Woodhaven

DiCarlo DiClassified Presents...

by Vincent DiCarlo©

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DiCarlo DiClassified Presents...

by Vincent DiCarlo©


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Contents Foreward ............................ ............................................................ ................................................................ ............................................5 ............5 The Transition Transition to Natural Game .............................. ...........................................................14 .............................14 The Two Two Fundamental Elements Required for Conscious and Deliberate Pickup. ................................................15 ................................................15 Techniques, T echniques, Mindsets, Beliefs and how they are related. ................................ ................................................................ .................................16 .16 The Paradigm Shift. ............................... ............................................................... ................................................17 ................17 The 6 Sticking Points Resulting from the Traditional Traditional Model ............................................ ........................................................................... ................................18 .18 Natural Game Pros and Cons ............................... ..........................................................23 ...........................23 A Model for Natural Game ............................ ............................................................ .....................................24 .....24 Mindsets for Natural Game ................................ ...............................................................25 ...............................25 The Continuous Flow of Action ............................. ......................................................28 .........................28 Natural Game Models & Methods ............................ .....................................................34 .........................34 Spontaneity over Structure ............................ ............................................................ ...................................35 ...35 Mutual Value Escalation .............................. .............................................................. ........................................39 ........39 Congruence to Intention .................................................. ....................................................................43 ..................43 Notes about the direct intention:............................... .....................................................47 ......................47


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Notes about the indirect intention: ................................ .................................................48 .................48 Intention Shifting ............................................................................... .....................................................................................49 ......49 The Compliance and Value Value Model .............................. .....................................................51 .......................51 How compliance relates to value ............................. ...................................................52 ......................52 Mutual Compliance Escalation........................................................55 Escalation ........................................................55 Orbiters and “Let’s Just Be Friends” F riends” (LJBF) ...............................58 ...............................58 Players and Fuck-Buddy (FB) Relationships .............................60 Tools T ools and Application ............................ ............................................................ ...............................................62 ...............62 Set High Expectations .................................................... .........................................................................65 .....................65 Value Flux and Reward Calibration ........................... ................................................66 .....................66 The True True Alpha Male ............................... .............................................................. ..............................................70 ...............70 Oriental Hot Tub of Sex ................................. ................................................................. ..........................................72 ..........72 A letter A letter from Vin ...................................... ...................................................................... .....................................................83 .....................83


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Foreward

It’s been 5 years since Vin DiCarlo (at the time, writing under the pseudonym “Woodhaven”) released these landmark letters, and ultimately revolutionized how the “pickup community” in general would treat the science of seduction... Forever. When Vin first revealed ‘Natural Game’, he was heavily criticized by the likes of Neil Strauss, Mystery and others who wanted to protect their own systems from the changing world.

“But reading through the following article really strikes a chord with me. I relate to this post so much. Its everything I could NEVER say, but am always trying to” – Chris (in reference to Vin DiCarlo’s “The Transition to Natural Game”)

In order to truly see the genius of these letters, you must understand the landscape of the seduction scene back then. Routines, patterns and lines were king, and to challenge the status quo, was completely unheard of. Until Vin came along, that is... And after Vin enlightened thousands of average, normal and everyday guys to the power of this ground-breaking new system and dramatic mindset shifts... Suddenly, every “guru” and his brother had their own “take” on Natural Game. Unfortunately, even the highest-held “guru” is still not anywhere near the level of ‘Natural Game’ that Vin was on his on his way to pioneering, even way back in 2005. Showcased here - in this mini-ebook - Are the original articles that revolutionized the pickup community and are a must-read for anyone, if you are serious about taking control of your dating and sex life. I’ve saved this file on my computer as “Foundation.pdf” because there are MILLIONS of men alive who will never achieve the brick-wall foundation these articles will give your game. And with a shaky, unsure or poorly-designed ‘foundation’ to stand on, you

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Foreward

can’t ever build a solid game or expect reliable results. That’s why I was not only excited, but also relieved when Vin told me these articles were still around. You see, many a “newbie” is sent to find these articles - as I’ll explain later - And many come across ‘dead links’ or missing files where these breakthroughs used to be. Why are they taken down? Because the select few who have read them, own them or have saved a copy to their hard-drive refuse to share this knowledge with others. It’s not being ‘selfish’ in the normal sense of the word, but too many men who see the Transition to Natural Game articles end up succeeding with women, and even leaving the “community” .. Taking these rare articles with him. Natural Game has evolved since Vin wrote these posts and I - along with thousands of other men - believe they are tried-and-true ‘classic’ writings, and have stood the test of time.

“Good shit.. Read and re-read this fellas.. until it is ingrained in your psyche..”

You will find these articles simple to understand and (while technical) will give you an instant perspective shift, and change the way you think... about meeting women. And... You will see that how you think is everything, when it comes to meeting women.

Zulu (in reference to Vin DiCarlo’s “The Transition to Natural Game”)

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How you think about pickup will effect every part of your social skills, how you express yourself, and the reality you create for yourself. This is the real “hidden genius” in Vin’s early writings: The Ability To Choose Your Destiny, simply by improving your social skills and your skills with women. You will be introduced to ‘pimp game’, ‘reverse supplication’, ‘the value flux’, ‘true meaning of let’s just be friends’, and how to change the concept that ‘sex is the ultimate form of compliance.’ In a nutshell, you’ll get some of the most advanced - and deadly effective Tactics for finally meeting more women, getting her phone number, and taking her home THAT night. Reading these articles will give you an unshakable foundation for confidence, and make everything you read about seduction - from now on - Easier to digest and understand. Even if it’s from other authors.

And, although Vin has continued to innovate, these are the “building blocks” every other theory, tip and tactic of his has spawned from. These writings are considered significant events in the Pickup Community’s history. If you were ever tempted to use routines, or even if you have a tendency to jot down specific “lines” or stories to use in the future... Then you must read the Transition to Natural Game articles. They will redefine your reality about dating and women, and will reveal what is really going on in your interactions with the “fairer sex.”


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Foreward Ask any true pickup “guru” and “master Pick-up Artist” and y ou’ll find a massive, mutual amount of respect for Vin. Most will even recommend you check out his teachings without a moment’s hesitation. This is because Vin pushed the envelope on what what is possible in your sexual relationships, and liberated men... Empowering you to lift your game and your standards, and not to settle for second best. Vin has done more for men as a whole than almost anyone else in recent history.

“Jesus couldn’t have written a better post about the meaning of life” – Rock (in reference to Vin DiCarlo’s “The Transition to Natural Game”)

I know I’m belaboring a point by now, but you will more than likely learn more by reading these few short articles than by watching a dozen “other” DVD sets, if you put what you discover to work for you, today. I’ve read the Transition to Natural Game articles dozens of times, and I still take new insights away, each and every time. Think about that for a second... I’ve read a single set of posts - dozens and dozens of times - And I pick out something brand-new each and every time. It blows my mind.


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Foreward If you have never read the Oriental Hot Tub House of Sex Lay Report you are in for a massive treat. Let me put it this way: Vin’s game, the way he thinks about women, and how scary-good he is will mess with your head. But in addition to the entertainment factor, you’ll also grab a few new tools for your “Big Bag of Tricks.” In fact, I will even venture to say: You cannot be a true pickup artist unless you read the Transition to Natural Game articles . Think about them like William Shakespeare or The Beatles... Both “basic” to the untrained eye, but revolutionary in their time, and groundbreaking for the future.

“God its like every time I read it - it opens my eyes a little more.

Many veterans of the pickup community will recommend these hard to find articles as the first thing you read to get started in this daring counter-culture and lifestyle... And most top pick-up artists hold the Transition to Natural Game articles in high esteem.

Could this be the greatest post ever?” - Prodigy (in reference to Vin DiCarlo’s “The Transition to Natural Game”)


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Foreward So enjoy the following articles, and feel free to re-read them again and again... Because they are an essential element for developing the mindsets of a TrueNatural Seducer.

“You know... I haven’t read this in a SUPER SUPER SUPER long time. But I do remember it as being the greatest article I’ve ever read. I’ll make an effort to read it again in the VERY near future...”

And once you’ve gotten a certain le vel of competence in your dating and sex life, you’ll begin to automatically shoot much higher than you could have ever dreamed possible when it comes to women. Lastly, I want to thank Vin for giving me the opportunity to introduce these articles... And for the drastic, lasting and complete transformation they’ve made in my dating and sex life. From the bottom of my heart, Vin, thank you. And from the bottom of my heart, my friend... ... Enjoy. :-) - Daniel Rose, Author of “The Sex God Method”

- Sam (in reference to Vin DiCarlo’s “The Transition to Natural Game”) Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Vin DiCarlo Biography

Vin DiCarlo is the world’s premier dating coach and trainer of professional pick-up artists. His provocative, controversial and chillingly effective methods cut directly to the core of social interactions between men and women. He draws on his scientific and analytical background and combines it with his vast real-life experience with women in order to transform his clients, enriching and motivating men across the globe. Vin’s teachings are based in reality and observation rather than sugar coated theories that merely stroke the ego. Always developing and evolving, Vin is both a consummate professional and an eternal student of the game, drawing upon his infinite knowledge of learning theory, neurofeedback, motivational psychology and neuro-linguistic programming striving to produce easier, faster, more powerful results for every one of his clients. Vin takes you by the hand and guides you along through all of your social endeavors, whether you are looking to meet many, many more women, find a highly compatible girlfriend or make a living as a full-time professional pick-up artist. If you are looking for lines, gimmicks and simple routines, look elsewhere. Vin delivers hard-hitting ideas that integrate into your subconscious behaviors and personality, producing rapid and permanent change that manifests itself in all areas of your social life. Vin also provides exclusive and confidential one-on-one training for affluent clients such as lawyers, doctors and high-profile business executives.


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What are his teachings about? Vin’s main objective is to both endow yo u with the necessary skills for interacting with women but to also help you cultivate a magnetically attractive personality that touches others in a powerful, yet natural way:

1. Have supreme choice of beautiful, intelligent women. Spend your time with someone you truly enjoy and cherish. 2. Taking complete control of your relationships. Start meaningful relationships on your terms. 3. Use a completely natural approach, with absolutely no lying, manipulation, or cheesy routines that will get you accused of trying to “pick-up”. 4. Express your inherent personality. You should NOT have to become

someone else in order to make Vin’s method work. 5. Powerful transformation can be EASY. The quickest way between two points is a straight line. You will not have to do magic tricks, memorize elaborate stories, go out with big groups of women or buy expensive bottle service, an average guy can use Vin’s method using nothing more than just his words. 6. Cultivate valuable friendships and connections with people to foster refreshing new social circles. 7. Learn powerful and effective social techniques and abilities that will help you in business, networking and negotiations. Skills for LIFE. Why Vin DiCarlo? Vin DiCarlo is one of the highest paid, most in-demand dating consultants in America today. In the last few years, he has worked hands-on with clients from 32 different countries at fees starting at $13,000 for a one-on-one

three day weekend. Vin’s methods transfer easily from one to another. That simply means: Any man, young or old, rich or poor, no matter what skill level, benefits from Vin’s teachings.


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Vin is a prolific writer, and is known for some of the most widely read and reproduced articles. As the first professional pick-up trainer working successfully on the East coast, Vin is the pioneer of natural game which

has been proven to be the most effective and imitated style today. Vin is one of the only teachers in this industry who is acknowledged by well known and respected academic institutions. Just last year, Vin was invited to the very prestigious Syracuse University to give a talk on attraction and cognition as it relates to dating in modern society. Most importantly: Vin is both a master pick-up artist and dating coach, who actively, currently lives what he teaches and practices what he preaches. Too many gurus rely on clever marketing or outlandish and flashy techniques. Vin is the real deal.


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he How transition to Natural Game to transition to free-flowing pickup I’ve met a ton of guys from the Pickup Community. After going out with them and watching them with women, I have seen the exact same things over and over . They all run the exact type of game, and have the same problems. I am not criticizing other people’s models, I am just pointing out the effect these models seem to have on about 90% of the community guys I’ve observed. Again I emphasize that it is not an inherent flaw in older, more traditional models (Mystery, Speed Seduction, Juggler, GWM), but more how people are interpreting these models. This post will help transition those people who are interested from an approval-seeking, nerdy, ‘entertainment frame,’ to smooth, Natural Game, which is inherently more effective in all stages of seduction. I have not posted anything advanced in a short while, and Natural Game is the culmination of the past few months of my work. Enjoy! Contents:

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The two fundamental elements of a pickup.

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The difference between techniques, mindsets and beliefs.

3. A paradigm shift from traditional models. 4.

Design the frame for endgame

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The Continuous Flow of Action


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The Transition to Natural Game 1. The Two Fundamental Elements Required for Conscious and Deliberate Pickup. Any proactive pickup where the man decides who he wants, approaches her , and consciously moves the interaction to sex requires only two things. They are: •

A strong and unwavering belief that the girl wants him

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An interactive context which can lead to isolation

The great part about this is that any context will work . This represents the differences between all of the methods you see here in the online community: be it Gunwitch with his strong rapport assumption and ordinary conversation, or be it Mystery’s routines which fit into a precise and linear system. They are both just interactive contexts which can lead to isolation. The true firepower is the set of beliefs underlying the context. The reason why there is so much focus on context is because it can be learned quickly. It’s very easy to learn a few jokes and tell a few stories and memorize a few openers. Internalizing good beliefs on the other hand, usually takes months or even years. You will see some guys telling you to ignore belief and just develop a strong context. While it may be beneficial to develop a really strong context, we must take care that our execution of techniques isn’t inhibiting the growth of good beliefs, and not installing limiting ones. The fastest route to mastery is to develop strong beliefs and become familiar with a variety of contexts, i.e. get a lot of experience under your belt. Learn to handle as many tough situations as possible - large groups, daytime isolation, male competition, direct approaches, etc. Realize it can take quite some time before your beliefs make a significant enough change that you achieve the kind of success you’re really after. Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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The Transition to Natural Game 2. Techniques, Mindsets, Beliefs and how they are related. On the most superficial level, we have techniques. A technique is something that you say or do while interacting with a woman. We all have a great deal of conscious control over which techniques we use. On the flipside, techniques are the least effective part of who you are and quite useless without the deeper levels of mindsets and beliefs. At the very deepest level, we have our beliefs. Beliefs determine your reality, and are shaped by your identity. Unlike techniques, we have very little conscious control over our beliefs. They are so far below the surface of our awareness that it is nearly impossible to change them at will. Most people ignore the mindsets behind techniques. This is the frame through which we deliver our techniques. A mindset determines the internal dialogue that you experience throughout the pickup. A mindset can be

applied to a group of techniques, and a group of mindsets is what makes up a belief. A mindset simplifies your pickup by redirecting your focus of attention. Instead of remembering 20 different technical details, you just have one mental focus - a specific mindset. Mindsets are easier to change than beliefs, but not as easy to learn as techniques. Exerting conscious control over your mindsets is the most effective way to affect your inner game, since your attention is in direct contact with your belief system.

Example of a mindset: Take the “Cocky Funny” line “Whoah, pointy shoes! They’re nice, but I feel sorry for the little elf you stole them from, who’s now running around barefoot.”


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The Transition to Natural Game You can deliver the line with the mindset of, “She’s hot so I have to show her I’m not impressed by her, so she thinks I’m better than her.” Or you can deliver the line with the mindset, “I care about this woman, I’m gonna joke with her to make her laugh and feel good.” Obviously the latter is more effective, as the former will come off as insecure because it comes from an insecure mindset . You are saying the same words, but you are using two different mental foci. And each focus will get a different result, because of the subcommunication the stems from each. And it’s crucial I point out that the first mindset presupposes LOWER VALUE and the absence attraction. A woman picks up on this, believe me. The end goal is to change your beliefs, since they will ultimately have the greatest effect on your game. Simple repetition of techniques with selfdefeating mindsets will do damage to your belief system. You need to adopt great mindsets to insure proper development of a belief system.

3. The Paradigm Shift. The traditional model in use by the majority of pickup community members is the following: •

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Assuming that girls must be “hooked” in order to be interested in you. Approach with prepared ‘opinion opener’ designed to engage girls, meanwhile feigning disinterest. Assume since you’re approaching her, she’s automatically more valuable, so... Go right into story to in order to display higher value (DHV), which will


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The Transition to Natural Game generate the attraction previously absent. •

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Continue to tell stories, tease girls until you get a clear indication of interest (IOI). “Phase shift” into a “rapport / comfort phase” which consists of ordinary conversation, requiring you to drop the personality she was interested initially attracted to. Bait her into qualifying herself to you, and no matter what she says, SOI her for that. ( This step ain’t so bad ) Isolate and escalate. ( This one isn’t either )

The 6 Sticking Points Resulting from the Traditional Model • 1. The first problem with this approach is that people regurgitate canned openers without a social reason. Style had an entire post dedicated to this point alone, so I won’t go into detail here. If you use opinion openers either:

A. Genuinely care about the topic. Or, B. Make sure it’s obvious that the opinion opener is just an excuse to talk to her. • 2. Secondly, guys spend hours and hours on this website, learning material, preparing a routine stack which is designed to engage girls. These guys go out of their way to learn these girly topics of conversation which the majority of us aren’t really interested in!

And then on top of that, they pretend that they aren’t really interested in fucking the girls! They stack these routines, and these girly openers and DHV’s, and non-retarded women know exact ly what they are up to. So these poor guys just end up looking scared of being themselves.


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The Transition to Natural Game Feigning disinterest now becomes highly incongruent. I mean seriously. To go out of your way to learn girly topics of conversation, just to have permission to talk to chicks is supplication to the extreme! Entering a

female reality just so we can talk to her for a few minutes with the hopes of fucking her is ridiculous! Here’s an analogy. What if a girl went out of her way to learn all about sports or cars, even though she didn’t really like, or understand these things. And she did this just to relate to guys in conversation? This girl doesn’t really care about these things, but is pretending to, and spending hours and hours on the internet learning about them, just so she is allowed to talk to guys. Does this telegraph that she has an interesting life? Is she telegraphing that she is a valued commodity? NO! Exactly the opposite. If a girl like this came up to me, and talked about things that interested me, I might engage her for a bit, but would I be ATTRACTED TO HER? Hell no. I would be totally creeped out! Now what if she kept changing subjects and kept desperately trying to find something I wanted to talk about. Would that make me more likely to find her interesting? It may appear to work marvelously because it gets new guys doing something they’ve never done before – talking to girls! Learning girly topics of conversation will get you to open more consistently - but it’s under an entertainment (approval-seeking) frame; while things will seem great that night, she will be almost guaranteed to flake. You won’t get laid.


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The Transition to Natural Game I’ve questioned SHBs (after I’ve slept with them and they’re more honest) about this. These are girls who go out and are almost always the hottest girls in the club, wherever they go. This is what one of them told me: “Yeah sometimes we talk to guys out of pity. If a guy seems really w eird or is dressed gay or something, we’ll talk to him just so we can laugh about him later. It’s fun. He thinks he’s getting somewhere, but then at the end we run away from him laughing.” Girls will talk to sufficiently weird enough guys who “seem gay” for their own entertainment. This is a fact, and very common with hot girls. They will sit there and eye code each other, loving it , not because they are sexually attracted, but for their own amusement. Don’t design your game so that you are becoming their source of amusement. Sure you might be opening more se ts, but it’s for the wrong reason. • 3. Demonstrating Higher Value. The reason why this is detrimental once again goes back to the mindset behind it. Feeling the need to demonstrate higher value is the same feeling the average guy has when he starts bragging about his job or car. Sure, you are using a more sophisticated technique, but the mindset and beliefs behind it are EXACTLY THE SAME.

Never go out of your way to demonstrate higher value. Assume higher value!

You’re the fucking man! You have higher value automatically! I tell plenty of stories in set, but I do it for fun, because I’m having fun doing it -- not with the intent of “proving myself” to the girl. • 4. It is impossible to fake disinterest 100% of the time. Even if you memorize 5 stories, 3 teases and master the ‘backturn,’ it doesn’t matter because you’ll fail the next test she throws at you.


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The Transition to Natural Game Women continually test guys they are attracted to, and most of it doesn’t fit a predetermined pattern because it’s nonverbal. I get tested all the time by women. They’re thinking, “Who the fuck does he think he is, this skinny little fucker... I’m gonna see if he’s for real. I hope he’s not wasting my time.” So they have to test you. They don’t want to fuck some ingenuine guy that faked the first 10 minutes really well . You have got to be the real deal through and through, my friend. And faking any more than you can back up, will just insight more intense tests which you are bound to fail. • 5. Relying on IOI’s in order feel like it’s *on*, instead of as suming attraction. Don’t wait around for signs of attraction before feeling good about the interaction. If she’s interacting, and not just watching amusedly, then she’s attracted on some level.

Let’s face it, most IOI’s that people look for are pretty ordinary behaviors that women exhibit when you talk to them anyway. Some of the popular one’s I’ve heard are: She asks you where you’re from This is one of the most common pieces of small-talk when you’re first getting to know each other. It doesn’t mean she wants to fuck you. She touches you Women are actually more likely to touch you if they aren’t as attracted to you, as a way of playing with you. If a woman senses extremely high value, and is a bit intimidated, she is less likely to touch you. She is also less likely to touch you first if you are very direct. Of course, if you don’t even have a chance, she won’t touch you at all. Either way, unreliable as an IOI. Remember, one of the two things necessary in pickup is the belief that the girl wants you. It may be difficult to believe at first but keep reminding yourself of


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The Transition to Natural Game this, and train yourself to see everything she does as a sign of attraction. Is she looking at you when you talk? It’s on. Is she contributing to the conversation? It’s on. Is she standing in your physical proximity? It’s ON! • 6. Dropping the personality that initially attracted her as a part of a “phase shift”, mistakenly thinking it takes X amount of time to attract a woman, or feeling the need to “transition into” X,Y or Z.

It sounds like three different points, but really they all stem from the same type of beliefs and mindsets. They come from leftover society programming like “It takes a long time for women to become attracted.” Or “Men have to earn a woman’s attention and attraction.” If you convey a fun personality to a woman in the first few moments of meeting her, you should maintain that same fun personality while deepening your connection. Intersperse your cocky playfulness with rapport. But at all costs, stay congruent and do not become someone else entirely. On the flip side, do not stay in a perpetual attraction stage where you are running material for the upwards of 10 - 20 minutes. That is WAY too long. If you use a couple of fun pieces to open a set, and they respond well to that, they have already made a positive judgment of you. Keep it light on the material and rely more on sharing positive energy with the set, and particularly your target. Also a lot of people believe that yo u need a ‘transition’ to do certain things - especially kinesthetic related actions like touching, kissing, and pulling her away. You do not need a transition for these types of things. You just need to do them with the full certainty that she will enjoy it. Decide what you are

going to do, and do it like you mean it.


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The Transition to Natural Game Natural Game Pros and Cons If you’re going to make the transition to Natural Game, start out simple. It takes some getting used to, and requires attention on a couple of different levels. It may seem awkward at first, especially if you are use to the traditional indirect model discussed above. But if you work with it and gain even just a baseline competence, you will: •

Improve your closing rate, avoiding ‘sexless frames’

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Reduce your flaking

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Focus more on the interaction and enjoying the process

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Allow your true attractive personality to bloom Develop an incredible belief system

If you would still prefer an indirect type of approach based on routines and canned material, it would surely be beneficial to implement these mindsets anyway, along with correcting all of the previously mentioned sticking points. It can do nothing but improve your results. Of course there are some differences that some may consider to be drawbacks: •

Her initial impression of you becomes increasingly important and is predominantly visual and auditory based. This doesn’t mean you have to be good looking, but it does mean you need a tight “image” including style, bodylanguage, tonality and facial expressions. She is going to size you up based on your energy and vibe, and will interpret everything you say through that filter.


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The Transition to Natural Game •

There is no more masking insecurities behind indirect techniques. You will be forced to confront your limiting beliefs head on, and handle them once and for all. I actually think this is an advantage, but it may be scary for some people to confront their deepest fears and depend on their core identity to attract women. Guys with self-hatred issues and poor self image may shy from this type of thing, telling themselves it would never work, despite the fact that it is the solution to all of their problems.

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Your opening percentage will be lower. You will get blown out faster from certain sets. You can persist on these, but it is likely that they would have not led to anything anyway. In this way, it acts as an efficiency screen and which saves you from wasting your time.

A Model for Natural Game 1. Assume Attraction. Adopt a mindset that you are going use your personality to make her feel great. 2.

Open direct. This includes direct compliments on her beauty or remarks about the environment, or even a simple “Hi.” If you are still hesitant to use direct openers, ask her for an opinion that you’re actually curious about. Your opening body-language must be congruent to your intentions.

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Go directly to vibing/rapport. Be playful with her and get to know her. If you tell stories, make sure they’re fun, and not meant to impress her. Lead the interaction via a continuous flow of action. (explained below)


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Lead smoothly to escalation. This could mean you instadate her, venuechange her or close her.

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Repeat steps 3 and 4, until you isolate and fuck her.

This is a very simple structure, but it’s effectiveness depends on the mindsets in the next section.

Mindsets for Natural Game Approach:

The game starts before you walk up. A woman’s impression of you is largely determined by what she sees before you open your mouth, combined with the impression you make in the first few seconds. People have a tendency to generalize the type of person you are as fast as possible, which makes everything in the beginning very influential on the remainder of the interaction. I think that it is often downplayed how important it is to have a very strong visual image based on your style, dress and bodylanguage. You will hear girls often saying, “He was cute so I talked to him” or ‘He was cute so I let my girlfriend stay and talk to him.” Do NOT underestimate the impression you are making visually. We talk all the time on here about it being a limiting belief that you do not need to be handsome, but that does NOT apply to your style, overall grooming and body-language. This stuff is vital. One of the reasons why I avoid opinion openers is because of the subtle frame of needing something from someone. Sometimes I think they are about a half step up from a person in the mall asking you for a few moments to fill out a survey - very unromantic and asexual. I like to start the romantic vibe from the very instant I walk up. I don’t give up any power by needing someone’s Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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The Transition to Natural Game opinion; I expect the girl to impress me from the very start. Teasing

Some people don’t like to combine this type of thing with their direct game. To me, this is one of the best parts about direct game. I love teasing and busting on girls. The beauty is, if you are running a direct game, she knows you’re just playing with he because you like her and want to have fun with her. Affecting her Emotions

It is a well known fact that we should engage girls on an emotional level. Touch her emotions. Trigger her emotions, yet peo ple are still confused about how to actually do this. You don’t ‘talk about emotions’ with her. You cause her to experience different emotions through a variety of ways. Off the top of my head I can think of: •

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Display emotions through facial expression and tonality when you tell stories. Talking about your passions, let her sample some of your energy that could be directed towards her! Be unpredictable; her uncertainty will cause heightened arousal in her body.

Logistics

There is no set structure to pickup. We are artists. You are creating a unique experience for her. It’s fine to follow a predictable structure at the lower levels, but it’s like a kata in martial arts. When it comes down to real world situations: while having a loose structure you must adapt and improvise in an aesthetic way .


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The Transition to Natural Game Take pride in your work and create a wonderful experience for the woman. Give her the fantasy. Allow her dreams to come true. Be that man she’s been waiting for. Closing

The state of mind you should have when interacting with a woman should be one of ‘relaxed and relished certainty’. Don’t rush things. Imagine being a hunter with a high powered rifle, and you’re hunting a dear in some enclosed space. You know that any moment you CAN kill the dear - but instead you choose to relax and enjoy the experience because of that certainty. You continue to relish in the experience, enjoy the chase, and do it at the perfect moment. Enjoy your interaction with her being 100% certain that it will lead where you want it to later on.


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The Transition to Natural Game The Continuous Flow of Action One thing I am realizing over and over again: The time factor is completely irrelevant to pickup. Time is usually a huge limiting belief for most people. People generally feel that girls need some quantity of time in order to:

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become attracted

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become comfortable

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leave a venue with you

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provide contact information that won’t flake

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become turned on

This again, is leftover social programming. Let go of the need to make pickup difficult or complicated. My flaking ratio is very good. Not 100% perfect, but pretty damn close. The average time it takes for me to get a non-flaking phone number is between 30 seconds and 5 minutes. Any more is unnecessary. Here’s why: After a first meeting, she is going to walk away with some kind of impression - a memory of the encounter. Now the way the mind works, is that it distorts time around really strong impressions. We remember each event as a series of mental pictures and sounds with varying intensities. The intensity

is determined by the emotions present at the time, and how rare or scarce those emotions are. If you walk up to her like no man ever has, and


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The Transition to Natural Game completely rock her world for a few moments, thrilling her with your masculine vibe, she will never forget you! Thinking back to the encounter, it’s very hard to determine time objectively. She’s not thinking “Well, he walked up, and said a few things to me, but only stayed and talked for 3 minutes. I don’t think I should meet with him - that’s not enough time.” What she is thinking is “Wow, this guy came up to me, and he was amazing. It was so romantic and seemed so right. He was cute, charming, and he made me feel so good. I can’t wait to see him again!” Only do what you need to create a strong impression on her. That impression is completely time-independent. It is really based on: •

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Visual Impression: identity, body-language, style, facial expressions Emotional Communication - vibe, connection, expression of emotion

Continuous Flow of Action The Continuous Flow of Action is a fancy way of explaining ‘ smoothness’, and it achieves a few different things: •

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Keeps you in control of the situation Allows her logical mind to turn off Let’s her trust you immediately (because you are not like every other guy trying to ‘get’ something from her. Makes everything seem ‘right’ and natural


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The Transition to Natural Game A CFA is best described by a lack of the following things: •

indecision

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hesitation

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looking for approval

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overanalysis

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overthinking

While you should not do these things, it is even more important that SHE does not do these things. In order to achieve a continuous flow of action, you need a minimal structure, quick responses and a lot of confidence. I will illustrate with a few examples. Cold Approach (Assuming time is important)

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Guy walks up, delivers opener goes into story.

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Girl reacts positively.

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Guy feels he needs more attraction, goes into another story, irrelevant to first one.

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Girl reacts positively again.

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Guy waits, thinks of what to do next.

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Guy starts getting some rapport, asks questions.


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The Transition to Natural Game 7.

Guy waits some more thinking he needs more time for a solid close.

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Guy asks some more questions, unsure if she’s attracted enough, looking for IOI’s.

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Girl is confused about his lack of confidence and doesn’t understand his true intentions so says she’s gotta go.

10. Guy tries last ditch effort and attempts to close. 11. Girl doesn’t give number, because she’s being congruent with step 9.

Cold Approach (Continuous Flow of Action)

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Guy walks up, delivers opener goes into story.

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Girl reacts positively.

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Without hesitation, guy immediately starts to connect, asking basic questions. (School, work, etc)

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Guy teases a bit about her answers.

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Guy realizes he doesn’t have much to say, so gets to the point.

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Guy says “Well I’m off to meet some friends, but let’s do coffee sometime.”

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Because guy is clear and confident, girl agrees, solid close.


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The Transition to Natural Game Back to your place (Assuming time is important)

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Guy walks girl into his place.

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Girl sits down on couch, guy does also.

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Guy thinks about what routine he needs to get girl excited.

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Guy starts spouting non-sequitur routine to give her time to be turned on.

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Girl is confused, closes up a bit.

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Guy not seeing IOI’s, waits, thinks of another routine, starts to deliver it.

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Girl gets up and says she has to go.

Back to your place (Continuous Flow of Action)

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Guy walks girl to his place.

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Guy tells girl to take her shoes off.

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Guy sits her in front of the TV, and turns it on.

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Guy goes to fridge and prepares 2 glasses of red wine.

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Guy comes back and toasts to good times.

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Guy tells short joke, girl laughs.

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The Transition to Natural Game The idea is that you provide her with instructions at every point and make it clear how she should respond. Intentions are always clear, and actions are always confident. The man knows the entire plan from point A to Z, and assumes she’s ready on the same page. No hesitation, no indecisiveness. This is truly what attracts women - much much more than canned material. Her emotions are engaged more than she’s ever experienced with another man. You are putting her in the romance novel..


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d Natural Game Mo e ls & Methods A free-flowing and organic approach to the game, by Vin DiCarlo The current trends in seduction are moving towards a more natural, flowing approach to picking up women. The canned-routine method of seduction was designed for ego-preservation. As most completely-ego-driven endeavors are short-lived, guys have caught on that a free-flowing approach is the way to go. Being at the forefront in this new direction has inspired me to develop an in-depth codification of the system I call Natural Game. And as a professional pickup coach, I’ve developed this system to be highly effective in-field, and consistently teachable. My recent work has been not only to identify those concepts that drive Natural Game, but also to develop a systematic method for students, no matter what their background, to make the transition to Natural Game. Contrary to many of my routine-based opponents, Natural Game isn’t a lazy method that proscribes one to ‘just be cool’, ‘act normal’ or ‘be yourself’. Although relatively simple in practice, Natural Game is built on the most advanced understanding of social dynamics and female psychology. Natural Game is a highly practical and field-tested method, which preserves the inherent attractiveness and integrity of the student. In other words, it’s all about being your BEST, TRUEST self, which in my experience is the most powerful way to attract women. Given the highly ambitious scope of becoming a master pickup artist, a systematic approach is necessary to ensure optimum development of the correct behaviors and beliefs. This article deals with three overarching, high-level concepts that serve as a foundation for Natural Game. All great pickup artists have internalized these concepts to the point of automaticity, even if they’re not aware of it. Misattributing the source of their power, many of the best pick-up artists waste valuable time honing auxiliary skills such as storytelling, humor and random gimmickry. While these skills may serve as useful tools for specific situations, they are of limited application. As techniques they are mostly


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Natural Game Models & Methods irrelevant and unnecessary for creating attraction. I believe it is highly beneficial to cut straight to the true cause of success, leaving yourself the option of developing into a great storyteller or comedian later on, if that is your inclination. In that case, development of Natural Game concepts will constitute a robust foundation for whatever style suits your personal taste. Our primary role as pickup artists is the successful seduction of women. That will be the focus of this article. The three base concepts for discussion are: 1.

Spontaneity Over Structure

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Mutual Value Escalation

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Congruence to Intention

Spontaneity over Structure Spontaneity is the characteristic of creating an experience with optimum emotional capacity for the situation. It is the time when you are totally on – you’re joking with the girl, laughing with her, sharing, as if you had so much you could share with her. You told her stories, and made jokes about things in the environment, teased her, related to her... If you’ve never experienced this before, keep reading! Spontaneity is not doing what you have never said or done before, but a new combination of the thousands of things you have already experienced. We all have experiences from which to draw via associative process. Rather than rehearsing memorized content, you are re-experiencing image s from memory,


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Natural Game Models & Methods and recounting those experiences here and now. Because this moment (the setting, the woman, your recent experiences) is unlike any other, your recounting becomes fresh and new. Your amplification or elimination of certain details allows you to custom tailor your presentation and ultimately the entire shared experience to her personality type. Spontaneity is a state where all of the relevant neural pathways are free so that you have instant access to associated memories. You are extroverted and aware of your environment. This is impossible if your mind is focused on irrelevantly. You are not focused on the process because you are the process. Your experience is that very moment, not stuck in the two minutes ago. You are mentally present. Are you in the moment with the girl? Are you seeing her for who she really is? Are you more present in the moment than her husband? Then she is yours. Because it is that presence itself that is most attractive – for who it says you are, and who you are not. You are crafting an emotional experience based on the instantaneous moment in which you and the girl reside. Spontaneity can be developed to such a degree that your improvised conversation is more genuine and unique than anything you could have planned ahead of time. This is because it is born out of this unique moment, and is highly relevant. The freshness and energy, which spawns from spontaneity, is a powerful a nd complete value demonstration in itself. The very ability to be spontaneous is core to what makes a man valuable, evolutionarily speaking. Can you discard your routines and structure at the drop of a hat, when an opportunity to act in the moment arises? Or do you sacrifice the opportunity because of attachment to a predetermined script? Spontaneity is of utmost importance. More than anything, women will feel Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Natural Game Models & Methods great rapport with you based on your degree of spontaneity. Women spend all of their lives searching for that guy who can vibe. A woman wants a guy whose energy matches hers. That’s when she feels that click. First and foremost, women ask themselves, “How do I feel around him? How natural does it feel? Do we have chemistry? Is there a real connection?” When you create a spontaneous interaction with a girl, she will feel like you are her soul mate. If you can connect in that manner, she will forget all other objections about you, and be completely in love. This is crucial for rapid escalation to sex. Anything that feels forced, rehearsed, or planned, kills the interaction. Even guys that have great routines, or are great storytellers, possess spontaneity. There still needs to be a good interaction flow between the stories. And for when the stories run out! Resist getting stuck correcting mistakes beforehand. Stay in the moment - the river keeps on flowing! I recently heard a really good quote from Harmless. He said “The guys that are great - they can take nothing... and turn it into something.” He’s talking about spontaneous creation of experience based on circumstance – taking what little is available and creating context for interaction. Another benefit to spontaneity is the byproduct development of situational relevance. Strongly correlated to social intelligence, situational relevance is the intuitive sense of what’s relevant in a given context. Some guys run routines that are completely irrelevant to the situation at hand. They never took the time to develop their spontaneity, and now have zero sense of when their routines are inappropriate. Even the coolest, most bad-ass routine will fall flat if delivered at an inappropriate time. Training your mind for spontaneity is the process of conditioning your mind to develop instantaneous association recall . Development of any skill is preceded by a strong stimulus to the neurology which facilitates that said skill. It is analogous to weightlifting. Lifting weights provides your muscles a powerful stimulus, and they respond by becoming stronger and more developed. Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Natural Game Models & Methods From a strictly mental viewpoint, it is very much like learning a language. A friend of mine took four years of Spanish in high school and a few years later could speak nothing of the language. She then took a two week vacation with her boyfriend in Puerto Rico, and came back speaking near fluent Spanish. Putting yourself in a situation over and over with little preparation gives the strongest stimulus towards generating new, useful neural-pathways. Over-preparation in the form of learning too many pickup lines or routines will circumvent that process. It’s like using crutches for your whole life with the expectation of developing strong legs. It just won’t happen. For this reason, I am a huge proponent of minimizing the number of routines you take with you into the field. Developing spontaneity in a nutshell: 1.

Go into the field unprepared

2. Approach a woman with a specific intention (We’ll learn this in section 3) 3.

Persist as long as possible, congruent to your chosen intention

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Repeat the process in a variety of situations to develop broad experience

Little preparation, strong sexual intent, lots of persistence…We are warriors of pickup. We should be guys who can trust their instincts in any situation and win. Your subconscious should be trained to make superb decisions in microseconds. You can recall highly relevant stories to tell women, crack just the right joke at the right time, and know exactly which emotions need to be projected to capture her soul .


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Natural Game Models & Methods Mutual Value Escalation Mutual value escalation has been the driving force behind the most successful social strategies in history. It is also the concept that drives most symbiotic relationships between living things. A mutual value escalation is an interaction that results in an exchange in which both parties benefit, whether it be financial, emotional, or intellectual value. A coach makes his players sharper, faster, and able to think quickly; in return they go on to win games and championships for him. Their combined value as a team is much greater than the sum of their value as individuals. Certain people are more inclined to escalating value than others. As pickup artists, MVE is of utmost importance. You could say there are three types of people in this world: givers, takers and leaders. Givers give everything away up front, with a hidden expectation of return. If they do not get that return, they harbor expressed or unexpressed anger and hostility. The classic example of this is the ‘nice guy’ who supplicates over and over expecting to get sex in return. When he gets dumped, he resents the woman and calls her a bitch. MVE is not supplication. It is the enhancement and preservation of the collective emotions of a group of people. When a giver gives something (with expectation of return), he holds emotional expectation. The girl feels this pressure, and in-turn carries emotional obligation. This is mutual value degradation. Takers, realizing that givers get nowhere in our society, take what they can from others, because of their own insecurity about their abilities to attain what they desire. They also harbor anger and hostility if they do not get what they want. A good example is a guy (who some might consider ‘alpha’) who tries to extract sex or financial resources from a woman, but adds absolutely no value to her life. This guy will occasionally succeed with low self-esteem women, but eventually smart women will grow tired of this and break free from such an unhealthy relationship. The relationship ends with both parties worse off than when they started, both with a distorted perception of the opposite sex.


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Natural Game Models & Methods Givers and takers come from a similar place. They are both attached to an outcome and attempt to use negative emotions in order to reach that outcome. The hostility and anger originates from the fear of an imagined failure to ‘take’ or ‘get.’ What most people fail to notice is that there is another option, the leader . A leader will increase the value of himself all the while increasing the value of the people he meets. He makes intelligent decisions, takes responsibility for his actions, and creates positive emotions in his group. Since the majority of people in the world fall into either the giver or taker category, it is the leaders who rise above and make things go right. It is commonly thought that there can only be one leader in any interaction. That is not true. It may be true that only one person can lead at any one particular time; but two leaders can interact in an effective and mutually beneficial manner. Let’s apply a leader-mindset to indirect game. Most people use indirect game to lower a woman’s self-esteem, so she can be more ‘manageable’ and easier to attract. When done correctly, this cannot be further from the truth. Great Cocky/Funny gives her the gift of humor. Well constructed ‘negs’ demonstrate awareness and social subtlety, valuable to any woman striving to be more beautiful. Well-timed ‘takeaways’ teach women to respect us, and in the end they appreciate the lesson. If your methods do not add value to the interaction, then you are coming from the wrong place. Escalate mutual value, always. Most healthy men and women have a tendency toward survival and the attainment of positive emotions. People naturally want to be around others who can add value to their lives and make them feel good. It is completely natural and built into us by evolution. Natural leaders take care of themselves and take action to improve themselves and others. It feels great to be around people who possess this quality. They are charismatic, set you at ease, and inspire everyone involved to feel good about themselves.


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Natural Game Models & Methods Mutual Value Escalation is the way into ‘secret society.’ By your actions, you demonstrate that a woman’s involvement in your life would benefit her , even if your intention is purely sexual. You give no implication of negative repercussions. Leaders have no attachment, and make no implicit demands; women quickly realize the potential of a no-strings-attached sexual relationship, and a fulfilling long-term relationship. We are not the guys who pressure women by dropping hints of emotional dependence. We do not supplicate to women with insincere compliments. We are also not the guys who, in a selfish pursuit of our own hedonism, manipulate her emotions with lies, deceit and invalidation. We strive to improve our women’s lives by helping them to become stronger, more independent, guiding them to self-discovery and excellence. And for that, they will reward us with all they’ve got! Enhance her experience, whether it is day or night-game, indirect or direct game. A lot of stock routines are created with value built-in, escalating value artificially. Be aware of the large frame of what you are doing, and pay attention to the emotional implications of your actions. Enhance the shared experience. MVE can be cultivated internally without routines, if you are aware of it while developing spontaneity. If you prefer to use straight spontaneity, calling on stories only when you are reminded of them, your intention will guide your associations, and thus your language. Combine spontaneous expression with a leadership intention so that you both benefit. Learn to reframe everything to the more positive, optimistic, humorous. But this doesn’t mean kiss her ass. Be realistic and judge her shortcomings fairly. Be aware of her shortcomings, (don’t lie and tell her the opposite is true), but make her feel better about them. This is the base structure of good C/F, or a great neg-hit. Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Natural Game Models & Methods The real power behind most great techniques is awareness. Do you have the awareness to notice the subtle flaws and insecurities in a gorgeous woman? Or are you perceiving her as perfect in every way, merely picking out some random feature to criticize? In this game, cleverness is no substitute for true awareness. Examples: •

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Be aware and notice her shortcoming - she’s a bit short for your tastes. Be honest about it, don’t lie to her - don’t tell her she’s the perfect height if you don’t believe it. Reframe it positively to make her feel better about it: o

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Low degree of subtlety (C/F style): Tell her it must be nice to be able to get the child’s admission price into theme parks. High degree of subtlety (Neg style): Tell her you think she might look really great in high heels.

A successful approach is dependent on MVE. It is important to start with a leader vibe from the very beginning; this is an opportunity for the two of you make a great connection. In contrast… Taker’s approach: Either forced, too cocky, or too presumptuous. These guys may attempt to make women feel guilty for not talking to them. Giver’s approach: Weak, and full of compliments. These guys will tell her she’s beautiful so she’ll continue the interaction. They think the act of giving a compliment will garner her desire.


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Great approaches have a vibe that says, “This is an opportunity for you (the woman) to have a valuable interaction.” The direct approach presents a unique challenge since it is very common for the inexperienced practitioner to convey ‘giver’ when using a complimenttype opener. He must rely on projecting value through his vibe, as opposed to having it built into the opener. One of the most challenging approaches from a logistical standpoint is opening a woman who is walking away from you. It requires a high level of physical awareness and playfulness. Any ‘taker’ vibe must be immediately diffused by increasing your distance, or by using humor. It requires a very subtle balance of vibe, body language, and timing.

Congruence to Intention An intention is your underlying purpose and role in a woman’s life. An intention can take many forms. You can be the guy who helps her with her math homework, to the guy who sweeps her off of her feet and changes her life forever. There are many different intentions, and it is the pick up artist’s job to 1.

Familiarize yourself with the most common and effective intentions

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Decide which intention is most relevant to a given situation

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Congruently execute your chosen intention via a continuous flow of action

The two most common categories of intention are direct and indirect. A direct intention is one in which you express genuine interest in a girl from a place of higher value. You would then continue to reassure her of this all along the way, and treat her as if she is very special and unique. An indirect intention is one in which your interaction with a girl is purely social; your interest is in something besides her. Maybe you are talking to her just to get an opinion, or you are bored, or you just love the sound of your own voice!


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Natural Game Models & Methods Keep in mind the two are not mutually exclusive. It is completely natural to use both of them. In fact, a great pick up artist should be familiar with each and be able to use them with equal competence. To limit oneself to a single intention is much like an actor who limits himself to playing one type of character throughout his entire career. The skill of a great actor is not choosing a single great role. It’s his ability to adapt to any given role, and be congruent to that intention. Here’s an example. Upon entering a club, you see a group of girls - not exactly your type, but still somewhat attractive. You may chat with them in a social way, while waiting for your friends. Later on in the night, you may catch a glimpse of a stunning woman and you express your interest to her. You have created attraction using two different intentions. Guys who prefer the direct approach will use an indirect intention with girls they have no romantic interest in, but it may result in those girls chasing them. On the flipside, typically indirect practitioners shift to a direct intention the moment they qualify the woman. Then they may spend the rest of the interaction with a direct intention. Observe a ‘natural’ who does really well in a nighttime scene (bar or club). How does he behave? Generally he will have a great time, enjoy the moment, and spread his positive vibe to others around him. Women will gravitate toward these guys, and find them very attractive in this environment. Does this mean that ‘party guys’ are universally more attractive? Of course not, but people who go out to bars and clubs are going out to party for the evening, so the behavior of a party guy is highly congruent to that context. The natural pickup artist is familiar with the types of interactions that go on during the course of the night. His behaviors are therefore congruent to both his intention and the shared intention of the groups he meets. If a natural gets up and walks away from a girl who isn’t cooperating, it is because his intention is to have a good time, and not chase any one particular girl. This is


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Natural Game Models & Methods a natural takeaway. When one speaks of a ‘natural,’ we talk about guys who were born with traits desirable to women. What exactly is the base characteristic that makes them so attractive? Is it their high energy? Is it their relaxed body language? Is it their boldness and honesty? No. It is their congruence to intention. Unlike a pickup artist who has consciously designed his game from the ground up, a natural can’t consciously choose his intention. But he is totally congruent to the intention he does have, although it’s unconscious. Development of Natural Game is the development of the fundamentals that empower you to choose your intention based on the situation at hand, and remain congruent to that intention. Remaining congruent to an intention means to continually interact with a woman in a way that reinforces your original intent, or serves to further define it . Congruence is the opposite of coming across fake. In this game, to be labeled fake or unauthentic is the kiss of death! As men, we are expected to be strong decision makers, unwavering and ready to take action. A woman is drawn to men who know what they want, especially with her. Make all of your subsequent actions congruent to your original intention. Congruence creates massive attraction in women, more than any given part of the interaction. Women are not as imperceptive as men once thought. Through congruency, you will amplify your value exponentially with each consecutive action you take. Therefore, a complete method of seduction is only effective to the extent that it is congruent within itself. To a woman, the fact that congruence creates attraction is very obvious. A woman would simply call it, “being a real man.” She doesn’t want to Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Natural Game Models & Methods waste their time with men who cannot make decisions, do not understand themselves, and do not understand how to relate to her. Incongruence leads to confusion. People deal with excess confusion by becoming indifferent to it, or by escaping from it. The former will put you into the friend-zone, and the latter will cause a woman to reject you. No particular intention makes you attractive, but your congruence to it does. Again no particular method is superior to others. If you master the art of maintaining congruence to intention, a whole new world of opportunity will open up, as you can now make any method or technique work. A useful tool for familiarizing yourself with a particular intention is called Intention Mapping. This is crucial if you wish to create your own method of seduction. What most methods actually do is teach you to be very congruent to a single intention, by teaching you behaviors and techniques. Start by developing an idea of what kind of role you would like to play in a woman’s life. Would you like to be lover who changes her life forever, a guy with whom she has casual sex with a few times a month, or perhaps the guy she encounters for a single night of passion? Intention Maps are most effective when they match what a girl is ready for in this particular time in her life. In other words, your intention should be included in her realm of what is possible. While all women are different in how they view the world, themselves, and what is possible romantically, as a general rule you will find that •

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She’s single: she’s open to romance and genuine interest from a guy She’s with a boyfriend or husband for security: open to sexual variety, which may lead to romance She’s in an emotionally and sexually fulfilling relationship: toughest case, but generally open to sexual variety or romance from a guy who exhibits MVE


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Natural Game Models & Methods After you determine the role you would like to play in a woman’s life, the next step is to fill in the interaction with behaviors that are congruent to that intention, and serve to further define it. There are basically two main intent ions. Direct and indirect. Here are some guidelines for these.

Notes about the direct intention: When approaching, many guys have a fear about expressing their interest in girl before knowing that she is attracted first. They believe that they shouldn’t let a girl know they like her, unless she has first indicated her interest. Ironically,, it is that Ironically t hat very belief which prevents attraction. The reasoning of, “Don’t show your intention because if you show your intention she can reject you,” can only hold you back. The very act of demonstrating your true intention is what generates attraction in the first place. If you are out with a wingman, and you leave him to approach a woman, you must get get a quick number number.. In most cases case s a fast number will be more solid because it’s congruent to you hanging out with your friend! If you stay around ‘build rapport’ it will be incongruent with you being out with your friend, which demonstrates bad things about your character. This is in contrast to you going out alone; getting a quick number is incongruent with the direct intention. If you are alone, and you meet a woman, push it as far as the limitations of logistics will allow before getting her number. The direct intention is mostly projected through body language, vibe and tonality. In other words, teasing her in a warm and reassuring way will not will not break your intention. It should be done in a way that is still congruent to your original intent of being genuinely g enuinely interested in her. In fact, joking with her should serve to demonstrate demonstrat e your comfort together toge ther,, not to to invalidate her her.. If you chat with a girl in a direct manner manner,, show her you will not leave her Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of of the TrueNatural TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.co www.drillsbootcamp.com m 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Natural Game Models & Methods to engage another girl, that you are interested inte rested specifically in her. If you are honest about your intention with her, her, and you genuinely think she’s special, you will have a huge advantage over other guys who may be ‘after’ her. There is strength in confidence. Often times, a strong direct intention will bypass a lot of complications such as male competition and apparent logistical limitations. In my opinion, a successful pickup artist must artist must be be adept at projecting the direct intention. It is the the thing thing which separates pickup artists from other players in the club.

Notes about the indirect intention: Indirect intention is good for bypassing certain societal roadblocks. It is especially useful when a group of girls think they are more valuable than you, when your target girl knows you are seeing other women, or when you wish to attract a girl you work or go to school with. Next time you are thinking of using a routine to generate attraction, do not consider its standalone value. Instead, consider the congruence of that routine to your original intention. Does it reinforce your intention, increasing attraction and rapport? Or does it deviate from your intention, decreasing attraction and rapport? Does each subsequent routine further define your intention, or does it confuse the woman? With an indirect intention, a girl will have a lot of reservations about sex and generally exhibit a bit of last minute resistance. Back-turns and takeaways are the most congruent way to handle this type of thing. If you start reassuring her in a direct way, she will not believe it, and you will come across as weak and incongruent. Using a direct approach without a lot of social proof, it is not so important to convince her she is special. You have already done so, and the fact that you Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of of the TrueNatural TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.co www.drillsbootcamp.com m 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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are not chatting up three other women in the club reinforces that. If you would like to convert the relationship from casual one more romantic, continue to have sex with her regularly (1-2 times per week at least). The repeated sex will result in emotional attachment.

Intention Shifting While staying congruent to these specific intentions, there is also some degree of flexibility. While it is best to avo id shifting intentions back intentions back and forth throughout the interaction, there are two common points where intention can be shifted without repercussion. I would recommend learning how to handle both intentions very thoroughly before incorporating a shift into your game. The two viable shifting points are Qualification and Conversion. Conversion. Qualification is when you explicitly convey your interest, interest, after after she has earned earned it. Conversion is after you have had sex with her a few times such that she doesn’t write it off as a one night stand (usually between 2-4 times). If you start with an indirect intention, you can shift to direct when you qualify the girl. Stay direct until you successfully convert the girl. Starting out with a very social game with heavy social proof, it becomes very important to convince the girl you like her for a valid reason. That is why you must screen her and qualify her verbally. If your interaction starts off direct, you can switch to indirect after you have successfully converted her. Direct interactions have less of a tolerance for breaking congruency than indirect ones, so it’s wise to make sure the conversion is thorough. She must become physically attached to you, through repeated sex. At this point, you can choose to treat her as a casual partner, while she will remain devoted to t o you emotionally. Every successful pick up artist I have ever met has these concepts


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Fundamental concepts & effective tools for driving relationships with women to the highest level Your perceived value is of utmost importance in your inter actions with women. It determines how willing a woman is to meet up with you. It determines a woman’s level of physical attraction for you. Ultimately, value determines how far a woman will go just to be in your life.

I get many questions from guys asking how they can increase their value: “Do I demonstrate my value with storytelling? “Do I lower her value through subtle teasing and criticizing?” “Should I be indifferent, or play hot and cold with her?” Firstly you must realize that value is almost entirely based on perception. The only value that actually exists is inside the minds of the people around you. Sure, there are things that society says is valuable, like how much money you make or what kind of car you drive. But these things are only made valuable inside the minds of individuals within that society. What I am going to present to you today is a fundamental model of value. This model determines the effect that other value-shifting techniques will have when they are used. Value shifting techniques, like stories containing DHV’s, and negs (subtle criticisms) as well as social value cues, like cocky humor and peacocking, are all subject to this fundamental concept. This means that all of the above-mentioned techniques will work perfectly when you have this fundamental concept down, and will absolutely fail if you do not.


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The Compliance & Value Model How compliance relates to value The term compliance is used to measure the amount of effort a woman makes for you or with you. When a girl talks to you when you approach her, she is exerting some level of compliance. If a girl buys you drink, she is giving a little bit more compliance. And of course having sex with a woman equates to a high level of compliance on her part. Compliance is directly proportional to value. The higher your perceived value, the more compliant a woman will be. The higher you perceive a woman’s value, the more compliant you will be to her, automatically.

Let me illustrate the fundamental relationship of compliance to value. If you tell a story about something crazy that happened when you were chillin’ at the Playboy Mansion, it can potentially be a demonstration of high value. Let’s say you use this Playboy Mansion Demonstration of High Value (DHV), but then she tests you by asking you to hold her drink while she dances, and you oblige. Your entire story is now negated. Since compliance is more fundamental than a superficial story-telling technique, she perceives your value based on the former. If instead of holding her drink, you explain that you might meet up with her later, then you would have been congruent and retained the value from the story. In fact, you could have been having a conversation with her about the mating patterns of the blue-jay in New England, and you would still have higher value. This illustrates how the Value-Compliance relationship is most fundamental. It is the element that determines the effectiveness of any given technique. Here is where it gets interesting. The compliance scales are different for men and women. Typically, men seek compliance based in replication value. That is, they will offer high level of compliance in order to have sex with a woman. Her body is valuable because it can bear his offspring. Thus men want to be close to, touch, and have sex with, women. They will often go to


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The Compliance & Value Model great lengths in order to gain access to her value. Women on the other hand, seek compliance based in survival value. Typically, women have urges toward getting protection, shared living space, and financial support, from men. Women will often use emotional manipulation, and withhold sex in order to gain access to a man’s survival value. The following way of defining compliance and value will be helpful from now on.

Compliance: the degree of value offered or given. Value: determined by what the other party seeks. Again, to illustrate: woman’s value to a man is typically sex (or reproductive value, to be more technical). If men didn’t want sex from women, women wouldn’t have any value. So men determine this value. If you look at the nearly extinct, traditional courtship process, and make two bars representing a man and a woman’s compliance scales, the C-V relationship becomes very clear. (Fig. 1a, next page )


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The Compliance & Value Model Fig. 1a

Traditional Perception of Compliance e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

marriage

sex

expensive gift

fondling, etc

exclusivity

kissing

dinner date

meet you

compliment

will talk to you

Here I have made two bars, each representing a man and woman’s relative values. The height of the bar represents their perceived value. The man and woman have equal value in this diagram, for different types of value – the man’s survival value to the woman is equal to the woman’s sexual value to the man. Here it is necessary to discern between compliance, and compliancepotential, or “willingness.” Compliance is a real act, while willingness to comply exists in the mind. Although this discernment is crucial, compliance and willingness are in-effect the same thing. For all practical purposes, willingness and actual compliance have the same effect in the C-V relationship.

In diagram 1a, the tick marks along the side represent the levels of potential compliance that are available for each person. In this diagram, the man has potential to get sex from the woman, and the woman has potential to get marriage from the man.


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The Compliance & Value Model You probably realize that most women don’t wait until marriage to have sex. This model is just an illustration of the C-V that everyone can understand. We’ll get into some common scenarios and practical application later. Actually, this diagram is rather generous to men. In our society, the dynamic is further pronounced by the idea that a man must ‘win over’ a woman with a diamond ring in order to marry her. This idea leaves a man with such little perceived value! The actual compliance levels are quite arbitrary; I have labeled them for illustration. Just remember that a woman seeks compliance related to her immediate survival and that of her family. A man seeks compliance related to genetic survival by accessing a healthy, beautiful woman’s genes through sex. So we see women chasing things like emotional strength, leadership and wealth, and we see men chasing things like pretty faces and nice bodies. Evolution has created this situation for us.

Mutual Compliance Escalation When a man and woman meet and become involved with each other, they take turns being compliant to each other.

A man approaches a woman; she in turn gives him att ention and talks to him. He asks her a few questions to screen her and she complies with answers. He complies by qualifying her with a compliment. He asks her to go window shopping with him and she agrees, etc. This continues until you (hopefully) attain full sexual compliance from the woman. However, most men never even achieve full compliance from attractive women, yet surrender their full survival value all the time; they would be willing to marry the woman just to have sex with her. It is a Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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The Compliance & Value Model common mistake to believe that the more compliance you give, the more you will get from a woman and the more she will be attracted to you. So, a man and a woman go back and forth escalating compliance in a mutual way from one rung of the ladder to the next. You can see it illustrated in Fig 1b:

Fig. 1b

Mutual Compliance Escalation

marriage

expensive gift exclusivity e u l a V / e c dinner date n a i l p m o compliment C

sex

fondling, etc kissing

meet you

will talk to you

In order to move to the next level of compliance, two things are necessary. Firstly, you need perceived value of at least the same level or higher than the girl. Your value creates attraction and a willingness to comply. The second thing you need is comfort and trust. After all, women don’t go around sleeping with every guy that has higher value than them. A woman’s comfort and trust is based in her thinking that compliance escalation will continue after she complies sexually. Comfort and trust are needed in proportion to how much sexual compliance she gives. Complying Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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with her requests is one way of developing comfort and trust, but it is recommended you only comply with small requests that you don’t mind fulfilling. Hold off on complying with the large requests, since it can be quite detrimental to your value. Take your time escalating, and be sure to screen and qualify.

Attraction is the result of withheld compliance of value. The compliance a woman feels she deserves, but doesn’t yet have, induces attraction to you, because you are the source of value she is seeking. Screening and qualification makes her seek your compliance – the commitment of your survival value – because S&Q imply you are a valuable guy. Her interpretation is that you are used to attractive women and have developed high standards. And only a high-value man has such access to attractive women. It’s important to note that having your compliance request rejected puts your value into flux. (We’ll talk about value flux a little later, when we discuss application). When a person declines your compliance request, it is not necessarily because they perceive your value to be low. It is usually just because they aren’t sure what your value is yet. Look at a rejection as an opportunity to define your value with your subsequent actions. For instance, if you go to kiss a girl, and she rejects you, it’s not necessarily because she perceives your value as being low. It is simply because she’s not sure. If you try to kiss her again, right away, you may lose value in her eyes. If you get angry or upset, or otherwise deflated, you will certainly lose all value. If, on the other hand you are cool and nonchalant about it, or you humorously tease her and joke about it, your perceived value will increase. You can try again later with a better likelihood of getting a kiss.


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Orbiters and “Let’s Just Be Friends” (LJBF) Let’s look at the special case where the man has lower perceived value than the woman. (Fig. 2a)

Fig. 2a

Special Case: Woman Has Higher Value

sex

fondling, etc e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

kissing marriage expensive gift exclusivity

meet you

dinner date compliment

will talk to you

Notice that sex is completely out of reach.

No matter what this man does, he cannot get a woman of much higher value to comply with sex. As a result, a woman will usually tell him, “Let’s just be friends.” He becomes one of her many orbiters and continues to fight a futile battle. In fact, there is both an instinctual and societal motivation for women to lure the men into this type of role. After all, throughout our tribal evolution, orbiters meant more men to help raise the children she had with the alpha male. Depending on how high his value is, the orbiter can get some kind of compliance from the woman, even if it isn’t full-on sex. In Fig. 2a, you can see that this fellow can get a kiss from her every now and then. How sweet.


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The Compliance & Value Model Also, it doesn’t mean he has to marry her to g et a kiss. It is sufficient that she already knows she could get marriage from him, if she were so inclined. That is why women respond to men who are somewhat of a challenge. The woman has most men at her disposal for whatever survival value she wishes to take from them: companionship, dates (food), money, even validation when her boyfriend is mean to her…everything is fair game.


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The Compliance & Value Model Players and Fuck-Buddy (FB) Relationships Just as common as women who collect orbiters, there are guys who sleep around with many different women, with no strings attached. Let’s examine Fig. 2b.

Fig. 2b

Special Case: Man Has Higher Value

marriage

expensive gift e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

exclusivity sex dinner date

fondling, etc kissing meet you

compliment

will talk to you

Notice that marriage is completely out of reach.

There is nothing this woman can do to get this guy to marry her. In fact, this guy probably isn’t going to be exclusive with her. Basically, all this guy has to do is show up, give her some good emotions, and she will have sex with him, hence the term, “Fuck-Buddy”. She does however have a chance at getting dinner every once in a while, so we can call this example an “upgraded” FB relationship. Also note that she will talk to him before he says anything to her. Often players are very good-looking guys, or have visibly high-status, e.g. athletes, nightclub owners, and respected drug-dealers.


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The Compliance & Value Model Societal programming tends to designate men to orbiter-type roles. Look around and you’ll see evidence everywhere. But deep down, our genes are telling us otherwise. Most men, whether they admit it or not, would love to have a few different sex partners that they aren’t committed to. After all, what man doesn’t like sexual variety? Evolutionarily, these women will bear his children to proliferate his genes. The interesting thing is, looking at Fig. 2b, this is still a traditional mindset. The escalation of compliance levels still leads to marriage. Players in this society still usually get married if they find the “right” woman. A player is searching for that one woman who has high enough value to make him commit. Once a man has a few girls who cater to his every need, dating becomes less exciting. There’s no more challenge. What both sexes ultimately want is high levels of compliance from high value people. In addition, the fact that sex is so high on a woman’s scale of compliance is both an outdated traditional model and unacceptable for our purposes. The fundamental goal of a pickup artist is to reverse the sexual value of each party, moving sexual compliance lower on the woman’s scale.


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The Compliance & Value Model Tools and Application Reverse Supplication Levels What many guys realize as they become better with women, is that sex isn’t necessarily at the very top of a woman’s compliance scale.

We’ve all seen women who do everything for their men. They buy them gifts, cook them dinner and clean their apartments. There are women who would practically die for their men. We also know about pimps who have their hoes out on the street corner every night, making money for them. These women are selling their bodies to strangers to earn money for their pimp. Talk about a high level of compliance!

At first, it may seem completely unreal to have wo men that compliant to you. After all, there are many guys who cannot even get their g irlfriends to have sex with them! It’s actually quite easy, and is based on a few simple dynamics. There are many levels of compliance residing beyond sex, leading up to full compliance - her willingness to either die for a man or commit her life to his cause. Prostitution fits this basic definition close enough. The levels that reside beyond sex leading all the way up to prostitution are called the reverse supplication levels. I have defined reverse supplication as a man receiving survival-type compliance from a woman. Inserting the reverse supplication levels into a woman’s compliance scale gives us Fig. 3a.


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The Compliance & Value Model Fig. 3a

Reverse Supplication Levels

marriage

expensive gift

prostitution for you new car rent RS Game

dinner

exclusivity

e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

dinner date

clothing

sex fondling, etc kissing meet you

compliment

will talk to you

As you can see I have filled in some examples into the reverse supplication levels: dinner, clothing, a new car, leading up to prostitution. Playing at that level is ‘pimp game’ and I’m not interested in that right now. Between sex and prostitution is a very real region, of which holds many interesting possibilities. Just the acknowledgment of these levels lowers the level of sexual compliance. Bringing these levels into existence by reaching for them will make her sexual compliance come easier. Value is only perception, and if you are overshooting the goal of sex by making larger requests, you can be perceived as having extremely high value. In other words, if all you want is sex, the best way to get it, is to simply set your sights beyond it. For example, •

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Ask her what kind of girls she likes before you’ve even slept with her. Assume you’re going to sleep with other girls in her social circle before you’ve even slept with her. Find out if she has any connections to club owners and tell her you’d like VIP access.

Keep in mind, you aren’t taking value from her, you are merely increasing your own perceived value such that everything you give is appreciated to a higher degree. She will be more likely to listen to you, more likely to laugh at your jokes and more likely to try to get rapport with you. Escalate compliance one small step at a time. The time-span for doing this stuff can take months. And remember, compliance is pliable. When you have a woman at breaking point and push her threshold, her maximum level of compliance increases. As her compliance goes up, so does the limit of what she’ll do in the future. Another key is making it fun and worthwhile for a woman to do t hese things. Make requests that are related to your identity. If you are a chef, have her pick up some groceries so you can prepare a romantic dinner. If you are an artist, have her pick up a new set of brushes, and let her watch you create a masterpiece. This way you can build a lifestyle the two of you can share, which is a core need for her. Though this article is only a small portion of my entire reverse supplication method, it is powerful enough to warrant two points of caution. First, do not use this method for abuse. Women do these things because they love us and care for us. Don’t run this on a broke college girl, and don’t run it on a woman you don’t care about. Use it carefully to develop your lifestyle and enhance the experiences that you share together . Second, don’t become so dependent that you can’t take care of yourself. If it ever gets to a point where you cannot maintain your finances or keep your apartment clean all by yourself, you’re in trouble. Trust me on this one. Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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The Compliance & Value Model Set High Expectations When it comes to value, nothing beats having high expectations for other people, and putting a price on yourself.

So many guys are willing to sacrifice their own best interest to make a woman happy, or to have sex with her. Don’t drive two hours out of the way just to see her, don’t ditch your buddies to hang out with her, and don’t volunteer to buy her dinner if you’ve just met her. In addition, you should expect women to respect you and treat you well. If you compliment a woman, expect her to respond positively to it. Many guys fail with compliments because they don’t hold women accountable for their behavior. If you continue to be nice to a woman after she is rude to you, she will lose even more respect for you. Expect a woman to give you her full attention when you are talking with her, whether in person, on the phone or even in a chat room. Also, be willing to walk away if she doesn’t meet your standards. There are plenty of women that will. Most of the time a willingness to walk will only help you, and draw her closer. The best way to punish bad behavior is with indifference. Any reaction whatsoever is actually a reward, because it telegraphs your emotional investment. Sometimes it helps to make it absolutely clear what she did wrong in an assertive tone (not angry), and then follow it with indifference, both physical and verbal.


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The Compliance & Value Model Value Flux and Reward Calibration There are times in an interaction with a woman when your value is in flux. That is, your value has no definition. Realize that this is not necessarily a bad thing but rather an opportunity to define it.

The first situation that causes value flux was mentioned above, when you make a compliance request. For example, you try to kiss her, and she either obliges or rejects you. Your value is then defined by your reaction to it. The second situation is when a girl displays good behavior. That is, she does something to indicate a higher level of compliance then where she was at previously. For example, she calls you, she follows you as you lead her around the club, or she buys you a new pair of shoes. These are all examples of good behavior. Good behavior should generally be rewarded. Sometimes punishing good behavior in small amounts works to confuse her and obsess about you. But major jumps in her compliance should be rewarded. But how should you reward her good behavior?


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The Compliance & Value Model Let’s take a look at Figure 4a, which illustrates what happens when a woman does something good, and your value is in flux.

Fig. 4a

Value Flux

marriage

e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

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prostitution for you

expensive gift

new car

exclusivity

rent RS Game

dinner date

clothing dinner

compliment

sex fondling, etc kissing meet you will talk to you

In this example, the woman has kissed you. In general this behavior is in the right direction and should be rewarded. There is a wide range of ways to do this, but keep in mind, your reward will define your value, and therefore, how she responds to you in the future. Let’s say after the kiss, you decide to make her your girlfriend and be exclusive to her. See Figure 4b. (next page)


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The Compliance & Value Model Fig. 4b

Value Flux

prostitution for you new car rent RS Game e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

clothing dinner

marriage

sex

expensive gift

fondling, etc

exclusivity

kissing

dinner date

meet you

compliment

will talk to you

So the girl kisses you, and you decide to be exclusive to her. You bring up “relationship talk” and tell her you’ve decided that you only want to see her. Bad move. It would probably result in her telling you to take a hike, unless she’s a virgin and kissing is pretty high on her scale anyway. Since exclusivity is pretty high on your compliance scale, transposing your value bar so that it lines up with kissing would result in extremely low perceived value. Ok let’s see what happens instead if you merely give her a compliment after she has kissed you. Take a look at Figure 4c. (next page)


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The Compliance & Value Model Fig. 4c marriage

Value Flux

expensive gift

prostitution for you new car

exclusivity e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

rent RS Game

clothing dinner

dinner date sex fondling, etc compliment

kissing meet you will talk to you

As we see there, rewarding her kiss with a simple compliment goes a lot further. You will create a much higher perceived value for yourself. By creating a large amount of perceived value, you present yourself as a valuable prize, a challenging conquest. A woman will realize that her efforts will be both appreciated and at the same time, it will be an enticing chase. Previously I mentioned that it the ultimate goal is to lower the effective level of sexual compliance. As a pickup artist, you want to get her sexual compliance as low as possible on the scale. Using these concepts makes that goal easy. Eventually it will get to a point where it hits the bottom and drops off her scale altogether.


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The Compliance & Value Model The True Alpha Male Although both value bars for the man and woman may be high, t hrough skillful compliance calibration, and adopting a high-value attitude, the effective compliance of sex will eventually drop off the bottom of the woman’s bar. Where does it go once that happens? To your compliance scale.

Any step in an interaction between a man and a woman occurs on either the man’s or the woman’s side. One party always wants something a little more than the other, no matter how slight the difference may be. As the interaction is sexual in nature, sex will be one of the steps in the interaction. If you reduce the compliance level of sex so that it disappears from the woman’s bar, it must appear on your side. This is what happens when you truly become the prize of the interaction. Figure 5 illustrates the flipped compliance scales, where a man is chased for his replication value and his woman contributes to the bulk of their survival value. TRUE ALPHA MALE

Fig. 5

True Alpha

sex e u l a V / e c n a i l p m o C

blowjob physical affection

prostitution for you new car exotic vacation tandem hunting

phone talk compliment

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The Compliance & Value Model This situation represents the reality of a true alpha male.

This happens when the highest value that a woman can contribute is her energy and resources, and the highest contribution the man can make is his genes. This is the difference between a real alpha male and what the general population believes to be alpha. Most people identify alphas with taking up space, walking slow and talking very loud. This is because true alpha males are quite rare, and even if you met one, it’s doubtful he would explain in detail the nature of his relationships with women. So guys appear a little more dominant are assumed to be at the apex of the dating game, when really, they are quite low on the scale of what’s possible. Keep in mind although full compliance is defined here as prostitution, it doesn’t mean the women are actually selling themselves; it just means they would be willing to and their man knows he has that power over them. While most men are out there struggling just to get sex, you can rise above that. I invite you now to imagine fully what is possible. Don’t set your goals so low that you would be thrilled just to get laid. See the bigger picture. Live a lifestyle where women are making your dreams come true in every area of your life. Allow them to bring you excitement and energy, and imagine a life where they are doing all of this simply for the opportunity to please you sexually.

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Oriental H ot T ub of Sex by Vin DiCarlo Lay Reports act as a testament to your legacy as a pickup artist. It is the documentation and representation of the art, in its pure form. From it, you can learn about what really works, and about the style of the artist. It is not merely a way of bragging to others on the forum about getting laid; this is the prime essence of PU, as it proliferates real life experience. Target Analysis:

Absolutely stunning Asian chick, raised in the US. 9.5 o n a scale of 10. I found it necessary to treat her as I would a 10 because of how people respond to her in her environment. She has guys hitting on her wherever she goes continuously. A girl like this doesn’t go 5 minutes in a public place without some guy saying some nervous, predictable kiss-ass shit to her about her looks. Most of them say dumb things like “Wow. I would love to take you out sometime,” but then does nothing to actually make it happen. Or “You don’t have a boyfriend? No way!” Or “Are you a model?”. Or they go over the top in the other direction by trying to show indifference or by being mea n to her. Almost all men are completely incapable of subtlety and moderation, because they consider her to be so rare and special because of her beauty. Every man in the vicinity would glance over at us wherever we were, and then quickly look away as to not get caught by her or the women they were with. My treatment:

I distinguish myself from every other guy by treating her like a normal person for once. This is key when dealing with 9’s and 10’s. Connect with her, compliment her on non-physical things. Be absolutely honest and real. Be clear about my true intentions (both sexual and of an emotional-rapport nature), and express them without being pushy or crude. I cold read her and pace her reality. I adopt her frame of screening to make Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex sure she is worth my time, but not in a blatantly cocky or insecure way. And I keep strong eye contact. I will use what we call Implicit Direct Game. It’s a framework with a toneddown opener so as not to be immediately categorized with the hundreds of other guys that hit on her. In other words, it’s standard to the protocol outlined in my “Direct Game” post, but with a specialized compliment as an opener. Works marvelously with 10’s. Specialized compliment style opener means you’re saying something that makes you stand out a bit by seeming perceptive. For example, “Wow, that purse... (pause) it really compliments your style,” instead of, “You are beautiful.” Logistics (pre-planned):

1. Have her drive to my town. (get her compliance, as I lead and control) 2. We eat dinner at a classy Italian restaurant. 3. Plan to isolate: we go to an old fashioned Japanese hot tub place. Appointment already made, but a surprise to her. 4. Back to my place after hot tub, more sex to further connection, and insure proper conversion to on-going sexual relationship. Logistics were planned before the date. Always build isolation into your logistics. Lead her confidently there according to your plan. Initial contact and phone game:

I was at a low key nightclub in Boston and saw a mixed 4-set (2 guys, 2 girls) come in. Decided on the target and approached the group. Opener: “What’s up guys, where you from?” I was cool and vibed with everyone so as to avoid the guys cockblocking. I then immediately sat with the target. Didn’t bother to isolate or try to extract because she was on a “double date” - the logistics would be nearly impossible. Talked for about 5 minutes or so, and # closed. Went to another venue with my wings. Note: Some people think that 5 minutes is a flaky or non-solid close. They do not yet realize that the time factor is Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex completely irrelevant in PU. If you are ever thinking that a PU didn’t go right because you didn’t spend enough time on something, there was another factor you’re not aware of. Isolation is only good when you plan on going for same-night-sex, or when you plan on changing venues with the woman. If you are just going for a phone number, do not isolate the chick from her friends. If she gives you her number in front of her friends, flaking will be reduced dramatically. She’ll want to show her friends that she met a good, desirable guy. The friends will be asking her, “Did he call you, see I knew he wouldn’t call,” and then the girl will respond in your favor like “Yeah he called, and he’s really cool, we’re going to do something.” It becomes a little drama thing where the friends are a bit jealous, and the target is hoping she met a great guy for once. It will work out in your favor - all you gotta do is not fuck up! I left her few chilled-out messages: “Hey what’s up. It’s me calling to chat and see what you’re up to. Give me a call.” Nothing fancy. I focused more on being relaxed and having clear, deep and slow tonality. She didn’t call me back at first, so I was persistent. I kept calling and leaving messages, because I knew I could reframe it later.

Side topic: How to be persistent and have it work

Continue to call and leave messages, ignoring the fact that she isn’t calling you back. Talk as if she’s an old friend that you are about to reconnect with. Be cool about it, and not mean or spiteful in any way. Set it up in your mind as a low investment on your part, all you’re doing is making a short call, to remind her of something wonderful she can have. Once you get her on the phone reframe it with this: Girl: “Sorry I haven’t called you back” Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex Vin: “I understand. You were busy. Sometimes meeting new people and forming connections gets put on the back burner when you’re trying to get your life in order.”

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Shows you are understanding and cool and not angry or spiteful. Frames it as her getting her life together so that she can connect with you. (Her raising value to meet you) Presupposes she is now ready to form a new connection with you. Demonstrates that we both have good values and have priorities in our lives straight.

Back to the story… I got back from NYC this past weekend after having business meeting. She called me that night, about 2AM, and we talked for 3 hours. I did some pregaming during this time. Some excerpts: Girl: “I’m getting fat.” (Looking for me to qualify her, tell her she’s hot) Vin: “Oh, really. Jeez... that’s too bad.” (Instead of sucking up and trying to tell her how beautiful she is, I allow her to explain herself to me.) Girl: “Yeah I need to work out. Do you work out?” (Girl trying to screen me) Vin: “Nahh. I’m not in great shape or anything, pretty skinny actually.” (Again, I show her that I’m not interested in getting her approval of me.) Girl: “Oh, we can fix that.” Vin: “Why, are you a good cook?” (I take the opportunity to screen her and


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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex assert myself as the prize.) Girl: “Yeah I’m pretty good.” (Girl bites on it.) Vin: “Oh yeah, what can you make?” (Get her to explain herself so I can reward her with my time, congruent to me being the prize while still escalating.) Girl: “Some guy I met today was asking me why I don’t have a boyfriend, he couldn’t believe it.” (She’s trying to show me she’s valuable, which I interpret as her trying to impress me.) Vin: “I understand, guys are so boring these days. I have a friend who tells me the same thing. This girl is gorgeous, but guys just come up to her and say things like ‘Wow, you’re so hot’ but they can’t make a real connection. And then there are the guys that are players that just want to use her for sex.” (I’m telling her I understand her reality and I’m neither a boring guy who is incapable of talking to her nor a player.) Girl: “What did you like about me when you saw me?” (She’s testing me to see if I’ll say the same thing as all the other guys.) Vin: “The way you carry yourself. You’re just so comfortable with yourself. A kind of relaxed confidence. It’s very attractive.” Girl: “Really? That sounds good.” Vin: “You know.. I meet so many girls who play games. But you don’t have time for that bullshit. You’re so real and genuine.” (This is important. Not only am I seeing her as she wants to be seen, I’m reinforcing desirable behavior.) Vin: “Have you ever been to (city nearby)? No? You have to. Come out here and I’ll show you. We’ll have a very romantic evening. You’ll love it. We’ll go to dinner, walk around the city and then I’ll have a special surprise for you. Oh, and dress really formal, wear a sexy dress for me, ok?” Girl: “Ok, what time?”


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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex This demonstrates my current modus operandi: 1. Use conversation to induce screening frame. 2. Amplify screening frame, qualify and compliment her from a position of power. 3. Escalate and close.

I finish by suggesting she drive out to see me, and I tell her what to wear. I imply an extremely romantic evening that will end with a “surprise.” The surprise is that I will take her to a classy place that has hot tub rooms for rent. It’s a beautiful place, decorated in an old Japanese style, a very romantic setting. There are hot tubs on the rooftop, where they’re private and isolated, because of the architecture. You can sit in the rooftop hot tubs and get a great view of the moonlit sky. It’s nice even in the winter because the heat from the water warms up the surrounding area. I take a lot of girls there nowadays, and I swear the employees at that place think I hire hookers. Since she doesn’t know that’s where we’re headed, she won’t be bringing a bathing suit ;) So my challenge is, over dinner, to get her comfortable enough to get naked in a hot tub with me.

Meeting up:

She drives to a nearby shopping center, and I pick her up there. In the car we have a few different conversations. Most of what I do is vibing – free mental association, nothing flashy. The energy is good. We are both relaxed and feeling good in each other’s presence. She tells me about how the night she met me, her friend was trying to hook her up with some guy, who was part of the initial 4set. Since she doesn’t like getting hooked up by other people, she said that she gave the guy an attitude without even getting to know him.


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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex I related to her by telling her a story about a friend of mine, who got moved into a new room on campus. Since his new roommate had intended for someone else to move in there, he viewed my friend through a preconceived filter, without getting to know him. So we shared some commonality and awareness of social situations. This also implied that she should keep an open mind and get to know me without preconceptions (from all the losers who have taken her out in the past). We then talked a little about dating and stuff and how people are judgmental. I told her about my sister who is dating a black guy now, and my parents are a bit anxious about it. My dad asked my sister “You guys aren’t serious, though right?” I joked about how that really means, “He hasn’t fucked you with his huge black cock yet right?” This got some laughs. Arrived at the restaurant. From the car, I grabbed her hand and led her down the sidewalk. I tell her to consider this as a vacation, where she can escape to a fantasy world with no rules or worries. Arriving at the restaurant, I opened the door for her, and escorted her inside. Leading, leading, leading, as much as possible. Sat at the table, talked some more. Straight association vibe... We talk about our close friends, and I tell her that I don’t really have a social circle (true). I tell her that I have a lot of close friends who have their own circles, but I rarely merge circles, and my friends know each other through me. I also tell her about how I am doing workshops (I opted to tell her before sex, so in the future if she ever finds out, it wasn’t some secret thing I hid from her), and how I used to be such a player. But I got sick of being a player and playing games and meeting trashy untrustworthy girls all the time. This led me to some genuine qualification. I talked about how guys and girls play games and pretend to be disinterested, Don’t miss “The Inside Call” and the Release of the TrueNatural System! Visit www.drillsbootcamp.com 2004-2009 Copyright Vin DiCarlo, Inc.

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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex in order to manipulate a person’s emotions. I told her that she seemed very real and genuine, and that she makes me feel like I can be myself. At this point we are in deep rapport , almost a trance-like. (Talking about being genuine reinforces the framework I am using for the seduction, where a connection emerges between two genuine souls.) I then focus even more deeply into her eyes, and relax into a deep trance. She goes along with me, because I have been dominant and leading the whole time. Then I tell her how good it feels to be with her. This also has the effect of making her feel as if she is seducing me, reinforcing myself as the one screening her. We get back in the van (the cleaning van from my old job) and drive to the hot tub place. We arrive and she reads the sign and is says, “Hot tubs...” The person behind the desk leads us to our room, and gives us our towels. He leaves, she looks at the tub, looks at me and says “Now what?” I say “We get in!” She responds with “You’re going to see me naked already?” I say jokingly, with a half-smile, “Of c ourse not baby, I’ll cover my eyes!” She goes to the restroom briefly, and I get naked and get in the tub. I turn on the jets, bubbles and lights to full power. She comes back. She says “Are your eyes closed?” “Yes.”


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Oriental Hot Tub of Sex I can’t tell what’s happening. I’m trying to peek through my fingers, but all I can see is steam and bubbles. I’m feeling great. “You can open your eyes now.” She whispers. I open my eyes and she’s about two feet away from me, in the tub, fully naked. She’s wading toward me slowly with her gorgeous tits just above the water. We sit closely together in the seat, enjoying the experience. Pretty soon, we start kissing. She puts her legs on top of mine, and I put my arm around her. I pull back a little. And talk about some things around us, comment on how cool the place is. I tell her about how there are some hot tubs on the rooftop also, which are also very nice. Start kissing again, escalate to sucking tits, touching pussy. I pick her up out of the water and put her on the wooden ledge. (The hot tub is at floor level, and there is wood all around on three sides of it.) I place her up there and eat her completely shaven pussy. Then she gets in the tub and I stand up high so she can blow me. Then I pick her up again (caveman style dominance), and place her down onto the wood and start to fuck her. We switch positions, doggystyle, missionary etc... It’s a great time.


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Two things can happen when you have sex so fast after a cold approach. Either she continues to talk to you and it converts to an ongoing relationship, or she writes it off as a one-night-stand and decides never to see you again. After the lay, everything I did was to aim for conversion. After sex, I behave in a way that will lead to future encounters so I can decide to what extent she is involved in my life. I am really relaxed, and caring toward her. We talk and deepen rapport. I drive her back to my place where we lay on the couch and watch an episode of Elimidate. I take her to my bedroom, and we hold each other some more, and talk some more. We fuck again. We fall asleep for a few hours, me holding her close. I wake up and drop her off. During the drive I have a little debrief, and she said that it must have took some balls to take her to the hot tub place so soon like that. She really enjoyed it and said it was different - she’s never been in a hot tub before. Keys to the lay, summary: •

Direct approach and give great compliments. Direct works amazingly with SHBs when you do it with class and distinction, see my complete “Guide to Direct Game” post for more on this.

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Mild cocky/funny humor, to make her laugh

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Frame control – I’m screening her to see if she’s worth my time

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Open loops - pleasant surprises (don’t reveal to her what the plans are)

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Dressing confidently. No tie, instead slightly unbuttoned shirt with a small pendant around my neck. One ring on right pinky. Slow, romantic touch


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Conversational attraction techniques

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Telling her what to wear

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Extensive pre-gaming on phone

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Tight qualification and conveying understanding of her reality

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Having her drive out to my place (one hour), subtly makes me the prize

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Setting frame right in the beginning: we’ll have a wonderful romantic night together, It’s like a vacation away from her ordinary life. Strong eye contact Planning and leading evening - creating a fantasy world for her, that she’s never experienced before. Absolute honesty - telling her I teach pickup bootc amps BEFORE I went for lay. A risk, but I did it in a very genuine way. Relaxation and visualization an hour before we met up. Remembering all the times women wanted me or I was successful, over and over.

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Dominance – caveman style touch when going for sex.

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Inducing a trance state by going into trance myself while looking into her eyes.

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Screening questions as a means of connecting and learning about one another.

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I used no “DHV’s” (demonstration of high value – a Mystery tactic) and avoided anything resembling an entertainment frame. (I’m starting to realize that NOT consciously doing DHV’s is a real DHV.)


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a letter from Vin Dear Applicant, I hope you enjoyed The Woodhaven Letters. I hope you discovered a few new ideas which will change the way you meet women forever. And I hope these Letters helped you finally gain control of your dating and sex life. ... But these Letters were just the beginning. I have spent the last 5 years of my life developing new teachings, tactics, theories and techniques. And I’ve packed it all into The TrueNatural System. If you’d like to discover how to build on the rock-solid foundation you got by reading these Letters, make sure you are registered for The Inside Call. It’s only for Drills Applicants, so if you received this ebook from a friend, you will still need to apply at www.DrillsBootcamp.com to get access to the call. I’m excited for The Inside Call, and I hope to see you there. Your Friend,

-Vin


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