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THE PARENTS
A. Development Developmental al Tasks Tasks of Pare Parents nts to Be: Mothering and Fathering B. Merc Mercer’s er’s Theory and R! R!in’s in’s Theor Theory y ". Behavior Behavior and needs of e#pectant e#pectant mothers D. Moth Mother ering ing Rol Role e $. Fathe atheri ring ng Role ole F. . %elected sitational crises a&ecting parental assmption of their role: '. single parenthood (. !irth of handicapped child ). adopting a child *. separation+divorce+annlment ,. hospitali-ation+death of a spose . /orking mother+a!sentee parent0s1 A. Developmental tasks of parents to be: Mothering & athering Dvall’s $234T5%TA3$ $234T5%TA3$ FAM267 FAM267 62F$ 62 F$ "7"6$ A8D D$9$6PM$8TA6 TA%;%
Developmental Tasks of 8e/ Parents '. Reconciling con spose> and child. (. Accepting and ad?sting to the strains and pressres of yong motherhood+fatherhood @ !alancing the demands. ). 6earning ho/ to care for their infant. = 6earning skills of feeding = Bathing = Decisions srronding ne/ child *. $sta!lishing and maintaining healthy rotines for the family. = Ad?sting personal rotines to inclde the ne/ !a!y = Ad?sting rotines to t /ith other family mem!ers rotines ,. Providing fll opportnities fro the child’s development = $nriching the physical sitation = Providing many e#periences for child to e#plore+learn = "hild proof hose = Accepting child as an individal . %haring the responsi!ilities responsi!ilities of parenthood. . Maintaining a satisfying relationship /ith spose. C. Making satisfactory ad?stments to the practical realities of life
= Making decisions a!ot ?o!> day5care> etc = Adapting if necessary to limited nancial resorces> social life> friends> etc E. Maintaining a sense of personal atonomy '. $#ploring and developing the satisfactory sense of !eing a family. = Family recreation> ?oint activities = 8e/ associations /ith other relatives in their roles as Ant> Gncles> etc athering Role. Fathers play many roles in parenting their children. %ome are involved in every facet of their childHs life /hile others concentrate on one or t/o aspects of raising their child
%tdi dies of parenting !ehav haviors sggest that fathers still tend to concentrate their e&orts on a handfl of !asic parenting responsi!ilities. Today> fathers roles tend to !e dened !y the IFive IFive PsI: Participator / Problem Solver Fathers ers can sometimes overlook the importance of !eing a reglar participator in their their child childHs Hs life. life. Being Being there there for a child child is more than physical presence> !t helping to meet meet chil childr dren enHs Hs soci social al>> emot emotio iona nal> l> and and psychological needs. Fathers talk a!ot the importance of helping their child solve many of the critical pro!lems of gro/ing p. These cold !e the challe challenge nges s of emerg emerging ing adlth adlthood ood sch sch as deciding: /hat to do for a living> /hether to go to college> /hether to !y a carJ or> they cold !e everyday tasks sch as home/ork> #ing a !ike> or hanging a s/ing from a tree. 2n the pro!l pro!lem5s em5solv olver er role> role> dads dads are are modeling e&ective pro!lem5solving skills for their child. They have an opportnity to sho/ their child ho/ to make and act on decisions> as /ell as e#perience the conseKences of their actions and decisions. This process fosters a childHs respo espons nsi! i!il ilit ity> y> inde indepe pend nden ence ce>> and and self self55 reliance. 2f children are raised /ithot a role model model for e&ecti e&ective ve pro!l pro!lem5 em5sol solvin ving> g> they they often adopt poor strategies that lead them to !ecome ine&ectal and helpless in pro!lematic sitations. "hil "hildr dren en and and adl adlts ts /ith /ith de eci cien entt pro!lem5 pro!lem5solvi solving ng skills skills often often !ecome !ecome needy and dependen dependentt on others others to Imake Imake things things righ rightI tI in thei theirr life life.. n the the posi positi tive ve side side>> fathers fathers /ho model model healthy healthy pro!lem5s pro!lem5solvi olving ng
in relationships have children /ho are less aggressive and /ho are more poplar /ith their peers and teachers. Lhile fathers often play a critical role in their childHs life !y setting an e#ample of pro!lem5solving> fathers sometimes get involved in solving pro!lems /hen itHs nearly too late. 2n some family sitations> a father only gets involved /hen a childHs emotional and !ehavioral pro!lems have !ecome so serios that they are less responsive to treatment. Reserving dadHs help for only the I!igI pro!lems is a !ig mistake. Fathers need to !e involved in all phases of their childHs pro!lem5solving strategies from serving as an e#ample to serving as a gide /ho o&ers possi!le soltions to their children1. Playmate Fathers can !e great ?ngle gyms.
Research sho/s that fathers spend more time> proportionally> /ith their children in high5energy> physical play than do mothers. 2n addition> fathers tend to engage in more roghhosing and stimlating play than mothers> for e#ample> sing the elements of srprise and e#citement. This sets p e#pectations in children for the ma?ority of their interactions /ith fathers involving physical play. For e#ample> a daghter hangs on her fatherHs arm and /ants to s/ing as soon as he comes throgh the front door on his /ay home from /ork. %till> this type of play can !e very important in a childHs life. Physical play not only !ilds mscles and coordination> !t can often !e sed to teach rles that govern !ehavior 0e.g.> taking trns> standing in line> playing physically /ithot in?ring someone> etc.1. Throgh the role of playmate> a father can encorage his childHs sense of atonomy and independence> /hich is a ma?or milestone of social and emotional gro/th. 2n addition> play is often termed a I/indo/ to the childHs /orld.I This means that play can often !e sed to nd ot a!ot a childHs thoghts> feelings> hopes> and dreams. Fathers can also se play to informally start a serios conversation /ith their child. 2n fact> itHs important that fathers se this time to talk /ith their child and to !ild their emotional !ond /ith them.
Too often> fathers miss this opportnity !y simply playing and s!stitting physical contact for ver!al interaction Principled Guide The clich> ILait til yor father gets homeNI no longer applies de to the diversity of family types as /ell as a ne/ nderstanding of child discipline as gidance> not pnishment. 8either shold IpnisherI !e sed to descri!e a fatherHs role> especially !ecase pnishment tends to !e a negative assertion of adlt po/er. Pnishment emphasi-es to children /hat they shold not do> rather than ho/ parents /old like them to act. Also> pnishment may !e the reslt of a parentHs emotional reaction to a childs !ehavior. As a reslt> a child may feel shamed and hmiliated /hich ndermines trst in the parent5child relationship. Also> the childHs sense of atonomy and initiative may !e ndermined> especially /hen a childHs naccepta!le !ehavior is /ell5meaning. 3idance> on the other hand teaches socially desira!le !ehavior> helps children to learn the di&erence !et/een right and /rong> and ena!les children to e#perience and nderstand the conseKences of their o/n !ehavior. Fathers /ho serve as gides for their children maintain their athority> !t se it e&ectively. 3idance is a colla!orative e&ort !et/een parent and child that involves an ongoing process of father5child interaction. Agreement !et/een fathers and mothers on gidance strategies is important> particlarly /hen it comes to learning conseKences of naccepta!le !ehavior. 2f one parent allo/s the child to e#perience the conseKences of his+her poor decision and the other resces the child from that e#perience> there /ill !e harmfl e&ects to !oth the parental relationship and the childHs development. Ost as important> /hen fathers !ecome over5involved in pnishing> they often have far too little involvement in re/arding good !ehaviors. Fathers /ho /ant to !ild a healthy !ond /ith their child need to se appropriate gidance. This gidance mst !e a !alance !et/een correcting naccepta!le !ehavior and encoraging /ith praise and other re/ards for sccessfl !ehavior. Provider
Lhile> in the last fe/ decades> mothers of dependent children have entered the /ork force in nprecedented nm!ers> men contine to !e identied as the primary I!read/innerI for the family. This is not al/ays the case> as some fathers choose to !e the primary providers of childcare> for e#ample> /hile /orking ot of the home or contining their edcation. Also> /ith the increase in divorce and parenting otside of marriage> many mothers have !ecome the main providers for their families. American society still vales the a!ility of th e father to provide tangi!le resorces 0i.e.> food> money> shelter> material possessions1 for their children. For e#ample> policies enforcing a non5resident fatherHs payment of child spport re an emphasis on responsi!le fatherhood has in<enced social policy and social movements 0e.g.> the Promise ;eepers1 in the 'EEs throgh the ne/ millennim. More than the provision of material things 0e.g.> income and resorces1 for children and families> a fathers provider role can !e dened in terms of responsi!ility for care of the child. For e#ample> fathers may help to make plans and arrangements for child care> even if they are not directly providing care. All too often> fathers have !een led to !elieve that providing income and material spport is all there is> their only /ay for caring for their family. ThatHs nfortnate> !ecase it discorages fathers from participating in all of the other parenting activities that many nd so fllling> sch as gidance> play> and school activities. Frther> if a father vales his role as a parent solely only in terms of providing material resorces for the family> he may !egin to feel trapped !y his employment. Placing a !lk of the emphasis on a fathers !eing the provider can prevent his leaving nsatisfying> /ell5paying employment. 4e may not feel a!le to risk 0even a temporary1 decrease in family income /hile he looks for other employment opportnities. Preparer Fathers often see themselves as someone involved in preparing their children for lifeHs challenges> as /ell as protecting them /hen necessary. They may talk /ith their child a!ot family vales and morals. r> fathers may advise their teenagers a!ot edcational and employment goals as /ell as
give advice 0/hen asked for1 a!ot peer and romantic relationships. They may gide their child a!ot ho/ to !ehave in school and /ork to ensre their childHs sccess in those areas. They may discss the importance of !eing trthfl> of giving an Ihonest dayHs /ork for an honest dayHs payI> or sho/ing their a&ection to a spose or partner. ften> fathers see their relationship /ith their child !lossom as the child gro/s into adolescence and adlthood. %ome fathers even see this as the time to get involved in preparing their children for the Ireal /orld.I 2n trth> fathers donHt need to /ait ntil their children are !ecoming adlts in order to teach them important life lessons. Fathers can provide moral gidance and practical lessons all the /ay throgh their childHs life. This kind of involvement strengthens the father5child relationship. 2nvolvement helps !ild an ongoing partnership !et/een father and child. Most important> throgh his in<ence on many areas of his childHs life> a father teaches his child ho/ to !e a parent. Mothering Role Mothering is a relationship /ith a !a!y or child characteri-ed !y a strong> emotional attachment that promotes the infant+childHs srvival and /ell !eing 0Barnard> 'EE,1. A /omanHs potential for mothering is in<enced !y maternal> infant and environmental factors 0Mercer> 'EC'J R!in> 'EC*J ;oniak53rin> 'EE)1 some of /hich inclde: Qality of mothering she herself received. Acceptance of her femininity. Personal vales and goals. Relationship /ith the !a!yHs father+ partner and degree of secrity she derives from it. "ircmstances srronding pregnancy and ho/ /elcome it is. Physical conditions of pregnancy and delivery. "ircmstances srronding pregnancy and ho/ /elcome it is. Physical conditions of pregnancy and delivery.
2n<ences on Mother’s "apacity "ltre Ad?stment to role as parent of !a!y Ba!yHs temperament and special needs
;no/ledge of infant !ehaviors %pport the parent+s receives $#pectations of !a!y Relationship /ith partner 4ealth of parents and !a!y Previos child!irth e#perience %pacing !et/een !irths Parenting that !oth parents received %elf5condence
e#pectations. Then she imagines herself performing in that /ay 0pro?ection1 and makes a ?dgment a!ot the !ehavior. 2f the t is good> the !ehavior is accepted.
Reva R!bin"s Theor#: Maternal Role Attainment. %he e#amined ho/ mothers se a variety of senses 55 sight> smell and toch 55 to !ecome familiar /ith their ne/!orns. To encorage the !onding that she o!served> she /as an early proponent of keeping the mother and the ne/!orn together as mch as possi!le dring the rst days after !irth. %he /as the athor of IThe Maternal 2dentity and the Maternal $#perienceI 0%pringer> 'EC*1. 2n 'E(> she /as a fonder /ith her companion and longtime professional colleage> Dr. Florence 4. $rickson of the Maternal "hild "are 8rsing Oornal> the rst research ?ornal in the eld. Together> they also esta!lished masterHs and doctoral programs in nrsing at the Gniversity of Pitts!rgh. Maternal identity developmen t is the /oman’s e&orts aimed at !ecoming a mother
Developmental Stages of Maternal Role
Pro$ess of Maternal Role Taking
'. Mimicry5 an active operation in /hich the /oman searches the environment and her memory for other people /ho are or have !een in the role she is /orking to attain> and then e#amines their !ehavior and imitates them (. Role play5 acting ot /hat a person in the soght role actally does in particlar sitations. the earliest form of role !ehavior ). Fantasy5 involves cognitively trying varieties of possi!le role sitations. occrs !y /ay of fears> dreams> and daydreams *.2ntro?ection5pro?ection5 re?ection+acceptance 02PR+A15 the mother takes in the !ehavior of others 0intro?ection1> and e#amines if it ts her o/n role
,. 3rief /ork5 an operation that has to do /ith giving p elements of the former self /hich /old !e in con
A. The Anti$ipator# Stage: This stage !egins dring pregnancy /here!y the /oman prepares for her ne/ role. The pregnant /oman prepares for this ne/ role throgh completion of for ma?or developmental tasks 0R!in>'EC*1. Maternal Tasks5The totality of a /oman’s psychologic /ork of pregnancy. 4as !een groped into for
'. %eeking safe passage for self and !a!y: seeking safe passage in the rst trimester is for pregnancy care> in the second trimester it is for !a!y care> and in the third it is for delivery care.S %eeking safe passage for herself and her child throgh pregnancy> la!or> and delivery. (. %ecring acceptance:5 secring acceptance is a condition necessary to prodce and sstain the energy for all the other tasks. involves a re/orking of psychologic> social and physical space /ithin the family to make a place for the coming child ). 6earning to give of self: giving is an inherent and pervasive part of !eing a mother> dring !oth child!earing or childrearing. the /oman has to learn to give to the child volntarily on a day5to5day !asis in order for the child to srvive *. Binding5in to the nkno/n !a!y: maternal !inding5in is the dynamic process of attachment and interconnection /ith the infant that !egins in the prenatal period. has t/o halves: !inding5in to the infant and !inding5in to self as mother of the infant
%. The ormal Stage The formal stage !egins at !irth. Dring this stage the ne/ mother needs to complete the follo/ing tasks as part of the process for acKiring the mothering role 0Mercer> 'EC'1 Maternal Tasks: . Re$on$ile the a$t!al $hil'birth e(perien$e )ith her prenatal fantasies of birth. As the mother revie/s the events of child!irth and re she !egins integrating the e#perience /ith her e#pectation. %he evalates her performance in relation to the e#periences of her mother> sisters> and friends. Lhen the actal e#perience is not /hat /as e#pected> the mother may feel that her performance /as inadeKate. 4ome visitors can involve partners in this discssion so that '1 the mother can receive reassrance and spport a!ot her performance or (1 the e#perience can !e reframed so that she and the partner can recogni-e her strengths and accomplishments. Re$on$ile pre*birth fantasies of bab# )ith a$t!al infant $hara$teristi$s. Talking a!ot ho/ her !a!yHs characteristics compare /ith her fantasies of !a!y dring pregnancy helps the mother see !a!yHs niKeness. Throgh this process the mother !egins to claim the !a!y as hers> a step that is important for sensitive and responsive care. Lhen !a!y is the desired se# and has the e#pected si-e> coloring> and temperament characteristics> then this task takes less e&ort and time and she can move to other tasks. Lhen there are ma?or gaps !et/een e#pectations and reality> there is
more /ork for mom. 2nclding the partner in this discssion can help facilitate identity /ith and attachment to !a!y for !oth mother and partner. Re$on$ile her bo'# image after birth )ith her e(pe$tations. The ne/ mother /ants to look and feel feminine again. %he is concerned a!ot her appearance. 4er partnerHs response can assist /ith this task or prolong it. +bserve the bab#,s normal bo'il# f!n$tions. The ne/ mother needs to see !a!y feed> sck> !rp> and cry so that she can !e assred that there is nothing /rong /ith the !a!y. This is part of the early attachment process. Perform mothering tasks. Dring the rst t/o /eeks after !irth> the rst time mother /ith no e#perience focses on learning and performing infant care tasks sch a !athing> feeding> !rping> and diaper changing. The e#perienced mother is concerned /ith ho/ to mother this ne/ !a!y and ho/ the !a!y /ill t into the family. The e#perienced> as /ell as the ine#perienced mother may have mood s/ings> !e easily frstrated and critical of herself. Most mothers> regardless of e#perience> need reassrance that they are capa!le of caring for the ne/ !a!y. Re'e-ne partner roles. The ne/ mother and father !egin to redene their roles as partners and as parents to inclde the ne/ family mem!er. Res!me other responsibilities. Follo/ing !irth the mother !egins to anticipate the responsi!ilities a/aiting her at home inclding meal preparation> care of older children> and landry. The partner can assist the mother /ith identifying individals /ho can help them dring the early /eeks follo/ing !irth. Arond t/o /eeks after !irth> the mother /ants to resme social activities otside the home. Finding her at home for a home visit may !e diclt after t/o /eeks as the mother resmes otside activities. . The /nformal Stage The informal stage !egins dring the rst month. The mother creates her o/n responses to her !a!yHs ces and relies less on the advise of e#perts. The !a!yHs response to her care and comments from family mem!ers and friends provide the mother /ith feed!ack a!ot her competence as mother of this !a!y.
D. The Personal0 Maternal Role /'entit# Stage This stage signals the endpoint of maternal role attainment. Dring this stage the mother: Develops a sense of competence and satisfaction in the role. Attaches to the infant. 2s comforta!le /ith her maternal identity. The timing and dration of these stages are in<enced !y a nm!er of factors inclding previos mothering e#perience> cltre> spport from signicant others> the motherHs physical recovery> the !a!yHs temperament and e#pectations of !a!y.
Ramona T. Mercer’s Theory 'E(E5Present: Maternal Role Attainment* %e$oming A
Mother* an interactional and developmental process occrring over time in /hich the mother !ecomes attached to her infant> acKires competence in the caretaking tasks involved in the role. “The movement to the personal state in which the mother experiences a sense of harmony, condence, and competence in how she performs the role is the end point of maternal role attainment- aternal identity!