Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery by Somraj Pokras The Ultimate Ecstatic Solution to Premature Ejaculation: The Tantric Approach to Making Love For As Long As Your Partner Wants, While You Experience More Ecstasy Than You Ever Imagined Possible Tantra At Tahoe Sacred Sexuality Ebooks & Training The bad news first. According to some estimates, about 30 percent of American men reach orgasm earlier than they'd like to. Decades ago Alfred Kinsey, one of the early famous sex researchers, found that 75% of the men he tested ejaculated within two minutes of vaginal entry. Pretty quick, don't you think? Yeah, well, I can remember when I regularly beat that record. The good news is that this sad situation motivated sex therapists to develop successful solutions to premature ejaculation. And it spurred us Tantric folks to study the ancient texts for powerful secrets of mastering our orgasms. I've tried them all and some work tremendously. So I wrote an electronic book to share my experience with others who want to last longer. But there's more bad news. These traditional techniques of male orgasm mastery concentrate on control. Control requires always being careful. This puts you on guard and under constant tension. That kind of therapy is decidedly non-Tantric because you end up wound tighter than a spring. If you know anything about the ancient art and science of sacred sexuality, you must be aware that Tantra teaches us to relax, enjoy, and not resist. Besides, springs easily pop off if you tweak them, right? That's what we want to overcome. Let's Change Your Life Forever
When I set out to learn to last longer myself, I sought a pleasure-positive method that worked Tantrically. That's what started me reading, practicing, and developing Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. This volume is really my story about my love relationship with vajra (Tantric for penis), about creating more and more pleasure, and mastering vajras' ups and downs. I wrote this book so that you can become an orgasm master too. It's about how you can be at choice about cuming when you want to, or not. It's about you enjoying undreamed of pleasure for amazingly long periods of time. As I say in Chapter 1:
"The first thing you need to believe when you embark on the path of Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery is that there's nothing wrong with you. Cuming is a good thing. OK, it doesn't always happen when you want it to. Just consider it a timing problem. In the overwhelming majority of cases, you can change your timing with training. I know because I did. "If you choose this path, you're going to discover (if you don't already know) that ejaculation doesn't always have to accompany orgasm. That's how those who've learned these techniques have multiple orgasms, pleasurable spasm after spasm that go on and on without the squirting that for most of us ends the playtime." Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery goes into depth about the ten major causes of premature ejaculation. But for most of us, it's simply a learning gap that we can easily correct. We've been conditioned so that when we get turned on, something inside takes over and convinces us to just let go. I call that the "urge to cum." You can easily master this urge if you do the practices in my book. For a microsecond I don't want to give you the idea that there's anything wrong with this urge. The craving for pleasure is how we celebrate life in Tantra. Inner Orgasm, Really?
Chapter 1 continues: "As a result of over 30 years helping people change their behavior, I'm convinced that few succeed at stopping something they want to do, like cuming. The secret is to replace what you don't want with something better. Fortunately, Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery teaches something so much better that once you develop the knack of inner orgasm from the exercises in this book, you'll never want to go back to spraying your seed outside indiscriminately. "Inner orgasm, is that anything like inner tennis or golf? No, not really." You're familiar I'm sure with the outer explosive orgasm: the very pleasurable ten-second involuntary muscle contractions accompanied by releasing semen to the outside world. Believe it or not, it's quite possible to make those involuntary muscle contractions respond to your power of choice. So you get the fun without the wetness. Regardless of what's causing your desire to make a change in your lovemaking skills, energy is at the root of it. When Tantrikas refer to energy, we mean the nervous stimulation and physical excitation that feels like an electric current or magnetic field running through your body. Tantra practice is all about how to
conjure up sexual energy and circulate it. Why bother learning how to channel energy? Because if it all stays in your cock, the easiest place to move is outwards, and it makes you cum. Disperse it and you feel great all over without a sudden big gush. Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery teaches you to separate ejaculation from orgasm by infusing your whole body with that glorious energy. When you learn the orgasm mastery formula, you can avoid the contractions that initiate the emission of semen. When you're super turned on, you can still have those pelvic muscle contractions that feel so wonderful. That's what causes a dry or energy orgasm, a long series of slow pleasurable spasms with a rush of energy without ejaculating. I call these inner or implosive orgasms because you pump the energy back inside, circulate it over and over again, and reach higher and higher peaks. Now, here's the best news of all. When I have an inner orgasm, my arousal decreases dramatically. On the other side of that peak, I'm suddenly less sensitive. So I can stroke faster and pump vigorously while my excitement rebuilds slowly. By circulating my energy while I'm peaking, my love stamina is lengthened tremendously. And by repeating this cycle over and over, it becomes virtually unlimited. The Ultimate Approach
The secret formula of orgasm master presented in detail in Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery is RAMPER which stands for.. •
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Relaxing in high states of arousal is the foundation. Tantric lovemaking is typically much slower than the fast pumping you see in porno flicks. Just by going slower you'll be more relaxed, and relaxation lets you open your awareness, heighten your senses, and focus your mind. Focus on what? Why, on pleasure in the moment, of course. If you can appreciate how great your vajra feels now, you'll be more willing to relax and go slow. Chapter 2 explains:
"RAMPER requires you to tune in to your senses and sensations. So what do you do with this sharpened awareness? The M in RAMPER means to monitor and measure your level of arousal. If you know where your excitement level is, then you can play with it while stretching out your enjoyment and your partners'. The forces that turn us on aren't always obvious, and change from time to time. M is all about learning to read yourself so you know where you're at precisely. As you practice, you'll learn to measure your level of arousal as it climbs towards the point of no return. "P stands for Pacing yourself. It also stands for Pleasure. If your focus is on pleasure not orgasm, then you won't be rushing headlong towards a destination. You won't be in a race towards the finish line. You won't have a schedule to meet. You'll just slow down and enjoy. That's a big part of pacing." The key to pacing is peaking. Peaking means adjusting the stimuli that give you sudden surges of arousal so you come back down without going over the top. If you graphed peaking, it would look like a steep ascent and then a steep descent. Which is where it got its name. Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery is all about learning to ride the edge of the cliff, that fine line between absorbing all the pleasure you can take, and taking too much all at once and cuming. The E of RAMPER stands for energy and circulating it away from your genitals. Chapter 2 continues: "So here's a vital part of your initiation, you lucky stiff. Instead of shooting for the Big O, as your arousal builds, redirect your energy up, around, and throughout your body, allowing it to carry you to higher and higher levels of pleasure. Some say it will fuel your brain with cosmic energy and give you psychedelic visions. Whatever. Not only will it feel ecstatic, but since you won't be depleting your energy, you'll be able to last and last and last." It's All About Riding The Wave
The last R of RAMPER is about Riding the wave of ecstasy. As Chapter 2 explains: "That's why the acronym RAMPER is so apt, describing how your pleasure ramps up. Most of us who cum quick never experience these escalating plateaus.
We never develop our capacity to absorb more and more pleasure. When you do, it feels like ecstatic waves surging inside." Once you've experienced a non-stop whole-body inner orgasm, you can understand how the typical male's fascination with squirting a big load pales by comparison. This is why we call Tantric lovemaking sexual meditation. I hope this brief overview of the Tantric approach to orgasm mastery helps. Unfortunately, in my experience, just reading about RAMPER won't change your life forever. Tantra requires practice to change your habits and energy patterns. That's why Chapters 3 through 7 of Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery are primarily made up of exercises that you do in the privacy of your own bed. There's no room to include them all here, but a sample follows. Chapters 3 and 4 are about solo practices you can do to learn about your own energy, arousal, and sexual patterns. The second half of the book, beginning with Chapter 5 relies on a partner to develop orgasm mastery. After all, it takes two to Tantra, right? I've included one of the exercises from Chapter 5 where you begin applying these joint skills. This exercise is based on a fundamental Tantric practice, sexual breathing. This is slow rhythmic deep belly breathing accompanied by the sounds and movement you experience during orgasm. Learn this and you'll understand why the breath is such a dominant force in running sexual energy. Exercise: Partner Breath Peaking
In this practice, you're going to use sexual breathing to spread your excitement away from your hot spots like you did in the solo Breath Peaking exercise. 1. Use a comfortable position for both of you. 2. After preliminaries like talking, relaxing, breathing, and full body sensual massage, ask your partner to begin stroking vajra and your testicles slowly. You decide whether you want your partner to start with a dry or lubricated hand, depending on how sensitive you feel and how well you've been doing with previous mastery exercises. 3. While receiving pleasure, be sure to continue sexual breathing: inhaling slowly and deeply in the belly, rocking your hips, undulating your body, squeezing your sexual muscles, and pumping the energy up your body. 4. When you reach a medium level of excitement, instead of stopping stimulation like you did in earlier exercises, ask your partner to slow down slightly. Open your eyes wide, inhale more deeply into the belly, but this time through the NOSE, and hold your breath. 5. Relax completely as you exhale, visualizing your sexual fire streaming out of vajra, and moaning with pleasure to release energy.
6. Inhale again through the nose, visualizing that pleasurable energy moving up vajra through your pelvis to your heart and higher. Use one long or several short pumps of your pelvic muscles to help you shoot the energy upwards. 7. Can you feel your excitement lessen simply by slowing your breath? Play with it until you can. See how long you can maintain a high peak while you adjust your breathing. Use some of the techniques from Chapter 4 to interrupt ejaculation if you need to. Guide your partner to stop and start stimulation and use subtle adjustments as required. 8. Repeat the exercise five more times at this level of excitement, and then repeat the cycle at increasingly higher levels of arousal. 9. As you practice and get closer and closer to cuming, see if you can back off your arousal level just by slowing and deepening your breath without your partner changing anything. When you can balance on the very edge of the point of no return, you're bound to experience implosive orgasms, where you vibrate inside and stream the energy upward without squirting. 10.Exchange roles and manually pleasure your partner, carefully following the guidance you receive. Tantric Mastery
Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery culminates in you mastering the ability to ride the wave of Tantric lovemaking. As Chapter 7 explains: "It's a wave of orgasmic energy, of love bliss, of ecstatic delirium, of spiritual rapture. Once you experience it fully, it will transform your life. Let me warn you, you won't be satisfied with pure animal lust anymore. When you taste your connection to the divine, you will want to stay home in bed, basking in the mindless serenity. "The moment of orgasm is the closest most people come to communion with their inner being and God. Tantra teaches that this experience is a brief glimpse into our true divine nature: ecstatic in the body, compassionate in the heart, empty in the mind, blissful in the spirit. To get a taste of this exalted condition, just imagine the powerful experience of prolonged and multiple orgasms. "Tantric Love Play is more like sensuously sipping an expensive Cabernet than chugging a six-pack of brew. It more resembles sampling the delicacies at a gourmet buffet than inhaling a pepperoni pizza during Monday Night Football. It's certainly more like a twilight stroll through a perfumed garden during Spring with your beloved on your arm than running a hundred-yard dash. "Tantric Love Play is leisurely, savoring every delicious morsel of pleasure, instead of rushing headlong towards maximum turn-on now. Tantric lovers
move so slowly, stopping frequently to settle deeply into the rising tide of pleasure, stretching the experience out as long as possible. Releasing tension and giving in to the urge to cum gets replaced with continuous streaming vibrations of ecstatic energy. When we enter the altered state of consciousness that comes with repeated implosive orgasms, we simply want to float in a cloud of bliss together." Final Words
Well, that's my story and I'm sticking to it. My sex life is certainly transformed, and I hope yours will become too. As you're well aware, there are many paths of transformation. Of course, the one I recommend is explained in detail in my electronic book, Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. More details follow if you want the whole sales pitch. Regardless, I'd appreciate your feedback at
[email protected]. Electronic Book Objectives By learning what's in Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery, you'll master... •
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modern and ancient proven secrets of prolonged lovemaking for men, how to have S.E.X. (that's Subtle Energy eXchange) a smorgasbord of techniques to stop you from cuming when you choose, how to direct that powerful urge to cum inward instead of outward, channeling ecstatic energy to your pleasure centers, and the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution to premature ejaculation.
The heart of Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery is proven to be 95% successful if you're willing to practice with your sex energy. And hey, that's lots of fun, right? It contains... •
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A complete summary of the best techniques from all over the world. A 150 page personal training program containing 50 exercises for sexual muscle building and a way to choose the right ones for your situation. A fun way to learn to have different kinds of orgasms than you're used to. Multiple answers to every possible question in a pragmatic way. The Tantric path of love on multiple levels, including sex, heart, and spirit How to be the kind of lover that women crave. A personal training program using a gradual step-by-step teaching method.
Since it's an electronic book, your purchase and participation remains confidential, though of course you can print a copy for your own private use. Electronic Book Contents Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery contains... •
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the causes, solutions, mechanics, and anatomy of orgasm graphic stories of erotic play 30 solo exercises that help you prepare for partner work surefire ways to learn pacing, peaking, and plateauing a smorgasbord of physical techniques to interrupt ejaculation 18 partner exercises based on everything you learned solo. 33 sexual positions and how they affect arousal methods to recruit and brief sexual partners, and actual advice from Tantric Goddesses experienced in teaching orgasm mastery..
Chapter 1, Introduction, explains how the book's contents actually address the major sexual challenge of orgasm mastery. Chapter 2, Mechanics, describes the anatomy and causes of premature ejaculation, the 10-point scale for measuring arousal, the RAMPER secret formula in depth, and where Tantric sacred sexuality fits in. Chapter 3, Solo Prep, contains 17 solo exercises to prepare you for greater sexual stamina, including pelvic muscle exercises and guidelines about how often to ejaculate at your age once you gain mastery. Chapter 4, Solo Mastery, includes 13 solo exercises to master orgasms using peaking, plateauing, sexual breathing, and channeling energy. Chapter 5, Partner Prep, presents 9 dual exercises to develop longer lovemaking skills, including guidelines to finding and working with a love partner, giving sexual feedback, and manual and oral techniques. Chapter 6, Lovemaking, focuses on 9 partner exercises to develop supreme patience for greater sexual stamina, including 5 main sexual positions with 33 variations. Chapter 7, Tantric Mastery, presents the Ultimate Ecstatic Solution for total Tantric orgasm mastery with detailed instructions on how to practice the 6 stage Heart-Centered Love Ritual which culminates in riding the wave of orgasmic energy, love bliss, ecstatic delirium, and spiritual rapture.
Chapter 8, Final Thoughts, contains summary advice and continuing recommendations, resources to answer any remaining questions, a modern and ancient bibliography, 27 music recommendations, and the Glossary of Tantric and sex terms. Are You Ready? Well, you've read my introduction to Ultimate Ejaculation Mastery. You understand its promise. You know what you need. It's time to make your move and invest a little in your ecstatic sexual future. Please buy my ebook now. It's less than $25. You deserve it. Place your order via credit card using our secure server at: Tantra At Tahoe Sacred Sexuality Ebooks & Training
In the past, sexual exercises were not merely a way to enhance sexual pleasure or become more attractive. These exercises were a means to enjoy a more vigorous and healthy body, a way to become sensitive to deeper and more intense emotions and to cultivate spiritual energy. The Taoists believed that the body would stay healthy and youthful as long as it was able to reproduce. When the reproductive energy was in a decline, the body would retaliate with sickness or emotional insecurity. In the East as well as in the West, exercise is a crucial way to keep the body healthy. But when it comes to increasing sexual energy, the teachers of the East have taken exercise to a higher level. To strengthen our sexual energy and thus strengthen the senses and the whole body, the Eastern traditions have developed exercises that focus specifically on the sexual area. By strengthening the sexual organs through exercise and massage, we actually affect the rest of the body and senses. It is believed that the sexual organs are the strongest reflex points in the body and when stimulated in the proper way can have a powerful healing effect on the senses and internal organs, making you healthier and more sexy. There are pelvic exercises that greatly strengthen the reproductive organs and the complex network of tendons in the surrounding area. Strength in this department is of great importance; it is the root of both a man's and a woman's health. Leading into the pelvis are a vast number of nerve endings and channels for the veins and
arteries. Here are located tissues that communicate with every square inch of the body. All the major acupuncture meridians that carry energy between the body and the vital organs pass by this area. If it is blocked or weak, energy will dissipate and the organs and brain will suffer. These exercises are designed to charge the brain with energy, increase circulation, stimulate nerve flow, strengthen the urogenital diaphragm, and tonify the energy of the sexual organs. Because they focus on enhancing the strength and energy of the sexual area, we have called this workout "sexercises". In the Taoist view of sexual health, it is important to cultivate our sexual energy rather than needlessly wasting it. For men this means regulating and controlling ejaculation. For women it means working with and balancing the female menstruation cycle. If men ejaculate too often, it depletes the source of vital energy, not allowing the water of life to spread to the rest of the body. The importance of a man's retaining semen is emphasized over and over again in Taoist literature, which is dramatically different from the religious idea of celibacy. In the Tao, regulating and managing ejaculation does not mean becoming a celibate. The basic purpose of these methods is to increase, as much as possible, the quantity of the lifegiving, age-retarding hormones secreted in a man's body during sexual excitement while at the same time decreasing, as much as possible, the loss of semen and its related hormones through ejaculation. All schools of Taoism agree that semen retention and proper regulation of its emission are indispensable skills for male adepts. To understand more about this concept, I recommend reading The MultiOrgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abram and Taoist Secrets of Love by Mantak Chia. Breathing Exercises
There is one way of breathing that is shameful and constricted. Then there's another way: a breath of love that takes you all the way to infinity. The first step to becoming a more sexually powerful person is to learn how to breathe properly. Many of the sexercises require a certain level of breath control, and when you learn to breathe properly, the exercises become much easier and much more powerful. Breathing exercises are a direct way to control stress. For example, think about how you breathe when you are in a terribly stressful situation. The breath gets jammed up in the chest with short, shallow gasps that barely allow oxygen into the lungs. Under extreme circumstances the breath
might become almost nonexistent. With this type of breathing, life-enhancing oxygen does not flow freely through the body. This creates stress and tension, lodging it in the body rather than allowing it to be processed and released. Long ago in Chinese medicine it was discovered that the breath is a direct reflection of the emotional state of the body. When someone is sad, the person breathes in short, inhaling gasps, locking the air in the upper chest. When someone is angry, the breath is usually long, contracted exhales, with desperately short inhalations. Even when we are not feeling very emotional, the breath will still reflect the general overall feelings in the body, which are often not very empowering. Just as correct diet enhances the body's store of nutritional essence, so correct breathing enhances the body's supply of vital energy. Proper breathing is performed by the diaphragm, not the rib cage and the clavicles. Because of laziness, ignorance, smoking, pollution, constipation, and other factors, adults these days invariably become shallow chest breathers rather than the deep abdominal breathers that we are meant to be. All true martial arts and meditation practices use the breath as the gate to control the body. Breathing abdominally is the most natural thing; it is just that we have forgotten how we used to breathe. Have you ever watched a baby breathe? Notice how the stomach or abdomen does the breathing, not the chest. This is the natural way, the way we have to return to. Chest breathing employs the intercostal muscles between the ribs to forcibly expand the upper rib cage, thereby lowering air pressure in the chest so that air enters by suction. However, this leaves the lower lungs, which contain by far the greatest surface area, immobilized. Consequently one must take about three times as many chest breaths in order to get the same quantity of air into the lungs as provided by a single diaphragmatic breath. Deep Abdominal Breathing (for Men and Women)
A complete, deep, abdominal breath should employ three areas of the lungs in a smooth, unbroken expansion that begins at the bottom, in the abdomen, and not in the upper chest. One first inhales air slowly into the lower lungs by letting the diaphragm expand and balloon downward into the abdominal cavity. When the diaphragm is fully expanded, the intercostal muscles come into play to open the rib cage and fill the middle lungs with air. As the rib cage reaches full expansion, the breather utilizes the clavicles so that air flows into the narrow upper pockets of the lungs.
Exhale in the reverse manner, releasing air from the upper part of the chest, downward through the ribs, finally expelling the air out the lower lungs by slightly contracting the abdomen. Breathing with the diaphragm in this manner reduces the number of breaths per minute by more than half, greatly enhances respiratory efficiency, saves the heart from strain, and conserves vital energy. This type of breathing has many benefits for the body and emotions. When we are able to breathe in this manner, the body automatically takes it as a sign to be relaxed and calm. This is one of the best ways to combat the stress of everyday life. If you can practice deep abdominal breathing whenever you have a few extra minutes, driving the car, standing in line, waiting for the dentist, or anywhere else you can imagine; great benefits will result. With practice, your body will soon automatically start breathing deeper without conscious intention. Deep abdominal breathing activates the cranial and sacral pumps, movement of minute bone structures that keep the spinal fluid moving in the joints and cranium. Spinal fluid and seminal fluid are very similar in nature. Deep abdominal breathing is a wonderful exercise for increasing sexual energy. It sends energy down through the urogenital diaphragm, loosening and relaxing the whole pelvic cavity. Without deep breathing, the lower abdomen has a tendency to become tight and contracted. This leads to low sexual energy or uncontrollable sexual energy. With this tightness in the abdomen, there is inevitably an imbalance throughout the sexual area. For men, tightness can cause premature ejaculation, nocturnal emissions, impotence, or sexual frustration. For women, this tightness can cause menstrual cramps, frigid sexual energy, PMS, and other more complicated emotional problems. Energy Breathing (for Men and Women)
The energy breath is performed by rapidly expelling air out of the lungs and is designed to create efficient circulation, strengthening the energy of the lower abdominal area. Imagine that there is a small fire right behind the navel. To build this small spark into a vibrant fire requires air. As you perform the exercise, the breath should sound like a bellows fanning a fire. Start by forcefully expelling all air from the lungs with a strong contraction of the abdominal wall. Immediately after the expulsion of air, let the lungs fill naturally without effort, about halfway. When the lungs are half full, immediately contract the abdominal wall again to forcefully expel another gust of air. The exercise should consist of about twenty to thirty rapid expulsions of
air. This strengthens and energizes the lower abdominal area (Sexual Palace and Lower Tan Tien). from the book: Sexual Reflexology - Activating the Taoist Points of Love by Mantak Chia & William U. Wei
