What Men & Women Want

What Men & Women Women Want  Want ? By Ashok Upadhyay, India The Th e co conc ncep eptt of Ma Marr rria iage ge ch chan ange ges s fr from om co coun untr try y to co coun untry try an and d fr from om ge gene nera rati tion ons s to generations. Marriage or relationships is for personal development of humans and on the spiritual level it is one of the most important tools for progressing through ones karma and the purpose of life for many which is not understood by many a young spiritual adepts. On mundane level it becomes a very essential and significant part of man for his achieving higher goals of life. Marriage brings you to a fuller you and completes you. To encapsulate it simplistically marriage helps in the development of the following areas. 1. Phy Physi sica call Deve Develo lopm pmen entt 2. nt ntell ellect ectual ual Dev Develo elopme pment nt !. "m "mot otion ional al Dev Devel elopm opment ent These above ! factors are part of the system of life. The #una Milap system does not work in real practice though it is widely used in ndia and now by T$ channels and matrimonial websites to attract the uneducated in astrology. %nfortunately even the most advanced astrologer has not statistically tested the #una Milap system and documented it but keeps on teaching it and it has been passed on over the years from guru to sishya. &ere in this article we would try to see some special points that look very ordinary but serves as a stunning tool in matching horoscopes for marriage or relationships and most importantly helps in understanding '(hat Men ) (omen (ant* in reality. Mostly we would try to concentrate on those aspects by which relationships can be improved between couples in understanding each other by delving deeper into (hat Men want and (hat (omen (ant. Men Are From Mars Mars &  & Venus +or Men , $enus decides whom he is '-ttracted* to and Mars decides how he will behave with his women. 1. n male*s male*s horoscope horoscope $enus $enus will will determine determine the ualiti ualities es of his wife wife and the choice choice of  the wife he wants. /uppose $enus is of Pisces0 he will like his wifewoman to be artistic. f in male horoscope if $enus is well placed but Mars associates with Taurus or ibra then there would be difference of ideologies in se3ual life. ".g4 Mahatma #andhi had Mars in ibra.

2. Prithi Prithi 5"arth6 Ta Tatva 5"lement6 5"lement6 $enus $enus in male horoscope horoscope then male male would have in his mindsubconscious mind that he gets a wife from whom he benefits financially and status wise. !. -gni -gni 5+i 5+ire6 re6 Tatv Tatva a 5"l 5"leme ement6 nt6 $enus $enus in mal male e hor horosc oscopes opes then then mal male e wil willl be attracte attracted d toward tow ards s tho those se wom women en who are of dom dominat inating ing in indep depend endent ent nat nature. ure. &e will will lik like e women who like fast life and take responsibility responsibility.. 7. $ayu $ayu 5-ir6 Tatv Tatva a $e $enus nus in mal male e hor horosc oscope opes0 s0 then mal male e wil willl be attracte attracted d tow toward ards s intelligent women who are linguistic0 literary oriented0 looks could be of secondary importance but first choice will be brains. 8. 9al 5(ater6 5(ater6 Ta Tatva $enus $enus in male horoscope horoscopes0 s0 then male male reuires a woman woman who will support him emotionally0 understand his emotions. &e needs her to listen to his feelin fee ling g and und unders erstan tand d him him00 thi this s is of pri primar mary y imp import ortanc ance e to him oth otherw erwise ise he becomes like most men saying ‘she does not understand me’ . :. /uppose $enus $enus in 9al Tatv Tatva a and Mars in 9al Ta Tatva tva in chart of males0 these males males can become eccentrics in personal life psychos. t*s a double whammy of 9al Tatava hence the above results. ;. /uppose /uppose man has $enus $enus in 9al Ta Tatva and Mars in $ay $ayu u Tatva0 Tatva0 these these men will never  never  completely surrender to wife since Mars is in an airy sign and his connection will happen to her on intellectual level first. <. $enus in 9al Tat Tatva va and Mars in Prithvi 5"arth6 Tatv Tatva a in males chart0 chart0 then he will utili=e his women for creating and e3panding his identitystatus. Many a times you find in modern society that men marry women to flaunt themtheir beauty , something like a status symbol. f this combination is found in charts of males0 then it is found that 8& is stronger or children will do better than father in life. Women Are From Sun Sun &  & Moon The way /un is placed in a chart0 that way she will have ‘Expectations ‘Expectations of  of her husband and the way her Moon is placed that way she will ‘Beha!e ‘Beha!e with  with her husbandlife partner. 1. Marria Marriage ge means taking taking the respons responsibili ibility ty of the other other partner partner atleast for for one of them. them. &enc &e nce e whe hen n re resp spon onsi sibi bili lity ty co come mes s in th the e pi pict ctur ure e th then en /u /un n is th the e pl plan anet et of  respon res ponsib sibili ility ty.. n wom woman* an*s s hor horosc oscope ope see the pla planet net /un and yo you u wou would ld fin find d husbands ualities matching the placementssign of the sign. +or e.g. if /un is in eo in the girls horoscope then you would find the husbands ualities matching that of  eo and so on. 2. /uppos /uppose e /un is in eo which which is an -gni -gni Ta Tatva and Moon Moon is in -ries -ries anothe anotherr -gni -gni Tatva0 so what she likes0 that way only she will behave with her husband. /he will like dominating husband 5/un in -gni Tatva , eo6 and in return she will behave in dominating manner with her he r husband 5Moon in -gni Tatv Tatva a , -ries6. >ut this combo of  two similar tatvas of the same element becomes a problem for her0 if husband does

not dominate she won*t like it but she also has to dominate. >oth of them cannot stay without each other , this is a common syndrome that is found. /he will want her  partner to admit his love for her he r in front of everyone 5moon in agni tatva6. !. /un is in -gni -gni Ta Tatva and Moon is in 9ala 9ala Tatva0 Tatva0 then then she e3pects e3pects from her husband husband dominating independent nature and she will behave in emotional manner with him 5moon in ?ala tatva6. f he takes her to romantic islands or near water then she becomes very romantic towards him. /he would want her to@be partner to propose to her in private 5Moon in ?ala tatva6. 7. /un in -gni -gni Tatv Tatva a and Moon Moon in $ayu $ayu Ta Tatva tva00 then she will treat treat her hus husban band d very nicely. n this combination there is less opportunity for divorces and she knows the likesdisl likes dislikes ikes of her husban husband d and will also be adept in removing her work out of the husband. /he will keep her ego and personality intact and still remove her work out of the husband and it is only when she wants divorce it can happen not when the man wants. 8. /un in -gni Ta Tatva and Moon in Pri Prithv thvii Tatv tva0 a0 her beh behavi avior or towards towards her husband husband partner will be of possessiveness. /he will be an e3cellent cook or will take good care of him food wise and also in bed 5Prithvi Tatva6. (hy so since her Moon is in Prithvi Tatva0 so she will behave that way. /he will not like any interference of  anyone in her personal life. Mother in law0 father in law or any relatives should not interfere in her relationship with her husband0 this is very important in ndian conte3t where still singular families are maintained and every mother in law goes to an astrologer to find out if her would be daughter in law will ad?ust to the family. "istur#ance In $e%ationships  Saturn 1. The plan planet et of dis distur turban bance ce is Saturn Saturn in  in marriage0 then '(th %ord  %ord and  and $ahu $ahu.. Aahu can make life miserable and /aturn has ability to make curd out of milk thereby removing the luster out of marriage. 2. /uppos /uppose e /un is in -ries -ries for women women and /aturn of male male is in -ries0 -ries0 then then there will will be no harmony in marriage. >asically the rule is any type of relation sign wise or aspect wise between /un of female and /aturn of male then it will create big problem in marriage life. The male will normally not respect the female in such a circumstance. t can also create a form of mechanical relationship that is often found in ndian marriages. The golden rule is to apply appl y these rules in Batural Codiac charts of both individuals that by taking -ries as ascendant. !. f female* female*s s /aturn /aturn asp aspect ectsa sass ssoci ociate ates s wit with h the /un in mal males es chart then then the there re is no respect in relationship and can create disharmony. Aespect among couples is the most important thing in a marriage and often forms as a strong pillar in sustaining marriage. are should be taken that this aspect should be seen in Batural horoscope of both 5-ries -sc6.

7. -ny trinal trinal relation relation between between 9upiter 9upiter and /un /un of both couples couples 5in natural natural horoscope6 horoscope6 then there will always be respect. /uppose /un of female is in ibra debilitated and males 9upiter in #e0 i0 - then woman will respect her husband. "enia% And)*r "e%ayed Ma%e +harts Ma%e +harts 1. f in <& the there re is 9upiter 9upiter in chara 5movea 5moveable ble66 sign then delay delay in marriage marriage.. /ee ; where he sits ) if there is 9upiter of hara Aasi 5-r0 n0 i0 p6 in its 12& from it then also delay in marriage 5this is common for both charts6. 2. (hereve (hereverr $en $enus us is is place placed0 d0 ifif in 2nd house from it there is 9upiter in hara5movable6 Aasi then also delay in marriage or sometimes create ma?or problems in marriage life li fe.. /o /ome meti time mes s due to ov over er sm smar artn tnes ess s of th the e ma male le th ther ere e ca can n be pr probl oblem ems s in marriage life. !. The /ublord /ublord of the cusp cusp of ;&0 deposit deposited ed in the :&0 is the the main cause cause of the delay delay in marriage. This principle is common in both horoscopes of males and females. 7. ;& cusp sub sub lord whenever whenever it is in the 12& from from $en $en in male charts charts then then it will create create problems in se3ual matchingE it will take time to match between couples , meaning for each to get ad?usted to others se3ual desires and wants it would take time. 8. ;& cusp cusp sub lord lord wheneve wheneverr it is in the 12& from from Mars in male male charts charts then then due to environment envir onment circumstance circumstances s there will be separ separation ation between couple couples. s. ".g. after  marriage man who has ?ob abroad has to leave his wife in homeland. Fema%e +harts Fema%e +harts 1. /uppos /uppose e /un is in Pisces Pisces and 9upiter 9upiter is of -ries0 -ries0 then then the kind of person person she wants either she will get late or never. 2. 2nd from Moon if there is 9upiter of hara Aasi0 then due to her behavior there can denial or delay of marriage due to over smartness from her end. /he might spend her life thinking too big of herself or of her beauty or money and thereby good matches will go away a way.. !. The /ublord /ublord of the cusp cusp of ;&0 deposi deposited ted in the :&0 :&0 is the main main cause cause of the delay delay in marriage. This principle is common in both horoscopes of males and females. 7. ;& cusp sub sub lord whenever whenever it is is in the 12& from from /un in female female charts charts then then it will will create problems in marriage life. Specia% oints In $e%ationships 1. ;th lord of Aasi0 if placed in the <& sign of Aasi chart B the Bavamsa5DF6 then problems happen in marriage. ".g. f ;& of Aasi is /agittarius and <& sign is apricorn0 then if ; of Aasi which is 9upiter if it is placed in apricorn Bavamsa then problems come in marriage. 2. f one partners partners Moon Moon is in a sign sign and if opposi opposite te partners partners Aahu Aahu is in that that same same sign then it creates yoga for powerful magnetic attraction between couples.

!. f Moon of one one partner partner is in a particula particularr sign and opposit opposite e partners partners $enus $enus is in that that sign then there is a kind of karmic attraction between the couple 7. f in woman*s woman*s chart chart there there is /un and /aturn /aturn opposit opposition ion or con?unc con?unctio tion n and if /un in males chart forms association with this /aturn then after marriage career of man collapses or gets spoilt or changes ".g. /un /aturn in females chart is in -ries and mans /un is in #emini or ibra or apricorn whereby /aturn of females chart aspects the man*s /un then this happens. 8. f in woman*s woman*s chart chart /un and /aturn /aturn opposi oppositio tion n or con con?un ?uncti ction on is there there and if /un in males chart forms association with this /aturn then after marriage there will be ma?or  problems after - yrs, '. yrs or /0 years. years. n case the sun of males chart is not aspected by /aturn of females chart then still there will be problems at above mentioned years but of o f reduced intensity. :. Platonic Love: Bept Love: Beptune une and $enus relations relations give plato platonic nic love and attra attraction. ction. They are always related to ether body. f the association between the planets is degreecal then the result is 1GG H regarding regard ing Platonic love and it also gives "/P powers. ;. Mar Mars s in a sig sign n of one partner partner and $enus $enus of other partne partnerr in same or opposite opposite sign sign gives strong physical attraction. t can be even Mars < th aspect on $enus of other  partner to give such physical attraction. <. n females females chart suppose suppose $enu $enus s in a sign and in males chart chart /aturn /aturn touchesas touchesaspects pects this $enus or vice@versa then there is se3ual life complications in their life. This we have seen working consistently especially if this kind of $enus@/aturn relationship is happening vice@versa. F. /atu /aturn rn an and d Ma Mars rs ha havi ving ng re rela lati tion onsh ship ip wi with thin in on one e ho horo rosc scop ope e or /a /atu turn rn of on one e horoscope aspecting Mars of opposite partner then due to workaholic nature of  either partner there is complications in relationship. 1G.. f ;th lord is in the 1G& then the individual does not accept his spousepartner as a 1G friend. There can be good bed room relations due to other combinationsyogas but heshe does not treat the other person as a friend. 11.. The combination of dasa patterns of -sc0 :th and 1Gth sometimes give separation e.g. 11 MDPD-D seuence in any order for an -ries -sc of MarsMer/at gives divorce or  separation. Editor’s Note: Don’t

forget to check above points in the Navamsa ( D-9 chart too! "n m# 

humble e$perience the# sometimes are found %orking in D9 %hen not present in the &irth 'hart!