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THE DAY GAME REPORT: A Step-By-Step Game Plan for DOUBLING Your Your Day Game Success!

By Sinn

TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction .................................................. ......................................................... .............. 3 The 8 Major Differences Between Night and Day ........................................................ .............................................................. ...... 3 5 Things You Can Constantly Work On... .................................................. ........................ 4 ��

Different Approach Scenarios .................................................. ........................................... 7 �) �� ) �� ) ��

Openings ............................................................................................................................. 9 4 Categories of Teasing .................................................................................................... 11 �) �� ) �� ) �� ) ��

Qualification Pinging ........................................................................ ................................ 13 Touching During the Day ................................................ .................................................. 15 Instant Dates ................................................. ......................................................... ............ 16 Basics of Delivery .............................................................................. ............................... 19 The 5 Keys To Creating Massive Amounts of Comfort Quickly ..................................... 20 Conclusion ........................................................................................................................ 21

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INTRODUCTION If you’re reading this report, chances are that the two of us have a lot in common. Every day that I leave my house, I see AT LEAST 1 beautiful woman that I would like to approach. It was this that led me to learn how to meet them. Unfortunately I was underage, so I was forced to learn to game during the day. That’s how this report came to be. I can honestly say that I have done more than 4,000 day game approaches, and over that time and my time as the senior most instructor for Mystery Method, I patched together a mishmash of techniques and systems to produce a mazing results during the day. In this report, I’m going to be spilling the beans on some of my most closely guarded secrets. This is the stuff that I’ve previously only revealed to guys that paid almost a thousand dollars each to learn at my Day Game Seminar.

Before we get started we need to figure out what Day Game is. In my opinion (and for the purpose of this report) Day Game refers to any approach not in a bar or club. This can include approaches done in restaurants, on the street, in a bookstore, coffee shop etc… Let’s start out by discussing some of the Differences between Night time approaches and Day time approaches.

THE 8 MAJOR DIFFERENCES BETWEEN NIGHT AND DAY 1. The Level of stimulation is lower during the da y: The competition for her attention is less during the day. There are no lights, loud music, hot guys, or dance floors to compete with. 2. The Stigma of Cold Approach is lessened du ring the day: Many girls have a stigma against not being picked up in a club. Girls are more approachable during the day, as every girl would prefer to tell her friends how she met her bf/husband in a bookstore or coffee shop rather than at a bar or club. 3. Groups are MUCH more difficult to approach during the day. It is markedly harder to keep 2-3 people’s attention during the day without using an energy level that will come off as “weird”. Furthermore you will often be approaching women on the move during the day. It is very difficult to stop a moving group

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and keep their attention. You also should avoid mixed groups during the day as guys are much more likely to be boyfriends. 4. Tone Down Your Energy Level by 2/3s. If you go in real high energy you blow yourself out. A good general rule is to use about a third of the energy you would use at night when approaching in a bar or club. 5. You don’t need to disqualify or “Neg” during the day. Because you’re operating on a much faster timeline, we want to avoid attraction material and disqualifiers as much as possible. Day Game is really about qualification and comfort. 6. Attraction is much shorter during the day, if it’s even necessary at all. Generally you want to generate attraction with your opener then try to get through qualification as quickly as you can. 7. Direct Game works better during the day. You can demonstrate a lot more interest early on during the day. In fact the sooner you can establish that you are interested in her romantically the better. 8. Girls are not always in a social mode during the day. What that means is that you can often run into girls who literally aren’t paying attention as you’re trying to open them. We deal with this through the use of pre-openers. A pre-opener is a social question that girls have heard before, which allows them to contextualize the interaction. Examples are “Do you know what time it is?” or “Do you know where McKinney Ave is?”

Home Study Course: This is my list of 4 things you can work on ALL the time, to help improve your game.

5 THINGS YOU CAN CONSTANTLY WORK ON... �� Make it a goal to have 3-4 “random” conversations a day. In the past I have suggested that students stop wearing a watch to give them an opportunity to ask people, “What time is it?” It’s also a good idea to get into the habit of talking to everyone… say hi to people you pass on the street. In fact if you’re really new, you may want to take the Fastseduction.com newbie challenge – Get dressed, do your hair, put on cologne, and go

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to the mall. Practice saying hi to EVERY SINGLE PERSON YOU PASS, and keeping eye contact Another benefit of talking to everyone is that it keeps you in social mode all day long. It’s sometimes hard for you to go 0 – 60. There’s a dynamic that occurs when you have not been talking to anyone for the last 3-4 hours. All of a sudden see a girl you want to approach you have to snap into your most outgoing, attractive self without the benefit of a warm up. One of the things about Day Game is it cannot be faked. You cannot be weird. It is simply a test of how cool you are. If you are going 0-60 then you are stressing about the approach. You will not be cool… you will be nervous. It’s also important to not practice Bad Habits. You should not practice having boring conversations. Ever. Every new conversation you have is an opportunity to practice your new more attractive way of interacting with peopl e. Another often overlooked idea during the day is the way you dress. Don’t leave your house looking like crap…EVER. Even when you go to the gym… You’re clothes should always match, be clean, and fit you well. .

�� Most communication is Body Language and “Value Sub-Communications. This means that what you are saying is actually less important than what you’re bod y, voice tone, eye contact, and posture are revealing. If you are nervous talking to a girl, what does that say about you? It says that you think she’s of higher value than you are, it says you are worried about the outcome of the interaction, and it says you want something from her. None of which are things we want to communicate to women. Before we get into some specifics, I want to say there is NO such thing as perfect BL. The idea of Super Attraction Alpha Bod y Language is Bullshit! All you have to do is look RELAXED and Comfortable You want to focus on eliminating nervous twitche s, using less movement, and seeming “Too comfortable.”

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�� !!!!!! This idea goes beyond just smiling. You want to convey that EVERYTHING IS GOOD. Evolutionarily speaking the guy who is positive, and also has a positive outlook is more likely to be successful. He is more likely to have been successful in the past. This guy is more likely to be successful in the future as well. Positivity is the emotional equivalent of big muscles. A girl sees a guy with big muscles and her primitive brain says “That can survive.” A girl sees a guy with a positive outlook and the same response is triggered.

4 Helpful Tips For Staying Positive: 1. Don’t dwell on negative thoughts. Immediately think about something positive or ask yourself “What lesson can be learned from this experience?” Or “What is the best use of my time here?” 2. Don’t find excuses for why things won’t work. Instead find excuses for why they will. Don’t say if I approach her she might sa y NO… rather think, if I approach her she will say YES! 3. Find the good in everything. You are no longer pissed that you have to wait in the line at the bank. Rather you are happy that you get the chance to text message your girls etc. 4. DON’T COMPLAIN TO WOMEN – unless what you are complaining about demonstrates value. Complain to your friends – no t your targets. The only thing you should ever bitch about is how cool your life is. “I’m so tired but I have to go snowboarding for a week with my friends in Aspen!”

�� Most guys are afraid to tease. You want to get into the habit of teasing everyone. Stop taking life and conversations so seriously and learn to open up, and poke fun at yourself and others.

GET USED TO NOT HAVING SUCH SERIOUS COMMUNICATION ALL THE TIME! As guys we are naturally too serious, especially ou tside of our own comfort zone… We don’t have enough fun. Guys tease the hell out of their buddies, yet are afraid to do it

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to women they just met. Other guys, who have been in the community longer, ONLY tease women they’re interested in; which is another mistake. If you’re going to tease women you’re interested in, you need to tease other people as well. Women have a really good BS detector. They can tell when you are not being yourself. They can tell when you become this other guy when you are around them. The solution is to make your “actual self” the guy who is attractive to women rather than having to go into “Pick Up Artist Mode”. Teasing is something you can practice all day long, on both guys and girls. Internalizing this skill alone will yield HUGE results.

�� Guys don’t touch enough, especially early on in interactions. Touching is a clinically proven way to get people comfortable with you. Infants who are never touched can actually become sick and in some cases even die. In fact if you notice one of the first things we do when we’re introduced t o a new person is shake their hand. This little form of social politeness allows us to actually see that the other person is real. You want to get into the habit of being a “touchy” guy. The more you practice this with co-workers, baristas, waitresses, shop clerks and your friends, the easier it will be with women you approach. Get used to doing most of your early touching in the area between the shoulder and the elbow. Make the extra effort to emphasize what you’re saying with an arm or shoulder touch. Ok, so that’s 5 things you can work on ALL the time! Now let’s talk a little bit about what kind of approach situations you’ll find out in the real world and how to work with them.

DIFFERENT APPROACH SCENARIOS Generally there are three different distinct types of approaches you will be making during the day.

�� There’s no doubt, moving sets suck. No other way around it. You have 1.5 minutes maximum before the target starts to think, “Why is this strange guy talking to me? Why I

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am I talking to someone on the street?” etc... Unfortunately they are important to Day Game because they are everywhere. So you need to practice them.

Three Different Ways to Start Conversations with Girls on the MOVE! Before we can even get to how to open girls on the move, we have to first understand that there are two different types of girls on the move. A. The first one is a girl walking the same direction as you. With these girls you have two different options. The first is to run an observational opener. I like to say things like “You’re very …” and then point out whatever is unique about her. B. The other option is to go direct, by saying something like “I know this is really random, but I noticed you and had to meet you.”

Now the other type of moving approach involves girls walking towards you. The first way is to block her space and say, “Hey”. Brad P calls this technique The Rodman how you jump in front of the girl like you’re playing defense in basketball. When you do this, you want to go in with a more high value opener, to compensate for the fact that you might spook her with the blocking of her space. Also make sure to smile. The other way to open a girl moving in the opposite direction to you, is to use a direct opener like “Hey, I noticed you walking by and I knew that if I didn’t come over and see if there was more to you than meets the eye then I was going to regret it for the rest of the day… I’m [your name here].” The only advantage to a Moving Set is that you get to approach a set that you would otherwise not have gotten to talk to. That’s it! Other than that, there are no real advantages to approaching a moving set. They just suck!

�� The next type of approach is girls who are seated. Girls who are sitting by themselves are the best types of girls to approach. First of all you know you’re going to have at least 5-10 minutes with a girl who’s sitting down. Secondly, you will be able to join her at her table, bench, etc… and be in a comfortable situation with her. There are generally two common mistakes guys will make when they approach girls who are seated. The first one is not sitting fast enough. You don’t want to stand above the girl for too long, as it makes you look needy. The other mistake ironically enough is

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sitting down at a girl’s table right away. This makes her uncomfortable and makes her think about how long you are going to stay there.

�� Girls standing in various places provide you with the most options for how you are going to approach. You can go direct, you can go indirect or you can use a pre-opener or anything. The key to making standing approaches work is to move the girl as much as possible. For example if I meet a girl in clothing store and I have her walk around with me to “find something for my niece’s birthday, and then ask her to join me for coffee she’s going to be more likely to go. The problem with standing approaches is that you can only stand there so long before it starts to trigger the girl’s “This is a Pick Up Alarm.” You want to make sure that you move the interaction past the standing point, ideally to a seated instant date!

OPENINGS The next thing we need to talk about is opening during the day time. In the Day Game Seminar I reveal four different ways to start a conversation during the day. However, because we have to keep this report from becoming unwieldy, I’ll be focusing here on how to open directly and using a pre-opener. Opening Direct:

When you are opening direct, you are expressly stating your interest in meeting h er and finding out more about her. When you open direct you want to be more powerful in your body language. You want to make sure that you keep a very upright posture, standing tall and powerful. You want to make sure that you move slowly and confidently; hold eye contact all the way through the opener. You want to keep a cocky smirk on your face as well. The direct opener that I have had the most success with goes something like this: “Hey (Try not to touch the girl too much, but a shoulder tap may be helpful here) I noticed you from across the (Wherever you are) and I thought you were adorable, so I had to come meet you.” One of the cool things about direct is that if done correctly, it can skip you ahead into the comfort part of an interaction. It’s literally like taking a sho rtcut to comfort.

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What I like to do after a direct opener like that is ping for qualification. What that means is I’ll immediately throw out a large qualifying question. Like, “What’s the coolest thing about you?” If you do this correctly, you can get a SOLID phone number in 30-90 seconds, very consistently. Opening with Pre-Openers:

As I mentioned in the differences section, girls are no t always in a “social mode” as they are going about their day to day lives. So to get around this, we need to ask them a social question. A question, they have probably been asked before, and they have an auto pilot response for. I call these small social questions Pre-openers. Here are some examples: “Hey, do you know where there’s an ATM around here?” “Do you have cell phone service?” “Do you know if there’s a Chinese restaurant around here called Mr. Noodle?” The idea is to get her to recognize that a social interaction is happening. Girls aren’t always sure you’re talking to them during the day. Plus they’ve given directions or the time to hundreds of people before. It’s socially comfortable for them. After you open with a pre-opener, you want to turn the conversation fun and flirty as quickly as you can. I do this through the use of role-plays and misinterpretations. Let’s go through a real life example where I picked up a sexy brunette named Monica at a Grocery store. We were both browsing in the meats section when I grabbed a pack of Skirt steak and said Sinn: "Hey you’re a girl. Do you know how to cook this?" Monica: "Ha Ha No, sorry…" Sinn: "You’re TOTALLY fired as my personal chef. And I’ve been meaning to tell you this for awhile, but you’re Crème Brulee sucked ! Actually since you’re here, I need a girl’s opinion on something; would you be mad if a guy you were seeing had another girl sleep over platonically?"

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Notice how I do three things to open up the conversation. First I get her attention with a strong “Hey, you’re a girl.” This is ambiguous and kind of a funny thing to say. It will also get her attention. Then I want to use my pre-opener. In this case I ask her if she knows how to cook a weird type of food. This is the Pre-opener. After the pre-opener, I want to immediately turn the conversation playful and flirty. The best way to do this is by using a role play, making her my personal chef. Role plays are great because they allow you to go outside of the present situation. This allows you distance and objectivity to do things like tease her, give her commands etc… Then after the role-play I want to use an opinion opener to buy myself some time and get her committed to the conversation. This is how you can use opinion openers during the day without coming off weird… Let’s move on to the idea of “teasing”. During the day you are going to want to tease a little bit especially around the opener. This is one of the easiest and fastest ways to build attraction during the day. Juggler once wrote the best description of teasing I have ever heard. He said something like “Sarcasm is the art of saying some thing nice and meaning something mean. Teasing is the art of saying something mean but meaning I like you. “ During the day you want to make sure that you don’t use teases that are too harsh or that actually make the girls think that you actually don’t like them.

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�� We briefly discussed role-plays earlier in the opening with pre-openers section. Role-plays involve creating a funny fantasy situation involving you and the girl. Here are some examples: Tyler Durden’s Adopt her as your little sister routine. “You know what I’m gonna do with you? I’m going to adopt you as my little sister. Then I’ll take you shopping with me and everyone will be soooo jealous of you.” “Hey do you know how to cook this… OMG you are so my new personal chef?” “You are so fired as my personal assistant. It’s bad enough when you wear those short skirts to the office but this is WAY too much…”

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"We are so getting a divorce.” This is a role-play that you can keep up the entire time you know her. If she says anything that shows she likes you, you can remarry her. If she says anything negative… “Ok we are so broken up… I want my CD’s back.” “You know what? I think you would make a nice new GF. We are going to call you Wednesday. (You are going to have to be careful though because when Tuesday and Thursday are over on Tuesday’s and Thursday’s… you can’t call because they get really jealous.” [If she says yes a lot] “What are you like my own personal "yes" man? Ok this is awesome. This is going to boost my self esteem. I’m going to take you everywhere with me and you are going to say yes to everything I say."

�� Push/Pulls are defined by having a statement that tells the girl you like her, immediately followed by a statement that teases her. This is the key to what is commonly called calibration. Lots of times guys will overdo teasing and offend girls. If you do this simply apologize and compliment her. Here are some examples of push/pulls: “You are the coolest girl I’ve met. On the street corner in the last 5 minutes.” “I can already tell you are trouble, and I kinda like trouble…” “You are such a dork, it’s really adorable...” “I hate you! It is way too sexy when you smile like that.” “What am I going to do with you? I mean I have ideas but they’re inappropriate, for now.”

�� Name calling is another fun form of teasing. Obviously you don’t want to go too harsh here. Here are some examples of fun/playful nicknames: Brat Dork Nerd Tiger Sport Silly Crazy

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A good basic rule, with name calling is this; if she’s not laughing and agreeing or PLAYFULLY arguing with you, you’re not doing it right!

�� Challenging is a great way to tease women. Women love being challenged because it allows her a chance to show you who she is. You can use challenges to bait women into compliance and sexuality. Here are some examples of how to correctly challenge women playfully. “I don’t know who your last BF was but he did not spank you enough.” “Don’t make me come down there little girl, I eat little girls like you for breakfast.” “Krystal huh? Ok, you are Krystal # 3. If you promise to be a good girl you might one day move up to # 2… but # 1 is grandfathered in so don’t get any ideas, you don’t have a chance.” In the Day Game Course I reveal some frames that also help you when it comes to teasing and escalating things sexually. Ok guys, the next thing I’m gonna share with you is one of my PERSONAL gems. In fact I can’t believe that I let my manager talk me into revealing this. In fact, this secret alone can double your ability to get SOLID phone numbers during the day. The secret is…

QUALIFICATION PINGING If a girl is willing to qualify herself during the da y you can get a solid phone number. So you want to ping for qualification as quickly as possible. Often at times during the day, the mere act of approaching (especially if it’s direct) will be enough to get attraction. However most students I’ve taught still spend way too much time trying to build attraction that is alread y there. Instead I recommend you attempt to qualify right off your opener. Think about it like you’re checking a map. Let’s go back to my example from earlier where I was picking up Monica at the supermarket. I’ve just asked her for her opinion and she’s given it.

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Sinn: "That’s really interesting, it seems like you’re pretty down to Earth. Who are you?" Monica: "You mean what’s my name? I’m Monica." S: "Hmm, you don’t strike me as a Monica, my ex was named Monica and she didn’t believe in Dinosaurs. You believe in Dinosau rs right? Cause otherwise it completely invalidates your opinion." M: "Yes, I believe in Dinosaurs." S: "Ok that’s a positive; it took a while though... I’m not sure about you now…I gotta check you out. Why is Monica special?" M: "I’m a Pilate's instructor, and I make great Sushi." S: "Really? I tried Pilates once and was sore for a month, I must be able to bounce quarters off your core. I love girls who actuall y like working out. I also love sushi but, how on Earth do you make your own? That’s awesome… ".

I start off with a small funny hoop. By asking her if she believes in Dinosaurs. Any sane girl is going to answer yes, but she’s started c omplying with my qualification attempts. Now by doing that I can establish my frame as the selector, which I do by saying, “I’m not sure about you now…I gotta check you out.” Which allows me to build momentum going forward into my large qualifying question: “Why is Monica special?” Then when I get a good answer, I demonstrate actual interest. Most guys make the mistake of just saying something non-committal like, “That’s cool” or “Nice.” Then I go for a rapport question. This was the only flaw in the old way of teaching qualifications like Mystery’s bait, Hook, Reel, and Release. By asking a rapport question, I show that I am actually interested and not merely trying to reward her or be a "yes" man. I also do my best to relate as much as possible to her answers. Here are some good questions to ping for qualification early on in the interaction

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“Are you adventurous?” “Can you cook?” “Are you a good friend?” “What nationality are you?” “What do you have going for you more than your looks?” “Why are you special?”


Now let’s talk about something that trips guys up faster than anything else during the day.

TOUCHING DURING THE DAY Touching during the day is a very tricky subject. To fully understand why touching is so different during the day. Let’s examine some common situations that occur in different contexts. Shelly is out with her friends at a bar on Friday night. She’s having a few drinks, grinding with her friends and random guys on the dance floor, and it’s around midnight when you start talking to her. This is a situation where you could be making out with her within 15 minutes and taking her home within 2 hours. Now let’s look at Shelly on a Tuesday afternoon. She’s by herself; she’s on her way home from a hard day at work when she decides to stop for a quick coffee, before changing and having dinner with a friend, when you start a conversation with her. In this situation it would be very strange to try to make out with her in 15 minutes and she will be leaving alone to go to dinner with her friend. Let’s look at the key differences. First when Shelly goes out on Friday night she’s out for the entire night with her friends. She’s not on her way to other plans. There are no legitimate time constraints, and it is possible to take the interaction all the wa y to the bed room. Second when she’s out at night she’s drinking alcohol. This means she is in a different state of mind, and her inhibitions are lower. During the day if you meet a girl whose drunk you might wanna run away… At night she’s been grinding with her friends and random guys on the dance floor. No matter what girls say grinding of any type gets them turned on because the physical sensations to those regions are impossible to ignore. During the d ay she hasn’t been doing a lot of touching, so she won’t be as comfortable touching or being touched. A good general rule for touching during the day is to not touch the girl in any way that you would be uncomfortable touching your boss. That means keep it very platonic. The only exception happens if you take her on an instant date to a different location. Speaking of which…

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INSTANT DATES Instant Dates are pivotal to having success with meeting women during the day time. I often refer to Day Game as “Instant Date or Die!” An instant Date refers to meeting a girl in on e situation (let’s say a bookstore) and moving her somewhere else (let’s say to a coffee shop). These are important because they change the entire dynamic of the interaction. When you are meeting a girl during the day time there is a specific dynamic. This dynamic is guy picking up girl. You are both strangers who came to the place you met separately. This is obviously not the most helpful dynamic. However, when you have met a girl and moved her to a second location (Even if it’s just the coffee shop part of the bookstore) the dynamic changes. All of a sudden you guys are there together. This is why we call them instant dates, because the d ynamic of the interaction changes from one of a pick up, to one of a date. So how can you start getting instant dates today? The first key to getting instant dates is to start going for them. The next time that you are talking to a girl during the day and she seems interested, suggest going for coffee across the street. The second key to getting instant dates is planning. You want to know where you are going to be suggesting an instant date to go to. When I used to live in San Diego I did a lot of approaches in a strip mall in Mission Valley. The reason was that it was perfectly suited to instant dates. In this strip mall was a Borders bookstore where I could meet girls. Inside the Borders was a coffee shop where I could move girls I met in the bookstore. Across the parking lot, was a Coffee Bean and across from there was a Baja Fresh. So I could meet girls in the bookstore and suggest they have coffee with me at one of two different coffee shops within a hundred yards. I could meet girls in line for burritos and invite them to help me grab a book across the parking lot, etc Now the point is not that you have to find the exact same set up or move to San Diego (Though it does have the best weather in the world). Instead it shows the importance o f setting up your own Day Game Environment. The more you can have easy options for instant dates and movement the better.

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The third and most underappreciated ke y to Instant Dates is making sure that the place you’re going is within walking distance. Preferably you want to be able to see it as well. Girls are not going to be comfortable getting in your car after a few minutes. It’s also not a good idea to make her have to walk 3-4 blocks to get to the instant date. Now it can seem like getting girls to agree to go on an instant date with you is very difficult. In reality it isn’t nearly as hard as it seems. You want to make sure that you get into the habit of trying to move every woman you approach. In the DVD course I talk about how to use movement to escalate the interaction before going on the instant date. But we don’t have time to get into that here. Briefly, I want to take a time-out and give you guys an assignment. It’s really important to commit to the process of getting better with women. One of the best ways to commit is to put together an action plan. Right now, we are going to talk about preparing a day game plan. The thing about Day Game is that there are multiple levels that one can build on. For example you should be coordinating activities you enjoy into your day game locations. If you like yoga, you are going to have more in common with the girl you meet in a yoga class, than the one you meet at Starbucks. Exercise # 1:

Pick out three places you are going to do Day Game and write down three times you are going to go there in your planner or cell phone. Be sure to experiment with the times and days to see if there is a specific time or day that particularly beautiful women are there.

Ok, let’s get back on track here as we’re almost finished giving you gu ys a jump start on meeting, attracting and seducing beautiful women during the day. One of the things I always say is that Day Game will test your ability to be a normal, interesting person. That means it’s going to be a very “comfort heavy” conversation. Once you get the girl to answer a large qualifying question (something like: “What’s your best quality?”) you are definitively in comfort. This means you no longer need to worry about keeping the attraction super high all the time. Instead, you want to focus on building commonalities, conspiracy, rapport, etc… Ultimately you want to lead this conversation into setting up a date. So let’s dive into what defines comfort and ho w we can quickly establish unbelievable levels of it!

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Comfort has long been the something of an enigma in the Secret Underground Internet Seduction Community (SUISC). When I first took my Mystery Method seminar in 200 4, Mystery taught comfort as the idea of babysitting. All you had to do was continue to interact with her and escalate touching until the magical seven hour rule kicked in and then you could get laid. I’ve also heard other companies teach comfort as unnecessary, preferring instead to rely on a mixture of attraction and sexual escalation. These techniques can be extremely useful in a bar or club, but is an ineffective strategy during the day time, due to the differences that I explained in the first chapter of t his report. I want to address both of these ideas as I attempt to shed some light on how to quickly establish comfort during the day. Before I start to define comfort I want to break this idea of a comfort phase, into 3 separate types of comfort. This is important so that you know what kind of comfort to use at different points of the interaction. The first type of comfort is actually the starting point of every social interaction. This is what I call Social Comfort. Social Comfort needs to be established right away. In fact you cannot even be attracted to someone until you are comfortable with them socially. The second type of comfort is what is traditionally taught by other guys in the SUISC. This is rapport based comfort. Rapport based comfort involves answering all of the questions girls need to ask to go from meeting you to having a sexual interaction. You also get a chance to establish trust, conspiracy, and all other elements of traditional comfort. This is what people outside of the community call “getting to know each other”. The last type of comfort is sexual comfort. Sex ual comfort is the most interesting of the types of comfort. This is because it can occur at any time and happens on multiple channels of communication. A girl can show she’s sexually comfortable with you through what she says, through the level of physical escalation she’s initiating and allowing, and through the different places she’s comfortable with you in. A girl who follows you into the bathroom at a bar is much more sexually comfortable with you than a girl who is willing to meet you for a drink at a bar. So now that we understand that there are 3 types of comfort we have to understand which of these comforts we need to establish during the day. The correct answer of course is Social Comfort and Rapport Comfort.

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Social Comfort is established through being well groomed and dressed, having good body language, eye contact and vocal deliver y. The hardest part of this for new guys is delivery, so I want to quickly review the basics of delivery here.

BASICS OF DELIVERY Make sure you are projecting from your diaphragm instead of your chest. This is important because it not only lowers your voice to make it sound sexier it also allows you to project your voice further. Learning how to do this will ensure you are always heard. If needed it may be worth it to do a few sessions with a vocal coach. A quick Google search can get you a list of names. Speak one person behind whomever you are talking to; this will make sure that your voice carries. It will also keep you from being too loud while projecting your voice. Try to eliminate ums and ahs from your speaking, replace them with pauses. By making this correction alone, you will instantly sound more alpha and decisive. It can take practice but the more you weed out unnecessary words from your speech, the more clearly you will be displaying your attractive qualities. Pauses are very important as they build response attentiveness. You should pause for no reason every couple of minutes to build some intrigue into what you are saying. People start paying attention when you pause. Do not speak too fast. I cannot overstate this as someone who formerly spoke like an Olympic sprinter. The faster you speak, the more it looks like you are nervous, or worried that the people you are speaking to are going to stop listening. This telegraphs a ton of insecurity. Don’t worry they are not going to leave if you slow down and take a second to collect yourself. Don’t be afraid to waste the girl's time. If you lose track of what you were saying or doing a second ago, take a second to collect your thoughts. Make her wait a second too long before you answer her questions. Don’t appear so eager and happy to simply be speaking to a girl. Make statements, don’t ask questions. Asking questions is like withdrawing money from the bank. There’s only so much in there and after it’s gone the withdrawal fee is the girl walking away. A great simple conversational trick is to turn any boring question into a statement. For example if I want to ask what a girl does, I can ask the chodlicious question “What do you do?” Or I can say “You look like a nurse.” If she is a nurse, she’ll be amazed, if she isn’t she will wonder why I thought that and tell me what she actually does. Avoid questions like the plague until you are into comfort.

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Don’t speak in a short choppy manner. Make sure that your speech has a rhythmic quality to it and sounds smooth. Elongate wo rds and try to be as smooth as possible. Think of how you would talk to your girlfriend after sex. Ok, so once you’ve established Social Comfort and gotten a girl to answer a large qualifying question, then it’s time to build rapport based comfort. I obviously can’t explain comfort in text the same way I explain it during the 3 hours of seminar during a bootcamp. But I want to break it down into 5 basic concepts for you guys to get started right now!

THE 5 KEYS TO CREATING MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF COMFORT QUICKLY! 1) Building Commonalities. Commonalities can literally save an interaction. I remember a time I was talking to a girl at a mall in Scottsdale. Nothing was working and she kept mentioning that she had to go meet her friend. So in frustration I mentioned that this was worse than bombing on stage at stand up. She lit up… She mentioned that she loved stand up and we started talking eventually leading to an instant date and a very solid phone number. It’s very important to remember the “Go First” principle when it comes to commonalities. You want to volunteer things you are into first and let the girl agree with you, rather than vice versa. 2) Establishing a conspiracy. Conspiracies are key to all relationships. In addition to establishing a cooperative dynamic, conspiracies allow you to build a huge amount of rapport. Conspiracies essentially are inside jokes between you and the girl. You want to establish an "us against the world" dynamic. Examples of conspiracies range from role plays and games to simply explaining how the two of you are the coolest people in the coffee shop. 3) Demonstrating that you understand women and h er specifically. Demonstrating that you understand women is key to building an amazing amount of rapport. I even go so far as to call it speaking Womanese. When you can convey to a girl that you understand the way women think, and feel, you will be able to communicate with her on an entirely different level. It’s also important to show her that you understand her as a person. This is where cold reading and framing really comes into play. By knowing some basic truisms about women and relationships, you can demonstrate a deep understanding of her reality. 4) Making your intentions clear. This is where I differ from almost all major p ick up gurus. I tell girls explicitly that I am hitting on them, trying to get in their pants, etc. The reason I do this is because it forces a woman to make a choice about how she is interested in me. I want her to be interested in me as a woman is interested in a man.

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Not as a shopping buddy, not as a friend. I want her to know that I am interested in her in a romantic/sexual nature. To do this we use statements of intent. These can be as simple as telling a girl you think she’s sexy to telling her you are hitting on her, or even trying to get in her pants. In comfort you need to make your intentions known so that the girl can know how you’re going to act around her down the line. In fact if you can get a girl to accept enough statements of intent it is very easy to sexually escalate. 5) Demonstrating a wide range of emotions. In attraction we need to convey that we are 40 foot tall Alpha Males full of confidence and superior sperm. In comfort we need to convey that we are a real person with a real life, friends, etc… One of the ways we do that is by showing the girl a wide range of emotions. By demonstrating that we’re comfortable being vulnerable or opening up about our families; or talking about something that makes you really mad, you build comfort. One of the questions a girl always asks herself when she’s meeting a guy she’s attracted to is “What would it be like if he was my Boyfriend.” By showing her a wide range of emotions you build trust.

CONCLUSION Ok, let’s wrap up by discussing how to set u p dates and get phone numbers. The first thing you need to understand about phone numbers is that they no longer mean anything on their own. As Mystery is fond of saying they’re not worth the paper they’re written on. In today’s day and age EVERYONE has caller id. Girls will sometimes even program in your phone number as “Don’t answer.” I’ve even been known to do that myself. ☺ So instead of placing a lot of importance on getting the phone number, you want to instead focus on setting up a date. Furthermore you want to set up a date for a specific time at a specific place. This tactic alone should cut down your flake rate by 80%. Here’s why- first of all it will weed out the girls who are likely to flake right away. If you try to set up a date for a particular time and place and the girl says something like “Call me later in the week”, you know she’s likely to flake. If she tells you she’s busy and doesn’t suggest another time or place to hang out, you know you’re likely dealing with a flake. Plus by getting her to commit to a specific time and place you invoke the psychological principle of commitment and consistency. So let’s talk about how to set up dates. The first part of setting up a date is called seeding. Seeding is extremely important because it introduces the place you’re going to be inviting her to, without actually inviting her.

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The best way to seed the date is to tell a story that makes you look good, set in the place you’re going to invite her to. This way you can oversell the place and make it sound super cool without looking like you’re desperately trying to convince her to come. Here’s a story my wing Captain Jack came up with that I used to use when I lived in Dallas. “You ever smoke the hookah?” - This is a small hoop to gain compliance and make it look like you are not asking her out. Whether she says yes or no, you start the next part. “Have you ever been to The Gypsy Tea Room?” "It’s my favorite Hookah Bar in Dallas, it’s awesome! They hav e a completely decked out set up where everyone sits on pillows and it’s just got a reall y chilled vibe. My friends and I always go there on Wednesday nights to get through the week." "In fact I was there last week with my ex-girlfriend. Last week, she had to go to work at eleven, she danced over at X strip club. She was looking through my phone for what seemed like forever. I didn’t really think much of it until the next day, when I looked through my phone and noticed she had deleted every female number in my phone - even my grandma and niece!" "You’re not the jealous type are you?" This qualifier tacked on to the end moves us out of the story, very nicely and lets us move back into comfort before we ask her out. Now one of the key components to seeding is that you do not ask her out. If she asks you to take her there, just say “cool” and change the subject. Then after you’ve seeded the date and created some interest in her you want to officially ask her out. If you think you are going to be interrupted you can always wait a minute or so and then use a false time constraint and go for the date. I like to add a body rock out and an excuse like this: “Hey I actually do have to go in a second, but so far you seem really cool. You should join me and some friends for Hookah next Wednesday. We usually get there around 8ish. Give me your number and we’ll figure out driving and everything.” Then keep talking to her for as long as you can. You always want to aim to stay in the conversation for at least 5 minutes after you get her number. But don’t stress it if you only stay in for one or two. The overall idea is to avoid being the guy who gets her phone number and immediately takes off.

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Another thing to remember is the 25 minute phone number rule. If you’ve been talking to any girl during the day time for over 25 minutes, a little bell should go off in your head reminding you to get her phone number. When I first started working for Mystery Method, I recorded over 100 of my day time approaches and noticed that almost all of my phone numbers that I got between 18 and 25 minutes lead to actual dates. Now when it’s time to go for the phone number and date you want to be as direct as possible. You don’t want to leave a lot of ambiguity or flakiness. The worst possible way in the world to get a phone number is to say “Give me your number, we should hang out sometime.” Instead you want to start with a compliment and then pin down an exact time and place. Always remember the phone number itself is not the goal. Getting her to agree to go out with you is. I like to say something like: “You know, I meet a ton of people but it’s really rare that I meet someon e I think is actually interesting. We’re gonna be heading over to The Gypsy Tea Room on Wednesday. I’d like to take you with me.” That last little phrase is a really good one. I used to subscribe to the usual community doctrine of inviting girls to “tag along” with me. Then I noticed that a friend of mine, who had amazing success at getting girls out on dates, always phrased the p roposal of a date like this. So I decided to try it out for myself. And I noticed a big decrease in my flake ratio. You might want to try it out for yourself and see how it works for you. That wraps up the Day Game Report. Before we get you out of here I want to quickly re-cap everything we’ve learned. We started off by defining Day Game as anything outside of a bar or club. Then we went over the differences between Night and Day game. As a quick refresher they were: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) 7) 8)

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The Level of stimulation is lower during the da y. The Stigma of Cold Approach is lessened during the day. Groups are MUCH more difficult to approach during the day. Tone Down Your Energy Level by 2/3s. You don’t need to disqualify or “Neg” during the day. Attraction is much shorter during the day, if it’s even necessary at all. Direct Game works better during the day. Girls are not always in a social mode during the day.


Then we followed up by giving you five things you can work on all the time to improve your game. They were: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5)

Body Language Talking To Strangers Touching Relentless Positivity Teasing

We went over the differences between seated, standing and moving approaches, taught you a bunch of different ways to start conversations, as well as teaching you the 4 categories of teasing and how to use them. Then we talked about the idea of qualification pinging and how it can accelerate your Day Game success. We covered touching during the day and the art of the instant date. Finally I revealed the five keys to creating massive amounts of comfort quickly and how to set up dates where the girl will actually show up. I know we gave you a lot of information in this report (And trust me this is just the tip of the iceberg) so I want to make sure to leave you guys with a reminder to review this report every ninety days. If you feel as though you’re ready to take your Day Game a step further, my Complete Day Game from A to Z Mastery Program that I’m going to be releasing later this month contains literally EVERYTHING I know about Da y Game. (Much more than I could cover in this small report.) I’ll be releasing a lot more details about the Mastery Program in the coming days and weeks. In the meantime, get out there and start meeting some women during the day! -Sinn

P. S. What did you think of the Day Game Report? I’m anxious to hear your comments. Please post them at www.sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com. P. P. S. Hopefully you found this Report helpful and can relate to some of the truths in it. If so, I’d appreciate it if you can tell as many people as possible about it who may benefit from this information. Please pass it along to anyone who you think might benefit from this information.

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