ARE YOU SHY? Are you guys shy? I've been standing here talking to my friend for like 5 minutes now and you still haven't said 'hi". COMPLIMENT OPENER Compliment her on something she's wearing or her hair or just style in general. The trick is compliment openers are to never compliment her on her 'physical beauty'. You have an incredibly energy about you You have an artless grace That's an incredible whatever-x accessory/garment DIRECT OPENERS Hi, I like you. And I'd like to get to know you. Hey, What's up? Where are you going? You're cute, are you friendly/interesting? You guys are so adorable. You have such a cute group dynamic going on. I want to meet you guys. My name is x-name. How are you? You look like someone I'd like to meet. Can I ask you a quick question?(Sure) Are you single?etc. (I have a lot of successes with these on girls that are HB7 and lower or older women) DENTAL FLOSS Hey guys, I need to get your opinion on something. It's very important, and we need a woman's perspective. It's a matter of life and death.. My friend and I were having a debate and your answer could completely change my entire life.... Do you floss before or after you brush? No one knows. DON'T TOUCH ME When a girl bumps into you in a crowded club tap her on the shoulder and say "don't touch me" . have something to immediately follow up with. EXPENSIVE CLOTHES "Hey guys, I need a female opinion... we were just at Saks today, and there were all these $600 collared tee-shirts. when chicks see guys wearing 6bill shirts like that, do they think its classy or try-hard?" (That's the skeleton obviously use your own speaking mannerisms). Then you can use what info and opinions they give you to bust on them, using all the usual stuff. GIRLS FIGHTING OUTSIDE With great enthusiasm... "OMG!. did you see those two girls fighting outside? Like right outside the club... they were totally going at it; one was pulling the others' hair, and the other one drew blood with her nails. And they seemed to be fighting over this short guy; he was standing near them just totally laughing! KHAKI OPENER Hey, guys, my friends and I were making fun of some frat boys, and got into an argument...is khaki a color or a fabric?" The correct answer is that khaki is a color, and most girls know this. You can go into, "See, I was thinking it was a color, but the thing is that you never see a khaki car or wallpaper color or anything like that!" then fire into your next routine...
KINO OPENERS Pushing girls, grabbing drinks out of their hands, lightly hip checking them, snapping bra straps, grabbing hats off heads, poke her, tap the opposite shoulder, etc.(these require no memorization are easy for newbies) MYSTERY'S ESP Walk up to a girl and say, "Do you believe in ESP?" Remember to SMILE or you may startle her. "Just think of the first # that pops into your head from one to four. Don't say it. Just think it ... now take that # and imagine that it is drawn on a blackboard in your head. Have you done that?" She says OK "What's so neat about imagination is ... we both have it ... On the blackboard, I see the number ... three." Whether you get it right or not reply. "Alright, lets try this one more time. This time think of a different # from one to 10. Got it? Picture it in white chalk on the blackboard ... you are thinking of the number ... 7." If you got the first wrong and the second right, you look like you finally got it ... a 1 in 10 chance. If you get BOTH right (a 90% chance seeing as it is a psychological trick where most north Americans naturally choose 3 and 7 as their first picks) that's a 1 in 40 chance ... "and of course I don't stake my reputation on mere chance." If you get the first right but the second wrong or both wrong, say... "PROOF! ESP does NOT exist!" Then start to laugh like this "Mooaha ha ha ha ha ha! And you believe in ESP!" a good neg hit to start. If she mentions that most people pick 3 and 7 (most girls wont know this though) just say, "really? Hmm. didn't know that ... thank you Cliff Claven." (From Cheers) If you take the wording I have and do this EXACTLY as stated, you will be surprised HOW well you will do. When they ask HOW, tell them ... I DON'T KNOW. Tell her you can SEE the #s on your imaginary blackboard. This is NOT a trick. You hate magicians. If she wants you to do this again, tell her ... "don't be greedy now." Speaking of greedy ... if a girl kisses you on the cheek and goes to kiss your other cheek, tell her, "Only one ... don't be greedy." This is a good NEG HIT. Mild but a neg hit nonetheless. If she says, "Yes, but I'm French", you reply, "Are all French girls as greedy as you?" G-STRING "Hey guys, you won't believe what's going on with a friend of mine and his girlfriend. They've been dating each other for six months now, and my friend really loves her. But they had this big fight a few weeks ago, and she went to visit her mother to cool down. While she was gone, my friend was so depressed, that he ended up hooking up with some random girl he met in a club. Anyway, a few days later, his girlfriend comes back, and she finds this girl's thong panties in the bathroom, and she KNOWS this thong isn't hers. So she confronts my friend on this, and he lies and says that the panties are his! And that he likes to dress up in woman's underwear. So I don't know if his girlfriend knew he was lying and just wanted to punish him, or if she really is into this or not, but she said she thinks that's really kinky and wants him to wear woman's underwear around the house.
So he's been doing this for a few weeks now and is absolutely. MISERABLE!" "So I think he should just come clean and let his girlfriend know what happened. What do you guys think? How important is trust in a relationship? Or do you think some things should remain hidden, even if it means being miserable?" FEMALE ROOMMATES I've been offered this *SWEET* place in (x place).. I want to live there, *BUT*..... I have to live with FOUR girls. Like *FOUR*. I'm going to get 4 times the boyfriend complaints; I'll never get in the farking bathroom... I'm gonna have to start showering at the truck stop, and you KNOW they're gonna synchronize. (Smile knowingly) Heck, I'll probably start *MY* period. I'm going to have to leave the house for 5 days a month! Did you know that's why primitive civilizations developed camping? All the women in the tribe would synchronize and the guys would look up at the moon and be like "The antelope are moving now, we must HUNT". Also... living with all those girls, I could get RAPED. Did you know that 95% of guys that get date raped commit suicide in 6 months? Girls are such sexual predators... (sexual predator routine stuff below)." EXPANDED SEXUAL PREDATOR ROUTINE: Lay a STRONG humour anchour. They have to be laughing out of their minds, so that you can keep re-using the callback humour through out the pickup. “You know what? I can’t even trust you guys. Girls are predators. Girls are SEXUAL predators! Guys think that they seduce women and have all this power. Yeah right! Girls choose. They choose. The guys just dangle themselves in front of them *thinking* that they made it happen, but they don’t realize that its the girl who chose THEM. Girls are predators.. They hold the cards.. Examine the evidence. First, when a guy gets mad at his girlfriend, can he strap on his bitch boots, shove up his pushup bra, do up his hair and makeup, and head out to the bar and pull a girl home in under five minutes? Yeah right! It’s GIRLS. YOU GUYS have the power to do that, not guys! (wait while girls laugh).. What percentage of guys can do that? Look at them (point at guys).. They’re leaning in and touching, making the girls all uncomfortable, but some of the girls like them anyway.. But the guys THINK its that they were aggressive.. So what, like 5% of guys TOPS can do what 100% of girls can do. Second, girls are the only gender with one organ designed for NOTHING ELSE but sexual pleasure. (wait while girls laugh) And on that organ, there are ten times more nerve endings than anything a guy has. (wait while girls laugh) That’s why, when GIRLS have sex, they go (put hands onto hair, and do the following very convincingly, like Meg Ryan “When Harry met Sally” style) “uhhhhhh…. oooohhh…. uhhhhhhh..” (wait while girls laugh hysterically screaming their heads off) IDEALLY, THE ROUTINE IS SUPPOSED TO DO THE FOLLOWING: -sets a humour anchour that can be re-used to keep them giggling throughout the duration of the pickup -gives you fodder to do “busting them on their manneurisms” stuff.. You can now tease them on their actions, and tease them on what they say, showing that its all designed to take advantage of you -provides a Kooper-style C&F roleplaying frame, for them to play in, that results in them seducing you -makes the obstacles/peergroup love you, because they think you’re really fun, and it makes them trust you with their friend that you won’t be pushy
-establishes a frame that girls are meant to seduce guys, and its normal/cool/fun -conveys that you know the deal about social interaction -conveys that you know not to make girls feel uncomfortable by being pushy or trying to “seduce” -conveys that you probably ARE one of the 5% of guys who can pull a girl home, because just implying that you know what’s wrong with other guys’ approaches, suggests that you know how to do it right -mindfucks her into a frame where she’s becoming more sexually aggressive STEP 2 – MISINTERPRETING THEM AS TRYING TO PREY ON YOU: Point out real IOIs (there will be a lot), as well as MISINTERPRETING things that are not IOIs, in order to mess with girls in the set who are not as into you. -(point) “Hey, you just licked your lips! (back off like you’re scared”) -”Hey, you’re touching me.. Hands off the merchandise.. I’m just trying to talk to you.. I just want to talk, and you’re just SITTING THERE WAITING for me to talk so I can feel ready for you, and you’re not even listening to what I’m really saying… You’re just biding your time until I feel comfortable with you.” -”Hey, stop giggling at me.. It’s making me feel really good.. Stop it.. Stop being so attracted to me” (this must be in deep attraction, or sounds lame.. if its in deep attraction, it makes her REALIZE that she’s attracted” -”Hey! YOU’RE ATTRACTED TO ME! STOP IT! I JUST WANT TO TALK, STOP BEING SUCH A PREDATOR!” -”Hey! You guys think its all fun and games.. Like you can just do this, and everything will be FINE.. But you probably didn’t even know about the hidden damage you’re doing.. Did you know that 99% of all colleged aged males who get date raped commit suicide within 1 year? Did you know that when you’re taking advantage of a guy for your own pleasure that he walks around depressed and alone for the rest of his life! I don’t want this to happen to me! Stop it! No no no, now you’re licking your lips again.. Stop stop stop (engaging the group, so you’re saying stop to everyone in the group individually).. Help!” -For girls who aren’t as attracted in the set: “Hey, you’re leaning away but your knees are pointing at me.. You’re trickier than your friends.. You’re trying to go in under the radar but your knees are giving it away… OK she’s scaring me the most..” STEP 3 – JUST CONVEYING PERSONALITY SO THE GIRLS GET TO KNOW YOU, QUALIFYING YOUR TARGET, BUT ALL THE WHILE RE-INITIATING STATE WITH CALLBACK HUMOUR: The idea is that you’re running a normal pickup, but using callback humour and the cocky & playful roleplaying stuff. So this gives you the maneuvrability to run a nice normal conversation, but keeping the interaction charged with this stuff. -Use “reverse-EV” type stuff, so that she’s finding out positive things about you and building trust. The whole pickup lasts usually around 4-7 hours, start to lay. You’re supposed to be conveying personality during this time. The accusing-them thing is something you do as their state drops, or when you see a good opening to do so. It’s not the entire method, since just teasing won’t get you laid except by party girls. With party girls, just tease the fuck out of them, that’s it. -Qualify her to you, and every time you act impressed lean in, and then say “wait a minute.. what are you doing.. I can’t talk to you anymore, you’re trouble” -Ask her arbitrary questions about herself, and then pretend like you’re hitting buying temperature, but then cutting it off because you’re afraid that she’ll take advantage of that. “PUA: What’s your sign? HB: Libra. PUA: OMG I love you (take hands)…. Wait, I can’t talk to you anymore.. You’re trouble.. Go away (push her away and turn your back on her and face her friends and say “she’s trouble”)”
-If she does something really impressive, pretend like you freaked out and hit high buying temperature, and jump in and kiss her, then go “aaaah…. what are you doing to me???” and turn around and move away from her like you’re scared that she manipulated you to do that. -Condition her (like Pavlov’s dogs) to keep doing things that will seduce you. She’ll grab you, etc.. Reward her with kino, or whatever. But then also run away when she escalates it too much. Mindfuck her into trying to seduce you. The girls seem to think that this is really fun, because they feel safe and on their terms, and also they seem to find it a turn-on. Bear in mind, you’re coming in super-confident (you opened them, you held court in the set), so its obvious that you have alot going for you. STEP 4 – LAY LOGISTICS: -Start acting possibly convinced. Her friends will start trying to convince you to stay, and they’ll start qualifying your target saying that “she’s safe PUA.. don’t worry.. you can trust her.. go with her..” etc etc.. -When you walk home together, don’t be too eager to keep the joke going. At the same time, when you get her home, walk past your bedroom, and one last time say “Hey! See this is exactly what I’m talking about.. Wait in the TV room..” -Then, grab your blankets, and run into the TV room.. Throw them on her like its all funny and jump on the couch in a way that makes her laugh (humour disarms escalation to pickups.. if you escalate a pickup, but make the girl laugh while you’re doing it, she’ll backwards rationalize that she wanted you to escalate). Then say “C’mere c’mere c’mere…. its cold its cold its cold…” (in a funny way so she laughs that you’re basically putting her in a very comprimising position). -Once she’s on top of you, STOP TALKING.. It starts getting heavy.. Breathing starts synchronizing.. You’re breathing in her ear maybe and fingers are interlocked and you’re getting closer.. Then say “uhhh ohhh.. mmmm… ummm.. this is OK I think… uh oh..” and start kissing her. -Take it from there.. If the joke is still working (it may be SO PLAYED by this point, but if it is STILL WORKING), feel free to make liberal use of callback humour to disarm any last minute resistance (misinterpret her LMR as her just trying to get you more comfortable) **NOTE: If the joke has become PLAYED, then don’t insist on pursuing it. The whole frame/routine is always good, but don’t be routine dependent and insist on pursuing it. If its fading a little bit, just move onto something else. If its working consistently the entire time, then keep using it. Just common sense. -TD Tyler Durden GLASSES ON OR OFF Approach Girls Glasses off (take glasses off) Glasses on (put glasses on) What do you guys think looks better? *HBs - (Responses: On!/Off!/What?/Laughing) Glasses off (take off glasses) Glasses on (put on glasses) (I did the sequence any where from 2 to 4 times) HB1 - I like them on! HB2 - I like them off! (If HBs disagree then they usually started laughing.I guess they think it's funny that they have different opinions). My friends tell me I look like Clark Kent when I have the glasses on! HBs - (Responses: Yeah you do! / No).
Why do you like it when my glasses are on/off? HB1 - (When likes glasses on) I think it makes you look sexy/it makes you look clever. HB2 - (When likes glasses off) I think you look better with them off, but I like them on too! You get the idea. it opens the group. Here's another way I introduced the opener: Approach Girls 26 - I need your opinion. Do I look better with my glasses off (take glasses off) or with my glasses on (put glasses on). (I put like a fun/playful face on). *Run with the rest of the opener above. Trouble Shooting If a girl asks you to put them on and off too many times I would do one of the following: - I'd put them on and off again, but act goofy (make faces.whatever) - Oh my god. Again? (Playful). Then I'd do it again (don't know if this is a good idea, what do you guys think?) - Say to the girl who didn't ask: Wow. Is she always like this? Takes a long time to make decisions? I'M LOST I'm lost... I can't find my friends and I'm scared... Remember when we were kids and you could just make new friends whenever you wanted... and you said 'want to be my friend?' Do you guys want to by my NEW friend?" INTRODUCTION OPENER PUA: (grab unsuspecting HB by the arm and point at a random dude) "OMG, that guy is PERFECT for you - let me introduce you!!" (start moving towards the guy) SHB: What?! No.. NONONO.. haha.. Help! PUA: (to guy) This girl is so shy, but she really wanted to meet you! SHB: (Giggeling hysterically) Nonono... its not true!(Fleeing) PUA: Awww come on.. don't be shy.. Both girls were very hot and totally stuck up before I did this. Both of them came back and talked to me several times during the evening, to tell me how crazy I was... MR. BIG Hey guys, do you watch the show Sex and the City?? I was just talking to those girls over there and they told me I remind them of "Mr. Big" is that good or bad? (ooooohhh we LOVE Mr Big!!) MY LITTLE PONY Hey, guys... remember that sh1t 'My Little Pony'? Well, I was thinking about this today, and I can't remember... did they have powers or were they just regular horses? Like, I remember they could fly, but I thought they also had little symbols on the hip or something that gave them powers, but they were like, lame-ass powers like Sharing and Honor or some sh1t. or maybe that was Care Bears. My little sister
used to have them and I'd play GI Joe's with them, like, GI Joe would fly into battle on My Little Pony, then blast Cobra with a machine gun blah blah blah... Me: I have a theory, I call it 'Oysters and Pearls' HB: (Smiles, knowingly). Oh yeah? Me: When it comes to relationships, I believe there's 2 kinds of people in this world: 'weepers' and 'seekers'. Now, consider that all the millions of potential partners in this world are oysters. And that only a few of them contain a pearl. HB: Ok Me: Now, the weepers, they grab the first oyster that comes their way, they open it hoping it contains a pearl, and when it doesn't, they close the oyster. They kiss it, caress it, put it on a pedestal, do everything for it, and then open it again, hoping a pearl has appeared. But still no pearl. So they close it again, and repeat. Still no pearl. They eventually lose the oyster, and then cry saying that they hate oysters, and they'll never find the right oyster for them. With me? HB: Yep Me: Now, the seekers, they realise that there's millions of oysters out there, they understand that they have to go through thousands of oysters before they find one with a pearl. They also know that they'll have a lot of fun along the way, and they know that with each oyster, they'll become better at understanding oysters so that they can spend less and less time with each oyster before they realise it doesn't have a pearl. My question is, are you a weeper or a seeker? NEVER BE COUPLE "Aww - you are so cute.. but you make me SO SAD! (HB:WHY?) (pause with puppy dog face) Cos we could NEVER EVER be a couple! (HB:WHYYY???) Nooo.. we are too similar.. IMAGINE, we would be SO IN LOVE.. and the next moment, we would be fighting and screaming and throwing things.. and then we would have HOT MAKE UP SEX all over the place.. and then fight, makeup sex, fight, make up sex.. after a week we would both be in psychiatric care due to emotional drainage!" PICKING UP CHICKS Just open with "Hi, we're picking up chicks". its C&F PLANT AND STARE Walk up to girls and just stop, like plant yourself in front of them. I give them kind of a boyish playful smiling face like I'm about to do something cocky or maybe I though of something funny I'm about to say, and they start giggling. (key is to stop abruptly and make the fun face so they giggle) PRIMP OPENER First, here is the frame you're using for this opener: "You're CUTE... but I'm going to make you a ROCKSTAR!" This is, in fact, the exact wording I used to open my wings HB9 on Saturday night. I opened her and I let him take over and #close her. (He should have gotten more. Bad schematic. Oh well, I'll call her later. Maybe) You don't even need to say anything to open, so this works in the loudest clubs.
You walk up, of course making sure to keep your BL under control. (Shoulders away, etc.) You check her out then make a face like you aren't happy with what you see. Then you hold your hands out like you're judging her style. You move in SLOWLY, pick some article of clothing (hat, shirt, etc. Best if it's upper body or head) and PRIMP it. Take her hat and TWIST it ever so slightly. Now, back away, lean back, look her over, and give her a thumbs up. "NOW you're a SUPERSTAR!" Continue with push/pull if you wish... "But wait..." and twist the hat back the other way. If she touches her hat, bust her for messing it up. Tell her she's allowed to be seen with you now, and promenade her around the club. RICH OPENER Came up with this one the other night at a club. When opening a set, walk up and ask, "Which one of you is the richest?". Then go into the whole "OK, you get to be my sugar mama, then. But hmmm.... we need someone to cook for us, who is the best cook?" routine. Pretty fun and opens easily. To give credit where credit is due, it's just a variation on "Are you rich?", which I think TD came up with. SEATTLE GF "Hey guys, I need an opinion. My friend met this girl in Seattle, and they really hit it off. They wound up hooking up on the first night, and he even hung out with her in L.A. over the next week. So he's up visiting her in Seattle last week, and they're out on a walk. He takes a few pictures of them together. Like really cute ones with them together. Some of them they're just hanging out, and a few of them they're like kissing or whatever while they're out walking. Anyway, the next morning he wakes up, and checks his camera. He looks at the pictures, and he sees that she's woken up before him and gone into it and deleted the pictures where they're kissing, and left the ones where they're just hanging out. He goes to her and says 'Are you psycho? Why are you going into my camera?' She says its because she thought she looked bad in the pictures, and didn't want him to have them. But he can't figure out if she's psycho or if its legit that for girls they just hate having pictures out there where she doesn't look good. He just really liked them because he likes her and doesn't judge the pics like that." The girls will either say: "It's totally natural. I hate it when pictures make me look bad, especially with a digital camera where you can just delete them and take more." (They also sometimes say "But he's only known her a few months. I wouldn't do that on a guy I just met.") -or"She has a boyfriend!" Your immediate reply would be "He doesn't care about that. He's busy. He just doesn't want her deleting his pics! " SIMPSONS OPENER Hey do you ever watch The Simpsons? Why has Marge never left Homer, I mean she's a sexy bitch and he's a deadbeat who farks up all the time. At this point you can just go on and talk about The Simpson's for a while.
SPELLS OPENER "Do you think spells work?" Sometimes this will send the woman off on a long blab, but if the conversation needs to be kept going, the follow-up routine is: "The reason I'm asking is because my friend over there met a girl in a club last week. He wasn't interested in her sexually, because she wasn't really his type." (Here the woman might say "Sure," in which case you reply "No, really!" and touch her arm or waist.) "Anyway, she hung out at his house and after she left, he found a metal ring wrapped around a scroll and some feathers under his couch. Well, he took it to a magic store and they said it was an attraction spell. And now, the strange thing is, he can't stop thinking of her. Do you think it's the spell or just psychological?" THUG LOVIN Hey guys, I need an opinion quick. Which is superior... which do the ladies prefer more...THUG LOVIN'? or...GANGSTA LOVIN'? Well, my girlfriend from work said gangsta because its more hard-core whereas thug lovin' is more like a hobby. But my other gf said gangsta would be disrespectful, like they'd pistol whip you and run a train on your ass, whereas thug lovin', the dude is hard, but when it comes to the ladies, he's smooth and sensitive... blah blah blah..." TWIN BROTHERS You're at a party or a club and you meet twin brothers; they are absolutely identical, physically. ONE of them has the best hands of any guy you've ever met. The other is an incredible dancer. Which one do you pick? Same scenario. Again, the two guys are identical. One makes you laugh more than anyone you've ever met. The other is the most incredible kisser you could ever in a lifetime encounter. Which one do you pick? Same scenario: One guy has more money than Bill Gates. The other makes you feel like you are the most beautiful, desirable woman who ever walked the face of the planet. Which do you pick? (It'd probably be best to make up some sort of back-story for this) WHEEL CHAIR Would you date a guy in a wheel chair? (blah blah blah) if she says no say "What if it was a really cool wheel chair?" "What if it was a really old wheel chair with a squeaky wheel?" "You know with bits falling off it. If it was rusty would it come between you both?" If she says yes set it up for who lies more.or "What if the guy was suddenly cured by *Jesus*...would you lose interest?" WHO LIES MORE Hey guys, I need a female opinion. who lies more Guys or Girls??.......... The way I see it girls the tell the small lies like "you're ass doesn't look fat in those pants" but girls. they tell the big ones... like... "Its your baby!" Masturbating In The Shower YOU: “Did you know that 93% of girls masturbate in the shower?” HER: “No” YOU: “It’s true- the other 7% sing”
HER: “Oh really?” YOU: “Do you know what they sing?” HER: “No, what?” YOU: “Oh, you must be one of the 93% of girls that masturbates then” HER: (Laughs) Dog or Cat XF: Hey guys let me get your opinion real fast ... What do you prefer cat or dog ? HB: Dog XF: No way , Dog's sucks Wink (NEG) I'm joking I have 5 Laughing ... wait, See the problem is that my little sister/cousin birthday is in one week , she is going to turn 9 years old and I don't know what to buy a cat or a dog , she love both cats and dogs, and the other day at the pet shop... blah blah ( dhv story move to A2 ) Or some variations I have made of my own opener are : What you prefer for a gift a Cd or Dvd ... Which movie you think is better: How too loose a guy in 10 days or the notebook , the thing here is that my sister... Self Empowering Class Opener (credit justincedible!) opener: Real quick, you guys think its a good idea to take self empowering classes? HB: Y/ no / whatever response me "I got a buddy that just ended a X year long relationship. And was thinking about taking a class. But I'm telling him to just go out meet people and socialize, w/o any pressure of anything else. To just go out and have a good conversation. But my roommate SHE thinks that guys meeting girls out in public is hard and next to impossible. She also thinks that classes for empowerment are ironically lame. Then again she really had no problems attracting people with her job.... HB: What did she do? me Shes ...get this...brace yourself...an exotic dancer double majoring Business and Psychology. She dances to put herself through school but I don't know what to make of it. It is her life, I'm just glad shes still in school. Bet you're in school aren't you? Role Playing / Inner Self Routines By Vince Lin on March 18, 2010 The following routines are designed to subcommunicate dominance and that you are seeing her for who she is, rather than her physical looks alone: You have a nice act going. And everyone likes a challenge at first. But somewhere in there, is a little
girl who just wants to be held and appreciated for who she is. You know what? When I look at you, I can see exactly what you looked like in middle school. And I’m willing to bet you weren’t so outgoing or popular then. I bet a lot of people think you’re a bitch. But you’re not. You’re actually shy in a lot of ways. We’ll Tell Our Kids How We Met $$$$$$$ Guy: Close your eyes. I want you to picture some of the times in your life when you felt really, really good. Where do you feel this amazing feeling beginning to grow in your body? Girl: In my chest. (They always say that it starts in their chest). Guy: Ok, now if that feeling was a color, what color would it be? Girl: Yellow. (I've heard different girls say different colors, the color doesn't matter). Guy: Sweet. Now I want you to feel that yellow begin to spread throughout your body. (At this time I like to put my hands on their shoulders and slowly and gently bring them down her arms). Once she has the feeling throughout her whole body, say this... Guy: Now I want you to bring all the yellow back to where it came from. Bring it all back to your chest and concentrate it into the size of a pea. (Pretend like you snatch the pea). Guy: Now im going to put this pea into this ring of mine. (You can put it into any object that is yours.) Guy: I want you to where this (or carry it around with you depending on the object) and keep that amazing yellow feeling with you. But I want it back next time we see each other because it is important to me. Now when she looks at that object, she remembers that amazing feeling and associates it with you. I have done this routine many times, and it almost always works for me. Ok guys, let's see some more! Penis Implant Routine (Brad P.) By Vince Lin on September 24, 2012 by Brad P. “Yeah, I don’t want to brag or anything but I had a bit of plastic surgery done and it went really well. I mean it cost a lot of money but it was really worth it.” (Girls respond.) “Well it’s kind of a secret… OK I got a penis implant. They doubled my size; I’m 4 inches now.” This routine can go on for 10–15 minutes with the women asking to see your implant. If they are pretty heated up, sometimes they’ll try pulling down your pants. You can just tease them if you want or you can go ahead and whip it out if you are so inclined. This is a good way to turn things sexual under the veil of humor. Start talking about what they’ve had done. If there is a good sexual vibe going, squeeze their butts or boobs to “check” if they are real. Say you think a woman’s lips are fake and use that as an excuse to
kiss her. The possibilities are endless. The frame control and the comfort with topics of sex needs to be rock solid in order for this routine to work. Nonetheless, it can be considered a “blow out” routine, which is amusing to you, but may piss girls off. The goal is to desensitize the PUA from negative reactions in a set. Mini Cold Read (MCR) By Vince Lin on December 22, 2008 Quick Definition: A “mini” version of a cold read, usually involving a sentence or two about framing the girl’s innate bad/sexy/good behavior. Full Definition: MCRs are powerful for banter and attraction game. Be careful about using them during comfort, as they could break rapport. Thus, use it with calibration to BHRR and push and pull. Examples of MCRs: “You’re a bad girl. My mother warned me about girls like you.” “You’re a shy girl aren’t you? You guys need to get her out more.” “You’re like Velma on Scooby Doo, always trying to figure things out.” Usage: MCRs are great when the girls don’t say much to you in the first 30 seconds. Drink DHV Opener By Vince Lin on April 27, 2010 Open the first set by saying: “hold this up for a sec, thanx..”Leave your drink in one of the girls hand and walk off before she has time to say anything, keep walkin and go open a second set, start talking…in a little while the girl from the first set will walk up to you and give you thw drink back. Look at set2 girls and say: second drink they buy me today, woah… Credit Seven Tatoo Opener By Vince Lin on March 9, 2010 PUA: Hey guys, would you ever get a Tattoo? Here’s the deal…my nineteen-year-old sister wants to get her boyfriends name tattooed on her shoulder. 1 possible reply: (no, no don’t let her do it) Dramatic escalation: see that’s the problem she’s really strong headed and when I tell her not to get the tattoo it just makes her want to get it even more. How do I deal with that and let her really know its mistake? The Jealous Cat By Vince Lin on February 12, 2010 My friend has been going out with a girl for about three months and they get along really well, they love each other heaps, but her cat hates him. Like whenever he tries to pet it, it will just look at him like he’s an idiot and walk off and one time he left his shoes by the door and it pissed on them ……What's that all about?(ERG)
Pendant Anchoring By Vince Lin on March 20, 2010 Venusian Arts / Mystery Method Quick Definition: Anchoring an initial meeting into a physical object. Full Definition: Sometimes, when PUAs face a time bridge, it is important to leave the girl with something to remember him by. As humans, we spend our entire life in various brain states and moods, and women in particular may not feel the same thing she did for the PUA tomorrow. Pendant anchoring involves giving her a little piece of yourself by carrying a cheap pendant or necklace. The PUA can use this to anchor the feelings she currently has for him. Placing the pendant around her neck is not only romantic, but the physical contact of the pendant on her neck, as well as the optical stimuli of the pendant when she looks at it the next day, will trigger memories in her brain. The brain is a big associative network and, assuming your night really did go well, every time she sees or feels your pendant, she’ll be reminded of you. And hence, she will be much more likely to give you a call back and less likely to flake. Having a cool little story to go with the pendant is always preferred. Example: PUA: Well we have to go home now. I really loved talking to you. Girl: Yeah, I’m glad I met you tonight. PUA: So Thursday at 8pm, I’ll see you at the bookstore right? Girl: Yeah. PUA: Okay, I have to go catch my friends. But I’ll be thinking of you for the next couple days. [Take pendant off your neck.] Here, I got this in Thailand last year. I bought it from this sweet old lady who makes necklaces on the beach all day long. [Put the pendant on her neck.] So you’ll keep it safe for me right? And when I see you again, you can give it back. Simple Cold Reading Routine: What's your favorite color? 08-08-2007, 09:13 AM Hey Guys, Remember when you were a little kid, and everyone asked their favorite color? And it was a big deal. I remember my favorite color was green and my brother's alternated between red and blue. After a while, he switched to green too. My little brother was "lellow" (I don't think I ever asked him again after he developed the faculty of intelligent pronunciation in speech). Anyway, what I just told you is the routine introduction. From there, you simply ask PUA: "What's your favorite color?" HB: Pink, why? PUA: I was reading this book, and it deals with personality typing based on your favorite color. Tell me what you think. Pink is.... Read the text below for an idea of interpretations for each color. If you trust your instincts you can also improvise. [I]White: Symbolic of purity, innocence, and naivete, white has strong connotations of youth and purity. If you are an older person, your preference for white could indicate a desire for perfection and impossible ideals, maybe an attempt to recapture lost youth and freshness. It may also symbolize a desire for
simplicity or the simple life. Red: The color of strength, health, and vitality, Red is often the color chosen by someone outgoing, aggressive, vigorous, and impulsive--or who would like to be! It goes with an ambitious nature but those who choose it can be abrupt at times, determined to get all they can out of life, quick to judge people and take sides. Red people are usually optimistic and can’t stand monotony; they are rather restless and not at all introspective, so they may be unaware of their own shortcomings. They find it hard to be objective and may blame others for any mishaps. Quiet people with a preference for red may feel the need for the warmth, strength and life-giving qualities of the color, or they blanket their true feelings under a sober exterior. Red is usually chosen by those with open and uncomplicated natures, with a zest for life. Maroon: Harsh experience has probably matured the Maroon person into someone likeable and generous. It is often a favorite color of someone who has been battered by life but has come through. It indicates a well-disciplined Red personality--one who has had difficult experiences and has not come through unmarked but who has grown and matured in the process. Pink: This color embodies the gentler qualities of Red, symbolizing love and affection without passion. Women who prefer Pink tend to be maternal. Pink desires protection, special treatment, and a sheltered life. Pink people require affection and like to feel loved and secure, perhaps wanting to appear delicate and fragile. Pink people tend to be charming and gentle, if a trifle indefinite. Orange: This color of luxury and pleasure appeals to the flamboyant and fun-loving person who likes a lively social round. Orange people may be inclined to dramatize a bit, and people notice them, but they are generally good-natured and popular. They can be a little fickle and vacillating, but on the whole they try hard to be agreeable. Orange is the color of youth, strength, fearlessness, curiosity, and restlessness. Yellow: The color of happiness, wisdom, and imagination, Yellow is chosen by the mentally adventurous, searching for novelty and self-fulfillment. Yellow usually goes with a sunny and shrewd personality, with a good business head and a strong sense of humor. It is the color of intellectuality and all things to do with the mind. Yellow folks are usually clear and precise thinkers who have a good opinion of their own mental capacities and who have lofty ideals. They may at times tend to shun responsibility, preferring freedom of thought and action. Green: The color of harmony and balance, Green symbolizes hope, renewal, and peace, and is usually liked by the gentle and sincere. Greens are generally frank, community-minded people, fairly sociable but preferring peace at any price. Green people can he too self-effacing, modest, and patient and so may get exploited by others. They are usually refined, civilized, and reputable. Blue: Soft, soothing, compassionate and caring, Blue is the color of deliberation and introspection, conservatism and duty. Patient, persevering, conscientious, sensitive and self-controlled, Blues like to be admired for their steady character and wisdom. They are faithful, but are often worriers with somewhat inflexible beliefs and can be too cautious, and suspicious of flamboyant behavior. Blue-Green: Exacting, discriminating, poised and attractive, the Blue-Green person tends to be sensitive, intellectual and refined, persevering and stable if rather detached. Blue-Greens have excellent taste, and are usually courteous and charming, capable but often refusing help or guidance. Turquoise: Complex, imaginative, and original, Turquoise people drive themselves hard and may be in a state of turmoil under their outwardly cool exterior. Lavender: This is often chosen by a person who lives “on a higher plane”, who never notices anything sordid and who is always impeccably and beautifully dressed. Lavender people may be on a continual quest for culture and the refined things of life, high and noble causes but without the necessity of getting their hands dirty. A Lavender person is usually creative, charming, witty and civilized. Purple: Purples are highly individual, fastidious, witty, and sensitive, with a strong desire to be unique and
different. Temperamental, expansive and artistic, a Purple person may become aloof and sarcastic when misunderstood. If you chose Purple, you tend to be unconventional, tolerant, and dignified, likely to achieve positions of authority. Brown: A Brown person has stamina and patience, tending to be very solid and substantial, conscientious, dependable, steady, and conservative. Browns are not impulsive, and may be inarticulate and tactless but they love responsibility and are reliable and kindly. If you chose Brown, watch out for a tendency to be obstinate and inflexible. Gray: The color of caution and compromise, diligent Grays search for composure and peace and often work hard without reward. Older Grays like life to run on an even keel with few ups and downs. Young Grays may be withdrawing from life and suppressing their personalities. Grays often have good business ability and tend to over-work. Black: Dignified and impressive without being showy, Black people want to give the appearance of mystery, but their preference may also indicate a suppression of desires and worldly aims, suggesting hidden depths and inner longings. - See more at: http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/forum/essentials/best-of-the-forum/2562-simple-cold-reading-routinewhat-s-your-favorite-color#sthash.VMutKYqt.dpuf ESP Routine (Mystery) By Vince Lin on February 23, 2010 This is the famous ESP routine demo’d by Mystery in The Pickup Artist on Vh1. PUA walks up to a girl and say, “Do you believe in ESP?” Remember to SMILE or you may startle her. “Just think of the first # that pops into your head from one to four. Don’t say it. Just think it … now take that # and imagine that it is drawn on a blackboard in your head. Have you done that?” She says OK “What’s so neat about imagination is … we both have it … On the blackboard, I see the number … three.” Whether you get it right or not it does not matter, the point is she is playing along. “Alright, lets try this one more time. This time think of a different # from one to 10. Got it? Picture it in white chalk on the blackboard … you are thinking of the number … 7.” Explanation: If you got the first wrong and the second right, you look like you finally got it … a 1 in 10 chance. If you get BOTH right (a 90% chance seeing as it is a psychological trick where most north Americans naturally choose 3 and 7 as their first picks) that’s a 1 in 40 chance … “and of course I don’t stake my reputation on mere chance.” If you get the first right but the second wrong or both wrong, say… “PROOF! ESP does NOT exist!” Then start to laugh like this “Mooa ha ha ha ha ha ha! And you believe in ESP!” a good neg hit to start. If she mentions that most people pick 3 and 7 (most girls wont know this though) just say, “really? Hmm… didn’t know that … thank you Cliff Claven.” (From Cheers) If you take the wording I have and do this EXACTLY as stated, you will be surprised HOW well you will do. When they ask HOW, tell them … I DON’T KNOW. Tell her you can SEE the #s on your imaginary blackboard. This is NOT a trick. You hate magicians. If she wants you to do this again, tell her … “don’t be greedy now.” Leaf Routine Author: Richard La Ruina Seduction / PUA Routines / Telling Stories / PUA G Spot Video
Last Longer In Bed Average Rating: 3.67 [Total Votes: 3] I was talking to a girl last night and it went a little like this. It is an example of taking a statement from her and making a point that goes along with it but is completely ridiculous but which she can’t really object to. I think it is also a funny little comedy routine! Her: “Can I use your stuff in the bathroom?” Me: “You can use my shampoo?but don’t use my shower gels (I have 10 little Molton Brown ones)?But if I find one that I don’t like I’ll give it to you!” Her: “WHAT!?” Me: “Well most people would just pretend and say “oooh I got you this gift aren’t I nice” but I’ll tell the truth and say that you can have the one I don’t like”. Her: “Is that what you do for birthday presents, give something that you don’t want anymore?” Me: “Well usually I don’t buy presents, I only buy presents for two people” Her: “What your mum and Alex?” Me: “Yep exactly” Her: “Why don’t you buy presents” Me: “I know too many people!” Her: “What about girlfriends?” Me: “Well I used to buy presents for them, up until about a year ago. If you see my ex-girlfriend from years ago, she is dripping in diamonds!” Her: “Well it’s not about the money, it’s the thought that counts” Me: “Ah okay cool, I’m glad you said that because what I usually do is make my girlfriends a special present. Like with my ex, I told her she was going to get the best present she ever got in her life, she told all her friends, and she was so excited. Secretly I worked on it one day. I got a leaf and twisted the stick bit into a beautiful shape and then stuck it to the body of the leaf and then I wrote her name on it. I knew it was something beautiful that would express my love for her. A few days before her birthday I wanted to throw her off the scent and make her think she was going to get a boring present, so when we walked past a jewellery shop I asked her if she liked some diamond earrings and she said yes and I made a knowing nod. Now that she was expecting something boring, everything was in place. On her birthday I gave her the leaf and she was so happy, she cried. She seemed like she was really crying, that was how happy she was. She told her friends I got her something else because she didn’t want them to be jealous. So, I could buy expensive gifts, but that experience really taught me something, and I’m glad you agree that it is the thought that counts!” Her: “?” Enjoyed this post? Then you're going to LOVE the material I've got waiting for you....here. Also watch hidden camera videos of me and my instructors approach women. Richard La Ruina
‘Fashion‘ Opener “I love your style. You’ve got a great look – you must be very creative.” This opener works well because everyone loves to thought of as being “creative.” PUA Openers By Mr. Orange 2 Openers are canned material usually for guys just starting out in the pickup artist community. It’s a script you can use to practice your approach, body language and tonality. Since you don’t have to think of something to say on your own, it’s easier to use an opener and react to your target’s responses. With practice you’ll eventually be able to approach women without any canned material. For those of you that need it though, here’s a list of my favorite openers. These have all been tested in the field with excellent success ratings. “Hey, we need an opinion on something. This is really important. What’s better, bacon or ham?” Disqualify their answer and keep it going. “Would you rather be bitten by a snake or sprayed by a skunk?” Disqualify their response and say this. “That’s interesting, women usually say sprayed by skunk and men choose the snake bite.” This has a near perfect success rate. With women sitting at a table. “Hey guys sorry I’m late. There was a bunch of traffic. Did you guys start drinking without me?” This needs to be done with a confident playful attitude or you’ll come off as a creep. You’ll need a somewhat flamboyant accessory or article of clothing. I use a white ceramic ring on my pinky which works pretty well. With higher energy than your set ask, “I need your opinion on something. Does this ring (or shirt, hat, watch, etc.) make me look gay?” Before they answer, interrupt and continue your story. “The reason I ask is because this guy at a bar started hitting on me after he complimented me on my ring.” You’ll need a wing for this one to add credibility to your story. “Hey guys, I need a female’s opinion on something. Do you consider talking to someone online, cheating?” Disqualify their response and move on. “The reason I ask is because my friend over there has a girlfriend that’s been talking to some guy online for the past couple of months. She says they’re just friends but that doesn’t seem right to me.” Be prepared for a response regarding trust in relationship. “Hey guys, I can’t stay very long but let me get your opinion on something. Who do you think lies more, women or men?” Interrupt their response and continue with a story. This is what I’ve used. “The reason I ask is because my friend’s girlfriend lies about everything. Even simple things like going to the store.” Add you own twist or true story to make it interesting. A little more direct but can have a huge payoff if done correctly. Standing at the bar or a crowded club with a woman behind you, “Hey! Did you just grab my ass?” She’ll most likely give you a wide-eyed expression and say no. Respond with, “Good, because I usually charge for that.” If she says yes, respond playfully with, “Could you go a little lower next time.” Which ever response you use, end it with a smile. With a girl standing near a crowded bar say, “Hey, I don’t usually use women for their bodies until I get to know them, but the bartender is more likely to notice a cute girl like you than a guy like me. Can you buy me a drink? I’ll even pay for it.” An oldie but a goodie from Styles. “Hey guys, I need your help with something. This is a life or death situation so please be as honest as possible. Ok, here it goes.” With a serious expression, “Do you floss before or after you brush your teeth?” The social network opener Hey guys I need a female’s opinion. So there is this girl that works at Jack in the box. She hits me up on myspace and says that she got my name from my debit card and she thinks I am very cute. At the time I did not think of how much the situation was screaming “Stalker!”. Maybe I am being to harsh , what do you girls think? Should I go out with her or should I just tell she is crazy and to leave me alone. – Mr.
Atticus Some shorter openers that get straight to the point. Open a set and get them talking. If you have great social skills, you can turn any mundane opener into a rapport building conversation. To a set, “Who are you people?” Approach a set and ask, “Do you guys want to see a magic trick? Ok, everyone close your eyes.” With their eyes closed, grab your target and walk away from the set. “Are you shy? You smiled at me and never came over to say hi.” “Ok, who’s been naughty and who’s been nice?” Compliment a woman on her clothing, accessories or shoes. The point is not to compliment her on her physical appearance since that’s what most guys do. “You’ll do.” Say this with a smirk and with positive energy. Her first reaction will be to question your intentions. Just be playful and continue with something witty. When a girl bumps into you or touches you lightly, “Don’t touch me! I usually charge for that.” Obviously, don’t say this with a serious attitude. Routines A routine is a field tested set of actions you perform to achieve a desired result. Often, when a man first begins his quest to get better with women he is unsure of what to say, how to keep the conversation going and how to take the interaction forward. This is where routines come in. They allow you to add upgrades to your personality to get past your sticking points and to make the progression smoother for both you and the girl. Kissing routine As an example, consider kissing a girl for the first time. Your natural routine may be to just go for it, after much hesitation, hoping that you have read the situation correctly and that she will not move away from the kiss. This may or may not work. It is a percentage game which depends a great deal on how fine-tuned your calibration skill is for reading the mood. Compare it with the following kino routine: The girl is smiling at you and having a good time. You reach over and gently touch her hair. Play with it a bit and say it looks nice. If she likes it, things are good. While smiling look down at her lips and back to her eyes. She will know what that means. Go in slowly and kiss her. If you want her to feel really swept away, you can place your hands under her ears and pull her lips to yours. As soon as you are done lean back and just look into her eyes, letting the anticipation build. This routine has several interesting aspects. First of all, if the girl is comfortable with you touching her hair she is also comfortable kissing you. Furthermore, the hair touching allows you to build up towards the kiss. Finally, the looking at her lips part lets you signal your intent and gives her some time to prepare. With routines like this you do not need to wait for the mood to be right. You create the mood right then and there. It is a good routine for use in C1 or C2. Add it to your routine stack. Routine stack Throughout this book several routines have been suggested for use at different phases of the game plan. Based on these routines, and the theory provided, create your own routines that suit your style and personality. The routines you internalize for use in your game then become part of your routine stack. How many routines you want to have in your stack depends on your social skills. If you are a socially savvy person you may need just a handful of routines in combination with the game plan to achieve consistent success. On the other hand, if your social skills are lacking you can compensate for that with a greater number of routines. Routines can be divided into two categories: escalation and interaction. It is good to have separate stacks
for these two categories. Escalation routines Escalation routines are ones you perform more or less with every girl as part of the courtship dance. These include: Opener routines – Starts the conversation. Have two or three openers ready for A1. DHV routines – Displays your attractive personality and triggers interest in A2. Two or three of these will do. Qualification routines – Use these for qualifying the girl in A3 and also in C1/C2 for building the emotional connection. Five to ten of these are plenty. Kino escalation routines – Routines for escalating the girl’s physical comfort level with you. Starts in A2 and continues into C3. Have some 10 to 15 kino escalation routines ready. Transition routines – Let you move from one phase to the next. For example, your C2→C3 transition routine would be used to get the girl to follow you to the seduction location. These are the minimum number of routines you need to take a girl from A1 to S3 and have her enjoy the process. If you like to vary yourself you can have a much larger stack of escalation routines to switch things up with. If you are good at improvising you can also make up your own in the spur of the moment. Only 10% of the courtship time is taken up by escalation routines. The other 90% is spent free flowing – having fun, teasing, flirting and having a real conversation with the girl as you build attraction and comfort. This is where your awesome social skills come into play. Of course, if you had those social skills you would probably not be reading this so let’s cover interaction routines as well. Interaction routines Interaction routines are used to keep the interaction going. Say your social skills fail you in your time of need and the conversation dies down. Then this is the routine stack you turn to – a collection of routines that you can use in any phase to help supplement your social skills in between the escalation routines. Here are some example interaction routine types: Topics – Fascinating topics that lead to deep conversations. For example, talk about peak life experiences. Questions – Useful for starting new threads or for getting a laugh. For example, “On a scale from 1 to 10, how would you feel about riding a roller coaster naked?” Story telling – Stories let you convey your personality and life experiences. For example, “Let me tell you about Greece…” Cold reading – Any technique where you tell the girl something about herself. For example, “Ever had your palm read?” Role playing – Assume a role with an obvious counterpart and she will play along. For example, boyfriend/girlfriend or brother/sister. Future projection – Talk about a future adventure scenario where you two are together. For example, “Imagine you and me walking along a warm sandy beach. We have just been out partying and it is the perfect temperature for a nighttime swim…” Misinterpretations – Some misinterpretation can spice up any conversation. For example, when the girl ignores her ringing phone go “You’re such a player”. Games – Silly kid games and other routines that demonstrate playfulness can be great fun. For example, “1, 2, 3, 4, I declare a thumb war”. Teaching – Teach her something awesome or useful. For example, “Do you know the L.A. handshake?” Themes – A reoccurring theme that you can bring back. For example, a cute nickname tied to something distinctive about her, or a point system, “You’re such a pain. Minus two points”. Small talk – Fluff conversation to show that you are actually for real. Gives a nice contrast. For example, “So, what have you done today?” or “How are you doing tonight?” Interaction routines are interchangeable. You can swap out a story and swap in a game and it does the
same thing. They allow you to have fun, which in turn brings you closer together. They also assume you have a strong rapport which builds your actual rapport. As long as you are doing the escalation routines you will be making progress no matter what interaction routines you are using in between. Find ones that match your personality and style and mix things up. As you learn to cultivate a great repertoire of interaction routines you will be amazed to see how quickly you can make the girl feel comfortable with you. Practice For a routine to be useful it needs to be internalized. You need to practice it until it becomes a part of who you are, otherwise your delivery will not be natural. Once a routine has been internalized you will be able to run it habitually. This will allow you to focus on more important things than what you are doing – such as listening to her, reading her response, calibrating where you are at in the interaction or being in your senses enjoying the moment. Note that interaction routines should only be conceptually remembered, whereas escalation routines are more scripted. Cheat sheet The cheat sheet is a list containing the titles of the routines you have internalized for use in your game. It can be an actual small sheet of paper or a note on your phone. It is good to have one because sometimes your brain just goes blank. Knowing that you have a list of routines you can turn to if you get stuck will also boost your conversational confidence. You are here: Home › Routine Stacking in A1 and A2 Routine Stacking in A1 and A2 June 22, 2009 by Caddy 7 Comments Whilst opinions differ on the value of having a ‘Routine Stack’ (a structured list of routines), and the mere topic often promotes debate within the pick up community, I personally found having a stack really helped my development in game. For me it was useful to have early Instant Value Demonstration (IVD) and DHV material scripted in a logical order and ready to go, freeing me up to concentrate on my body language, kino, compliance testing and the development of calibration skills. As my game improved I moved away from stacks, but I still consider them to be a particularly useful development tool for the beginner and intermediate PUA. In fact a year or two back I began to insist that all my new 1 on 1 students developed personalized stacks before I took them infield. This ensured I could concentrate on their key development areas without the variability of them throwing in routines in a random (and sometimes inappropriate / inefficient / illogical) order. This approach tended to work very well for them, so my support for stack use was reinforced. A well thought out stack can provide rapid DHV uploads, include multi-threading, boost buying temperature, initiate kino, and test compliance all within a short time period and often without doing too much thinking. This is one of the key reasons stacks are useful for those progressing in game. Ever been in set trying to figure out what to say next? Used a comfort routine that didn’t work out because you through it in too early? Stacked multiple openers and didn’t generate attraction? These types of problems can be removed from your game very early on via the use of a routine stack. For brevity in this article I’ll describe my favored stack format covering Opening and A2 of the teachings Mystery developed, in my next article I’ll continue running through into A3 and include a typical time bridge and number close routine I’ve used often. So…In simple terms the basic MM Open/A2 stack format I have used most is… • OPENER (with FTC and Neg) • FTC • IVD#1 • DHV Story#1
• Confirm 3 IOI’s? If yes then Qualify (Move into A3 stack), Or… • DHV Story#2 • Confirm 3 IOI’s? If yes then Qualify (Move into A3 stack), Or… • Continue with IVD #2 or DHV #3 and Qualify (Move into A3 stack) I find that if your first piece following the opener provides the girls with something of value (i.e. an IVD), such as interesting information about them, then they are more likely to hook and listen to your following DHV loaded story. So as an example #1… PUA: OPENER/FTC: Hey guys, just quickly…Is kissing cheating? HB’s: blah blah blah PUA: NEG: Hey, are those real nails? They look nice anyway. PUA: OPENER CONTEXT: Its just my buddy’s girlfriend, she likes to get with other girls…etc. HB’s: blah blah blah PUA: FTC: Anyway, I gotta go, but I just noticed… PUA: IVD: “Group cold read” – …something interesting about this group, well she seems like the mother hen, always looking after you all, you seem like the wild one…etc HB’s: Blah blah blah PUA: DHV Story #1: Respect. Actually though, you remind me of a girl I used to know…etc. HB’s: blah blah blah I’ve not included all the details of the routines, you could use any appropriate OPENERs/IVDs/DHVs, its just to demonstrate how despite human interaction being non-linear, you can control where the conversation goes by cutting their threads when they milk your topic and stacking forward to your next piece. They can be saying anything in the ‘blah blah blah’ areas, but in the end I’m gonna get my next important IVD/DHV piece across regardless. Another example… PUA: OPENER/FTC: Hey guys, just quickly…Who lies more, men or women? HB’s: blah blah blah PUA: NEG: Hey, how short are you? PUA: OPENER CONTEXT: I saw an article today talking about how often men / women lie…etc. HB’s: blah blah blah PUA: FTC: Anyway, I gotta go, but I just noticed… PUA: IVD: ….You have a C shaped smile…etc HB’s: Blah blah blah PUA: DHV Story #1: Respect. Hey get this, last time I was in this place the craziest thing happened…etc HB’s: blah blah blah Straightforward and effective, first 5 or 6 minutes of the interaction accomplished time and time again. In summary, its my view that a stack allows you to plan the early stages of your interactions, making them efficient by ensuring the set has heard your key leader/protector/pre-selection attraction material without you having to think too much about how to get this info across. I’ve found this can remove some of the variability of your first few hundred sets and frees you up to notice whats going on with body language, IOI’s, compliance levels etc. Big Love, Caddy
[email protected] How to Generate Your Own DHV Stories, With Examples June 14, 2009 by Caddy 43 Comments
How to Generate Your Own DHV Stories, With Examples. One topic within the art of pick up that many new and experienced PUA’s find difficult is the creation of DHV routines. Luckily, we at Venusian Arts can reach deep into your background and experiences to help you bring forward the coolest things from your own life to talk about in set. Using your own stories means they are congruent with you, and therefore easier to convey with good delivery, passion and energy. This article is gonna show you how. As a re-cap from The Mystery Method: How to Get Women Into Bed, DHV stories are aimed at demonstrating the ‘key attraction switch’ flicking qualities of Leader / Protector / Pre-Selection / Successful risk taker / willingness to emote. There are others (well traveled, experienced etc) but these are the main things we should convey in A2 and beyond. People sometimes think DHV stories need to be seriously hard hitting and jammed with very obvious DHV ‘spikes’. For example…”hey get this, I just got back from Sydney, well the plane was late and my ex girlfriend, who was waiting at the airport for me was late for a modeling shoot, and already had a parking ticket on her Ferrari” [demonstrates pre-selection]. But you know, demonstrating attraction switches can also be as simple as saying something like “my ex-girlfriend called me, she was freaking out, I mean REALLY scared, so I got her to focus, I told her “listen to me babe, trust me, everything is gonna be fine”” [demonstrates pre-selection, protector and some leader qualities]. “I don’t have any DHV stories” is something I’ve heard more than anything from PUA’s since I’ve been teaching Game. Guess what? you all have experiences that can be turned into DHV stories, whether your 18 or 80. I’ll show you…lets get that grey matter working, get a pen and think of a time when you… • Had something interesting, funny or unusual happen to you • Were there for someone with a problem (friend had a dilemma, spoke to you for advice) • Stood up and supported somebody (it was hard for him, so I stood up and said lets do this together. I mean my friends and I are totally there for each other) • Calmed someone down (“she was really scared, I told her to focus on me and that everything would be ok”) • Organized something for friends (holiday, away trip, day out etc) • Were chased by a girl (“she was bombarding me with text messages”) • Did something with a girl(s) (“My friend Jane and I went to….”) • Took a beating for someone (It was gonna be bad, but we faced it together) • Told somebody what to do (“they didn’t know what to do next, so I told them to…”) Hopefully you get the picture of the sorts of questions you should be asking yourself, so we should have some stuff to work with now. With some thought, we can move from the output of these questions to a DHV story. Example 1 BAD FLIGHT: I had some bad-ass turbulence on a flight once, everyone was screaming, very scary. I told a girl sitting next to me it’d be ok, even though I was crapping my pants LOL. Wow something crazy happened to me on a flight to Hawaii recently, everybody is feeling relaxed, the stewardesses are serving drinks with their fake smiles going on. Anyway, then the plane starts to bounce, a little at first. Then more, people start to feel nervous. Suddenly it all kicks off, Bang, Bang, Bang, drinks everywhere, said stewardess off the ground, people start screaming. There’s a girl next to me in tears, I’m trying to keep her calm telling her it’ll all be fine. She starts to dig her nails into me! Next thing its all deathly calm and quiet. Severe turbulence the pilots said! After that we both ended up drinking our fair share of duty free a. to keep her nice and calm and b. for me to blank out the pain from where I’d allowed her to dig her nails! Example 2 POLAND NOSE BREAK: I was out drinking with 2 women friends and had my nose broken in
a street brawl. Got it fixed, it was all fine. I was on holiday in Poland, my second home. I lived out there for a year when I was younger. Well I’d been drinking in a bar with a couple of girls I know. Anyway, one goes outside to order a taxi, and the second girl and I follow her soon after. Outside my friend is being hassled by these 3 drunken guys, I can sense her unease. So I roll over to see what’s happening and they hear me speaking, and presume I’m German, well Poles and Germans don’t always get along so a fight breaks out. When the dust settles, the girls are fine thankfully but my nose is broken. I’m like “ok hospital it is!” where the doc manually fixes my nose! Get this, he then takes out a mirror and says “Is that how it looked before? Well I don’t know, so I open the door and ask the girls and they are like, yeah babe it looks as good as before! LOL [ Protector / pre-selection / well traveled] So you can see aspects of the questions I asked earlier drawn together in a number of life events, then with a little work these are pulled into DHV stories. The two above are real events from my life, about 90% factual with a sprinkling of embellishment for effect ;¬), and have been run successfully a thousand or more times in A2. The second question I get asked a lot is “how do I bring these stories into the conversation?”. It’s EASY guys, here’s how. I use what I term “lead-in statements”, usually 2 or 3 sentences that can move the conversation from virtually any topic (routine or fluff!) into my story, examples below… To get into BAD FLIGHT DHV ROUTINEI just noticed, you have a smile you can turn on and off on demand (neg)! I bet you’d be awesome calming people down in a crisis It reminds me of a time when…something crazy happened on a flight recently…. OR I just noticed, are those real nails? (neg) Ooh I get nervous around girls with nails like that LOL Its just that…something crazy happened on a flight recently…. OR Hmmm…I’m guessing you work as an air stewardess? Its just you are very well kept…and you have that ‘blonde’ look ;¬) (neg) I bet you’d be awesome calming people down in a crisis though Its like on this flight I had recently…something crazy happened… So in summary, you’ve seen a couple of examples of DHV stories, how to generate them and how to bring them in to the conversation. Of course it takes practice, and delivery is soo important, but this should get you thinking. In future I’ll write about how we weave in Kino and compliance testing into our DHV stories, and remember that at bootcamps we spend time with you developing your personalized DHV’s, then perfecting them with you in-field. Now I’m gonna open it up to you guys. Post back a couple of sentences briefly describing an event from your life and I’ll turn a few of them into DHV stories. Lets develop some material with which to rescue the bored HB’s of the world from being asked “do you come here often” and “what do you work as” ;¬). Lets do it brothers…. Caddy Approach Anxiety by Matador May 28, 2007 by Matador 4 Comments I have read many references to this topic. It occurs to me that many people think that there is something wrong with them for having approach anxiety and are looking for ways to ?get rid of it.?
WHAT IS APPROACH ANXIETY? Approach anxiety is the hard-wired, natural emotional circuit that fires and causes you to experience discomfort at the thought of approaching a set. WHY DO I FEEL APPROACH ANXIETY? Approach anxiety stems from two sources of fear that have been hard-wired through evolution. FEAR#1: Fear of being retaliated against by other males. FEAR#2: Fear of being ostracized by the remaining available female population. WHERE DID IT COME FROM? We have descended from a tribal culture. We still live in a tribal culture, although not one that easily identifiable compared to what we think a tribe is (i.e. African Tribes). Take the movie Braveheart for example. Think of the William Wallace?s tribe or clan and that was how life used to be for our ancestors. A lot of our emotions have been developed and refined for survival in that environment. However, our environment has changed far too rapidly and our emotional circuitry has not adapted fast enough. In a tribal culture of let?s say 100 people, roughly half would be male and half would be female. So you have 50 viable females to choose from. From that 50, half of those would be too old to align with, so now you are down to 25. Out of those 25, half would be already taken by another man, so now you are down to approximately 12. In this environment, it is very easy to step up to the wrong girl?a girl who is already spoken for by another man. Times were brutal back then. It was a real possibility that if you stepped to the wrong girl, that man would come by with his friends and kill with a rock. That?s were fear number 1 comes into play. Fear of being retaliated against by other males. Remember, there are a lot of blood lines that are not here with us today that didn?t have the precise emotional circuitry that you have. There emotional circuitry proved insufficient to govern their behavior for optimal survival purposes. To put it into context, a lot the guys who didn?t pay respect to this legitimate danger back then died out and their descendants with them. You are looking at a biased population. Now, remember from the paragraph above, you have 12 healthy, viable females to choose from now. If you step to on of those 12 and she rejects you?word will spread of that rejection and pretty soon, the other 11 will not want to align with as well. You can see this trend in some small college communities?have you ever gotten player/scumbag reputation and all of a sudden none of the other girls will want to go out with you. If the cause of the rejection was bad enough, you might have to leave your tribe to another to find a woman that will align with you. This is the cause for fear number 2: Fear of being ostracized by the remaining available female population. HOW DO I GET RID OF IT? Now, to try to accomplish this is to say something along the lines of, ?how do I not scan a girls breast, hair, body, and the rest of her health indicators when she walks in the room.? The answer is you can?t. You will do so as an automatic reflex. The universe behaves has it should gentlemen. God only knows where we were given all the false stories and references points that leave us wallowing in a sea of confusion and frustration at the contradiction between reality and idealistic fantasies. You approach anxiety will always be there. It is a hardwired response. Try not to think in terms of getting rid of it, but understand it, and de-fang it. Logically, in the watering holes and public gatherings that we TYPICALLY roll in, is a jealous boyfriend
going to kill you with his friends if you open properly?I have never had someone try to kill me with his friends for opening a girl?I pulled a girl right out of her boyfriends arms last week in south beach and I did it without hitch?it is not something to brag about either?anyone, can do it with the right approach. The fear should be inoculated for our CURRENT ENVIRONMENT. It does not apply. QUICK NOTE: There are some environments that are very tribal?there are some cultures that are very primitive?don?t try trust test with a bunch of natives of one of those Hawaiian islands where the blood line is still pure and expect not to get some shit. Next, in the watering holes and public gatherings that we TYPICALLY roll in, is a target in a set, that didn?t go well, going to inform the entire city, state, or country that you live in of your game and how bad it is? Is she going to put up a website call, www.bobsgamesucks.com? Hell no, she will have forgotten what you look by the end of the next day and life goes on. In the sea of people that big cities provide, this fear does not apply and should be logically neutralized. QUICK NOTE: In closed communities, such as small colleges or small towns where word spreads. If you get a reputation as a guy who is a player, who impregnated a girl and left, who beats girls, or does anything that would red flag a girl?s S&R value judging circuit, then they will spread the word about you and you will have to leave and game somewhere else. Our emotional and logical parts of our brain are in constant conflict. I am not suggesting that by logically knowing why you are feeling AA that it should go away?that would be unnatural. I am however suggesting arming yourself with the logic of the situation so that you can better control it, rather than, it control you and ruin so many possibilities in the making. Even TOP PUAs feel it. Imagine a Master Instructor?s approach anxiety on bootcamp night?not only do we have to deal with our own?we have performance anxiety on top of that?we have to hug, kiss, number-close, and pull girls for an audience in a totally unscripted and unpredictable environment. How do I deal with it? I feel it and immediately identify it. Next, I logically deal with it and dissect it. Then I logically override what I am feeling by crudely saying, ?FUCK IT?I?M GOING IN? and then DO IT. I?ve done this some many times at this point, I am kind of desensitized to it, but it is always still there?if we could attach ourselves to heart rates monitors, you would see a little bleep here and there?the point it, at a TOP PUA level, it doesn?t CONTROL us?we CONTROL it! One final note. ALCOHOL is not a solution for AA. You can drink to be social, unwind, and have fun with the boys when gaming, but drinking should not be a tool to combat AA. In fact, drinking more than a few drinks impairs my game. If I am being filmed or I have some audience, I am in top form with one beer maximum if any. I once had a bootcamp student in Los Angeles, and I kid you not, had eight shots of tequila before he opened one single set. I felt really bad for him. His approach anxiety was BAD?he looked like he was really in pain. I?ve had grown men start crying when I try to push them to open (some were ex-military). AA is very real and no joke and if you don?t understand it, de-fang it, and control it?it can SEVERERLY lower the quality of your life by destroying so many possibilities. I think back to all those years, I was clueless about game and girls and all the potential LOVES I?ve lost?all the popular girls in high school that I could?ve gotten?oh well, fuck it?going to plow forward! To briefly reference my ?Excuse Master? post?I believe this is many times the true culprit behind all those fantastic rationalizations we have to not go into a set or not call a girl the next day. I am not above my humanity either?I feel it same as you. I am not always as strong as I would like to be and am imperfect in many ways?what I strive for is a higher level of awareness and execution of my elaborate plans for this life with the ultimate goal of what I perceive to be happiness.
Is Kissing Cheating 2 Part Kiss Opener The “is kissing cheating routine” is one of the most successful PUA routines and has an incredibly high success rate when used correctly in the field. One of the best parts of this opening routine is that it can also be used effectively to open mixed sets as it’s something that guys will find interesting to talk about and are sure to have an opinion on. The routine goes something like this: PUA: Hey guys, myself and a few friends were just having a debate about something and wanted to get a quick opinion on it. (make sure to use a false time constraint). So if a girl who has a boyfriend goes out to a club and kisses another guy just for fun, would you consider that cheating? Group: Of course that’s cheating. PUA: Right exactly, that makes sense. What about if a girl goes out to a club, gets drunk and then starts making out with other girls just for fun. Would you consider that cheating? Group: [Here you will often get mixed responses, though in all girl sets, it will almost always get a response saying it's completely fine! If you do get this response, then you can look to use a neg and mention double standards in a playful manner and be sure to keep on smiling.] The reason the routine is called the 2 part kiss opener is because it continues with a second part as follows. PUA: Right. That’s interesting. The real reason I asked is because my friend over there is dating a girl at the moment and whenever she goes out she gets wasted and makes out with other girls. Now of course, some guys might be into that [said while smiling], but my friend gets really annoyed about it and think it’s cheating. She denies it of course and says it’s definitely not cheating, hence why we wanted to get another opinion on it! Group: [Well he takes it too seriously/he should talk to her about it etc etc.] The 2 part kiss opener is an extremely effective routine for opening almost any set. When delivered in the right way and with the right posture, voice tonality and body language it can be a great opener to use as the first part of your routine stack. Remember to continue to build rapport and attraction and move onto DHVs to take the set to the next level. Like with every PUA opener, try it out in the field and see how it works for you. Happy gaming! Kino Escalation Kino escalation is probably the single most important aspect of game. It is also one of the biggest sticking points aspiring PUAs trip over. Proper kino escalation begins with the very first stages of a set, and it – obviously – continues and builds slowly all through the set, culminating in sex and even post-coital behavior. Touching a woman sends powerful signals. It says that you’re confident and comfortable with yourself. It says that you’re not worried about scaring her off. It says that physicality is a natural and normal part of your life. All that adds up to another benefit: it turns women on. Women like being touched calmly, confidently, by men. If you don’t smoothly and continually escalate kino, you will find yourself in the friend zone even with
women who start out highly attracted to you. Kino Basic Principles Confidence. Kino must be done confidently and naturally. You should never appear uncertain or unclear about what you’re doing. Whether you’re talking about your hand on her knee, giving her a hug, or a kiss close, whatever you do should be deliberate, calm, and done as if the last thing on your mind is that she might reject your kino. Awareness. Sometimes, a woman isn’t crazy about your kino. This is okay! Kino is so important that, when you’re learning, if you don’t occasionally go slightly too far, too fast then you’re almost certainly not escalating enough! However, you must be sensitive to the subtle signals that a woman sends which say, “You just went a little too far.” When this happens, you should deliberately, back off. Don’t flinch or jerk back like a spooked rabbit, but just be aware that her comfort level has changed. It’s okay: you can, and should, escalate again later. All she’s saying to you is “not yet.” Two steps forward, one step back. It’s vitally important to build kino slowly and unevenly. If you’re touching her in a way that she likes, do it for a moment … then stop! Back up. A few minutes later, go forward again. Starting this pattern early reduces last-minute resistance, but more importantly is puts powerful thought in her head. If she likes your hand on her knee, and you take it away, she’s thinking, “I liked that. I want more of it.” This makes her highly receptive to your next advance. You should always be the one to disengage kino during the attraction, comfort, and seduction phases of a set. Keep your touch light and feathery. Don’t just plop your hand on her. Let it move, stroke likely. Touch, slide, release. Let go. Everything is light, fluid, and fleeting and comfortable. Early-Set Kino When you first meet a girl, it’s important to establish that you’re comfortable touching her. Simple things like touching her arm with the back of your hand to emphasize a point in conversation send strong messages. Be willing to let your bodies touch if you’re talking together in a crowded club. Rest your hand on the small of her back or her hip while you talk, or on her knee if you’re seated next to each other. Never pull back from physical contact – and whenever its natural to touch, touch. Routines like palm-reading work well here, because they facilitate a lot of casual contact. Mid-set Kino and Kiss-Closing As the set progresses, you must confidently escalate, and your touch should become more deliberate. Whereas early-set kino can feel casual and incidental, an element of deliberateness should enter your kino here. Many aspiring PUAs get tripped up, because they get nervous, but Hypnotica has a great mantra to keep in mind: “Your hesitation equals her reservation.” The more you wait, delay, or fail to strike when the opportunity presents itself, the less receptive she will be when you finally do escalate. Good mid-game kino is hugging, stroking the arm or the knee. Pay attention to parts of her body that aren’t strictly sexual but that don’t get a lot of attention normally – the inside of her elbows, her neck, or any part of her that doesn’t see a lot of sun. A few words on kisses. Think of a kiss as just another form of kino. Don’t trip up by thinking it’s something categorically different from anything else. All the regular rules of kino apply. Although you can find lots of different routines online to help you kiss close, the most important thing to remember is that, when you see the opportunity – take it in a calm, confident way. Remember two steps forward, one step back, and go for it! If your kino is rejected, don’t panic. Just relax, back up a couple of steps, and, if she’s still providing the opportunity, escalate again in a few minutes. If she doesn’t want you to try again, she wouldn’t keep giving you the opportunity. Lastly, be aware that some PUAs have a lot of success with women by intentionally pushing women out of their comfort zone, and then backing off if they get some resistance. This can be very powerful, and
while it will put off some women, it will be effective with far more: the DHV you get from the confidence usually far outweighs any small amount of discomfort she feels. This requires some careful calibration and experience to get right, though. Seduction and Kino Much of the seduction-phase kino is simply doing more of what you’ve been doing, bringing things to a more sexual level by moving closer to the overtly sexual parts of a woman’s body. If you keep escalating with two-steps forward, one-step back, escalate confidently, and are aware of her reactions, you’ll do fine. One word of warning, however. As a rule of thumb, it’s often a bad idea to escalate to seduction-level kino (heavy making out and groping) unless you’re at a location where you can actually have sex. This is because when things cool off, a woman will then know that if she gets into a seduction location with you, you’re likely to have sex. This destroys her plausible deniability and brings up her anti-slut defense, making it harder to get her to a seduction location. But don’t get sidetracked by these small dangers. Escalate kino, confidently, at nearly every opportunity and your results will skyrocket! Kino Tricks If you’ve read our earlier article on kino, you know it’s one of the most important aspects of game. Before continuing with this article, I’d advise you to re-read that one, because it contains fundamentals which you absolutely must understand before trying to apply this material. Applying these tricks without understanding two-steps-forward, one-step-back is likely to backfire. As you gain experience, the material in this post will become less necessary. Nevertheless, when starting out, many aspiring PUAs feel the need for guidelines and tips to help them with their kino. The following routines and ideas may, therefore, be useful. When hugging a girl to say hello, break the hug, and let your hands rest on her hips for a second while looking in her eyes. This can set a much more sensual intention for the rest of your interaction with her. Palm reading is a good kino-building pattern. Put an hour or two of research in to get the basics down, and hold her palm lightly while you read it, tracing the lines on her palm with your fingertip. But when you’re done, be the one to break contact! If she says something clever, go for a high-five. Make contact, hold her hand after the high five, and bring it down with your hands holding … then release. The trust test is another good kino-builder. Ask her if she trusts you. If she says yes, say, okay, let’s do the trust test. Take her hands. Squeeze them lightly – if she squeezes back, she passes. Then lower your hands – if she lowers hers, she passes. Then make sure to let go of her hands – be the one to break the contact. All of those work early in a set to establish a kino-heavy frame. Once you’re more isolated, the evolution phase shift is a useful routine. This one comes from Style. Notice how she smells, compliment her on the smell, and say something like: “You smell nice. Lots of people don’t pay attention to smells, but we’re still animals, and you’ll notice that animals, when they meet, or before they mate, always smell each other. It’s part of our evolution.” You can use this moment to lean in, brush her hair back, and smell her neck, creating some very powerful kino. “This is why we like having our hair pulled, in the right way. How different is this from what lions do, biting each other’s manes?” Here you reach your hand into her hair, just above the back of the neck, and gently pull. It’s not a yank, and it shouldn’t hurt. It’s a firm, commanding pull.
The routine continues something like: “The most sensitive places on the body are often places that don’t get much contact with air or light, like the inside of the elbow.” (Touch her there) “Or the crook of your neck,” (touch her there). These touches should be light, fleeting strokes. Then go on: “One of the best feelings is to be bit right here,” point to your own neck. “Obviously, because the jugular is exposed, and lots of sexual fantasies involve dominance and submission. Go ahead, bite me.” If she’s into it, she will. This is incredibly powerful because you’re creating very intimate kino, but she’s actually making it happen. If she resists, punish for a second by turning away, then repeat the instruction, “Go ahead.” Usually, her bite won’t be very good, so you tease her for having a lame bite and show her how to do it. This is important: you aren’t biting like you want to hurt her. A proper bite in this situation is a gentle pinch, where you take a big chunk of skin and gently slide your teeth over it until her skin slips out from between them. Practice on yourself until you get it right. So show her how to do it, then invite her to do it to you again. After she does, she’s usually ready for a kiss. This routine can be broken up. You can use little pieces of it. You can bite on the inside of the arm rather than the neck. Take it and make it your own – you shouldn’t feel like you’re just spouting lines from a web page. Lastly, Mystery came up with a very useful kiss-close. I’m not the biggest advocate of kiss-closes -I think you do best when you learn to just sense the moment and go for it. But while you’re learning, they can be a useful tool. The Mystery kiss-close is simple. You ask, “Would you like to kiss me?” If she says yes, you kiss her. If she says no, you say, “Well, I didn’t say you could. It just looked like you had something on your mind.” Then smile and change the subject (and do not assume you can’t try again later!) But most of the time, if you’ve been running good kino and she’s turned on, she’ll say, “Maybe,” or “I don’t know,” or something hedged like that. Then you can just say. “Let’s find out,” and kiss her. Remember to be the one to break the kiss! One very important warning. Lots of people on the PUA bulletin boards offer “tricky” kiss-closes, where a girl commits to something only to discover that you’re “stealing” a kiss. I do not recommend these. The problem is simple: You want a girl to want you to kiss her. You want to create moments of anticipation. The last thing you want is a girl to feel like you tricked her into escalating with you, because then she’s likely to put up bigger walls, making it harder for you to escalate in the future. You’ve demonstrated that she can’t trust you. Instead, you’ll notice how all these routines hinge on her active participation. Make her complicit in her own seduction. Start incorporating these kino tricks into your game, and watch your results improve! 6 Great Pickup Artist Routines That Work by Jesse Charger| Routines A great way to build social value is through stories and pickup artist routines. Planned stories and pickup artist routines free up your mind to focus on other things. Like a computer, your brain only has so many clock cycles spare. Download my FREE e-book '6 Great Pickup Artist Routines That Work' P.S. I don't share your email with ANYONE else, EVER!!
Imagine you’re on your way to a bar or club and you’re getting yourself into a good state for approaching women. Now, imagine that you’re driving along the highway at the same time on the way there – a bit distracting. Now imagine your friend is in the passenger’s seat asking you about math problems. There’s only so much that your brain can multitask at one time. And when you’re talking to women, there’s a LOT for your brain keep track of. So you don’t want to bog yourself down in the middle of an interaction with the complex task of coming up with witty conversation pieces on the fly – especially when they can be prepared for ahead of time. First, I’ll give you a few example pickup artist routines, and then I’ll show you how to use them. My ex-girlfriend is stalking me pickup artist routine: I need your opinion… I think my ex-girlfriend is stalking me. She kept trying to win me back by impressing me, but she just doesn’t have that adventurousness I look for in a girl. Well, I was walking down the street and I just see her there, standing across the street looking at me. Yeah, it’s kind of weird. I think she’s trying too hard to impress me. She used to be kind of fat, but now she’s lost weight and has gotten breast implants… she kind of looks like that girl from the Bachelorette… have you seen it? But I don’t want to get back with a girl just because she looks good. Let me ask you, which of you guys is most adventurous? Start a band You: Hey girls, I’m going to start a band. Can either of you sing? You: Cool, you’ll be the back up singer You: You’ll play guitar. Wait a sec… what are your names? You: Tara and Buffy?? Nah, what are you kidding me, those names won’t work a band. Hmm… you’ll be Beyonce and you’ll be Brittany. Awesome! High-five me You: Hold on, being in a band isn’t all fun and games though. Which one of you is going to be doing my laundry? You: No? Well then, I’m firing you guys. But you can still be my groupies. What to buy for my little sister You: Hey girls, I have a problem. Girls: What You: My little sister’s birthday is coming up. What should I buy her… I was thinking of a stuffed elephant because she has a collection of them, but I think she’s too old for that now. What do you think? What did you guys play with when you were little. Pickup Routine: Masturbate in the shower You: Did you know that 90% of girls masturbate in the shower? Girl: No You: The other 10% sing Girl : Oh yeah? You: And do you know what they sing?
Girl : No, what? You: Oh you must be one of the girls that masturbates then. Girl: hahaha How does everyone knows each other You: Hmm, let me see, I bet I can guess how you all know each other. Yes, I’m getting a vibe. Let me see, you two look like sisters. No? Let me guess, you must be best friends then. Girls: Yeah we are! You: See, wow I’ve got psychic powers. Watch this, I can tell even more about yourselves. Give me your palm (do palm reading) Putting It All Together So have three pickup artist routines memorized and ready to go. Decide what order you’ll stack them. Having three routines ready to go frees up your brain to focus on your delivery. For example, you might open a group of girls by asking an opinion question, then ask how everyone knows each other, and then talk about your stalking ex-girlfriend. The transitioning is rather simple – just leave the old topic and launch right into the new. And once you tell a pickup artist routine, don’t wait for the girl’s permission to go on to the next one. Even if the girl only half-heartedly responded to the first routine, just launch into the next one. And the next. Most likely you’ll hit on one that grabs her. You can also throw state accelerators into nearly any routine to give it an extra kick. State Accelerators are universal feel-good moves that accelerate the girls’ positive state. For example, giving a girl a high-five universally makes women feel good and can be incorporated into most routines. If a girl tells you, “I want to be the drummer in your band,” just say “Awesome! See you’re cool. High-five!” and hold up your palm. High-five her. This accelerates the power of the routine. Get Your Date’s Clothes Off With The Naughty Photography Routine by Jesse Charger| Last Minute Resistance | Routines When you’re with a girl, whip out your digital camera! What you’re about to do is some playful role-playing whereas you play the photographer and she plays the model. First, tell the girl you want to get your picture with you and her together. Put your arm around her, hold the camera out in front of you with your arm extended and take a picture of the two of you. Show her the photo you just shot on the LCD screen – a close up of both of your faces. Download my FREE e-book 'Get Your Date’s Clothes Off With The Naughty Photography Routine' P.S. I don't share your email with ANYONE else, EVER!! Tease her that it’s a funny-looking photo of her. Tell her that you want to get a sexier photo of her this time. This time, take a snapshot of just her. Most likely she’ll also want to redeem herself from the previous photo, which you playfully made fun of. Look at that second, “sexier” photo on the LCD screen in a disapproving way and tell her to pose something more sexy.
At this point, she’ll try to win your approval by posing a little bit sexier. Tell her like a photographer, “Marvelous! Marvelous! Stunning!” while you snap off a few shots. Back off and look at her with the pondering eye of an artist. You want to convey through your body language that you’re thinking of how to pose and position her… put your fist to your chin for a moment like a deep thinker. Go up to her and USE YOUR HANDS to place her into position. Hold your thumbs and forefingers up to make a square box with your fingers, like an artist framing a picture. Tell her to “Stand like this” and to “Put her legs like that.” MOVE her into position now, TOUCH her. Move all of her limbs and hips into place. Remember, you are the artist and you are turning her into a work of art. When you have her in a position you like, say “Ah-hah! Perfect!” Then snap off some more shots with her in the pose that YOU directed. Tell her, “Oh yes, YES… you’re so sexy… yes, like that… perfect! Wow that’s sexy!” Say all this in a playful way in the “character” of a colorful photographer. That way it’s not technically the “real you” telling her she’s sexy, but the role you’re playing that’s telling her she’s sexy. By getting your hands on her, TOUCHING HER, moving her into various positions, by taking the LEAD and COMMANDING HER and by MAKING HER BEAUITFUL, she’ll become hot for you, if not downright wet right there and then. Ever been to a gym and watch a gym instructor put his hands all over the girl unnecessarily as he shows her how to use the exercise machines – and how her body is put into a sexually-charged overdrive as he does it? What you’ll be doing with this routine is quite the same – except with a little artistic flair. If you’re with a group of girls, you can do this photo routine to any one of them while the others watch. Just watch how it makes ALL of the other girls jealous and you become Mr. Popular on the spot. If you’re out in public with the girl you want to seduce, that may be as far as you can bring the routine. However, if you’re alone with her in say, a bedroom, the routine doesn’t have to end there. Keep telling her how sexy she is as you pose her. Pass your hands over her breasts as you move her. Don’t grab her breasts as that will trigger an automatic defense response from her. Simply brush over them with your palms in passing. Move her legs into position by pressing on the inside of her thighs, another hot spot. Notice how her breathing and response systems react. You can usually tell at this point if she’s getting at least a bit sexually turned on. If she’s getting hot, simply say to her, “Would you like to kiss me now.” Don’t ask it, just say it. If she doesn’t respond or says anything but “No”, then kiss her. If she’s still into the casual, playful role-playing mode then continue to be playful. It’s up to you to read her physiological signs and act accordingly. Keep in mind, this routine progresses as a series of ESCALATING steps. You start out innocently enough – as just taking a goofy photo of her – and progress to posing, to posing with your direction, to touching, to petting and kissing, and finally to sex, assuming you have her in a private location. If at any point she resists, simply back off a little – it means you’re going too fast for her. Back off, and then continue the same path of touch escalation as before How To Write DHV Stories – With Examples!
February 20, 2011 by Prophet 6 Comments To follow up on Discovery’s recent article on creating a routine stack, I thought I’d cover one of the most commonly asked questions in the game “How do you write a DHV story?” And let’s face it, for most guys it’s hard enough getting up the courage to walk up to a girl and say Hi, let alone coming up with cool, funny, or interesting things to tell her. And like most aspiring PUAs, when I first started learning the ropes in bars and clubs, I found that one of my biggest problems was running out of things to say. I would be talking to a fun group of girls, they would be laughing and touching me and showing me interest, and then my mind would just go blank. I would be standing there with this awesome group of girls who were totally into me and I would have no idea what to say or do next. And rather than risk doing something wrong or embarrassing myself, I would simply tell them to have a good night and politely eject out of the set. And this went on and on for MONTHS until I realized the problem: I felt like I didn’t have enough to talk to talk about. This is an extremely common and debilitating problem for many aspiring PUAs out there, which is why we use canned material. Canned material basically as any story, routine, or gambit that is previously prepared and memorized for use in the field. Have you ever told the same joke more than once? You’re using canned material. You know it’s a story that people enjoy so you tell it whenever there is a new opportunity with a new group of people to get a laugh. And now we’re going to take your stories and amp them up. Read on and you will learn how to make your stories ATTRACTIVE instead of just enjoyable. Your stories typically contain embedded DHVs (Demonstrations of Higher Value), which convey the qualities of the kind of man that women are evolutionarily programed to be attracted to. The kinds of DHVs you want to embed into your stories are things that flip the following attraction switches: Preselected By Women Protector of Loved Ones Humor Leader of Men Successful Risk-taker World Traveler Willingness to Emote Social Alignments You can find plenty of examples of canned material right here on our website, both on our blog and on our forum, in our books Revelation and The Pick-up Artist, our DVD sets, and in our upcoming routines manual. This material will give you tried-and-true examples of well-designed routines, giving you something to practice and get a feel for in the field. One you get an idea of how a DHV routine should be delivered, you can start to write your own canned material in order to start conveying real stories from your life and fully convey your personality. Now you may not feel like you have a lot of DHVs in your life, or that you have nothing interesting going on to talk about, but if you follow the steps below, you will be surprised by just how much you find you have to say and how awesome and interesting you will sound when you talk about your life. Step 1: Find Your Stories You have stories and experiences that can be transformed into DHV stories, you just need to sit down and write them out. Think about some of the stories you tell or have told to your friends, family, and co-workers. Go through your photos or Facebook or even Twitter to remind yourself of some of the adventures and interesting situations you have been in. Your DHV stories can come from any part of your
life. They can be any time you: Did something fun with a girl Did something you weren’t supposed to and got away with it Had something funny/scary/exciting happen on a trip Took charge of a situation Stood up to someone for someone else Organized something exciting Had someone’s back Got out of an awkward situation Did something nice for someone Did something spontaneous Accomplished something you are proud of Saw something funny/scary/exciting Anything with humor, excitement, or tension is perfect here. Light social embarrassment is great for humor because it creates tension before releasing it Of course, if you REALLY cant find anything to work with from your own life, you can always check out Cosmo Confessions for some good stories to make your own until you start living a little more of a high-value lifestyle. Step 2: Write Your Stories Out In Point Form Once you have gotten all your stories together, write out the basic story points for each. You don’t have to write it all out word-for-word. Just get the basic sequential set of events down on paper for yourself. For example, I have a story about how my little brother crashed his truck. It’s a long story, and there is a great deal that I’m going to take out of the final piece. For now though, the story points would look like this: Was on a date with Samantha, took her home Little brother called at 4am, usually wouldn’t answer but it was weird that he called so late He tells me he hit a deer and that he crashed his truck, I get directions and get up to leave Samantha gets mad, I tell her that my brother was in an accident. She wants to come but I tell her to stay I drive around forever, and the roads have gotten really icy so I’m sliding everywhere Find my brother, the truck is totalled. It’s been rolled so many times that the frame is twisted. There isn’t a smooth bit of metal on the truck. It’s missing two of its wheels I run to the truck screaming his name and find him covered in blood, trying to rock it back onto it’s tires He tells me he wants to roll it back over so he can drive it home I take him to the hospital, he was very lucky to only have a concussion and a few bruised ribs and a few stiches here and there. He was only in the hospital for a couple of hours. Thank god for small town emergency rooms! On the way home, he asked me to pull over and buy him some smokes, he hands me a $20 from his pocket I’m kind of in shock myself so I don’t look at the bill until I get to the counter and have to pay I had the clerk the bill and it’s god blood all over it. The clerk looks at me like I’m a maniac I smile at him and say “yeah, its been one of those nights.” He must have though I killed some guy! Step 3: Find/Add Your DHV Spikes Your DHV spikes should be items in the story that flip the attraction switches above. Using my example above, you can see that my DHV spikes are:
I was on a date (Preselection) I helped my brother when he was in need (Protector of Loved Ones) He thought he could still drive the truck home, and I scared the cashier with the bloody $20 (humor). Your DHV spikes do not necessarily need to be over-the-top rock star lifestyle kind of DHVs people like to write. Not every story has to be about how to saved an exotic dancer and her box of puppies by getting your buddies who are martial arts experts/bouncers to help you lift a burning bus you saw crash while you were driving around in your brand new car. Your DHV spikes should never be the point of the story, and it should never feel like you are bragging about yourself (although you CAN brag about your friends). They should feel like incidental details that just get mentioned off-hand while you are telling your story. Also keep in mind that you don’t need to hit every single switch in one single story. Usually just a couple is more than enough to make the story compelling. But if you find that your story is lacking certain DHVs, don’t be afraid to exaggerate a little and spruce them up. Maybe that girl you were with on that fun adventure was your ex-girlfriend instead of that girl you had a crush on? Maybe you had dealt with a similar situation before so you were only a little worried (even though in reality you were about to piss your pants)? Or maybe that guy you protected your girlfriend from backed right down and apologized instead of trying to intimidate you? It’s ok to stretch the facts a LITTLE when you’re writing these routines. Women do this ALL the time. It’s just a part of how flirting works. Step 4: Watch for and remove DLVs Demonstrations of Lower Value, or DLVs, are the opposite of DHVs. They tell your target that you are not a high value male and cause her to feel less attracted to you. Most men don’t even realize just how much they DLV themselves in the field when they talk about how they only have a few friends, or how they haven’t been in a relationship in a while, or when they brag about that time they saw something embarrassing happen to their friend, etc etc etc. The kinds of things you want to exclude from your stories are anything that causes her to feel uncomfortable or that demonstrate that you lack the DHVs listed above or that display bad social intuition. Things like: Anything involving bugs, feces, vomit, blood, snot, other bodily fluids, etc. Any time you were rude to or angry at a woman, old person, child, or person in the service industry (i.e. yelling at your girlfriend) Any time you laughed or took pleasure in something mean, cruel, or hurtful (i.e. that time your sister’s prom dress was ruined) Any time you did something that could be considered creepy or a social violation (i.e. texting a woman more than two or three times) Complaining about or putting down your friends or ex’s (i.e. how you’re always there for your friends, but whenever you need their help they always let you down). Any time you followed someone else’s orders or demands Anything that associates you with other low-value people So in my story, I’m going to scrap the entire bit about the blood , as it’s obviously too gross and weird to be talking about in the field. Also the about Samantha getting mad that I had to leave should go too. Step 5: Trim The Fat As you develop your routine, it is good to remember that you will most likely be telling these stories in loud, busy bars and nightclubs. These sorts of venues are not good places for long, drawn-out routines because how suddenly you can be interrupted or how quickly your set will lose interest if your story drones on too long. Your DHV routines should be short and sweet. Below is a basic, general structure of a DHV routine:
A few sentences to bait the group to hear your story by introducing it with a question or a statement that creates mystery and intrigue, such as “I had… the… SCARIEST night of my life last week.” A few sentences to hook your and keep them interested. Within first three to four sentences you should have said something captivating, interesting, or DHV-laden. This way, even if you get cut off within the first few sentences, or for some reason you have to snip the thread and stack (more on that below), you should have at least uploaded value. And if you have created mystery or intrigue, your set may find themselves wanting to know the rest of the story anyway. A few sentences to describe what happened and build tension as you reel her further and further into the story. Using pauses, inflection, and by describing what you were feeling, you draw her further and further into the story, causing her to feel the emotions of the event for herself. Build tension by leading up to something humorous or exciting. Release the tension with your punchline, what you’ve learned, or the exciting results of the whole thing. A secondary punchline or release, to compound the positive emotions she is feeling. This bit is optional, but it never hurts to have a second funny or exciting thing to say to add to your set’s laughter. This helps you become a “really funny guy” as opposed to “the guy that told that funny story”. So from my example, I’m going to trim getting directions from my brother, as well as the bit about Samantha wanting to come along, since they are basically irrelevant details. I’ll also try to word it as succinctly as possible, as the less I say about something, the more questions my set can ask me. Step 6: Add Pauses Adding pausing to your stories enhances the tension and excitement, while also helping you slow down your delivery. This will make your story more captivating. In fact, if you get your delivery down, you can tell stories about absolutely NOTHING and people will sit and listen to you intently. Try not to go crazy with pausing, or it will lose it’s effect and you will end up sounding like William Shatner. Use pausing to build tension before releasing it. Reel them in by pausing, then release then tension with something humorous or exciting. Good pausing: and I come around the side and I seem him… and this WAVE of relief washes over me…and he’s trying to rock… the TRUCK… back onto it’s wheels… because he thinks he can drive it home! Bad pausing: …and I… come around… the side… and I seem…him… and this… wave… of relief… just washes… all over me… and he’s trying to rock the truck back onto it’s wheels, because he thinks… he… can drive it home! In the end, my finished routine will look like this: PUA: I had… the… SCARIEST night of my life last week! It was like 4am and I get this call from my little brother. Now I had been out with some friends all night and was in bed… so normally I wouldn’t even answer it. But it just felt weird… you know? Like if he was calling at this time of night…something… must… be wrong. So I answer and he sounds really out of it… he’s like “hey kev I dodged a… deer and I had an accident… Can you come pick me up?” And obviously, it’s my little brother… so I just hop right out of bed and I’m like “babe, Samantha, my brother’s in trouble so I gotta roll but I’ll be back.” So I’m way out on some backroad… and I come around a corner… and I see all this… wreckage strewn across the road… and then I see his truck… and it’s laying on its side… and it’s been rolled so many times… that the frame is actually twisted.
And my heart… STOPS… because I don’t see my brother anywhere… I’m fearing the worst… I jump out of my car and start running towards the truck cause I can see it sorta… rocking back and forth… And I’m screaming his name… and I come around the side and I seem him… …and this WAVE of relief washes over me… …and he’s trying to rock… the TRUCK… back onto it’s wheels… because he thinks he can drive it home! And that’s why I love my little brother. [cue laughter, IOIs, and stack forward] That’s it for now guys. Build yourself some DHV material and start practicing it. Happy sarging, Prophet In DHVing, V = S+R Value Mystery (People Magazine) Pre-selection DHV = Demonstration of Higher Value. What exactly does that mean? When you have opened a set, you will need to elude to the people in the group that you have some sort of value to them. The V in DHV stands for value. But what value are we speaking of specifically? V = S+R Value. S+R = Survival and Replication. If you can provide evidence that you resources to improve someone’s chances of S+R, they will feel attraction for you. In other words, a woman’s attraction circuits are really an “S+R Value judging system”. Perform specific S+R values, and people become attracted. S+RV = SeRVe. Can you serve a person? Do you have Value for them? Can you improve their chances of S+R in this life, by your presence and resources? Well of course you can! But does SHE know your value for her? Has she felt it as you demonstrate? The Pickup Arts is performing arts. You must perform or demonstrate value early on so she feels the desire to seek your value. There are 5 key DHVs (again, the V = S+R Value) that I focus on conveying during the attraction stage:
1. Pre-selection. Prove other women find you attractive and SHE will think, if you have value for other women, it’s likely you have value for her too. 2. Leader of Men. If she aligns with the tribal leader, she benefits from his social resources. 3. Protector of Loved Ones. If SHE aligns with him, she too will be and feel protected. 4. Willing to emote. She may not know who you are, but if you can demo several normal emotional states, she’ll know you are emotionally normal and have familiarity with you because of it. 5. Successful Risk-taker. The operant is successful. If you can systematically demo these 5 attraction switches, you WILL get IOIs.
