KEITH FERRAZZI’S GUIDE TO
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TABLE OF CONTENTS 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.
Introduction Prep: Self-Mastery: Top Tricks to Build Confidence Scenario I: The Situational Gatekeeper Scenario II: Permanent Gatekeepers Managing the Gatekeeper: The Mindsets Managing the Gatekeeper: The Skill Set
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INTRODUCTION The conscious pursuit of people with power and celebrity has a bad rap. We’re taught to see it
VIPs can make your network sparkle. But if you want to get close to one, you’ll need a game plan.
as an expression of vanity and superficiality. superficiality. We regard it as a s a cheap and easy means of getting ahead. As a result, instead of acting on our impulses, we repress them. We W e buy celebrity magazines like People, Us Weekly, or, in the case of business folks, Fortune , to peer safely from a distance into a world we’re so obviously hungry to know more about. I, on the other hand, think there’s absolutely nothing wrong with pursuing this world more
directly. directly. Seeking the influence of powerful people in our lives is not crass or misguided; it can be enormously helpful. Again, no one does it alone, whatever our goal or mission. We need the help of lots of others. Sometimes, despite the risk and work involved, it’s worth our time to try to befriend a Big
Kahuna. VIPs can make a difference in your life and the lives of others. These are the kind of people who can make you, and your network, sparkle. But if you’d like to get close to a VIP without yet being one yourself, you’re going to need a
game plan – which is exactly what this KeithFerrazzi.com Guide is all about. - Keith Ferrazzi Ferrazzi
PREP WORK SELF-MASTERY: TOP TRICKS TO BUILD CONFIDENCE If you’re going to rub elbows with VIPs, you’re going to need to become the kind of person who exudes the relaxed confidence that sets others at ease. If you’re already that kind of person – bravo. But who couldn’t use a boost?
Most people can sniff out a fake in two seconds flat.
Here’s some tips to put into practice immediately. They’ll help prep you for the most formidable of gatekeepers – and the talent they protect.
1. Take Take stoc stock. k. Take 5 minutes in the mirror every so often o ften to conduct a personal evaluation. Out loud – make sure you’re you’re truly alone for this one! – list the things you like about what you see. 2. Grin Grin again again,, begin begin again. again. Take time every day, particularly if you’ve got an important event, to smile at yourself in the mirror. Sounds dumb, but studies show that you can alter your mood just by seeing yourself smiling. 3. Be tran transp spar aren ent. t. Confidence comes much easier when you’re just being yourself. Besides which, most people can sniff out a fake in two seconds flat. 4. Exerci Exercise se regula regularly rly.. Studies show that exercise eases both depression and anxiety – and getting fit never hurt anyone’s self image. 5. Practi Practice ce deep deep breath breathing ing.. You can do this daily, in meditation, or as a quick fix to relax yourself before an important meeting or phone call. Repeating a short, inspiring mantra can help you regulate your breath, and add an extra measure of confidence. 6. Channe Channell Frank Frank Sinatr Sinatra: a: Take special effort to dress your best, in an outfit that makes you feel like the King of the Hill. (Depending on your set, that may be Frankie or it may be Marilyn Manson; make your own statement.)
PREP WORK SELF-MASTERY: TOP TRICKS TO BUILD CONFIDENCE
The world can’t conspire to help you if you don’t know what you want.
7. Know thyself. The world can’t conspire to help you if you don’t know what you want. So write down your mission statement, perfect it as an elevator pitch, and revise it every so often to stay 100% in step with who you are. 8. Due diligence isn’t enough: enough: If you’re working hard, investing yourself, and doing your research, confidence will come naturally. Nothing about you should be half -baked.. -baked..
SCENARIO I THE SITUATIONAL GATEKEEPER It doesn’t usually take slipping someone a Ben Franklin to get behind the velvet rope. Focus instead on a keen eye and healthy dose of confidence.
Never Eat Alone discusses managing gatekeepers by treating them well and respecting their power. But occasionally the “art” in managing the gatekeeper is less about relationship building and more about a glib tongue, a sharp suit, and a forward stare.
Literally plan out the path you’re going to take to bypass the gatekeepers.
Here are some tactical pointers – along with a qualification: Honesty IS the best policy – so choose your audacious moments with care. 1. Dress the part: part: Adapt for your particular venue, but in most business business settings, the best choice for men is a sharp, custom-fitted suit with a pressed shirt and tie. A nice watch and polished shoes complete the look. And if you can’t afford a top brand, just get an imitation – who’s knows the difference? Women’s fashion is more variable, but similarly, suits are a safe bet. 2. Act the part: What role are you playing? If you’re at a conference, dress well and hold yourself like a speaker. Observe the VIPs (or those who have the same access as VIPs) in your environment and emulate them. 3. Plan your approach: Literally plan out the path you’re going to take to bypass the gatekeepers. You don’t want to be wandering around, attracting attention – people will ask if they can help you. Not good. You’re in control, and exactly where you’re supposed to be (right?), so make sure you walk with intent and direction.
SCENARIO I THE SITUATIONAL GATEKEEPER 4. Look forward and keep moving: moving: Make as little eye contact as possible with people along the way and always keep moving forward. Eye contact is an invitation to ask you questions about what you’re doing and why you’re there. If someone does ask you a question, just point to your watch and keep walking.
Be respectful and don’t get in the way of people trying to do their business.
5. Don’t be an ass : Be respectful and don’t get in the way of people trying to do their business. Also, be prepared to do yours. What that means – prepping the perfect elevator pitch, for example – depends on you.
…And if you’re stopped?
1. Retreat! Retreat! – temporarily temporarily.. Say “nevermind” and then try to find another entrance and a f resh gatekeeper. 2. Make intense eye contact (don’t break eye contact once made, don’t blink, and have a look of anticipation on your face) f ace) and insist you have something very important to deliver. 3. Abort mission – be prepared to recognize and humbly accept game over. 4. New approach: If you can’t get to your main target, consider working on someone in his or her entourage. You may not succeed in meeting your VIP that day, but if you can lay the groundwork for a relationship to someone close to him or her, you may have a shot at and even better meeting in the future.
SCENARIO II The Situational Gatekeeper
Half the difficulty in reaching out to others is actually reaching somebody at all.
Let’s face it, having a list of names of people you want to reach in business and even the craftiest pitch don’t mean much if can’t get your targets on the phone. Half the difficulty in reaching out to others is actually reaching somebody at all. It’s even more difficult when that somebody is a Big Kahuna with a thicket of protective voice mailboxes, blind e -mail addresses, and defensive assistants running interference.
So how do you open the door? You need to learn to artfully artf ully manage the gatekeeper. That requires both Mindsets and a Skill Set.
SCENARIO II THE SITUATIONAL GATEKEEPER
Managing the Gatekeeper: The Mindsets
Half the difficulty in reaching out to others is actually reaching somebody at all.
1. The first rule of managing the gatekeeper: gatekeeper: Never go head-to-head with an admin. You’ll lose every time. Never, ever get on his or her bad side. Your job is to make him or her into an ally, not an adversary. 2. Recognize the gatekeeper’s awesome power . If they’re any good, they become trusted friends advocates for their bosses, and integral parts of their professional, and even personal, lives. 3. Don’t approach a gatekeeper – – or a target – without a deep understanding of his boss’ business and an interesting value proposition. You won’t necessarily need this upfront, but don’t waste your time getting access if you’re not ready to play ball once you’re there. Ideally, you should be approaching new contacts with 98 percent value add, 2 percent ask.
SCENARIO II The Situational Gatekeeper Managing the Gatekeeper: The Skill Set 1. First contact: contact: Particularly on your first call, be very careful not to be aggressive or nervous. Remember, you don’t want to anger him or make him feel like you’re trying to get away with anything. As in all situations, relaxed confidence goes a long way.
Be very careful not to be aggressive or nervous. Relaxed confidence goes a long way.
2. No traction from the first call? (This will happen more often than not.) Then follow up promptly to establish your presence and make it known you won’t go away. “Hi, this is X. I’m just calling back because I haven’t heard from Y.” Without being too pushy, this approach starts to create the presumption that his return call is imminent and expected. 3. Remember to reward good behavior – or in other words, treat gatekeepers with the dignity they deserve. What does that mean? Acknowledge their help – thank them by phone, or with a gift – flowers, Starby’s card – and thoughtful note. You may even do this at the stage where they’ve just been polite and open, but haven’t yet made anything concrete happen. (Feel out the situation – a gift shouldn’t come across as a bribe.) 4. Honey, not vinegar: If your gatekeeper signals you’ve taken a step too far – for example, if he/she is short with you – recover quickly. The way to do that is by being humble, candid and even vulnerable. She’ll question whether she was too gruff, perhaps with someone who really should meet her boss. 5. The Value Prop: Prop: If the gatekeeper gives you the chance to send an email to your target, make sure to put your best value prop right up front. Be simple, direct, and to the point.
SCENARIO II The Situational Gatekeeper
Still not getting anywhere?
Never be needy. Try to add some value to the gatekeeper’s life.
Persist. Slowly but surely build the relationship over time, without being a pain. Never be needy. Try to add some value to the gatekeeper’s life – even just finding a way to make her smile every time you call can go a long way. You can also try to whiz past the gatekeeper by: • Calling the office at an odd time – early morning or late evening. The admin will have gone home, and there’s the off chance your target might just pick up the phone himself. • Utilizing several forms of communication. emails, letters, LinkedIn requests – try ’em all. all.
COMMUNITY TIPS from KeithFerrazzi.com
Never look at the gatekeepers. You may betray your doubts or hidden insecurities.
How one reader scored 30 minutes with Keith: At conferences where there is going to be a speaker that you really want to meet, draft a short, concise note as to who you are and why you want to meet and leave it at the front desk before the speaker arrives (assuming they are staying for an overnight). Be sure to include how to get in touch with you. The front desk agent will deliver your note to the speaker along with their room keys. This note WILL be read, because as far as the speaker knows, it could be last minute instructions relative to the speaking engagement itself. If you’ve made a compelling reason for meeting you can more often than not secure some face time with your target. –Jeff Burg Other reader tips: Never look at the gatekeepers. You may betray your doubts or hidden insecurities, and it may look as if you are seeking their approval. - Robert Ngwu, megasouk.com Remember the advice given by Arthur Ashe: “Regardless of how you feel inside, always try to look like a winner. Even if you are behind, a sustained look of control and confidence conf idence can give you a mental edge that results in victory.” – Darl Gleed, Gleed, http://start http://startuphawai uphawaii.com/ i.com/
COMMUNITY TIPS from KeithFerrazzi.com
Even Ari Gold listens to Lloyd once and a while.
Always treat the gatekeeper with respect! The AA of today can easily become the VP of tomorrow… A Starbucks Gift Card to thank a gatekeeper can go a long way… Even Ari Gold listens to Lloyd once and a while. – Kent Speakman, http://kentspeakman.wordpress.com / Be prepared to spend some time just chit-chatting with a gate-keeper as you would any colleague (“Any plans for the weekend?,” “Taken any holidays yet?,” etc). Too often, we’re so keen to get to our target that we try to rush past the gatekeeper. Greeting them by name on follow-up calls and visits also goes a long way, as does relating back to previous exchanges. I’ve made myself invaluable allies when I build rapport based o n a genuine interest in the person behind the reception desk. – Gerard Tannam, http://www.islandbridge.com/
