5D COMPASSION
'5DC' Note from the author: I'm honored that you're here, willing to learn this from me. If you bought something called “The Girlfriend Training Program” or any product from a website called ideaGasms, it's because you are lacking in Compassion for yourself, for women, and for the world. You have come to ideaGasms because you're getting ready (hopefully) to open the Heart Chakra. Literally all of your “lower” emotions such as pride, anxiety, fear of rejection, confusion about how to handle yourself around women, etc. all boil down to having a lack of Compassion. Rather than just reading this ebook and going, “Now I have Compassion!” I suggest taking time out on a regular basis to use this 5DC formula until all of your lower emotions have been transcended. You will then feel as I do – totally comfortable with women. The best things in life are simple, and so is this 5DC formula. Approximately 0.4% of the current world population have tr ue Compassion in their consciousness. Scary! Until the Heart is open and Compassion settles into one's consciousness, the world of dating and relationships is literally Hell. If you need some extra help, come join us o n the support forums. You will find hundreds of very friendly and supportive people from all over the world who have gone thorough this training with me. Many Blessings on your Inner Journey. Stephane Hemon ideaGasms.net
Most people are too hard on themselves, and worse, they try to motivate themselves with anger, guilt, and other bad feelings. In this section, I want to talk to you about having REAL COMPASSION for yourself and others. Once you have real compassion for yourself, only then can you have real compassion for others. Now, what is compassion, and how do we experience more of it?
Compassion is one of the best things we can do for our Inner Game; it is a deep honoring and respect for the Self, for other people, and for the world. If you look up compassion in the dictionary, you’ll get descriptions of what I like to call “3D Compassion”. Let’s take a look: com·pas·sion P Pronunciation Key (k m-p sh n) n.
Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it. See Synonyms at pity. compassion n 1: a deep awareness of and sympathy for another's suffering [syn: compassionateness] 2: the humane quality of understanding the suffering of others and wanting to do something about it [syn: pity]
You see what I mean? There is nothing in there about unconditional love, respect, and honor for the path that people are choosing; it’s all about having PITY for people and feeling sorry for them. It’s actually pretty arrogant when you think about it, because feeling sorry for someone presupposes that you are superior to them, that you have “higher value” than they do. It’s like when you look at the path someone has chosen and you go, “That poor sucker, I feel sorry for them, what a loser.” It has nothing to do with REAL compassion, the kind of compassion that enlightened masters like Jesus or Buddha were able to feel congruently within their hearts. I may be more self-aware than someone, but in no way does that make me a better person or a better soul. Whether you believe that Jesus was fiction or non-fiction, I think it’s safe to say that the guy had one of the deepest levels of compassion that has ever been written about. This was a guy who was beaten, tortured, nailed to the cross and left to die. And what did he actually SAY when he was up on that cross, bleeding to death? He said, “Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.” Talk about compassion! How do you think he was able to have such a deep compassion, even under such horrific circumstances? My guess is that Jesus understood things on a much deeper level. Jesus had a much bigger picture in mind than the rest of us do, and while I can only speculate that his Heart Chakra was probably WIDE OPEN, in this section I’m going to teach you the formula for what I call 5D, or the Enlightened Master level of Compassion.
It is actually quite simple. Now, before we start, I’d like you to think of someone that you have trouble honoring. It can be a friend who stole from you, a father who beat you, an ex-partner who cheated on you - it doesn’t matter who the person is or what the actual injustice was. You could even choose to use this formula on yourself… Just for now, try to pick a more general, and not so SERIOUS issue to work with, especially if you are just learning this for the first time. Pick someone that you have difficulty honoring and having compassion for. I’m going to assume that you have someone in mind. Since this is a program on relationships, the example I will use for this is someone who cheated on me. So we’re going to use BETRAYAL as the example, and see if we can turn that into 5D compassion, honor, and unconditional love. Let’s go to step one. Step One – Identify the Conflict So step one is quite easy. You need to define exactly what the conflict, or injustice, or thing that you’re upset about really is. So in this case, the example is “cheating” or “betrayal”. Step Two – Roles – How did you invite this into your life? You need to identify the ROLES that you BOTH played in this. I’m not condoning the betrayal, but it’s important to take response-ability for the part that you played in this. How did you invite this betrayal into your life? I’ll give you a hint, if you really were cheated on. You invited this cheating into your life because you actively ignored several warning signs. What do I mean by warning signs? Well, maybe you accepted flirting with other people to happen, maybe you even flirted with other people yourself. Maybe you put up with too much “crap” – in other words, maybe you didn’t put your foot down and assert yourself appropriately. Perhaps you allowed your lover to frequently show up late, or flake on you, argue with you, etc. Maybe you didn’t deal with issues as they came up, and perhaps you both swept things under the carpet. You know, after a while these things start piling up… So take a look at the role that you BOTH played in this, and please pay special attention to the role that YOU played. Now take a moment and view the scenes from THE OTHER PERSONS EYES. This is called empathy. How do you think THEY perceive these events? Take a
moment to actually step into their body and feel what it’s like to walk a mile in their shoes. Look at the conflict from both sides, and then look at it from a distance. View the scenes as if they were happening on a TV screen. This is called objectivity. So keep looking at the events, the conflicts, and the issues from the perspectives: 1- See the events through your own eyes 2- See the events from the other person’s eyes 3- See the events from the outside observer perspective Step Three – Practical Lessons What are the practical lessons that you need to learn from this experience? Because if you don’t take the time to figure out what you can learn from this, you will eventually experience the same conflicts again and again until you finally learn what needs to be learned. In the context of getting cheated on, what could you have done instead of, say, sweeping relationship problems under the carpet? What will you do differently next time? Step Four – The World is Your Mirror “The world is your mirror” is one of the toughest concepts to grasp, because most people do not take response-ability for themselves and their reality. Most people are content to blame others and to feel like victims. So this step is going to require more self-honesty than most human being are prepared to allow... What aspects of yourself are being reflected back to you? For example, if you were cheated on and have had difficulty having compassion for this person, you need to take a look at the parts of YOURSELF that you are judging. Would YOU cheat under ANY circumstance? Now is the time to be VERY honest with yourself and to be the Non-Judgmental Observer. Another example would be if someone lied to you or stole from you. Have YOU ever lied and/or stolen something before? Let’s say someone RAPED you. That’s a tougher one to get over. Most rape victims have trouble feeling compassion for the one who raped them. But what aspect of yourself is this person showing you, what are they telling you about yourself? Have you ever been sexually abusive? Did you know that ALL abuse is actually sexual abuse? Have you ever yelled at someone you love? If you’ve NEVER, ever been abusive towards someone, I’d be very surprised and say that
you’re probably in denial. What else could your abuser be mirroring back to you? Could it be that you don’t take care of yourself as much as you should? Or perhaps you need to learn to trust your intuition more? Or perhaps you have told yourself repeatedly that you are weak. Have you ever behaved like a doormat with the people in your life? Or maybe you just needed to learn that walking by yourself in a dark alley at 4AM probably isn’t the safest way to live? Or maybe getting drunk and teasing guys that you’re not even interested in to begin with isn’t the wisest thing to do? Again, I’m not condoning the behavior, but you need to be honest with yourself and learn from this experience. Maybe what they are mirroring back to you is that your self-worth is really low. No need to BLAME yourself, just take response-ability for the part you played in this. Like I said, “The world is your mirror” is one of the toughest lessons for people to grasp, but once you get it, your inner game will start to become extremely solid. That said, the world isn’t necessarily always your mirror. All generalizations break down eventually, and so does this one. For example, someone might break into my house and steal from me. That doesn’t make me a thief , but I still need to look at the role that I played. Perhaps I should have taken better precautions to secure my home. Perhaps this is some karma that's been 'a long time comin'. When a person truly begins to take response-ability for creating their own reality, the world is no longer their mirror. They've literally hit the first level of Enlightenment. Most of us aren't there yet, so let's continue... To give an example that pertains to relationships, let’s say that my partner decides to go out and cheat on me. Well, I am truly a loyal lover. I don’t cheat. If I really want to make sure that I didn’t indirectly invite the betrayal, I will stop and take a look at my Chakras. Chakra #1 teaches us to honor our body; Chakra #2 releases us from Ego and the illusion of inadequacy and neediness; Chakra #3 teaches us to actively appreciate ourselves and to “not take crap” from people; Chakra #4 teaches us that we are truly loved and to accept ourselves fully as we are; Chakra #5 teaches us to communicate our truth and to give service to others; Chakra #6 teaches us to take response-ability and to release past experiences which no longer serve us (living in the Now Moment); and Chakra #7 teaches us that We Are God Also. Looking back at the relationship with the one who cheated on me, can I see where I might have violated any of those Universal Laws? Was I acting needy? Did I give away my power? Did I accept myself fully and allow myself to feel loved? Did I speak my truth at all times? If the answer is yes, then I know that I didn’t indirectly contribute to the cheating. I now know for certain that “It’s not about me”.
Step Five – Releasing Blame Can you now release this person from blame? This one is easy when you understand that you are not a “victim”. On the contrary, it is wise to view yourself as an active participant in a contract and lesson that you helped set up. Don’t just see the person - look at the SOUL. There is a Soul inside that body and it is here, just like you are, learning the tough lessons of love and life. If you ever see this person again, will you be able to be KIND to them? This may or may not be desirable. If you were raped, it’s probably wise to just avoid this person altogether. But ask yourself the question anyway. Could you be kind to this person from a distance? Can you be kind to them in your mind? HOW will you be kind to them? WHEN will you be kind to them? (Caution: In most cases, don’t bother trying to take them through this formula. Most people do not understand taking response-ability and true compassion, and will usually become very defensive. Teach this at your own risk.) You should be feeling a surge of compassion and gratitude for the other person involved in the conflict/contract. You should now be viewing this experience as a GIFT. If not, then go back through the steps and start over. Sometimes it takes a few attempts before we finally get to the lesson(s) we are working on. Especially Step Four requires brutal self-honesty. If you are not getting the lessons that you need, simply rake the feelings out of your body, Bubble the whole thing and trust the Universe to send you the appropriate people, situations and contexts that will help you increase your awareness. When has it ever let you down? Now I’m going to give you an example of a time when I used this process in my own life. My girlfriend and I were assaulted and mugged a few years ago, and felt quite 'victimized'. They circled around us, they held me down, they pushed my girlfriend to the ground, and they smashed my cell phone to pieces. Then they stole our money. To say the least, we weren’t feeling very much “compassion” for them… What happened was they saw us in a Montreal newspaper and assumed that we would be easy targets with a lot of cash. Step One – Identify the conflict That one was easy! They physically harmed us; they broke our cell phone; they stole our money. Step Two – Roles – How did we invite this into our lives? Well, going on TV, Radio and newspapers talking about picking up chicks,
making them squirt, and creating relationships with 2-3 women and one man is pretty damn controversial. What I teach is bound to upset quite a few people, so I suppose that getting assaulted occasionally simply goes with the territory. Is it worth it? Hell yeah! We were assaulted as we left a bar at 3AM. I think it goes without saying that this is risky behavior. Next… empathy. We stepped into their bodies and saw the world through their eyes. We quickly became aware of their drug and alcohol addictions. We felt their low self-esteem. We felt their stress and fear levels, and they were extremely high. We also stepped into the Observer Role. This attack wasn’t PERSONAL; they were simply desperate for drug money. They also had a desperate need to feel strong and in control. It’s because they feel so out of control, so they use violence to try to make up for it. In order to deepen our understanding of these people and what was truly going on for them, we also took the time to float into their bodies and do our human best to see the world through their eyes. We could feel the desperation, the fear, and addiction, and desire, wantingness, hunger... So once we had an idea of their inner reality, Compassion started to set in. By the way... Some people ask me how I'm able to be so intuitive about women, why am I able to answer their seminar and newsletter questions without really needing to think. It's because I've spent a thousand hours in deep meditation MERGING with women, to understand how they feel about things and see the world through their eyes. Step Three – Practical Lessons What are the practical lessons that we needed to learn from this? What comes to mind first is simply taking a cab home when it’s 3AM is probably a better idea than walking home or taking the bus at 3AM which obviously isn’t very safe. Step Four – The World is Our Mirror What are these “thugs” reflecting back to us? Well, they have no respect for us, and we didn’t respect ourselves by walking home from a bar at 3AM. We also looked at why we stayed at a bar this late to begin with. It’s not the healthiest choice. They were very aggressive with us. Is there a reflection there also? When I take a good, honest look at our lives, we are not aggressive people. Are we aggressive towards OURSELVES? So we looked at self-aggression and realized that
sometimes we become angry with the Self. So this gave us an opportunity to see that and to decide to have more compassion for ourselves instead. They smashed my cell phone. What could this mean? Well, I bought the cell phone and I hardly ever use it. It’s costing me MUCH more money than it is actually worth. As soon as my contract ends, I’ll get rid of it! They stole our money. Do we steal money from other people? No… do we “steal” money from OURSELVES? So we looked at our budget, and started to become more aware of ways we were wasting our own money. Step Five – Releasing Blame At this point, Step Five wasn’t even needed. Releasing them from blame and feeling compassion for them was easy. We no longer felt like “victims” anymore. We now saw that what they had done was truly a gift because it helped us to increase our awareness about ourselves. Thanks for reading. Stephane Hemon ideaGasms.net
