Instant Addiction Formula

Instant Addiction Formula (IAF)

By Andrew Wang

Instant Addiction Formula (IAF) A Revolutionary Breakthrough Guide To Slapping Your Inner Irresistible Attributes Awake Proudly presented to you by Andrew Wang (Allurre)

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Foreword I’d like to start by not just warmly welcoming you, but congratulating you for expressing your interest in making investment in my “Instant Addiction Formula”. No jokes, I’ve spent months meticulously composing and rewriting the killer contents in this book, ensuring that every breathing word is not even a stone’s throw short of molten gold. It’s the habit of a perfectionist. Every piece of information is ready for implementation and fulfills the secrets to keeping a woman addicted to you; and at times, irrationally inseparable from you. Whether you’re single, dating, or already in a relationship, this potent formula does not discriminate; it will make any woman within your radar go on an emotional override in love and lust. That’s why I’m excited to let you exploit this. Throughout this extensive reading, you’ll notice that I’ve provided multiple quintessential examples based on personal encounters and real-time experiences; this is all to demonstrate more vividly how each concept works. As promised, there are no theoretical mystifications or out-of-date methodologies. Everything is field-tested, stands the test of time, and will not let you down. There’s only a one sided-outcome, and that’s to joyously crown in victory. Why did I publish this guide? Firstly, I’ve always wanted to tackle one of the biggest weaknesses and gaping hole in every modern man’s dating repertoire, and that is to keep a woman highly interested in the long run. Sweat not, as the solution is now right before your very eyes, and I look forward to listen your feedback after testing my formula yourself. As you’re a valued VIP member of my circle now, I’ll be here to guide you further if you need my assistance. My personal e-mail’s available below. Secondly, guys see me all the time with the hottest women with brains, thus coming up to me seeking and bugging me for dating advice. Rumor then spreads that I have the miraculously gift to change dating lives, -- although I’d prefer the term ‘improve’ – and eventually I’ve earned the stripes as a credible go-to dating instructor, a role I that I am honored to play. However, after being a full-fledged hip hop artist and CEO of street wear fashion and music label LUXLIVIN in 2007, I no longer have the luxury of time to dedicate myself entirely on coaching men 1-by-1; let that be in person, instant messaging, or via e-mail. Note: My private coaching sessions are still available; spots are more limited and you still get your money’s worth, if not more.



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So, I thought to myself, why not lay everything down on digital print? Fast forward a few months of heavy duty planning, writing, and wrestling with the perfectionist in me, I now proudly present to you my Instant Addiction Formula (IAF) -- possibly the closest ‘one size fits all’ guide to making you “dangerously irresistible.” I didn’t just employ that slogan for no cause. If the dating scene’s a jungle, this is the key to crowning the kingdom. More importantly, my goal is to beef up your understanding about women, and supply you with the “how-to’s” to generating long-lasting riveting attraction with women and make them force themselves to take the seat as your ‘faithful girlfriend’. I’m talking about real attraction that stays boiling hot even when you’re absent from her. How would you like it if she melts in the afterthought of you? I’m sure you would. The formula you’re about to digest will also alter the dynamics in your social stratosphere. Your friendship circle will broaden – though some may become fickle, strangers you come to contact with will find it difficult to dislike you, and you may potentially impact the lives of many positively without knowing. Just like picking up any new skill, this will require discipline, patience, and practice before you can comfortably evolve into this “new irresistible you.” The more you sharpen your knife, the better it will slice. You will also learn how to control the heartstrings of not just women, but people in general. I am going to recondition you – not brainwash – but nurture you with new life behavioral patterns that will dramatically bolster your level of likeability and personal status. You see, the reason why most men fail with women is because we grew up preconditioned with feminist-induced expectations. That’s why you witness so many guys bowing down to women and drooling in their presence. We’ve now become rigid creatures confined to counterproductive beliefs and behaviors imposed by our cultural society, which have imprisoned our inner-alpha male’s survival. It’s time to break free. Now, prepare for a constant state of self-revelation and unbridled glory.



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ARE YOU READY? HERE’S WHAT’S GOING DOWN. You’re going to start doing things differently around women now. We are going to create a “stickiness” glow around you; polish your inner + outer (overall) game, and I will help map out whatever it takes to be an irresistible guy. Several entailing methodologies may go against current reasoning you may have. If so, don’t just brush them aside, instead, learn to accept, understand, and put it to practice. Nothing within was written in vain. Remember, everything herein is field-tested and the beauty of it all is, they’re all fail proof. 1. We are about to embark in a process of self de-constructing and re-constructing. What I am going to reveal to you are a certain code of behaviors, which I vehemently advise you to embrace, adopt, and live in accord to. Apply not only towards women, but also your friends and colleagues. Real attractive men don’t just attract women, but genders of all humankind. You’ll notice how drastically more favorable people will react towards you. This is real social rewiring to increase the value of your life. Requirements: Again, you will need a disciplined mind to commit coupled with the guts to experiment. It’s time to stretch your comfort zone, harden your backbone, and shelve away your old counterproductive habits. Real talk. If you want to truly improve your game, you must build on your strengths, and dare to tackle your weaknesses, not continue to harbor them. Warning: It’s only realistic to expect consequences to this formula. By applying, you agree to accept the potentially foreseeable constant calling of a woman, text messaging, and possibly nights of jealousy on her end. But that’s a good thing for you. 2. You will detach from your old reality you are comfortable cushioned in, and walk into As you’ve already made the decision to access my formula, a bad news ensues. There’s no turning back. The good news? There’s no need to try undoing your past, and your future is about to grow blindingly brighter – with women, social life, and work career. It’s time to detach, grow, and march forward courageously. Mark this as the official new chapter to your life right now. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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It may feel surreal during the initial phases – your first 14 days – but once your new reality structure sinks in, you will eventually adapt. I want you to internalize everything in increments. Don’t’ just rush to the very bottom of this guide, but stop, assess, and fully absorb every detail before proceeding to the next cornerstone.

THE 6 MAJOR PILLARS TO INSTANT ADDICTION FORMULA (IAF)

1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.

Character Management (Positivism Outburst) Growing Dependency (on you) Constant Curiosity Factor Happiness Stimulation (Internally & Externally) Adrenaline Rush (Stirring Excitement) Added-Value Transfer

= Instant Addiction

With this formula, I am highly confident that you won’t just hit home runs with women, but excel phenomenally in other fields of life. Don’t forget, consistency in exercising this formula is the name of the game. Let’s begin.



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PILLAR 1: INTENSIVE CHARACTER MANAGEMENT TRAVEL AT BREAKNECK SPEED TO SELF-ELEVATION AND SHARPENING YOUR INNER GAME First, we’re going to focus on rebuilding the foundation of your core character. I’m talking about developing dead-on desirable characteristics women die for – which some you may find obvious. The problem is, how can you actually live and project these traits? The desirable characteristics involve being the following:     

Unshakable Positive Mindset Explosive Charisma Super Uber-Confidence Unwavering Independence Role model essence YOUR LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT.

I want you to acknowledge that it is not a far-fetched concept for YOU to have the power to change your reality easily with these 5 traits. Every step to self-improvement has to start from within: It all starts from the mind and taking action. Did you know… every event in your life and experiences you've been dealt with are the results of what you choose to allow in your life. Many people refuse to believe this, as it implies that all negative events were what they sought for. For example, you may not have asked to be mugged or experience a car accident, but something within you allowed that to happen. You may not be capable of identifying it now, but time will tell. Life events stem chiefly from your thoughts. Your mental energy can affect your physical surroundings more than you expect. If you release nothing but positive emotions outwardly, which most people confuse for as being nice, you will skyrocket your irresistibility factor. How you feel internally is always projected outwardly and transferred to the people around you. Therefore, I will begin by expounding on the power of positive thinking and living. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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CULTIVATE AN UNRIVALED POSITIVITY IN YOUR EVERDAY INTERACTION Note: This section may be dense and lengthy, but that’s because it is the most critical element to facilitate your transformation process. From now on, start aligning your attitude, focus, and worldview with positivity, despite how negative times may seem. This is what every attractive human being – salesmen, celebrities, and spokesmen – all intuitively understand and take heed to. When your mind remains positive, peaceful, and poised, it will permeate into your aura. Your aura helps the people around you determine the type of character you are without you even having to talk about it. Running high on positivity indicates that you are emotionally and mentally sound. Keep yourself and anyone you come into contact with in a constant positive loop. Yes, we will all die some day; In fact, today may just be someone’s last day. And yes, there are still possibilities that you will still be rejected on your next 100 approaches even after mastering this formula. But once you’re armed with an undying positive mentality, you’ll start embracing these rejections and take them more lightly. In fact, the chances of you being rejected will also diminish significantly. (Getting rejected is all part of the game, there’s nothing wrong it.) Instead of reacting in the face of rejection with negative self-limiting beliefs such as “There must be something wrong or missing about me…” You’ll start thinking along the lines of… “Ain’t nothing wrong with being rejected, too bad, she’s missing out on all the unmatchable fun. “ “What a pity, the girl shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions. Oh well, next!” As long as you have a bullet proof positive mentality, your communication skill set and success with women will voluminously increase.

POSITIVITY IS NOT A SWITCH. YOU CAN’T FLICK IT ON & OFF. WORK ON IT. Your mind happens to be extremely adaptive. Whatever emotional state you experience the most, your mind will pave mental pathways to it. If you’re always happy, then you’ll be warped into cycles of this emotional state. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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What you tell yourself, you recreate that reality every second. If you keep telling yourself that you’re a shy dude, then by ‘thinking’ about being shy, you increase that reality. In our mind’s memory, every recall is a reframe. This means that our mind is always trying to reclaim that past experience from our previous emotional state. When you’ve become a person that teems with positivity, you’ll notice that when talking about a negative situation with a friend, it won’t last that long. Why? Because you’ll redirect the channel of energy into positive grounds by reflex. It becomes unnatural, unusual, and discomfiting to not be positive. Your friend: “Man, I just got dumped” You: “I know how it feels man, but don’t let this take over and ruin your life. There are plenty more fishes out there, and trust me, even better ones that will suit you better. You’re going to find someone that will appreciate you more than she did. She’s a fool for that one.” Whenever a negative or heating moment arises, suppress and squash it to death. People who are unhappy with their lives will always bring others around them down. Misery loves company. A positive mentality suggests that you are confident enough to take matters into your own hands. It communicates to women that you’re a man that’s got his life together. A positive guy will embrace challenges, while normal men would find it stressful. Being an attractive adult also means managing your emotions so that people feel uplifted when you’re around. Positivity allows you to be attuned to all hidden opportunities that are around you. This is the golden secret amongst pick-up artist – although I don’t advocate that you should base your whole life on picking up women. Emotions are that contagious. When you feel positive, you infect people with positive energy, and when you feel negative you infect people with negative energy. This psychological fact ring true especially with women, whose minds are wired with the ability to mirror and empathize with whatever it is that you www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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feel; that’s why whenever a guy is funny, women are the ones to verbalize or commentate on it first. “Wow, you’re so funny!” This effect is exceptionally amplified when you’re a person who is socially forceful, which is usually expected if you’re going to attract women. The transferred emotions of how you feel to the woman you’re talking to become even more intense.

POSITIVITY INVITES MORE POSITIVE PEOPLE AND EVENTS INTO YOUR LIFE. Seriously. The more positive you are in person, the more positive chain of events and people that will surround you. The less gloom but much brighter your life will be. Even those who hated your guts will somehow come to like you. If you see good in the world, you’ll find good in the world. Imagine if you’re with a girl that complains and whines all day about the burdens in her life. Well, that’s exactly what she’s going to get, regardless of how hard you try to sooth and comfort her verbally. You’ll only be left to suffer. That’s why you should always avoid spoiled brats. Start believing now. Most people fail to do so as they’re unaware that harvesting a positive internal mentality is a controllable factor – not one that is left up to chance or magical spellbound. Now, don’t mistaken positivism as an act of ignoring the essential truths of life, or running away from the entire nature of a situation and interpreting it objectively in a ‘positive’ light. When it comes to being positive, you need to be in an authentic state to feel that way. Do not overdramatize everything therefore coming across as fake. If you are feeling tired, don’t attempt to mask your energy state by telling your date that you could do push up for hours.

STOP BEING NEGATIVE. Negativity is something we’re all susceptible to. It’s around us everyday: In the headlines of news stories, your friend’s complaints, the economy etc. Negativity drags people down, and consumes a lot of our energy. Avoid saying negative things to anyone, and to do so, you have to first STOP thinking about negative things. People want to come back to people that give them hope and good spirits; not someone that gives them the opportunity to wallow in self-pity.



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Don’t behave haughtily, non-empathically, egotistically, and selfishly. Whatever is associated with negativity, drop it, cancel it. Immediately. Are you not in a happy mood? Don’t blame the world for the misery for not making things right. Only blame yourself, but never admit self-defeat. Staying in a bad or heated mood isn’t going to help anyone. Nor will it help yourself. Next time you’re pissed off, calm yourself down consciously. Tell yourself… “Ok, feeling this way isn’t going to improve anything. I need to cool down to avoid clouding my judgment and taking others down.” Most people are so wrapped up in their own negativity that they inadvertently make excuses to not want to change; to change for the better. This explains why people get stuck in the rut as they propagate this mentality, and the vicious cycle of ‘depression’ holds them by throat. Don’t let this negative energy fester inside you. You can easily overcome it. These feelings of anger, resentment, “Why the world doesn’t treat me well” need to go. Life doesn’t suck if you work to improve it. Learn to congratulate, celebrate, and to BE happy when you see that others are HAPPY. With all that said…

START BUZZING WITH HAPPINESS & SUPER-UBER CONFIDENCE The most vital anchor to your inner game is personal happiness. It’s about being content with you are. Love yourself without having to constantly compete with other men – especially those who you deem with a better appearance or job. Man, the only competition is nobody but you. You are at a battle with yourself for wit and growth. Stop trying to live up to other people’s standards. Create your own. Let’s get started now. 1. Express your gratitude. One of the leading reasons why most people aren’t happy is because they feel like their life is ‘missing’ something. It’s the greed and selfishness that drains the life out of our inner happiness. Start showing appreciation for being alive. Be grateful you have your hands, feet, and senses intact. Be happy that you’ve got a roof over your head. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Be happy you’re not facing imminent threat from local terrorists. If you are, consider relocating. Be grateful for you already have, not what you lack thereof. Think of all the people living in dire circumstances -- impoverished, handicapped, paralyzed. Think of the people battling a chronic case of cancer, HIV, or a severe financial crisis. This should help you STOP moaning about not having a girl. This should be the least of your problems. Jay Z said it best… I got 99 problems but a bitch ain’t one! AFFIRMATIONS Now, I want you to repeat these affirmations out loud. Clear yourself from any distraction. Sit and repeat the following to yourself. I am 1 in a billion in a woman’s eyes. I am fully confident and content with who I am. I may not be perfect, and I don’t need to be. There will always be room for self-improvement. Life is good, and I will work to make tomorrow even better. Women want me. I love being me, and will never apologize for who I am. There is no one any better or any less than me. I am in charge of my destiny. As a matter of fact, I decide what happens. I can be whoever I want to be. No one judges me but myself. Men respect me. Strangers want to meet me. I am a people’s person. Life is beautiful. Life is what you make of it. I don’t procrastinate. I make things happen. Everyday I am a big step closer to my dream. When I see what I want, I go and get it. Note: These affirmative statements aren’t here to stroke your ego.

START SMILING MORE TOWARDS PEOPLE YOU ENCOUNTER It doesn’t matter who the person is: The stranger down the street, store assistant, cab driver, someone you dread or hate. Give everyone a brief genuine smile whenever you meet him or her. Make that moment of their day better. Don’t discriminate – treat everyone just as equally. That’s the secret of becoming a people’s people. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Even when you’re declining to an up sell offer – upgrade to larger fries – at Mc Donald, SMILE after you say “No thank you.” It makes a huge difference. Smiling ranks amongst the most powerful body language commandments. It instantly demonstrates your internal values – confidence, positivity, balance, friendliness, and fun. When women see you “smile”, they won’t slap a mental “Warning” sticker on you. You present yourself as non-dangerous, but amiable. She’ll then be more receptive and comfortable being around your presence. Your eyes too can influence a woman’s emotions in seconds. Look into the girl's eyes with your own twinkling eyes that indicate fun and mischievousness. Let your eyes promise the girl that good times await her in the future. POWER POSITIVE BODY LANGUAGE Most men fail to realize that they project multiple “negative body languages” daily. When you shove both your hands into your pockets, or cross your arms when speaking to women, they feel like you’re safeguarding or barricading yourself from them. I’ve seen many guys who are shy and nervous around women, resulting in poor body orientation: Facing their shoulders or body in another direction; not meeting eye-to-eye etc. You want your body language to be open and direct. Sit parallel to a woman. Keep your face and eye contact steady. Let your palms be face up. Leave your hands to the side or gently clasp them together. This shows that you’re genuinely interested. Eye contact is known to boost physiological arousal, thus preventing you from being perceived as boring. Think of yourself hanging out with the boys. How would you position your posture? How would you feel? Note: Always move with precision. Precision equals confidence. Women are very observant, and will pick up even the most mildly quirky gestures.

The trick: Think before you move. Before you lift a pink, unleash a sneeze; think of what may happen then. Try this practice this with me… Trial 1: With your right hand, pick up your mobile phone on the right side of your desk. Now, place it somewhere to the left side of your desk. Place it anywhere as long as it is to your left.



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Trial 2: Repeat the same action as Trail 1, but this time, decide or plan EXACTLY where you will place it. Don’t pick up your phone until you decide where to place it. Now, pick up your phone and place it directly at the predetermined spot. See the difference? You performed more effectively on Trail 2.

Visualize the action before carrying it out. When it comes to dating, put this practice to play.

BECOME A NATURAL NODDER – NOT A BOBBLE HEAD. DO IT MODERATELY. Amazingly, nodding is a great chemistry enforcer. When a conversation is going accordingly to the direction you like, or that you enjoy of, nod your head slightly and assuredly. When you nod in response to what a woman says, she will start to feel “Understood by you”. Nodding is what I call a stealth-empathizer. You guys are traveling on the same wavelengths with your interests in congruence. In more contemporary terms, it’s what we call as “Vibing.” When you don’t nod, notice how people become tenser and grow less enthusiastic with their words. If you come across as a someone that can’t harm, you’ll be a lot more accepted in ANY social circle. However, if you’re in India, then you’ll be shaking your head instead. This reminds me, always try to gain insight into other cultures. You never know when you might start dating an Irish or Chinese descendant. It can always work to your advantage when you know where the woman is coming from.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO TOUCH A rule of thumb when it comes to touching is being aware of when it’s appropriate. This requires you to observe the situational context and mood of a woman. For example, if a woman sprains her ankle, then obviously, you should go ahead and “touch” by lifting her up. If you’re out playing pool and your date is a virgin with the sticks, then it’ll be appropriate to hold her hands and arms to adjust her aiming posture. To destroy any inhibiting thoughts of “touching”, you must acknowledge that women “starve to be touched”. Everyone wants to be “touched”. It’s a magical feeling and it feels mighty good – when done appropriately. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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THE UNKNOWN POWER OF MAKING ASSUMPTIONS START ASSUMING THAT PEOPLE SEE THE BEST IN YOU. START ASSUMING THAT THINGS WILL WORK OUT ACCORDINGLY. Imagine yourself walking into a room full of people. If you assume that everyone dislikes you, then that’s what the reality is going to be. You grow defensive, isolated, and unwanted. If you reprogram your thinking into believing that everyone likes you, then that will most likely be your reality. Allow no friction in between and there won’t be any. You’ll be more honored, robust, and attractive. You will start behaving in ways that will springboard the likelihood of people liking you. Do whatever it takes to sell this idea to your unconscious mind. The perception in which any women registers in you stem from the attitude and unconscious beliefs you hold in regards to yourself. Learn to control the self-image that you project by pushing all self-limiting belief about yourself out the membranes of your brain. Next time you enter a room, stay calm, hit your stride and walk into it proudly while assuming yourself as the life of the party. Whenever interacting with women, already assume that she’s attracted to you. This way you won’t even HAVE to try building attraction with her. Assume that she’s already addicted to you, but don’t be forward about it. Assume yourself making her day when you meet her. Assume her world brightening. Mentally frame all your behavior through your ideal character and it will automatically become second nature. A positive guy also earns an incredible amount of trust, because people see they can speak well of you without you talking trash behind their back when they’re not around. A positive guy always sees the best in other people, not just what they choose to perceive to fulfill their own expectations. This is similar to giving people the benefit of the doubt. There’s always a good to someone that appears seemingly evil or full of spite.



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TAKE A SEAT. HERE’S YOUR DIRECTOR’S CHAIR TO CONTROLLING A WOMAN’S EMOTIONS. ART OF EMOTIONAL FRAMING “Framing” occurs when you cast someone in a state of emotions. It’s like leaving them spell-ridden. Every day people react to certain situations in which they are conditioned to, or have been used to. You unconsciously ‘frame’ yourself in various life situations. In a classroom, you’re ‘framed’ to be silent, obedient; ears wide open for your professor. This is, given that you were an astute student. When a thief is confronted by a police officer, he’s strapped in a frame of caution and guilt. The officer casts an authority cloud over him thus rendering the crook inferior by the cop’s dominating presence. Most men today automatically fall victim to a woman’s authoritative framing. It’s as if there’s a jurisdiction dictated by societal standards maybe that ought to bow down to them when there shouldn’t be. We live in a time where most women are glorified as the prize. That’s why there’s a huge population of shy guys who shake and break down when first exchanging a few words with women. Now, vow this to yourself. Do not let anyone ever impose a frame of emotional state on you again, especially women. Discipline your mind and protect yourself from being framed. Stop giving sexual validation to attractive women. Reverse the tables. Make her qualify for you. Don’t just settle with any girl who’s got an ass and face but no brains; make sure that she matches your interests and personality type. Quit selling yourself short for women with looks but no substance. Even if she’s got it all, don’t treat her like a goddess. When you get used to screening, more options actually COME to you. You actually start meeting women that have the potential to complete you as opposed to just ending up as a quick meaningless cheap fling. Take control of the frame. Here’s a secret…everything a woman feels now is subjected to change. Emotions will fluctuate regardless of how stubborn she is. If a woman doesn’t reveal interest at first, you still have the opportunity to increase it later.



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When you say something, assume or expect a positive reaction. You’ll most likely get it when your vocal dynamics and delivery call for it. Your voice has the potential to command not just attention but influence. Think... “When I speak, people listen. People respect. People enjoy.” Make others fall into this “Frame” unsuspectingly. This is the same fundamental attitude you must adopt in the dating field. When you’re out your date, assume or expect her to respond favorably to your advances. YOUR EMOTIVE WORDS MUST BE DELIVERED POIGNANTLY When communicating with a woman, most men fail to realize that the emotional state you’re in weighs more in importance than your actual words or what you say. If you tell a girl you “Love her”, but you’re emotionally devoid of such feeling, Women will sense it and call your bluff. You can say that you’re a “Shy guy”, but if your vocal tonality and body language is overloaded with a playful and cocky demeanor, you’ll actually come across as an amusing guy. Being an artist, my friends like to ask me to showcase my dance moves when we are in a club– just to dazzle – the ladies we just met. However, when I’m not feeling the music, I’d tell them “Na, I’m shy.” This of course, never works, as my delivery is incongruent with my mentality and character. What then happens? The girls usually wind up begging more fervently for me to drop a little something for them. Even if you’re in a sulky piss-poor mood, you can still control how you feel. After acknowledging that you’re in a bad mood, don’t let it undermine your performance level or soundness of your character when you’re around others. Remember, stop trying to bring people down with you. If you’re out with a woman and you keep telling yourself that your mood is damp as an excuse to fail at keeping her interest level highly perked, then that’s what it’s going to be. You can only blame yourself. You see… We all have the ability to create a self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s whether you want to believe in it or not. Your behaviors will eventually start to mirror what you expect out of yourself. This is amongst the top-secret laws of attraction. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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The way a self-fulfilling prophecy works is when we encounter and experience something in our world and we subconsciously appraise it. This appraisal leads to the construct of our core or inner belief. For example, when my friend first saw a dog as a kid, he was unluckily chased down and bit by it. This incident resulted in a lifetime trauma. Today, even in his adulthood, he’s scared shitless by the sight of a puny Chihuahua. Why? Because the association of “dog” with “danger” is ingrained in him – even when he hasn’t been bitten by a dog ever since, he still avoids them like a bed-riddling week-long flu. Once we have an inner belief, we behave in accordance with it. Every time we see a dog, my friend reacts in a way congruent to his innernegative belief and scurries to hide behind my back. This is a reality he constructed for himself, and supports the impact of self-prophecy. Now, there are also appropriate times where it’s ok to experience negative energy. Perhaps you are experiencing financial woe, or your closest friend slept with your girlfriend – which is absolutely unacceptable. In such unforgivable circumstance of your best friend sleeping with your girlfriend, or your girlfriend sleeping with your best friend, Then, I’d immediately destroy the brotherhood and dump the girl at the same time. Zero tolerance. However, you should never dwell too long into this negative black hole, otherwise you only wind up locking yourself inside your room caught in a depressive whirlwind. It can only stress you further and compromise your ability to climb back on track. This is the exact same black hole that’s taken a toll on many single guys who struggle to attract women. Our self-limiting conviction disables our drive and desire to change our life for the better.



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THE POWER OF VISUALIZING "Whatever you hold in your mind at any given time, your body moves toward that direction. Your body can be directed to move in a physical, mental, emotional or spiritual direction.” Once again, the first crucial step to becoming irresistible starts from within. Artists, computer designers, song composers aren’t only the people that visualize. Athletes do too. Even Michael Jordan does it. People with a trained mind all visualize, as they are conscious of its powers. You see, your mind has an eye, and that’s where everything starts. We want to visualize ourselves as simply irresistible, in demand, and a woman's object of desire. Visualize not just on the ‘visuals’, but tap into all senses. You also want to ‘heighten’ these sensory motions as well. When you see light, go deeper. How bright or dim is it? What color? Where are the shadows? does that moment feel? Practice experiencing that moment you’re visualizing as if ‘seeing it out of your own eyes’, and also ‘being inside the situation’ where you imagine it in a first person perspective. Try to gain a sharp clarity of the scene. The powerful effect of this is: Once your mind has lived in that moment – even though it was imaginative – you’ll more likely perform more comfortable and smoothly the second time round. Even if the sequence of the visualized date doesn’t pan out as you imagined, your mind and body would grease itself to whatever you have already introduced it with. If you visualize your hot date speaking, laughing, smiling, smelling infectious, you’ll be more immune to the awe of it all. We have to be realistic however. You can't visualize a world full of green lights, when there needs to be a balance of red. You will not grow wolverine claws by visualizing it every night when you go to sleep. Also, grudgingly hating someone and wishing they’d drop dead isn't going to happen either. There is a fine line between craving, hoping, and wishing how your mind can bring you your goals. You can communicate this message through telepathic transmissions. Your brain is like a radio. It can emit and receive waves of electrical frequencies. These waves could be measured and charted. Your AM dial on your radio has a certain KhZ range, your FM MhZ etc. Your love also has a frequency range and geometry.



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When you begin the process of visualizing yourself “getting with the girl” of your desire, your thoughts are not just whims in the mist, they are concrete and real. Your thoughts are shifting the state of the environment, which then affects the girl. Everyone in this world has a relationship with the environment. We both vibrate at the same frequency (7- 9.5 cps). Next time you walk into a room stocked with women, broadcast your invisible frequency. They may not react to it, but they will receive it. SPIRTUAL DIMENSIONS

Note: What I’m about to share with you may sound like spiritual mumbo jumbo, but let me assure you, this is the physics to how our world functions. The world that we breathe and live in now is what people refer to as the 3rd dimensional world. A drawing on a paper is a 2nd dimensional world. The 4th dimensional world is where our higher self resides. The word dimension is just a concept of the different level of realities. However, you can’t experience or see them simultaneously because you are not in tune to them. For example, if you're listening to Power 106 FM, you can’t tune into 104.5 FM. This applies to you too. If you want to be irresistible, you need to tune into this frequency of thought. You need to liberate yourself from any compounding negative thought activities inside your mind. This frequency is a manifestation of your own personal thoughts. The 4th dimension is also referred to as a world where you have lucid dreams. Drug addicts who’ve taken ecstasy and hallucinate transport themselves into the outer layers of the 4th dimension. The 3rd and 4th dimension is tied hand-to-hand. If you see something in your mind's eye, your higher self will go about and manifest it for you. Here’s what I want you to concentrate on from now on: From now on… 1. Visualize her eagerly wanting to be with you. As you visualize, you’re transmitting waves that will break the person’s resistance level, also known as their bitch shield or anti-slut defensive force field. Your confidence level will invariably be more stable also. 2. Put yourself in the scene, not distantly like you're watching a theater. For example, if you visualize walking down the street, you don't see yourself, your face, or head. Only thing you should see is what www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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you get from a first person’s view: Your hands, sleeves, and sneakers when you peer down etc. Note: Visualizing does not require intensive effort. In fact, you should be at a relaxed state when visualizing. To this day, I am still surprised by how vastly the power of visualizing is underestimated. You know the saying: Fake it till you make it? It actually works the same way as visualizing. You can trick your mind into believing it is easy. “Getting with any woman you want is outrageously easy.” (Repeat endlessly until it becomes the truth.) Don't just see it happening. Feel it. Touch it. Taste it. Whenever I tell myself that I'm going to get 2 numbers within 5 minutes – this was during my hardcore sarging days – my mind starts the process and gets the ball rolling before I actually do it. I visualize myself already “speaking” to the girl I intend to approach. I see myself sharing laughs with her, making her beam a smile, chatting comfortably with her, and increasing her attraction towards me exponentially altogether at the same time. I see myself rocking her world. Guess what? I actually got 2 numbers, in less than 2 minutes – as I was leaving a club. Watch the scene before you make the scene. This simple effect is powerful. Now, I’d like to discuss with you three different types of telepathic transmission, which can radically help you understand how to alter the state of your social dynamics. INSTINCTUAL TELEPATHY Have you ever encountered a situation where you and someone close; perhaps your best friend shared the same craving at the same time? You guys may have wanted to go to the same club, eat the same food at that moment. That’s when your instinctual ethetric telepathy communication is working. Instinctual telepathy occurs when the energy from one etheric body hits the other person's etheric body. The etheric body is defined as a subtle, non-physical body or shell that surrounds you. Imagine an invisible layer hovering above your skin layer. Your telepathic messages flow through your etheric message and it reaches the other person’s solar plexus -- which is known as the recipient’s invisible body.



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Basically, the recipient can easily intercept every movement and emotional thought that you produce, where they then act in congruence to your thought direction. You’ve seen it in the movies where a couple suddenly fling themselves at each other and wildly makes out at the heat of the moment. What am I trying to tell you? 1. You can actually steer the direction of your reality outcome in your favor if you exert the efforts to ‘shape’ the ‘future’. 2. Take everything you’ve read so far and execute it fluently. You’ll realize that you’ve developed a newfound power to command your own destiny. MENTAL TELEPATHY When you are trying to make a mental thought based connection with someone, you create a non-physical link between you and the person. Start thinking along the lines of “things will go accordingly” instead of “I have to make this happen”, or “I must, need to succeed.” You must have freedom from the outcome. I will discuss further on this matter within the “6 Impediments to Natural Evolution” later. When you overly desire for someone, or fear failure, the reality of you reaching that level of success will take longer to unfold. Detach your intense desire, and you will be in tune with more favorable results. THE HERMETIC PRINCIPLE Note: I want you to isolate this principle from all everything you’ve learnt for this part, especially with the power of ‘visualizing’ it may create some contradiction. However, the hermetic principle is a very crucial factor to follow at the same time as it contributes to shifting the reality in your favor. The Hermetic principle is one that operates in the present. If you want to become someone irresistible, think of it as being fulfilled already. This ties in with the notion in the power to assume. If you want something in 3D world where we live in, it can reasonably be accessible to you; all you have to do is transmit that need to your subconscious mind. Now, to make your desire reach your subconscious mind successfully – which is connected with the universe – your conscious mind must cease to exercise the desire. You see, when your conscious mind wants something, the very act of wanting implies a future tense in regard to the fulfillment. This may sound a bit www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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confusing, but in simpler terms, if you think you have ‘nothing’ now, then you’re leaving room to fill that void in the future. Since your subconscious only deals with the present moment, any idea offered to it NOT in the present moment will therefore be ignored when requested. Have you ever noticed how things that you’ve desired for sometimes come to you unexpectedly? That’s because you stop thinking about it. When you text message a girl knowing that she will respond, you stop looking forward to it. The probability of her responding also increases significantly.

A UNIVERSAL MISTAKE MEN ALWAYS REPEAT WITH WOMEN You know what the problem most men face when they see a steaming hot chick they want to approach? They get nervous and a blaze of questions surfaces. “What do I say to her? Do I look presentable to her right now?” “What if people are watching and I get rejected when I approach her?” I’m sure you’ve shared this experience before. Well, this is a process of “selfimposing limits.” I want you to stop doing that. The universal mistake men make is focusing too much on yourself, rather than her. So what’s the fix? Well, to avoid the “nervous rush”, start placing your attention and focus on her.   

Is she alone, or is she with her friends? What may her current mood be? Is she smiling and having a good time?

Next time you see your potential girl of interest, take action. Talking to women is not a sporting competition that you either win or lose. She's a real person who's giving you an opportunity to get to know her. “Just make the move”. You won’t know whether she’s single, interested in you or not if you don’t find out first-hand. Hot Tip: When you do approach her, try your best on getting to know her first. Forget about her phone number and email. If you have no idea what to say first, just look for an “object” around her, and use it as a conversational bridge. This is what I call a “Contextual opener”. For www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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instance, if you’re meeting her in a bookstore, ask what she thinks about the book she’s reading. That should help break the ice. Introduce yourself with a pleasant smile and a slightly firm handshake, a hug, or a nod of the head depending on the situation. Don’t easily be flustered. Then, move on to introducing yourself and exchanging names. Keep the talk short. Just when you turn around and leave, turn back and ask if she’s got an e-mail. Most the time, women will giveaway their e-mails without hesitation. Then, you can ask for her number right after. But if you’re really confident that her interest level is high, then go directly for the digits. You see, when you express that you are genuinely interested in the woman you talk to, the phone numbers and emails will follow. Focusing solely on "getting a result" when interacting with women is a huge mistake. It makes her feel like you see her as a "task" that needs to be completed instead of being treated as a person.

6 IMPEDIMENTS TO THE ROAD OF NATURAL EVOLUTION AS THE “REAL DEAL” These are the six widespread destructive desires that plague most men today from tapping into their true being. 1. "The desire for victory." Your constant need and desire for women is a backfiring and self-destructive behavior. Most men who are still single and lonely tend to grow increasingly more depressed and frustrated with their status. This causes you to feel worthless, or below the average. Stop relying on women as a source to fuel your dignity and pride. Only you can emotionally dent yourself, not women. You must free yourself from the attachment of results, and rather, focus on the moment of pursuit instead. This corresponds to “living in the moment”. 2. "The desire to resort to technical cunning." Becoming too strongly attached to a learned technique compromises your ability and understanding that you must customize your own approach in the end.


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When a competitive guy learns something clever, you’d feel a need to unload it. When you learn a new conversational opener, you’d want to use it when the next opportunity arrives. However, when you’ve rise to the top of your game, you start realizing that all these techniques and opening tactics aren’t necessary at all! Your natural game eventually nears flawlessness. 4. "The desire to awe the enemy." This has probably occurred to every one of us. Our ego leaks into our selfprojection and we are shunned as braggadocios. The solution? Stop having to boast about who you are. Give the gift of discovering who you are to her. 5. "The desire to play the passive role." As men, we cannot play the passive role. You must be the initiator, the leader. You must take action and shoulder the responsibility to make things happen before things can more likely, or unexpectedly happen for you. Life can be full of surprises when you’re constantly seeking to grow. 6. "The desire to get rid of whatever disease one is affected by." To truly succeed in life, you must not constantly worry and try to wrestle with your weakness. They’ll never vanish if you’re consciously trying to ridden them. The trick is to dilute them with the power of your strengths. When you focus too much on what weaknesses you have, you succumb to them. Take that with a grain of common sense. Desire is a part of human nature. But in the end, you will only be as successful to the degree that you LET GO, not cling desperately to your 'style' or your 'techniques' or your methods – which explains why pick-up techniques can only last so long. Remember, long after all the clever lines and approaches have been exposed, your authenticity and real character will never be out of style or a liability. You can never get caught red-handed trying to be yourself.



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“IT CAN’T HURT TO PLAY A TRICK ON YOURSELF” …a small but powerful tip on approaching women.

Whenever you’re meeting a new woman or person, play a mental trick on yourself. Next time you see a woman, treat her as someone you knew from long ago – an old friend that you once had a wonderful relationship with. You tried your best to track down your friend, but had no luck after searching online, in phone books etc. Suddenly, bam! There she is in front of you. You’re totally delighted. You’ll find it amazing how this joyful experience starts a remarkable chain reaction in your body. It creates a subconscious softening of your eyebrows, to the positioning of your toes, and everything in between. You will have the confidence to approach. Another crucial factor is to never make her think like you have ‘sex’ on the agenda. And please, don’t try convincing to her that you two are actually old friends by rambling on some fabricated story.

HOW TO INTRIGUE WOMEN WITHOUT EVEN SAYING A WORD… The second you and a woman of your desire lay eyes on each other has an incredible potency. That first sight is a brilliant holograph. It’s a sight that can burn its way into her eyes and stay emblazoned in his or her memory forever. Almost every aspect of a person’s personality is shown through their appearance, posture, and movement. Before she develops any rational thought in pertaining to you, her sixth sense will kick in first. Many studies have revealed that the emotional reactions occur before the brain registers what’s causing the reaction. Setting a massive positive first-impression for you is very simple. How? Start walking with a great posture, a heads-up look (chin parallel to floor), a confident smile, and a direct gaze whenever you see women. This is exactly the manner in movement, which a “somebody”, “celebrity” adopts. Start by visualizing that you are a well built, world-renowned acrobat and successful businessmen. How do you think these people walk? Follow suit.



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IT’S YOUR TIME. BECOME A MAN OF ABSOLUTE DISTINCTION. Ask yourself. What comes to mind when people in your social circle think of you? What are the first few words, or burst of emotions triggered by your presence? What kind of impressions do you leave? What is it like walking in your shoes, or being part of your world? The core values you send out to others have the potential to spread virally. It has a crazy domino effect. If a woman thinks you’re amazing, so will her friends. Imagine approaching a group of women, you’ll notice how they’ll look to each other for validation in regards to how special you are. If you appear to be as a sleazy guy at first sight, all it takes is one person’s reaction to infect the others. Girl A tells Girl B, who spreads the news onto Girl D E F G and so on. Now, the message that you always want to create is one that projects yourself as a man of distinction: An individual with bulletproof game, charm, influence, leadership, and irresistibility. How can you become that discernible man? That’s what you’re about to find out. Be Bold. Learn to take risks, not cringe at the sign of them. Stop being shy about the actions or reality you want to create for yourself. When you behave boldly, you will get RESULTS that you never had before, because you’re doing the things you’ve never done before. Stop being entrenched in your old routine behavior. Break out the mold. The rewards will far surpass your expectations. Transforming into a man with great audacity at a lightning fast pace can be accomplished easily like adding numbers. Start by talking to random strangers you come across. When you’re naturally comfortable around PEOPLE, the world will FEEL like it’s yours. Hold conversations with the store assistants, barista, gardener. I usually like to talk to people who rarely get a chance to hold a healthy quick conversation during their day job. For example: The security, janitor, anyone that doesn’t get to socialize much. Truth is, you’re actually making their day by talking to them. A sincere “How’s your day” is a perfect opener and can go a long way to making their day more enjoyable. Plus, it always works beautifully and generates a favorable response.



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When meeting a stranger, another hot method to opening a conversation like a pro is to be observant. I call it the ‘contextual opener.’ Find something noteworthy around you or about the person you’d like to talk about. Challenge yourself to talk to 1 new person daily, then 2, then 3… Note: I’ve prepared an intensive approach-training course for you to work with later. Don’t take it as a drill when it comes down to confronting your fear on meeting new people and new faces; kick that mindset to the curb. In fact, I encourage you to confront whatever fears you may already have. See a girl you like? Approach. Just do it. There’s a reason why the Nike slogan sells. It is life changing. Don’t be fazed or let your confidence level be compromised by her looks. After all, it’s only her external surface that’s handicapping your inner charm and confidence isn’t it? It’s always the looks that knock your confidence down. If you saw a girl that looked plain and normal, you wouldn’t feel approach anxiety waiting to grip you by the throat would you? The Secret: Treat every woman like your sister (if you have one). Tease her, but never fall short on showing respect. Start doing everything you were ever afraid of. Get the kick out of it. If you don’t take action guys, you’ll only wind up waiting forever on the sideline. NOTE: Women want to be around men who seem larger than life. They want to be around someone more unique and interesting than they are. HOW TO INSURE THAT SHE SOAKS IN EVERY WORD YOU SAY WHEN YOU APPROACH HER? Before you open your mouth and speak, gaze into her eyes. Make sure that you’ve locked onto her attention, and imagine your eyes already whispering words to her. Then, when you’ve come close to talking-distance, gradually increase the volume of your voice, as you are about to finish your first sentence. This is a way of piquing and retaining a woman’s attention right away.



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“SHE IS NOT ANY BETTER THAN YOU” Try the “She’s Not Better” Exercise Let's say you're at a bar and you see a woman you want to approach. She's a beautiful French equipped with the whole package. Usually, you’d feel that shaky, nervous, jittery feeling vibrating in your guts after. The next thing that oft-happens in your head is: you try to come up with ways to validate yourself. You start telling yourself things like: "Damn, she's hot, incredible. Argh, but I doubt I’m going to have anything to offer to her or a reason for her to talk to me…” Next time this self-inhibiting thought arises, crush it to pieces. Tell yourself, “Hey, she’s not any better than I am, and I know she’ll want to get to know me. I’m going to be the most special guy she’s ever met in her whole life.” Keep practicing this amazing technique and you’ll eventually stop placing women above you. “She’s not better than me”. Tell yourself things like “I got what she needs”. Stand behind your words and start believing in them. Repeat it over and over. Loud and assertively. The more you do this, more confident you’ll become. Remember, this woman that you fell in love at first sight with does all the nastiest, crass, and disgusting things you can imagine. She farts, poops, scratches her armpit, and picks her nose. She’s not a goddess. She’s human just like you. It appalls me when I hear other guys call women ‘divine angels’, or things along that line. This type of women idealization is very common and the culprit for approach anxiety. Women know that the one thing they can use to their advantage is their sexual desirability and looks. Women with a rare beauty are also held in higher regards and demand. Don’t let these facts and statistics undermine your game. Remind yourself that you are also a man that’s high in demand. In fact, you’re a whole lot more fun and sophisticated to be around than any other guy she’ll meet in her lifetime.



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You don’t need any validation. Instead, you want her to prove to you that she qualifies for your time, and also as a girlfriend. You want to learn whom she is on the inside, not outside. 1. 2. 3. 4.

Don’t let her looks destroy your confidence. Don’t let her looks be the buying factor. Don’t let her looks control your state of emotions. Don’t let her looks be your kryptonite.

Men have become so shallow nowadays where the only factor that lures them or compels them to approach is based on a woman’s physique. How often do you hear another man admit first to enjoying a woman’s company and personality and not just her breast or ass? There’s also a reason why men only surrender helplessly to a 9 or 10. Never let an appearance paralyze you and never bow down to it. When you get a hot girl’s number, don’t go “Woo hoo!” or get eager and over excited to call her the next thing. Instead, take a deep breath and collect yourself. Getting the number is only the beginning. Learn to separate your emotions from the big picture. Let a woman know that you can easily see through them and that you won’t be submissive and weak like other regular horny dogs. Once you get this part of your life handled, things will dramatically shift. You will find yourself more at ease when it comes to approaching women, any woman. Remember, your thoughts can influence your action, and even more on your performance. Your level of confidence isn't something hard coded and inherited by genetics. Your self-esteem isn’t something you are born with. It is something you can build and develop. It’s all in your head. Take control of your thoughts.

STOP OBSESSING ABOUT WOMEN TO ATTRACT MORE WOMEN NATURALLY This is the biggest lesson I’ve learnt. Don’t obsess over women. When you detach yourself from the outcome of sex or having to bring a women home, it serves you way better emotionally when things don’t pan out accordingly. Obsess about women, and you’ll never succeed. That’s the hard truth. If you have the intent to a getting a woman’s number, chances of you getting them will lower, hence the Hermetic Principle. Instead, you should approach with a mindset that says “Hey, she seems interesting, I’m going to find out what she’s really about.” If she truly meets your interest, then number-close. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Women are not born perfect, as much as you think they are ‘perfect’ for you. Don’t throw away your life trying to please them. SOMETIME IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. MOST WOMEN HAVE ISSUES. You know what’s another similar common reoccurring issue most men face? Self-infliction of blame when they are the ones NOT at fault. The result? Further weakening in self-confidence. It’s like digging a hole for yourself. Such disquieting evolutionary curse needs to be quelled. For example, if a woman doesn’t respond accordingly as you anticipated, or reacts favorably to your jokes, it’s not always your fault. Consequently, most guys become paralyzed by the analysis of “what the hell went wrong?” Was it my tone of delivery? Incorrect order of words? Wrong timing? It could’ve been none of the above. Stop over-thinking the matter. Don’t expect everything to go accordingly, and don’t be so hard on yourself. You’ll always come across women who are ungrateful, dry with humor, and self-centered. This is nothing to be surprised of. There are tons of emptyheaded, uneducated women out there; just as there are with men. In the face of such time, you must not shell out any tolerance, regardless of how fine her skin texture and gracefully built her body is. Tell yourself this… “Your looks ain’t shit to me.” Leave the superficialities aside. Here’s another great practice to strengthen your boldness. Play the “Staring Contest”.

THE DISRUPTIVE STARING CHALLENGE Challenge the authority & earning the ranks as one.

In the context of silverback gorilla’s society, which is the world’s largest primates, only the dominant male is allowed to stare at other gorillas. You see, the stare is a way in which leaders assert their authority. Subordinates are intimidated and look away when confronted by a superior. I know, we were all taught that staring is rude. But try to unlearn this etiquette for the sake of this practice. Here’s the exercise:



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Next time you’re out in public, stare at a stranger and refuse to shift your gaze. Your aim is to make that person look away before you do. Don’t break the gaze. This is a powerful authority-building exercise you can benefit greatly from emotionally and psychologically. Once you’ve mastered this, try it on your friends or co-workers. This time, stare into their ‘third-eye’, which is located right above the bridge of their nose. Gaze into it until your eye rays pierce through the person’s skull. With such intensity in magnitude, they will start feeling uncomfortable and look away. You’ll never again be intimidated by the presence of others. In return, you’ll be commanding a lot more respect.

KEEPING HER ATTRACTION LEVEL BUBBLING HOT WITH AN EMPLOYEE MANAGEMENT SECRET. Do you know what the 4 most important words in business are? Its “What do you think?” – According to Jeffery Immelt, Chairman and CEO of General Electric. Be open and approachable. Develop the habit of asking, “What do you think,” before declaring, “You will do this,” or even, “We will do this.” You see, people are naturally inclined to support what they help decide. Quite often, when people realize they have little influence on the decisionmaking process, they withdraw from active participation. They are usually reluctant to participate actively in a process, idea, or system that they were never consulted on. To get your date to be actively involved with inputting her opinion, you’re raising her self-perceived worth. People want to support, defend, and enthusiastically work on anything that they help create or decide. Therefore, include your girl in decision-making at every level in every situation—at home, work and elsewhere. When people feel valued and cared for, you establish an atmosphere of open communication, ownership, and increased commitment to you. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Be Controversial. Ask for opinions, but don’t try to agree with everything the woman says if you don’t believe in it. On top of that, make sure that your point is logical and valid. You don’t want to sound ignorant or naïve. One of the leading reasons why women get bored of their dates is when they readily agree to everything she says. If there’s no conflict or opposing thought, there’s no challenge. A woman will always want a man that she finds challenging to control. Try playful verbal sparring with her while holding your ground. Be solid, but friendly. Listen and you will receive. BE A STAND OFFISH GUY You would be surprised how much women will want you if you stop caring about getting them in the first place. Most men (which I reveal later) are so pent up and obsessed with bedding beautiful women that it shows in their tone of voice, body language, and words. You’re therefore giving women more weight and authority, which leads to unnecessary intimidation. The cure? Stop being so PUSHY… Stop being so NEEDY... Women do not want a pushover. If a woman refuses or can’t make it to a date with you, don’t continue asking her “why not?” Tell her “It’s cool”, and let her know that “If you change your mind, just let me know”. If your body language suggests that “It’s her loss”, then this is what she’ll subconsciously pick up. Don’t get bitter just because she turns you down. Remain cool & calm instinctively knowing that she’ll regret it. Destroy the fear of not-having women; and paradoxically, that will help you attract more women. Here are some principles to maximizing your ultimate inner game. 1. Stop being so desperate. I’ve stated this before, but I’ll need to state it again. Spend less time daydreaming about women, but place more effort on improving yourself. Kill that inner shame right now if you don’t have much experience with women. Shatter any belief of yourself not being worthy of a woman’s time. There are millions or more men out there stuck in the same predicament. You however, will be climbing out this hole.



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DEVELOPING A SWIFTLY DYNAMIC SKILL IN APPROACHING – 5 DAY INTENSIVE TRAINING (Apply after completely reading the IAF Guide) Day 1 Get outside your house – unless it’s raining buckets. Start a conversation with 3 random strangers (both men and women). Be friendly, casual, cool. Don’t come across as threatening. Approach when the moment is right, or when you have a good reason. Ask for directions (even if you know where you’re heading), Ask for the time (tuck away your watch). Day 2 Repeat what you did in Day 1, but increase the numbers to 5 random strangers. Again, transition smoothly. Don’t bunny hop in front of someone and say “Hi”. Day 3 Now, we’re going for women today only. Hit up the mall, coffee stores, restaurants and talk with 3-4 different employees. Practice using 1-2 different openers. Day 4 Repeat Day 3’s activities. However, this time, extend your conversation. Try to get a bit more personal, ask for her name, and look for external cues as a lead for conversation. Your objective is to stretch the interaction. Day 5 Today, it starts to get exciting. You’re going to approach 3-4 women and strike up a healthy conversation. Now, the objective is to be the first to excuse yourself – because you have an arrangement to tend to. Before parting ways, tell (don’t ask) her to give you her e-mail so you two can keep in touch. “Hey, it was great talking to you, we should keep in touch, what’s your e-mail?” Don’t ask for the number. Go for the e-mail. After completing this 5-day intensive approach-training course, you should be more familiar with what to expect when approaching people. You’ll be more flexible and comfortable with dealing with strangers.



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You may encounter times when women put up some level of resistance, which is also known as the shit test. Don’t let this throw you off guard. Expect it. Embrace it. Welcome it. Women test approaching men to gain more clarity and insight on WHO you really are. Are you a loser or a guy with worthy of getting to know? Persistence is also important, but don’t confuse it with going against a woman’s will to comply with your expected outcomes. When a woman rejects a guy, it’s not because of who you are, but how you approach them. Most men only get rejected when they convey too much sexual intent. Women hate it when guys are too forward as it comes across as sleazy. You need to approach like you’re a guy that naturally enjoys meeting new people. It was your birthright to do so.

BONUS: HANDY BACK UP OPENERS Here are a few exemplary openers you can employ to bridge you seamlessly into a conversation. Other great alternatives are the situational and humor openers. I don’t personally advocate rehearsed openers, since it disables your ability to grow with spontaneity, but once you grow attuned to approaching more and more women, you’ll begin to notice how you’re less-reliant on having a back up opener. The best opener in my opinion is a simply “Hi.” Remember to advance into talking about HER after the first 30 seconds. The Flirter Opener: "Mind if I flirt with you for a minute?" Eyes Opener: "Has anyone ever told you, how BEAUTIFUL... MY eyes are?" This goes against the conventional and overused “Eyes” opener. Compliment & Qualify Opener: "Hi, I like how well put together your outfit is, it's very creative. Are you an artist?" The Other Girls (OG) Opener: "I have this rule, every time I go to a club, I always have to introduce myself to the most beautiful group of girls there... [PAUSE] You think you can help talk to those girls over there?" Collision Opener



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When you see your target walking down the street from a distance, you want to accidentally get right in front of her so you two suddenly come to a screeching halt. She’ll say something along the lines of...“Excuse me” “uh” That’s when you want to say “Ah, no problem. You would have stopped me in my tracks even if you weren’t blocking my way.” If she smiles or laughs, great. If not, it only shows that her humor sucks. In the case that she laughs, tell her “You know, it’s good you laughed, it shows that you’re mind is sharp and your humor is great. I actually just wanted to see if you had more going for you than just your looks. The Honest Opener “Hey, sorry, I noticed you here and I realized that if I don’t say hi, I won’t ever get to know how great you are in person. My name is Andrew. (Reach out for a handshake.)” Women love this. Keeping it at a minimal and indirect. That’s sincere flattery that pierces right into the center of their heart.

PILLAR 2: INTENSIVE CHARACTER MANAGEMENT LIVING IN THE MOMENT Before we proceed further, here’s an additional pointer to the 5-day approach. Don’t ever forget to “live the moment.” What I mean by this is to heighten and activate all your senses whenever and wherever you go. Be more observant, attentive, and more alive. Start flexing all parts of your brain. If your mind drifts away when holding a conversation with a person, your listener will notice that you’re ignoring them. On the other hand, when you’re fully engaged in the moment of interaction, you will become more interesting in person.



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BE AMUSING. RADIATE WITH “LIFE” Do you feel like singing when your favorite song plays in the mall’s background music or is aired on the radio? Belt it out. Don’t be afraid to this when your date is around. Live the moment to the fullest. Do you feel like dancing on the spur of the moment? Even when in appropriate? Don’t be afraid to do so. Wild out, just know when to REALLY stop.

SILKY SMOOTH BODY LANGUAGE Whenever you’re on a date with any woman, your body language must exude nothing short of confidence and utter coolness. You need to send out the right signals to set the right vibe. A charismatic individual relentlessly restricts communicating animosity unless it is soundly advisable to do so, for instance, when intimidating an antagonist. Never should you be tense, walk or sit with a poor posture. Never should you fake a laugh. Just behave in a laid-back fashion. Be someone that’s secure with themselves. Pretend she’s a long lost friend of yours. This will inform the girl that you are pleased to see her and will also make her emit similar signals. Leaning toward another individual suggest that you are happily disposed toward the person and to what he or she has to impart. Never stoop or slouch. When sitting across your date, rear your body straight. Hot Tip: You should always appear 2 inches higher unless you’re dating a giant. Try to tilt your head, face, and eyes in the direction of another person – this creates a magnetic impact. Advanced Eye Contact – I’m sure you’re aware already how important eye contact is. Receivers more favorably read any messages accompanied by eye contact than messages without eye contact. Here’s a secret. Whenever your eyes meet another person, try to emotionally emulate it. Then, escort it with a smile. This can yield a tremendous effect on bonding. Increased eye contact encourages feelings of intimacy. By extending the duration of eye contact, it gives you the impression that you are intelligent, and also an abstract thinker. Eye contact is also a form of respect and affection. To most people, profound eye contact signals trust, knowledge, and an “I’m here for you” attitude. When you look intently at someone, their heartbeat pumps an adrenaline like substance, which gushes through their veins. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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This is exactly the same physical reaction people have when they begin to fall in love. A drug-like substance rushes into our nervous system called phenylethylamine. This is exactly the hormone responsible for feelings of erotic excitement. Hot Tip: Give her the sticky eyes. Warm eyes. Don’t break the contact before she finishes speaking. If you must look away, do it slowly. Act reluctantly as if it is hard to let go. Your eye’s attitude should be saying, “I can’t take my eyes off you.” The way you move and look comprises of 80% of the first impression you set. Seriously, loosen up the tense muscles and chill out. You’re only dating a woman, not holding a public service announcement for the world or packing your bags to go to war. Stop trying to be a perfectionist, quit memorizing canned openers. They belong in the waste bin.

STOP BEING TOO SELF-CONSCIOUS. Most guys get too self-conscious when they are around women. The reality is not as bad as you think it is. They over interpret every single sentence that comes out the girl’s mouth. Most men tend to also cautiously watch what they are saying, but also observe the subtlest movement their date is making. They become over dependent on other’s reactions. If their date was laughed, they think they did a great job. If the feedback response was poor, they go on a buzz-kill. Never allow your feelings to be contingent upon others. Stop doing all of this. You’re only shoving yourself out the picture and bordering yourself on insanity. Don’t’ become distressed if you didn’t get to kiss her on the first date, or if she cancelled on your proposed date. Continue to stick to the formula. Chill out and stop caring so much. A laid back man is a sexy man. One who does not care whether or not the hottie he is talking to will be coming home with him. Be Independent. Independence is a sex appeal. Be Multi-faceted. Be a renaissance man. Did you know? www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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A woman’s tolerance level is higher when she sees high superior value in you. It is also so much easier to engage in sexual communications.

EXPECT NOTHING BUT SUCCESS. Whenever you’re meeting a new girl, set expectations that you will succeed with the outcomes you desire. Visualize in advance on the series of events you’d like to experience. This will put you many steps ahead when the time comes. Whenever I’m about to approach a girl, I know I will get her speaking receptively to me. I know she will hand me her e-mail or number when I request for it. The concept of “knowing the endings” is very powerful, and can shift the reality in your favor. If something doesn’t go originally planned, big deal, have a back up plan. If she refuses to give her number away, at least you know you don’t have to waste time pursuing her. Don’t despair guys, there are plenty of other of women who may potentially be more worthy of your time. Guys, I want you to be the author of who you want to become. Write your own destiny. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF BEFORE BELIEVING YOU CAN SUCCEED Believe that you are the man any woman would want. If you only believe that you can succeed, but you have no faith in yourself, things will never fall to place. When you believe that “You” are desirable, irresistible, advice, then women will expect nothing less. A man’s conviction is THAT contagious. Warning: Do not be lost entirely in the character you want to become. Don’t wind up wrapped in the mythological you. Don’t envision yourself as someone flawless. After all, you are still human. You will still make mistakes.

AMPING UP YOUR OUTER GAME & EXTERNAL PRESENTATION TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF BY ADHERING TO CERTAIN MARKETING PRINCIPLES Now, be honest with yourself. When a woman first meets you, what do you think runs through her mind?



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From a marketing standpoint, what is her perceived value? If you were a product, what does your personal ‘brand’ say about you? What is your image? What is your personality? If you want women to associate you with attractive traits (Humor, intelligence, consideration, playfulness) then you must develop them. When you think of Pepsi - You think of cool, dynamic, refreshing. When you think of Gucci, you think high-end, luxury, expensive. What do women think of when they think of you? What values can they pick up from you? What do they see you amazingly great at doing? You must strategically plan, build, and reshape your brand to gain a positive image of the minds in public (women), and rise above the noise (other men). Exercise. Clock in gym time. Women love to hear the fact that their guy “works out”. Try to invest at least 30 minutes to 1 hour daily in the gym guys. When you are intensively working out, your confidence naturally increases. Now, that’s just your external appearance. What’s even more important is eating right, sticking to a balanced dietary program. Eat fruits everyday. Meditate for 5-10 minutes. Once your internal physical and mental state is sound, it will dramatically improve your outward behavioral patterns. Groom Yourself When out in public, women are concerned with their man’s look. It’s no surprise, we as men want the same. Do you to out with a girl who can’t dress? Or one that looks like she hasn’t showered for days? The tip here is step up your hygiene game and to dress clean, fresh, and smart. Personal Hygiene Keep your hygiene game in check, always. Got acne? Visit your local dermatologist for treatments. Usually, topical creams will suffice. For more severe cases, opt for laser. If you have a crooked grill, yellow teeth, foul breath, dandruff problems, greasy hair, get them treated. Don’t let these problems get away or pretend that women will overlook them. Look not just like a million bucks, but feel like it.



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Clothing Bear this line in mind. Fashion is an extension of how you view yourself. Wear stuff that compliments your body frame and structure. Look at how the male celebrities are dressed. You don’t need a personal stylist or high-end branded clothes and accessories. Women don’t care about the brands; they just care about your overall presentation. If you can take care of yourself, it sub communicates to women that you can take care of a relationship. Don’t be disheartened if you don’t consider yourself good looking. Looks really are overrated, and you can still look drop-dead attractive in a woman’s eyes if you can dress right. The obvious tip is to dress smartly would be purchasing garments that suit your body structure. What might be hot in the current fashion world might make you look like a monkey, so it would be better to stick to clothes that suit your body frame. Of course, smelling good and having a haircut that makes you look chic and macho at the same time can also be a big plus. You want your look to compliment your image, your desire character. Be consistent with your look. Define your character clearly and stick to it. You have the ultimate authority and power to decide what kind of person you wish to be taken for, so dress the part! Things may feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll adapt soon enough. Michelangelo said that each slab of marble contained a statue inside. Apply this philosophy to our life and career. Decide exactly how you want others to see you, and carve away the parts of your life that no longer fit your new image of yourself. Things will come together and fall into place. On another note, fashion can be negated when you truly have a recognizable social status and reputation. That’s why Brad Pitt gets away with wearing a tight fish net t-shirt, or gladiator wear in his movies and still melt the eyes and hearts of women. He manages to maintain authentic masculinity in his verbal and non-verbal projections.



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16 MODERN DIRECT MARKETING TACTICS YOU CAN CERTIANLY LEARN FROM Here are some timeless marketing principles by Bob Stone, who safe to say is the father and founder of modern direct marketing. Don’t worry if you’re not a marketing wiz, I’ve translated the idea behind each principle to help you understand how it can contribute to your dating life. This is a great demonstration that all forces that attract are interconnected and can be applied in different facets of pertinent to our life. 1. All customers are not created equal. Give or take a few percentage points, 80 percent of repeat business for goods and services will come from 20 percent of your customer base. Translation: Only 20% of women will actually be compatible entirely with you. So choose wisely who you want to spend your valuable time with; not just dive into the next Jessica-alba. 2. The most important order you ever get from a customer is the second order. Why? Because a two-time buyer is at least twice as likely to buy again as a onetime buyer. Translation: If a woman repeatedly frees herself to make time for you, it means that you’re playing your cards right. Don’t overanalyze women if things don’t go accordingly. If they care to join you on more dates, it’s a tell tale indicator that she’s still interested in you. 3. Maximizing direct mail success depends first upon the lists you use, second upon the offers you make, and third upon the copy and graphics you create. Translation: It all starts from within. Your core behavioral patterns, your attitude, your inner game. Whatever pick-up tactics or openers you know is analogous to the ‘copy and graphics.’ 4. Overlays on lists (enhancements), such as lifestyle characteristics, income, education, age, marital status, and propensity to respond by mail or phone will always improve response. Translation: Learn to understand whom you’re dealing with and you’ll more likely ‘get more out of them’. That’s why I strongly urge you to try Sync Dating if you haven’t done so. 5. The “Take rate” for negative option offers will always outpull positive option offers at least two to one.



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Translation: If you continuously ‘agree’ and slave for women, your failure rate is likely to double. Be a challenge. Build some healthy resistance. Don’t give in too easily. 6. Time limit offers, particularly those which give a specific date, outpull offers with no time limit practically every time. Translation: Give your time a price and value. Instill value in every date and make the occasion rare. This will drastically build her attraction level higher. 7. You will collect far more money in a fund-raising effort if you ask for a specific amount from a purchaser. Likewise, you will collect more money if the appeal is tied to a specific project. Translation: To get what you want out of women, secure it incrementally so it seems as if it’s no big deal. Ask her to do small friendly favors, and once she’s attuned to giving in to you, it’ll be difficult to resist even when it comes to sexual indulgences. This is very powerful. 8. People buy benefits, not features. Translation: Looks really don’t matter. It’s who you are, what you’re made of, and how you can rock her world emotionally and sexually that really counts. 9. The longer you can keep someone reading your copy, the better your chances of success. Translation: Looks really don’t matter. It’s who you are, what you’re made of, and how you can rock her world emotionally and sexually that really counts. 10. The timing and frequency of renewal letters is vital. But I can report nothing but failure over a period of 40 years in attempts to hype renewals with “improved copy.” I’ve concluded that the “product” — the magazine, for example — is the factor in making a renewal decision. Translation: Looks really don’t matter. It’s who you are, what you’re made of, and how you can rock her world emotionally and sexually that really counts. 11. A pre-print of a forthcoming ad, accompanied by a letter and response form, will outpull a post-print mailing package by 50 percent, or more. Translation: Learn to create a pent-up desire or anticipation to meet you on your next date. It makes that ‘date’ manifolds more exciting when the time comes. This also explains why women love and prize foreplay when it comes to bedroom activities.



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12. It is easier to increase the average dollar amount of an order than it is to increase percentage of response. Translation: You can date any women, but learning how to control they way they feel towards you is another story. 13. You will get far more new catalog customers if you put your proven winners in the front pages of your catalog. Translation: Expanding your social circle and having ‘winning qualities’ of a man can give you that extra edge. 14. Assuming items of similar appeal, you will always get a higher response rate from a 32-page catalog than from a 24-page catalog. Translation: A little extra effort in creativity and work can go along way. 15. A TV support commercial will increase response from a newspaper insert up to 50 percent. Translation: You need to harness an all-around game in order to maximize your attraction level with any women. In other words, try to develop as much skill as possible. If cooking, dressing smart, earning cash are all desirable qualities, strive to learn all of them. 16. Telephone-generated leads are likely to close four to six times greater than mail-generated leads. Translation: If you’d like to bond emotionally deeper with women, refrain from doing it over the phone and online if possible. Meet your date in person. The more time two individuals spend together, the closer they will quickly become.

HOW YOU CAN BECOME A RARE COMMODITY IN THE EYES OF ANY WOMEN IN OUR TIME Be a Gentleman – I bet you didn’t see that coming. It’s exactly what most women agree is lacking in this 21st century. You’ll often hear complaints and whining on how the world’s devoid of real gentlemen. Sadly, most women only live to see it in the movies. Here are some quick acquirable principles that’ll get you started to showcase your gentlemanly characteristics. Strolling on the street? She better be walking in the inner lane. Keep her away from the moving cars, traffic. Make her feel safe.



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Out on a lunch or dinner? She better be seated first, but you don’t HAVE to pull a chair out for her. The fraction of a second when you stand a bit longer before sitting down reflects respect. After the date, you should always walk her home, or offer to drop her off home. This is very crucial to keeping your gentlemanly image intact. You want to make sure she gets home safely. However, if she tells you she can manage to return home herself, insist one more time and let go if she declines again. Never be pushy. This demonstrates that you are a very thoughtful guy, and is VERY addictive. Conduct yourself with gentlemanly gestures, but come across as naturally doing it. It shows you are attentive, respectful, and well mannered. Women absolutely dig this. It even makes other guys cringe when they see how suave you are. Women around you will notice and go “wow”. Note: Don’t mistaken gentlemanly acts as being a typical self-destructive ‘nice guy.’

SOUND SMARTER THAN YOU ARE Now that we know women dig men with intelligence, here is a quick tactic to sound smarter than you are already. Use rich vocabularies. There’s one condition however. Don’t ever use a word too big for your own tongue. Before you add a word to your arsenal, make sure you know how to pronounce it, spell it, and distinguish what context or situation you should use it so it’s appropriate. You can start expanding your list of rich vocabularies easily. Get a thesaurus, and study synonyms for words like “smart, nice, pretty, great”. Make it a habit of learning a few new words everyday. Think of it as a self-improvement step to all fields of social communications, not just with women. Language is power. Instead, use words like “shrewd, ingenious, and diligent” When your date is looking real good, don’t just spurt out a mediocre “Wow, you’re looking really good”. What you should try say is “Wow, you look classy with a punch of elegance”. Or… “Hey, you look ravishing tonight”. Learn to be more descriptive. Words can work wonders and influence the state of a woman’s bubbly emotions. This can potentially make all her girlfriends (when around) go limp and crazy for you. Words can melt a woman’s heart.



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When you use richer words, she’ll perceive you as more creative, educated, and respectful. Substitute a word a day for two months and you’ll soon find yourself sweeping the feet of women merely with words. Now that we’ve established the impact of words, imagine the power of phrases. They’ve helped politicians get elected “Read my lips: no new taxes”. Also, get defendants acquitted “If it doesn’t fit, you must acquit”. Neat phrases make powerful weapons. Start learning phrases that have visual impact. Instead of using cliché lines like “Happy as a lark”, try “Happy as a fat kid with cake”… or “Happy like hitting the jackpot”. Instead of saying he’s as “quiet as a mouse”… say, “Quiet as a mute in an asylum.” Blend in some humor and this will even get a good laugh out of her. It’s a fact that most professional speakers and comedians all glean through books for quotations and look online for lines of humor. Make them rhyme. Keep it funny. Keep it clever. Most importantly, keep them relevant.

DO NOT EVER CURSE, UNLESS IT’S UNCONTAINABLE Yes, cursing is a common problem amongst many people. It’s lowly, classless, and despicable. Women with class and standards will not be attracted to a man who speaks with a potty-mouth. If you curse a lot, it suggests that you are unintelligent and poorly raised. Unless you got shot, then it’s understandable for you scream your lungs out. Avoid using any profanity when you take a woman out on dates. Even if you’re really pissed, don’t cry like a baby about it. Watch what you say. You should not only pride yourself on sounding articulate, well mannered, classy, and also be capable of expressing yourself without having to resort to using shallow words.

STOP TRYING TO FLIRT The less flirtatious you seem, the more drawn women will be to you. This destroys all blockages. Remember, when women sense that you have the intent to have sex with them (which always is the case), their shields and swords go up faster than a light switch.



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This is why you need to dispose any pick-up lines; it’s what the amateurs and insecure men without real game do. A pick up line serves as a clutch – and a source they can blame on when they get rejected. This is how the law of attraction works. For a person to be attracted to someone, it must be in his or her own accord. The person must feel like it’s his or her own idea, not someone else’s. It is more effective, real, and long lasting. However, someone else (you) can influence it. Girls can readily sense when a guy is running some pre-canned or prerehearsed material on them. There is an underlying sense of sexual communication, which becomes cautionary to them. You want to liberate her from behaving defensively. How? By showing no intention that you’re trying to “get with her.”

THE FASTEST ROUTE TO GETTING A WOMAN SEXUALLY AROUSED I actually teach you this in my other ‘Communication Secrets’ guide, but thought it would benefit you greatly if I placed it here. Now, what we’re about to discuss is a method I use to tap into her hot-button sex regions of the brain that are known as the medial, lateral septal nuclei, and preoptic areas. They are the ‘nuts and bolts’ of reproduction that controls the release of hormones and irresistible urges such as thirst and hunger What’s the fastest and fluid method in getting her comfortable in having sex with you? It all starts by talking about the subject itself. Don’t make the transition into the subject a rocky-road either. Talk about it like you’re talking about your favorite sport. When you talk about sex comfortably without sounding like you’re walking through a landmine, she’ll actually appreciate it and find it relieving. By releasing the tension off this weighty subject, you’re doing a huge favor for both of yourself. I usually enjoy asking for her opinion on sex. Don’t brag about how delightful you are in bed, or how powerful your abdominal thrust is. Let her talk about it, put her into the driver’s seat while you wing her. Ask her, “I need your opinion, what do you think women enjoy most in bed, what’s every woman’s little dirty secret? I call this exercising her desire, and pushing her to the edge of being a straight shooter – which means, no skirting her www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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sexual wishes. The footsteps into tapping her inner sexual psyche is not difficult. The answer may of course be subjective. There’s no objective preference for a dirty secret. Some may enjoy kinky glow in the dark late night romp. They key is to steer her into this direction. Once you’re on the other end of the comfort spectrum, it becomes so much easier to have initiate in casual or pre-heated sex with her. Whenever I’m at a local coffee shop with my girl, she always browses through their complimentary high fashion magazine and Elle magazine, I’d then ask her which one she’d like to ‘sleep with’, or ‘keep’ as a personal longtime significant another. The point? To make her open in discussing about her sexuality. The more you freely and casually talk about sex, the more she’ll be screaming to hop onto you.

STRIVE FOR DAILY EXPONENTIAL GROWTH Keep on pushing the envelope. Wisdom & Knowledge There’s always room for personal growth, and self-improvement to make. Keep expanding your bank of knowledge. Knowledge is king. Read the news, it’s free online. Become more culturally aware of other countries standards and behaviors. Obtaining more knowledge is a way to increase your personal asset value. That’s why information specialist and spies are highly in demand by our governments. You’ll be more adept in integrating your personal skills into the real world – and to help develop the world. Be a visionary. Think creatively. Get analytical when necessary, and be mindful of others. Bottom line is, knowing more can always give you the edge. Moral Use your wisdom to differentiate the good from bad. Live ethically – and remain disciplined. Treat others like you want to be treated. Be as honest as you can be, and start appreciating the value of life. Social Now’s the time to be more involved with public affairs, which is an incredible way t strengthen your social communication skills. Learn to give back to the www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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community and not just take, take, take. Develop a sense of social responsibility. There’s always someone out there that can always use some form of help. Skill & Professional Broaden your skill horizon. Veer from your mother tongue and be a multilinguist. Study more about different cultures and learn to live in one when you get the opportunity – travel. If you are an athlete, learn to play a new sport. If you’re a designer, learn to utilize new software. It can never hurt to learn more. It doesn’t matter if you’re a CEO, a journalist, pool shark, or computer geek. Try to improve yourself in other areas of life. Don’t set limitations, and don’t rest on your laurels. Become an all around individual motivated to grow everyday. That mentality itself is extremely attractive to women.

WHAT WE CAN LEARN FROM MASTER WAYNE – BATMAN Remember how at the end of blockbuster hit “The Dark Knight” saves Joker as he falls of the building? He turns him into the authorities instead of turning Joker into scrambled eggs. What distinguishes him from Joker beneath that mask, costume, gadgets, and pimped out bat mobile is that he, at his core, is a man who is armed with a definitive moral boundary. If you seek to bring others down, you’ll never build yourself. Batman is a perfect model of an individual who strives for daily growth. The guy embodies the characteristics of an ‘ideal man’. He’s physically ripped, financially fit (being a successful entrepreneur), and academically poised. It’s everything a man and woman could ever want. Here are the 10 cornerstones to achieving the ‘ideal lifestyle’ of all alpha-males. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9.

Finances and Status Physical Fitness and Life-long ambition and goals Sexual prowess and experience Social value in romance and friendships Moral Decisiveness Fearlessness and Fire Legacy and Contributions to Society Education and growing knowledge.



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Now, you don’t need a multi-million dollar estate or the body of Adonis – the Greek God, but you owe it to yourself to constantly improve yourself to get more out of life. Those who spend their time wisely and productively are the ones awed at how fast time really flies by. If you happen to stare at the clock in disappointment at how slow time elapses, then you have work to do.

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU’RE IN A CLUB OR EVENT WHERE YOU WANT TO APPROACH? One major mistake most men make is feeling the need to impress flirtatiously in order to arrest and escalate a woman’s interest. If this applies to you, disarm yourself from this poisonous mentality immediately. Instead, your ultimate goal should be to “Have fun.” Fulfill that need first, and everything else will magically take care of itself. Whenever I go out and prioritize the need to have fun with my friends and me first, other women will pick your social proof, independence, and circle you as a guy that’s safe to be approached by. Start to click together proactively with people are congruent and incongruent with your personality type. Give everyone and yourself the opportunity to greet and meet each other. If you’re going out for a night, look forward to having fun. Picking up woman should run secondary, as it’ll come pre-requisitely with the “having fun” process.

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN WAN TO APPROACH AND TALK TO YOU Here’s a very powerful tip. You can effortlessly make any women gravitate to you by acquiring what I call a “What’s That?” factor. All you’ll need is a simple visual prop that is interesting, that will tickle a woman’s curiosity. Wear something that draws attention and inspires people to ask you, “What’s that”? I have a trucker hat that features the word “DORK” in rhinestones, and women always come up and comment about it. Hot Tip: Like wise, this is also a great way to approach women if they too have a “WHAT’S THAT” factor. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Carefully observe for anything interesting she might be wearing. If it’s a bag, say “Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice that attractive handbag, I like it. I think my sister would like it, where can I shop for it?” SO…GET CHARISMATIC (Refer to charm awakener guide) Become a modern day renaissance man. Believe it or not, we are all multifaceted renaissance men. It’s time to unchain your inner uber-cool, and let it fly high. Now, charisma is not something everyone is born with, but we can sure develop it. This is one of those “mysterious” human traits. You may even learn by thinking of people you think embodies charm, and emulate it in your own way. Don’t copy their lifestyle or movement, but modify it until it becomes part of you. “It’s better to fail in originality rather than succeed in imitation”. To be a modern day renaissance man can have many benefits. You become an all-around person, not necessary a know-it-all. What you do is scramble up your life. Participate in activities you never thought of indulging in. Once in a while, hop off your comfort train and do something out your everyday pattern. If you play basketball every weekend, try bowling on your next weekend. Go to an art gallery, a cooking lesson. Cultivate more experiences. Step up your capabilities. Acquiring an abundance of experience in many facets of life can be very impressive and rewarding. Learn new lingos. Develop a new skill. It makes you more competent in the eyes of women. For example, I have a habit of studying a la carte names on the menu when I’m dining out. This way, when I recommend my date a dish without having to cast a glance over the menu, she will be flushed. Experience gives you conversational fodder. The more experience you have, the more you can sound like an “Insider” when meeting all sorts of women. It can never hurt to know more right? Now, right below I have provided the ingredients (for your inner game) to becoming a charismatic person, and also a short but detailed guide to awakening your inner charm. The Ingredients: Enthusiasm, Positive Energy (which we’ve already covered,) Confidence, Masters of their subject matter. Be Enthusiastic? How?



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Whatever subjects you’re speaking about, just remember: the listener will always model their response to your behavior. If you describe that the movie as boring, in lifeless voice, she’s going to buy that. Be enthusiastic in your voice and action, and she will believe it is important. While it is important to focus on your content, or whatever crucial facts need to be said, it’s just as important to sharpen your delivery.

UNBREKABLE & UNSHAKABLE CONFIDENCE What is confidence towards Women, Really? Two main components of confidence are “experience” and “innercomfort.” Men that have experience with women have advantages over men who don’t. Those that do can pick up on subtle cues women transmit to telegraph their interest, and use that cue to progress with to getting women in bed. The more experienced men are usually more observant. Those who are confident with who they are focus less on themselves. They become more mindful. They don’t have to worry about whether they’re appearance is good enough, or think to themselves... “What should I say next?” With more experience, you start placing your attention more on where it belongs – the woman you’re pursuing. When you’re confident, you are more comfortable in your skin, and inside your environment. Your whole body will communicate a stronger message about who you are. You see, when you’re uncomfortable, or struck by tension, women will sense the uneasiness. This causes them to also become uneasy as they feed off your negative energy like a sponge. When this happens, women will want to get away from it. By being comfortable, suave, and relaxed, women will find your company a lot more enjoyable. You’ll also perform better in terms of delivering humorous remarks, witty comments, and forking out engaging conversations.

ULTIMATE CONFIDENCE Ultimate confidence stems from having a strong emotional foundation. You want to be capable of showing that you are confident, not just feel confident. They must both go hand to hand.



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You can be very confident, but if it doesn’t reveal in your actions, then she’ll never know. What is confidence? Simply put, confidence is the feeling of not having that dreadful feeling of being held back. One of the biggest enemies to confidence is self-consciousness. When you’re too self-conscious, you become insecure. Quit going back to evaluating everything you just said to your date to gauge whether it was “what she wanted to hear” or not. Confidence is a pleasant, warm, and endearing glow. People are magnetized to it. However, don’t confuse confidence with arrogance. Arrogance is on the other hand is repulsive, and it stems from personal insecurities. Carry yourself elegantly. Expand your vocabulary. Improve your posture when you sit, shop, talk, and walk. Raise your personal standards and values. If a woman pleas and pouts at you unreasonably, do not tolerate with it. Do not every put up with such bullshit. If a woman cheats on you, do not withstand such indecency and disloyalty. Man up, and stop being defeated, manipulated, and walked over like the red carpet. Here’s a scenario that happens to a lot of guys. The guy shows up on time, if not earlier on the meet up spot for the first date. His date arrives 30-60 minutes late. The guy shrugs it off and tries to retain his cool while the girl profusely apologies, though not meaningfully. If this ever happens to you, do not put up with it. Punish her, not physically of course. Tell her that it’s strike one, and if she strikes twice, she owes you a double-dinner date. It’s utterly disrespectful, and it proves that she doesn’t respect you enough for your time; unless of course, there was an emergency reason then it may just be ok to let it slide. Don’t fall for her lies though. Once is ok, but don’t let history repeat itself. When a girl subconsciously grows accustomed to giving you orders or behaving the way she wants around you, she will become glued to the pattern. Only you can set the tone and framework of your relationships. If she blames you for something you didn’t do, or irrationally throws a fit at you, don’t accept such nonsense. Otherwise, you’re selling yourself to her childish and devilish behaviors. Take charge. Through time, she’ll stop testing you when she knows you’re in full control of a dominant behavior. Girls are pleading for men to dominate.



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When I’m not around my girl and busily working, sometimes she’d ask me out of insecurity – “Hanging out with another girl?” I’d sarcastically tell her “Yes, I am partying it up with 5 different girls from 5 different countries, with 5 bottles popping… oh I almost forgot, 5 more ladies to join. Care to join? It’ll be fun.” – Obviously, this is all said jokingly. Don’t ever cave in when a woman tests you.

THAT’S WHY YOU MUST BUILD YOUR OWN PERSONAL BOUNDARY. What is your personal boundary? It’s the wall you built in defense to your external influences. It is also the door to which you let in to what you need, and ‘give boot’ to what you don’t. Your personal boundary safeguards and protects yourself from being abused, manipulated, or taken advantage of unjustly. It prevents you from losing selfrespect and dwindling into deep-insecurity once you learn NOT to allow others to take away your dignity. You stop wanting to conform and oblige to the outer world, but instead, one that you would rather cherish. Be comfortable in your own skin Quit being so sensitive to what others think of you or expect from you. When you’re out meeting new women, the truth is, they don’t really bring you into consideration, as they are obsessed with themselves. If you try too hard to impress your date, it will raise a red flag and foul smell. Women will know you are trying to hide or overcompensate for your insecurities. Be proud of your accent, your look, and your heritage. Imagine a girl who can’t stop complaining or bitching about her ex. Compare these women to one that preserves her cool, and leaves her ex to the past. Which one would you rather date? Hopefully, it’s not the one causing all the drama. We are literally living a test everyday. Stay true to who you are, and what you believe in. When you’re out on dates, women will always test to see how far they can push you. Stand firm on your feet. Women are drawn to men who have courage to speak aloud, and express themselves. Eliminate the psychological need to have to secure a higher status. You will naturally achieve that status when your internal attitudes, beliefs, and values are reconstructed. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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If you’re still at a phase where you compare yourself to other men, you’re still not comfortable with who you are. Don’t criticize others unless they ask for it. Don’t judge anybody but yourself. Be a master of your subject matter. Everyone applauds skill. Are you a computer genius? A juggler? Be proud of it, not ashamed. Any display of skill confirms to the onlooker that you got the goods to deliver. When people witness greatness, they feel inspired. They feel good. You’re gifted, and others are going to hate on it. That’s life. Make your girl feel good, and it will ignite a wave of addiction. Cardinal Rule: Keep your ego in check. Never brag on and off just to be pleased at your own craft or talent. Don’t ever try to “impress” people. Let your actions do the work. Follow the Japanese proverb: The clever hawk hides its claws. Only reveal the skills you got when the opportunity presents itself. Your date will be a whole lot more curios about what other secret abilities you may have. NEVER STOP LEARNING. YOU CAN LEARN FROM EVERY PERSON YOU COME INTO CONTACT WITH. Learn, learn, and learn more. Yes, I can’t help but address the need of striving for daily growth. This is the key foundation to exuding attraction. Be open to new ideas, and constantly evolve. It’s true, when you stop growing, you die. On a similar note, if you cease to grow, you’re lacking in “life”. Women can see a “healthy spark” in you when you are someone that aspires to learn. Life is a journey, not a destination. Just because you’ve mastered one trait, it doesn’t mean you’ve come to an end. Enjoy all moments of challenges, embarrassments, and rejections. Guys, this is also the secret to making yourself more relatable to someone else. This is when a feeling of rapport sparks. There really is something to learn from someone else, regardless of what their profession or IQ level is. There is value to be found in the most unexpected times. Always have a curious and open mind. Take a proactive approach when it comes to learning as you’re adding value to your personal knowledge bank. The healthy and powerful approach to life is just to see the value in people,



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ignore what’s of no use, and reap the benefits that come with a positive outlook. THE QUICK BREAK DOWN OF INNER-CONFIDENCE’S CORE CONSTRCUT By accomplishing goals, we achieve success. By achieving Success, we improve our self-esteem. The MORE self-esteem we harbor, the more self-respect we gain. Rinse, lather, wash, and repeat that cycle and you’ll soon boost your self-worth infinitely. Now, let’s get to slapping your inner charm awake.

INNER CHARM AWAKENDER GUIDE “Inner charm.” Everyone has it. Don’t doubt yourself ever again about that. You know you’re working with charm if you can capture the attention of people around you simply by smiling. It’s in your “swagger”, the stride in your walk, the tone of voice, and the expressions that you make. With charm, you can get any woman you desire, and attract very successful people around you. Charm is indeed, very powerful in the corporate world. You know how there’s that one person everyone loves inside their job? Well, you can bet they’re charismatic. Confidence, positive energy, and a successful image = authentic charm. Check the stats. The art of attracting people consists of 10% projection of success, 10% appearance, 10% intelligence, and 70% charm. In a study conducted by the University of Waterloo, 85% of the correspondents (both men and women) expressed that charm was the main reason for their attraction to the opposite individual. Some people were naturally born prince charming. Some had to learn the ropes through social communication. And… I’m sure there are many that still have no clue on how to be charismatic. Well, the good news – which most men don’t know is – we all have a built-in inner charisma; it’s only a matter of springing it back to life.



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7 COMMANDMENTS TO WIELDING AUTHENTIC CHARM The following principles should help pump up the blood volume and bring a lightning pulse to your inner charm. 1. Charm’s best friend is “Eye Contact”. Remember, they are dependent on each other. Whenever you’re talking to anyone, establish eye contact. Eye contact equals confidence. It shows that you are attentive and respectful to the other person. 2. Charming someone involves the act of complimenting. What you want to compliment is easy to figure out. Just think of what makes you feel “complimented”, and do the same for others. You can easily compliment someone simply by what they wear. Doing this also suggests that your date has a great “fashion sense” – which consequently makes them “feel good” about themselves. Don’t flatter others or throw any fake compliments. The difference between charm and flattery is that flattery has an agenda. “I'll flatter you so you'll give me what I want later.” Charm is a way of being, rather than a means to achieve something. 3. Charm requires sincerity. The effect of charm is strongest when you believe what you're saying. If the girl is rocking nice earrings, compliment on how it sparkles perfectly on the side of her face. If you enjoy the presence of her smile, tell her you “you have a beautiful smile”. That line alone makes any women melt! 4. Don’t be selfish. Again, don’t start expecting anything in return. Not even a feedback. When you’re dining out with women, make sure you offer them a portion of your food when it arrives. Being a “gentlemen” is charming. 5. Charm is nothing sexual. It is genuine warmth and comfort. 6. Charm is all about exerting confidence. 7. Charm at its simplest just says, "You are terrific. Thank you for joining me." – in a non-submissive manner. Well, it’s time pull the blankets off your inner charm and get it to shape. Start practicing with the list now so you don’t come across as rehearsed – or simply putting up a front. Who can you practice your charm with? Simple. Your parents, siblings, dog, neighbor, friend. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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You’ll be amazed at how “charming” people will be in return. Remember, you want to draw her interests out instead of selfabsorbedly droning about yourself. In short, charm is like a butterfly's touch on a rose petal. The key is to not overdo it. It can be a VERY fun and a profitable tool in interpersonal relationships and the dating stratosphere. THE KEY TO REALLY TIGHTENING THE BOND. Make her feel like you and her on the same team. When you’re out on a date, get her involved in your activities. Play verbal games. Sync date. Ask her who she thinks will be ‘getting some’ tonight. Take turns, and explain your reason behind your answer. Another great chemistry inducing game is to ask what she thinks of other people that are around you guys. The state of emotions you want to feel is: YOU+HER AGAINST THE WOLD. Once a woman becomes emotionally invested, she’ll convert these feelings into indicators of comfort around you. YOU CAN BE GREAT A ROLE MODEL You know how everyone has at least one role model? Become your date’s role model. Better yet, BE a role model to the world, starting with your neighborhood. Women will be deeply drawn to your well-defined qualities. All women want a man full of life. People are vicariously living other’s people life. You want her to be in yours. Role models are very addictive people to be around as they enlighten you. They add value to people’s life and give inspiration. Learn to inspire others with a sense of greatness. Push others to elevate into new heights. The secret: People are drawn to people who have things that we wish for ourselves. Health, power, success, energy, drive. THAT’S WHY YOU MUST GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. GET BUSY. If you’re living your learning how to attract women, or win over their approval, stop immediately. What you want to do is make women FIGHT to live with you. Stop clocking in absurd hours researching on the latest pick up technique. Stop trying to be a pick up artist. Start being productive guys. Pursue your dreams. Is it earning more money? Then go ahead and fulfill that path to the fullest. I’m not advocating www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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that you should undervalue the importance of your sexual needs; I just think it’s silly to spend half a day fantasizing about women, or how to preparing to impress them. When you think less about having to impress women, they become less of a priority. When something’s less of a priority for you, you lose that sense of nervousness, or chances of “freaking out” when it comes to dealing with it. You see, the more you want something badly, the more emotionally involved you become. When dating women, you can’t let your emotions overwhelm you. When you believe that you need a woman – again, I’m not saying that you don’t – you become more frustrated and angry when you are deprived of having a girl in your life. This then disrupts and weakens your calm and cool demeanors, which are pillar emotions during the process of creating attraction. Women are not attracted to men who fall for them too easily. They have guys falling for them left and right so stop blending in as a blur with the rest that are trying to “qualify” for her. Stand out by making her “qualify” for you. WHY AND HOW SARCASM WORKS ON WOMEN One very powerful and coveted skill I think most men should learn is SARCASM. In short, sarcasm is making light of a negative situation for comedic effect. Trust me, despite what you’ve been taught about other dating coaches about sarcasm, it’s VERY powerful and can streamline the process of creating heavy attraction. However, be careful how you use it. Why? Because it could make you come across an insensitive jerk, or actually hurting someone’s feeling if you can’t play it right. Sarcasm is kind of like a doctor’s scalpel, it’s a razor sharp tool that should be used with extreme skill and precision. If you slip when you’re using it, you could end up slicing yourself or the person you’re using it for. If you are capable of handling sarcasm, WHICH I know you have the potential to, the results can be extremely rewarding! I am actually a master of this subject and known for shooting healthy doses of sarcasm into your system. Here are a few examples to how I put sarcasm to work. It’s really easy. Imagine this. When a woman sneaks up behind in attempt to scare you, tell her “Ohh... that was almost as scary as walking in the dark” Then, pretend to shake the fear off. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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If you notice her walking at a fast pace, playfully cough and tell her “Ahem, are we in a race? You’re walking kind of fast.” If she’s trying to sing to a song – and her voice just isn’t vocal coaching material, playfully tease her. Tell her: “Hey, I think you should be signed by a record label.” All you’ll suffer is a punch to the shoulder. Sarcasm works best when conveyed in an exaggerated intonation of voice to over-accentuate and DRAW attention to whatever you’re trying to make humor of. For example, if you see an oversized jean on display in a store, joke about how you can “fit your whole family in there.” Warning: Stay away from sarcasm when you’ve come to a tragic accident – plane crash on the news, child abuse etc. You don’t want to see a car crash and go “how lovely”. I advise you to test sarcasm with your close friends or people who know you already. This will help refine your skills before anything is really on the line.

PILLAR 3: CONSTANT CURIOSITY FACTOR SPIKING HER CURIOSITY Play hard-to-get. Be a man of constant challenge and unpredictability. The easiest yet solid way to perform this feat is by giving a woman the gift to miss! This may sound paradoxical, but the more you are absent from her, the more curious – thus interested – she will become in you and your schedule. This is what most men hardly do, as they are blind to the logic behind it. Here’s a great analogical tip. Think of yourself as a celebrity: You’ve got interviews to tend to, photo shoots, studio-time, and of course, your own personal time to be by yourself or your friends. You’ve got your own career and things to do. I am not suggesting that you should become self-centered, but learn to consider yourself being the object of other’s admiration and that can eventually become your reality – once you back it up with your other life skill sets of course. Present the fact that you have a high social value, worth, and you can’t kill her curiosity since there’s just so happening to share. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Don’t allow yourself to be an easy catch. Keep yourself preoccupied with other areas of your life. Distancing yourself can truly make the heart grow fonder. When she doesn ‘spend time’ with you, it then translates to ‘quality time’ where she values the moment ten times more. Tip: When speaking to women, don’t always give straightforward answers. Keep her guessing. Note: Don’t ever get arrogant. Always treat her like an equal. Never assume that someone is better than you, or you’re better than others. If you're dealing with an attractive woman, please remember, you're not the first guy who’s showed her interest. She probably had clusters of dates and guys approaching her from all corners. She knows she’s a hot commodity, and that men would “hustle hard” to get with her. Instead, you want to flip her reality’s script and make yourself the one in demand. Here are some facts you ought to know by now: 1. Men approach hot looking women all the damn time. 2. 99% of the men she meets and dates wind up following her around like puppies; either right from the beginning or eventually falling slave to her. 3. When a guy acts "too nice" and does it "too soon", she sees this as a sign of neediness and weakness. She becomes repelled and will ditch him. There’s a reason why telling a girl you “love” her within the first 3 to 6 months can draw major consequences – the girl leaving you. The trick to keeping a woman’s attraction level is to “push” her away from you gently in order to bring her back to you. Let the bird out the cage. If she comes back, she’s there to stay. As humans, we appreciate and value things more when it’s not easy to access. When a woman is subjected to this treatment, she won’t feel exploited. Rather, you are giving her a legitimate reason to develop a growing sense of attraction towards you through emotional arousal. If something just falls into your lap without you exerting any effort for it, there isn’t much worth in it. You start taking it for granted. In order to be attractive and irresistible, you need to be worth more than you can ever imagine.

ADVANCED PUSH & PULL If you’ve read various pick-up materials, don’t confuse my push & pull method with it. This is something different. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Now, what is a pull? You know how when a woman tells you she wants to tell you something, but right after, you ask her what the matter is, and she says “Na, forget it”. Your curiosity immediately spikes. This is a pull. When a woman leans in and places her soft moist lips only inches away from yours, and suddenly retreats herself from the kiss, that’s a pull. It’s very similar to playing hard to get, except you’re doing it on the spot and can be executed with the command of words. Now, it is your turn to create a pull. Imagine if you are an expert in fixing computers, and a girl calls for your help because her computer crashed due to a virus infection. To create a pull, tell her “Hey, because I think you’re a great person that doesn’t just download porn all day, therefore resulting in this virus contraction. I’m going to fix this for you free of charge. At this instant, you’re pulling her in. She feels indebted to you. She’s likes you. Usually, this is when you want to pause for effect. After around 2-3 seconds, skeptically say “But how do I know for sure that you don’t surf porn sites all day”? Now that’s getting a woman hot and bothered. You’re pulling her even more now. The objective is to keep it playful. Rewards & tease. You’re pulling her closer to you so she doesn’t just take you for granted. Here’s another great example drawn from my experience. While slurping on our Magnum chocolate ice cream, my girlfriend started to lick hers salaciously in attempt to visually tease me. I put on a “Ooh-how-seductive” look and say “Sexy.” Then, something went terribly wrong. A portion of her melting chocolate didn’t pass between her lips but dripped onto her chin. I then tell her “Not so sexy.” “Ouch, you might want to clean that up.” www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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This got her laughing in embarrassment and of course, afforded me a playful punch to the arm. What’s a Push? A Push is when you’re pushing her away – an act that appear counterintuitive to showing desire – yet it instills attraction within women. A push implies that you are not desperate and can be happy without having her around. However, you don’t want to come across as a jerk, otherwise you’re really going to push her away. Many times, when I’m with a hot date, they like to test my reaction by saying things like “They (other men) keep looking at me.” Or, they’ll start bragging about how men “hit on me” left and right. Instead of reacting jealousy like most men would, I remind her that the guy must be interested. I then insist the girl to give her number out to whoever’s pursuant. This implies that I am not afraid of losing her. Here’s another scenario. If she tells you that she only digs men who have deep meaty pockets, give her the opposite. Tell her you don’t have any money in your bank savings, and only a few 5-dollar notes in your pink piggy bank and it’ll never work out between you and her. With the combination of playing hard-to-get coupled with my advanced push & pull method, you will make a woman go crazy for you. She will develop a constant itch to chase and qualify herself for you. They’ll perceive you as someone tremendous personal value therefore wanting to snag a piece of you. There is one word of caution however. Never come across as “Trying” to play hard-to-get. You want women you come in contact with to recognize you as someone with a busy schedule, outgoing life, and are actually “hard-to-get”. Imagine dating a super star artist. With all the tour bookings, mini-concerts, guest appearances, recording sessions, the artist is “hard to get” by default. Present the fact that you have a high social value. Don’t allow yourself to be an easy catch. Keep yourself preoccupied with other areas of your life. Distancing yourself can truly make the heart grow fonder. When she’s around you, she will value the time by ten times more. When speaking to women, don’t always give straightforward answers. Keep her guessing.



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Note: Don’t ever get arrogant. Always treat her like an equal. Never assume that someone is better than you, or you’re better than others. Before she values you for your time, you need to value your own time too. This increases your mating value dramatically. You want a woman to keep on guessing where she stands with you. SPONTANEOUS TEASING One of the most potent ways to ignite attraction with women – if executed correctly – is to tease women regularly. Teasing women really isn’t calculus-difficult. It’s as simple as a-b-c. What you really need to do is just practice, just like all comedians do everyday. In no time, you’ll eventually become a natural. We all have it in us as we’ve teased our siblings or a close friend before. However teasing women does require a different framework. When executed correctly, teasing can be a powerful attraction amplifier, and I highly recommend you try it. You know why men who act like jerks score lots of women? It’s simply because they TEASE. Now of course, you need to be able to spot the fine line between being a tease and being an ass. Check this scenario out. My girl and I were in the car, and her favorite song comes on the radio. She starts singing along – her voice isn’t Mariah Carey material of course. This situation was perfect for a tease. 5 seconds after she started singing, I sarcastically told her “Not bad...I think they should feature you in the song.” What I could also have said was: Wow (pauses)… your body sounds a bit out of tune today! I would then massage her as if I was tuning her body. Here’s another small case study: Once, my girl accidentally let out a small burp in the car. At that instant, I said “Wow, that was lovely”, and rolled down the window. This behavior may get you a light punch to the arm, a slap on the back, but it really is powerful in building attraction. Another time when my girl was trying to throw her used tissue into the trash can, which she missed when trying to shoot it literally from one foot away, I www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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told her how “that was impressive, she should join the national basketball team”. Here are more exemplary scenarios. Girl: (while holding a can of coke): I think the coke can got smaller. Me: (Assertively): No... I think you just got bigger! That’s a non-insulting way to tease women. Note: This only works if the girl OBVIOUSLY isn’t fat. Teasing also requires an ounce of empathy. You do not want to throw this punch line on an obese chick, or you’ll really be a jerk. Another scenario… This other day when I was heading to the bathroom at the Culture One’s party, I caught a hot girl mistakenly walking into the men’s bathroom. Every guy was surprised. When she noticed, I playfully stood in front of her and said, “Hey, your welcomed here if you really want to be.” – suggesting that she should rethink her entry. And one last example to solidify this principle: Me: (Squeezes the only body fat from my girlfriend’s waist) Me: Mmmm…This is my favorite part of your body. It’s mighty sexy.

ADVANCED COCKY & FUNNY From now, I want you to grow accustomed to firing spontaneous cocky & funny lines. Here’s a dialogue example of C&F. Her Lucky Day You: Hey, today’s going to be your lucky day. Girl: Why’s that? You: You get to finally go out with me. Girl: Haha, sureee. You: But no touching me ok? I do the touching first. Girl: (Laughs) Stud & Constellations (Credits: Daydream Engineer) You see a girl with double-nose studs. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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You: WOW, you must be the coolest girl right now. (Enthusiastically) Her: Why do you think so? (Confused, smiling) You: Most girls I know only have one stud on their nose, you have two. That makes you super cool. It’s kind of like the military ranks; the more stars, the cooler you are. Her: (Laughs) Being cocky and funny not only aids in strengthening the rapport, but also loosens up her muscles and makes her more comfortable being around you. Here’s one of my all-time favorites. (Girl touches my hand) You: You owe me $20. Girl: Uh… why? You: We just started seeing each other, I barely even know you. Touching me costs $20. It’s only free when you’re my girlfriend. Girl: You’re very good at (whatever talent you have) You: Don’t you forget it. Here are more great examples: Girl: Do you have a pen? You: For you? Nope, sorry. (However, do pass her a pen later with a smile brimming) To really sharpen your humor, you need to develop the capability to respond immediately and spontaneously when the opportunity arrives. Don’t try to be funny. Wait until a bounty situation arises. SWEET TEASING

This is where you say something sweet – to tickle her ego – but tease her right after. The effect is similar to my advanced Push & Pull method. Here’s are two quick case studies: Around 7 P.M my girl was debating whether she should shower before heading out for dinner.



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I tell her “Nah, you smell great right now” That was a compliment. Right after, I tell her… “If you hit the shower, you might not smell as good as now.” Just as you drop the girl back home… Me: “Hey, I really enjoyed your company today.” Her: (Smiles) Me too. Me: “But that small burp that suddenly erupted out of you almost killed it.” Her: (laughs) Me: “Have a great night.” (Smile, lean in to kiss) Note: Never freeze up as you are leaning in for your first kiss. Assume already that she’s screaming for it! Women love kisses, just don’t fumble with sloppiness. What if she gives you a taste of your own medicine? Shield up. Here’s how you can defend yourself when a woman playfully teases you. My girl attempted to “tease” me the other day when I was pretending to act out a scene after watching the movie “YES Man” by Jim Carey. She sarcastically comments on how I should be “featured in the sequel,” since I’m quite a “YES” man myself. Tip: Whenever a woman tries to tease or poke fun at me, the best way to is “play along.” My response to her comment was: “Yea, I agree. I knew I always had a movie star in me”. Or I could have said, “No, I don’t think the directors can afford me” I was trying on these new pair of Ray Ban shades the other day, and I thought it was a bit oversized my face. I asked my girl “Don’t these look funny on me?” Her reply was “Everything looks funny on you Andrew”. Ouch, you may think that I’d have started gritting my teeth and taken it offensively. Instead. I did what was best to defuse any impending anger. I reacted coolly.



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I simply told her “Yea, that’s kind of old news, I was hoping to find something that’ll look good on me for once. What a shame how these shades can’t manage?” (Shakes head) Notice what I did? I agreed with her, and blamed the shades without taking her remark offensively. I swiftly squashed the insult without overreacting. Never ever react negatively when a woman or anyone in general says something that may seem hurtful. Men who are secure with themselves would never have to resort to a hostile response.

EXPLOIT THE UNDECAYABLE BEAUTY OF SCARCITY Do you know why limited edition goods are so highly priced? Yet highly salivated for? It’s because they are scarce in production, and is even more effective if the brand is perceived with high emotional value in the buyer’s mind. In marketing linguistics, this is also known as brand equity – or brand salience. Take this concept and run with it. 1. Most of the things that people "want" aren't for the most logical reasons. 2. It’s human mature. We "want what we don't have” Once we get what we want, we become satisfied and eventually get bored of it. The novelty value fades to oblivion. 3. Even knowing that something is readily available to us makes us lose interest in it. Here’s the low-down dramatically.

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1. Never give in yourself so freely. People want something that is unattainable. Once they have it, the value decreases. This in result adds more VALUE to the moment. If she ever asks you a personal question, don’t just give in right away. Ask her what she thinks. Women love to share their opinions. AND…when you do provide her an answer, don’t fulfill the question entirely. Keep her hanging on the cliff. Keep her questioning. It’s what reporters in news programs do. They’ll throw you a cliffhanger right before a commercial break so you’ll return to watch their program afterwards. This is also a principle of mystery, and mystery is a shining foundation to creating addiction.



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Whenever a woman asks something about you, you can create mystery by being indirect with your answer, or, play hard to get by replying with “You’ll find out soon” For example, if she asks you, “So what kind of girl do you like?” Your ideal answer would be… “What kind of girl do you think I like”? If she persists with “I don’t know, you tell me”. Hold on to your guns, and repeat “Come on, take a guess, what kind of girl you think I’m attracted to?” At this point, she will take a stab in the dark. And when she does, you want to respond to what she said. Tell her whether she was right or not. Only after should you tell her exactly who your ideal main squeeze would be. Note: Don’t ever come up with a typical generic response. Generic response: “Hot, sexy, intelligent” Your answer should always sound mature and genuine. It should set a standard for her to follow. For example, my answer would be: “I like a girl who has standards, knows how to take care of herself, has a beautiful personality, and won’t call me 20 times a day”. You’ll notice how she’ll be absorbing every word, and get a good laugh out of it. And that’s how a moment of addiction ignites. By becoming a hard-to-get or man of challenge, you engage and stimulate a woman’s mind and emotions. You’ll have her anticipating for the next date, and the following date after. According to Robert Green’s 46 Laws of Power: Absence can also be used to increase respect and honor. Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity. NEVER SMELL LIKE DESPERATION Remember, women do not feel attraction towards men that are needy, desperate, and not independent. Women only feel attraction towards men with challenge. Whenever you give a woman a little bit, and take few steps back, you create a "Hey, I want more of that" emotion. If you keep showering her with



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attention or giving her your time whenever she demands it, she’ll consequently render you “uninteresting” and “too easy” to get. When a woman thinks, miss, and anticipates on your next date, it is often even more powerful than the actual EXPERIENCE of "the next time.” Let your actions be unpredictable by not acting routinely. There is a certain attractive power that unpredictability holds over both men and women in the courtship process, and by showing her too quickly how you feel, you become exposed. WHY MOST MEN SCREW THIS PRINCIPLE UP The reality is, most men often grow insecure and think it is a daily requirement to keep track of their women all the time. They go on a full-court press and barely let the girl breathe. They’re trapped in the illusion that by being more attentive or spending more time with her, it would only go to prove that he truly cares for her. Now that is a huge, huge mistake; one that can only backfire. That’s why I encourage you to be unpredictable. When you're unpredictable, you do something that is almost magical! Any man that understands how to make a woman feel attraction will never be predictable. You want women to think bout you all the time. That’s how you make the girls go crazy for you! Think about it. If something is predictable, would it require much thought? I don’t think so. What destroys the movie and makes it lame when you’re watching it? Predictability. What makes a movie a thrill? One that is well written and has an unpredictable plot, filled with twist and turns. Things that are unpredictable, on the other hand, require a LOT of thought. Unpredictable things are fascinating to people, especially women. Get this drilled in your head: Predictability is the enemy of attraction. It sucks the life out of it. Predictable is despicable. In summary, here are the secrets to make her want you BAD. 1. BE a challenge. 2. Give her a little, and then take a step back. Let her experience the withdrawal symptom. 3. Give her the gift of missing you. 4. Be unpredictable. Be confident, be cool. Play a little hard to get. It can’t hurt but help.



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Rule of thumb: Unless you’re really getting deeper in a relationship with your girl, then don’t gush out your life story, especially in the earlier phases of seeing each other.

MY PHONE CALLING RULES Believe it or not, I was never – still am – not the type to call women, unless my intention was to ask her out on a date. Even if I do call, I keep it short, to the point, and thoughtful. I call and ask how her day was, what’s on her mind, but I don’t ask questions like “What are you doing now” every 5 minutes. I keep my conversations shorter than 10 minutes, not half an hour or more. Talking for hours is counterproductive to what we’re learning in heightening her addiction towards you. Remember the beauty of scarcity and remaining a challenge. Talking for hours on the phone suggests you have too much free time, and that you’re readily accessible. You don’t want to give her the liberty of being able to call you and getting conversational time whenever she wants. You want to her to think twice before she calls you. “Is he busy?” “I better have a great reason to call him, not waste him time with fluff talk. Save your conversation for the dates. Don’t be so eager to talk to her. Concentrate on building your career. I only pick up 6 to 7 out of 10 times. This is because I am a busy guy, no kidding. However, I don’ make myself impossible to reach. You want to convey to women that you have “a life”, and that you’re busy. This makes it a whole lot more valuable when she does speak to you. When you send an e-mail to her, stick to the same principle. Keep things light. Don’t drop an essay-length message on her. Your time is valuable.

PILLAR 4: THE ADRENALINE RUSH INSTILLING GLISTENING TIDAL WAVES OF EXCITEMENT GAMBLING

Before we get into how you should please, tease, and excite women (emotionally), we must fully grasp an understanding of why “gambling” is so addictive and how the concept can be seamlessly woven into the dating stratosphere.



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The nature of gambling is absolutely fascinating. Gambling creates a type of impulse-control disorder. Those who gamble continue gambling even when they know it’ll hurt them financially. It’s all they think of and want to do. They know the odds are stacked against them, yet they continue with a potentially self-destructive behavior. Now, I’m going to show you how to command the exact same tidal influence this activity has on our human minds and habits. It’s very simple. All you really have to do is “Place bets” whenever an opportunity arrives. In order words, compete! Women love competition, which explains again why they love a challenging guy. For example, if you’re going on a bowling date, compete for a free 10-minute massage. Lay down your own rules. For example, the first person to reach 3 strikes gets a 10-minute free massage from the other person. The prize should be in any form that’s realistic, affordable, and rewarding. Why massages? Because they are a non-alarming request that always works. Women will readily accept to any activity that’s relaxing and safe. Bonus: Incase you don’t have the Midas touch of a masseur; here’s a quick tip on sensually massaging a woman, and possibly into a “Welcome mood”. I’m sharing this with you since knowing how to massage a woman a very important and useful skill to acquire. Rule #1 Take it indoors where you will be free from any distractions. Play some soft-music in the background; preferably R&B. Your choice of music itself can work wonders in pulling her into a “welcoming” or receptive mood to get down and dirty. Rule #2 When massaging, begin on her neck, then to her back shoulders. These are the safer regions. Then, slowly and sensually trail your fingers down to her lower back. Take your fingers skiing down the slopes. At the same time, lean in a bit closer and let her feel you inching near her. This creates a sensational tingle that can instantly turn a woman on. Here’s a secret. If a woman is comfortable with sitting on YOUR bed, or her bed while allowing you to massage her, she is ready to engage for some hot steamy sex. So, when such time comes, don’t be afraid to advance. BE HER ROLLER COASTER RIDE

Visualize the pulse of your courtship as a sine or cosine curve. Create an infectious rhythm. Let her ride with you through to the top (exciting points) at the day, then drop back down to the base line and let her relax by night.



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Why not constantly ride at the top? That’s when things become too predictable and monotonous. Remember, having too much of something compromises its emotional value. Imagine a movie jam packed with John Woo action sequences but no meaningful plot, people will eventually become numb to the stunts regardless of how creative it is. Women in general need to take breaks, reset, and refocus their thoughts. KEEP HER ON THE EDGE OF SEXUAL TENSION

The effect of this is deadly and addictive if executed correctly. It’ll drive her nuts. Here’s how you can work this magic. First, you have to get accustomed to “Touching” her. If you still have a hard time trying to apply “Kino”, you can easily break the ice by touching the least unsuspecting sexual regions first. Here are some great scenarios to take advantage of: 1. While opening the door for a woman, grace her back as you give her a gentle push forward. 2. Give her your hand while you help her out the car. 3. Offer your arm while walking across the street. 4. When she’s unhappy or had a bad day, give her a bear-like hug. 5. Things will bubble up emotionally inside her. 6. When an opportunity such as a “hug” presents itself, whisper in her ears too. This is one of the most erogenous zones of any woman’s body. Speak slowly, soothingly, and allow your lips to lightly brush against the skin of her earlobe. Then, exhale faintly. This will immediately send a wave of pleasurable shiver down her spine. Now, here’s a hot advice that’s a bit off-topic, but will definitely help you transition into her mind state into a sexual mood. BRING HER TO BOTH SIDES OF THE FENCE

What I mean by bringing her to both side of the fence is enacting the roles of your alter-ego, or behaving on polar-extreme habits. Have a downright nasty side to you during nighttime, and be a supportive shoulder when times become excruciating for her. Musically speaking, I’d call it a “Synthy” affair. Think: Pulsating and pounding kicks with sweet-sounding moments. Women crave for this.



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ENGAGE THE FIVE SENSES

By engaging a woman’s five senses – sight, hearing, touch, smell, and feel, it compels her to be more involved in the experience built around you. She will remember everything more vividly, and with more value. Imagine drinking a beer. Most men that enjoy drinking and can probably recall the sight of seeing the foam, scent of hops, taste of the beverage, and cool moisture on the side of the glass. Then, there’s the clink and room of “cheers” from your peers. Kind of the like the sound of the popping open a champagne bottle, or the sound of the swish when you hit nothing but net in basketball. These are moments you will never forget, and are addicted to – since you love to “live that moment” again. AGAIN, LIVE IN THE MOMENT When you’re out with your date, LIVE the moment. Stop thinking about the crumbling economical state, or allow yourself to be mentally adrift. If dating was a sport, you want to be the player of the game, not the spectator. There’s a stark difference between the two. Players live inside the game. They are fully immersed. They are focused, determined, driven, and passionate. They make things happen. The player literally forgets the rest of the world. Time seems to fly as it dilates and contracts as he pours his soul into the game. The spectator on the other hand, just watches indifferently. They cheer when points are scored, and jeer when fouls are committed.

PILLAR 5: CONSTANT HAPPINESS STIMULATION YOUR EUPHORIA Always KEEP her HAPPY. Anchor this emotion to you. This means creating near-magical moments and being a guy with a great humor; building a strong and juicy vibe whenever you’re with her. What I’ll be revealing to you later are secrets to becoming naturally funny which only the major comedians know about. When you make a woman happy, you are instilling feelings of deep security inside her. It serves as an emotional cushion, and will subconsciously make her want to continue being around you. This is an evolutionary concept. It doesn’t matter what it is that you do. As long as it makes her smile – and I hope you’re not provoking a fake smile. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Happy. Smiling. Laughing. Associate yourself with only positive times. Do the unconventional. Instead of e-mailing her, write her a personal note expressing how you enjoyed the date (whatever it is you did) with her. Keep it sweet, short and simple. Avoid writing anything overly personal. The goal is to express your gratitude for having her as company. She’ll melt at the sight of your handwriting. Trust me, this always works. Whenever I’m with a date, or even with my girl, I only channel positivity in the present. Avoid talking dirty behind someone’s back. Avoid gossiping – that’s a woman’s job. Try not to allow your dampened mood to be projected. You want your date to associate you as a person that not only smiles a lot, but concurrently someone that makes her smile. Ask yourself, but truly brings happiness? These are the factors you want to integrate into your game. PHYSICAL REWARDS (1-2 Times Every time You See Her) Play the massage or backrub card. These are the most non intrusive methods to create physical interaction. It’s best when she voices a complaint about something. “I’m having such a rough day”… “I’m so stressed about…” This is a great cue to take before you give her a gentle but firm backrub and reassuringly say “Hey, everything is going o be alright. I’m sure we can figure something out”… “I’m sure we’ll see it through”. The objective is to make her “Feel good” when times are pressuring. Hot Tip: When you give a backrub, either swipe your hand up and down, or pretend you’re washing a plate with your palms. After the rub, proceed to a small massage. When you a liberate uneasiness or tension from a woman’s life, they will remember it at the end of the night before sleeping, and will henceforth become even more drawn towards you.



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ART OF INCREDIBLE VIBING GOOD VIBING VS. POOR VIBING This is a very critical piece to the puzzle of dating success. Vibing correctly. You’ll notice below where I draw out comparisons on what creates a good vibe and a bad one. HER: Hey, I just won the free giveaway dining vouchers from SUPERFLY magazine! YOU: Wow, congratulations! You totally deserved it. POOR VIBE: HER: Hey, I just won the free giveaway dining vouchers from SUPERFLY magazine! YOU: Wow, don’t a lot of people win those prizes? When you fail to generate a good vibe, it usually serves to mask your insecurity to qualify your own social intelligence. Stop reacting selfishly when it’s not you who gets to bask in the glow of glory. The Domino Effect of Positive Vibing Through Classical Condition Have you heard about Ivan Pavlov? He’s discovered one of the most essential principles in the world of psychology. Pavlov discovered that he could teach dogs to salivate at the sound of a tone, if he repeatedly paired the tone with the presentation of food. The dogs then learned that “tone” was associated with food (which they liked and therefore “elicited” a salivary response). By repeatedly pairing the tone and the food, the dogs learned to salivate to the sound of the tone, regardless of whether or not food was present. This is known as “classical conditioning”, and it's quite an omnipresent phenomenon which influences most every aspect of our lives, especially when it comes to maintaining a constant flux of healthy vibe. A woman’s emotions are vulnerable to classical conditioning. Our emotions are usually “elicited” by certain circumstances as a result of past learning experiences (that is, previous pairings or associations) A great example is the emotion of fear. People often learn to fear things because of previous unpleasant associations. For instance, a person may come to fear dentists (or perhaps the sound of a drill) because of their past painful dental procedures. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Now, let’s think on the positive side. Think about an old girlfriend that you fell in love with. Hey, I’m sure everyone has at least one they messed up on. You may have been so crazy in love with the girl that you would do anything for her. You may have done a few things you didn’t really care about. For example, she may dig Chinese food, but you don’t. Gradually, you end up going to Chinese restaurants “just for her”. As a result of pairing Chinese food with the girl you “love”, you NOW love Chinese restaurants. Retrospectively speaking, I never really enjoyed watching the “Lost” series, but because my ex did, so did I. You see, your feelings for her were transferred to various other objects, situations, or people as a result of being paired with her. Now that we understand the basics of classical conditioning, the question is, Here are two fail-proof ways to capitalize on it to anchor you with euphoria. Let's assume the object of your affection (your girlfriend, or someone you’re attracted to) is always either in a: Good mood, Neutral mood, or Bad mood. The goal is to associate you with her GOOD emotions and dissociate yourself from her BAD emotions. Be the man that gives her the “unforgettable good times.” Again, anchor yourself to emotions of happiness. You don’t want her to associate your presence with feelings of depression, anger, and anxiety. So, the trick is, BE around her when she’s in a good mood, and avoid her like a bad flu when she’s in a bad or downright nasty mood. Yea, this sounds like common sense, but a lot of guys simply don’t know this. A common mistake most men commit whenever their date is in a bad mood is trying to make her feel better. What do they do? They start doing unwanted favors. They hang by the phone sympathizing. They drop by her place with a basket of food or flower, just to cheer her up. Yes, her friends may think your sweet, but try not to do this. And no, you aren’t being ass. By being around when her mood is bad, you are disrupting her pre-designated emotions she associates you with. Keep things simple. Just stay away. Unless you want to be her punching bag and hear her vent, then I’ll leave that up to you. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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On the other hand, if she's been emotionally devastated that's a different situation. Maybe her best friend died, or her family’s in debt, or her favorite emotionally attached to cat passed away. If this is the case, be there for her. She’ll need to draw strength from you and need a shoulder to lean on or cry on. She’ll emotionally be venting at you, but don’t ignore her. Just be understanding. However, if she’s not your girlfriend yet, then you have the rights to remain “away”. INCITING A LAUGHTER Getting a woman to laugh with you – not at you – is one of the safest and surest ways to vibe with women. Not only is laughing a stress relief mechanism, it’s also a social one. There’s a magnetic vibration to someone who can make other’s laugh. It detaches them – albeit temporary – from personal hardships or gloom. The trick to getting someone to laugh is NOT to try or worry whether they’ll respond favorably or not. Stop being so sensitive about it. If you’ve got a joke, be consumed in the joke and deliver it as enthusiastically as possible. The laughs will eventually follow. GET CREATIVE. Creativity in this dating scene is a rarely played card. Most men are just sluggish in the creative department. Usually, when a guy comes up with a creative thought, they fail to deliver it as they continue debating whether it would be too clichéd. Truth is, as long as you deviate from “What’s already been done”, the coast will be clear to surf. Flex your creativity and you not only earn her respect but interest. Here are some personal examples, which I’ve used to score tremendous brownie points for. I made an e-mail account for my girl, and inside, I wrote a series of notes on how I felt about her on the first 10 dates. Note: I only gave her the user name and password 2-months later. If it’s your girl’s birthday, write a short note and stuff it inside the balloon before you inflate it. The goal is to come across as totally original, and be the FIRST to ever do such things for her.



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CREATING DREAMY REALITIES Women are daydreamers. They love to drift away from reality and relish in their own ideal world. Well, this actually applies to men too. So, how can we create such state? Easy. During your conversations, start using the openers such as: “I Wonder…” “Have you ever thought about…” “What do you think it’ll be like if….” The key is to let her tap into her imagination when you’re around. Better yet, put yourself in the picture. This creates a powerful effect in positioning you inside the circle of her fantasies. For example, “I wonder what it’ll be like if you and I were the last person on earth”, or “Have you ever wondered what it would be like if me and you were the world’s richest couple, what would our responsibilities be” Remember, the key is to create positive feelings. “I wonder what more will we both want, when all our needs are fulfilled”

DEVELOP YOUR OWN SIGNATURE GENUINE KILLER-HUMOR Being funny or having a sense of humor happens to be a top-pick trait amongst women when seeking for men. You see it in the female preferences on your local love classifieds, or even online dating sites. Humor is very addictive. Men who are at the apex of their game can execute humor under any circumstance. They laugh at the absurdity that life often offers. It is inevitable. Women love comedians. You may not be TV Commercial material, but being funny wins the hearts of any women. Beyond displaying a playful, easygoing attitude, a sense of humor conveys a social presence, which translates into high status. Being funny in front of others proves that you are confident to command the attention of a group. That confidence suggests to women that you’re a man on top of things. It eases tension and takes the bite out of tough situations. Remember how I discussed about giving women a sense of protection? Well humor accomplishes just that. It makes women feel safe, energized, and



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activates their minds. A strong sense of humor provides a sense of effective living. If you don’t consider yourself a funny guy – don’t worry, I didn’t start out as one too – BUT you can very easily become one. The most crucial step is to eliminate the self-limiting belief of “I’m not that funny”. Don’t worry about never getting jokes, not remembering funny stories, or not spinning a good yarn. Humor should occur spontaneously; and just like typing, the more you practice, the more adept you become. Trust me, developing a healthy sense of humor goes a long way. Now, I don’t expect a comedic side in you to spring to life right away, but I’m sure you’ve probably made someone laugh before. What was it about? How did you deliver it? Whatever you did, bank on the idea and reenact what works. It helps to be quick-witted, and that’s something everyone can also be. You don’t have to be Chris Rock or Russel Peters-funny; there are many ways to be funny without using punch lines. One general rule of thumb is to never sound forced! You don’t want to consciously remind yourself to be funny. It needs to happen spontaneously and naturally. Hot Tip: Use Your Surrounding Environment To Stimulate Situational Humor Whenever you’re out on a date, look at the odd things and comment it. But be funny while you comment it. For example, when I saw a giant human sized teddy bear plopped on a bench outside the mall during the afternoon I didn’t ignore on impulse or simply acknowledge it by saying “Hey, it’s a giant bear” Instead I told my date to “Check out that bear getting a free tan.” This is actually an act of personification, which works like miracles. The act of “personifying” can be applied to anything. When my computer’s cable modem crashed, I called my girl and told her “Hey, my modem just had a stroke. It’ll recover soon. I will discuss more about “personifying” animals or subjects later. Here’s another scenario. While walking in the mall the day before valentines, I see a woman wearing a costume made of heart-shaped pink balloons. She was literally a walking



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heart. At this time, there was a small stylist band make up crew preparing her with her for the press. She caught the attention of every passerby in the mall. Some even stopped to take pictures. Well, when me and my girlfriend saw, I went over and asked the crew, “Hey, how much for that dress? I’d like to wear it for my date on valentines. Everyone around laughed. I’m sure there are many odd things that pop up unexpectedly in life. Even if you’re in the middle of the forest, use your creativity and you can come up with something funny. Once walking past a female security that was busy peeling her nails off (disturbing I know), I jokingly told my girl “I don’t think peeling her nails off in public will give her a raise in salary”. Create humorous remarks form contexts that usually aren’t-sofunny Here are a few golden examples on just how to do it. When she has a stuffy nose, comment on how “musical it sounds”. When she trips slightly while walking, comment on how she “defied gravity”. Note: Don’t make fun of her if she actually falls to the ground though. That’s just insensitive and twisted. Here’s another great situation. The other day when I saw a poodle posting up besides the ATM machine, I told my girl to “Check that poodle out, he needs to withdraw some cash”. Remember guys, a good sense of humor will go a long way in keeping any girl happy in your company. INFUSING WIT WITH HUMOR Being witty with your remarks really help. Girls love a guy with good wit. Whenever my girlfriend tells me I’m a sweet guy, I usually respond by warning, “Watch out, I might give you cavities”. Here’s another. My girlfriend accidentally text messages a blank message to me. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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She then tells me online that she mistakenly sent me a blank text. I reply… “ Yes I just got a blank message from you, how sweet.” Her: hahaha If you can come witty with your responses, or with your everyday remarks woman will love it. BLENDING SARCASM WITH HUMOR Sarcasm is one of my most powerful weapon. Sometimes, I’ll ask my girl “What are you thinking of?” Whenever she says “nothing”, I reply with a half-sincere look: “Well, that’s very interesting”. You guys may think that sounds offensive or insensitive, but WOMEN love sarcasm. Contrary to what other gurus may claim, sarcasm does not make you petty if you execute it correctly. The trick is to do it in small amounts. Don’t just fire a row of sarcastic remarks. Once, this girl tried to creep up behind to scare me after she was out mall’s bathroom. Just before she reaches to pounce at me from behind, I turn around (having spotted her with my peripheral vision already), and faked a cry “Ohh, that was shocking. Actually, saw you the second you got off the toilet seat.” Once, I had to wait literally 15 minute for my date to get out from the bathroom. When she returned, I told her, “I think I just grew a bit older waiting for you. IMAGINARY HUMOR I asked my girl the other day “What do you think you were in your past life?” She goes “An owner of something VERY valuable”. Then, I pride fully tell her with an I-can’t-help-it-look.. “Well I was the king of China”. While waiting for the red light to go green in the car, I caught a mosquito on the windshield. I then pointed to the mosquito and said “Hey look, he needs a ride, I think he had a tiring day.” This made her laugh. Hot Tip: Women love it when a man personifies animals or inanimate objects as humans. It makes them go “Aww. He’s so sweet” while still being considered as imaginatively funny.



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You may be scratching your head wondering if this really works. It may sound peculiar for now, but I guarantee you it works miracles. Here’s another great example where I personified a “snore”.. Before going to sleep, I tell my girl (who snores in sleep whenever she’s exhausted from the day) “I bet you’re going to snore tonight.” She replies, “How do you know?” “It e-mailed me”. REPONSIVE HUMOR Besides being observant and a sharp listener, never forget to respond to a woman’s quips and cleverness. Your sense of humor can also be executed when you engage other people and react to them. Simply restating what someone else said, with a different tone or with a link to another idea, can cause a chuckle or create another round of humor. Here’s another example of a responsive and witty humor… My girl puts on her lip-gloss and I kiss her. She goes… “You just stole some of my lip gloss.” Me: Oops, let me return it to the rightful owner. Me: (Kisses her.) Dealing With Curveballs If you ever come to deal with questions like… “Why did you ask me out?” “What do you think of me?” Apply with responsive humor to continue making her curious. I asked you out because … “I felt the same way the chicken did when it wanted to cross the road. I just had to do it.” A great sense of humor will always go a long way in keeping any girl happy in your company.



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PILLAR 6: ADDING MORE VALUE INTO HER WORLD. This is the golden principle to keeping a girl with you. What I mean by adding more value into a woman’s life is by enriching the moments you and her share together. Make it ecstatic, exciting, and extraordinary. People are addicted to and will find it difficult not to claim what they can gain value from, especially when it’s accessible to them. We are always going for the “finer” things in life, we will always want more. I will reveal to you several methods on how you can transfer more value into daily interactions with women, and what you could do to escalate it further. First, we’ll learn how to make a woman feel special by exercising indirect forms of flattery. Note: This has nothing to do with complimenting a woman’s appearance. Instead, we’re going to go deeper and recognizing her raw talents. If your date’s profession is a writer, tell her “You heard she’s good with the pen”. Or, sincerely express that you’d like to see some of her “Written masterpieces”. As people, we all love it when someone else genuinely makes us feel special by reminding us that we are competent, skilled, admired. Everyone loves to have their egos stroked, as much as they hate to admit it. This is essentially the foundation to adding more value into a woman’s reality, especially when people in her social circle aren’t mindful of her skills, or never acknowledges it. How you can inject further excitement with a few simple words… Women, or people in general, can’t refuse to listen to secrets. Next time you’re about to tell a girl something, say: “Let me tell you a secret.” Other great alternatives are “I shouldn’t really tell you this, but...” “Promise you won’t tell anyone if I told you this ok?” “This is just between you and me” Try to come up with many variations. Don’t over do this, otherwise the inherent value in each secretive disclosure diminishes. By implementing this method, you insinuate that you have their best interest at heart, and you trust them. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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In most cases, this will encourage a woman to reciprocate sometime later. On top of that, you’re sharing knowledge with them. A woman loves a man who not only provides comfort, security, but also brainpower. Why? Because it’s empowering. If a person you’re highly attracted to can educate and enlightening simultaneously, it is a very rewarding experience. Now, don’t get me wrong. You’re not required to have an ivy-league brain or eat up the entire Encarta archive. Just simply be a street-smart, well-versed and rounded person. Hot Tip: Read the newspaper daily, learn a bit about history, and write down your thoughts daily instead of letting it resonate inside your head. Warning: Avoid over-enlightening women as you may dig yourself into the hole of self-righteousness. Never discriminate her and don’t be judgmental. Don’t think that schooling her about a subject makes you any more intelligent by landslides. This behavior will push you to the edge of arrogance. FULFILL PERSONAL DESIRES THAT ARE MEANINGFUL TO HER Give her what she wants, and needs. I don’t mean the material things like Gucci purses, lingerie from Victoria Secret’s, or latest make-up kit from Bobbi Brown. If she always wanted to go to a museum, take her there even if it doesn’t align with your interests. Take her to all the places her parents have never taken her, or places where she’d always wanted to travel with her best friend. These constitutes as ‘meaningful desires’. When you take her somewhere she’d only expect to go with a close friend, it bonds you even deeper. So, how do you know what she wants? Ask. You can easily squeeze an accurate answer out of her by asking what some things she always wanted in life are. DON’T STOP TRANSFERING MORE VALUE. You want these feelings of pure positivity to compound overtime. Imagine planting a potted tree of happiness. You want to cultivate and nurture it. Love this plant unconditionally. It’s just like playing basketball. If you discontinue your workout regime and haven’t competed regularly, your game isn’t as airtight. When adding more value into a woman’s life, you should never expect anything in return. Expecting something in return only renders you as selfish, and defeats the purpose of this blueprint. She should never get www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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any slight idea that you are forcing her into a situation only to be compensated later for.

CREATING “MINI-SUCCESS” POINTS Create “Mini-success” points. This is the power of tapping into “immediate gratification”. Go to a carnival and win a teddy bear with her. Something that is achievable. The key is to ‘do it together.’ Solve a problem together. The effects are incredibly rewarding and will enrich your relationship. Complete half a day’s chore with your girl. Help her complete an assignment she isn’t so poised in. Note: When working with her to solve a problem, don’t stress out and make it seem comfortable. Always stick to the key characteristics that are attractive. Be a tease, be funny, and be confident. Keep your game intact at all times. USE POSITIVE ACTION VERBS Try to increase your usage of positive action verbs such as “Relax”, “Enjoy”, “Smile”. These simple commands are very effective in generating a positive vibe between the two of you. Inadvertently, these are words women will start associating you with once you regularly use them around her. Ever had a friend who likes to use the word “Relax?” You probably perceive him as a laid back dude. Hot Tip: INCREASE THE VALUE SIMPLY BY INJECTING THE WORD “AND…” When complimenting a woman on her art piece, compare the difference in response when you just say, “That is amazing”, with “That is amazing, AND, it’s very sophisticated”. Simply using the word “And” doubles the value of your words. Another powerful method to enhance the compliment’s effect is to personalize things further. For example, if your date just about to purchase a new necklace and you want to compliment how it looks on her, try this. “Wow, that looks great on you. I believe you two were meant to work out together.” MAKE HER FEEL ACCEPTED FOR WHO SHE IS



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If you’ve ready my “20 Dating Secrets”, all women have their own set of insecurities. Therefore, it is important to know what titivates her inner wavering esteem. It’s true. Women are emotionally vulnerable and fragile. Make her feel beautiful. Women are creatures that are constantly seeking for sexual validation too, not just men. Trust me; a range of insecurities nowadays arrests women. This explains why so many women are shallow and superficial. They complain about their nose bridge not being high enough, breast size a cup too small; or perhaps something more deep: loss of life direction to feeling mentally incapable at times. Eventually, she’ll be voicing them to you when she becomes more attached, and you will have to deal with it. This is a great opportunity to make her feel accepted for who she is. According to Maslow’ hierarchy of needs, every human’s basic need is to feel belonged. USE YOUR EARS MORE THAN YOU RUN OUR MOUTH Listening ranks amongst the top-tier values that women are attracted to. When you prove that you can listen, it communicates to her that her thoughts are valued and inputs are significant. You give her a sense of importance. Women want to feel important, and such need of feeling can be addictive. Think about the following situations… - While sharing an important insight, somebody would finish the sentence for you. - While narrating what happened over the weekend, somebody would butt in and narrate a similar story. - In a meeting, the boss would cut you short while you are still explaining your side. How would you feel? Disregarded, ignored, not so good. It’s as if you are taken for granted and that your share of story isn’t all that important. It’s as if no one is listening to you and you do not matter. It signifies that your thoughts, concerns, and ideas are not accepted. Additional Tip: Your eyes too can impress any girl within seconds. Look into the girl's eyes with your own twinkling eyes that indicate fun and mischievousness. Let your eyes promise the girl that good times await her in the future. In

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saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, openended, and sphinx like. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish. GIVE MORE MEANING INTO HER EXISTENCE TALK ABOUT HER… It is an irrefutable phenomenon that women love talking about themselves. When you genuinely express that you want to learn more about her, she will inevitably be more attracted to you. It will be hard to dismiss you. The secret: When you shift the focus on them, people will remember their experience with you as a positive one. For example, peep this dialogue: Her: “Hey I like the shoes you’re wearing Me: “Thank you. Seems like you have a great taste in shoes. What kind of shoes you usually like yourself?” Instead of basking in her compliment and patting myself on the back for having a great taste, I directed the attention to her. HOW TO MAKE HER FEEL UNDERSTOOD Indeed, it’s a turn-on for women when they feel understood. Most men are usually caught guilty for not really listening. What’s the trick circumvent this problem? Use verbal enforcers such as “Uh huh”… “Ohhh…” “I see, I see…” However, sometimes that just isn’t strong enough. You don’t want to come across as a guy that’s overly agreeable with your constant ‘Right... yess… uh Huh’s” That’s when “Empathizers” come to the rescue. Empathizers are simple, short, supportive statements. Instead of saying the over abused “Uh Huh”, empathizers come in complete sentences like “That really sounds exciting”… “That was very considerate of you.” Kill the usual grunts. Don’t be slave to “Umming”. Use complete sentences. She’ll be impressed that you’re actually listening, and feel more encouraged to-share more about her. Remember, the more a woman reveals about herself, the more she trusts you.



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If she trusts you, she’ll also be more comfortable with advancing sexually with you. NOTICE HER Whenever you’re out with a girl, even if you’re not interested or just see her as a friend, take mental snapshots of her. Observe how she talks, the expressions she frequently makes, the way she speaks, and how her skin wrinkles etc. Practice this habit. Accustom yourself to the small details most people would overlook. Watch out for noticeable features. It becomes second nature when you practice. Then, tell them what you’ve noticed. This is a powerful technique in building a bond between two people. SAY HER NAME! It’s the sweetest sound in the world. People love to hear their own names being called. Always mention her name in the beginning or end of a sentence when meeting women. “Rosie, Can you please lend me a hand” “Do you think I should go tomorrow Rosie” “Don’t worry about it, Rosie” ASK HER QUESTIONS There’s an extreme magical effect behind asking questions, especially when it pertains to her. This is another hot method to adding value into a woman’s existence while also raising her level of self-importance. When you ask a woman questions… 1. It demonstrates that you care about her, and she will subconsciously notice this like the sound of “Ka-Ching” to the cashier box. 2. It triggers a feeling of completeness, albeit temporary, since answering a question she readily knows about herself is a form of assertion, which makes her feel confident. 3. You’re giving her the “Spotlight”, and I don’t mean her 15-minutes of fame. GIVE HER A HIGHER SENSE OF CONFIDENCE Guys, regardless of how great a woman looks, don’t forget, she still has own flaws and insecurities. For example, if your date is heading off to a job



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interview, have faith in her. Tell her “I have confidence in you”, or “You’re going to make the other applicants look bad!” Whenever there’s a challenging situation, provide uplifting comments, but keep it brief. Out with her friends? Compliment her unique skills in front of them. “Jane makes the best chocolate cake!” GIVE HER A SENSE OF PROTECTION Don’t confuse this with smothering a woman by not giving her personal time and space to herself. A trick is to make her feel secure without being there. How? After a couple dates, buy her a teddy bear. Before presenting it to her, tell her that you’ve hired a personal bodyguard. Give her the bear after. GIVE HER A “NEW YOU” You know how when you come out of the theaters from an inspirational movie and you feel a raging surge of motivation to do-things you’ve kept on the backburner right after? That’s what you want to make her feel. When possible, inspire her. Make her feel like a better person when she’s around you. Rejuvenated. Renewed. How can this be accomplished? Easy. Teach her things that will contribute to her life goals. But first, you have to identify what her personal goals and objectives are. From example, a lot of women, just like men, want to make earn a lot of money. Now, imagine me telling you the secrets to making money, especially online. You would definitely be inspired, granted that the secrets are perfectly sound and logical. FULFILL THE WOMAN’S FANTASY Do you know why women adore or literally love male R&B singers?



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When you watch any music video featuring an urban R&B artist today, you’ll see that they embody the sexual manifestations with lyrics voicing their sensitivity to a woman’s need. Bobby Valentino, Omarion, J Holidays, Chris Brown etc. I’m not telling you to go all out with vocal training and learning new dance routines, but what I’m saying is, you can also create fantasy tinged moments also. This may sound clichéd, but become the sound track of her life. Ever artist I just mentioned are pinnacles of alpha-males in the media. Why do you think the majority of their fans are women? BECOME HER GETAWAY Whether she has a hectic schedule or stressful lifestyle, become her getaway. Maximize the quality time spent together. It may be a bit hard if she’s a workaholic, but it can easily be done. What you want to do is make the investment to book a trip, or VIP movie seats without telling her. Assume she’s interested. By human nature, it is very difficult to pass up such offer. She will greatly appreciate the effort you put in. SHAPING UNFORGETTABLE MOMENTS Go for unreal, out-the-ordinary dating activities. The keyword is to create a “Dreamy” state for her to live in. Make her feel like the most special girl in the world, but don’t ever become her personal bitch and fawn over her. You see, women don’t usually expect men to prepare much in advance. So, prepare to dazzle and surprise them. Simple romantic gestures will make her swoon over you. Make her eyes sparkle and gaze at the surrounding of your scenery of choosing. This is a factor that not only distinguishes you from other men, but draws her even closer to you. Create new memories that she’ll want to keep! Remember, host these unforgettable moments with due moderation. Imagine taking a woman to the Caribbean islands, or same steakhouse every week. Soon after, the initial excitement and crave she had in these places will gradually diminish. Once you give away too much of something, it loses value and meaning. Ask yourself the same question before you enact the date: “Will I remember this day for as long as I live?



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Hot Tip: In order to make any date memorable, unforgettable, and rewarding, spend 90% of your activities in the present moment. Don’t get caught in the “talking trap.” Get out there and do something physical. Throw in some action. It doesn’t have to be ESPN extreme sports active, you can just take a walk in the flea market, or visit a local park. Build memories with her, instead of sharing one. Every now and then, pretend the date as the last day you two will be on earth. What would you do? Kick the romantic level up in you. Don’t ever let it fizzle. Consistency is the key. I know it’s hard to keep your romance momentum strong, but a little extra effort can go along way. Here’s another common misconception held by most men: They think being romantic is being nice. They fall into the trap of becoming her personal slave. You can be romantic without being submissive. Strike the perfect balance by behaving a bit aloof. Here are some overrated and saturated romantic ideas most men take their significant-another on: Moonlight walks, beachside walks (with bare feet dipped into the sand), fine dining. Those are wonderful, and I’m not discounting them. However, with more creativity and originality meshed into your date ideas, you can easily create magical times. Don’t let the night fade away in vain. Here are some great examples to remix the previously so-called romantic ideas… Instead of taking moonlight stroll, bring your digital camera together and take photos of the two of you capturing over 100 emotions. Make sure you use flash. Instead of walking on the beach, sit her down on the shores and offer her a back massage. Whenever she has sort of problems with life, help her solve it, but only when you think she’s totally incapable of remedying it herself. Be a crisis management expert. If she talks about how her girlfriend’s are having problems with their boyfriends, feel free to offer advices. The key is to give her a sense of protection. Is it going to be raining on your night out? Prepare an umbrella. TACTICAL EXAGGERATION



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Yes, this may sound controversial, but exaggerating at times can contribute to making her feel good about herself without doing so slavishly. This works like magic when it comes to the smaller-things. For example, if your date just had a car wash, exaggerate the results. Wow it’s “Looking super speck-less.” …“I don’t think I should touch it, it won’t be as clean.” It doesn’t necessarily have to be directly about her, but could also be subjects closely associated to her.

MAGICAL WORDS THAT BOND THE TWO OF YOU TOGETHER The Power of the Word “YOU” Alright, so why is the word “YOU” so special? Let me explain. When we were infants, we were selfish beings and thought we were the center of the universe. Nothing else mattered more than yourself. Our brains were wired to these self-serving questions: “How will that affect me?” “Will it help me in any way?” Don’t be surprised, and don’t deny. This thought process is still in us. It’s the same thought as “What do I get out of it?” “What’s in it for me?” For example, if you ask your date out for dinner… “Hey, want to head to this famous Chinese restaurant tonight? I heard they’ve got a sumptuous selection on their new menu” Your date will first think to herself “Sumptuous? Could I possibly enjoy it?” However, if you insert a “YOU” inside that invitation… “Hey, want to head to this famous Chinese restaurant tonight? You will love the sumptuous dishes they have in their menu.” When you phrase it this way, she will be more likely joining you. You’ve subliminally answered her question. You’ve actually done the thinking for her. This is how most people get favors done, and how powerful advertising messages are written. By putting the “You” at the start of the sentence, it pushes the asker’s pride button. Imagine asking your Boss to take a day off. If you asked him “Can I take Friday off, Boss?



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His thought process will be translated as “Can I do without this employee for Friday?” This makes it hesitant for him to say yes. However, if you ask “Boss, can YOU do without me this Friday?” You’ll already be deciding for your boss. Your new wording made managing without a matter of pride for him.

BOOST THE INTIMACY LEVELS EASILY LIKE MELTING BUTTER ON A RED HOT SKILLET BY USING THE WORD… “WE” Using “We” statements suggest that you are at close to someone. When two strangers meet, they primarily toss small talk back and forth. Clichés are used. Rarely do they use the word “We.” When two people are merely acquainted, often they’ll discuss facts. “You know, Kate, I think this is part is going to be bananas.” Or, “Yeah, I can meet you up at time square”. When people become friends, they often express feelings to each other. Even if it’s about the weather, they’ll say, “Hey Jane, I just LOVE sunny days. How do you feel? Now, when two people have reached a level of intimacy, this level is based more on rapport. It’s where the two use “we” and “us” statements. Friends would say “Hey, I think tonight’s party is going to be bananas”. Lovers will say “We’re going to have a great time at tonight’s party” Simply use the “We” word prematurely. Use it not just on your date, but clients, prospects, or stranger you feel are friend’s material. The word “We” fosters togetherness. It makes the listener feel connected. It sends out a subliminal feeling of “you and me against the cold, cold world”. It suggests to them that you and her are already friends. It subconsciously brings her closer to you. You can immediately create a sensation of intimacy with someone even if you’ve just met them just by using the word “WE”. Skip past conversational levels, and cut to the deeper zones of courtship. HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF STAPLED TO HER MIND Leave something at her place, or deliberately forget something. Something insignificant in value though. Try your hat (not your favorite), handkerchief, or pen. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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This will keep you busy on your mind. Again, revise what I taught you about shaping unforgettable moments. Those are the times that will forever find it’s cozy estate in her memory street.

BE CONSISTENT IN ALL OF THE ABOVE. You’ve come a long way now – ok, 94 pages deep – and before I wrap everything up, I’d like to talk sternly discuss about being consistent. Maintaining an unwavering commitment to this formula is paramount to your success in keeping a woman addicted. You must, must discipline yourself to be consistent. Read this formula 2-3 times over, perhaps more until you fully comprehend the structure and nature. Internalize, practice, and refer back to this guide until you everything becomes second nature. Consistency is the key foundation to molding the new you, a new persona, and this new self-shaped reality. As you consistently live up to this formula, the people around you will all be subject to influence. There’s no escaping your presence. Get out there, and make the world feel intrigued, curious, excited when you’re around. How long you want to carry out this formula is subjective to your liking. You don’t want to falter in the steps by thinking you’ve ever done too much. Growth is an endless journey. There really is no threshold to how much woman can tolerate your new pattern of behavior, or how much your friends and family is willing to see you change. They can only grow accustomed to it and start to accept the changes. Don’t let anyone limit you. When elephants born in captivity are restrained by a chain that attaches one leg to a metal spike driven into the ground preventing them from roaming, they become accustomed to the fact that, as long as the chain and spike are next to them, they are unable to move. The same applies with women. Once they register your dominance and newfound identity, it’ll be hard to escape it unless you permit her so.



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CLOSING WORDS Take Action. Make It Happen. From this point on, vow to yourself that your life will forever never be the same. Your pattern of living must change. You will now take action and apply what you have learnt. You can have an abundance of knowledge, secrets and strategies to dating women, but if all you do is sit there and do nothing, the information acquired is worthless. Don’t take this patronizingly in anyway. It’s just an enforcer, which everyone, including me, needs every now and then. There’s no better day than today to start on remodeling and refining yourself. Get out there, tap into that natural drive, embrace challenges, and smile back at the world. It’s YOUR world. Pool your efforts into one area until you have mastered it. Build credibility. Come to a point where you no longer need to prove yourself, as you are well rounded, grounded, and insanely astounding. Remember, if you want to project yourself as irresistible, you need to be consistent with living up to every principle. Someone that is truly irresistible never “thinks he’s good and slick with women”, he just knows women will enjoy his company and naturally be consumed by his aura and personality. Your measure of success should be judged on how proactively you’ve adapted to this new mindset. Your brain will have everything fine-tuned and it becomes a part of you. BELIEVE that everything will take care of itself. The successful guy asks, "How can I make this work for me?" The guy who failed says, "it won't work for me, because..." Well, now you KNOW how to make it work for you. Once a woman feels the impact of your new code of behaviors, you will have them in the palm of your hand. You will no longer experience problems with approach anxiety or escalating into the “physical zone”. Things will start falling into place at a pace that will catch you by surprise. Behave accordingly to your desired character – Mr. Cool & Irresistible DAILY. People will start talking about in the water cooler at work, or throw you into their conversations… “Hey this cool guy I met…” You will no longer need to act flamboyantly, obnoxiously, or brash to win the attention of others. You well be self-made. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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BE A FORWARD THINKER, PLANNER, DOER. Start setting both short to long-term goals for yourself now. Be aware of yourself setting this goal, right at this moment. Imagine what it would be like. Feel, hear, and see your luminescent future crystal clearly. See it all happening, as you’d wish. Think towards this. Forward think. This is a very powerful contributor to shifting your reality. Remember, anything is possible. This new image and identity of you evolving into someone that is super irresistible will gradually become reasonable when you dedicate yourself to growth and perfection. I wish you nothing but soaring success, and I’m confident that you will soon find yourself an amazing woman in your arms; someone that truly appreciates you for who you are and is one that you will nurture a long-term loving for. If you have any questions, concerns, or need clarity on any matter, never ever hesitate to e-mail me. You can reach me at: [email protected] I’ll get back to you within 24 – 48 hours. I look forward to hearing from you. Respect, Andrew Wang (Allurre) Creator of Sync Dating & Instant Addiction Formula (IAF) CEO/Artist/Producer/Designer LUXLIVIN



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BONUS SECTION! LEARNING HOW TO READ WOMEN WITHOUT A TEXTBOOK AND COUNSELOR Truly charismatic people have the ability to turn the tables and focus on other people. When you demonstrate that you can read your date’s mind, she will feel understood and taken care of. The trick to reading people is to harness your power of observation. Begin the second you are out on dates. When it comes to your dates, tell your woman what you “notice about her”. I notice you like to wink a lot when you think. I notice you like to say “umm” when your body stiffens. Here’s a great drill. Take a hundred steps in the dark. Go to a park, or any other space. Try to walk a hundred steps straight ahead without bumping into anything. Walk with your eyes closed. You can start by dividing it into ten steps, so the steps don’t seem as daunting. Every time you reach ten steps, open your eyes, and look around. Try remembering everything you see around you. Keep doing this without disturbing the rhythm of your walk. Think of your eyes as a camera shutter. When opened, try to remember every detail. Is there a bird flying by, a tree to your left? You will start noticing things you never saw before. This will help you enormously when it comes to remembering women. Like a designer’s eyes, you’ll be more sensitive to the small details. No longer are you just aware of retaining information in your peripheral vision, but also on the extreme sides. Everything around you will appear more vibrant, clear, exciting. The more you practice, the more your memory bank becomes broader. Observe. What’s her watches brand? What colors are on the face of the watch? What other accessories does she have on? What are the shapes? Try to look for brand names, or any words displayed on her belonging. Study her minute physiological responses or expressions on her face in reactions to certain situations. How does she look when pissed off? Does her nose scrunch upwards? Notice the following cues: www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Skin color – which changes according to mood, thought, emotional state. Facial muscles Lip movement Breathing Here’s another practice. Pick three of your closest friends. Now, I want you to stimulate them into feeling a certain way – happy, excited. Take a mental snap shot on how they react. Note the facial movements, noises they make etc. Learn to pair specific emotions with the physical motions. Pay attention to any reoccurring patterns. Now, say something that reminds them of a mistake, or provokes a painful memory. This could be about a past break-up, run-in with the law, stolen wallet etc. Watch again how their facial coloration reacts to the tension and upsetting memory. The more you know, the more power you will yield, and the closer you’ll bring yourself to the person’s inner state. When a person is pissed, they generally flare their nostrils, crinkle their forehead, or lower their eyebrows. I’m sure you’re aware of this. However, most people actually develop their own unique responses unknowingly. My girl for example, puckers both her lips when unhappy, but she remains really calm looking and silent. It’s kind of cute. Remember, these are observed responses which helps calibrate the other person’s through process. When you embed these mental photographs into your head, you can predict right away what the other person is thinking before they even open their mouth. Here are more ways to heighten and train your senses: 1. When shaking a girl’s hands, notice her skin texture. Is it smooth or coarse? Calloused or supple? Rough hands indicate that she may be laborer, or tends to be more of an outdoor type. Soft and silky hands suggest an office working, someone who’s more in door. Of course, women also buy hand lotion. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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The more analytical you are about women, as opposed to focusing so much on yourself like most men do, you will easily impress her with your eagle eye. These detailed cues all make great conversational topics, especially because they are personal. If you haven’t purchased my Sync Dating book, I’ve explained that once a woman is comfortable in dwelling on personal matters, she’s readily becoming more open to you. Subsequently, she’s also becoming more attracted to you. When you can read people’s mind, people will be hooked to your magnetic charm like they are to a world-class magician. 2. Try to think about what they’re thinking about. This habit is prevalent amongst the Japanese culture. They are very sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of others. Before taking any action, they will think about how that person will perceive their action. This is to avoid “loosing face”, or embarrassing himself or herself or the other person. Here’s a drill to attain this skill. Next time you’re out in public, a restaurant, or the park, select a person who’s relatively far away and imagine what’s on their mind. How fast are they moving? How fast are they breathing? What are their eyes focusing on? Put yourself in their situation. See yourself becoming him or her. Figure out who she is and what her feelings are at that moment. The more you practice this method, the better you’ll be in predicting other people’s behavior. My girl for one is always taken by surprise when I literally speak for her mind. It’s like taking the words out of her mouth. I am able to tell what she’s thinking when certain expressions she make cue for it. Sometimes, I can also predict accurately what others (non-acquainted) are about to do. Humans are preconditioned to act in specific ways depending on the contextual circumstance. For example, if you’re in a hip-hop concert, you’ll find yourself nodding your head without even have to think about it. Or, when you visit another country, your senses are automatically piqued, and you’re more alert to the smaller details. When you begin to be more observant, you also become more empathetic. Your own emotions overlap with the behavior you observe. www.instantaddictionformula.com Copyright © 2009, LUXLIVIN Entertainment, LLC. All rights reserved.


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Read the Eye Movements Guess what? Women are entirely unaware that they send subtle messages with their eyes. Different eye movements can be linked to specific zone of thoughts. Here are some things to take note off, which are part of Neuro linguistic programming: 1. When people concentrate on something visual, their eyes look upward. Up to the right = something visual they remember from their past Up to the left = something they’ve created in their own minds on the spot. 2. When people think of an imaginary sound, they look to the side, or straight ahead. 3. When concentrating on a feeling, or sensation, their eyes look downward. Try practicing this with a friend. Tell him/her to “Imagine yourself walking in the park, and you see an eagle flying high above you. Visualize a family of apes to your right, and baby trees sprouting from, the ground” Now, as you say this, study his eye movements. Next, tell him/her to imagine on a scene that excites the hearing senses. “Imagine yourself hearing the pulsating bounce of hip hop in your car, then a wailing siren closing in. You get the idea.



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