Inner Game 1

Speed Seduction® Introductory Course Transcript:

Inner Game Basics Part 1

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Ross Jeffries The “Guru of Getting Some” www.Seduction.com

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying bullying,, begging begging,, buying buying,, B.S B.S,, booze or biceps or biceps,, in his seduction of women.

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Ross:

You want to do walk-ups and language patterns. I want to begin to show you the process of meeting women using the Speed Seduction technology and tools, and then I want to show you how language patterns work and give you a few that you can try out.

I have not really delved deeply into language patterns with the small pieces the last few years, so I’m going to do that.

Yesterday, I did some change work with some people and I started the process of getting the ball rolling for them. I talked about this idea of ruminating – how many people ruminate on their mistakes. They dwell on what they’ve done wrong over and over again.

In an area of life where you’ve encountered a tremendous amount of difficulty – a lot of failure (or what you thought was failure), a lot of frustration, a lot of limiting beliefs, a lot of patterns of thinking that just don’t work – it’s a mistake to assume that if I just give you a new set of things to do, you’re going to go out and do them and get consistent results. The problem is all that old stuff is going to keep coming up.

If you’re prepared for it, if you know that it’s going to come up and you know how to deal with it when it does, then it won’t get in your way.

One-third of Speed Seduction deals with what you do from your skin inside. It deals with what you do with yourself, what you do 1 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

with your patterns of thinking, what you do with your physiology, what you do with the way you move energy through your body such that, first of all, the old stuff is no longer running. You’re no longer dwelling on mistakes and programming them back in.

One of the points that I made is when you dwell on something in your mind, in effect you’re rehearsing it. What you put into your brain with strong belief, strong emotion and a lot of repetition, you’re just programming them back into your brain.

There’s no mysterious reason why you’ve been stuck. It’s not some curse from God. It’s not that you are a thing called a loser. It’s simply been that you’ve been reprogramming your ineffective behavior back into your head over and over again, so of course you naturally repeat the ineffective behavior and then you get the same bad results, and then you draw the same stupid conclusions and you’re stuck in that loop.

For many of you, the key is this. You’ve been trying to get out of that loop by pouring more stuff into your head. The way to get out of that loop is to show you something better to do. People dwell on mistakes because they’re trying to find the answers, so they don’t repeat them.

The irony is the very way you’re trying to correct mistake guarantees it’s programmed back in. Dealing with women can be challenging. It should not be suffering or difficult. If it’s suffering or difficult, it’s because a few things are going on. 2 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

Number one, you’re programming your mistakes back in and you’re fighting yourself. Number two, your model for how women work is just inaccurate. If you think women are unisexual and that you have to get them to fall in love with you or that women only like to fuck men when they’re in love, your model is incorrect.

I want to give you a really accurate, powerful model for how women work – which is what we’re doing – but I also want to get you out of your own way.

The third piece, once we’ve done that, is teach you how to program in how you’d like to feel, how you’d like to act, how you’d like to sound to give you new choices in your behavior, to activate new circuitry in your mind – but we have to do it in the right order.

I do believe in positive programming and creative rehearsal. I believe in it passionately. However, it’s got to be done at the right time. If I don’t stop that rumination process, if you’re still dwelling on mistakes at the same time you’re doing positive programming, what do you think is going to happen? They’re going to fight each other.

Here’s why. Let’s say you have a really good day, you’re feeling good and you do your positive programming and then you go out and have a million repetitions of the old stuff and maybe 100 repetitions of the new stuff which do you think is going to have more power? The old stuff.

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I didn’t tell you to take many notes, but I did tell you to take notes on these two terms: cognitive momentum and emotional inertia. They’re crucial in understanding.

For those of you who are creative writers, your insight into your characters – who you’re writing – will be greatly enhanced if you think, “What are the patterns of cognitive momentum and emotional inertia that drive my character unconsciously without them even being aware of it?

Every human being engages in dwelling on things. It’s just training your mind to do it in the right way. Very few people know the proper and useful way to dwell on things. We dwell on things in a way that repeats the error.

What do I mean by cognitive momentum and emotional inertia? I mean that old pattern that you’ve been running in your head over and over again dwelling on mistakes or saying things like, “I just can’t get really good women,” or “I always have approach anxiety,” act like commands to your brain. They’re going to open and close access to levels of awareness. They’re going to open and close access to new choices and new behaviors. They’re going to open and close access to flows of feeling and energy. They’re going to open and close access to information about the other person. They act like major commands to open or close all those gates.

If you’re repeating mistakes and telling yourself, “I just can’t do it,” guess what? Your brain is going to listen, it’s going to shut down 4 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

access to the behaviors that you need, to the responses that you need, to the timing, to the beliefs, to the insights and the practices. It’s going to shut it all down and of course you’re going to stay stuck – not because you hate yourself, not because you have this thing called low self-esteem.

Someone came to me once and said, “I have low self-esteem.” I said, “Hang on. I’m going to go to the kitchen and get a quart.” I got a bunch of water and went to pour it on their head. They went, “No, that’s not what I meant.”

It’s not that people have confidence or self-esteem. It’s that people do processes that either serve them or don’t serve them. When you do a process that doesn’t serve you, it’s not because you’re a loser or you’re unlucky or the universe hates you. I was on a coaching call and I said, “Matthew, you think the universe fucking hates you. You think God hates you and it was all put here just so you can’t get pussy.” That’s what he thought without him having to verbalize it.

When these things come up, they come up simply because you’ve done so much of it. They’re going to come up because they have momentum. If you take a fan and you get it spinning and unplug it from the wall, does the fan stop immediately? No, because it has momentum.


We all know Newton’s laws of motion. An object in motion tends to remain in motion unless acted upon by a force. Objects at rest tend to remain at rest unless acted upon by an outside force.

It’s the same thing with our basic fundamental patterns of thought. These patterns that have been coming up are coming up because they have momentum and inertia. That’s all.

So what do you do when something has momentum and inertia? Well, you can try to push back against it, but pushing back against it does what? It creates friction. A lot of what you’ve been feeling in your world is not really depression, sadness or fear. It’s just neurological friction, because you’re pushing back against something that has so much momentum. Part of you is feeding it and part of you is pushing back against it. It becomes exhausting.

How many people found that the process of trying to get good with women has been exhausting emotionally and cognitively?

It’s not because women are that difficult. They can be, but it’s not why. It’s because you’ve been reprogramming stuff back in and then you’re pushing against it. You’re trying to push through it or push back against it. That’s exhausting.

If the only thing you do is stop that process, you’ll take a huge step towards really improving your life and attracting women. Here’s another key insight. When people are pushing back against their 6 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

own unconscious processes, they’re noisy energetically. They’re just generating a lot of noise.

Have you ever tried to tune into a radio station and you just couldn’t get it? Maybe you heard a little bit. There was a lot of squack and bleed over from other stations and a lot of white noise? It’s like that. I believe that humans really can pick up on vibe unconsciously.

If you’re pushing against your own unconscious patternings, you’re going to be noisy. That shows up as unattractive because it shows up as being ungrouned and uncalm and uncertain.

The other advantage when you clean the mind is not only are you no longer pushing against yourself, but you show up inherently subtly more attractive because you’re no longer doing something that most human beings just continue to do.

Listen to me, because this is a really important point. Someone wrote a vicious blog series about my London seminar. It said, “Ross wants attention. He always says look up here, look up here.” No. I want to see your expressions to see that you’re getting the point, so I know I don’t have to keep saying it.

When you show up quiet, you become subtly more attractive even before you get the social skills really polished and smooth. Even before you get the language skills really polished and smooth, you start showing up a lot more attractive because you’re quiet inside 7 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

and you don’t have that friction. That causes you to stand out, but at the same time, women can’t quite put their finger on what it is. They’re just attracted to it.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t work on the language skills or social skills. I’m saying you can show up attractive even before you have that.

Notice I’m not saying that you’re going to be some radiant smoothtalking guy who entertains the whole room. You can learn to do that. There is such a thing as – I call it – high wattage charisma.

I can walk into a room and take over the room and control the room, but it burns a lot of energy. Not everyone can do it, and it’s unnecessary. It’s completely unnecessary to be “high value”. What the fuck does that mean? Value is measured in what? To be the high-value guy who is the alpha male who controls the whole room? What the fuck is that? I’d rather slip in the back door while he’s entertaining the room and pull the girls up. He can be my distraction and entertainment.

Here’s the other beautiful part of this good news. It means that with your own personality, with your own sense of who you are, you can be attractive without having to imitate anybody else.

It improves how quick you learn because you’re no longer looking through the filter of your mistakes, it gets you out of your own way 8 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

so it makes your actions much smoother, it quiets down your energetic field, and finally it lets you calibrate to other people.

If you’re quiet in your mind and your energy is grounded and you’re no longer pushing against yourself, not only are you not noisy, but it means that you don’t have to observe other people through your own noise. That means you can pick up on the subtle cues.

Many of you have been this close to getting laid, but because you weren’t reading the signals, you missed it.

Christine, have you ever been in a situation with a guy where you just wanted that guy but he didn’t get it or see it? He just didn’t see the signals.

Christine:

Yes.

Ross:

Because he was probably chattering away in his head. It has many advantages, this ability to stop putting mistakes back into your mind and to learn to stop it. This is why I’m going to show you a method to do this that you must practice.

Part of my job as the teacher is to convey new understandings and drill you in new skills. Part of my job is to transform your consciousness as you’re sitting there listening. But the most important part is to give you practices that you have to do. You must do the practices because these things are contrary to how 9 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

most humans live their lives. If you do the practice, you get the skills and benefits. If you don’t do the practice, you won’t.

Matthew is an example of someone who’s doing the practices. I gave him meditation practices to do and breathing practices. Have they made a difference to you?

Matthew:

A huge difference.

Ross:

Talk about this. I want to motivate you guys a little bit more before I teach you this. Matthew, can you say what practices I gave you to do?

Matthew:

The one thing in the morning was the grounding. I breathe through here and here, and just really grounding.

Ross:

I gave you a breathing exercise to do.

Matthew:

Yeah, for like 10 minutes. Then I do a 20 minute where I sit in the lotus position. I do the fire breath first, and then I do the 20-minute sitting in meditation without any expectations or anything. That’s what slowed everything down. I was able to command and just have total equanimity without thinking or tripping out. It just helped me with everything.

Ross:

You also used to be someone who dwelled on mistakes and failure. 10 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

Matthew:

That’s what I was running constantly in my head.

Ross:

How did we get you to stop doing that?

Matthew:

It was the conscious language.

Ross:

So you no longer dwell on your mistakes?

Matthew:

No. But now I catch them when it does come up. You were saying the million with the hundred thing.

Ross:

I gave him something I’m going to give you guys to do. I was rough on Matthew. I knew I had to be, because Matthew came to me with a lot of self-pity. He was running a lot of self-pity and self-pity is the worst thing you can do, because self-pity is taking pain and piling on misery and story and drama. I gave him an assignment that whenever he started to tell himself things about how limited he was, he had to stop and change how he language it. We’re going to show you that. That made a tremendous difference for you, didn’t it?

Matthew:

Yeah, it did. Every time I would start speaking in that way, you would say, “Shut up, stop, and say up until recently I’ve been experiencing frustration, experience this, but now I choose to take it wherever I want to take it.” I thought that was the stupidest thing in the world.


Ross:

Didn’t you think I was full of shit and stupid?

Matthew:

Yeah, I did, until I started writing down

Ross:

Some of what I’m going to teach you is going to seem totally obvious. You’re already doing it; no problem. Some of it may seem, “That’s a little different, but I’m going to give it a shot.” Where you’re really going to find leverage is the stuff that looks like stupid-ass, gay, new age, fucked up, idiotic, insane stuff. But ironically, that’s the stuff that has the leverage to change you because it is so different from what you’re used to.

Matthew:

I started drilling my thoughts and when my thoughts would pop up, I’d see a really hot girl or something and I’d have the feelings and I’d write it down. Usually every thought was negative or from the past and I had to change that thinking.

It still pops up a little bit, but now I catch it a lot quicker. It’s lost the cognitive momentum, the wheel that’s been turning a lot more smoothly in my life. The conscious language is huge and the grounding exercises have helped me. Everything just comes together.

Ross:

We’re going to get to some practical stuff in a minute, but I want you to hear it so you understand where it’s going. When people come to me for change work or private coaching, I know there are three major changes in their orientation I have to do. 12 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

The first thing I have to do is train them to look for what’s working. I need to train them and demand that the first thing they tell me is anything they have done that’s worked, no matter how small, because usually in this area of life guys have a habit of only saying the failure.

I tell this story many times and it bears repeating. It’s about a guy who used my stuff when he went into a club. Have you ever seen a girl who’s so hot guys do U turns? They get this close, and then they deflect and walk away. She was just shooting everyone done.

He went into state. He walked up to her and I think he said something like, “I don’t know what you’re doing to keep all the guys away, but it’s not working on me, so I thought I’d give you a chance to meet me. My name is so-and-so.” Within 20 minutes, they were making out like crazy. This guy felt like a God. This is a guy who had not gotten laid in two or three years, and suddenly the hottest girl in the club is macking on him and grinding on his crotch. All the guys were looking at him like, “Who the fuck is this dude?”

He gets her phone number, goes home and figures, “I’m going to wait three days. I’m going to make this bitch wait,” because she’s not used to it. Three days later, he goes to grab the phone and call her and it’s not there. Where is it? He’s looking all around and trashes his condo. Fuck. It’s trash day tomorrow. He must’ve thrown it in the dumpster out back.


He dives into the dumpster behind the condo building. He said he was down there 90 minutes going through dirty diapers, cat litter, rotting food and all sorts of stuff. 90 minutes later, he comes up empty-handed.

He said to me, “Ross, I’ve been depressed for six weeks. I can’t even talk to a girl. I’m just a failure.”

It occurs to me that he had to hypnotically hallucinate away everything he did right. He had to forget about every bit of skill he did to get that girl making out with him. He had trained himself to look through the eyes of defeat, failure, frustration, and pain.

One of the orientations I teach guys to do is to, first and foremost, notice anything that’s working no matter how small. The second orientation I give guys is orienting themselves into their body so they know what it’s like to be in their body and feel grounded through their feet. It’s very important.

The third orientation I give guys is an action orientation, meaning when you have a question about whether something is going to work, you don’t roll around in your head. You go out to the world and do multiple repeat experiments. You let the world and your actions in the world teach you what actually works.

If you can make those three shifts, if you can shift into being in your body instead of just floating around, if you can shift to noticing what 14 Speed Seduction® Introductory Course "Inner Game Basics, Part 1" Transcript Copyright  1988-present, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Website – http://www.seduction.com

works, and finally if you can shift into having an action orientation – that you get your answers through actions in the world – and combine that with a quiet mind that’s no longer fighting yourself, everything will fall into place. Everything else that I teach you will come so much faster and so much stronger.


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