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CONTENTS 4.10 Working on you yourr Ego – Cont Continu inuing ing the SHAMEL SHAMELESS ESS Self-Assessme Self-Assessment nt . . . . . . . . . 5 Masteri Mastering ng Nat Natura urall Game Game 5.11 Ho 5. How w to Pull Pull to NOT NOT your your Pla Place ce . . . . . . . . . . 5.2 Ho How w to to Pull Pull from from Da Dayga ygame me . . . . . . . . . . . . 5.3 In Introd troduci ucing ng The No Game Game – Passive Passive Attr Attract action ion . 5.4 Pass Passive ive Attr Attraction action through Others . . . . . . . . 5.5 The Social Social Chame Chameleo leon n – Perfect Perfect Calib Calibrati ration on . . . 5.6 Fin Findin dingg her Bluepri Blueprint nt + Lettin Lettingg her chase chase YOU 5.7 Lea Learni rning ng fro from m a New Newbie bie . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5.8 The Pow Power er of What What you you DON’T DON’T Say Say . . . . . . . 5.9 Sil Silen entt Pul Pullin lingg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
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Chapter 1 Defining your New World
1.1 1.1
What What Guy Guy do do Wom Women en Wan Wantt
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Your appearance can hinder you, if she hasn’t spoken with you yet.
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You can be rejected by your looks, but it barely ever happens.
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Looks give you permission, that’s all all..
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Give yourself permission (with looks or not). not) .
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Leverage your looks. looks.
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“There must must be something about this guy. . . ” Without the right right looks and awesome awesome confidence, confidence, you stand out from everyone.
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Do take care of yourself yourself physically physically.. It shows that you respect yourself, yourself, that you live up to your potential. potential . – Eat healthy. – Go to the gym. – (Basic) Hygiene: good breath, perfume and face cream.
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Money – Rich people don’t give a fuck. They have a purpose. They come from abundance. – They have been through adversity, which means to build something from nothing. – Beta Beta Male Behaviou Behaviourr = Mediocrity at Best. Best . – Alpha Alpha Male Male Behav Behaviou iourr = Rich Guy Behaviour people.
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Girls want the nice guy, but they react to the douchebag.
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NEVER TAKE GIRLS ADVICE FROM GIRLS. GIRLS .
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CHARACTERISTICS OF A TRUE NATURAL – He’s a Leader: show her your world. We are sheep, we don’t want to lead, we want to follow. Do them a favour, and let them follow you. He invites people (“Hey guys, let’s do this. . . ”). – Humor: humor about her (do not take her too seriously) and humor about him. Come up with stupid spontaneous things. – He’s Social. – He doesn’t Judge People: judgement is always a reflection of self-hate. Stop judging. – He has Goals: he is busy doing his own thing. If you are passionate about something, that is reflected in bed. – He’s Unapologetic: he’s totally good with himself. – He’s always in a good mood (despite adversity): no matter what’s going to happen, he will be fine. – BELIEVE: YOU’RE GONNA BE FINE, NO MATTER WHAT. – He has his own Reality: he doesn’t make other people’s opinion dictate his reality.
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Self-Assessment
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Redefining your new reality.
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First of all: Where am I? – If you don’t have results with girls, you are not good with girls! – Be shameless!
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Second: How do I come across to people? Last one: What is my personality like? WHAT ARE MY GOALS?
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Be crazy in your dreams.
– Short-, Mid-, Long-term Goals with Success with Women and People – What will it take to get there? •
How do I want to come across to people + What will it take me to get there?
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What do I want my personality to be like?
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It’s going to be your “YOU 2.0”.
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Let’s write a CONTRACT! – Read that shit out loud every day! – After getting up in the morning, before going to bed at night, before doing anything that scares you. 2
1.3. A Natural’s Frames
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A Natural’s Frames
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Frame = The way you look at the World.
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Train yourself to be optimistic.
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There are frames that bring you down and frames that lift you up.
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Your frame is supposed to help you on your journey.
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Your voice will always be there, but you can CHANGE YOUR VOICE .
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FRAMES – Game Frame: Helpful with Girls and People in General – Personal Frame: Things you honestly Life/Dislike; what makes you unique; How strong are your values; Learn to say NO (super attractive); I don’t want to be around people that drag themselves and others down, that are manipulative – I AM ATTRACTIVE, BECAUSE: it can be a Frame or part of a Frame
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CALL TO ACTION: Set up your Frame. – Read that Frame Out to You Every. Fucking. Day. – Play epic music in the background, and read your Frame out loud to you.
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How to Feel Good Enough
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Get rid of any question or thought of Am I Good Enough .
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Be aware of who you are.
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Be aware of what you want in Life
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GO YOUR WAY.
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Your Purpose as a Man is to Give Love
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“I’m still doing my Art, even when shit is being thrown at me”.
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EMBRACE THE UNKNOWN
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TRUE SELF-CONFIDENCE: NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, I’LL BE FINE.
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Overcoming Hardship: the more you get blown out in Game, the better.
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Lower her Standards: just act normal among any 10. Don’t try hard on her (Beta-Male Behaviour), just focus on BEING instead of DOING.
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Girls will never fuck you because of your Game. They will fuck you because of YOU.
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your need for external validation is eradicated.
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Love in terms of your passion, work, thoughts. . .
Come at me, let’s do this together.
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STAY IN SET
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The biggest IoI (Indicator of Interest): the girl is still there.
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Don’t prematurely escalate.
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“Am I Good Enough? WHY THE FUCK NOT?”
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Don’t believe everything your thoughts tell you. Reframe your reality.
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Chapter 2 Social Dynamics
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Sex and Society
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Society is full of Beta Males.
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Society’s view on sex = Beta Male’s view on sex.
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Madonna – Whore Dynamics – There are whores on one side, and there are Madonnas on the other side. – This leads to the Suppression of Female Sexuality. – Every girl wants to be seen as a Madonna, so that they cannot be judged. – The Female Body is depicted everywhere – billboards, commercials, porn. . .
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Girls’ Archaic Core: They love Sex.
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Socially Conditioned Layer: You can’t like Sex.
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Learning Pick Up gives you the Power of Choice .
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We have lost our Masculinity and Feminism Core Dynamics
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“When I pick up a girl, is just fun, fun, fun, and the last joke is my dick inside her.” Tyler
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Girls have it more difficult than us
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Hollywood has torn apart Man – Woman
Confusion, Frustration. . .
SEX – Sex is wonderful. Sex is Natural. – Everybody has sex.
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HOOKING UP – If two people like each other, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with hooking up. – Age is just a number. The color doesn’t matter. . . 5
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MADONNA-WHORE COMPLEX – Girls have a little bit of both. – Make the girl feel okay with both sides (Madonna and Whore). – You should encourage her, and not to judge her, because of her Whore (Archaic Core) and Madonna side.
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LOVE – Happens naturally and is based on Sexual Arousal. – You cannot love someone if you haven’t had Sex with her. – A relationship should always be the result of Abundance, not Scarcity. – “Of all these girls I met, I can say this girl is amazing, and although I don’t need her, I would choose her.”
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Never brag about your sexual encounters. Let people do it for you.
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Girls will invest in you even more – “I’m going to be the one to make him my boyfriend.”
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Girls – Which to Avoid, which to Engage with
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You attract the Girls you are Yourself .
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Low Self Esteem Girls (LSE) – They are highly manipulative, because their reality consists of such a bad self-picture of themselves, and they think everybody else must feel the same as them. – They are aggressive (or passive aggressive), or even desperate. – They are drama queens – if they start a fight for no reason, only to get the attention. – They test you a lot (Shittests) – their shittests have no boundaries! (ex.: burn the dancefloor) – They behave differently among different kinds of people. – They love being the VICTIM. – Drug abuse, alcohol abuse. . . – They LOVE VALIDATION. – They put People down.
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The Halo Effect – when we see a pretty girl, we automatically project the perfect lifestyle of hers, we get soaked into her world. 6
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With LSE girls, only engage with them for One Night Stands, maximum Fuck buddies. They can fuck up your life.
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Low Self-Esteem + Low Sex Drive (LSE + LSD) lested...)
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Choose a girl with positive manipulations.
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A High Self-Esteem girl treats you well IF YOU TREAT HER WELL, and treats you badly IF YOU TREAT HER BADLY!
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A High Self-Esteem girl just says “Thank you” for you complimenting her .
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Older girls are usually HSE.
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High Self-Esteem + High Sex Drive (HSE + HSD) – Welcome to Heaven!
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Know your Worth. Don’t quickly categorize girls.
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Don’t judge girls.
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Women and (Alpha) Males Women like Alpha Males, but sometimes they do what Society tells them
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get a Beta male!
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Still, sooner or later, they feel the need of having an Alpha Male again, to satisfy their sexuality.
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DO YOURSELF THE FAVOUR, DO THE GIRLS THE FAVOUR AND BECOME AN ALPHA MALE.
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A girl wants an Alpha Male’s genes .
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ONCE THE WOMAN FULLY REALIZES THAT SHE OWNS THE ALPHA MALE, SHE LOSES INTEREST.
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1st Possibility: Women take an Alpha Male and turn him into a beta male – This is a Shittest. – “How well are you going to stay on your Purpose?”
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The Alpha Male fucks her well, the Beta Male provides her the resources.
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Girls will tell you much to open yourself more to her, to be more available, to have more time for her. . . All these things, but secretly, deep down inside, they hope that you don’t.
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Another possibility is: – The girl has one Beta Male + One/Multiple Alpha Males OR – Multiple Beta Males + One/Multiple Alpha Males.
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Women fluctuate between extreme Alpha and extreme Beta .
Beta-Ization and Shittests SHITTESTS UNDERLYING COMMUNICATION – “How well are you going to remain on your purpose/Hold the Frame.” – “How well are you going to fuck me?”
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You don’t have to pass all the Shittests.
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LIST OF SHITTESTS – Jealousy – the Beta male will be very reactive (become butt hurt). The PUA guy will call her, confront her. The Natural looks her deeply in the eyes, listens to what she says, and then tells her: “You know what? That guy sounds amazing! Do you have his number? You should call him. You should fuck him, he is amazing! So anyway. . . ” – I’m not sure about my Feelings about you – the Natural understands her – “I totally feel you, girl. How can you be sure about anything? You’re great”. Kiss her and leave her alone with her bullshit. Give her a DHV (Demonstration of High Value), and tell her you had to leave to meet another girl, for example. – Either them or Me! – the Natural listens to her carefully, holds strong eye contact, smiles at her, hugs her and gives her one of the most attractive words in the world: No. . . – You’re a Player! – the Natural humors about it – “I’m a Virgin” OR “Yes, I may be a Player, I love meeting girls, girls are beautiful, I love having sex with other girls, but that doesn’t mean I don’t respect you, Lisa. You’re an amazing girl, I love hanging out with you. And whenever I am with you, I love being with you.” – You say that to all the Girls – the Natural humors about it, again – “You see an attractive person on the streets, and maybe you will never see her again, so why not giving a shot and approach her, why not?” Always be honest and unapologetic. – You just want to Fuck me! – the Natural looks up and down to her and says: “Of course I wanna fuck you, you’re gorgeous, you’re amazing. So anyway. . . ” – Girl Freeze Outs – maybe going to the bathroom OR “Wait here for me.” The Natural follows her to the bathroom and interacts with other people/girls on the way, and when she leaves the bathroom, introduce her to your new friends. – She doesn’t text back – the Natural doesn’t care if she responds or not, and spends more time doing his stuff, hustling during that extra time, and hits on another girl. Later, send her something of LOW INVESTMENT (never a question), like a funny image or text her a strange situation you just witnessed in front of you (in the supermarket, college, bar. . . ). You can also use Social Media to your advantage, and make sure she knows what you’re doing (partying, having fun, meeting girls, traveling. . . ) 8
2.5. Why Men & Women are so Different and Why this is GOOD! – She shows up Late – the Natural doesn’t care (he is late himself) and doesn’t judge her for that. After 15 min, text her (if you want to) or approach another girls. – She dumps her problems on you – the Natural asks for a hug, kisses her, and changes her topic. You don’t want to become a therapist, if you are not in a long term relationship. •
NEVER BE BUTT HURT.
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Show her that you have a strong frame .
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Show her your World.
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EYE CONTACT – It is very important. . . – Always hold extremely eye contact when they are giving you shit OR when you are asking her questions. – “Stop looking at my lips, look here!”
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Always be aware of the difference between Shittests and REAL COMFORT TESTS . – Open yourself up to a certain degree. – Always be fully honest with girls.
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Why Men & Women are so Different and Why this is GOOD!
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Men and Women couldn’t be more different from each other (Ying Yang).
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Men’s Main Drive = Logic.
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Women’s Main Drive = Emotions.
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GIRLS USUAL BEHAVIOUR | WHAT THEY LOVE DOING, BECAUSE THEY ARE EMOTIONAL. – Flaking – Crying – Gossip – Drama ∗ Healthy drama: Role playing. ∗
Asking you to dominate her in bed. You can start dominating her.
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Healthy drama: Girls negging you.
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Unhealthy drama: Don’t touch me, fuck off (typical of LSE girls).
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2. Social Dynamics
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A Hot Girl’s Reality
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Hot girls get approached quite a lot.
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Generally, the hotter the girl, the weirder the way she gets approached.
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Hot girls are overwhelmed with boredom.
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“Attraction based Game” is trying to Show Off .
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They all expect the same compliments. Guys try hard a lot, put them on a pedestal, they are nervous.
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GIRLS LOVE THE CHALLENGE OF THE COOL GUY/THE FREE STALLION.
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Hot Girls experience a Validation Overdose – It leads to boredom, because all guys try to do the same. – Too much positive feedback scatters our reality. not. It’s the same with hot girls.
We think we are the shit, but we’re
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The Halo Effect – the more beautiful the person is, the more we project a perfect lifestyle onto them.
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They take a shit, they shave their armpits, maybe she is not that pretty every morning. They are still human beings! Still, guys don’t look at them like that.
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EVERY HOT GIRL JUST WANTS TO BE SILLY .
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EVERY HOT GIRL WANTS TO BE LOVED FOR WHO SHE IS.
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EVERY HOT GIRL IS AFRAID OF GETTING HURT.
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EVERY HOT GIRL IS AFRAID OF HURTING THE PERFECT IMAGE THAT IS PROJECTED ONTO HER.
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Hot Girls are seeking Relatability – Likes her as she is. – Although they have abundance, they don’t have GOOD ABUNDANCE.
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Hot Girls feel Isolated.
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There is massive competition among every hot girls.
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They have extremely high amount of options, but scarcity of good options .
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DON’T BE TRY-HARD.
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AROUSAL INSTEAD OF ATTRACTION.
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There’s no different kind of Game for 9s and 10s. ASSUME EQUAL VALUE.
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SEE THE LITTLE GIRL INSIDE HER, AND BE SILLY.
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Challenge her. Let her work for the Physicality.
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Don’t take her too seriously, don’t take yourself too seriously, don’t take the interaction too seriously.
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Girls need to relax first, then sexual arousal happens later .
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3 Pillars of Natural Seduction – Attraction, Arousal, Connection Every interaction is a combination of the 3 pillars of seduction.
1. ATTRACTION •
Gets you the attention of the girl, ONLY .
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The easiest to omit.
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Attraction is easily negligible.
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Your state can create attraction.
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It is very subtle.
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Arousal takes time.
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Step 1: Take the pressure off yourself → Law of State Transference pressure of her too.
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Step 2: The Girl feels at ease with the situation.
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Step 3: Sexual Arousal.
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Avoid the set dying down: spice up the interaction.
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– Expression: say what you feel and think about anything. Express yourself. – Physicality: followed by calibration. – Taking her/yourself too seriously: laughing always breaks the ice. – Leading: take her hand and go with her. – Storytelling. •
Stand your ground in the face of her shittests.
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The biggest IoI the Girl can give you: SHE’S STILL THERE!
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The Natural fully trusts in arousal.
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Fastest way to connect with her: Talk about your feelings – Childhood, 1 st vacation. . . “What’s your story?”
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Chapter 3 Building a Solid Foundation
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How to Overcome Approach Anxiety
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Approach anxiety will never go away .
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ACCEPT AND EMBRACE APPROACH ANXIETY. TRANSFER FEAR INTO EXCITEMENT.
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EXERCISE: Walk down a busy street and start clapping, fully.
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Other people don’t give a shit about you, dude. Don’t overestimate them.
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WARMUP – Start giving random compliments to anyone passing by. – The Golden phone call – call a funny buddy to transfer your state to a more talkative one. You can use the phone to open someone – “Hey, excuse me? It’s for you.”
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ACCEPT THE MESSINESS/AWKWARDNESS.
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Approach = Open + Calibration (in that order)
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The moment I said I, I already Won .
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Stop scanning for Hotness.
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IT STARTS IN FRONT OF YOUR DOOR.
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Nothing bad happens when you talk to people. Everybody is your friend.
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Acknowledge your fear, accept it, approach, and let it go .
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RESISTANCE MEANS YOU GOTTA DO IT!
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You can go Direct (tell upfront that you like her) or Indirect.
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Make your compliment relevant and different.
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Ex.: “I love your style” (elegant, sporty); “I love how the color of your shoes matches with your hair”; “I love the way you walk.”
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For Daygame, have Statement of Empathy (i.e. I know this is kinda weird, but I just. . . ).
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Cold Reading, i.e. make up things about her based on her style. You are a free spirit, you are easygoing person.
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Indirect: anything the situation gives you.
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Link it to her, don’t get stuck on the opener – make it relevant!
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Becoming Social
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Start talking to people.
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Start being interested in people.
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Every single interaction will get you better.
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Take out your headphones, forget your cell phone. Talk to your office mates, people at the metro, at university, etc.
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Make positive assumptions instead of asking questions.
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An Alpha Male loves getting to know new people.
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While you’re being social, practice implementing the natural traits of an alpha male. – Be a Leader. – Humor – Ask yourself: “Am I having fun?” – Invite people. – Be Unapologetic. Don’t lecture other people, unless they ask for advice, even though they are stupid. – Stay at ease. Trust that, whatever happens, you will be fine.
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People will respect you. They won’t always like you, but they will respect you.
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Natural Verbal Game
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It is simple.
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There are 4 rules of verbal game: 1. It’s not about what you say, it’s about how you say it – a) Paint pictures in her head. – b) Write songs in her head (not just songs, but also nature sounds). – c) Talk about your feelings. 2. Talk about your passions – It is a preview of how sex would be with you. – Video games, music, travelling. 3. No Filters 4. Chain of Associations (or Free Associations) – Whatever the person told you, you pick 1 or 2 things and start associating them in a chain of thoughts. – EXERCISE: Game objects that you have around you (glass, notepad, pen. . . ) ∗ Do it every day, at least once! ∗
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If you can game a glass, you can game any girl!
How to DHV through Storytelling – Use Trigger Words ∗
Freedom
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Climax
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Orgasm
– Do Pauses ∗
It makes it more impactful.
– Talk in a Relaxed manner – Intonation ∗
NEVER REPEAT WHAT THE GIRL JUST SAID!
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– Volume ∗
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CALL TO ACTION: GO OUT TODAY! Use DHV Storytelling. Talk about 2 of your passions today. Tell a story using 1a 1b 1c. 15
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Body Language of a Winner
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Eye Contact – “Yes, I’m approaching you, deal with that.”
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Lean backwards when talking to a girl on the phone. Open body language.
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Put yourself beside the girl and face her when asking her something or listening to her. Then get back to facing the balcony. This makes the girl invest in you.
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Always put yourself in a position of advantage – standing tall against a wall or corner, so that when a girl comes it is easier to make out with her or let her initiate it.
3.6
How to Learn Smarter & Faster
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Never rationalize when being on set! Do it at home.
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If literally everything has been turning into shit in the field, do the 5 Seconds quick Assessment.
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WRITE FIELD REPORTS – It is a way of self-assessing you. – Write what went good, what went wrong and what you can do next time to improve yourself. – REMEMBER YOUR CONTRACT!
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Take educated guesses! Try to figure out what you have to improve.
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Make things epic!
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Always say to yourself: ONE MORE!
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SOAK UP LESSONS LIKE A SPONGE.
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Physicality Physical Escalation is one thing and one thing only: CALIBRATION. No Response
1. Stop. 2. Take a physical step back. 3. Statement of Empathy. (“Sorry, sorry, I’m just in a good mood.”) 4. Stay in a good mood. •
Neutral Response (she doesn’t react)
– Tone it back, try again later.
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Yes Response
– Stack it Up (More and more physicality as long as there’s a “Yes”). •
Use physicality to Ping – to see where you are in the interaction). Still, always assume that she likes you.
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Start listening to your gut feeling.
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CALL TO ACTION: Go out and practice physicality and be aware if it’s a Yes/No/Neutral.
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How Girls show they’re Interested
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Don’t focus on what she says!
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It’s very very very subtle.
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If a girl opens you.
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If a girl always happens to be around you.
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When the girl is touching her hair.
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When the girl crosses her legs.
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When the girl is touching you out of the blue (some girls just do that with everybody so, in this case, it doesn’t make it an indicator). The biggest IoI a girl can give you: the girl is still there.
How to Deal with Rejection Prove yourself that nothing bad happens when you get rejected. – Look at your hands, look yourself in the mirror, grab your balls, your penis. . .
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Rejection will never stop, but you learn how to deal with it (you can change your perception about it).
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Use rejection to self-amuse. Laugh about it.
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Use the rejection to open other girls. They see you getting rejected, but they also see you not giving a fuck! Never be butthurt! Laugh when if she rejects you.
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Rejection is good for you.
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Still take that feedback from rejection.
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Confidence doesn’t come from winning. True Confidence comes from losing and shameless self-assessment, and getting the fuck back up!
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CALL TO ACTION: “Crash and Burn” (make everything to be rejected). 1. You will realize it takes a lot of mistakes to be rejected! 2. It’s not that bad when that happens.
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Long Lasting First Impressions (The 3 Rules of Intensity)
There are 3 rules of intensity: 1. Squaring Up (standing in front of the girl) – Be aware of calibration! – If the girl takes a step back, just focus in eye contact and vocal projection. 2. Eye Contact – You can’t fake how real you are. 3. Vocal Projection – Breath in from your belly. – Give them the opportunity (and only choice) to listen to you. – YELL AS LOUD AS POSSIBLE FOR 5 SECONDS!
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CALL TO ACTION: Use the 3 rules of intensity today!
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Closing – Getting her Number
Inquire about her situation. – Ask her “What are you up to?”
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It’s all about her emotions.
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Numberclose on a high note. (when she is laughing, into you, after kissing)
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Qualifying her – Ask her “What’s my name?”
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3.12. Setting up Dates – Say to the group “I’m going to say goodbye to her.” – Create a bubble between you and the girl. – If she says “I have a boyfriend”, just say “Me too, I’m gay.” •
Don’t Fucken Ask for the Phone Number! – “Let’s exchange numbers, you are cool.”
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Make it a Mutual Thing – Text her after you have her number. (Simply write “Hey, it’s Carlos.”)
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The Social Media Close – Share Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat. – ONLY IF YOU HAVE A GREAT PROFILE!
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ABC – Always Be Closing – It helps to make it natural for you.
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CALL TO ACTION: GO OUT AND ABC!
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Setting up Dates
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You’ll stop being needy on the phone!
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Don’t expect miracles when numberclosing. – The girls’ emotions can change rapidly.
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SOLIDIFYING THE INITIAL INTERACTION TRUMPS EVERYTHING!
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Texting is low investment. A phone call includes your tonality, which makes it high investment. Voice messages are a great alternative!
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GET HER BACK INTO THE EMOTIONAL STATE SHE WAS IN WHEN YOU HUNG OUT.
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3. Building a Solid Foundation – Don’t text back quickly if they don’t. – Avoid questions marks – “What are you doing later”, and not “What are you doing later?” •
Use really amazing language – Perhaps, to an extent, occasionally. . .
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IF SHE DOESN’T RESPOND – Keep sending her low investment things. – Anything that’s not a question, a funny meme, video, gif. . . – Do it once a week, until she responds. – Girls have a life too, she not responding might happen. – You can also call them. Call them twice (it makes it urgent). The moment she texts you, pick up your phone and call her, because you know she is on the phone.
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Even if you’re not at the place she indicates you, say you are.
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Little Beginner Tricks
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Remember her fucking name!
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Dance, don’t look around. Girls will come to you, because you are the fucking party! If you have to look, move with your shoulders, and not with your head.
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The Poke of Truth – poke her to check if she is chubby.
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When you make eye contact with a girl, keep it and just make it fun that she “chose” you.
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Chapter 4 Sharpening the Skills
4.1
The Skills – Vibing – Irresistible Interactions to make her Attracted (Aroused)
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Arousal trumps Attraction (it all works around emotions for girls).
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There’s the social hook point – you are not a treat and she can talk with you – and the sexual hook point – you are free in your expressions, and you need to feel a connection with the girl.
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Law of State Transference – If you’re having a good time, she’s having a good time.
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Structure of Verbal Game: Flatline Talk vs. Emotional Spikes – Flatline Talk – “Hello, what is your name?. . . ” It is general information, the interview mode. There’s no emotional impact on the girl. – Emotional Spikes – “I love you, I hate you.” It has to include positive and negative emotional spikes. – You wanna have a balance (Flatline Talk alternated with Emotional Spikes). Again, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING! Girls want a Man, not a fuckin’ clown.
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Relevance – You need to have relevance towards her and towards you. – “You have a style like. . . ” OR “You make me feel like. . . ”
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Assumptions – Come up with stereotypes about her. – Shove her in her head by giving her the opposite compliment. Ex.: She is really well dressed, and you say “Oh, are you a waitress?”
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Sexualization – Tell her “You like the funny guy, with fat belly, eat burgers all day and combs your hair.” – Describe to her the guy completely opposite to you.
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Buying Temperature (how much the girl is in for sex) – It increases as the night goes on. – You have to it the right tempo with the girl.
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When she doesn’t wanna Talk to You
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It is the norm for a girl to give an automated firewall response upon you opening.
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If the girl remains giving you shit, the Natural remains Persistent.
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Persistence = 100 % Fun + Statement of Empathy – The Statement of Empathy takes the pressure of the girl and it is a DHV. – “Hey, excuse me, excuse me. . . ” – “The beard is not fake.” – “I know this is totally weird, I just wanted to say Hi.”
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If you repeatedly get a No, take it as a No and Let It Go. – Still, smile, wish her a good night and leave!
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IF THE GIRL GIVES YOU SHIT, KEEP YOUR FRAME AND BE UNAPOLOGETIC.
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FFF (Fuck Faith Frame) – There are no loses. You always get better than you were before. – BELIEVE THAT, SOONER OR LATER, THERE’S GOING TO BE SEX AT SOME POINT. MAYBE NOT TODAY OR TOMORROW, BUT IT WILL EVENTUALLY HAPPEN.
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How to Deal with her Friends
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Her friends are there to protect her friend.
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HER FRIENDS WILL AUTOMATICALLY ASSUME YOU’RE A DRUNK/CREEP/WEIRDO/BETA MALE, UNTIL YOU PROVE OTHERWISE!
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BE FLIRTATIOUS AND QUALIFYING WITH YOUR GIRL, LIGHT-HEARTED AND DIPLOMATIC WITH HER FRIENDS.
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You can open the girl first, but acknowledge her friends as soon as possible. Also, be aware of their reactions, because possible cockblocks can come from them.
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When the friends come in: Be Active, active, active!
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If the girls’ friends are leaving, make a sad face – even though you know that, from now on, it’s open road to pussy!
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Natural State
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You don’t need to be in state to pull.
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ANY STATE I FIND MYSELF IS JUST FINE. This takes the pressure of yourself.
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GIRLS DON’T LIKE THE PERFECT GUY, THEY LIKE THE GUY WHO’S PERFECTLY FINE WITH HIMSELF.
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In-Club Meditation – Letting yourself be overwhelmed by the music, the lights and the feeling. – You get out of your head and it slows you down.
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STATE = ACCEPTANCE + ACTION TAKING (THINGS YOU ENJOY) + INDIFFERENCE THRESHOLD + TAKE MORE ACTION = YOU’RE IN THE ZONE
Overcoming ANY Dry Spell
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Shittests
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Shittests = She just wants to make sure the guy she’s dealing with is an Alpha Male.
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Advanced (Aggressive) form of a Hook = Shittest.
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It doesn’t matter what you say. What really matters is how you react.
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If she texts you at 2:00am to have sex, you should flake on her. How well you stay on your purpose is way more important than giving time to her.
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Passing a Shittest: The Alpha Male not striving off his path. Real-Tests: it looks like a shittest, but it is given by the girl so that she feels safe around you. – Passing them: Open yourself up, show vulnerability. – Answer with Love (to a degree).
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Other Guys and How to Deal with them
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The We Frame: Everybody’s my friend and we’re all here to party.
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Screen the guy’s relationship to the girl. – Brother, boyfriend, best-friend?. . . – The girl will never defend you. – Don’t ask the guy if he is her boyfriend. Ask instead “How do you guys know each other, by the way?”
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– The “Big Brother” Guy ∗
A rare kind of guy.
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Befriend this guy. Compliment him, and you’re good to go!
– The Random Guy she just met ∗
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Wait for a moment for change places, and say Jenny, my friends are there. Let’s go there, and you do the magic elbow move.
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The guy either stays there (and he loses it) or he follows you (and he loses his alpha male behaviour).
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How to Get Laid from Dates
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Logistics, logistics, logistics! – Bring the girl as close to your place as possible. – It is easier if you later want to bring her there.
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Mindset: She’s coming to meet you, she’s already interested in you!
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Ideal Date: Bring her to your World.
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4. Sharpening the Skills – You’re late yourself (you’re hustling, working hard, meeting other girls. . . ) – While you wait for her, chat with other people (mainly, girls) or just simply talk with someone on the phone. – If she texts you, text her back saying “Fine, drinks are on you ;)” •
Date Logistics – “What are you doing later, by the way?” – Just for you to make sure you have enough time with her.
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Seeding the Pull – It doesn’t need to be necessarily logical. – “I’m hungry. Lets go home and cook.” – Do that step back before she does, i.e. “only if you promise to be cool” or “only if you promise you don’t steal anything” or “only if you promise to behave”. – If during the date you have a topic like “Oh, you’ve never seen that movie?”, say to her “I’ll show you later.” Do this for every topic that leads to bring her closer to you.
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The Spontaneous/Spontaneity Frame – “I love how spontaneous you are!”
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“We’re not gonna have sex tonight” – Normally, when she says this, the sex moment is very close. – It is good she says this, because this means she is already thinking about sex! – Respond with humour (“Oh, I’m still a virgin.”) or be more serious if you want to (“We’re not gonna do anything that makes you uncomfortable, it’s OK.’). This takes the pressure of her and also hits on her ego.
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Sex is part of the fun – Take her hand and put it underneath your chest.
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CALL TO ACTION: Follow up with your numbers and go on a date!
How to Have a One Night Stand
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The premier league of Natural Game.
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Warm Up – The Night begins in front of your house. – In the Venue: Talk to the first set there is.
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Your Frame – It’s possible to take a girl home. – Sex is not a big deal. – The We Frame.
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The Mindset Quadrangle 1. The moment I said “Hi”, I already won – Freedom from Outcome. 2. I move my feet faster than my brain can think – Get in State. 3. Any state I find myself in, is just fine – Don’t force it. 4. What can Carlos do to give Carlos a good time? – Self-Amusement.
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The Structure of the Night – The Beginning: people are coming in. It’s like the first day of school. People need to be warmed up. 1. Be Social. 2. Maximum Numberclose. 3. Push your own buttons. Find things that you always like doing. – The Night is a Marathon Run, not a Sprint. Eat really well before going out – keep the energy levels high! – Love is in the Air: the 2nd half of the night 1. Commit to a Girl. 2. Instant Escalation if you feel like it. – Screen for availability. – Screen for Logistics.
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3 Stages of Pull: – Decide – How well are you going to execute the decision. – Commit – There’s gonna be some shit. Still, still to the girl you chose. – Babystep 1. Don’t Ask. 2. Don’t Wait. 3. Time constraint – let’s go outside for 5 min.
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4 Components of every Pull 1. Vibing – fun, fun, fun. 2. Comfort – the girl trusting you. 3. Her Chasing – She feels like she deserves coming with you. Give her space and shut the fuck up! 4. The Spontaneity Frame – it just happened.
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Chick Talk – give her space and let her talk with her friends.
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Doing the step back before she does. – “only if you’re cool” OR “only if you behave”. It takes the pressure of her.
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The Twilight Zone – the 3 rd phase of the Night. – Embrace the Chaos! – Girls are Horny and Confused! 1. Eliminate Creepiness. Have steady eye contact, speak coherent sentences, walk straight. No physicality (until she trusts you). 2. Float next to the girl! 1 or 2 steps ahead of her. 3. Babystep Yourself. YOU ARE THE GUY WHO GOT THE CLOSEST TO HAVING SEX WITH HER!
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“You just wanna have sex with me.” – “Yeah, you’re cool and gorgeous. So anyway. . . ”
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Make Outs: Before or after the Pull? – It depends. – If you feel you are being put in the Friend Zone, make out with her before. – THESE ARE JUST GUIDELINES! EVERY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.
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The Loss of an Alpha Male – “I’m not going into the cab with you” OR “No way I’m entering there” OR “Oh common!. . . ” – You answer “OK, goodbye” OR “OK, I’m going to grab my jacket”. – Make her feel that losing you will be so bad for her.
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Enter your Place – Pump some music as quick as possible! It makes it easier for her. – If you’re eating something, make sure it’s something quick, so that she doesn’t have time to rationalize.
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Working on your Ego – Continuing the SHAMELESS SelfAssessment
Every night you go out, the bar is always at Zero. Always.
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Don’t brag to your friends. – Willpower yourself not to do that. – Keep hammering your Ego.
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Don’t judge other people. It brings negative energy to you.
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STOP COUNTING “YOUR LAYS”. – If you don’t want to forget them, then write about them.
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Stop labelling if you’re a newbie, intermediate or advanced.
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The enemy of Mastery is “good enough”. – Never stop working hard when you start getting laid.
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You can always learn from everybody.
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Every seduction, every interaction starts from Zero.
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PHYSICAL ABUNDANCE COMES AND GOES. MENTAL ABUNDANCE IS WHAT COUNTS.
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Chapter 5 Mastering Natural Game
5.1
How to Pull to NOT your Place
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When you have no logistics.
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Screen the girl properly. – Not every girl will feel comfortable to have you at her place. – She needs to be/feel adventurous and spontaneous.
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Pull to your Friend’s place. – You have to find an excuse (“My friend is out of town. I’m living at his apartment.”)
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Pull to her place. – Where does she live? – “In which area do you live, by the way?” – How far is it? – “That’s 10 min away from here, right?” (even though you have no clue where) – Is she alone? – “I bet your roommates hate you because you are so messy.” OR “I bet you still live with your parents.” OR “You do seem like a girl who lives alone.” – How down is she to bring you? – “Do you have drinks at home?” OR “Can you cook?” OR “I bet your place is super messy.”
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How to Pull from Daygame Statement of Empathy – “Listen, I know this is weird, but I just couldn’t resist.” – It takes the pressure of her and makes you high value.
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Daygame Logistics – “What are you up to now, by the way?” – Make sure you get the logistics handled. – By simply saying “by the way” makes it look not creepy!
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Your Mindset: IT’S POSSIBLE!
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THE BEST BABY STEP: INSTANT DATE
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Introducing The No Game – Passive Attraction The Natural’s Motto 1. “I trust that I’m good enough, because why not?” :D 2. “I’m confident that I will be okay, no matter what.” 3. “I’ve been through a lot, nothing can throw me off, I’m happy that I’m on my Journey.” 4. The Fuck Faith Frame.
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Slow down and let Passive Attraction work for you.
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Shift from DOING to BEING.
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Time – Your best Wingman – Stay. In. Set.
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Good Game is when you and the girl are having a good time.
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The Natural waits for a sign of dis-interest. And it barely ever happens. Remember to laugh at this, because it is not logical.
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There extroverted girls (they give you some signs) and introverted girls (they don’t give you anything).
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Every girl just wants to be loved.
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Phantom Escalation – Do it specially with Hot Girls. – Go for the kiss, and step back just before kissing her. It makes the girl in her head. – She will think “Why didn’t he kiss me? Do I have bad breath?”
5.4
Passive Attraction through Others
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Your 2 best Wingmen: Time & The Venue.
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The We Frame. – A true Natural feels so good in his own skin. – And he wants to share it with others!
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Letting the Venue work for you. – Upon entering and exiting: chat up the bouncers. – With or without girls. – A HOT BARTENDER? DON’T GAME HER, MAKE HER YOUR FRIEND! – Remember people’s names.
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CUT OUT TROLLING! SERIOUSLY, DON’T DO IT!
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The Hub – Pick a place at the club to meet with your wingman. – Go around and pick, at least, 2 girls and come back to that spot. – Introduce your girls to your wingman’s ones. – You passively display you’re not a weird guy. – You can also pull guys, but focus on the girls!
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Girl Bouncing – Go first to the easy openable girls. – Bounce up to the hot girls, step by step.
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The Social Chameleon – Perfect Calibration 3 Stages of Natural Calibration 1. Me (Congruence) – No more mask! – REMEMBER: The girl doesn’t want the perfect guy. She wants the guy who’s perfectly fine with himself. 2. The Girl – Verbal Game – Vibing – Physicality 3. The Environment – her Friends, the Bouncer, the atmosphere – Understand the dynamics of your interaction and what is happening in your surroundings. – Don’t make yourself look like a fucking idiot. Girls will never help you. Their social status is the most important thing for them.
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Fast Approaching vs. Slow Approaching – When you are in the zone, slow down your approach and interactions. You will make it easier for the girl.
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CALL TO ACTION: Go out, expand your awareness about your environment. Take your time to approaching.
Finding her Blueprint
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Give the girl space to invest.
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The girl will tell how to sleep with her. Be a Vigilante of her reactions.
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Compliance Testing the Girl – If she’s OK to walk from A to B. – Is she OK to touch you. – Is she OK to hold your hand.
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The Vacuum – You give her extra space to invest. – Put yourself in the position of advantage, have amazing body language. – When it gets silent, smile and stare. By doing this, you a positive pressure on her. 34
5.7. Learning from a Newbie – When she invests enough, make out with her. •
I would do anything for love but I won’t do you.
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The Anna Frame – This won’t work with every girl. – You get so much validation from a girl, and then suddenly you lose it. – Make the same to a girl who’s really into you. – Give her shit – “That’s all you’re going to get for tonight.” OR “It was good to meet you.”
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CALL TO ACTION: Go out and use the Vacuum.
Learning from a Newbie
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Keep padding yourself on the shoulder, dude.
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Get back to the “Anything Goes” Mentality – Go crazy with your pick up vision. – Pick up p olice officers, secretaries, waitresses. . .
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Be open to learn from newbies. – The enemy of “really good” is “good enough”!
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CALL TO ACTION: Go out today with a newbie.
The Power of What you DON’T Say
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Game is subtle.
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The Power of Words – “By the way” ∗
The underlying communication is ”it is not important” (although it still is for you!).
– “How spontaneous/adventurous are you?” ∗
It makes you see how far the girl can go (she can have a boyfriend and still go with you!).
– “Actually” ∗
It’s like you’re sharing something secret from you to her.
– “Can I be honest with you?” ∗
Whatever comes after that, the girl will feel it is real. It amplifies everything!
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5. Mastering Natural Game ∗
You hit on her Ego and make her in her head.
– “Another one. . . ” ∗
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The girl is not special.
The Power of your Face – When she is explaining something to you, make your face look like you’re confused or creeped out. It makes her feel weird. – Still, be careful with that, if she’s high self-esteem. – You can also look away!
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Silent Opening 1. Establish eye contact. 2. Hold eye contact. 3. Smile. 4. Tell her to come.
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CALL TO ACTION: Go out and use the Power of your Face.
Silent Pulling
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My Life is already awesome. This night is already epic. But I wanna see where this can go.
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Don’t give the girl any time to slut shame herself for going home with you.
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Chapter 6 Sex
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Full Closing and Sex – Becoming the Intimate Lover of the Fantasy
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Never forget the Humor when Escalating.
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Take the pressure of yourself, because you can never do it when you pressure yourself.
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LMR – Last Minute Resistance – They have it when you take things too fast. – Or when they think they may come across as sluts.
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The DTF-O-Meter – Measure of How much she is in for Sex. – When a girl is alone somewhere, she is there to get fucked. – If you ask her “What are you doing later?” and she answers “I don’t know, the night is young”, that is a good indicator.
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Letting her chase – You’re cool, but. . . – . . . only if you promise to be cool/I am on my period/you’re too old. – The girl feels that she must chase you in order to deserve you.
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“We’re not gonna have sex tonight” – Just to give you shit, too see how you react. – “It’s OK, I don’t care, just make yourself feel comfortable.” – “No problem, there’s the door. There’s HD porn nowadays, I just jerk off after you leave.” – That hits on her ego and makes her chase you, because you are free from outcome.
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6. Sex •
THE FREEZE OUT – She keeps giving you resistance, but doesn’t want to remove her clothes or touch your dick. – From 0 to 100, you jump off her, you turn the light on, silence the music, and do something else. – NEVER EVER BE BUTT-HURT, ALWAYS BE IN A GOOD MOOD! – Give her an excuse why you did that. (ex.: forgot to call a friend)
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LAST RESORT: Talk to her – “Are you OK? How are you feeling?” – Listen to her.
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THE GENTLEMAN ESCALATOR – I hope it is OK we’re doing it so fast. – I hope that’s OK. – Show her that you love female energy.
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THE FRAME FOR SEX – Sex is natural. Every girl has the Madonna and Whore frame – It is mutual. – Non-judgemental Vibe
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Super Key!
– The Speech: “You know, sex is natural, everyone does it; even the Pope jerks off; but I totally understand if you had bad experiences in the past or don’t want to do it; but when 2 people feel connected, their emotions will overcome everything and they will cuddle and have sex, and it will be wonderful; when you want to have sex, just know that I will have massive respect for you.” •
MAKING HER CUM – Take the pressure of yourself. The moment you chill, she chills. – If you wanna lick her ass, just do it! – First, focus on your pleasure, as arrogant as that may seem. – Keep the fun up! (especially when taking her pants or her bra) – Give her compliments – “Oh my god girl, you drive me fucking crazy.” OR “You’re so hot.”) – Find her Sex Blueprint – know if she likes it slow or faster.
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6.1. Full Closing and Sex – Becoming the Intimate Lover of the Fantasy •
WHEN YOU CAN’T GET HARD – An erection is a state. – The moment you force a state, it doesn’t happen. – It comes from you pressuring yourself. 1. Chill, Relax, Breathe slowly. 2. Turn the girl around. Don’t even touch your dick! 3. Don’t apologize, ever! Laugh about it – “fucking condoms, fuck my life haha.”
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HOW TO MAKE HER SQUIRT? – Just make her feel good with it – “It’s OK baby, just let it go.” – Before making her squirt, just let her know that “It is super-hot baby!” 1. 2. 3. 4.
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GETTING FEEDBACK – After the sex, ask her “What did you like the best?”
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HOW TO LAST LONGER – First time, cum on her or on her mouth. (if she likes) – Be ready for round 2, 3, 4. . . – Interrupt the PC muscle when pissing.
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Chapter 7 Relationship Management
7.1 •
Beyond the One Night Stand – Managing your Relationships The Free Stallion Frame – You wanna be known as the Player guy, but you also wanna be accepted for that. – Have a non-judgemental attitude. – Be respectful, and don’t make it a big deal. – Always be fun and have a good time with her. The meeting should always be based on fun! – Never be apologetic or brag to her about your sexual encounters. – FUCK HER WELL :) – DON’T BE FUCKING NEEDY AFTER HAVING SEX WITH HER!
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EVERY RELATIONSHIP IS AN ONGOING AND MUTUAL SEDUCTION PROCESS – You need to keep gaming your girls, before and after having sex with them! – AGAIN: NEVER STOP GAMING THEM!
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Managing Expectations – Don’t label her as a fuck buddy. – Don’t let her see as someone she can talk too when she’s sad. She has her friends for that.
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7. Relationship Management – “But I fucking love hanging out with you, do you know that? You are this, you’re that, you are so hot, you are so gorgeous. When I hang out with you, there’s only you and nobody else. I’m not thinking about any other girl. But if you can’t take that, if you don’t wanna hang out and have fun, I totally respect that. We can stay friends, here’s the door, you can leave.” •
Girls will always test you.
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When girls call you out (saying you’re sleeping with other girls) 1. Don’t be apologetic (tell her you’re fucking other girls). 2. Make it relatable (tell her you have a lot of fun with her).
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When friends call you out – Smile, enjoy it and don’t be apologetic.
7.2
Finding “The One” Special Girlfriend
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There’s no monogamy. There’s not.
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It’s not finding the one, it’s choosing the one. – From all of the girls you’ve pulled, you choose the next best one from all of them. – Not necessarily the hottest one. – Ideally, a girl with whom you get along with the best and HSE + HSD girl.
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The more freedom you give a woman to walk away, the more she wants to stay with you.
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If you want an exclusive relationship, make sure she’s very very awesome ;) (and that fucks you super super well)
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Love
<3 <3 <3
– Are you really in love with her or are you in love with the longing for love? – Love should not be painful – ABUNDANCE. – Love should be wonderful and beautiful.
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Chapter 8 Wingmanship
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How to get a Wingman – Be the kind of person you want in your Life. – Post in your inner circle or local groups.
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Your friends – Lead by example, don’t try to convince them. – Don’t be too good to hang out with everyone.
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Wingman Rules 1. The guy who first opens the set is the guy who chooses what to do with that set. 2. Be willing to sacrifice your game to help your wingman. 3. Never make fun of him. Motivate him!
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How to Game in Set (with your Wingman) – Get to know each other well first. – You should always approach alone, and then your wingman comes in. It is less creepy for the girl(s). – Don’t put your arm or touch your wingman. It makes you coming across as a try hard. – Screen for your wingman’s girls availability.
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‘Cross Gaming’ – Communicate with your wingman’s girl and your wingman talks with your girl. – Make sure they get to know about both of you, so that they can stay relaxed.
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Upon Pulling – Text each other! – Still, have a plan before! – Give an open suggestion – “Hey guys, lets grab something to eat!”
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Chapter 9 Lifestyle
9.1 •
The Man in His Prime Lifestyle We always go through two phases: Expansion (hustling hard, penetrating the world with Love and Passion) and Contraction (chill and settle down).
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It is our responsibility, as men, to leverage the Expansion phase.
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99 % of people are in the contraction phase, coping instead of thriving.
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Get out there and create the best expansion phase that you’ve ever seen in your goddamn-fucken life!
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Set clear goals 1. Dream big, make it ridiculous. 2. What does it take to get there? What is the Mindset of a person who is there? What is the first step that I can do right now to get me there? 3. Be bought in, believe for 100 %
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Fuck that “I’m not ready yet”. The moment you go do it, that’s when you are ready. Start letting go. – Let go friends that drag you down. Stop hanging out with them. – Hang out with people who are hustling hard as you. – Drop down any addictions that drag you down (alcohol, cigarettes, porn, masturbation, unhealthy food).
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Ask yourself this question everyday of your Life: “Is this bringing me further in my Life?” – Drop anything that is not.
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Rybrym: Respect your Body, Respect your Mind
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9. Lifestyle – Respect your Body ∗
Healthy Eating – pre-cook your own meals, avoid sugar and fast food. Throw away anything that is unhealthy.
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Work Out.
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Meditation – sit down, straight spine, rest your hands on your legs or keep them together, stay grounded (feet on the floor), close your eyes, feel aware of all the different sensations in your body and emotions you’re going through. Accept those feelings. Don’t forget to focus on breathing deeply and slowly. The basic premise of meditation is full acceptance. Do it for 15 min. When you are in loud environments, plug in your headphones and play white noise.
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Become aware of your thoughts: nurture positivity, cut out negativity. Welcome positive people in your world.
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Read, listen to audiobooks, watch videos. Keep your mind engaged with new ideas. When you’re driving or cooking, blast an audiobook.
Resting (contraction phase) – Listen to your body. If you feel super exhausted, rest. – Don’t hate yourself when you rest. Your self-love must come from you, not from your achievements. You are doing this because you love yourself. – Sometimes resting can be more productive than hustling. – When you rest, rest fully. – In terms of pick up, pick the worst day of the week. That will be your off-day. Spend that day just chillin’ with a girl or by your own, playing video games, going for a walk or watching a movie. – Have a cheat day (every month), and eat the nastiest fast food, don’t do anything on that day and just chill.
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Take cold showers (from the beginning until the end). – You will even shower kicker! – Don’t do it after you’ve eaten or when you’re sick.
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The human mind is the most powerful force in the universe.
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Make yourself a little bit uncomfortable every day.
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Seek motivation and inspiration. – Quotes, images, videos. . .
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9.2. Social Circle Game – Just like you. •
Continuous repetition of your goals: HOW = WHY!
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Join a club to make yourself more social.
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To FAP or not to FAP? – Don’t FAP! – If you want to get an orgasm, go out and don’t go through a masturbation maratone! – The amount of energy you get in return is massive.
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CALL TO ACTION: Create an Excel Sheet with your every day goals.
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There has to be continuity. History is made by people who finish the fucking thing they’re doing!
9.2
Social Circle Game
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You take the most benefit from the Game if you play it in the long term.
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There will be no results in the first 3 months, but it will eventually happen.
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Everything you do is Social!
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If the girl sees you have a lot of friends, she will automatically feel so much attracted to you.
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DO NOT TAKE A SHIT WHERE YOU EAT – do not pull girls from your workplace. It can destroy your reputation. (or make you build another one)
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Create your Social Circle. Don’t isolate girls from the group. Let passive attraction work for you, as you show yourself as a leader of the group, the one who makes things happen.
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Don’t ignore the chodes! They may suck with girls, but they are good at something else. Expand the knowledge you don’t have (that they do) and make them feel more integrated in the group every time you meet them.
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ONLY FUCK THE GIRLS FROM THE OUTER CIRCLE (FRIENDS FROM YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE)!
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10 Rules of the Social Pimp 1. You have to be the Farmer, instead of the Hunter. Make connections and let Time (your best wingman) work for you. 2. Be a connector – introduce/bring together other people to your social circle and provide as much Value as possible. 3. Be a Mentor – offer advice for everybody that might need it. 4. Be a Scholar – be able to learn from other people. It makes you earn their respect. 47
