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© 2009 Underground Dating Seminar Corp. “Instant Attraction” Attraction” is copyright 2009 and is owned y !rad ". ". and #he Underground Dating Seminar Corporation. Unauthori$ed dup%ication is prohiited. I& you otained this oo' through i%%ega% means( p%ease de%ete it &rom your computer. computer. !y otaining this oo' you agree to the &o%%owing) *ou ac'now%edge that the in&ormation contained in this oo' is an opinion( and that you are responsi%e &or your own actions. +ach oo' is indi,idua%%y numered and coded and can e indi,idua%%y identi&ied. #his coding inc%udes the uyer-s &u%% name( credit card numer( numer( i%%ing address( epiration date( and C// numer. numer. +ach oo' or oo' segment can e traced ac' to it-s origina% owner. owner. UDS has retained the Agency Security roup( Inc. to acti,e%y search a%% &i%e sharing networ's to trac' down those who participate in inte%%ectua% property the&t. 1e ha,e a%so retained a numer o& students and memers o& the seduction community to monitor the &i%e sharing networ's. !y opening this &i%e( you agree that you wi%% e he%d %ia%e &or ci,i% damages inc%uding( ut not %imited to( cost o& en&orcement and %ost sa%es. #hese ci,i% proceedings wi%% e a matter o& pu%ic record and your identity wi%% not e con&identia%.

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© 2009 Underground Dating Seminar Corp. “Instant Attraction” Attraction” is copyright 2009 and is owned y !rad ". ". and #he Underground Dating Seminar Corporation. Unauthori$ed dup%ication is prohiited. I& you otained this oo' through i%%ega% means( p%ease de%ete it &rom your computer. computer. !y otaining this oo' you agree to the &o%%owing) *ou ac'now%edge that the in&ormation contained in this oo' is an opinion( and that you are responsi%e &or your own actions. +ach oo' is indi,idua%%y numered and coded and can e indi,idua%%y identi&ied. #his coding inc%udes the uyer-s &u%% name( credit card numer( numer( i%%ing address( epiration date( and C// numer. numer. +ach oo' or oo' segment can e traced ac' to it-s origina% owner. owner. UDS has retained the Agency Security roup( Inc. to acti,e%y search a%% &i%e sharing networ's to trac' down those who participate in inte%%ectua% property the&t. 1e ha,e a%so retained a numer o& students and memers o& the seduction community to monitor the &i%e sharing networ's. !y opening this &i%e( you agree that you wi%% e he%d %ia%e &or ci,i% damages inc%uding( ut not %imited to( cost o& en&orcement and %ost sa%es. #hese ci,i% proceedings wi%% e a matter o& pu%ic record and your identity wi%% not e con&identia%.

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PR P RESS AND TESTIMONIALS Only Turn to Brad P to Learn How to Attract Women “I& you-re serious aout %earning how to attract women( I high%y recommend that you %oo' up !rad ". ".  I-,e gotten nothing ut 3+A 3+A# # &eedac' aout the inter,iew I did with him( and I thin' he-s one o& the &ew rea%( so%id guys teaching this 'ind o& materia%.” materia%.” Da,id DeAnge%o Dou%e*ourDating.com Brad is the BEST TEACHER of Seduction “!rad " is ama$ing. 4e is a master at rapport and at connecting with women. 5ore important%y( he is a%e to con,ey those s'i%%s to others. 4e has methods that wor' and that are tai%ora%e to anyone-s uni6ue persona%ity persona% ity..” Da,id Shade 5aster&u%7o,er.com Brad Runs Circles Around Other Gurus “#here-s 8#4I8 he isn-t good good at when it comes to game.” game.” Sinn Sinns9&Attraction.com ncredi!ly nno"ati"e #aterial “!rad is an incredi%e inno,ator. inno,ator.” #hundercat #hundercatsSeduction7air.com $um!er One Pic%u& Artist in the World “#a%' “# a%' aout %egendary status:” #S!mag.com THE BEST 'atin( Coach Around “!rad " is one o& the est dating coaches around( a true origina%. ” ApproachAniety.com ApproachAniety .com Students Ha"e Ama)in( Results “4is students are among the est I-,e seen. ” Sa,oy 7o,eSystems iii

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The #ost Ori(inal and Successful Teachin( Style “!rad " is one o& the est dating coaches around( a true origina%. ” +ric ApproachAniety.com After *ust a +ew Seconds,,,  -new He Was an A!solute #ASTER “A &riend o& mine 'ept ra,ing aout !rad "-s stu&&( and I was a %itt%e re%uctant to %isten to it ecause most stu&& is garage. 1ithin S+C8DS o& hearing him( I 'new right o&& the at that this guy is an aso%ute master. #here are maye &i,e peop%e in the community who are actua%%y what they c%aim to e and !rad " is de&inite%y one o& them. I thin' you wou%d e doing a ig disser,ice to yourse%& i& you didn-t use him as a resource to get your game to where it deser,es to e.” eo&& 3ea% Socia% Dynamics 3ead a%% re,iews here) radp.com;re,iews.

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ABOUTTHEAUTHOR 4i. I-m !rad ". and I run the Underground Dating Seminar in 8ew *or' City. #han's &or chec'ing out my oo'. ig oos( waist;hips ratio( etc?... 1omen are attracted to "+3S8A7I#* #3AI#S things %i'e con&idence( %eadership( humor( etc. A %ot o& the things that women are attracted to simp%y don-t ma'e sense unti% you start to %earn what insiders %i'e me 'now.
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5ainstream society te%%s you to uy women drin's. I say don-t o&&er to uy stu&& &or peop%e you don-t 'now. It ma'es you seem weird. #he mainstream te%%s you to comp%iment women. I say it-s etter to tease them and act chi%dish. #he mainstream te%%s us the &irst thing a woman %oo's at is your shoes. I say that-s ridicu%ous. #hey %oo' at your &ace( your coat( and your hair e&ore noticing your shoes. #hin' aout it. 1hen was the %ast time you saw a group o& women wa%'ing around staring at guys- shoes@ #hese are things I %earned y spending thousands o& hours meeting women in ars( ma%%s( gas stations( and par'ing %ots. I-,e e,en met women at tra&&ic %ights and success&u%%y seduced them in under 2 hours. It-s pretty disi%%usioning to &ind out that 9E o& e,erything you-,e e,er een to%d aout meeting women is wrong( ut that =ust ma'es &inding the right way so much more eciting. So I decided to throw it a%% out and teach peop%e a new way. #his is how the Underground Dating Seminar was orn. In 5arch( 200( I started gi,ing %aid ac' seminars in the upstairs o& a pi$$a p%ace in 5anhattan. #he students wou%d come in and ha,e some pi$$a and a &ew eers. I-d ta%' o&& the top o& my head &or a &ew hours aout how to succeed with women. I was happy to e a%e to pass on the %essons I had %earned and earn a &ew uc's in the process. #he seminars were %ots o& &un and a rewarding %itt%e side corner o& my %i&eF unti% word o& mouth spread and peop%e started showing up &rom 4ong Gong( Austra%ia( and e,erywhere e%se. "eop%e were getting resu%ts. ne guy started dating a semi&amous newswoman. Another guy had a threesome with 2 strippers. #y wac%y little &i))a &lace seminar had turned into a $ew .or% City le(end, It 6uic'%y ecame a &u%% time gig &or me( and I had to %earn how to create a wesite( CDs( and e!oo's. >Some o& this technica% stu&& was more comp%icated than anything that goes on with meeting women:? It-s a &un eperience to impro,e your dating %i&e( and it-s something you owe to yourse%& as a man. It ta'es time to get good at it( ut there are some things you can try right away that wi%% get you resu%ts that are surprising. As &ar as my 6ua%i&ications I ha,e a degree in psycho%ogy and phi%osophy. I-,e had success&u% careers as a teacher( a as'eta%% coach( and a socia% wor'er. I 'now how to teach peop%e new s'i%%s. I 'now how to get the most out o& my students. 4e%ping peop%e reach their potentia% has a%ways een important to me. I-,e wor'ed with chi%dren who ha,e cancer( atris' uran teens( peop%e with %earning disai%ities( and the menta%%y i%%. I-,e read a great dea% o& scienti&ic %iterature on the su=ect which consists o& anthropo%ogy( e,o%utionary psycho%ogy( and cross cu%tura% studies. Since I-,e read it and wor'ed it into the method( it means you don-t ha,e to read a%% that dense( ,i

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con&using in&ormation >e,en though it wou%dn-t hurt?( you can =ust reap the ene&its. Again( than's &or chec'ing out my oo' and I wish you a%% the est o& %uc' in your dating %i&e and re%ationships: !rad ".

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THEPURPOSEOF THIS BOOK #his oo' is intended to gi,e you a 6uic' start on approaching women and impro,ing your dating %i&e. It is designed to e read in one or two sittings so you can go ahead and get started approaching women the same day you uy the oo'. I-,e ta'en the est openers and most essentia% pieces o& pic'up theory and put them into a concise guide that wi%% get you ecited aout meeting women. ne pro%em I o&ten see in men who are =ust getting started approaching womenH is “in&ormation o,er%oad.” #he prospect o& approaching women seems &rightening at &irst( so in order to put it o&& &or as %ong as possi%e( they spent wee's and months reading e,erything they can &ind on the topic. #hen when they &ina%%y get up the guts to go out and ta%' to a woman( they ha,e so many di&&erent ideas swir%ing around at once that it ecomes di&&icu%t to &ocus on anything. Don-t %et this happen to you. Don-t %et education e your ecuse &or procrastinating. *ou must get some rea% %i&e eperience approaching women. 1ithout this( there is no contet &or the in&ormation you-re reading( and it a%% ecomes meaning%ess. I ha,e so many things to teach you aout succeeding with women. In my CD set( “Underground Dating Seminar” you wi%% hear me ta%'ing to students &or o,er 2 hours aout the intricacies and particu%ars o& meeting women. I strong%y suggest you wor' with this oo' &or at %east a wee' or 2 e&ore pic'ing up those CDs. *ou need rea% %i&e eperience in order to get the most out o& “ Underground Dating Seminar.” G now( get usy reading. I want you to &%y through this oo'( pic' out your 2 &a,orite openers( and get out there and do it:

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TABLEOF CONTENTS Cha&ter / 0 ntroduction,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, / S'i%% Set......................................................................................................  Cha&ter 1 0 Pur&ose of O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,2 Cha&ter 2 0 Contin(encies,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 3 Cha&ter 4 0 The Shoc%er,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 5 4orse ir% Shoc'er ......................................................................................B Sea&ood Shoc'er......................................................................................... 9 Sey Shoes Shoc'er...................................................................................0 Cha&ter 3 0 Build .our Own Shoc%er,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, // Aout the Shoc'er..................................................................................... !ui%d *our wn Shoc'er 1or'sheet............................................................ 2 Cha&ter 5 0 +ree +orm O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,/2 #et 5essage pener................................................................................ J 4igh rapid de%i,ery?................................................................2B Cha&ter : 0 Low 9alue O&eners,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 18 ridd%e sty%e?.........................................................................J2 i

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Common #hemes...................................................................................... J2 Carson Dai%y pener >common theme?....................................................... JJ Customi$ed to the group............................................................................JJ Cha&ter // 0 Cold Reads,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 24 Seria% dater >&ema%e truism?....................................................................... J *ou-re gonna e rich >&un to e%ie,e in?......................................................J Sudden &ashion e,a%uation ........................................................................ J Cha&ter /1 0 How to ;se This nformation,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 25 3u%e M) "repare 2 openers e&ore going out. ............................................JB 3u%e M2) o in right away. ........................................................................ JB 3u%e MJ) #ry each opener at %east  times e&ore discarding it. ...................JB Cha&ter /2 0 'ealin( with Ad"ersity,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 28 "ercei,ed "ro%em) She-s with a guy...........................................................JL "ercei,ed "ro%em) 1hat i& she says “h is that a pic'up %ine@ I-,e heard this one e&ore.”.............................................................................................. 0 "ercei,ed "ro%em) 4er oy&riend wa%'s in in the midd%e o& us ta%'ing...........0 "ercei,ed "ro%em) 1hat i& I get in a &ight whi%e doing approaches@............. "ercei,ed "ro%em) She-s with a group.......................................................2 "ercei,ed "ro%em) I &ee% %i'e I-m interrupting.............................................2 "ercei,ed "ro%em) She seems usy...........................................................2 "ercei,ed "ro%em) She says she has a oy&riend........................................ J "ercei,ed "ro%em) She-s wa%'ing and I don-t 'now how to get her to stop...J "ercei,ed "ro%em) She 'eeps saying weird things trying to throw me o&&..... Cha&ter /4 0 A&&roach An,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 32 

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Cotton Candy............................................................................................ J *oga pener............................................................................................. J Glossary,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, 34

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CHAPTER1 - INTRODUCTION Dating eauti&u% women is hard. #here-s a re%ati,e%y sma%% numer o& them out there and they get as'ed out 0 times a day y a%% 'inds o& guys. #o ma'e matters worse( most men ha,e ne,er een taught how to interact with women in an attracti,e way. *ou can-t %earn it in schoo% or &rom your parents. As' your &riends or cowor'ers and you-re ound to get use%ess ad,ice %i'e N!e respect&u%(N or N!uy her a drin'.N #hat 'ind o& ad,ice is ,ague and counterproducti,e. 1e-,e a%% tried &ocusing on eing respect&u%. It-s a one way tic'et to the &riend $one. So what-s a guy supposed to do@ I-,e spent a great dea% o& time studying what wor's est to attract and date eauti&u% women. I-,e disco,ered that there are 2 important aspects to this part o& a man-s %i&e) . De,e%oping an attracti,e identity. 2. De,e%oping a set o& s'i%%s that he%ps you through the ,arious stages o& interacting with women.
SKILL SET Attracting women is a s'i%% that can e %earned. I& you read up on the topic and wor' hard( you wi%% impro,e and meet your goa%s. 7i'e any s'i%% worth %earning( attracting women re6uires a great dea% o& time and e&&ort. #here are no 6uic' &ies &or most guys.... ut the rewards o& %earning this s'i%% set are etreme%y en=oya%e. 1hen %earning a s'i%% set to approach women( the &irst part most men &ocus on is the opening %ine. #his is a great p%ace to start. I& you can %earn how to approach any woman you see and ha,e at %east 2 or J minutes o& interesting con,ersation( it ui%ds con&idence and opens the door to a who%e new wor%d o& ad,enture and &un with women. #here are pre%iminary s'i%%s you shou%d consider %earning in order to de%i,er opening %ines e&&ecti,e%y. #hese are)

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 Con,ersationa% repertoire  9,ercoming approach aniety  "ro=ecting 4igh Socia% /a%ue "%ease consu%t my audio CD series &or more on these topics. #his oo' wi%% &ocus on eposing you to L di&&erent strategies on openers( and how to &o%%ow these openers with additiona% con,ersation. A&ter a%%( what good is a great opening %ine i& you don-t 'now what to say net@ I-%% a%so e inc%uding some in depth ana%ysis on the e&&ects o& these di&&erent reeds o& openers so you can choose what-s right &or you. I& you choose wise%y and practice( you won-t need more than 2 or J great openers in order to approach any woman at any time.

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CHAPTER2 - PURPOSEOF OPENERS #here are  main goa%s that you shou%d try to accomp%ish with your opener)

. !rea' the ice. 2. et the gir% ta%'ing. J. et the gir% %aughing. . +sta%ish high socia% ,a%ue. . !egin ui%ding and;or rea'ing rapport. 1hen you ecome pro&icient at approaching women( there is a  th purpose( screening out incompati%e women.
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natura% &%ow o& con,ersation once you rea' the ice. I encourage you to open your mind to new ideas on how to ta%' to women( starting with scripted openers. Are you &ee%ing open minded@ ood. 7et me te%% you aout the  reeds o& openers that are most e&&ecti,e &or meeting women)

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CHAPTER3 - CONTINGENCIES An opener genera%%y generates on%y 2 or J possi%e reactions in a gir%. 1hen you go out and try these openers( pay c%ose attention to the reactions you get. A&ter you de%i,er an opener 0 or 20 times( the reactions wi%% ecome ,ery predicta%e to you. #hen you can prepare structured &o%%ow ups which are contingent on how the gir% responds to the opener. 4a,ing great contingencies ma'es you much %ess %i'e%y to run out o& things to ta%' aout or get re=ected. It-s an important part o& creating your con,ersationa% repertoire. #he est way to de,e%op great contingencies is to go out and de%i,er openers. 7earn what the possi%e reactions to the opener are. #hen try to rememer the &unny stu&& you said in the moment. 1rite it down so you can use it again. #hese spontaneous ursts o& humor are the asis &or your contingencies and the rest o& your con,ersationa% repertoire. I see a%% responses to openers as &a%%ing into these three categories)

. "ositi,e 2. Con&used J. 8egati,e As you are processing your interactions with women( ma'e a menta% note on whether your opener resu%ted in a positi,e( con&used( or negati,e response. #hese J simp%e categories wi%% he%p you &ormu%ate your contingencies more easi%y.


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CHAPTER 4 - THESHOCKER #4+ S4CG+3 is my own persona% creation. I &ind it to e the most e&&ecti,e method o& approaching women ecause it accomp%ishes a%%  goa%s o& an opener when eecuted correct%y. #here are  main ingredients to #4+ S4CG+3) . Hoo% ?uestion, #his is a 6uestion which sounds i$arre or random at &irst. A hoo' 6uestion shou%d stop any gir% in her trac's. #hey wi%% immediate%y &ee% con&used and intrigued. *ou can use this con&usion to your ad,antage. ir%s who are con&used wi%% usua%%y want you to ep%ain yourse%&. #hen when you go into the net part o& the script( they wi%% stic' around to hear what you ha,e to say. It-s the on%y way to cure the con&usion. 2. A storyline, In the story%ine( there shou%d e an interaction etween you and a gir%( and you shou%d ha,e higher socia% ,a%ue than the gir%. Using story te%%ing right away wi%% a%%ow you to create a ma'ee%ie,e wor%d inside the woman-s mind. #he stories are made up &or entertainment purposes( and most women rea%i$e this instincti,e%y. 4owe,er( the process o& wa%'ing her through the story wi%% ma'e a woman &ee% suconscious%y that you rea%%y do ha,e higher socia% ,a%ue than her. Don-t wait around &or high socia% ,a%ue: Create it immediate%y in your opener: J. Social tension, Socia% tension is the asis o& most humor. #he more you increase the socia% tension( the igger the %augh is when you get to the punch %ine. . Punch line, 4ere are some eamp%es o& #4+ S4CG+3 with contingencies. *ou can use these eact %ines to meet women. I-,e tested them many times and taught them to my students.


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HORSE GIRL SHOCKER >1ith J contingencies.?

*9U) N4ey do you %i'e horses@N I37) ”4U4@ Umm... yeah I guess.N *9U) N4mm( I thought so. 9G chec' this out( when I was in the th grade( there was this gir% who %o,ed horses. She used to run around the p%ayground &or an hour straight at %unchtime. She-d e ga%%oping and ma'ing horse noises. 1e used to ca%% her the weird horse gir%.N I37) “*eah( so@N *9U) N1e%%... you %oo' QUS# 7IG+ 4+3:N CONTINGENCY #1: SHE'S LAUGHING (POSITIVE REACTION)

I37) N4ey:: >gigg%ing and smi%ing? I-m not the weird horse gir%:::N *9U) N9G that-s coo%. I& it was me I wou%dn-t admit it either. 8ow I-m not saying you-re de&inite%y her( ut =ust in case you are( I want to te%% you I-m sorry.N I37) NSorry &or what@N *9U) NSorry &or a%% the times I made &un o& you. See( in schoo% I was a%ways one o& the coo% 'ids. And I used to ma'e &un o& the horse gir%. 8ow I-m o%der and more mature( and I &ee% ad. So do you &orgi,e me@N I37) N9G I &orgi,e you.N ))4U 4U 4U))


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CONTINGENCY #2: SHE'S CONFUSED

*9U) NAww( so cute( you didn-t get the =o'e.N Qust rea' the story down( te%% it to her again more s%ow%y( then go into the same eact routine as contingency M( which ends with you egging &orgi,eness and getting a hug. CONTINGENCY #3: SHE'S PISSED OFF

ccasiona%%y you-re going to get a ad reaction. A ad reaction isn-t a%ways your &au%t. Some women are =ust moody or irrita%e. I& you happen to start ta%'ing to a moody( negati,e woman and she has a ad reaction to your opener( don-t ta'e it persona%%y. It proa%y has nothing to do with you. Qust mo,e on to the net woman. #hey-re mi%%ions more women out there. I& %ots o& women ta'e the =o'e the wrong way( it means that your de%i,ery needs wor'. It must e c%ear that this is a p%ay&u% =o'e( and that you-re not actua%%y trying to e insu%ting. #his can e accomp%ished in many ways.
I37) N1hat the he%% do you mean aout me %i'ing horses@@ Do you %i'e your teeth where they are@ Cause i& you don-t get the he%% away &rom me right now I-m going to 'noc' your teeth right out o& your head:N


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!3AD ") N7isten( I-m =ust eing socia% and ha,ing &un. *ou D9 %oo' %i'e someone I used to 'now. Anyway( I can te%% a %ot aout you &rom the way your conducting yourse%& right now. I et you act %i'e this a%% the time( and when you do( a %ot o& peop%e thin' you-re a rea% itch. !ut I can te%% that you-re not. I thin' that deep down( you-re as sensiti,e as a %itt%e gir%. Sure( a %ot o& peop%e may thin' you-re stuc' up( ut you don-t ha,e to act %i'e that towards me.N In this case( the gir% was 00E attracted to me a&ter I showed her I had enough a%%s to stand up to her. 20 minutes %ater I was ma'ing out with her.... and her &riend.... hehehe.

SEAFOOD SHOCKER

*9U) NDo you %i'e sea&ood@N I37) N4uh;yes;noN *9U) N9' chec' this out. 1hen I was in Lth grade( there was this gir% who wou%d a%ways ring weird sea&ood to schoo% in a rown paper ag. It tota%%y stun' up the who%e ca&eteria. She wou%d sit there and eat s6uid and octopus. It was so weird. 1e used to ca%% her the weird sea&ood gir%.N I37) N3ea%%y@N *9U) N*ea( and you %oo' QUS# 7IG+ 4+3:N C98#I8+8C* *9U) N1e%%( I don-t 'now i& you-re her or not( ut =ust in case you are( I want to te%% you I-m sorry.N I37) NSorry &or what@N *9U) N1e%% this one time the schoo% u%%y too' her octopus sandwich out o& the #upperware when she wasn-t %oo'ing. 4e put the who%e octopus in his mouth and wa%'ed around the ca&eteria scaring 'ids with it. 8ow that I-m www.radp.com O radpPradp.com

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o%der I 'now that I shou%d ha,e he%ped the weird sea&ood gir% out. I shou%dn-t ha,e made &un o& her. I-,e een carrying around S9 much gui%t a%% these years. Cou%d you e,er &orgi,e me@N I37) >p%aying a%ong? N*eah: *ou made &un o& me too much:N *9U) NCou%d you e,er &orgi,e me@N I37) N1e%%( 9G.N *9U) N9h( I &ee% so much etter.N ))4U 4U 4U SEXY SHOES SHOCKER

*9U) “4ow many pairs o& shoes do you ha,e@” I37) “20 or J0( why do you as'@” *9U) “#here was this gir% I used to wor' with years ago( and she had 2 pairs o& shoes. She-d ring a who%e ag o& shoes to wor' with her and then she-d change her shoes e,ery ha%& hour. !ut there was one speci&ic pair that she wou%d put on once a day( and she wou%d prance y my des' in them and do this rea%%y sey wa%'. It was the weirdest thing. 1e used to ca%% her sey shoe gir%.” I37) “1hat-s your point@” *9U) “*ou-re wearing the eact same shoes. Are you the sey shoe gir%@ Are you sti%% sta%'ing me years and years %ater@ *ou were doing the wa%' when you saw me come in....” Try a Shocker storyline in a group setting. If you're out with 2 girls you know and 2 girls who are new, wait until half an hour in, then ask one of the new girls if she likes horses. Re contextualizing openers helps build your conersational repertoire!


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CHAPTER5 - BUILD YOUR OWN SHOCKER ABOUT THE SHOCKER I-,e tried many di&&erent types o& openers( and nothing wor's near%y as we%% as #4+ S4CG+3. I-,e taught my students a%% L types o& openers( and they-,e had the most success when using #4+ S4CG+3. I in,ented it aout 2 years ago( and it is ased on a true story. #here rea%%y was a gir% in my c%ass who %o,ed horses a %itt%e too much. I sti%% rememer her. She wasn-t a ad %oo'ing gir%( ut ecause o& her osession with horses( she was regarded as ha,ing ,ery %ow socia% ,a%ue. I started te%%ing women the story and as'ing i& they were her( and it a%ways got such an intense reaction. I 'new I had something that wou%d a%ways wor'. A&ter stum%ing onto the idea( I had to &igure out 14* it wor's so we%%. I-d %i'e to pass on these %essons to you so you can ui%d your own S4CG+3 openers that &ee%s com&orta%e and natura% to you.

. #he Shoc'er ui%ds S9CIA7 /A7U+ y creating a Ncoo% 'idN &rame. 2. #he Shoc'er ypasses women-s tendency to SC3++8 *9U when you approach. J. #he Shoc'er creates a &un( %ighthearted ,ie. . #he Shoc'er is ased on a &ema%e truism. 5ost gir%s rea%%y do %i'e horses( sea&ood( and sey shoes. 8ow that you understand the structure o& #4+ S4CG+3( and why it wor's( it-s time to create a &ew o& your own. Use this wor'sheet to create your own persona%i$ed S4CG+3 "+8+3:


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BU B UILD YO YOU UR OW OWN N SHOCKER WO WOR RKSHEET pen up a new document on your computer to do some &ree writing.
. #hin' o& a situation situation &rom your your chi%dhood chi%dhood that was oth oth &unny and emarr emarrassing. assing. It can can e something that happened to you or to someone e%se. 1rite it down. 2. 8ow thin' thin' o& a time when when someone someone e%se was was eing made made &un o& and you you didn-t didn-t he%p them. 1rite it down. J. #hin' o& a time time when you you were coo%e coo%err than a good good %oo'ing %oo'ing gir%. 1rit 1rite e it down. down. . #hin' o& some o& the the weird things things women women do when they-re they-re trying trying to pursue pursue a guy. guy. . #hin' o& a &ew weird weird things things that gir%s gir%s are into. into. 5a'e a %ist. 8ow write write a &ew sentenc sentences es that te%% an eaggerated( dramatic story aout how one o& those things cou%d ecome an osession and %ead to a %oss o& socia% ,a%ue. !e creati,e: EV E VALUATE AN AND D SY SYN NTHESI!E:

8ow that your creati,e =uices are &%owing( ta'e one o& the situations ao,e and create your own Shoc'er pener. 3ememer to use the  e%ements o& #4+ S4CG+3)

. Start with a 499G KU+S#I98. 2. 8et comes your S#93*7I8+. J. !ui%d the S9CIA7 #+8SI98. . +nd with a "U8C4 7I8+.


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CHAPTER6 - FREEFORM FORMOPE OPENERS 4ere-s a &ew more openers &rom my persona% stash. #hese are %ess &ormu%aic than the others( ut re%y on some the simi%ar de,ices hoo' 6uestions( punch %ines( etc.

TEXT "ESSAGE OPENER "repare y ha,ing someone send you a tet message that says “1ow you-re hot.” hot.” #hen( se%ect a gir% you want to meet and ma'e eye contact with her. her. Stare at your phone( then stare ac' at the gir%. 1a%' o,er %oo'ing ac' and &orth &rom the phone to the gir%. #his ui%ds socia% tension.

*9U) “Did you =ust tet me@” I37S) “1hat( huh@” *9U) N1e%% N1e%% I don-t get it. 4ow did you get my numer@ Do you wor' &or the phone company or something@N >stare at phone? I37S) N8o we don-t wor' &or the phone company( I didn-t tet you...N #hey wi%% start reaching &or your phone at at this point. Don-t %et them see it: #his ui%ds more socia% tension. I37S) “1hat does it say@” *9U) “1hat are you shy shy or something@ I-m right here( you cou%d ha,e =ust wa%'ed o,er and said this to me.N !y this time the gir%s wi%% e pu%%ing on your arm trying to see the phone( then you show it and it says “1ow you-re hot.” #hey wi%% die %aughing. *9U) N9' this is a cute game. I-%% p%ay a%ong since you guys are a%% shy. shy. I-%% e,en tet you ac'. 1hat-s you-re numer@N I37S) >say their numer? www.radp.com O radpPradp.com

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*9U) >#et ac' “I 'now.”? 8ow you ha,e her numer numer.. She &ee%s %i'e she a%ready comp%imented you and you a%ready ga,e a coc'y rep%y. It ne,er rea%%y happened( ut it sort o& did in the gir%-s mind. #his opener is so dead%y that there are no contingencies needed. #he on%y way it doesn-t wor' is i& the gir% =ust wa%'s o&&. o&&.

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HIGH FIVE OPENER (FOR GROUPS)

1a%' up to &irst gir% and say) “*ou-re awesome( high &i,e.” #hen high &i,e her. 7oo' at second gir% and say) “*ou 'now what( you-re awesome too( high &i,e.” #hen when she goes to high &i,e you( you miss comp%ete%y and say) “9hhh: *ou &e%% &or the o%dest one in the oo'.” #his routine can e used to meet additiona% gir%s. I& you ta%' to the &irst group o& gir%s &or a whi%e and you-re not into them( ha,e them get you in with another group %i'e this) *9U) NI sti%% can-t e%ie,e you &e%% &or my high &i,e =o'e: 4ow many gir%s in here do you thin' wou%d &a%% &or that@N I37) N7ots o& gir%s wou%d.N *9U) N4ow aout that gir%@N >"oint to your new target gir%.? I37) NI don-t 'now.N *9U) N9G you go stand net to her and I-%% high &i,e you &irst and we-%% see i& she &a%%s &or it.N 8ow go run the routine on a second gir% or group o& gir%s. #a%' to the new gir%>s? unti% the &irst gir% goes away. I& she stays too %ong( it-s =ust ma'es you %oo' coo%er ecause it shows that you ha,e a %ot o& women interested in you.


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LESBIAN DTR OPENER !ac'ground) #he acronym ND#3N means NDe&ine #he 3e%ationship.N 4a,ing a “D#3 discussionN re&ers to ha,ing a ta%' in which you de&ine your re%ationship using a traditiona% dating %ae% such as Nseeing each other(N Ndating(N or Ngoing out.N In a D#3( it is o&ten the woman who is pushing to e Nmade o&&icia%N as your gir%&riend( ut a D#3 can a%so e used y a man to ecome a woman-s o&&icia% oy&riend. A D#3 discussion can o&ten e tedious and tends to ta'e a%% o& the ecitement out o& a re%ationship( and this is why most men tend to c%am up immediate%y when a woman con&ronts him with a D#3. #he tense( aw'ward nature o& a D#3 creates an ece%%ent opportunity &or humor and socia% tension when used as su=ect matter &or an opener. ;se this o&ener when you see a woman you are attracted to !ut she is with a friend and they seem to !e en(rossed in a dee& con"ersation, #his can e a di&&icu%t situation( ecause you might &ee% %i'e you don-t want to interrupt their important discussion. Using the N7esian D#3 pener(N you can use the issue o& interruption to your ad,antage and create comedy( attraction( and ro%e p%aying.

*ou) N7adies( I wanted to ta%' to you( ut I can see that you-re in the midd%e o& something ,ery..... intense( so i& this is a %esian D#3 discussion( I won-t interrupt. Are you guys in the midd%e o& a %esian D#3 right now@N CONTINGENCY 1

ir%s) N1hat does D#3 stand &or@N *ou) N*ou don-t 'now this@ I thought a%% gir%s 'new this. D#3 stands &or -de&ine the re%ationship- and it-s asica%%y when one %esian says to the other %esian -Are we going out( or are we seeing each other... ecause my &riends ha,e een as'ing me( and my 5om wants to 'now( and I need to 'now i& you-re gonna e serious aout this...N CONTINGENCY 2

ir%s) N*eah( we-re %esians.N >start hugging and touching each other? *ou) N*eah( I 'now. So which one o& you guys is running this D#3@ *ou 'now most %esians &igure this stu&& out on the st or 2nd date. 9h wait( is this your 2nd date@ www.radp.com O radpPradp.com

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It-s %i'e that o%d =o'e( what does a %esian ring on her 2nd date@ A Uhau%. N UALITY CONTROL OPENER Strategy) Use this opener &or %arge groups or groups that seem to e particu%ar%y di&&icu%t to rea' into.

*ou) N4i. I-m &rom ar;restaurant;par'ing garageT 6ua%ity contro%. I-d %i'e to 'now i& your eperience with us has een A/+3A+( !+###+3 #4A8 A/+3A+( or C3A""I+3 #4A8 A/+3A+@N At this point( most gir%s wi%% p%ay a%ong and gi,e you a &unny %itt%e re,iew o& the p%ace. #his is 37+ "7A*I8. Using the phrase Ncrappier than a,erageN communicates to the women that this is =ust a &un %itt%e game( and that you-re not rea%%y &rom the 6ua%ity contro% department. CONTINGENCIES:

. ir%s) NIt-s een crappier than a,erage.N *ou) >9,erdramatic? N9D: I-m =ust trying to do my =o here( you guys don-t ha,e to snap at me and hurt my &ee%ings %i'e that.N 2. ir%s) NCrappier.N *ou) >6uiet%y? NI 'now. #his p%ace suc's right@ 7isten I-m here &rom centra% and I-m aout to &ire e,eryone in this who%e p%ace. I might e a%e to o&&er you a position. Qust gi,e me a run down o& your specia% ta%ents &irst.N J. ir%s) N!etter than a,erage.N *ou) NAre you =ust saying that cause you-re trying to get on my good side@ Aww( that-s so cute. 1e =ust met and you-re %i'e S999 into me a%ready.... >sudden%y get serious? 9G ac' o&& sta%'er.N


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TALKING SHIT OPENER Strategy) Create &a'e drama through ro%e p%aying. #he strong emotions o&ten get trans%ated into seua% attraction. #he opener comes out o& nowhere( and this intensi&ies the e&&ect.

*ou) >seeming rea%%y serious? NSo I heard you-,e een ta%'ing shit aout me.N I37) N1hat@ 4uh@N *9U) N*eah( you-,e een ta%'ing shit...why don-t you SA* I# #9 5* getting a%% &a'e angry? CONTINGENCY #1

I37) N*eah( that-s right. I-,e een ta%'in- shit.N *9U) 14* D98-# *9U SA* I# #9 5* to e,eryone around? N94: I DID8-# #4I8G S9 :: I DID8-# #4I8G S9::N CONTINGENCY #2

ir%) N*eah( %et-s ta'e this outside.N 9nce in a whi%e you can =ust wa%' outside &rom there and you ha,e instant iso%ation.


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SECRET SHOPPER OPENER #his shou%d e used &or waitresses( store c%er's( or any woman who is at wor' and has no time to ta%'. In this situation( you need to wor' ,ery 6uic'%y. Sometimes these women are not a%%owed to gi,e out their numer to customers( or are eing oser,ed y their osses or co wor'ers. #he tone o& the entire interaction shou%d e secreti,e and mischie,ous. #his ma'es it more eciting and dramatic &or the woman.

YOU: (whispering intimately) "Hey let me tell you a secret, but you have to promise not to tell anyone that works here. O promise!... #m the secret shopper." $%&: "%eally!" YOU: "Yes, an' you are all un'er observation right now." t this point she#s either going to play along or she#s going to leave an' get back to work. &et#s presume she#s playing along. $%&: "ell how are we 'oing so *ar." YOU: '' situational *unny comment such as "ell listen, our waiter was missing a *ew teeth, so you#re losing points *or that.  can tell you more later.  'on#t want us getting caught talking about this.  have a *ew comments *or you as well." $%&: "+o, tell me now." YOU: "heck it out  gotta get back to the table, but tell me your number an' #ll te-t you about the results a little later."


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CHAPTER7 - NEUTRAL OPINION OPENERS ANALYZED !ac'ground) #he neutra% opinion opener is a techni6ue created and re&ined y the Internet Usenet newsgroup a%t.seduction.&ast >AS
1ou%d you e,er ta'e a paternity test on Springer@#opics that pertain to socia% ,a%ue) 1ho-s the hotter Q. 7o or Qessica Simpson@4o%%ywood gossip) Did you hear Qenni&er Aniston =ust got ass imp%ants@ RELATIONSHIP UESTIONS:

1hy do you thin' men cheat@ GENDER EVALUATIONS:

1ho cheats more( men or women@ I& you use an opinion opener( there is a %ow ris' o& getting re=ected. 1omen =ust can-t resist the opportunity to gi,e their opinion. 1omen %o,e to ma'e up ru%es and e,a%uations aout what is right and wrong( or what is coo% and uncoo%. 4a,ing an opinion gi,es the woman ,a%idation( especia%%y i& someone is there to %isten to it( agree with it( or &ind ,a%ue in it. !y gi,ing you their opinion( the woman &ee%s she is he%ping you as we%% as eing ,a%idated herse%&. Using neutra% opinion openers( you wi%% genera%%y accomp%ish J or  o& the main o=ecti,es) . !rea'ing the ice .ES 2. et the gir% ta%'ing .ES J. !egin ui%ding or rea'ing rapport .ES ui%ding rapport in this case. . et the gir% %aughing #A.BE( i& the script is rea%%y &unny or you ha,e &unny de%i,ery. . !ui%d high socia% ,a%ue $O


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ADVANTAGES:

8eutra% opinion openers are ,ery easy to de%i,er( and you won-t get rude%y re=ected o&ten when using them. I& you ha,e approach aniety or need to ui%d genera% con,ersationa% s'i%%s( these can e a great start. LI"ITATIONS:

As a eginner( you wi%% o&ten &ind that this type o& opener is ,ery e&&ecti,e in getting the con,ersation started( ut a&ter J minutes you don-t 'now what e%se to say and you end up wa%'ing away empty handed. pinion openers o&ten resu%t in an empty( oring con,ersation. #he neutra% opinion opener has een around &or years( ut remains one o& the most misunderstood concepts in this genre o& se%&he%p. It is important to rememer that the neutra% opinion opener D+S 8# !UI7D SCIA7 /A7U+. #hat-s why it-s ca%%ed Nneutra%.N !y design( this type o& opener is intended to ypass the entire issue o& socia% ,a%ue( to Nget you in under the radar.N I& you choose to uti%i$e this type o& opener( 'eep in mind you wi%% need to ui%d socia% ,a%ue in other ways a&ter de%i,ering the opener.


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OPRAH WINFREY OPENER

N9G( %et me as' you guys a 6uestion. It-s a rea%%y important 6uestion. Do you thin' 9prah 1in&rey is hot@N Contingency NCause my &riend has this crush on 9prah( and something is =ust not right aout the who%e thing. 4e-s 2 and she-s a chuy midd%e age woman. I-m thin'ing maye he %i'es her &or her money. I mean she does ha,e a %ot o& money. 1ou%d you s%eep with 9prah &or a mi%%ion do%%ars@ 4ow aout ten thousand@ 1hat i& she =ust wanted to cudd%e@ 1ou%d you cudd%e 9prah &or 0 grand@N


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"ONSTER TRUCK OPENER

N9G( %et me as' you guys a 6uestion. It-s a rea%%y important 6uestion. 5y &riend is sa,ing &or a monster truc' so he can pic' up gir%s. Do you thin' it-s gonna wor'@ Do gir%s %i'e guys in monster truc's@N Contingency N1hat i& there were &%ames on the sides@ #hen wou%d you e into the monster truc'@ Ginda gay right@ 1hy are tough guys a%ways painting &%ames on their car and getting &%ame tattoos@ #he satin &%amey utton down shirt has to e the worst. I hope you guys ha,e ne,er hoo'ed up with a guy in a &%amey satin shirt:N


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DISNEY "USIC OPENER

N9G( %et me as' you guys a 6uestion. It-s a rea%%y important 6uestion. 1ou%d you date a guy who %istens to Disney music@N Contingency N5y sister went on a date with this guy and she rea%%y %i'ed him ut then he put on Disney music in the car. She tota%%y stopped %i'ing him a&ter that. I-d go &or a gir% who %istens to N#he Qung%e !oo'N.....ut I thin' I-d draw the %ine at that N1innie the "oohN stu&&. #hat-s a it much. 1here wou%d you draw the %ine@ 4ow aout i& it was *anni ,ersions( and you cou%d are%y te%% it was Disney music@ 9r maye i& Da,id !owie was singing it@N

Instead of using an opinion uestion as an opener, why not sae it for later( -se fe)ale opinion uestions wheneer you are running out of things to talk about. *ake the opinion uestion a part of your conersational repertoire.


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CHAPTER - HIGH !ALUEOPENERS A high ,a%ue opener is an opener which %atant%y disp%ays high socia% ,a%ue &rom the eginning through direct statements or humor. I& you %i'e to e direct( 4igh /a%ue peners may e &or you. Ad,antages) 4igh /a%ue peners are the est way to open i& you intend to get seua% with the woman 6uic'%y. #hese types o& openers con,ey many Na%pha ma%eN 6ua%ities such as) •

Immunity to socia% pressure

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Con&idence

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4umor

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Strong sense o& se%&

4igh /a%ue peners tend to resu%t in a higher rate o& immediate re=ection than pinion peners or Shoc'ers. 1omen wi%% immediate%y ma'e a =udgment on whether or not you ha,e the right to e so direct( and sometimes the answer is no. #his may seem %i'e a ad thing( ut &or someone ad,anced( it is actua%%y an ad,antage. It-s etter to get re=ected in the &irst  seconds and mo,e on than to waste  minutes to &ind out the gir% is not attracted to you( she =ust wanted to gi,e her opinion and chit chat. 7imitations) 4igh /a%ue peners are di&&icu%t to de%i,er. *ou must ha,e ece%%ent ody %anguage( sty%e( and de%i,ery or the woman wi%% sense an incongruence etween your identity and your con,ersation.
If you sense that a wo)an finds you to be oerualified, that's easy to fix. /ust gie her a few sincere co)pli)ents and she'll be )ore co)fortable.


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ONLY GIRL OPENER

N4ere-s the dea%( I-,e een %oo'ing around this p%ace( and I-,e come to the conc%usion that you are the on%y gir% here who-s cute enough &or me to e,en ta%' to. So great( now we-re ta%'ing.N LAST WEEK'S LAY

NI thin' I 'now you. Did we ha,e se %ast wee'@ *+S: It-s you: 9h my od: So good to see you again:N Contingencies N4ey sorry I ha,en-t ca%%ed( een rea%%y usy.N N#e%% your &riend I said hi and she was great too.N N8o@ 1asn-t you@ 4mm( you %oo' =ust this gir% I had se with.....actua%%y ya 'now( I can are%y rememer what she %oo's %i'e at the moment....I was 'inda drun'.... 8o( I-m pretty sure it was you.N


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HEATHER HARRISON (RAPID DELIVERY)

#o ir% ) N4i.N #o your &riends( her &riends( or ystanders) N4ey guys( chec' it out. #his is 4eather 4arrison. >"ut your arm around her?. 5e and her went to 4igh Schoo% together and I %ost my ,irginity to her at the each when I was . *eah( she-s so coo%. I got way too drun' %ater that night and I pu'ed a%% o,er her toes. She has rea%%y nice toes. 1e%% anyway( she-s a great gir%( she too' me home and put me to ed. #hen I ended up ha,ing se with her &riend a &ew days %ater( it was 'inda &uc'ed up.N #o gir%) N4eather( I-m sorry aout that. Can we sti%% e &riends@N


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CHAPTER" - LOW !ALUE OPENERS FOR DORKS AND PLAYERS FOR DORKS:

Are you a guy who has a%most no socia% s'i%%@ 8o con&idence in ta%'ing to women@ Socia% phoias@ *ou are not a%one. 5ost oo's on meeting women do not address the specia% concerns o& this group o& men. As an edor' myse%&( I can appreciate your situation and I ha,e ad,ice that wi%% he%p you. #he main goa% o& de%i,ering openers &or you wi%% e to &ace your &ears and ui%d your com&ort %e,e%. I& you can e com&orta%e ta%'ing to women you don-t 'now( that-s a ig step in the right direction. 4owe,er( con,ersationa% com&ort is not a magic spe%% that wi%% ma'e women get a%% horny &or you right away. *ou ha,e to go through a process o& ui%ding your identity( s%ow%y increasing your com&ort %e,e%( and genera%%y %earning aout women e&ore you wi%% ha,e any rea% success.
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FOR PLAYERS:

Are you the 'ind o& guy that-s so smooth with women that they get scared o& you or as' you i& you-re a p%ayer in the &irst  minutes@ *ou can use 7ow /a%ue peners to reduce your socia% ,a%ue when necessary. *ou can a%so use a 7ow /a%ue pener to create an ironic( comica% e&&ect. #he gir% wi%% rea%i$e a&ter a &ew seconds that you-re eing p%ay&u%. #e%%ing No,ious %iesN is a great comedic de,ice.

PSYCHOLOGIST OPENER

N4i( my name is  and I-m shy. 5y psycho%ogist to%d me that I shou%d go out e,ery day and ta%' to  new peop%e. I decided to ta%' to you ecause you seem nice.N C98#I+8C*) ir%) NAwww( that-s so nice. 4ow many ha,e you ta%'ed to so &ar@N *ou) Nummm...2L.N >proud smi%e?.

KISS OPENER

et a ag o& 4ershey-s 'isses. 1a%' up to a gir% and %oo' right at her. Don-t way a word. Qust ta'e a 4ershey-s 'iss out o& the ag and hand it to her. "%ayers) "oint to chee'. ir% wi%% 'iss you on the chee'. Dor's)N*eah( I go around gi,ing gir%s 'isses a%% day.N


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THU"B WRESTLING OPENER 1a%' up to a gir% and put your hand out %i'e you-re going to sha'e her hand. 1hen she puts out her hand( start thum wresting her. Don-t say a word. A&ter you eat her( gi,e the %itt%e NsosoN hand gesture. Contingencies) . She thin's your dea&;mute. Qust smi%e and say( no I-m not dea&. I =ust wanted to see i& you cou%d thum wrest%e e&ore I ta%'ed to you. 2. She doesn-t get the idea. She rea%%y thin's you want to sha'e hands. In this case( =ust gra her hand and put it into the thum wrest%ing position. Don-t ta%'. J. She doesn-t want to thum wrest%e( has no time( etc. N4ey( I 'now you-re in a hurry( ut I-m gonna e on +S"8L -#he cho- tomorrow in the thum wrest%ing championship and I rea%%y need to practice. I wasn-t gonna te%% you this( ut I used to e on the %ympic #hum 1rest%ing #eam. It-s...'ind o& a ig dea%N

0o you hae proble)s with your oice tone( 1ou can do openers that reuire little or no speaking until your oice i)proes. Try the thu)b wrestling and kiss openers out.


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CHAPTER1# - SITUATIONAL OPENERS A Situationa% pener is when you ma'e remar's or oser,ations aout your surroundings in order to rea' the ice and ui%d common ground. #he est way to de%i,er this type o& opener is to wa%' up and QUS# S#A3# #A7GI8. I& the woman is seated( =ust pu%% up a chair and start ta%'ing. Do not introduce yourse%&. Do not say hi. I& you do( you-re setting o&& an entire chain reaction o& eha,iors in the woman. I ca%% this the N1ho the he%% are youN reaction. 1hi%e you-re usy saying N4i my name is 7arry( and I =ust noticed you guys here and I wanted to te%% you aout something...N the women are thin'ing N1ho the he%% are you@ 1hy are you ta%'ing to us@N #hen they wi%% egin to si$e you up( trying to &igure out i& you are coo% enough to e interacting with. 8ow you might ha,e a pro%em. #he women ha,e started to screen you( 6ua%i&y you( as' you 6uestions( test you( chec' out your appearance. #hey-re %oo'ing &or A8* SI8 that you might e a %oser. #hey-re concerned that your presence may detract &rom their socia% ,a%ue. 1omen are /+3* C8C+38+D aout their percei,ed socia% ,a%ue. #hey put a great dea% o& wor' into ui%ding socia% ,a%ue. #hey don-t want to e seen with anyone who might %ower it and ruin their hard wor'. !y s'ipping the introduction( you s'ip o,er the entire process o& ha,ing women 6ua%i&y you. #his is ca%%ed NASSU5I8 3A""3#.N !y assuming rapport( you disp%ay high ,a%ue. *ou are communicating to the women that there is no possii%ity o& you eing a %oser. *ou o,ious%y must e coo% enough to ta%' to. It-s not e,en something that cou%d e 6uestioned. I-%% say it again. S'ip the introduction. Don-t say hi. Don-t say N5y name is...N QUS# S#A3# #4+ "+8+3. Start as i& you-re a%ready in the midd%e o& a con,ersation. Instead o& 6uestioning your ,a%ue( the women wi%% e thin'ing aout what you-re saying. I can-t gi,e you tons and tons o& Situationa% peners here( ecause the who%e point is that you shou%d e ma'ing them up in response to your surroundings( ut here are a &ew strategies to he%p you generate situationa% openers. A%% o& these eamp%es are openers that I-,e generated and used in rea% situations.


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SHARED ENTHUSIAS" *ou can 6uic'%y create common ground and ecitement y commenting on something in your surroundings and eing ecited aout it. +amp%e) “I lo"e this song: Do you %o,e this song@ #e%% me you don-t %o,e this song:” #he women wi%% a%most a%ways agree. *ou can 6uic'%y ad,ance the interaction y ha,ing a sing a%ong or dancing with them. #his is a ,ery easy opener and it wor's a%most e,ery time. *ou can customi$e it &or any situation. In a restaurant you can say “I lo"e &ried dump%ings. *ou guys are eating my &a,orite &ood. 4ow did you 'now....” In 1a%5art you can say “I lo"e 5artha Stuart-s c%othing %ine....” *ou get the idea.

RIDDLE STYLE A Situationa% pener can o&ten ta'e the &orm o& a ridd%e. Kui$ the women on something that-s going on around you. #hen y trying to answer the ridd%e and ,a%idate themse%,es( they are see'ing your appro,a% as we%%.

INTERNET DATE (RIDDLE STYLE)

N9G so I wa%' up to the ar =ust now and I see this guy wa%' up to a gir% and they introduce themse%,es to each other. #hen they start ta%'ing aout wor' and stu&& %i'e they 'now each other a%ready. Isn-t that weird. 1hy wou%d they e doing introductions i& they a%ready 'now each other@ 4e 'nows where she wor's( she 'nows where he wor's( ut they-re tota%%y sti&& %i'e they =ust met. 1hat do you thin' that means@N A8S1+3) #hey-re on an internet date. CO""ON THE"ES Situationa% peners can a%so ta'e the &orm o& something e,eryone has in common( %i'e watching #/. #he 'ey is to wa%' up and start ta%'ing aout this %i'e it-s =ust occurring to you( %i'e you-re =ust thin'ing out %oud. Again( don-t introduce yourse%& or say hi( =ust start in the midd%e.


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CARSON DAILY OPENER (CO""ON THE"E)

N1hat.....the he%%.... is up with Carson Da%y@ #hat guy-s =ust not &unny. 4ow did he get his own show@ I watched the who%e thing =ust to gi,e it a chance and I didn-t %augh once. It was pain&u% to watch. #hey must pay the audience to show up and %augh. #hey ne,er show the audience either( there-s proa%y on%y 0 peop%e there. And what-s up with his &orehead@ It-s huge. *ou cou%d show a mo,ie on that guy-s &orehead....N CUSTO"I!ED TO THE GROUP *ou can create an opener that ma'es re&erence to your target group. I usua%%y do this y as'ing i& they are some &amous singing group. >#o J %ac' gir%s? Nh 5y od:: Are you Destiny-s Chi%d@N >#o  white gir%s? Nh 5y od:: Are you guys the Spice ir%s@N >#o a group with guys and gir%s? Nh 5y od: Are you the !%ac' +yed "eas@N Ad"anta(es@ Situationa% peners wi%% ne,er sound NscriptedN or epose an incongruence. #hey wi%% usua%%y get the gir% to ta%' to you. Situationa% openers are a%so great &or opening groups o& gir%s or groups that contain men and women. I& you are an eceptiona%%y creati,e person( Situationa% peners can wor' e,en etter than scripted openers. Limitations@ #hese openers are di&&icu%t to create on the &%y( especia%%y i& you-re ner,ous.


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CHAPTER11 - COLD READS A Co%d 3ead is when you wa%' up to a woman and start te%%ing her a%% 'inds o& insight&u% things aout herse%&. It-s a%most %i'e a psychic reading. 5ost peop%e %o,e to e ana%y$ed in an insight&u% way( so women wi%% usua%%y en=oy a Co%d 3eading. I& your Co%d 3ead is particu%ar%y insight&u%( the woman wi%% thin' you ha,e ama$ing powers o& oser,ation and great psychic energy. 3ead a woman accurate%y and you ui%d high socia% ,a%ue immediate%y. 4ow to &ormu%ate) Co%d 3eads are not easy to create. 4ere-s a &ew tips) . 7oo' &or c%ues aout her persona%ity in her c%othing and ody %anguage. 2. 7earn a%% sorts o& secret in&o aout women y reading up( then use this in the co%d reading. #his type o& in&o is ca%%ed a N

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SERIAL DATER (FE"ALE TRUIS")

NI can te%% =ust y the way you-re standing there that you are the 'ind o& gir% who goes on a %ot o& dates ut has trou%e &inding someone you actua%%y are interested in. +,ery time you thin' you-,e &ound that person( you usua%%y %ose interest ,ery 6uic'%y and sometimes you don-t e,en 'now why. Is that right@N YOU'RE GONNA BE RICH (FUN TO BELIEVE IN)

NI-m getting this ,ie &rom you that you-re the 'ind o& person who isn-t materia%istic. *ou don-t care too much aout money( ut you a%ways end up ha,ing enough to get y. 5oney =ust &inds you. Someday you-re going to e ,ery rich comp%ete%y y accident. I-m a %itt%e it psychic sometimes( and I can see it.N SUDDEN FASHION EVALUATION >teasing with rapid de%i,ery and mu%tip%e pop cu%ture re&erences?

9G %et-s see what we ha,e here. >Stop( %oo' the gir% up and down.? 9G you-,e got the 8ine 1est shoes &rom %ast spring( those are cute( ut the s'irt is screaming newwa,eamish. *our hair is got that 6uasi emo thing( it-s %i'e ha%&way etween #he 5ars /o%ta and Death Ca &or Cutie. #ota%%y hot. 8ow the shirt is that who%e 5adonna thing) "ost 7i'e a /irgin( ut pre 7i'e A "rayer. Are you with me here@ Do you 'now that era o& 5adonna-s shirts@N


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CHAPTER12 - HOW TOUSETHIS INFORMATION 4ere-s an easy chart to he%p you choose what wi%% wor' est &or you.

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8ow that you 'now a%% the est opening %ines( it-s time &or you to try a &ew out( see what wor's est &or you( and choose 2 or J that you-%% use a%% the time. #here-s no need to memori$e 20 opening %ines( it-s etter to ha,e 2 or J Nde&au%t openersN that you are ,ery com&orta%e with. 1hen you see a woman you want to approach( there-s no time to sort through 20 openers to &ind that Nper&ect one.N Qust go with something you-re com&orta%e with( your de&au%t opener. Don-t e that weird guy who sits there and stares &or 0 minutes trying to thin' o& something to say. I& you see a gir% you want to ta%' to( go do it immediate%y. I rea%%y want you to rememer these important princip%es( e,en when you-re out in pu%ic and you-re &ee%ing ner,ous( so I-m going to ma'e a &ew ru%es.

RULE #1: PREPARE 2 OPENERS BEFORE GOING OUT$ 5ore than 2 openers is too much to rememer. 5a'e it easy. Qust use 2. I-,e taught a great many men how to approach women( and I-,e noticed a tendency to o,er thin' your opening %ine. Usua%%y N&inding the per&ect openerN is =ust an ecuse to a,oid the approach ecause you-re scared. Don-t e an ecuser: et your de&au%t openers &igured out in ad,ance: #hen when the time comes( =ump right in:

RULE #2: GO IN RIGHT AWAY$ Don-t sit and stare. Don-t wait around. Don-t thin' too hard.

RULE #3: TRY EACH OPENER AT LEAST % TI"ES BEFORE DISCARDING IT$ *ou wi%% e impro,ing your de%i,ery with e,ery approach. Don-t panic i& the &irst approach doesn-t wor' out. #he success o& your opener has e,erything to with de%i,ery. I& it doesn-t wor' the &irst try( don-t worry. *ou =ust ha,e to get your de%i,ery down and things wi%% wor' out &ine. A&ter 0 or 20 attempts( you-%% &ind that your de%i,ery wi%% impro,e 6uite a %ot. #he in&ormation presented here is intended to stimu%ate your creati,ity and gi,e you a &ramewor' &or creating openers and a repertoire o& con,ersation. +perimenting with these openers and other types o& scripted routines wi%% he%p you interna%i$e the attitudes that are attracti,e to women. nce you you ha,e interna%i$ed these attitudes( you might choose to %ea,e the scripts ehind. r you may choose to create your own scripted materia%. #his is a step in the right direction( as you wi%% e more com&orta%e with things &rom your own eperience. 8ow wou%d e a good time to stop reading and go try some o& these openers out. *ou can come read the rest o& the oo' %ater. Doing a &ew approaches wi%% gi,e you a%%ow you to process the remaining in&ormation in a more meaning&u% way.


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CHAPTER13 - DEALING WITH AD!ERSITY A&ter you-,e done a &ew approaches( you-%% start to notice that things don-t a%ways go as p%anned. Sometimes you-%% e dea%t a strange hand and you ha,e to ma'e 6uic' decisions on what to do. Sometimes it-s good to change strategies. ther times it-s etter to =ust p%ow through ad,ersity without %etting it get to you. #here is a tendency &or eginners to get too wrapped up in thin'ing aout worst cas e scenarios. #he &ear o& approaching mani&ests itse%& in many sut%e ways. !eginners o&ten engage in “creati,e a,oidance.” #his is when your rain wi%% ta'e any sma%% ostac%e and %ow it out o& proportion in order to pre,ent you &rom approaching. Creati,e a,oidance is an ama$ing phenomenon. It ta'es away your ai%ity to thin' rationa%%y. I-m going to wa%' you through a &ew situations that students o&ten as' me aout and try to dispe% the irrationa% thin'ing that might e resu%ting &rom creati,e a,oidance.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE'S WITH A GUY$ #yth@ #hey must e dating. Reality@ It-s aout a 0;0 chance. *ou can easi%y &ind out whether they-re dating. I& they-re not( you stand a etter chance o& creating attraction y approaching her in &ront o& the other guy than i& you approached her a%one. I 'now this proa%y seems %i'e a dea% rea'er to you right now.

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Attracti,e women 'eep co%%ections o& oriters. I& you are %uc'y enough to approach a woman who is out with an oriter( you-,e hit the =ac'pot. Compared to him( you %oo' %i'e a tota% stud i& you can do a ha%&way decent approach. Any time you approach a woman who is out with another guy there are a numer o& possii%ities) . It-s her oy&riend;husand. 2. It-s an oriter. J. It-s a p%atonic &riend. . It-s her gay &riend. . It-s a &ami%y memer. #he &irst thing you need to do is determine which situation you-re dea%ing with. 4ere-s a &ew strategies to get things started. . +ngage the guy in sma%% ta%' or guy ta%'. A&ter a minute or two( as' “4ow do you two 'now each other.” #his is considered a ,ery norma% 6uestion( so don-t e a&raid to as'. 1arning) !e sure that the guy is %istening and paying attention when you as' this. I& the woman is attracted to you( she wi%% o&ten %ie aout whether she-s with her oy&riend. #his has happened to me many times. 2. o direct%y in and approach the gir% as you norma%%y wou%d. Due to the o%dness o& your approach( many times the other guy wi%% =ust stand there and do nothing. 5ost men ha,e een trained to e socia%%y passi,e and con&%ict a,erse. I& he-s the acti,e type( get him in,o%,ed in the opener.

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PERCEIVED PROBLE": WHAT IF SHE SAYS &OH IS THAT A PICKUP LINE I'VE HEARD THIS ONE BEFORE$ #yth@ 1omen hate pic'up %ines and they 'eep a master dataase o& them so they can catch you in the act. +,ery month there-s a news%etter women can read where they epose a%% o& our pic'up %ines. Reality@ 1omen %i'e it when you approach them. #hey pay no attention at a%% to oo's %i'e the one you-re reading right now. #he chances o& this happening are etreme%y s%im. +,en though it-s a E chance( many students sti%% consider it a &rightening possii%ity. Don-t %et it throw you. #his can e the eginning o& a &un interaction i& you p%ay it right. 4ere-s a &ew easy comeac's) “*es( it-s a pic'up %ine. 8ow you e the gir% and I-%% e the guy. 7et-s start again. >repeat opener or use a di&&erent opener? “h( you-,e heard it@ ' how aout this one@” >start another opener? “1ow you caught me. *ou must e an epert on pic'ing up guys to ha,e 'nown that one. r do you usua%%y pic' up gir%s@” Another thing you can do is minimi$e the accusation and =ust start another opener without rea'ing stride. A &ew wee's ago I was teaching a wor'shop and I ran into a situation %i'e this. Sometimes I %et the students pic' out a gir% &or me to approach and choose what opener &rom this oo' they-d %i'e to see me use. 5y student chose a woman who had a%ready een approached with the Disney opener. Sure enough( I went in with the Disney opener and she said “I =ust heard this  minutes ago.” I said “Aha( was it the guy in the trench coat@ #hat-s our &riend. 1e-,e een ta%'ing aout this... 4ey do you 'now who prah 1in&rey is@ Do you thin' she-s hot@” I had her numer in under  minutes.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": HER BOYFRIEND WALKS IN IN THE "IDDLE OF US TALKING$ #yth@ #he guy is going to 'ic' my ass. Reality@ I& you don-t o,erreact to this( it-s not a pro%em at a%%. #his is not the end o& the wor%d. Don-t panic. et his input on whate,er the two o& you were ta%'ing aout. et him in,o%,ed in the con,ersation. Determine what their re%ationship is. #hen respond according%y. #his eact scenario happened tome two nights ago in 7as /egas. I approached a woman using “Did we s%eep together %ast wee'@” She %o,ed the opener. She p%ayed a%ong and then to%d me it was the most origina% approach she-s e,er seen. J0 seconds %ater( in wa%'s her oy&riend. I said to him “Chec' this out man( I-m going to show you the greatest pic'up %ine 'nown to man....” 4is gir%&riend %aughed and said “h you gotta hear this one.” #he oy&riend wasn-t angry at a%%( he thought it was a &un con,ersation and %ater in the night the coup%e he%ped me meet a &ew other women. www.radp.com O radpPradp.com

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PERCEIVED PROBLE": WHAT IF I GET IN A FIGHT WHILE DOING APPROACHES #yth@ #his happens a%% the time. Reality@ #his a%most ne,er happens. It is high%y unusua% &or &ighting or ,io%ence to resu%t &rom approaching women. I-,e approached thousands o& women and I ha,en-t een in one sing%e &ight as a resu%t. I-,e had a &ew guys get %oud with me( ut this on%y happens when me and the gir% ha,e our hands a%% o,er each other. As %ong as you-re =ust ta%'ing( you ha,e nothing to worry aout. I don-t want you dwe%%ing on this too much since it-s a minuscu%e possii%ity( ut I-%% gi,e a &ew thoughts on the topic =ust in case. #o &ight or not to &ight is something you must decide &or yourse%&.
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Don-t say “ca%m down.” #hat-s a%ways the worst thing you can say to an angry person. It-s condescending and ma'es the person e,en more irate. I& he-s ta%'ing and ye%%ing( it usua%%y means he doesn-t want to &ight( he =ust wants to epress anger or get in a shouting match. Qust %et him ye%%. Do not sho,e( do not esca%ate physica%%y. Do not touch him. 5ost times he wi%% not touch you e,en i& he-s ye%%ing in your &ace. #hat-s how you 'now it-s proa%y not going to e a &ight. I& it-s going to e a rea% &ight( peop%e usua%%y =ust start swinging and there is no warning at a%%. #his is the worst case scenario. 3ememer( i& you physica%%y shrin' away &rom the guy with your ody %anguage( you increase the chance o& him swinging at you. 4e-%% &ee% %i'e he-s =ust gonna hand you an ass whooping and it-s gonna e &un. I& you don-t &%inch he-%% thin' he might %ose the


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&ight. #his is why your ody %anguage shou%d not e ac'ing down( ut your 13DS shou%d e de&using the situation. *ou on%y ha,e to stand ta%% and stay ca%m &or a &ew seconds and then some third party wi%% usua%%y =ump in and pu%% the guy away. At that point you gain coo%ness points &or not &ighting( yet not ac'ing down either. I did this a &ew months ac' and when it was o,er a super tough 8a,y Sea% to%d me he rea%%y admired how I hand%ed the situation. 1hen you ta%' your way out o& a &ight this way( you %oo' e,en tougher than the guy who threatened you. "eop%e wi%% specu%ate that you cou%d ha,e 'i%%ed the guy( ut you =ust didn-t rea%%y care enough to other with him. •

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#he women wi%% ne,er ac' you up( e,en i& they %i'e you more. #hey are spectators to the entire situation. I& anyone is con&rontationa% toward the gir%s you are with( immediate%y =ump in &ront o& your gir%s. et etween them and the threat. 1omen thin' this is 4####:

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE'S WITH A GROUP$ #yth@ *ou can-t approach women in groups. Reality@ *ou can approach anyone you want( anytime you want. #his is another source o& creati,e a,oidance. 5ost o& the openers in this oo' wor' etter on groups than they do on a woman y herse%&. Qust e sure you-re a%%owing the entire group to ta'e part in the discussion.
PERCEIVED PROBLE": I FEEL LIKE I'" INTERRUPTING$ Use the %esian D#3 opener.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE SEE"S BUSY$ 1omen are a%most a%ways interested in meeting an attracti,e guy. +,en i& they seem usy. I& she has headphones on( =ust start ta%'ing and she wi%% proa%y ta'e them o&&. It is e,en possi%e to approach women whi%e they are on their ce%% phone. It-s a %ow percentage maneu,er( ut it can wor'.


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PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE SAYS SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND$ #his can mean se,era% di&&erent things. Sometimes women say “I ha,e a oy&riend” ecause they want you to go away. #his is not a%ways the case. “I ha,e a oy&riend” can imp%y any o& the &o%%owing) “1e need to 'eep it a secret i& we hoo' up.” “I& we-re going to ha,e se( we ha,e to do it within the net  minutes( and don-t epect to e,er see me again.” “5y &ami%y and &riends pressured me so much to get a oy&riend that I got one =ust to shut them up( ut I don-t e,en %i'e him. I =ust ring him to &ami%y parties so peop%e wi%% stay o&& my ac'.” It-s up to you to read the signa%s and %oo' &or cues in the contet o& the interaction. Don-t automatica%%y assume that e,ery woman who te%%s you she has a oy&riend wants you to get %ost.

PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE'S WALKING AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO GET HER TO STOP$ #his is an easy one. #here-s a step y step process to meeting a woman who-s wa%'ing down the street. I-,e seen students do this on their &irst try. . Geep your eyes high. !e aware o& the space J0 &eet in &ront o& you as you wa%'. 2. 1hen you spot a woman you-re interested in( get one o& your de&au%t openers ready. J. 1hen you are 0 &eet away &rom her( start the opener. Spea' %oud%y to get her attention. I& you start &rom %ess than 0 &eet( there wi%% not e enough time &or her to rea%i$e that someone is ta%'ing to her and she wi%% =ust 'eep wa%'ing. .

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PERCEIVED PROBLE": SHE KEEPS SAYING WEIRD THINGS TRYING TO THROW "E OFF$ #yth@ It means she doesn-t %i'e me. Reality@ 5ost women =ust act %i'e a smart ass to see i& you-re man%y enough to withstand attac's. #hat-s how women are. #his is the dance o& dating. *ou try to pursue the woman in some way( she 'eeps doing things to throw you o&&. #his is norma% and has een happening &or mi%%ions o& years. Qust do your est to 'eep her &ocused and contro% the con,ersation. A more ad,anced s'i%% &or this is “

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CHAPTER14 - APPROACH AN$IETY 8ot e,eryone has approach aniety. I& you ha,e a%ready started your approaches and you are not ha,ing a pro%em with approach aniety( p%ease s'ip Chapters  and . 5ost guys do get approach aniety when they &irst start out. #he amount o& aniety ,aries tremendous%y.
APPROACH ANXIETY DONT'S I& you ha,e a simp%e case o& approach aniety( here-s a &ew tips on wor'ing through it. 7et-s start with what not to do when you &ee% approach aniety) •

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'ont start ta%'ing to your wingman aout who-s the greatest pic'up artist e,er and comparing and contrasting di&&erent sty%es o& opening. Sa,e that &or another day. It-s %i'e%y that the two o& you are pro,iding each other with an ecuse not to approach. 'ont start cyc%ing through  or 0 openers in your head searching &or that per&ect one. I ca%% this “o,erca%irating.” 5ost o& the openers in this oo' can wor' in any setting. nce you start cyc%ing through di&&erent openers and specu%ating on which one wou%d e right in this setting( you can easi%y &a%% into a pattern o& doing nothing. #o a,oid o,erca%irating( you shou%d pic' 2 de&au%t openers at the eginning o& the night and =ust use those 2. Don-t ma'e things more comp%icated then they need to e. 'ont ma'e negati,e assumptions %i'e “she wou%d ne,er go &or a guy %i'e me.” Qust go do your approach.

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!e socia%. #a%' to strangers. #a%' to whoe,er is around. 4igh &i,e a &at gir%. Spread as much =oy and happiness as you can. Use 2 de&au%t openers. Do J warm up approaches. #hese are throwaways. It doesn-t matter what the resu%t is( the point is =ust to get yourse%& in a socia% mood. nce you do three warm ups( approach aniety usua%%y susides.

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It a%so he%ps to ha,e a good idea what your priorities are &or the night and what p%an you-re going to &o%%ow. I 'now &or me( the most important goa% is to ha,e &un. #he 2 nd most important goa% is to %earn some new things aout women and aout peop%e in genera%. #he third priority is to meet one or two great women and &orm a rea% connection with them. In order to achie,e these goa%s( I-m going to &o%%ow the same procedure e,ery time. . I-m going to approach J women =ust to get myse%& in a good mood. I =ust want to get my socia% s'i%%s warmed up. I don-t rea%%y care i& these approaches %ead to anything. I don-t rea%%y care i& the women are coo% or interesting. I =ust want to start ta%'ing to peop%e to get into a socia% mood. 2. I-m going to approach B0 more women using the openers in this oo'. I wrote these openers so I 'now they-re going to e &un &or me. J. I epect that out o& those 0 approaches( aout 2 women are going to comp%ete%y re=ect me. #hen  others wi%% turn out to e oring and it wi%% go nowhere. #hen there wi%%  women who get ,ery attracted to me and spar's wi%% start to &%y. . ut o& these &ina%  candidates( I wi%% proa%y ta'e phone numers &rom J o& them( and ta'e the other one home within a &ew hours. #hat-s my procedure( and I &o%%ow it e,ery time I go out. 1hen you start to go out a%% the time to meet women( you-%% start to &o%%ow your own procedure. #his he%ps you get through approach aniety.


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CHAPTER15 - FEAR OF RE%ECTION #he &ear o& re=ection is a huge ostac%e &or guys who are =ust getting started in approaching women. 7i'e e,eryone e%se( I-,e gone through my own att%es with this &ear. #here ha,e een times when I went out to approach women and &e%t so scared that I on%y spo'e to  or 2 peop%e in  hours. It too' me a &ew wee's to o,ercome the &ear o& re=ection when I &irst started. !y ta'ing consistent action( the &ear wi%% s%ow%y &ade. I-m going to %et you in on a &ew 'ey princip%es so you can wor' your way through this &ear. It-s di&&icu%t to ma'e the &ear disappear comp%ete%y( ut i& you 'eep these princip%es in mind( your &ear wi%% e managea%e and wi%% not hurt your de,e%opment. It wou%d proa%y ta'e thousands o& approaches &or you to come to these conc%usions yourse%&( so try to stay with me here and 'eep an open mind( e,en i& this ma'es %itt%e sense at &irst.

REECTION IS YOUR FRIEND$ FEARFUL PARALYSIS IS YOUR ENE"Y$ 1hen you ma'e the decision that you-re going to wor' on your dating %i&e( you ma'e a commitment to yourse%&. *ou are ma'ing a commitment to impro,e the 6ua%ity o& your %i&e and you ha,e to understand that success does not come without a price. #here wi%% e success&u% moments where you-re in ed with some ama$ing woman you =ust met( and you can-t e%ie,e how ama$ing your %i&e has ecome. *ou-%% end up in re%ationships with women who you wou%d ha,e thought were “out o& your %eague.” *ou-%% &ee% %i'e a roc' star. *ou-%% e standing on top o& the wor%d. #here wi%% a%so e moments o& emarrassment where some woman shuts you down %oud%y in pu%ic. #here wi%% e moments o& pain when you-re standing in some random ar &i%%ed with &ear ecause you 'now you ha,e to do 0 approaches tonight in order to &u%&i%% the promise you-,e made to yourse%&. 5ost o& the pain and emarrassment comes in the eginning( when you-re sti%% %earning the ropes. etting %aid %i'e a roc'star comes %ater( a&ter you-,e paid your dues. In the eginning( you wi%% go through a process o& ecoming desensiti$ed to &ear and emarrassment.

REECTION FORCES YOU TO GET SO"E BALLS$ #he M most important thing you can do to increase your success with women is get some a%%s. I& you had that( you-d e a%e to approach 00 women a day i& you wanted to. *ou wou%dn-t e phased y &ear o& re=ection. *ou wou%dn-t stand there &retting aout the ,ague possii%ity that her ,io%ent oy&riend is aout to appear. *ou wou%dn-t get thrown o&& y women who test you. *ou wou%dn-t e scared away y groups o& peop%e and socia% situations. #his is the &irst reason why re=ection is your &riend. A&ter you-,e een re=ected 0 or  times( the &ear starts to go away. As the &ear &ades( you ecome a etter person. *ou endow yourse%& with a specia% power that ,ery &ew men e,er eperience) the power to approach a woman without &earing re=ection.


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1ith e,ery approach you ma'e( you get a %itt%e it c%oser to eing that power&u% person. 1ith e,ery re=ection you endure( the pain and emarrassment a&&ects you %ess and %ess. Su&&ering &rom pain and emarrassment is a choice. *ou can choose to su&&er( or you can choose to %augh it o&&. It-s up to you. I used to choose su&&ering. I-d sit there worrying aout who was %istening and what they might thin' aout me. A&ter enduring hundreds o& re=ections I rea%i$ed that it didn-t matter who was %istening or what they thought o& me. It was on%y a&ter this rea%i$ation occurred that I egan to eperience the highest %e,e%s o& success with women. 8ow that I-,e reached the pinnac%e o& success in this area o& %i&e( I can honest%y say that I don-t ha,e any regrets. I owe much o& my success to the women who re=ected me %oud%y in pu%ic. 1ithout them( I wou%dn-t ha,e the a%%s to do some o& the cra$y stu&& I do.

REECTION IS YOUR FRIEND BECAUSE IT "AKES THE FEAR GO AWAY$ 1hen your &ear goes away( you start to emanate a new 'ind o& energy that women are etreme%y attracted to. It-s unusua% &or a woman to meet a man who approaches her without &ear( without eing ashamed o& his natura% desires( a man who 'nows i& she re=ects him he can easi%y meet another woman. #his is a ,ery attracti,e attitude. 7et-s ta'e a second to thin' aout the treatment o& &ears and phoias. #he psycho%ogica% community has een treating phoias &or many years with “eposure therapy.” 4ere-s a %itt%e %ur &rom a wesite o&&ering eposure therapy using ,irtua% rea%ity to cure spider phoia. “+posure therapy has pro,ed e&&ecti,e &or many di&&erent types o& phoias( inc%uding spider phoia. +posure therapy is a c%inica% treatment ased on gradua%%y and systematica%%y eposing the phoic person to the &eared o=ect or situation a %itt%e at a time( starting ,ery s%ow%y( and ca%ming them. 7itt%e y %itt%e their &ear decreases and they ecome more com&orta%e with spiders.” http33www.hitl.washington.edu3pro4ects3exposure3 Sound &ami%iar@ It-s the same idea as doing %ots o& approaches in order to grow into a power&u% person.

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CHAPTER16 - THEINTANGIBLES #here are many important 6ua%ities that you can cu%ti,ate within yourse%& to increase your success with women. !e&ore sending you out into the wor%d to start your approaches( I want thin' aout some o& these 6ua%ities. #he &irst J you shou%d 'eep in mind are) •

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7et-s ta'e a moment to discuss these intangi%es and why so many men &ind them di&&icu%t to incorporate.

FUN ATTITUDE Pro!lem@ Some men %oo' at meeting women as a usiness transaction. #hey ma'e o&&ers and try to negotiate &or the woman-s attention and a&&ection. se? i& the woman accepts the drin' or the dinner. #his 'ind o& strategy is encouraged in our cu%ture y mainstream maga$ines and e,erage company ads. nce in a whi%e it can succeed. 4owe,er it is not the est case scenario. I& you are wor'ing this ang%e( the woman 'nows she has a%% the power. It-s %i'e you-re a door to door ,acuum sa%esman. *ou-re 'noc'ing on doors trying to cut dea%s. It-s not sey. It-s not attracti,e. 1omen ha,e seen it a mi%%ion times and they-re ored o& it. *ou-re not ha,ing &un. She-s not ha,ing &un. *ou might as we%% e at wor'. Solution@ *ou ha,e to change the way you ,iew women. A%though women c%aim they want a guy who uys drin's and dinners( this 'ind o& a negotiation rare%y resu%ts in attraction. It genera%%y %ea,es women &ee%ing gui%ty aout the %ac' o& chemistry. She 'nows you-re trying your est. It-s =ust not turning her on. So what do they rea%%y want@

GIRLS UST WANNA HAVE FUN$ #hese are words to %i,e y. It-s rea%%y true. 1omen are more interested in ha,ing goo&y chi%dish &un than getting &ree dinner and drin's. #hey can get &ree dinner and drin's anytime. It-s routine. A man who is &un and &ree spirited is much harder to &ind. 1omen are more interested in ha,ing great se than they are in getting &ree dinners. A man who has is seua%%y &ree and seua%%y epressi,e is hard to &ind. #hat-s what women want. Pro!lem@ #oo ana%ytica%. Some guys thin' you can decode the &ema%e mind and then =ust p%ug in data to get resu%ts( %i'e it-s a computer. #his theory is part%y correct. *es( you can decode the &ema%e rain. 1omen do ha,e emedded triggers &or attraction and seua% arousa%. #he irony is that i& you &ocus too much on the “data entry” side o& things( you wi%% %ose the www.radp.com O radpPradp.com

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ai%ity to show your human side to women. #his wi%% saotage a%% o& your interactions. I-,e seen it may times in students who ha,e ta'en in too much in&ormation. #hey get so ana%ytica% that they pro=ect a co%dness to a%% the women they meet. #he women can sense this. 4ow do I 'now@ I ha"e decoded the &ema%e rain. I 'now a%% the &ormu%as. I 'now eact%y the right words to say to get a woman interested. *ou can get a%% the right %ines and &ormu%as &rom my CDs and oo's. *ou can go recite this stu&& ,eratim. #hat part is easy. #he hard part is that you need to e a%e to put &ee%ing and energy into the materia%. 1ithout that( it-s not going to wor' &or you. De,e%oping a &un attitude is an essentia% part o& this energy.

SINCERE INTEREST IN THE WO"AN Pro!lem@ Some men ,iew interactions with women as nothing more than a source o& ,a%idation. #hey are trying to &i%% an empty space inside that cannot e &i%%ed y temporary ,a%idation. #his can saotage your success with women. 5en who ha,e this pro%em ha,e di&&icu%ty &ocusing on anything the woman is saying( and this causes them to pro=ect a co%d ,ie. Solution@
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you ecome ad,anced( you wi%% start to de,e%op time sa,ing screening techni6ues &or &inding the 'ind o& women you %i'e.

POSITIVE INTENTIONS FOR THE INTERACTION #his is a ig one. Some men haror a secret hatred &or women. thers want to use the techni6ues I-,e created to ta'e power o,er peop%e or get something out o& %i&e that they don-t actua%%y deser,e. I-,e noticed that there-s a tendency among some eginners to ta'e on what I ca%% “#he practica% =o'e menta%ity.” #his is when you-re start thin'ing “I-%% =ust %earn a%% these %ines and routines( go out and te%% them to women( then I-%% ha,e se.... hahaha( the =o'es on her. 1hat a suc'er:” #he techni6ues I teach are ,ery power&u%. +,en without the intangi%es( you-%% proa%y score e,ery now and again using what I teach. 4owe,er( you won-t ha,e consistent success and positi,e eperiences un%ess you ha,e positi,e intention &or e,ery interaction. I& you ha,e negati,e intentions( it-s ,ery di&&icu%t to hide them. 1omen can a%ways te%%. It-s %i'e they can sme%% it. I& you haror a secret resentment towards women( this wi%% saotage you and there-s no %ine or routines that is going to e a%e to he%p you. #his can e a ,ery con&using issue &or many eginners. I& you =ust %oo' at the sur&ace o& the openers contained in this oo'( some o& them seem to po'e &un at the woman you-re approaching. I& you a%ready ha,e a negati,e ,iew o& women( it might sound appea%ing to ma'e &un o& women in a meanspirited way. #his is something that wi%% ac'&ire e,ery time. #here are many %e,e%s o& comp%eity and sucommunication to the openers in this oo'. *ou must de%i,er them many times to understand the ,arious %e,e%s. #he openers in this oo' shou%d ha,e a p%ay&u%( %ight hearted intention ehind them when you de%i,er them. #his is a ,ery attracti,e attitude. #he approaches shou%d e &un &or you and &un &or the women.


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CHAPTER17 - WHEREI LEARNEDTHIS STUFF 0 years ago( I was a tota% nerd who had no socia% s'i%%s and no ai%ity to ta%' to women. A&ter many years o& hard wor'( I-,e gotten to the point where I-m so good at pic'ing up women that I actua%%y get paid to do it. 1hat a trans&ormation: I-d %i'e to share the secret o& my trans&ormation with you. #he secret to my success is mode%ing myse%& a&ter success&u% peop%e. I-,e chosen to emu%ate success&u% peop%e &rom 2 o& the most di&&icu%t and competiti,e &ie%ds in the wor%d ath%etics and entertainment. 1hen I %oo' ac' on my de,e%opment( there are a &ew 'ey peop%e who I-,e %earned &rom inc%uding) •

A as'eta%% coach who went on to coach in the 8!A.

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A &riend who p%ays drums in a &etishgothic roc' and.

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A co%%ege pro&essor who has een around the wor%d meeting the greatest thin'ers o& our time.

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An actor who tra,e%s internationa%%y pic'ing up women e,erywhere he goes.

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A %oca% musician who has had o,er 2 threesomes.

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A touring guitar p%ayer who can seduce women in under 0 minutes.

!y spending time around these peop%e and %earning aout how they thin'( how they process success and &ai%ure( how they adapt to the changing demands o& eing success&u%( I-,e %earned %essons are a%most impossi%e to put into words. +mu%ating success&u% peop%e is an important part o& de,e%oping your identity. I& you wor' as hard as I ha,e and %earn &rom the est( anything is possi%e. 3eady &or the net step@ 4ead o,er to radp.com &or more new ideas.


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BONUS MATERIAL& 4ere-s a &ew onus openers that I-,e made a,ai%a%e on%y to memers o& the J0;J0 C%u and at 7i,e 1or'shops.

COTTON CANDY #his is the opener I used on e,ery approach when I was %earning and doing approaches B days per wee'.

4ey do you 'now anywhere around here when I can &ind some cotton candy this time o& day;night@ Contingencies)

1e%% you guys %oo' %i'e you go to the circus a %ot. 1here I-m &rom they ha,e cotton candy on e,ery street corner( you can get it any time you want. 1hen was the %ast time you went to the circus@ Did your grandpa e,er ta'e you to the circus@ 9h( I get it( you-re in "+#A and you thin' the circus is crue%. YOGA OPENER

So....how %ong ha,e you een doing yoga@ Contingencies)

ir%) 4ow did you 'now I do yoga@ !ecause I-m psychic. ir%) I don-t do yoga. 1e%% you %oo' rea%%y....>s%ow and seua%? &%ei%e. I& you don-t do yoga( how did you get so &%ei%e@ www.radp.com O radpPradp.com

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