The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women

The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women

The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women by Chad Manning Copyright 2008: [email protected] © Copyright 2007, None of this material may be reproduced without explicit permission from the author. All rights reserved worldwide. LEGAL NOTICE The author assume no liability or responsibility to any person or entity with respect to errors, omissions, contradictory interpretations of the subject matter herein to be caused directly or indirectly by the use of & the advice given in this publication. To the fullest extent permitted by applicable laws, in no event shall "The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women" in association with Chad Manning be held liable for damages of any kind or character, including without limitation any compensatory, incidental, direct, indirect, special, punitive or consequential damages, loss of use, loss of data, loss of income or profit, loss of or damage to property, claims of third parties, arising out of or in connection with the use of "The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women” You have been warned.

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I think $5 to $10 AUD (Australian Dollars) or equivalent value in other currencies is fine, especially after you have seen the results. I offer o ffer it cheap because this knowledge kno wledge needs to reach every man. I want to shut down those “Mystery method” SOB's/PUA's before their system taints the dating community worse than that infamous book “the Rules.” WHERE ARE DONATIONS SENT?

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Table of Contents Acknowledgments................................................................................................................3 Introduction..........................................................................................................................5 PART 1: The Philosophies of Dealing With Women..........................................................7 The Flaws of Conventional “Pick up Arts” Part 1................................................. ......... 8 Reality Check: Rejection Will Happen!........................................................................12 You're A Natural, you just Don't Don't know it yet................................................ yet................................................ ................ 13 WANTING = LACK ≠ HAVING................................................................................. 14 Just Be A Natural With Women....................................................................................15 You're Practically Risking Nothing!..................................................................... ........ 17 Let Go Of Your Your Need For Validation......................................................... .................. 18 Looking Good........................................................ ....................................................... 19 Preparing Yourself For Relationships................................................................ ........... 20 PART 2: The Techniques For Dealing With Women........................................................21 College Game: Game: Short & Sweet............................................................ .......................... 22 Fake It Until You Make It..................................................... It............................................................................................. ........................................ 25 Just Ask.................................................................... ..................................................... 26 How To Give Out Your Number...................................................................................27 Inviting Attraction.................................................................. ....................................... 29 Overcoming Your Nervousness................................................................................. ... 31 BONUS: FORPLAY SECRET..........................................................................................32

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS I wish to thank everybody who has helped me in the write this. First off my father & mother, who have raised me & then showed me the destructive consequences of being in a relationship with an overly independent woman. Secondly, I wish to thank Izzy Dirkins, & Nick Rose, for allowing me to bounce ideas off you both while writing this book. You thought I was kidding when I started this book, but I've done it. Finally to all the ladies I've had contact with, be it as co-eds at University, chance encounters at supermarkets, nightclubs, beaches, shopping malls, on the street, etc, & of course the women I've dated... I wish to thank you for your lessons you taught me in dealing with you. Please remember the good times fondly, & I hope that the skills you have helped me hone,now transcribed into this book, increases the quality of the men you are dating, & makes it easier to find the one of your dreams...



INTRODUCTION Alright Lads, Much has changed in my life since I first published “The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women” on scribd.com. I've changed Degrees from Biotechnology to Psychology, (I may be a professional student now but at least I'm not studying a useless degree like Sports Science.) A major change of lifestyle, more academia, less stress, a new group of people to meet, more women, more time for spiritual pursuits(Huna), all new ideas, & clarity within my head. The original Book left too many details open for interpretation & in keeping with my Biotechnology background, I've reformulated this book, with a unique mix of ideas. I've integrated some exercises into this book, so stop complaining & just do them. If you don't approve of my methods, you are welcome to comment, & if we can't rectify the issue, you can go ahead & write your own book. I've distilled the essence of the last book into this more compact & practical text. Therefore I've updated “The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women” Yes, chd_mann is back the Seduction Community's exile as Milord. (Some douche named Formhandle “Banned” me as chd_mann, so now my handle on mASF is “Milord”. I will happily remove this notice at such time as my original account is re-instated & I am given with “Mastermind” access. An appology would be nice too, but I'm not an over-demanding egomaniac... Yet! ;]) For those who don't know me... I am the Real Chad Manning, AKA “The Paraplegic PUA”, & yes, I am really a T-5 paraplegic with a speech impediment & average length penis. In between my wild social life, I'm actually studying at the University of the Sunshine Coast for my Bachelor of Psychology while “Male Lifestyle Coaching” on Campus & “In Club” to supplement my income. I've learned how to play “The Game” & rack up a high score, while enjoying life & the whole load of bad puns along the way. All of you lads have demanded so much of my time to help you all that my GPA have fallen as a result.


The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women Enough about me, I'm assuming that you want more success with women. Otherwise you wouldn't have read this far. I want to give you the mindset needed to be successful so the “techniques” required for any situation are rather intuitive. If you are still having problems, or suggestions on how to improve this book, don't hesitate to e-mail me, Just go out there & have fun! Women can choose whether to stay or not. They know that I am going to do what & whom I please & won't change my plans for any pretty face. She can take it or leave it & if she doesn't like it, she can go please herself, (& send me the recorded Blu-Ray Disc, I like to watch ;). This book is meant to do away with all of the canned routines that most women are vaccinated against. Yes, you heard me, 'vaccinated'. Women talk about all of the lines before we meet them, & with that much foresight, have prepared a line of their own. They are becoming almost immune to those tactics. So we will instead focus on the Natural mindset via a series of loosely linked articles. Once you are “in touch with your balls,” you will know what to say, what to do, how to choose the best women, & enjoy life along the way. Without Further Adieu, let us start with;



PART 1: THE PHILOSOPHIES OF DEALING

WITH WOMEN Table of Contents PART 1: The Philosophies of Dealing With Women..........................................................7 The Flaws of Conventional “Pick up Arts” Part 1................................................. ......... 8 Reality Check: Rejection Will Happen!........................................................................11 You're A Natural, you just Don't Don't know it yet................................................ yet................................................ ................ 12 WANTING = LACK ≠ HAVING................................................................................. 13 Just Be A Natural With Women....................................................................................14 You're Practically Risking Nothing!..................................................................... ........ 16 Let Go Of Your Your Need For Validation......................................................... .................. 17 Looking Good........................................................ ....................................................... 18 Preparing Yourself For Relationships................................................................ ........... 19 I'm not sure about your's, but I know my mother always told me that I have to ask for everything politely. “Say please.” “Be nice.” “Share your toys.” “Say thank you for that cookie.” Our mothers meant well, but try to forget her advice, because she left out the important stuff. Mum didn’t tell you that, “the most important person in any of your relationships is you because it’s your life.” Women don’t know what’s good for you, your mum doesn’t know what’s good for you, & I don’t know what’s good for you (Who am I kidding! Yeah I do, why else would I write an Book?) I’m not saying that your mother did anything wrong. You’re probably a very nice person. But you’re not nice to yourself, you’re nice to other people. Let me teach you how to be nice to yourself.



THE FLAWS OF CONVENTIONAL “PICK UP ARTS” PART 1 So, Women say I’m cold, I leave them waiting to follow my own ends, I stand them up on dates, never tell them 'I love you', & use their body & hearts as my playthings... But It's part of my charm. FACT: women like bad boys. Why? Bad Boys are upfront, upfront, honest honest & have self-respect. self-respect. Even the the worlds leading pick up artists use this in one form or another. Nice-guys have hidden their sexual interest behind the facade of “Friendship.” They let her walk all over him, & will do her bidding like a wreched slave hoping that someday he will earn his freedom from “Blue Balls.” 'The Method' works for Mystery because he is HONESTLY an insane illusionist, not to mention that his Neg Hits are honest comments about her. Apart from that, his program is of little value. The asshole's program didn't deliver, & one of his sniveling bitches in finance hung up on me after I politely asked for a refund... David DeAngelo's Cocky & Funny works because he is teasing women while saying something HONEST about them. Swinggcat's trademark Push-Pull technique works because he refuses to take crap from women, he disciplines the women, & he is HONEST about why. His program works particularly well on younger women. Grandmaster Flash is honest about the fact that he wants to fuck a womans brains out. I wonder if his name refers to his stamina...? BadBoy covers some of the nitty-gritty stuff of what I mention here; so I recommend you check his system out at www.badboylifestyle.com. www.badboylifestyle.com . Steve “the Dean” Williams has a similar concepts to what we talk about here. Thanks to his podcasts, I've had the epitome that inspired me to write this book. I whole-heartedly recommend his pod-casts & “Dean's Sleeves” (Sexual Enhancements training & toys) as well as his other programs from www.thedeantv.com. Did I mention that he has FREE Podcasts?



Apart from “the Dean's” & BadBoy's, all of these systems lack flexibility. For example, A good director will never give an actor too many directions, & will never tell an actor exactly what they should be doing or read an actor's lines the way he wants to hear them read. This is because a good director knows that the more honest & individual a performance the actor gives, the better it will be. Every time you listen to advice about dating that tells you to say certain things or act a certain way, you undermine all honesty, truth & respect in your advance. You become a fucking telemarketer reading a sales script! For this reason, I tell you what I would say so that we both have the same idea of honesty. In the end, you must become an honest you! Modify these materials to your vocabulary, while sticking to the guidelines I set. Besides, many of these “Master PUA's” are CON ARTISTS or TOO STUPID TO UNDERSTAND HOW THEY REALLY PICK UP. Anyway, the “Seduction Industry” will not tell you the whole truth; The basic principles that the “Seductive Sciences” are founded on are FLAWED! How so? They started off with serious problems with women! They then then scuttled off into their lairs & studied pick-up. They therefore assumed that they were unworthy. They, by implication, assumed that they weren't enough. That they had to work for her attention. Let me put it to you this way, if you are a nerd & you walk over to a attractive woman & she says "bug off," you're probably going to turn around & walk away right? Then your going to come up with strategies to make her pay attention. Now what if you were better looking then Brad Pitt, had more money then Donald Trump, & she said that. You would probably laugh. & she would respond differently because you responded differently. There in lies the problem. What your saying is that you have to WORK for her ATTENTION. By thinking this, you PLAY into the role of having less value... Do you want her to think that a HIGH VALUE MAN like YOU have LESS VALUE then HER?



Their entire Industry, their livelihoods, are based on, at best, the deliberate misinterpretation of pseudo-scientific / psychological research findings that have never been peerreviewed, the “Scientists” still marketing it as fact with a “Recreational-Use only” Disclaimer. As a Biotechnology/Psychology Biotechnology/Psychology Student, I requested from Mystery's group a copy of their raw data for cross-analysis & peer-review. I'm still waiting... By the same token, I cannot find anyone who will peer-review my book. That is why it's free at the moment. The preliminary testing of my methods are yielding promising results, but I will not sell the book in Hard Copy until I have the conclusive data to validate my methods. Please email me your “sucess stories” & questions, so I can improve this book with the next update.



THE FLAWS OF CONVENTIONAL “PICK UP ARTS” PART 2 Sorry, I digressed a little too far from my point, hence a new chapter. Just as the peer-review protocol being used in every other science is missing, so is the use of a reasonably controlled environment to isolate the methods as the major factor. This means, for example, if we were trying to test a “Club-Game” technique, we would need to have a using a non-biased sample of the target, so you would rent a Nightlife venue, with video & audio capture devices, & get a couple of lads that know nothing of your methods previously to learn & apply your methods before the testing the data. This would then be compared to the untrained men results with women (“average Patrons” of the club). Instead we have the 'PUA' who 'Developed a Theory' go out into a club he is most likely familiar with, with skills & game incorporated into himself, 'testing' the theory that he has made for possible commercial use... Alright, let's get back to you learning how to deal with women.



REALITY CHECK: REJECTION WILL HAPPEN! All right, let me be honest, no matter what you do, there are some women on this earth who never will be attracted to you. No matter what you change or improve about your looks, personality, or level of career & financial success, there are a group of women who will never, ever, ever find themselves interested in dating you or having sex with you. Get over it. (Note, I said Interested, but if forced... In the prehistoric times we could just whack a woman over the head with the club & drag her back to our cave. Ahh, good times, good times.) Rejection is not only inevitable in your continuing pursuit of the ideal woman, it is necessary. You are not meant to hook up with every woman you meet, no matter how attractive, charming, or sexy you may perceive her to be. Imagine if you couldn’t reject any undesirable woman who expressed an interest in dating & having sex with you. The power to ‘reject' a woman is necessary in order for you to find the women who are right for you, & to allow them to find the men who are right for them. Again, rejection is necessary & beneficial. Unfortunately you'll only find out by to actually introducing yourself. Now we got that out of the way, let's move on.



YOU'RE A NATURAL, YOU JUST DON'T KNOW IT YET So, I'm a natural & you wish you were one too. You'd love to learn how to be one but you thin it's impossible. You're right. You actually have to re-learn how to be a Natural. YOU WERE BORN A NATURAL! THEN YOU WERE TOLD THAT NATURAL IS BAD! From the moment you're pulled out of your mum's purr palace, screaming & crying as you are forced to take a breath of the cold, dry air, society has already pre-determined who you are supposed to become. It's not your fault when you first start out because you're just living into the role that's already been chosen for you. The people you relied on for “guidance” & “support“ such as parents, siblings, friends & teachers are no better then you, they never question their assigned role, & never question the validity of their own information, & the media only serves to further indoctrinate & consolidate these roles. You've been told what to want & believe for so long that you're surprised & confused when you find out that it's not true. What Does this mean? Are your learned behaviors & attachments really your natural state? Do these learned behaviors & attachments really define who you are as a person? So to become a "Natural," you need to let go of these Unnatural Behaviors. Besides, to go "Natural" again is often easier & cheaper then going online, buying every single seduction product you find, & actually studying the "Seductive Arts". Shift your focus from becoming a natural, to being a natural AGAIN. Just Do It;



WANTING = LACK ≠ HAVING ● ● ● ● ● ●

Do Do Do Do Do Do

you want women to find you fascinating? you want them to take your number & call you? you want to take it to the next level physically? you want hotter women? you want them pursuing you? you, once & for all, want to get 'Success with women'?

“Well of course I do Chad, what's wrong with that?” The 'WANTING' is the problem. When you focus on the 'WANTING' , you are saying to yourself that you 'DESIRE' what you LACK HAVING in your life. Therefore, you are by Implication focusing on the LACK of HAVING, & continuing to fill your head with excuses for why you “can't HAVE it”. Again, Why you are preoccupied with the WANT of something, you are focusing on maintaining the pursuit, & keeping your goals out of reach So what am I asking you to do? Give up wanting it. Ask yourself this question: Would I rather WANT “sucess with women” or HAVE “sucess with women”? If you would rather HAVE it, simply remove your focus from the 'WANTING' Call off the long pursuits. Stop planning to go out & “Pick-Up women.” When you HAVE good women in your life, would you still be trying to find the "Pick-Up" holy grail? What would you use that time for instead? Write a list of all the purely "Pick-up" orientated activities that you do in a week, including the time spent on each. When you HAVE good women in your life, what would you be doing with that time? Write a list of all these other activities you would do. When you HAVE good women in your life, & you decided to go out, you would be planning to go out to “Chill Out” or “Party”. Basically, go out & HAVE fun! When the women want to share the experience of you HAVING fun, then by all means let them. “But Chad, it can't be this simple. Maybe it works for you Chad, but I'm not you” You're actually RESISTING & moving even further from HAVING. Dis-belief & resistance are a result of you focusing on the “WANTING” of “Being a Natural with Women.” I am going to give you some ways to HAVE women in your life in “Just Be A Natural With Women”. There you HAVE it;



JUST BE A NATURAL WITH WOMEN As I said in the last Article, You just need to focus on “Being a Natural with Women” instead of “trying to become a Natural with women”. This is done by using a focusing aid, like a positive affirmation & then act as if that thing is already happening. Example: 'I'm a Natural with women' If you're coming from a place of: 'I'm a Natural with women' Then you ARE: 'I'm a Natural with women' at ALL times. It's the exact you ARE, women someone who is only care whom

opposite of what you've been taught in the past. Once will treat you like it instead of treating you like becoming. No-one cares about what you are becoming, they you are NOW

So now that you're already a Natural with women, what would you do? In other words, what would you do if knowing that the only failures you had were FOR YOUR OWN BENIFIT? What would you logically do next? What would happen to you when you went out? How would you act? What would your body language be? How would you feel? How would women treat you? What kind of women would be attracted to you? How good would you be? What would you risk? How many women would you approach? How many women would approach YOU? How relaxed would you be? Would you hesitate?


The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women What would you say? How would you say it? Would you be scared? Would you care if you had nothing to say? Would you ever have any fear of loss? This is the common PUA idea of “letting go of desire” & it will happen unless you pull the pin. You can pull that pin & dive behind cover whenever you wish. You can also create a whole story in your head. Be a Natural with women & just act it out. My story: My mobile is ringing non-stop. Another day, business as usual, women calling, text messaging & emailing; trying to get a spot in your schedule. Right now there are 7 of these women who are “friends with benefits”. These women are all possess model-like looks & bodies. I'm having to avoid going out alone in public. I can't even go to the local supermarket without every attractive woman wanting me. They can't help themselves but to go out-of-their way to chat me up, “help me” or asking for my phone number even while their boyfriends are watching... No-one really believes what my life is like. When I post a mASF Lay Report or try & tell the lads what been happening I am called a fibber.... But I just do who I have to do, Live life as it comes, Happy Days :). Just act as if you story is already happening to you; this is how it IS for you. So;



YOU'RE PRACTICALLY RISKING NOTHING! Why do you keep thinking that women have higher status than you? Do you really think they don't have issues? Come on. You've convinced yourself of this... so in your head it's true. Let me build you up for a second. Do you realize that as you get older: 1. 2. 3. 4.

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In other words, your stock is rising. Why do you act like its falling? Try this: 1. 2.

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Be picky & make the above things rewards for a particular type of positive behavior from them. If you still think they have higher status then, consider how it is for a attractive woman: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8.

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I want to be clear that I'm not putting women down in any way. All I'm doing is pointing out some reasons that you should be more confident when dealing with women.



LET GO OF YOUR NEED FOR VALIDATION. Ever had this happen? Somebody tells you a story or experience & you feel like trying to "one up" them? Do you try to come up with something “better” to say that makes you feel & look better to them? Be honest. I did it, often cutting someone off to do it. I still feel tempted to do it at times. But there is a surreal sense of calm that overcomes you after letting go of your need for attention. Your need for excessive attention is that ego-centered part of you that says, "Look at me. I'm special. My story is more interesting than yours." Your Ego is the part of you whom wants to be seen, heard, considered special; often at the expense of someone else.

respected, &

It's the part of you that interrupts someone else's story, or impatiently waits it's turn to speak so that you can bring the conversation & attention back to yourself. To varying degrees, most people are guilty of this behavior & it creates distance between them & the other participant. What can you do about it? The next time someone tells you a story or shares an accomplishment with you, notice your tendency to say something about yourself in response. Although it's a difficult habit to break, by surrendering your need for attention you can share in the excitement of someone else's story. Rather than jumping right in & saying, "Once I did the same thing" or “Guess what I did today?" bite your tongue & notice what happens. Just say, "That's great," or "Congratulations," & leave it at that. The person you're speaking to will have so much more fun &, because you're "present," because you're listening so carefully, they won't feel in competition with you. The result will be that the person will feel more relaxed around you, allowing them to be even more confident & interesting. You'll feel more relaxed because you won't be on the edge of your seat, waiting your turn. When you surrender your need to get all the credit, the attention you used to need from other people is replaced by a quiet inner confidence that is derived from letting others have it. By the way, your ego will find that this will get more people flocking around you, all fighting for your attention.



LOOKING GOOD I'll be brief; GROOMING IS EVERYTHING! Just like us men, WOMEN ARE VISUAL CREATURES TOO. They pay attention to visuals TOGETHER with words. See, your "visuals" should have a hypnotic effect & make her feel excited & take a second look at you - depending on what you want to accomplish, really. Women always claim that looks aren't that all important, it couldn't be further from the truth... they are using your appearance to evaluate the many traits & virtues you posses. Now, just in case you don't look like a Greek God, IT'S OK. I'm not asking you to go under the knife to modify your looks completely. It's not something you can change but you can always change the way you PRESENT yourself. If you have a habit of wearing shabby & dull looking clothes, a wardrobe change into something "cool-er" would do the trick. "LOOKING GOOD is better than GOOD LOOKING" Look around, good looking people such as actors, models & stewardesses have one thing in common, they all dress well to enhance their looks. If you ever get the opportunity to come work with me, I will personally help you find your own individual Style of Clothing. I don’t know whether you are young or old, rich or poor, creative or traditional, so, to get the perfect look, you need this kind of personal advice. Talk to women & look at lads who have the identity you want to convey & copy what they are doing until you develop your own sense of personal style. (Working out wouldn't hurt either...) Hopefully, after getting a new wardrobe, you'll feel like a new man. If you are still feeling insecure, we'll examine why in 'Just Be A Natural With Women'.



PREPARING YOURSELF FOR RELATIONSHIPS All “Serious Relationships”, regardless of what KIND of relationship they are, have one thing they are; They all begin by you connecting with someone socially. You have to meet her before you can get with her. We often pick the wrong people people for the wrong reasons. We also have a very bad habit of using our adult, intimate relationships to resolve issues we have with our parents when we're children. What to do? •

Solve your childhood issues BEFORE you enter into a relationship It is easier to BE a man free of hang-ups then to ACT LIKE a man free of hang-ups.

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Don't compromise on the important things. Make a list 1-10 of the things that a prospective partner must must have, & why. These are the things you don't want to compromise. If the woman you're with lacks any of these, save yourself the heartbreak, abandon the 'relationship' NOW.

Let me show you my top 5 of my list BLACK LIST

1. Attractive → I want to wake up in the morning to a pretty pretty face, a warm 'settle' 2. Loves my lifestyle lifestyle → She can't 'better' 'better' me, I AM the best. 3. Loves Loves & Wants Wants (my) (my) Childre Children n → 4. Open-Minded → I have followed many paths in my life, & studied many disciplines, from Science, Psychology, Wicca, to Huna.

5. Open to her Sensuality/Sexuality → An open-mind is useless without open-legs. 6. Negativity /Drama→ /Drama→ It's illegal for me to chain chain her up... up... Both you & your prospective partner must have complementary priorities for any form of partnership. That's right, a PARTNERSHIP! You should be going into a relationship to be more of who you already are... not to get something to fulfill you or to change someone into something they aren't. Instead, you should go into a relationship because you are both wanting the same goals.



PART 2: THE TECHNIQUES FOR DEALING WITH WOMEN. The Techniques For Dealing With Women. PART 2: The Techniques For Dealing With Women........................................................21 College Game: Game: Short & Sweet............................................................ .......................... 22 Fake It Until You Make It..................................................... It............................................................................................. ........................................ 25 Just Ask.................................................................... ..................................................... 26 How To Give Out Your Number...................................................................................27 Inviting Attraction.................................................................. ....................................... 29 Overcoming Your Nervousness................................................................................. ... 31



COLLEGE GAME: SHORT & SWEET As I am still @ University “working” on getting my degree in Psychology, many of the environments I've honed my skills in are mainly on-campus. One thing I have learned is that “It doesn't matter what you know, It is whom you know that matters.” When you start at university/ college, most people don’t know anybody, so sooner or later they will need to make friends or join an already established group. Usually it takes a few weeks for those friendship circles to be formed. In the first 7-10 days those first few days social circles will be created. The goal is to create a social circle of 6-10 attractive woman, keep them as friends, & establish yourself as a leader of the group. Imagine the respect & admiration you will receive with a group of 6+ attractive woman on-campus or at the club? Soon you will find yourself living your life surrounded with attractive woman. That’s the lifestyle I am talking about. So let me teach you how to do it… During the first & second week on campus people will be extremely friendly, because they will be nervous & anxious in the new environment, the new context in their life. Some of them will look lost, like sheep that have wandered from the flock. They will feel lonely & they will have an incredible urge to meet new people & make friends in order to remove the unpleasant feeling of loneliness. You can use this knowledge to make a difference in your own life. Don’t be shy; be the shepherd, don't seduce them or anything like that. It’s just about being friendly, cool & normal & getting to know the people that you may spend the next few years with. That said, don’t talk about your obsessive computer gaming habit & addiction to Internet porn, unless you want to turn them off or end up with no friends. You still want to seem like a cool person.(even if you think you're lamer than a horse with a broken leg.) Naturally during these first few days there will be many events, introductory sessions, initial lectures & so on. Information is normally advertised clearly on campus so you should get there early & make sure you know what’s going on. When you go to one of these events make sure you try to sit next to a attractive woman that you want to befriend. Start a conversation, exchange some basic facts about yourselves. Where you’re from, your hobbies, your family; get them into some kind of conversation. Tell her you are looking for cool people to hang out with & she fits the bill. Exchange numbers, hang-out with her after the class or lecture, go for coffee or a drink. Just be friendly & try to make new friends. Don’t try to pick them up! Not yet, anyway... You can meet them in class, in the hallway, inside dorms. Wherever.


The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women The next day or at the next class, do the attractive woman. Sit down next to her in minutes, build rapport, hang out with her invite the woman from before to join you.

same thing with the class, talk afterwards, but Or more of them

a new for 20-30 this time if possible.

You will see as soon as you sit down with two woman that they will start to connect. They are extremely good at bonding & creating rapport with each other if they have a reason to. Especially attractive women, because they have so many things in common that no one else understands. So, all you need to do is isolate two or more girls somewhere & let them connect by themselves. You shouldn't hit on or try to seduce women during the first few weeks. The social status you create for yourself by hanging out with these women will get you tons of other girls. This is all about creating a lifestyle that will perpetually bring you women by itself. If you still decide you want to take advantage of some woman’s loneliness in the new situation, then by all means find one & seduce her. But don’t bring her into your group. Bringing a woman you’ve slept with into your social circle can be dangerous. The other women will not help you find women since you are “taken” or the woman you sleep with can spread rumors about you & destroy your reputation if you dump her. It’s better to keep the two activities separate. So over the course of 5-7 days, you should recruit 6-10 women into your social circle. Get them together at regular intervals. Once they get together, & know each other (which should take one or two meetings) they will become good friends. They will exchange phone numbers, emails & keep in contact. You will see how they will later plan to study together, to exchange books, scripts & papers for class. After 10 days, try to get them together from time to time to go out together partying. The more things you all do together, the better friends they will become. Try to create events that will bond them together even more. Naturally the more experiences the group has together, the more things they will have to talk about tomorrow & the more reason they will have to hang out the day after that. In this way it becomes perpetual cycle so the more you can arrange to go out as a group, the better. Start organizing house parties & let your new attractive friends invite their girlfriends to the party. You can also take them to clubs. Have fun with them. Hug them & lead them around. Other women in the club will notice this & trust me, they will start hitting on you. You can easily get to the point where you don’t need to pick up Women at all, instead, they will be around you & you just need to choose


The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women which one you want. Maybe this all sounds a bit complicated at the moment, but it’s much easier to set up than you might imagine. So if you organize everything & make decisions for the group, you practically think for them. They will see you as the alpha male & they will naturally follow you. Next year, if you want to, you can either keep the social circle from last year & expand it, or leave that social circle to form another one. Usually from the circle a new person comes forward that will becomes its leader & starts deciding everything for the group. Then you can move between groups to give yourself an even greater variety. A variation could be used when you move to a new neighborhood or new job/office. Meet one attractive woman & build a deep rapport with her, then organize a house party & tell her to invite her girlfriends to the party. Because your friend likes you & because you are the HOST/LEADER, women that come from outside the group will have an automatic ATTRACTION for you. Make friends with them & get contact details etc. before organizing a second house party & telling them all to invite their girlfriends to the party. Another variation for when you move to a new neighborhood, campus or new job/office is to befriend some of the “Ladies' Men” & “Players” instead of attractive women & then organize a house party at your place. Ask them if they know of any single women or other “Players” that they would be able to invite (as well as themselves, of course!) Happy Days.



FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT When you come out on the town with me, you'll notice that I seem to know everybody. The promoter, the DJ, the party-goers, the managers, the shop assistants, the group of stunning young women standing over there, I mean everybody! But in reality, many of these people I've never seen before in my life! So how am I able to pull it off? Four words, 'Great to see you again' or "It's been a while." I pretend I know them, just like I pretend to know you now. I assume that we will have a "Rapport" & thus it is so. Seems too simple, doesn't it? Just saying 'Great to see you again' as you making your way through a crowd. Don't wait for a reply, just keep moving & let them seek you out. When you do wait for a response you will usually get, 'you too' Sometimes I'll throw in, 'How have you been?' or 'What have you been up to?' I know what you're thinking: What if they say, "Do I know you?" Just say something along the lines of, "I can't believe you don't remember someone as unique as me. Even though the lighting was low & we HAD one too many... (If you really want to make it believable, talk about something embarrasing they said or did.)" or "It was years ago... (mention an event.)" If they have this confused look on their face like they still don't get it say, 'Does the name "(your name)" ring any bells?.' Then start with the usual questions. Why does it work? Because the process of 'getting to know each other' is rather tedious at best, & it is so much easier to have fun with "old friends" then people you meet by chance. Have you ever had one of those times when you had forgotten someone's name? They don't want you to think they've "forgotten your name," so they'll pretend that they do to save themselves the embarrasment. Furthermore, because they are already supposed to know you, they will no longer see you as a threat because they "recognize" you, so their defenses come down. They will make us all feel comfortable, like we've known each other for a while. This is one of the reasons I can accomplish things in minutes that most men spend hours, weeks & months trying to do.



JUST ASK So women are starting to respond well to your "Natural Game." You experience things that blow your mind. You're still inexperienced & the memories of your failures are still fresh in your mind. In the emotional "white noise," you still find it hard to tell when women hit on you. You feel insecurity start to creep up from within the darkest recesses of your mind... Fear not, for the way to find out is decievingly simple: Just ask something along the lines of: ●

'Are you asking me out?'

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'Are you hitting on me?'

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'Are you asking me to make out with you in the bathroom?'

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'Are you asking me to come home with you?'

It requires a simple yes or no answer & at least you'll know. What if she says, 'No'? Just say, 'No worries, Come let me know when you are.' Then, move on. Actually, you can use these questions in response to anything women say to you; even if it's obvious that she's not hitting on you. She said "Hello"? You say 'Are you asking me out?' She said "Goodbye"? You say "Are you asking me to come home with you?" The entertainment value alone from those lines is worth the price of this book. Ahhh good times...



HOW TO GIVE OUT YOUR NUMBER 1. Believe Believe that that it works works for for you. you.

If you don't believe in it, she will feel your you give out your number. Why would they want even text a needy, insecure wuss for a "Date"? the toughest changes that you must make, & one the most.

insecurity as to call up or This is one of you may resist

What have you got to lose by doing this? Failure? Most of you aren't successful with numbers you currently have so what's the difference? Think about it this way: If there's any remote possibilty that you may fail, wouldn't you rather do less work for it? The secret here is to say it like this is what everybody does or this is the way it works all the time. You should say it as if it's no big deal. 2. Don't Don't draw draw atten attentio tion n to it

Steer every conversation towards something social or find something you have in common as soon as possible. This is directly related to the types of simple questions that I always suggest you ask such as Where are you from?, Where do you live?, What do you do?, What's the plan for tonight?/this weekend? Etc; & another reason that they are so important. You're searching for a great, non-threatening reason for them to call you. Remember, women aren't used to picking up the phone & calling a man. Don't make it about a date. Make it seem as if its for a social gathering. I'll go into more details in the “Inviting Attraction” article. If you don't know anything about anything then I suggest that you learn it fast. Sometimes you just might have to take a pass. Remember, you don't need to give it out to every woman you see. As time goes by, you'll get better at doing this & it'll happen more. By the way, whatever you do, don't take her phone & put your number in. The act of her putting it in makes it real & you also don't want to give her the idea that you're pursuing her, because she isn't that lucky. Also Don't keep saying,'Ok, so call me' over & over. You'll be confusing her; she won't be able to tell if you're powerful or not.


The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women 3. Don' Don't t deba debate te it it

She might object by saying, 'I don't call men' or 'You take MY number' or something like that. She thinks you'll be easily swayed with one objection just most men. Don't give up so easily. What I'm about tell you will separate you the masses. Calm down & do the following without missing a beat. Take out your phone & say,'Ok, what is it'? Put her number in your phone & text her the following message: 'Hey (hername), its (yourname) from (place). Keep in touch.' You've just taken all the power back that you gave away by putting her number in your phone. &, because you have initiated contact, she will be less resistance when pursuing you. You must now forget that you have it & don't reach out to her again. The idea here is to get your number to her before you leave the place that you met her. Don't wait until you get to the next place or get home; do it right away. If she still happens to say, 'Ok, call me' (which has happened to me a few times) just smile & agree by saying, 'Ok, great. Nice meeting you.' Move on & don't call her. If she's interested she'll contact YOU. Another great approach is; Me: Why didn't you called me? Her: Because I don't know you Me: That's because you haven't called me Her: What are you talking about? Me: Let's try it again, (number).

(combine this with what I mentioned in “Fake It Until You Make It”) Sometimes, they often play along & give me Brownie Points for trying something different. Me: Why haven't you called me? Her: (smiling) Because I lost your number. Me: (smiling) I'll give you one more chance 646...

At this point I just start asking the standard questions. I've had a woman kissing me within 5 minutes of doing this because she thought it was funny & unique. You can start doing this right now & it should work every time, so what are you waiting for?



INVITING ATTRACTION A little bit of psychology here, please bear with me. “Leap Frog Theory.” is the theory that there are two ways to get to the “top” in any area of life. You either Work your way up the ladder OR decree that you are the "King of the Mountain" & you then are while your claim remains unchallenged. So if you wan't to become the social elite, get the Lads together, form an Exclusive Group with you as leader, & have all events as "Members Only – Guests by Invitation only." Still, you need to know how to distribute the event details. Whether it's the happy hour you're hosting next week for your Exclusive Group or the HAPPY, happy hour you want to host tonight for that woman you just met;the way you distribute the information will detirmine the event's success or failure. Currently you probably ask: "Would you like to come to my after party?" Or You Probably tell: "You should come to my after party." What's wrong with the above? There's too much wanting involved. As we discussed in "WANTING = LACK ≠ HAVING", Wanting is bad. Besides, an invitation is much better than asking or telling because you don't go out of your way to accomidate them. If you have plans to be somewhere, there is no real reason why you can't invite a woman to accompany you. Examples: ●

I'm chilling out at home & watching some movies, You can come over if you wish.

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I'm doing some housework later, & you can come help.

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I'm having an after party. You're welcome to join us if you want.

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I'm hitting the town to get a couple of things before having lunch. You can come & tag along if you want.


The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women It's always better to invite by saying, "I'm doing X, you're welcome to join me." Or if you are unsure about your plans, you can say "I always have something going on, feel free to reach out to me if you're interested in finding out about it." If you are planning any outing, you are welcome to invite people to come along & to be amazed by the difference in the turn out.



OVERCOMING YOUR NERVOUSNESS Sorry Lads, but theres a lot of psychology here again, but before we start, let's begin with an Experiment. WHAT YOU NEED; ●

A sober PUA.

METHOD

1. Imagine Imagine something something that really really scares scares you. How does it feel, feel, how long does it maintain itself? What Muscles hold tension in your body? Note these before moving on. 2. Chill Out/ Out/ relax by getting getting a drink, fucking fucking a GF, whatever. whatever. 3. Now again again imagine somethin something g that scares scares you, but keep every every muscle relaxed. How long the emotion last after you stopped focusing on the thing that pisses you off? What emotion replaced it? How do you feel? DISCUSSION

From my own experience, I have found that the muscle tension is a major component in any negative emotion, almost like a NLP Anchor. In step 3, we short-circuited the "Stimuli <-> Response " loop by not allowing the response to occur to intensify the stimuli. With constant vigilance, we can train ourselves to relax before response by simply relaxing our muscles, to create a new cycle of to get a "Stimuli <-> Relaxation" cycle. As Soon as you feel yourself Tightening into "AA Paralysis", just relax every muscle and let the emotion dissipate by itself.



BONUS: FORPLAY SECRET Alright lads, one of the biggest complaints you hear from women is that we don't give them enough foreplay. A woman who is going to be pissed off when they spend ten minutes oral pleasing you, & then you only eat her out for 30 seconds... Or worse yet, she may be too shy to tell you she wants a little more tenderness, instead of you pounding her like a gym punching bag! Let's solve both problems Now! You need a 3-5 min hourglass, (you can buy from any Kitchenware boutique. I strongly object to using a "dial" timer. I've tried it, & it killed the mood when it went "Buzzzzzzzzzzt! ”) Tell her that you would like her to do whatever she wants to you for three minutes, & that you're going to do the exact same thing to her for the next three minutes. Start the timer. Pay attention to what she's doing to you & exactly how she's doing it. If she pleasures you orally, is she doing it hard or soft? If she massages you, where & with how much intensity is she doing it? Make mental notes of all of these things for the next three minutes. Then, when it's your turn, try to duplicate what she did as precisely as you can. Get in a minimum of 4 rounds before you move on to Sex. Don't be surprised if she chooses to do something as simple as holding you in her arms for the entire time. This technique has the ability to teach you more about what that woman really wants in the bedroom than anything else. You can add an extra touch of romance by continuing to pleasure her even after the hourglass has run out...


The Honest Truth About Dealing With Women

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