EMPATHS AND SENSITIVES The Secrets to Attracting Beautiful Relationships While Maintaining Your Energetic Boundaries
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Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1: What is an Empath? Chapter 2: The Difference Between Being an Empath and Being Empathetic Chapter 3: Recognizing an Empath The Checklist Chapter 4: How Other People Like You Discovered Their Gift Chapter 5: Benefits of Being an Empath Chapter 6: How to Turn Your Weaknesses Around Chapter 7: Protecting Yourself Against Energy Vampires Energetic Boundaries –
What They Are and How to Establish Them Chapter 8: Building Beautiful Relationships Without Your Energy Being Drained Chapter 9: Finding Balance Conclusion
Introduction Empaths are fascinating beings, to say the least. What makes them stand out amongst humans are their almost supernatural abilities to feel other people’s emotions and connect with others on a deeper, spiritual level. If you are reading this, chances are you may be an Empath yourself. The only way to know for sure, however, is to delve into the wisdom provided within this book Like the title implies, this book is going to focus on the Empath and their unique set of traits, ups and downs. You are going to learn more about the
definition of an Empath, as well as learn how to examine whether or not you are one yourself. Furthermore, the book is going to teach the ones who possess the traits of an Empath how to leverage their very unique skillset in the best way possible, as well as how they can protect themselves against people who drain their precious energy – so called energy vampires. As a whole, the book will give you the most solid foundation you can possibly need, and equip you with all the tools necessary to thrive as an Empath. Empaths and Sensitives – The Secrets to Attracting Beautiful Relationships While Maintaining Your Energetic
Boundaries was written by an Empath, for Empaths and Sensitives. All of the information you will find inside is the result of years of self-discovery, travel and knowledge achieved through relationships with other Empaths. Having written this book on experience, I believe I can safely say I fully and deeply understand the struggles fellow Empaths face on a daily basis. With this book, I wish to educate and offer my help and guidance to anyone who feels out of place in life – and does not know what to do about it. Upon dashing through the end this book, you will not only be completely convinced in your abilities, but also be
equipped with life-changing techniques that will throw your life in a completely new direction, bring clarity and increase your overall fulfilment and quality of life. One question remains: Are you ready? Don’t be afraid, take me by the hand and I will walk this journey with you. Once we are done, you will never walk alone again, as you will be able to fully connect with and understand your fellow Empaths, and perhaps most importantly – yourself. Infinite Love and Abundance,
Leonie Sage
Chapter 1: What is
an Empath? Much like rational thinking and musicality, empathy is a trait that humans are born with more or less of. As such, there are two ends of the spectrum of empathy - ranging from people with very little to no empathy, to people with huge amounts of it. The first are often referred to as psychopaths or sociopaths, while the latter are called Empaths (or highly sensitive people). Regarding feelings, one could liken the emotions of Empaths with finely tuned instruments. Their feelings and intuition often take the upper hand
when faced with decisions or other dilemmas in their day to day life. Because the Empaths feelings can be so extreme and vivid, they are less apt to intellectualize and try to rationalize them away. They are dependent on intuition, as this is one of their most greatly developed gifts and the filter through which Empaths experience their surroundings. Empaths are loving, gold-hearted nurturers. Once you have established a deep connection with one, they will always be there for you, through thick and thin. Perhaps their most distinguishing trait; an empath can always relate to you and understand you on a deeper level. The
lucky few can do this naturally without absorbing other people’s feelings. For most people, however, this is a skill that has to be carefully practiced and tuned for a longer period of time. Empaths who are still in the learning process will find that for better or for worse, they are susceptible of turning into angst, fear and sadness-sucking vacuum-cleaners. Unless an Empath learns to cope with this, it can lead to periods where their otherwise well-functioning ability to absorb positive emotions and the beauty of the world is overwritten by the negativity of others. While Empaths who find themselves around peace and love flourish, both bodily and
spiritually, negativity will drain them and leave them exhausted and sometimes outright depressed. This unfortunately makes the Empath an easy target for emotional vampires, who can offset their balance. In practice, this may lead to weight gain as this is the body’s way of building a buffer in an attempt to stop the negativity from coming in. Luckily for you, there is no need to worry. Throughout this book, you will be taught the best strategies and techniques to prevent this and other uncomfortable things from happening. When it comes to romantic relationships, many Empaths find them to be overwhelming due to their
sensitive nature. Because of their inabilities to explain and negotiate their special demands and needs with a partner, many choose to stay single. Of course, this is not by any means necessary and unavoidable, which you will soon begin to realize when we cover the topic in more detail during a latter chapter of this book. Upon absorbing the impact of stress and other negative emotions, Empaths are especially susceptible of experiencing panic attacks, depression, and physical conditions such as fatigue or various types of phobias. Additionally, they are prone to indulging in food, sex and drugbinges. Being an Empath myself, one of
my greatest missions in life is to assist my fellow empaths and help them harness their precious gift, making it an asset instead of a burden. In my own experience, after learning how to cope with my circumstances and set up energetic boundaries to prevent energy vampires from influencing my life, I began to experience greater freedom, vitality, openness of senses and empathy – a personal evolution which continues, day by day. I can confidently say that I have never been happier. Fortunately, that does not make me content. I will not rest until I have made you experience the same degree of happiness!
Before you continue, I do feel the need to warn you. As you have probably understood by now, being an Empath is not a walk in the park and often comes with a set of challenges and difficulties. That being said, providing you learn how to cope with these, being an Empath can prove to be a great advantage for anyone who is looking to positively impact the world. Many Empaths are old souls, they are the indigos, they are the crystals. They are the ones coming back to take the planet to the next level. Thus, if after you finish this book you come to the conclusion that you are indeed an Empath, I encourage you to use your gift with great responsibility and to
never stop cherishing and practicing it.
Chapter 2: The Difference Between Being an Empath and Being Empathetic Empathy is a general trait amongst humans. Most well-functioning human
beings have the ability to feel empathy towards others – some more, some less. A human being capable of tuning in with others emotions and feelings and sympathizing with them can be described as empathic. It means to be able to relate with others. Highly Sensitive People are usually very empathetic. This does not necessarily make them Empaths. The key difference here is that an Empath has a clairsentient ability to feel other people’s energy levels and emotional nuances around them. Thus, Empaths often find themselves needing special training in order to learn how to cope with their gifts and use them to their full advantage without getting
overwhelmed. So, why does this matter, you may ask. Well, for Empaths growing up it can oftentimes be difficult to accept and acknowledge the fact that you are actually an Empath. In many instances, this leads the Empaths to take on the more widely accepted label of a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) instead. After all, true Empaths are a minority group of Highly Sensitive People, and it may not be very comfortable addressing your specific issues when most people in your community of otherwise likeminded individuals struggle to understand. Another aspect of this is that Highly Sensitive People find their label
accepted to a larger extent by society than what is the case for Empaths. When accepting that one is a HSP, one is still on psychological territory. Accepting and taking on the label of an Empath is a whole other story, as your worldview is bound to change. This means to acknowledge the fact that energy is real and can be perceived with your senses. This means to acknowledge the fact that emotions are energy, capable of moving between people. And this means to acknowledge the fact that energy can literally be picked up and given away. In order to realize and fully understand who you are as an Empath, you have to
accept and adopt this knowledge and the new world view that comes with it. Of course, this can prove to be a challenge for many as they unsuccessfully try to fit it within their current religion or life philosophy. Because of the way our society is built, most Empaths have a difficult time finding the proper tools and mentors to guide them through the difficult times that characterizes the early journey. Additionally, understanding their abilities, not to mention learning how to make good use of them without overwhelming themselves, is a complex task that requires practice and preferably support from the people around you.
For instance, even the more experienced Empaths often find it very hard to distinguish their own feelings from the feelings and emotions they have absorbed from others! Not only does this apply to the currently ongoing transactions of energy. Due to the many energetic layers we possess, finding out what is what can be a tedious task. In practice, this means that feelings other people have projected onto many years ago, may still be desires you consider your own today. As you can probably imagine, this can be very confusing at times. You may subconsciously, without realizing it, pick up on the feelings of others, then
believe they have been yours all along and try to justify them the traditional way based on an experience you might have had recently. Consequently, one has to be careful not to start blaming other people for negative feelings that pop up, but instead learn the proper methods to figure out whether or not something is actually your energy in the moment, each time emotion strikes you. This may all sound strange to you, and you may not quite grip it at first. That is of course completely normal. There is an awful lot of complex information in here, which will all hopefully be sorted out and clarified before the end of this book. To aid the process of gripping it, here is a concrete example:
Imagine that you just cannot stop thinking about someone for whatever reason. Let us say you are madly in love and cannot for a second stop thinking about the person. As a HSP, although it may be difficult, it is possible to be talked out of the situation by being given another perspective of everything. One could say that psychological approaches tend to be pretty effective. For an Empath, such an approach simply will not work. This is due to the fact that your obsession over that person is not just mental, it is not just in your mind. In reality, there is actual ENERGY being transferred between you two. More specifically, you have
likely picked up on theirs. Of course, such an issue cannot be solved merely on a psychological level. It requires to you address the situation at the energetic level. Makes sense? It should, because this is the main reason why Empaths require another type of training, such as learning how to use energetic boundaries, for instance.
Chapter 3: Recognizing an Empath Unless you are an Empath yourself, recognizing someone else’s extraordinary levels of empathy is not always the easiest thing to do. That
being said, when it comes to yourself, knowing deep down inside that you are different or frequently feeling misunderstood are common signs that you may very well be an Empath. You will find a checklist below that you can use in order to determine whether you, or someone you know, is an Empath. The more of these traits that apply, the higher the likelihood that the person in question is actually an Empath, or at least has a highlydeveloped sense of empathy.
The Checklist You often come off as, or are, introverted, quiet and shy. As the
Empath is very easily affected by other people’s feelings and emotions, their energy levels are highly susceptible to crashing, making alone time crucial in order to try and restore it. You require frequent alone-time in order to recharge and prevent emotional information overload. Being very naturally intuitive, picking up on other people’s emotions, Empaths need alone-time to cope. You attract people in need of help. There is something about you that gets everyone to ask you for
help, almost as if they can tell that you are a warm, kind-hearted person without even knowing you. You have a tendency of attracting needy or manipulative people going through hard times or wanting to take advantage of you. You feel compelled to help others. Many Empaths find that helping others is their primary motivation in life. It is the force that keeps them going when times are tough, the very purpose for which they live. Even in instances when this is not the case, Empaths
have a hard time saying no and genuinely wish the best for other people, causing them to always be there offering others a helping hand wherever necessary. You have the ability to read people’s feelings despite their emotions not being very visible to others. Have you ever walked into a room and felt everyone’s emotions coming at you like a wave? Empaths feel what other people are going through deeply, without them even opening their mouths. Thus, panic attacks or anxiety are pretty common amongst empaths – they experience the
highs and lows of other people as if they were their own. You have an easy time connecting with other people on a deeper level. Empaths FEEL other people’s problems, making them great therapists and counselors. You often feel misunderstood by others. Empaths will sometimes find it hard to grasp the fact that not everyone is as empathetic as them. After all, they have been living their entire lives like this and know of nothing else. This may cause them to shy away from other people or to be ashamed of
expressing their true self in front of others. You often come off to others as overly emotional or sensitive. Frankly, anything else would be very strange. Being constantly impacted by the feelings, energies and emotions of others has got to affect you somehow. Sure, there are ways to take control, but it requires a lot of experience, something the vast majority of people just beginning to realize their abilities do not yet have. You are highly creative. People who inspire the world in all kinds
of ways are generally highly sensitive. They are focused on their life purpose, and will not settle for doing anything less than what they love. You easily take in emotional input from not just humans, but animals as well. Many Empaths have the ability to sense subtle energies and distinguish between good and bad ones. One of the ways in which they commonly utilize this is through the foods they consume. Because of this, it is not uncommon at all for Empaths to be vegetarians or vegans – quite the contrary.
You have a hard time separating between your own feelings and the feelings of others, at times. This is due to the fact that Empaths absorb other people’s emotions and energy subconsciously and often unwillingly. Because most untrained Empaths do not realize when they do this, it is often very difficult for them to distinguish between their own feelings and the feelings of others, causing them to feel sad at times where there is no apparent reason for it, for instance. You do not like routine. Highly sensitive people create their own
rules. They do not want to follow, and see through the belief systems of society. You frequently catch yourself worrying on the behalf of others. You often put others before yourself. Because of this, a lot of highly sensitive people find themselves as psychologists, therapists, doctors, physiotherapists and healers. In order to have the energy and knowledge necessary to help other people however, it is essential for the Empath to practice putting themselves first, committing to
mastering their gift for other people to benefit moving forward. You feel at peace in nature and love beautiful scenery. Many Empaths like to work in environments that complement their energy, where they can reconnect back to their true authenticity. This is because Empaths often feel as if they lose their own true authentic self when they find themselves in a crowd for an extended period of time. You do not like confrontations or criticism. Despite this, because of the fact that they are able to be
vulnerable, they are some of the strongest people on earth. Empaths who have invested enough time in themselves are even able to become immune to criticism. When talking to people, they do not hear the words – they feel the energy. You pay attention to details in life. Being introverted helps with this. Empaths do not like to be the center of attention. Instead, they spend a lot of time observing people and objects from a distance, feeling their energy deeply and vividly. You like things new and fresh.
Empaths know that if they buy something second hand, they will often have to take on the karma of its previous user, which is why they often refrain from doing so. Instead, they leverage their creativity and make a lot of things themselves, or buy them brand new when creating is not an option. You often find yourself rooting for the underdog. Empaths are in it to help people. This is why they are drawn to people who cannot help themselves. If you found yourself relating to several of these points, or experiencing
one or several “Ahaa”-moments, do not panic! Chances are you are an Empath. Congratulations! With such a power waiting to be unleashed inside of you, you have all the tools necessary to get whatever you want out of life. In the remainder of this book, you are going to be taught everything you need to know to take your life to the next level – ranging from how to cope with your biggest weaknesses to leveraging your strengths to their fullest potential. You will also learn how to utilize a proven system to deal with energy vampires, and how to prevent them from stopping you in your tracks once and for all. But before we jump into that, let me
share with you some stories of people I have personally encountered throughout the years, who all first got in contact with the Empath lifestyle in different ways. My hope is that you will be able to relate to some of their stories and receive some value by learning from their experience.
Chapter 4: How Other People Like You
Discovered Their Gift About a year ago, during a trip to Sevilla, Spain, I met a 24-year old girl named Esmeralda. We got into discussing psychology and eventually dived deeper into spiritual topics like energy. Esmeralda then started telling me about her journey. She said that when she was younger, she would get random, unexplainable pains and aches. Her doctors diagnosed her with anxiety and depression. She had awful panic attacks, and her mood swung so quickly and intensly that doctors started to believe she was
bipolar. However, Esmeralda had begun to see a pattern – she started to understand that the pain and mood swings were linked to other people. Any time she experienced symptoms like aches and pains, she would ask people she had been spending time with how they were feeling. Every time, someone would confess that they were feeling awful, or that something was bothering them. In fact, it was so clear she could even tell which TYPE of problem they were having, based on the body part that was aching! One day, Esmeralda found an online article. "28 traits that show you're an
empath", it said. She instantly clicked, read, and completely identified with it. "It was so scary, as if someone had read my mind”, she said. Almost all the characteristics, she was able to relate to. While it was a mind-baffling experience, she described it as a great relief. ”Realizing that the reason I'm sometimes annoying and bitchy is because I'm absorbing someone else's energy, was like a stone taken off of my chest" she explained. Another close friend of mine, Miranda, 43, came to the conclusion that she was indeed an Empath as she was teaching
kids at a school in Southampon, England. She told me she found the energy overwhelming and toxic. Quite surprisingly, she encountered the biggest challenges in the staffroom as opposed to the classroom. As she was sitting around, surrounded by people bitching, she noticed her energy levels and mood drop. There was a big difference between how she was feeling going into a workday, and coming out of one. Just like in Esmeralda’s case, Miranda started to wonder if she was going bipolar because she was usually so happy and excited, but accompanied by certain people, that version of her was
nowhere to be found. Upon discovering her Empathic nature, she wisely begun to learn from other Empaths who had already managed to cope with similar situations. She learned certain mantras and rituals, such as saying ’My energy is protected, nothing can come in that is not mine’ while visualizing herself inside a protective bubble, every day before work. This method worked so well that any time during the day she started picking up on too many people’s energies, she would go to the toilet and repeat ’I am protected, I am protected’. The more she noticed these techniques actually worked, she began more and more
convinced that what the Empath community preached was the truth. She stumbled upon Ralph Smart’s YouTube channel ’Infinite Waters – Diving Deep’, and from there got the courage to quit her job and find her passion. ”As soon as I figured out how to distinguish my own energy from other people’s and set up boundaries to protect what was my own, I found myself attracting everything I wanted. This led me to get into Fortune Telling, a field in which I am still making a living.” In order to get away from the stress and noise of Southampton, Miranda moved to beautiful, quieter Isle of Wight, just across the channel. She
justifies her move saying that an Empath’s worst nightmare is being amongst crowds in shoppingmalls and on public transport. ” I found it so exhausting just being on the bus for a few minutes. Every day, I had to repeat mantras like “My Energy is Sacred. I am protected”. Nowadays, any time I have to meet my clients in a more crowded area, I visualize heartshaped auras around everyone as a means of sending them love. This helps me remember that we are all connected to each other, and that we are all Infinite Beings.” Lenni Käkkinen, PhD in Metaphysics at the University of Helsinki has the following to say about the
aforementioned people’s experiences. “Because the ideas of Empaths are being more and more wide-spread on the Internet, while still not yet being acknowledged and fully understood by society, life stories like Esmeralda’s and Miranda’s are becoming increasingly common. One of the biggest difficulties for people who feel out of place can be the process of actually figuring out whether or not you are an Empath. Once you are clear on that, you can go ahead and talk to the right people and find the right information without having the thought in the back of your head, saying this may not be right for you.
Many Empaths have been able to figure this out rather easily by experimenting. As a test, I recommend purposely putting yourself close to a very negative person or a person filled with a lot of hatred, such as a neo-nazi, for instance. If being in their presence is enough to awoke a storm of bad feelings inside of you, you can be quite certain that you are an Empath.” Another key concept that has to be emphasized is the importance of field tests. If you are suspecting that you are picking up on other people’s feelings, ask them about it! It can be so simple as to go up to them and say:” Hey, are you okay? You look troubled”. When you suspect something is wrong
and get confirmation that someone else around you is indeed feeling bad for whatever reason, you immediately begin to feel more confident in your own abilities and trust yourself more. This is important as it makes you take yourself more seriously. After all, you are the one who has to decide whether this is a real thing you believe in and wish to move forward, or if it is not the right thing for you. Tracking is another powerful method to use. This means to track people in connection to your feelings throughout a period of time. Remember, or write down what you felt about a certain person at a given time in your life. Once a year or so has gone by, you
should return to your journal while having a look at this person. What happened to them? Did your bad feelings about them actually prove to be a real indicator for any negative events that happened in their lives following that? While admittedly this is not the fastest method of realizing whether or not you are an Empath, it has the potential to remove any doubts you may have in the long term, as you can just go back and see for yourself that you were right about what happened. Once you have established an identity as an Empath, a sense of relief will most likely hit you, as you now have access to an arsenal of proven tools to
help you deal with it and start thriving. As you begin to meditate and use mantras and energy shielding, you will become more comfortable in your own skin and finally realize your true life purpose. What has previously been perceived as a weakness by you and others will now become a gift which you can use to it’s fullest advantage in a variety of fields, especially these including human interaction. It can be anything from spiritual health and natural remedies to massage and traditional healthcare, as well as therapy, psychology, social working and nursing, just to name a few. Esmeralda explains that she has
always been a great masseur, and as she discovered her Empath abilities, she started learning about Energy Healing (Reiki). ”Picking up Reiki has been an amazing experience for me”, she says. ”I have now, on several occasions, healed headaches and random placebo-pains just by visualization.” Lenni Käkkinen says despite the evidence pointing in the favour for Empaths and Highly Sensitive People alike, he does feel the need to warn people. ”While a lot of the information around does have some authenticity to it, there is also a lot of misinformation circulating around cyberspace. If
someone is genuinely feeling bad mentally, it is a good idea to contact a proper psychologist to have it sorted
out. It is easy to claim you are a professional energy healer even though you are not. Therefore, I do suggest that if you find yourself mentally shattered despite having had a look at Empath ways of coping, you should visit a professional in order to exclude a proper depression.”
Chapter 5: Benefits of Being an Empath By now, you will have hopefully realized the potential that lies within Empaths and Highly Sensitive People. With being one comes both strengths and weaknesses, depending on the situation. That being said, most people will agree that while being uncomfortable at times, having Empathic abilities has the potential to provide you with more benefits than
drawbacks. Empaths and people with sensitive abilities sometimes tend to view their abilities as a drawback at first, without realizing that what they currently want to get rid of is actually something very powerful and magical, which offers a deeper connection with the world. Let us now examine a handful of all the benefits to view them from different perspectives. #1 - You always know whether or not people are telling the truth. Because Empaths have the extraordinary ability of reading others by sipping into their energy as well as being masters of emotional cues, they can almost always easily tell a liar from a truthful person. This allows for the Empath to build more lasting relationships with people, as they will
not accept others lying in their prescence, as well as make other choices more wisely, which is always a good thing. #2 – You have a hard time holding your excitement about a new idea back. As has been previously stated, Empaths are often highly creative. In addition, they are very emotional beings, capable of hitting the highest highs when they are happy. This combination makes for very motivated and upbeat individuals when things feel right, making Empaths want to share their ideas with their friends, family and the rest of the world. #3 – You have supreme intuition. No matter what it is, Empaths always feel intensely when something is right – and whenever something is off. This ability, although shocking and hard to understand for non-empaths, is as
natural as life itself for the highly sensitive and empathic beings this book is dedicated to. Oftentimes, because their intuition is so developed, Empaths begin to trust it more than rationality – which, when it comes to deeper matters such as figuring out your life purpose, more often than not proves to be a good thing. The intuition also helps with sensing that things will happen before they actually happen. Since this ability is so deeply built into their DNA, Empaths are used to always being prepared when stuff is doing down, and are rarely ever taken by surprise. #4 – You connect surprisingly well with animals. It should come as no surprise that some of the world’s best dog trainers and biggest animal-lovers are Empaths. After all, their ability to feel what other beings are feeling is not limited
to humans. Many even find that animals are able to relate to them better than a lot of people. Additionally, because Empaths pick up on energy, a surprisingly large part of the demographic is vegetarian or vegan. #5 – Being able to make the right decisions based off of other people’s emotions. Empaths know when other people are upset without them having to say anything. In fact, they can go even more specific, as far as to know exactly what type of anger other people are feeling. Using this knowledge, Empaths are able to make complex decisions at the blink of an eye regarding whether it is better to comfort the upset one or to simply stay away for a while. Furthermore, this ability allows them to make sure that they always have the right thing to say as a response, sometimes subconsciously as the other
person’s feelings are already so quickly being deeply rooted inside of the Empaths themselves. It is even possible for these magical beings to predict a bad outcome in a conversation or dispute for instance, allowing them to resolve the conflict before it gets out of hand. #6 – Your Empathic skills allow you to quickly surpass most people, regardless of previous experience, when it comes to social jobs. If you are contemplating a career as a social worker, therapist, psychologist, nurse, doctor, priest, healer or any of the other hundreds of jobs where social skills are required, especially 1-on-1, you most likely have a massive advantage compared to the other aspirants within your field. What others have to learn through extensive training, you pick up on intuitively. #7 – You are able to feel whenever something bad is happening to
someone you love – regardless of the distance between you. This almost supernatural gift oftentimes makes you reach out to family and friends in their exact moments of need. #8 – Not only do you feel negative emotions intensely – the same applies to positive ones. Because of this, weddings and special events tend to be particularily amazing experiences for you, as you can feel the love and happiness flowing through the environment very intensely and vividly. The same can be said for a well-made movie, where you are able to relate to the characters on a level deeper than other people. This also applies to beauty in all it’s shapes and forms. You are able to feel whenever there is magic in the air, and natural phenomenons such as sunsets, blue oceans and northern lights touch
you in a way others simply cannot imagine. As an Empath, the only thing that stands between you and whatever you want to accomplish in life is yourself. You have to learn how to cope with your abilities and work with the surrounding energy to make sure you stay clear, centered and focused on your passion in life. Once you accomplish this, everything changes for the better – mentally, energetically and physically. With the universe on your side – what can possibly go wrong?
Chapter 6: How to Turn Your Weaknesses Around Now that you have hopefully realized a few of the thousands of benefits that really come with being an Empath, it is time to examine the downsides. As with a lot of things, the positives and negatives are linked. You will find that the exact same ability can prove to be a great asset as well as a great drawback. What it becomes for you entirely depends on what you make it –
so make sure you use your abilities for the better and do your best to learn how to cope with eventual weaknesses. This makes all the difference. A big problem which is at times very apparent in society is our fear of being judged by others. This fear is something we all have to overcome, or we are bound to be miserable for the rest of our lives, trying to live life on other people’s terms as opposed to our own. No matter what we do and who we are, we constantly have to remind ourselves of our own unique abilities and value them as much as we value life itself. We have to embrace our assets and
strengths, our sensitivities and our emotions. These combined are what make us to the unique individual we really are. If we try to get rid of a trait just because it is not considered ideal by society, we are doing ourselves a great disservice and are destined for unhappiness. One particular trait which is generally looked down upon by society is the ability to express emotions. In reality, this is a beautiful ability most people share, and the primary way for us to connect with like-minded individuals and find our soul mates. If we try to put a stop to this ability, we will over the long term find ourselves stuck in destructive relationships or isolated,
feeling like nobody really understands us. Empaths especially have to make sure we NEVER apologize for expressing emotions or being sensitive. In contrary to some cold-hearted people’s beliefs, this is a sign of strength and proof of a heart of gold, something you should never be afraid of showing other people. For our own well-being’s sake, it is essential that we stop denying our sensitivity and instead learn to embrace it. This is what makes us human. If anything, locking ourselves up has been proven time and time again to be one of the biggest factors that contribute to depression and overall
anxiety. Trying to repress our emotions are a major catalyst to the negative spiral that is meta-emotions – emotions about emotions. These are the instances when you feel angry at yourself for being sad, for example. Meta-emotions arise partly due to the fact that you have subconsciously associated these feelings to something negative – likely because they are looked down upon by lots of people around you. Over time, you build up this artificial self-image of the person you want to be in other people’s eyes. Any time your emotions say otherwise, you immediately blame yourself because they do not fit in within the narrow ideal you have created for
yourself. By surpressing our sensitivity, we are also preventing it from culminating into the great source of productive energy it has the potential to become, if we only learn to direct it towards something that matters. We need to realize that we are highly emotional beings – without our emotions and sensitivities to guide us, we would fall apart. No matter how hard they want us to believe in intellectualizing and separating our feelings and life goals from the present moment – this is not the way to go. Now, how can we make it easier for us to embrace our feelings? One answer is mindfulness and meditation. Because of all the distractions that are
constantly around us, it has become easier to flee from ourselves and succumb into bad habits like watching TV and browsing social media extensively. By doing this, we are essentially running away from our problems and needs for self-reflection as well as relationship commitments. Highly sensitive people and Empaths feel these emotional battles more intensely, making them even more prone to escape from them than say the average Joe. In the worst case, this can culmulate into even more destructive addictions like drinking, binge-eating and drug abuse. It is our responsibility to take time out
regularly and reflect on our own problems, as well as to break these patterns that are so destructive for us in the long term. There are many ways of becoming more mindful. All you have to do is to find what works for you. Some people prefer to incorporate some kind of meditation practice in their daily ritual, often in the mornings as they tend to be more strictly scheduled and less prone to change by circumstances. Others, including myself, like to schedule a few hours in the evening a few days each week, reserved for reflecting on the week that has been and for thinking about our plans for the future, in order to make sure everything
we do is aligned with our life’s purpose. There are several techniques in order to get the most out of these sessions as possible. One is called the 80/20 analysis, another is The One Thing. Unfortunately, there is not enough room to go into these strategies more in depth within this book, but for those of you who are interested, I recommend looking into The ONE Thing by Gary Keller and The 80/20 Principle by Gary Koch. Whichever technique you choose to use, the bottom line is you should recognize your emotions any time they appear, and without judging yourself accept them for what they are. Take a minute or so to actually experience the
emotion without resisting it before letting go and moving on. Regular reflection-breaks are essential for Empaths as they allow for increased mindfulness the a higher quality of life that comes with it. Not only is expressing one’s emotions sometimes frowned upon by Western society – so is creativity and passion. Too often, we are told to follow the path that is laid out for us. Throughout our childhood, people are trying to get us to behave in a certain way, and have certain goals. If we wish to find authentic happiness, we must learn to throw these false identities out the window and really utilize our passion and creativity to it’s fullest potential.
As for Empaths and HSP’s, they often have the ability to pin-point their emotions and let them shine through their work. This is why they generally make great artists, writers and musicians. Unfortunately, these career paths can be hard to make work in a capitalist society, which is why many shy away from them in order to focus on business and science, where there is big money to be made. It is therefore vital that you – in whatever you choose to pursue, follow your passion and let your strong feelings for your specific area of interest be the compass that leads the way to success. Never let anyone else dictate what you should be doing with
your time.
Chapter 7: Protecting Yourself Against Energy Vampires If you have been even remotely active within the Empath community, you will
most likely be familiar with the term ‘Energy Vampire’. For those of you who have no clue what it means – an Energy Vampire is a person who, unlike the Empath whom simply picks up on other people’s emotions without affecting them per se, actually drains other people’s energy levels. Energy Vampires are found everywhere in life, from childhood to adultery. It would not be fair to say that all Energy Vampires are evil or want to see people suffer – quite the opposite. In fact, Energy Vampires are not psychopaths, although they can be. Most of the time however, they are ordinary people with insecurities and problems who just do not realize the
negative impact they are having on others as they go about with their everyday life. I have personally encountered a wide variety of Energy Vampires throughout my years on Earth. Oftentimes, they are your friends and co-workers, your classmates and even your family members. These are people who have nothing against you, but still subconsciously drains your energy faster than the desert sun drains the water off of your body. Energy Vampires are not necessarily always draining energy either, they could be doing so for a certain period of time and be the nicest people in the world when they are not. Most
ordinary people have drained others energies more or less at least once during their lifetime. However, some people are worse as they do it on a consistent basis, and these are the ones we commonly refer to as Energy Vampires. Whereas Energy Vampires can have very negative impact on ordinary people, it is the Empath who suffers the most. Not only do Empaths have to put up with listening to the Vampires complaints and deal with their crappy attitudes towards life, but we simultaneously have to try and rid ourselves off of the very energy we unwillingly absorb from them while desperately trying to distinguish it from
our own! While turning 180 degrees and running away at the speed of sound would be the most preferred option when situations like these occur, it is unfortunately not always realistically possible. After all, if you live or work together with Energy Vampires; what are the options? Now, this fortunately does not mean you have to put up with them and accept their destructive world view. There is another way, which I am about to reveal to you…
Energetic Boundaries: What They Are and How to Establish Them Having extraordinary sensory and
empathetic abilities can be a great gift, providing you have control of it. On the flipside, it can be very challenging to cope with at times, especially if the external input becomes too much to handle. A solution to this which has been proven to work for a lot of Empaths is to set up energetic boundaries. What most Empaths have yet to realize is that everybody on this planet is involved in a never-ending energy exchange. Empathic Intuitives know this, as they always absorb other people’s energies. While this can be a good thing, as you have probably realized by now, it is the primary cause of a huge chunk of problems that, if
prevented, would make life as an Empath way more comfortable and fulfilling. With this in mind, setting energetic boundaries is a way that has been proven to work for a lot of Empaths. If you read the chapter ‘How Other People Like You Discovered Their Gift’, it should all sound familiar to you. If you skipped that, you should know that the people who shared their stories all had something in common – they used mantras to set up energetic boundaries in order to prevent them from getting negative energy into their system. In fact, picking up on other people’s junk is an act which can be very toxic
to your finely tuned system. In addition, firmly declining poisonous energy that is being intentionally or subconsciously pushed towards you from entering your system is an exercise that is very healthy, as it trains you to love yourself and value your energy levels. Now, before delving into the practicalities, I would like to emphasize that there are no guarantees that the techniques taught are going to work for you. Everybody is different, and so are the methods available. While these techniques tend to work for a lot of people, they are by no means a one-size fits all. Also, nobody is perfect. Despite
possessing an arsenal of wellfunctioning techniques that I have used successfully throughout a number of years, I still experience the occasional slip-up – and that is perfectly fine. Whenever it happens, I just take it as a friendly reminder of my capabilities, and take a moment to be thankful for them. A universal concept when it comes to setting up and defining energetic boundaries is to develop a closer relationship with yourself. By being able to see things from a different, more objective standpoint, you will find it a lot easier to reject whatever does not vibrate at your frequency. Now, here are various methods
intended to help you with this, with the intention of controlling your absorption of toxic energy. #1 – Meditation As has been previously mentioned when we discussed Guerilla Meditation, Meditation does not necessarily need to be in it’s traditional sense, e.g. sitting down in the monk’s position with your hands on your knees and eyes closed. Whatever gets you in a clear state of mind works. Praying or incanting are other options, for those who feel more comfortable doing that. For maximum efficiency, you may want to consider setting your environment up in the most ideal way. This can be
done by getting some slow burning wood and set it on fire – a practice used by the Inca folk to cleanse people’s bodies and spaces from negative energy. Sage is also a wellfunctioning alternative to this very specific sort of wood. Additionally, definitely consider setting some white candles on fire, putting yourself in a sanctuary of healing light. Invite whomever you are exchanging energy with into this sacred space – although you do need to have them agree to match you on a pure, positively clean level of energy. If they are unwilling to do so, bless them with infinite love and abundance, and release them from your energetic
space. This practice allows you to free yourself from their destructive energy. Once the objective has been accomplished, end the meditation session by performing a number of deep breaths – essentially clearing yourself of the potentially unwanted energy your encounter with this particular person brought you. #2 – Free flow If the meditation left something gnagging, consider trying this technique called Free flow. This one works best if you live in – or close to – nature, as the air will be more fresh and the energy cleaner as a result. Open all windows and doors to your home, inviting nature’s love inside
while allowing the negative energy inside to flow out. Turn on some therapeutic music, burn an incense like Sage or Frankincense, and fall into the sounds and scents, allowing yourself to relax like you have never relaxed before. Visualize yourself dancing with the Divine. If your home setting does not allow you to perform a proper Free flow cleansing, just get outside with some music and walk. With each step, allow yourself to move away from everything that does not vibrate at your frequency. #3 – Decadent Bath Experience This great act of self love can prove to be an invaluable tool in the creation of your energetic boundaries. After all, in
order to gather the strength needed to avoid succumbing into other people’s negative energy fields, you will have to be 100% comfortable in your own body. Only once we are feeling good on the inside, we can extend that love and caring to everybody around us without having to worry about draining ourselves off of the enrgy. Just like in the other methods, do light some incense and turn on some soft music. They will help you relax. Fill a bath tub with cleansing oils and salts. Get in there and visualize yourself releasing all of the toxic thoughts and energy left within you into the water. As you allow the water to drain and have rinsed any remainders
away, you will feel like you have woken up anew. .
“Great, I finally love myself! What now?” Now that you have given your energy levels a well-needed boost and begun to feel comfortable in your own skin, it is time to learn the necessary techniques to help you face any obstacles that may arise as you go about with your everyday life. Mantras Mantras and chants are invaluable tools ready to use any time you are beginning to experience uncomfort. These boundaries are verbal thoughts you feed your mind and soul with,
essentially fortifying your system against intrusion. Great boundaries are strict and firm, without being aggressive or ill-meaning. After all, they are not intended to disable your Empathic abilities – only to stop unwanted negativity from entering your system. Here is a great and firm one made with the intent of protecting your energy without blocking your intuitive ability to sense other people’s emotions: “I am unwilling to absorb anyone else’s energy. I want to be aware of it, but I’m unwilling to absorb it”. It is really a great one as it grounds you and puts you in control over your circumstances. As with any mantras
and chants – for highest success-rate, repeat them until they stick. The following sentence prompts are great for creating your own boundaries depending on what you need them for and under which circumstances: 1. People may not ___________. 2. I reserve the right to ask for ____________. 3. To protect my time and energy, it’s OK to _________________. Another great skill to practice is gratitude. Without it, finding happiness or fulfilment in any area of your life will prove to be very difficult in the long term. Here is another sentence prompt for you to use in order to incorporate into your regular gratitude
rituals: I am grateful for _________ because__________. Remember, even though life may seem dark at times, we all have something to be grateful for. It is of utmost importance that we realize this and nurture what we have, while we have it. Of course, this does not prevent you from going for what you want – there is a healthy balance inbetween which you have to constantly maintain. Success is not going to matter if the rest of your life is falling apart, and no gratitude will help you in the long term if you have no higher philosophy or goal to strive for. Eliminate negativity in your life, or
at least keep it to a minimum. To some extent, negativity is unavoidable and beyond our control. No matter what you do, life is occasionally going to kick you down. In these instances, it is up to you to get back up and keep going. However, a lot of negativity is avoidable, and thus should be avoided. This is the type that stems from particular people or reoccurring events or places you attend. In order to identify these and take the necessary measures to avoid them, you will have to implement some sort of reflection habit which we have previously gone through within this book. Once you have identified the people,
places or events that stand for the vast majority of the negativity in your life, you must begin to eliminate them strategically. This can be done by limiting interactions with the people in question and stop watching news or other things that weigh you down more often than it brings you up. Decluttering Minimalism has been proven to work very well when it comes to stress reduction and otherwise increasion of fulfilment in people’s lives. The idea is that with so many things around distracting you and influencing your energy levels in one way or another, it is best to keep them at a minimum and
keep your living conditions as clean as possible. This removes friction and makes everything easier in general, as negativity grows in clutter. Scheduling Your schedule is one of your most effective weapons as far as battling negativity and staying strong is concerned. If used right, it can help you immensely. The key here is not to take on a high number of different tasks and responsibilities, but instead keep them to a minimum in order to put the majority of your energy towards what really matters. Gary Keller calls this his “ONE thing”, which you can read about in the book with the same name if you are interested in learning more.
In practice, you will often find it to be convenient to simply say “I will get back to you once I have checked my schedule” before you make any commitment. This most likely will provide you with the sufficient amount of time needed to make a good decision based on whether or not you are going to enjoy it or even be able to do it. Of course, once you have thought this through completely, without distractions, you are obliged to respond back with an answer. Not doing so can come off as pretty rude to the inviting party. Either way, make sure you do not commit to too many things, as that will just split your focus and make you anxious.
Another benefit of keeping a good schedule (Google calendar is great for scheduling by the way) is being able to schedule breaks and down time – something you should definitely take advantage of as an Empath. In order to work properly, this is absolutely crucial, or you may end up overwhelming yourself with all the crap you absorb from other people. Mindset Most protection techniques won’t work if you have belief systems that prevent them from doing so. On the flipside, most will work if you only believe in them enough. Whatever rituals work for you – as long as you believe they work, they will. If you already are
doing something that works for you, do not change it based on what anyone else says. Don’t fix what isn’t broken.
Chapter 8: Building Beautiful Relationships Without Your Energy Being Drained When working as a counscelor for Empaths in need of help and guidance, it often takes me by surprise how many
of these people are actually lonely. Most people would likely perceive Empaths as very socially intellectual beings who would have no problem finding a relationship and a compatible partner. Unfortunately, nothing could be further from the truth. In reality, a lot of highly sensitive people and Empaths want nothing more than a romantic partner, yet stay single for years. As for the ones who are in a relationship, a considerable amount feel constantly overwhelmed and drained for energy. Now, why is this, and what can be done to change it? A primary reason for this stems from the sensitivity upon which Empaths are built. While the average person may
gain a lot of value and a sense of fulfilment from being with someone else, almost as if the other person makes them whole, it does not quite work like that for Empaths. Because of our tendency to absorb energy all the time, being that close with a partner may cause us to experience emotional overload, anxiety and exhaustion. That is why it is so vital for Empaths to have their own private space to recharge, and when this requirement is not met, some sort of overload is bound to happen. A lot of energetically sensitive beings subconsciously avoid romantic relationships because they fear that their energy would be devoured if such
a relationship was to come true. For those who are already part of one however, life can be unnecessarily complicated and constricted, which is why so many of these Empaths are unhappy despite having a partner. Many of those who fail to understand this are constantly lonely, wanting a companion while at the same time not being able to feel secure in one. It is only once Empaths learn to create energetic boundaries and discuss their energetic preferences with their partners in a constructive manner that intimacy becomes a healthy option. The only way for Empaths to truly feel comfortable in a relationship is to redefine the traditional ways of living
with another person. Most importantly this means making sure your personal space needs are met – physically and timely. For many Empaths, the ideal distance to people is at least an arms length away when out in public. This length decreases the closer you are with a person. However, it cannot be maintained for an extended period of time before most Empaths feel like they need to recharge by themselves. It is essential to understand that each being has an invisible energetic bubble around them which sets a certain level of comfort. Only by making sure other people understand how far out yours goes, you can stay clear from being drained by others. As long as you are
able to regulate this with people, you will find that intimacy is possible despite not having experienced it before. That being said, you do not want your loved ones to misinterpret your precautions as a lack of love or interest in them. To make sure that does not happen, talk to them about it and make clear that it is about your personal need to recharge, and that it has nothing to do with them. Only then, you will be able to build rewarding relationships long-term. Here are some tips for you to practice if you are an Empath or for other reasons do not resonate with the traditional partnership expectations:
#1 – Explain that you are a sensitive person to potential mates. You have to be sure they understand that you need quiet time to recharge every once in a while. Do not be afraid to speak your mind. The right person will be sympathetic, the wrong person will not – and that is fine. You would not have been any happier in a relationship with them anyway – quite the contrary. #2 – Tell them about your preferred way of sleeping. Although sleeping in the same bed is common practice traditionally, some Empaths simply cannot comply with this. Sometimes it does not matter how well they get along with their partner.
Do emphasize your own preferences, as you do not want to be in a position where you feel trapped in bed with someone, robbing yourself off of a good night’s sleep. Because energy fields blend during sleep, many Empaths will be overstimulated in such a situation. Discuss with your partner and make compromises. Non-empaths may find it lonely to sleep alone, so unless it feels really bad to you, suggest something like sleeping together a few nights each week in order to satisfy both parties. #3 - Negotiate your living conditions to suit your privacy needs. Living together comes with a whole
new set of challenges – especially for Empaths. You will find it beneficial to experiment with various settings in order to make sure you have enough breathing room and places to retreat to if needed. For your own well-being, make sure you set yourself up to allow for complete privacy whenever necessary. Some are more sensitive than others, meaning it is important to know your own personal needs. For the most sensitive, things like movement and couhing can feel intrusive, while some don’t mind as long as it is from a distance. #4 – Travel mindfully. Whereas many prefer to share space
with others while traveling in order to decrease costs, the trade-off just might not be worth it for Empaths. Lack of privacy risks decreasing the overall fun of the trip, so make sure you consider this thoroughly before booking. If possible, get your own bathroom too – you will not regret it. If you just can’t afford it, consider hanging a sheet in the center of the room to divide it in half – this will help most of the time. #5 – Small breaks are your friends. No matter how small – breaks will always prove to be great tools in various circumstances. They will keep your mind fresh and avoid you from
burning out during a long day of work, as well as help keep your energy level stable and prevent emotional overload. You do not even need to get outside if you don’t want to (although I find that to be the best). Sometimes, taking a walk around the house or locking yourself up into the bathroom or in a separate room will prove to be sufficient. The bottom line is being able to articulate your own needs goes a long way. Coming to mutual agreements and accepting each other’s very own needs is a must for any well-functioning relationship. If that is impossible in your current one, you should probably get out of there as fast as possible
before things get out of control!
Chapter 9: Finding Balance One of the most central concepts relevant to Empaths, and an object for constant discussion, is the notion of finding balance. By now, you have probably realized the importance of this as well as why it can be such a challenge. As Empaths, we are constantly on the lookout for other people subconsciously as we absorb
their emotions and react to their feelings in one way or another. In order for us to be able to manage this without fainting, we need to find balance and give ourselves the proper time and attention we need to recover from a long day of stimulus. To make this easier for you, here are some actionable steps you can take to make this process easier. I encourage you to turn these into habits. In contrary to popular belief, it takes an average of 62 days to fully form a habit that sticks, not 21 days. If you can stick to it for 62 days however, it will from there onwards be harder to stop than to continue! With that being said, let us get into the tips and tricks.
Balance-Finding Step #1 – Give yourself quiet time to stop the flow of emotions and let them fade out. Throughout the day, I want you to take refreshing mini-breaks. Get in the habit of doing so. Many of the most successful Empaths as well as ordinary people schedule their breaks first and stick to them. While working and being active non-stop can feel more productive in the short-term, you lose more than you gain long-term. By taking frequent breaks, you keep your brain fresh, ready to tackle the next task. During your breaks, you should not bring up your cell phone and text, answer e-mails, or browse your Facebook-feed. Instead, get
outside, get away from people, stretch or take a short walk around the workplace. These smaller get-aways from your main task will cause your stimulation levels to lower a bit – which, if you want to stay well, is a must. Balance-Finding Step #2 – Train yourself in ”guerilla meditation”. A very efficient technique to prevent emotional overload is to take radical action and get down to meditate, if only for a few minutes. What this does is it will center your energy – stopping you from automatically taking it on from other people. To get the most out of these short meditation sessions, it is essential that
you maintain 100% focus. Think quality over quantity. Oh, and you do not even need to sit down to take advantage of this technique. Standing up will do just fine. Just take a deep breath, think about nothing, and relax. Take your time to really feel the sensations in your body while focusing your attention on your feet’s connection with the ground. Let your shoulders fall down and release any tension left in your body. Bonus tip: Guerilla Meditation also works great as a method of combatting hickups, as they are also a reaction of tension within the body! Just try it the next time you experience them. For maximum effectiveness, make sure you
utilize this method before you have had more than 3 consecutive hickups. This will make sure you take immediate action as well as prevent the hickups from ”settling” within your body. Ever since I discovered this trick years ago, I haven’t had a hickup-attack lasting for longer than a minute! Balance-Finding Step #3 – The art of saying no. As an Empath, you are bound to encounter people in need of help, in one way or another. This can happen either through you, as you will notice people who feel bad through subconsciously absorbing their emotions and feelings. Another way which is just as common
is when you, seemingly randomly, end up in situations where people ask for your help. This could be due to them relying on you because you have always been there for them in the past. It could also be because they are drawn to your Empathic energy. Either way, this can prove to be quite demanding, especially as people come to you over and over again for each problem they have, while more individuals are constantly drawn into your circle. In order to maintain the energy to help the people who need it the most without exhausting yourself completely, robbing yourself off of the energy that is so essential for you to
thrive, you will have to learn to say no. As hard as this may seem, you have to keep in mind that in the long run, you will be much healthier, happier, and able to help a lot more people this way. The simplest way of saying no to someone asking too much of you, is to simply and politely say “no”. It is not by any means necessary for you to justify your “no” to anyone – no is a complete sentence. For the sake of your own life purpose, make sure you practice saying no on a daily basis. This simple act will also force you to prioritize – helping you get better at identifying people who actually need your help, and people who are simply
taking advantage of your kindness. Balance-Finding Step #4 – Set up systems to avoid overstimulation. Most Empaths are introverted beings to some extent. What this means in practice is that as opposed to gaining energy from people as is the case for extroverts, your energy levels will deplete based off of the amount of time you spend around other people. This is because Empaths constantly absorb and pick up on other people’s feelings and emotions and if not careful enough, adopt them into their own system. Anyone who has spent time with other people knows that circumstances can make it difficult to go home or leave the event you are at. More often than
not, a meetup with friends ends up taking more time than expected. Sometimes, taking the step out of your comfort zone to tell them you are going home is not enough. This is why it is so crucial to set up systems beforehand, taking into account that you will probably not want to be out socializing all day. You will also have to pay attention to how much time it takes for your energy levels to deplete, on average. If you come to the conclusion that you will probably want to go home in two-three hours, for instance, make sure to take your own car or bike, or have another means of transportation that is independent from your friends, to make
sure you do not get stranded. As for times when you are going to be surrounded by strangers and crowds, in shopping malls or at parties or theaters for instance, make sure you sit in the far corners of the room as opposed to the center. This will give you more control and you will be able to leave the place more discretely. If the strong smell of perfume is pressuring your highly sensitive nervous system, make sure you politely ask your friends not to wear it around you. If unavoidable, do take breaks often or stand near a window to get some fresh air from outdoors to keep you going. If you have problems binge-eating as a
means of suppressing your negative emotions, the guerilla meditation technique may help you. Instead of falling straight for the temptation, you will be given a moment to reflect, calm down and think through the decision once more. More often than not, this will be enough to prevent you from stepping too far. A general tip as far as dieting and binge-eating is concerned – make sure you make it as easy as possible to eat right by stocking up on healthy foods and ditching the unhealthy options. Any time you find yourself craving something, you will now be inclined to picking the healthy option, a fruit, vegetable or smoothie, for
instance. While at home, if you are part of a family of live with a partner, make sure to carve out your own private space. This is one of the most important assets you can have. Without your own private sphere to recharge in, living life to its fullest can be all too challenging. Your private space should preferably be an own room. If that is not compatible with your current living conditions, you can build a separated area using paper walls, bookshelves or similar. These are of course just a few ways and examples that you can use to make sure you stay strong all day long. Depending on the terms on which you
operate, where you live, who you hang out with, etc. – make sure you set up systems to make everything flow as smoothly as possible, especially your own energy levels!
Conclusion Putting Yourself First: The Counter-Intuitive Key to a Good Life We are now approaching the end of this book. I sincerely hope you have found the information useful and applicable to your own life. If you haven’t – that’s fine, it probably just means you are not an Empath. If you were able to relate however, you are an Empath like me – anything else would be too much of a coincidence. As has been previously mentioned in
this book – putting yourself first is a very important concept that cannot be stressed enough. If you do not think enough about what kind of life YOU want to live, and what YOU want to accomplish, as well as live on terms where YOU can feel at peace and contribute as much as possible to the world, it is going to be difficult for you to achieve your true life’s purpose. Knowing one is an Empath can be very relieving as it answers a lot of questions you may have. It confirms your differences as being part of something bigger and special as opposed to being something negative. That being said, just the knowledge of you being an Empath makes no
difference in itself. It is what you do with it that makes all the difference. This book may have acted as some sort of a catalyst for you realize your full potential as well as provided fixes to your struggles. It is not up to you to take full responsibility over your life and make today the day you begin putting your abilities into practice to achieve what you have always wanted.
Now that you are in a better position than you have ever been before, go ahead and transform your life, learn new abilities and enhance your current ones, transform the world, and make sure to leave Earth as a better
place than you found it. Infinite Love, Peace, Happiness and Abundance,
Leonie Sage
