Involuntary Attraction Bombs Month 2
FASTER and EASIER: The Power Of Express Moves.. By: Jason Capital When the “Dating Community” first really began to take off in the early 2000′s, the big thing was “Routines” and “routine stacks”. These were step-by-step, memorized conversations guys would use with the woman of their choice to attract, connect and seduce her without needing to come up with any original thoughts in the moment. They’d have memorized openers, which would lead into memorized transitions, which would lead into memorized games, stories and gambits, all the way through, in a specific order, until sex. Pretty cool, right? Unfortunately, things often look better on paper than in the real world and routines were no different. The “routine stacks” got good reactions from good-looking (7′s and 8′s) girls in the bar or club but rarely led to sex. They gave guys confidence in always having something to say but running game off a frontal lobe teleprompter for an entire interaction leaves out one key piece: actually LISTENING to what the girl is communicating. They made guys rigid in communication, when the best players out there are like water: fluid, adapting, dominant to the moment. And worst of all, they made guys feel that what they NATURALLY would think to say was inferior to the routines and gambits they had memorized. Without realizing, they had communicated to themselves that their own natural thoughts, comments and stories were sub-par so when it came time to say something original, it came with a breath of “I know this isn’t as good as what I was saying before”. Obviously, communicating without a total 100% belief in the awesomeness you’re spewing out of your mouth is a recipe for coming up short. That being said, routines had some SERIOUS benefits too.
Having something interesting to say without even having to think about it (ie once it’s internalized) leaves a lot of room for your mind to be aware of what’s going on AROUND you (her body language, her friends, other girls you were flirting with earlier and so on). Saying the same thing over and over again means you’re gonna be really good at communicating it. You know the best way to tell the story, you know when to pause to build suspense, you know where to look and how to use your hands best to express. As we know being a good communicator is a big attractor in its own right. Plus planning IS smart. Listen, we’re men. We’re opportunistic. We SHOULD be planning when we can, and routines were most definitely a well thought out plan for seduction. To ignore any of this stuff would be silly. Bottom lines: Routines DO have value and SHOULD be used but in a very unique, specific way. I’ll explain.. I see your development in game as a pyramid of internalization. The most important part, the foundation of your development, is internalizing those 7 New Common Beliefs we talk about in MWWY. That’s why I put them first. Theoretically, once you move through the world swiftly with all 7 of those beliefs empowering you, Attraction, Connection and Seduction should just happen. And a lot of times, they will. But not always. So the second level of the pyramid from the bottom, after the beliefs, is the structure of basic seduction and the main tools we use to move things along that structure. We start with Attraction, spike her emotions, get her chasing, get her trying to get our validation/approval and then qualify her as we move into High Value Small Talk. There, we isolate, connect, qualify deeper and start building physical rapport. And then from there, we build more and more trust/comfort, while spiking those validationseeking emotions in her every so often by maintaining that Fun and Challenging frame as we move into Escalation. Those first two levels, the 7 beliefs and game structure + tools, are gonna be more than good enough for most guys to get the girls they want consistently.
But at the very top of the pyramid, there’s one more smaller level that guys who have internalized the first two can and should take advantage of for faster, more efficient results with the girls of their choice. This is advanced stuff for guys who are truly trying to be MASTERS of Dating. When I work with my private clients, the guys who have their shit together and have been doing this for a while, this is what we spend a lot of time on, customizing this final level for their magnificent, glorious success. I call this final step on the pyramid, “Express Moves”. You know how on some highways, there’s the normal highway and then there’s the Express Lane, where you can drive faster with less traffic and stops? Taking that road gets you to your destination faster and more efficiently. Express Moves are exactly the same. They are pre-prepared “routines” we use sporadically during an interaction with the girl, in each of the 3 phases, that moves things towards sex in the MOST EFFICIENT WAY POSSIBLE. Because you don’t start using them until you’ve internalized the first two levels of game, they come off naturally and with the full force of the 7 Common Beliefs behind them. It’s like a kid graduating to a rifle after he’s been fucking around with a bow-and-arrow for hunting for years. Both get the job done and he shouldn’t be holding the rifle ’til he understands the game, but once he’s ready…the rifle IS easier, faster and more efficient. So here’s how I use Express Moves: I have specific, highly-predictable conversational pieces I use over and over again in each of the 3 phases (A, HVST, E) that I know are going to make her feel what I want in that situation. I still let the conversation flow naturally and irreverently self-amuse to the bitter, hot end, but my Express Moves efficiently and predictably put me and her in the situations and emotions I want us in. Over the next 3 installments of Involuntary Attraction Bombs, I’m going to share my own personal Attraction, High-Value Small Talk and Escalation Express Moves with you, in that order, while also teaching you the ALL-IMPORTANT structure behind each of them so you can easily create your own, based on your own personal background and ecosystem, FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
If you want, you’ll be able to use these not just in seducing the women of your choice, but in business meetings, dinners, whatever for unbeatable success. The structure is different in each phase too, so that’s going to be crucial — we’ll make sure to get you everything you need. Now let’s just get started with the Attraction Express Moves today. Before we get into structure, let’s go over one of my favorite Attraction Express Moves of my own, they should help explain this deeper: Me: God, you have such an under the oath face.. ..There’s something about the way you carry yourself, like I can tell you’re someone who’s genuinely honest and legit, BUT…and you’ve realized this before for sure…you know you could probably lie a lot more than you do and totally get away with it. Like I don’t even know if I can trust you anymore…it’s way scandalous. Her: … (her reply) Me: Here, I’m curious, let me see something. Have you ever played 2 Truths and A Lie? Then we play 2 Truths and A Lie with each other. It’s a fun game where the other person has to answer 3 questions and purposely lie about one of the answers. You have to guess which one they lied about. Make sure she does the game to you too. If I guess her lie correctly, I’ll usually say something sarcastic like, “Well at least we know I can’t read you like a book.” If I guess incorrectly, I’ll say something like, “See, totally scandalous. I don’t think we can even be friends anymore…how could I ever trust you?” Her: … (her reply) Me: Yo, I’m thirsty, come with me to get a drink……I’m also hungry too, what are your cooking skills like?” THAT WHOLE THING RIGHT THERE, THAT’S AN “Attraction Express Move”. It efficiently, predictably and quickly spikes her emotional temperature and gets her feeling a HEIGHTENED pull of attraction towards me. I know, if I want, I can isolate her and start connecting with her at that point. Pretty sweet, right?
This is an exact ‘Attraction Express Move’ I used while talking to this Playboy model recently who’s been texting me all kinds of pics that would make her dad beam with paternal pride Let’s break down the structure behind it, so you can see why it works so ferociously and how you can use the structure to create YOUR OWN Attraction Express Moves after finishing this report. 1. Cold Read Label It starts with something I call a “Cold Real Label”. We know how awesome cold-reads are for hooking someone’s attention on YOU, demonstrating an understanding of their world and overall fun conversation but you can make them EVEN BETTER by adding a label onto your cold reads from now on. My homey and good friend/mentor Adam Gilad says that “when you put a label on something, you have control over it…you take all the power.” So when I make cold reads now, I don’t just read them but first, I give it a fun, interesting label before I explain what it is. This way, I’ll just name drop the label and .. absolutely fascinated .. she’ll ask WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!!!!! An “under the oath face” was just something that sounded cool I came up with, based on your cold reads, you can come up with all kinds of cool Cold Read Labels. But Attraction Express Moves always start with a Cold Read Label. From there, you throw in a.. 2. Disqualifier The second part of the Attraction Express Move is a disqualifier. We always keep it Fun and Challenging, right? A disqualifier like, “I don’t even know if I can trust you anymore..” is fun AND a challenge. You’ve set up a vacuum for her to earn your trust again. (Notice the genius here too, by saying something like that, you imply that you guys once DID trust each other, which would imply you guys were close and comfortable with each other and now you’re the one taking that away. Evil, just the way I like it.) Plus, when you cold read someone like that, a lot of girls may interpret it as showing a lot of interest in her. That’s not a bad thing, but if you just let that interest sit there, it’ll feel like pressure to her.
To avoid that, a good general rule to follow is whenever you show interest in here, you take it away right after. This is, of course, another awesome use of Push-Pull. So if I cold read her as having an “under the oath face” and explain what it means to her (btw, most hot girls will have come to this realization in their lives at some point that they can get away with a lot (due to so many guys being outcome-attached pussies today), which is why it’s such a good read…I’ve had girls tell me “No, I suck at lying!” or something like that, which is fine too…you just keep it playful and challenging from there and go into 2 Truths and A Lie anyways, that can make her feel some pressure for a second, which is GOOD. Only when we let it sit there is it bad. So right after the cold read explanation, I immediately take the pressure (and interest) away from her by telling her,“…It’s way scandalous…like I don’t even know if I can trust you anymore”. Push motherfucking Pull. Fun and Challenging. Game on. And from there, it’s easy.. 3. Spontaneous Hook I tell her, “Here, I’m curious, let me see something.. Have you ever played Two Truths and A Lie?” It’s an obvious hook because there’s clearly a game I’m about to play with her/show her. And I say “Spontaneous” because you want it to come off that way, like you just thought of it. A little method acting can go a long way. BTW, saying “I’m curious” before you do anything is a good enough excuse for any woman to do anything, almost anytime. 4. F/C Interactive Game, Gambit, Riddle or Story This is where it gets really FUN. Based on the Cold Read Label you made, simply have an interactive game, riddle, gambit or story you can bring into the interaction. Two Truths and A Lie is an old-school party game that’s obviously related to having an “under the oath face”.
I gave you a bunch of games in MWWY, but even better…there’s TONS online you can find simply by searching. Look for games that are LIGHT, fun, quick and interactive. If they can be related to sex, that’s even better. Some of my favorite games/things to play are: Two Truths And A Lie The 5 Questions Game Fuck Marry Kill Guess Your Porn Name (just like it sounds) Ideally, pick the game, story or gambit you enjoy playing the most, then CREATE a Cold Read Label based on that, something that will seamlessly connect the Label to the Game. 5. Disqualify based on Interactive Thingy Then based on the conclusion of the game, story or gambit, simply make sure you tease or disqualify a little bit again to keep her chasing and spike that buying temperature and get her on an emotional high right before isolating. Like I said, if I get her Lie correct, I’ll sarcastically say, “Well, at least we know I can’t read you like a book or anything little girl.” Or if I get it wrong, I’ll really play up the “we can’t be friends anymore, I can’t trust you” angle for a second. And then.. 6. Isolate Due to the teasing/disqualifying, she’ll be breathing on an emotional high, which means almost anything you ask of her to do, she’ll do. (You should always go for increasing amounts of Compliance at Emotional High-Points.) In our case, it’s time to Isolate and move into more of a HVST vibe. There, I might go totally in the moment and just enjoy connecting with her or if I want to move even quicker/more efficiently, I’ll step into a HVST Express Move and really get it crackin’ That’s exactly what I’ll be teaching you in the next installment of Involunatry Attraction Bombs by the way…High-Value Small Talk Express Moves.
Don’t miss it….it’s WAY different than what we covered here, and IMMENSELY powerful, especially if you’ve been getting girls interested but can’t get them to be physical with you, text you back or meet you out for meet-ups. See you soon. -Jason
