If#you#want#access#to#the#single#fastest,#most# reliable,#and#most#under#the#radar#path#to#taking# command#of#the#sexual#urges#and#triggers#inside#the# minds#of#the#women#you#want,#chase&framing#is#how# you#do#it.# # I#came#up#with#chase#framing#back#in#2009#a>er# realizing#that#the#gaping#hole#in#my#game#was#the#lack# of#a#sexual#presence#and#clear#sexual#inten@ons.# # Several#years#later#I#started#teaching#this#to#my# students,#and#we’ve#refined#and#upgraded#it#since# then,#to#get#it#to#the#point#it’s#at#today:#a#streamlined,# easy#to#use#sexual#tension,#laughter,#and#excitement# genera@ng#machine(that#works.# 2#
Believe#it#or#not,#the#majority#of#men#try# very#hard#to#hide#their#sexuality#around# #women#they’re#interested#in,#out#of#a# # ######misguided#belief#that#women#will# # #think#they’re#“only#interested#in# # #sex”#and#then#won’t#talk#to#them#or# ######like#them.# # ###What#we#want#to#achieve#is#the# #opposite.#Our&objec4ve:&to&show& &women&that&we&are&all&about&sex…& &&&&&only&just&in&exactly&the&same&way&that& &&&&they,&women&are.& 3#
For#all#the#stuff#the#media#tries#to#sell#you#about#how#women’s#minds#work,# they’re#in#fact#no#great#mystery.#They#work#simply:#a&woman&sees&you&as& & & &&&being&exactly&as&you&present&yourself.# # # # # ##So,#come#across#like#a#platonic#nice#guy,#and#she#will#see# # # # ####you#as#a#platonic#nice#guy,#and#experience#zero#sexual#or# # # # ######roman@c#interest#in#you.# # # # # #######Conversely,#come#across#as#an#exci@ng,#intriguing,#and# # # # ########highly#sexual#man,#and#she#will#see#you#as#this#–#and# # # # # #hope#for,#want,#and#expect#from#you#the#kind#of#thing# # # # # #that#very#few#of#the#men#she#meets#are#actually# # # # # ######able#to#provide#(read:#hot,#discreet,#tangledRinRtheR# # # # # # ##bedRsheets#good#sex).#
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Most#women#have#some#resistance# to#men#talking#about#sex.#Further,# the#way#most#men#do#it,#it’s#dry,# logical,#and#clinical#–#and#not# remotely#sexually#exci@ng.# # What#we’re#going#for#instead#is# not#a#discussion#of#the#mechanics# of#sex;#we#don’t#care#what#her# favorite#posi@on#is#or#where#the# most#exci@ng#place#she’s#had#sex# was.# # Instead,#what#we#will#be#doing#is# flir1ng#with#her#–#in#a#very#sexual# way.# 5#
Her:#I’ve#always#wanted#to#try#scuba#diving.# Him:#[sexual#voice]#Hmm…#[pause]#what#else#have# you#always#wanted#to#try…?# Her:#[laughing]#You’re#bad.# Him:#And#do#you#like#bad#men?# Her:#I#like#good#men…# Him:#Then#I#guess#there#must#be#something#about# the#man#in#front#of#you#that#compelled#you#to#make# an#excep@on#to#talk#to#him.# 7#
Chase#framing#works#thanks#to#the#power#of# ##innuendo.#Innuendo#asks#a#woman#to#do#a# #li`le#interpreta@on#–#a#li`le#detec@ve#work,#if# ##you#will#–#to#figure#out#what#the#veiled# #####meaning#is#beneath#a#comment.# # # ####Because#there#are#two#(or#more)# # ###ways#she#could#interpret#any# # ###statement,#if&she&interprets&it& & &&&&sexually&she&is&in&on&the&act.# # # ##At#this#point,#it’s#become#par@cipatory# # #–#and,#hence,#fun.#
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The#other#power#of#innuendo#is#that#her#mind#first#seeks#to#answer# your#ques@on#or#statement#logically…#then#realizes#what#you#were# really#driving#at.# # For#instance:# # Him:#[sexual#voice]#Hmm…#what#else#have#you#always#wanted#to#try…?# # Her#first#thought#will#be,#“You#know,#I’ve#always#wanted#to#go# skydiving…”#and#then#a#moment#later#it#will#hit#her#that,#judging#by#his# tone#of#voice#and#facial#expressions,#he(doesn’t(care.#He’s#not#asking# her#logically;#he’s#flir1ng#with#her.# # And#she#laughs…#and#is#turned#on.# 9#
There’s#another#aspect#to#chase#framing#though,#and#it’s# this:#you#don’t#just#make#sexual#references#with#it…#you& make&reference&to&her&pursuing&men&in&general,&or&you& specifically.# # Her:#I#like#this#place.# Him:#It#does#seem#like#a#good#place#to#pick#up#cute#boys.# # The#implica@on#here,#of#course,#is#that#the#reason#she# “likes#this#place”#is#because#it’s#where#she#comes#to#hunt# for#a`rac@ve#men.#Just#like#you.# # 10#
When#she#realizes#you’ve#“misinterpreted”#what#she’s# just#said#–#and#she#thinks#that#you#think#she’s#sexR crazed,#or#chases#a>er#men,#or#is#chasing#you,#she#will# a`empt#to#correct#you.# # That’s#part#of#her#social#programming;#a&woman& must&always&appear&reserved&and&without& passion.#When#you#paint#her#differently,#she# snaps#to#a`en@on#and#a`empts#to#correct#your# “faulty”#interpreta@on.# # Only,#here,#you#never#give#her#correc@ons#any# acknowledgement,#and#only#con@nue#to#flirt#or#talk#–# so#what#she#experiences#mentally#is#your#impression# of#her,#enduring.# 11#
Okay#now:#I#want#you#to#NOT#think#about#two#old#people#having# gentle#old#folk#sex.# # You’re#thinking#about#it#now,#aren’t#you?#That’s&what&chase&framing& does.#It#introduces#a#concept#to#her#head#that#wasn’t#there#before.# # Doesn’t#ma`er#if#she#was#thinking#about#you#sexually#or#not#prior;#if# # # #######she#even#likes#you#that#way#or#not.#As#soon#as#you# # # # #start#men@oning#it,#it’s#in#her#head.# # & & & & & & &&&And&the&longer&she&s4cks&around&and&the& & & & & & & &&&&&more&she&listens&to&you&say&sexy&things,& & & & & & & &&&&&&&the&deeper&in&there&it&gets.&
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What’s#the#difference#between#these#two#dialogues?# & Her:#I#like#this#place.# Him:#It#does#seem#like#a#good#place#to#pick#up#cute#boys.# & Her:#I#like#this#place.# Him:#Do#you#come#here#for#sex?# & The&difference&is&that&the&first&is&fun&and&flirty,&and&is&enjoyed.#The#second#is# just#extremely#logical,#boring,#and#insul@ng,#and#will#be#rejected.# & Because#the#first#is#enjoyed,#the#statement#is#not#rejected#like#the#offensive# ma`erRofRfact#second#statement#is,#and#the#woman#remains#open#to#more# chase#framing#from#the#man#a>er#this.#She&allows&herself&to&be&seduced&by& him.& 13#
Here’s#what#we’ve#got:# # 1. Innuendo#gives#her#an#exci@ng#“jolt”#of#realiza@on#as#she#realizes#there’s#a# double#meaning#–#this#is#fun#and#amusing# # 2. Because#she#interprets#the#sexual#double#meaning,#she#is#also#“in”# on#the#joke#(and#guilty#of#its#sexual#content)#–#so#she#feels#more# sexual# # 3. The#structure#of#the#chase#frame#posi@ons#her#as#pursuing# men#or#pursuing#you#–#which#makes#her#think#about#and# entertain#this#thought# # 4. When#she#tries#to#“correct”#you,#but#isn’t#able#to,#the#thought#becomes# more#deeply#embedded#in#her#mind# # 5. Chase#framing#implants#sugges@ons#in#her#mind#even(if#she#hadn’t# remotely#thought#of#those#sugges@ons#before# # 6. Because#chase#framing#is#fun,#it’s#also#okay#to#do#–#and#she#will#give# you#her#permission#to#keep#doing#it,#and#keep#seducing#her#further# and#further# 14#
Her:#I’ve#never#been#much#of#a#reader.# Him:#You#more#prefer#to#put#your#hands#on#things.# Her:#Yeah…#I#guess#you#could#say#that.# Him:#…#And#really#get#a#feel#for#them.# Her:#[catching#on]#I#really#like#to#get#a#feel#for#them!# Him:#I#was#wondering#who#grabbed#my#bu`#earlier.# Her:#You#totally#caught#me.# Him:#If#it#happens#again,#I#may#have#to#spank#you.# 16#
How#do#you#put#together#a#dialogue#like# the#one#on#the#last#slide?# # If#you’re#not#in#the#habit#of#gekng#sexual# #####with#women,#or#you#don’t#have#a#very# ######good#sense#of#humor#yet,#this#may# # #seem#beyond#you.# # # ##In#fact#though,#that#last#slide#is#the# # ##result#of#taking#just#a#few#simple# # ##steps.# 17#
The#sec@on#of#dialogue#that#sets#up#the#chase#frame#here#was#the#reac@on#to#the# (totally#unsexual)#statement#“I’m#not#much#of#a#reader”:# # Her:#I’ve#never#been#much#of#a#reader.# Him:#You#more#prefer#to#put#your#hands#on#things.# # In#this#case,#the#male#knew#that#when#a#woman#make#a#casual#“I’m#not#a…”#or#“I#never# really…”#statement,#that#leaves#room#to#retort#with#an#educated#guess#about#what#she# is.# # If#she#says#“I#can’t#stand#working#in#an#office”,#she#probably#likes#freedom,#adventure,# and#spontaneity.# # If#she#says#“I’ve#never#been#much#of#an#animal#person”,#she#must#get#her# companionship#needs#met#from#people#instead.# # You#simply#pick#an#alterna@ve,#and#phrase#it#in#a#way#you#can#get#sexual#shortly.# 18#
Because#she#didn’t#catch#his#meaning#the#first#@me#around# with#the#comment#about#really#pukng#her#hands#on#things# (pre`y#common#for#her#to#miss#innuendo#when#she’s#thinking# more#logically),#he#makes#another#pass:# # Him:#…#And#really#get#a#feel#for#them.# # This#@me,#she#gets#it:# # Her:#[catching#on]#I#really#like#to#get#a#feel#for#them!# # …#and#plays#along,#which#is#always#fun.# # 19#
Because#she’s#playing#along#and#agreeing#that#she#is#sexual,# it’s#now#@me#to#set#the#chase#frame:# # Him:#I#was#wondering#who#grabbed#my#bu`#earlier.# # This#is#harmless#enough#that#it’ll#fit#into#most#light# conversa@ons#without#offending#her#(e.g.,#you’re#not#saying,# “I#was#wondering#who#stroked#my#tes@cles#a#minute#ago,”# although#that#will#work#in#some#situa@ons),#but#it’s#naughty# enough#that#it#sets#the#frame.# # At#this#point,#he’s#now#painted#her#as#being#in#pursuit;#she’s# the#one#who#grabbed#his#bu`,#which#means#she#desires#him.# 20#
Here,#she#plays#along:# # Her:#You#totally#caught#me.# # To#reward#her#par@cipa@on#in#a#flirty#way,#he#mockRthreatens#her#if#she#does# it#again:# # Him:#If#it#happens#again,#I#may#have#to#spank#you.# # This#both#serves#as#an#acknowledgement#that#yes,#if#you#get#physical#with#me,# I#will#with#you#as#well,#which#makes#her#feel#safe#enough#with#him#that#she# will#con@nue#to#escalate#things#rather#than#pretend#to#be#a#“good#girl”#like# she#does#with#most#men#who#do#not#make#her#feel#safe#being#sexual#around# them…#while#also#invites#her#to#do#it#again#(and#then#get#spanked#–#a#very# playful,#sexual,#and#dominant#ac@on#that#she#may#want#to#make#happen).#
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The#most#likely#thing#to#happen#next#at#this#point,# with#her:# # • Par@cipa@ng#in#the#chase#frame# • Feeling#safe#to#escalate#the#chase#frame# • Being#invited#to#escalate#the#chase#frame# # …#is#for#her#to#grab#his#bu`,#and#then#laugh# and#wrestle#and#resist#when#he#makes#her# stand#up#or#bends#her#over#his#knee#to#spank# her.# # He’s#not#far#from#invi@ng#her#back#home#with# him#at#this#point#(and#almost#certainly#gekng#a# “yes”).#Here’s#another:# 22#
Her:#I#love#horses#so#much.# Him:#They#don’t#in@midate#you?# Her:#No!#How#could#a#horse#in@midate#anyone?# Him:#Well,#you#know…#they#have#really#big#penises.# Her:#I#never#look#at#their#penises!# Him:#So#you#prefer#smaller#penises?# Her:#No!# Him:#Oh,#okay,#that’s#good;#you#had#me#worried#for# a#second#there.# 23#
Now,#what#do#you#do#if#she# resists#lekng#you#set#up#a#chase# frame?# # That’s#simple#enough;#you& just&hold&a&stronger&frame& than&her&anyway.# # Just#keep#misinterpre@ng# what#she#says#(and#have#fun# with#it!).# 24#
You#can#turn#almost#anything#sexual#in#just#a#couple#of#statements#if# you’ve#tuned#your#mind#to#look#for#ways#to#do#this.# # In#this#case,#the#moment#she#men@oned#horses,#the#first#thing#the# male#here#thought#about#was#“giant#horse#penis.”# # Which#he#could#then#transi@on#into#talking#about#her#like#large#penises# in#general…#and#imply#that’s#why#she’s#chasing#him.# # Her:#I#love#horses#so#much.# Him:#They#don’t#in@midate#you?# Her:#No!#How#could#a#horse#in@midate#anyone?# Him:#Well,#you#know…#they#have#really#big#penises.# 25#
###Note#on#that#last:#why#ask#the#“don’t#horses#in@midate#you”# #ques@on#first#and#instead#just#jump#in#to#talking#about#horse# ########penises?# # #######The#reason#why#is#because#going#from#“I#love#horses”#to# #########“horses#have#large#penises”#is#too#far#a#leap#–#you#need#a# # #bridge#to#take#you#there,#to#avoid#coming#across#oddly.# # In#this#case,#you#use#confusion#and#curiosity#to#switch#her#out#of#a# “Horses#are#magnificent#creatures!”#mindset,#and#into#a#more# open#mindset#of#“What#is#he#talking#about?#I#need#more# informa@on#from#him.”# # Furthermore,#because#he#baited#her#into#asking#him#how#a#horse# could#possibly#in@midate#anyone#(by#asking#her#something#she# didn’t#fully#understand),#she’s#asking#him#for#this#(rather#ribald)# explana@on.#
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She#isn’t#ready#or#doesn’t#want#to#talk#about#sexual#things#with#him.# He#may#not#be#doing#a#good#job#turning#her#on#with#his#body# language,#touch,#and#voice,#or#she#may#be#a#sexually#repressed#person.# # Her:#I#never#look#at#their#penises!# Him:#So#you#prefer#smaller#penises?# Her:#No!# # Either#way,#rather#than#be#flustered#by#her#denials,#he#simply#keeps# twis@ng#about;#first#asking#if#she#likes#smaller#penises,#then#saying#he’s# relieved#that#she#doesn’t#(implying#she#likes#larger#penises…#and#that# his#is#among#those):# # Him:#Oh,#okay,#that’s#good;#you#had#me#worried#for#a#second#there.# 27#
The#next#step#a>er#this#is#for#him#to#flip#the#conversa@onal#flux#and#go#right#back#into# deep,#meaningful#connec@on#again.# # Most#likely,#that#means#he’ll#now#ask#her#a#serious#ques@on#about#her#love#for#horses# and#drop#the#horse#penis#topic.# # However,#since#he#never#retracts#or#apologizes#for#it,#but#simply#shrugs#off#her#denials# and#keeps#talking#to#her#about#other#things,#the&thread&is&leG&open&in&her&mind,#and# she#con@nues#to#think#about#penises…#and#wonder#if#his# is#as#large#as#he#claims#it#is#(and#really,#it#doesn’t#ma`er# if#your#penis#IS#large#or#small,#because#by#the#@me#you# reach#the#point#where#pants#are#coming#off,#she’ll#want#it# regardless).# # One#more#example:#
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Her:#Do#you#always#play#with#your#fingers#like#that?# Him:#Why?#What’s#it#making#you#think#of…?# Her:#[laughs]#I#was#just#asking.# Him:#Or#would#you#rather#I#was#playing#with#your#fingers?# Her:#Yes.#That’s#exactly#what#I#want.# Him:#All#right#here;#give#me#your#fingers#and#I’ll#play#with# them.# Her:#Here#you#are.# Him:#Now#that#I’m#not#playing#with#the#fingers#on#my# other#hand,#where#would#you#like#me#to#put#them?# 29#
This#was#a#case#of#a#woman#asking#a#rela@vely#innocent# ques@on,#but#allowing#herself#to#be#“backed#into#the#corner”# of#having#some#pre`y#heavy#sexual#innuendo#thrown#at#her.# # Not#that#she#isn’t#enjoying#every#moment#of#it,# of#course.# # The#man#knows#he#can#be#bold#here# because#she’s#asking#him#this#ques@on# about#himself…#which#means#she’s#paying# him#pre`y#close#a`en@on.#He#takes#that# and#runs#with#it.#
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If#you#were#paying#a`en@on,#you’ll#no@ce#that# mul@ple#different#frames#are#embedded#in#this# dialogue#–#they#are:# # • What#is#it#making#you#think#of?# • Would#you#rather#I#played#with#your#fingers?# • Where#should#I#put#these#other#fingers?# # Because#none#of#these#are#expected,#the#male# is#able#to#keep#throwing#in#new,#humorous,# scandalous#statements#and#the#woman#just# keeps#laughing#and#accep@ng#them.# 31#
He#begins#with#“pouncing”#as#soon#as#she#ques@ons#him#about#something# he’s#doing#with#himself…#the#trap#was#set#and#the#bait#has#been#taken:# # Her:#Do#you#always#play#with#your#fingers#like#that?# Him:#Why?#What’s#it#making#you#think#of…?# # She#laughs,#partly#into#it,#partly#not,#so#he#tries#another#angle:# # Her:#[laughs]#I#was#just#asking.# Him:#Or#would#you#rather#I#was#playing#with#your#fingers?# # This#@me#she#buys#in#and#plays#along:# # Her:#Yes.#That’s#exactly#what#I#want.#
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Now#he’s#got#her.#She’s#said#yes,#and#even#though#it’s#in# jest,#she#more#or#less#has#to#give#him#her#fingers#to#play# with:# # Him:#All#right#here;#give#me#your#fingers#and#I’ll#play#with# them.# Her:#Here#you#are.# # He#frames#this#almost#as#if#he#is#doing#her#a#favor#here#–# she#is#pursuing#him,#and#he#is#giving#in#to#her#pursuit.# 33#
Her#giving#him#her#hand#in#this#way#with#this#level#of#joking# and#flir@ng#back#and#forth#between#the#two#of#them#has#le># her#wide#open#for#his#third#and#final#sexually#loaded#remark:# # Him:#Now#that#I’m#not#playing#with#the#fingers#on#my#other# hand,#where#would#you#like#me#to#put#them?# # She’ll#crack#up#laughing,#and#tell#him#to#leave#them#on#the# table#or#something#along#those#lines,#but#the#frame#is#set:#he# has#these#fingers,#and#she#would#like#him#to#put#them…# somewhere.# # Everyone#knows#where#fingers#usually#go,#of#course.# 34#
Picking#the#right#things#to#say#in#your#chase#framing# is#important.#However,#there’s#a#li`le#more#nuance# to#it#than#words.# # That#nuance#is#your#suite#of#nonverbals:# # • Facial#expressions# • Body#language# • Voice#tone#(voice,#not#words#–#not#“verbal”)# 36#
The#difference#between#a#chase#frame#delivered# with#right#nonverbals#and#one#delivered#without# these#is#massive.#They#aren’t#even#in#the#same# ball#park.# # In#fact,#if#your#nonverbals#are#in#serious#need#of# an#overhaul…#you#should#focus#on#that#FIRST,# and#the#verbal#element#of#chase#framing# SECOND.# 37#
“You#know…#they#have#really#big#penises.”#
“You#know…#they#have#really#big#penises.”# 38#
Smile,#first#and#foremost#–#you#want#a#sexy#one.# # No@ce#how#in#the#model#the#lips# are#slightly#pursed,#the#lips#are# closed#(closed#mouth#=#sexy;# open#mouth#=#friendly),#and# the#smile#is#just#a#hint#of#a# smile,#rather#than#a#full#blown# one?# # That’s#what#you’re#going#for.# 39#
Right#a>er#smile#is#eye#contact.# # If#you#want#to#challenge#her#directly#(if#she’s#being#very#playful#OR#very# defiant),#you#will#look#dead#in#her#eyes#as#you#deliver#your#punchline.# # # # # # ##If#you#want#less#intensity,#you#will#look#in#her#eyes# # # # # ###as#you#set#it#up,#then#look#away#to#the#side#as#you# # # # # ###make#the#final#humorous#remark.# # # # # # #Either#way#though,#you#must#lead#with#strong#eye# # # # #######contact#–#she#needs#to#know#you#meant#what#you# # # # #####said#and#you#aren’t#ashamed.#
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A#head#held#straight#up#and#down#looks#very# serious.# # # # # ####Since#that’s#not#what#we’re#going#for,# # # # ####you’ll#want#your#head#@lted#slightly# # # # ###to#one#side#or#the#other#here#which# # # # # #####gives#you#a#playful,#inquisi@ve# # # # # # ####look#instead…#perfect#for# # # # # # #####chase#framing.# 41#
It’s#o>en#useful#to#have#one#of#your# hands#thoughrully#stroking#your#chin,#or# res@ng#in#a#thoughrul#posi@on#against# your#forehead#or#temple.# # The#contrast#of#the#“thoughrul”# posi@on#with#a#chase#frame,#in#which# you#“thoughrully”#speculate#about# her#sexuality#/#pursuit#of#men#/# pursuit#of#you#adds#in#more#fun# and#absurdity.# 42#
Your#voice#is#a#tremendously#important#element#of#your# seduc@on#arsenal.#With#the#right#amount#of#resonance#and# purr,#it#alone#can#make#women#swoon.# # ##The#easiest#way#to#think#about#this#is#to#use#the#same#voice# ####you’d#use#with#her#in#the#bedroom#–#now,#just#use#that# #####while#you#chase#frame#(or,#be`er#s@ll,#just#use#that#all#the# ######@me).# # #####If#you#need#good#examples,#see:# # – Brad#Pi`# – George#Clooney# – Sean#Connery#
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…#and#you#are#one#sexpot#of#a#man.# # When#you#have#a#sexual#presence#put# together#very#well,#with#all#of#these# items#@ed#in#together#(plus#good# general#posture,#fashion,#hair,#and# facial#hair),#you#will#ooze#sex#whatever# you#say#and#do.# # You#could#say#“I#like#to#wear#green#shoes”#and# she’ll#get#aroused.# # Now,#couple#that#with#chase#framing,#and# you’ve#got#some#sexual#dynamite#on#your#hands# indeed.# 44#
The#book#is#over,#but#I#have#an#assignment#for#you.# # I#want#you#to#go#out#and#drop#a#chase#frame#on#two#(2)# new#women#today.# # And#then#I#want#you#to#repeat#this#exercise#at#least#twice# more#over#the#course#of#the#next#seven#(7)#days.# # Are#you#game?# 45#
