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I BELIEVE
e r r o f e r e T h I AM
How to Delibe Deliberately rately Live Your Lie by by Programming Progr amming Your Mind or Succ Success, ess, Happiness, Love, and Fulfllment
Claire Claire McGee McGee, M.Msc
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Table of Contents Inroducion Te Keys First Key: Will Power to Achieve Why Is Will Power an Important Key? Second Key: Conscious Consciou s Decision to Take Intended Action Why Is Conscious Decision to Take Action an Important Key? Third Key: Subconscious Belie in the Outcome Why Is the Sub-Conscious Belie in the Outcome an Important Key?
We Are Energ Energyy “I old You So” Red Light or Green Light: You Choose Become Aware o Your Thoughts
Te Mirror The Mirror An Exercise or Being Inwardly Aware Check-In: An Exercise inSel-Awareness
Posiive Tinking FollowFollow-Trough Trough Mehod See the Good in You &You &You See the Good in Others
We Are Mag Magnes nes Stew or Steak: Creating By Deault Deliberately Deliberatel y “Set the Stage” or Your Day Planting the Seed: The Law o Gestation Go Shopping in Your Mind Focus on What You Do Want!
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Claire Bridging he Gap Te Pros & Cons Seting in Moion Make the Commitment: Dene Values or Expecting Expectin g Results Make the Decision: Decision : Taking Yes or the Answer
Brain Filering
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alkin alking g o Ourse Ourselves lves Te Words We Use
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The Word List Does Continue Cont inue… …
Posiive Communicaion An Exercise in Positive Communication Communicat ion Empowering Others to Take Action: The He Said, She Said Scenario
Habiual Beings Which One Is the Telephone Pad? We Live Up to the Expectations Expectation s We Place on Ourselves Build the Foundation for Your Success Positive Statements, Conscious Consciou s Reminder Arm Your Belie in Your Ability to Achieve Armation Practice
Cach and Release Cach Te Elevaor Mediaion Let Your Emotions Be Your Guide
Your Goals Your Life’s Mission Statement
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t one time in my lie, I had just about everything a woman could want. want. I had a loving husband whom I loved very much. I had two beautiul children who doted on me as much as I doted on them. My house was ull o un and laughter and love and was in a constant state o hustle and bustle. I was also successul in business and continually advanced within the company I worked or. I thoroughly enjoyed what I was doing and I was very good at it. I started out as an Executive Assistant Assi stant and worked my way up to a Market Analyst. The company was impressed with my perormance and I gained a great deal o respect rom my employer. Lie, in a word, was awesome. Then I became very sick. When I was twenty-eight, I was diagnosed dia gnosed with a rare hereditary and debilitating muscle disorder — Congenital Fiber Type Disproportion Myopathy. Ever have a cramp in your toe or a “Charlie horse” in your cal muscle? That’s what I dealt with on a daily basis — a hundredold. hundredold. The spasms and cramps aected my entire body. I was unable to smile without my ace seizing up. I was unable to go or walks or play with my kids without being in severe pain.
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When I was twenty-nine I had an episode where a muscle spasm cinched the main artery on the let side o my neck, blocking the blood fow to my brain. I was rushed to the hospital by ambulance with “stroke-like” symptoms. I ended up being in the hospital or a week. When I let, I had to walk with a cane. I was unable to work anymore. I was unable to play with my kids. I was unable to be a wie to my husband. My lie was gone. Every day I moved with care because I was scared. I didn’t know k now when the next attack was going goi ng to hit me. I was nervous, anxious, and became increasingly sad. Every thought I had was ocused on the act that I was sick and I had lost everything. The more I ocused on the illness, the more I suered physically, mentally, and emotionally. I elt like a terrible mother because I was unable to play with my children. I elt I was a terrible wie because I couldn’t lit a nger to help around the house or enjoy my husband’s company. I hated mysel. I contemplated the reasons or my existence. I hated being sick. I hated being useless. I hated simply existing instead o living. I ell into a deep depression. Frankly, the only things that kept me alive were my children and the act that they needed a mother. I think that’s what caused me to snap. I wanted to be a good mother to my children, not the huddled mass on the couch. “No more!” I said. I had hit rock bottom. I was sick and tired o being sick and tired. I decided to do something about it. I took a very hard look at mysel and my lie and I realized all the sel-damaging thoughts I was having that were aecting mysel and all who came in contact with me.
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I was a mess — and I caused it! I decided to be brubru tally honest with mysel and nd out what got me to where I was, what was causing me to stay there, and what I was going to do to change it. While my illness took just about everything away rom me, one thing it did give me was the opportunity to do something that I had always wanted to do. Even when things were great, I always wanted to go back to school and get ge t my Masters degree. So I did. I gured I was home anyway, I might as well do something I enjoy. Within our years I earned my Masters degree in Metaphysics. This accomplishment was a huge one or me because it was a dream I had all my lie. It was a dream come true and I was the one who made the dream a reality! Whilst I was in school, I came to understand the act that our souls and physical selves share a relationship — one that is crucial i a person is to ully develop sel-acceptance, appreciation, love, and courage and move orward positively in lie. I began doing exercises that began the healing process. In school they reerred ree rred to these exercises exercises as “Spiri“Spiri tual Mind Treatments.” Because o these exercises, I came to understand that all this time — my entire lie — I was repeating repeating habits; I was “living” my lie on a sort o autopilot that was guided by belies that were inculcated in me throughout my lie. Growing up, I had dicult experiences. Those dicult experiences translated translat ed into habits I created in my adult years. The habits I am reerring to were: shame due to what happened to me as a child; guilt or treating people poorly; anger or my peers isolating me; sadness because I had never made riends on my own; doubt in my ability to succeed; low sel-esteem; an undeniable eeling o being unullled; and the iron-clad
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belie that lie was meant to be hard. I took all these emotions and ears and I dug a hole as deep as I could and covered the hole with a steel door and locked it. I then placed a cinder block on top. I thought i I could just bury them deep enough I could orget them. When this realization hit me, I began the process o developing my own personal exercises to remove the erroneous belies I had. I also endeavored to change the way I lived. I wanted to live consciously and volitionally rather than merely sleepwalking and responding to stimuli like some sort o lab rat. I realized that the more I ocused on being sick, the more requent the attacks. So I decided to concentrate on being well. That was the beginning. Every day I visualized all the things I enjoyed doing when I was well. In my mind I could see me at the park with my girls. I saw mysel in a business suit again and saw mysel contributing to society and to my home. This brought me pleasure, so I kept picturing being happy and healthy in my mind. I started to take small steps toward being well. I started by simply standing or as long as I could and every day I would try to stand or just a little bit longer. Eventually, I went or daily walks down the street. It was very painul; when I nished, I said to mysel “Good job, Claire, you walked today.” Ater a while, I was able to walk around the block. While it was still very painul, I kept doing it. When I would nish a walk, I would say “Congratulations, “Congratulati ons, Claire, you made it arther today then you did yesterday.” It was at this time when I started to talk to mysel. I realized the types o things I would think and say that were damaging and decided to be nice to mysel. I would say things like “Your body is doing its job and healing itsel,” or “You are moving orward and getting
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healthier and healthier by the day.” Over time, I began to notice changes. I was able to walk urther — practically normally compared to the invalid I had become! — and I was having fewer attacks. The ewer attacks and less pain I was having gave me strength and excitement, because what I was doing was working! One o the biggest accomplishments I had in my lie was the day I noticed I was going about my day with minimal medications. The narcotics I was taking “as needed” became obsolete and the muscle relaxants I was taking every couple o hours became once a day instead. It was this realization that tha t gave me the courage to call the disability company I was with and tell them I didn’t need them anymore. I knew that I had to completely get my lie back together. I was capable and healthy enough to move orward, so I did. I walked away rom disability and I started my own consulting company. I now lead a highly proessional and uniquely qualied team o motivational teachers who apply the techniques I learned and developed on a daily basis with corporations, educational entities and individuals all over the world. I look back on my lie and I am thankul or all that I have experienced. It was these experiences that got me to where I am now, writing this book and talking to you. As human beings, we live in our own sel-made reality. This reality is made up o habits which we have instilled in our minds through many years o sel programming. These habits also make up our belie system and cause us to experience the same patterns over and over again in our daily lives. Whatever is our reality is our reality. This reality may dier rom someone else’s, which is okay. We are still valid because our way o lie, our
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belies, our decisions, our actions, and our experiences, cause us to live in and experience a very real personal and individualized reality. Another person may attempt to alter our perception o what our reality is. This is a valiant eort e ort on the other person’s part and, at the same time, oten wasteul. It is up to us to alter our reality and make it whatever we want it to be. It is i s up to us to realize what habits are controlling controlling our lie and change them, i the purpose they are serving is sel-destructive. sel-destructive. This book is made to do just that. In the pages o this book, we will visit the reasons or the habits we have created throughout our many years o existence and experience. We will realize what habits we have developed that are sel-destructive and what habits we have that help to advance our lie. Through the many exercises in this book, you will eliminate and enhance habits through a process o selrefection and realization. You You will also al so delve into what wh at the “Law o Attraction” is all about and what you can do to master your own success with this tool. Because we are habitual beings, the exercises in this book are presented in such a way that you can do each exercise exercise as they are a re laid out in the book boo k on a daily basis, until such time as it orms a new habit When you are perorming the exercise, walk away rom the book until you are ready to move to the next one. Remember Remember,, you are creating creati ng new habits habi ts and theret hereore need to give each exercise time and dedication in order or them to work and or you to see the benets they provide. I wrote this book to share with others. We all deserve happiness. We all deserve to accomplish what we set out to do. We all deserve to eel good and love ourselves because it is our birth-right to do so. I watch people go about their day and eel the pain they have
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inside. I can see the cinder block they placed on this pain and want so much to lit it up or them. I wrote this book because it makes my heart sing when I see someone have a genuine smile on their ace rom a sense o being proud o who they are and what they have accomplished. I would love to see you happy. I would love to see that you know the true value you possess and the endless possibilities that lie beore beore you. The world is an oyster that holds many riches — riches every single person on this earth can benet rom. You deserve to eel ullled. So much so, that when you are eighty years old you can look back on your lie and say “I am proud o who I am, what I have accomplished, and am grateul or all my lie’s experiences and the love I am blessed to have shared.” It is or this reason I wrote this book. As much as I would like the world to benet rom the pages, I am truly grateul or having the inner awareness awareness and knowledge to write the material. I one person can benet rom it, then I have succeeded. Claire McGee, M.Msc April, Apr il, 2011 2011
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ou hold three very valuable keys that can open doors to endless possibilities — or lock doors and keep you stuck where you are. These three keys have molded you into who you are today and they will continue to shape you into who you will become. The method and exercises described in this book will enable you to take advantage o these three precious preciou s keys so that you can create the lie o your choosing . One important thing or you to know is this: Whether you consciously and volitionally choose to use these keys matters not; either way, they will infuence — i not determine — your lie. The point is that you can choose to use them to the ends o your choice.
First Key: Will Power to Achieve
We’ve all experienced a motivational speaker sp eaker at some point in our lives or listened to an individual whom we hold in high regard. Maybe a riend who tells us that “you can do it!” I so, then you can recognize Will Power . Will power is the eeling we have inside that gives us excitement, ex citement, courage, cou rage, and energy. It causes a boost boos t — or a drive — to take action on a decision we have made.
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For example, example, a senior position posit ion becomes available avail able at work. This is a job that interests you, yet you hold some reservation as to whether or not you are suitable or it. Colleagues and amily encourage you, telling you that you can do it. They remind you o all the assets you bring to the table. Ater listening to and taking in what these trusted people said to you, you eel motivated to take action. This starts your y our mind saying, sayi ng, “Yes, “Yes, I can do this! What do I have to lose? It’s worth a shot.” At that moment, your mind has decided to apply or the senior position. So you do. There are many examples o igniting will power. Parents encourage their children to succeed at whatever they set their mind on. Teachers encourage their students by giving incentives and positive words to keep the children motivated. Companies keep employees motivated through bonuses or eedback or a job well done. All these instances send a message to our mind sparking a re within us to achieve. This “re” is our will power. Once our will power is ignited, we make a decision to take action.
Why Is Will Power an Important Key?
Without will power, we may lack the drive and am bition to take action toward a goal we wish to obtain. Without will power to get us started, we may become complacent or stagnant — our lives ollow the same disconnected emotions day in Tere is energy in and day out. he human mind Without the will power, upon which he habi decision making becomes dipaterns of weakness cult. We may miss the deador success is formed. line or the job opportunity ~ Anonymous because we couldn’t make a
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condent decision. When we tap into and turn on our will power (by eeding ourselves positive sel-talk), we have basically lit the re within us, sparking our conscious decision to take action. This then begins the process o creating a sequence o o events that move us toward a goal we have set out to achieve.
Second Key: Conscious Decision to Take Intended Action
Conscious Decision to Take Take Action is literally just that: You made a decision and are now taking the action to achieve what you set out to do. Deciding to apply or the senior position is a conscious decision. Along with the decision, you begin to give yoursel motivating messages through sel-talk such as, “I can do this” or “Take the chance” or “I have the skills and I’m going to succeed.” You are constantly talking to yoursel mentally. This chatter is coming rom conscious brain activity. Additiona Additionally, lly, with each thought you send to your brain, an emotion is triggered. This emotion is ruled by your sub-conscious brain activity and is very powerul when sending messages mes sages to others as well as yoursel. yourse l. (We (We will be discussing the ruler o our emotions, the sub-conscious, later in this book.) With each thought you present to yoursel, an action and emotion follows. For For example, example, your body grumbles grumble s a wee bit and suddenly you think to yoursel, “I’m getting hungry.” From that you make a decision on when to go and eat and what you are going to eat. Even i it was not time or breakast, lunch, or dinner, you would look at the clock and see the time passing more slowly because you made a decision to be hungry. Your actions are a re now o looking orward to the meal you are craving.
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Why Is Conscious Decision to Take Action an Important Key?
Conscious Decision to Take Action and the thought we have sent to our brain creates one o action to satisy the decision made. In every moment o every day we are consciously making a decision to take the next action. We are still making a conscious decision when we are doing nothing at all! Our decision is to do noth ing and our action is not to act. Every conscious thought we have and every conscious word word we say creates an action and reaction rom our being.
Third Key: Subconscious Belief in the Outcome
Our subconscious subconsciou s brain is very strong at holding ast to experience experiencess it recognizes as truth. All experiences we have encountered in the past are stored in our mind at a subconscious level, causing “natural reactions” rom our being when a similar occurrence comes into existence later on. When our subconscious recognizes an experience, it draws upon previous results, causing causi ng our reaction to be one rom the past rather than what may or may not be happening in the present. This steadast approach our brain has been trained to to do reacts to both positive and negative in the same manner. When we have had dicult experiences rom our past, it is best to approach the present situation knowing our subconscious is calculating what it recognizes to be truth rom a previous experience. I our subconscious recognizes this current experience as being negative, our reaction is one o protection causing us to take a stance o ght or fight. I our subconscious recognizes the experience as positive, we embrace this new experience experience with the same outlook.
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Our subconscious mind Conscious mind has a job to protect us when is reasoning will. we are hurt and encourage us Subconscious mind when we are happy. Thereor The reore, e, is insincive desire, every experience is processed he resul of pas by the subconscious, which reasoning will. causes us to naturally react. These reactions are based on ~ Charles F. Haanel what the subconscious mind has calculated rom previous experiences.
Why Is the Sub-Conscious Belief in the Outcome an Important Key?
No matter how much conscious eort we make to convince ourselves o something, or what actions we attempt to take toward our goals, i our sub-conscious does not recognize it as truth based base d on a previous experience, it retaliates, creating an internal battle. The battle between our subconscious mind and our conscious thoughts can and does oten negate all our eorts to achieve a goal. Further to this, our will power is nite and after a signicant amount o time struggling with this internal battle, we tire and lose ocus and give up on our dreams and desires. Our subconscious believes. We make decisions based on those belies. Those decisions cause us to take action. The action causes us to experience. The experience reinorces our belie. Our belie thereore gives us our outcome. Attraction. This is natural law and is the crux to the Law o Attraction
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hought is energy, both consciously and sub-consciously. Thereore, what we think is being projected to our environment and is being answered and refected back to us. When we are around a person who is angry or sad, we eel their emotion. The environment we are in eels tense and gives rise ri se to the saying “W “ We can cut this tension tens ion with a knie.” People oten reer to another person’s energy as their “vibes.” We We are either getting a “good “g ood vibe” or a “bad vibe” vibe ” rom another person. In the instance o someone producing energy based base d out o anger ange r, the vibe another an other person in the same environment is receiving is associated as “negative.” tive.” This unseen negative impact causes the other person to move away or withdraw rom the angry person. The angry person is now repelling other individuals occupying the same space. This is the same eect when individuals are around a person or people who are motivated, enthusiastic, and productive; the energy in the environment is pleasing and healthy. Most people eel comortable in an environment such as this and continue to interact there. In this instance, the individuals are drawn to other individuindivid uals who are expressing positive vibrations and emotions
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through energy. Whichever person you are — angry or happy, glum or enthusiastic, dull or motivated — you are repelling those who are in an opposite rame o mind and attracting others who are o the same mind. Notice in your daily environment individuals who “fock” together toge ther.. In the lunch room at work or instance, ins tance, these individuals are bickering about work production, company policies, policies, or other individuals in the company. This conversation seems to occur every time these individuals get together because people tend to like conversations that uel strong emotions and convictions. I during one particular lunch an individual is eeling rustrated about the conversation that keeps replaying over and over again and he has a dierent perspective and would like to change the subject or oer solutions, the majority o participants will preer to discuss the issues at work with little resolve. Ater lunch, this rustrated individual eels agitated and has lost the desire to have lunch with these individuals in uture. The next time this group o colleagues gets together, the individual who thinks dierently decides not to attend, ultimately avoiding interaction with the group. We attract like minded individuals. For this reason we surround ourselves in conversations, people, and circumstances that keep our belies uelled. I the col lective environment at work lacks co-operation or is continually uelled by problems with no resolve, individuals who are proactive tend to lose interest in their employment at the company. Oten these individuals, ater a certain amount o time trying to cope with the environment, become ill and go on sick benets or seek employment elsewhere. This same rule applies to a very proactive company that recognizes the value employees bring to the growth o the company. Individuals Individual s who are unproducunproduc-
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tive or eel a lack in some way, such as low sel-esteem or ear ailing the expectations o the company, also tend to leave the company one way or another. Generally speaking, and it is unortunate to say, the rst scenario o the proactive employee leaving the company tends to be most common. Emotions are contagious and cause others to react accordingly. Have you ever noticed when you are in a oul mood at home that your amily tends te nds to be upset or rustrated too? This happens to me oten and I always think to mysel, “Can’t I be miserable by mysel? Why does everyone else have to be in a bad mood, too?” I am aecting my loved ones and they are eeling my emotions. It is so strong at times that they believe the emotions they are eeling are theirs and yet are intelligent to know that I am the one causing it. Like yawning is contagious, so are emotions. Our emotions are triggered by our thoughts at a conscious level and are ruled by our sub-conscious belies in the experience. Thereore, whatever we are thinking, we are eeling; and whatever we are eeling, we are sending out signals in the th e orm o energy to others around us. We either attract others who may assist us in advancing our lives or repelling them and making it more dicult to achieve our goals. Either way, we are attracting “like-minded” individuals who keep us in a circle o negative or positive experiences. To determine the type o individual you are attracting, pay attention attentio n to the conversations you are involved in. These conversations can act as a radar giving you the awareness o the types o circumstances you are attracting in your lie. I at any time the conversations are opposed to your outlook, switch the ocus by changing the conversation. I necessary, remove yoursel rom the conversation and begin to ocus on positive circumstances in your lie.
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Now is a good time to also discuss relationships relationship s past and present. Many people believe opposites attract. Some may refect upon their lie and say, “Yes, my signicant other is the exact opposite o me.” On many levels that may be b e true. Regardless Regardless o how h ow opposite two people are, though, there is a very real link between the two people in the relationship. They are like-minded and that link, when strong enough, is what brings two people together. When I rst met my now husband, I was sad and very lonely. I had just separated rom my rst husband and was living in an area that was unamiliar to me. Although a new relationship was the last thing on my mind, I met someone to whom I was instantly attracted. He too had separated rom his wie, or reasons dierent than mine, and was looking or companionship. Philip, my uture husband, also struggles with depression at times and was in a very lonely and vulnerable psychological state. The day we met there was a sudden pull toward one another. It was remarkable the strength o the connection. We became riends and eventually partners in lie. I am naturally a very optimistic person who sees the world as an adventure. There are times, like everyone else, when I am down and uncertain as to what the uture holds. When we met, though, Philip and I had some things in common: vulnerability, ear, and depression. We attracted one another because o our, at the time, like-minded outlook on lie. Although we are very dierent die rent rom one another anoth er,, we create interests inte rests together on a regular basis that help build our relationship and keep our link strong. It is or this reason I highly recommend to anyone in a long-term relationship or who are planning a lietime commitment to do the exercises in this book together. This way the couple remains on the same wave
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length. I one moves orward and masters their ability to achieve their goals and the other remains stuck with the habits that hold them back, the couple may start to drit apart and thereore th ereore go in dierent directions. I this happens, it can be dicult to reconnect. When the energy people are vibrating changes, the interaction with others change. Someone who moves rom being pessimistic to optimistic optimisti c begins to move away rom pessimistic personalities. As they move orward, they attract and are attracted to optimistic individuals. We surround ourselves with like-minded li ke-minded people peop le and become increasingly repelled by the opposite. We are so repelled by the opposite mind that we can at times become very intolerant o them, thus making it even more dicult to communicate. This is one o the main reasons or relationship breakdown. Once the needs have been met which whi ch brought them together toget her,, they must mus t nd commonalities on a continued basis to keep the re lationship strong. Otherwise, the partners are likely to “listen” to dierent energy waves and move away rom each other, eventually causing a complete separation. Relationship building is also crucial when working toward our goals. It is rare to ever master our goals on our own. It takes knowledge, experience, and understanding. It takes resources and interactions with others. It is or this reason we must remain ocused on our desire and seek out those who may aid us in achieving the ideal end result. By cultivating these relationships we gain mentors who can help us and provide us with knowledge through their expertise. They may also be the ones who can guide us toward our nal outcome. These individuals may have the plan to get us going or a solution to a puzzling question. They may just be the ones who oer us the deal o a lietime. lietime. The more we ocus on what we want and the greater greate r our belie is in receiving it, we begin the process o at-
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tracting like-minded individuals in our lives. Embrace these people — or they may be the ones who get you where you want to be. There are ways to invoke healthy positive vibes that are expressed rom our being. There is a way to change our thinking patterns that are producing seldestructive habits and turn them into sel-motivating, positive habit patterns and belies. Becoming aware o the words we use, the thoughts we have, and having a rm vision o the end result o a goal we wish to attain assists in training the brain to create the positive energy needed to advance our lie. Further to this, we gain the personal power for at tracting and achieving whatever we want. Going orward in this book, when you get to a page that has “Stop Reading and Do the Exercises,” it is time to put the book down and simply do the exercise every day until such time as it becomes a permanent habit. Only you know when it is has become a part o your daily habits, thereore only you can know when it is time to move on to the next section in the book. My general rule o thumb is seven days (one week) rom the rst day to the last day. Then on the eighth day resume reading the next exercise. With that said, let’s keep going!
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ur mind constantly likes to say “I told you so.” What is meant by this is that whatever our mind believes, believes, our mind seeks out proof of its belief. For instance, we wake up in the morning and are running late. We misplaced our keys and the children are moving slowly. We become rustrated as the time ticks by. Our mind be lieves it’s going to be “one o those days.” When we think this, we have decided that this is the experience we are going to have. It is going to be “one o those days.” We are now driving to work and hit every red light on the way. We begin thinking It’s taking orever to get to work I am going to be so late! That in turn eeds the belie o having “one o those days.” We become more agitated because we simply do not have time or this. By the time we get to work we are tense, rustrated, and aggravated. We are now sending out “vibes” to everyone around us and they have noticed. Some may ask how our day is today. Some may ask what’s wrong. Some may even avoid us. As the day goes on, the rustration mounts. Throughout the day we witness and experience things that reinorce our rst thought o having a bad day. After a while, we condently say, “I knew it! This is a bad day.”
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Now keep in mind that on Wheher you hink this same day we may have you can or hink you had a wonderul lunch with canno, eiher way a colleague. We were perhaps you are righ. able to complete a task or two ~ Henry Ford on our to-do list. We We may have h ave observed, learned, and experienced new things. These are all very positive experiences — and they went by unnoticed. Why? Why ? Because our mind was ocused on the act that we were having a bad day. Our brain lters lt ers the positive aspects o our day and reinorces our belie: “It’s a bad day.” What we believe, we think. What we think, we create. What we create, we experience, which reinorces what we believe. When we are reluctant to go to work (or any other required destination) in the morning or are simply not enthusiastic about the day ahead, we create a continued momentum o the eeling o lack and discontentment. When we are motivated, motivated , see the th e value we oer oe r, and strive to reach our goals, we build a momentum or greater success and happiness in our daily lives.
Red Light or Green Light: You Choose
There is a big dierence between an optimistic reality and a pessimistic reality. This story illustrates this act very well. Two individu indi viduals als are are at point poi nt “A “A” and both b oth must mu st get ge t to point “B” within hal an hour. Both individuals are driving down the road and take the exact same route. Both individuals come to ve dierent intersections beore reaching their destination. Upon arrival at their destination one says, “I am here” while the other person exclaims, “Well, that was timed perectly. Green lights
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the entire way!” The dierence between an optimistic reality and a pessimistic reality is the optimistic person noticed the ve green lights! Both left at the same time, both took the same route, and both came to the intersections. Both received the same opportunities. It is the optimistic person person who noticed! This is a perect example o the way our mind ocuses on what it recognizes as truth. The pessimistic person eels or believes that lie is meant to be dicult or perhaps is anticipating a bad day. When the pessimist is ocused on dicult times, they ail to notice the advantages available to them. The optimistic person, on the other hand, is open to possibilities and is thereore more likely to notice small blessings that surround him or her on a daily basis. In this instance, the small blessings were the ve green lights.
Become Aware of Your Thoughts
You are now aware aware that every thought you have invokes invokes an emotional response rom your subconscious mind. This emotion is then sent out in the orm o energy to others and your environment. You are also aware that your mind seeks out reassurance o its belie by continually ocusing on what it recognizes recognizes as “truth” in our reality. This happens on o n a daily basis. Thereore The reore,, it is important to be aware aware o what thoughts thoug hts you have and remain in control o what you are thinking. Every thought you think that is negative negati ve in nature attracts negative results to you. Every thought you think that is positive in nature attracts positive results to you. With that in mind, become aware o what you are thinking! Be aware of every thought you have and the
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emotion you are experiencing. Use your emotions as a radar to know i what you are thinking is proactive or seldestructive. Chances are that i it eels good, then continue; i it eels bad, then change your thought patterns. Constantly be aware o the act that your every thought has the creative power to either clear up your problems or to keep them alive and attract even more to you.
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he way you eel about yoursel is vital to your success o attracting that which you want into your lie. The mirror exercise is a very powerul way to embrace who you are and give you the ability to realize your accomplishments. Perorming this exercise will allow you to reconnect with your true sel and see the value you have to oer o er.. When this exercise is conducted on a daily basis, you begin to invoke a strong positive eeling o accomplishment. This eeling o accomplishment is then sent out in the orm o emotional vibrations toward all you come in contact with. The energetic signal you send to others causes a shit in both whom and what you are attracting. I remember when I was home alone suering through my illness both in mind and a nd body. I sat on the couch every e very day and watched mind numbing TV. I constantly thought about all my seeming ailures and the act that I was a “waste o space.” At At one point in that sel-loathing, sel-loa thing, eel-sorry-or-mysel stage in my lie, I came across an interesting perspective o our attitude toward living creation.
The Mirror
Dr. Masaru Emoto is a highly infuential speaker on the topic o energy, vibrations, and the idea that every
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thought, word, idea, action, and even music plays a large role in the quality o lie. He even ound that simply by using negative suggestions, one can change the molecular structure of water! Rather than the water re maining pure, it transorms and reacts by producing a dark muggy appearance. Perhaps not surprisingly, positive thoughts create the opposite reaction: The water crystallizes with pure beauty. This inormation touched me and caused me to act. I gured i water can have that much o an aect just rom our intentions and words we express, my body (being a large portion o water) must be having similar reactions. It was rom that point I decided something must be done. Whenever I ound mysel in ront o a mirror, I would look into my eyes and I would smile. I worked hard to muster up some semblance o kindness and gave mysel a compliment. Every day I did this until my words transormed into genuine care and love or mysel. At rst it was hard and very awkward. In time, it came very easily to me. Today I can honestly say I believe it! I want you to do the same thing. Look in a mirror. Whilst looking into your eyes, say positive things about yoursel. “You look beautiul today.” “You’re a terric person!” You’re great and it’s good to be alive.” The strongest and most powerul message to give is: “I love you.” Every morning (or a minimum o one week) as you get ready or the day, look in the mirror and straight into your eyes, smile and say “I love you, (your name here). I love all that you have accomplished, all that you are accomplishing now, and all that you are accomplishing in the uture. You oer great value and I love you.”
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Quite oten, when people Tink of i in erms initially hear about this exer- of vibra vibraion. ion. I’ I’s easy cise, they think “You’ve got to o undersand ha be kidding me!” I know this language — he spoken because I, too, had a similar word — has a vibraion. reaction. When we have these Well, writen words thoughts, they speak loudly vibraion. ion. o the way our subconscious also have a vibra mind truly views ourselves. Anyhing in exisence Our brain is retaliating and has a vibraion. creating a sense o unease. ~ Masaru Emoo This is a clear indication our belie system is in opposition. It truly does doe s not believe we are worthy o sel-love — or any kind o love, or that matter. It is then even more important to do this exercise. You probably heard the expression “For one to truly trul y love another one must rst love thysel.” This exercise made those words bellow in my ears — and what a revelation it was! There is a huge difference between lovlov ing someone and loving someone unconditionally. There are three types o love that people can experience. love for our family. We One type o love is the love We love lo ve our amily because amily is important and we would do anything for them. For others, the love of family is out o a eeling o obligation. Another love is the love for a potential partner in life. When we “all in love” with this partner we constantly think about him or her and we develop a strong desire to be around them as much as possible. We receive eelings o excitement, warmth, and butterfies in our stomach. Ater a ew months o this rereshing and new experience, we transorm into eelings o comort and normalcy. It is during this time that unconditional love plays a crucial role in the survival o this relationship. Many relationships tend to wither ater the three-
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month “honeymoon stage” because certain expectations develop or conditions are placed on the relationship. The third and most rewarding kind o love is unconditional love . We know we love someone unconditionally when we love them with all their quirks, terrible habits, actions and reactions dierent rom our own, and our belie in the ability to see each other together walking hand-in-hand well ater retirement has come and gone. This love is powerul and all deserve the right to experience and have this love in their lie. In order to do so, one must unconditionally love them sel and realize all the quirks, mistakes, and nuisances that make them who they th ey are. Each and every one o us is an amazing unique creation o a perectly designed orchestrated event called lie. When you do the mirror exercise, you develop awareness to what it is I am saying. That is, i this awareness has eluded you up until now. By doing the mirror exercise, your smile becomes genuine. You can eel a sense o empowerment and perhaps a bit o excitement. It sets the stage or the rest o the day and begins to change your old habit o sending out a eeling o lack. Over time, this sense o well being becomes very much a part o you. You may nd you even have a skip in i n your step. You You start interacting with dierent people. You give o an air o condence and eel sel-empowered enough to try anything you set your mind on. It is a very simple and extremely eective exercise in eeling positively about onesel and creating additional positive circumstances in your lie. Situations may come into your existence that are o great benet. The people around you see and eel your condence, thus building solid and positive relationships. The job you are moving toward becomes easier to attain because your boss sees the condence in your ability
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to get the job done. These are only a ew examples o many endless possibilities. possibilities.
An Exercise for Being Inwardly Aware
As mentioned, each and every one o us is an energetic being who daily sends out messages in the orm o energy to our surroundings. We also receive signals rom others around us constantly. Unortunately, many are unaware o the impact another person’s energy has on our ability to remain balanced within ourselves. As an example, when the environment is stressul, we become stressed. When someone is in a oul mood around us, we eel (at the very least) uncomortable, sometimes to the point o irritability or complete exhaustion at the end o the day. The reason or this is our energies are intermingling and we are sending and absorbing energy constantly. Many people are unaware o the act that they hold onto another person’s energy. People who are highly sensitive to this bombarding eect tend to have uncontrollable uncontrollable mood swings and eel exhausted easily. Being aware o who we are and what energy we are vibrating makes it ar easier to determine energy aecting us rom our surroundings. It is important to be aware o this as it aids in our ability to remain balanced and deal with stress-related issues in a much healthier way. Next is an exercise one can do at home, preerably in the morning prior to leaving the house.
Check-In: An Exercise in Self-Awareness
All my lie I have been very sensitive to peoples’
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emotions. I constantly suered rom mood swings and outright irritability. I remember when I was growing up my parents would say “That’s it! You are no lonlon ger allowed to hang around with that person. She is a bad inuence on you!” I would also hear “Where is this coming rom Claire? You were ne earlier today and now you’re uncontrollable?” Boy, Boy , was I a handul when I was a child! My parents were correct, o course. I was taking on dierent emotions and all the while thinking they were were my own. I my riend’s parents were getting a divorce, I thought and acted as though my parents were. I my riend was angry at someone, I expressed anger even when I had no idea who the person was. When I was twenty-six years old, I nally understood what was happening to me and within a matter matt er o seconds gured out what it takes to release the energy that was aecting me. I was having a abulous day with a riend and we had decided to go back to his place or a bite to eat. When I came through the ront door, an overwhelming eeling o sadness sad ness and worry came over me. When I elt the rush o sadness I thought to mysel, Hold on! I was eeling fne a second ago. This eeling is coming rom rom somewhere else. I have to let this go. go . As soon as I thought those words, the energy dissipated and I was back to mysel. It turns out that the emotions were coming rom my riend’s roommate, who was going through a bad spell. It was an epiphany or me, though. I nally understood what my parents were saying and, at the same time, understood what to do to release the eects. Here is an excellent exercise i you are someone who experiences the emotional “roller coaster” or who would like to be more aware o the eects happening to you on a daily basis. Check-In is an easy to do exercise with one goal in
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mind: to assist you in becoming more sel-aware both internally and externally so that you may more readily and easily understand or act upon external inormation coming rom your surroundings. This is a simple morning exercise where you ask yoursel two very important questions. You may decide to do this exercise as soon as you wake up, while you are having your shower, or while you are having your morning breakast. It is best to create your own personal routine which works or you. The questions — and the reason or asking them — are:
What is my body telling me today? Is your body tired? Does your body have any aches and or pains? Is your body energized or atigued? Do a body scan rom head to toe and check into all sensations your physical body is telling you. By doing this, you become sel-aware o your body sensations and can thereore easily identiy when another sensation presents itsel to you. When someone is stressed around you it is quite common to receive tension headaches or muscle aches due to tension. Although these physical eects may be yours, being aware o this exercise assists in conrming what is yours and what is someone else’s. I the headache or muscle tightness is someone else’s, this exercise may help in reducing the physical eects that person is having on you.
What are my feelings today? We wake up having experienced dierent things thi ngs the day beore and thereore our moods can change daily. In order to remain remain aware o yoursel as an individual, individ ual, it is best to check your emotion in the morning when you rst wake up as well as beore you interact with wit h anyone
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or change your environment at any given time. When you rst get up in the morning, nd out i you woke up in a good mood — energized, excited, happy, or example — or i you woke up in a bad mood — sad, nervous, worried. By doing this, you become aware o your own eelings and thereore thereore can quickly identiy a eeling that presents itsel to you outside o your own individuality. When you have acknowledged the way you eel, you are better equipped with recognizing another person’s emotions when entering their space. When a sensation comes in dierent rom what you know to be yours, acknowledge the eeling within your mind and then think, “This feeling is coming from somewhere else. I let it go.” Depending on the strength o the impact received, re-acknowledging and repeating the words to let it go may be required. Additionally, take a couple o deep breaths rom your stomach and breathe out gently. Ater a very short period o time, a sensation may come over you, like a balloon releasing air. At this point, check in with yoursel to determine i you are back to the way you elt prior to the emotional impact. There are many benets to being aware o what energy is being sent out rom us and what energy is aecting us. By noticing another person’s energy we gain the ability to empathize and get to understand the other individual better. I we wish to attract positive people and we get a eeling o discontentment rom someone, we have an awareness to decide i this person is someone we wish to be around at that particular moment. Having this ability and sel awareness also adds value within our careers. We work with others on a daily basis. Being aware o the types o personalities pe rsonalities we work with gives added knowledge when dealing with them. Anyone in Human Resources or Management who
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is involved in the hiring process can become increasingly aware o the personality o the interviewee. i nterviewee. I the interviewer interviewer eels a vibration that indicates lack o condence, the interviewer can use their inner awareness and knowledge to determine i this person is indeed right or the job. Conversely, someone who is seeking employment can get a eel or the prospective employer’s environment and determine i the environment is conducive to the needs o the job seeker. The examples listed here plus the ability to remain in control o your emotions and keeping them balanced are a ew o the endless possibilities o being aware o what emotional vibrations are being elt by you and infuencing you.
Stop Reading and Do the Exercises Reading isn’t enough. You must take the time to do the exercises in this book in order to create the new habits that will create the uture that you desire. You may nd the exercises dicult; you may even nd them tedious. The results you will obtain rom doing them will be beyond priceless.
The Mirror Exercise
Every day, look in a mirror. Whilst looking into your eyes, say positive things to and about yoursel. Make this a daily habit!
Check-in
Every morning when you awaken, ask yoursel these two questions and then answer them honestly. What is my body telling me today? • What are my feelings today? • These questions and your answers will assist you in becoming more sel-aware both internally and externally so that you may more readily and easily understand or act upon external inormation coming rom your surroundings.
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