Husband #1 attended, and SATs. I rarely mention �irst and last I attended the girls school, better known names in my column, but if it wasn’t for as Stern College for Women and Others. Andrew Treitel (who now lives in Israel The “others” are yet to be determined. and most likely does not read this or Anyway,, the past summer e nds, and son Anyway even knows that I have a column) I never #3 informs us that he wants to take the  would have gotte gotten n over over 200 200 on on the the math math ACTs. Sure! Why not! We will look into portion of the SATs. (And 200 is the it! And that is where this story goes terscore you would get for correctly writing ribly awry. your name on the exam.) Poor Andrew. I Poor son #3. We really dropped the honestly felt bad for him, because math  ball with that one. His brothe rs had  just isn’t my my thing. Though Though he probably probably at least six months to study — and we made enough money off of my inability signed up our sweet little baby boy �ive to do simple multiplication to buy a car.  weeks before before the the test. Bad Bad parents, parents, very very Or a house. Or both. But he achieved the  bad pare nts. But j ust b efore you sta rt impossible, and I received a respectable to feel too badly for our inadequately 600 on the math section. prepared genius — the kid does have his own car. You just can’t have everyWhen you have kids, you never know what they are going to be like. thing. Which is a life lesson that applies For example, I always thought I would  beyond  beyon d having having paren parents ts who who never never would have become parents if they had to take have chubby kids. And, miraculously miraculously,, I do not. But will they be smart? Will they a test to do so. inherit my terrible math skills? My terTruth is, when son #3 leaves for his rible study skills? My temper? My saryear in a bubble, also known as his year casm? My oversensitivity? You never in Israel, I will have an empty nest. Just know — but as time goes on, it becomes me and husband #1….perhaps I am more apparent who has been blessed sabotaging his chance of doing well so  with what. My boys are thin AND they he will never leave the nest. And is that are not afraid of math. Truly miraculous. really so wrong??? Unfortunately, the sarcasm has trickled Ganchrow of Teaneck Teaneck knows that that it down, but that was inevitable. Their love  Banji Ganchrow is wrong. But she does not know what life of minyan has nothing to do with me, will be like without a table full of empty  but you you can’t win them them all. water bottles, Jolly Rancher wrappers, In any event, when sons #1 and #2 and banana peels…  began eleventh grade, we knew they

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robbery 6. Ivory product 10. Locales with gyms and Torah classes; Abbr. 14. Not omega 15. Guitar plug-ins 16. Vera that soothes 17.. Alcoholic drink for the First Plague? 17 19. The Settlers of Catan, e.g. 20. “___ I” (“Ditto”) 21. Sharer’s word 22. Challah leftovers? 24. “Rent” actor Diggs 26. Where the Mets once played 27.. Harry Potter treat for the Second 27 Plague? 33. Some lake fish 34. It must be chewed for kosher status 35. Target of #neveragain 36. Kimmel and Corden, e.g. 37.. Ararat and Everest, briefly 37 38. White shirt woe 40. Many many years 41. It’s usually taken before chem. 42. Paddling 43. Kid snacks for the Fourth Plague? 47. 12 and 13 are important ones for Jewish youths 48. CBS lead-in to “Los Angeles” or “New Orleans” 49. District 52. 2002 NBA Rookie of the Year Gasol 53. ___over 57.. Raichel who sings “Mi’Ma’amakim” 57 58. Coffee brews for the Ninth Plague? 61. Alternative to liquid medicine 62. “The Time Machine” people 63. “Have ___” (“Get comfy”) 64. Lisa Loeb’s #1 hit 65. 1961 novel by Elie Wiesel 66. Former Russian rulers

___ B’Yerushalayim” middle of Eilat and Holon? 3. Touch device 4. O.K. Corral event 5. Just a bit 6. Judge who anointed Saul 7. Barbra’s “Funny Girl” co-star Sharif 8. Mth. for Seders, often 9. Eager to proceed, slangily 10. Black-spotted cat 11. Chowder no-no, for the kosher keeper 12. Honey structure 13. Has a prophecy 18. Stringed toys 23. Court official, for short 25. Makes like Scarlett Johansson 26. “Rugrats” dad and “The Simpsons” disco dude 27. Emulate Mel Torme 28. ___ Mubarak, president of Egypt starting in 1981 29. Daniel Day-Lewis, e.g. 30. Broadcasting live 31. Cracks a smile 32. Made like a cantor 33. “Take ___ Train” (jazz classic) 37. Karaoke gear, for short 38. Japanese rice wine (var.) 39. Ignore the “Keep Out” sign 41. Like some Scotch 42. Happen 44. “... falls ___ on the plain” 45. Way back when 46. Darth Vader, once 49. Copies digitally 50. Cut, for Spielberg 51. Hearty party 52. Boat bow 54. On a boat 55. Daniel Day-Lewis 56. Retired fast fliers: Abbr. 59. ___ mode 60. Granola morsel 2. The

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 Arr t s & Cu  A Cullt ure ‘Angels in America’ is theater heaven MIRIAM RINN

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ight hours long, shown in two parts on different days, the National Theatre production of Tony Kushner’s multi-award winning  winnin g play play “Angels in America” America” is one one of the most extraordinary theatrical experiences I’ve ever had. Brilliantly directed and staged by Marianne Elliott, the play manages to be thrilling and moving, challenging and funny, surreal and realistic, all at the same time. First produced in the midst of the AIDS crisis, at a time when many gay people were hidden deep in the closet, the play feels as contemporary today as it did in the early 1990s, even though the disease is now managed reliably and gay people �ind widespread acceptance in culture and society. Kushner’s Kushne r’s amalgam of politics, religion, psycholo�y, sex, and American history still provokes and reveals and probes issues that continue to confound us. The play also provides great, juicy roles for actors, and this production boasts a ton of them. Andrew Gar�ield as Prior, Nathan Lane as Roy Cohn, Lee Pace as  Joe, Denise Gough as Harper Harper,, James James McAr McAr-dle as Louis — all are marvelous. Nine actors play many parts; they must be in  great physic al shape to get through th e three-hour-plus performances. Commissioned by the Eureka Theater in San Francisco, the play �irst was performed in 1990 as a workshop in Los Angeles at the Mark Taper Forum. The �irst (and stronger) part, “Millennium Approaches,” premiered in San Francisco, then went to London in 1992. That was before Kushner had completed the second part, “Perestroika.” The entire two-part play came to Broadway in 1993. It won the Tony and Drama Desk awards for best play in 1993 and 1994 respectively. The revival now at the Neil Simon Theatre comes from the West End, with much of the original British and American cast. “Angels in America” roughly follows the intersection of two couples from October 1985 through January 1986, with an epilogue set in 1990. Uber WASP and former drag queen Prior Walter and his boyfriend, the leftist Jew Louis Ironson, are struggling to deal with Prior’s diagnosis of full-blown AIDS. Meanwhile, Mormon lawyer Joe Pitt is having trouble with his neurotic wife, Harper.. She hides in their Brooklyn apartHarper ment, popping Valium, while he cozies up to his mentor Roy Cohn, the notorious antiCommunist and secret homosexual. Cohn is the linchpin in these relationships and inspires some of Kushner’s most outraged, outrageous, and hilarious dialogue. He is a volcanic presence on stage, and Nathan Lane captures that irresistible charisma. 58 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

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For anyone who saw the HBO miniseries starring Al Pacino as Cohn, it’s hard to for get Paci no’s intense submersion into t he character,, but Lane’s powerful stage prescharacter ence makes it impossible to look away. Unable to cope with Prior’s worsening health, Louis leaves him, and soon initiates a romance with Joe, who is just beginning to acknowledge his homosexuality. Desperately unhappy, Harper starts to  wander, perhaps met aphorically, to di stant continents and locations, where she runs into Prior, also wandering far from his hospital bed. Sick with AIDS, Roy Cohn hallucinates visits from Ethel Rosenberg, the woman he prosecuted for espionage and ultimately had executed. As Prior experiences surreal visions, he hears an otherworldly voice telling him that he is a prophet, and he is warned to expect a visitation. Spiritual beings invade the world. Widely considered one of the best American plays of the second half of the twentieth century, “Angels in America” is a great Jewish play as well. It opens with an Orthodox rabbi conducting the funeral of Louis Ironson’s immigrant grandmother and includes the recital of the kaddish, the prayer for the dead, over the body of Roy Cohn near the play’s end. In between, we hear all the arguments about socialism that once convulsed the Jewish world, as

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 well as a deep explo exploratio ration n of Jewis Jewish h AmeriAmerican identity. References to the Torah pepper the play, with Prior actually wrestling an angel and incurring an injury to his leg. Religion, both Judaism and variants of Christianity, is central to the action, and true faith is taken seriously. seriously. The religious  beliefs of Joe, Harper, and Joe’s mother, Hannah, provide both strength and

torment, and both Louis’s socialism and Cohn’s anti-Communism feel like religions, in that they inform their beliefs and guide their behaviors. The drama of celestial  beings evokes awe, as it does in religious communities everywhere. “Angels in America” is a great play, and this production at the Neil Simon Theatre is an unforgettable theater experience.

Calendar for Independence,” including clips from the 1966 film “Cast a Giant Shadow,” starring Kirk Douglas, at a meeting of the CSI Scholar Fund at the JCC of Fort Lee. Refreshments, 12:30 p.m., speaker at 1. 1449 Anderson Ave., Fort Lee. (201) 947 1735.

Jewelry/gifts/open house in Maywood: The

Congregation B’nai Israel in Emerson welcomes guests to join her for food and conversatio conversation n after Passover at the Dairy Queen, 13 Kinderkamack Road in Emerson, 8-8:45 p.m. (201) 265-2272 or www. bisrael.com.

Sunday

The Patron of the Arts program at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades in Tenafly hosts its annual “Premier Speaker Event” at 7 p.m.; the speaker is seven-time Emmy and Golden Globe Award winner Alan Alda. The internationally celebrated actor, author, director, and science advocate offers laughter and conversation focusing on the art of improv, the role of empathy, and the importance of good communication. Attendees will receive a copy of his newest book, “If I Understood You, Would I Have This Look on My Face?” For information or reservations go to www.jccotp.org/alda or email [email protected]. Supported in part by the Henry and Marilyn Taub Foundation.

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Shabbat in Jersey City: Congregation B’nai Jacob marks Passover during services, 10:30 a.m. 176 West Side Ave. (201) 435-5725.

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Lunch and learn: Rabbi Aaron Katz leads a special Passover program over lunch at Congregation B’nai Jacob in Jersey City, noon. $10. 176 West Side

Ave. (201) 435-5725 or Ave. [email protected].

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Congregation B’nai Jacob holds services at Hamilton House, 6–7:30 p.m. Supported by the Shuster family. 255 Brunswick St.; building entrance on 10th Street where free parking is available. Rabbi Aaron Katz, (201) 435-5725 or [email protected].

of the Pascack Valle Valley y holds “Chefs Night Out,” a kosher-for-Passo kosher-for-Passover ver Shabbat dinner, 6:30 p.m. 87 Overlook Drive. (201) 391-0801 or www. tepv.org.

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Mickey Marcus lecture in Fort Lee: Dumont historian Dick Burnon gives a lecture on “Mickey Marcus: American Hero During the 1948 Israeli War

The Jewish holiday chronicled: The United Synagogue of Hoboken hosts a book brunch about “My Jewish Year” with the former PBS and 60 Minutes producer and writer Abigail Pogrebin, 10:30 a.m. 115 Park Ave. Ave. (201) 659-4000 or office@ hobokensynagogue.org.

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Ice cream with rabbi: Rabbi Debra Orenstein of

a social program sponsored by Jewish Family & Children’s Services of Northern NJ for Holocaust survivors, funded by the Claims Conference, meets at the Fair Lawn Jewish Center/CBI, Center /CBI, 11 a.m.-1 p.m. Kosher lunch and music by the Odessa Klezmer Band. 10-10 Norma Ave Ave.. Register, Shari Brodsky, (201) 837-9090, ext. 237, or [email protected].

Film in Teaneck: Temple Emeth’s adult education group screens a Jewish-themed movie, 7:30 p.m., as part of a “Movies That Matter” series. Refreshments. 1666 Windsor Road. (201) 833-1322.

Singles Sunday

Shabbat in Woodcl Woodcliff iff Lake: Temple Emanuel

Saturday

Courageous women: Dumont historian Dick Burnon discusses “Women of Courage,” at a meeting of REAP (Retired Executives and Professionals) at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades in Tenafly, 10:45 a.m. Part one, Edith Cavell and Sally Ride. 411 East Clinton Ave. (201) 569-7900 or www.  jccotp.o  jcco tp.org. rg.

Shabbat in Jersey City:

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Adler Aphasia Center hosts a showcase of handcrafted jewelry and gifts, made by stroke survivors with aphasia, at an open house, 4 — 8 p.m. Sales support the center’s programs and services. 60 West Hunter Ave. (201) 368-8585 or www. AdlerAphasiaCenter.org.

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Senior singles meet in West Nyack: Singles

Miriam Friedmann Morris

Daughter discusses father’s art: In commemoration of Yom HaShoah, Miriam Friedmann Morris of Pomona, N.Y., will discuss “From Chess Masters to Clydesdales— Holocaust Survivor David Friedmann’s Art Journey.” At Ramapo College of New Jersey Robert A. Scott Student Center (alumni lounges,

65+ meet for a social get-together with refreshments at the JCC Rockland, 11 a.m. 450 West Nyack Road. Gene, (845) 356-5525. Announce your events We welcome announcements of upcoming events . Announcements are free. Accompanying photos photos must be high resolution, resolution, jpg files. Send announcements 2 to 3 weeks in advance. Not every release will be published. Include a daytime telephone number and send to: [email protected] 201-837-8818 x 110

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and often he would maintain those relationships. He’d answer immediately with in-depth, closely reasoned emails. Sometimes those correspondences would lead to in-person meetings; at other times a friendship  would develop based only on email. email. Often, Ton Tony’s y’s correspondents would plan to meet him, assuming that there would be enough time, sometime in the future, only to learn that time had run out. Elanit Z. Rothschild Jakabovics lives in Washington, D.C., where she is president of Kesher Israel, a prominent Orthodox congregation. “Rabbi Glickman and I never met in person,” Ms. Jakabovics said. But when her shul hit the news — its rabbi is now imprisoned for spying on women in the mikvah — “he sent an email to Kesher, and it was very heartening. It was very sweet of him to send it. “He wrote that someone had sent him the text of the speech that I gave at the shul and he thought it was inspirational. So I looked him up — I didn’t know who he was at the time — and I saw that he had a presence on Facebook. And I started following him. I quickly  became a fan because because of what what he he wrote and the types of discussions he had, the way he interacted with people. And the fact that he was a rosh yeshiva and still he had an online presence, and he was engaging  with people in very very substantive substantive convers conversations, ations, and he always tried to �ind the nuance. “Everything isn’t all black and white. It’s easy to say that, but when you are having a conversation that is  getting heated, and people on the right and the left are screaming at each other, it’s not so easy. But you couldn’t peg him as left or right. “You couldn’t paint him in a box. It always seemed like he was trying to engage, instead of living in an ivory tower. He wasn’t living in an ivory tower. tower.”” Ms. Jakabovics was struck by Rabbi Glickman’s openness and kindness, as well as by his intellect and  breadth of knowledge. “There are I would say hunhun dreds of people who have never met him but who had interacted with him online or by email or over the phone, and these people are in intense mourning over the fact that he is gone,” she said. Malka Zeiger-Simkovich is the chair of Jewish studies at Catholic Theological Union in Chicago. Like Ms. Jakabovics, she knew Rabbi Glickman only electronically,  but the bond bond between them was strong. “He “He took the the initiative to get in touch with me regularly in response to my articles, and he took a real inte rest in my work,” she said. “And I know that I was just one of the scholars he reached out to. I was just one of the many people he took the initiative to forge a relationship with.” Dr. Zeiger-Simkovich is Orthodox, but she works in a Catholic institution, and “a lot of people won’t bring me in to speak because I work with Catholics every day,” she said. “He didn’t care. He lived on the mar gins, in an intentional way way.. He wanted that fluidity, and I think that people appreciated that fluidity more than he knew. And that reaching out made him really one of a kind.” His relationship with her went beyond the purely professional. “My mother died very suddenly, and he  wrote an unbelie unbelievable vable passag passage e to me about about the memories he had of his own mother, who also died suddenly. “He said that his mother used to read Proust to him, and now he reads Proust to remember his mother. And he closed by saying, ‘Malka, life in the end is memory. So just hang on tight.’” Ari Friedman is a medical student who �irst encountered Rabbi Glickman when he was a freshman at YU. “How I met him says a little about how he was,” Mr. 60 JEWISH STANDARD MARCH 30, 2018

Friedman said. “There was a speaker for Shabbes — it  was him — and and so after the meal meal some some friends and I went went to hear him. He was honest and interesting and he gave examples of halacha that he found challenging. He was  very approachable. I spoke to him, and he was super friendly. And he came back the next year, and we made sure to stay and hear him. And then we became close.” Soon, when Mr. Friedman had some issues that he  wanted to discuss, he realized realized that of all the roshei roshei yeshiva he knew, Rabbi Glickman was the most approachable, and the one whose answers were most likely to provide the kind of support he needed. “An “A n enormous strength of Rabbi Glickman’s was how he listened to you, and in terms of his experience, his exposure to the world, and he talked ab out his own struggles .” The two developed a close relationship; mainly they’d email, but Mr. Friedman also went to his house. “I felt very close to him,” him,” he said. “He was so generous. He gave his time, his attention.” He also was generous �inancially, treating students to dinners, always picking up the check. “He was worldly; he had a mixture of the knowledge from his Torah background and his scholarship background.” And because his career was outside the Jewish world, Rabbi Glickman “knew what it meant” when there was a Jewish holiday coming, and no one else understood the complications of that day in the non-Jewish world. They grew so close that Rabbi Glickman “gave one of the sheva brachot at my  wedding,,” Mr.  wedding Mr. Friedman Friedman said. Mr. Friedman talked with awe about the amount of time that Rabbi Glickman gave to tutoring students, sometimes as part of a program, sometimes outside formal frameworks. He’d recognize talent and need and help, he said. As a way to pass on some of Rabbi Glickman’s Glickman’s wisdom, Mr. Friedman has put together a 182-page collection of some of his online posts. It’s called “His Torah U’Madda Life, In All Its Worth,” and it begins with the blurb that appeared by his posts. “Very responsive to message,” it says. (And he was. Breathtakingly re sponsive.) Tikvah Wiener of Teaneck, an educator who is about to open the Ideas School, an Orthodox high school that will meet at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades in Tenafly, also knew Rabbi Glickman. “He has  been a mentor mentor,, a colleag colleague, ue, a friend, a real real rebbe, rebbe,” ” she said. “He got great satisfaction from connecting people in a genuine way.” He was funny, too, she added. “He had a real, genuine curiosity and openness, and he was a real lifelong learner. He always was learning. He had a childlike  wonder about learning. learning.” Tony Glickman had deep feelings about politics, and  was about to reenter reenter that fray, fray, his wife and daughter daughter said. “My parents shared a sense of justice,” Dalia said. “They always wanted to advocate for the underdog.” dog. ” That could be on a personal level. YU students reported that if they sat alone at a meal and Tony came into the dining room, he’d sit with them. “It hurt him to see a kid sitting alone,” she said. “You look for meaning in the face of tragedy,” she continued. “One thing we — the family — always feel  very strongly is that we appreciat e how much he meant to other people, but he always put us �irst. There was never a doubt that we were �irst. We appreappre ciate the things that other people say about him, but the six of us and our mother — he was our protector. He was our leader. “The rest of my life will be colored by the need I felt in life to make him proud,” Dalia said. “I feel like I need to keep on doing that. To keep on making him proud.”

Selma Dubnick Selma B. Dubnick, 95, of Old Tappan, died March 24. She earned a bachelor’s degree and master’s at Kean College of New Jersey (Kean University) where she was director of  graduate s tudies. She was a co-found er of the Mid-Bergen Community Mental Health Center in Paramus (CarePlus NJ), a long-time board member of the CarePlus Foundation, and an active member of Temple Emanuel in Woodcliff Lake. Predeceased by her husband, Bernard, in 2002; she is survived by children, Ruth Levy, Joshua Dubnick, Deborah Levy, and Jeffrey Dubnick; and grandchildren, Micah, Gabriel and Luka. Donations can be sent to the Dubnick annual scholarship for single mothers with dependent children at the Kean University Foundation, or the Dubnick scholarship at the CarePlus Foundation. Arrangements were by Robert Schoem’s Menorah Chapel, Paramus.

Marianne Elling  Marianne “Mimi” Elling, 97, of Pompton Plains, formerly of Ridgewood, died March 26. Born in Vienna, she immigrated to the U.S. in 1939. Predeceased by her husband of 46 years, Alfred, she is survived by children, Vivian Dorman (Daniel), George (Ferne), and Diane Winter (Guyler); and grandchildren,  Jessica (Garth), (Garth), Gabriel Gabriel (Jennifer), Michael Michael,, Lauren, Lauren, Rachel ( John), Ashley, Alyssa (Ryan), and Jeremy. Contributions can be made to the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum, Washington, D.C. Arrangements were  by Gutterman Gutterman and and Musicant Musicant Jewish Jewish Funeral Funeral Directors, Directors, Hackensack.

Sidney Feldman Sidney Feldman, 97, of New York City, died March 26. He was a retired writer for the New York Times and a member of the Workmens Circle Branch in Jersey City. He is survived by his wife, Frieda, née Klempner; children,  Jonathan  Jonath an of Sweden Sweden and and Rachel Rachel of New New York York City; City; siblings, siblings, Matthew of Maryland and Fay Julis of New York; and two  grandchildren.  grandchi ldren. Arrangements were by Eden Memorial Chapel, Fort Lee.

George Kroll George L. Kroll, 93, of Wayne, died March 23. After graduating Passaic High School in 1942, he enlisted in the U.S. Army. In 1944 he flew 50 combat missions in the 15th Air Force European Theater based in Italy and earned the Air Medal-Three Oak Leaf Clusters, along with two distinguished citations for outstanding performance against the enemy. He attended Rutgers and Fairleigh Dickinson universities and was the former publisher and editor of the original Clifton Journal and Dateline Journal. He was also a sales rep for the Jewish Standard for many years. He is survived by his wife of more than 50 years, Lorraine; children, Annlyn of Boca Raton, Fla., David (Robin) of Glen Rock, and Michael of Coral Springs, Fla.; grandchildren, Lauren, Amanda, and Taylor Kroll, and David and Paige Rind; nieces and nephews. Donations can be sent to the National World War II Museum, nationalww2museum.org. Arrangements were by  Jewish Memorial Memorial Chapel, Clifto Clifton. n.

Ira Samson Ira S. Samson, 82, of Fair Lawn, died March 27. He served in the Army Reserves. Before retiring, he was a printer at the Bergen Record. Surviving are his wife, Maxine, née Lefkowitz; a son, Steven; and a sister, Barbara Pollack. Donations can be made to the Opportunity Center, Fair Lawn. Arrangements were by Louis Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.

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As well, while the Torah does not change, wine does. The selection of kosher wine thank God constantly changes and grows, as do the best  wines evolve, change, and s ometimes improve as they age when properly stored. Every year, new wines and vintages are released, just on time for the  big Pesach sale. I recommend the two possible strategies. The �irst is the one I personally use for the seders. For the �irst and the last 2 cups, I go with a rosé wine. According to most opinions, rosé is just a shade of red and counts as such as it is made from red wine grape varieties. The winemaker, using a special method (there are a few but the goal is roughly the same), controls how red he or she  wants the wine to look like by limit ing the contact between the must, the  grape jui ce, and the grape’s skin from  which the colo r come s. Some of the rosé wines I will use this year include the delightful Flam Rosé, with its notes of tart strawberries and herbaceous undertones. The Jezreel Valley Rosé is also a mouth-watering pink Israeli wine  which I am planning to enjoy for the 4 cups. Good rosés do not come excluexclusively from Israel, and I am also looking forward to drinking Les Lauriers de Rothschild Rosé which comes from Bordeaux, in France. For the second cup and the holiday meal, I like to drink a well-aged red wine. One particularly  good memory is the magnum (contains 1.5 liter, like 2 regular bottles) of Castel Grand Vin 2002 which 2 years ago was enough for both sedarim. This year, for the second seder, I am looking for ward to enjoy a mature bottle of Châ teau Fourcas Dupré. The latest release, the 2015 vintage now on the shelves, should be a keeper, as well. The second strate�y is simple. You start with a light wine. It can also be a rosé, such as the Tabor Adama Bar bera Rosé, but it can also be a P inot Noir, such as the Vitkin Pinot Noir, or the new Pinot Noir from the top QPR series Herzog Lineage. It is light in body and easy to drink yet flavorful. Then, you work your way up and move on to a fuller-bodied wine such

as the Herzog Cabernet Sauvignon Clone 6 from the Chalk Hill appellation in Sonoma, California. It is wonderfully rich and layered, with complex, black fruit and mineral aromas as well as a long and plush �inish. You can then move back to your Pinot Noir

While there are indeed different minhagim for which wine to drink at the  seder, one thing th ing  stays the same for everybody: We have to drink 4 cups of wine (or grape  juice, if you and  your rabbi are OK with that). or a different lighter wine for the third cup such as Capçanes La Flor del Flor Garnatxa. This is a superb Grenache from Spain which is elegant and oh, so re�ined. Then, for the 4th cup, either keep going with the Capçanes or if you can handle it, a sweet wine. The Porto Cordovero LBV for instance, truly an amazing wine. Port wines are heavy, high in alcohol and therefore not the �irst choice for most people. But the sweetness and balance allow for an easy drinking experience which should ensure a deep sleep once the seder is all wrapped up. I hope these guidelines will help you achieve a great Pesach seder experience. If the aforementioned wines  were the only great ones we had access to for Passover, dayenu (that would be enough)! Pesach kasher v’sameyach! Happy Passover! L’chaim!

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