cause and effect of sibling rivalry

Running Running head: SIBLING SIBLING RIVA RIVALRY LRY 1

Cause and Effect of Sibling Rival! Rile! Cliffod "ist Colonial Student #ece$be 1%& '(1)

SIBLIN SIBLING G RIV RIVA ALRY LRY ' Abstact Roughl!& Roughl!& eve! hu$an *ho ge* u+ in the *old *ith a sibling sibling can  can advocate that thee is no sto++ing sibling ival!, -u$ans ae bon *ith the natual instinct to ceate and esolve conflicts, .ith .ith this instinct esults the tension bet*een siblings, /hee ae nu$eous nu$eous easons  easons  behind sibling  behind  sibling ival! occu ing and ing and $ost cases evolve aound 0ealous! and the need fo  need fo  attention, /he *ill to be uniue& uniue& along *ith the constant 0ealous! 0ealous ! and attention see2ing ceates the sibling ival!, Eve!da! actions and the *a! the fa$il! acts also influence the behavio of the childen to*ad each othe, .ith .ith eve! cause co$es an effect and *ith sibling ival! thee ae +ositive and negative effects, "otunatel!& the esults ae t!+icall! +ositive t!+icall! +ositive and +ositive elationshi+s e$ege& e$ege& but thee ae cetain cases *hee negative esults sho*, sho*, /hee is no avoiding the ival! and +aents $a! do thei best to dull the oot of the +oble$ but in the end the ival! and ival! and stuggle is often *oth the +ositive elationshi+, elationshi+,  Keywords:  Keywords: sibling& ival!& 0ealous!& 0ealous!& attention& fighting

SIBLIN SIBLING G RIV RIVA ALRY LRY 3 Cause and Effect of Sibling Rival! 4I *ish I *as an onl! child5, child5 , 4.h! does $! !ounge siste get $oe feedo$ then I do5& o even $oe aggessive state$ents state$ents li2e  li2e 46 46! olde bothe is being such an asshole toda!5 ae all  +hases that can be head fo$ the $outh of a child *ith one o $oe siblings, An! +eson *ho ge* u+ *ith a sibling& I a$ sue can sue can attest to the fact that sibling conflict o ival! is a lage  +at of a sibling7s elationshi+, /he tension and +h!sical o e$otional conflict is inevitable fo seveal easons, /he 0ealous!& uniueness& attention facto& and fa$il! fa$il! life ae all as+ects that contibute to sibling ival!& ival!& and *ith eve! cause thee is an effect, /he continuous sibling ival! +oduces ival! +oduces +ositive  +ositive benefits& +ositive elationshi+s and a uniue life, life, /he negative negative outco$es ae bad elationshi+s o undeachieve$ent in life, Why do Siblings Fight

Childen ae co$+etitive beings and focus& focus& +i$ail!& on +i$ail!& on eualit! and the actions of thei  bothes and sistes, /he causes ae i$+ossible i$+ossible to +event& ho*eve sibling ival! is not al*a!s a  bad thing, /he instinctive& instinctive& co$+etitive facto often gives childen *ith sibling ivalies an edge& edge& if used coectl!, Sa!ing this& siblings battle head to head o though thei +aents as sign of  0ealous!& inattentiveness& o 0ust +ue natue, 8ealous! is the diving facto in al$ost all $ental conflicts that occu in the household, 9ften& a child believes that his o he bothe o siste is bette& s$ate s$ate&& funnie& $oe diven& diven& o *ill have $oe oveall success in life and life and that causes tension in a child7s child7s $  $ind, ind, 9ne child $a!  be loo2ed at as the 4golden child5 and the idea of having a sibling *ho outshines hi$ o he as an individual tigges the co$+etitive natue& thus esolving in so$e fo$ of conflict& such as  +h!sical encountes,

SIBLIN SIBLING G RIV RIVA ALRY LRY ) Along *ith 0ealous! is attention, Attention co$es into +la! fo$ the the as+ect of ho* the child feels the +aent teats hi$ o he in a elation to the siblings, siblings, 9ften& a +aent& *hethe the! $ean to o not& gives gives $oe attention to one child child than anothe, /his can be seen in a situation situation *hee a thee o fou !ea old o ld is dissatisfied *ith an u+co$ing bab! because the !oung child is eceiving less attention, /he uote& 4.h! does $! !ounge siste siste get $oe feedo$ then I do5 is an ea$+le of ho* childen c hilden feel less attention and that sense of less attention causes aggava tion, Loss of attention can also lead to a child7s atte$+t to gain attention& such as stating a fight *ith anothe sibling o teasing, 4Each child is co$+eting to define *ho the! ae& the! t! to find thei o*n talents& activities& and inteest, inteest, /he! *ant to to sho* that the! ae uniue5 ;Bo!se& ;Bo!se& '(1)<, /his uote ee$+lifies anothe facto of sibling ival!& ival!& individualit! o uniueness, It is +at of a *a! to stand out, All siblings *ant to be diffeent in thei o*n *a! *hethe it is +la !ing a diffeent s+ot o living a se+aate lifest!le, Seveal fa$ilies contain an athlete& a schola& o $a!be a sociali=e, >oint >oint is& siblings develo+ thei o*n e+etise to stand out and this co$+etition ceates tension and conflicts bet*een siblings, /he d!na$ics of the fa$il! household ae influencing factos on the behavio of childen, If the childen beco$e boed& stessed& hung !& iitated& etc, then thei natual *ill to tease and sti u+ fights *ill incease, Also& the behavio of thei ole $odels affect thei abilit! to esolve fights, If +aents of childen !ell a lot o a fa$il! $e$be the! see a lot !ells o su++ots  +h!sical behavio then fighting *ill occu $oe feuentl!, feuentl!, Outcomes of Sibling Rivalry

Sibling ival! is *ithin 0ust about eve! household that co ntains t*o o $oe childen and the degee of *hich the ival! occus $a! be a +ositive influence o a negative one,

SIBLIN SIBLING G RIV RIVA ALRY LRY ? Childhood is the building bloc2s of life and it is the ti$e *hen *hen +esonalit! and chaacte develo+& *hich $a2es the effects of sibling ival! that $uch $oe i$+otant, Child ivalies ae $ost elevant *hen the siblings ae close in age, As childen& the $inds of siblings ae +e$atue and thei actions de$onstate the fact, -o*eve& once thei $ind $atues& siblings often bond off  of thei childish elationshi+s and the $an! fights that occued in thei childhood, /he +ositive influences of sibling sibling ival! ae individualit! individualit! and +ositive elationshi+s, elationshi+s, /he constant bic2eing and battling tends to ease as siblings go* u+ and the! begin to a++eciate each othe $oe and $oe li2el! than not& a +ositive elationshi+ evolves, Also& *ith the seveal !eas of ival! co$es the s2ill to deal and coo+eate *ith othe +oints +oints of vie* o +esonalit!& *hich can be vital in cetain as+ects of life, Aside fo$ a +ositive elationshi+& elationshi+& it enables childen in a fa$il! to e+loe diffeent aeas of e+etise, 9ne $a! go* u+ and be an outdoos! t!+e& *hile the othe is a cit! d*elle that loves *o2ing& o even an autho, @nfotunatel!& to to eve! +ositive thee is a negative nega tive and in this situation thee ae t*o lage negative effects, effects, "ist& thee $a! be a bad elationshi+, A loss of co$$unication o oveall neglect $a! fo$ if the sibling ival! as childen caies caies ove into adulthood, Also& sibling ival! $a! cause undeachieve$ent, .ith .ith an olde o !ounge sibling sibling *ho is fa $oe successful than the othe& that sibling $a! fall fa shot of the life the! +lanned on and see$ useless co$+aed to thei sibling, Conclusion

Eve! +aent *ith $oe than one child has child has at so$e +oint e+eienced the agon! of sibling ival! in the household, It is an inevitable situation but situation but can onl! handled once it aises, /he causes of attention& 0ealous!& uniueness& and fa$il! life ceate $uch of the battle that occus occus,, "otunatel!& $ostl! $ostl! good evolves fo$ the co$+etitive natue of sibling ival! but thee is a

SIBLIN SIBLING G RIV RIVA ALRY LRY  chance it $a! have a negative i$+act on on a  a +eson fo the est est of thei lives, lives, 9ne7s bothes and sistes ae so$e of the $ost i$+otant and influential +eo+le in thei lives and the !eas of battle often esult in an evelasting& evelasting& loving elationshi+, loving elationshi+,

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