"Picking Up American Girls - A Guide For Foreign Men" "A Must Have In Your Travel-Kit"
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CONTENTS Foreword ................................................................................................................................................................ 5
American Girls Love Accents ...................................................................................................................................... 6
Why Women Love Accents ......................................................................................................................................... 7
The Fantasy Aspect To Accents ................................................................................................................................... 8
She Wants Something That She Is Not ....................................................................................................................... 10
Certain Foreign Men Who Have An Edge .................................................................................................................... 11
Don't Tone Down The Accent But Play It Up.............................................................................................................. 12
American Men Will Envy You [Haters Will Hate]......................................................................................................... 16
Women Hate Too....................................................................................................................................................
20
Which American Girls Make Easy Targets? ................................................................................................................ 22
The Teacher Aspect ................................................................................................................................................ 25
The Nurturing Factor .............................................................................................................................................. 28
American Women On The Ground ............................................................................................................................ 32
Your Garb Can Kill You ........................................................................................................................................... 33
Haircut Is A Plus.....................................................................................................................................................
37
How To Meet American Women On The Streets.......................................................................................................... 42
Question-Openers & Ice-Breakers ............................................................................................................................ 48
How To Meet American Women Online ..................................................................................................................... 50
The Actual Pickup .................................................................................................................................................. 55
Cold-Approach Pickup ............................................................................................................................................ 59
Online Pickup From Overseas .................................................................................................................................. 61
The Hunt And Screen Game ..................................................................................................................................... 67
Your 1st Messages ................................................................................................................................................... 73
Most Men Don't Read .............................................................................................................................................. 80
Why Including Her Name Is Important...................................................................................................................... 83
Why Direct Compliments Are Bad ............................................................................................................................. 84
Why Indirect Compliment Are GREAT ........................................................................................................................ 87
After The 1st Message .............................................................................................................................................. 89
Why She Didn't Reply..............................................................................................................................................
91
If She Replies ......................................................................................................................................................... 94
Get Her Phone Number ........................................................................................................................................... 97
Why You Should Get Her Number ........................................................................................................................... 100
What To Do With Her Number ................................................................................................................................ 103
If I'd Met Her While Out And About......................................................................................................................... 108
Why You Shouldn't Wait ........................................................................................................................................ 111
In Closing ............................................................................................................................................................ 114
An Extra Style Tip ................................................................................................................................................. 130
"About The Author" ............................................................................................................................................. 133
Picking up American girls for a foreign guy, seems to be 1 of those puzzling situations which paralyzes lots of guys who haven't yet ventured into this field.
For starters: I'd like to make it crystal clear that picking up American girls isn't as difficult as you make it out to be.
Just as with anything else in life: there are gray areas, pros, cons and certain fundamental challenges which are easy to get by...once you know what those are.
There are certain thins which are seen as inherently attractive to American girls: accents, the thought alone of a foreign guy sweeping them off their feet, etc.
This guide will outline the pros and cons, and the necessary tweaks that you will need to make in order to snag/pick up American girls.
As someone who is NOT a born American, nor an American at all, I can speak on this topic of "foreign men picking up American women", better than anyone else can, simply because I've
been there- done that, as a foreigner living in New York City me entire life, and having success with meeting and banging American women.
Women in general, love foreign accents.
With American girls, this isn't merely "love", but an infatuation it seems at time!
When I was younger and still going to grade school, I used to get teased a lot by the Americans in class [both boys and girls] because I spoke English with a Caribbean accent.
Interestingly enough, I was getting way more kisses and attention from girls in class, than the American boys...though I was teased.
Though it obviously never dawned on me at the time. As I think back in retrospect now, it's clear to see that there was something there: a trend and lesson for later on in life.
We all love the exotic, strange and rarities in life.
This is amplified tenfold with women.
Think about how much girls flock to things like exotic birds, animals, babies, strange colors and so forth.
With accents, the same can be said as the same psychological mechanisms are at play.
A woman love the idea that she found something that is rare and or different than what others have.
Surely a British-English accent isn't rare at all.
However- for an American girl- it is!
If she can only get that guy who speaks English with an accent different than what she's accustomed to hearing, she can then brag to her group of girlfriends about what strange and exotic creature in a man she'd fount the other day.
In keeping with the previous point about women being drawn to accents, I want to draw your attention to the fantasy aspect of it.
It is every girl's fantasy to be some day swept off her feet by an exotic man [by exotic here, I mean a foreigner].
When you think about the media, Hollywood and the romance-novel subculture, this is what you're fed.
The knight in shining armor is almost always foreign and speaks English with an accent.
This fantasy has been stamped into the minds of girls all around the globe.
She wants to be taken by that stranger.
She doesn't only want the idea or the reality of him being foreign in nationality. But she wants to experience that accent and foreignness.
This is why you shouldn't play down your foreignness when trying to seduce American women.
I'll talk about this extensively a bit later.
One of the underlying reasons as to why (American) women love the idea of dating foreign men, is simply the "contrast" factors.
She wants something that is different than her.
This reminds me of the contrasts in race and ethnicities when it comes to interracial dating.
In my opinion, the real reason why people decide to try out interracial dating is due to breaking cultural barriers and stepping into the culture of someone else's.
There's nothing special or note-worthy about a while girl dating a white male.
Likewise, nothing special in a black girl dating a black guy.
However, when you cross racial lines to enter the so-called unknown, I believe that this is where the appeal and draw come in.
It all boil down to foreignness and something other than what the person is [racially and culturally].
French, Italian, Spanish, British and Australian men, have an advantage among the pack when it comes to foreign men attracting American women.
This is in no way due to race might I add.
A black man from an African country where the established language is French, is likely to have the same success in attracting American women, as a white Frenchman.
Hence, race isn't a factor there, but merely nationality.
A guy from India or the Middle East, will not fare as well as the Frenchman due to the extraheavy accents when speaking English.
Contrary to popular belief though, Indian men can still pull hot girls in America.
However, due to the Hollywood-ization of the Frenchman sweeping the American damsel off her feet, guys from France will have had an edge over others.
By no means whatsoever should an Indian guy get discouraged just because Hollywood and the American media don't highlight them as attractive men.
This all comes down to necessary Westernized tweaks to fashion which I'll get into in a bit.
If you're a Non-American by birth, be he naturalized or what have you, but you speak English with a flawless American accent: get rid of the perfect accent!
Yes I said it!
Get rid of your perfect American accent while courting American girls!
Am I telling you to pretend?
Yes!
Listen- the thing is- if you've been me closely in the previously passages, I hinted at the "stranger" and "exotic" elements as to why American women (and women in general), are attracted to foreign men.
It is largely due to the accent itself; the way in which foreign men speak English with an obvious or slight delineation from the so-called norm.
Being 'normal' and ordinary is the #1 attraction-killer.
Speaking like an everyday American in America, will NOT gain you any points in the 'different' category when it comes to dating.
Every girl desires a man who has something unique and peculiar about himself.
Being a non-American, you inherently harbor a peculiarity [to Americans] which is your biggestattraction value on the dating market.
Other men who are born Americans and talk with an American accent, do not have any exoticness at all going for them...unless however, his parents are non-Americans and he can build a story from that.
Be as it may, you should Never hide your accent whenever chatting up American women!
If you don't speak English with an accent: then get 1!
Pretend as though you have 1!
If you're srcinally from Syria, having relocated to America as a kid, now as an adult, you speak Americanized English without an accent, you want to take yourself back to your childhood days where you spoke English with a Middle Eastern accent.
Sounds crazy to you. But this is your actual strength in attracting women.
Now, I'm not saying you have to triple down on it by pretending as though you're unable to pronounce 1 word in English perfectly. But you get the idea, right?
On a personal note, it's funny that I now advocate this [speaking with an accent], being that I masked my Caribbean accent throughout my adolescence and adulthood living in America.
I blended in with every other black dude in my neighborhood.
You couldn't tell me apart from them.
Sounds good on the surface with the guys. But it was a huge mistake in dating and meeting women.
I became just another American guy. Nothing special or unique about me...though I had a unique story [immigrating to America] but I felt a need to hide it due to trying to assimilate into the American way of things in order to gain acceptance by my peers.
Little did I know, I was sacrificing my uniqueness and attraction value just to fit in with 'the guys'.
As an adult male who's since realized this: I regret hiding my accent for 2 decades plus.
I had an ace in the hole but gave it away...as we all do whenever we try to fit in on foreign soil.
Be as it may, you don't want to hide/mask your accent completely.
Speak English with an accent!
Retain that accent even if you can speak English perfectly without a hint that you're foreign.
This is your hidden strength and upper hand against the competition. So why hide it?
As I touched on earlier about my time in grade school growing up in The Bronx, New York, I was teased relentlessly by fellow classmates who made fun of my accent and the way in which I would pronounce certain words.
I would be laughed at, made fun of, shamed and forced to crawl into an anti-social shell just to protect myself from ridicule.
There was an African girl in class also, who had to endure the same thing from female classmates particularly.
Though boys and girls made fun of me, the male pupils were the worst.
They took the shaming to another fucking level!
What was actually driving this hate from my male classmates?
Envy and jealousy.
Being envious of something or someone who has something unique and different than they do.
Simple!
Ironically, being kids, they obviously weren't aware of what was driving them to make fun of me.
They would think that it is the mere accent I spoke with.
On the surface: sure.
However, it stemmed from envy due to the fact that someone [me] had or knew something that they didn't have or know about [multi-lingual skills].
American boys at that time, though mere kids, innately knew that the foreign kid had something over them when it comes to the girls in class.
Though the girls teased me just as much. They secretly liked me.
This is essentially puppy love that we're all familiar with.
When 2 kids like each other, they behave harshly towards one another.
In spite of the hate and shaming, I was getting more love letters, smooches and walk homes from girls in class than the American-born boys were. ;) ;)
Ok, so how does this relate to an adult male?
The same will be the case!
American men will hate on you nevertheless.
They will shame you and make fun of your accent as a tool to try to knock you out of the dating arena.
As we grow older, men primarily seem to retain their childish behaviors such as making fun of others whenever the situation looks bleak for them. Thus, whenever trying to court an American girl to the knowledge of an American guy who himself is trying to get with the same girl, he will sure to play the 'accent' or 'he's a foreigner' card in order to get you out of the picture.
This sort of sniper-tactics game won't work however [because of everything I spoke about previously]. It'll in fact have the opposite effect than what your competitor is expecting.
In taking a look at the opposite sex, women do exhibit the same behavior towards other women who are foreign in nationality, race and language.
It is sort of a shrewd mechanism to deal with perceived threat.
Women are known for such cattiness.
Moreover, it's no secret that western men drool over the idea of being with a Russian bombshell.
Then you also have mail-order brides which western women have to compete with for their men's attention.
It is safe to say that the presence of a foreign chick threatens American women as her perceived value is compromised. So even the foreign woman has as edge in her foreignness in the dating market.
On a further note, and I'm not statistician, if one were to survey American men on whom they prefer to date: a foreign woman or an American one? I'd put my head on the proverbial chopping-block to say that the greater majority would survey in favor of dating foreign.
Now, it isn't that American-born women are inherently fucked-up [though feminism has eroded their idea of what a woman and femininity should be]. But it goes back to the running theme of this e-book, which is exoticism and people being drawn to things that are unlike themselves.
In the same way a girl would love to show off her foreign man to her girlfriends. A man also would love to do the same and brag to his bros that he'd picked up an Asian beauty who doesn't know much English.
Online dating for a foreign man trying to meet American women is very tricky.
Why so?
Scammers and catfish.
Women are leery of meeting foreign men online due to media coverage of stories and cases where foreign men, though the internet, will scam unsuspecting American women with the promise of love, only to turn around and try to covet personal information in order to commit fraud or some sort of mal-intent.
For this reason, American women are on high alert whenever contacted by guys whose names appear foreign, and or located outside of the United States.
Be as it may, there is a specific demographic online (also on online-dating sites) where you can target as easy pickings...for lack of a better term.
These are American women who have interests in the exotic, strange, foreign, love to learn about other languages and cultures, etc.
Also, girls who enjoy traveling are easy targets to seduce for a foreign man.
One wouldn't travel if he or she detests others' cultures, right?
Right!
Therefore, when it comes to meeting American women online, you always want to keep an eye wide open for what she says in her 'about me' or 'interests' section of her profile.
This can also be said for meeting women over Facebook also.
If the girl lists her interests as: traveling, languages, archaeology, culture, touring, religion, studying, arts and crafts, etc, it is a safe bet that she is fond of the idea of connecting with people [men] who are foreign to her nationality.
Hence, you want to look for those keywords [travel, touring, site-seeing, culture, languages] within her profile, and you'll readily be able to spot the American girls whom are easy targets.
Also take note of her photos.
Do they depict her love of others' cultures?
Is she bi- or multi-lingual?
You should also key an eye open for that keyword in her profile.
Lots of American girls will 'CLAIM' that they can speak another language.
This is a crock of shit lie...90% of the time...unless she's a Latina who comes from a Spanishspeaking background.
However, whether it be factual or fictional; it doesn't fucking matter.
As long as she lists another language in her profile, that is all you need to know in determining whether she's an easy target or not.
If she lists Mandarin or Chinese as a second language or a language in which she speaks, and you [the guy] just happens to be Chinese: consider that a match made in Heaven!
Whether she knows Mandarin or not; doesn't matter!
Bear in mind that she doesn't have to list your native language as her 2nd language.
The simple fact that she's into learning/studying other languages, that is all you need as a green light to contact her.
A big element in why American women are attracted to foreign men, is the "teacher aspect".
When one is unfamiliar with another's culture, language, religion, way of life and so forth, that ignorance [and I mean that in a good way] sort of propels us into wanting to teach others about our ways of life.
I witness this on an everyday basis and in a personal sense.
For instance, I am fluent in speaking, writing, reading and comprehending the Arabic language [the Levantine dialect of Syria and Lebanon].
Part of becoming fluent was immersing myself totally into the Arab and Middle Eastern culture.
I only watched Arabic programs, only read in Arabic, labeled items and things around my apartment in Arabic. I listened only to Arabic pop music. My entire Sony Walkman MP3 Player was filled with 900+ songs in Arabic from across the Arab world.
This is total immersion which led me towards fluency [I'd also done the same with Spanish].
On my journey toward fluency in Arabic [some years ago], I would routinely stop by the store of a Syrian merchant where I would try to converse with him in Arabic.
He was astonished to see a black guy in the west, able to pronounce words in Arabic and who knew how to write the Arabic script so crisply.
I just needed major tweaking on the Syrian dialect in which he willingly help me with.
Once again: the "Teacher's Aspect" at play.
People are always more than willing to assist you in learning about their culture, language and way of life.
It is flattering to one's ego that another person is open to learning about another.
Humans by evolution, are always ready to help.
Providing assistance to someone, strokes our egos.
It makes us feel important.
Hence, when a woman meets a guy who isn't natural to her environment or culture, she's almost forced by some eerie-gravitational pull to offer assistance.
Think about the guy who asks for direction.
Everyone loves to give directions to someone who's lost.
I've yet to see or even hear of a case where someone rudely objects to giving a stranger directions.
This just doesn't exist.
It is the "teacher" quality in us, that propels us to want to show, direct and teach someone about something.
Hence, if you present yourself to American women as someone who's in need of a little assistance [and I don't mean monetary], they will readily offer their service.
In keeping with the previous passage, women by nature are nurturers.
Learn how to appeal to a woman's maternal instincts!
It is within every girl to want to ensure that everyone around her is well taken care of.
Use this to your advantage!
Bear in mind that people are always willing to help others.
Rendering assistance and aid to others, make us feeling important.
It is doing a good deed. And we all like to go through our day knowing that we'd helped make someone's day [however tiny of a hand].
I've yet to meet or hear of someone who was so mean-spirited, that he or she refused to give a stranger directions.
Simply asking someone for directions, will prompt that person into action by assisting you.
With women, this goes beyond simply offering directions.
However, it is hardwired in every woman to want to help.
This is why it's so common to scam women online with a sob story.
How about those charities and feed the poor campaigns?
Women are suckers for them!
Why?
Her maternal and nurturing instincts as a woman.
Simply asking a girl how to pronounce the word Apple, will prompt her into helping you out.
Say to her:
"Excuse me, but is this the color orange? We call this naranja where I'm from".
The reason why you're so reluctant to ask a girl such questions, is due to pride and the misconception that you'll appear dumb and illiterate.
The reality is: you won't appear to be a dumb-ass!
This is just your fear talking you out of taking action.
You have to get out of your head, use smarts and think 'strategic'.
However, you want to keep it as simple as possible when employing this method of mines.
Avoid asking complex questions such as:
"What is the largest U.S. state per capita"? Or
"Which state has the lowest per-capita income by race"?
Such questions are just too complex for the average day-to-day American girl or guy to brainstorm.
You don't want to make people have to think or crunch numbers.
People are willing to offer assistance, as long as it doesn't require breaking a bank or thinking too much.
Therefore, keep it simple whenever asking the American girl at work or in class- for instancehow to correctly pronounce a certain word.
Remember: women want to help!
As a Pick-Up Artist, I regularly approach and meet women on the streets.
There is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't do the same in order to meet women.
There are tons of American girls out there going about their business, in hopes that a foreign guy comes along and woo her sleep [though not consciously].
As a foreigner living in America, there is no reason why you should head to work, to grab a bite, or simply to take a stroll, without meeting American women.
You don't need to do this over the internet since the internet has lots of drawbacks which I touched on earlier.
However, there exist few prerequisites that will get you on the right track.
Contrary to popular belief, the reason why western women aren't too keen on dating Indian men, isn't their ultra-heavy accents. But their garbs.
Traditional garbs are just too heavy for American women.
Now, I'm saying you should completely do away with your traditions, customs and traditional wears [they do serve a purpose later]. However, when trying to pull ass and meet American women, you want to throw on some denim, dress shirt, sneakers and so forth.
The same can be said for African born men and the misconceptions.
The main reason why an African born man, who relocates to New York City we'll say, won't have success in dating American women, isn't his accent neither his blackness. But his traditional garb.
Needless to say; lots of African born men get laid throughout New York City [particularly among African American circles].
The question is: which African born men?
The answer is: the ones who ditch their traditional wear for something more westernized.
Most men in the so-called civilized world get haircuts.
Haircuts aren't the issue.
It is the way in which you cut your hair...as in your hairstyle.
Most guys coming from the East: the Orients, Africa and Indian, aren't too big on westernized haircuts.
A simple trim and they're good to go.
In America: this won't fly!
You will have had to adopt an Americanized-trendy haircut.
The cut that has actually been trending over the past 3 years, is the Mohawk, fohawk and just to have the hairs on the sides shaven lower than the top to create a sort of fading effect with a mount as the photos below depict.
If you're an older guy- let's say 45+ : stick to the Caesars, fades and the traditional American haircuts.
If you're balding: stick with the bald cut or make sure to trim it low.
Consider this your makeover. ;)
As for your overall fashion and style: just make sure that you're trendy.
If not, then ensure that you're wearing something cool or perhaps retro. But nothing Eastern.
All in all, tweaking your style isn't an expensive venture at all.
Ok, presuming that you've got everything covered that I spoke about previously, we're ready to deal with the action phase of meeting American chicks on the streets.
If you recall the examples I shared with you about the apple and orange; those are what we would call question openers in the pickup/seduction community.
It is a way to break the ice with women.
In order to meet girls: you have to approach them and talk!
If you're nervous about doing this, well your foreignness and accent will serve as a cushion for your discomfort.
Quite naturally, if you aren't a native-English speaker, you probably aren't able to sound totally confident and comfortable anyway while speaking English.
This is fine!
Are you with me still?
Cool!
Ok, so what I'm gonna do here is to give you some examples of question openers [conversational starters] that you will pose to the American girl whom you're attracted to and are going to approach.
This can also be done anywhere outside of your house: literally on the streets, restaurants, bus, train, classroom, etc.
Ok, so what you're going to have to do now is to approach her under my guidance!
Just imagine I was your wingman for moral support on this.
"Let's Go Bro"!
Approach the hot American girl with your poor English accent!
You: "Hi excuse me. How do you say pizza in English"?
Girl: "Pizza! It's the same word"!
Viola!
There you go!
First part of your 1st mission complete!
Now, quite naturally, that simple question you asked about pizza, will transition into a dialogue between you and the American girl...presuming you don't freeze up at this juncture.
Ok, so a mock conversation would, should and could actually go like this.
Me: "Hey excuse me. How do you say pizza in English"?
Girl: "Pizza! It's the same word"!
Me: "Oh really!? Where I'm from, I thought the word pizza was srcinated there".
Girl: "Lol oh, it's actually an Italian word. So...where are you from"?
Me: "Was born on the Eastern part of the planet Rizq".
Girl: "Really!? And what language do they speak"?
Me: "We speak a broken dialect of Hebrew".
Ok, you get the point guys.
Though that was a mock conversation, in reality, a dialogue will actually follow those lines in information shared.
That is how easy breezy it is to spark up a conversation with an American girl.
There is no chance in hell that she will NOT engage you in conversation...unless she's bat-shit crazy, retarded or having a super-terrible day!
Even though she's having a shitty day; 9 in 10 times, she will still engage you politely just to not appear rude.
Girls who are anti-social, introverted and shy, will also engage you in conversation.
At the root of it all, is the fact that you speak English with an accent, and you need help in the question in which you'd asked.
As I mentioned in the earlier passages: people always want to help others since helping others makes us feel a sense of worth and importance!
Hence, you will never have a case where some chick tells you to "fuck off" because you asked her a question in which you're seeking for her to clarify. Ok, so the following are some easy to remember openers that you can ask a stranger while out and about.
If you can come up with your own: then that's even better. But mines are mere examples and templates for guidance.
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"Hey, quick question. I don't speak much English. But I'd like to find out the meaning o f this
word".
I would then give her a simple word in English for her to tell me the meaning.
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"Excuse me, quick question. Are American women friendly or mean like the ones in my
country"? ♦
"Excuse me. What it twerking? Is that an American song or something"?
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"Do Americans eat lobsters? Or is it like a forbidden thing to eat here"?
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"Quick question. I was just reading this article on my phone and this word p uzzles me. How do
you pronounce it in English"?
I would then show her my phone and pick out a random word and pretend as though I need a little help in its pronunciation. ;)
Simple!
Guys, by no means is this technique of mines far-fetch or un-tested.
I usually do this whenever picking up Arab girls on the Plenty of Fish online-dating site.
As an ice-breaker, I would ask for the meaning of a word in Arabic.
I would pretend as though I don't know much Arabic just to make the routine work.
I also do this in order to connect with Arab natives whenever out and about or when I'm stopping by a Shawarma spot to grab a bite.
When you ask people questions, especially pertaining to their culture, they naturally open up. Any surface resistance will have vanished.
Also, it doesn't matter how long you've been living in the United States Of America: 2 days or 20 years.
Your questions will not seem peculiar.
I have to reiterate this point for clarify: asking such questions will NOT make you look dumb!
People are smart enough to realize that language barriers are natural inhibitors.
Place an English-language genius who only knows English, into a Spanish country, and watch how illiterate he appears to the average 5 year old who's a native to that country.
Hence, it is all in context. No one will deem you stupid for asking a question based on culture, language and customs.
Everything we'd gone through so far can be applied online.
The openers and ice-breakers can be used just as you'd use them on the streets, the bus, train or at a club or bar.
When it comes to online dating also your photos, style, fashion and dressing should also correspond to the tips I gave you for meeting American women in person.
Just because you're online doesn't mean the rules are thrown out the window.
Since you're trying to attract American girls, your fashion sense must reflect that in the way you dress, your hairstyle and so forth.
Therefore, if you're Indian, African, Asian or Middle Eastern: please do away with the photos of yourself dressed in traditional garb...unless it is 1 or 2 photos lost in the mix.
However, by all means, ensure that your profile picture reflects that of an American male by wearing westernized clothes in your profile picture...or all of them.
If you aren't sure of what style is currently popular in America: google it!
It is very typical in 2014 to run across foreign men in New York City, dressed like the male cast members of Beverly Hills 90210, like it's the 1990's as the photo below depicts.
That is a fucking NO NO!!!
You want to aim for this instead.
Bear in mind also that it isn't about name brands.
Wear whatever brands you want [just as I do].
Just ensure that it is in style, trendy and fashionable.
Why foreign men in America typically dress poorly, isn't indicative of their lack of resources and money. But simply being out of the loop as to what is seen as attractive today in America.
Nevertheless, whether it is meeting American women over Facebook, online-dating sites or on the streets, you want to blend in with what is hot.
The fact that you're foreign will make you stand out naturally in a good light. So you don't have to aim to stand out and be unique with your style and dressing.
For an overall comprehensive guide on picking up women online, you may want to check out my other e-books:
Facebook Bang
Get Laid From POF
Textbook pickup applies from where we left off from the openers and ice-breakers.
If you're not familiar with the art of picking up women face-to-face, then I'm obliged to outline the tedious process here.
After you would've broken the ice by asking the American girl 1 of the question openers I listed earlier, you would naturally make that transition into a follow-up and related dialogue which will serve to extend the conversation.
For example:
Me: "Excuse me for a second. What is a surname? Is that like your first name? Pardon me but English isn't my 1st language".
Girl: "Oh it's ok. Actually, your surname is your last name and not the 1st name".
Me: "LOL oh how stupid of me! By the way I'm from Antigua. It's a tiny island in the Caribbean".
Girl: "Oh wow! I never heard of it before. Must be nice".
Me: "Yep it is. So are you American"?
Girl: "Yep I am".
Me: "By the way, would you say proper English is a hard language to master"?
Girl: "Perhaps. English is my language but I'm not even near to mastering it".
Me: "Perhaps it's impossible to master a language. I'm Kenny by the way. And you are"?
Girl: "Nice to meet you Kenny. I'm Lisa".
[I would then extend my hand as an official greeting with a handshake. For the more bolder types, this could be a kiss on the wrist]
Me: "So Lisa, is that a typical name for an American girl"?
Girl: "Sure. There's probably a Lisa in every household".
Me: "Ok I didn't know it was such a common name. So, do you ever get time to travel and visit new places"?
Girl: "Unfortunately not. I'm trying to change that in 2015 and hopefully travel out of country this year".
Me: "Ok well that sounds good. It's good to have some travel experience under your belt. Hey Lisa, well I have to get going. It was nice to get your take on the English language. Or you a coffee or tea type of gal"?
Girl: "I drink both".
Me: "Ok cool. I usually go for a cup twice a week at ********. 1 of these afternoons you should join me. Perhaps we can catch up on the language and traveling thing. Here. I'd like your phone number".
I would then hand her my phone so she can input her digits into my mobile phone.
This is absolutely the best and most easy way to get a phone number. You don't merely ask.
You put your phone into her hands where she can't just simply refuse to give it to you.
Ok, so that's it for getting the phone number and future projected so-called date with an American girl.
Now wasn't that easy?
The beauty about cold-approach pickup, is that you can do it time after time after time within the same hour or same day in order to build the odds in your favor.
With the example scenario of a pickup that I gave above (which is real as it gets), it isn't a thing where you can only use with 1 American girl then it becomes unusable.
You can use this cold-approach method to pick up a bunch of American girls within the span of 2 hours.
After you will have picked up (or failed to) the 1st American girl you approach [by using my method], you simply move on to the next girl.
At the end of the day, you may very well find yourself with 6 phone numbers out of 8 girls you approached.
Therefore, not only should you not approach just 1 American girl. But approach and chat up how many you can.
That is the essence of cold approaching strangers.
If Girl A on the bus were to reject you and not give you her phone number, you can always try with Girl B sitting alone at a cafe.
Then onto Girl C standing outside of the cafe waiting on someone.
You get the point here.
It is all about creating options for yourself whereas you don't have to rely on just one girl, but you have multiple girls in whom to bank on.
Ok, I wanna give you some pointers and tips in the event that you aren't currently in the United States, but are looking to travel there...perhaps for vacation, holiday, quick visit, etc.
You can actually set something up online for when you do get there.
Let's say that you're a member of the Plenty of Fish [POF] dating website, Hi5, Tagged.com or any other such dating and social-media based website.
You should actually pick up American girls [online] ahead of time, for whenever you do get there.
I do this very often!
Now, the thing is this. If you're heading to The USA, 6 months from now [not to stay], it doesn't make much sense to hunt online in hopes of picking up American girls.
Six months is just too long of a period to maintain any mutual attraction or connection with a girl whom you won't see for 6 months.
This is why Long-Distance Relationships don't work.
It is extremely difficult to keep attraction alive for months on end.
However, if you're heading to the USA a month from now [a month or less], now will be the ideal time to get started online with meeting American girls.
It isn't hard work to keep attraction alive and sizzling with a girl whom you won't see for another 30 days or less.
By utilizing my cold-approach method which I'd outlined in the previous passages; you can do the same online while targeting American girls.
Ok, let's say that you have an account with Tagged.com [which I've been a member of before Facebook even gain popularity]. If you don't have Tagged; I suggest you sign the fuck up NOW!
Tagged is absolutely 1 of the easiest sites from which to meet American girls and get laid.
I speak from raw experience here guys.
Nevertheless, if you don't have Tagged but are a member of any other quasi-online dating site, then you can use that platform instead, because the same exact principle applies.
Assuming that you have your profile photo in order [no traditional garb but western clothing and a trendy haircut], you can begin.
Always remember that your profile photo is your 1st impression.
It is the very first thing the girl will see as you contact her.
Therefore, you want that photo to project your best image in the sense that will attract American girls. Hence, no religious caps, no head-wear [kufis], no jalabiyya, no 'Imaama, etc.
Leave any trace of religion out of your images and photos.
American people in general, are very anti-religion and religious bigotry is high.
Thus, you don't want a situation where it appears that you're a Muslim guy trying to pick up an American girl online who's likely a Christian by family.
If you're a Muslim: fine! But don't display it within your photos (at least not your main-profile photo) by having a Holy Qur’an in the backdrop and a kufi on your head.
This will turn off the girls who aren't tolerant to Islam.
Likewise with any other religion.
If you're a Sikh or Hindu. Tone it down completely!
Get rid of the head-gear, shave the beard low [not completely off], then you're now in business.
The same should be done for any Muslim who wears a long and thick beard, mustache and sideburns.
Shave them low!
By all means: keep the facial hair!
Facial hair is sexy to women.
It makes you appear more manlier and dominant.
The clean-shaven look makes you appear more juvenile and boyish...which is a turnoff for lots of women.
This is a photo of myself [below] with facial hair [but trimmed neatly] as I'd picked up a girl who's only 18 while I'm 32. So facial hair isn't a bad thing. Just trim it low and neat.
Ok, so remember: no religious item and articles should be in your profile photo(s).
You can put whatever your religion is in the "religion" section of your profile. But it will be best to keep it blank or "no religion".
Now that your photo is in order and you got rid of any trace of blatant-religious signaling, your next step is to browse the profiles of American girls.
Ok, so what will you be looking for in the American girl's profile?
Keywords!
We spoke about this earlier.
You'll be looking for specific words and phrases in her profile that signal that she's fond of traveling, teaching, learning other languages, cultures, religions, learning about the arts, etc.
Such keywords will be your green light.
Not that you need to see these things in her profile in order to contact her and get her phone number. However, that's like having a realistic shortcut to making a million dollars but you decide to take the longer and harder route.
When looking for specific keywords and key phrases within the profile of an American girl ["I like to travel"], that is your shortcut to making a million bucks...figuratively speaking!
Why would you want to make your job harder?
Presuming you know how to break your searches down within The United States in order to find the girls closest to whichever city/town you'll be visiting- if not- you'll have to do that first.
If you're visiting the state of Nevada; the Las Vegas city area, there's no reason to contact American girls living in California, New York, Texas, Wyoming, Georgia, etc.
Hence, you must firstly know where you're headed [state and city], then narrow down your online searches to that state and or city.
Got it?
Cool!
Now, you want to browse the search results for the American girls whom you'd love to hook up with...based on her looks and what appeals to your physically in a girl.
If you love BBW's: then you'd obviously single out those who fit that profile.
You want to pay close attention to the girls whose profile reads like this:
"Name": Kathy "Location": Texas "Interests": Travel, meeting new people "Languages": Italian, French, Portuguese
"About": Hi guys I'm Kathy. I'm just a quiet small-town girl who's open minded to meeting new people. I enjoy traveling although I don't get much time to do so. I've been studying Italian for the past 6 months and really enjoy it. I have a thing for learning new languages.
Those are the profiles you want to look out for as prime targets!
You don't have to speak Italian or be Italian to contact her.
The fact alone that she's into learning other language(s) is all that matters. Ok, so remember some of the keywords you want to look out for in the girl's profile:
*Travel
*Language
*Religion
*Cultures
*Arts
*Artifacts
*Geography
*Foreign
*Exotic *Foods
You also want to keep an eye open for blatant declaration such as:
"I would love to visit Japan 1 of these days. I love their food".
Once again: you don't have to be Japanese to take this as a cue to contact her.
You only want to know that she's into or fond of someone else's culture: be it food, religion, history, customs, clothing, etc.
The reality is, people who are fond of someone else's culture, will date someone of that culture other than what he or she is.
I remember when I first started to study Arabic at the ripe age of 19.
I would've killed to have me an Arab girlfriend!
The infatuation was that fucking deep!
With others: we want to assume that the same level of infatuation is there...unless I was a rare nut out of the bunch...which I doubt.
Another great example of a perfect target is the following.
Let's say that you're a black guy from the Caribbean islands [as me]. And you're planning a visit, for whatever reason, to NYC within the next 3 weeks.
While browsing the online profiles of black American girls living in Brooklyn, New York, you come across some profiles where the girl states that she listens to, or loves "Reggae" music.
"Reggae", which is a keyword here, should instantly stand out to a guy who's from the Caribbean islands...more so if he's from the island of Jamaica!
This American girl who loves Reggae music, is prime target and an easy target for a guy from the Caribbean.
Do you see how it works now?
Look to spot commonalities also within the girl's profile.
If she lists her "religion" as Hindu, for example, and you are a Hindu, then she becomes a perfect target.
However, you definitely should NOT send her a message based on religion or that you and her have religion in common.
After you will have contacted her via message, she will obviously read y our profile and notice that you two share the same religious views.
After you will have spotted the ideal American girl in whom to contact, you MUST send the 1st message!
There's a huge subsection of men who are under the impression that if they have extraordinary good looks: women will just flock to them online and message them.
This is not the case!
Women aren't chasers/hunters.
The guy must do the hunting initially, until he can entice the girl into chasing him a bit [which is not her natural role]. So you will have to send the 1st message.
For starters: PLEASE do NOT send he usual generic-lame fucking messages that girls are accustomed to getting from guys overseas.
The following message you should avoid sending!
"Hi Clara. My name is Kenny and I'm from the Caribbean. I'm just a lonely guy trying to make some friends and I seen your pictures and think you are very beautiful and I want to get to know you better and become your friend".
Please do NOT send suck a message!
It makes you sound like some scam-artist or loser guy overseas looking for friendship over the internet.
Girls are used to getting such lame-ass messages.
Plus, you want to shorten your messages.
I also get the impression that guys who aren't from America, seem to put American pussy on some sort of pedestal.
Guys; it's just pussy!
Hence, you want to avoid sending a book as your initial-text message.
Keep it brief and short...and don't ass-kiss! Don't put the girl on a pedestal! And don't compliment her...especially not in your first message!
Lemme make this crystal clear again. The following things you should avoid doing/saying in your 1st message.
*No direct compliments
*No long messages
*No flattery
*No pedestalization
*No friendly vibe
*No begging
*No asking questions
Now, let's continue!
What to say in your first message to the American girl that catches you eye?
Firstly, ensure that she's located in the city/town in which you'll be visiting or going to.
You also know what to NOT say!
You want to make sure that your 1st message is structured in a way that doesn't denote that you're some guy overseas looking to win her heart.
Hence, structure your 1st message as though you're texting a new girl in your own home country.
This form of text-game, I advocate a religiously.
You want to pick out something from the girl's profile, and text her based on that thing (or line) as your first message.
For instance, let's say that you see the following line in the girl's profile.
"I like taking walks on the beach".
You can text her in response to that line she'd mentioned about liking to take walks on the beach.
Also: ensure that you include her name in the message. This shows the girl that you at least read her profile.
Thus, your 1st message should look like this:
"Hey Karen, I always wonder why girls enjoy taking walks on the beach. I'm guessing it's just a female thing".
That's it!
Very simply, huh?
You are NOT asking the girl a question.
Being asked questions online is seen as very annoying to women.
This is why you want to avoid asking her question. Instead, make statements and comments, which force her to reply.
Asking questions over the internet, forces the girl to invest more than she wants to.
You don't want to make the girl have to think.
American girls hate to have to think!
Allow me to give another example of how you should structure your 1st message online.
Girl says in her profile:
"I have 3 tattoos and I'm thinking about getting a 4th sometime soon".
You, the guy, should base your 1st message on the fact that she has 3 tattoos and want a 4th.
This is what I would say:
Kenny: "Hey April, as someone who's scared to death to get a tattoo, you make me feel less of a man that you have 3 and thinking about 4. I wish I knew your secret".
That's it!
Short, sweet and simple...but every powerful!
Not only does my comment/message indirectly compliments the girl, but it shows that I have weaknesses/vulnerabilities [which is key].
Most importantly, it shows that I actually read her profile.
The reason why most men don't get their messages returned by the girl, is simply because they [the men] refused to read the girl's profile.
This is the #1 argument of most women on online-dating sites: "Men obviously don't read my profile". Now, why would a girl say that [most girls]?
Firstly; it is true!
Most men are NOT reading women's profiles before contacting them.
Most men only look at her photo(s) and decide to send a cheesy-generic message in compliment, based on the girl's looks.
That is it!
That is what most men do! And you are likely guilty of this faux-pas [mistake] also.
Doing this absolutely pisses girls off!
It shows that you have no depth about yourself as a man.
Messaging a girl just because she looks hot, and basing your message on her hotness, simply makes you appear needy, desperate, horny and weird.
It's as if you never seen a sexy girl before.
Hence, you want to avoid commenting on the obvious: her looks.
Become that rare guy- that Alpha Male- who has so many hot girl in his life, that he doesn't get fazed and carried away by any one girl.
That is what you want to communicate to girls online: that you aren't desperate, aren't needy, aren't horny and aren't lonely.
By actually reading the girl's profile to find out something about her, it indicates to the girl that you actually are human, and not some generic android who mass-texts women.
The worst thing you can do online is to mass-text random women the same message.
In fact, Plenty of Fish [POF] dating site, seems to be deleting accounts nowadays if you engage in mass texting, which is seen as spamming...and it is.
Though I begrudge POF for banning my account due to unknown reasons, I applaud them for cracking down on mass-texters.
It forces guys to have to get game and be srcinal.
Be as it may, girls are leery and wary of the guy who doesn't read their profile, but only text them to make cheesy comments about how sexy she is.
You set yourself apart from the clownish crowd by actually picking something out of a girl's profile on which to comment.
You will stand out immediately in her eyes.
As you would learn in the field of psychology, having your name mentioned, will serve to build a sort of connection between you and the one who had mentioned you.
Inside every one of us, is an attention freak who loves attention.
Having our name mentioned, give us that dose of attention we secretly crave.
Not just that, but it builds a connection/rapport.
Whenever you mention a girl's name as in your first message to her online, you instantly build rapport/comfort with her.
It's as if you already know her.
This is what you should look to communicate also. The feeling that she and you are already acquainted instead of total strangers.
Mere mention of her name in your 1st message, will give her this feeling: that y'all are not complete strangers.
This is why you always want to ensure that you mention her name in your messages.
Directly complimenting women online is 1 of the biggest ways to instantly blow yourself out.
In other words, if you want to turn the girl off from you: then compliment her in your 1st message.
Sure she may reply with a "thank you".
However, that is just to be polite and keep you far.
She's just being nice to you, though she hates you for being so generic and obvious.
The real reason why compliments online is a big turnoff, is simply because everyone else is doing it.
You have to remember that every other guy online is flooding her inbox with generic compliments on her looks.
Ugly girls alone get tons of compliments by weird guys on a daily basis.
Imagine the semi-hot girls!
Women online are simply tired of being complimented by men.
Most girls will flat out ignore your messages of compliment.
Of the ones who do reply: they are just being polite to you.
Therefore, avoid giving direct compliments at all cost.
The girl knows that you like her looks or else you would not have contacted her.
Right?
Right!
Hence, there's no reason to make it obvious to her by presenting yourself as an open book.
Opposed to the direct compliment that turns off women who are strangers, "Indirect Compliments" do the opposite in setting you apart from 99.9% of guys out there who lack social intelligence.
Attractive women know that they are attractive.
You don't have to mention it.
They have fucking mirrors which they stare into every 2 seconds.
An indirect compliment however, shows how socially savvy you are.
What exactly is an indirect compliment?
A.) It is complimenting a girl on something that isn't obvious
B.) It is complimenting a girl without appearing to compliment her
Saying to a girl [whether online or in person]:
"Cool glasses you have on".
That is an indirect compliment.
Why?
You're not complimenting her on the obvious: ass, tits, lips, body, looks, etc.
You're complimenting her on something that isn't the obvious in the sense that lots of people compliment her on that thing.
Saying to a girl:
"I'm not really fond of women who work out. But you don't seem to overdo it".
That is an indirect compliment also.
You want to compliment a girl on her strengths, style and personality.
It is more flattering to a girl to compliment her on her inner beauties than the obvious-outer qualities such as looks and sexiness.
By no means am I saying to never compliment a girl on her looks and sexiness. But those things should be left for a little later and not within your 1st message.
Ok, so you sent off your 1st message based on the tips I gave you previously.
Your job now is just to wait for a reply. And I don't mean for you to literally await a reply with the phone in your hand or glued to your computer.
You want to play the numbers game and message at least 6 American girls among the same lines as the 1st girl.
However, remember to pick out something specific about the 6 girls and message each one based on that 1 quality of thing about her in her profile.
Therefore, you're not just messaging 1 girl and putting all your hopes on that 1 girl to reply.
You're increasing your odds for success by contacting 6 girls.
If you did this correctly: all 6 of them will reply!
Chances are though, even if you don't get a reply from all 6, the odds have it that you should at least get a reply from 3 of the 6...if not 4.
Without a doubt; you will get a reply within minutes...depended on whether the girls are online at the moment.
By all means: please avoid sending a follow up message if the girl doesn't reply!
You will appear needy and desperate to send another message without her replying to the 1st.
Therefore, have a bit of patience.
If she doesn't reply within 2 days; then move along!
There are various reasons why a girl may not reply to your initial message online.
For starters, she might be genuinely busy. Secondly, she probably hasn't been online to check her messages yet.
Thirdly, probably she didn't notice your message.
After all, women get lots of messages online.
Yours simply could've gotten lost in the mix.
Hopefully the photo meme below will give you an idea of how many messages a girl gets on an average day or week.
As a man: you just can't fathom that.
For an average chick: that is how it goes.
Hence, your message could've gotten lost among the dozens.
Another reason why she probably hasn't responded to your 1st message is she simply isn't interested due to something she's read in your profile.
Most guys kill their chances before even contacting the girl by having shitty profiles.
To learn how to tweak your profile, check out this article of mines:
Socialkenny's POF Online Dating Method
What you write in your profile can make or break you instantly.
Always bear in mind that as the girl gets/reads your message, she will 99.9.9% of the time, read your profile and scan your photos directly afterwards.
Therefore, you want to come off the right way in what you include within your profile.
Whatever she replies with pertaining to your 1st message, you use common sense in your 2nd message.
Me: "Hey Gina, I'm an animal lover also. But I don't think dogs are cooler than cats. We'll have to debate that one".
Girl: "LOL I like cats too. But dogs are better and more fun to cuddle with".
Me: "LOL I hear that. Hey, I'll be coming to your city in another 2-3 weeks. I'm guessing you know a chilled spot where I can get a cup of coffee.
Girl: "Sure. I know a place..."
You get the point guys. You don't want to waste an entire day getting to the point.
In your 2nd or 3rd message, you want the girl to know that you aren't from where she is, and that you're coming to visit her town soon.
If you've ever read my 1st book: "How to bang foreign girls", there's a chapter in there in which I speak about local women being open to quick sex with men who aren't from their town, city or country.
By making the girl know [subtly or blatantly] that you'll be visiting her town, that line alone with activate her desires to want to hook up with a stranger.
You, as a foreigner, pose little to no threat to the girl's social status and social value.
Since she doesn't know you, and you don't live in her town/country, she is 10 times as likely and willing to want to sleep with you on that basis alone.
With guys who she already knows, and are from her town, the girl risks putting her reputation on the line, since a local guy can always spread the word that she's an easy slut.
With a foreign guy, or someone who isn't from her town, she doesn't risk this.
Therefore, bear that factor in mind when she replies.
You want to get straight to the point that you'll be visiting her town.
In essence, you're asking her to be your chaperon by inquiring as to somewhere you can get a good cup of coffee when you do get there.
Now, remember; it doesn't have to be coffee. I'm merely using that as an example.
It can be pizza, seafood, tea, alcohol, clubbing, museum, bookstore, etc.
If you read in the girl's profile that she enjoys going to the bookstore to buy hardcover books.
You can always wisely say to her in your 2nd or 3rd message:
"Hey Jessica, I'll be visiting your town in the next 2 weeks. I'm looking for a library or bookstore I can grab some cool books while there".
This will definitely strike her in a positive way.
The fact that you have "bookstore" in common, will build the attraction.
In essence, what you're doing is setting up a date without directly setting up the date.
Assuming she responds positively to the idea of you visiting her town, you want to grab her phone number ASAP!
How would you know if she responded positively?
The fact that she replied at all to that message, is your green light!
The reason why you must get her phone number quickly is because you could possibly mess it up by asking something dumb. Or secondly, the conversation via messages could likely stall...
where you either run out of things to say, or you belabor your point too long on a particular subject, and you wind up boring the girl.
Thus, it is a wiser strategy to get her phone number before any of those 2 things could happen.
Ok, another tip.
You should NOT try to get her phone # as your initial message.
Tons of guys foolishly make this mistake and they almost always fail to get her number, or the girl gives them a fake phone number.
Therefore, never try to get the girl's # in your first message.
It will fail!
The reason for this is simple: the girl knows nothing about you.
She hadn't exchanged not even 2 messages to get a sense of your personality.
Are you fun and cool?
Crazy and stalkerish?
The girl doesn't know.
Hence, you cannot ask for her phone number before she gets an idea of your personality. So that is why you should at least follow my method and at least exchange a few messages before going for the phone number.
Let's proceed.
Getting the number isn't difficult.
Simply say to her [after you would've sent the previous message about coming to her town]:
"Hey Danielle, you have a cool vibe. Let's keep in touch until I get to America in another 2 weeks. Send me your phone number so I ring you when I'm in your town".
That's it!
If you don't want to use that verbatim, you can always add a little flavor and your touch to it.
However, keep it brief and simple!
You don't want to come off as though you're begging her for the number.
This is why you should never ask!
Only people of lower value "ASK"...such as vagrants and bums!
Therefore, you want to tell/command her to send her phone number.
You want to assume the sale.
You want to assume that she will give you her number.
Generally, guys will ask me:
"Why get her phone number when I can simply contact her online"?
The answer is simple:
She isn't always online!
Sometimes, girls go days, weeks and months without checking or logging into their onlinedating profiles.
How sorry would you feel to pop up in her town to then try to reach her on Tagged, Hi5, Facebook, POF, Match, etc. to then find out that she hasn't been active in weeks, so your messages go unnoticed while you're there in her town.
Don't leave it up to chance!
This is why it's important that you had gotten her phone number. Furthermore, anything can happen.
Her online account can get deleted, hacked, suspended and so forth.
She could lose access to her account by not remembering her user name or password combination and doesn't bother to go through the hassle of creating a new one.
These things are fucking real!
With having her phone number, you have none of these things to worry about since you have direct-lines of communication with her.
Unless she loses her phone and SIM card; you have nothing to worry about.
Also, having her phone number puts you into an elite class above the other guys whom she'd shunned and denied giving her number to.
Now, don't get me wrong. A phone number means shit to women!
They give them out like it's free candy.
However, online, it's a slightly different ballgame. If she gives you her number, it's a stronger indication of something there than if this was in person where she gives you her phone number just to get rid of you.
Be as it may, it's always best to get her number opposed to solely communicating with her online.
The phone number isn't to be called 24/7 and harassed!
It is to take things 1 step further towards ultimately meeting up whenever you touch down in her town (or America).
You obviously don't wait until you get there to call her.
After getting her phone number, all contacts with her online should cease!
If you'd met her on POF, Tagged.com, Hi5, Match, E-Harmony, Tinder, Facebook, whatever, you want to cease communications with her on that medium which you'd met her.
Her phone number will become modus de communiqué.
Find out if she uses Whatsapp or any such popular-instant-messenger cross platform application.
If she does; chit chat a bit with her there via text.
You can call her in order to find out if she has such an app on her phone in order to message each other.
If confirmed, you then contact her there through text.
The reason for texting at this point is to remain warm, relevant and on the girl's radar. If you'll be touching down in America in 2 weeks time, you have to keep in some contact with the girl for those 2 weeks.
Same goes for a month.
If you don't: the vibe will go cold.
Hence, your texting and random phone calls are to keep things warm.
The question is now, "What should I text her...and how often"?
Standard text-game rules apply!
If you don't know what those are, I'll outline a few of them for you below.
#1) Keep texts short
#2) No texting/calling at crazy hours
#3) Don't over-text
#4) Don't spend an entire day texting with her
#5) Be light-hearted, playful and fun(ny)
Texting is a delicate art.
You can fuck it up instantly without much effort.
That's why you should be mindful to not over-text.
Remember, your texts aren't to get to know the girl exactly.
Your texts are just to reminder her that you're still alive, haven't fallen off the map and you're still interested.
This can be achieved by drive-by texts.
In other words; you text her and go!
"Hey Jenny, it's Kenny. Just having a cold beer. Hope you're old enough to drink" :)
Add a smiley face just to lighten up the text some more.
The reason why such a text [the way I structure it] is so critical is that I didn't ask her any questions.
Bear in mind as I said earlier guys: asking girls questions while online or through text period, makes the girl have to think.
If you make a girl invest too much over text (by thinking), she will decide to not think, hence ignore your message(s).
Therefore, stay away from asking questions through text at this point.
Just simply make some witty, snarky comments and keep it moving.
The girl will usually reply with something funny of her own. It's up to you whether you decide to reply to her reply.
You want to do this at least twice a day until you finally get to her town [America] when it's time to meet up.
Calling can be done briefly every other day.
Everything from here on out requires common sense until you finally meet the girl.
Ok guys, this approach assumes that you are already in the America.
The online approach has been fully exhausted.
If you happen to already be in the United States [living or visiting], you can still utilize the online approach.
However, assume you're going the in-person approach route of meeting American girls on the streets, the bus, train, supermarket, bars, etc, you would have already gotten the format I outlined a few passages back.
We'd left off at getting the girl's phone number.
What you do from there is absolutely the same approach as you would've done had you met her online.
However, you can operate even quicker since you are already in the girl's town.
There is no reason to waste time and allow a week to go by before trying to see the girl.
If you met her on a Monday, you should be trying to meet up with her by Wednesday.
You do this by building some time constraints.
In other words, whenever you decide to contact the girl by phone call [the next day], you want to give her the impression that you won't be around indefinitely.
It doesn't matter if you live in The USA. Give the girl the impression that you MIGHT be leaving soon for whatever reason.
This will force her to want to act NOW and not later.
How do you do this?
Ok, Monday, I'd approached the hot American girl on the streets, ran the method and got her phone number.
Tuesday afternoon, I text her something fun/funny:
"The coffee is horrible in this town. I was hoping you would recommend a good spot for me"
Tuesday evening, I ring her phone:
Me: "What's up Darcia? You know that coffee spot on ***** street? I should be going there tomorrow [Wednesday] and Thursday. I would like you to join me before I fly out this weekend. I may leave Friday or Saturday depending on scheduling".
Did you see what I just did there?
You want to put 2 days out there on the table in case she says she's busy Wednesday, you'd mentioned Thursday as an open day also. So this increases the odds that she'll have the time on 1 of those days.
Also, by telling her that you "MIGHT" fly out weekend, it creates urgency on her part to meet up.
Without urgency and time constraint, the girl has no reason to rush, right?
Exactly!
However, you're not looking to play a 3-weeks waiting game in order to see her.
You want to meet up with her as soon as humanly possible.
Waiting is the kiss of death!
Guys generally make 2 crucial mistakes which are the antithesis of each other.
1.) They move too fast
2.) They move too slowly
Now, moving too fast isn't a bad thing when put in context.
You should aim to move fast in seeing the girl.
However, the area in which guys move too fast, is in trying to get her number before even striking up a decent chat.
Where you want to move fast, is during the so-called pre-date phase.
From the moment you get her phone number, you should plan to meet up within 2-3 days.
Why waiting a week + is risky is because interest could possibly fade.
As time goes by, people lose interest in others.
Instead of chancing it by waiting over a week to set up the rendezvous, you always want to strike while the iron is hot.
Always live by the following rule in dating:
"You never know what could happen".
For Heaven's sake; you could get hit by a bus tomorrow!
The hot-American girl whom you'd picked up could possibly get hitched by next week and you're stuck out in the proverbial cold!
There is no time for waiting/wasting!
When it comes to picking up and seducing American girl as a non-American male, it is a very simple and straight-forward task.
What usually hinders your progress is the perception that you have to operate from a plane of lower-perceive value, while putting the girl on a pedestal because you believe that she's inherently more special than you are.
Operating from such a frame, whether you're dealing with an American girl or not, that is a terrible way to approach the idea of meeting women.
Girls aren't scary!
Sure cold-approaching them while out may strike you as weird, and may leave the girl takenaback at first. But once she realizes that you aren't some lunatic looking to scam something out of her, then the approach will flow like waters over a dam.
As a long-time pick-up artist, I've approached thousands of women in my seduction career- 70% of them being American women- and those are absolutely the most receptive to the idea of meeting someone new.
When it comes to race and ethnicity: don't make than an excuse neither to not approach white American women.
All (westernized) women are absolutely the same on a behavioral and psychological level.
Realize that!
Hence, when approach American women, be it online or in person, don't look at the game as though you're partaking in a grand mission where you need to bring your A Game forward.
The more emphasis and mental pressure you put upon yourself to be perfect in the approach, the more you'll stumble along the way.
Hence, you want to relax, say to yourself that "these are just women", and not supernatural creatures whom you must bow down to and become subservient.
You should also take comfort in the fact that American men are terrible with women.
It isn't that they lack the social skills [which they do], but due to the media, feminism and having the wrong idea of what women want, American men are too docile and meek whenever trying to meet women.
A greater portion of American women are enamored with the Hollywood stereotype of the foreign guy who is dominant, manly, Alpha and takes control of shit!
She craves the guy who is bold and ballsy and willing to step up to the plate and sweep her off her feet!
This doesn't mean to buy a bouquet of roses and go around and give a rose to every hot American chick you come across [though this would be a great exercise].
You're not looking to be Mr. Romantic here. Just Mr. Ballsy.
This is easily achieved just by having the guts to approach women.
Realize that most men will shit themselves at the thought of approaching strangers.
You're likely one of those men also.
However, now that you know that women aren't scary creatures who'll bite your head off for approaching them; you have no further excuses to not approach American women. The reality is, people don't want to be rude to others.
It'll take a tremendous load for a stranger to lash out on another stranger for simply approaching them.
People generally want to project themselves as sociable, nice, friendly and helping.
If for starters you're having major issues approaching women [American or non-American]; start small!
My approach and method here that I'd shared with you, is a simplified form of cold-approach pickup.
I wasn't asking you to do something grandiose and spectacular, neither to have the perfect line that will woo the girl into your arms.
It is just to simply approach women and ask a question or to get their opinion on something.
For further pointers on this, you can download my free e-book guide of 7 simple steps to become a social person with women.
"7 ways to become social with women"
Lastly, if you're reading this e-book right now from outside of the United States and you do have near-future plans to visit America (or perhaps to immigrate there); ensure that you keep this guide handy!
Make sure that it is a must-have component in your proverbial travel-kit!
You don't want to leave your country without it!
Since it is in an electronic-book format, you should always have easy access from a smartphone...so that's a plus. ;)
On a related note, if you happen to already be inside of the USA while reading this guide: you can and should take action from today in meeting American women if you aren't an American by birth!
I'm encouraging you to take advantage of your natural strengths in the game of dating and meeting American women.
What are some of your natural strengths for summary?
*Being Worldly
*Having an accent
*Being exotic
*Having a foreigner's appeal
As for "accents", which was a detailed topic throughout this book, I want to emphasize that if you do speak English with an accent; keep it!
Retain your accent!
If you can speak American English perfectly: FINE!
However, you want to revert to having some tinge of accent whenever interacting with American women whom you're trying to get with.
Most men are shocked when I say this. But that's because they are looking at the game from the wrong angle. You need to know what is attractive to a woman and what is not.
Having an accent and speaking English with an accent, is an attractive gift.
It is nothing to be ashamed of!
Embrace it!
Most men, who are foreign to America, once they do touchdown in America, automatically crawl into a shell of self-protection.
They walk up and down, North to South, East to West, without uttering a word to anyone, because of the language barrier, and the perceived misconception that speaking English incompletely, will make them look like fools.
This is NOT so!
You only believe it is!
For starters, as you walk about tomorrow- in fact, I want you to do this right now- put down the e-book, hit the streets [if you are in America] and say "hi" or "good day" to at least 10 (random) people...whether male or female.
I'm trying to get you out of the fucking shell!
Your accent is NOT a barrier!
Go say "hi" to at least 10 people and come back and let me know how it went!
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Ok, so how was it?
Did you die?
Did anyone laugh at you for the accent?
Likely NOT!
If you're not in America (yet) but there are Americans located where you are: go say hi to them! A simple "hello" and go!
It won't hurt you!
Also bear in mind dude: I am NOT just some random American guy advising you to do something that he himself haven't faced.
I am NOT an American!
Therefore, I am sailing in the same boat as you are.
If I was able to make this transition from shy foreign loser-guy to having sex with tons of American women as someone who spoke English with an accent- then you can obviously do the same!
I went from being laughed at in school for my accent, to now sleeping with more American girls than the average American male could even dream of.
To be honest, whenever I'm around American men, they feel a bit uneasy in that I'm able to attract and seduce their women without much effort while they themselves have to wait around to scramble for the crumbs off of my table.
Even on online forums, it is typical that I get into e-arguments with American men over the fact that I teach guys how to seduce their women.
Sure they are coy, cunning and proud enough to not admit that they are envious of the fact that I date more American women than them.
However, that will be the backlash you will have to face from men.
Men are very territorial of their women.
We males, still have this pack and tribe mentality which is embedded within our genetic makeup through hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution.
We feel threatened by other men stepping onto our territory.
The reality is: no man likes it when an "outsider" snatches up his women.
However, since women aren't property and they having a mind of their own: they decide to take the social risk to hook up with the so-called outsider...which is you.
Before wrapping up, I also want to touch on my personal experience with relocating back to my homeland in the Caribbean island. Having lived fulltime in America since a kid, I became Americanized in every sense of the word.
As I returned back home, I was essentially a stranger/foreigner/outsider.
I had a foreign appeal which attracted women tremendously!
The simple fact that I spoke differently (having an American accent), girls were instantly attracted to me on that basis.
It wasn't that an American-English accent sounded better than the local-Caribbean English.
The attraction was simply because I spoke differently, had an accent and was foreign to my own homeland.
Sensing that I was onto something, and that women in Antigua were super attracted to me based on my foreignness: I reaped all the benefits of this by sleeping with as many women as humanly possible!
I could've taken the other route and bitched up and crawled into a self-contained shell and not exploit the situation. But I wisely manned up and embraced my foreignness and slept with a new girl every other day.
The same would happen wherever I went.
This is why whenever you travel, you should be a pussy-magnet naturally once girls sense that you're not from their country.
Most men foolishly pass up this opportunity by self-segregating.
Whenever I travel to another country or island, it is without saying that I sleep with at least 3 random women over the course of my 4-5 day stay.
It puzzles me that men actually travel and never meet women in the country to which they travel.
This ineptitude is largely credited to guy's ignorance and lack of know-how and knowledge of what women respond to.
You should be getting laid more and having more dating successes on foreign soil than you do at home!
As I detaily touched on in a previous passage, women are 10 times as likely and more willing to hook up with random strangers than they are with guys whom they know personally or whom they know of. This revelation may shock the shit out of you if haven't ever read it before.
I have a saying which goes like this:
"Familiarity kills attraction".
What does that mean?
The more a woman knows about you, your chances to sleep with her or to become intimate, will have diminished dramatically!
Sounds backwards right?
That is 1 of the laws of attractions which remains true to date.
If you want to turn a girl off and lose your chance to get with her: tell her everything about you!
Open up to her!
You'll soon to regret making such a foolish and common mistake.
This is where the beauty comes in as a foreign guy.
As someone who isn't American, you enjoin unto yourself the stranger's appeal...which means that more women [i.e. American] will prefer to take the chance to sleep with you ASAP!
The reason why you have a difficult time sleeping with attractive women who live in your town, is the inherent risk that you pose to her reputation.
After sleeping with the local girl in your own hometown, she has to worry about you keeping the fling a little secret between you and her...or whether you will talk and defame her name around town as a wanton-easy slut.
A woman's #1 fear is to be perceived an easy slut.
Her reputation and social value mean everything to her.
She risks this by recklessly sleeping with guys who live in her neighborhood or town.
On the other hand, she doesn't have to worry about putting her reputation on the line if she sleeps with a guy who isn't from her town...for instance- a foreigner.
There's no incentive on your part to want to ruin her reputation.
With a local guy from her town, if she has a fling with him, realizes the sex was awful so she moves on to some other guy.
Guy 1 [the local] who she had awful sex with, he then feels neglected, gets jealous, and out of spite and hurt, he decides to scandalize her name around town, in social media, among mutual friends, etc.
I mean- this is real shit that happens often!
A girl has much to lose by getting romantically involved with a guy whom she knows from her hometown and with whom she shares mutual friends.
It is for this reason why she would prefer to sleep with a foreign guy and not have to worry about her peer group of friends, her family or coworkers finding out how much she enjoys sexual escapades.
Armed with this knowledge that I imparted with you throughout this script, you will be able to pick up American girls with ease! The hidden beauty about this method of mines is that it is applicable to anywhere in the world.
If you're an American male, you can use this guide to pick up and sleep with South American girls, Canadians, Brits, Asians, etc.
As long as you travel, this document is applicable to picking up women in the country to which you're traveling.
Isn't that nice?
I bet!
Now, if you're a local guy looking to sleep with foreign women who visit your town or country, then you will want to check out my classic e-book [my 1st.]:
"How to bang foreign girls...revised edition"
Oh- before I go- honestly- I want to touch on fashion as I spoke about in an earlier passage.
In the pick-up community, this is dubbed Peacocking, where the guy dresses in order to attract girls.
Now, I'm not saying that you have to wear outlandish stuff just to get women's attention.
Just that you want to have an accessory or 2 to go along with your wardrobe and to compliment your style.
Most men, who are foreign to America, unfortunately dress outdated, drab, bland and tired.
There is neither oomph nor pizzazz to their wardrobe.
A simple tip to add a little bit of peacocking flavor to your style, would be to purchase a pair of cool-looking sun shades.
They don't have to be expensive at all.
I find that sun shades, for some strange reason, makes me look and feel cooler and more confident. And I actually attract more girls whenever I do wear them.
Whether you're younger or older, shades will compliment you.
We'll catch up!
Remember to shoot me an e-mail if you have any question on the topic of picking up American girls.
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Socialkenny is a long-time member and veteran of the pickup/seduction community. He specializes in the art of cold-approaching pickup, which is to meet random women and convert those meetings into instant dates, sex and dating. As an instructor and practitioner of the art of pickup, Socialkenny has tutored countless numbers of men across the globe: in person, through phone consultations, texts, e-mails and various medias that best suit his pupils. In a genre where most guys preach, Kenny has over the years demonstrated live on hiddencamera video the art of seduction, in which separates him from among the pack. Website/blog: "PUA Sex Adventure" Youtube: "K PUA" Facebook Page: "Socialkenny Seduction"
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